1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:02,040 Speaker 1: Buggle up and hold on tight. We got it for 2 00:00:02,240 --> 00:00:04,640 Speaker 1: you here. It is a strawberry letter. He goes a 3 00:00:04,640 --> 00:00:10,280 Speaker 1: little something like this subject That thing terrifies me. Dear 4 00:00:10,320 --> 00:00:13,480 Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley, I am a thirty one year old white 5 00:00:13,520 --> 00:00:16,840 Speaker 1: female and I am proud to say that I am 6 00:00:16,920 --> 00:00:21,800 Speaker 1: still a virgin. Five months ago, I met a very nice, 7 00:00:21,160 --> 00:00:26,079 Speaker 1: thirty three year old black man through an online dating site. 8 00:00:26,560 --> 00:00:30,320 Speaker 1: We've been inseparable since we met, and he's so perfect 9 00:00:30,360 --> 00:00:33,400 Speaker 1: for me. I have decided that I would want to 10 00:00:33,440 --> 00:00:36,199 Speaker 1: make love to him, and he promised to take care 11 00:00:36,200 --> 00:00:39,360 Speaker 1: of my heart and make it a memorable experience for me. 12 00:00:39,920 --> 00:00:43,120 Speaker 1: I'm not sure if he's the one, but I've fallen 13 00:00:43,159 --> 00:00:45,520 Speaker 1: in love with him and I want him to be 14 00:00:45,680 --> 00:00:50,280 Speaker 1: my first. Here's the problem. I suffer with anxiety, and 15 00:00:50,400 --> 00:00:53,120 Speaker 1: it's getting in the way of us having sex when 16 00:00:53,120 --> 00:00:55,840 Speaker 1: we get into it. When we get into it and 17 00:00:56,040 --> 00:00:59,760 Speaker 1: we start getting undressed, I panic. I am ashamed to 18 00:00:59,800 --> 00:01:03,280 Speaker 1: it minute, but it's his size that makes me panic. 19 00:01:03,800 --> 00:01:06,559 Speaker 1: I went to see my gynecologists last week and told 20 00:01:06,600 --> 00:01:09,520 Speaker 1: her about my boyfriend's size and asked if it was 21 00:01:09,560 --> 00:01:13,480 Speaker 1: physically possible for us to have sex. My doctor assured 22 00:01:13,560 --> 00:01:16,400 Speaker 1: me that my boyfriend was not going to break anything 23 00:01:16,480 --> 00:01:19,680 Speaker 1: and I had nothing to worry about. So fast forward 24 00:01:19,680 --> 00:01:22,039 Speaker 1: to this weekend, and the mood was right and my 25 00:01:22,120 --> 00:01:25,200 Speaker 1: boyfriend was ready, and I freaked out and ran out 26 00:01:25,240 --> 00:01:28,800 Speaker 1: of the room. I know he's not going to continue 27 00:01:28,840 --> 00:01:31,360 Speaker 1: to be patient with me, but I am so afraid 28 00:01:31,400 --> 00:01:34,399 Speaker 1: of that thing. This is all too embarrassing for me 29 00:01:34,480 --> 00:01:37,039 Speaker 1: to share with my girlfriends because they will start looking 30 00:01:37,080 --> 00:01:40,440 Speaker 1: at my boyfriend differently, if you know what I mean. 31 00:01:40,959 --> 00:01:44,399 Speaker 1: I need to overcome my fears and just push through. 32 00:01:45,480 --> 00:01:48,840 Speaker 1: Should I tell my boyfriend what's really going on when 33 00:01:48,880 --> 00:01:51,080 Speaker 1: I run from him? Do you think it will turn 34 00:01:51,160 --> 00:01:53,960 Speaker 1: him off and he will go find a more experienced lover? 35 00:01:54,600 --> 00:02:07,760 Speaker 1: Please help me? Okay? Right? Yeah? First of all, First 36 00:02:07,760 --> 00:02:11,200 Speaker 1: of all, you know, congratulations, Um, there are not many 37 00:02:11,680 --> 00:02:15,680 Speaker 1: thirty one year old virgins left, so congratulations on staying 38 00:02:15,680 --> 00:02:21,960 Speaker 1: a virgin for whatever your reason. You're thirty one, you're 39 00:02:22,000 --> 00:02:24,160 Speaker 1: a white female, you say, Now you've met a nice 40 00:02:24,200 --> 00:02:27,400 Speaker 1: thirty three year old black man through online dating, and 41 00:02:27,680 --> 00:02:30,519 Speaker 1: you've been inseparable, inseparable since you met, and now it's 42 00:02:30,520 --> 00:02:32,840 Speaker 1: time for sex. You decided that you wanted to have 43 00:02:32,919 --> 00:02:38,880 Speaker 1: sex with him. Well, but you're afraid because of his size. Well, 44 00:02:38,919 --> 00:02:41,360 Speaker 1: some would think this would be a wonderful problem, to 45 00:02:41,440 --> 00:02:46,440 Speaker 1: have a wonderful problem, But um, your fear is understandable, 46 00:02:46,480 --> 00:02:51,880 Speaker 1: I guess as a virgin, uh, somewhat. Now you've been 47 00:02:51,919 --> 00:02:55,680 Speaker 1: to your doctor. You've talked to your doctor about this, 48 00:02:55,880 --> 00:02:58,799 Speaker 1: about your fear, about your anxiety. Your doctor has assured 49 00:02:58,840 --> 00:03:01,799 Speaker 1: you that physically it's going to be all right. He's 50 00:03:01,840 --> 00:03:07,000 Speaker 1: not going to break anything. But you tried it again. 51 00:03:07,120 --> 00:03:12,520 Speaker 1: You freaked out and ran. Yeah. It's embarrassing to you 52 00:03:12,600 --> 00:03:14,920 Speaker 1: and probably for him too, because he has no idea 53 00:03:14,960 --> 00:03:16,839 Speaker 1: what's going on. And no, you don't want to share 54 00:03:16,840 --> 00:03:21,000 Speaker 1: it with your girlfriends because if they find out, assuming 55 00:03:21,000 --> 00:03:24,680 Speaker 1: they're not virgins, yeah, they will be probably knocking at 56 00:03:24,680 --> 00:03:27,040 Speaker 1: his door. As a lot of women. Would you ask 57 00:03:27,120 --> 00:03:29,560 Speaker 1: a question, should you tell your boyfriend what's really going 58 00:03:29,600 --> 00:03:32,440 Speaker 1: on and why you ran? Yeah? I think you absolutely 59 00:03:32,480 --> 00:03:35,600 Speaker 1: should tell him, you know, if you want to stay 60 00:03:35,600 --> 00:03:38,040 Speaker 1: in this relationship. I don't know how patient he is. 61 00:03:38,120 --> 00:03:40,119 Speaker 1: I don't know if he's getting it from anywhere else 62 00:03:40,240 --> 00:03:43,360 Speaker 1: or anything like that, but I would definitely tell him 63 00:03:43,400 --> 00:03:46,320 Speaker 1: what the issue is. This is an issue for you. 64 00:03:46,320 --> 00:03:49,120 Speaker 1: You're afraid if you're afraid, maybe you need to leave 65 00:03:49,200 --> 00:03:52,320 Speaker 1: him alone altogether. Maybe you just need to leave him 66 00:03:52,320 --> 00:03:58,240 Speaker 1: alone altogether, okay, and just deal with someone else, you know, 67 00:03:58,280 --> 00:04:01,120 Speaker 1: if you decide to give your virgin virginity away, But 68 00:04:01,320 --> 00:04:04,760 Speaker 1: should you tell him absolutely? And then you decide, you guys, 69 00:04:04,840 --> 00:04:08,560 Speaker 1: decide as a as a couple where to grow from there? Here? 70 00:04:08,720 --> 00:04:12,320 Speaker 1: That's all I got. Junior birthday boy? Huh, birthday boy? 71 00:04:12,440 --> 00:04:16,080 Speaker 1: What you heard me? You want me talking about? What 72 00:04:16,839 --> 00:04:22,039 Speaker 1: the letter? What you want me to say? I I 73 00:04:22,080 --> 00:04:23,800 Speaker 1: don't know what to tell you. It's my birthday. I 74 00:04:23,800 --> 00:04:26,200 Speaker 1: don't really have no answer for you. First of all, 75 00:04:26,200 --> 00:04:30,200 Speaker 1: I'm not being discussing another man's side on this show here, 76 00:04:30,360 --> 00:04:33,279 Speaker 1: not not me, not now. Tommy and Jay may won't do, 77 00:04:33,320 --> 00:04:36,240 Speaker 1: but I'm not not on my birthday. I don't know 78 00:04:36,279 --> 00:04:38,400 Speaker 1: what to tell you. Lady. You might well go back 79 00:04:38,440 --> 00:04:40,960 Speaker 1: to your people, you know, get back over that way 80 00:04:41,000 --> 00:04:44,159 Speaker 1: you belong. I don't know, lead