Speaker 1: Welcome everybody to Amy and TJ coming to you from
Speaker 1: Los Angeles once again.
Speaker 2: Whis in two weeks? How are you feeling?
Speaker 1: DJ?
Speaker 3: I feel like we're bi coastal. This podcast is now
Speaker 3: bi coastal. This is the fast five podcast we've recorded,
Speaker 3: including this one. Three out of the past five have
Speaker 3: been recorded in Los Angeles. That feels by coastal.
Speaker 1: It certainly does. And yet we've had a heck of
Speaker 1: a few days in New York. Lots of this hasn't
Speaker 1: happened in one hundred years. First actually in New York,
Speaker 1: and it all began. I guess with the earthquake that
Speaker 1: you felt and I didn't. And where were you when
Speaker 1: it all hit?
Speaker 3: Oh? I was in on the twenty seventh floor of
Speaker 3: my place. Felt a little sway, thought it was there's
Speaker 3: some construction work going on, so I thought it was
Speaker 3: those guys. But but no, Now, I never would have
Speaker 3: crossed my mind that it was actually an earthquake. And
Speaker 3: everybody was all the.
Speaker 1: Course until you heard like everyone's phones went into massive
Speaker 1: emergency alert mode, which is always jarring. I was on
Speaker 1: the second floor of a building getting some well. I
Speaker 1: was at my anesthetician's office, which is basically not quite
Speaker 1: a dermatologist, but someone who helps you stay young. And
Speaker 1: I was getting a procedure done called micro needling, So
Speaker 1: I had needles going into my face when the earthquake hit,
Speaker 1: and so thank goodness, I didn't feel a thing, because
Speaker 1: I actually later on thought what would that have actually
Speaker 1: been like had something shook or moved. I had radio frequents,
Speaker 1: like they are these needles that go into your skin,
Speaker 1: like fairly deeply, and they just put out radio frequency
Speaker 1: vibes into your skin into supposed to like stimulate your
Speaker 1: own collagen and keep you looking young. But anyway, can
Speaker 1: you imagine I was getting that done when the earthquake hit.
Speaker 2: Thank goodness, I didn't feel a thing. Thank goodness. Our
Speaker 2: buildings are.
Speaker 1: Well supposedly most of them earthquake proof. We'll see they
Speaker 1: haven't been fully tested. But five point eight on the
Speaker 1: Richter scale, and didn't feel a thing.
Speaker 3: It was a five point eight, Yes, oh, I didn't
Speaker 3: realize it was that. That's a very serious earthquake.
Speaker 2: So there wasn't.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's been eighteen eighty four, was the last one
Speaker 1: that hit five point zero or above? And so you know,
Speaker 1: they always say you're due your dual. Anyway, we got that.
Speaker 1: Apparently there were some aftershocks felt none of those. I
Speaker 1: felt nothing. I was a little disappointed. I kind of
Speaker 1: wanted to feel the swaying. But you didn't even realize
Speaker 1: it was an earthquake.
Speaker 3: No, I mean, you got could tell there was swaying.
Speaker 3: It's just a matter you don't think in New York.
Speaker 3: I've been in two earthquakes in my life. That was
Speaker 3: the second, but that was you don't The first thought
Speaker 3: is never. I felt strong winds in New York before
Speaker 3: on the in a high rise and you feel a
Speaker 3: little swaying, but there's no way the first thing that
Speaker 3: crosses your mind is an earthquake.
Speaker 1: So we were all okay, got text from my mom.
Speaker 1: Do you get text from people checking in on you
Speaker 1: making sure you were okay?
Speaker 3: Not really actually all right?
Speaker 1: Well, my mom definitely checked in on me to make
Speaker 1: sure we were okay. And that all worked out. So
Speaker 1: that was that started off a couple of days of
Speaker 1: some madness. March madness actually continued this weekend and I
Speaker 1: really got into the women's games. We had some fun
Speaker 1: watching that, and I also had some fun watching the
Speaker 1: men's games for another reason.
Speaker 2: Which was, Well, let's just say this.
Speaker 1: You've told me that you've never enjoyed watching basketball so
Speaker 1: much because I point out all the things that are
Speaker 1: not sports related.
