Speaker 1: So this is Barbie. Barbie and I first got in
Speaker 1: touch because I was doing a website and I wanted
Speaker 1: to have a dating expert right on my website and
Speaker 1: a blog, and so my team got in touch with her,
Speaker 1: and she wrote a bunch of articles about dating that
Speaker 1: are not just for high net worth individuals, that are
Speaker 1: definitely accessible because the principles are the same. And I've
Speaker 1: read some articles that she's been mentioned in where she
Speaker 1: says you have to be a full person, like someone
Speaker 1: that you would want to date to enter into a relationship.
Speaker 1: So while she is maybe unattainable to many of you,
Speaker 1: her advice is certainly attainable. Well, I'll tell you my
Speaker 1: perspective on something and I don't and I believe that
Speaker 1: you feel the same. Now I think about sex, there
Speaker 1: are these people that I think are ridiculous and making
Speaker 1: these like hard and fast rules about sex. And it's
Speaker 1: the first date, it's the ninth date, it's the commitment dates.
Speaker 1: And I think that you probably, as I tell my daughter,
Speaker 1: for the future, you're probably going to keep yourself more
Speaker 1: open and have a safer insurance policy if you don't
Speaker 1: immediately have sex with someone because you don't know how
Speaker 1: that's going to be perceived, and you don't know if
Speaker 1: the body is going to move faster than the emotions
Speaker 1: and the connection. But I do think that being overly
Speaker 1: heightened about that means now you're sort of like a
Speaker 1: game player, and you're gonna have If you don't know,
Speaker 1: you should err on the side of not doing it.
Speaker 1: But I think some mature adults are in a moment
Speaker 1: and know that both people are adults, and if the
Speaker 1: other person isn't going to call you because you were
Speaker 1: intimate with them, it's likely not because you had sex
Speaker 1: with them. If it's really going they're not gonna be like, oh,
Speaker 1: we were amazing and compatible in every way, but this,
Speaker 1: you know, forty five year old woman had sex with me,
Speaker 1: so I'm not gonna call her. I think that's all
Speaker 1: kind of bullshit. I think that you got to go
Speaker 1: with the way the waves are coming. My opinion.
Speaker 2: I'm so happy you're bringing this up because I don't
Speaker 2: think enough people talk about this, and this is so important.
Speaker 2: It is so old school to think that you have
Speaker 2: to wait a certain amount of dates for anything. All
Speaker 2: those rules I think are bullshit. I think the most
Speaker 2: important thing is you have to know yourself if you
Speaker 2: sleep with someone when it's early on and if it
Speaker 2: doesn't go the distance and it's going to put you
Speaker 2: in pieces and you're just gonna not to be able
Speaker 2: to recover, then know yourself that you can't handle it,
Speaker 2: and then know that that's not.
Speaker 3: Healthy for you.
Speaker 2: But if you could look at it almost like how
Speaker 2: men look at it, like it's liberating. Yes, I love myself,
Speaker 2: I love the way I look. I want to feel good.
Speaker 2: It was we were in the moment and you went
Speaker 2: for it all the.
Speaker 1: Way like exactly, I feel the same way and if
Speaker 1: the next day. But you can't get in your head
Speaker 1: and start obsessing that that's the reason they're not calling.
Speaker 1: They would have not called either way. If it's a connection,
Speaker 1: it's a connection.
Speaker 2: And then you have to smile, being like I had
Speaker 2: that cool experience and it wasn't about him.
Speaker 3: It was about me. That was not about him.
Speaker 2: And I agree with you. Someone's not gonna call you
Speaker 2: one way or another the others. But what you have
Speaker 2: to be careful about is that you're not making a
Speaker 2: habit where then it gets around or then you're ruining
Speaker 2: gravitation and something like that. But if you have the
Speaker 2: ability to differentiate emotions and physical connection and something that
Speaker 2: you want to go for. I think it's like that
Speaker 2: just shows that you are happy with yourself. You're not
Speaker 2: going to judge yourself if you're called or not called,
Speaker 2: because again, you're in the driver's of your life.
Speaker 3: You're the main character. If you want to do it,
Speaker 3: go for it.
