1 00:00:12,039 --> 00:00:18,400 Speaker 1: Taylor Swift. How fascinating that Taylor Swift has not only 2 00:00:18,520 --> 00:00:24,840 Speaker 1: moved the needle, but a seismic shift in the football 3 00:00:24,880 --> 00:00:28,120 Speaker 1: world NFL and they're all happy to have her. Has 4 00:00:28,160 --> 00:00:31,000 Speaker 1: there been somebody with this Has there been somebody with 5 00:00:31,040 --> 00:00:36,040 Speaker 1: this level of impact in decades since the Beatles? And 6 00:00:36,120 --> 00:00:39,720 Speaker 1: I say that because also she's beloved, so some people 7 00:00:40,000 --> 00:00:43,600 Speaker 1: have a tremendous impact. But they're polarizing. I mean, she's beloved, 8 00:00:43,880 --> 00:00:48,280 Speaker 1: and the NFL is about America, and she's America's sweetheart, 9 00:00:49,159 --> 00:00:52,559 Speaker 1: and her going to the Kansas City Chiefs game and 10 00:00:52,680 --> 00:00:56,639 Speaker 1: dating a football player that everyone is saying she has 11 00:00:56,680 --> 00:00:59,640 Speaker 1: put on the map, every woman, that is, except for 12 00:00:59,680 --> 00:01:02,640 Speaker 1: everyone who's a football fan. And it's very polarizing, and 13 00:01:02,680 --> 00:01:04,880 Speaker 1: there's a big debate because men are getting pissed off 14 00:01:04,880 --> 00:01:08,000 Speaker 1: that women are saying that Taylor put him on the map. 15 00:01:08,160 --> 00:01:11,679 Speaker 1: And I'm sitting here fighting battles when I realized that 16 00:01:11,840 --> 00:01:14,319 Speaker 1: he was and he is a successful football player, and 17 00:01:14,400 --> 00:01:18,880 Speaker 1: football fans alike across America know that. But football is 18 00:01:19,000 --> 00:01:23,760 Speaker 1: very American, Taylor is very American and very global. She 19 00:01:23,840 --> 00:01:32,200 Speaker 1: is an international megastar. Her rise is stratospheric. So while 20 00:01:32,360 --> 00:01:35,200 Speaker 1: It's a touching story that people say that Travis was 21 00:01:35,640 --> 00:01:39,800 Speaker 1: a gargantuan football star because he won two Super Bowl rings. 22 00:01:40,040 --> 00:01:49,640 Speaker 1: I get that, but Taylor Swift is next level shit. Well, 23 00:01:49,920 --> 00:01:59,160 Speaker 1: NBC and Bravo have strengthened workplace conditions for talent, and 24 00:02:00,160 --> 00:02:03,919 Speaker 1: a letter written by one of the heads at NBC, 25 00:02:04,160 --> 00:02:07,600 Speaker 1: Francis Barrick, who used to be one of the heads 26 00:02:07,600 --> 00:02:11,280 Speaker 1: of Bravo. She wrote a letter that was either leaked 27 00:02:11,440 --> 00:02:16,320 Speaker 1: or that people just found. I think it might have 28 00:02:16,360 --> 00:02:20,480 Speaker 1: been leaked, but said that they're going to strengthen their 29 00:02:20,520 --> 00:02:27,079 Speaker 1: practices surrounding alcohol consumption workplace conditions. They said that as 30 00:02:27,120 --> 00:02:30,240 Speaker 1: always people will meet with a psychologist before, during, and after. 31 00:02:30,560 --> 00:02:32,440 Speaker 1: That's never been the case. No one's ever met with 32 00:02:32,480 --> 00:02:34,560 Speaker 1: a psychologist before, during, or after. That has to be 33 00:02:34,560 --> 00:02:40,800 Speaker 1: a new implemented policy. And I did hear that. I 34 00:02:40,919 --> 00:02:45,760 Speaker 1: did hear from a very very good factual source that 35 00:02:46,040 --> 00:02:50,480 Speaker 1: already on Housewives, they've really shifted the practices because of 36 00:02:50,520 --> 00:02:54,640 Speaker 1: the reality reckoning. Now we get to different dumb dums 37 00:02:54,639 --> 00:02:57,840 Speaker 1: in the Bravo sphere that are saying that alcohol was 38 00:02:57,880 --> 00:03:01,960 Speaker 1: never forced on talent. First of all, the bravosphere is 39 00:03:02,160 --> 00:03:04,880 Speaker 1: very big and there are many different types of shows. 40 00:03:04,919 --> 00:03:08,119 Speaker 1: That's like saying that every single restaurant in New York 41 00:03:08,160 --> 00:03:11,760 Speaker 1: City has the same policies, because there are so many 42 00:03:11,800 --> 00:03:14,320 Speaker 1: different production companies and so many different budgets and so 43 00:03:14,320 --> 00:03:18,480 Speaker 1: many different shows. So while Housewives is one big franchise 44 00:03:18,840 --> 00:03:22,200 Speaker 1: and it seems like one big entity, it's not. It's 45 00:03:22,240 --> 00:03:28,919 Speaker 1: a bunch of different individual franchises. Actually, the Housewives overall, well, 46 00:03:29,000 --> 00:03:31,720 Speaker 1: the Housewives overall is a franchise and each city is 47 00:03:31,720 --> 00:03:35,160 Speaker 1: a franchise e. So each city as a franchise ee, 48 00:03:35,760 --> 00:03:40,800 Speaker 1: I e. Atlanta, Potomac, New York, and so on, Miami, 49 00:03:41,240 --> 00:03:46,320 Speaker 1: they're franchisees. Each franchisee operates their business in a different manner. 