WEBVTT - Tre Boston and Kurt Coleman

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<v Speaker 1>This is cut to It with Steve Smith Senior at

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<v Speaker 1>production of The Black Effect and I Heart Radio. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>Steve Smith Senior and I'm a little John and this

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<v Speaker 1>is cut to it. Good do it, cud do it,

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<v Speaker 1>Let's get down to do it. Good do it. We

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<v Speaker 1>asked the questions you always want to know, but no

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<v Speaker 1>one ever asked, let's cut to it. You ain't heard

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<v Speaker 1>about it, then we're about to let you. Now it's all.

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<v Speaker 1>We got to two guys in here and actually in

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<v Speaker 1>the cut to It studio, uh Trey Boston former Caroline

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<v Speaker 1>and Panther san Diego charger. Yeah, when they just moved,

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<v Speaker 1>I was I was San Diego for three months. It

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<v Speaker 1>was live though. It's an all right, and then back

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<v Speaker 1>to Carolina. Yeah, I forgot Arizona. Yeah, I almost forgot it.

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<v Speaker 1>To listen, I'm I'm widow. Listen. I was just I

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<v Speaker 1>would let him go. No, no, no no, yeah, go ahead.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean your story about you know, figuring out where

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<v Speaker 1>to choose and yeah, the station. I mean that's a

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<v Speaker 1>pretty cool story. That is that is that is we're

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<v Speaker 1>too head to all right, you want to do this?

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<v Speaker 1>Are you even introduced? You just? Did you not say

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<v Speaker 1>I was introduced that bound the ball. Welcome to Kurt's podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>We could do this. You got Steve Smith Senior and

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<v Speaker 1>then obviously co host Gerard Little John and backstage Joe. Hello, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>uh show. What's going on, fellas? How are you doing? Blessed? Cursed?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm doing well, doing well a professional man? Feel like

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<v Speaker 1>buzz energy energy? How you feeling before? Right? Is he

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<v Speaker 1>letting you do this to him? Already? We just said

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<v Speaker 1>held on like i'd Honestly, I'm happy to be in

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<v Speaker 1>the booth and I'm excited to hear what we're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>talk about. So I got a lot to say to Yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that's cool. Okay, No, it's gonna make it on the pod.

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<v Speaker 1>That's great. He did say we're in the BOOTHTEPS, so

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<v Speaker 1>shout after that. Yeah, we're in the studio. Hey, So

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<v Speaker 1>what we're gonna do is, uh, start off on the beginning,

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<v Speaker 1>which is get iced up. It's just you know, random questions. Okay, Um,

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<v Speaker 1>there's no rhyme of reason. It's just random Okay, Okay, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm okay, yeah, Ranch, Ranch, you can't already let's go.

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<v Speaker 1>So how many months have twenty eight days? What? Yeah, stupid.

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<v Speaker 1>It was quick fast. Hey, if we're all wrong, we

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<v Speaker 1>all right? Yeah, communication communication on the same page. We

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<v Speaker 1>would yep, yep, back right now. It's defensive. We got

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<v Speaker 1>everybody lined up and we played the same coverage. Yeah

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<v Speaker 1>we did. Y'all getting burnt the same but they all

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<v Speaker 1>on the same micle. Yeah, yeah, we all played one

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<v Speaker 1>one thing. Yeah, sounds about good. Come on, coach, come on,

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<v Speaker 1>I bet you'll get us with the next one. Depending

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<v Speaker 1>on what time it is, it won't be the next one.

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<v Speaker 1>Come on, ny on. I'm glory right now. So uh

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<v Speaker 1>if you I'm on the podcast, Yeah, read the question

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<v Speaker 1>club all right, um, yeah, if Kurt was a pair

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<v Speaker 1>of shoes, Yes, what brand would he be? Okay, if

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<v Speaker 1>Kurt was a pair of shoes, what brand would he be? Damn? Man,

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like he would be like a six like

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<v Speaker 1>like no, no, listen, listen, listen, listen, listen, listen, listen.

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<v Speaker 1>We need to listen. Listen. Slept on. But the people

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<v Speaker 1>who wear them in that crowd knows they're comfortable, they're reliable,

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<v Speaker 1>and they're hard working shoes. If you got them shoes,

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<v Speaker 1>you're gonna have them for a minute. You know what,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm saying, So I wouldn't give him like nothing too

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<v Speaker 1>fancy designer, because that's not who Kurt is. That's not him.

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<v Speaker 1>So the a sick give him like a good brand,

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<v Speaker 1>reliable brand, knowing that again it's gonna be in your closet.

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<v Speaker 1>You're gonna be running with these shoes probably like five

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<v Speaker 1>six years, Like dang, I finally need some new shoes

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<v Speaker 1>compared to running some Jordan's and being like I can't

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<v Speaker 1>run the Jordans Air assistant living Now what I'm saying,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean, but listen it get up

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<v Speaker 1>into the you know what I'm saying. Your grandma, Your

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<v Speaker 1>grandma ain't rocking the ones said all right, man, so

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<v Speaker 1>that's what I would at a six man. Ok, yeah here,

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<v Speaker 1>look you did he said some a sex Like I

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<v Speaker 1>got it. It's the it's the way you look though,

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<v Speaker 1>like like you you you said what you said, it's

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<v Speaker 1>not you get a good support. But you know, Steve,

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<v Speaker 1>we're that you like only on the icebreakers. Focus. Alright,

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<v Speaker 1>this is this is me and all the time, what

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<v Speaker 1>if there's only there's only one that I'm thinking about.

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<v Speaker 1>It's going to be the Jordan's and it's Now it's

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<v Speaker 1>about what Jordan's I look at him, he's a patent

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<v Speaker 1>leather Okay, I see him in the elevens. But Carolina

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<v Speaker 1>blue elevens. Yeah, that's it. That's it. Oh, loads are highs?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean I'm just oh mine, But which one? We were? Not? Lejohn?

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<v Speaker 1>Now we're gonna miss I mean, listen, it's don't do

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<v Speaker 1>me on the mid Ye, no eleven got mints? How

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<v Speaker 1>is that a fleet market? I'm trying to check some

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<v Speaker 1>bootleg wet side. Thank you man, My Michael Jordan local

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<v Speaker 1>doing a layoup finger rooms. Yeah, man, I appreciate that. Man.

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<v Speaker 1>That's Trey. Where are you from in the place you

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<v Speaker 1>call your hometown? Yeah, Fort Mins, Florida. Um, yeah, so

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<v Speaker 1>I'm from Creo nine. What about you? Kurt Date Ohio

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<v Speaker 1>grouping Clayton. What's the jip colder area? Cool? Nine three seven?

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<v Speaker 1>The gyms can't ripping loud, dude, you don't have to

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<v Speaker 1>worry about the ones that speak loud. Yeah, you know

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying. You're trying to call me that's my

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<v Speaker 1>that's my dog. I see. I started to see. Now

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<v Speaker 1>it's some clear some things coming very clearly now because

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<v Speaker 1>Kurt is very subdue quiet. And then now you're around trade,

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<v Speaker 1>he brand new a little bit. Whoa, this is my god,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying that that's what I know

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<v Speaker 1>him to be. It's good. I like it. Trade. Everyone

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<v Speaker 1>knows Trade gonna bring energy to the table, always, always,

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<v Speaker 1>So you either got to bring your energy up. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Sometimes sometimes it's it's it's energy. You gotta exert so

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<v Speaker 1>much energy to keep up with the energy. Sometimes it's

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<v Speaker 1>like it's exhausting. Yeah, it can be. And then it

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<v Speaker 1>almost kind of comes. I know, we got some topics,

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<v Speaker 1>is more of a round table you know, discussion or whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>One of the topics we actually have is being authentic.

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<v Speaker 1>Are you the same person on and off the field?

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<v Speaker 1>So like, al right, try you you're hiring guy when

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<v Speaker 1>your hiring guy out on the field as well as

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<v Speaker 1>off the field. So how does that How is that?

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<v Speaker 1>Because Steve just kind of preluded to it, like keeping

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<v Speaker 1>up that same energy, being the same person on and

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<v Speaker 1>off the field, I think, like you said, authentic For me,

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<v Speaker 1>it's genuine. It's just who I am when I step

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<v Speaker 1>into a room. I know, um, my role in it,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, going to work every day, Um, it can

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<v Speaker 1>get just repetitive. Um. You have long days, you have

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<v Speaker 1>weeks that you are losing, UM, and it's easy to

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<v Speaker 1>have that energy kind of sucked out of the building.

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<v Speaker 1>And for me, if I can be the same guy, Uh, understand,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm blessed. Understand. We're in good situations. We're playing football,

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<v Speaker 1>something that we love. Bringing that same energy, it can

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<v Speaker 1>bring the guys around you up and it allows your

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<v Speaker 1>coaches everybody to have a deep breath knowing that, Um, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>we have a task at hand, but it's not it's

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<v Speaker 1>not as serious as we're making the same things can

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<v Speaker 1>be better. Um. But we gotta do that as men

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<v Speaker 1>and keep our energy up because obviously, you know, if

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<v Speaker 1>you get your energy south out of the build, there,

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<v Speaker 1>it's over, you know what I mean. Like you can

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<v Speaker 1>lose the whole season, Um in week seven, you know

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<v Speaker 1>what I mean? Just like in week nine you can

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<v Speaker 1>gain the whole all of it back. But yeah, that's

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<v Speaker 1>that's what I do. That That wasn't me, Um, What

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<v Speaker 1>do you mean? It wasn't you know? I was I

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<v Speaker 1>was two different people on the field. I'm a I'm

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<v Speaker 1>a monster on the field, and I'm looking to cut

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<v Speaker 1>your head off. Um, but off the field, like there

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<v Speaker 1>has for me, there had to be more of a

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<v Speaker 1>humanity side and epathetic side of things. I think what

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<v Speaker 1>was great. You know, when you look at on the field,

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<v Speaker 1>it's the process to get onto the field. So for myself,

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<v Speaker 1>I was in the meetings, I was very serious. I

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<v Speaker 1>would call the coaches out when they're wrong. Um. But

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<v Speaker 1>when we got into the locker room, you know, I

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<v Speaker 1>would you know, kind of let's lose a little bit.

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<v Speaker 1>But then when we got back onto the practice field,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, from my off like I was very driven,

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<v Speaker 1>like very serious. Um. But what what is great though,

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<v Speaker 1>is you know when you do have a guy like Trey, um,

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<v Speaker 1>he he keeps that other side of me that that

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<v Speaker 1>needs to stay alive, you know, because sometimes I can

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<v Speaker 1>just get so focused and tie down, um to the

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<v Speaker 1>craft that I forget that there needs to be fun

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<v Speaker 1>along along with it. And so what what was great

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<v Speaker 1>was for Trade. Trade would always you know, bring that

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<v Speaker 1>fun energy side and sometimes we would have to ring

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<v Speaker 1>him back in and give him the serious like this

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<v Speaker 1>is this is go time, and this is what we

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<v Speaker 1>need to buckle down. And so I honestly like it

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<v Speaker 1>was great because you know, and I'm just thinking about

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<v Speaker 1>this two fifteen season in general, because we had guys

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<v Speaker 1>that were very loose, we had guys that were very serious,

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<v Speaker 1>and we had a little bit in between them. We

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<v Speaker 1>are crazy j No, Josh Norman and then you know,

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<v Speaker 1>and then we had some young cats. But then you

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<v Speaker 1>also had Peanut Tillman, who was he was the clown

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<v Speaker 1>of clowns. He was the clown of clowns. But like

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<v Speaker 1>you you respected, you know, what he had done his

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<v Speaker 1>body of work up to that, so like it was

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<v Speaker 1>just a great exture everything. But for me, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I would say off the field, I'm very relaxed, and

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<v Speaker 1>I try to be very relaxed. Um, But on the field,

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<v Speaker 1>like I'm up, I'm upright row trash talking. So I know,

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<v Speaker 1>y'all get together, you'll play golf. Is a lot of that.

