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Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing In.

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Speaker 3: Yes we are, and this is a special edition of

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Speaker 3: scrubbing In. This is called Thursday episode Listener Emails.

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Speaker 4: Okay, hook.

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Speaker 2: We in in in lieu of a Thursday guest?

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Speaker 4: Did I say that right, in Lou.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we thought we'd make you our guests.

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Speaker 2: So anyways, we compiled emails from our listeners and we're

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Speaker 2: just gonna do an email episode and advice. Dear Abby,

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Speaker 2: Dear Tanya, and Becky.

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Speaker 3: Oh my, she just called herself Becky.

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Speaker 4: I gotta go. That's it. It's over, love you bye.

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Speaker 2: So anyways, we are gonna just do like a listener email.

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Speaker 3: Bonya, I don't know, I like vonya yea.

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Speaker 2: Anyway, we're doing a listener email episode, so we're gonna

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Speaker 2: read the emails like we typically do, answer them, and

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Speaker 2: then maybe start some follow up conversations outside of the email.

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Speaker 3: We have three of the finest and when I say finest,

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Speaker 3: I mean finest.

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Speaker 1: What is the email you If people would like to

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Speaker 1: submit emails for this particular episode or segment.

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Speaker 3: Com iartradio dot com.

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Speaker 5: Yes, or I heard media.

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Speaker 3: Media Oh yeah, yeah yeah. Sam is ferociously going through

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Speaker 3: the emails. Yeah, just every time she gets one, she's like.

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Speaker 4: Ing, yeah.

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Speaker 2: So just know that there is ferocious activity happening in

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Speaker 4: So, Mark, I think, without further ado, is that how

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Speaker 1: Very good, very good with the sayings today from anonymous.

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Speaker 1: I'm a huge fan and anxiously await every scrubbing episode.

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Speaker 1: Well that's nice, thank you, Anonymous. I have a dilemma

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Speaker 1: that consumes my mind every day. My husband and I

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Speaker 1: have been together for over twelve years. For my husband's job,

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Speaker 1: we moved cross country away from our families, who both

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Speaker 1: still live in our home state. After having my son

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Speaker 1: you do now? I live this, But if you guys

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Speaker 4: No, I mean you lived in the in terms of this.

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Speaker 1: Sense that we moved out to California from Wisconsin together

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Speaker 1: very hard for my wife because she felt, like Danielle

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Speaker 1: it's an identity crisis, like Anonymous says here, and it's

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Speaker 1: and she was getting very, very homesick for Wisconsin. So

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Speaker 1: here's what she did. Tell you exactly what she did.

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Speaker 1: It was two things that really made a huge difference.

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Speaker 2: And I think it's so natural to miss your family

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Speaker 2: It doesn't sound like he I think he likes his job.

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Speaker 2: If there's like financial availability to do this, maybe you

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Speaker 1: Would either of you move for your partner. Robbie gets

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Speaker 3: when you come back. I'll hold down the floor. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: I don't think I could do it at this point.

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Speaker 2: it's if you just think of things not so like permanent.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, right, you can always come back.

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Speaker 4: I'm gonna always come back that me too.

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Speaker 3: I'd go with him in DC. Yeah, I'll go with

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Speaker 4: Said, have fun in DC. I'll hold on the fort.

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Speaker 4: I do feel like you gave me kind of a

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Speaker 4: All right, good luck though. We're rooting for you. Anonymous.

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Speaker 1: Yes, I think we should take a break. I think

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Speaker 1: that's how we should do these because otherwise, all right.

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Speaker 6: We'll be back with another all.

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Speaker 2: Right, We're back with more emails another anonymous.

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Speaker 1: First of all, she says, my partner is an overnight

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Speaker 1: manager at a truck stop, and he confirms the women's

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Speaker 1: bathrooms are ten times worse than the men's bathrooms. This

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Speaker 4: Like, if I'm not into it, I'm out.

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Speaker 2: I'm not like I have to be enjoying whatever's on

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Speaker 4: Oh I want that.

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Speaker 4: About you saw the movie.

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Speaker 1: I heard the movie sucked, so I never even bothered.

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Speaker 4: Like, will you like rub my leg while we're sitting here.

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Speaker 4: That's the deal. You watch whatever you want.

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Speaker 1: Who's the let's go around the room, who's the needier

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Speaker 1: Yes, I'm the needy one in there. Okay, couple, I

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Speaker 3: Okay, I would say, what equal need?

