WEBVTT - “An Hour A Day" 0:00:10.760 --> 0:00:13.480 Okay, salute, salute. 0:00:14.040 --> 0:00:14.480 Ah. 0:00:14.760 --> 0:00:18.840 Hi, I am Freddie Rodriguez and I'm Wilmer Valdoroma. 0:00:18.880 --> 0:00:21.160 We are in the Dose Amigos podcast. 0:00:21.840 --> 0:00:24.920 Well, thank you so much for everyone who's been prescribing 0:00:25.000 --> 0:00:25.760 and downloading. 0:00:26.200 --> 0:00:30.000 It's so amazing that you'll have been looking for us 0:00:30.040 --> 0:00:33.239 everywhere else that we are available and and. 0:00:33.360 --> 0:00:34.839 Just enjoying these conversations. 0:00:34.840 --> 0:00:37.319 You know, the idea of this podcast was to kind 0:00:37.320 --> 0:00:41.879 of come together, reflect look ahead, but also be present 0:00:42.080 --> 0:00:47.080 and enjoying and enjoying our friendship and the life that 0:00:47.120 --> 0:00:49.560 we've lived, you know, in the legacy we're leaving behind. 0:00:49.720 --> 0:00:53.000 And I think in this episode, you know, we wanted 0:00:53.000 --> 0:00:55.560 to kind of domestify, you know, some of these things 0:00:55.600 --> 0:00:57.880 you know that you know, multi generation that we've been 0:00:57.920 --> 0:01:00.440 passed down, you know, I know mental health oth is 0:01:00.440 --> 0:01:02.800 a is a big subject, you know, something that a 0:01:02.840 --> 0:01:05.840 lot of people, you know struggle with today and and 0:01:05.880 --> 0:01:08.080 you know, perhaps some of our listeners in this very 0:01:08.120 --> 0:01:10.800 moment are going through a really difficult time. So we 0:01:10.880 --> 0:01:12.679 thought it'd be cool to just say, hey, you know, 0:01:12.760 --> 0:01:14.560 let's reflect on some of the things that we do 0:01:14.680 --> 0:01:17.200 for ourselves. You know, some of the things that you 0:01:17.240 --> 0:01:19.800 know that has gotten us through the darkness. You know, 0:01:19.920 --> 0:01:25.240 our jobs, this career could be so so you know, 0:01:25.360 --> 0:01:28.400 so tough, you know, rejection and the negativity that can 0:01:28.480 --> 0:01:31.160 be surrounded by you know, it could be not just scary, 0:01:31.240 --> 0:01:32.360 but could also really be. 0:01:33.880 --> 0:01:34.280 Daunting. 0:01:34.319 --> 0:01:36.679 It's hard to find the path, you know, when you're 0:01:37.240 --> 0:01:39.080 when you're when you enter in these zones, and how 0:01:39.120 --> 0:01:41.200 do you keep yourself yourself saying how do you keep 0:01:41.240 --> 0:01:44.120 priority as the guide in light? And you know, how 0:01:44.120 --> 0:01:47.800 do you protect yourself in all these ways? And we had. 0:01:47.640 --> 0:01:48.440 To do things right. 0:01:48.440 --> 0:01:50.080 We had to kind of figure out what are these 0:01:50.080 --> 0:01:52.840 things that you treat you know yourself to you know, 0:01:52.880 --> 0:01:56.480 and you know, I'll start with you know my version, right. 0:01:56.520 --> 0:01:58.320 I started this thing called my hour. 0:01:58.160 --> 0:02:02.400 A day that if if in twenty four hours you 0:02:02.440 --> 0:02:06.680 didn't have one hour for yourself, then what. 0:02:06.720 --> 0:02:08.200 Did you do for yourself today? 0:02:08.600 --> 0:02:08.840 Right? 0:02:09.520 --> 0:02:10.480 In other words, like. 0:02:12.160 --> 0:02:15.840 Today match tomorrow or didn't match yesterday? Like how do 0:02:15.880 --> 0:02:18.280 you you know, how did what did tuesday? What was 0:02:18.320 --> 0:02:21.560 Tuesday different than Wednesday? And it's in that hour sometimes 0:02:21.600 --> 0:02:24.000 when when our daily routine is going to work, you know, 0:02:24.080 --> 0:02:26.560 getting on the same freeway, you know, making those similar 0:02:26.600 --> 0:02:29.240 phone calls and then getting home and having a version 0:02:29.240 --> 0:02:30.320 of the dinner we had before. 