these brothers alone, you know, 81 00:04:44,279 --> 00:04:48,400 Speaker 1: find tom you know, get with Mick, you know. Hey, 82 00:04:48,720 --> 00:04:50,480 Speaker 1: But I don't know what else you want me to 83 00:04:50,480 --> 00:04:52,600 Speaker 1: do to help you get to hugging and holding. I 84 00:04:52,640 --> 00:04:54,719 Speaker 1: don't know what else you need to do. But it's 85 00:04:54,760 --> 00:04:57,480 Speaker 1: my birthday. I cannot discuss this on my b day. 86 00:04:57,600 --> 00:05:02,240 Speaker 1: Not me, No, sir, it's that much for us much. 87 00:05:02,720 --> 00:05:05,400 Speaker 1: Hey yeah, you know we're running out of the room. 88 00:05:05,680 --> 00:05:08,719 Speaker 1: You run it, you're breaking out sprinting. Hey, yeah, I 89 00:05:08,760 --> 00:05:10,680 Speaker 1: can't tell you. How do you? Doctor said it's okay. 90 00:05:10,760 --> 00:05:14,840 Speaker 1: So yeah, you don't believe your doctor. What can I do? Yeah? 91 00:05:14,960 --> 00:05:17,839 Speaker 1: All right, come on, Jay? That thing terrifies me. That 92 00:05:17,960 --> 00:05:20,920 Speaker 1: is this is, this is so embarrassing, just for me. 93 00:05:21,080 --> 00:05:24,279 Speaker 1: What are you doing here? Well, first of all, she's 94 00:05:24,320 --> 00:05:27,520 Speaker 1: older than thirty one. I know who this is. This is, 95 00:05:28,000 --> 00:05:30,560 Speaker 1: this is about me, this is this is, this is, 96 00:05:30,920 --> 00:05:35,039 Speaker 1: this is who I'm seeing. So this letter is about you? 97 00:05:35,279 --> 00:05:39,880 Speaker 1: And you know who else? Day? White women here? Anybody else? Mean? Yeah, 98 00:05:39,880 --> 00:05:44,920 Speaker 1: I mean and so, And I've offered to fi problem. 99 00:05:45,960 --> 00:05:48,720 Speaker 1: I mean, I'm sorry, I mean what can I say? 100 00:05:49,000 --> 00:05:53,000 Speaker 1: I mean, it is what it is. You got what 101 00:05:53,080 --> 00:05:56,400 Speaker 1: you got? I mean, I mean, I even offered the 102 00:05:56,720 --> 00:06:01,640 Speaker 1: hell folding in half, had you want to go that 103 00:06:01,720 --> 00:06:04,159 Speaker 1: way with it. But I don't know what else to dude, 104 00:06:04,240 --> 00:06:08,120 Speaker 1: But you know, I'm sorry, you know, I like you. 105 00:06:08,240 --> 00:06:12,719 Speaker 1: We just that's just stratus. We don't know, we don't 106 00:06:12,720 --> 00:06:15,240 Speaker 1: know how does gonna go, But don't. First of all, 107 00:06:15,279 --> 00:06:17,320 Speaker 1: you embarrassed me by calling my job and write my 108 00:06:17,400 --> 00:06:22,880 Speaker 1: people on my job. This is embarrassing. We didn't know 109 00:06:22,960 --> 00:06:27,120 Speaker 1: it was you until you said something, Jane subject. That 110 00:06:27,240 --> 00:06:30,680 Speaker 1: thing terrifies me. Little did we know what they were 111 00:06:30,720 --> 00:06:33,760 Speaker 1: talking about here. Thirty one year old white woman wrote 112 00:06:33,800 --> 00:06:36,560 Speaker 1: in She's very proud to say that she's still a virgin. 113 00:06:36,960 --> 00:06:39,440 Speaker 1: Five months ago, she met a very nice thirty three 114 00:06:39,520 --> 00:06:44,120 Speaker 1: year old black man online. They've been inseparable since they've met. 115 00:06:44,160 --> 00:06:47,560 Speaker 1: She says he's perfect for her. She's decided that he 116 00:06:47,760 --> 00:06:50,279 Speaker 1: will be her first. He will be her first. The 117 00:06:50,360 --> 00:06:54,760 Speaker 1: only problem is, she says, she suffered with anxiety and 118 00:06:54,839 --> 00:06:58,239 Speaker 1: it is getting in the way of them having sex. 119 00:06:58,680 --> 00:07:01,800 Speaker 1: And she's a shame to ashamed to admit it. But 120 00:07:02,480 --> 00:07:06,560 Speaker 1: his size is what makes her heavies and the anxiety attacks, 121 00:07:06,600 --> 