Speaker 1: But you can also decide, I'm not sleeping with this
Speaker 1: person unless I'm certain they're going to call me tomorrow.
Speaker 1: Like if you can feel that, you know that you're safe,
Speaker 1: and also that you can handle the emotion, because there
Speaker 1: are there is oxytocin, you are going to feel emotional
Speaker 1: and you may not be able to handle that connection
Speaker 1: you had and then not speaking to them. So to
Speaker 1: your point, you have to just be driving whatever that is.
Speaker 1: And if you're in a vulnerable position emotionally, it might
Speaker 1: not be the right move. But for those reasons you.
Speaker 3: Might decide, holy shit, I really like this guy.
Speaker 2: I want to make it special, like I'm over just
Speaker 2: having sex like I to me, it no longer feels good,
Speaker 2: like it feels hollow. I really want to do it
Speaker 2: when it matters. And you could say to that guy, Okay,
Speaker 2: take this as a compliment. I really like you, and
Speaker 2: I do want to wait, but know that it's gonna
Speaker 2: be really good when we have it.
Speaker 3: But just hang in there because I really wanted to
Speaker 3: be something special.
Speaker 1: And you can also be funny. I've once said to
Speaker 1: someone ful funny. I've once said I'm not sleeping with you,
Speaker 1: and they're like, don't worry. You think that's all I wanted.
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm not worried about you. I'm worried about myself.
Speaker 1: I need to sign a contract right now that i'm
Speaker 1: legally You know, you can be funny about it to
Speaker 1: the persons you want a funny yes exactly.
Speaker 2: It's like you don't want to make it weird and
Speaker 2: then it gets awkward, and then they're going to be
Speaker 2: with you. To your point because you don't know how
Speaker 2: to communicate and you made things weird. It has to
Speaker 2: be like, don't do that to yourself, Like don't shut down.
Speaker 1: And by the way, it's beautiful to want to be
Speaker 1: alone too. That's a decision I am going to make,
Speaker 1: Like if I don't end up meeting someone who's additive
Speaker 1: and a great partner, I'm not going to settle for
Speaker 1: something that's not good. I would rather be alone. I'd
Speaker 1: rather not eat than eat something bad.
Speaker 2: You only want to do it if it's additive, Otherwise
Speaker 2: it's the quickest way to divorce. Attorney in your phone.
Speaker 2: It's you don't want to lie to yourself. This is
Speaker 2: your your life. You're the main character, and you have
Speaker 2: to make sure that you're honoring what you need and
Speaker 2: you'll be so much happier meeting the right person. And
Speaker 2: it's okay to be alone. You don't need to all
Speaker 2: of a sudden go from relationship relationship. A lot of
Speaker 2: times when people do that, they're not taking stock and
Speaker 2: what didn't work and what they need moving forward.
Speaker 3: They're just rushing from relationship relationship. We all know people
Speaker 3: who have done that.
Speaker 2: We've I've done that, and it's not healthy until you
Speaker 2: realize when you get older, like I didn't even take
Speaker 2: stock and what didn't work. I just ran into And
Speaker 2: sometimes you go into the wrong person's arms because your
Speaker 2: counterbalance car didn't work. Yes, and then you just don't
Speaker 2: want to be alone or everyone it's a couple culture, right,
Speaker 2: so everyone has a couple, and you want to go
Speaker 2: with all your girlfriends that are going out with couples
Speaker 2: and it, but like take stock and realizing, I mean,
Speaker 2: by the time, what I was still single. Half my
Speaker 2: friends that were married were divorced, and I was didn't
Speaker 2: even get married. It's like you have to realize everyone
Speaker 2: is going to have their turn. It's not a contest,
Speaker 2: and sometimes the best decision is not making a move
Speaker 2: and staying single and having so much fun, Like there's
Speaker 2: so much things you could do when you're not in
Speaker 2: a relationship and honoring that era too. It's just it's
Speaker 2: like around just realizing like your declare independence and that
Speaker 2: this is you time, and whether that's self care, with
Speaker 2: your health, with your relationship, with your body, with your mind,
Speaker 2: Like if you think about mental health, people don't realize
Speaker 2: that the serious nature of that. If you physically have
Speaker 2: a cut on your arm, you're not going to continue
Speaker 2: to make the cut deeper. You know that that's like insanity,
Speaker 2: Why no one would ever do that. But we treat
Speaker 2: ourselves with such abuse of our with the programming in
Speaker 2: our minds. We're saying to herself that it is like
Speaker 2: deepening the cut in your arm, and it's real pain,
Speaker 2: and people aren't taking the time.
