WEBVTT - What The Hell Are We Doing With Our Lives + 6 Rules to Avoid Being Cringe 0:00:01.400 --> 0:00:02.679 Oh too good. 0:00:03.160 --> 0:00:06.720 All right, break it down. If you ever have feelings 0:00:06.720 --> 0:00:06.960 that you. 0:00:07.160 --> 0:00:10.479 Just falls Amy and Cat got your cob and locking 0:00:10.560 --> 0:00:14.280 the brob me the lady's and pelts. You just follow 0:00:14.320 --> 0:00:15.560 an the spirit where it's. 0:00:15.440 --> 0:00:17.560 All the front. 0:00:16.680 --> 0:00:19.840 And real stuff, tell the chill stuff and the end. 0:00:19.920 --> 0:00:23.239 But Swayne, sometimes the best thing you can do. 0:00:23.239 --> 0:00:28.560 It jes stop you feel things. This is feeling things with. 0:00:28.600 --> 0:00:29.320 Amy and Cat. 0:00:29.360 --> 0:00:30.960 Happy Tuesday. Welcome to feeling things. 0:00:30.960 --> 0:00:33.519 I'm Amy and I'm Cat, and my feeling the day 0:00:33.560 --> 0:00:37.000 is eager, eager. Yeah, I have a haircut coming up 0:00:37.479 --> 0:00:40.240 or a hair appointment. Well, I will be getting my 0:00:40.320 --> 0:00:46.360 haircut but also colored, and I have not This going 0:00:46.440 --> 0:00:49.280 lighter in my hair was my decision. I fully asked 0:00:49.280 --> 0:00:51.680 for it last time I went, and we brought the 0:00:51.760 --> 0:00:54.760 lightness up to my root a little bit higher and 0:00:54.840 --> 0:00:57.040 more of it and no bad idea. 0:00:57.400 --> 0:01:00.400 That's on me. I even texted my hair person, I'm 0:01:00.440 --> 0:01:01.640 hating my hair. It's on me. 0:01:02.200 --> 0:01:06.160 I take full responsibility. But the eagerness and the excitement 0:01:06.200 --> 0:01:10.200 around it is. My appointment was originally further out, but 0:01:10.240 --> 0:01:13.520 she had a cancelation, so she's getting me in about 0:01:14.120 --> 0:01:18.440 eight days, sooner than I would have, and I I'm 0:01:18.480 --> 0:01:19.000 ready for that. 0:01:19.520 --> 0:01:22.840 You're not. You're not doing what now? I'm not going 0:01:22.840 --> 0:01:26.400 to chop my hair? Okay, well what I know, I'm. 0:01:26.200 --> 0:01:27.120 Not gonna do bangs. 0:01:27.160 --> 0:01:28.640 I don't think I'm not gonna do I'm not doing 0:01:28.680 --> 0:01:30.280 anything drastic other than going. 0:01:30.200 --> 0:01:32.160 Darker the color that you're used to. 0:01:32.959 --> 0:01:35.040 Yeah, I mean, I've always had highlights, but I think 0:01:35.040 --> 0:01:38.119 I'm gonna try something a little bit darker. Since we're summers, 0:01:39.000 --> 0:01:43.360 we're rounding into getting close dark months, so I may 0:01:43.400 --> 0:01:47.160 try to do something darker. But I'm very eager, and 0:01:47.200 --> 0:01:48.880 I hope I don't hate it, and I hope, like 0:01:49.240 --> 0:01:51.040 a few weeks from now, I'm not texting her up 0:01:51.120 --> 0:01:56.280 my dad. I take all the resincely my responsibil I 0:01:56.320 --> 0:01:59.480 take all the responsibility. I don't like it. 0:01:59.720 --> 0:02:02.640 But have you. 0:02:02.040 --> 0:02:05.360 Had the experience where it's not your fault and it's 0:02:05.400 --> 0:02:07.240 really bad m. 0:02:09.000 --> 0:02:11.440 And you have to like, well, remember last summer when 0:02:11.639 --> 0:02:13.720 I was given money pieces? 0:02:14.160 --> 0:02:15.280 Oh yeah, yeah yeah, and I. 0:02:15.200 --> 0:02:16.040 Didn't ask for them. 0:02:16.280 --> 0:02:19.040 Okay, but would you did say some blonde stripes. I 0:02:19.120 --> 0:02:21.640 did go back and she put toner on them to 0:02:21.639 --> 0:02:24.480 tone them down because they were just it was a 0:02:24.480 --> 0:02:26.160 little too much for me, even though it was very 0:02:26.200 --> 0:02:28.840 much in style. We're speaking of stuff that's in style. 