WEBVTT - “MY ROOMMATE IS DOWN TO RAISE MY KID” 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:02.040 All from Jade. 0:00:03.160 --> 0:00:07.040 Hello, Yo, my god, is it wild? 0:00:07.760 --> 0:00:08.559 Yeah? Who's this? 0:00:09.200 --> 0:00:11.240 Oh my god? This is Jade. I've been like trying 0:00:11.240 --> 0:00:13.760 to call for like two years. What the buck, Jade? 0:00:13.840 --> 0:00:15.240 What's going on? How's life? 0:00:15.880 --> 0:00:20.000 Not a car? Life is terrible? I've it's been rough. 0:00:20.040 --> 0:00:20.239 Man. 0:00:22.280 --> 0:00:23.439 Why I so? 0:00:24.640 --> 0:00:27.480 I just lost my job, that's cool. The place I've 0:00:27.480 --> 0:00:30.680 been working at was like, hey, we gotta do budget cuts, 0:00:30.720 --> 0:00:34.080 you gotta fire someone. That one someone neut. I was like, man, 0:00:34.360 --> 0:00:36.919 that sucks, and I cried about it. And then I've 0:00:36.960 --> 0:00:38.760 been applying to a lot of jobs and no one 0:00:38.800 --> 0:00:39.240 is hiring. 0:00:40.080 --> 0:00:44.839 Yeah, you know what I just it just really is 0:00:44.920 --> 0:00:48.600 so crazy that we need money to live. This is 0:00:48.640 --> 0:00:51.120 where this is. I'm going to get into, Like I 0:00:51.159 --> 0:00:55.160 don't know anything about economics or life or politics or whatever, 0:00:55.240 --> 0:00:59.360 but it's like it's just shouldn't we have there's enough 0:00:59.520 --> 0:01:03.880 food and stuff, and like, you know, we're gonna shouldn't 0:01:03.880 --> 0:01:06.160 we get robots to just do everything for us and 0:01:06.200 --> 0:01:09.399 then we can each hall of enough to just like 0:01:10.120 --> 0:01:13.200 hang out. You know, it's just crazy that we need 0:01:13.240 --> 0:01:17.720 to we need to work to live. Or maybe it's 0:01:17.760 --> 0:01:20.320 not crazy, maybe it makes sense. And I'm dumb. I 0:01:20.400 --> 0:01:23.119 don't know, I'm I'm not. I mean whatever. 0:01:23.480 --> 0:01:28.119 For me personally, I like working, having just a thing 0:01:28.600 --> 0:01:32.560 to do that important for me. Yeah, it's an important thing, 0:01:32.720 --> 0:01:34.880 you know. Uh. But on the other hand, it's like 0:01:35.520 --> 0:01:37.880 this fucking sucks at all times that I'm at work. 0:01:37.880 --> 0:01:41.000 I want to fucking kill myself. Can I say that? Anyways? 0:01:41.360 --> 0:01:44.600 Do whatever you want to make It's yeah, it's rough, dude. 0:01:44.800 --> 0:01:47.200 And I mean, like, I'm taking care of my girlfriend. 0:01:47.319 --> 0:01:51.200 She's like super disabled. I mean, I she's also pregnant 0:01:51.240 --> 0:01:56.000 right now, which is a little crazy crazy. Yeah, I know, 0:01:56.360 --> 0:01:58.160 I'm really scared about that. 0:01:58.240 --> 0:01:58.480 Yeah. 0:01:59.400 --> 0:02:02.640 Uh. She has metal rods in her legs, so there's 0:02:02.720 --> 0:02:04.400 like a chance and like a plate in her hip, 0:02:04.440 --> 0:02:06.919 there's a chance like when she gives birth, like legs 0:02:06.960 --> 0:02:11.959 could just like explode, you know, which would not be 0:02:12.520 --> 0:02:13.639 very epic. I don't think. 0:02:15.000 --> 0:02:16.280 I mean, it'd be a little epic. 0:02:17.800 --> 0:02:19.560 Yeah, it'd be kind of cool, Like if. 0:02:19.480 --> 0:02:22.560 You're gonna if you're I'm I don't think it'd be good. 0:02:22.600 --> 0:02:24.679 But if you're using the word epic, I think it 0:02:24.720 --> 0:02:25.680 would be a little epic. 0:02:26.040 --> 0:02:27.919 Yeah, little bit. 0:02:32.440 --> 0:02:35.119 What job were you fired from? 0:02:35.520 --> 0:02:38.160 It was a it was basically a lion cook position 0:02:38.200 --> 0:02:41.440 out like a pizza place. All I did every day 0:02:41.680 --> 0:02:43.920 was I was the dough person. I would make dough 0:02:43.960 --> 0:02:47.600 and fucking cut it into the circles so they can 0:02:48.080 --> 0:02:49.800 make the pizzas. 