1 00:00:01,280 --> 00:00:05,680 Speaker 1: Hey, guys, welcome to Tommy Talk. Today's topic is all 2 00:00:05,880 --> 00:00:10,600 Speaker 1: about comparison syndrome. It is oh Man comparison syndrome is 3 00:00:10,800 --> 00:00:14,560 Speaker 1: It's It's a big topic, and today's conversation is how 4 00:00:14,560 --> 00:00:18,360 Speaker 1: we need to stop comparing ourselves to other people. This 5 00:00:18,480 --> 00:00:20,840 Speaker 1: I feel it could be a four hour long conversation, 6 00:00:20,920 --> 00:00:22,439 Speaker 1: but I'm going to do my best to keep this 7 00:00:22,520 --> 00:00:25,840 Speaker 1: bite size about ten minutes long. But let me tell you, 8 00:00:26,560 --> 00:00:32,560 Speaker 1: we as a society, as humanity, love to compare ourselves 9 00:00:33,000 --> 00:00:38,560 Speaker 1: to colleagues, to friends, to peers, to public figures. And 10 00:00:38,880 --> 00:00:42,960 Speaker 1: there is no upside to doing that. There just isn't. 11 00:00:43,400 --> 00:00:45,519 Speaker 1: And I'm going to get a little personal on my 12 00:00:45,720 --> 00:00:49,159 Speaker 1: end right now and share with you that I was 13 00:00:49,640 --> 00:00:54,360 Speaker 1: literally one of the biggest comparers ever I was. When 14 00:00:54,400 --> 00:00:57,160 Speaker 1: I was coming up in this business and transitioning into 15 00:00:57,200 --> 00:01:00,480 Speaker 1: this interviewing space, I wanted nothing more than to be 16 00:01:00,560 --> 00:01:04,640 Speaker 1: doing these big interviews. I love the entertainment business. I 17 00:01:04,760 --> 00:01:07,200 Speaker 1: just I love movies and TV and all of it. 18 00:01:07,240 --> 00:01:10,560 Speaker 1: And I just wanted to interview today's artists that make 19 00:01:10,640 --> 00:01:13,080 Speaker 1: us all feel so good. And it took me a 20 00:01:13,160 --> 00:01:15,800 Speaker 1: minute to get there. And when I was on my 21 00:01:15,920 --> 00:01:19,080 Speaker 1: journey of getting there. What I would do is I 22 00:01:19,080 --> 00:01:21,640 Speaker 1: would go on Instagram and look at people that were 23 00:01:21,680 --> 00:01:24,920 Speaker 1: already there, who I either did a little bit of 24 00:01:24,920 --> 00:01:27,440 Speaker 1: work with before or who I saw in the space, 25 00:01:28,120 --> 00:01:31,400 Speaker 1: and I would obsessively check their accounts to see what 26 00:01:31,440 --> 00:01:34,800 Speaker 1: they were doing, who they were interviewing, what was going 27 00:01:34,880 --> 00:01:37,800 Speaker 1: on in their careers, for no other reason but just 28 00:01:37,880 --> 00:01:42,440 Speaker 1: to kind of keep tabs on these people in a 29 00:01:42,560 --> 00:01:47,680 Speaker 1: somewhat envious way. And it was really unhealthy. And I'm 30 00:01:47,680 --> 00:01:49,320 Speaker 1: not sure I've ever said that out loud or I've 31 00:01:49,320 --> 00:01:51,880 Speaker 1: ever said that before, but there are people I would 32 00:01:51,880 --> 00:01:55,000 Speaker 1: look up who I wasn't friends with, who were also 33 00:01:55,080 --> 00:01:57,680 Speaker 1: not very nice people, but I just needed to keep 34 00:01:57,680 --> 00:01:59,800 Speaker 1: seeing what they were doing, which, by the way, ended 35 00:01:59,880 --> 00:02:02,120 Speaker 1: up making me feel worse about where I was in 36 00:02:02,120 --> 00:02:04,760 Speaker 1: my life because I wanted to be there so badly 37 00:02:04,800 --> 00:02:06,760 Speaker 1: and I wasn't. It's