Speaker 1: Looking jubles. Second dat day girls have two tricks that
Speaker 1: they like to use after a one night's stand. They
Speaker 1: either do the old leave behind that's what I call it,
Speaker 1: where like leave an article of clothing or something at
Speaker 1: the guy's house hoping that he'll call you, be like, hey,
Speaker 1: you left your bra here, you want to come get it.
Speaker 1: By the way, if you've ever done a leave behind
Speaker 1: with me, whatever you've left has gotten thrown directly in
Speaker 1: the trash or their other trick that they use is
Speaker 1: a takeaway. It's either a leave behind or a takeaway
Speaker 1: where they take like a sweatshirt or a hat or
Speaker 1: some sunglasses or something, hoping that the guy will call
Speaker 1: them to get it back. Yeah, I've missed a couple
Speaker 1: of sweatshirts. Actually. Well, today's second dat or Katie is
Speaker 1: on the phone. She took something from the guy that
Speaker 1: she wants us to call today, but he still hasn't
Speaker 1: called to get it back, and she's confused. Why Katie,
Speaker 1: how are you? I'm great? How are you guys good?
Speaker 1: So you took something from a guy hoping he'd call
Speaker 1: you back and he hasn't called you. Huh have you
Speaker 1: used this trick before? For and it's worked. I haven't,
Speaker 1: but a girlfriend of mine says that she does it
Speaker 1: a lot and that it said it's like harmless, and
Speaker 1: it's it's a good excuse to, you know, have the
Speaker 1: guy call you. I don't know. It depends what you took, okay,
Speaker 1: because something very small, he might not call. He might
Speaker 1: not even notice it's gone. You take the guy's car,
Speaker 1: he's he's getting in contact with you. What did you
Speaker 1: take from the guy that you So you guys had
Speaker 1: a one night stand, right, I, oh my gosh, I
Speaker 1: don't want to think of it as a one night stand,
Speaker 1: looking like it was a one night stand. So what
Speaker 1: did what did you take the morning after with you?
Speaker 1: I took it just like a sweatcher hoodie. It was
Speaker 1: really called out all right. It really was freezing next day?
Speaker 1: Did you ask him or did you just do it
Speaker 1: without him even knowing it? I didn't, but I he
Speaker 1: was kind of still sleeping and I did say goodbye.
Speaker 1: I grabbed it, But later I did text him, and
Speaker 1: I just I haven't heard anything. So you texted him like, hey, hey,
Speaker 1: sorry it was cold. I was leaving and grabbed your sweatshirt.
Speaker 1: I hope you don't mind. Yeah, like I didn't want
Speaker 1: to wake you up. Basically itach I didn't want to
Speaker 1: wake you up, was freezing cold out I had continue
Speaker 1: I had to rush out early, so I just said,
Speaker 1: I hope you don't mind. I just grew and it
Speaker 1: was just a basic It didn't have a logo or anything.
Speaker 1: So I figured, you know, Katie, it might have been
Speaker 1: the sweatshirt that has great great grand fall here handed
Speaker 1: down big back. Then do you think it's the sweatshirt
Speaker 1: that's that's making him not call you back? Or do
Speaker 1: you think it's something else. I don't know what it
Speaker 1: could be, maybe bad or the fact that we hooked
Speaker 1: up so fast. Okay, we'll first tell us how you
Speaker 1: met him. Basically, my where I work, the whole department
Speaker 1: finished the big project. So we just went out for
Speaker 1: like a happy hour, and the tind of co worker.
Speaker 1: I don't work with him directly. He had a group
Speaker 1: of friends that met him out and I got introduced
Speaker 1: to him, and there was just instant chemistry and when
Speaker 1: we talked and laughed a lot, and he said, hey,
Speaker 1: you know, I'd like to take you out, and I
Speaker 1: was like great, And so after that he said, oh,
Speaker 1: maybe we can go grab another drink somewhere else and
Speaker 1: he lives close by. So I said, oh, well, um,
Speaker 1: you know, do you do you have drinks back at
Speaker 1: your place? And he was like, oh, waite sick up something.
Speaker 1: And then he was like, oh, actually I do have
Speaker 1: a few things. And I said, well, I'm not picky,
Speaker 1: I can drink anything. You're like, I don't care, just
Speaker 1: get me back to your house. So you guys went
Speaker 1: back to his house and we had we had a
Speaker 1: lot of fun. Did anything interesting or strange or anything
Speaker 1: noteworthy happen while you were I mean, you know, you
Speaker 1: don't have to tell us about what you were actually doing.
