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Speaker 1: First date of follow up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 2: Jesse is on the phone today for her first day

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Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by a girl named Danica.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we'll call her and see

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Speaker 2: if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe

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Speaker 2: get him another date. But first, Jesse, how long has

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Speaker 2: it been since you heard from her.

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Speaker 3: I've been about a week now, Okay.

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Speaker 4: What was your last interaction with her?

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Speaker 3: We went on a date to a baseball game and

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Speaker 3: it's then we hugged for a pretty long period of

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Speaker 3: time and did the French things on each cheek, and

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Speaker 3: she said that she was going to call me a

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Speaker 3: little bit later that night. And when I messaged her

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Speaker 3: the next day, because I just assumed, you know, she

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Speaker 3: got on with her friends, had a good time and

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Speaker 3: and tried again and a bit confused because I really

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Speaker 3: dig spending time with her, and I'm a bit shy

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Speaker 3: and I didn't feel that way around her specifically, So

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Speaker 3: that's always nice.

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Speaker 4: Well, why don't you tell us about the date then?

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Speaker 4: How did you guys meet and what happened.

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Speaker 3: So originally we met on the app, I think, trying

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Speaker 3: to find the right person and.

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Speaker 2: What ap was it? It was Tinder Okay, So.

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Speaker 3: We had like a good banter for a couple of weeks.

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Speaker 3: We both really liked baseball, so we thought, hey, how

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Speaker 3: about a low pressure day, we'll catch a game. We

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Speaker 3: get there, hot dogs beer. We ran into some of

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Speaker 3: our coworkers, which is a little bit of a bummer,

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Speaker 3: but I didn't say anything because you know, this is

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Speaker 3: the first time hanging out. We don't really know each

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Speaker 3: other that well. We spent the decent amount of time

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Speaker 3: was really just interested in getting to know her, not

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Speaker 3: and I don't want to, you know, be your friend.

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Speaker 3: I want to be something a little bit more than that.

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Speaker 3: I kind of ended up getting shy and I watched

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Speaker 3: interacting with her friends. And I hope that she didn't

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Speaker 3: take it that I don't like her friends or I

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Speaker 3: in my group settings like that where everybody knows each other,

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Speaker 3: and I'm a guy that's on a day with your friend.

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Speaker 3: So that's the only thing that I'm thinking that might

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Speaker 3: have gone wrong. Because we went back to our sheet.

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Speaker 3: We had a good time. At the end, she invited

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Speaker 3: I said I'd rather just spend some more time with her.

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Speaker 3: So we had an extra drink and then she said, hey,

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Speaker 3: I really should get going to my friends because it's

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Speaker 3: good for work. And I find that remarkably attractive in

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Speaker 3: I was all for that. I even stuck around that

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Speaker 3: she got a chance to meet up with their work

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Speaker 4: So that's when she was supposed to call you again.

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Speaker 4: After that.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, she su she was gonna call me after she

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Speaker 3: hung out with her friends if I was still in

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Speaker 3: I wanted to stick around the area. I just didn't

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Speaker 1: I mean, it's a lot of pressure on the first

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Speaker 4: Yeah, you know you're being.

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Speaker 2: Judge, So why do you think you're getting ghosted?

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Speaker 3: I think it might have just been the fact that

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Speaker 3: I was a bit shy around her friends, and that

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Speaker 3: obviously not an attractive thing to say when you're trying

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Speaker 3: to go out and aren't. Hey, I get a bit shy,

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Speaker 1: And I mean, I can see not wanting to share

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Speaker 1: that right away. All right, well, we'll see if we

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Speaker 1: can figure it out for you.

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Speaker 2: We'll play a song come Back, and then call her

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Speaker 2: and see what she'll tell us why she's ghosting you,

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Speaker 2: and then get you another date if you still want one. Okay,

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Speaker 2: all right, all right, we'll play a song come Back,

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Speaker 2: get your first date, follow up next. In the middle

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Speaker 2: of your first date follow up, if you're just joining us,

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Speaker 2: Jesse is on the phone. He's getting ghosted by Danica.

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Speaker 2: So in a second we're going to call her and

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Speaker 2: see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him and

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Speaker 2: maybe get him another date. But before we do that, Jesse,

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Speaker 2: why don't you refresh everybody's memory on your date with Danica.

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Speaker 3: I met Danica Tinder and uh we dam meeting up

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Speaker 3: at a baseball game. We hung out with her and

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Speaker 3: we had some great quality time by herself. I was

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Speaker 3: supposed to hear from her later that day, but it's

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Speaker 3: been about a week and I still haven't heard from her.