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<v Speaker 1>Where does that end on the field and maybe not

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<v Speaker 1>even become personal off the field? It doesn't go he

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<v Speaker 1>I got some chuck, Kurt, Yeah, go ahead, you want

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<v Speaker 1>gonna watch it? Does It's actually it's kind of walking

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit between me and Trey, just a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit because like we we played golf when was it

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<v Speaker 1>and Trey is cool. It's It's one of those things

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<v Speaker 1>where like I enjoyed being around him, and then we

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<v Speaker 1>kind of butt heads, but he thinks we butt as

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<v Speaker 1>because he thinks that we're very much alike and we're

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<v Speaker 1>actually not. We're polar opposites. And then but Kurt knows

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<v Speaker 1>both of us, so it's like Kurch good friends and

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<v Speaker 1>we're both of us, and he he interacts and he understands, uh,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, each of us. But it's like this little battle,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's like I don't like for me, what I

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<v Speaker 1>really struggle if I'm just being honest, what I really

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<v Speaker 1>struggle with with is it's like the fight, and I

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<v Speaker 1>just like, now that I'm older, I don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>fight anymore. So it's like for you, for both of us,

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<v Speaker 1>it's like, you know, because when we played golf one time,

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<v Speaker 1>he was like, um man, you know, we played against

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<v Speaker 1>each other and like he'd be like, man, it be

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<v Speaker 1>on and he'd be like, oh man, every play, and

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<v Speaker 1>it's like to some degree, it's like it is every play.

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<v Speaker 1>And because me and Trade never played against each other,

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<v Speaker 1>but me and Kirk ha and Kirk knows like I

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<v Speaker 1>don't I'm not there's no I'm not one person on

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<v Speaker 1>the field and one person off the field. Now I

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<v Speaker 1>believe we're evolving, like I'm involving. But I just like

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<v Speaker 1>if we play seventy plays like I would establish the

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<v Speaker 1>first two plays like this is how I'm gonna play

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<v Speaker 1>for the next sixty eight plays, like I'm not taking

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<v Speaker 1>a playoff. And it's just it's just different for me.

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<v Speaker 1>I like it. I think it's a refreshing, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>if we're talking on and off the field, to be

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<v Speaker 1>able to have guys like Steve that I know and Kurt,

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<v Speaker 1>all of our guys. When I when we talk trash,

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<v Speaker 1>it's not malicious. We're not We're not trying to come

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<v Speaker 1>at each other the wrong way. Um, And at home,

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<v Speaker 1>you might not get that with your spouse sometimes obviously,

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<v Speaker 1>if I'm a guy, like I told you my energy,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm I'm I like to take stuff home, you know

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<v Speaker 1>what I mean. So I could be talking smack to

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<v Speaker 1>my wife, but she didn't trying to hear that, like

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean. But if I can, if

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<v Speaker 1>I got another game what I'm saying. So it's like, um,

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<v Speaker 1>having your friends to be able to do that too.

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<v Speaker 1>And I know that I'm dynamic between us, um, not

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<v Speaker 1>truly playing each other. Um. It's how I try to

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<v Speaker 1>get underneath the skin because I truly know that I've

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<v Speaker 1>I've watched acknowledged um from a far and near the

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<v Speaker 1>competitor that he is. When was you near me? Well,

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<v Speaker 1>I've been to Bucks games, you know what I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>like you as a fan. Yeah, you're the news bleeds.

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<v Speaker 1>But now now, but now, now, now, I've been around

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<v Speaker 1>you enough. But that's so, here's a secret. When we

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<v Speaker 1>play golf, like me and being Curt in the golf cart,

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<v Speaker 1>curags like, bro, just let it go. No, he doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>get it though, Like I'm like when I say, like, really,

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<v Speaker 1>I would like want to kill you, bro, Like I

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<v Speaker 1>really wanted to kill you, Like I'm not like Kirk.

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<v Speaker 1>He doesn't understand, Like I'm not like like he he

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<v Speaker 1>like I was like like like I I go like

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<v Speaker 1>most people like, oh, we go ten rounds. I'm like, Tyson,

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<v Speaker 1>I want to knock you out in the first fifty seconds.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not interested in going twelve rounds because for me,

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<v Speaker 1>if I go twelve rounds, it turns. It takes me

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<v Speaker 1>into a dark place, it goes into a place where

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<v Speaker 1>it's like now, I'm just narrow focus and I don't.

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<v Speaker 1>I just I don't. I don't want to live that

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<v Speaker 1>way anymore. That's like it's can I ask you a question? Absolutely,

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<v Speaker 1>you welcome to ask me any question. Would you say,

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<v Speaker 1>have you learned that through just some of the time

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<v Speaker 1>of working with um, you know, speaking with people like Uh,

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<v Speaker 1>would that be therapists, uh, sports psychologists or just you know,

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<v Speaker 1>mental training or is that just something that you have

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<v Speaker 1>figured out on your own. Uh. It's a it's a

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<v Speaker 1>combination of all. It's also self reflection to right, having

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<v Speaker 1>that time where you can sit and really kind of

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<v Speaker 1>you know, go through the process. Right. So, so for

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<v Speaker 1>what I mean by that is like, first of all,

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<v Speaker 1>when I used to get mad, for me, I would

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<v Speaker 1>I would narrow in my focus like my For most

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<v Speaker 1>people when they get upset, they get out of control.

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<v Speaker 1>Should we never played again each other? But you have

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<v Speaker 1>When I get piste, I'm a different Like it's not

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<v Speaker 1>like oh I'm slipping or I'm just like out of control. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>it's just like like it's blinders, not blinders to wild

0:16:02.520 --> 0:16:06.000
<v Speaker 1>don't see everything, but blinders to now this is my

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<v Speaker 1>I have my assignment like a laser like focus, and

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<v Speaker 1>I know how you take, and I know how you take.

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<v Speaker 1>So he feeds off of that, and and I think

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<v Speaker 1>that that's that's the thing where I sit in the

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<v Speaker 1>middle of it and almost referee because he's feeding off

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<v Speaker 1>of him. But he also knows that at some point

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<v Speaker 1>he's feeding, he's feeding. He thinks, oh, tick tick, and

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<v Speaker 1>he's over there like, man, this brother ain't got he

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<v Speaker 1>got about he go to four if it don't go

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<v Speaker 1>to count down from thirty. And and that's that difference

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<v Speaker 1>where it's like the he feeds off of it. But

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<v Speaker 1>then I try to, like you said, you don't try

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<v Speaker 1>to go for the juggnairet that that's and that's the

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<v Speaker 1>thing is like that you don't. You don't you don't

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<v Speaker 1>try to feed into it, and you don't you don't

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<v Speaker 1>want it to get there, but when it gets there,

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<v Speaker 1>you're you're you don't care where it gets to because

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<v Speaker 1>getting guy straight just wants to like and I love

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<v Speaker 1>it because I like we always knew like if Trey

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<v Speaker 1>was um like he needed like we needed like what

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<v Speaker 1>we said we talked bad to Tray talk bad. And

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<v Speaker 1>he feeds off of that um. So that that was

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<v Speaker 1>just like when I'm watching him like hold on, yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I see where this is going. So how much of

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<v Speaker 1>that is because you also talked about before. When you're

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<v Speaker 1>just talking about of it's almost sounds like leadership to like,

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<v Speaker 1>even if I take it back to being on the

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<v Speaker 1>field of knowing who's supposed to be where, knowing your teammates,

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<v Speaker 1>is that part of leadership that you had to develop

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<v Speaker 1>your style of just knowing Like in this senstance, there's

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<v Speaker 1>knowing to people who are friends, but on the field

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<v Speaker 1>of knowing like all right, you know for wow, Like

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<v Speaker 1>until we played, I didn't want to be his friend. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I was like I don't know about this and I

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<v Speaker 1>don't think it's gonna work. But you get what I'm saying,

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<v Speaker 1>is that that that intangible Like how how do you

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<v Speaker 1>build that up? Well? I think just taking the time

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<v Speaker 1>to build the relationships with each and every person, Like, um,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, Smitty and I and we play when I

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<v Speaker 1>was in Philadelphia, and and you know, you always have

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<v Speaker 1>this perception of people, and I never had a bad perception,

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<v Speaker 1>but I knew, you know, I better bring my heart

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<v Speaker 1>hat to every single game. Spendy was lined up because

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<v Speaker 1>he was gonna find I felt like he was always

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<v Speaker 1>gonna find somebody at times, and you better be ready

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<v Speaker 1>when when that shot. Yeah, well I mean just like

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<v Speaker 1>you better be being ready. But then him and I

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<v Speaker 1>went golfing down in Kiwa, and I thought it was

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<v Speaker 1>just a great time. Our families, our wives you know,

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<v Speaker 1>and talked even before then, so like it was it

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<v Speaker 1>was great because like you know, it's always nice when

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<v Speaker 1>your wives, you know, you can bring the whole family along.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not just boom boom. And so like I really

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<v Speaker 1>got to know him on a real personal level and

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<v Speaker 1>vice versas. So like I felt like that that was

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<v Speaker 1>like the beginning of you know, us really actually taking it,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, just from you know, competitors to actually friends.

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<v Speaker 1>But then you know, try and I it was, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>the same thing in two thousand and fifteen when we started,

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<v Speaker 1>and then from there, you know, going to his wedding

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<v Speaker 1>and and and doing all that stuff like with our family.

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<v Speaker 1>So you know, him remember just bringing bringing a little

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<v Speaker 1>little trade to the house, um, you know when he

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<v Speaker 1>was first born, Like it's just stuff like that. It

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<v Speaker 1>was it. But but um, at the end of the day,

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<v Speaker 1>like whether we didn't have that, like if we're in

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<v Speaker 1>the locker room. If you expect to be a leader,

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<v Speaker 1>you better get to know people, because I think leadership

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<v Speaker 1>is more than just what you do. It's who you

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<v Speaker 1>are and what you want the atmosphere to become. And

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<v Speaker 1>if you don't get to know somebody, I can't expect

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<v Speaker 1>something out of you. And if I do expect that

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<v Speaker 1>out of you, well, if I'm asking something out of you,

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<v Speaker 1>like I better have taken the time to invest into you.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think that's the only, um, the only fair thing.

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<v Speaker 1>And so what it's that old saying nobody cares what

0:19:43.240 --> 0:19:51.399
<v Speaker 1>you know right until I know that you care. I

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<v Speaker 1>love cut to It and I love it even more

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<v Speaker 1>I got all my answers questions. Um, yeah, I got

0:20:24.560 --> 0:20:27.560
<v Speaker 1>all my questions answered. That's what I'm here for. A

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<v Speaker 1>brother cut to a podcast dot com. You know, I

0:20:31.640 --> 0:20:34.600
<v Speaker 1>think that's the struggle with with with fans and and

0:20:34.800 --> 0:20:44.160
<v Speaker 1>and and in athletes, right, because there is this um expectation, right,

0:20:44.280 --> 0:20:48.359
<v Speaker 1>but then there's no Sometimes there's no expectation on the

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<v Speaker 1>other end, expectation of like you expected to when I

0:20:52.160 --> 0:20:54.840
<v Speaker 1>see you give me what I want. But then there's

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<v Speaker 1>the expectation of the other sometimes athletes like hey, some

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<v Speaker 1>days is it's cool, but the other days just a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit of privacy, like my expectations when I'm my

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<v Speaker 1>whole deal. Bro, when we're in the bathroom, I don't talk.