50 00:03:46,640 --> 00:03:49,840 Speaker 1: So one production company runs New York. They could be 51 00:03:49,880 --> 00:03:52,600 Speaker 1: doing things one way, and they could be making their 52 00:03:52,760 --> 00:03:57,840 Speaker 1: lattes one way, and another franchisee is running Atlanta, and 53 00:03:57,880 --> 00:04:00,880 Speaker 1: it's an entirely different person with an entirely different budget, 54 00:04:01,400 --> 00:04:04,960 Speaker 1: with entirely different circumstances in a different city, and they're 55 00:04:05,040 --> 00:04:08,320 Speaker 1: running it differently. And every production company, and I've worked 56 00:04:08,360 --> 00:04:11,760 Speaker 1: with many of them, runs their operation differently. So for 57 00:04:11,800 --> 00:04:15,960 Speaker 1: the dumb dums saying that overall buy and large, they 58 00:04:16,000 --> 00:04:18,200 Speaker 1: were never forced to drink. Well, they may never have 59 00:04:18,279 --> 00:04:21,400 Speaker 1: been forced to drink. And no one's ever poured alcohol 60 00:04:21,880 --> 00:04:25,080 Speaker 1: down anyone's throat that I've seen. But I have seen 61 00:04:25,200 --> 00:04:29,640 Speaker 1: women drink eight to ten cocktails and the producers are 62 00:04:29,720 --> 00:04:33,719 Speaker 1: right there ordering alcohol for every single night. And I've 63 00:04:33,760 --> 00:04:38,320 Speaker 1: seen producers spare no expense at giving everybody the a 64 00:04:38,440 --> 00:04:40,680 Speaker 1: la carte list of all the alcohol they want and 65 00:04:40,720 --> 00:04:45,000 Speaker 1: never intervening in how much they drink. So, when you 66 00:04:45,080 --> 00:04:50,039 Speaker 1: have people under very very stressful conditions, like cameras on 67 00:04:50,240 --> 00:04:55,239 Speaker 1: for all hours of the day, like conflict, like verbal abuse, 68 00:04:55,560 --> 00:04:59,640 Speaker 1: like arguing, like a medium that celebrates you're always winning 69 00:04:59,640 --> 00:05:02,680 Speaker 1: in your always losing, meaning someone's always winning, someone's always losing, 70 00:05:02,800 --> 00:05:06,480 Speaker 1: someone's always getting killed, someone's always being killed. So therefore, 71 00:05:06,600 --> 00:05:10,080 Speaker 1: what sounds like a great idea grabbing a drink? Why 72 00:05:10,440 --> 00:05:17,280 Speaker 1: you're activated, you are heightened, your nervous system is at 73 00:05:17,320 --> 00:05:20,480 Speaker 1: a ten, your nerves are shot, and you're thirsty because 74 00:05:20,480 --> 00:05:24,039 Speaker 1: you're dehydrated. So an alcoholic beverage always seems like a 75 00:05:24,080 --> 00:05:28,599 Speaker 1: great idea, but is it? So? While the dumb dums 76 00:05:28,600 --> 00:05:31,600 Speaker 1: want to say, yeah, no, alcohol wasn't forced on people 77 00:05:32,480 --> 00:05:40,160 Speaker 1: it's something that is very much nurtured, welcomed, celebrated, honored, 78 00:05:40,440 --> 00:05:45,360 Speaker 1: and also rewarded. You get wasted, you get fucked up, 79 00:05:45,480 --> 00:05:48,560 Speaker 1: you do a crazy thing, the scene does well, the 80 00:05:48,640 --> 00:05:51,320 Speaker 1: ratings are good, you get renewed like that's how the 81 00:05:51,360 --> 00:05:55,440 Speaker 1: thing works. So don't fucking bullshit a bullshitter that ran 82 00:05:55,480 --> 00:05:58,160 Speaker 1: the game better than anyone's ever run the game. So 83 00:05:58,640 --> 00:06:03,839 Speaker 1: and I left twice. Anybody fired speaking on matters about 84 00:06:04,480 --> 00:06:07,800 Speaker 1: the Housewives is disgruntled and probably doesn't even know how 85 00:06:07,800 --> 00:06:09,600 Speaker 1: the real game works because they never had any real 86 00:06:09,640 --> 00:06:17,240 Speaker 1: power or any kind of position. And I think it's 87 00:06:17,400 --> 00:06:22,040 Speaker 1: to a I've applauded the fact that, by whatever means 88 00:06:22,440 --> 00:06:27,200 Speaker 1: were necessary, that the Bravo sphere has put it into 89 00:06:27,240 --> 00:06:32,240 Speaker 1: the universe that they're tightening up workplace conditions, because if 90 00:06:32,240 --> 00:06:36,160 Speaker 1: there wasn't if everything I said didn't exist, why would 91 00:06:36,160 --> 00:06:39,000 Speaker 1: there be a need to tighten it up. Because Bethany 92 00:06:39,000 --> 00:06:42,000 Speaker 1: Frankel decided I had it was beside that I was 93 00:06:42,200 --> 00:06:44,240 Speaker 1: forced to be reckoned with all of a sudden, Now 94 00:06:44,279 --> 00:06:47,680 Speaker 1: a multi billion dollar public company is going to issue 95 00:06:47,720 --> 00:06:50,480 Speaker 1: a letter and a public statement saying that they're going 96 00:06:50,560 --> 00:06:54,000 Speaker 1: to change their policies on alcohol and workplace conditions because 97 00:06:54,040 --> 00:06:56,520 Speaker 1: I said it, Yeah, there must have been a problem. 