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Speaker 1: Scrubbing in with Beca Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio

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Speaker 1: and two time People's Choice Award winning podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in. It is International Women's Day.

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Speaker 2: I really can't think of anyone who's probably more excited

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Speaker 2: to celebrate today more than you.

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Speaker 1: I've been like when I tell you, I feel like

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Speaker 1: I'm on a high right now. I feel like I'm

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Speaker 1: on a high. I've been reposting and posting everybody's quotes

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Speaker 1: today and just like all these things and just feeling

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Speaker 1: inspired and and this like energy.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I can feel I can. I knew. I mean

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Speaker 2: I as soon as I saw the hashtag the first

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Speaker 2: thing I looked like when I looked at Instagram this morning,

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Speaker 2: I was like, may it may as well be Tony's birthday.

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Speaker 3: That's what it feels like, but better than a birthday,

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Speaker 3: because it's just like everybody stries and I don't know,

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Speaker 3: it's just it's cool.

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Speaker 2: I love it. I mean, it's kind of one of

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Speaker 2: those things. I almost think of a day like today

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Speaker 2: like a women's National Day. I think of it at

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Speaker 2: our international Day. I think of it almost kind of

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Speaker 2: like Valentine's Day, where I'm like it should be celebrated

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Speaker 2: every single day. And I do think we should be

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Speaker 2: celebrating it every day. But it's cool to have specific

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Speaker 2: day dedicated to the girls. You know what too, I've

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Speaker 2: been kind of on this. Heer mumble, what is that? Like?

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Speaker 2: I don't know. I'll explain it and then you tell

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Speaker 2: me what the right word is. Heer mumble. Okay, we

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Speaker 2: do all of these.

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Speaker 1: Things when the women in our lives get married or

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Speaker 1: have a baby, and yet we don't do these things

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Speaker 1: when the women in our lives get a huge promotion

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Speaker 1: or start their own business.

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Speaker 2: And it's just like, I'm over it. What do you

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Speaker 2: mean you like celebrating it?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: We do, though, I mean I think if you're surrounding

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Speaker 2: yourself with friends and people who are like you're cheerleaders,

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Speaker 2: that's where you everyone should be for sure.

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Speaker 1: But I think we do not acknowledge when women are

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Speaker 1: like making steps in their career or in their business

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Speaker 1: and things like that. It's like we only celebrate their

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Speaker 1: personal accomplishments.

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Speaker 2: Do you know what I'm saying? Oh, it's not celebrated equally.

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Speaker 1: And so I'm here to make a stance that I'm

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Speaker 1: going to start. I want to start celebrating those things

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Speaker 1: in the lives of the women, in the lives of

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Speaker 1: the women around me. I want to celebrate big career

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Speaker 1: moves and accomplishments. You know, when you buy your home,

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Speaker 1: you best believe we're going to celebrate.

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Speaker 2: Well, I hope, so that's a big freaking deal. But

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Speaker 2: think when we do that, you know, well I will

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Speaker 2: be celebrating and I'm glad for you to be there.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, like that's a huge, huge accomplishment. I think we

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Speaker 1: couldn't do that as women. I really know how many

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Speaker 2: Well, it's it's shockingly recent that we weren't able to

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Speaker 2: do certain things. And I mean, you have to you know,

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Speaker 2: we're in this we're kind of in this interesting generation

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Speaker 2: of like we are seeing so much progress, but there's

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Speaker 2: still a lot more to be done. But I think

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Speaker 2: it's important to celebrate the progress that has been made

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Speaker 2: while looking to continue to move forward. Yeah, and I mean,

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Speaker 2: don't get me wrong, I'm all.

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Speaker 1: About I love a bridal shower, I love a baby shower,

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Speaker 1: and not poo pooing those things. But I'm just kind

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Speaker 1: of here to say there's more to us than celebrating

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Speaker 1: just those things.

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Speaker 2: Well, I'm on, I get what you're saying. I'm on

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Speaker 2: the same page. I'm more so like, let's celebrate those things,

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Speaker 2: and let's celebrate the things that we accomplish outside of

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Speaker 2: traditional expectations of you know, some people don't want to

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Speaker 2: be some people don't want to have kids, some people

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Speaker 2: don't want to get married totally, and they are doing

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Speaker 2: other things that are equally worth celebration. And sometimes I

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Speaker 2: get what you're saying, they get overlooked because they're not

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Speaker 2: society's expectations of the typical role of a woman.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so guess what what, you gotta be the change.

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Speaker 1: So I'm just gonna really gonna make an effort. Like

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Speaker 2: That don't involve those things. Great.

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Speaker 1: I'm I'm so forid And like somebody was, I was

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Speaker 1: talking just about women, and because a friend of mine

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Speaker 1: and I was just like, I think, why women got

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Speaker 1: get married to like live your life. And it's just

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Speaker 1: not the case anymore. So don't settle for somebody when

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Speaker 1: you're nineteen or twenty. Step up to your plate and

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Speaker 1: get your man that you the one that that you

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Speaker 1: want and deserve.

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Speaker 2: Don't settle at any age, and you want If you

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Speaker 2: find your person that young, that's awesome, but don't do

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Speaker 2: it just because you feel like you have to, right.

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Speaker 2: I also think that, I mean, I love I love women.

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Speaker 2: I'm a girls girl. I've always been that way. I've

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Speaker 2: always had girlfriends surrounding me, and I love men like

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Speaker 2: I think men are wonderful, and I never want to

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Speaker 2: feel like we're like these days are like bashing the men.

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Speaker 2: I think it's more of like, oh they have women,

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Speaker 2: and yeah, just encouraging everyone to be celebrated. I agree

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Speaker 2: in every accomplishment, whether it's like business success or personal success,

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Speaker 2: whatever it is. So it's a fun day. We both

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Speaker 2: have our sweatshirts on. Minds us girl power and minds

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Speaker 2: US Alpha.

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Speaker 1: Female, but I did know something that I didn't notice.

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Speaker 1: So I've been doing my Grammy prep and I've been

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Speaker 1: really like honing in on the albums of the year.

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Speaker 1: And again, you know, I'm not going to slight any men,

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Speaker 1: so I'm not gonna say neat call any names.

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Speaker 4: But just the tradition is every year you listen to

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Speaker 4: every Album of the Year nominee all the way through yeah,

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Speaker 1: Bot just because I want to like get the field,

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Speaker 1: get the gauge. And I've just been noticing that the

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Speaker 1: women that are nominated have not just put on an album,

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Speaker 1: but like really worked for it, you know what I mean.

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Speaker 1: Like Taylor gave us vocal or she gave us the

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Speaker 1: gave us all these playlists to like mixed songs. You

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Speaker 1: know who was like Dua Lipa did this huge studio

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Speaker 1: the you know what I mean, Like all the women

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Speaker 1: go above and beyond. And then there's some men in

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Speaker 1: the category that like I didn't even know they dropped

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Speaker 1: an album, my dear, because they didn't do anything.

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Speaker 5: You know what I mean.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, who are the album Who are the contenders this year?

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Speaker 2: Let me get the list.

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Speaker 1: I don't know how fully off the top of my head

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Speaker 1: because there's eight, but.

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Speaker 2: But there I liked her. I agree that Rain and

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Speaker 2: Me should have its own just spot there.

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Speaker 1: You know what, it should have been a Record of

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Speaker 1: not going down without swinging it.

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Speaker 2: Really it was me one of the best pop songs

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Speaker 2: that we've had in a long time, well so long.

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Speaker 2: I'm befuddled.

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Speaker 1: It did get some recognition in like the smaller categories,

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Speaker 1: but it should have been Record of the Year for sure.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Album of.

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Speaker 1: The Year Janee Aiko with her album Chillo Chillombo.

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Speaker 5: How is that?

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Speaker 2: What?

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Speaker 5: How was that one?

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Speaker 1: It's like really great? Yeah, yeah, I hadn't listened to it,

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Speaker 1: but I really, really really like it. Black Puma's Black

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Speaker 1: Puma's Everyday Life, Cold Playing Jacob Coolier.

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Speaker 2: Just don't even know what that album is. Have you heard?

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Speaker 2: Have you gotten that spelled? It's d J E. S

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Speaker 2: S E. Volume three, But I don't I think we

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Speaker 5: We don't know.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'll get there. It's Only Monday.

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Speaker 1: Women in Music, Part three, Time Future Nostalgia, Dua Lipa,

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Speaker 4: All right, Jesse is pronounced Jesse and it's a reference

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Speaker 4: to his initials JC.

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Speaker 5: He is silent.

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Speaker 2: Oh that's interesting. Jesse is the name of this very artistic,

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Speaker 1: To me that like the women, they don't, you know,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I was thinking that, you know, a lot of people,

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Speaker 2: there's a lot of like making steps into equality for

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Speaker 1: Men give us firm and we make a baby, you know,

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Speaker 2: But it's I look at the like the good friends

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Speaker 1: But because I had these women in my life that

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Speaker 1: I think it's so important no matter what stage you're

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Speaker 1: in a relationship, whether you're single in a relationship or married,

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Speaker 1: it's gonna make me emotional, but like like when I

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Speaker 2: To have in your life. I mean that's I mean, listen,

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Speaker 2: I mean, y'all are the I mean y'all keep this

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I think we all smiled with our eyes. You

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Speaker 1: change in audio quality, I let Becca push the button today.