Speaker 3: I just say that to you. It's it's it's it's no,
Speaker 3: I don't like watching basketball like that. You you point
Speaker 3: out the color of the guy's shoes. You got me
Speaker 3: focused on woman on the fourth row. I'm missing the
Speaker 3: game because you're pointing out some oddities in the game.
Speaker 3: You distract me from the game. So it's hilarious. Don't
Speaker 3: get me wrong, but yeah, you focus on everything except basketball.
Speaker 1: Well, I do like to watch the game, but when
Speaker 1: it's a little slow or they're missing their shots, I
Speaker 1: like to maybe just look at some of the local color.
Speaker 1: I got really into the commentators this time. I actually
Speaker 1: had a running list, because I don't know if anyone
Speaker 1: else out there who I mean.
Speaker 2: I've always watched sports. I love college football.
Speaker 1: My dad and my brother were a big sports watchers,
Speaker 1: so it's not some new foreign thing to me. But
Speaker 1: I've never watched this much sports like this much basketball,
Speaker 1: Like we don't miss a game, or you definitely don't
Speaker 1: miss a game, and I don't think I've missed many
Speaker 1: But what I kind of started finding a little funny
Speaker 1: was if anyone else just can listen to the commentators,
Speaker 1: there are so many sexual innuendos that they make when
Speaker 1: they're talking. I don't know if it goes for all
Speaker 1: sports or if it's just basketball, but there were a
Speaker 1: lot of phrases that were and you were noticing them
Speaker 1: too correct.
Speaker 3: Uh, no, you were pointing them out. But I've been
Speaker 3: watching by bsketball my entire life. I've never heard some
Speaker 3: of the things you pointed out. With the last few.
Speaker 1: Days, there's a lot like pounded it in down below,
Speaker 1: might as well ride him while he's on the floor.
Speaker 1: They'll take it anyway they can get it, massages it
Speaker 1: with his left hand. I mean, we were having some
Speaker 1: fun with it. It was kind of like NonStop if you
Speaker 1: really listen for it. Anyway, if anyone's bored and they're
Speaker 1: watching a game, if you just listen for this, it
Speaker 1: actually is quite funny because it never disappoints.
Speaker 2: It hasn't yet.
Speaker 3: Again, it's not if you're watching the basketball game. All
Speaker 3: that stuff makes perfect thing, no sexual connotation at all.
Speaker 3: He massages it in with his left hand. A guy
Speaker 3: shot a hook shot with his left hand and it
Speaker 3: barely just got over the front of the rim, so
Speaker 3: it massage. He massaged it in. He eased it in
Speaker 3: with his left hand. The other guy, he was hot
Speaker 3: on the floor. I think he was in foul trouble.
Speaker 3: So hey, you keep feeding them and you might as
Speaker 3: well ride him while he's on the floor. That all
Speaker 3: makes perfect sense if you're a sports fan. You're a
Speaker 3: basketball fan, and that never in life did any of
Speaker 3: those things have any sexual connotation until you started pointing
Speaker 3: all this stuff out.
Speaker 1: But then I just think it adds some levity and
Speaker 1: some fun. You can still concentrate on the game, and
Speaker 1: if you just keep your air out for that, it's
Speaker 1: just an extra layer of fun.
Speaker 3: Just I don't need it.
Speaker 1: I get it.
Speaker 3: I'll get what you're saying. You're not a man. I
Speaker 3: know it's fine. You're not necessarily a basket you and
Speaker 3: just watch a basket. You need other things to entertain you,
Speaker 3: to keep you engaged. Same thing with Sabine. Sometimes watching
Speaker 3: football with me, she'll point out some silly stuff on
Speaker 3: a stat or something on the bottom of the screen.
Speaker 3: I'm not paying attention to because she's not necessarily into
Speaker 3: the game. What you're saying makes sense, makes a perfect sense,
Speaker 3: and you got to kick out of it. But if
Speaker 3: it keeps you on the couch watching the game and engaged,
Speaker 3: I'm okay with it.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: And it's like I think this all came out of
Speaker 1: it's not just watching a game, it's watching lots and
Speaker 1: lots and lots of games. So anyway, I found a
Speaker 1: way to make it even extra fun for myself and
Speaker 1: enjoyed this weekend a lot.