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<v Speaker 1>We're not talking, dethletean and not. I think that's what

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<v Speaker 1>you would think that I know definitely what's going on.

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<v Speaker 1>I know they're definitely talking to him any chance they get.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying, they're taking they're taking advantage

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<v Speaker 1>of the opportunity because so they got this bathroom. So

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<v Speaker 1>the question, so, so the question is, uh, person versus

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<v Speaker 1>the performer? Yeah, how do how do you handle how

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<v Speaker 1>do you handle the person versus the performer? And then

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<v Speaker 1>after you break that down, do you find your do

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<v Speaker 1>you find yourself at any moment in in your career

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<v Speaker 1>where you were maybe playing to the audience. Okay, I

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<v Speaker 1>would say person versus to perform me. I know that

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<v Speaker 1>my energy already comes off as um, fun, energetic, so

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<v Speaker 1>I know I'm gonna meet a lot of people around

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<v Speaker 1>um from me. Honestly, I think it's important for me

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<v Speaker 1>to just acknowledge them, say hello, how you doing. Take

0:22:20.400 --> 0:22:22.480
<v Speaker 1>a picture with him? You have a great day, have

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<v Speaker 1>a blessed one. So we have a respect of Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I gave you what you needed, just like you said.

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<v Speaker 1>Now can I get back to my privacy. It ain't

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<v Speaker 1>no sitting here five minutes and talk to me. It's

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<v Speaker 1>like you met me. I was a great guy, gave

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<v Speaker 1>your pick saying how do your kids family? Now, let's

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<v Speaker 1>go on by our privacy and so let me ask you.

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<v Speaker 1>From what I hear, then you don't separate the person

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<v Speaker 1>from the performer a little bit. If you say no,

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<v Speaker 1>I get yeah, I get what you're saying. No, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't much. I don't much like I don't think there's

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<v Speaker 1>ever a time that I wouldn't let I think at

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<v Speaker 1>the same time, as a respect from who my performer

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<v Speaker 1>is to win, Like there's been people who have been

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<v Speaker 1>who's dm me like Hey, I saw you at dinner

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<v Speaker 1>with your wife and kids. Didn't want to come over.

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<v Speaker 1>But I just want to let you I'm not talking Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not talking about that. I'm talking about just Persian performers,

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<v Speaker 1>That's what I'm saying. So for me, um, no, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>pretty much the same. I wouldn't I wouldn't see myself

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<v Speaker 1>like not not doing the things I do off the

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<v Speaker 1>field or on the field. Like I don't really change

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<v Speaker 1>for you know many you know what I mean, unless

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<v Speaker 1>I got like a curt whose telling me, hey, dollar

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<v Speaker 1>in you know what I mean. But for the most part, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna be the same on and off because that's

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<v Speaker 1>just who I am. UM used to talking to people

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<v Speaker 1>my mom if you if you got to meet my mom,

0:23:38.720 --> 0:23:44.760
<v Speaker 1>same way people person energetic, um, single mother. My mom worked,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, two or three jobs at a time, my

0:23:47.080 --> 0:23:50.719
<v Speaker 1>whole life. Um, So to see her grind see um

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<v Speaker 1>at the same time we might we might have been

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<v Speaker 1>where we're at, where she still took us to suit

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<v Speaker 1>kitchens and food banks. That's why I do that stuff

0:23:58.960 --> 0:24:02.120
<v Speaker 1>because even though we were I mean pretty much living

0:24:02.160 --> 0:24:04.760
<v Speaker 1>in the hood, we were still going to you know,

0:24:04.920 --> 0:24:06.879
<v Speaker 1>offer our time if it wasn't money, We're gonna give

0:24:06.880 --> 0:24:09.480
<v Speaker 1>our time back to the people to also show me

0:24:09.600 --> 0:24:12.520
<v Speaker 1>that you know, I'm here, but it could be worse.

0:24:13.119 --> 0:24:14.920
<v Speaker 1>You like, you can have better, but it could be worse.

0:24:15.320 --> 0:24:16.520
<v Speaker 1>And I think that's where a lot of like my

0:24:16.680 --> 0:24:19.840
<v Speaker 1>energy comes from because of just knowing that, Man, a

0:24:19.960 --> 0:24:23.119
<v Speaker 1>smile can change somebody the whole day. Um. You know,

0:24:23.480 --> 0:24:26.560
<v Speaker 1>somebody just acknowledging, somebody telling him, you know, you have

0:24:26.600 --> 0:24:29.000
<v Speaker 1>a great day, have a blessed day, can just flip

0:24:29.320 --> 0:24:33.600
<v Speaker 1>the whole perspective of an NFL player, of a black

0:24:33.680 --> 0:24:37.200
<v Speaker 1>man with dreads you know what I mean? Uh, you know,

0:24:37.800 --> 0:24:40.119
<v Speaker 1>it's just so much to it. So for me, um,

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<v Speaker 1>it's yeah, that's just who I am. So lives mean

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<v Speaker 1>to just be easy with it. Yeah. How about you, Kurt?

0:24:46.640 --> 0:24:49.760
<v Speaker 1>How you? How are you right? Um? So, my parents

0:24:49.840 --> 0:24:51.960
<v Speaker 1>spent up when I was five, and UM, so I

0:24:52.040 --> 0:24:56.320
<v Speaker 1>have I was one of nine kids, um, youngest, youngest boy,

0:24:57.080 --> 0:25:00.320
<v Speaker 1>um growing up, but I never felt like I didn't

0:25:00.320 --> 0:25:03.440
<v Speaker 1>have what I needed, but always surrounded by you know,

0:25:03.560 --> 0:25:05.720
<v Speaker 1>things that that you want. But I think the great

0:25:05.760 --> 0:25:09.160
<v Speaker 1>thing about it was even though my parents were split, um,

0:25:09.760 --> 0:25:12.440
<v Speaker 1>they both were in a UM in a role within

0:25:12.520 --> 0:25:15.320
<v Speaker 1>their jobs that was UM giving back. So my mom

0:25:15.440 --> 0:25:19.040
<v Speaker 1>was a speech pathologist at the Veterans Hospital and so

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<v Speaker 1>going to spend time with her and serving the vets

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<v Speaker 1>and seeing you know, I remember I was seven years

0:25:25.440 --> 0:25:28.479
<v Speaker 1>old and I was in third grade and we were

0:25:28.600 --> 0:25:31.200
<v Speaker 1>we uh it was like a go to go to work,

0:25:31.440 --> 0:25:34.280
<v Speaker 1>you know, with your parents and I it was a

0:25:34.480 --> 0:25:38.520
<v Speaker 1>soldier that it came back and he had a m

0:25:40.320 --> 0:25:43.800
<v Speaker 1>he had a really bad stroke and she was trying

0:25:43.800 --> 0:25:45.879
<v Speaker 1>to teach him how to swallow, just to swallow, let

0:25:45.920 --> 0:25:49.119
<v Speaker 1>alone eat UM. And it was just one of the

0:25:49.160 --> 0:25:51.600
<v Speaker 1>things where like I from that moment, like I would

0:25:51.680 --> 0:25:54.200
<v Speaker 1>uh kind of penpole him and he ended up passing

0:25:54.520 --> 0:25:57.719
<v Speaker 1>UM shortly after that. But it was an easy reminder

0:25:57.800 --> 0:26:01.679
<v Speaker 1>of just UM, just being able to give yourself UM

0:26:01.800 --> 0:26:03.639
<v Speaker 1>in the service of others. And then my dad has

0:26:03.680 --> 0:26:07.840
<v Speaker 1>been a coach UM teacher principle I'm still teaching to

0:26:07.920 --> 0:26:12.320
<v Speaker 1>this day. And so you know, my my my life

0:26:12.440 --> 0:26:15.760
<v Speaker 1>was like what can I do that UM where success

0:26:15.920 --> 0:26:18.760
<v Speaker 1>isn't defined by maybe touchdowns or this or that, but

0:26:19.160 --> 0:26:22.800
<v Speaker 1>unless UM, but in the success of others, and so UM.

0:26:22.880 --> 0:26:25.360
<v Speaker 1>I was very fortunate enough though obviously I was athletic

0:26:25.520 --> 0:26:28.119
<v Speaker 1>enough and and had everything UM in line that I

0:26:28.240 --> 0:26:29.880
<v Speaker 1>was able to play in the NFL. But I knew,

0:26:30.160 --> 0:26:34.359
<v Speaker 1>regardless of the NFL, UM, being a teacher of some

0:26:34.560 --> 0:26:37.240
<v Speaker 1>sort was something that I was going to do. So UM.

0:26:37.440 --> 0:26:40.080
<v Speaker 1>In high school, I worked with a special needs program

0:26:40.160 --> 0:26:42.879
<v Speaker 1>there and it was unbelievable being able to work with

0:26:42.920 --> 0:26:47.080
<v Speaker 1>the children UM there. And you know, the things that

0:26:47.359 --> 0:26:49.000
<v Speaker 1>you know that you can learn from somebody that may

0:26:49.080 --> 0:26:52.800
<v Speaker 1>have Down syndrome or um autism or whatever whatever the

0:26:52.840 --> 0:26:57.720
<v Speaker 1>case may be, is the simplest things are the most

0:26:57.760 --> 0:27:00.560
<v Speaker 1>gratifying things sometimes in life. And I would look at

0:27:00.600 --> 0:27:02.920
<v Speaker 1>them and we would we would color, we would make something,

0:27:03.000 --> 0:27:05.720
<v Speaker 1>cupcakes didn't matter. And they're smiling and laugh And I'm like,

0:27:07.480 --> 0:27:09.399
<v Speaker 1>how am I complaining about what I have going on

0:27:09.480 --> 0:27:13.360
<v Speaker 1>in my life? Um about a simple hurdle obstacle when

0:27:13.960 --> 0:27:16.920
<v Speaker 1>that is probably challenging to them, and yet they do

0:27:17.000 --> 0:27:20.439
<v Speaker 1>it with the most loving and kind hearted spirit. So UM,

0:27:20.640 --> 0:27:22.320
<v Speaker 1>it's just it's a different approach of life. And I

0:27:22.359 --> 0:27:24.639
<v Speaker 1>try to see life through that perspective of I know

0:27:24.800 --> 0:27:27.000
<v Speaker 1>things are tough. Um, life is not easy for anybody.

0:27:27.040 --> 0:27:28.640
<v Speaker 1>I don't care if you have a lot of money

0:27:28.680 --> 0:27:30.400
<v Speaker 1>or if you don't have a lot of money, life

0:27:30.520 --> 0:27:33.679
<v Speaker 1>is tough. And UM, it's just about gaining that perspective

0:27:33.960 --> 0:27:36.560
<v Speaker 1>for me, is having that godly view of what life

0:27:36.680 --> 0:27:39.240
<v Speaker 1>is really about. I mean, I'm sure we can all

0:27:39.400 --> 0:27:41.399
<v Speaker 1>test that. You know, how you grow up, you know,

0:27:41.520 --> 0:27:44.440
<v Speaker 1>it shapes um kind of your perspective on things. And

0:27:44.640 --> 0:27:46.680
<v Speaker 1>and a lot of times the things that that you

0:27:46.760 --> 0:27:49.960
<v Speaker 1>are affected by, it makes you want to influence um.