00:07:10,280 Speaker 1: these panic attacks. So she went to the doctor. The 122 00:07:10,320 --> 00:07:13,200 Speaker 1: doctor says she's clear, she's all good, he's not going 123 00:07:13,240 --> 00:07:16,920 Speaker 1: to break anything. But when they got, you know, all 124 00:07:16,960 --> 00:07:19,240 Speaker 1: hot and heavy. The last time she break out, she 125 00:07:19,360 --> 00:07:22,240 Speaker 1: broke out and ran. She got so scared she ran. 126 00:07:22,640 --> 00:07:24,880 Speaker 1: So she doesn't want to tell her girlfriends because she 127 00:07:24,920 --> 00:07:27,720 Speaker 1: thinks her girlfriends might you know, be really into them, 128 00:07:27,960 --> 00:07:29,960 Speaker 1: so she wants to know should she tell her boyfriend 129 00:07:30,040 --> 00:07:32,960 Speaker 1: what's really going on? And she needs help? All right, Jay, 130 00:07:32,960 --> 00:07:34,920 Speaker 1: did you want to finish part two of your responsible 131 00:07:35,760 --> 00:07:39,280 Speaker 1: You know, I mean I apologizing, but I also like 132 00:07:39,400 --> 00:07:43,480 Speaker 1: to think that the sandwich people with the sandwich special, 133 00:07:43,560 --> 00:07:45,960 Speaker 1: they have the five dollars foot lung. I mean, I'm 134 00:07:46,000 --> 00:07:49,440 Speaker 1: still getting money for that, so that's cool. You know, 135 00:07:49,720 --> 00:07:52,920 Speaker 1: I made a little money. I made a little money 136 00:07:52,920 --> 00:07:55,200 Speaker 1: on the side for the slogan I put that together. 137 00:07:56,280 --> 00:08:05,080 Speaker 1: You know, you're what do you have to say? I 138 00:08:07,880 --> 00:08:09,920 Speaker 1: think the best way to put this is this light 139 00:08:11,360 --> 00:08:14,680 Speaker 1: kind of like this what you got to quit running 140 00:08:14,720 --> 00:08:18,679 Speaker 1: from that deep? Following from that D man dropped his pants. 141 00:08:18,720 --> 00:08:21,080 Speaker 1: Ain't you're scared of the D jump out the bed 142 00:08:21,120 --> 00:08:24,160 Speaker 1: for the deep because you're scared of the DP broke 143 00:08:24,280 --> 00:08:27,120 Speaker 1: I running bust your head from that DP. Bush your 144 00:08:27,120 --> 00:08:30,480 Speaker 1: head from that DP. So down for the D. Work 145 00:08:34,080 --> 00:08:42,480 Speaker 1: this show. That's definitely what happened. Yes, uh, following for 146 00:08:42,679 --> 00:08:46,439 Speaker 1: that DU running from that D. So here's what I think, y'all. 147 00:08:47,240 --> 00:08:51,520 Speaker 1: You got the start small, baby, Okay, work your way 148 00:08:51,640 --> 00:08:55,079 Speaker 1: up to the big deal. Start small, this letting. When 149 00:08:55,080 --> 00:08:57,200 Speaker 1: you're young, you didn't just go straight to a bicycle. 150 00:08:57,480 --> 00:08:59,800 Speaker 1: You have to try sickle. Then you got to the 151 00:09:00,559 --> 00:09:02,600 Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. You had baby shoes, then 152 00:09:02,640 --> 00:09:04,760 Speaker 1: you went to stride right, you got to take baby 153 00:09:04,840 --> 00:09:07,400 Speaker 1: stealth dollar when you go to the when you go 154 00:09:07,559 --> 00:09:11,280 Speaker 1: eat donner, don't you start with the appetise right then 155 00:09:11,400 --> 00:09:13,880 Speaker 1: you get to the entree. You see what I'm saying. Nephew, 156 00:09:14,440 --> 00:09:17,199 Speaker 1: h how's she going to find that out on the website? 