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Speaker 4: That was a very high pitched.

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Speaker 3: I'd say we're fifty to fifty.

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Speaker 2: I would also we're definitely fifty to fifty, but like

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Speaker 2: I feel like we're very equal, equally unhealthily obsessed. Sometimes

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Speaker 4: Why are we still?

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Speaker 3: I guess now, I take it back. I am needier.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, we knew?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I think me uh yeah, because like the time

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Speaker 5: Oh so how do you find time.

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Speaker 4: Really I've handled that well.

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Speaker 3: I'd handle it. Not well, I would. I'm just gonna

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Speaker 3: Just don't about me, don't, yeah, just don't. Don't need space,

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Speaker 2: Well, this is interesting because it feels like it should

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Speaker 1: I'm sure there are shows he would like to watch

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Speaker 3: Then maybe what you can do is you can encourage

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Speaker 4: But what if he's like, I want to hang out

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Speaker 3: You're allowed to do that, Yeah, but you.

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Speaker 2: Can't like say like, oh, I'm gonna go hang on with

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Speaker 2: I'm saying, when she needs time in her own home,

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Speaker 3: No, I get it. I mean I understand in theory

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Speaker 2: I think if Haley was like, I'm going to watch

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I agree.

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Speaker 3: It's time.

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Speaker 1: And so it is that it's just like, hey, well

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Speaker 1: that's been it's the summer of two thousand.

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Speaker 3: That is our show, coming back February twenty something.

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Speaker 1: Like Robbie said, nothing makes me happier than just watch

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Speaker 5: See what Like, if I am not working, I want

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Speaker 5: with her or do something with her. But there are

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Speaker 5: times where I'm like, hey, I really want to watch

439
00:20:31,040 --> 00:20:34,000
Speaker 5: the Warren Baby Dick Tracy movie. She does not want

440
00:20:34,040 --> 00:20:36,080
Speaker 5: to watch that, So I watched it at five in

441
00:20:36,080 --> 00:20:40,000
Speaker 5: the morning while she's sleep, Like, while she's asleep. That's

442
00:20:40,000 --> 00:20:40,840
Speaker 5: what I'll well, that.

443
00:20:40,960 --> 00:20:43,119
Speaker 4: Is the ultimate sacrifice that.

444
00:20:45,720 --> 00:20:47,280
Speaker 3: Robbie will watch some of his stuff that I don't

445
00:20:47,320 --> 00:20:50,520
Speaker 3: care about. You know, he watched What's the Gladiators. There's

446
00:20:50,520 --> 00:20:53,760
Speaker 3: like a documentary on the Gladiators or something. Yeah, weird.

447
00:20:56,000 --> 00:20:58,199
Speaker 3: I don't watch that stuff if I'm out, Like, if

448
00:20:58,240 --> 00:21:00,480
Speaker 3: I go out without him, he'll just watch that while

449
00:21:00,480 --> 00:21:01,160
Speaker 3: I'm out.

450
00:21:01,320 --> 00:21:04,600
Speaker 5: I always feel so guilty. How excited when Alison has plans.

451
00:21:04,640 --> 00:21:06,440
Speaker 5: I do get excited because I'm like, oh, I'm gonna

452
00:21:06,440 --> 00:21:09,480
Speaker 5: get pizza. I'm gonna watch a stupid thing on TV. Yeah,

453
00:21:09,520 --> 00:21:12,040
Speaker 5: but I'm not like begging for her to do. You know,

454
00:21:12,320 --> 00:21:14,440
Speaker 5: but when those times happen, I take advantage of it.

455
00:21:14,520 --> 00:21:17,560
Speaker 2: Well, I was gonna say, I think, Anonymous, this is

456
00:21:17,600 --> 00:21:20,560
Speaker 2: gonna get to a point where he he gets to

457
00:21:20,680 --> 00:21:22,560
Speaker 2: where he wants his space and he's gonna start doing

458
00:21:22,600 --> 00:21:23,560
Speaker 2: his thing, and you're gonna.

459
00:21:23,320 --> 00:21:23,960
Speaker 4: Make wait.

460
00:21:25,640 --> 00:21:26,800
Speaker 3: What about me?

461
00:21:27,320 --> 00:21:31,920
Speaker 2: But I also want to reiterate that needing space from

462
00:21:31,920 --> 00:21:33,680
Speaker 2: your partner is a very normal thing.