440
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Speaker 1: She somehow didn't push it. I'm not sure what happened.

441
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Speaker 2: I have no defense because in my mind I pushed

442
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Speaker 2: the button and I saw the numbers turn red, which

443
00:22:42,520 --> 00:22:48,320
Speaker 2: means it's recording. But unfortunately Tanya checked the card and

444
00:22:48,400 --> 00:22:51,720
Speaker 2: there's no recording. So I'm either seeing things or I

445
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Speaker 2: pressed the wrong button.

446
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Speaker 1: So I'm so sorry Mark, I had to interrupt your

447
00:22:55,680 --> 00:22:58,160
Speaker 1: conversation about the first day of high school. But when

448
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Speaker 1: I looked down and I saw this at zero zero

449
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Speaker 1: zero zero, I was just like, I think we need

450
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Speaker 1: to pause for a moment here.

451
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Speaker 5: Well, this is why there's a look behind the scenes.

452
00:23:06,119 --> 00:23:08,720
Speaker 4: This is why we always roll on Zoom in addition

453
00:23:08,800 --> 00:23:12,879
Speaker 4: to rolling ourselves, so that if there's a technical problem,

454
00:23:12,920 --> 00:23:14,360
Speaker 4: we have the Zoom audio as a backup.

455
00:23:14,720 --> 00:23:17,359
Speaker 1: We're really peeling back the curtain everybody here.

456
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Speaker 8: Yeah, So here's the thing.

457
00:23:19,240 --> 00:23:22,520
Speaker 2: So we wanted to make half of the podcast with

458
00:23:22,920 --> 00:23:26,399
Speaker 2: exceptional audio quality, and then I wanted you all to

459
00:23:26,440 --> 00:23:29,840
Speaker 2: see the difference between what it would be like if

460
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Speaker 2: we if we didn't have the equipment we had.

461
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Speaker 1: So it was just really we had to fight for

462
00:23:33,440 --> 00:23:35,280
Speaker 1: this equipment, you know, we had to fight for this

463
00:23:35,280 --> 00:23:39,040
Speaker 1: little whatever that thing is that we had to really

464
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Speaker 1: fight for it, you know.

465
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Speaker 2: Anyways, sorry about that, but happy that they get a

466
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Speaker 2: better quality second.

467
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Speaker 5: Half of the Yeah, I appreciate it more.

468
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Speaker 2: Now, Wait, I want to know, did your daughter say

469
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Speaker 2: that everyone was like kind of socially awkward seeing each

470
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Speaker 2: other for the.

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Speaker 4: First time, Well, because they've seen each other on zoom,

472
00:24:01,760 --> 00:24:05,600
Speaker 4: And the classes are so small because some kids are

473
00:24:05,640 --> 00:24:07,199
Speaker 4: in the morning and some kids are at night, and

474
00:24:07,200 --> 00:24:08,840
Speaker 4: a lot of kids are being kept home by their parents,

475
00:24:08,880 --> 00:24:10,800
Speaker 4: and blah blah blah. Her like her theater class today

476
00:24:10,840 --> 00:24:15,960
Speaker 4: with three people. So no, it's not terribly It's not

477
00:24:16,000 --> 00:24:17,639
Speaker 4: like all of a sudden, she's thrown in a normal

478
00:24:17,720 --> 00:24:21,120
Speaker 4: high school environment. It's still very strange, but at least

479
00:24:21,160 --> 00:24:23,320
Speaker 4: she's in the building now where she wasn't before. And

480
00:24:23,359 --> 00:24:25,080
Speaker 4: I was making a big deal out of it this morning,

481
00:24:25,160 --> 00:24:26,840
Speaker 4: and the rest of the family were rolling their eyes

482
00:24:26,840 --> 00:24:28,560
Speaker 4: at me, because I'm the one that gets emotional about

483
00:24:28,560 --> 00:24:29,119
Speaker 4: all these things.

484
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Speaker 5: But I think it's a really big deal.

485
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Speaker 4: I think high school, for better or worse, is something

486
00:24:34,080 --> 00:24:36,800
Speaker 4: that kind of sticks with you your whole life. You'll

487
00:24:36,840 --> 00:24:39,040
Speaker 4: always remember high school, You always mention high school, always

488
00:24:39,040 --> 00:24:41,879
Speaker 4: think about high school. High School is that big turning

489
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Speaker 4: point from childhood to adulthood.

490
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Speaker 5: I think it's a big deal.

491
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Speaker 4: And they were all rolling their eyes, but I think

492
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Speaker 4: my daughter told her to get it after a while,

493
00:24:48,400 --> 00:24:51,080
Speaker 4: but anyway, she started to see the milestone that it was.

494
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Speaker 8: I mean, yeah, I totally know what you're saying.

495
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Speaker 2: I do think like once you get more into senior year,

496
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Speaker 2: that's really where things take, that turn to golf on

497
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Speaker 2: your own.

498
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Speaker 1: But it is of high school. It is just like

499
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Speaker 1: I remember my first day feeling like I was a

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Speaker 1: goldfish in a new lake with swans and there were

501
00:25:13,520 --> 00:25:17,720
Speaker 1: like turtles in there and like algae and I was

502
00:25:17,720 --> 00:25:18,880
Speaker 1: just swim.

503
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Speaker 5: A little far with this analogy.

504
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Speaker 8: Yeah, the analogies are extravagant. Today.

505
00:25:24,040 --> 00:25:26,600
Speaker 1: I was swimming in this new lake and it was

506
00:25:26,720 --> 00:25:31,439
Speaker 1: just like my fish pond pond. My eyes were just

507
00:25:31,760 --> 00:25:34,879
Speaker 1: so open and it was just so cool, you know,

508
00:25:35,040 --> 00:25:38,120
Speaker 1: like it was such a cool experience because.

509
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Speaker 4: I remember very clearly that you know, I was you know, what,

510
00:25:41,240 --> 00:25:43,879
Speaker 4: are you fourteen years old and you're in school with

511
00:25:43,920 --> 00:25:46,919
Speaker 4: eighteen year olds and they are men and women and

512
00:25:46,960 --> 00:25:49,400
Speaker 4: they are walking down the hallway right next to you

513
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Speaker 4: and they are adults, and that is just weird because

514
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Speaker 4: you're like.

515
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Speaker 5: I was just in elementary school, so it's a couple

516
00:25:55,400 --> 00:25:57,199
Speaker 5: of years ago. Oh I'm here with these adults.

517
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Speaker 2: I'm like intimidated by kids now, like high school kids.

518
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Speaker 8: I feel if I had to walk.

519
00:26:02,920 --> 00:26:04,960
Speaker 2: Through a high school hallway right now, I would be

520
00:26:05,080 --> 00:26:10,760
Speaker 2: like stressed because they Yeah, I really do, because they're pretty.

521
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Speaker 8: Intimidating. I'll just say that.

522
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Speaker 1: I think I was just so naive in high school,

523
00:26:17,080 --> 00:26:20,680
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like like in a good

524
00:26:20,680 --> 00:26:24,399
Speaker 1: way though, like in a positive naive naivete where I

525
00:26:24,480 --> 00:26:26,560
Speaker 1: just kind of walked around and I'm sure like seniors

526
00:26:26,600 --> 00:26:28,159
Speaker 1: probably like you know what I mean, Like there was

527
00:26:28,160 --> 00:26:31,199
Speaker 1: always that senior freshman kind of rivalry and like the

528
00:26:31,240 --> 00:26:34,520
Speaker 1: seniors were throwing apples at you know, freshman's heads and

529
00:26:34,520 --> 00:26:35,800
Speaker 1: stuff at munch of it before.

530
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Speaker 8: I'm not who was throwing apples. That feels dangerous.

531
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Speaker 1: It was actually our sophomore year, but yeah, they would.

532
00:26:41,080 --> 00:26:43,200
Speaker 1: I can get Kelly Peterson actually because I talked about

533
00:26:43,200 --> 00:26:45,280
Speaker 1: this on the Morning show and she reached out to

534
00:26:45,280 --> 00:26:47,399
Speaker 1: me and she was like, oh MG, I'll never forget

535
00:26:47,440 --> 00:26:49,680
Speaker 1: when that happened. So I have receipts, I have people

536
00:26:49,680 --> 00:26:51,760
Speaker 1: that can speak to this. But I just didn't even

537
00:26:51,840 --> 00:26:53,400
Speaker 1: like think anything of it. I was just like, oh,

538
00:26:53,680 --> 00:26:56,240
Speaker 1: like okay, Like I didn't even care.