0:02:28.919 --> 0:02:30.519 Kat and I were talking before we were recording, and 0:02:30.560 --> 0:02:32.280 I was like, my jeans are just so high up. 0:02:32.320 --> 0:02:34.239 They're like when I sit down, they come up, and 0:02:34.280 --> 0:02:36.560 Kat goes, that's okay, that's what's in style. I was like, 0:02:36.600 --> 0:02:39.320 I really don't think it's in style because I think 0:02:39.520 --> 0:02:43.800 mid to low rise technically that's what's in style. But 0:02:43.919 --> 0:02:46.440 we have now hit an age where what is in 0:02:46.600 --> 0:02:49.520 style is what we feel good in. And I feel 0:02:49.520 --> 0:02:53.760 better in a high rise. So that's that's what works 0:02:53.760 --> 0:02:56.880 for me. And so what money pieces, I don't need 0:02:57.040 --> 0:02:59.119 money pieces might be in style, I don't need them. 0:02:59.560 --> 0:03:01.480 They do not work for me. Well, I was just 0:03:01.520 --> 0:03:03.520 asking that this, like are you the kind of person 0:03:03.560 --> 0:03:06.040 that says something? Or are you the kind of person? 0:03:06.080 --> 0:03:07.680 I was like, I love it, And then you go 0:03:07.720 --> 0:03:09.240 home and you just like look in the mirror and 0:03:09.240 --> 0:03:10.120 you cry. Yeah. 0:03:10.320 --> 0:03:12.440 I guess I haven't been in that situation an awful lot, 0:03:12.480 --> 0:03:15.360 But I in my experience like, if you say something, 0:03:15.400 --> 0:03:17.760 they'll help tweak it. Like I went in, She's like, oh, 0:03:17.800 --> 0:03:19.480 let me put some toner on the money pieces, it'll 0:03:19.480 --> 0:03:20.040 calm them down. 0:03:20.120 --> 0:03:23.360 Yeah, well, what about you. I haven't had an experience 0:03:23.400 --> 0:03:25.800 where somebody who has done my like I've gone and 0:03:25.840 --> 0:03:28.000 paid for it to get done and it was really bad. 0:03:29.120 --> 0:03:32.760 But I did let a friend cut my hair. 0:03:34.160 --> 0:03:34.840 As an adult. 0:03:35.080 --> 0:03:37.080 Have I not told you this? I don't know, were 0:03:37.080 --> 0:03:40.080 you a child or an adult? I was okay, I 0:03:40.120 --> 0:03:42.440 was in college and I was poor and I had 0:03:42.440 --> 0:03:44.360 no money, and a girl that I went to high 0:03:44.360 --> 0:03:48.520 school with posted on her Facebook like, Hey, I'm in 0:03:48.600 --> 0:03:49.920 hair school. I'm trying to get. 0:03:49.800 --> 0:03:52.600 Some like hours, portfolio hours. 0:03:52.640 --> 0:03:56.560 I don't know. If you watch my baby, I'll cut 0:03:56.560 --> 0:03:57.000 your hair. 0:03:57.280 --> 0:04:00.560 Oh yeah, you have told me this now that you 0:04:00.560 --> 0:04:03.600 bring in the baby part the barter system she had 0:04:03.600 --> 0:04:03.960 going on. 0:04:04.240 --> 0:04:06.640 Yeah, And so I did it. I thought I was 0:04:06.680 --> 0:04:10.600 to watch her baby for like two hours, and I 0:04:10.640 --> 0:04:14.400 also didn't know how to watch a baby either. So 0:04:14.480 --> 0:04:17.280 she cut my hair in my bathroom. It was completely 0:04:17.320 --> 0:04:23.080 crooked like this, which I mean she was new. But 0:04:23.120 --> 0:04:25.159 then I watched her baby and she didn't come back 0:04:25.240 --> 0:04:27.640 till like between I feel like one and three in 0:04:27.680 --> 0:04:30.360 the morning. I thought she was going to come back 0:04:30.400 --> 0:04:36.120 at like nine. So look what I do again? Now yeah, 0:04:36.160 --> 0:04:38.000 and then I had to go pay, so I did 0:04:38.000 --> 0:04:39.839 that for it to be free. Then I had to 0:04:39.839 --> 0:04:42.640 go pay to get my actual hair girl to cut 0:04:42.640 --> 0:04:44.279 my hair, and she was like, Catherine, why did you 0:04:44.360 --> 0:04:46.839 do that? And I was like, because I don't have 0:04:46.839 --> 0:04:48.799 any money and she was like, well, you're now spending 0:04:48.839 --> 0:04:51.000 it and she fixed it. 0:04:51.600 --> 0:04:52.880 Yeah, that's quite the story. 