463
00:21:33,880 --> 00:21:36,520
Speaker 4: I don't think that means anything bad.

464
00:21:36,600 --> 00:21:39,080
Speaker 2: I think it's just like and especially when you've lived

465
00:21:39,119 --> 00:21:42,280
Speaker 2: together by yourself, it's this huge adjustment to move in

466
00:21:42,320 --> 00:21:46,000
Speaker 2: with somebody, for sure, But good luck, you are gonna

467
00:21:46,000 --> 00:21:46,359
Speaker 2: be great.

468
00:21:47,200 --> 00:21:51,120
Speaker 4: We have another No, there's a lot of nominated jump.

469
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Speaker 1: In Deans when we come back Dean's is really I

470
00:21:54,160 --> 00:21:57,240
Speaker 1: love it when Scrubbers go back to old episodes and

471
00:21:57,359 --> 00:21:59,640
Speaker 1: ask you guys follow up questions. So you do that one.

472
00:22:00,000 --> 00:22:01,640
Speaker 1: I don't come back because I love that one.

473
00:22:02,119 --> 00:22:22,840
Speaker 4: Right, all right, we're back. Who's the next one?

474
00:22:22,880 --> 00:22:25,520
Speaker 1: Mark, Nadine. I love it when Scrubbers go back to

475
00:22:25,560 --> 00:22:28,359
Speaker 1: the old ones, And Nadine says, and this is as sweet.

476
00:22:28,400 --> 00:22:32,159
Speaker 1: She says, hello to my favorite podcast ever. I recently

477
00:22:32,160 --> 00:22:34,200
Speaker 1: went back and started listening to older episodes again and

478
00:22:34,200 --> 00:22:35,760
Speaker 1: thought it would be fun, now that you're all in

479
00:22:35,800 --> 00:22:38,320
Speaker 1: long term relationships, to see if you feel the same

480
00:22:38,359 --> 00:22:40,840
Speaker 1: way about some advice you gave back in twenty eighteen. Oh,

481
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Speaker 1: this is between January and March of twenty eighteen, so

482
00:22:43,960 --> 00:22:46,680
Speaker 1: six years ago. By the way, shocking in the twenty

483
00:22:46,720 --> 00:22:50,760
Speaker 1: eighteen is six years ago, but it is. For example,

484
00:22:50,800 --> 00:22:54,080
Speaker 1: we brought up double texting. You both said hard no

485
00:22:54,320 --> 00:22:57,439
Speaker 1: on double texting. Nope, you said no, I will not

486
00:22:57,560 --> 00:22:59,959
Speaker 1: do a double blue text. Where do you stand out?

487
00:23:01,440 --> 00:23:03,440
Speaker 3: I want to go back to that tape because I've

488
00:23:03,480 --> 00:23:06,040
Speaker 3: been double texting Becka since Yonder.

489
00:23:06,200 --> 00:23:09,080
Speaker 4: Is this about relationships?

490
00:23:09,320 --> 00:23:09,520
Speaker 6: Oh?

491
00:23:09,760 --> 00:23:14,639
Speaker 4: Okay, I mean it's it's so.

492
00:23:15,040 --> 00:23:17,200
Speaker 2: I mean, I'm totally fine with double I'm fine with

493
00:23:17,200 --> 00:23:18,400
Speaker 2: a quadruple texting.

494
00:23:18,520 --> 00:23:19,480
Speaker 3: But I'm fine with.

495
00:23:19,600 --> 00:23:22,000
Speaker 4: Trying to think of It's so funny thinking.

496
00:23:21,680 --> 00:23:23,680
Speaker 3: About when the rules we made well.

497
00:23:23,720 --> 00:23:28,159
Speaker 2: Also, yeah, and how I remember thinking when like Haley

498
00:23:28,200 --> 00:23:30,679
Speaker 2: and I first met the day I was literally just

499
00:23:30,680 --> 00:23:33,679
Speaker 2: thinking about this. The day after we kissed for the

500
00:23:33,680 --> 00:23:36,439
Speaker 2: first time, I was like, I feel like I have

501
00:23:36,440 --> 00:23:38,360
Speaker 2: to play it cool, Like I can't be the one

502
00:23:38,400 --> 00:23:41,000
Speaker 2: that's like hey, because I like didn't sleep that night.