0:02:30.760 --> 0:02:33.240 You know what about that day made you remember it? 0:02:33.800 --> 0:02:36.600 You know, in that hour that I would afford myself 0:02:37.680 --> 0:02:39.880 could be in the form of fitness, right which I 0:02:40.280 --> 0:02:42.200 like to work out, listen to loud meal say, can 0:02:42.240 --> 0:02:44.440 really get in the mood and like you know, and 0:02:45.000 --> 0:02:47.920 sing out loud, and you know, it could be a swim, 0:02:48.000 --> 0:02:49.760 it could be a walk, It could be a meditation. 0:02:49.960 --> 0:02:52.200 It could be reading a chapter of your favorite book. 0:02:52.280 --> 0:02:54.680 You know. It could be you know, watching an episode 0:02:54.680 --> 0:02:55.520 of something you know. 0:02:55.560 --> 0:02:58.680 And I think that the idea was that my hour 0:02:58.880 --> 0:03:02.040 day kind of inspire us all to kind of take charge, 0:03:02.720 --> 0:03:05.160 you know, and break the patterns of our daily lives, 0:03:05.240 --> 0:03:05.560 you know. 0:03:05.600 --> 0:03:06.680 And and find that. 0:03:06.760 --> 0:03:08.600 But do you have something like that? Do you have 0:03:08.639 --> 0:03:11.480 something like a you know, like my hour day? But 0:03:11.760 --> 0:03:13.240 you know what, what do you what do you do 0:03:13.320 --> 0:03:15.240 for yourself when it comes to like I want to 0:03:15.280 --> 0:03:17.079 recenter again, I want to recharge. 0:03:17.639 --> 0:03:18.000 Yeah. 0:03:18.040 --> 0:03:20.160 A couple of years ago I went and I took 0:03:20.200 --> 0:03:26.320 an intensive it's called TM Transcendental Meditation course, and it 0:03:26.400 --> 0:03:29.679 was it was a three day course where they teach 0:03:29.720 --> 0:03:33.120 you how to meditate. They give you a mantra, you know, 0:03:34.920 --> 0:03:38.800 and it really helped me in so many different ways. 0:03:38.840 --> 0:03:43.000 It helped me get centered. You know, I think it's 0:03:43.000 --> 0:03:45.880 really normal in our industry for us to get anxious, right, 0:03:46.000 --> 0:03:48.520 you know, for anxiety to be so prevalent in our 0:03:48.560 --> 0:03:52.040 industry and in life, right, that's you know, obviously. 0:03:51.600 --> 0:03:55.600 A byproduct of stress. Right. 0:03:58.040 --> 0:03:59.920 And so I learned how to do that and it 0:04:00.000 --> 0:04:02.720 and it also helped me in my in my acting 0:04:02.800 --> 0:04:05.920 as well. You know, I find I remember one time, 0:04:06.120 --> 0:04:09.000 I think we said this in the other episode, Andy 0:04:09.000 --> 0:04:10.560 Garcia gave me some good advice. 0:04:10.600 --> 0:04:13.560 He said, he said, just stay loose, man, stay loose. 0:04:13.760 --> 0:04:16.240 Sometimes it's hard to stay loose, you know, when you're 0:04:16.279 --> 0:04:21.240 when you're tense, when you're stressed, stakes are high, stakes 0:04:21.240 --> 0:04:25.280 are high. Right, you don't know if other people on 0:04:25.440 --> 0:04:30.880 set are disturbing your peace. You know, there's a multitude 0:04:30.960 --> 0:04:34.000 of different elements that could affect that. And thus I 0:04:34.040 --> 0:04:38.400 feel could affect your performance, you know. And I found 0:04:38.400 --> 0:04:42.280 that meditation really helped me get centered, uh and help 0:04:42.360 --> 0:04:46.359 me get focused enough that if any of that tried 0:04:46.400 --> 0:04:48.640 to come into my space, I had the tools to 0:04:48.720 --> 0:04:50.719 be able to deflect from that. 0:04:51.839 --> 0:04:55.560 Uh. And and that and even in my regular life, 0:04:55.680 --> 0:04:58.039 you know, just whatever stresses. 