0:02:50.880 --> 0:02:52.959 But uh, yeah, you're Italian. 0:02:53.040 --> 0:02:58.200 I mean actually my family is very Italian unfortunately through 0:02:58.280 --> 0:03:02.200 in breeding. But thinks like my great grandparents or first cousins. 0:03:04.320 --> 0:03:07.600 Hm, but are you are? You were your your parents 0:03:07.600 --> 0:03:08.720 weren't cousins? Were they? 0:03:09.760 --> 0:03:12.760 No? Thank god that I feel like I'd be like 0:03:12.919 --> 0:03:16.960 twice as fucked up as my parents were. Like related, Uh, 0:03:17.720 --> 0:03:20.760 I'm not already. I mean like I'm autistic as shit, 0:03:21.680 --> 0:03:24.640 I'm just gizophrenic. It's not not a good combination there. 0:03:28.360 --> 0:03:29.720 Well, you seem cool to me. 0:03:32.000 --> 0:03:34.120 Well, unfortunately jobs do not think so. 0:03:35.120 --> 0:03:37.600 I mean, why why do you think jobs don't think 0:03:37.600 --> 0:03:38.240 that you're cool? 0:03:41.240 --> 0:03:43.720 When I mean I've noticed in a lot of interviews 0:03:43.760 --> 0:03:49.680 when jobs realize that you are not I don't want 0:03:49.720 --> 0:03:52.480 to say normal, but like if you're a little bit 0:03:52.560 --> 0:03:55.280 weird or like a little bit strange, job is. 0:03:55.200 --> 0:03:59.680 Gonna be like, well, here's the thing, Jade, I don't know. 0:03:59.720 --> 0:04:02.400 I mean, we've been talking for about four minutes now, 0:04:02.600 --> 0:04:05.520 and I don't know who you are, so, I mean 0:04:05.560 --> 0:04:08.720 I just from from the other end of the table, 0:04:09.000 --> 0:04:12.560 you are somebody. If if you hadn't have told me 0:04:13.480 --> 0:04:17.800 that there was anything going on, uh, my first impression 0:04:17.839 --> 0:04:20.680 of you just from speaking to you would not be 0:04:21.480 --> 0:04:26.120 that there was anything grossly abnormal about you. 0:04:29.080 --> 0:04:31.480 Well, that is very kind to hear. 0:04:33.680 --> 0:04:36.000 Unfortunately, I do not have any Pazza places that I 0:04:36.040 --> 0:04:39.160 own that you can work at. But if I did, yeah, 0:04:39.240 --> 0:04:39.760 i'd hire you. 0:04:39.920 --> 0:04:44.440 Fortunately, you know that's I don't know. It's like I'm 0:04:44.440 --> 0:04:46.880 not even getting interviews, which is the fucked un part. 0:04:46.920 --> 0:04:49.040 It's like, I have a good resume, I have like 0:04:49.360 --> 0:04:52.760 five six years of restaurant experience. Like what am I 0:04:52.760 --> 0:04:53.320 supposed to do? 0:04:54.000 --> 0:04:57.000 You know, it's so hard. It's so hard. It's like funny, 0:04:57.040 --> 0:05:00.680 it's it. You know, it's hard to get any kind 0:05:00.720 --> 0:05:04.440 of job even like you know, there's all these people 0:05:04.480 --> 0:05:08.760 out there like trying to be you know, YouTubers or 0:05:08.839 --> 0:05:12.120 actors or artists or whatever, and everyone's like, oh you 0:05:12.200 --> 0:05:14.359 have you got to know somebody. It's so hard. But 0:05:14.760 --> 0:05:17.680 it's hard to get a fucking job at a pizza place. Dude. 0:05:17.680 --> 0:05:20.160 It's hard. To get a job anywhere. You know, it's 0:05:20.240 --> 0:05:23.080 hard to It's fucking hard, man. 0:05:23.120 --> 0:05:27.120 I feel you like a walk into a place like 0:05:27.160 --> 0:05:30.560 I walked into this, this fucking restaurant of like a 0:05:30.600 --> 0:05:32.600 week ago. I'm like, here are you guys hiring? And 0:05:32.640 --> 0:05:35.360 they're like, yes, we are supergently hiring. We need to 0:05:35.400 --> 0:05:37.599 come on in the kitchen. I'm like, well, here's my resume. 