503
00:23:41,040 --> 00:23:44,280
Speaker 2: I was like so excited, and I waited all day

504
00:23:44,320 --> 00:23:45,679
Speaker 2: for her to text me, and I was like, oh

505
00:23:45,720 --> 00:23:47,800
Speaker 2: my gosh, I'm such a loser. I kept like checking

506
00:23:47,800 --> 00:23:49,960
Speaker 2: my phone over and over again. And then she texted

507
00:23:50,040 --> 00:23:53,560
Speaker 2: me and she was like hey, like what are you doing?

508
00:23:53,840 --> 00:23:56,000
Speaker 2: And I was on a walk with Brittany and I

509
00:23:56,040 --> 00:23:57,200
Speaker 2: was like, oh, I'm just on a walk.

510
00:23:57,280 --> 00:23:58,000
Speaker 4: How's your day?

511
00:23:58,119 --> 00:24:00,800
Speaker 2: And she was like, oh, well, I don't to bother you.

512
00:24:00,920 --> 00:24:03,159
Speaker 2: I just wanted to say hi. I literally haven't stopped

513
00:24:03,160 --> 00:24:06,920
Speaker 2: thinking about you since last And I was like, oh

514
00:24:07,000 --> 00:24:08,960
Speaker 2: my gosh, that was so worth the wait. But I

515
00:24:09,040 --> 00:24:10,880
Speaker 2: was like so worried that I was having to play

516
00:24:10,920 --> 00:24:12,040
Speaker 2: it cool for no reason.

517
00:24:12,240 --> 00:24:14,199
Speaker 3: Yeah, but you do have to play it cool. But

518
00:24:14,240 --> 00:24:15,920
Speaker 3: if you wouldn't have played a cool where would you

519
00:24:15,920 --> 00:24:17,800
Speaker 3: be today.

520
00:24:18,040 --> 00:24:20,919
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think it's different when it's the person. You know,

521
00:24:21,400 --> 00:24:22,880
Speaker 4: when it's the right person, you can't.

522
00:24:22,720 --> 00:24:24,440
Speaker 3: Say the wrong thing to the right.

523
00:24:27,560 --> 00:24:32,000
Speaker 2: So Tanya, So I think I'm fine with it now,

524
00:24:33,000 --> 00:24:36,280
Speaker 2: but I do stand by. I do like Tanya will

525
00:24:36,320 --> 00:24:39,240
Speaker 2: text me sometimes you know what you've been doing lately

526
00:24:39,320 --> 00:24:40,639
Speaker 2: that I don't really Hi.

527
00:24:41,080 --> 00:24:42,359
Speaker 3: Yeah, he's so cute.

528
00:24:42,359 --> 00:24:45,280
Speaker 4: It's like Hi, No, No, I'm fine with high I say.

529
00:24:45,480 --> 00:24:48,080
Speaker 4: She goes hi, and I go hi, and she goes hi,

530
00:24:49,800 --> 00:24:55,720
Speaker 4: and I'm like, I'm done. But then she said miss you,

531
00:24:55,760 --> 00:24:57,639
Speaker 4: and I'm like that I can respond to. But the

532
00:24:57,760 --> 00:24:59,040
Speaker 4: high high Hi, Hi.

533
00:24:59,160 --> 00:25:00,800
Speaker 1: Just tell me what you want in the first text.

534
00:25:00,920 --> 00:25:03,920
Speaker 3: No, it's not want. I don't want her love, but anything.

535
00:25:05,560 --> 00:25:07,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, I respond when you say do you love me?

536
00:25:07,720 --> 00:25:09,080
Speaker 2: I always respond when you say that.

537
00:25:09,880 --> 00:25:13,800
Speaker 1: Put that alone. I mean, come on, really, do you

538
00:25:13,840 --> 00:25:16,560
Speaker 1: love me? Yeah? I mean that fact worth sending.

539
00:25:18,880 --> 00:25:24,200
Speaker 3: Look, when you are an anxious attachment style like myself,

540
00:25:24,640 --> 00:25:26,760
Speaker 3: you need reassurance from time to time.

541
00:25:26,880 --> 00:25:30,359
Speaker 2: Oh, Robie, is what I'm saying that the highs don't

542
00:25:30,440 --> 00:25:31,719
Speaker 2: get anywhere.

543
00:25:32,600 --> 00:25:34,320
Speaker 4: We don't get anywhere with high High.

544
00:25:34,640 --> 00:25:41,880
Speaker 3: I think they're cute. Like I'll send to someone else.