0:27:50.440 --> 0:27:53.240
<v Speaker 1>You know, and so you know with cancers and in

0:27:53.280 --> 0:27:56.320
<v Speaker 1>different types of illnesses, that's what it's affected my life. UM.

0:27:56.800 --> 0:27:59.120
<v Speaker 1>And I love what you know, what you're doing, um

0:27:59.640 --> 0:28:02.399
<v Speaker 1>with the health clinics and and all that, and and

0:28:02.600 --> 0:28:05.000
<v Speaker 1>with your foundation. Love what you're doing down to Fort

0:28:05.040 --> 0:28:08.680
<v Speaker 1>Myers with the Beyond Belief. UM. I mean, it's just

0:28:08.800 --> 0:28:10.720
<v Speaker 1>it's just amazing. Like when you are affected by something

0:28:10.760 --> 0:28:13.480
<v Speaker 1>in your life, you can have one or two different outcomes.

0:28:13.760 --> 0:28:15.240
<v Speaker 1>You can let it affect you or you can become

0:28:15.240 --> 0:28:18.320
<v Speaker 1>an influence. UM and for others to uh to become

0:28:18.920 --> 0:28:21.480
<v Speaker 1>affected and change their LIVESCENSU directories. And I think that's

0:28:21.520 --> 0:28:23.680
<v Speaker 1>what we've been able to do. Let me ask you,

0:28:23.840 --> 0:28:28.199
<v Speaker 1>let me ask you this. This came up and UM,

0:28:29.240 --> 0:28:31.960
<v Speaker 1>someone said it to me today and then I know

0:28:32.160 --> 0:28:37.000
<v Speaker 1>you said it. Um So think about this right as athletes,

0:28:37.119 --> 0:28:43.000
<v Speaker 1>as people, we're we're I've heard several I've heard several

0:28:43.120 --> 0:28:46.600
<v Speaker 1>people and several times and different times, and I think

0:28:47.000 --> 0:28:50.560
<v Speaker 1>it would be good to have this dialogue. So have

0:28:50.720 --> 0:28:53.360
<v Speaker 1>you ever has anyone ever said to you because of

0:28:54.280 --> 0:28:58.560
<v Speaker 1>you being trade Boston playing in and fail? Uh? What

0:28:58.680 --> 0:29:01.640
<v Speaker 1>do you like? Say? You're uh? A birthday? Come up

0:29:01.680 --> 0:29:04.360
<v Speaker 1>on holiday and they say what do you get? What

0:29:04.520 --> 0:29:09.959
<v Speaker 1>do you give a person who has everything you've been?

0:29:10.040 --> 0:29:14.360
<v Speaker 1>You've been told that about you? You Okay? Then this

0:29:14.520 --> 0:29:16.640
<v Speaker 1>is the other one I've heard. You've said it to me,

0:29:16.800 --> 0:29:18.720
<v Speaker 1>someone else said it and it and it clicked and

0:29:18.800 --> 0:29:23.000
<v Speaker 1>it and chose you would be a great conversation. Um Gee,

0:29:23.000 --> 0:29:25.840
<v Speaker 1>you said, man, I don't you know what accountability partners

0:29:25.880 --> 0:29:28.560
<v Speaker 1>with boys would be like, I'm not your yes, I'm

0:29:28.760 --> 0:29:31.360
<v Speaker 1>what are you saying? I'm not your yes man? Yes? Ma'n. Okay.

0:29:31.760 --> 0:29:36.720
<v Speaker 1>So somebody today said to me my sister, she goes,

0:29:37.720 --> 0:29:42.600
<v Speaker 1>I'm not your I'm not your mess yes person. Here's

0:29:42.640 --> 0:29:46.440
<v Speaker 1>my problem with that statement. So think about it. You're

0:29:46.480 --> 0:29:50.840
<v Speaker 1>not my yes guy? Correct? Correct? You know that's Kurt

0:29:51.480 --> 0:29:56.880
<v Speaker 1>Gee Joe B. You're my yes guy. Alright, cool, I

0:29:57.000 --> 0:30:02.000
<v Speaker 1>love it. So let's just multiply these people. Meredith my yes,

0:30:02.880 --> 0:30:05.800
<v Speaker 1>she knows, but so she's not gonna respond. Think about it.

0:30:06.440 --> 0:30:09.880
<v Speaker 1>If I have people or a hundred people that not

0:30:10.160 --> 0:30:13.640
<v Speaker 1>that you guys are not my yes people. Do you

0:30:13.720 --> 0:30:18.280
<v Speaker 1>think that's good or bad? Don't don't think it, just

0:30:18.480 --> 0:30:23.360
<v Speaker 1>just response. You just told me to think it. I'm

0:30:23.440 --> 0:30:25.440
<v Speaker 1>saying think it, but you know what, I'm just go

0:30:25.600 --> 0:30:28.560
<v Speaker 1>with your real, gut, go to gut answer. Do I

0:30:28.640 --> 0:30:30.760
<v Speaker 1>need a lot of people to to be my yes person?

0:30:30.840 --> 0:30:33.160
<v Speaker 1>I think that or no, you don't need them, you

0:30:33.200 --> 0:30:36.760
<v Speaker 1>don't want them to be yes correct? Yeah, Okay, here's

0:30:36.800 --> 0:30:39.240
<v Speaker 1>my problem with that statement. Okay, And I'm just this

0:30:39.400 --> 0:30:44.320
<v Speaker 1>is just me being transparent. I think that is the

0:30:44.560 --> 0:30:48.040
<v Speaker 1>worst answer if you're a true friend of mine, The

0:30:48.080 --> 0:30:50.800
<v Speaker 1>worst answer you can give me to not be your

0:30:50.920 --> 0:30:54.440
<v Speaker 1>yes yes. You want to know why? Why? Yeah? Why?

0:30:55.320 --> 0:30:58.360
<v Speaker 1>The problem is is your one. I believe this is

0:30:58.440 --> 0:31:00.680
<v Speaker 1>my person. I think it's the insecure that we may

0:31:00.760 --> 0:31:02.800
<v Speaker 1>have in us. And you're saying I don't want you

0:31:02.840 --> 0:31:04.320
<v Speaker 1>to jeez, like, man, I don't want you to be

0:31:04.440 --> 0:31:07.680
<v Speaker 1>my yes guy. I didn't say, I wanted you to

0:31:08.960 --> 0:31:11.320
<v Speaker 1>the problem with all the people. If I have fifteen

0:31:11.360 --> 0:31:14.120
<v Speaker 1>people in my life that are not my yes guys

0:31:14.480 --> 0:31:20.560
<v Speaker 1>or not my yes woman or man, whatever you identify with, well,

0:31:20.720 --> 0:31:22.800
<v Speaker 1>if it's fifteen and y'all so every day of the week,

0:31:22.840 --> 0:31:26.880
<v Speaker 1>three d sixty five days, no yes, So what the

0:31:26.960 --> 0:31:29.000
<v Speaker 1>hell are y'all doing? If if you're not yes with me,

0:31:29.080 --> 0:31:32.400
<v Speaker 1>you ain't encouraging me like you you're taking up You're

0:31:32.440 --> 0:31:35.320
<v Speaker 1>taking on this persona like you're I'm not your yes guy.

0:31:37.120 --> 0:31:39.400
<v Speaker 1>You're not my friend because you're my yes guy. You're

0:31:39.440 --> 0:31:42.080
<v Speaker 1>my friend because you're qualified to be my friend, because

0:31:42.120 --> 0:31:44.720
<v Speaker 1>there's something that God puts something inside of you that

0:31:44.840 --> 0:31:46.440
<v Speaker 1>makes you my friend. I didn't want you to be

0:31:46.480 --> 0:31:48.480
<v Speaker 1>friend because you're my yes guy. I want you to

0:31:48.560 --> 0:31:52.680
<v Speaker 1>be my friend because of who you are. But we

0:31:52.800 --> 0:31:54.440
<v Speaker 1>get this persona I don't want you to be I

0:31:54.480 --> 0:31:57.080
<v Speaker 1>don't want you to be my yes But don't shoot

0:31:57.120 --> 0:32:00.680
<v Speaker 1>me down to where I got fifteen people who won't

0:32:00.720 --> 0:32:03.400
<v Speaker 1>be my yes guy. But damn, you're also not encouraging

0:32:03.440 --> 0:32:12.240
<v Speaker 1>me either. We never said wouldn't. That's what That's what

0:32:12.320 --> 0:32:16.480
<v Speaker 1>I was thinking to. But yeah, I'm sitting I'm just coming.

0:32:17.320 --> 0:32:19.600
<v Speaker 1>Let's just walk this out. There is no right or wrong.

0:32:19.680 --> 0:32:22.880
<v Speaker 1>I'm just I'm being transparent to have a moment because

0:32:22.960 --> 0:32:25.520
<v Speaker 1>here's what I've heard. I'm the oldest. I'm an oldest,

0:32:25.600 --> 0:32:28.160
<v Speaker 1>and my family right. I love my mom. My mom

0:32:28.240 --> 0:32:32.160
<v Speaker 1>was a hard worker. I never had anybody shoulder to

0:32:32.240 --> 0:32:35.479
<v Speaker 1>cry on. I was the oldest at the cook, at

0:32:35.520 --> 0:32:40.560
<v Speaker 1>the clean to do everything makes sense. So everybody keeps

0:32:40.600 --> 0:32:43.440
<v Speaker 1>telling me they're not my yes guy. I'm not looking

0:32:43.480 --> 0:32:46.520
<v Speaker 1>for the yes people. But I also when I'm sitting

0:32:46.560 --> 0:32:50.240
<v Speaker 1>here thinking about it, sometimes I don't get no damn encouragement.

0:32:51.200 --> 0:32:54.080
<v Speaker 1>I don't get I don't get it. Like bro, I'm

0:32:54.120 --> 0:32:56.200
<v Speaker 1>proud of you that I really appreciate it and say,

0:32:56.200 --> 0:32:58.800
<v Speaker 1>you know, no, I ain't gonna be yes. I don't

0:32:58.840 --> 0:33:00.520
<v Speaker 1>want you to be my yes guy. So I never

0:33:00.640 --> 0:33:03.400
<v Speaker 1>wanted you to see that. I think part of that.

0:33:04.160 --> 0:33:05.640
<v Speaker 1>So I think part of that. Two different things can

0:33:05.680 --> 0:33:07.760
<v Speaker 1>happen at the same time. I can be your friend

0:33:08.360 --> 0:33:12.480
<v Speaker 1>and love you and still not just say something because

0:33:13.080 --> 0:33:14.920
<v Speaker 1>oh man, Steve thinks is a good idea. So something,

0:33:17.000 --> 0:33:19.400
<v Speaker 1>I understand what you're saying, but listen to my list.

0:33:19.960 --> 0:33:25.440
<v Speaker 1>But I'm here's what I'm listened to my heart. What

0:33:25.680 --> 0:33:30.080
<v Speaker 1>I'm trying to say is I don't care of what

0:33:30.280 --> 0:33:33.960
<v Speaker 1>you think. Is think the only reason you jee the

0:33:34.240 --> 0:33:37.480
<v Speaker 1>only reason I'm probably the only reason you're my fucking friend.