0:04:52.920 --> 0:04:54.599 But I definitely didn't tell the person that cut it 0:04:54.640 --> 0:04:55.160 that it was. 0:04:55.240 --> 0:04:59.360 Crooked, right, because you just didn't want to deal with that. Yeah, 0:04:59.360 --> 0:05:01.960 you're at DOT, you don't have to babysit again. And 0:05:02.000 --> 0:05:04.640 the whole thing was just awkward. If you don't speak 0:05:04.720 --> 0:05:07.880 up on that sort of thing. Is that people pleasing behavior, 0:05:08.040 --> 0:05:10.240 Like we are paying for a service. So if we 0:05:10.960 --> 0:05:14.400 tend to keep quiet but we don't like something, because 0:05:14.520 --> 0:05:17.000 there's obviously a kind way to go about it, but 0:05:17.040 --> 0:05:19.200 you're still having to go outside of your comfort zone 0:05:19.200 --> 0:05:23.239 and speak up and say, oh, you know, these money 0:05:23.240 --> 0:05:27.960 pieces are a little bright for me, I don't I Internally, 0:05:28.000 --> 0:05:29.400 I was like, I didn't ask for them. 0:05:29.440 --> 0:05:32.400 I don't even know what they are. But then I 0:05:32.520 --> 0:05:33.080 learned at work. 0:05:33.120 --> 0:05:35.240 I went to the Bobby Bone Show and Bobby was like, oh, 0:05:35.279 --> 0:05:37.039 you're the front of your hair's a real bright and 0:05:37.080 --> 0:05:41.520 then Morgan, who used to be on our show, she said, oh, 0:05:41.560 --> 0:05:44.480 those are money pieces. They're a thing, And sure enough 0:05:44.520 --> 0:05:47.040 I looked up online and money pieces were trending and 0:05:47.120 --> 0:05:48.760 I was like, but I didn't ask for it, So 0:05:48.839 --> 0:05:51.720 I had to step outside of my comfort zone because 0:05:51.760 --> 0:05:55.320 I don't like, yeah, having to do that at all. 0:05:56.279 --> 0:05:58.800 But there are some people where that would paralyze them 0:05:58.839 --> 0:06:02.960 because they don't want to deal with any type of. 0:06:02.880 --> 0:06:08.640 Confrontation like that, which is like you're that's the discomfort, 0:06:08.680 --> 0:06:11.120 Like you don't want to make them uncomfortable, but what's 0:06:11.160 --> 0:06:14.120 happening is you're uncomfortable and you paid for it. So 0:06:14.160 --> 0:06:17.920 somebody has to be uncomfortable. And also that's their job, 0:06:18.200 --> 0:06:21.640 so I would I would be uncomfortable doing that too. 0:06:21.680 --> 0:06:23.560 I'm with those kind of people would be hard for me, 0:06:23.920 --> 0:06:26.279 but that's their job, so I think that they also 0:06:26.360 --> 0:06:29.600 know that that's like part of what kinds of the territory. 0:06:29.680 --> 0:06:31.280 Have you ever complained about a massage? 0:06:32.200 --> 0:06:36.359 No, okay, like to the person or like a like 0:06:36.400 --> 0:06:39.479 a I think it, you know, discreetly through a like 0:06:39.520 --> 0:06:41.560 a comment card either. 0:06:42.000 --> 0:06:44.640 Okay, so you've done one of them. No, okay. 0:06:44.680 --> 0:06:47.480 I just was imagining how would you tell someone in 0:06:47.520 --> 0:06:50.120 person like this was a horrible massage. 0:06:50.160 --> 0:06:52.400 I've had really bad experiences, but I just go talk 0:06:52.440 --> 0:06:53.480 about them on the radio. 