Speaker 1: I think we all know. But did anything weird happen
Speaker 1: that think might make him not want to go out
Speaker 1: with you again? No? I mean I we really had
Speaker 1: so much fun. I thought we had a lot in
Speaker 1: tom and so it was like this is this is fast,
Speaker 1: but this is great. But now I'm thinking I don't
Speaker 1: know now maybe he was like whoa, that was too easy,
Speaker 1: or maybe he was kind of like, wow, this chick
Speaker 1: just took like an item of clothing like that so forward.
Speaker 1: I don't even know. You said goodbye to him on
Speaker 1: your way out. Did he say anything to you? What
Speaker 1: is the last thing that he said to you? Just
Speaker 1: like talked to you later and he was like, okay,
Speaker 1: And when you texted him, what did you say? I
Speaker 1: just said, oh, I had a fun time, and I
Speaker 1: started to rush out, but it was really freezing cold.
Speaker 1: I hope you don't mind that I grabbed your hoodie
Speaker 1: on my way out, but I can get right back
Speaker 1: to you. And he hasn't said anything back to you.
Speaker 1: After trying to text him and call him, you haven't
Speaker 1: got one word, nothing not ah. Well, we'll play a song,
Speaker 1: come back, call him and get your second date update. Okay, okay, great,
Speaker 1: all right, hold on. I guess it's true. I'm not
Speaker 1: good at a one, but I still need enough because
Speaker 1: I'm just a this nuts suit looking jubil In the morning,
Speaker 1: Katie is on the phone with us. She wants us
Speaker 1: to call a guy named Nathan. They went out, had
Speaker 1: fun at a bar, ended up going back to his
Speaker 1: place hooking up. When she was leaving, she grabbed his
Speaker 1: sweatshirt on the way out, sort of a thing to
Speaker 1: take away from the scene so that he'll call her
Speaker 1: and be like, hey, I get my sweatshirt back. You
Speaker 1: know that trick. Well, he hasn't called her, and she's
Speaker 1: wondering why. Katie, I don't really have any speculation for
Speaker 1: you on why the guy's not calling you back, but
Speaker 1: I do have a question for you. On a scale
Speaker 1: of one to ten, how was he in the bedroom? Yeah?
Speaker 1: I want a second date to I guess. Yeah, if
Speaker 1: he was lousy, then you would be like, I don't
Speaker 1: care if I ever see that guy again. And good
Speaker 1: at least I got the sweater out of the deal. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I slept with this guy and all I got was
Speaker 1: this lousy sweatshirt. Katie. Well, let's make your phone call then, Yes,
Speaker 1: all right, here we go. Hello, Hi, can I speak
Speaker 1: to Nathan please? Yeah? This is him. Hey Nathan, how
Speaker 1: are you? This is Jewel from Brook and Jewil in
Speaker 1: the Morning. Um, I'm good, Okay, I don't know what. Well.
Speaker 1: We do a segment on our show called the Second
Speaker 1: Date Update. It's where you go out on a date
Speaker 1: with one of our listeners and if you end up
Speaker 1: blowing them off after your date, they email us to
Speaker 1: get you on the phone and ask why so you
Speaker 1: recently went out with somebody who listens to our show
Speaker 1: and they've been trying to get ahold of you. Oh okay,
Speaker 1: any idea who might be trying to track you down? Um,
Speaker 1: I'll be honest with you, I don't Is it Robin Robin? No,
Speaker 1: it is not Robin. I'd love to hear about Robin.
Speaker 1: She sounds lovely, but no, it's not Robin. Whoever that is.
Speaker 1: It's a girl named Katie. Okay, Yes, I know Katie. Okay.
Speaker 1: It sounds nonchalant about it, so she should probably go
Speaker 1: through her the initials, just to make sure that it's
Speaker 1: a girl named Katie who has your sweatshirt. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I remember kat Katie's that's great. Yeah, Katie's great. Yea,
Speaker 1: it doesn't sound like it doesn't sound like you think
Speaker 1: she's great because you haven't called her back for a
Speaker 1: second date or even to get your sweatshirt back, and
Speaker 1: she's been trying to get a hold of you. Is
Speaker 1: there any reason why you aren't giving Katie a callback? No?
Speaker 1: I just I really hobnously think she's great. I just
Speaker 1: I can't really um pursue her or really go on
Speaker 1: a second date with her anything, So you can't pursue her.
Speaker 1: You just why is it that I'm just not allowed
Speaker 1: to see her right now. You're not like your parents.
