WEBVTT - A Doggy-Dog World with Samantha Bee 0:00:00.720 --> 0:00:04.080 Okay, happy hello everybody. I would like to say Happy St. 0:00:04.080 --> 0:00:08.280 Patrick's Day. Hi, Happy St. Patty's Day. The most important 0:00:08.320 --> 0:00:11.120 holiday of the year, and I think that we should 0:00:11.160 --> 0:00:15.160 all start out by well, I guess saying Happy St. 0:00:15.200 --> 0:00:17.920 Patrick's Day to each other, right, Yes, I guess it's 0:00:17.960 --> 0:00:23.000 the least offensive holiday of the year. I mean, I 0:00:23.040 --> 0:00:26.639 don't know, it's I'm from Chicago, so there's a lot 0:00:26.720 --> 0:00:29.800 going on on St. Patty's Day. Usually there it's there 0:00:29.880 --> 0:00:32.599 was dying the river green. There's all kinds of just 0:00:32.680 --> 0:00:36.400 white girls drunk from the suburbs all over. It's it's 0:00:36.400 --> 0:00:39.640 a lot. It's a lot dyeing the river green. Is 0:00:39.640 --> 0:00:42.199 that possible? They really do it. I always thought it 0:00:42.200 --> 0:00:44.400 was just like a euphemism when I was growing up, 0:00:44.400 --> 0:00:46.480 But then when I moved to the city, like later 0:00:46.560 --> 0:00:51.040 on into Chicago, they like fully put die into the 0:00:51.120 --> 0:00:53.559 river and diet like it's kind of always a little green, 0:00:53.600 --> 0:00:57.080 but they diet bright green. Supposedly it doesn't kill all 0:00:57.080 --> 0:01:03.279 the fish. But you know, yeah, that sounds very suspect. Well, 0:01:03.280 --> 0:01:05.520 hopefully you're all wearing green today because it is St. 0:01:05.520 --> 0:01:08.840 Patty's Day. But if you need something to wear, you 0:01:08.920 --> 0:01:12.240 might check out our merch. Yeah, everybody. We have new merch. 0:01:12.319 --> 0:01:14.160 We have Dear Chelsea merch which you can order on 0:01:14.200 --> 0:01:16.959 my website Chelsea handler dot com. And we have cute 0:01:16.959 --> 0:01:21.759 t shirts and cute hats and yeah, go and get some. 0:01:22.800 --> 0:01:26.280 We have added some second shows in areas. I'm filming 0:01:26.280 --> 0:01:29.319 my next stand up special at the Rymann in Nashville, 0:01:29.760 --> 0:01:32.680 so tickets are now on sale for that, and we've 0:01:32.680 --> 0:01:35.520 added second shows in d C. And at the Wiltern 0:01:35.600 --> 0:01:39.920 in Los Angeles and oh, San Francisco. Yeah, we're adding 0:01:39.920 --> 0:01:42.640 a second show in San Francisco at the Masonic and 0:01:42.720 --> 0:01:45.560 that weekend I perform at the Masonic two shows and 0:01:45.600 --> 0:01:49.400 then Joe Koi performs the next night and the next 0:01:49.480 --> 0:01:52.800 night and at some arena in San Francisco. So we're 0:01:52.800 --> 0:01:55.880 gonna be both performing in the same city the same weekend. 0:01:55.960 --> 0:02:00.880 So how fun, Oh my goodness, just bull descending on 0:02:00.920 --> 0:02:04.080 a city and just doing wonderful thing, descending on our 0:02:04.080 --> 0:02:06.240 hot air balloon. That's how we like to enter cities. 0:02:08.120 --> 0:02:11.360 That's really fun. That's really fun. So are you making 0:02:11.360 --> 0:02:14.720 a point to sort of try and tour together so 0:02:14.760 --> 0:02:17.440 you can actually see each other or how does that 0:02:17.480 --> 0:02:19.720 work in your life. Yeah, I mean I think thee 0:02:19.880 --> 0:02:22.520 well his tours, and his tour kind of wraps itself 0:02:22.600 --> 0:02:25.520 up in April and then because he's shooting his special, 0:02:25.600 --> 0:02:27.240 so then he's done. And then I think he'll probably 0:02:27.240 --> 0:02:28.640 just come on the road with me, like as a 0:02:28.639 --> 0:02:32.320 plus one. And then you know, obviously we're gonna want 0:02:32.360 --> 0:02:35.560 to He'll, you know, come and make surprise guest appearances. 