539
00:26:56,119 --> 00:26:57,240
Speaker 8: Like I was like, I got hit in the head

540
00:26:57,280 --> 00:26:58,240
Speaker 8: with an apple and you were just like.

541
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Speaker 1: No, no, I didn't. They didn't target at me. They

542
00:27:00,720 --> 00:27:04,320
Speaker 1: were targeting more at my friends, which is still awful.

543
00:27:04,760 --> 00:27:08,800
Speaker 2: Something something about Tanya just bebopping her way to school

544
00:27:08,840 --> 00:27:09,800
Speaker 2: and getting hit with an.

545
00:27:09,680 --> 00:27:12,040
Speaker 8: Apple is like really funny.

546
00:27:12,920 --> 00:27:15,159
Speaker 1: Like the seniors hated us when we were sophomore, Like

547
00:27:15,200 --> 00:27:17,159
Speaker 1: they hated our sophomore class and I just like didn't even.

548
00:27:17,200 --> 00:27:18,840
Speaker 1: I was just like, oh, like I made friends with

549
00:27:18,880 --> 00:27:20,399
Speaker 1: one of them, and I was like, oh, maybe like

550
00:27:20,480 --> 00:27:22,600
Speaker 1: my big sister in high school, and just like do

551
00:27:23,359 --> 00:27:26,480
Speaker 1: like didn't care. There was this rivalry, just like blindly naive.

552
00:27:26,720 --> 00:27:28,439
Speaker 2: Well, yeah, you had bigger things that you had a

553
00:27:28,480 --> 00:27:31,120
Speaker 2: synergy club for John Mayer and Shakira, like you don't

554
00:27:31,119 --> 00:27:33,919
Speaker 2: have you don't have time to worry about the mindless

555
00:27:33,920 --> 00:27:35,440
Speaker 2: opinions of seniors.

556
00:27:35,680 --> 00:27:37,240
Speaker 1: No, I didn't, Like, I just didn't care.

557
00:27:38,760 --> 00:27:42,160
Speaker 8: Have you seen John Mayer. You're not on TikTok? Huh? Correct?

558
00:27:42,560 --> 00:27:45,520
Speaker 2: John Mayer's on TikTok and like within a day he

559
00:27:45,560 --> 00:27:49,320
Speaker 2: had already just mastered it and he is hilarious, like

560
00:27:49,440 --> 00:27:53,840
Speaker 2: so strange but so hilarious. But he sits down and

561
00:27:54,840 --> 00:27:57,399
Speaker 2: has his guitar and he's like, so here's the intro

562
00:27:57,640 --> 00:27:59,560
Speaker 2: of slow dancing in a burning room. You just do

563
00:27:59,680 --> 00:28:01,480
Speaker 2: like this one and then you just like drag.

564
00:28:01,320 --> 00:28:03,800
Speaker 8: It out that song and.

565
00:28:03,840 --> 00:28:06,000
Speaker 2: It starts and he just does it so easily, and

566
00:28:06,000 --> 00:28:07,960
Speaker 2: then people in the comments are like, wow, man, like

567
00:28:08,000 --> 00:28:10,480
Speaker 2: you're pretty good. You should consider this as a career.

568
00:28:10,920 --> 00:28:12,440
Speaker 1: Like, okay, they don't know who he is.

569
00:28:12,560 --> 00:28:15,120
Speaker 8: No, no, it's just like a jo. It's so hard

570
00:28:15,119 --> 00:28:18,680
Speaker 8: to explain TikTok humor to people who don't have TikTok.

571
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Speaker 2: Between you, Haley, I'll say, like these hilarious things from TikTok,

572
00:28:24,720 --> 00:28:28,680
Speaker 2: and it's just like crickets and the eyes, and.

573
00:28:28,680 --> 00:28:30,800
Speaker 4: You know, some people think TikTok's funny. Some people think

574
00:28:30,800 --> 00:28:32,520
Speaker 4: Ted last was funny, and they don't tend to cross

575
00:28:32,520 --> 00:28:32,760
Speaker 4: over it.

576
00:28:33,480 --> 00:28:37,800
Speaker 1: That's true TikTok person or a Ted Lassa person. I'm

577
00:28:37,840 --> 00:28:42,440
Speaker 1: I'm I'm Ted Lasso all the way, all the way.

578
00:28:42,560 --> 00:28:45,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, but you're also friends.

579
00:28:45,560 --> 00:28:47,680
Speaker 8: So that's where I get confused by your humor.

580
00:28:47,800 --> 00:28:50,080
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, my friend actually sent me this was

581
00:28:50,120 --> 00:28:52,440
Speaker 1: probably a TikTok of sorts. I don't know that it

582
00:28:52,440 --> 00:28:54,440
Speaker 1: was a video of somebody saying, would you rather date?

583
00:28:55,520 --> 00:28:56,880
Speaker 1: I can't remember what the thing was, and it was

584
00:28:56,880 --> 00:28:58,440
Speaker 1: like this or that, and it was would you rather

585
00:28:58,520 --> 00:29:01,239
Speaker 1: date a serial killer that watch his friends every night

586
00:29:01,280 --> 00:29:05,000
Speaker 1: before they go to bed, and that was like, I know,

587
00:29:05,600 --> 00:29:07,920
Speaker 1: it's like oh wow, ooops.

588
00:29:08,320 --> 00:29:23,160
Speaker 9: Yeah.

589
00:29:25,280 --> 00:29:27,760
Speaker 2: I don't know if anyone here watches Temptation Island, but

590
00:29:27,800 --> 00:29:31,320
Speaker 2: we love Mark Wahlberg, and I just have to say

591
00:29:31,360 --> 00:29:37,360
Speaker 2: that it's probably one of my favorite shows on television,

592
00:29:37,600 --> 00:29:46,120
Speaker 2: even though it's just Ya's yes, three episodes it comes

593
00:29:46,160 --> 00:29:49,240
Speaker 2: out on Tuesdays, but I just it's so it's so

594
00:29:49,440 --> 00:29:52,719
Speaker 2: like it's so messy, but it's so beautifully shot, and

595
00:29:52,800 --> 00:29:57,320
Speaker 2: like Mark is just such a comforter because you remember

596
00:29:57,400 --> 00:30:00,560
Speaker 2: when you were you had that deep conversation we were taking

597
00:30:00,600 --> 00:30:03,640
Speaker 2: shots in Hawaii, like at that bar and Tania is

598
00:30:03,720 --> 00:30:07,440
Speaker 2: literally pouring her hard out about how hard dating is

599
00:30:07,480 --> 00:30:10,680
Speaker 2: and trying to find a guy, and he's giving her this.

600
00:30:11,000 --> 00:30:11,680
Speaker 8: Great add.

601
00:30:13,360 --> 00:30:15,920
Speaker 2: And so I watch him on the show from that lens,

602
00:30:16,000 --> 00:30:17,880
Speaker 2: you know, of seeing him as someone who's come on

603
00:30:17,920 --> 00:30:22,080
Speaker 2: our podcast. And one of my favorite things about the show,

604
00:30:22,120 --> 00:30:24,760
Speaker 2: even though it's so messy and like literally breaks couples

605
00:30:24,800 --> 00:30:27,200
Speaker 2: up a lot of times they I don't think they

606
00:30:27,200 --> 00:30:31,320
Speaker 2: would break up without something this drastic happening to them.

607
00:30:31,480 --> 00:30:34,080
Speaker 2: And a lot of times, like the girls especially really

608
00:30:34,160 --> 00:30:37,440
Speaker 2: find themselves and who they are as individuals, like outside

609
00:30:37,480 --> 00:30:40,719
Speaker 2: of their relationship that maybe wasn't healthy. And there's this

610
00:30:40,760 --> 00:30:45,720
Speaker 2: one girl who's with this how he's portrayed, I mean,

611
00:30:45,760 --> 00:30:48,880
Speaker 2: I don't want to Yeah, it's not good. He's very

612
00:30:49,040 --> 00:30:52,560
Speaker 2: manipulative and wants his girl to be like everything he

613
00:30:52,600 --> 00:30:55,080
Speaker 2: wants her to be and like basically act like an

614
00:30:55,080 --> 00:30:57,840
Speaker 2: assistant or something I don't know. And she was feeling

615
00:30:57,880 --> 00:31:02,040
Speaker 2: so insecure and Mark was just like she had said,

616
00:31:02,080 --> 00:31:04,240
Speaker 2: she goes, I looked in the mirror today and I

617
00:31:04,360 --> 00:31:05,600
Speaker 2: was like, I love that girl.

618
00:31:06,080 --> 00:31:07,520
Speaker 8: And then she watched the clip of.

619
00:31:07,560 --> 00:31:11,480
Speaker 2: Him like that getting lap dance or something, and she

620
00:31:11,600 --> 00:31:15,680
Speaker 2: got so insecure again and Mark was like, hey, like

621
00:31:16,040 --> 00:31:18,480
Speaker 2: where's the person that just said that you loved yourself?