0:33:38.360 --> 0:33:40.440
<v Speaker 1>It's because of who you are who you are. I'm

0:33:40.480 --> 0:33:41.960
<v Speaker 1>not saying I want you to be my yes guy,

0:33:41.960 --> 0:33:44.120
<v Speaker 1>if I wanted you to, if I want, if I

0:33:44.240 --> 0:33:48.480
<v Speaker 1>wanted you to say yes, I want to ask you.

0:33:49.160 --> 0:33:51.000
<v Speaker 1>I don't ask somebody else that I think it's gonna

0:33:51.040 --> 0:33:53.160
<v Speaker 1>tell me. But I can because I'm your friend. I

0:33:53.200 --> 0:33:55.360
<v Speaker 1>can encourage you on one and wait, wait wait, I

0:33:55.440 --> 0:33:57.959
<v Speaker 1>can encourage you. I can encourage you on one thing

0:33:58.080 --> 0:34:01.200
<v Speaker 1>you're encouraging, but I can you can do two things

0:34:01.240 --> 0:34:03.080
<v Speaker 1>at the same time. There are times when I encourage you.

0:34:03.240 --> 0:34:04.880
<v Speaker 1>There are times when I may say I don't know

0:34:04.920 --> 0:34:07.160
<v Speaker 1>about that, bro, because I love you, Because if I

0:34:07.320 --> 0:34:08.920
<v Speaker 1>because if I didn't love you, I would say I

0:34:08.960 --> 0:34:10.560
<v Speaker 1>don't give a do what you want to do. But

0:34:11.440 --> 0:34:15.399
<v Speaker 1>what you're saying is great, and you're filling up your cup.

0:34:16.120 --> 0:34:20.000
<v Speaker 1>But you have before you say, but you're not asking me,

0:34:20.160 --> 0:34:23.200
<v Speaker 1>and I'm speaking from the performer. You're asking me be

0:34:23.320 --> 0:34:25.279
<v Speaker 1>the person I'm being a person. Then you're telling me

0:34:25.360 --> 0:34:28.040
<v Speaker 1>as a performer, I'm filling you up. You're not filling

0:34:28.080 --> 0:34:30.080
<v Speaker 1>me up. I know how I beat. I know, like

0:34:30.200 --> 0:34:32.440
<v Speaker 1>at going on forty three, I know how I need

0:34:32.520 --> 0:34:36.120
<v Speaker 1>to be filled. You've been air quotes, not my yes. Guy,

0:34:36.360 --> 0:34:39.000
<v Speaker 1>that's not filling me up. I'm also I don't I

0:34:39.040 --> 0:34:43.520
<v Speaker 1>don't want you to not to everything of the essence

0:34:43.680 --> 0:34:47.960
<v Speaker 1>of Joe, of trade of Kurt. Like I didn't ask

0:34:48.000 --> 0:34:49.960
<v Speaker 1>you all to be on the podcast because I thought

0:34:50.000 --> 0:34:53.080
<v Speaker 1>you're all gonna be the jackass of the podcast. I

0:34:53.200 --> 0:34:56.680
<v Speaker 1>asked you because we like to hear from authentic men

0:34:56.760 --> 0:35:00.680
<v Speaker 1>and women in which they have they bring substance to

0:35:00.800 --> 0:35:03.839
<v Speaker 1>the table. So as you're trying to play it out

0:35:03.920 --> 0:35:06.640
<v Speaker 1>in your mind of like I think I know what

0:35:06.880 --> 0:35:11.239
<v Speaker 1>Steve needs, Like everybody knows what Steve needs, but ain't

0:35:11.239 --> 0:35:15.800
<v Speaker 1>nobody asked Steve I can man, you were words of

0:35:15.880 --> 0:35:22.239
<v Speaker 1>affirmation love him, man, that's you. This is this is

0:35:22.320 --> 0:35:25.040
<v Speaker 1>this is this is what I hear like and this

0:35:25.200 --> 0:35:28.000
<v Speaker 1>goes into knowing somebody's background to get to know them.

0:35:28.080 --> 0:35:31.840
<v Speaker 1>But like him, being the oldest of the children, he

0:35:32.000 --> 0:35:35.439
<v Speaker 1>had nothing but blunt work that he shouldn't have had

0:35:35.520 --> 0:35:38.120
<v Speaker 1>to do. I've been doing since our seven you know

0:35:38.160 --> 0:35:41.799
<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying, but had but he had to do it. Um.

0:35:42.440 --> 0:35:45.319
<v Speaker 1>You usually you don't get a lot of love being

0:35:45.440 --> 0:35:48.520
<v Speaker 1>the oldest because you can do most of the stuff yourself.

0:35:49.480 --> 0:35:53.800
<v Speaker 1>Um and you hear right now Steve saying, Man, I

0:35:53.960 --> 0:35:58.000
<v Speaker 1>just want you all to love on me and talk

0:35:58.080 --> 0:36:00.320
<v Speaker 1>to me. You know what I'm saying. Don't what you

0:36:00.440 --> 0:36:04.279
<v Speaker 1>think I want to? Hear asked me personally, so I

0:36:04.440 --> 0:36:07.879
<v Speaker 1>can talk to you like like He's like, so, here's

0:36:08.040 --> 0:36:10.839
<v Speaker 1>here's what I mean. I was doing boxing the other

0:36:10.920 --> 0:36:14.000
<v Speaker 1>day and the first time I connected the dots. Bro

0:36:14.080 --> 0:36:17.279
<v Speaker 1>I'm tired of I'm tired of fight. So I was

0:36:17.360 --> 0:36:23.600
<v Speaker 1>boxing and shout out to Anthony, what it hits me

0:36:24.080 --> 0:36:28.520
<v Speaker 1>in the face? Right, my I was. I was giving

0:36:28.520 --> 0:36:32.239
<v Speaker 1>it that that and he and he hit me. I

0:36:32.320 --> 0:36:34.239
<v Speaker 1>saw and you know, I saw her out of my

0:36:34.320 --> 0:36:37.200
<v Speaker 1>priv I saw it coming, but I couldn't do anything,

0:36:37.800 --> 0:36:40.520
<v Speaker 1>so Bop hit me in the face. When he hit

0:36:40.600 --> 0:36:45.439
<v Speaker 1>me in the face, Old Steve was like, like, let's

0:36:45.480 --> 0:36:50.480
<v Speaker 1>go current my legs said, I don't care what you

0:36:50.600 --> 0:36:52.560
<v Speaker 1>think you're gonna happen. We just got hit in the face,

0:36:52.600 --> 0:36:58.800
<v Speaker 1>so we're going down right, you pictured that right, like

0:36:59.360 --> 0:37:06.360
<v Speaker 1>my legtion. Please you know what happened though when I

0:37:06.440 --> 0:37:10.719
<v Speaker 1>went into the corner, probably wanted to cry, damn not

0:37:11.000 --> 0:37:15.440
<v Speaker 1>because what he did hurt me. But I was like, wow,

0:37:16.840 --> 0:37:19.560
<v Speaker 1>I'm done fighting, And so what I had to do

0:37:19.719 --> 0:37:24.160
<v Speaker 1>is actually go back to my technique instead of trying

0:37:24.200 --> 0:37:27.319
<v Speaker 1>to throw haymakers, instead of trying to like I'm saying,

0:37:27.400 --> 0:37:32.279
<v Speaker 1>convince y'all of don't be my yes man. It's really

0:37:32.320 --> 0:37:35.320
<v Speaker 1>it's like I'm going back and going I gotta go

0:37:35.360 --> 0:37:38.440
<v Speaker 1>to my technique. I gotta go what I've been taught.

0:37:40.560 --> 0:37:43.520
<v Speaker 1>And so that that's why this conversation, like I piece

0:37:43.560 --> 0:37:47.360
<v Speaker 1>it together, that I'm saying is sometimes our insecurities and

0:37:47.640 --> 0:37:50.000
<v Speaker 1>we all bring something some kind of insecurity, all bring

0:37:50.120 --> 0:37:54.120
<v Speaker 1>some kind of wound of like we're telling ourselves what

0:37:54.239 --> 0:37:57.200
<v Speaker 1>the other person needs, and yeah, yet you don't even

0:37:57.239 --> 0:38:01.480
<v Speaker 1>ask the other person what they need because you are saying, well,

0:38:01.520 --> 0:38:04.440
<v Speaker 1>I know what he needs, he doesn't need anybody. That

0:38:04.600 --> 0:38:08.920
<v Speaker 1>he doesn't need any yes man. But if everybody knows me,

0:38:09.120 --> 0:38:13.400
<v Speaker 1>I'm authentic and only roll, we're real people anyway, So

0:38:13.640 --> 0:38:16.640
<v Speaker 1>why would I have any yes people? I actually have

0:38:16.800 --> 0:38:18.719
<v Speaker 1>a whole bunch of folks that will shoot me the

0:38:18.800 --> 0:38:22.960
<v Speaker 1>truth that I really aren't. I really am honored and privileged,

0:38:23.760 --> 0:38:25.680
<v Speaker 1>but I don't have any guys that really at the

0:38:25.800 --> 0:38:27.440
<v Speaker 1>end of it that I can call up and say, Man,

0:38:28.480 --> 0:38:32.440
<v Speaker 1>I see I need some encouragement today, right, Or maybe

0:38:32.719 --> 0:38:40.000
<v Speaker 1>it's I don't feel comfortable because sometimes we so much

0:38:40.080 --> 0:38:43.239
<v Speaker 1>into I'm not gonna be as yes man, and so

0:38:43.560 --> 0:38:45.879
<v Speaker 1>what I'm I'm not. I'm not saying that I need

0:38:46.000 --> 0:38:48.839
<v Speaker 1>that right now. But what I'm saying is like, y'all

0:38:48.840 --> 0:38:51.439
<v Speaker 1>are my yes man. But and I know that that's

0:38:51.480 --> 0:38:53.479
<v Speaker 1>one of the reasons why I picture as a fringe

0:38:53.520 --> 0:38:56.040
<v Speaker 1>g e like if you yes man, and we wouldn't

0:38:56.040 --> 0:38:59.960
<v Speaker 1>be friends. If you was a yes man, we wouldn't.

0:39:00.200 --> 0:39:03.839
<v Speaker 1>You will not be in my home brother, because you're untrustworthy.

0:39:03.880 --> 0:39:06.040
<v Speaker 1>If you're yes man, that means you're just here for

0:39:06.160 --> 0:39:12.360
<v Speaker 1>the benefit of the circumstances advice versa. You're not you

0:39:12.560 --> 0:39:16.000
<v Speaker 1>definitely yo. You definitely is not my yes man. You

0:39:16.200 --> 0:39:19.200
<v Speaker 1>you won't tell me yes even if I said you

0:39:19.280 --> 0:39:27.239
<v Speaker 1>won't go let me hope, right, and then obviously Joe

0:39:27.440 --> 0:39:30.520
<v Speaker 1>same thing. It's like, it's just I think we we

0:39:30.800 --> 0:39:35.920
<v Speaker 1>have we have conditioned ourselves to answer and know what

0:39:36.040 --> 0:39:40.440
<v Speaker 1>the other person needs without actually asking that individual, like

0:39:40.560 --> 0:39:43.040
<v Speaker 1>what do we need? Especially as men, and we don't

0:39:43.040 --> 0:39:47.839
<v Speaker 1>even know, specially because a lot of us either single home,

0:39:48.000 --> 0:39:53.400
<v Speaker 1>broken home, and there's no like, there's no the empathy

0:39:54.239 --> 0:39:57.880
<v Speaker 1>understanding how do you feel? How do they feel? We

0:39:57.960 --> 0:40:00.880
<v Speaker 1>don't really as men, we don't it into there because

0:40:01.600 --> 0:40:04.279
<v Speaker 1>a lot of us we feel unsafe. And I think

0:40:04.280 --> 0:40:06.879
<v Speaker 1>a lot of it we feel unsafe just me doing

0:40:06.960 --> 0:40:10.000
<v Speaker 1>myself out there, and we feel unsafe. It's because we're

0:40:10.200 --> 0:40:15.200
<v Speaker 1>so worried about Oh, I know, I'm gonna encourage you.