0:02:35.600 --> 0:02:38.600 That's my shows and like I like to do when 0:02:38.600 --> 0:02:40.800 I'm with him. But I think, yeah, we want to 0:02:40.800 --> 0:02:43.320 work towards a thing where we're going to be performing 0:02:43.360 --> 0:02:46.200 together so that the next tour we're in it together, 0:02:46.280 --> 0:02:48.920 you know, So we'll have to figure out our Lucy 0:02:48.960 --> 0:02:52.680 and DESI act. But I don't think it'll be a problem. No. 0:02:52.919 --> 0:02:55.200 I mean you seem to get along very well and 0:02:55.240 --> 0:02:58.200 like people are psyched to see you both together. It's 0:02:58.280 --> 0:03:01.400 just really fun. Well, I know Joe is not with you, 0:03:01.520 --> 0:03:04.600 but I hear somebody's going to be with you soon. Oh. 0:03:04.800 --> 0:03:08.639 I am taking my dogs alone to Whistler. I just 0:03:08.919 --> 0:03:10.560 I don't want to be away from them any longer. 0:03:11.280 --> 0:03:13.440 And I wasn't so great at taking them out to 0:03:13.480 --> 0:03:15.600 go to the bathroom last year, Like I put these 0:03:15.600 --> 0:03:17.440 p pads on my balcony and I would just leave 0:03:17.440 --> 0:03:19.520 the door open and by the time I came home, 0:03:19.800 --> 0:03:21.840 there would just be like pe pads on my balcony 0:03:21.880 --> 0:03:23.359 filled with urine, and I was like, oh my god, 0:03:23.360 --> 0:03:27.079 I'm turning into courtly love. But now Joe, coming back 0:03:27.120 --> 0:03:29.200 and forth, I'm feeling like he's going to contribute a 0:03:29.240 --> 0:03:32.200 little bit more. He's more of the get up and 0:03:32.320 --> 0:03:33.960 take the dogs for a walk kind of guy than 0:03:34.000 --> 0:03:36.800 I am. So I'm just kind of pawning that off 0:03:36.840 --> 0:03:40.760 on him and using him like a bitch is basically 0:03:40.800 --> 0:03:43.560 what I'm doing. I'm like, you know what, Joe, you 0:03:43.600 --> 0:03:45.760 can take care of the dogs because he is their 0:03:45.800 --> 0:03:48.520 stepfather and they love him. They're starting to love him, 0:03:48.560 --> 0:03:50.240 and I don't want to be away from them anymore. 0:03:50.360 --> 0:03:52.520 Are they calling him dad yet? No, they're not going 0:03:52.560 --> 0:03:54.440 to say that, and they I don't even think they 0:03:54.520 --> 0:03:56.960 speak English quite frankly, so they're never going to say 0:03:57.000 --> 0:03:59.920 that Papa Bear. Maybe that's all I can but yeah, 0:04:00.040 --> 0:04:02.400 so I'm gonna take them with me. That means I'm 0:04:02.400 --> 0:04:04.880 taking them to like my stand up shows, and then 0:04:04.920 --> 0:04:07.400 we're flying into Whistler and then they'll be there with 0:04:07.400 --> 0:04:09.360 me for a couple of months. Are they like pretty 0:04:09.400 --> 0:04:12.200 good flyers? Yeah, they're pretty good wherever. Like yesterday, Joe 0:04:12.240 --> 0:04:14.960 and I took Bernice to Starbucks with us, and Joe 0:04:15.000 --> 0:04:17.400 has one of these ridiculous cars. It's a convertible. I 0:04:17.400 --> 0:04:19.400 don't know what kind it is because it's just so 0:04:19.440 --> 0:04:22.400 loud you can hear them coming from like three blocks away. 0:04:22.440 --> 0:04:24.279 I'm like, how do we get it? You're successful? Like 0:04:24.320 --> 0:04:27.440 cool it with the fucking cars. Anyway, we brought Bernice 0:04:27.440 --> 0:04:29.400 to Starbucks and she sat in my lap and had 0:04:29.400 --> 0:04:32.599 her arms paws around me. Albeit it was a forced 0:04:32.720 --> 0:04:34.640 situation because there was nowhere else for her to go 0:04:34.680 --> 0:04:37.000 because it's like a two seater sports car, so she 0:04:37.200 --> 0:04:39.760 was forced to have to hug me. But I'll take it. 0:04:39.880 --> 0:04:42.120 And it was adorable, And I was like, you know what, 0:04:42.200 --> 0:04:44.320 I'm not willing to go another month without them. No, 0:04:44.600 --> 0:04:48.400 you just like need that cuddly buddy that you can embrace. Yeah. Yeah, 0:04:48.480 --> 0:04:50.760 and they're gonna be upset when they're not around my belt, 0:04:50.920 --> 0:04:54.080 my housekeeper, But you know what funk that? Because they've 0:04:54.120 --> 0:04:56.680 been with her for months. They she took them last 0:04:56.800 --> 0:04:58.480 night for her own She's like, I need to sleep 0:04:58.560 --> 0:05:02.000 over if they're going. And then Felix, my dog walker 0:05:02.040 --> 0:05:04.039 who's there works at the house every day, said the 0:05:04.080 --> 0:05:06.360 same thing. He had a sleepover with them on Saturday. 