622
00:31:18,520 --> 00:31:19,960
Speaker 8: Like where is she? And he was so sweet.

623
00:31:19,960 --> 00:31:22,080
Speaker 1: He makes me feel like Mormon fuzzy.

624
00:31:22,240 --> 00:31:24,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's so funny because it's a show that's so

625
00:31:24,720 --> 00:31:25,720
Speaker 2: not Mormon fuzzy.

626
00:31:25,760 --> 00:31:28,320
Speaker 8: But man, that show is so good.

627
00:31:28,400 --> 00:31:30,200
Speaker 1: It does make me think, like when you say that,

628
00:31:31,120 --> 00:31:33,360
Speaker 1: I feel I met this girl at a coffee shop

629
00:31:33,400 --> 00:31:35,560
Speaker 1: the other day, Like I just went to just get

630
00:31:35,560 --> 00:31:38,320
Speaker 1: some coffee and she came up to me. It's so funny.

631
00:31:38,360 --> 00:31:40,080
Speaker 1: So I had like my mask on and there was

632
00:31:40,080 --> 00:31:42,320
Speaker 1: this huge butterfly in the coffee shop, and so I

633
00:31:42,360 --> 00:31:44,240
Speaker 1: went to go take a video of the butterfly and

634
00:31:44,240 --> 00:31:45,920
Speaker 1: she goes, I knew it was you when I saw

635
00:31:45,960 --> 00:31:48,600
Speaker 1: you taking a video of the butterfly. She's like, I

636
00:31:48,640 --> 00:31:50,200
Speaker 1: wasn't sure if it was you because the mask, but

637
00:31:50,200 --> 00:31:51,800
Speaker 1: then once you were taking a video of the butterfly,

638
00:31:51,840 --> 00:31:54,000
Speaker 1: I knew. And so she listens to the podcast, she

639
00:31:54,000 --> 00:31:55,560
Speaker 1: listens to the morning show, and she watches all the

640
00:31:55,560 --> 00:31:59,520
Speaker 1: e shows. So I was like, ooh, our MVP. But

641
00:32:00,280 --> 00:32:02,520
Speaker 1: she it's so funny because you know, I think with

642
00:32:02,560 --> 00:32:04,800
Speaker 1: the pandemic, people are a little bit not socially awkward.

643
00:32:04,840 --> 00:32:07,120
Speaker 1: But I feel like she didn't really want to intrude

644
00:32:07,160 --> 00:32:10,080
Speaker 1: in my day, and you know me, I was just like,

645
00:32:10,400 --> 00:32:12,160
Speaker 1: how's it going, what's going on. She was telling me

646
00:32:12,200 --> 00:32:13,800
Speaker 1: about this breakup that she just went through and she's

647
00:32:13,840 --> 00:32:17,240
Speaker 1: moving and she had this like big like promotion with work,

648
00:32:17,280 --> 00:32:18,560
Speaker 1: and I was just like I think I sat sat

649
00:32:18,600 --> 00:32:21,400
Speaker 1: and talked to her for maybe ten fifteen minutes and

650
00:32:21,560 --> 00:32:23,200
Speaker 1: was like kind of trying to just like encourage her

651
00:32:23,240 --> 00:32:26,640
Speaker 1: in this you know, new season of life and stuff

652
00:32:26,680 --> 00:32:28,960
Speaker 1: like that. And it was just so funny because you

653
00:32:29,000 --> 00:32:31,480
Speaker 1: can just tell that we're all just wanting to connect,

654
00:32:31,560 --> 00:32:32,600
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. I think she was like

655
00:32:32,640 --> 00:32:35,560
Speaker 1: really taken aback that I was like pulled us out

656
00:32:35,560 --> 00:32:36,920
Speaker 1: of the coffee shop and was like, let's go outside

657
00:32:36,920 --> 00:32:39,440
Speaker 1: and talk, you know, and she was like really was like, yeah,

658
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Speaker 1: I want to hear about Like what's going on.

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Speaker 8: Girl.

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Speaker 1: I haven't talked to anybody all day.

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Speaker 8: She's all human interaction.

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00:32:47,080 --> 00:32:47,400
Speaker 2: Please.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, speaking of the shows, work and everyone see you

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Speaker 4: on Sunday.

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Speaker 1: Uh, everybody just watch E basically all day on Sunday. Yeah,

666
00:32:56,600 --> 00:32:59,200
Speaker 1: because I'm really gearing up for a for a lengthy day,

667
00:32:59,280 --> 00:33:00,760
Speaker 1: but I'm so excited for it.

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Speaker 2: She just during our audio mishap, she showed me her

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Speaker 2: dresses and let me just say, she's coming to place.

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Speaker 2: I mean, Golden Globes. I don't know how it can

671
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Speaker 2: be beat, but this could do it. Wow.

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Speaker 1: My only concern with this dress is that it's super

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Speaker 1: tight on my body and I sweat so bad, Like

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Speaker 1: I'm so scared, I'm gonna have gnarly sweat, Like, look

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00:33:28,720 --> 00:33:32,320
Speaker 1: at this, it's why would you do it?

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Speaker 8: The arm closest to me.

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Speaker 1: Sorry, so I'm really gonna have to put some pads

678
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Speaker 1: in there to absorb the moisture. So fingers crossed. But

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Speaker 1: I don't have a fingers crossed for that.

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Speaker 8: Didn't think about it. But the orange was tight.

681
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Speaker 1: And nose open. Oh because you have sleeves. Yeah, so.

682
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Speaker 2: You never forget when my Bachelor promo, the first one

683
00:34:00,880 --> 00:34:03,080
Speaker 2: of the season that the first season I had had

684
00:34:03,560 --> 00:34:07,360
Speaker 2: armpit sweat stains and they didn't edit them out. It's

685
00:34:07,400 --> 00:34:11,920
Speaker 2: so cruel and like I would not consider myself. I

686
00:34:11,960 --> 00:34:15,719
Speaker 2: don't sweat a ton, but like it's normally if I'm nervous,

687
00:34:15,840 --> 00:34:18,279
Speaker 2: like that's the only time I really sweat like that.

688
00:34:18,640 --> 00:34:21,319
Speaker 2: And of course it's taking those photos. It was like

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Speaker 2: nerve wracking. And they had picked out the shirt, which

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00:34:23,400 --> 00:34:25,640
Speaker 2: I was like, I don't know if that's the one,

691
00:34:26,480 --> 00:34:28,640
Speaker 2: and then they don't even have the decency.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's rude.

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Speaker 5: Rue the orange shirt, yes, sure enough, look at that.

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Speaker 8: Isn't that just cruel? Like they just couldn't do that edit.

695
00:34:40,200 --> 00:34:43,160
Speaker 8: That's an easy edit it's an easy edit or crop.

696
00:34:43,440 --> 00:34:44,680
Speaker 8: They could have done it.

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Speaker 4: I'm not good at photoshop, but I bet I could

698
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Speaker 4: have figured this one out.

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Speaker 9: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, But I do have to say that I'm like

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Speaker 1: very passionate about the nominees this year.

702
00:34:56,360 --> 00:35:00,919
Speaker 2: So who are you most passionate about? Taylor's Left? Okay,

703
00:35:00,920 --> 00:35:01,319
Speaker 2: who else?

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Speaker 1: I mean?

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Speaker 8: Taylor?

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Speaker 1: Megan the Stallion, Oh.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, because you watch her videos and Oprah, Yeah, like

708
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Speaker 8: your thing right now.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so I'm like going hard on Megan the Stallion

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Speaker 1: and Taylor's Left.

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Speaker 2: You know, I just have to say I'm so happy

712
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Speaker 2: for Megan the Stallion's success because I went to I

713
00:35:18,400 --> 00:35:21,759
Speaker 2: guess this was two years ago the Billboard Women in

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Speaker 2: Music the Awards or whatever.

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Speaker 1: Twenty nineteen. Yeah, you saw Taylor's speech in real life?

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00:35:27,800 --> 00:35:28,720
Speaker 9: Yeah?

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Speaker 8: Yeah, I was in the building.

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Speaker 1: Oh I remember that.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, And Meghan the Stallion performed.

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Speaker 2: It was kind of her first, like, you know, I

721
00:35:39,280 --> 00:35:43,040
Speaker 2: hadn't even heard about her before, and she was the

722
00:35:43,120 --> 00:35:45,719
Speaker 2: last performer, and everyone was kind of getting up and

723
00:35:45,760 --> 00:35:48,600
Speaker 2: like leaving while she was performing, Like everyone was just

724
00:35:48,640 --> 00:35:51,640
Speaker 2: like not paying attention, and I remember thinking, this is

725
00:35:51,680 --> 00:35:54,360
Speaker 2: this girl's moment, and everyone just like acting like it's

726
00:35:54,480 --> 00:35:56,719
Speaker 2: that they're ready to go, so they're just gonna leave.