Speaker 3: To heal and realizing they have to do. You have
Speaker 3: to be kind to yourself.
Speaker 1: So we were talking about being alone, and I think
Speaker 1: when someone is alone but from an angry place to
Speaker 1: the point of what we were talking about, people can
Speaker 1: smell that. I think I have found this in my
Speaker 1: life right now, I have had more of It's like
Speaker 1: it's like how women gravitate towards the married men, me
Speaker 1: being emotionally not unavailable, but just saying I want to
Speaker 1: be alone right now, I'm happy alone, choosing to be alone,
Speaker 1: which is why this post that I did went viral
Speaker 1: because I said, society makes it like, oh, it's okay
Speaker 1: to be alone, like as if you're some like pet
Speaker 1: instead of like all the women that I speak to
Speaker 1: in my comments who are like I want to be
Speaker 1: alone and not from an angry place like I like it.
Speaker 1: And maybe you meet if someone unexpectedly, like a person
Speaker 1: who stops trying to get pregnant gets pregnant, and maybe
Speaker 1: you don't. But I think that it's attractive to be
Speaker 1: confident and to be standing in your own two feet
Speaker 1: in being alone, not being alone as some consolation prize.
Speaker 3: Absolutely.
Speaker 2: I mean that's what our society has gotten right, is
Speaker 2: that it's a choice, and it actually could be the
Speaker 2: best thing you've done for yourself and highly attractive to
Speaker 2: put yourself firsts enjoy that time too, and it's okay
Speaker 2: to not want to be with anybody. Like couplehood is
Speaker 2: not for everybody, just like having kids is not for everybody.
Speaker 3: I'm a stepmom.
Speaker 2: I don't have my own kids, but you could get
Speaker 2: fulfillment and nurturing and make family so many different ways.
Speaker 3: It's just a modernized approach.
Speaker 2: So whether we're talking about sex or relationships, or when
Speaker 2: you opt in or out, I think the biggest thing
Speaker 2: is that it's liberating that it's your choice and it's
Speaker 2: no one else's choice, And don't listen to the peanut
Speaker 2: gallery of everyone trying to push you along of what
Speaker 2: they want for you. It's you have to sign the
Speaker 2: noise and realize what do I want for my life?
Speaker 2: You only have a finite period of time.
Speaker 1: Okay to that point. So this is where it's it's interesting,
Speaker 1: and it happens a lot on the apps. To that point,
Speaker 1: we have to be very strict. We have to be selective.
Speaker 1: The name of your company is Selective Search, and we
Speaker 1: are going We're not going into the mall wandering around
Speaker 1: where we don't know we're gonna buy. We come home
Speaker 1: with a bunch of crap. We're going and knowing what
Speaker 1: we want. But sometimes along the way you see something
Speaker 1: you didn't think you wanted. And how do you ride
Speaker 1: that line? Like how do you know you said you
Speaker 1: didn't want a guy like this, but he looks interesting?
Speaker 1: Is it like wants and needs? Like you would want
Speaker 1: someone who was Jewish, But if it's not a die
Speaker 1: hard need for you, then you could go out if
Speaker 1: someone was interesting, Like you set some guidelines for yourself,
Speaker 1: but how do you know which ones are strict and
Speaker 1: which you should to say? All right, I'm gonna try that,
Speaker 1: because then you end up getting discouraged by going on
Speaker 1: bad dates. Like that's bad too. What you start to date,
Speaker 1: you gotta be careful because if you go on bad dates,
Speaker 1: you hate the whole thing and you miss your x's
Speaker 1: for example, and.