98 00:06:56,400 --> 00:06:59,920 Speaker 1: I mustn't have made it up. So the reckoning is real, 99 00:07:00,279 --> 00:07:05,640 Speaker 1: and it's not easy to ruffle feathers. It's really not 100 00:07:05,960 --> 00:07:08,880 Speaker 1: easy to do the right thing. It's not easy to 101 00:07:08,880 --> 00:07:12,760 Speaker 1: have a voice. And it's so much so that so 102 00:07:12,920 --> 00:07:21,080 Speaker 1: far that I know of three reality talent personalities have 103 00:07:21,240 --> 00:07:24,920 Speaker 1: come forward and wanted to publicly share their story with 104 00:07:25,000 --> 00:07:28,560 Speaker 1: me on this podcast, and all three of them, all 105 00:07:28,600 --> 00:07:34,520 Speaker 1: three of them have been blocked, banned, strongly discouraged from 106 00:07:34,600 --> 00:07:39,640 Speaker 1: associating with me, saying that they will be unemployable if 107 00:07:39,680 --> 00:07:43,120 Speaker 1: they align with the reality reckoning in any way. And 108 00:07:43,160 --> 00:07:47,240 Speaker 1: I am the reckoning, So that's number one. Two production 109 00:07:47,520 --> 00:07:53,080 Speaker 1: people have told me that they also have been told 110 00:07:53,800 --> 00:07:57,400 Speaker 1: in no uncertain terms that they can't work with me 111 00:07:57,560 --> 00:08:00,760 Speaker 1: or they won't work in the reality that's on the 112 00:08:00,760 --> 00:08:04,360 Speaker 1: production side. So so far, it's been five people that in 113 00:08:04,360 --> 00:08:07,760 Speaker 1: one way or another Bravo has said they cannot come 114 00:08:07,840 --> 00:08:10,760 Speaker 1: on this show or they cannot work in any area 115 00:08:10,880 --> 00:08:15,360 Speaker 1: of production with me. Now I don't care, because the 116 00:08:15,400 --> 00:08:20,000 Speaker 1: people in power, meaning the people at studios, running agencies, 117 00:08:20,080 --> 00:08:22,880 Speaker 1: running the industry, the people at SAG after the people 118 00:08:22,880 --> 00:08:26,040 Speaker 1: in the media. They all know that I'm right, and 119 00:08:26,440 --> 00:08:29,080 Speaker 1: they are all on the right side of history, and 120 00:08:29,120 --> 00:08:31,360 Speaker 1: they all know that I'm doing the right thing. That 121 00:08:31,440 --> 00:08:35,000 Speaker 1: are being moved around the board, and they're nervous because 122 00:08:35,640 --> 00:08:37,840 Speaker 1: they don't want to fuck around with their livelihood. And 123 00:08:37,880 --> 00:08:40,680 Speaker 1: it's not unlike any other industry when people are told 124 00:08:40,679 --> 00:08:43,240 Speaker 1: to shut the fuck up and be quiet. You're a 125 00:08:43,280 --> 00:08:47,600 Speaker 1: camera person, you are a sound person, you are a producer. 126 00:08:47,960 --> 00:08:50,240 Speaker 1: You saw shit go down, but you need to work. 127 00:08:51,080 --> 00:08:53,840 Speaker 1: In a time when there's a big strike and actors 128 00:08:53,880 --> 00:08:57,960 Speaker 1: can't work and people on scripted programs can't work, you 129 00:08:58,000 --> 00:09:00,680 Speaker 1: are grabbing every job you can. And even though you 130 00:09:00,760 --> 00:09:03,559 Speaker 1: know it's fucked up and you're watching what's gone down, 131 00:09:04,200 --> 00:09:06,080 Speaker 1: you don't want to fuck around the realm either, because 132 00:09:06,080 --> 00:09:10,440 Speaker 1: it's providing you your meal ticket. And it's why Candy 133 00:09:10,559 --> 00:09:15,080 Speaker 1: and Erica Jane and other people have said it doesn't 134 00:09:15,080 --> 00:09:17,480 Speaker 1: affect them because they can handle themselves. Like I said, 135 00:09:17,520 --> 00:09:20,640 Speaker 1: I'm sure people you know before me too, were walking 136 00:09:20,720 --> 00:09:23,760 Speaker 1: around offices where people said nice tits, and these women said, oh, 137 00:09:23,840 --> 00:09:26,080 Speaker 1: it didn't affect me because I can handle myself. I 138 00:09:26,080 --> 00:09:29,280 Speaker 1: worked at the Today Show