0:05:06.760 --> 0:05:08.520 I was like, oh my god, it's like we're ride 0:05:08.520 --> 0:05:10.800 sharing these It's like a group on with these dogs. 0:05:11.279 --> 0:05:14.599 Everyone loves them. Our guest today is the host of 0:05:15.480 --> 0:05:18.040 Full Frontal with Samantha b which is in its seventh 0:05:18.040 --> 0:05:22.040 season and it airs on Thursdays at ten on TBS. 0:05:22.160 --> 0:05:24.680 And she also has a podcast which I was just 0:05:24.839 --> 0:05:28.719 on called Full Release, and that's wherever you get your podcast. 0:05:28.800 --> 0:05:32.920 Please welcome Samantha b. Hi. Like, I was so excited, 0:05:33.000 --> 0:05:36.160 thank you for having me. Oh my god, I'm excited 0:05:36.160 --> 0:05:39.080 to be here. Okay, this is strange because we were 0:05:39.120 --> 0:05:43.280 just we just recorded your podcast and we are now 0:05:43.279 --> 0:05:46.040 recording my podcast. But this is the actual first time 0:05:46.680 --> 0:05:49.560 that we have ever spoken, which doesn't really make a 0:05:49.560 --> 0:05:51.839 lot of sense. It doesn't make any sense. And like 0:05:51.960 --> 0:05:55.039 I feel also like I've said your name in so 0:05:55.080 --> 0:05:58.039 many contexts because as we talked about in my pipe, 0:05:58.200 --> 0:06:01.120 like people are always like, well, you're the only woman 0:06:01.320 --> 0:06:03.800 doing a show, and you're like, no, I'm not. Because 0:06:03.800 --> 0:06:06.440 there's Chelsea, there's this person. There's like there's like a 0:06:06.440 --> 0:06:08.720 lot of so I feel like I've said your name, 0:06:09.320 --> 0:06:12.680 I've tried to manifest you many times, and anyway, now 0:06:12.680 --> 0:06:15.520 we're here. So I'm very grateful, thank you. I'm I'm 0:06:15.520 --> 0:06:17.240 excited to talk to you. I want to talk to 0:06:17.240 --> 0:06:20.440 you first. I want to ask you about your your 0:06:20.480 --> 0:06:25.520 seventh season of Full Frontal with Samantha b And I 0:06:25.560 --> 0:06:27.960 want to know how that has been, what this experience 0:06:28.000 --> 0:06:30.840 has been like, and what the most kind of challenging 0:06:31.320 --> 0:06:33.880 thing that you faced, because I think we we think, oh, 0:06:34.040 --> 0:06:35.680 you get a TV show, it's going to be great. 0:06:35.720 --> 0:06:38.080 You get to express your creative whatever you want to 0:06:38.120 --> 0:06:39.719 put out there, you get to do, and then it 0:06:39.760 --> 0:06:44.200 comes with such a whole other plethora of baggage that 0:06:44.240 --> 0:06:46.839 you're just like, there are so many challenges you come across, 0:06:47.120 --> 0:06:49.920 and for every person that's different, because some people thrive 0:06:50.240 --> 0:06:53.520 in different situations. So I'm curious to know what your 0:06:53.560 --> 0:06:56.320 biggest challenges have been and like, really, what you've learned 0:06:56.360 --> 0:06:59.320 about yourself through doing all of this. Well, I think 0:06:59.320 --> 0:07:01.960 that the big inning it was like put my whole 0:07:02.040 --> 0:07:04.960 self on hold. I feel like I don't even really 0:07:05.000 --> 0:07:08.480 remember the first year and a half because it's so 0:07:08.600 --> 0:07:11.560 much busy making and you're just trying to like it 0:07:11.600 --> 0:07:15.000 feels like every every show that you complete, you're like 0:07:15.120 --> 0:07:18.600 scrambling to complete the next one. You're like always you're 0:07:18.640 --> 0:07:22.080 just like churning and churning and the wheels are constantly turning, 0:07:22.120 --> 0:07:25.840 so you're never at rest, never at rest. And then 0:07:25.840 --> 0:07:27.440 you have a little