545
00:25:42,040 --> 00:25:44,120
Speaker 2: So you are all about double text and you're still

546
00:25:44,119 --> 00:25:45,119
Speaker 2: all about double text?

547
00:25:45,720 --> 00:25:47,160
Speaker 4: Is where we are with that?

548
00:25:47,200 --> 00:25:49,240
Speaker 1: Well you're both nope and twenty eighteen, now you're both

549
00:25:49,320 --> 00:25:50,440
Speaker 1: yep something.

550
00:25:50,400 --> 00:25:52,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, right, bring it on Green.

551
00:25:54,240 --> 00:25:58,400
Speaker 1: Speaking to your partner while dating every single day. Tanya

552
00:25:58,440 --> 00:26:01,400
Speaker 1: said yes, yes, yes, and echo was a hard no.

553
00:26:03,520 --> 00:26:07,120
Speaker 3: I stand by that.

554
00:26:07,119 --> 00:26:09,640
Speaker 1: That makes sense you then that makes sense you now

555
00:26:09,720 --> 00:26:11,520
Speaker 1: I think you would disagree with that, Yeah.

556
00:26:11,359 --> 00:26:12,840
Speaker 4: I would. I was yes.

557
00:26:13,720 --> 00:26:17,280
Speaker 2: In fact, going back to another story, Haley, I remember

558
00:26:17,320 --> 00:26:19,439
Speaker 2: texting me and she was like trying to figure out

559
00:26:19,480 --> 00:26:23,159
Speaker 2: where like what we were doing and what our relationship was,

560
00:26:23,200 --> 00:26:24,639
Speaker 2: and she was like, I just normally, if I'm like

561
00:26:24,680 --> 00:26:26,960
Speaker 2: talking to someone, I don't text every single day. And

562
00:26:27,000 --> 00:26:28,760
Speaker 2: I was like, this is when I really had to

563
00:26:28,760 --> 00:26:31,040
Speaker 2: play cool. I was like, oh, yeah, we don't have

564
00:26:31,080 --> 00:26:32,200
Speaker 2: to text every day, like you.

565
00:26:32,080 --> 00:26:33,800
Speaker 3: Can text me, yeah, whatever.

566
00:26:33,920 --> 00:26:35,720
Speaker 2: And then by the end of the conversation she's like, well,

567
00:26:35,800 --> 00:26:37,400
Speaker 2: I do want to text every day.

568
00:26:37,440 --> 00:26:39,840
Speaker 4: And I was like, Okay, then let's text every day.

569
00:26:40,920 --> 00:26:42,919
Speaker 4: So I'm a I've transformed on that.

570
00:26:43,000 --> 00:26:44,600
Speaker 1: Way, and I think it's because the people you were

571
00:26:44,640 --> 00:26:46,400
Speaker 1: dating back then you were not nearly as head over

572
00:26:46,480 --> 00:26:48,879
Speaker 1: heels as you are for Haley.

573
00:26:49,000 --> 00:26:49,959
Speaker 4: Yeah, she's just different.

574
00:26:50,040 --> 00:26:52,040
Speaker 1: So back then you were kind of like, uh, every

575
00:26:52,119 --> 00:26:54,000
Speaker 1: day seems like a lot were Now you're like bringing

576
00:26:54,080 --> 00:26:55,720
Speaker 1: on yeah, yeah, every day, all.

577
00:26:55,680 --> 00:26:56,680
Speaker 4: Day, all day.

578
00:26:56,880 --> 00:26:57,160
Speaker 3: Yeah.

579
00:26:57,840 --> 00:27:01,680
Speaker 1: Uh, farting or going number two in front of your partner.

580
00:27:01,680 --> 00:27:03,160
Speaker 1: In twenty eighteen, you both said no.

581
00:27:03,320 --> 00:27:09,640
Speaker 7: Tanya, silent but DEADLYBDS only, so I do.

582
00:27:09,720 --> 00:27:13,040
Speaker 3: Not poop in front of him. Still, it happened one

583
00:27:13,119 --> 00:27:16,880
Speaker 3: time by accident, so that I still am a hard

584
00:27:16,960 --> 00:27:17,480
Speaker 3: no on.

585
00:27:17,680 --> 00:27:19,120
Speaker 4: Wait, what happened by accident?

586
00:27:19,160 --> 00:27:21,200
Speaker 3: I pooped in front of him on accident?

587
00:27:21,440 --> 00:27:21,600
Speaker 1: Why?