Speaker 2: Then that's the quickest way to make bad mistakes of
Speaker 2: going backwards, yes, both with that person or you know
Speaker 2: emotional like a breakdown or setback. The biggest thing is
Speaker 2: you have to be intentional. Write it down, whether you
Speaker 2: get a note bad or it's at your notes of
Speaker 2: your phone. You have to write down, Okay, what are
Speaker 2: the most important things that I'm not unapologetically going to
Speaker 2: settle for, Like this is my list of non negotiables.
Speaker 2: And that should be more about character traits. It shouldn't
Speaker 2: be as much about the physical look of somebody. It
Speaker 2: should be more about lifestyle, whether it's family planning, It's
Speaker 2: about how you spend your time.
Speaker 3: Is it days active, days, nights out?
Speaker 1: Like height and age can move. But if someone has
Speaker 1: young children, maybe because.
Speaker 2: That depending on like if you want depending on what
Speaker 2: you know, Like if you know that you want to
Speaker 2: have kids, why you dating a man that's telling you
Speaker 2: I don't want to have more kids. Or if they
Speaker 2: say I don't know, maybe you're the pregnant or not pregnant.
Speaker 2: If they're not clear on it, they're going to be Unfortunately,
Speaker 2: you're going to be wasting time with someone that isn't
Speaker 2: the right person for you.
Speaker 3: So you have to get real clear on what you
Speaker 3: want out of life. And it should be fun.
Speaker 2: It's like you are the architect of your own life
Speaker 2: and you have to geek out on Okay, I'm now
Speaker 2: post college, what do I want? And it's the same
Speaker 2: thing about your When you're being a strategic a plan
Speaker 2: about your professional life, it's now thinking. And this is
Speaker 2: the part that no one teaches us of, like taking
Speaker 2: the time to be strategic planning about your personal life.
Speaker 3: Nobody does that.
Speaker 1: No, because it is a business and people treat it
Speaker 1: the way that someone just gets into a relationship with
Speaker 1: the first guy that likes them. That's like investing in
Speaker 1: the first business I saw in Shark Tank, which was
Speaker 1: shit like or me, just like, you got to take
Speaker 1: it seriously because it's your bandwidth and your time. So
Speaker 1: if I spend time on a ship business, I can't
Speaker 1: spend time on a good business. If I spend time
Speaker 1: on garbage online, I'm not spending time with my kid. Like,
Speaker 1: you have to be invested in this process if you're
Speaker 1: going to do it, unless you want to just sleep around.
Speaker 1: And you also have to two things I want to say.
Speaker 1: You have to deep, deep dive research, like you have
Speaker 1: to be an invested because people are scumbags. And I
Speaker 1: really do want to say that. I know Barbie's gonna agree.
Speaker 1: There are so many amazing men out there, and women
Speaker 1: always want to say men suck and there are no
Speaker 1: good men because they've had a bad experience because I
Speaker 1: haven't done this the first time around.
Speaker 3: Again, shameless plug.
Speaker 2: But like I represent so many amazing like where the
Speaker 2: good guys put mine eligible bachelors. They're my clients that
Speaker 2: are ready to meet their person and it does. And
Speaker 2: that's why I was so bummed that the Golden Bachelor
Speaker 2: didn't pan out in real life, because I create people
Speaker 2: happy love that go the distance and do have that
Speaker 2: happy ending for them, that want to be in a partnership.
Speaker 2: And I do think it's an important message to realize
Speaker 2: there's so many amazing women out there, and there's so
Speaker 2: many amazing guys out there.
Speaker 1: But if you're going towards TV Barbie, they're not going
Speaker 1: to be good. That's why I'm sure I'd be offered
Speaker 1: a ten thousand of those shows, but I'm not going
Speaker 1: to meet the kind of men that I would want
Speaker 1: to meet.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: No, And they should have had someone like me go
Speaker 2: and vet them because for that reason it didn't work out,
Speaker 2: because they who knows what it is, but it is
Speaker 2: for your said, It is all scripted.
Speaker 1: None of the men that you would ever said me
Speaker 1: up with whatever go on the Golden bed. That's the point.
Speaker 1: So that's the point.