during that era before the 139 00:09:29,320 --> 00:09:32,480 Speaker 1: Matt Lower fall out, I can handle myself. It didn't 140 00:09:32,480 --> 00:09:33,920 Speaker 1: happen to me, so I'm not going to say anything 141 00:09:33,920 --> 00:09:36,400 Speaker 1: because i don't want to lose my job. Well, that 142 00:09:36,520 --> 00:09:39,560 Speaker 1: reckoning was real, Black Lives Matter was real, and the 143 00:09:39,600 --> 00:09:42,320 Speaker 1: reality reckoning is real too. So those people making these 144 00:09:42,360 --> 00:09:44,600 Speaker 1: big statements are basically just saying I want to protect 145 00:09:44,640 --> 00:09:47,640 Speaker 1: my own paycheck and therefore I'm kissing the ring when 146 00:09:47,640 --> 00:09:49,599 Speaker 1: they all know that everything I've said and everything that 147 00:09:49,640 --> 00:09:53,880 Speaker 1: I'm doing is entirely correct. It just is correct. And 148 00:09:54,400 --> 00:09:57,000 Speaker 1: I also want to bring up other people in the 149 00:09:57,040 --> 00:10:06,960 Speaker 1: whole reality sphere that want to bring up my failures. 150 00:10:15,760 --> 00:10:18,400 Speaker 1: So I've had many business failures. I've had show failures, 151 00:10:18,440 --> 00:10:22,320 Speaker 1: I've had product failures, and I've had some failures that 152 00:10:22,480 --> 00:10:26,120 Speaker 1: I'm glad were failures because I didn't want to do them. 153 00:10:26,160 --> 00:10:28,440 Speaker 1: Those are the most fun failures, like the ones where 154 00:10:28,280 --> 00:10:30,600 Speaker 1: are like you kind of get out of jail free 155 00:10:30,600 --> 00:10:32,640 Speaker 1: because you don't have to continue with it. And I've 156 00:10:32,640 --> 00:10:35,600 Speaker 1: had ones where I should want to do it and 157 00:10:35,720 --> 00:10:38,280 Speaker 1: I've backed out where I've been making so much money, 158 00:10:38,320 --> 00:10:41,040 Speaker 1: not on leaving reality TV. You're making so much money, 159 00:10:41,040 --> 00:10:42,800 Speaker 1: but you want to back out, or you have a 160 00:10:42,800 --> 00:10:44,640 Speaker 1: production deal, but you just don't want to do the 161 00:10:44,679 --> 00:10:46,839 Speaker 1: things you're supposed to do, and you don't want to 162 00:10:46,840 --> 00:10:48,760 Speaker 1: be partners with the person you're supposed to be partners with, 163 00:10:49,000 --> 00:10:51,760 Speaker 1: so you find a way to get a loophole to 164 00:10:51,800 --> 00:10:55,160 Speaker 1: get out of the deal. And without failures, you can't 165 00:10:55,160 --> 00:11:00,480 Speaker 1: have success because failure. That's the case law for sick successes. 166 00:11:01,360 --> 00:11:05,160 Speaker 1: The only way to succeed is by using all the 167 00:11:05,280 --> 00:11:09,040 Speaker 1: examples of what you did wrong in your failures and 168 00:11:09,040 --> 00:11:12,240 Speaker 1: what you did right in your successes, and using that 169 00:11:12,679 --> 00:11:16,640 Speaker 1: in future cases. It's why I'm so successful but overall, 170 00:11:17,320 --> 00:11:20,079 Speaker 1: and it happens a lot in the in the reality 171 00:11:20,120 --> 00:11:23,320 Speaker 1: TV space where people want to comment and say that 172 00:11:23,440 --> 00:11:27,520 Speaker 1: I've had so many failures. I have a podcast that 173 00:11:27,600 --> 00:11:35,240 Speaker 1: has astronomical success, incredible downloads like next Level. I have 174 00:11:36,400 --> 00:11:40,880 Speaker 1: a mocktail that's crushing it, a beautiful, gorgeous wine I created. 175 00:11:41,280 --> 00:11:45,000 Speaker 1: I invented a category in cocktails. Every single low calorie 176 00:11:45,040 --> 00:11:47,640 Speaker 1: cocktail that you see is because of me. Every ready 177 00:11:47,679 --> 00:11:49,960 Speaker 1: to drink cocktail that you see is because of me. 178 00:11:50,160 --> 00:11:54,160 Speaker 1: Every celebrity brand that's really successful in the cocktail space 179 00:11:54,280 --> 00:11:58,480 Speaker 1: is because of me I have. I am more successful 180 00:11:58,520 --> 00:12:02,040 Speaker 1: now than at my my top dollar day on Housewives. 181 00:12:02,840 --> 00:12:04,920 Speaker 1: I make more money now than I ever have since 182 00:12:04,960 --> 00:12:07,679 Speaker 1: the very beginning. So the reason for that is because 183 00:12:07,679 --> 00:12:12,080 Speaker 1: of my failures. All of my failures have been sewn 184 00:12:12,160 --> 00:12:15,960 Speaker 1: into this incredible success quilt. And you won't find a 185 00:12:16,240 --> 00:12:19,720 Speaker 1: very successful entrepreneur who hasn't had so many failures. You know, 186 00:12:20,000 --> 00:12:24,800 Speaker 1: Ask Mark Cuban, Ask Kim Kardashian, Ask any very successful person, 187 00:12:24,840 --> 00:12:29,160 Speaker 1: any billionaire. They've had probably as many failures as successes. 