bit more time to kind of 0:07:27.480 --> 0:07:29.680 like take a step back and think, but it's not 0:07:29.720 --> 0:07:32.520 that much more time, and now kind of seven seasons in, 0:07:32.600 --> 0:07:35.720 I'm like, Okay, now I can now I can think 0:07:35.760 --> 0:07:38.160 a little bit. But for me, the most challenging thing 0:07:38.200 --> 0:07:42.560 is actually managing I think managing people like managing a business, 0:07:42.680 --> 0:07:44.880 like being honest about the fact that it's like a 0:07:44.960 --> 0:07:49.120 business with real people who have real lives and worries 0:07:49.160 --> 0:07:51.360 and concerns and complaints and you kind of have to 0:07:51.480 --> 0:07:55.040 like be a part of that and fix problems and 0:07:55.160 --> 0:07:58.440 fix your work culture and like that I found really 0:07:58.520 --> 0:08:00.680 challenging because I'm not like a business. This person I 0:08:00.680 --> 0:08:02.960 don't know how to do. I'm not trained. This is 0:08:03.000 --> 0:08:06.480 like a a gift. This is like a present and 0:08:06.560 --> 0:08:09.880 an opportunity, and you're trying to be very creative, but 0:08:09.960 --> 0:08:13.240 you also I think balancing like the creative part and 0:08:13.280 --> 0:08:15.440 the performing part, which is the part that you get 0:08:15.480 --> 0:08:19.760 into it for with actually being a caretaker of people 0:08:20.480 --> 0:08:22.800 and trying to make a work environment that works for 0:08:22.840 --> 0:08:25.480 other people. That was the part that I found so 0:08:25.600 --> 0:08:28.640 unexpected and and extremely challenging, and I still find it 0:08:28.760 --> 0:08:31.480 challenging to this day. Yeah, I agree with that. It's 0:08:31.600 --> 0:08:33.520 very hard to manage people, especially when that's not what 0:08:33.559 --> 0:08:35.840 you're setting out to do, you know, totally as a 0:08:35.880 --> 0:08:39.480 comedic voice or as you know, as a journalistic voice, 0:08:39.520 --> 0:08:41.360 like however you want to frame it. You're sitting there 0:08:41.400 --> 0:08:43.560 trying to just share your opinion and you're kind of 0:08:43.679 --> 0:08:47.040 p o V. And then you realize, oh, there's so 0:08:47.120 --> 0:08:50.080 much more involved than that, totally. Like people go to school, 0:08:50.120 --> 0:08:52.520 like people go to college to learn how to manage 0:08:52.559 --> 0:08:56.000 and learn there's like techniques and there's philosophies, and there's 0:08:56.040 --> 0:08:59.760 ways to approach things and ways to like phrase things 0:08:59.800 --> 0:09:02.760 that are better than others. And it's like, I'm sure 0:09:02.760 --> 0:09:04.800 it was probably hard for you to like you're a 0:09:04.800 --> 0:09:09.040 performer and you're so independent and you're like you're doing 0:09:09.040 --> 0:09:11.120 your own thing, and then all of a sudden, there's 0:09:11.200 --> 0:09:14.600 like people working for you, and it's hard to grapple 0:09:14.679 --> 0:09:16.880 with that. It's a really sharp learning curve. It was 0:09:16.920 --> 0:09:18.880 for me for sure. I want to say thank you 0:09:18.920 --> 0:09:21.200 for saying all of a sudden instead of all of 0:09:21.360 --> 0:09:23.760 the sudden, because I have been saying all of the 0:09:23.840 --> 0:09:29.000 sudden for many years and somebody very kindly and appropriately 0:09:29.080 --> 0:09:31.280 corrected me and said, it's not all of the sudden, 0:09:31.320 --> 0:09:34.040 you fucking idiot. For somebody who likes to correct other 0:09:34.080 --> 0:09:36.880 people's grammar, you should figure out that you're saying all 0:09:36.880 --> 0:09:40.000 of the sudden. And I was so horrified. So now 0:09:40.040 --> 0:09:42.440 I listen to make sure everyone's saying all of a sudden. 0:09:42.600 --> 0:09:45.880 Oh my god. You know what, for my most of 0:09:45.920 --> 0:09:48.080 my entire life, I thought it was doggie dog world. 0:09:49.559 --> 0:09:52.040 You know what. It's a doggie dog world out there, guys, 0:09:52.080 --> 0:09:54.320 And if you say it fast enough it makes sense. 