0:05:37.720 --> 0:05:40.000 I have five years of experience. And then they didn't 0:05:40.040 --> 0:05:41.200 fucking call me back. 0:05:41.240 --> 0:05:46.440 What like, I don't know, I don't Yeah, what does 0:05:46.480 --> 0:05:47.360 your girlfriend do? 0:05:49.480 --> 0:05:52.839 She so she works part time at a like a 0:05:52.880 --> 0:05:56.159 fish store. I guess you could call it like an 0:05:56.200 --> 0:05:58.600 exotic fish store. It's got like salt water on one side, 0:05:58.640 --> 0:06:02.240 freshwater on the other. Uh. Same with my roommate, who's 0:06:02.240 --> 0:06:07.760 also technically gonna be a second, well third parent to 0:06:07.839 --> 0:06:12.080 the kid because he can have kids like he's and 0:06:12.080 --> 0:06:14.880 he's always wanting a kid. So we're like, you know, 0:06:15.240 --> 0:06:16.320 you can help raise our kid. 0:06:16.839 --> 0:06:21.159 Wait, so the third who's who's vagina? Is the baby 0:06:21.200 --> 0:06:21.800 coming out of. 0:06:23.440 --> 0:06:24.479 My girlfriends? 0:06:24.760 --> 0:06:29.720 Okay? So okay, well you said third parent. I was like, 0:06:29.800 --> 0:06:32.280 is there a double penetration thing going on where it's 0:06:32.320 --> 0:06:35.000 like so let's just cut it down the middle. 0:06:35.920 --> 0:06:39.440 Yeah, fucking now, he just uh he always want to 0:06:39.480 --> 0:06:40.719 have a kid, And they're like, you know, you can 0:06:41.160 --> 0:06:43.320 be another basically another dad to the kid. 0:06:43.360 --> 0:06:47.080 And wait, for real, you're just the room. The roommate 0:06:47.160 --> 0:06:49.080 is just like, hey, you guys are having a kid. 0:06:49.080 --> 0:06:51.080 That looks pretty cool. Can I have Can I have 0:06:51.080 --> 0:06:53.400 a little piece of your kid? Like he's asking like 0:06:53.400 --> 0:06:55.760 he's asking for a bite of your food, but with 0:06:55.800 --> 0:06:56.240 your kid. 0:06:56.720 --> 0:06:59.520 Yeah, it's pretty much as casual as that. You're like, 0:06:59.560 --> 0:07:01.239 you know what, we we could use the help around. 0:07:01.360 --> 0:07:04.240 You know, how do you know this roommate? This isn't 0:07:04.279 --> 0:07:05.920 just like a Craigslist roommate. 0:07:05.640 --> 0:07:06.880 Is it? No? 0:07:07.240 --> 0:07:09.640 Fuck no? He so he went to my high school 0:07:10.880 --> 0:07:14.240 and then I like didn't see him for a while. 0:07:15.040 --> 0:07:17.200 And then it turns out he started working with my 0:07:17.240 --> 0:07:21.400 girlfriend at the fish store. Uh, and he needed a 0:07:21.440 --> 0:07:24.080 place to be a roommate. I'm like, I already know him, 0:07:24.080 --> 0:07:26.240 you already know him, might as well. And then it 0:07:26.280 --> 0:07:26.920 went from there. 0:07:30.080 --> 0:07:33.400 So I guess I don't understand, like this, how this 0:07:33.480 --> 0:07:36.960 man has purchased shares of your child, Like he's just 0:07:38.000 --> 0:07:40.880 he's just a dad. What's the arrangement here. 0:07:41.040 --> 0:07:45.840 Yea, it's like, oh my god, what there's a there's 0:07:45.880 --> 0:07:51.040 a show where there's multiple dads to like multiple kids. 0:07:51.040 --> 0:07:53.480 I can't even remember what it is. It's some sitcom, 0:07:54.200 --> 0:07:57.720 but anyways, it's just like the kid's gonna call him dad. 0:07:57.760 --> 0:08:01.040 The kid's gonna call my girlfri and mom called me mom. 0:08:01.080 --> 0:08:03.960 I mean, no, that's not that crazy. 