not like I was going to 38 00:02:06,800 --> 00:02:10,960 Speaker 1: their accounts to learn or feel inspired or you know, 39 00:02:11,080 --> 00:02:13,720 Speaker 1: get motivated or any of that. I was going just 40 00:02:13,800 --> 00:02:16,480 Speaker 1: to kind of be a nosy nelly and see what 41 00:02:16,600 --> 00:02:19,120 Speaker 1: they were doing that I was not doing. It was 42 00:02:19,160 --> 00:02:21,800 Speaker 1: all kind of like a rubbing salt in the wound 43 00:02:21,880 --> 00:02:23,840 Speaker 1: of wanting to be somewhere that I wasn't, so let 44 00:02:23,919 --> 00:02:27,040 Speaker 1: me see what these people are doing to show myself 45 00:02:27,080 --> 00:02:29,160 Speaker 1: even more that I'm not achieving the goals I want 46 00:02:29,200 --> 00:02:31,760 Speaker 1: to achieve. It really was a tough, a tough go 47 00:02:31,960 --> 00:02:33,560 Speaker 1: for me for a minute, and I think a lot 48 00:02:33,600 --> 00:02:36,800 Speaker 1: of people have been there in doing that and comparing 49 00:02:36,800 --> 00:02:39,520 Speaker 1: ourselves to people in a way that's not healthy, in 50 00:02:39,520 --> 00:02:41,440 Speaker 1: a way that's like, oh my god, look they're doing 51 00:02:41,440 --> 00:02:43,640 Speaker 1: this and I'm not. Oh my life, fuck my life. 52 00:02:43,680 --> 00:02:45,919 Speaker 1: Like it's it's a cycle that you have to pull 53 00:02:45,960 --> 00:02:49,240 Speaker 1: yourself out of. And maybe it's a part of growing up, 54 00:02:49,280 --> 00:02:53,560 Speaker 1: maybe it's a part of human growth, but it's tough. 55 00:02:53,800 --> 00:02:57,280 Speaker 1: It is tough, and I think that especially with social media, 56 00:02:57,560 --> 00:03:00,200 Speaker 1: we're always seeing what other people are doing and it 57 00:03:00,240 --> 00:03:04,239 Speaker 1: can feel very natural to compare ourselves to others, and 58 00:03:04,360 --> 00:03:06,760 Speaker 1: you don't have to. It doesn't have to be that way. 59 00:03:06,880 --> 00:03:10,040 Speaker 1: It's hard to sometimes think, you know, I'm doing good, 60 00:03:10,280 --> 00:03:13,040 Speaker 1: I'm on a good path, I'm really killing it because 61 00:03:13,080 --> 00:03:14,680 Speaker 1: there's so much being thrown at you on a regular 62 00:03:14,720 --> 00:03:16,840 Speaker 1: basis of what other people are doing. So you have 63 00:03:16,880 --> 00:03:19,360 Speaker 1: to have a very strong, healthy mentality and belief in 64 00:03:19,400 --> 00:03:21,919 Speaker 1: yourself and a good grounding sense of who you are 65 00:03:22,320 --> 00:03:25,920 Speaker 1: to not let the comparison syndrome overtake you. And there 66 00:03:25,919 --> 00:03:29,000 Speaker 1: are a few things that I find helpful in doing that. 67 00:03:29,200 --> 00:03:33,760 Speaker 1: And look, we're all works in progress. I can't sit 68 00:03:33,840 --> 00:03:36,800 Speaker 1: here and say I've never fallen into that again over 69 00:03:36,840 --> 00:03:38,640 Speaker 1: the last few years, but what I can say for 70 00:03:38,720 --> 00:03:42,480 Speaker 1: sure is I have never been more self assured of 71 00:03:42,520 --> 00:03:45,200 Speaker 1: who I am and less interested in what other people 72 00:03:45,240 --> 00:03:49,960 Speaker 1: are doing as a result. So I think for number one, 73 00:03:50,120 --> 00:03:53,520 Speaker 1: my biggest tip is the time and energy you spend 74 00:03:53,560 --> 00:03:57,640 Speaker 1: comparing yourself to other