727
00:35:56,800 --> 00:36:00,000
Speaker 2: So I'm just so when her song went viral and TikTok,

728
00:36:00,320 --> 00:36:02,120
Speaker 2: I was so happy for her because I was like,

729
00:36:02,239 --> 00:36:06,480
Speaker 2: good for her because now no one's leaving their seats.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, back in twenty eighteen, she had just

731
00:36:08,840 --> 00:36:11,000
Speaker 1: kind of broken out. She was really just the Houston

732
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Speaker 1: rapper and she was really kind of like a community girl,

733
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Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like they were really backing her.

734
00:36:15,280 --> 00:36:17,680
Speaker 1: And it really wasn't that she broke out and had

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Speaker 1: her commercial success until.

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Speaker 8: When what day of what year, of what month, I

737
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Speaker 8: don't know.

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Speaker 1: I think it might have been twenty nineteen. I think

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Speaker 1: it was with her with Fever. But then I think

740
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Speaker 1: Hockrel Summer was just like the first one that like

741
00:36:32,440 --> 00:36:34,040
Speaker 1: really kind of took her to a whole other level.

742
00:36:34,080 --> 00:36:36,919
Speaker 1: And now she's like writing like New York op eds

743
00:36:37,120 --> 00:36:39,520
Speaker 1: and on the cover of Harp is bizarre, Like it's

744
00:36:39,560 --> 00:36:40,160
Speaker 1: just crazy.

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Speaker 8: I know, it's pretty awesome.

746
00:36:42,120 --> 00:36:42,920
Speaker 1: It's pretty awesome.

747
00:36:44,080 --> 00:36:46,520
Speaker 8: And we've been just chatting. I think we have emails.

748
00:36:46,719 --> 00:36:48,799
Speaker 4: We do, and we're joined by Easton and I think

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Speaker 4: beca u O Easton apology, Ye said.

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Speaker 2: I'm so sorry because I have made a huge mistake today.

751
00:36:56,280 --> 00:36:58,239
Speaker 2: And all I had to do was simply push a

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00:36:58,239 --> 00:36:59,560
Speaker 2: button and make sure it was recording.

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Speaker 8: And I leave you guys alone for one afternoon, and

754
00:37:02,440 --> 00:37:03,799
Speaker 8: the whole thing goes to hell.

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00:37:04,000 --> 00:37:07,399
Speaker 2: Easton the greatest part about this is that I go

756
00:37:07,480 --> 00:37:09,960
Speaker 2: in and I come in and Tonya and goes, hey,

757
00:37:10,000 --> 00:37:11,680
Speaker 2: east is not gonna be here. But you know, I'm

758
00:37:11,680 --> 00:37:14,400
Speaker 2: just kind of nervous, and I go, Tanya, we've been

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Speaker 2: doing this for how long we should be able to

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Speaker 2: figure this out if Easton's not here for one day?

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00:37:19,160 --> 00:37:21,799
Speaker 1: And like, I plugged in the thing so we could

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Speaker 1: hear the thing, and then I plugged the thing into

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Speaker 1: the other thing, and then I made sure I said,

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Speaker 1: did you push down the button? It's all I need,

765
00:37:28,480 --> 00:37:29,279
Speaker 1: Becka needed to do.

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Speaker 5: So today's show is a hybrid. It's half zoo audio

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Speaker 5: and half listen.

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Speaker 2: We addressed it. I'm here to admit my mistakes. I

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Speaker 2: apologize for the inconvenient.

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Speaker 1: We're just keeping everyone on their toes.

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Speaker 8: I'll make these mics sound horrible too, so they match.

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Speaker 1: It'll be okay, It'll be consistent.

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Speaker 2: No no, because I told them I was like at

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Speaker 2: least the second half of the podcast will be great audio,

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Speaker 2: so we have to get people what they want.

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Speaker 4: Hailey says, I'm newly married, but I've both with my

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Speaker 4: husband for six years. We are blessed to be best

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Speaker 4: and are happy to get to spend every day together,

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Speaker 4: but even still, I have a hard time believing that

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Speaker 4: he's the one, only possible love of my life or

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Speaker 4: only soulmate.

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Speaker 5: I agree with.

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Speaker 4: Becca and Easton when they said that their partners are

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Speaker 4: one of their ones. My husband and I have had

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Speaker 4: the same conversation. So my question for you all is

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Speaker 4: do you think that a big part of making a

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Speaker 4: relationship successful has to do with chance slash fate slash

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00:39:26,120 --> 00:39:28,520
Speaker 4: destiny or do you think is more about the choices

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00:39:28,560 --> 00:39:30,879
Speaker 4: we make and the work we put into the relationship.

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Speaker 5: Oh good question, Haley.

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Speaker 2: Hey Haley, great email. Well, first of all, I would

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Speaker 2: just like to say I'm glad that you and your

814
00:39:39,680 --> 00:39:42,640
Speaker 2: husband seem to agree with this, as opposed to one

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Speaker 2: of you being like you're my one and only and

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Speaker 2: then the other being like you're one of my ones

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Speaker 2: and only.

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Speaker 8: Right, That's a good start.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that'd be rough.

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Speaker 2: And second of all, to answer the question, I think

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Speaker 2: it's kind of a combination.

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Speaker 8: Like I think when.

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Speaker 2: You're with the right person, you want to put in

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Speaker 2: work and effort, and that's the difference, because I think

825
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Speaker 2: if you're not with the right person, the work feels

826
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Speaker 2: very daunting and overwhelming, Whereas I guess, personally speaking, like

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Speaker 2: putting the work into the relationship, like doing therapy and

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Speaker 2: figuring out how I can be better in the relationship

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Speaker 2: is like I'm willing to do it because I feel

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Speaker 2: confident in our relationship, if that makes sense.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, And I mean I obviously am leaning more towards

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Speaker 1: the fate side of things, but I still think. I

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Speaker 1: think that you find your partner with fate and destiny

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Speaker 1: and like meant to be. But I think every relationship

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Speaker 1: requires work and effort no matter what, like even if

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Speaker 1: you find the person that you're meant to be with.

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Speaker 1: I'm using the quote hands. I still think it's not

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Speaker 1: going to be just an easy pie road, you know

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Speaker 1: what I mean. I think everybody has easy as pie easy.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I was just I thought you were gonna say, like

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Speaker 2: walk in the park, but you an easy pie road.

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Speaker 1: I don't think any relationship is that, And I think

844
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Speaker 1: that you have to put in the work. So I

845
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Speaker 1: think the destiny and fate is how you find your partner,

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Speaker 1: but I think the work and determination that is required

847
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Speaker 1: to keep it going.

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Speaker 8: Hmm.

849
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Speaker 1: Why drop email.

850
00:41:12,560 --> 00:41:13,920
Speaker 8: You didn't even mean to do that.

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Speaker 5: Next email is from Vaughan.

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Speaker 4: I'm a teacher, got a master's, worked every weekend while studying,

853
00:41:18,880 --> 00:41:20,600
Speaker 4: never had to ask anyone for help, had it all

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00:41:20,600 --> 00:41:23,520
Speaker 4: figured out. Then I got sick and my reality right

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00:41:23,520 --> 00:41:26,600
Speaker 4: now is living in with chronic pain. This makes me

856
00:41:26,680 --> 00:41:29,040
Speaker 4: unable to work. I'm on tender and the first question

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Speaker 4: everyone asks following how are you, is so what do

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Speaker 4: you do? This gives me a noot in my stomach.

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Speaker 4: I don't know what to say. Somehow it feels like

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Speaker 4: I would be perceived as less attractive and less hard

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Speaker 4: working if I answer with my current truth.

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Speaker 5: What would you guys say?

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Speaker 1: This is a very interesting not interesting, but I think

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Speaker 1: this is a very common issue. And I don't mean

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Speaker 1: because I think people are dealing with chronic pain and

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Speaker 1: not working, but I think everybody has some sort of

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Speaker 1: insecurity that they're scared to admit when they're on a

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Speaker 1: dating app or early on, you know what I mean.

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Speaker 1: I think everybody kind of carries that whatever that thing is.