0:04:57.520 --> 0:05:00.880 Or anxieties we're going through it, just a little bit 0:05:00.880 --> 0:05:03.800 of that a few days, a few times a day 0:05:03.960 --> 0:05:05.520 really helps combat that. 0:05:06.440 --> 0:05:07.080 So question. 0:05:07.320 --> 0:05:12.039 So there's so many forms of meditation, and I encourage 0:05:12.080 --> 0:05:14.720 everyone to find their anthem, right, Like, go out there 0:05:14.760 --> 0:05:17.719 and find all different versions of meditation and see which 0:05:17.760 --> 0:05:19.800 one speaks to you, which one centers. 0:05:19.480 --> 0:05:22.320 You in waste that you never thought you could be before. 0:05:22.400 --> 0:05:23.640 But for you, what is that? 0:05:23.680 --> 0:05:25.560 Do you mind talking a little bit about what is 0:05:25.600 --> 0:05:28.160 the version of meditation you do it? 0:05:28.560 --> 0:05:31.840 It's twenty minutes, two times a day. Oh, two times 0:05:31.839 --> 0:05:32.880 a day, two times a day? 0:05:32.920 --> 0:05:33.200 Yeah? 0:05:33.720 --> 0:05:35.640 Is there specifically morning and evening? 0:05:35.800 --> 0:05:37.359 Or I tend to do it? 0:05:37.520 --> 0:05:37.880 Yeah? 0:05:37.960 --> 0:05:39.000 Yeah. You know. 0:05:39.040 --> 0:05:42.360 It's funny because the perception is that if you meditate, 0:05:42.400 --> 0:05:45.039 it makes you sleepy, but it actually gives you some energy, 0:05:46.279 --> 0:05:48.880 And so they encourage you to do it early in 0:05:49.000 --> 0:05:51.440 order for you to take advantage of that energy, right, 0:05:51.480 --> 0:05:53.280 and for you not to do it like right before 0:05:53.279 --> 0:05:54.400 bed because they. 0:05:54.400 --> 0:05:55.160 Think you'd be up. 0:05:55.720 --> 0:05:58.680 So for me, it's a it's a combination of that 0:05:59.160 --> 0:06:03.160 some prayer you know in the mornings, ah, some reading, 0:06:05.160 --> 0:06:07.800 but you know, you have to equip yourself with the 0:06:07.800 --> 0:06:11.280 tools right in whatever you do, whatever it is, whatever 0:06:11.320 --> 0:06:13.760 you're dealing with in your life, right, you always need 0:06:13.760 --> 0:06:14.599 a set of tools. 0:06:14.640 --> 0:06:18.400 That's that's going to help you get through it, right, buddy. 0:06:18.760 --> 0:06:22.279 I mean, what's what's the hour a day for me? 0:06:22.480 --> 0:06:22.680 Yeah? 0:06:22.880 --> 0:06:23.160 Is it? 0:06:23.240 --> 0:06:25.360 Is it the same every single day or is it? 0:06:26.240 --> 0:06:29.119 Well, it depends because I have forfeited my lunch, which 0:06:29.240 --> 0:06:31.039 used to be my forty five minutes of just like 0:06:31.120 --> 0:06:33.799 shutting it down. Are either closing my eyes or reading 0:06:33.880 --> 0:06:36.200 or whatever I have to do. I have to forfeit 0:06:36.240 --> 0:06:38.560 it to zoom meetings because I have just running out 0:06:38.600 --> 0:06:41.240 of hours of the day to do all my business stuff. 0:06:42.000 --> 0:06:44.760 But I will say my hour day starts really early. 0:06:44.920 --> 0:06:46.640 You know, I'm the guy who gets up at four 0:06:46.640 --> 0:06:48.359 to thirty in the morning. Wow, I'll be in the 0:06:48.400 --> 0:06:50.159 gym at four thirty and that gives me actually a 0:06:50.200 --> 0:06:52.000 good hour and forty five minutes. 0:06:52.880 --> 0:06:54.880 Even if you get to bed late, you're getting up 0:06:54.920 --> 0:06:55.719 at four in the morning. 