Speaker 2: But the point is like to realize that because we
Speaker 2: never learned this, it's important to understand the message that
Speaker 2: you have to do your homework. You have to silence everything,
Speaker 2: create your strategic plan of what you want, and then
Speaker 2: realize you need to have a little bit of wiggle room, like, Okay,
Speaker 2: I want six feet, but if the right guy that's
Speaker 2: five nine, that comes wrong and he's the most amazing guy,
Speaker 2: don't take yourself out of the running of that, Like
Speaker 2: what if he makes you so happy?
Speaker 3: I used to be a highist.
Speaker 2: All my boyfriend's were over six feet. I'm married's the
Speaker 2: most amazing man ever, he's five nine and a half.
Speaker 1: Oh interesting, I didn't know that.
Speaker 2: When I'm with him, I feel like a supermodel, and
Speaker 2: when he were out, he feels like he's with a supermodel.
Speaker 2: It's like, Thank goodness, I evolved and I do this
Speaker 2: for a living, so I was able to help myself.
Speaker 3: Like that doesn't matter. That was unuseful.
Speaker 2: That was that was setting me back in terms of
Speaker 2: my search because I was putting limitations on that were
Speaker 2: superficial and not making me half.
Speaker 1: But you're saying you've just said that you're treating this
Speaker 1: like a dating business plan. But in business, you get
Speaker 1: on the road and you think it's going to cost
Speaker 1: a certain amount of money and you make certain plans.
Speaker 1: But we plan in God Left. You have a structure
Speaker 1: when you create a business plan, but ultimately you have
Speaker 1: to be able to move with the tides and roll
Speaker 1: with the punches because things will change in life and
Speaker 1: business and in dating.
Speaker 3: And you also feel like you realize what's sexy.
Speaker 2: Yes, a good looking man, there's someone that's sexy to you,
Speaker 2: of course, but sexy could be someone that does what
Speaker 2: they say they're going to do, a man with a plan,
Speaker 2: or someone that takes an account how you feel and
Speaker 2: supports you or like helps you with the dishes. It
Speaker 2: could be something like as mundane as that, but there's
Speaker 2: other ways that are the highly attractive. Is is this
Speaker 2: the guy that's going to help get up with you
Speaker 2: in the middle of the night to help.
Speaker 3: With your baby. It's like, you don't want the.
Speaker 2: Selfish guy that's not part in matial either. So that's
Speaker 2: why I feel like people don't want to be alone.
Speaker 2: They're pushed through society and they just stay in a
Speaker 2: relationship because they're afraid to be alone or they don't know.
Speaker 3: How it's going to get any better. And that's why
Speaker 3: I'm here to.
Speaker 2: Say, don't do that, because settling is the quickest way
Speaker 2: that you're going to be having a broken heart.
Speaker 1: No, and you're saying that you'd rather be with someone
Speaker 1: who's five to nine and a half and settle on
Speaker 1: the six feet, but not the getting up in the
Speaker 1: middle of the night with the baby.
Speaker 3: Totally. Absolutely.
Speaker 2: I want the guy that when I look like shit
Speaker 2: and I at my worst, still loves me and things
Speaker 2: that you know, I'm the most beautiful thing, and I
Speaker 2: don't have to have that pressure of all of this
Speaker 2: of being perfect, because there's no such thing as perfect,
Speaker 2: but you're perfect together.
Speaker 1: So be flexible in certain areas, but very strict in
Speaker 1: other areas. That's what you're saying.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and also realize that, Okay, if there's a really
Speaker 2: good guy in front of you, but maybe he's not
Speaker 2: your type, obviously that didn't get you where you want
Speaker 2: to be, and that's an unhealthy pattern that you need
Speaker 2: to break.
Speaker 3: Yeah, maybe this is forget yours type.
Speaker 2: Like that didn't work for you. That's an unhealthy pattern,
Speaker 2: and it's like you just have to run around race
Speaker 2: and feel confident that it might not be what someone
Speaker 2: else wanted for you. But if this guy makes you happy,
Speaker 2: just be strong in your conviction that, like I'm happy.