Speaker 2: What did you think of the games? What did you
Speaker 2: think of the comes?
Speaker 3: I was very disappointed in the National Championship because you
Speaker 3: wait all year, I watched basketball all year. You're waiting
Speaker 3: for the championship game. You'd like for it to be
Speaker 3: a little more competitive. Yukon is unreal. So they just
Speaker 3: they made the game not a game. There's that good.
Speaker 3: So the run they've been on back to back championships,
Speaker 3: congrats to Yukon for what they pulled off is really
Speaker 3: really impressive. But as a basketball fan who didn't have
Speaker 3: a dog in the fight that was Arkansas playing, sure
Speaker 3: I want them to blow somebody out, but anybody else playing,
Speaker 3: I would like to see a competitive game. But they
Speaker 3: were impressive and on the women's side. That was the
Speaker 3: marquee Final four, Yukon women against Iowa and Kaitlyn Clark.
Speaker 3: Paige Becker's from Yukon against Kaitlyn Clark. Just what the
Speaker 3: women have done with the game now, they are the
Speaker 3: they are the highlights. They are the one that was
Speaker 3: a more interesting final four. You know my schedule. I
Speaker 3: scheduled my day completely around watching women's basketball and canceled
Speaker 3: plans with some people because of women's college basketball. It's
Speaker 3: just what they've done is unreal. And if you're not
Speaker 3: paying attention, I hope you continue. It's not just about
Speaker 3: Caitlin Clark. Yes, she got people involved, but man, I
Speaker 3: hope that this brings more and more eyeballs to women's
Speaker 3: college basketball and women's basketball in general. But this is
Speaker 3: just an unbelievable run. And I applaud South Carolina. Congratulations
Speaker 3: Dawn Staley what they've done. But it's just the women's
Speaker 3: game is unreal right now.
Speaker 1: And you have said this, you prefer watching the women
Speaker 1: play to the men. I really got into it. It
Speaker 1: was so fun to be We actually went out for
Speaker 1: that game and to see this bar packed in Manhattan, men, women, old, young,
Speaker 1: you know, all everyone coming together to cheer on women's basketball.
Speaker 1: That wouldn't have happened five years ago, would it have
Speaker 1: ten years ago? I mean, this is a fairly new
Speaker 1: phenomenon and to what do you attribute that?
Speaker 2: And does it have legs?
Speaker 3: No, it's a matter of I mean, they're hardcore basketball
Speaker 3: fans who have followed the women's game. Now it's just
Speaker 3: brought more people in to watch a college women's college
Speaker 3: game in January versus just watching March Madness. Right, Kaitlyn
Speaker 3: clark Is, she's completely responded on stay leave South Carolina.
Speaker 3: But you go back to pat Summit and Tennessee, you
Speaker 3: go back to what Gino Arama has done at Yukon.
Speaker 3: I mean there's been eyes on women's college basketball, but
Speaker 3: nothing like this before. So yeah, Caitlyn is just I mean,
Speaker 3: you know the nil stuff. Kids are being being able
Speaker 3: to be in commercials now. I think that's been the issue.
Speaker 3: I think you always you need to invest in the
Speaker 3: players and making them the highlight reel. So I've always
Speaker 3: I've preferred to watch women's college basketball over NBA basketball
Speaker 3: during the regular season NBA playoffs than mere love that
Speaker 3: high intensity. But during the year, the beauty of the
Speaker 3: college game and the women's game. It's been there for
Speaker 3: a long time, just some people are starting to pay
Speaker 3: more attention.
Speaker 1: Well, it was fun going out with you and seeing
Speaker 1: that and just honestly seeing I was noticing tables full
Speaker 1: of girls. You know, they weren't on dates, they weren't
Speaker 1: with their boyfriends. These girls got out together to come
Speaker 1: cheer on the women. It was just it was really fun.
Speaker 1: It was really cool to watch. And you mentioned, you know,
Speaker 1: you schedule your day around We've scheduled our weeks, our
Speaker 1: weekends around these games.
Speaker 2: And there was a little opening.
Speaker 1: Was it on Sunday and we got to see something
Speaker 1: that we were both very excited about. It was the
Speaker 1: first OMEN, so we got to mix a little sports
Speaker 1: and a little horror movie and it did not disappoint.