0:06:55.720 --> 0:06:57.440 I have to do it, Wow, I have to do it. 0:06:57.480 --> 0:07:01.440 I have to just walk, you know. I walked through 0:07:01.480 --> 0:07:04.440 the kitchen out through the kitchen door. I stepped down. 0:07:04.480 --> 0:07:07.640 I walked towards my gym outside in the open. The 0:07:07.720 --> 0:07:11.560 sky is full of stars, the air is crisp, cold, right, 0:07:11.680 --> 0:07:12.880 the grass is still icy. 0:07:13.600 --> 0:07:13.960 You know that. 0:07:14.160 --> 0:07:17.600 Eventually you make it into you know, the serenity of 0:07:17.640 --> 0:07:19.800 the night, and then you make it into the gym. 0:07:20.240 --> 0:07:21.040 You make it into the. 0:07:21.000 --> 0:07:27.440 Gym, you turn up your music and then you stretch. Yeah, 0:07:27.520 --> 0:07:31.240 you know, just you and at times, you know, my 0:07:31.240 --> 0:07:34.720 my my trainer at the time, you know, obviously, you know, 0:07:34.760 --> 0:07:36.720 come in and four thirty in the morning, I meet 0:07:36.760 --> 0:07:37.400 me there in the morning. 0:07:37.480 --> 0:07:38.000 We'll do it, you know. 0:07:38.040 --> 0:07:39.680 And there'll be times, well I'll just be there by 0:07:39.680 --> 0:07:42.680 myself four thirty in the morning, just like nothing new. 0:07:42.720 --> 0:07:45.480 You can hear a sound right that time. Occasionally you 0:07:45.560 --> 0:07:47.400 cross a couple of coyotes, you know. 0:07:47.840 --> 0:07:48.880 On your way to the gym. 0:07:49.800 --> 0:07:52.280 But I walk in there and I will stretch, I 0:07:52.320 --> 0:07:54.480 will warm up, and then I will just turn the 0:07:54.600 --> 0:07:57.240 music to something that will make me happy, like I'll 0:07:57.280 --> 0:07:59.280 do some Mark Anthony songs, so you know, I'll do 0:07:59.400 --> 0:08:03.600 like some really lively, loud music and then that would 0:08:03.640 --> 0:08:05.360 put me in that mood and then that that really 0:08:05.400 --> 0:08:06.240 really would help it. 0:08:06.280 --> 0:08:07.040 Puld set up this. 0:08:07.200 --> 0:08:11.880 Tone so then I go from there, you know, take 0:08:11.880 --> 0:08:15.200 a shower, give him the car, and then traffic didn't 0:08:15.200 --> 0:08:17.880 bother me, you know. Then I would just go get 0:08:17.880 --> 0:08:20.240 to the four or five eventually get down to where 0:08:20.240 --> 0:08:24.440 we shoot, uh in Cis and then and then and 0:08:24.480 --> 0:08:27.240 then I'd be I had such a running start, you know, 0:08:27.280 --> 0:08:29.080 a lot of my co stars we just had working 0:08:29.200 --> 0:08:30.880 up rolling running to. 0:08:30.960 --> 0:08:34.120 Said are you already already two and a half hours? 0:08:34.160 --> 0:08:36.480 So up, you know, going? Then I did walk in 0:08:36.640 --> 0:08:38.079 annoyingly optimistic. 0:08:38.800 --> 0:08:42.319 You know, are you Are you a breakfast guy or 0:08:42.360 --> 0:08:45.719 you are you a car I love breakfast. Uh sometimes 0:08:45.800 --> 0:08:48.160 I've had to do programs where I'm animated fasting, you know, 0:08:49.040 --> 0:08:50.680 but some for the most part, I'd like to have 0:08:50.720 --> 0:08:51.600 my breakfast in the morning. 0:08:51.600 --> 0:08:54.040 If you do it before or after the workout, I 0:08:54.080 --> 0:08:54.640 do it after. 0:08:54.960 --> 0:08:57.320 Yeah, you know, I do it after because you know, 0:08:57.320 --> 0:09:00.200 I like to kind of do a little bit a 0:09:00.200 --> 0:09:00.920 fast workout. 