Speaker 1: So when you're on the apps, ladies and gentlemen, Barbie
Speaker 1: is effectively saying, which I think is true because in
Speaker 1: her deep die, when she talks to someone, it sounds
Speaker 1: like she figures out about their past. So when you're
Speaker 1: in your apps before that, think about your past and
Speaker 1: don't go down the same rabbit holes. Like you know,
Speaker 1: we go in the store, we buy the same lip glass,
Speaker 1: we have the same color. You just get attracted to
Speaker 1: the same thing. But you come home and you're like, wait,
Speaker 1: I already had that. And it's funny you say that
Speaker 1: because a friend of mine said to me, my friend
Speaker 1: Louis Lazanaro, I would never expect the greatest quote of
Speaker 1: my life to come from Louis Lazanaro. Not that I
Speaker 1: don't love Louis. He said to me, you always go
Speaker 1: for the same guy in like a different pack, Like
Speaker 1: it's the same guy over and over. That's what he sees.
Speaker 1: He sees me as yes, there can be some outlier
Speaker 1: bad situations, but he thinks that I go for a
Speaker 1: similar guy. And he said to me, rock stars need
Speaker 1: rock stars. That's what he said he was seeing. And
Speaker 1: it was interesting because I think when you start dating you,
Speaker 1: even on the apps, you have to go back and
Speaker 1: look at what your ex looks like, not physically, but
Speaker 1: like what the issues were, what went wrong, and not
Speaker 1: recreate those patterns and what went right.
Speaker 2: And the other thing is is like, Okay, maybe one
Speaker 2: picture this person looks dorky, but sometimes it's nice to
Speaker 2: have like a gem that's like a diamond in the
Speaker 2: rough that you just have to polish off a little bit.
Speaker 2: And he's like the best gem out there. Like, don't
Speaker 2: go for the most shiny object on the app or care.
Speaker 1: What other people would think, because you have to live
Speaker 1: your own life.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like if you like the pedigree of like he's
Speaker 2: solid and you like what he wrote about himself, like
Speaker 2: take a risk and like go out with someone that
Speaker 2: you maybe would never go out with, like be on
Speaker 2: an adventure. That way, you've got nothing to lose and
Speaker 2: everything to gain by evolving your taste. It's almost like
Speaker 2: when you're a kid, you like chicken chicken nuggets, right,
Speaker 2: but when you're older, you realize that you like broccoli
Speaker 2: and you like healthy things, and all of a sudden,
Speaker 2: you have a different palette for things that are good
Speaker 2: for you.
Speaker 1: Yes for healthy.
Speaker 2: So I always say good bar, oh my gosh every
Speaker 2: once in a while. So I always say, like, you
Speaker 2: think that like a bad boy is like a tracted
Speaker 2: to you, But that's like eating a hot fudge Sunday
Speaker 2: and thinking that's going to make you feel good afterwards.
Speaker 2: But what makes you feel good is maybe it's like
Speaker 2: the healthy choice that that's the good guy. So you
Speaker 2: want nice do that with your own love life and
Speaker 2: realize people that make you upset, people that try to
Speaker 2: keep you in a box, or that don't allow you
Speaker 2: to be yourself, that's not a healthy relationship dynamic. That's
Speaker 2: going to get old quickly and it's going to make
Speaker 2: you feel even worse about yourself. You want to be
Speaker 2: with someone that you could be yourself and that you
Speaker 2: don't do perfect with and you could evolve together, and
Speaker 2: that's that's the healthy relationship. So when you're looking back
Speaker 2: at your relationships, make sure you're looking at what worked,
Speaker 2: what didn't work, and what doesn't serve me. Maybe it
Speaker 2: serves you well in your twenties and thirties, but in forties.
Speaker 2: But if you haven't daated in a few decades, it's
Speaker 2: a it's a different marketplace. As explain to people, if
Speaker 2: you haven't bought a house in thirty years, you have
Speaker 2: to realize that dating, you're not the same version of
Speaker 2: yourself in thirty years. So you have to realize that
Speaker 2: you have to recalibrate in terms of what matters most.
Speaker 2: And it's maybe not looks anymore, and now it's about
Speaker 2: personality and lifestyle and compatibility and you have chemistry. I'm
Speaker 2: not saying ever settle on chemistry together compatibility, but it
Speaker 2: could be a slow burn.