188 00:12:29,240 --> 00:12:32,160 Speaker 1: And it's part of it because when the stakes were 189 00:12:32,200 --> 00:12:35,280 Speaker 1: not as high, they learned the lessons that when the 190 00:12:35,320 --> 00:12:38,839 Speaker 1: stakes became high they could utilize. Kim Kardashian had a 191 00:12:38,840 --> 00:12:41,079 Speaker 1: failed credit card and failed probably I think a hair 192 00:12:41,160 --> 00:12:44,040 Speaker 1: product or tanning product, quick trim, diet. You know what, 193 00:12:44,640 --> 00:12:46,840 Speaker 1: she didn't make those mistakes. Now we're in the big 194 00:12:47,480 --> 00:12:51,320 Speaker 1: leagues with skims and with makeup, So fuck around with 195 00:12:51,400 --> 00:12:53,800 Speaker 1: quick trim and fuck around with whatever tanning and credit 196 00:12:53,840 --> 00:12:56,400 Speaker 1: card because now we're in the big leagues where she's 197 00:12:56,559 --> 00:12:59,520 Speaker 1: playing with real, big girl billionaire money and you don't 198 00:12:59,520 --> 00:13:01,600 Speaker 1: want to fuck now. But she has all the case 199 00:13:01,679 --> 00:13:03,959 Speaker 1: law of all those years and all the case law 200 00:13:04,000 --> 00:13:06,280 Speaker 1: of any failures, her sisters and her mother. I don't 201 00:13:06,280 --> 00:13:08,360 Speaker 1: know where Kylie's swim is anymore. I don't know where 202 00:13:08,679 --> 00:13:11,079 Speaker 1: Chris Jenner's cleaning products are. You know why it doesn't 203 00:13:11,120 --> 00:13:14,440 Speaker 1: fucking matter because I know where Kylie's lip kit is, 204 00:13:15,280 --> 00:13:21,439 Speaker 1: and so many housewives want to talk about my failures. Oh, 205 00:13:21,559 --> 00:13:24,280 Speaker 1: she had a show that didn't get picked up. That's 206 00:13:24,320 --> 00:13:27,040 Speaker 1: the reason for the reality reckoning. First of all, false, 207 00:13:27,600 --> 00:13:30,679 Speaker 1: I walked away from the show. I had a show 208 00:13:31,200 --> 00:13:37,600 Speaker 1: that Bravo wanted about the suburbs that I walked away from. 209 00:13:37,640 --> 00:13:40,120 Speaker 1: It's all coming out. I have all the receipts, but 210 00:13:40,280 --> 00:13:43,680 Speaker 1: I just want to illustrate that people run their mouths 211 00:13:43,679 --> 00:13:46,240 Speaker 1: off and they don't know what they're talking about. And 212 00:13:47,400 --> 00:13:51,120 Speaker 1: failure is critical to success. Just remember that when you 213 00:13:51,120 --> 00:13:54,480 Speaker 1: feel like you're failing, and you feel like you're thinking 214 00:13:54,520 --> 00:13:56,679 Speaker 1: about all the things you fucked up and did wrong, 215 00:13:56,800 --> 00:13:58,640 Speaker 1: or even just one failure, and that that's going to 216 00:13:58,679 --> 00:14:02,280 Speaker 1: define you, shift upside down. It's just case law. It's 217 00:14:02,280 --> 00:14:07,600 Speaker 1: something that happened that is an amazing and valuable lesson, 218 00:14:08,080 --> 00:14:10,840 Speaker 1: and whatever it was, it won't happen again. And whatever 219 00:14:11,080 --> 00:14:14,360 Speaker 1: you learned during that experience, it won't happen again. And 220 00:14:14,400 --> 00:14:17,800 Speaker 1: whatever happened during your successes, you'll make sure to double down. 221 00:14:18,120 --> 00:14:22,320 Speaker 1: It's very important to embrace your failures and also to 222 00:14:22,440 --> 00:14:28,160 Speaker 1: embrace others' failures too. Does it me and Anderson Cooper's 223 00:14:28,160 --> 00:14:30,040 Speaker 1: not successful because he had a failed talk show? Does 224 00:14:30,080 --> 00:14:33,320 Speaker 1: it mean he hasn't accomplished anything in his career? Does 225 00:14:33,360 --> 00:14:37,800 Speaker 1: it mean anything that Kim Kardashian was working with quick trim? 226 00:14:37,840 --> 00:14:41,320 Speaker 1: Does that mean anything today? I don't think. So you 227 00:14:41,400 --> 00:14:43,600 Speaker 1: got to hit It takes a long time, and you 228 00:14:43,680 --> 00:14:46,360 Speaker 1: got to kiss a lot of frogs before it becomes 229 00:14:46,360 --> 00:14:50,800 Speaker 1: a prince. But only dummies call out other people's failures 230 00:14:51,400 --> 00:14:59,200 Speaker 1: as if it defines them. The Sophie Turner and Joe 231 00:14:59,280 --> 00:15:04,240 Speaker 1: Jonas drama is interesting. The