0:09:01.120 --> 0:09:03.439 I feel like I'm burning more, you know, I'm reaching 0:09:03.480 --> 0:09:05.720 from what's in there, you know. And then. 0:09:07.520 --> 0:09:09.640 You know, and then I'll just have a shake or 0:09:09.640 --> 0:09:12.479 a world to have a breakfast right away and I 0:09:12.559 --> 0:09:14.520 get to work, and you know, and I'll just you 0:09:14.559 --> 0:09:15.320 would have to eat. 0:09:15.320 --> 0:09:17.480 But then once you once you start your start man, 0:09:17.559 --> 0:09:18.199 like you know, you. 0:09:18.160 --> 0:09:19.640 Know how it is once you get to said, you're 0:09:19.679 --> 0:09:22.080 on the all time and just bringing it, you know, 0:09:22.880 --> 0:09:25.640 and each scene could be three pages, you know, hard goores, 0:09:25.720 --> 0:09:27.840 you know. But but that really helps me, you know, 0:09:27.920 --> 0:09:30.559 just kind of getting a Ronnie Star at it. If 0:09:30.600 --> 0:09:35.760 I'm traveling somewhere, when I'm in the plane, I'll find 0:09:35.800 --> 0:09:38.320 a way to just do some You guys can go 0:09:38.360 --> 0:09:42.040 to any of your streaming music devices and go look 0:09:42.120 --> 0:09:45.560 for brown noise brown and that it sounds funny because 0:09:45.800 --> 0:09:50.600 you know you're not brown, but brown noise is like 0:09:50.640 --> 0:09:54.280 this deep, deep, you know sound. 0:09:55.200 --> 0:09:56.559 It's like a wide noise. 0:09:56.280 --> 0:09:58.679 That people used to sleeping sometimes, but the brown noise 0:09:58.720 --> 0:10:02.920 is so deep. It has like this really really basic 0:10:03.360 --> 0:10:06.320 kind of you know structure, and as soon as it 0:10:06.360 --> 0:10:08.160 goes on, it almost feels like the wound of. 0:10:08.120 --> 0:10:11.400 A mother, you know, and you're just. 0:10:10.360 --> 0:10:12.439 Sleeping in there, you know, And like that's one way 0:10:12.480 --> 0:10:16.080 to really turn it off. Once that brown noise explained 0:10:16.360 --> 0:10:20.760 in your heart and your mind, you're not thinking about 0:10:20.800 --> 0:10:26.920 anything else, right, nothing outside, nothing inside your your your 0:10:26.960 --> 0:10:29.200 mind is able to kind of slow it down, you're 0:10:29.240 --> 0:10:32.280 focusing on the sound, and then at that very moment 0:10:32.760 --> 0:10:36.280 you're able to let go a little bit. The tense 0:10:36.360 --> 0:10:39.440 on your shoulders go away, you know, the quick thinking 0:10:39.600 --> 0:10:43.040 slows down, and that really helps. But brown noise is 0:10:43.040 --> 0:10:45.199 an interesting one. Else to sleep with brown noise because 0:10:45.240 --> 0:10:46.800 it's such just so relaxing. 0:10:47.000 --> 0:10:49.640 Yeah, yeah, it's quieting the brain. 0:10:50.000 --> 0:10:51.400 Do you sleep with that noise maker? 0:10:51.840 --> 0:10:52.120 I do? 0:10:52.280 --> 0:10:53.120 Yeah, it's toff. 0:10:53.200 --> 0:10:55.319 I've been to hotel rooms where I'm like, it's too 0:10:55.440 --> 0:10:57.760 quiet in here, you know, Yeah. 0:10:57.600 --> 0:10:58.560 I have to. 0:10:59.040 --> 0:11:01.920 If you go on youtubeb and you and you put 0:11:01.960 --> 0:11:06.320 like thunderstorm black screen, there's like twelve hours worth of 0:11:06.679 --> 0:11:08.040 stuff like that on YouTube. 0:11:08.120 --> 0:11:11.880 You listen to storms. Yeah, that's that's the thing all night. 0:11:12.160 --> 0:11:12.439 Yeah. 0:11:12.520 --> 0:11:14.679 Yeah, but with a black screen, so it's just it's 0:11:14.760 --> 0:11:16.480 just the sound of the storm in the back. 0:11:16.559 --> 0:11:17.880 Yeah, but I need something like that. 0:11:18.240 --> 0:11:21.760 When did you realize that what was that moment? What 0:11:21.840 --> 0:11:25.680 was that thing? Well, what was that experience that made 0:11:25.760 --> 0:11:29.880 you think or made you realize that you really needed to. 0:11:31.800 --> 0:11:34.200 Have this structure of meditation and prayer. 