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Speaker 1: And I'll never forget something that Matthew Hesse told me

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Speaker 1: years ago, and he's like, it's all about how you

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Speaker 1: project it. If you have an insecurity and you say,

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Speaker 1: and I guess it's hard to say it over over

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Speaker 1: messaging on a dating app, but there is a way

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Speaker 1: to not make it seem like it's this awkward, heavy thing,

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Speaker 1: do you know what I mean? Like make light of it,

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Speaker 1: because if you make light of it, then you're not

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00:42:32,040 --> 00:42:35,160
Speaker 1: making it awkward. So it's like the example that he

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00:42:35,280 --> 00:42:38,919
Speaker 1: gave was sometimes women are insecure about having kids. They're

880
00:42:38,960 --> 00:42:41,239
Speaker 1: scared to tell a man that they have kids. And

881
00:42:41,320 --> 00:42:42,960
Speaker 1: he's like, you know, if you sit, if you're on

882
00:42:43,000 --> 00:42:46,680
Speaker 1: the first day and you go like this, so Easton,

883
00:42:48,000 --> 00:42:51,400
Speaker 1: you know I have I have three kids under the

884
00:42:51,440 --> 00:42:55,040
Speaker 1: age of ten, and you give that face and you're like, oh,

885
00:42:55,280 --> 00:42:58,479
Speaker 1: like that. Of course he's gonna take it and be like, oh,

886
00:42:58,520 --> 00:43:00,120
Speaker 1: like why is she saying it like that? But if

887
00:43:00,160 --> 00:43:04,520
Speaker 1: you go Easton, your eyes are just like my son Jack's,

888
00:43:04,840 --> 00:43:07,359
Speaker 1: they're just they just make me so happy. And then

889
00:43:07,360 --> 00:43:09,239
Speaker 1: Eastan's gonna say, oh, my gosh, like you have a

890
00:43:09,239 --> 00:43:11,400
Speaker 1: son that's so like great, how many other kids do

891
00:43:11,400 --> 00:43:15,680
Speaker 1: you have? And then the conversation isn't what you it's

892
00:43:15,760 --> 00:43:16,480
Speaker 1: just lighter.

893
00:43:17,000 --> 00:43:19,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think we've had We've talked about this a

894
00:43:19,480 --> 00:43:22,879
Speaker 2: few times on the podcast of like everything is how

895
00:43:22,920 --> 00:43:25,759
Speaker 2: you present it. How people react is how you present it.

896
00:43:25,800 --> 00:43:29,000
Speaker 2: And I think if you're casually like, oh, you know,

897
00:43:29,239 --> 00:43:31,640
Speaker 2: I'm not working right now, I'm really focusing on my health.

898
00:43:31,760 --> 00:43:34,759
Speaker 2: But you know I have, you know, talk about you

899
00:43:34,800 --> 00:43:37,399
Speaker 2: had a master's, Like bring that up where you can,

900
00:43:37,520 --> 00:43:40,840
Speaker 2: that's awesome, and say like, yeah, my masters, I've been working,

901
00:43:40,880 --> 00:43:42,920
Speaker 2: but I'm taking a break because i'm you know, figuring

902
00:43:42,920 --> 00:43:43,800
Speaker 2: out my health stuff.

903
00:43:43,800 --> 00:43:45,520
Speaker 8: And then ask them what do you do?

904
00:43:46,160 --> 00:43:50,560
Speaker 2: I don't I personally Mark it's that movie that you

905
00:43:50,960 --> 00:43:51,919
Speaker 2: recommended to us?

906
00:43:52,000 --> 00:43:52,840
Speaker 8: What was it called.

907
00:43:52,719 --> 00:43:59,839
Speaker 2: The Yeah, when he said talks about how when we're

908
00:44:00,360 --> 00:44:01,799
Speaker 2: it's all like what do you want to be when

909
00:44:01,800 --> 00:44:03,279
Speaker 2: you grow up? And then when you grow up, it's like,

910
00:44:03,320 --> 00:44:06,080
Speaker 2: well what do you do? And that is supposed to

911
00:44:06,160 --> 00:44:07,960
Speaker 2: determine our worth? Yeah?

912
00:44:08,000 --> 00:44:08,680
Speaker 5: It finds it.

913
00:44:08,680 --> 00:44:11,040
Speaker 2: It really, Yeah, it defines us and it really that

914
00:44:11,120 --> 00:44:14,360
Speaker 2: was so eye opening to me, And like how I

915
00:44:14,400 --> 00:44:17,640
Speaker 2: ask that question in a way that doesn't come across

916
00:44:17,680 --> 00:44:20,120
Speaker 2: that their answer is going to make or break what

917
00:44:20,200 --> 00:44:22,840
Speaker 2: I think about them, because I think a lot of

918
00:44:22,880 --> 00:44:27,160
Speaker 2: times we feel so insecure about that question, and I

919
00:44:27,200 --> 00:44:31,640
Speaker 2: think if we can make people feel valued outside of

920
00:44:31,640 --> 00:44:33,680
Speaker 2: whatever their answer is to that question.

921
00:44:33,880 --> 00:44:35,160
Speaker 8: I think that's so valuable.

922
00:44:35,200 --> 00:44:38,120
Speaker 2: But I think, just like Tanya said, the way you

923
00:44:38,160 --> 00:44:42,000
Speaker 2: can say your truth and not be ashamed or insecure,

924
00:44:42,080 --> 00:44:44,400
Speaker 2: you've You've done a lot and taken care of yourself

925
00:44:44,520 --> 00:44:45,640
Speaker 2: is a priority.

926
00:44:47,360 --> 00:44:49,040
Speaker 4: Yeah, And I also think the answer to that question

927
00:44:49,200 --> 00:44:52,040
Speaker 4: is I'm a teacher because I think, and just judging

928
00:44:52,080 --> 00:44:54,360
Speaker 4: from this email, you are a teacher, like that is you.

929
00:44:54,719 --> 00:44:55,880
Speaker 1: That's your first sentence.

930
00:44:55,880 --> 00:44:58,080
Speaker 4: You've been a teacher. You will be a teacher again

931
00:44:58,120 --> 00:45:00,839
Speaker 4: one day. I think that's fine. And he might ask

932
00:45:00,840 --> 00:45:02,359
Speaker 4: what do you teach? You know that' stuff. Maybe there's

933
00:45:02,360 --> 00:45:04,320
Speaker 4: a point in there where you would say, I'm I'm

934
00:45:04,600 --> 00:45:06,960
Speaker 4: currently on medical leave or whatever.

935
00:45:06,719 --> 00:45:09,600
Speaker 5: It is, and that's okay, there's there's nothing wrong with that.

936
00:45:09,640 --> 00:45:10,359
Speaker 5: But you are a teacher.

937
00:45:10,400 --> 00:45:12,000
Speaker 4: There's nothing wrong with saying you are, even if you

938
00:45:12,000 --> 00:45:13,959
Speaker 4: are currently actively teaching right now.

939
00:45:14,680 --> 00:45:15,080
Speaker 1: That's right.

940
00:45:15,160 --> 00:45:15,479
Speaker 8: I didn't.

941
00:45:15,680 --> 00:45:18,200
Speaker 2: I literally don't know how I miss as the first

942
00:45:18,200 --> 00:45:19,160
Speaker 2: sentence in the email.

943
00:45:19,160 --> 00:45:22,680
Speaker 8: But yeah, you're a teacher, I agree, Mark, or or you.

944
00:45:22,560 --> 00:45:25,879
Speaker 1: Can like a really bad asset and be like I don't,

945
00:45:25,960 --> 00:45:27,880
Speaker 1: I can't make up what you you know like to

946
00:45:27,920 --> 00:45:30,120
Speaker 1: do but you can be like, I'm a teacher, I'm

947
00:45:30,160 --> 00:45:36,160
Speaker 1: a sister, I'm a friend, I'm a activist, I'm a volunteer,

948
00:45:36,280 --> 00:45:38,200
Speaker 1: i am a tennis player. That's what I would do.

949
00:45:39,640 --> 00:45:40,200
Speaker 2: Guy, that.

950
00:45:42,640 --> 00:45:45,160
Speaker 1: I'm classy, I'm bougie and a magic.

951
00:45:45,360 --> 00:45:47,760
Speaker 8: That's what you should say. You should say, I'm a teacher.

952
00:45:47,880 --> 00:45:51,440
Speaker 2: And also just quote the lyrics of Megan thee Stallion.

953
00:45:51,680 --> 00:45:54,160
Speaker 2: Totally Melli, Megan thee Stallion.

954
00:45:53,920 --> 00:45:55,000
Speaker 1: Megan thee Stallion.

955
00:45:55,880 --> 00:45:57,800
Speaker 8: Oh wow, hey.

956
00:45:57,640 --> 00:46:00,799
Speaker 4: One more issue that actually a number door turned me

957
00:46:00,800 --> 00:46:02,960
Speaker 4: on too. In the Facebook group real quick, this girl

958
00:46:03,080 --> 00:46:06,120
Speaker 4: Kelly posted about this and your response would be interesting.

959
00:46:06,320 --> 00:46:08,279
Speaker 5: It's a longer email. I'll sum it up this way.

960
00:46:09,440 --> 00:46:10,719
Speaker 5: Kaylee's not religious.

961
00:46:10,760 --> 00:46:14,239
Speaker 4: Her boyfriend and his family are, and her and her

962
00:46:14,280 --> 00:46:17,520
Speaker 4: boyfriend's mom, they were at dinner and the mom asked

963
00:46:17,520 --> 00:46:20,479
Speaker 4: her to do the stations of the Cross, and Kelly

964
00:46:20,520 --> 00:46:22,239
Speaker 4: didn't want to the station at the cross because she

965
00:46:22,280 --> 00:46:24,800
Speaker 4: doesn't This is not a meaningful gesture in her world,

966
00:46:25,080 --> 00:46:27,040
Speaker 4: and so she didn't. And so now there's a thing.