0:08:04.920 --> 0:08:10.040 Okay, So the kid will have two moms and one dad. 0:08:10.800 --> 0:08:13.760 Two moms, one dad yet and the dad he's. 0:08:13.560 --> 0:08:16.880 A parent teacher conference. Is a little awkward, but. 0:08:18.920 --> 0:08:21.480 So your friend from high school is just down to 0:08:21.600 --> 0:08:25.320 be your kid's dad. He's not you guys aren't in 0:08:25.360 --> 0:08:28.400 like a whole poly crazy thing, are you? 0:08:28.440 --> 0:08:29.120 No? 0:08:29.120 --> 0:08:33.160 No, no, no, Like that was specifically something he requested, 0:08:33.240 --> 0:08:34.320 was like I do not want to be in a 0:08:34.360 --> 0:08:39.960 relationship with either of you. No offense, but we're like 0:08:40.040 --> 0:08:42.720 gonna he has like day people, so. 0:08:42.640 --> 0:08:44.480 He can kind of he can he can sort of 0:08:44.520 --> 0:08:46.760 dip out at any time he wants. You know, he's 0:08:46.800 --> 0:08:47.959 not even like a real dad. 0:08:49.559 --> 0:08:51.800 Technically he could, but I don't think he will. I mean, 0:08:51.840 --> 0:08:55.520 he's like super excited about the whole thing. He's wanted 0:08:55.559 --> 0:09:03.439 a kid ever since a long time, you know. But yeah, 0:09:03.480 --> 0:09:06.960 that's a weird little situation we got, but okay, it 0:09:07.000 --> 0:09:10.160 all works out. 0:09:11.760 --> 0:09:14.520 That's crazy that like, in whatever state you live in, 0:09:14.760 --> 0:09:19.880 it's easier to like become some kid's dad without doing 0:09:19.920 --> 0:09:21.599 anything than it is to get a job at a 0:09:21.600 --> 0:09:22.280 pizza place. 0:09:23.800 --> 0:09:25.199 That's what I'm saying, dude. 0:09:25.520 --> 0:09:29.439 I mean, is he gonna pay for the kid? Is 0:09:29.480 --> 0:09:31.640 he helping pay for the kid? Is he like financially 0:09:31.679 --> 0:09:32.560 supporting you? 0:09:32.800 --> 0:09:36.480 Yeah, he is financially supporting. I mean he's already like 0:09:36.520 --> 0:09:40.760 bought stuff for the kid preemptively, like baby crib, I 0:09:40.760 --> 0:09:49.280 forget the fuck off the counter, sorry my cat baby. Yeah, 0:09:49.480 --> 0:09:53.360 he's just on the fucking counter. They're actually both at 0:09:53.360 --> 0:09:58.080 work right now. But yeah, basically he wants to financially support, 0:09:58.120 --> 0:10:00.880 be there like emotionally for the kid, help do everything, 0:10:00.920 --> 0:10:05.319 you know. And I think it's good because like, having 0:10:06.000 --> 0:10:07.400 three parents is better than. 0:10:07.400 --> 0:10:14.760 Two, I suppose. So I suppose it takes it takes uh, 0:10:15.840 --> 0:10:18.800 it takes a roommate, true. 0:10:18.880 --> 0:10:20.880 I mean unless we make the kids like three times 0:10:20.880 --> 0:10:25.160 as fucked up, then that I don't think that's good. 0:10:26.240 --> 0:10:31.720 Okay, Well, what was the kid an accident or did 0:10:31.760 --> 0:10:32.440 you plan the kid. 0:10:34.559 --> 0:10:40.720 So we did plan the kids what's called uh, but 0:10:41.600 --> 0:10:46.760 we've been telling everyone we didn't plan the kid because well, 0:10:46.800 --> 0:10:48.600 it was mostly my girlfriend. He said that because she 0:10:49.080 --> 0:10:53.080 was very scared that people would judge us because we 0:10:53.160 --> 0:10:58.160 aren't the most financially well off. I mean even now 0:10:58.200 --> 0:11:03.000 considering I just lost my job, but like we have 0:11:03.080 --> 0:11:05.840 our own place, but it's it's definitely been a struggle 0:11:05.880 --> 0:11:11.200 money line, but we're working on it. We're getting there. 