0:11:35.880 --> 0:11:37.600 I you know, I think that. 0:11:39.360 --> 0:11:43.520 You know, going through our business, uh and going through 0:11:43.559 --> 0:11:47.040 the stresses of it. Eventually it starts to get to you. 0:11:47.040 --> 0:11:51.160 You know, it starts to affect you and affect your 0:11:51.200 --> 0:11:54.640 mental health. And you know, when you're young and then 0:11:54.679 --> 0:11:57.640 you're in your twenties, you think you're resilient to everything, right, 0:11:57.720 --> 0:11:59.240 and then all of a sudden, you start to get 0:11:59.280 --> 0:12:02.720 older and you start ago, I should probably start doing 0:12:02.720 --> 0:12:07.560 something about this, uh uh. And then and then you know, 0:12:07.800 --> 0:12:10.200 I had, you know, my my pop passed away, and 0:12:10.679 --> 0:12:12.440 you know, had you know, a couple of debts in 0:12:12.440 --> 0:12:14.800 the family, and that really like rocks you you know, 0:12:14.920 --> 0:12:15.680 rocks your core. 0:12:16.880 --> 0:12:17.120 Uh. 0:12:17.160 --> 0:12:19.840 And then you start to seek out ways to deal 0:12:19.920 --> 0:12:22.640 with it, you know, especially in our industry, right, it's 0:12:22.640 --> 0:12:26.120 so it's so easy to turn to other things as 0:12:26.120 --> 0:12:28.640 opposed to meditation. 0:12:28.360 --> 0:12:29.280 Or prayer or whatever. 0:12:29.360 --> 0:12:31.480 You know, it's really easy to start diving into the 0:12:31.480 --> 0:12:32.240 substance stuff. 0:12:32.280 --> 0:12:33.880 You know, it's never been my thing, but. 0:12:33.920 --> 0:12:36.480 Sure, you know, but in our professor and it's it's 0:12:36.480 --> 0:12:40.080 a you know, it's it's a tough card. You know, 0:12:40.320 --> 0:12:44.480 being being dealt at that card is is tricky. You know, 0:12:44.600 --> 0:12:48.679 nobody equips you with this industry. In most careers, you 0:12:48.679 --> 0:12:50.600 do the work, you show up, you put in your hours, 0:12:50.600 --> 0:12:52.720 you go home, right, you get paid hourly, you get 0:12:52.760 --> 0:12:54.599 paid you know, a yearly rate whatever. 0:12:54.360 --> 0:12:55.000 Whatever that is. 0:12:57.160 --> 0:12:59.559 But in our profession, and it's it's so much uncertainty. 0:12:59.720 --> 0:13:01.360 You know, when your next job is going to be, 0:13:01.640 --> 0:13:03.720 you know, and if a show ends, you know, like 0:13:04.440 --> 0:13:06.360 you got to get a new one, you're out with 0:13:06.440 --> 0:13:08.320 that is, you know, and you hope it's something that 0:13:08.360 --> 0:13:11.360 can hopefully pay the road for the rest of your career, 0:13:11.480 --> 0:13:11.679 you know. 0:13:11.760 --> 0:13:14.200 But but it's tough. I mean this, there's some high 0:13:14.240 --> 0:13:15.360 pressures that comes. 0:13:15.120 --> 0:13:15.920 With what we do. 0:13:16.200 --> 0:13:19.679 Yeah, it does a number on your nervous system, you know, 0:13:20.360 --> 0:13:22.520 and so you have to really start paying attention to 0:13:22.600 --> 0:13:25.320 those things. And as you get older, you start to 0:13:25.360 --> 0:13:28.440 realize that. You know, when you're younger, you think you're superman. 