Speaker 1: No, you fall in love with the house when you
Speaker 1: go in. You have to fall in love with the house,
Speaker 1: and then you have to make sure it works for
Speaker 1: you and has what you need.
Speaker 2: But maybe it's a slow burn. It doesn't have to
Speaker 2: be a chemistry where date one, you know. I mean
Speaker 2: I just talked to a client and it was a
Speaker 2: slow burn. And now she's like, he is so sexy,
Speaker 2: we have the best sex.
Speaker 1: That does happen, and that does happen, and you.
Speaker 3: Got to give it some time. It's like a fine wine,
Speaker 3: you gotta let it open up and breathe.
Speaker 1: And also where both people are in their lives. First
Speaker 1: of all, you can't make a dog a cat. If
Speaker 1: you find out that you want a cat and you
Speaker 1: have a dog in front of you, you can't make
Speaker 1: a dog a cat, and you will know quickly. You
Speaker 1: constantly telling your friend, wait, the way this person is
Speaker 1: texting is weird. The way they don't call it is weird,
Speaker 1: and you tell them four times and it's still the same.
Speaker 1: You can't make a dog a cat. Or they're obsessed
Speaker 1: with their parents or whatever that is. But number two,
Speaker 1: where are they in their life? What are they going through? Like,
Speaker 1: timing is critical because if you are going through something negative,
Speaker 1: even if you force yourself because there's somebody good in
Speaker 1: front of you, Same thing with buying a house, like
Speaker 1: you could love it, but it might not be the
Speaker 1: right timing for you financially, and then you're gonna stretch
Speaker 1: yourself and you're gonna get stressed out and it's gonna
Speaker 1: be bad. Same thing with relationships. The timing has to
Speaker 1: line up and someone has to be where they can.
Speaker 1: I don't want to be business partners with someone who
Speaker 1: can't commit to what I can commit to, I'd rather
Speaker 1: not work with them, even if they have a great idea,
Speaker 1: business whatever. I want someone who can meet me where
Speaker 1: I'm at. And if someone's not in a place where
Speaker 1: they can be a good partner and they want what
Speaker 1: you want, you gotta you know they might have thought
Speaker 1: they might have thought they could. By the way, sometimes
Speaker 1: people want to just date and get on the board,
Speaker 1: and they might they want just add a girlfriend, and
Speaker 1: it doesn't work that way.
Speaker 2: I think it's like you have to really it's just
Speaker 2: like business how you have to be headsmart. And that's
Speaker 2: why a lot of times businesses that want to merge
Speaker 2: the deals off and doesn't happen. You have to do
Speaker 2: that for your own personal life and create it more
Speaker 2: like a business, to be unapologetic about what you need
Speaker 2: and what's going to be healthy for you long term.
Speaker 1: This is my honest truth. I could go on for
Speaker 1: two and a half hours, I could go on for
Speaker 1: ten hours and talk to Barbie. So I just want
Speaker 1: you guys to know that. I want you guys to
Speaker 1: send in questions, but I'll have Barbie. I'll have questions
Speaker 1: for Barbie. But I would love to get into all
Speaker 1: of this, from sex to money, to age to you know,
Speaker 1: uncomfortable conversations, to gender to power struggles to divorce to
Speaker 1: all of this. So we will have Barbie back because
Speaker 1: I know you have a thousand questions for her, as
Speaker 1: do I. I'm really glad that she's been here, Barbie.
Speaker 1: I'm so grateful because I literally wasn't expecting this to
Speaker 1: be like this and to be so many pockets. This
Speaker 1: is a major topic. So matchmaking is a huge topic.
Speaker 1: Dating is a huge topic. You're a huge topic.
Speaker 3: I love it.
Speaker 2: I'm all about it, and I think it's so needed
Speaker 2: because there's no one out there that's really teaching people
Speaker 2: how to focus on enriching their own personal lives. And
Speaker 2: nothing matters more than your love life and your personal life.
Speaker 2: So I'm so happy that you're covering all this for
Speaker 2: everyone