Speaker 1: How old are you name? Seriously, No, I'm thirty one
Speaker 1: years old. Okay, what do you mean you're not allowed
Speaker 1: to see her? I feel like you can do whatever
Speaker 1: you want, Nathan. I mean, I'm just in a situation
Speaker 1: right now that I'll just be honest with you guys,
Speaker 1: I'm in an open relationship right now. Okay, so wait,
Speaker 1: doesn't that mean you can't see her? That's what you're
Speaker 1: gonna say. If you're in an open relationship, that means
Speaker 1: you can see whoever you want. That's true. But the
Speaker 1: thing is the girl that I'm being right now doesn't
Speaker 1: want me to contact her or see her. So open
Speaker 1: relationships are trying to understand this a little better. Do
Speaker 1: you date somebody else, sleep with somebody else? Can you
Speaker 1: tell us what's going on this? This This other girl, the
Speaker 1: girl that I'm kind of in this relationship with, is
Speaker 1: totally cool. She goes on on dates and we talk
Speaker 1: about it and it's totally fine. But specifically Katie, I
Speaker 1: can't see her. Well, but what's the reason that you
Speaker 1: can't see Katie? Yeah, like, your girlfriend's cool with r Well,
Speaker 1: is it your girlfriend? Can I call her your girlfriend. No,
Speaker 1: actually we're partners. We're partners. Yeah, so your partner's cool
Speaker 1: with you seeing other girls, just not Katie. So we
Speaker 1: have some guidelines that we follow. And when I came home,
Speaker 1: I showed her on Facebook Katie and what she looked like.
Speaker 1: And we both have to do that once we come
Speaker 1: home from a date. And I did show her that.
Speaker 1: And we do have one VITO that you cannot call,
Speaker 1: and she actually used it on Katie, so she vetoed Katie,
Speaker 1: you're not allowed to see Katie in your open relationship.
Speaker 1: I'm not allowed to not only see her, but I'm
Speaker 1: not allowed to contact or nothing. That was the one
Speaker 1: thing I had. So I'm just following these guidelines. Again,
Speaker 1: I still have my vito too. So she goes out
Speaker 1: with somebody, I have a Yeah, does Katie know that
Speaker 1: you have an open relationship with a partner. I usually
Speaker 1: don't tell anybody that unless I pursue more of that
Speaker 1: relationship or that person. So if you're having like a
Speaker 1: one night thing, you won't tell somebody that you're in
Speaker 1: an open relationship. But if you actually want to continue
Speaker 1: to like see them more often, yeah, if it comes up,
Speaker 1: I do, But usually no, I don't tell them. Let
Speaker 1: me ask you a question, Nathan, Thank you very much
Speaker 1: for being honest by that. I appreciate that. Is Katie
Speaker 1: hotter than your partner? I mean they're both different types,
Speaker 1: but I definitely think Katie's beautiful. Do you think that
Speaker 1: your partner is threatened by Katie? Probably a little bit.
Speaker 1: I bet you she's a little intimidated. Has she done
Speaker 1: this before? No, this is kind of the first time
Speaker 1: that I've ever had any type of block and I've
Speaker 1: been in this open relationship now for about five six months.
Speaker 1: So if I was Katie, I'd be so weirded out
Speaker 1: at the thought of, like some guy I slept with
Speaker 1: rating me on Facebook with a girl that he's a
Speaker 1: partner with. Yeah, I mean I understand, But again, like
Speaker 1: if I would have gone on a second day with her,
Speaker 1: I would have told her that. But for this time being,
Speaker 1: I'm not pursuing her right now. Do you even want
Speaker 1: your sweatshirt back that Katie has? I know that you
Speaker 1: can't see her because you're a current partner won't let
Speaker 1: you date Katie, But do you want your sweatshirt back?
Speaker 1: At least? I mean, yeah, I could take that thing
Speaker 1: back or are you in your stationship. I love my sweatshirt.
Speaker 1: See whoever you want, Nathan, I can get your sweatshirt
Speaker 1: back if you want it back. Yeah, I'd love to
Speaker 1: get my foot shirt back. Perfect. Well, I know how
Speaker 1: you can, because Katie's actually listening and she's on the
Speaker 1: other line. No, I just don't even know what to say.
Speaker 1: I'm I'm heard it out and I'm pissed off trying
Speaker 1: play Like I personally wanted to call you and I
Speaker 1: was going to, but you know, I am in this
Speaker 1: type of relationship or the situation or your relationship, Like
Speaker 1: do you guys have been trying this thing out for
Speaker 1: five or six months, yet there've been so many like
Speaker 1: other people like you guys are so promiscuous, Like I mean, well, Katie,
Speaker 1: don't judge us and my relationship. When you slept with
Speaker 1: me the first night, I didn't know. Do you hear yourself?