0:11:13.200 --> 0:11:15.840 And so, okay, so it was planned, but you're telling 0:11:15.880 --> 0:11:21.400 people it wasn't. Yes, basically okay because you're afraid that 0:11:21.440 --> 0:11:25.520 they will judge you for having a kid without being 0:11:25.600 --> 0:11:27.000 like financially stable. 0:11:28.960 --> 0:11:30.839 Yeah, yeah, for sure. 0:11:32.000 --> 0:11:34.040 Okay, how long have you been planning on having a 0:11:34.120 --> 0:11:34.440 kid for? 0:11:36.880 --> 0:11:40.319 I mean, I wouldn't say ever since we've started dating, 0:11:40.360 --> 0:11:45.120 but like the ideas is fluted around, but I guess, 0:11:45.240 --> 0:11:47.640 like this just this year, we've been really set on 0:11:48.480 --> 0:11:49.600 planning it having it happen. 0:11:50.320 --> 0:11:53.400 Mm hmm. And well, I mean I get look, I 0:11:53.480 --> 0:11:56.240 mean I guess you have three incomes. Does the does 0:11:56.400 --> 0:11:59.280 the truth does the guy is the guy have a 0:11:59.360 --> 0:12:01.120 job the roommate. 0:12:01.520 --> 0:12:04.800 Yes, he works at the same place my girlfriend. 0:12:04.360 --> 0:12:06.400 Does Okay, so that's. 0:12:06.240 --> 0:12:11.720 Also convenient with like rides and everything, and yeah, I 0:12:11.760 --> 0:12:19.080 mean speaking's difficult anyways. Three incomes is good, but it's 0:12:19.120 --> 0:12:23.280 also bad because if we apply for financial aid through 0:12:23.280 --> 0:12:26.560 the government, right, I mean, I suppose we could leave 0:12:26.720 --> 0:12:30.400 off the roommate, but like it'll still show based on 0:12:30.480 --> 0:12:32.880 like legal filings and everything, that like a third person 0:12:32.920 --> 0:12:35.559 lives here, which makes our chances for like food stamps 0:12:35.640 --> 0:12:39.800 and insurance and stuff a lot slimmer in some regards. 0:12:42.080 --> 0:12:42.640 How old are you? 0:12:42.800 --> 0:12:47.960 Shit, I wasn't so I am twenty. My girlfriend is 0:12:48.200 --> 0:12:52.200 twenty four, and the roommate is twenty two. 0:12:53.440 --> 0:12:58.400 Okay, is this something you've always wanted to do? 0:13:00.360 --> 0:13:04.000 I mean I've wanted kids most because, like I'm in 0:13:04.040 --> 0:13:07.559 a mindset of I want a kid to make sure 0:13:07.600 --> 0:13:10.080 that kid grows up a lot better than I did, 0:13:11.080 --> 0:13:13.400 you know, because my parents were like fucking horrible. I 0:13:13.480 --> 0:13:16.960 mean I was adopted when I was young. Uh went 0:13:17.000 --> 0:13:18.840 too with my aunt and uncle, who were the people 0:13:18.920 --> 0:13:22.760 that adopted me. They were just fucking batshit terrible, you know. 0:13:23.400 --> 0:13:28.040 M hm. So yeah, having a kid to make up 0:13:28.040 --> 0:13:30.760 for that, I guess, but also like having a kids cool, 0:13:30.800 --> 0:13:36.280 you know, mm hmm, just having have a little guy 0:13:36.360 --> 0:13:36.880 run around. 0:13:37.800 --> 0:13:51.040 Mm hmm. Well hm hmm. I mean I I I 0:13:50.720 --> 0:13:53.600 I hope you find your way into a happy life, Jade, 0:13:53.640 --> 0:13:56.679 I really do do doo. 0:13:56.840 --> 0:14:00.640 It's just it feels like every step my life, every 0:14:00.640 --> 0:14:02.960 time I get to a point where I'm like, I'm happy, 0:14:03.280 --> 0:14:07.959 everything's going great, it just like taken away immediately. I mean, 0:14:07.960 --> 0:14:10.880 like I've been laid off from so many jobs for 0:14:10.920 --> 0:14:14.880 like similar reasons or like, God, the last two places 0:14:14.920 --> 0:14:17.200 I worked that fucking shut down. I mean there were 0:14:17.240 --> 0:14:25.480 both restaurants that like couldn't survive financially, so which also 0:14:25.480 --> 0:14:26.560 doesn't look good on a resume. 