0:06:55.560 --> 0:06:58.600 Already here, so yeah, So I mean, I don't say 0:06:58.600 --> 0:06:59.320 who they are, but. 0:06:59.560 --> 0:07:03.680 This will like five maybe longer. Five years ago and 0:07:04.000 --> 0:07:06.520 I went to a resort SPA. We were at a 0:07:06.560 --> 0:07:08.800 resort on vacation with my mom and my sister. We 0:07:08.839 --> 0:07:11.200 went to go get massages and we were sitting in 0:07:11.280 --> 0:07:14.239 like the steam room or something. Everybody had their clothes 0:07:14.320 --> 0:07:18.440 on it, and the people in there, there's two people 0:07:18.440 --> 0:07:20.360 in there started talking to us and they were like, oh, 0:07:20.400 --> 0:07:21.680 is this is your first time here. We're like yeah, 0:07:21.720 --> 0:07:24.440 and they're like, we were here yesterday and we got 0:07:24.520 --> 0:07:27.080 deep tissue massages. But they didn't even make us sore 0:07:27.120 --> 0:07:30.560 this morning. So we complained and we got a free massage. 0:07:31.200 --> 0:07:33.800 Oh wow, which is great. 0:07:33.920 --> 0:07:36.200 I what, but I mean, if you are asking for 0:07:36.280 --> 0:07:38.720 deep tissue and you would get like to the touch, 0:07:39.280 --> 0:07:41.040 I mean, I know that I have to be sore, 0:07:41.120 --> 0:07:44.000 but if they didn't meet their expectation, and spa prices 0:07:44.080 --> 0:07:46.760 or resorts spa prices can be really expensive, so they 0:07:46.800 --> 0:07:52.720 probably were either that's their thing and they swindle, or 0:07:52.960 --> 0:07:56.240 they just genuinely were wanting somebody didn't know they would 0:07:56.240 --> 0:07:58.880 get a free massage, but they just wanted to share 0:07:59.160 --> 0:08:01.240 their experience and they were like, Oh, we'll comp you 0:08:01.280 --> 0:08:02.040 a massage. 0:08:02.160 --> 0:08:06.320 That's probably what happened. Yeah, dang, yeah, I'm going to start. 0:08:06.680 --> 0:08:09.640 If that's any motivation to share your feelings about things 0:08:09.880 --> 0:08:12.480 free stuff, I'm. 0:08:12.440 --> 0:08:13.440 Starting that person. 0:08:13.480 --> 0:08:16.360 I don't either. I don't either. Okay, so my feeling 0:08:16.400 --> 0:08:19.400 of the day, I'm feeling very lucky, which technically isn't 0:08:19.400 --> 0:08:24.760 a feeling. But I have watched two documentaries this week 0:08:25.880 --> 0:08:29.200 Shipwrecked Have you seen it? Nope, They're both on Netflix. 0:08:29.240 --> 0:08:30.720 I'm not going to say much about either of them 0:08:30.760 --> 0:08:35.120 because I think they're both kind of new. Shipwrecked, which 0:08:35.160 --> 0:08:38.880 is about a cruise ship wrecking, that's what it's about, 0:08:38.920 --> 0:08:41.840 so I'm not getting anything away, and then a Toxic 0:08:41.920 --> 0:08:46.840 Love Story, which is about a toxic love story. 0:08:47.840 --> 0:08:50.000 I love when a title of a show is squat 0:08:50.080 --> 0:08:51.960 on there's no guessing there. 0:08:53.200 --> 0:08:56.839 And the Shipwrecked one, I think I'm just like, oh, 0:08:56.880 --> 0:08:59.160 I feel very lucky that I've only been on one 0:08:59.200 --> 0:09:02.439 cruise and we May It to Land. That's a great documentary. 0:09:02.480 --> 0:09:06.840 I do recommend it, but don't don't watch that if 0:09:06.920 --> 0:09:08.679 you love to go on cruises. 