Speaker 1: Like it's so warmed, like she's not even your girlfriend,
Speaker 1: just like I don't even know what you get out
Speaker 1: of it, Katie. Start thinking of this as a compliment, okay,
Speaker 1: because you're very attractive and beautiful, and the partner that
Speaker 1: I'm with right now said to not go out with
Speaker 1: you anymore because she's intimidated. Oh yeah, Nathan, You're right,
Speaker 1: I should feel so honored. I'm wow, I feel so
Speaker 1: good about myself that I'm just that good looking, right,
Speaker 1: I'm just that wonderful. Okay, you are? Thank you? Yes
Speaker 1: you are? You really are. You're beautiful and I'd love
Speaker 1: to go out with you. Kat It's just again, like
Speaker 1: I can't do anything me personally. It's out of my hand.
Speaker 1: I don't even want to hear your voice anymore. And Nathan,
Speaker 1: like you are the biggest as You're just a straight
Speaker 1: up pass whenever this school shit is that you're in
Speaker 1: this like other lah? Would you guys have got I
Speaker 1: don't care. I don't care. You're that's it period. Okay,
Speaker 1: Well then I guess that brings me to my next question. Nathan,
Speaker 1: would you like to go out with Katie again? You
Speaker 1: will pay for a second day. I honestly would, but
Speaker 1: I can't. I think that you two maybe want different things. No,
Speaker 1: he's kept an individual obviously. All right, Well, Katie, I'm
Speaker 1: sorry you just you did not get a second date,
Speaker 1: but at least you got a sweatshirt out of the deal, right, No,
Speaker 1: I am that's still fun too successful second date in
Speaker 1: my opinion in the morning, it never ceases to amaze
Speaker 1: me how people can surprise me and their reactions to
Speaker 1: the second date updates Broke and Jewil in the morning,
Speaker 1: I'm moving ninety two point five. All the text messages
Speaker 1: that we're getting in at seven, eight, five, nine two
Speaker 1: are ripping the girl who called us to get a
Speaker 1: second date update, not the guy that she slept with
Speaker 1: on one night stand that it's currently in an open relationship.
Speaker 1: If you just tuned in, Katie wanted us to call
Speaker 1: this guy named Nathan. They met, hooked up, she took
Speaker 1: a sweatshirt. He never called her back. She was wondering
Speaker 1: why we got him on the phone. It turns out
Speaker 1: that he's in an open relationship and apparently his partner
Speaker 1: said x nay on the eighty K sorry he vetoed Katie.
Speaker 1: Apparently they have an arrangement where one of them gets
Speaker 1: a VETO card and if they don't want you'd be
Speaker 1: hanging out with that person, then you can't. So that's
Speaker 1: why he wasn't calling her back, because apparently Katie was
Speaker 1: probably hotter than his girl. That he's in an open relationship,
Speaker 1: with But everybody's ripping Katie because Katie got really pissed
Speaker 1: at him for leading her on or whatever. But it
Speaker 1: was a one night stand and they didn't have a relationship.
Speaker 1: And he says that after time, if he wants to
Speaker 1: date somebody or see somebody again, he'll let them know
Speaker 1: that he's in an open relationship. Now does anybody in
Speaker 1: the room disagree with that or do you think that
Speaker 1: Katie was okay for getting upset? I think I think
Speaker 1: she was justified in being upset because if I go
Speaker 1: on a date with a chick and I saw of
Speaker 1: a sudden one date and I feel these huge sparks
Speaker 1: on chemistry, then she tells me next day by the way,
Speaker 1: I like you, but I have a boyfriend, I'd be like,
Speaker 1: what the do you think that he should have told
Speaker 1: her before they slept together that he's in an open relationship,
Speaker 1: Like I think knowing that that would have changed her
Speaker 1: decision to sleep with him, Like he had to know
Speaker 1: deep down that, Like if I tell her that, yeah,
Speaker 1: probably that's why he doesn't tell people. Of course, she's
Speaker 1: not an idiot. He knows that that's gonna ruin everything
Speaker 1: for him. So anyway, he can't see her anymore. She
Speaker 1: got pissed, and now everybody on the text message board
Speaker 1: of saying how judgmental is she? It's nice to know
Speaker 1: that we have so many swingers listening to the show.
Speaker 1: Nobody's even like, oh man, what a weird relationship that
Speaker 1: guy's interview. It's like, how dare she judge him in
Speaker 1: his lifestyle? If he wants to sleep with whoever he is,
Speaker 1: he can sleep with whoever he wants. Texas at seven
Speaker 1: eight five nine too, I'm curious, are you in a
Speaker 1: relationship like that? I want to see how many people
Speaker 1: listening actually have a relationship like that. There only a
Speaker 1: lot or at least a lot that wish they were. Yeah, seriously,
Speaker 1: remember if you want a second eight up, they'll have
Speaker 1: to do his email the show. Brooke and Jewel at
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Speaker 1: person who didn't call you back. Brook and Jewel in
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