0:14:26.760 --> 0:14:29.000 But when why do you why do you feel like 0:14:29.200 --> 0:14:31.880 you become happy and then things and then that you 0:14:32.120 --> 0:14:35.040 so you feel as though the carpet is always being 0:14:36.160 --> 0:14:37.280 pulled from underneath you. 0:14:39.280 --> 0:14:41.480 Yeah, I mean, because I'll get the points in my 0:14:41.520 --> 0:14:45.200 life where because for me, like change is really hard, 0:14:45.320 --> 0:14:48.120 Like I like having a set schedule, having it so 0:14:48.200 --> 0:14:50.200 I know exactly what's going to happen when it happens, 0:14:50.800 --> 0:14:53.720 you know, And like right as I feel like I've 0:14:53.720 --> 0:14:55.840 gotten to the point where I have a routine again, 0:14:56.400 --> 0:14:58.840 I know everything's going to be all right. I'm financially stable. 0:14:59.720 --> 0:15:00.760 Some it happens. 0:15:01.800 --> 0:15:14.360 Mm hm m hmm. Well again, I mean, Jade, you 0:15:14.400 --> 0:15:18.400 got you got a lot working. I I I think 0:15:19.720 --> 0:15:25.120 look like I said, I think that you present as 0:15:25.200 --> 0:15:31.680 a as a perfectly uh competent human being. That if 0:15:31.720 --> 0:15:37.480 I owned a grocery store or cafe or bar restaurant, 0:15:37.520 --> 0:15:42.480 I would have you there whipping up cocktails, putting parmesan 0:15:42.680 --> 0:15:47.160 on on on pizza. You know, it sucks. It's the 0:15:47.920 --> 0:15:52.480 job market is just so so fucked man. This is 0:15:52.560 --> 0:15:55.560 so hard to uh you know, it's. 0:15:57.680 --> 0:16:00.520 Yeah. And it's not like I can't like adapt the change. 0:16:00.560 --> 0:16:05.200 I mean I do every time I learned to level out, 0:16:05.200 --> 0:16:09.400 but always just it sucks. It's not that I'm upset 0:16:09.400 --> 0:16:14.480 about it. It sucks, you know. It's like I can 0:16:14.560 --> 0:16:18.000 deal with it, but I don't get to complain about it, 0:16:18.080 --> 0:16:18.320 you know. 0:16:22.560 --> 0:16:26.960 I mean, I I mean, look, I mean, look, everything 0:16:27.200 --> 0:16:30.920 everything changes when you have a kid, right, everything changes 0:16:30.960 --> 0:16:33.960 when you have a kid, and then your life really 0:16:34.200 --> 0:16:37.920 just just isn't about It's unfortunate. But I and and 0:16:37.960 --> 0:16:39.880 maybe I'm talking to my ask here. I've never had 0:16:39.880 --> 0:16:42.680 a child before, but it just seems to me abstractly 0:16:42.680 --> 0:16:45.800 that once you have a kid, your life, just for 0:16:45.960 --> 0:16:49.640 at least a little while, is no longer about you 0:16:49.720 --> 0:16:54.000 and your happiness, right, because you made the decision to 0:16:54.040 --> 0:16:57.800 bring another kid into a universe, which is maybe the 0:16:57.800 --> 0:17:01.320 the most maybe the most amount of responsibility a human 0:17:01.360 --> 0:17:04.240 being can take on, right, And so you've got to 0:17:04.240 --> 0:17:10.080 make sacrifices to take on that responsibility. And I don't 0:17:10.119 --> 0:17:14.280 maybe sometimes that involves sacrificing your happiness a little bit, 0:17:14.680 --> 0:17:16.840 you know, and hopefully you don't take that out on 0:17:17.200 --> 0:17:19.560 the kid, right, because I mean, it's a really it's 0:17:19.560 --> 0:17:21.960 the hugest decision of ARSA could possibly make. 0:17:23.119 --> 0:17:26.040 True. Yeah, I mean, I've come to terms with that that, like, 0:17:27.040 --> 0:17:30.919 this is a big decision in my life that although 0:17:30.960 --> 0:17:33.399 other people, like a lot of people in my life, 0:17:33.440 --> 0:17:36.760 when I've told