967
00:46:27,160 --> 00:46:29,560
Speaker 4: Now there's a big issue going on with this other family,

968
00:46:29,719 --> 00:46:31,520
Speaker 4: even though two and a half years she's been with

969
00:46:31,560 --> 00:46:33,439
Speaker 4: this guy and had dinner with this family, and she's

970
00:46:33,480 --> 00:46:36,960
Speaker 4: never been asked to do that before they say grace,

971
00:46:37,239 --> 00:46:40,280
Speaker 4: she sits there silently. It's fine, but she just doesn't

972
00:46:40,360 --> 00:46:43,440
Speaker 4: do the motions of the cross. Now the mom is

973
00:46:43,440 --> 00:46:45,319
Speaker 4: making an issue out of it. What can she say

974
00:46:45,360 --> 00:46:50,960
Speaker 4: to the mom that will diffuse the situation? I know,

975
00:46:51,160 --> 00:46:52,160
Speaker 4: I don't want to.

976
00:46:55,080 --> 00:46:56,960
Speaker 1: Do we really like this guy? Does she really like this?

977
00:46:57,440 --> 00:47:00,000
Speaker 4: It seem to although he seems to be kind of

978
00:47:00,480 --> 00:47:02,239
Speaker 4: with mom, he's kind of taken, like, you know what,

979
00:47:02,440 --> 00:47:02,960
Speaker 4: just do it.

980
00:47:02,960 --> 00:47:05,200
Speaker 5: It's fine, it's no big deal. You don't have to

981
00:47:05,239 --> 00:47:07,279
Speaker 5: mean anything. Just make your hands do the thing and

982
00:47:07,320 --> 00:47:10,560
Speaker 5: then it'll be over. See such a dude, by the.

983
00:47:10,560 --> 00:47:15,680
Speaker 2: Way, Yeah, I would, I honestly would say I respect

984
00:47:15,680 --> 00:47:18,359
Speaker 2: to your religion, and I you know, sit there and

985
00:47:18,760 --> 00:47:20,760
Speaker 2: I love your family and I respect your family.

986
00:47:20,800 --> 00:47:24,000
Speaker 8: It's not my choice to practice that religion.

987
00:47:24,080 --> 00:47:28,279
Speaker 2: And because I know what that means to you, as

988
00:47:27,840 --> 00:47:30,000
Speaker 2: that is your faith in a symbol of your faith,

989
00:47:30,040 --> 00:47:31,799
Speaker 2: I don't want to do it because it doesn't have

990
00:47:31,880 --> 00:47:33,800
Speaker 2: the same meaning to me, and that to me feels

991
00:47:33,840 --> 00:47:36,319
Speaker 2: more disrespectful than me not doing it.

992
00:47:37,040 --> 00:47:38,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I mean, I also think there's something to

993
00:47:39,000 --> 00:47:41,960
Speaker 1: be said about you know, I dated somebody that was

994
00:47:42,040 --> 00:47:45,000
Speaker 1: Jewish and I am not Jewish, and I was doing

995
00:47:45,040 --> 00:47:49,239
Speaker 1: some traditional Jewish things that I'd never done before, and

996
00:47:49,280 --> 00:47:51,800
Speaker 1: I thought it was cool to do them and learn

997
00:47:51,960 --> 00:47:55,960
Speaker 1: and listen. And even though I'm not Jewish, it didn't

998
00:47:55,960 --> 00:47:58,000
Speaker 1: feel wrong, you know what I mean, Like, it didn't

999
00:47:58,040 --> 00:48:01,520
Speaker 1: feel disrespectful. It felt actually quite beautiful. So I would

1000
00:48:01,680 --> 00:48:05,000
Speaker 1: I don't know why she was so kind.

1001
00:48:04,719 --> 00:48:12,560
Speaker 5: Of fuddled, I believe, well, I don't know why.

1002
00:48:12,360 --> 00:48:15,480
Speaker 1: You were so kermumble about it, because just as somebody,

1003
00:48:15,480 --> 00:48:18,480
Speaker 1: like as a Christian, you know, I I did do

1004
00:48:18,560 --> 00:48:22,439
Speaker 1: some traditional Jewish things and I happily and I thought

1005
00:48:22,440 --> 00:48:23,720
Speaker 1: it was kind of awesome.

1006
00:48:24,040 --> 00:48:26,880
Speaker 8: But that was your decision, right, It wasn't he didn't.

1007
00:48:26,920 --> 00:48:29,040
Speaker 2: He wasn't saying you need to do this, or I

1008
00:48:29,080 --> 00:48:30,640
Speaker 2: want you to do this, or put pressure on you.

1009
00:48:30,680 --> 00:48:32,319
Speaker 2: It was your decision to do that, right, right.

1010
00:48:32,360 --> 00:48:35,400
Speaker 1: But I guess what we really didn't gather is if

1011
00:48:35,800 --> 00:48:37,040
Speaker 1: was she just being pressured to do it?

1012
00:48:37,120 --> 00:48:37,279
Speaker 2: Yeah?

1013
00:48:37,280 --> 00:48:39,360
Speaker 4: I mean that's the bigger issues. Why is mom making

1014
00:48:39,360 --> 00:48:41,799
Speaker 4: this an issue now? Why a half years in is

1015
00:48:41,800 --> 00:48:43,719
Speaker 4: this so important to her all of a sudden? I

1016
00:48:43,760 --> 00:48:46,000
Speaker 4: think that's there's a bigger issue there that maybe we

1017
00:48:46,040 --> 00:48:50,759
Speaker 4: need to figure out, yes, and the boyfriend's got to

1018
00:48:50,800 --> 00:48:51,279
Speaker 4: help with that.

1019
00:48:52,120 --> 00:48:54,400
Speaker 2: But here's the thing. I I talked to my therapist

1020
00:48:54,400 --> 00:49:00,880
Speaker 2: about this because she was saying, like, ninety five P

1021
00:49:01,000 --> 00:49:04,480
Speaker 2: and I don't have the same like faith or belief,

1022
00:49:04,600 --> 00:49:06,760
Speaker 2: like we both respect each other and what we believe,

1023
00:49:06,880 --> 00:49:12,239
Speaker 2: but it's I've had to because I have always had

1024
00:49:12,280 --> 00:49:19,760
Speaker 2: this mentality of like I can be an example for

1025
00:49:20,760 --> 00:49:24,000
Speaker 2: someone to change, and that's not how it is in

1026
00:49:24,040 --> 00:49:24,839
Speaker 2: a relationship.

1027
00:49:24,920 --> 00:49:27,760
Speaker 8: Like if if if ninety five.

1028
00:49:27,600 --> 00:49:32,440
Speaker 2: P comes to the decision and that's that's the path

1029
00:49:34,040 --> 00:49:37,520
Speaker 2: that they want to take, then that's totally fine. But

1030
00:49:37,680 --> 00:49:41,360
Speaker 2: I never want it to be because I pressured that decision.

1031
00:49:41,840 --> 00:49:45,480
Speaker 2: And my therapist was saying was saying it's okay to

1032
00:49:45,640 --> 00:49:48,120
Speaker 2: want especially when it comes to faith and stuff, Like

1033
00:49:48,360 --> 00:49:51,080
Speaker 2: she was saying it's okay to want someone to change,

1034
00:49:51,120 --> 00:49:53,319
Speaker 2: Like that's not a bad thing. And I think there's

1035
00:49:53,360 --> 00:49:55,800
Speaker 2: a lot of pressure on or people feel like they're

1036
00:49:55,920 --> 00:49:58,520
Speaker 2: guilty for wanting someone to change, and I've always felt

1037
00:49:58,520 --> 00:50:02,080
Speaker 2: like that, but she was I'm saying, like it's normal

1038
00:50:02,200 --> 00:50:06,120
Speaker 2: for you to want your partner to experience something that's

1039
00:50:06,160 --> 00:50:08,680
Speaker 2: so good in your life as long as you can

1040
00:50:08,719 --> 00:50:12,000
Speaker 2: accept that you're not responsible for changing them and that

1041
00:50:12,080 --> 00:50:13,320
Speaker 2: it has to be their decision.

1042
00:50:13,360 --> 00:50:16,960
Speaker 1: And so, you know, Becca really is hunkering down on

1043
00:50:17,160 --> 00:50:21,560
Speaker 1: a very strong point, which is pressure. People crumble under pressure,

1044
00:50:21,760 --> 00:50:24,879
Speaker 1: and I think that sometimes we do it without even

1045
00:50:24,920 --> 00:50:28,200
Speaker 1: realizing how much we're doing it. And I think I've

1046
00:50:28,239 --> 00:50:31,400
Speaker 1: been realizing that a lot in my life because of

1047
00:50:31,480 --> 00:50:34,080
Speaker 1: the way that I am just in general, I'm a planner.