157 00:09:18,160 --> 00:09:21,320 Speaker 1: You know how? Wow? Because now she got to start 158 00:09:21,440 --> 00:09:31,160 Speaker 1: running towards a d. Running on the d. Well, say 159 00:09:31,200 --> 00:09:34,840 Speaker 1: one more thing. What day when we when we were dating, 160 00:09:35,000 --> 00:09:41,079 Speaker 1: you know, she asked me the letter writer, listen to 161 00:09:41,200 --> 00:09:44,520 Speaker 1: the letters about you. It's about me. She asked me 162 00:09:44,559 --> 00:09:47,280 Speaker 1: to send her a picture, and I said I would, 163 00:09:47,960 --> 00:09:49,800 Speaker 1: but it would eat up all your memory, so I 164 00:09:49,840 --> 00:10:05,040 Speaker 1: can't do that. He's stupid. You. I'm gonna go black. Wow. 165 00:10:06,880 --> 00:10:09,960 Speaker 1: Timmy's right, you gotta you gotta start smile. You gotta twit. 166 00:10:10,160 --> 00:10:14,360 Speaker 1: Running from the difference from the man drop his pants 167 00:10:14,360 --> 00:10:19,600 Speaker 1: because you're stand or falling from the D because you're 168 00:10:19,640 --> 00:10:23,120 Speaker 1: scared of the D broke. I running bust your head 169 00:10:23,200 --> 00:10:26,080 Speaker 1: on the d Yeah. So do you guys, what do 170 00:10:26,080 --> 00:10:30,240 Speaker 1: you guys think? Should she tell her boyfriend what's going on? Yea, yeah, 171 00:10:30,280 --> 00:10:32,440 Speaker 1: I think he knows about now. I know, I know 172 00:10:32,480 --> 00:10:35,559 Speaker 1: what the problem is. You know what though, Like this here, 173 00:10:35,600 --> 00:10:38,520 Speaker 1: when you go to the meat market and you want 174 00:10:38,559 --> 00:10:42,120 Speaker 1: some summer sausage, you don't want that whole thing or 175 00:10:42,200 --> 00:10:46,080 Speaker 1: summer sausage. You know what I'm saying. Cut that in half. Yeah, listen, listen, 176 00:10:46,120 --> 00:10:49,000 Speaker 1: give me, just give me a dollar worth or suffer 177 00:10:49,120 --> 00:10:52,160 Speaker 1: sacke What do you sausage? First of all, you don't 178 00:10:52,160 --> 00:10:56,040 Speaker 1: know summer sausage. Just I know sausage. Yeah, but is 179 00:10:56,080 --> 00:10:59,680 Speaker 1: there I don't have something summer is that? I don't 180 00:10:59,679 --> 00:11:05,040 Speaker 1: know what. I'm sorry. You are the whitest person you 181 00:11:05,120 --> 00:11:11,240 Speaker 1: want to do that show. I mean, you know I 182 00:11:11,360 --> 00:11:16,200 Speaker 1: did summer sausage, sausage. We didn't say this summer sausage. 183 00:11:16,400 --> 00:11:18,320 Speaker 1: Ley's got the little little little band around you gotta 184 00:11:18,360 --> 00:11:19,880 Speaker 1: put it off and you need the meet and crackers. 185 00:11:19,880 --> 00:11:26,360 Speaker 1: You ain't never slices. Yeah, but that's just sausage. No, No, 186 00:11:26,559 --> 00:11:30,000 Speaker 1: that's not no, just no summer saucee. Okay, we called 187 00:11:30,040 --> 00:11:34,920 Speaker 1: it sausage. Sorry, stop, I'm running from the back to 188 00:11:35,000 --> 00:11:38,040 Speaker 1: the summer sausage. All I'm saying when you go get 189 00:11:38,040 --> 00:11:40,000 Speaker 1: some sumer side, you don't buy that whole long thing 190 00:11:40,080 --> 00:11:42,960 Speaker 1: or some side. You get what you want. Tell him 191 00:11:43,000 --> 00:11:45,600 Speaker 1: you want a dollar work, you don't want that whole thing. 192 00:11:45,679 --> 00:11:47,719 Speaker 1: You see what I'm saying. That's all I'm saying. You 193 00:11:47,720 --> 00:11:50,920 Speaker 1: can order what you want. You don't haven't get all 194 00:11:50,960 --> 00:11:53,280 Speaker 1: of that. I don't think you want to dollars. You 195 00:11:53,360 --> 00:11:59,000 Speaker 1: might want to, It's still a lot at a dollar. 196 00:12:00,240 --> 00:12:05,000 Speaker 1: Oh my god. All right, listen email us on Instagram 197 00:12:05,000 --> 00:12:08,800 Speaker 1: as your thoughts on today's Strawberry Letter, Wow at Steve 198 00:12:08,880 --> 00:12:12,400 Speaker 1: Harvey FM, or you can check out the Strawberry Letter 199 00:12:12,440 --> 00:12:16,840 Speaker 1: podcast on demand. Baby, you're listening to the Steve Harvey 200 00:12:16,880 --> 00:12:17,480 Speaker 1: Morning Show.