Speaker 1: I've always said my favorite horror movie of all time
Speaker 1: goes back to Gregory Peck The OMEN, the original, and
Speaker 1: we actually rewatched it again just to get ready for it,
Speaker 1: and then you know, you just think it's not going
Speaker 1: to be as good, it's going to disappoint, and it
Speaker 1: was awesome.
Speaker 2: It was so good.
Speaker 1: Highly recommend if you're a horror movie fan. It was
Speaker 1: It was so good.
Speaker 3: What did you think, Oh, the first time it's I
Speaker 3: was disappointed, not in the movie going into it. How
Speaker 3: people were putting Immaculate against the first omen uh none
Speaker 3: what they call it, none exploitation what they call it.
Speaker 3: But it's pitting them against each other, just saying, well,
Speaker 3: they're kind of the same concept. And if you see
Speaker 3: this when you're probably not going to see that one.
Speaker 3: But the movie, don't know. The movie did not disappoint
Speaker 3: in the least bit. It is I mean, wow, we
Speaker 3: we we saw a disappointing horror movie not too long ago.
Speaker 2: Yeah we did.
Speaker 3: I don't want to not We were looking forward to
Speaker 3: it for so long and it was a dud. This
Speaker 3: was not one of them. This one delivered, so job
Speaker 3: well done. I don't want to not do what the
Speaker 3: movie was.
Speaker 1: I was just gonna say what it was because it
Speaker 1: was kind of funny that we had high hopes for
Speaker 1: it in the first place, if you think about the concept,
Speaker 1: but I get it, I get it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but no, no, But for the first OMEN highly recommended.
Speaker 3: It didn't have the greatest weekend opening weekend at the
Speaker 3: box office, but we are here endorsing and pushing and
Speaker 3: plugging and by all means, go see that movie, the
Speaker 3: first Omen, especially if you liked the first the original
Speaker 3: excuse me.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because they even paid homage to Gregory Peck. I
Speaker 1: mean they weave in the story so well so that
Speaker 1: it literally ends, because it's a prequel obviously the first Omen,
Speaker 1: it ends going straight into the original OMEN in such
Speaker 1: a perfect way. They did such a good job. We
Speaker 1: liked it so much we went home and then watched
Speaker 1: the OMEN two just to kind of continue the fun.
Speaker 1: So anyway, it really got us back into that groove
Speaker 1: and that series of horror movies that I absolutely love.
Speaker 1: And so I was just I love it when you
Speaker 1: don't get disappointed when you're looking forward to a movie
Speaker 1: and then it's maybe even better than you thought. It was,
Speaker 1: So hats off to everyone involved in the first moment
Speaker 1: because I can't wait to actually watch it again when
Speaker 1: it's streaming.
Speaker 2: So that's how good it was.
Speaker 1: And then, oh my goodness, we had a total solar eclipse.
Speaker 2: It was ninety percent in New York City.
Speaker 3: No, it was well, I mean that was I don't
Speaker 3: know what to call that. It was eclipse mania to
Speaker 3: a certain degree. For a little while. All the we
Speaker 3: were part of that for so long, the mania in
Speaker 3: building something out being a part of the media networks,
Speaker 3: and I mean they had countdowns going for a week.
Speaker 3: I swear to God about it coming, and but it's
Speaker 3: just I can't get away from it. It's just so
Speaker 3: rare that we in this country, or even in town
Speaker 3: states wherever you are, that we have such a communal
Speaker 3: event like that, to where everybody is on board and
Speaker 3: excited about something and not us versus them, and we're
Speaker 3: not on different sides or something. And I likened it
Speaker 3: in New York to the to the New York City Marathon.
Speaker 3: It's it's rare that we just have the community, the
Speaker 3: whole city come together for something like that, and it
Speaker 3: was fun to see.
Speaker 2: I agree.
Speaker 1: And the cool thing is, yes, this is the first
Speaker 1: time where we got to actually just participate. We got
Speaker 1: to just be spectators. We weren't covering it like we'd
Speaker 1: always done before. You were actually where were you the
Speaker 1: last there was an eclipse? A few years back? You
Speaker 1: actually went to one of the epicenters now in Indiana, Illinois, Illinois, Illinois,
Speaker 1: So you were working, we were all working. The last
Speaker 1: it wasn't a total solar eclipse. I don't believe it
Speaker 1: was a partial one, correct this one though, this one
Speaker 1: was the total.