0:09:09.040 --> 0:09:10.520 Well, I just went on a cruise this year and 0:09:10.920 --> 0:09:12.920 with the Bobby Bone Show, and we have another one 0:09:12.920 --> 0:09:15.240 coming up next mort maybe don't watch it. Well, that's 0:09:15.280 --> 0:09:17.440 I'll be fine, okay. I mean the odds of something 0:09:17.480 --> 0:09:19.559 like that happening are very slim. 0:09:19.600 --> 0:09:24.360 They are, but not zero. So and then the other one, 0:09:24.440 --> 0:09:28.640 I felt lucky because I, you know, did a lot 0:09:28.679 --> 0:09:46.840 of online dating and I'm alive. I felt lucky because I, 0:09:46.880 --> 0:09:51.800 you know, did a lot of online dating and I'm 0:09:51.840 --> 0:09:56.920 alive and nobody stole all my money. And I mean 0:09:56.960 --> 0:09:59.160 I had some bad dates, but I just had this 0:09:59.240 --> 0:10:02.560 feeling of these kinds of things can happen to anybody. 0:10:03.960 --> 0:10:05.280 How did I get saved? 0:10:05.559 --> 0:10:08.800 You know? Well, again, I think it's few and far between, 0:10:08.880 --> 0:10:11.600 but it is crazy that those stories are out there. 0:10:11.920 --> 0:10:14.120 I was with my friend Mary Elizabeth last night and 0:10:14.160 --> 0:10:16.920 she has hinge and she came over to borrow an 0:10:16.960 --> 0:10:20.880 outfit and then we were talking about dates and guys 0:10:20.920 --> 0:10:23.280 and she was like, oh, I just reactivated my hinge. 0:10:23.840 --> 0:10:25.960 So because she hadn't logged in in a while. She 0:10:26.160 --> 0:10:31.480 had some notifications like fifty to go through, like guys 0:10:31.520 --> 0:10:34.360 that had sent her roses, And so she sat down 0:10:34.400 --> 0:10:37.600 at my kitchen counter and we went through them. Out 0:10:37.600 --> 0:10:40.439 of all fifty, all of them got exed. No, there 0:10:40.520 --> 0:10:43.360 wasn't a single like, and we were trying to read 0:10:43.400 --> 0:10:46.360 all about them, like there were some that were really cute, 0:10:46.400 --> 0:10:48.760 and then they would have one of those voice memo 0:10:48.840 --> 0:10:50.880 note thingies and then he would say. 0:10:51.200 --> 0:10:54.040 You know, like one guy was like, I'm a tin, 0:10:54.880 --> 0:10:56.040 but the scale. 0:10:55.720 --> 0:10:58.560 Is out of one hundred, you know, And I'm like, 0:10:58.760 --> 0:11:00.000 is he trying to be self depreciated? 0:11:00.280 --> 0:11:02.319 I mean he was cute, Why is he. 0:11:02.320 --> 0:11:06.560 Saying he's out of a hundred? That's not That's not 0:11:06.600 --> 0:11:09.640 funny though, and on and and that's what you choose 0:11:09.679 --> 0:11:12.800 to leave is a voice memo on the thing. 0:11:13.160 --> 0:11:15.520 I think the voice memo the voice was really freaks 0:11:15.559 --> 0:11:19.480 me out. Those were newer still when I was on Hinde. 0:11:20.280 --> 0:11:21.839 What I liked about them is you got to hear 0:11:21.840 --> 0:11:22.400 their voice. 0:11:22.640 --> 0:11:25.080 So it's like, I just don't think that they always 0:11:25.280 --> 0:11:26.120 say yes. 0:11:26.000 --> 0:11:29.040 They should they they should be taking I think the. 0:11:28.960 --> 0:11:31.040 Only thing that works if you're a guy listening and 0:11:31.080 --> 0:11:32.280 you're on hinge and you want to do that. But 0:11:32.320 --> 0:11:34.440 I think the only thing that really would work for 0:11:34.520 --> 0:11:37.720 me would be like testing testing. This voice thing is weird. 0:11:37.760 --> 0:11:39.440 I just wanted to be able to hear my voice. 0:11:39.480 --> 0:11:42.680 Oh that's nice, that's funny, Like okay, bye, you know 0:11:43.200 --> 0:11:46.000 that's it. Don't try to say something clever. 0:11:46.280 --> 0:11:48.120 One guy was going on and on. 0:11:48.080 --> 0:11:51.040 About how he's like a fun fact I learned recently, 0:11:51.080 --> 0:11:53.880 and I'm just fear of phrasing this because I don't 0:11:53.920 --> 0:11:55.640 know how the math shakes out, and I'm sure this 0:11:55.720 --> 0:12:00.800 is easy math for some of you, but he's like, gosh, 0:12:00.880 --> 0:12:03.240 I'm embarrassed, Like I don't even want to make something 0:12:03.280 --> 0:12:04.680 up because I'm gonna sound stupid. 