588
00:27:21,720 --> 00:27:21,840
Speaker 2: On?

589
00:27:21,960 --> 00:27:22,879
Speaker 4: How on accident?

590
00:27:23,040 --> 00:27:29,600
Speaker 3: Because oh yeah, I just I just yeah, and then

591
00:27:29,640 --> 00:27:31,800
Speaker 3: it just came. And then I was like, it's gone,

592
00:27:32,480 --> 00:27:35,760
Speaker 3: that's coming gone, it's coming gone. So I still stand

593
00:27:35,800 --> 00:27:36,560
Speaker 3: by the pooping.

594
00:27:36,880 --> 00:27:39,800
Speaker 1: I still has that changed your policy and peeing in

595
00:27:39,800 --> 00:27:41,639
Speaker 1: front of him, because that could happen again.

596
00:27:41,800 --> 00:27:43,840
Speaker 3: No, I have we have one bathroom. I have to

597
00:27:43,840 --> 00:27:46,480
Speaker 3: be in front of him. You don't have to, Yes,

598
00:27:46,520 --> 00:27:47,800
Speaker 3: I do. Let me tell you something.

599
00:27:48,280 --> 00:27:50,120
Speaker 1: I do you have one bathroom in the whole house.

600
00:27:50,200 --> 00:27:51,160
Speaker 4: No, there's two, there's two.

601
00:27:51,400 --> 00:27:51,520
Speaker 7: One.

602
00:27:51,600 --> 00:27:52,480
Speaker 1: Let go to the other one.

603
00:27:52,720 --> 00:27:55,600
Speaker 3: Because sometimes I'm naked, I can't go downstairs.

604
00:27:56,000 --> 00:27:57,160
Speaker 4: Why can't you shut the door?

605
00:27:57,720 --> 00:27:58,960
Speaker 3: What do you you shut the door.

606
00:27:59,000 --> 00:27:59,800
Speaker 4: In the bathroom?

607
00:28:00,240 --> 00:28:02,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, I do shut the door on a peing, but

608
00:28:02,680 --> 00:28:04,680
Speaker 3: like he'll be brushing his tea. You guys, do you

609
00:28:04,800 --> 00:28:06,920
Speaker 3: not like do things in your bathroom aside from peeing

610
00:28:06,920 --> 00:28:07,400
Speaker 3: and pooping?

611
00:28:07,800 --> 00:28:10,800
Speaker 2: I just think I would wait before, Like I'm gonna

612
00:28:10,800 --> 00:28:12,480
Speaker 2: wait to you scrape.

613
00:28:12,160 --> 00:28:13,200
Speaker 4: Your jung while he's peeing.

614
00:28:13,400 --> 00:28:15,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, just bacteria articles.

615
00:28:16,320 --> 00:28:18,960
Speaker 1: Ever, you don't do any excretions in front of each other?

616
00:28:19,119 --> 00:28:22,080
Speaker 3: Really, No, that seems I don't mind.

617
00:28:23,119 --> 00:28:24,560
Speaker 4: Wow, I don't mind.

618
00:28:24,640 --> 00:28:27,280
Speaker 2: Like if we go into like like let's say we

619
00:28:27,280 --> 00:28:28,760
Speaker 2: were on a road trip, when we stop and there's

620
00:28:28,800 --> 00:28:30,840
Speaker 2: like a bathroom that's like one of the big you know,

621
00:28:30,920 --> 00:28:32,280
Speaker 2: like individual bathrooms.

622
00:28:32,560 --> 00:28:33,760
Speaker 4: Yeah, we'll just going together.

623
00:28:33,760 --> 00:28:35,280
Speaker 2: I'll pee in front of her, But I'm not like

624
00:28:35,960 --> 00:28:38,120
Speaker 2: I typically will choose to wait.

625
00:28:38,360 --> 00:28:40,280
Speaker 3: But like, Okay, let's say we wake up, we're going

626
00:28:40,320 --> 00:28:41,920
Speaker 3: to work out class. We have twenty minutes to do

627
00:28:41,960 --> 00:28:44,640
Speaker 3: everything quick. You gotta just get in there and do it.

628
00:28:44,840 --> 00:28:47,280
Speaker 3: I don't think we live our lives on the go, baby.

629
00:28:47,000 --> 00:28:49,320
Speaker 1: But you don't you like so if we had twenty

630
00:28:49,400 --> 00:28:51,240
Speaker 1: minutes to get ready for something, I would go to

631
00:28:51,240 --> 00:28:52,080
Speaker 1: a different bathroom.