people is the time you should 75 00:03:57,680 --> 00:04:00,160 Speaker 1: be using to be proactive in your own life. So 76 00:04:00,200 --> 00:04:02,680 Speaker 1: if you're on Instagram scrolling people to see what they're 77 00:04:02,720 --> 00:04:06,440 Speaker 1: doing that you're not like I was, or you're complaining 78 00:04:06,480 --> 00:04:11,240 Speaker 1: about your life or other people, or you're kind of 79 00:04:11,520 --> 00:04:15,240 Speaker 1: sitting in your office not really feeling motivated because you 80 00:04:15,280 --> 00:04:17,960 Speaker 1: don't feel valued because other people are maybe having more 81 00:04:18,040 --> 00:04:22,560 Speaker 1: perceived success than you are. Be proactive. Use all that 82 00:04:22,800 --> 00:04:25,400 Speaker 1: time that is precious and that you will never get 83 00:04:25,440 --> 00:04:29,839 Speaker 1: back to focus on you. Put the time back into you. 84 00:04:30,480 --> 00:04:32,080 Speaker 1: If there are goals you have and things you want 85 00:04:32,120 --> 00:04:34,960 Speaker 1: to achieve, go do it. I got my start in 86 00:04:35,000 --> 00:04:37,680 Speaker 1: interviewing because I launched a series on YouTube. I hired 87 00:04:37,720 --> 00:04:40,120 Speaker 1: someone who worked at YouTube. I started interviewing people all 88 00:04:40,160 --> 00:04:42,279 Speaker 1: around New York City that were business owners and we 89 00:04:42,279 --> 00:04:45,240 Speaker 1: would do experiential things together. An example is Macha tea 90 00:04:45,279 --> 00:04:48,200 Speaker 1: became popular. I went to Brooklyn to the first Macha cafe. 91 00:04:48,360 --> 00:04:50,280 Speaker 1: We made drinks. What is Macha? We talked about it, 92 00:04:50,320 --> 00:04:52,120 Speaker 1: I interviewed him, I put it on YouTube, and I 93 00:04:52,120 --> 00:04:54,080 Speaker 1: started doing this on my own for like eight months 94 00:04:54,080 --> 00:04:56,880 Speaker 1: before someone in the hosting world at the Rachel Ray 95 00:04:56,920 --> 00:05:00,840 Speaker 1: Show found me and gave me my break in television, 96 00:05:00,880 --> 00:05:04,279 Speaker 1: in the hosting world, so to speak, in the national 97 00:05:04,320 --> 00:05:07,120 Speaker 1: TV world, and that's where my career took off. So 98 00:05:07,120 --> 00:05:09,600 Speaker 1: I invested time in me. I stopped complaining, I stopped 99 00:05:09,920 --> 00:05:13,080 Speaker 1: stalking people's accounts that made me feel horrible, and I 100 00:05:13,160 --> 00:05:16,600 Speaker 1: made action and I did something to further my future. 101 00:05:17,040 --> 00:05:20,120 Speaker 1: So take that time to focus on you. I can't 102 00:05:20,120 --> 00:05:21,960 Speaker 1: tell you what to do, because that's all dependent on 103 00:05:22,360 --> 00:05:26,159 Speaker 1: what your industry is and what you're into, but really 104 00:05:26,160 --> 00:05:29,200 Speaker 1: investing yourself, I can promise you the people you're looking 105 00:05:29,200 --> 00:05:31,520 Speaker 1: at or comparing yourself to, are not doing that back 106 00:05:31,560 --> 00:05:34,280 Speaker 1: at you. They're not. They are like forward thinking and 107 00:05:35,200 --> 00:05:38,080 Speaker 1: invested in their future, and that's what you need to 108 00:05:38,080 --> 00:05:41,400 Speaker 1: be too. So take the time and energy that you 109 00:05:41,440 --> 00:05:46,520 Speaker 1: will never get back again and focus on you. It's 110 00:05:46,560 --> 00:05:49,520 Speaker 1: something that sounds crazy because we should be doing that 111 00:05:49,600 --> 00:05:53,280 Speaker 1: by default, right, and I haven't over the years at 112 00:05:53,279 --> 00:05:55,760 Speaker 1: different points in my life. But you should be doing it, 113 00:05:55,760 --> 00:06:00,360 Speaker 1: and it's not selfish. It's preserving your peace and your 114 00:06:00,400 --> 00:06:04,880 Speaker 1: future legacy. So invest that time in you because it's men. Oh, 115 00:06:04,920 --> 00:06:07,880 Speaker 1: it's so important, and we don't do it enough. I think. 116 00:06:08,600 --> 00:06:11,719 Speaker 1: Another important thing is the social media of it all. 117 00:06:12,560 --> 00:06:15,440 Speaker 1: You can't follow people that just don't make you feel good, 118 00:06:15,680 --> 00:06:18,440 Speaker 1: or if you feel like you're too invested in their life, 119 00:06:19,200 --> 00:06:22,200 Speaker 1: don't follow them, or don't even look them up. Maybe 120 00:06:22,240 --> 00:06:24,440 Speaker 1: you're not following them, maybe you just keep looking them 121 00:06:24,520 --> 00:06:27,520 Speaker 1: up online. Don't do it. Don't do it because it's 122 00:06:27,520 --> 00:06:29,640 Speaker 1: not making you feel good. And again, it's taking time 123 00:06:29,680 --> 00:06:35,279 Speaker 1: away from your own orbit of what you should be 124 00:06:35,400 --> 00:06:37,200 Speaker 1: doing and what you want to be doing. So don't 125 00:06:37,200 --> 00:06:38,960 Speaker 1: do it. Right, It's very very simple, and the more 126 00:06:38,960 --> 00:06:41,560 Speaker 1: you condition yourself not to do it, the less you'll 127 00:06:41,600 --> 00:06:43,320 Speaker 1: do it, and then eventually you'll just stop and That's 128 00:06:43,320 --> 00:06:44,920 Speaker 1: what happened to me over the years. I just stopped. 129 00:06:44,960 --> 00:06:46,719 Speaker 1: I stopped looking at the people that weren't making me 130 00:06:46,720 --> 00:06:49,640 Speaker 1: feel good by the way that I wasn't even following, 131 00:06:50,560 --> 00:06:52,400 Speaker 1: which allowed more time to do the things I want 132 00:06:52,440 --> 00:06:55,880 Speaker 1: to do. So just stop paying attention to the outside noise, 133 00:06:56,000 --> 00:06:59,080 Speaker 1: especially on social media, when it comes to people not 134 00:06:59,160 --> 00:07:01,919 Speaker 1: making you feel your best. You don't need that energy 135 00:07:01,920 --> 00:07:04,800 Speaker 1: in your life. You really really don't. The next thing is, 136 00:07:05,760 --> 00:07:08,200 Speaker 1: oh God, and I feel like this is where an 137 00:07:08,240 --> 00:07:10,840 Speaker 1: eye roll might come in. But stay with me. Please 138 00:07:10,920 --> 00:07:13,520 Speaker 1: stay with me. I promise you. And this is not 139 00:07:13,600 --> 00:07:15,800 Speaker 1: going to sound as cringe as it's sounding in my 140 00:07:15,880 --> 00:07:19,480 Speaker 1: head right now. You got to count your blessings. You 141 00:07:19,560 --> 00:07:22,840 Speaker 1: have to count your blessings. I don't care if you're 142 00:07:22,880 --> 00:07:24,640 Speaker 1: sitting there saying, well, I don't feel like I have 143 00:07:24,720 --> 00:07:27,320 Speaker 1: many right now. I promise you you have at least 144 00:07:27,320 --> 00:07:29,480 Speaker 1: a couple if you really think about it, because it 145 00:07:29,480 --> 00:07:33,560 Speaker 1: can always be worse, and the blessings can be anything 146 00:07:33,600 --> 00:07:38,320 Speaker 1: it can be. I'm grateful and feel blessed for a spouse, 147 00:07:38,640 --> 00:07:45,520 Speaker 1: a singular friend, a job, health, a roof over our heads. 