0:09:54.360 --> 0:09:57.520 You're like, yeah, it is a doggie dog world. So 0:09:57.760 --> 0:09:59.840 how did you manage when in the beginning of your show, 0:09:59.880 --> 0:10:02.040 like you're you obviously have more responsibilities than I do 0:10:02.040 --> 0:10:04.400 because you have a family, So how did that work 0:10:04.400 --> 0:10:06.200 out for you? Because I know you're with the love 0:10:06.200 --> 0:10:08.920 of your life. You're with your partner. Yep, ye ye. Yeah, 0:10:08.960 --> 0:10:12.360 we've been married now for we've been together since whatever 0:10:12.400 --> 0:10:14.800 that means, I can't I don't count. I don't know. 0:10:15.240 --> 0:10:16.679 I don't know how many years that is, and they 0:10:16.720 --> 0:10:20.880 don't remember those things, but it was. And we have 0:10:21.000 --> 0:10:22.880 three kids, so we have like a sixteen We have 0:10:22.880 --> 0:10:24.800 a sixteen year old, thirteen year old, and an eleven 0:10:24.880 --> 0:10:27.320 year old. And so I think I did like a 0:10:27.360 --> 0:10:29.760 medium job at a lot of things, and I definitely 0:10:29.760 --> 0:10:33.080 lost myself. So I went like, there's three big pieces 0:10:33.120 --> 0:10:36.880 of this. There's the work, and then there's my children, 0:10:36.960 --> 0:10:40.360 and then there's me as a human being. And I 0:10:40.440 --> 0:10:42.679 just focused on the other two things. And I probably 0:10:42.679 --> 0:10:46.800 didn't pay any attention to myself for many years. I 0:10:46.840 --> 0:10:50.040 think I actually like was like I just give over. 0:10:50.240 --> 0:10:53.600 I just kind of gave over for years. And Yeah, 0:10:53.679 --> 0:10:56.040 the irony that you're doing a show with your name 0:10:56.040 --> 0:10:59.240 on it, but you're not paying any attention to yourself, No, 0:10:59.320 --> 0:11:02.000 not at all. No, it was. It's not It's not possible, 0:11:02.000 --> 0:11:04.280 and I do think a lot of people experience that. 0:11:04.320 --> 0:11:06.960 It's not unusual, it's not like special. I definitely stopped 0:11:07.000 --> 0:11:09.240 like having my period like I stopped all these things 0:11:09.320 --> 0:11:13.840 were just like everything stop everything, like, shove all your 0:11:13.880 --> 0:11:17.800 personal feelings out the door for a while. We'll get 0:11:17.800 --> 0:11:22.520 back to you later. And so and and I did. 0:11:22.559 --> 0:11:25.400 I'm like more and more fully realized human being now 0:11:25.520 --> 0:11:33.079 than I was at the beginning. Do you go to therapy? 0:11:33.559 --> 0:11:38.400 I don't look at you. I probably should. Well I 0:11:38.520 --> 0:11:40.319 tried to, and then I was like, I don't get 0:11:40.320 --> 0:11:41.840 me wrong, How I'm going to do this? How do 0:11:41.920 --> 0:11:45.760 I add this to my schedule? It feel very yeah, 0:11:45.840 --> 0:11:47.760 And in the beginning of therapy, I would say it 0:11:47.800 --> 0:11:51.120 felt very self absorbed. You know, you're like, oh god, 0:11:51.240 --> 0:11:52.680 now I have to be one of these people that 0:11:52.760 --> 0:11:55.120 just sits here. In addition to having my whole life 0:11:55.120 --> 0:11:56.880 be about me, I have to go now and talk 0:11:56.960 --> 0:12:00.600 to somebody about myself for two hours. And it feels 0:12:01.120 --> 0:12:04.120 it is good in the long run, but in the beginning, when, 0:12:04.559 --> 0:12:07.280 especially when you have your own show and you have 0:12:07.360 --> 0:12:09.520 all of these things, you just it is kind of 0:12:09.559 --> 0:12:11.720 a breath of fresh air to not think about yourself. 