0:12:05.160 --> 0:12:05.760 But he's like. 0:12:07.559 --> 0:12:10.400 A fun fact I recently learned was if you talk 0:12:10.559 --> 0:12:14.280 to one person, and each of us all have a 0:12:14.360 --> 0:12:17.600 thousand different encounters in our day, but you talk to 0:12:17.640 --> 0:12:20.720 one person, you've got your thousand and they've got their thousand. 0:12:21.160 --> 0:12:23.520 Then together you've talked to a million people. 0:12:23.679 --> 0:12:27.280 And then when you talk to five people, you've talked. 0:12:27.000 --> 0:12:27.840 To five million. 0:12:27.880 --> 0:12:30.439 And then if those people talk to each other, you've 0:12:30.480 --> 0:12:32.000 impacted a billion people. 0:12:32.800 --> 0:12:34.040 I don't know how he. 0:12:34.000 --> 0:12:36.040 Was saying it, but I was like, that doesn't it's 0:12:36.040 --> 0:12:40.800 not how it works, like just because you have. It's 0:12:40.840 --> 0:12:43.600 sort of reminding of like sex said in school, when 0:12:43.600 --> 0:12:45.199 they would be like, if you sleep with this one 0:12:45.240 --> 0:12:48.520 person and they've slept with five people, you've now slept 0:12:48.520 --> 0:12:52.520 with five people, or like or like I mean which 0:12:52.559 --> 0:12:57.840 is true, like diseases, right, which is the point of sex? Said, 0:12:57.880 --> 0:12:59.920 I get it, it's not, but then it'll be like 0:13:00.160 --> 0:13:03.040 I'm Matt then if it and if that one of 0:13:03.080 --> 0:13:05.280 the five they slept with this slept with ten people, 0:13:05.440 --> 0:13:10.120 now it's fifteen, you know, but it just felt like 0:13:10.160 --> 0:13:12.800 a weird Yeah, I don't love that fun fact that 0:13:12.880 --> 0:13:15.640 like didn't make sense, but he was wowed by it 0:13:15.920 --> 0:13:18.800 and acting he was acting as if think about that. 0:13:19.080 --> 0:13:22.160 We think that what we say to one person doesn't matter, 0:13:22.559 --> 0:13:24.920 but that one thing you say about one person really 0:13:25.040 --> 0:13:27.160 affects a billion people. 0:13:27.960 --> 0:13:30.439 I think was he trying to be like introspective and 0:13:30.520 --> 0:13:31.440 like kind of like. 0:13:31.360 --> 0:13:35.360 And if that is some legit fun fact quote from 0:13:35.360 --> 0:13:39.760 a really wise person, then ignore me. 0:13:40.520 --> 0:13:41.839 You can still not like it. 0:13:41.920 --> 0:13:44.960 I just didn't like it. Well, no, not someone's like 0:13:45.720 --> 0:13:47.800 generally speaking a lot wiser than me, and they have 0:13:47.840 --> 0:13:49.280 a lot of wise things to say, or it's some 0:13:49.320 --> 0:13:51.560 brilliant quote from somewhere, like I don't want to bag 0:13:51.600 --> 0:13:53.079 on it. I just don't think that's what he should 0:13:53.080 --> 0:13:55.560 have put as his voice memo text as this like 0:13:55.640 --> 0:13:58.800 really profound thing of like his impact on humanity. 0:13:58.840 --> 0:14:01.960 Okay, was he cute? Was there other things about his 0:14:02.000 --> 0:14:03.680 profile that? Yeah? 0:14:03.679 --> 0:14:07.280 But to me, at that moment, we are done, I don't. 0:14:07.960 --> 0:14:11.679 I was like, you're tough. Well, it wasn't even my profile. 