WEBVTT - Second Cup: Just get to three

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio.

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<v Speaker 2>Good Morning.

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is to get to three.

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<v Speaker 2>I maintain that anything you do three times a week

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<v Speaker 2>is a habit. So if you want to have something

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<v Speaker 2>be a regular part of your life, just see if

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<v Speaker 2>you can squeeze it in three times a week. You

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<v Speaker 2>might be surprised at what you can do. Today's tip,

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<v Speaker 2>like a few others, recently comes from my new book

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<v Speaker 2>Tranquility by Tuesday. Nine Ways to calm the chaos and

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<v Speaker 2>make time for what matters. In this book, I explore

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<v Speaker 2>what happened when one hundred and fifty people learned nine

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<v Speaker 2>of my favorite time management rules over nine weeks. One

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<v Speaker 2>Tranquility by Tuesday rule rule number four, to be exact,

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<v Speaker 2>was that three times a week is a habit. We

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<v Speaker 2>can argue over how regularly anything needs to happen to

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<v Speaker 2>be part of your identity, but three times a week

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<v Speaker 2>is fairly regular. It isn't daily, but most things don't

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<v Speaker 2>need to be. Indeed, I've found that many people who

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<v Speaker 2>claim to have daily habits often don't. They do things

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<v Speaker 2>Monday through Friday, which is five times a week, not daily.

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<v Speaker 2>If the person skips fridays or holidays or vacations, we

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<v Speaker 2>wind up a lot closer to three than to seven.

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<v Speaker 2>In any case, aiming for three times a week can

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<v Speaker 2>be liberating. We might not be able to find space

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<v Speaker 2>for things daily, and particularly at the same time every

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<v Speaker 2>single day, but we don't need to. Three spots over

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<v Speaker 2>the course of the one hundred sixty eight hours in

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<v Speaker 2>a week can be enough. So for instance, let's say

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<v Speaker 2>you used to play an instrument and you would like

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<v Speaker 2>to get back to it. You could lament that you

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<v Speaker 2>can't play the piano for an hour every day like

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<v Speaker 2>you did during your most serious studies, but why is

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<v Speaker 2>that the accepted standard. Could you find twenty minutes three

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<v Speaker 2>times a week to play a low cost electronic keyboard?

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<v Speaker 2>Perhaps you could. That is just one total hour out

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<v Speaker 2>of one hundred sixty eight It seems doable. Or maybe

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<v Speaker 2>you'd like to do some creative writing. You don't have

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<v Speaker 2>hours to hole yourself up in a garret, but could

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<v Speaker 2>you write for twenty to thirty minutes three times a week.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just sixty to ninety minutes. Skip a show or

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<v Speaker 2>two and you're there. Or maybe you fantasize about regular

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<v Speaker 2>family meals. You want to be the kind of family

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<v Speaker 2>that eats together, but between work and kids schedules, there

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<v Speaker 2>is no six pm pot roast being unveiled on its

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<v Speaker 2>platter Monday through Friday. So what, maybe you all eat

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<v Speaker 2>pancakes together on Saturday morning and Sunday dinner together before

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<v Speaker 2>the week begins. Just find one other time that works,

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<v Speaker 2>maybe a late Tuesday dinner if that's a day when

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<v Speaker 2>the activities are over early, and just like that, you

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<v Speaker 2>are a family that eats together. Just get to three.

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<v Speaker 2>I know. I have found that this mindset is incredibly

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<v Speaker 2>helpful as I try to make space for things in

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<v Speaker 2>my life. Once upon a time I ran every day.

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<v Speaker 2>That is no longer happening in this season of my life.

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<v Speaker 2>But I can definitely run three times a week, and

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<v Speaker 2>that means I am still a runner. Our family meals

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<v Speaker 2>happen as they can, but they do generally happen three

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<v Speaker 2>times a week. We are a family that eats together.

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<v Speaker 2>I practice the piano three times a week. I blog

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<v Speaker 2>at least three times per week. None of this needs

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<v Speaker 2>to be daily to count, but because it is regular,

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<v Speaker 2>it can be a part of who I am what

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<v Speaker 2>would you like to have be a regular part of

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<v Speaker 2>your life. You might not need to wait for some

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<v Speaker 2>future time when life will calm down. Life isn't going

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<v Speaker 2>to calm down next week. It might not calm down

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<v Speaker 2>next year. But if you survey your life, you might

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<v Speaker 2>already be doing what you desire one a week or so.

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<v Speaker 2>Just get to three. That is doable, and when you

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<v Speaker 2>do it, your life will feel better. In the meantime.

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<v Speaker 2>This is Laura.

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