mistake that we're all making 232 00:15:04,760 --> 00:15:08,520 Speaker 1: is reading the media as if their tea leaves, as 233 00:15:08,560 --> 00:15:12,520 Speaker 1: if they say anything. Because Joe Jonas said something about 234 00:15:12,520 --> 00:15:16,360 Speaker 1: Sophie as a parent right now, First we thought, oh, 235 00:15:16,440 --> 00:15:18,800 Speaker 1: she was an absentee parent. Then it became the Queen 236 00:15:18,840 --> 00:15:22,360 Speaker 1: of the North is the queen, and he's really the 237 00:15:22,400 --> 00:15:24,600 Speaker 1: absentee parent, and he's trying to paint turn a bad 238 00:15:24,680 --> 00:15:27,480 Speaker 1: light as his PR team went first. Then it goes 239 00:15:27,600 --> 00:15:31,880 Speaker 1: to she wants to take the kids to the UK 240 00:15:31,960 --> 00:15:33,680 Speaker 1: because that was the deal that they have, and then 241 00:15:33,720 --> 00:15:35,960 Speaker 1: it goes to he's illegally keeping them in States, and 242 00:15:36,400 --> 00:15:38,040 Speaker 1: it's back and forth, and it's back and forth, and 243 00:15:38,080 --> 00:15:41,320 Speaker 1: it's basically a terrible game because they will keep hitting 244 00:15:41,320 --> 00:15:43,560 Speaker 1: the ball back and forth, like any divorce, like any 245 00:15:43,600 --> 00:15:46,440 Speaker 1: non celebrity divorce, the ball keeps getting hit back and forth. 246 00:15:46,720 --> 00:15:48,440 Speaker 1: The last person who hit it thought they got the 247 00:15:48,520 --> 00:15:51,920 Speaker 1: last laugh. Then it comes back even stronger on the 248 00:15:51,960 --> 00:15:54,360 Speaker 1: person who just hit it. You think you hit the ball, 249 00:15:54,520 --> 00:15:56,720 Speaker 1: you got a clean shot. Fucking's going to come back 250 00:15:56,720 --> 00:15:58,880 Speaker 1: and whack you in the face. It will go on. 251 00:15:59,000 --> 00:16:02,200 Speaker 1: It's a breeding ground for gossip until the thing is 252 00:16:02,360 --> 00:16:06,520 Speaker 1: locked and settled and shut down until everything is done, 253 00:16:06,760 --> 00:16:08,800 Speaker 1: the divorce is final. This is how much money this 254 00:16:08,840 --> 00:16:11,320 Speaker 1: person's paying, This is where the kids are gonna live now, 255 00:16:11,640 --> 00:16:14,400 Speaker 1: and then everyone shut the fuck up. It's the muck 256 00:16:14,520 --> 00:16:17,480 Speaker 1: right now, and the muck is terrible. The only thing 257 00:16:17,520 --> 00:16:18,920 Speaker 1: I will say is the last time I've seen a 258 00:16:18,920 --> 00:16:21,840 Speaker 1: situation where one parent wants to have the kids move 259 00:16:21,920 --> 00:16:26,960 Speaker 1: to another country was with Kelly Rutherford and her ex husband, 260 00:16:27,000 --> 00:16:29,680 Speaker 1: the woman from Gossip Girl, and in the beginning, everybody 261 00:16:29,720 --> 00:16:32,200 Speaker 1: was really team Kelly and thought it was all Kelly, 262 00:16:32,520 --> 00:16:34,360 Speaker 1: and he seemed like a monster because he had done 263 00:16:34,360 --> 00:16:37,280 Speaker 1: something wrong or illegal or something with business, and she 264 00:16:37,360 --> 00:16:40,080 Speaker 1: wanted the kids to be here. And we will never 265 00:16:40,160 --> 00:16:42,520 Speaker 1: know the full details, but all we will know is 266 00:16:42,560 --> 00:16:45,280 Speaker 1: that the kids were living in the US and somehow, 267 00:16:46,560 --> 00:16:51,120 Speaker 1: somehow those children moved to France and Kelly Rutherford every 268 00:16:51,120 --> 00:16:53,080 Speaker 1: week had to be on an airplane back and forth 269 00:16:53,080 --> 00:16:55,120 Speaker 1: flying coach to see her kids because it was sucking 270 00:16:55,160 --> 00:16:56,920 Speaker 1: up all of her money and she had spent all 271 00:16:56,920 --> 00:16:58,720 Speaker 1: her money on lawyers trying to get her kids. And 272 00:16:58,760 --> 00:17:01,280 Speaker 1: her kids live in France with the dad. So they 273 00:17:01,280 --> 00:17:03,680 Speaker 1: took the kids away from a mother because of some 274 00:17:03,840 --> 00:17:05,760 Speaker 1: fucking around that was going on. And I don't know 275 00:17:05,800 --> 00:17:08,960 Speaker 1: what it was, but you cannot play around in matters 276 00:17:09,080 --> 00:17:11,040 Speaker 1: of divorce. You can't get cute, you can't try to 277 00:17:11,080 --> 00:17:13,400 Speaker 1: play to the court of public opinion like Kanye did, 278 00:17:13,760 --> 00:17:16,280 Speaker 1: and you cannot fuck around with the real court. So 279 00:17:16,320 --> 00:17:18,959 Speaker 1: the two of these, Sophie and