0:13:29.240 --> 0:13:31.320 You know, you don't pay pay attention to any of 0:13:31.360 --> 0:13:35.120 that stuff, right, But but you know, whether it's that 0:13:35.320 --> 0:13:38.040 or like even therapy, you know, as we continue this 0:13:38.160 --> 0:13:41.480 conversation about Latinos and mental health, you know, therapy is 0:13:41.480 --> 0:13:46.720 something that Latinos and look, and I'm speaking on my 0:13:46.760 --> 0:13:50.000 own behalf, right, Like, I feel like within our culture 0:13:50.160 --> 0:13:53.400 is not really something that's at the forefront or. 0:13:53.400 --> 0:13:55.079 It's talked about or anything like that. 0:13:55.200 --> 0:13:57.079 No, No, we always put a little dirt on it, you. 0:13:57.080 --> 0:14:00.120 Know, have a little dirt on it. 0:14:00.200 --> 0:14:03.480 But before we dive into these multi generational shading of 0:14:03.679 --> 0:14:07.880 the patterns, I want to acknowledge there are you know, 0:14:08.040 --> 0:14:13.040 our thro amigo. Here is you know, Josh, Josh in 0:14:13.120 --> 0:14:16.320 the In the name of you know, having this be 0:14:16.559 --> 0:14:20.920 our our zen moment, we decided that maybe Josh can 0:14:21.000 --> 0:14:21.520 help us. 0:14:21.400 --> 0:14:22.640 With a mocktail. 0:14:22.760 --> 0:14:25.840 A mocktail, you know, yeah, something that can bring our 0:14:25.920 --> 0:14:27.440 senses up to a different level. 0:14:28.120 --> 0:14:30.720 Josh, what do you make for us today? Today? 0:14:30.760 --> 0:14:34.280 We're going to make a mint, tarragon cucumber, just a 0:14:34.360 --> 0:14:36.840 refreshing a small water cooler. 0:14:37.200 --> 0:14:39.200 Yeah, you know, something to kind of get the. 0:14:39.160 --> 0:14:44.600 Mind right, set the tone that Japanese citrus in there, 0:14:44.640 --> 0:14:45.640 also sudachi. 0:14:46.800 --> 0:14:50.280 Just give it a little little tanginess to it. Very good. 0:14:50.400 --> 0:14:52.760 That sounds great, sounds that wish to meditate that to that. 0:14:53.480 --> 0:14:56.720 Yeah, you know, we should be in the sauna. 0:14:57.120 --> 0:15:02.320 Absolutely, that's awesome. Can't wait to taste it. But yeah, man, But. 0:15:01.960 --> 0:15:07.480 But speaking of multi generational tools, we've never been I 0:15:07.480 --> 0:15:09.920 don't think I can speak for myself. 0:15:10.600 --> 0:15:12.600 I don't think we've been ever given. 0:15:12.400 --> 0:15:20.640 Tools and how to actually cope, how to actually not 0:15:20.760 --> 0:15:23.640 just cope, but like, how do we how do we process? Yeah, 0:15:24.040 --> 0:15:27.360 how do we process trauma? How do we how do 0:15:27.440 --> 0:15:29.760 we endure it? You know, how do we get through it? 0:15:29.840 --> 0:15:31.840 And then most importantly, how do we set up ourselves 0:15:31.840 --> 0:15:32.440 for success? 0:15:33.840 --> 0:15:34.040 You know? 0:15:35.680 --> 0:15:38.480 Would you agree that that it does something that it's hard? 0:15:38.640 --> 0:15:41.600 You know in our culture somehow that passed to us somehow. 0:15:42.560 --> 0:15:47.120 I just I just think that in our culture, we're 0:15:47.200 --> 0:15:55.160 taught to suppress trauma, suppress feeling, suppress and and keep 0:15:55.240 --> 0:15:57.440 and keep your head down and keep moving forward. Right, 0:15:58.560 --> 0:16:00.440 But when you start to learn as you get older, 0:16:00.600 --> 0:16:03.760 is that you know, it's it's it's like a pressure cooker, right, 0:16:03.960 --> 0:16:06.600 Like you suppress, you suppress. Eventually, it's gonna have to 0:16:06.600 --> 0:16:10.560 come out somewhere, right, It's gonna seep through the hole somehow. 0:16:10.920 --> 0:16:11.160 Right. 0:16:12.240 --> 0:16:15.120 Oh yeah, wow, Okay, even the collar feels like it 0:16:15.200 --> 0:16:17.360 took me to a Japanese garden, thank you? 0:16:17.480 --> 0:16:21.560 Yeah so much? Look at that a salute? Yeah, mint 0:16:21.640 --> 0:16:25.239 on the top there has mint and tarragon and sudachi, 0:16:25.280 --> 0:16:29.000 which is a Japanese citrus cucumber inside of there. Like 0:16:29.040 --> 0:16:30.440 I said, just a small water. 