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Speaker 2: All right, you ready to call her?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? I'm hoping. Uh, you guys can help me out

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Speaker 3: because she's really someone sushion me too.

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Speaker 2: All right, here we go. Are you ready? I'm going

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Speaker 2: to call her right now?

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Speaker 4: Hello?

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Speaker 2: Hi, ma, speak to Danica. Please. Yes, this is hi Danica.

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Speaker 4: How are you?

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Speaker 1: My name is Jewbil. I'm calling from a radio show.

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Speaker 1: It's called the Jeubil Show. Whole show is here, Danica. Hi,

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Speaker 1: my name's Nina. Hi, I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 5: Oh hi, how are you not much?

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Speaker 2: Just chilling?

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Speaker 4: Second in?

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Speaker 2: Do you listen to the show ever?

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Speaker 6: I have? Actually? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Well, thank you very much for that. I appreciate it.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 6: Wow, what can I.

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Speaker 4: Do for you?

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Speaker 6: Guys?

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Speaker 2: We actually have a question for you because I don't

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Speaker 2: know if you've heard a first date follow up before?

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Speaker 2: Have you?

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Speaker 6: Oh? Yeah? I have? Actually?

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Speaker 2: Okay, So that's the segment where if you go on

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Speaker 2: a date with someone and then you end up ghosting them,

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Speaker 2: they can email us to get you on the phone

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Speaker 2: and ask why you're ghosting?

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Speaker 4: Got it?

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Speaker 6: Okay?

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Speaker 2: Right, Hey, so we got an email about you from somebody.

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Speaker 4: Huh, Okay, who do.

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Speaker 2: You know who you're ghosting?

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Speaker 6: I mean, no one intentionally.

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Speaker 2: Really, He's gone on a lot of dates.

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Speaker 4: Stand up.

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Speaker 6: I mean I've gone on a few here in the

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Speaker 2: He says, it's been a week since your date and

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Speaker 3: Got it?

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Speaker 6: Okay, we're talking about Jesse, Yes we are, Okay, Okay.

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Speaker 6: I feel like I didn't want to follow up with

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Speaker 2: Numbers and like while on your date.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, and my coworker told me that they had exchange

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Speaker 4: Up with her.

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Speaker 2: So wait, were you there? Did you go somewhere like

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Speaker 6: I guess I like, you know, went to the bathroom. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: Like boy foot, Oh that's so disappointing.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I know, I was. I was sad about.

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Speaker 3: It and disappointed. I liked him.

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Speaker 2: Did he talk to your coworker, like, is he trying

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Speaker 4: I don't know.

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Speaker 6: I kind of I kind of like just let it

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Speaker 3: That like a number was exchange.

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Speaker 6: I just kind of wanted to move.

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Speaker 2: You know, you could ask well him because he's actually

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Speaker 5: Oh hi, Jesse, Hey Danica, Oh my god, so you

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Speaker 3: This is what's happened. Your coworker when I was just

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Speaker 6: Huh okay, so wait, let me get this straight. You're

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Speaker 3: No, I was just like even casually friendly. I'm I

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Speaker 2: I was gonna say, you don't you didn't sound like

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Speaker 6: But wow, yeah, wow, that's not the story that I

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Speaker 3: Wow.

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Speaker 6: I'm actually like, I'm sorry that like happened to you

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Speaker 2: How close to a friend is your coworker, Denica.

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Speaker 6: I mean, you know, we're not like best friends, but

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Speaker 6: That's just so weird.

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Speaker 6: But yeah, exactly.

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Speaker 3: Honestly, she put her number on a paper, put it

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Speaker 6: I jumped, you know, yeah, my gosh, I chucked.

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Speaker 2: Would you like to go on another date with Jesse?

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Speaker 2: We'll pay for it. Oh.

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Speaker 6: I somehow find you very like endearing. I believe you

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Speaker 6: sound genuine and Yeah, I'll give it another shot, and

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Speaker 6: I'm definitely going to come front my coworkers. But thank

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Speaker 6: you for.

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Speaker 4: Telling me what happened, Danica. If you need backup, Victoria

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Speaker 4: and I are here.

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Speaker 6: Thanks y'all.

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Speaker 3: Well, Danica, I'm excited to see you, Sharona, because I

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Speaker 3: really did have a great time with you. And this time,

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Speaker 3: let's avoid both of our co workers and get to

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Speaker 3: know more about each other.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, no coworkers this time, promise.

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Speaker 2: Kay Jubile's first day follow up