Speaker 2: But so was.
Speaker 1: This hadn't happened in New York City again in nearly
Speaker 1: one hundred years, I believe. So this was a big,
Speaker 1: big deal and I had so much fun. We you
Speaker 1: and I went to lunch. We kind of planned a
Speaker 1: whole day around the eclipse. We walked over to the
Speaker 1: West Side Highway. We staked out a little spot on
Speaker 1: one of the piers, and the cool thing was watching
Speaker 1: everybody come out whatever they were doing. And I liked
Speaker 1: watching people watching the eclipse.
Speaker 2: That was like super fun.
Speaker 1: We had to share us a of glasses because we
Speaker 1: only had one pair that Simene gave us.
Speaker 2: So while you were looking around.
Speaker 1: I was looking we were able to kind of look
Speaker 1: around and watch people just be in awe of mother nature.
Speaker 1: I think it sounds a little sappy, but when you're
Speaker 1: looking up at something like that, you are forced to
Speaker 1: recognize that we're a little ball floating around in the
Speaker 1: middle of the sky in space, and just how small
Speaker 1: we all are, but how a part of this larger
Speaker 1: universe we are. So it kind of gives you this
Speaker 1: like crazy perspective when you're looking at this unbelievable event happened,
Speaker 1: and I don't know, I just felt it felt like
Speaker 1: a moment where you felt connected not just to everyone
Speaker 1: around you all watching it, but to the universe and beyond.
Speaker 2: Did you feel any of that?
Speaker 3: I didn't feel, okay, a single bit. I got a
Speaker 3: little cold when the moon covered the sun. The temperature
Speaker 3: dropped pretty severely. But yeah, I didn't. I didn't have
Speaker 3: the out of body experience you seem to.
Speaker 1: No, it wasn't an out of body it was it
Speaker 1: was actually feeling connected. And funny enough, Yes, I too
Speaker 1: forgot that the sun warms the Earth because it got
Speaker 1: really cool. It didn't get dark, it got a little shaded,
Speaker 1: it didn't get as dark, but it got cold, very cold,
Speaker 1: and so we hurried home after the event to get
Speaker 1: back so we could get some sweaters on because it
Speaker 1: was not the warmest event. And I didn't even put
Speaker 1: two and two together that the Sun being blocked by
Speaker 1: the moon would make the temperature drop, but it did.
Speaker 2: Indeed.
Speaker 3: No, But I don't. I mean, I'm not taking away
Speaker 3: from you or anybody else who had that, you know,
Speaker 3: having a moment with something like that, and people got people.
Speaker 3: I saw people on TV getting men in teers getting
Speaker 3: very emotional and worked up about people proposed at the
Speaker 3: moment that the eclipse was happening. So no, I'm not
Speaker 3: taking away from you and find it silly that you
Speaker 3: were thinking that I just didn't. I just didn't have
Speaker 3: that experience.
Speaker 2: Well I wasn't crying or anything like that, but it's
Speaker 2: okay if you did. I think, Oh, I do think
Speaker 2: it's cool.
Speaker 1: I think anytime you recognize just that you're a part
Speaker 1: of something bigger than yourself, I can see where emotion
Speaker 1: comes into play.
Speaker 2: Is that what it's like for you watching basketball?
Speaker 3: Uh? I always know you say that, I'm always that moment.
Speaker 3: You always feel like there's something you're part of, something bigger.
Speaker 3: I have to you. I guess over the past couple
Speaker 3: of years, it's I don't know, you know, with all
Speaker 3: the stuff I've been reading and studying and trying to
Speaker 3: do better about and I don't want to call it
Speaker 3: a did aj McClain just set a journey of self
Speaker 3: discovery that sounds so lame, but the idea essentially being
Speaker 3: you start to figure things out as you get older
Speaker 3: and you start to reflect, and that's something I've been
Speaker 3: for a while now realizing just how small we are,
Speaker 3: just how insignificant we are, and we think all of
Speaker 3: our problems are the biggest thing in the world and
Speaker 3: they ain't nothing to nobody. Yeah and so so yeah
Speaker 3: to your point, sometimes something like an eclipse could put
Speaker 3: you back in that moment. But but yeah, it's always
Speaker 3: a good reminder.