0:12:11.880 --> 0:12:14.079 How do you know when you found the right person? Like, 0:12:14.120 --> 0:12:17.360 how do you actually find I feel like that's the secret, 0:12:17.600 --> 0:12:20.200 which is that you don't necessarily have to go with 0:12:20.240 --> 0:12:23.240 the first therapist you meet, like you probably could have 0:12:23.240 --> 0:12:25.520 bad ones along the way. Right. Oh yeah, that's what 0:12:25.559 --> 0:12:28.360 everybody talks about, you know, because people find one and 0:12:28.400 --> 0:12:30.480 it's not a match, and then they're like, you know, 0:12:31.000 --> 0:12:34.080 forget it, you know, what's the point. But I mean 0:12:34.440 --> 0:12:36.800 I would argue always that there's always somebody that's going 0:12:36.840 --> 0:12:38.680 to be a match. It's just a matter of going 0:12:38.679 --> 0:12:40.960 through the trial and error. But you know, it's not 0:12:41.000 --> 0:12:43.600 that everybody has to go to therapy. I mean, let's 0:12:43.600 --> 0:12:45.840 be realistic. Some people are fine without it and some 0:12:45.880 --> 0:12:49.840 people really need to unpack their ship. So right, right, right, 0:12:50.280 --> 0:12:52.560 there's a lot of therapy talk on this podcast. We 0:12:52.640 --> 0:12:55.520 got We started this podcast trying to give advice, you know, 0:12:55.679 --> 0:12:57.720 like I wanted people to call in, like where should 0:12:57.720 --> 0:12:59.720 I go on vacation? And then all of a sudden, 0:13:00.000 --> 0:13:02.520 all of a sudden, it got serious and I was 0:13:02.559 --> 0:13:06.480 like big responsibilities. But I love it. I love kind 0:13:06.520 --> 0:13:09.240 of helping people, you know, just be a better version 0:13:09.240 --> 0:13:12.560 of themselves, because I think that's it. The thing that 0:13:12.640 --> 0:13:15.480 I got so much from therapy was calming the fucked down, 0:13:15.840 --> 0:13:20.160 not being so reactive and just calming down and sitting 0:13:20.280 --> 0:13:24.280 still instead of having a million things going on. I 0:13:24.320 --> 0:13:27.000 had an inability to do that. So once I was 0:13:27.080 --> 0:13:29.920 able to kind of start understanding that it's not like 0:13:30.360 --> 0:13:33.680 you're ever fully cooked, obviously, because what would be the 0:13:33.720 --> 0:13:36.439 point if we were. But I liked all that stuff 0:13:36.480 --> 0:13:40.280 when I was seeing like concrete improvements. Then it became addictive. 0:13:40.320 --> 0:13:42.160 I was like, Okay, wait, I can get better at this. 0:13:42.280 --> 0:13:44.520 I can do this in a more mindful way. I 0:13:44.559 --> 0:13:46.600 really would love someone to teach me how to calm 0:13:46.600 --> 0:13:49.480 the funk down, because I actually don't like I feel 0:13:49.559 --> 0:13:55.280 now I'm fifty two and I stand doing everything like 0:13:55.360 --> 0:13:58.720 I never It's really I never sit down like my 0:13:58.840 --> 0:14:01.439 feet or in pay at the end of the day 0:14:01.600 --> 0:14:04.240 from just like the amount of like back and forth 0:14:04.320 --> 0:14:07.199 like zip zip zip zip zip, constantly walking and I 0:14:07.280 --> 0:14:09.880 have like live in an apartment. Where am I going? 0:14:11.160 --> 0:14:14.360 Maybe you're on your walking treadmill? Who knows. I just 0:14:14.920 --> 0:14:17.599 never said, what have you learned about yourself doing this 0:14:17.720 --> 0:14:20.360 show that you were surprised to learn in a good way? 0:14:20.440 --> 0:14:23.480 Like what good qualities at managing people? Did you find 0:14:23.480 --> 0:14:29.720 out about yourself? Well? I did find out it's certainly 0:14:29.760 --> 0:14:33.640 not possible to make everyone who works for you happy. 0:14:34.000 --> 0:14:38.080 I learned that I care about people being happy. I truly, 0:14:38.160 --> 0:14:44.000 like meaningfully would rather know what someone's problem is and 0:14:44.120 --> 0:14:47.800 try to help fix the problem than to just stick 0:14:47.840 --> 0:14:50.840 my head in the sand and pretend that there's no 0:14:50.920 --> 0:14:53.080 problem and then it's going to go away on its own. 0:14:53.840 --> 0:15:00.240 I did learn that I'm generally unwilling to leave. Takes 0:15:00.240 --> 0:15:02.480 me a long time to solve problems sometimes, but I'm 0:15:02.520 --> 0:15:06.960 always game to try. And that's actually like a pretty 0:15:06.960 --> 0:15:10.240 painful proposition. It's much easier to like not care what's 0:15:10.280 --> 0:15:14.000 going on in anybody's life, or to to not care 0:15:14.120 --> 0:15:17.120 and kind of like turn away from that. It just 0:15:17.160 --> 0:15:20.800 sort of understood that it was better to have a 0:15:20.840 --> 0:15:26.320 more difficult experience, Like if people were truly unhappy, I 0:15:26.320 --> 0:15:29.200 did want to know it, and that sometimes came back 0:15:29.240 --> 0:15:31.880 to me like it was sometimes my doing that people 0:15:31.880 --> 0:15:36.960 were unhappy. So being willing to be responsible for that 0:15:37.480 --> 0:15:41.480 was both a good thing to know about myself but 0:15:41.560 --> 0:15:46.280 also very hard. Kind of like made life pretty hard. 0:15:47.840 --> 0:15:51.720 It's been a long learning journey. How about your relationship 0:15:51.760 --> 0:15:55.000 with your husband, how has that been affected by seven 0:15:55.080 --> 0:15:58.600 years of you doing this show? Well, he's really I mean, 0:15:58.720 --> 0:16:00.320 he had his show, he had a script a show 0:16:00.360 --> 0:16:02.440 at the same time that I was launching this show. 0:16:03.160 --> 0:16:07.120 So we were just like full pistons, like both of 0:16:07.200 --> 0:16:12.560 us firing in our separate in our distinct categories. Like he's, 0:16:13.400 --> 0:16:15.640 you know, he's an executive bruiser of my show. I 0:16:15.760 --> 0:16:17.640 was an executive bruiser of his show. So we were 0:16:17.720 --> 0:16:22.560 just like firing on all cylinders for four solid years, 0:16:23.720 --> 0:16:28.280 and somehow we understood each other's issues. We had like 0:16:28.280 --> 0:16:31.960 a separate we had like a language of our work 0:16:32.080 --> 0:16:34.000 and then a language of our family. We were both 0:16:34.240 --> 0:16:37.320 very very good at making a separation though, like we're 0:16:37.480 --> 0:16:41.240 very good at compartmentalizing our two worlds. So like when 0:16:41.240 --> 0:16:44.880 work was over, we were on the kids. Were like 0:16:45.440 --> 0:16:50.520 very into parenting our kids. We love them. We sacrifice 0:16:50.880 --> 0:16:53.440 a tremendous amount of like we don't really party. We 0:16:53.480 --> 0:16:56.320 don't we separated all that stuff out, Like we don't 0:16:56.360 --> 0:16:59.080 we'll never go out. We don't have like networks of 0:16:59.200 --> 0:17:01.680 like people we met at parties because we never because 0:17:01.680 --> 0:17:06.200 we're always like, let's do some school essays. So we 0:17:07.359 --> 0:17:09.240 and we were sort of like both went on that 0:17:09.320 --> 0:17:13.760 journey and we're really like homebodies. So we were just 0:17:13.800 --> 0:17:16.959 like work and kids and nothing in between, and we 0:17:16.960 --> 0:17:21.160 were we did that together. So our relationship is very solid. 0:17:22.000 --> 0:17:25.640 Sometimes we get frustrated. Sometimes we get frustrated with each other. 0:17:25.680 --> 0:17:29.440 Like I definitely tune out sometimes I space out if 0:17:29.440 --> 0:17:33.360 I'm in work mode, I'm so spaced. Everyone can tell 0:17:33.440 --> 0:17:37.480 that I'm physically present but completely mentally disengaged. And now 0:17:37.920 --> 0:17:40.080 instead of like arguing about it, they all just kind 0:17:40.080 --> 0:17:42.600 of go, oh, she's gone. Like I hear them saying 0:17:42.640 --> 0:17:45.200 that she's gone, and I'm physically there, and I'm like, yep, 0:17:45.320 --> 0:17:48.560 I'm gone. I can't deal with this right now. Everybody's 0:17:48.600 --> 0:17:50.840 been very patient. And do you have a lot of 0:17:50.840 --> 0:17:55.160 close girlfriends? No? I have a like really small group 0:17:55.160 --> 0:17:58.000 of girlfriends and that is great. And I have my 0:17:58.080 --> 0:18:00.080 husband and I have my kids. It's like a do 0:18:00.119 --> 0:18:02.720 you tight have a really small family too. I'm an 0:18:02.720 --> 0:18:07.400 only child, the only child