0:16:31.320 --> 0:16:33.359 Oh my, yeah, but that's delicious. 0:16:34.000 --> 0:16:40.520 Oh my josh, this is pretty good. It's is damn good. 0:16:40.560 --> 0:16:42.160 Thank you. Very refreshing. 0:16:51.120 --> 0:16:57.640 Be getting back up on multi generational inheritance. I have 0:16:57.760 --> 0:17:03.080 discover myself, my own life, and through my parents. I 0:17:03.160 --> 0:17:06.200 never saw my dad process a bad day. I never 0:17:06.240 --> 0:17:11.920 saw my mom complain about what it could have been. Yeah, 0:17:12.119 --> 0:17:13.280 they just kept looking ahead. 0:17:13.320 --> 0:17:17.720 They kept driving forward, ignoring the wounds and ignoring. 0:17:17.320 --> 0:17:22.040 The scars that they had from the sacrifices they undeniably 0:17:22.119 --> 0:17:22.720 had to make. 0:17:23.040 --> 0:17:25.720 Yeah, you know that. 0:17:25.800 --> 0:17:29.000 And you know, specifically for us, who are you know, 0:17:29.119 --> 0:17:32.480 sons who are very aware of the household and what's 0:17:32.480 --> 0:17:35.920 happening and what our responsibility would be. You know, it's 0:17:35.960 --> 0:17:39.080 hard not to be aware of some of the turmoil, 0:17:39.200 --> 0:17:41.520 some of the pain and some of the stress, you know, 0:17:42.119 --> 0:17:44.360 some of the trauma that your mom or your dad 0:17:44.440 --> 0:17:48.040 might be carrying as you become an adult. You know, 0:17:48.320 --> 0:17:51.680 do you feel like, do you ever saw your parents 0:17:51.720 --> 0:17:54.239 like taking a bead or one for a walk or 0:17:54.280 --> 0:17:55.600 like or you know. 0:17:55.720 --> 0:17:58.200 It was just like absolutely not right. 0:17:58.880 --> 0:18:01.760 No, you know I think that that are both of 0:18:01.760 --> 0:18:05.880 our parents came from other places in the United States, 0:18:05.920 --> 0:18:11.800 and and and their their lives sort of the survival mechanism, right, 0:18:12.119 --> 0:18:14.440 And that's part of the survival mechanism. 0:18:15.160 --> 0:18:17.280 It's everything you just said. You just you just. 0:18:17.200 --> 0:18:20.000 Put your head down and you look forward and all 0:18:20.040 --> 0:18:23.679 the stuff you just listed, and you survive. You know, 0:18:23.720 --> 0:18:27.720 you put the blinders on and you survive. However, like 0:18:27.760 --> 0:18:31.080 I was saying earlier, I feel like eventually you're you're 0:18:31.119 --> 0:18:34.040 suppressing all the stuff that you're going through, right, all 0:18:34.080 --> 0:18:36.560 the trauma that you've experienced, and eventually it has to 0:18:36.560 --> 0:18:37.680 come out someway. 0:18:37.520 --> 0:18:41.239 Somehow, and what I don't know, what form, I don't know. 0:18:41.400 --> 0:18:46.320 You know, people sometimes channel that into alcoholism. Sometimes people 0:18:46.359 --> 0:18:47.399 channel that into drugs. 0:18:47.400 --> 0:18:51.879 Sometimes sometimes it manifests in projections onto your family and 0:18:51.960 --> 0:18:52.600 through your kids. 0:18:52.680 --> 0:18:54.920 You know, your kids bear you. 0:18:54.880 --> 0:18:58.440 Know, some of that that sadness, that's some of that depression, 0:18:58.840 --> 0:19:03.440 some of that inner you know anger. It's so important 0:19:03.560 --> 0:19:07.760 to you know, for us as we kind of hold 0:19:07.760 --> 0:19:12.040 the baton in this next phase of our generation to 0:19:12.160 --> 0:19:16.320