Joe, are doing it 280 00:17:19,040 --> 00:17:22,679 Speaker 1: wrong because it will only damage the whole situation. Then 281 00:17:22,680 --> 00:17:24,919 Speaker 1: they both have to find a way to align, and 282 00:17:24,960 --> 00:17:28,000 Speaker 1: it will be very challenging for her to get those 283 00:17:28,080 --> 00:17:31,000 Speaker 1: kids moved to another country, even if that was some 284 00:17:31,040 --> 00:17:32,960 Speaker 1: sort of an arrangement, because he can say that that 285 00:17:33,160 --> 00:17:37,920 Speaker 1: arrangement was made because that he agreed that the kids 286 00:17:37,920 --> 00:17:40,959 Speaker 1: would live in the UK, because he thought they were 287 00:17:40,960 --> 00:17:43,880 Speaker 1: going to stay together, And like, there's just so many subplots. 288 00:17:43,920 --> 00:17:49,000 Speaker 1: I've experienced it myself. Believe me, I've experienced it myself. Specifically, 289 00:17:53,160 --> 00:17:54,800 Speaker 1: I was going to do a talk show in LA 290 00:17:55,880 --> 00:17:57,520 Speaker 1: and the reason we didn't do the talk show in 291 00:17:57,640 --> 00:18:02,800 Speaker 1: LA was because I think I think that there was 292 00:18:02,840 --> 00:18:06,199 Speaker 1: a fear that then what if, the what if my 293 00:18:06,320 --> 00:18:08,160 Speaker 1: daughter would then have to live in LA. I don't 294 00:18:08,160 --> 00:18:09,960 Speaker 1: want to get into details about my own stuff right now, 295 00:18:09,960 --> 00:18:12,240 Speaker 1: because it's not really about me. I'm just saying take 296 00:18:12,280 --> 00:18:14,920 Speaker 1: it from someone who knows. The Sophie and Joe thing 297 00:18:15,000 --> 00:18:18,680 Speaker 1: is a mess, and when you're dealing with international custody, 298 00:18:19,160 --> 00:18:21,920 Speaker 1: it can get real gnarly. And just look at Kelly Rutherford. 299 00:18:22,359 --> 00:18:25,159 Speaker 1: Look at Kelly Rutherford. She does not have custody of 300 00:18:25,160 --> 00:18:27,280 Speaker 1: her children. They live in France and she lives in 301 00:18:27,320 --> 00:18:30,560 Speaker 1: New York. That sounds like excruciating torture. So these two 302 00:18:30,600 --> 00:18:34,040 Speaker 1: need to tread lightly because just because everybody on TikTok 303 00:18:34,080 --> 00:18:35,760 Speaker 1: says you're a queen of the North or he's King 304 00:18:35,800 --> 00:18:39,960 Speaker 1: of the South doesn't mean dog, doesn't mean shit. They 305 00:18:40,000 --> 00:18:42,480 Speaker 1: just have to be quiet, tell their representatives to shut 306 00:18:42,480 --> 00:18:46,719 Speaker 1: the fuck up, settle, and then they can make all 307 00:18:46,720 --> 00:18:49,199 Speaker 1: their You knows, it's just got to try to keep 308 00:18:49,240 --> 00:18:53,120 Speaker 1: everything private as possible as possible. It's so tempting, it's 309 00:18:53,160 --> 00:18:58,639 Speaker 1: so tempting. It's just fuel. It's literally gasoline on the fire. 310 00:18:59,480 --> 00:19:01,399 Speaker 1: Joe is saying, saying that it's misleading that he was 311 00:19:01,440 --> 00:19:04,919 Speaker 1: withholding the daughter's passports. Yes, there are things that go on, 312 00:19:05,080 --> 00:19:08,560 Speaker 1: like one year I'm supposed to hold the passports, another 313 00:19:08,680 --> 00:19:10,879 Speaker 1: year my ex is supposed to hold the passports. That 314 00:19:11,200 --> 00:19:13,600 Speaker 1: comes out in a custody agreement, who's holding the passports. 315 00:19:13,640 --> 00:19:17,520 Speaker 1: Think about it. Say you've got a terrible contentious situation 316 00:19:17,680 --> 00:19:19,760 Speaker 1: and you're just worried that the ex is gonna like 317 00:19:20,040 --> 00:19:22,159 Speaker 1: not want you to make your flight and like pretend 318 00:19:22,200 --> 00:19:24,640 Speaker 1: that they don't have the passports at the last minute, 319 00:19:24,640 --> 00:19:26,520 Speaker 1: and you get anxiety about things you think you'd never 320 00:19:26,560 --> 00:19:29,480 Speaker 1: get anxiety about passports or a tremendous source of anxiety, 321 00:19:29,760 --> 00:19:31,440 Speaker 1: and the average person thinks, what the fuck? So no 322 00:19:31,440 --> 00:19:34,040 Speaker 1: one's gonna keep the passports. I've had weeks go by 323 00:19:34,080 --> 00:19:35,919 Speaker 1: where you're still emailing. Can I get the passports? Can 324 00:19:35,960 --> 00:19:38,120 Speaker 1: I have the passport? Can I have her passport? You're 325 00:19:38,119 --> 00:19:40,760 Speaker 1: just worried. It's like wanting to know where passports are 326 00:19:40,840 --> 00:19:45,760 Speaker 1: is a very big thing. So he's saying it's misleading. 