148 00:07:45,560 --> 00:07:47,520 Speaker 1: You know I say that every night. I'm grateful for 149 00:07:47,560 --> 00:07:49,200 Speaker 1: a roof over my head because I am and I 150 00:07:49,200 --> 00:07:51,880 Speaker 1: don't want to lose sight of those things. So once 151 00:07:51,920 --> 00:07:54,200 Speaker 1: you start realizing the things in your life that you 152 00:07:54,920 --> 00:07:57,040 Speaker 1: are grateful for and that you can count your blessings with, 153 00:07:57,720 --> 00:08:01,000 Speaker 1: it changes mentality. It shifts meant and that is so 154 00:08:01,080 --> 00:08:03,240 Speaker 1: important even with work if you're not exactly where you 155 00:08:03,240 --> 00:08:05,120 Speaker 1: want to be. But let's say you had a great 156 00:08:05,200 --> 00:08:08,840 Speaker 1: day or a great presentation, or led a meeting or 157 00:08:09,040 --> 00:08:12,680 Speaker 1: did a great spreadsheet that you're proud of. Acknowledge it 158 00:08:12,720 --> 00:08:15,000 Speaker 1: count your blessings. You did it, you did something amazing, 159 00:08:15,160 --> 00:08:17,160 Speaker 1: rock on like, I'm proud of you. I am fucking 160 00:08:17,200 --> 00:08:18,600 Speaker 1: proud of you. And if no one's telling you that, 161 00:08:18,680 --> 00:08:20,960 Speaker 1: I'm telling you that I am proud of you. It 162 00:08:21,000 --> 00:08:23,440 Speaker 1: doesn't always have to be something on this grand scale. 163 00:08:23,920 --> 00:08:27,120 Speaker 1: So just take stock of what you're grateful for, what 164 00:08:27,160 --> 00:08:31,080 Speaker 1: you feel blessed by, big or small, And it really 165 00:08:31,080 --> 00:08:33,760 Speaker 1: does shift your personality in terms of not wanting to 166 00:08:33,760 --> 00:08:36,679 Speaker 1: always seek validation from other people, because that's a lot 167 00:08:36,679 --> 00:08:39,520 Speaker 1: of what comparison syndrome is. It's wanting people to see 168 00:08:39,559 --> 00:08:41,880 Speaker 1: you in a certain way, and you wanting to see 169 00:08:41,880 --> 00:08:45,120 Speaker 1: yourself in a certain way, and I think that we 170 00:08:45,360 --> 00:08:47,920 Speaker 1: just put such an emphasis on the grand scale of 171 00:08:47,960 --> 00:08:49,880 Speaker 1: things that it doesn't have to be that grand. It 172 00:08:49,920 --> 00:08:53,200 Speaker 1: really doesn't. And man, that will change everything. And I 173 00:08:53,240 --> 00:08:55,679 Speaker 1: think lastly, one of the biggest things I can offer 174 00:08:55,720 --> 00:08:59,000 Speaker 1: you in terms of you know, not wanting to compare 175 00:08:59,040 --> 00:09:03,160 Speaker 1: yourself to others, is be a student. Never stop being 176 00:09:03,200 --> 00:09:06,000 Speaker 1: a student. I don't care if you were the most 177 00:09:06,000 --> 00:09:10,240 Speaker 1: successful CEO in the world making billions of dollars. I 178 00:09:10,280 --> 00:09:14,320 Speaker 1: guarantee you that CEO is still listening to podcasts on 179 00:09:14,320 --> 00:09:20,320 Speaker 1: how to better themself or their business or something in 180 00:09:20,400 --> 00:09:24,400 Speaker 1: that world. I'm not commenting on anyone's personality. I'm just saying, like, 181 00:09:24,480 --> 00:09:27,880 Speaker 1: when when you constantly want to learn and grow and 182 00:09:27,920 --> 00:09:29,720 Speaker 1: be a student and never feel like you know what 183 00:09:30,400 --> 00:09:32,000 Speaker 1: I made it, I'm where I want to be, I 184 00:09:32,080 --> 00:09:35,200 Speaker 1: needed no more future work. That's a problem. But if 185 00:09:35,240 --> 00:09:38,000 Speaker 1: you're always investing in yourself and being a student, you're 186 00:09:38,000 --> 00:09:39,920 Speaker 1: working towards your goals, You're working towards the things you 187 00:09:39,960 --> 00:09:44,160 Speaker 1: want to achieve personally and professionally. So you want to 188 00:09:44,200 --> 00:09:47,000 Speaker 1: make sure that if you want to do something that 189 00:09:47,040 --> 00:09:49,480 Speaker 1: other people are doing, well, what are you doing about it? 190 00:09:49,960 --> 00:09:52,120 Speaker 1: What are you doing about it? Are you just complaining? 191 00:09:52,200 --> 00:09:55,280 Speaker 1: Are you actually investing that time and energy into yourself 192 00:09:55,320 --> 00:09:57,200 Speaker 1: and being a student so you can get to a 193 00:09:57,240 --> 00:10:00,840 Speaker 1: place that's similar or better or equal? Do you know 194 00:10:00,880 --> 00:10:04,360 Speaker 1: what I'm saying. You've got to invest in yourself and 195 00:10:04,400 --> 00:10:07,440 Speaker 1: in your time by being a student in anything. Here's 196 00:10:07,440 --> 00:10:10,360 Speaker 1: something else, you know. I'm an entertainment reporter by day, 197 00:10:11,080 --> 00:10:13,080 Speaker 1: but it's my dream to get a movie made. And 198 00:10:13,160 --> 00:10:15,760 Speaker 1: I wrote a script for a romantic comedy and it's 199 00:10:15,880 --> 00:10:17,840 Speaker 1: really damn good, if I can say soon myself. I 200 00:10:17,880 --> 00:10:20,000 Speaker 1: mean maybe I'm biased, but I have had some people 201 00:10:20,040 --> 00:10:22,319 Speaker 1: read it in the business and they seem to really 202 00:10:22,400 --> 00:10:27,240 Speaker 1: like it, and I will get it made. I'm determined 203 00:10:27,280 --> 00:10:29,760 Speaker 1: to get it made one day. I'm not sitting here saying, 204 00:10:29,760 --> 00:10:31,520 Speaker 1: oh my god, X, Y and Z got the movie 205 00:10:31,559 --> 00:10:33,600 Speaker 1: made and I'll never do it. I mean, sometimes I 206 00:10:33,600 --> 00:10:35,400 Speaker 1: see things and I'm like, how did that get made? 207 00:10:35,440 --> 00:10:39,400 Speaker 1: That kind of sucked, But that's just artistic opinion. But instead, 208 00:10:39,520 --> 00:10:42,480 Speaker 1: I wrote a movie and I'm trying to work on 209 00:10:42,520 --> 00:10:44,679 Speaker 1: figuring out how to get it made. Like that's it. 210 00:10:44,760 --> 00:10:48,520 Speaker 1: I'm not wallowing in the you know, oh it will 211 00:10:48,520 --> 00:10:51,880 Speaker 1: never happen or this person has four movies made no no, 212 00:10:51,960 --> 00:10:53,480 Speaker 1: I just I did it. I did the work. It 213 00:10:53,520 --> 00:10:56,320 Speaker 1: took a long time, I did it. Do the work. 214 00:10:56,480 --> 00:11:03,600 Speaker 1: Be a student. The bottom line, y'all is comparison can 215 00:11:03,640 --> 00:11:07,440 Speaker 1: be motivating and inspiring and uplifting if you're looking to 216 00:11:07,600 --> 00:11:11,320 Speaker 1: someone as a mentor figure. And I'm all about that. 217 00:11:11,440 --> 00:11:13,720 