Speaker 1: And I think sometimes for me, when I'm feeling overwhelmed
Speaker 1: or getting caught up on something small that's bothering me,
Speaker 1: if I just go out and look at the stars.
Speaker 2: It's not that easy to do in New York City.
Speaker 1: Very often, but it's the same kind of a thing
Speaker 1: where you just get this perspective of where we are
Speaker 1: in the world and what we're focused on isn't.
Speaker 2: At all what matters. So I love those moments. It
Speaker 2: was a really cool moment to be a part of.
Speaker 1: I was excited to be able to just be in
Speaker 1: New York City for that and be around so many people,
Speaker 1: everyone looking up to this guy for some greater meeting,
Speaker 1: or maybe just excited that they got a little time
Speaker 1: off of work in the middle of the day. I
Speaker 1: don't know, whatever it was, it was a really special
Speaker 1: day and I'm just really happy to share it with you.
Speaker 3: Oh that's very sweet. No, it was funny. It was funny,
Speaker 3: something that rare. Oh, it's a treat to do something
Speaker 3: like that in New York.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and we're about to be a part for the
Speaker 1: first time in a long time for a couple of days.
Speaker 3: Everybody needs a break, right, everybody needs a break.
Speaker 2: Right. Oh my goodness.
Speaker 3: Maybe we don't even realize we need a break.
Speaker 2: Oh my goodness. All right, Well, wow, I wasn't expecting
Speaker 2: that as a response.
Speaker 3: No, I said maybe. I didn't say I would like.
Speaker 3: I didn't say I want, or I didn't say we need.
Speaker 3: I say maybe. I mean. I don't have a hand
Speaker 3: in us being a part.
Speaker 2: I am heading out to see my oldest.
Speaker 1: Daughter in Germany, So I'm going to go out just
Speaker 1: for I think I'm gone for four days.
Speaker 2: It's a quick trip. But what are you going to do.
Speaker 3: While you're gone? Yeah, I will probably, I'm guessing fetal
Speaker 3: position for several days. Uh, that's just a guess. I
Speaker 3: haven't planned it out.
Speaker 2: Really, you don't know what you're going to do.
Speaker 3: I know I'm gonna do no hang out with the
Speaker 3: mean Probably we'll kick it like crazy. Got the weekend. Yeah,
Speaker 3: champion cuaase tournaments over. Yeah, they had no friends in town.
Speaker 3: My boys gonna be here. No, I'm gonna wait.
Speaker 1: I thought you said you were going out the first
Speaker 1: night I'm leaving.
Speaker 3: I mean, I don't know. I haven't.
Speaker 2: Oh, you forgot, you forgot.
Speaker 3: No, I didn't forget. I just I don't know what
Speaker 3: I'm doing. I haven't offered to go out, and I
Speaker 3: don't know if I'm going out that night or not.
Speaker 3: I don't know if i'll be up for it. After
Speaker 3: you're gonna be gone, I'll be worried about your traveling.
Speaker 2: Really, you're a warrior.
Speaker 3: I'm not a warrior.
Speaker 2: I know.
Speaker 3: I've said you plenty of times. I get I'm I
Speaker 3: get what's not pissed. I get really frustrated when we
Speaker 3: are not a part but actually a part in traveling apart.
Speaker 3: We've been through so much together and it always is
Speaker 3: some I get an anxiety. I get fear that we're
Speaker 3: not together. I'm not there with you, frankly.
Speaker 1: To.
Speaker 3: Protect you, to help you if anything goes on, and
Speaker 3: I just don't like me apart from you in a way.
Speaker 3: When somebody's traveling on the other side of the planet.
Speaker 3: And yeah, I do get an anxiety about that, that
Speaker 3: that while something's going to happen and all we've gone
Speaker 3: through is in some way I do. I forgot about.
Speaker 1: That, and so I know you've explained this to me,
Speaker 1: but it's it's less about missing me and more about
Speaker 1: something's going to happen to me.