them, like, hey, my girlfriend's pregnant, the 0:17:36.760 --> 0:17:40.560 first thing that they bring up is you're unprepared, or 0:17:40.680 --> 0:17:43.760 like something along the lines of a lot of things 0:17:43.920 --> 0:17:46.919 people bring up is because I have these mental issues 0:17:46.960 --> 0:17:50.680 because I'm autistic. They're like, for one, I don't think 0:17:50.680 --> 0:17:53.520 you're ready to have that kid, you know, But on 0:17:53.560 --> 0:17:56.320 the other hand, it's like, are you sure your kid 0:17:56.359 --> 0:17:58.200 is not going to be like autistic as shit. And 0:17:58.240 --> 0:18:01.120 I'm like, well, the kid is I don't think that's 0:18:01.119 --> 0:18:03.520 a bad thing, you know, But I. 0:18:03.480 --> 0:18:09.439 Would put I would, I mean, I would whatever, whatever, 0:18:09.480 --> 0:18:11.960 whatever mental issues that you're struggling with, I would put 0:18:12.000 --> 0:18:15.399 them at the very pot of of of the list 0:18:15.480 --> 0:18:20.320 of you know, things to be uh thinking about it 0:18:20.400 --> 0:18:22.399 in this in this regard, and I mean, you know, 0:18:22.480 --> 0:18:27.960 I think it's important to be generally stable if you're 0:18:28.000 --> 0:18:30.520 going to be in charge of a kid. But but 0:18:30.680 --> 0:18:34.879 again again, yeah, you know, I hope go ahead, you're 0:18:34.920 --> 0:18:35.639 going to say something. 0:18:36.400 --> 0:18:37.920 Yeah, I was going to say other than like the 0:18:38.040 --> 0:18:40.960 job situation, Like the rest of my life has been 0:18:41.119 --> 0:18:44.760 like good if that makes sense. I mean, like I've 0:18:44.800 --> 0:18:49.480 been on medication for like fifteen probably fifteen years, I 0:18:49.520 --> 0:18:53.520 mean ever since I was a kid, making sure like 0:18:53.560 --> 0:19:00.119 mental health is super stable. It's just that it's hard, 0:19:00.280 --> 0:19:02.960 you know, it's hard and it sucks, but I gotta 0:19:02.960 --> 0:19:03.479 get through it. 0:19:03.560 --> 0:19:08.520 You know. Well, Jada, I can tell you is good luck. 0:19:10.000 --> 0:19:12.280 I hope that you if there's a pizza what state 0:19:12.280 --> 0:19:16.879 do you live in in Indiana? Well, if there's a 0:19:16.880 --> 0:19:21.280 pizza place in Indiana, if if maybe the owner of 0:19:21.400 --> 0:19:24.960 Tony's Pizza in Indiana is a huge therapy gecko fan, 0:19:25.040 --> 0:19:27.159 and he can get you a job. I hope that 0:19:27.240 --> 0:19:29.439 works out that way. You can get you get a 0:19:29.520 --> 0:19:31.919 job the way that people used to fucking get jobs 0:19:31.960 --> 0:19:34.919 in the in the eighties. Hey, I heard you on 0:19:35.000 --> 0:19:42.360 the Lizard Show. Come make pizzas for me. God, Jade, 0:19:42.440 --> 0:19:44.280 is there anything else you want to say to the 0:19:44.280 --> 0:19:46.760 people of the computer or about the situation in general 0:19:47.440 --> 0:19:48.080 before we go? 0:19:49.320 --> 0:19:53.960 Uh? Someone in chack in Chat asked, is the girlfriend 0:19:54.000 --> 0:19:56.920 the hot? 0:19:57.440 --> 0:19:57.960 Maybe? 0:19:58.160 --> 0:20:02.520 I don't know. Uh. What I have to say I 0:20:02.560 --> 0:20:06.439 have to say, is I don't know? 0:20:08.480 --> 0:20:10.280 Well you got that going for you? 0:20:09.960 --> 0:20:10.000 You? 0:20:10.280 --> 0:20:13.400 You don't know if your girlfriend's hot? That's this there's 0:20:13.440 --> 0:20:15.600 a there's a cool mystery to that that I think 0:20:15.640 --> 0:20:20.360 is good to have. Take care of Jed, I mean. 0:20:21.840 --> 0:20:23.200 You, take care. I love you, Yle. 0:20:23.320 --> 0:20:27.200 You're an awesome Thank