632
00:28:52,240 --> 00:28:52,760
Speaker 3: Huh huh.

633
00:28:53,360 --> 00:28:55,640
Speaker 1: She can have the bathroom with the shower and everything.

634
00:28:55,680 --> 00:28:57,080
Speaker 1: She can do all the things she has for you.

635
00:28:57,600 --> 00:28:59,640
Speaker 1: I don't have to do a lot. I changed clothes,

636
00:29:00,200 --> 00:29:02,000
Speaker 1: my hair, I'm ready to go. I can do that

637
00:29:02,040 --> 00:29:02,800
Speaker 1: in any bathroom.

638
00:29:02,920 --> 00:29:06,000
Speaker 3: Scrape your tongue, shave, I shave in the shower.

639
00:29:06,600 --> 00:29:08,720
Speaker 1: No, I flash, I flost on my own.

640
00:29:08,600 --> 00:29:11,800
Speaker 3: In your ears, I do all that so long, all

641
00:29:11,840 --> 00:29:12,440
Speaker 3: a little shot.

642
00:29:12,480 --> 00:29:13,800
Speaker 1: I don't do that in front of anybody.

643
00:29:15,200 --> 00:29:18,200
Speaker 3: Must be nice in your house. Okay, so yeah, but.

644
00:29:18,200 --> 00:29:20,600
Speaker 4: What about what have you done? Now that farting he

645
00:29:20,720 --> 00:29:21,280
Speaker 4: can smell.

646
00:29:21,520 --> 00:29:23,800
Speaker 3: I have to hold it. It's so annoying.

647
00:29:24,320 --> 00:29:24,880
Speaker 4: You just have to.

648
00:29:25,640 --> 00:29:27,520
Speaker 3: I just hold it now. You don't go to the

649
00:29:27,640 --> 00:29:30,080
Speaker 3: bathroom and yeah, I'll go to Yeah, if I really

650
00:29:30,080 --> 00:29:32,200
Speaker 3: have to, I'll go to the bathroom and walk away,

651
00:29:32,240 --> 00:29:32,640
Speaker 3: walk away.

652
00:29:32,840 --> 00:29:34,160
Speaker 1: You hate it when you hold it and it and

653
00:29:34,240 --> 00:29:35,520
Speaker 1: it goes away, because then you're.

654
00:29:35,400 --> 00:29:39,760
Speaker 3: Like, oh, that's going in box. What about you?

655
00:29:40,480 --> 00:29:42,280
Speaker 1: You're still no one?

656
00:29:42,400 --> 00:29:43,520
Speaker 4: Both Yeah?

657
00:29:43,560 --> 00:29:45,680
Speaker 1: Good, yeah, keep alive.

658
00:29:45,920 --> 00:29:49,560
Speaker 4: I mean sometimes it's happened, it's not. There's never like,

659
00:29:50,080 --> 00:29:51,600
Speaker 4: let's see how loud I can do this?

660
00:29:51,840 --> 00:29:55,200
Speaker 7: You know, I don't do that, either contests, Well, she

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Speaker 7: was doing them secretly, right, Yeah, they're silent, and I'm

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Speaker 7: not trying to be like, look at how big I

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Speaker 7: can do it.

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Speaker 4: So silent ones are way worse than that.

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Speaker 3: I know, I know, but look how.

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Speaker 4: Big I can do it.

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Speaker 1: And finally, Nadine says, talking to exes while in a

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Speaker 1: relationship in twenty eighteen, you both said it would be

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Speaker 1: a discussion with your current partner, but question why they

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Speaker 1: need to communicate with them.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I don't ever really talk to Robert,

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Speaker 2: but if I do, I normally like Haley knows about it.

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Speaker 2: Like I was talking, she was talking about wanting to

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Speaker 2: do like breath work, and I remember Robert had told

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Speaker 2: me that he was doing breath work, and so I

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Speaker 2: told her.

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Speaker 4: I was like, oh, Robert had mentioned that, and she goes, oh,

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Speaker 4: will you ask him who he used?

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Speaker 2: Oh, you know, it's very like communicative, but I'm not

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Speaker 2: like talking to Robert two four seven.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm still I think that's so weird.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, i'd be weird. I agree.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, there you go.