Speaker 3: Uh yeah, it is less about I mean, you put
Speaker 3: it that way. It makes it sound bad. It's about No,
Speaker 3: it's not a matter of missing you. I'm missing you
Speaker 3: when you go to the bathroom. It's just uh yeah,
Speaker 3: that is a real thing I've talked to you about
Speaker 3: for a while. I hate, hate, hate when we travel,
Speaker 3: apart from extended periods and certainly long distances.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well we should book some travel together.
Speaker 3: We do, we have.
Speaker 1: I love to travel, you know this, right, And I
Speaker 1: like to have at least I don't know, one trip
Speaker 1: in the books, like I like to look up my apps,
Speaker 1: like my flying apps, and see that I at least
Speaker 1: have one thing bucked.
Speaker 3: Are you that way? No?
Speaker 2: I didn't think so.
Speaker 3: No, No, I that don't. I don't want to. I
Speaker 3: don't if I got a trip coming up in six weeks.
Speaker 3: I just hate it's almost like wait, looking looking forward
Speaker 3: to the weekend, like if you're only living for the weekend,
Speaker 3: you are not living well. So it's one of those
Speaker 3: things like, oh, yeah, I just got to get through
Speaker 3: these next six weeks so I can get to this
Speaker 3: trip or oh, I'm just I know what you're saying
Speaker 3: about looking forward to. But that's why I it doesn't
Speaker 3: get in my head too, like I got today, trip
Speaker 3: is coming, that's fine, but I just that's my mindset.
Speaker 1: No, I hear you, and I I'm with that too.
Speaker 1: I love. I don't know who to attribute this to,
Speaker 1: but I love. I read somewhere what brings you joy?
Speaker 2: Or what? What? What's happiness? And it was you need
Speaker 2: three things.
Speaker 1: Number one you need something to do, Number two you
Speaker 1: need someone to love, and number three you need something
Speaker 1: to look forward to.
Speaker 3: Your thoughts on that saying yeah, well, I've heard you
Speaker 3: say it a lot.
Speaker 2: I know, so you've had time to think about what
Speaker 2: you think about it.
Speaker 3: No, it's clever, it's cute, it's fine, it's I mean,
Speaker 3: I don't what was the first one?
Speaker 1: Again?
Speaker 3: Something to do, something to do, somebody to love, and
Speaker 3: something to look forward to. So what if I don't right,
Speaker 3: or if I don't have somebody to love? What if
Speaker 3: I don't have something to look forward to? What was
Speaker 3: the first one?
Speaker 1: You can love yourself and you can look forward to
Speaker 1: waking up, something to do.
Speaker 3: Something to do. I don't know. So what if I don't.
Speaker 2: Then where you are right now?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 3: Mean, but does that mean I am not living a
Speaker 3: life that's full?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 1: It was just a kind of a subscription of prescription
Speaker 1: for happiness.
Speaker 2: It was what you know, that's.
Speaker 3: That's what I need for happiness. If I don't have that,
Speaker 3: I know.
Speaker 1: That's just according to one person, and it's something that
Speaker 1: I actually agree with. But I told you, I don't
Speaker 1: know who it was. It just read it somewhere and
Speaker 1: it's stuck like bel crow.
Speaker 3: It was on a bathroom stall.
Speaker 2: You probably you never know. You never know. Uh, Now,
Speaker 2: what's your prescription for happiness?
Speaker 3: Selfishness? I think you have to take care of yourself first.
Speaker 3: If you make sure you're healthy, you make sure you're
Speaker 3: in a good place mentally and physically, you can then
Speaker 3: actually be at peace and be of service to everything
Speaker 3: and everybody around you. So I think that that sounds stup.
Speaker 3: But nobody no prescription everybody is you selfish or usually
Speaker 3: that's an insult. But I think I've learned, certainly the
Speaker 3: past couple of years, that you have to have to
Speaker 3: have to You are no good to anything, anybody anywhere
Speaker 3: if you have not taken care of yourself first and foremost.
Speaker 3: So I think that's where it starts. And you need
Speaker 3: to be selfish about your time. You need to be
Speaker 3: selfish about your health, you need to be selfish about
Speaker 3: your mind. You need to be selfish about all of
Speaker 3: those things. And I think you can get to a
Speaker 3: peaceful place. And I think we say we look it
Speaker 3: for happiness, but I think it's just peace.