Speaker 1: I love that I have people that inspire me and 218 00:11:13,760 --> 00:11:17,720 Speaker 1: motivate me, and that I want to continue to kind 219 00:11:17,720 --> 00:11:19,960 Speaker 1: of look at as someone that's a guiding light in 220 00:11:20,040 --> 00:11:25,040 Speaker 1: my world professionally and personally. But when someone starts making 221 00:11:25,040 --> 00:11:30,360 Speaker 1: you feel bad about yourself, or furthermore, when you are 222 00:11:30,400 --> 00:11:34,319 Speaker 1: making yourself feel badly because you're the ones seeking validation 223 00:11:35,160 --> 00:11:38,319 Speaker 1: from these sources that are not making you feel your best, 224 00:11:38,720 --> 00:11:41,520 Speaker 1: you got to stop and figure out what to do 225 00:11:41,840 --> 00:11:43,760 Speaker 1: to make yourself feel good. And hopefully some of these 226 00:11:43,800 --> 00:11:46,240 Speaker 1: tips and tricks will help you. But I just want 227 00:11:46,280 --> 00:11:48,760 Speaker 1: you to know I see you, and I feel you, 228 00:11:49,240 --> 00:11:51,120 Speaker 1: and I'm proud of you. And I know that's something 229 00:11:51,160 --> 00:11:53,079 Speaker 1: we don't all get in general, is a lot of 230 00:11:53,120 --> 00:11:55,600 Speaker 1: people don't say that they're proud of us, or we 231 00:11:55,600 --> 00:11:57,840 Speaker 1: don't feel seen a lot. So I think it's important 232 00:11:57,880 --> 00:11:59,520 Speaker 1: for your friends to do that to you, right, and 233 00:11:59,559 --> 00:12:01,800 Speaker 1: I always my friends up as well, and like, I 234 00:12:01,800 --> 00:12:03,840 Speaker 1: see you. You're amazing, You're gorgeous, you're a queen, you're 235 00:12:03,840 --> 00:12:05,720 Speaker 1: a king, you're killing it, you're crushing, and I fucking 236 00:12:05,720 --> 00:12:08,040 Speaker 1: love you. You're everything. You're the best. Like, let's do 237 00:12:08,120 --> 00:12:10,720 Speaker 1: that more for each other and it will help along 238 00:12:10,800 --> 00:12:13,400 Speaker 1: the way of where we're going to reach our personal 239 00:12:13,440 --> 00:12:17,840 Speaker 1: and professional goals. But please, please, please, please stop comparing 240 00:12:17,880 --> 00:12:19,760 Speaker 1: yourself to other people as much as you can, and 241 00:12:19,800 --> 00:12:21,640 Speaker 1: it will be a journey in a work in progress, 242 00:12:21,880 --> 00:12:26,040 Speaker 1: because I promise you, no one is you, Nobody is you, 243 00:12:26,160 --> 00:12:28,240 Speaker 1: nobody can offer what you can offer. There is only 244 00:12:28,280 --> 00:12:32,319 Speaker 1: one you, and baby, you are fantastic, So don't ever 245 00:12:32,360 --> 00:12:38,000 Speaker 1: forget it. I've Never Said This Before is hosted by 246 00:12:38,080 --> 00:12:42,760 Speaker 1: Me Tommy Diderio. This podcast is executive produced by Andrew 247 00:12:42,760 --> 00:12:46,640 Speaker 1: Puglisi at iHeartRadio and by Me Tommy, with editing by 248 00:12:46,720 --> 00:12:50,360 Speaker 1: Joshua Colaudney. I've Never Said This Before is part of 249 00:12:50,400 --> 00:12:54,439 Speaker 1: the Elvis Duran podcast Network on iHeart Podcasts. For more, 250 00:12:54,640 --> 00:12:57,599 Speaker 1: rate review and subscribe to our show and if you 251 00:12:57,760 --> 00:13:01,240 Speaker 1: like this episode, tell your friends. Until next time, I'm 252 00:13:01,280 --> 00:13:11,040 Speaker 1: Tommy di Dario m h m hm