you, thank you, good good, good 0:20:27.320 --> 0:20:29.840 luck with everything. I'm rooting for you. I'm MoMA, I'm 0:20:29.880 --> 0:20:32.480 I'm I will, I will. I don't know what a 0:20:32.800 --> 0:20:36.199 favor I have with the Lord, but I'll try to 0:20:36.200 --> 0:20:39.480 call it in for you. Thank you, Thank you, Take 0:20:39.520 --> 0:20:39.960 care of Jed. 0:20:41.480 --> 0:20:44.720 By bye, dude. 0:20:44.880 --> 0:20:47.000 I don't know. I don't know. I mean, I just 0:20:47.320 --> 0:20:50.320 like and when it's not judgment, I don't because I 0:20:50.480 --> 0:20:52.719 don't like to. I don't try. I try not to 0:20:52.760 --> 0:20:56.280 cast judgments on what other people decide to do with 0:20:56.359 --> 0:20:59.600 their lives. And it has nothing to do with, you know, 0:21:00.440 --> 0:21:03.119 being autistic, or anything to do with like having the 0:21:04.119 --> 0:21:07.879 roommate dad situation. It's just like, I know, it's just so, 0:21:08.040 --> 0:21:11.800 it's just such a like, I don't know, it's just 0:21:11.800 --> 0:21:16.080 a crazy crazy It's what's like the biggest decision of 0:21:16.160 --> 0:21:20.399 responsibility I think you could possibly take on to have 0:21:20.440 --> 0:21:23.600 a kid, you know, and especially being twenty and. 0:21:25.119 --> 0:21:25.560 All that. 0:21:25.680 --> 0:21:28.359 But at the end of the day, look, man, I 0:21:28.359 --> 0:21:30.520 don't live Jade's life. I don't know what it's like 0:21:30.600 --> 0:21:34.359 to be them. I don't know anything about what brings 0:21:34.440 --> 0:21:39.840 them happiness and their life and the universe's is ripe, 0:21:39.840 --> 0:21:42.679 and so I don't know. All I know is that 0:21:42.720 --> 0:21:45.240 I hope that everything works out for Jade and that they, 0:21:46.600 --> 0:21:49.080 you know, are able to find a place to make 0:21:49.160 --> 0:21:52.760 pizzas and raise the kid. And I don't know. Also, 0:21:52.800 --> 0:21:55.240 I don't know what the roommate's doing. I don't know 0:21:55.280 --> 0:21:58.320 if he has some weird plan. I don't know if 0:21:58.320 --> 0:22:02.399 he's gonna kidnap the kid and you know, try to 0:22:02.440 --> 0:22:06.760 clone him and make an oopa lumpa Willy Wonka factory 0:22:07.320 --> 0:22:09.520 whatever thing. But I don't know what he's doing, but 0:22:10.800 --> 0:22:15.280 I hope that everything works out okay, and uh, good 0:22:15.359 --> 0:22:23.320 luck to you. Jade all from Ryan to Accept. 0:22:23.840 --> 0:22:30.240 Hello, Hey, yeah, I just had a question. I've been 0:22:30.320 --> 0:22:34.560 having some like issues, like I mentally like I don't 0:22:34.600 --> 0:22:35.600 really know what to do. 0:22:36.640 --> 0:22:38.360 Yeah, What's what's going on? Man? 0:22:39.400 --> 0:22:46.160 So my girlfriend, like she's a real pothead and I've 0:22:46.200 --> 0:22:53.639 never smoked myself, but she keeps trying to convince me 0:22:54.400 --> 0:23:00.000 to smoke weed, and I'm kind of worried about it. 0:23:00.240 --> 0:23:03.280 But she keeps kind of up in the annie and 0:23:03.440 --> 0:23:07.119 like offering to do certain things if I were to 0:23:07.200 --> 0:23:13.159 smoke with her, such as a do you know what 0:23:13.200 --> 0:23:14.160 a beeper bong is? 0:23:16.600 --> 0:23:16.679 No? 0:23:16.760 --> 0:23:17.600 What's a beeper bond? 0:23:18.920 --> 0:23:25.360 So apparently it's this thing that goes inside of the 0:23:25.400 --> 0:23:30.359 woman and you put water in the woman as well, 0:23:30.640 --> 0:23:34.320 and like the stem goes down into the water and 0:23:34.359 --> 0:23:36.480 you make pretty much a human bong. 0:23:38.359 --> 0:23:41.320