Speaker 1: Hi everybody. It's Eric from the one you Feed with
Speaker 1: another mini episode, and this week's mini episode is going
Speaker 1: to be a short excerpt from the next part of
Speaker 1: the Seven Habits of Highly Effective People course, which is
Speaker 1: coming out on November. And the section that I've got
Speaker 1: here is a section within the habit to section and
Speaker 1: habit too is begin with the end in mind. So
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Speaker 1: thank you. I hope you enjoy and talk to you soon.
Speaker 1: The next principle that he talks about in this habit
Speaker 1: is the Prince of All that says all things are
Speaker 1: created twice, So basically we have a first creation that
Speaker 1: happens in the mind and then a second creation that
Speaker 1: happens in the world. And again a lot of analogies
Speaker 1: in here that he uses, and it's too building the
Speaker 1: house right, first, you sit down, you draw the blueprint,
Speaker 1: you come up with exactly what you want to do.
Speaker 1: Then you go and build the house. If you just
Speaker 1: start building, you're likely to have some challenges. And he
Speaker 1: mentions that old Carpenter's rule of measure twice cut once,
Speaker 1: and he says that all of our lives are all
Speaker 1: things in our lives are created twice, either by design
Speaker 1: or by default. And he says we reactively live the
Speaker 1: scripts handed to us by family, associates, other people's agendas,
Speaker 1: the pressure of circumstances, scripts from our early years, from
Speaker 1: our training, from our conditioning, whether we are aware of
Speaker 1: it or not, whether we are in control of it
Speaker 1: or not, there is a first creation in every part
Speaker 1: of our lives. We are either the second creation of
Speaker 1: our own proactive design, or we are the second creation
Speaker 1: of other people's agendas of circumstances or of past habits.
Speaker 1: That really rings home to me, that being a creation
Speaker 1: of other people's agendas of circumstances or past habits. I
Speaker 1: certainly know that there are parts of my life that
Speaker 1: that has been exactly the case, that that what my
Speaker 1: life has been, or parts of it or directions of
Speaker 1: it have very much been determined by other people's agendas,
Speaker 1: by the circumstances that show up, and unfortunately often by
Speaker 1: by past habits. So in the first chapter, we talked
Speaker 1: about being proactive and that that we had the power
Speaker 1: of imagination and of conscience and these different things. And
Speaker 1: what he's saying here is that we can use that
Speaker 1: to think through what we want our life to be.
Speaker 1: He goes on at this point to make a distinction,
Speaker 1: and The Seven Habits is widely known as a business book,
Speaker 1: and there is some conversation and in it about the
Speaker 1: business world, about leading organizations, about leading families. He brings
Speaker 1: up the idea of personal leadership, which is really about
Speaker 1: leading ourselves, which is um plenty for a lot of
Speaker 1: us to take on. And he he has a line
Speaker 1: in there he borrowed it from Peter Drucker and some
Speaker 1: other famous management leaders that says management is doing things right,
Speaker 1: Leadership is doing the right things. And I think this
Speaker 1: is really a critical distinction in thinking about the two
Speaker 1: ways and maybe two modes that we that we lead
Speaker 1: our lives in. One is a management mode, which is
Speaker 1: making sure we're doing things right, but the other is
Speaker 1: that we've got to take time to be in a
Speaker 1: leadership mode where we really are conscious of what are
Speaker 1: the things that we're focusing on, what are the what
Speaker 1: are the right things to do. He says, to begin
Speaker 1: with the end in mind means to approach my role
Speaker 1: as a parent as well as my other roles in life,
Speaker 1: with my values and directions clear. Then as the vicissitudes,
Speaker 1: as the challenges come, I can make my decisions based
Speaker 1: on those values. I can act with integrity. I don't
Speaker 1: have to react to the emotion or the circumstances. I
Speaker 1: can be truly proactive, value driven because my values are clear.
Speaker 1: One of the things that he recommends doing is creating
Speaker 1: a personal mission statement. And organizations have miss mission statements.
Speaker 1: We all know businesses do. He talks about creating one,
Speaker 1: and and the point is, I think it's easy to
Speaker 1: be cynical about those things, particularly when they're created by corporations. Um.
Speaker 1: But his point is it's a way to examine what's
Speaker 1: most important to you, what your values are, and then
Speaker 1: it can be used like the constitution. You know, in
Speaker 1: this country, ideally we go back to the Constitution and
Speaker 1: it helps us decide what's the right thing. It helps
Speaker 1: us to frame up challenging circumstances or decisions, and a
Speaker 1: personal mission statement can work the same way. We can
Speaker 1: take any decision we're faced within life. Any circumstances, and
Speaker 1: we can take it back to that person omission statement
Speaker 1: and get a sense of, Okay, how do I behave
Speaker 1: based on on what I've laid out as my most
Speaker 1: important values? And he talks about the ability to live
Speaker 1: with change, and he says people can't live with change
Speaker 1: if there's not a changeless core inside of them. The
Speaker 1: key to the ability to change is a changeless sense
Speaker 1: of who you are, what you are about, and what
Speaker 1: you value. Now, again, some of this stuff is slightly
Speaker 1: challenging because I believe very much in our ability to
Speaker 1: change kind of what's inside of us. Um. But I
Speaker 1: think what Covey is getting at is there's lots of
Speaker 1: things that can change. Our habits can change, our attitudes
Speaker 1: can change. But if we deep inside have a sense
Speaker 1: of what's most important to us, what our values are,
Speaker 1: what principles we stand by, then those things remain constant
Speaker 1: and things can change around those and it makes that
Speaker 1: change a lot less frightening and in a lot of
Speaker 1: cases a lot easier to do. When our behavior and
Speaker 1: our actions and our attitudes are out of line with
Speaker 1: what those are