0:40:15.280 --> 0:40:21.279
<v Speaker 1>I'm not gonna be here. Yes man, Okay, Yeah, you've

0:40:21.320 --> 0:40:24.680
<v Speaker 1>proven that that's the whole purpose of our friendship. Yeah no,

0:40:25.000 --> 0:40:26.960
<v Speaker 1>And I agree with that, and and I think you

0:40:27.040 --> 0:40:29.520
<v Speaker 1>were you were kind of alluding to it. And I

0:40:29.640 --> 0:40:33.400
<v Speaker 1>think between our our environment of in football, like you

0:40:33.480 --> 0:40:37.200
<v Speaker 1>said that that affirmation, it's very clear like you could

0:40:37.880 --> 0:40:39.799
<v Speaker 1>you you go to practice, you have a game or whatever,

0:40:39.920 --> 0:40:41.680
<v Speaker 1>and your coach is either gonna tell you a great job,

0:40:42.080 --> 0:40:44.800
<v Speaker 1>that's a great play, Like you're gonna get that constantly.

0:40:45.040 --> 0:40:46.200
<v Speaker 1>And the one thing that I hear a lot of

0:40:46.280 --> 0:40:50.200
<v Speaker 1>in my home is like I'll do something and go

0:40:50.280 --> 0:40:52.239
<v Speaker 1>ahead and then and then she's like, what do you

0:40:52.280 --> 0:40:54.640
<v Speaker 1>want me to tell you? Thank you for that? I'm like, yeah,

0:40:54.800 --> 0:40:57.759
<v Speaker 1>ever did. But but it's it's it's kind of that

0:40:57.920 --> 0:41:00.480
<v Speaker 1>environment that we have, you know, on to play in

0:41:00.800 --> 0:41:04.359
<v Speaker 1>our whole life. Well, here's here's here's here's the thing.

0:41:04.840 --> 0:41:06.680
<v Speaker 1>Go ahead, But I want to finish with this though.

0:41:06.800 --> 0:41:09.040
<v Speaker 1>But um one thing that and I agree with you.

0:41:09.120 --> 0:41:11.360
<v Speaker 1>You're not gonna surround yourself with someone that's just always

0:41:11.400 --> 0:41:13.359
<v Speaker 1>gonna tell you. Yes, like you're not. You're not gonna

0:41:13.400 --> 0:41:17.600
<v Speaker 1>surround yourself, but you circling. Man, That's what I'm saying.

0:41:19.120 --> 0:41:20.759
<v Speaker 1>But we just talk about here. But I know I

0:41:20.840 --> 0:41:23.960
<v Speaker 1>know from myself, regardless of whether you want to hear

0:41:23.960 --> 0:41:25.600
<v Speaker 1>it or not, I'm gonna speak in truth and love.

0:41:26.120 --> 0:41:28.520
<v Speaker 1>And so my truth maybe that, yes, that you're looking

0:41:28.600 --> 0:41:31.040
<v Speaker 1>for that truth. Maybe that I never said I was

0:41:31.080 --> 0:41:35.520
<v Speaker 1>looking for that, but yeah, but you but I get

0:41:35.560 --> 0:41:37.800
<v Speaker 1>what we're saying. But you but you, But I know

0:41:37.960 --> 0:41:39.440
<v Speaker 1>I get what you're saying now because you did a

0:41:39.480 --> 0:41:41.759
<v Speaker 1>good job of explain it. But I think what you

0:41:41.840 --> 0:41:43.560
<v Speaker 1>were trying to say earlier is just that truth and love.

0:41:43.640 --> 0:41:45.600
<v Speaker 1>So sometimes it could be yes, sometimes it could be no,

0:41:45.880 --> 0:41:48.600
<v Speaker 1>but you it's just the simple task of you, like

0:41:49.280 --> 0:41:51.360
<v Speaker 1>you killed this podcast something like that. It's just like,

0:41:52.200 --> 0:41:55.399
<v Speaker 1>but I'm not talking I'm not talking about giving, I'm

0:41:55.440 --> 0:41:58.200
<v Speaker 1>not talking about addressing the symptoms. I'm not talking about

0:41:58.200 --> 0:42:02.520
<v Speaker 1>the system. When I'm talking about is the deep rooted issue.

0:42:02.560 --> 0:42:06.080
<v Speaker 1>I'm talking about the manhood of In this regard, Bro,

0:42:06.239 --> 0:42:09.319
<v Speaker 1>I personally struggle sometimes with my relationship with my dad

0:42:09.920 --> 0:42:13.400
<v Speaker 1>because I see the relationship that I have with my boys. Okay,

0:42:14.000 --> 0:42:16.640
<v Speaker 1>so there are sometimes I walk out of my boys

0:42:16.760 --> 0:42:20.400
<v Speaker 1>room teary eyed because I know what I have with

0:42:20.560 --> 0:42:25.200
<v Speaker 1>my boys as a father and son. But there are times, Bro,

0:42:25.440 --> 0:42:29.359
<v Speaker 1>I break down because I know what I'm missing as

0:42:29.400 --> 0:42:32.680
<v Speaker 1>a as a son, because I see the example of

0:42:32.760 --> 0:42:36.000
<v Speaker 1>myself to my kids. But then I'm missing as a son,

0:42:36.440 --> 0:42:38.360
<v Speaker 1>but I'm able to connect as a father. So I'm like,

0:42:38.719 --> 0:42:41.480
<v Speaker 1>I'm going between a don't child and don't child child

0:42:41.520 --> 0:42:45.880
<v Speaker 1>adult between giving them a kiss, laying them down, and

0:42:45.960 --> 0:42:48.840
<v Speaker 1>walking out of their room. That much I battle inside

0:42:49.800 --> 0:42:52.360
<v Speaker 1>and so all all I'm saying is I'm not like

0:42:52.560 --> 0:42:55.640
<v Speaker 1>I don't we use the word given truth and love,

0:42:56.280 --> 0:42:59.200
<v Speaker 1>but sometimes what if your truth and love you sometimes you,

0:43:00.480 --> 0:43:03.080
<v Speaker 1>or you believe that you're believing like I need to

0:43:03.160 --> 0:43:06.160
<v Speaker 1>give him the truth or I'm loving you this way

0:43:06.760 --> 0:43:10.839
<v Speaker 1>I love. But the truth is I know you give

0:43:10.880 --> 0:43:13.600
<v Speaker 1>me the loving truth because we have a true friendship.

0:43:13.680 --> 0:43:15.759
<v Speaker 1>So why do you have to reprove something that you've

0:43:15.800 --> 0:43:18.440
<v Speaker 1>already proven. That's why I'm able to share with you.

0:43:19.080 --> 0:43:24.480
<v Speaker 1>While we're talking like we we are, we're over processing

0:43:24.520 --> 0:43:26.759
<v Speaker 1>it to where we can't especially as men. I'm just

0:43:26.800 --> 0:43:29.839
<v Speaker 1>talking about as men. And it it hit me last week.

0:43:29.920 --> 0:43:32.239
<v Speaker 1>It hit me in my face where I wanted to

0:43:32.280 --> 0:43:33.960
<v Speaker 1>fight back, but I said, I didn't want to fight back.

0:43:34.000 --> 0:43:38.040
<v Speaker 1>But yet y'all know, Oh, I know what he wants

0:43:38.080 --> 0:43:41.120
<v Speaker 1>to do, and I'm saying at that moment, I don't

0:43:41.160 --> 0:43:43.880
<v Speaker 1>even know because my mind and my heart said, let's go.

0:43:44.200 --> 0:43:48.080
<v Speaker 1>My legs said, boys, stop, you see what I'm saying,

0:43:49.520 --> 0:43:52.600
<v Speaker 1>And that's all. It's just that we could talk circles,

0:43:52.680 --> 0:43:54.680
<v Speaker 1>but we're saying the same thing. But I'm I'm just saying,

0:43:54.800 --> 0:43:59.080
<v Speaker 1>let's stop assuming what we know that the other person needs,

0:44:00.000 --> 0:44:02.680
<v Speaker 1>because sometimes the other person is just taking me forty

0:44:02.760 --> 0:44:04.440
<v Speaker 1>three years to figure out what I just need and

0:44:04.480 --> 0:44:08.560
<v Speaker 1>I'm just processing figuring out So what you just need.

0:44:08.719 --> 0:44:12.759
<v Speaker 1>Does that change? Absolutely? Changed every day we're human. But

0:44:12.920 --> 0:44:16.319
<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying is what we need to stop doing,

0:44:16.960 --> 0:44:20.040
<v Speaker 1>Like I need to stop telling trade what I know

0:44:20.200 --> 0:44:26.759
<v Speaker 1>Trade needs and his shoes. Yeah, good, do it good,

0:44:26.880 --> 0:44:32.080
<v Speaker 1>do it, get down to do it good. Hey Gerard,

0:44:32.239 --> 0:44:34.960
<v Speaker 1>why didn't you get that T shirt? You mean this thing? Oh? Yes,

0:44:35.360 --> 0:44:37.319
<v Speaker 1>I got it from cut to a podcast dot com

0:44:37.400 --> 0:44:40.480
<v Speaker 1>where we have exclusive merchandise. Shout out to our guys

0:44:40.520 --> 0:44:42.200
<v Speaker 1>at seven or four shot. But yeah, you can go on,

0:44:42.680 --> 0:44:44.960
<v Speaker 1>buy you a T shirt, subscribe to us wherever you

0:44:45.040 --> 0:44:50.479
<v Speaker 1>listen to podcasts Carolina the Panthers. You know, what's what's

0:44:50.600 --> 0:44:54.680
<v Speaker 1>what's your most memorable time? Because you know, obviously you've

0:44:54.680 --> 0:44:59.000
<v Speaker 1>been in Carolina Pather longer than you've been anywhere else. Right,

0:45:00.600 --> 0:45:06.080
<v Speaker 1>how would you three words to describe being a Carolina Pather?

0:45:10.239 --> 0:45:20.840
<v Speaker 1>I would say honor okay. I would say integrity okay.

0:45:23.640 --> 0:45:28.560
<v Speaker 1>And you said integrity yeah, integrity as a Carolina Panther Yeah,

0:45:28.920 --> 0:45:32.400
<v Speaker 1>gett A man was still a gentleman. Oh sorry, listen man, listen,

0:45:32.800 --> 0:45:37.880
<v Speaker 1>they cut me too. They cut me, they give but

0:45:38.440 --> 0:45:47.960
<v Speaker 1>um um. And I would say a brotherhood, yeah, Kurt. Three,

0:45:48.320 --> 0:45:56.719
<v Speaker 1>I would say number one was life changing. Look, so

0:45:56.840 --> 0:46:03.239
<v Speaker 1>as you said, that's so as you saying, I was,

0:46:03.400 --> 0:46:06.799
<v Speaker 1>I was this time, who's the smart people in the room?