0:14:11.760 --> 0:14:12.120 It's hurt. 0:14:12.200 --> 0:14:15.080 So it's easier to just be like, oh x x x. 0:14:15.440 --> 0:14:18.040 I can't remember we looked at again fifty so I 0:14:18.040 --> 0:14:20.440 can't tell you the other things said he had about him. 0:14:20.960 --> 0:14:24.760 There are some guys I can tell you that had 0:14:24.840 --> 0:14:28.280 the mirror selfies at the gym where and they are 0:14:28.280 --> 0:14:31.040 flexing and they pull their shorts up and they flex 0:14:31.120 --> 0:14:36.760 their legs. No automatic no no or automatic no for me, 0:14:36.960 --> 0:14:38.720 I mean, I'm just the. 0:14:38.720 --> 0:14:43.160 Reason I don't like that, Well, it's not my style. 0:14:43.200 --> 0:14:47.400 But I also don't like that because in general, so 0:14:47.480 --> 0:14:50.400 what what about all the pictures in your life that 0:14:50.440 --> 0:14:52.440 you have, is that the one that you want to 0:14:52.480 --> 0:14:54.200 put on there? Because you have to think about, like 0:14:55.120 --> 0:14:57.840 what you get? What five four or five pictures? What 0:14:57.880 --> 0:14:59.360 do I want these? What do I want the people 0:14:59.400 --> 0:15:02.160 in my looking at my profile to see? And that's 0:15:02.160 --> 0:15:03.920 what they want you to They want to you to 0:15:03.960 --> 0:15:09.120 see their physical body specifically. It's fine to take a picture. 0:15:09.160 --> 0:15:10.640 You can take a picture in a gym, you can 0:15:10.680 --> 0:15:12.360 take a picture at a workout. You can take a 0:15:12.400 --> 0:15:17.560 picture doing something athletic. That because that shows something about you. 0:15:18.320 --> 0:15:20.720 So that's what I don't like that, which is fine 0:15:20.760 --> 0:15:23.960 for them if that's also what they're looking for. But 0:15:24.000 --> 0:15:26.440 my thing is, if that's what you want me to see, 0:15:27.280 --> 0:15:29.920 then we're probably not compatible because I don't want to 0:15:30.000 --> 0:15:32.600 see them about Like, I don't want that to be 0:15:32.640 --> 0:15:34.840 the thing that grabs you about me, and I don't 0:15:34.840 --> 0:15:36.560 want that to be the thing that you're looking for 0:15:36.600 --> 0:15:37.240 in me either. 0:15:38.040 --> 0:15:41.200 Yeah, I'm sure this guy that is, yeah, someone that 0:15:41.240 --> 0:15:43.000 will flex their quads with him. 0:15:43.120 --> 0:15:46.120 God, well, at least wasn't in his underwear. I've had 0:15:46.560 --> 0:15:50.160 I've come across me or selfies of guys in their. 0:15:52.040 --> 0:15:58.320 Little panties like white ties, yes tight, which should be 0:15:58.440 --> 0:16:01.360 if not allowed on that right, it's like kind of 0:16:01.440 --> 0:16:04.920 nudity I mean, I. 0:16:04.880 --> 0:16:06.840 Mean, I'm just a little more welsome. 0:16:06.960 --> 0:16:10.720 But if a girl's in there in her bikini or 0:16:11.560 --> 0:16:16.480 a guy is an espedo, Okay, okay, that's fair, that's fair, 0:16:16.560 --> 0:16:19.680 But like in your bathroom and your I get it. 0:16:19.960 --> 0:16:22.560 It just felt like in like, oh I didn't see 0:16:22.640 --> 0:16:23.360 I mean to see that. 0:16:23.640 --> 0:16:26.080 I definitely felt after looking at her fifty and ex 0:16:26.200 --> 0:16:29.600 them all out, like we're about like she's I'm forty five, 0:16:30.000 --> 0:16:32.400 she's about to turn fifty, and we're like, are we 0:16:32.440 --> 0:16:34.520 just going to be alone forever? And she told me 0:16:34.600 --> 0:16:38.480 that she has another friend that like she's doing the 0:16:38.520 --> 0:16:41.400 Golden Girls thing with if like they don't end up married, 0:16:41.560 --> 0:16:42.600 like they're going to live together. 0:16:43.680 --> 0:16:46.800 At what age do you decide that, well, is. 0:16:46.880 --> 0:16:47.520 Now too young? 