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Speaker 1: It looks like you haven't evolved on that one. That

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Speaker 1: one's daye right where it was. Thank you Nadine for

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Speaker 1: the Walkdown.

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Speaker 4: Lane one years later old podcast.

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Speaker 1: But is it a nice what a great place you

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Speaker 1: both in six years later?

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Speaker 4: So crazy?

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Speaker 3: It is crazy.

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Speaker 4: Who knew? Literally, who would have known?

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Speaker 2: Not me?

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Speaker 1: Wouldn't have predicted either.

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Speaker 2: Wait, I was randomly thinking about doctor w because that

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Speaker 2: was like a you legit like y'all dated for a while, right, Yeah.

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Speaker 4: How long?

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Speaker 3: I'm not that long, honest, Like how long I was

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Speaker 3: trying to figure?

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Speaker 6: Months?

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Speaker 3: Definitely not a year? Yeah, those months?

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Speaker 4: Okay.

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Speaker 3: I actually do still talk to him, but like not

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Speaker 3: like talk to him, but my the girl that I

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Speaker 3: get my facials, she does them in his in his office. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: so I see him from time to time, Yes, and

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Speaker 3: I actually do reach out to him for like recommendations

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Speaker 3: for stuff in that area. But Robbie knows and he

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Speaker 3: does nothing.

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Speaker 4: Like Robbie doesn't get jealous, not at all.

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Speaker 3: Hayles that that guy is securely attached.

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Speaker 2: Let me tell you, I understand why.

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Speaker 3: I mean, that guy is not rocked by anything he

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Speaker 3: could see like Elvis Presley pop up on my phone

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Speaker 3: or whatever. Who's like a good example, but like who's

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Speaker 3: like the hottest guy in.

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Speaker 4: The world, like Jacob.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Jacob ALORDI could be texting me and Robbie would

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Speaker 3: be like.

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Speaker 4: Tell us over the Harry Styles thing. Yeah, I think

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Speaker 4: Harry styles hair styls.

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Speaker 3: Texting Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's true.

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Speaker 4: Is that it?

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Speaker 1: That's it, that's episode.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Send in your your troubles anything you need advice in

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Speaker 2: your troubles mm hmm, calm, it's concernedable. No complaints please

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Speaker 2: on like the Instagram posts, we don't. Don't do it

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Speaker 2: on our apples podcast reviews. Please only positive things.

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Speaker 3: There in a minute.

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Speaker 1: Request that request.

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Speaker 3: Would like to request yea love suggestions at their shows

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Speaker 3: you think we should be watching We love a suggestion.

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Speaker 4: We never follow up.

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Speaker 3: That's not true. If somebody messaged me and was like,

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Speaker 3: because you like Love Island, you should try Love Island.

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Speaker 3: I think there's an Africa or Australia.

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Speaker 4: Watching this Trader show.

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Speaker 3: Oh my, oh yeah, parved he got kicked off. Wow,

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Speaker 3: So if she's listening, please come on our podcast.

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Speaker 1: Show.

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Speaker 3: Yeah are you kidding?

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Speaker 2: That's a double double hit, double hitter Survivor and Trader.

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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, yeah, she got sent home. And Peter

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Speaker 3: the Pilot is really doing some things.

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Speaker 4: Really yeah, like pilot pet pilot Pete.

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Speaker 3: I never thought he had much of like anything really

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Speaker 3: going on, Like I don't know that came off wrong.

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Speaker 5: But a couple times that he is very boring to me, Yeah.

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Speaker 3: And like he's yeah, he's coming off very like he's

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Speaker 3: like in it and has all these theories. And they

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Speaker 3: offered to make him a Trader and he was like, no,

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Speaker 3: he's like noble. I'm like, damn, Like he's gonna get

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Speaker 3: some tail after this show.

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Speaker 1: Also part of an airplane.

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Speaker 2: Maybe she was going, yeah, that was I don't think

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Speaker 2: that was intentional, but that's what he's going for.

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Speaker 3: But he's coming off good.

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Speaker 4: I think he well for himself and that I think

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Speaker 4: that's kind of Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I'd love to have him on the podcast too well.

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Speaker 1: Eastern said he was born.

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Speaker 3: Not after this show.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, we'll watch The Traders and change my mind about

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Speaker 5: Peter Webber.

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Speaker 3: Yes, you watch it, so yeah.

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Speaker 4: There you have.

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Speaker 5: You have auto fil turned on.

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Speaker 4: We love you so much. Have a great week.

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