0:46:06.880 --> 0:46:09.320
<v Speaker 1>Is that one word or two? When you hyphenated it

0:46:09.400 --> 0:46:13.920
<v Speaker 1>becomes one. So he found a loop. But when he

0:46:14.000 --> 0:46:21.960
<v Speaker 1>said it though, we'll get into that later. Short he's

0:46:22.040 --> 0:46:24.400
<v Speaker 1>changing it. No, I'm not changing anything. I'm sticking to

0:46:24.520 --> 0:46:26.719
<v Speaker 1>my word. I just like what he's saying. Try got

0:46:26.760 --> 0:46:33.000
<v Speaker 1>six words now, broad and Tray is agreeing with all

0:46:33.040 --> 0:46:37.480
<v Speaker 1>of them. I gotta run on. I like Tray is

0:46:37.520 --> 0:46:40.680
<v Speaker 1>the he's the worst hype man. I like you can

0:46:40.760 --> 0:46:51.080
<v Speaker 1>see blest show. Yes, like I needed a blest I

0:46:51.200 --> 0:46:56.000
<v Speaker 1>gave it to you said it was it was fun. Yeah, yeah,

0:46:59.320 --> 0:47:01.640
<v Speaker 1>I just say, oh no, I was gonna make it

0:47:01.719 --> 0:47:03.440
<v Speaker 1>my third. I was like, man, I gotta be smart. Man.

0:47:03.480 --> 0:47:10.680
<v Speaker 1>You see my words got the whole wordly wise, word

0:47:10.760 --> 0:47:13.360
<v Speaker 1>of the word of the day. Let me get that

0:47:13.440 --> 0:47:18.399
<v Speaker 1>word of a day. Yeah man, in the words, man,

0:47:19.920 --> 0:47:24.960
<v Speaker 1>I didn't. I wasn't debating it. You guys focused on

0:47:27.840 --> 0:47:32.160
<v Speaker 1>why is going to the super Bowl, going to the

0:47:32.239 --> 0:47:41.960
<v Speaker 1>playoffs considered the pinnacle? Give me just one word you

0:47:42.040 --> 0:47:44.239
<v Speaker 1>can use trying to explain to this well I'm trying

0:47:44.280 --> 0:47:47.520
<v Speaker 1>to because it's like, oh, man, that two thousand fifteen

0:47:47.600 --> 0:47:49.640
<v Speaker 1>I was special. How many years you're playing in the league.

0:47:50.880 --> 0:47:53.040
<v Speaker 1>You're telling me only one out of your ten was special.

0:47:56.080 --> 0:48:01.640
<v Speaker 1>I feel you saying it's definitely the most special. Both special.

0:48:01.840 --> 0:48:08.560
<v Speaker 1>It's not because I'll hear people saying they're like, oh

0:48:08.719 --> 0:48:16.719
<v Speaker 1>my proudest moment that what happened. Something happened obviously in fourteen,

0:48:17.680 --> 0:48:19.719
<v Speaker 1>that it's for the people, the guys that are on

0:48:19.800 --> 0:48:26.120
<v Speaker 1>the team and they're translating into something great. But then

0:48:26.200 --> 0:48:30.800
<v Speaker 1>if you're on the team before you saw some things

0:48:32.160 --> 0:48:36.520
<v Speaker 1>percolat in thirteen that made you say, hey, we're gonna

0:48:36.520 --> 0:48:41.040
<v Speaker 1>stay in fourteen, and then you know what it was

0:48:41.080 --> 0:48:43.239
<v Speaker 1>worth it and we we reached in the fifteen. But

0:48:43.320 --> 0:48:45.759
<v Speaker 1>then I can go backwards even further and even like, man,

0:48:47.480 --> 0:48:49.960
<v Speaker 1>well now you know what I mean. So that so

0:48:50.320 --> 0:48:52.400
<v Speaker 1>the Sames point, what were some of your proudest moments

0:48:52.760 --> 0:48:56.840
<v Speaker 1>outside of okay, outside of it. When I was with

0:48:57.040 --> 0:49:00.640
<v Speaker 1>l A Chargers, that was probably one of the like

0:49:00.960 --> 0:49:05.480
<v Speaker 1>funniest times I've had playing football. Like we had. You

0:49:05.560 --> 0:49:08.000
<v Speaker 1>got to cast the characters, some of them, name some

0:49:08.120 --> 0:49:10.720
<v Speaker 1>of them guys. So let me So we had twelve

0:49:10.800 --> 0:49:13.400
<v Speaker 1>guys from Florida, and if you know, being from Florida,

0:49:13.400 --> 0:49:16.799
<v Speaker 1>if you get other Florida guys around you, it's gonna,

0:49:16.800 --> 0:49:18.880
<v Speaker 1>We're gonna it's gonna be like high school all over again.

0:49:19.160 --> 0:49:22.759
<v Speaker 1>And one we haven't you don't really get that fun

0:49:22.880 --> 0:49:25.000
<v Speaker 1>feel in the league because really, by business, you might

0:49:25.000 --> 0:49:27.279
<v Speaker 1>be around a guy like Steve who don't want you

0:49:27.400 --> 0:49:29.520
<v Speaker 1>to dance and ship, make tiktoks, you know what I mean.

0:49:30.200 --> 0:49:33.520
<v Speaker 1>He might want to, but he that um. But we

0:49:33.640 --> 0:49:37.920
<v Speaker 1>had let's say, Keenan Allen, Melvin Ingram Uh, it's a

0:49:38.000 --> 0:49:46.680
<v Speaker 1>little die Casey Hayward, Rayshon Jenkins, Desmond King. Let me see,

0:49:48.320 --> 0:49:50.800
<v Speaker 1>I'm trying to think who else we had. Brandon Maybean

0:49:51.600 --> 0:49:57.239
<v Speaker 1>is a o g um core legit. We had a

0:49:57.320 --> 0:50:01.719
<v Speaker 1>few guys man so Travis Benjamin offense as well. So

0:50:01.800 --> 0:50:03.680
<v Speaker 1>we had a plethora of guys who man, we were

0:50:03.800 --> 0:50:07.200
<v Speaker 1>truly not from the same area to most of us,

0:50:07.239 --> 0:50:10.239
<v Speaker 1>at least South Florida high school or y'all played against

0:50:10.280 --> 0:50:11.799
<v Speaker 1>each other in high school. Most of them boys played

0:50:11.800 --> 0:50:15.560
<v Speaker 1>against each other. I ain't played against were Southwest, Yeah, Wenna,

0:50:15.719 --> 0:50:17.560
<v Speaker 1>I don't know, I don't know the different and I'm

0:50:17.560 --> 0:50:22.360
<v Speaker 1>just answering, bro, it's all good. Hey that um so. So,

0:50:22.680 --> 0:50:24.800
<v Speaker 1>I think that was the most fun we had playing football.

0:50:24.920 --> 0:50:26.640
<v Speaker 1>And I was also on the virgin of That was

0:50:26.719 --> 0:50:29.080
<v Speaker 1>my fourth year, so it was fun like time for

0:50:29.120 --> 0:50:31.680
<v Speaker 1>me to take the next step. Um so, Not only

0:50:31.960 --> 0:50:36.400
<v Speaker 1>was it um fourth year in the league, yeah, um so,

0:50:36.520 --> 0:50:38.680
<v Speaker 1>I end up taking a step in how I played.

0:50:39.080 --> 0:50:41.880
<v Speaker 1>UM stats went up. I think it finished the season

0:50:41.960 --> 0:50:44.960
<v Speaker 1>with five an t s. I think like second on

0:50:45.040 --> 0:50:47.480
<v Speaker 1>the team and tackles, you know, so just being able

0:50:47.480 --> 0:50:49.520
<v Speaker 1>to have fun and play well. On top of that,

0:50:50.960 --> 0:50:52.680
<v Speaker 1>I was always in my career I wanted to go.

0:50:52.880 --> 0:50:55.799
<v Speaker 1>I always wanted to go somewhere else because I had

0:50:56.520 --> 0:51:02.400
<v Speaker 1>had UM I like Carolina, but I always had this

0:51:02.920 --> 0:51:06.959
<v Speaker 1>thought that I always wanted to experience. I've always wanted

0:51:07.000 --> 0:51:09.839
<v Speaker 1>to experience or see different stuff. I didn't want people

0:51:09.880 --> 0:51:12.160
<v Speaker 1>to say, well, I don't even want to be in Carolina,

0:51:12.320 --> 0:51:13.880
<v Speaker 1>or you know, there's some people I only want to

0:51:13.920 --> 0:51:18.239
<v Speaker 1>live here, like I want to see the world, and

0:51:18.320 --> 0:51:21.400
<v Speaker 1>I also want to see the world, and you know,

0:51:21.560 --> 0:51:25.640
<v Speaker 1>through through a professional lens that affords me the opportunity

0:51:25.760 --> 0:51:29.400
<v Speaker 1>and through a different professional lens, and so you know,

0:51:29.520 --> 0:51:31.759
<v Speaker 1>some people love it. Some people don't, you know. And

0:51:32.040 --> 0:51:35.440
<v Speaker 1>obviously if you're chasing it with the wrong intent, you

0:51:35.560 --> 0:51:40.600
<v Speaker 1>find yourself and some marriage. And that leads me to Arizona.

0:51:40.760 --> 0:51:44.680
<v Speaker 1>Was one of those places for you on Arizona was cool? Man,

0:51:45.080 --> 0:51:48.320
<v Speaker 1>Um Arizona. How did you make that decision to pick Arizona?

0:51:48.560 --> 0:51:50.360
<v Speaker 1>Take us back in that time you're talking about the

0:51:50.400 --> 0:51:54.360
<v Speaker 1>gas station. Yeah, that's how it was. We'll take us

0:51:54.400 --> 0:51:57.719
<v Speaker 1>through that process then. Okay. So when I first got

0:51:57.760 --> 0:52:01.200
<v Speaker 1>released from the Panthers, uh my three last twice and

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<v Speaker 1>up being um like Pit Chargers and then Buffalo, I

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<v Speaker 1>had went to Pit and I had to go to

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<v Speaker 1>Chargers and I was gonna fly straight into Buffalo. So

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<v Speaker 1>I'm flying back home from Buffalo after the full round trip,

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<v Speaker 1>and I had just prayed to God, like, God, give

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<v Speaker 1>me a sign. And I had heard so many times

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<v Speaker 1>from people like when you pray for that sign, be

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<v Speaker 1>ready to see it because it's gonna slap you in

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<v Speaker 1>the face. And that's gonna be what you you know

0:52:30.200 --> 0:52:33.160
<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying, So UM, I pray for that on

0:52:33.239 --> 0:52:36.120
<v Speaker 1>the plane ride back, and on the plane ride back,

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<v Speaker 1>I land and I'm going down Wilkinson and I stopped

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<v Speaker 1>at that quick trip. That quick trip, I'm looking at

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<v Speaker 1>gas and the gas. Yeah, I'm in the third lane

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<v Speaker 1>from the rock across street from the to the super

0:52:52.280 --> 0:52:54.760
<v Speaker 1>wal mart. And you best be careful. Best to be careful.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm saying. I'm good. So I see two nineteen for

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<v Speaker 1>gas prices. It was like, so it wasn't in twenty

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<v Speaker 1>two you got that. I ain't realized time. You haven't

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<v Speaker 1>think about gas prices. I ain't a lot of kind