0:16:48.440 --> 0:16:49.800 Is it too young? You? 0:16:50.440 --> 0:16:50.640 Yes? 0:16:51.360 --> 0:16:53.000 Okay, so forty five is too young? 0:16:53.040 --> 0:16:54.720 But like at what age the Golden Girls were? 0:16:54.760 --> 0:16:56.200 What in they're when the show? 0:16:56.320 --> 0:16:59.360 In the show, they were sixty maybe were they sixty 0:16:59.400 --> 0:17:00.440 five because they were retired? 0:17:00.480 --> 0:17:02.920 I mean, I know, so I watched the Golden Girls. 0:17:02.960 --> 0:17:03.840 Would they all live together? 0:17:04.080 --> 0:17:04.320 Yes? 0:17:04.440 --> 0:17:06.520 Okay, I don't know anything about them. Oh my gosh, 0:17:07.600 --> 0:17:08.680 I'd be open to watch it. 0:17:09.280 --> 0:17:09.480 Good. 0:17:09.560 --> 0:17:11.520 I think you would love it. Go back and watch 0:17:11.600 --> 0:17:14.359 some Golden Girls because it's such a good show. But 0:17:14.680 --> 0:17:18.760 they all they all live together. So they've had divorces, deaths, 0:17:20.160 --> 0:17:21.320 whatever has brought them together. 0:17:21.359 --> 0:17:22.920 They're all single and older. 0:17:23.080 --> 0:17:26.600 And so there's Dorothy, Rose, Blanche, and Sophia and Sofia 0:17:26.720 --> 0:17:27.680 is Dorothy's. 0:17:27.280 --> 0:17:29.760 Mom, and they all four live together in Blanche's house. 0:17:30.720 --> 0:17:35.199 Okay, okay, So their characters were fifty three, fifty four, 0:17:35.280 --> 0:17:37.560 fifty five. Oh so I mean you are not that 0:17:37.800 --> 0:17:42.240 far off, yeah, because Sofia was eighty Okay. 0:17:42.000 --> 0:17:45.719 Okay, that okay, okay, But but hear me out. If 0:17:45.760 --> 0:17:47.000 you want to do that and you have a friend 0:17:47.040 --> 0:17:50.000 that wants to do that, I'm I will support you. 0:17:50.480 --> 0:17:53.080 What happens though, if one of you do start dating, 0:17:53.119 --> 0:17:55.520 because fifty three is not. 0:17:56.200 --> 0:17:59.639 Yeah, they dated on the show a lot, especially Blanche. 0:17:59.880 --> 0:18:04.560 They bring the men home Blanche did. Okay, Blanche sounds 0:18:04.720 --> 0:18:06.800 like somebody who'd be dating. You know. She was a 0:18:06.840 --> 0:18:10.240 little promiscuous. Yes, I mean they all dated, don't get 0:18:10.240 --> 0:18:14.119 me wrong, but Blanche was Blanche, So are you are 0:18:14.200 --> 0:18:15.320 you really open to this? 0:18:16.000 --> 0:18:16.560 Well something she. 0:18:16.600 --> 0:18:18.760 Brought up and I thought, okay, that's a valid point, 0:18:18.800 --> 0:18:21.479 But what age do you implement that? It's sort of like, hey, 0:18:21.520 --> 0:18:23.720 if we're not with anybody with this age, we just 0:18:23.800 --> 0:18:26.119 get married like a guy and a girl or whoever 0:18:26.200 --> 0:18:28.359 in your life. And then this is sort of hey, 0:18:28.400 --> 0:18:32.080 if we're not, I'm divorced, she's divorced. For other friends, like, 0:18:32.200 --> 0:18:35.159 do we just bring everybody together and like have a 0:18:35.200 --> 0:18:36.639 good time and buy an awesome house? 0:18:37.600 --> 0:18:38.840 So you know people did this? 0:18:40.119 --> 0:18:40.280 Who? 0:18:40.920 --> 0:18:46.160 Uh? Seven girls in China? This was like a big story. Okay, guy, 0:18:46.200 --> 0:18:48.240 I did here. This was a big story on social 0:18:48.320 --> 0:18:50.720 media a while ago. So I don't know all the 0:18:50.760 --> 0:18:55.560 details from it, but it was seven girls bought put 0:18:55.600 --> 0:18:58.119 their money together and bought a mansion and made it 0:18:58.200 --> 0:19:01.520 into their dream house, and then they decided to live 0:19:01.560 --> 0:19:05.400