of an only child, which 0:18:07.440 --> 0:18:10.240 is interesting that you have three children. I think it's 0:18:10.240 --> 0:18:13.720 probably because of it's probably because of that. Actually, what 0:18:13.840 --> 0:18:16.560 size family does your husband come from? He's one of two, 0:18:16.720 --> 0:18:19.280 so we both come from relatively small families. We don't 0:18:19.320 --> 0:18:23.240 have like a big network of we're very much. I 0:18:23.240 --> 0:18:25.680 think we're very much about creating an island that we 0:18:25.720 --> 0:18:29.600 would want to live on. That's cute. It's pretty great. 0:18:29.880 --> 0:18:32.760 It's pretty great. We travel well together. We're just like 0:18:33.000 --> 0:18:35.520 we're just like a little unit and we just bounce 0:18:35.560 --> 0:18:38.520 around all together. Yeah. On your podcast, we were talking 0:18:38.520 --> 0:18:41.280 about my relationship and you were saying that you've met 0:18:41.280 --> 0:18:44.320 your person too, and it's, uh, I think you could 0:18:44.320 --> 0:18:46.720 always tell when someone's with their person, right, there's a 0:18:46.720 --> 0:18:50.520 total calm. Equanimity is a good word for it. That's 0:18:50.520 --> 0:18:52.560 a really good word for it. It is a very 0:18:52.680 --> 0:18:56.840 it is very grounding to be like, Okay, I'm very 0:18:56.880 --> 0:18:59.720 grateful for it, so so grateful, But also I don't 0:18:59.720 --> 0:19:01.560 think about it all that much because I don't have 0:19:01.640 --> 0:19:04.679 to think about it all that much. It's not really dramatic. 0:19:04.960 --> 0:19:08.119 It's not a place of conflict. Which is not to 0:19:08.160 --> 0:19:10.119 say that we don't disagree, for sure, we do, but 0:19:10.160 --> 0:19:12.960 it's not a place of conflict in my life, Like, 0:19:13.000 --> 0:19:16.760 it's not something I have to resolve. We argue well 0:19:16.840 --> 0:19:22.560 together and smooth it out quickly. Disagree about some small things, 0:19:22.600 --> 0:19:25.600 but generally speaking, it's it's there for both of us 0:19:25.920 --> 0:19:28.600 because when we got together, we were doing children's theater 0:19:28.920 --> 0:19:36.359 as Data and Sailor Moon. Everybody download that damn trip. Well, 0:19:36.680 --> 0:19:38.640 I was the star of the show. Did play Sailor Moon, 0:19:38.800 --> 0:19:42.800 just in case anyone was wondering. But like you know, 0:19:42.920 --> 0:19:45.280 we went through like such phases of life were like 0:19:45.600 --> 0:19:47.560 he was working and I was not working, and then 0:19:47.640 --> 0:19:49.520 I was working and he was not working. So we 0:19:49.520 --> 0:19:52.439 were always like when we had nothing, filling in the 0:19:52.440 --> 0:19:56.679 blanks for each other. And that has like continued smoothly 0:19:57.320 --> 0:20:01.600 into like higher stakes and bigger jobs, and we're still 0:20:01.800 --> 0:20:05.560 filling in the blanks. When I'm really busy. He'll take 0:20:05.600 --> 0:20:08.800 over this. He's away, I take over this, And it's 0:20:08.800 --> 0:20:12.160 not easy, but that's how we do it. You mentioned 0:20:12.240 --> 0:20:13.960 it's not dramatic, but you don't see you strike me 0:20:13.960 --> 0:20:16.600 as somebody who has a very dramatic personality, do you? 0:20:17.560 --> 0:20:21.320 I have in the past, very super dramatic. So this 0:20:21.440 --> 0:20:24.000 was like I would say that Jason, my husband, is 0:20:24.040 --> 0:20:29.639 the first person who he settled me down as a person. 0:20:29.920 --> 0:20:34.879 He's actually the person who brought me to Earth, which 0:20:35.000 --> 0:20:38.520 I needed and and didn't like before I met Jason, 0:20:39.320 --> 0:20:41.440 when we were on our first date actually, which I 0:20:41.480 --> 0:20:43.399 didn't even know for him, it was a date. For me. 0:20:43.440 --> 0:20:45.080 I was like, I'm just going out to dinner with 0:20:45.160 --> 0:20:50.119 this my friend Jason and were you guys friends for 0:20:50.200 --> 0:20:51.639