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<v Speaker 1>of hot bay. They had to be. They had to

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<v Speaker 1>be three nineteen. Then it got to be so okay,

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<v Speaker 1>So it was like twenty cents less than what it was, right.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm like, I look, oh, I got half a tank.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, well, shoot, let me get the rest of

0:53:27.920 --> 0:53:35.640
<v Speaker 1>the half. Skirt in a listen, come on to kiddy

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<v Speaker 1>about the gas, all right. So I pulled up at

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<v Speaker 1>the pump and um, I start pumping my gas. Um,

0:53:46.000 --> 0:53:48.279
<v Speaker 1>A guy pulls up next to me and he just

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<v Speaker 1>asked me for a couple of dollars and he pulled

0:53:52.640 --> 0:53:54.759
<v Speaker 1>up like in the next pump. So if you if

0:53:54.840 --> 0:53:56.279
<v Speaker 1>you know, if you're pumping your gas, and they pull

0:53:56.360 --> 0:53:57.880
<v Speaker 1>up on the other side of the pump. So he

0:53:57.880 --> 0:53:59.320
<v Speaker 1>puts up on the other side of the pump and

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<v Speaker 1>he asked, you know, for a couple of dollars. Man,

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<v Speaker 1>he got three kids in the bat and you know,

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<v Speaker 1>he just need a couple of dollars or some lunch

0:54:05.080 --> 0:54:09.160
<v Speaker 1>me to get get it from Walmart. I'm like, bro,

0:54:09.680 --> 0:54:11.440
<v Speaker 1>I got you, you know what I mean. Like, So

0:54:11.520 --> 0:54:13.840
<v Speaker 1>I go on my wallet. Um well, I go to

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<v Speaker 1>go to the car and I see like, um, like

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<v Speaker 1>a Jesus saves the word like and if you know

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<v Speaker 1>the guy he uptown, he always leaves Jesus saves. So

0:54:27.200 --> 0:54:29.359
<v Speaker 1>I see the Jesus saves like where you can get

0:54:29.440 --> 0:54:33.640
<v Speaker 1>like the infra infra mail for like the cars for gas.

0:54:34.239 --> 0:54:35.920
<v Speaker 1>So I see that, you say, it's like whoa, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what I mean. Like, So, I'm like, that's I'm

0:54:37.880 --> 0:54:39.600
<v Speaker 1>coming back out with the money. I'm thinking already, like

0:54:40.880 --> 0:54:43.600
<v Speaker 1>use this tight, Like I don't know what it's gonna be,

0:54:43.719 --> 0:54:45.359
<v Speaker 1>but this is this is the moment, like it got

0:54:45.480 --> 0:54:48.080
<v Speaker 1>to be. So I come back over to him. I

0:54:48.160 --> 0:54:50.920
<v Speaker 1>given them money. He says, man, thank you. You know.

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<v Speaker 1>Um we end up chopping it up. He tells me

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<v Speaker 1>his name, and when he's chopping it up with me.

0:54:57.800 --> 0:55:01.040
<v Speaker 1>I'm instantly thinking, like, what do I say, Lord, what

0:55:01.200 --> 0:55:03.200
<v Speaker 1>do I ask him? Should I ask him A or B?

0:55:03.520 --> 0:55:07.480
<v Speaker 1>That's gonna be Chargers or Buffalo? Stranger? Stranger? I was

0:55:07.480 --> 0:55:11.279
<v Speaker 1>gonna ask a stranger this he he ends up so

0:55:11.760 --> 0:55:13.200
<v Speaker 1>or I was gonna say, should I just go l

0:55:13.239 --> 0:55:16.480
<v Speaker 1>A or Buffalo? Just tell him? So before I can

0:55:16.520 --> 0:55:18.800
<v Speaker 1>get anything out of my mouth? Are you assuming he

0:55:18.920 --> 0:55:21.040
<v Speaker 1>knows who you are? He does not know who I

0:55:21.080 --> 0:55:24.080
<v Speaker 1>am even better, so so I'm just chopping up with him.

0:55:24.880 --> 0:55:27.440
<v Speaker 1>So you're telling a complete stranger your whole life. I

0:55:27.520 --> 0:55:30.560
<v Speaker 1>ain't told him nothing yet. I'm just trying to follow No, no, no,

0:55:30.680 --> 0:55:32.640
<v Speaker 1>I got you. I got you. Ain't told him nothing yet,

0:55:32.719 --> 0:55:34.920
<v Speaker 1>So I in my mind, I'm already saying God is

0:55:34.920 --> 0:55:37.560
<v Speaker 1>about to use me, because I've seen Jesus say it's

0:55:37.600 --> 0:55:39.799
<v Speaker 1>on the thing. So I'm already like, all right, come

0:55:39.840 --> 0:55:42.360
<v Speaker 1>on to sit. Before I can ask him A or

0:55:42.400 --> 0:55:45.120
<v Speaker 1>B or l A buffalo? He says, Man, he said,

0:55:45.239 --> 0:55:47.680
<v Speaker 1>my name is Mike Daniels. The people call me l A.

0:55:49.200 --> 0:55:54.760
<v Speaker 1>And I'm like like stunned, like mouth open, like shoot,

0:55:55.080 --> 0:55:58.000
<v Speaker 1>like whoa? Hold up? So I'm chopping up with him

0:55:58.040 --> 0:56:00.080
<v Speaker 1>a little bit more. We're going about thirty minut this

0:56:00.520 --> 0:56:04.720
<v Speaker 1>uh just chopping up, like getting to know about his family,

0:56:05.920 --> 0:56:08.160
<v Speaker 1>legitimate questions, Go ahead, go ahead, that's just kind of

0:56:08.200 --> 0:56:11.560
<v Speaker 1>hot thing. So you're doing all this talking and you

0:56:12.360 --> 0:56:15.840
<v Speaker 1>feel like you got the Lord is using him. Absolutely,

0:56:16.160 --> 0:56:17.960
<v Speaker 1>you just gave him three dollars. No, no, no, I

0:56:18.280 --> 0:56:21.160
<v Speaker 1>came like forwarded at that time. I'll just making sure, no,

0:56:21.440 --> 0:56:24.680
<v Speaker 1>make sure for three dollars. He's killing all this time.

0:56:25.200 --> 0:56:27.319
<v Speaker 1>You just didn't give him. Come on, man, I got you, bro,

0:56:27.480 --> 0:56:29.279
<v Speaker 1>So God using us, you know what I mean. So

0:56:29.560 --> 0:56:31.080
<v Speaker 1>that's why I was at no, no, no, I got you.

0:56:31.160 --> 0:56:32.600
<v Speaker 1>I got you, so I give him. This is the

0:56:32.719 --> 0:56:34.400
<v Speaker 1>forty before we even start talking on you know what

0:56:34.400 --> 0:56:38.799
<v Speaker 1>I'm saying. So now we're chopping it up. In thirty

0:56:38.840 --> 0:56:42.000
<v Speaker 1>minutes later, we finally get done um telling me about

0:56:42.040 --> 0:56:46.600
<v Speaker 1>his kids, all that good stuff, and he's about to leave. Well,

0:56:48.160 --> 0:56:53.360
<v Speaker 1>he drove a charger like the car, the car l A.

0:56:53.920 --> 0:56:56.520
<v Speaker 1>It's all the coincidence, but it's your car. They make

0:56:56.560 --> 0:57:00.319
<v Speaker 1>several But again, if you don't want if you asked

0:57:00.360 --> 0:57:03.440
<v Speaker 1>God to get you a sign, I knew what time

0:57:03.480 --> 0:57:06.080
<v Speaker 1>it was. Like some people can play with it like hah,

0:57:06.400 --> 0:57:08.320
<v Speaker 1>but I knew I want to know. I know you know,

0:57:08.400 --> 0:57:10.879
<v Speaker 1>I know you're not. But that's how it happens in life.

0:57:10.920 --> 0:57:13.160
<v Speaker 1>You know, people think it would be silly stuff like that,

0:57:13.280 --> 0:57:16.320
<v Speaker 1>but it can be. Gud was talking through bushes, you

0:57:16.360 --> 0:57:19.000
<v Speaker 1>know what I'm saying, Like, so for me to see

0:57:19.040 --> 0:57:23.080
<v Speaker 1>the l A charger l A Chargers and then, um,

0:57:23.440 --> 0:57:26.360
<v Speaker 1>the gas pump that he pulled up to did not

0:57:26.560 --> 0:57:29.080
<v Speaker 1>have gas like it had the yellow bag on it.

0:57:29.320 --> 0:57:31.200
<v Speaker 1>So I have all these gas pumps you could have

0:57:31.240 --> 0:57:33.960
<v Speaker 1>pulled up to. You pulled up to mine to tell

0:57:34.040 --> 0:57:38.520
<v Speaker 1>me l A Chargers driving the charger might now like

0:57:38.800 --> 0:57:41.960
<v Speaker 1>getting to really see my testimony right there. And then

0:57:42.120 --> 0:57:43.640
<v Speaker 1>when I was done, I gave him like a total

0:57:43.880 --> 0:57:46.600
<v Speaker 1>hundred dollars. I know what Steve want to to Uh

0:57:46.840 --> 0:57:50.360
<v Speaker 1>now I'm just playing, bro, Damn listen. Oh that's like

0:57:50.480 --> 0:57:54.760
<v Speaker 1>get on you know. So I finished. I finished that.

0:57:56.000 --> 0:57:58.520
<v Speaker 1>I finished that, Bro, Instantly, I get on the phone.

0:57:58.600 --> 0:58:00.640
<v Speaker 1>I'm crying, I'm boo hooing. I'm telling my wife like, yeah,

0:58:00.640 --> 0:58:02.160
<v Speaker 1>I already know what we're gonna go. And at the

0:58:02.240 --> 0:58:06.960
<v Speaker 1>time I was fighting, um my idol being money and

0:58:08.960 --> 0:58:11.640
<v Speaker 1>everywhere else I had been offered more money to go

0:58:11.800 --> 0:58:16.080
<v Speaker 1>to but God told me go to l A. And

0:58:16.240 --> 0:58:19.040
<v Speaker 1>I promised, Like I already knew. He was telling me, like,

0:58:19.080 --> 0:58:20.680
<v Speaker 1>you're gonna get everything you want. Just go to l A.

0:58:20.800 --> 0:58:22.760
<v Speaker 1>Listen to me, and again I go to l A.

0:58:22.920 --> 0:58:25.480
<v Speaker 1>Had my best season, my funny season. I tell you

0:58:25.520 --> 0:58:29.080
<v Speaker 1>all about girl that love for um just who I am.

0:58:29.560 --> 0:58:31.480
<v Speaker 1>Just being able to give the gospel on the other

0:58:31.520 --> 0:58:34.040
<v Speaker 1>side of the world to the West coast, just uh,

0:58:34.400 --> 0:58:36.320
<v Speaker 1>you know, seeing where those guys are to this day,

0:58:36.400 --> 0:58:39.480
<v Speaker 1>building those relationships. Um, I knew God was using me

0:58:39.560 --> 0:58:42.360
<v Speaker 1>for that, for that role, and you know, I appreciate him.

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<v Speaker 1>Shout out to God. That's that's cool. That's cool, all right,

0:58:46.080 --> 0:58:51.920
<v Speaker 1>we'll appreciate it. Yeah, man, appreciate God bless you are

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<v Speaker 1>a unique person. You are well worth it. You are

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<v Speaker 1>competent and most of all, your lovable. I'm Steve smith Singer.

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