Speaker 1: Piece is definitely underrated. And I think when you've gone
Speaker 1: through some TUMULTI you recognize it pretty quickly that that's
Speaker 1: the one thing actually that you do have control over.
Speaker 1: You can control that. Do you think this is interesting?
Speaker 1: How did you come to that place? No one teaches
Speaker 1: you that, or no one taught me that. In fact,
Speaker 1: selfish has a negative connotation. And then I wondered, have
Speaker 1: I given that to my daughters? Have I taught them that?
Speaker 1: Where did you get that belief from?
Speaker 3: Maybe it's I mean, maybe it's again it's out of context.
Speaker 3: It sounds awful to be selfish, but you've learned it
Speaker 3: over time and experience that I was a bad dad,
Speaker 3: I was a bad mate. I was a bad coworker
Speaker 3: because I was too busy trying to be a good
Speaker 3: dad and a good mate and a good coworker by
Speaker 3: doing everything everybody around me wanted or expected, or grinding
Speaker 3: myself to the ground, trying to accomplish something to make
Speaker 3: everybody around me satisfied, to make everybody around me happy.
Speaker 3: And it's you know, yeah, talked about it here, and
Speaker 3: we'll talk about it down the road. But yeah, you
Speaker 3: get to a point where you almost you almost hit
Speaker 3: rock bottom. And then I finally just started decided to
Speaker 3: start taking care of myself.
Speaker 1: And well, look at you now, are you happy?
Speaker 3: I am at peace?
Speaker 2: Yes, you're at peace.
Speaker 1: Do you want to do you strive to be happy?
Speaker 1: Do you strive to be joyful? Or is peaceful? Good enough? Good?
Speaker 3: And peaceful?
Speaker 1: Is it?
Speaker 3: That's that's everything, the happiness. I don't need anything or
Speaker 3: anybody to make me happy. I am. I have to
Speaker 3: be comfortable in at peace where I am, and I'm
Speaker 3: at peace, and happiness just comes. It's a byproduct. It's
Speaker 3: not even I don't need I'm looking at you in
Speaker 3: the eye right now, I don't And I don't think
Speaker 3: you want me to say that I don't need you
Speaker 3: to make me happy. Right That's not enough.
Speaker 2: I don't think I can make you happy.
Speaker 3: Yeah you could, you could give it a shot, though.
Speaker 2: I do every day.
Speaker 3: No, But the point being, if I am looking to
Speaker 3: you to make me happy, we are doomed.
Speaker 2: I agree. I agree, one hundred percent dooms.
Speaker 3: So yeah, I have been a I've said this for
Speaker 3: a while now, I'm the happiest and healthiest I have
Speaker 3: been in my adult life.
Speaker 1: You know, I know you said you don't. You like
Speaker 1: to live in the moment and you don't like to
Speaker 1: necessarily have something you have to look forward to. But
Speaker 1: come on, the NBA is about to start up, just
Speaker 1: as the college hoops are over.
Speaker 2: You got another sporting event to be excited about.
Speaker 3: Series, But no, that this is worse than I mean
Speaker 3: for you, I mean than March madness. I don't know,
Speaker 3: but that was two weekends of a lot of the
Speaker 3: first weekend is back to back to back to back.
Speaker 3: The game's nonsense up. When the NBA playoffs start, like
Speaker 3: every night there's games boom boom, but like four or
Speaker 3: five games every night the first week, a couple of weeks,
Speaker 3: that's gonna be rough.
Speaker 2: When does that start?
Speaker 3: How many games left in regular season? Probably only a
Speaker 3: week left in regular season?
Speaker 2: Oh wow?
Speaker 3: So yeah, yeah, a couple weeks.
Speaker 2: Gonna be a couple weeks.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, it's gonna be full steament.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get my whole list going. I can't wait.
Speaker 1: It's my new fun passed on to listen to the commentators.
Speaker 3: You see, I have no idea about the NBA because
Speaker 3: I've never listened to it with you to where I
Speaker 3: don't know what they say. It might be gross.
Speaker 2: Buckle up, I can't wait. Yeah, I'm gonna make it
Speaker 2: even more entertaining than it already is.