327 00:19:45,920 --> 00:19:49,000 Speaker 1: Maybe for whatever reason, he was nervous that she was 328 00:19:49,040 --> 00:19:51,080 Speaker 1: gonna take the passports and take the kids to the UK. 329 00:19:51,280 --> 00:19:53,280 Speaker 1: I'm playing devil's advocate. I don't know either of them. 330 00:19:53,280 --> 00:19:56,480 Speaker 1: I don't know the situation. I just know the dynamics 331 00:19:56,480 --> 00:20:00,200 Speaker 1: that can exist. It's not easy, and everything sounds it's 332 00:20:00,240 --> 00:20:02,200 Speaker 1: like a good idea when you're in love. And it's 333 00:20:02,200 --> 00:20:04,919 Speaker 1: why you have to have a pre nup and a 334 00:20:04,960 --> 00:20:08,600 Speaker 1: post nup if necessary. You've gotta get the shit organized. 335 00:20:08,640 --> 00:20:11,800 Speaker 1: And everybody only focuses about the money and a prenup. 336 00:20:12,600 --> 00:20:16,960 Speaker 1: It's always about the money. No one does a custody prenup. Okay, Joe, 337 00:20:17,160 --> 00:20:21,040 Speaker 1: we have kids. What happens, Let's write the prenup now 338 00:20:21,080 --> 00:20:24,119 Speaker 1: for the custody. Where would the kids live if we 339 00:20:24,240 --> 00:20:27,040 Speaker 1: broke up. What kind of schools would the kids go 340 00:20:27,080 --> 00:20:29,440 Speaker 1: to if we broke up? You know, that's why decision 341 00:20:29,480 --> 00:20:32,040 Speaker 1: making is more important than custody time. Everybody in divorce 342 00:20:32,040 --> 00:20:34,560 Speaker 1: thinks the custody time is the most important thing because 343 00:20:34,600 --> 00:20:35,919 Speaker 1: the baby's young and you just want to be with 344 00:20:35,960 --> 00:20:38,760 Speaker 1: your baby. That's not the important part. Your kid's thirteen 345 00:20:38,840 --> 00:20:41,440 Speaker 1: is having emotional issues. Your kid's sixteen is doing drugs, 346 00:20:41,520 --> 00:20:44,400 Speaker 1: your kid has anxiety, your kid has asthma. Can't live 347 00:20:44,480 --> 00:20:47,880 Speaker 1: in an area where you can't breathe. One parent's gonna 348 00:20:47,920 --> 00:20:50,760 Speaker 1: have to make a fucking decision. That's why decision making 349 00:20:50,800 --> 00:20:53,280 Speaker 1: is most important. So it matters with Sophie and Joe 350 00:20:53,400 --> 00:20:56,080 Speaker 1: is going to be who gets decision making. But decision 351 00:20:56,080 --> 00:20:59,280 Speaker 1: making does not include what state or country a kid 352 00:20:59,280 --> 00:21:01,879 Speaker 1: lives in. That's like a bigger custody issue. That's a 353 00:21:02,000 --> 00:21:05,800 Speaker 1: major custody issue. That is not like you get decision 354 00:21:05,840 --> 00:21:08,199 Speaker 1: making and you get to decide that the kid's now 355 00:21:08,280 --> 00:21:12,400 Speaker 1: going to live in UK. Decision making means education, medical, 356 00:21:12,720 --> 00:21:15,240 Speaker 1: like those types of decisions like will the kid go 357 00:21:15,280 --> 00:21:17,760 Speaker 1: to camp? Religion is something too that has to be 358 00:21:17,800 --> 00:21:20,240 Speaker 1: worked out in the beginning. You could be dating someone, 359 00:21:20,320 --> 00:21:21,960 Speaker 1: you could be engaged with someone. It sounds great. Sure, 360 00:21:21,960 --> 00:21:23,679 Speaker 1: I'll come with you to church sometimes. Yes, you can 361 00:21:23,680 --> 00:21:26,680 Speaker 1: come with me to temple. Yay, And it's all cute. 362 00:21:26,680 --> 00:21:29,159 Speaker 1: Because you're in love, you'll do anything. Then you're married. 363 00:21:29,359 --> 00:21:30,960 Speaker 1: You don't want your kid to go to temple because 364 00:21:31,280 --> 00:21:35,480 Speaker 1: you want them to raise Christian or you say it's 365 00:21:35,480 --> 00:21:38,280 Speaker 1: okay that they were baptized Christian. That's okay, but you 366 00:21:38,280 --> 00:21:40,120 Speaker 1: don't want your kid going to church every Sunday. Maybe 367 00:21:40,119 --> 00:21:42,439 Speaker 1: you don't want that, maybe they don't want that. Maybe 368 00:21:42,480 --> 00:21:43,720 Speaker 1: you want your kids to be able to go to 369 00:21:43,720 --> 00:21:46,680 Speaker 1: the high holidays if they're Jewish. What are the things 370 00:21:46,680 --> 00:21:49,320 Speaker 1: that matter? Lay this shit out ahead of time. It 371 00:21:49,440 --> 00:21:51,600 Speaker 1: is not cute, it is not romantic, and it is 372 00:21:51,640 --> 00:21:56,600 Speaker 1: not sexy, but it is entirely necessary. Otherwise, don't get married.