1048
00:50:34,160 --> 00:50:35,600
Speaker 1: So I like to plan things, and I like to,

1049
00:50:35,680 --> 00:50:37,880
Speaker 1: you know, look a big picture. And I'm realizing that

1050
00:50:37,920 --> 00:50:40,160
Speaker 1: I need to strip that back and really live day

1051
00:50:40,160 --> 00:50:42,920
Speaker 1: by day because I'm putting I was putting pressure on

1052
00:50:42,960 --> 00:50:45,839
Speaker 1: myself and other people for things that were so far

1053
00:50:45,920 --> 00:50:48,960
Speaker 1: down the line hm that it's like, how do I

1054
00:50:49,000 --> 00:50:50,879
Speaker 1: even know if I want that with you in six months?

1055
00:50:50,920 --> 00:50:53,000
Speaker 1: Do you know what I mean? And So I think

1056
00:50:53,080 --> 00:50:55,359
Speaker 1: pressure is such a huge thing to kind of really

1057
00:50:55,400 --> 00:50:57,959
Speaker 1: focus on your life and in what ways you're putting

1058
00:50:57,960 --> 00:51:00,239
Speaker 1: pressure on yourself and what ways you're putting pre sure

1059
00:51:00,280 --> 00:51:02,680
Speaker 1: on other people in your life, and like, really focus

1060
00:51:02,760 --> 00:51:07,560
Speaker 1: on that, because that is such a like such a

1061
00:51:07,600 --> 00:51:09,399
Speaker 1: thing that I don't think a lot of us even

1062
00:51:09,440 --> 00:51:11,280
Speaker 1: realize that is affecting our lives.

1063
00:51:11,960 --> 00:51:15,759
Speaker 2: I also feel like you know a lot of in

1064
00:51:15,880 --> 00:51:19,239
Speaker 2: laws or like parents of the guy or girl that

1065
00:51:19,280 --> 00:51:21,879
Speaker 2: you're dating have opinions on you, and like you might

1066
00:51:21,920 --> 00:51:25,920
Speaker 2: have different beliefs or grew up differently. And I would

1067
00:51:25,920 --> 00:51:28,680
Speaker 2: hope that her boyfriend would have a conversation with his

1068
00:51:28,800 --> 00:51:33,240
Speaker 2: mom and say, hey, Kaylee does not have the same beliefs.

1069
00:51:33,320 --> 00:51:35,120
Speaker 2: I've been dating her for two years, like you know

1070
00:51:35,239 --> 00:51:38,480
Speaker 2: this about her, and I want her to feel comfortable

1071
00:51:38,480 --> 00:51:41,000
Speaker 2: coming into our home without feeling like she has to

1072
00:51:41,040 --> 00:51:45,799
Speaker 2: practice what we do because that or particularly So that's

1073
00:51:45,800 --> 00:51:48,839
Speaker 2: what I'm saying, Like what does it benefit them if

1074
00:51:48,840 --> 00:51:52,160
Speaker 2: she's doing the motions? But that's not like the whole

1075
00:51:52,200 --> 00:51:54,360
Speaker 2: thing to me. With the religion, the problem to me

1076
00:51:54,440 --> 00:51:57,360
Speaker 2: a lot of the times is that people followed the

1077
00:51:57,440 --> 00:52:01,719
Speaker 2: rules and do the signals and announce it to everybody,

1078
00:52:01,760 --> 00:52:04,200
Speaker 2: but how they live doesn't match what they're doing. And

1079
00:52:04,239 --> 00:52:07,400
Speaker 2: so to me, she's asking her to do the things

1080
00:52:08,200 --> 00:52:09,759
Speaker 2: that's not how she's living her life.

1081
00:52:11,239 --> 00:52:13,759
Speaker 1: Kay is like stepping outside and crossing her hands and

1082
00:52:14,000 --> 00:52:17,040
Speaker 1: not participating until being respectful.

1083
00:52:16,480 --> 00:52:19,239
Speaker 2: To them and like entering their home knowing what they

1084
00:52:19,280 --> 00:52:21,200
Speaker 2: believe in being respectful of it. But I don't think

1085
00:52:21,200 --> 00:52:23,359
Speaker 2: that means that she should be forced to do something

1086
00:52:23,440 --> 00:52:24,439
Speaker 2: she's not comfortable doing.

1087
00:52:27,280 --> 00:52:28,359
Speaker 1: I don't know what to do with it. I don't

1088
00:52:28,360 --> 00:52:28,880
Speaker 1: know what to do with it.

1089
00:52:29,040 --> 00:52:31,000
Speaker 4: I think that I think we've given guidance in our

1090
00:52:31,040 --> 00:52:31,759
Speaker 4: own special way.

1091
00:52:32,239 --> 00:52:36,000
Speaker 8: Okay, Yeah, that's hard I feel.

1092
00:52:36,360 --> 00:52:36,880
Speaker 2: I mean.

1093
00:52:39,200 --> 00:52:42,240
Speaker 1: With you, Yeah, I hope.

1094
00:52:42,280 --> 00:52:43,920
Speaker 8: I really hope her boyfriend can.

1095
00:52:44,000 --> 00:52:46,399
Speaker 1: Like, you know, it's deep. When I make a Star

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Speaker 1: Wars analogy.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, just like floated out of a seat cigarette after

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Speaker 2: that one.

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Speaker 8: Wow.

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Speaker 1: Man.

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Speaker 8: Well on that note, Happy International Women's Day. We love

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Speaker 8: all of you. We're so grateful for you.

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Speaker 2: I hope that you take today and every day really

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Speaker 2: to celebrate the incredible women in your life. Same the

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00:53:15,560 --> 00:53:19,359
Speaker 2: ones keep going, the ones who are breaking boundaries, who

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00:53:19,360 --> 00:53:24,120
Speaker 2: have already broken boundaries, who are pushing the envelope, doing it.

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00:53:24,080 --> 00:53:27,880
Speaker 1: All, breaking the glass ceiling. The other day, I was

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00:53:27,920 --> 00:53:31,560
Speaker 1: looking at my Instagram insights, and I noticed that my

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00:53:31,640 --> 00:53:36,759
Speaker 1: audience on Instagram is ninety seven percent fever And I

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00:53:36,800 --> 00:53:39,359
Speaker 1: don't know why it brought me so much joy. I

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00:53:39,400 --> 00:53:41,160
Speaker 1: love men, and shout out to all the men that listen,

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00:53:41,239 --> 00:53:43,440
Speaker 1: we love you. But I just I don't know why

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00:53:43,440 --> 00:53:44,719
Speaker 1: I carried so much pride in that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's something to be proud of. Yeah, we love

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Speaker 2: you all and I can't. Oh, we have a very

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Speaker 2: fun guest next week. We've been at a guest in

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Speaker 2: a while, but I'm very excited about it him.

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Speaker 1: It's a great guest. Very Next week's just going to

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Speaker 1: be an embarrassment of riches.

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Speaker 8: Well because of Gray's an me is this week.

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Speaker 1: And we'll be post Grammys.

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Speaker 8: Oh my gosh, Monday's photo shoot.

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Speaker 5: That's that day.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's March. Are you ready for it? You're not?

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Speaker 8: I just forgot, But wow, here we are.

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00:54:23,800 --> 00:54:25,200
Speaker 1: See I told you it's going to be here before

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00:54:25,200 --> 00:54:26,560
Speaker 1: you know, I might not say that.

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Speaker 8: You did say that?

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Speaker 5: Next week or is it a surprise?

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Speaker 2: No, we're having Anthony Hill, who was on our Gallantine's

1131
00:54:35,400 --> 00:54:38,200
Speaker 2: Day show, but we're getting him as a fool guest.

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Speaker 8: I'm so excited to talk. We were so like giddy,

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00:54:43,719 --> 00:54:45,920
Speaker 8: giddy little girls when we talked to him. He was

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Speaker 8: so fun.

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00:54:47,360 --> 00:54:49,480
Speaker 2: So luckily he's going to come back on it'll be

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Speaker 2: post Gray's premiere.

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Speaker 1: He's a man of his word. He said he'd come

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Speaker 1: back in.

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00:54:55,680 --> 00:54:58,200
Speaker 8: A lot of a lot of them have held up.

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Speaker 9: I agree.

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00:55:00,320 --> 00:55:00,759
Speaker 8: All right.

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Speaker 2: We will be back next week with a lot to

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00:55:03,200 --> 00:55:05,279
Speaker 2: talk about, and we'll see you.

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Speaker 1: Then, Love you bye. I might be in my lingerie

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00:55:07,239 --> 00:55:09,319
Speaker 1: for next week's episode. Have a guest never mind.

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00:55:10,400 --> 00:55:14,080
Speaker 2: Oh wow, you're gonna be blowing him kisses again in

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00:55:14,160 --> 00:55:16,320
Speaker 2: your lingerie.

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00:55:15,840 --> 00:55:19,920
Speaker 1: Tv T or no to be TVD.

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Speaker 8: Okay.

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00:55:22,640 --> 00:55:26,439
Speaker 2: On that note, we're going all right, goodbye, love you all.

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Speaker 9: Now you just hit stop, okay,