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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio

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Speaker 1: and two times People's Choice Award winning podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we're scrubbing in.

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Speaker 3: What scrub a dub duve?

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Speaker 2: Scrub a dub dove. So I came into Tanya's. I

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Speaker 2: just had a lunchable in the car and I was

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Speaker 2: needing some sweets and.

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Speaker 1: Lunchable, a lunchable, Like, I haven't had a lunchable since

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Speaker 1: I was twelve years old, maybe fifteen.

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Speaker 2: Well, I am sorry for that for you. So I

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Speaker 2: came in. Tanya's always upstairs in her office before, like,

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Speaker 2: I never see her until I walk upstairs. So I

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Speaker 2: come in and she was like, well, grabbed the computer

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Speaker 2: off the bar, and so I grabbed a computer and

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Speaker 2: then I went to her little candy stash, which is

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Speaker 2: mostly like smart sweets and.

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Speaker 3: Uh starburstss literally that's it.

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Speaker 2: Got the mini Starburst out. Came up to have me

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Speaker 2: a little sugar retreat, and she had a recent sticks

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Speaker 2: pack waiting for me, which is my favorite candy. So

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Speaker 2: it's just a good day.

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Speaker 1: It's her favorite candy and it's not easy to find.

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Speaker 1: Although I'm not saying that I go out to the

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Speaker 1: grocery store and look for it often, but usually know

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Speaker 1: when you're checking out at the grocery store and they

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Speaker 1: have all those candies to the side. They always have

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Speaker 1: peanut butter cups always, but they never have the sticks.

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Speaker 1: And those sticks are Becca's favorites. So I saw them

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Speaker 1: the other day and I bought them for you because.

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Speaker 2: I just had to justice for the sticks. Yeah, they

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Speaker 2: need more recognition, So I just put.

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Speaker 3: Them up here like where your microphone is, just to

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Speaker 3: have it here.

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Speaker 2: I eat all of them.

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Speaker 3: I hate both of them already quick they were even started.

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Speaker 2: They were mowed down in three ish minutes if that.

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Speaker 3: But Becca is about to start her period. In case

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Speaker 3: anybody's curious.

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Speaker 2: Easton asked what phase the Reese's Sticks phases of the cycle,

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Speaker 2: and I said it was the lunar cycle, and Donya

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Speaker 2: corrected me, and apparently that's not one of the lutial

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Speaker 2: the ludeal lunar.

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Speaker 4: Because you're almost done with your luteal phase.

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Speaker 3: Correct means you're just about to hit your menstrual phase.

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Speaker 2: I thought you just had your menstrel phase.

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Speaker 3: I did.

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Speaker 1: It goes menstrual and then follicular and then ovulatory and

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Speaker 1: then ludeal and then menstrul and it just goes around.

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Speaker 2: And then circular exactly circular.

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Speaker 3: No circular.

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Speaker 4: I mean the whole thing is kind of circular.

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Speaker 2: It is. It is a circle.

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Speaker 1: It is very circular. But I have to say, Okay,

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Speaker 1: so I haven't. People have been asking me if I

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Speaker 1: noticed a difference. And I got my period like a

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Speaker 1: week and a half into really starting this thing, so

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Speaker 1: I think it was too soon to tell. So I

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Speaker 1: think my next one, I think I'm really gonna that's

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Speaker 1: when I'll see the differ.

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Speaker 3: You feel the difference.

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Speaker 1: But as I'm being more aware of these phases of

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Speaker 1: my cycle, it's really weird because I feel like I'm

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Speaker 1: just getting more in tune with my body. And so

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Speaker 1: spoiler alert or like TMI alert or whatever. You don't

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Speaker 1: like period talk, maybe skip the next fifteen seconds.

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Speaker 3: But I'm about to start.

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Speaker 1: I'm entering my ovulatory phase and that's when you kind

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Speaker 1: of get that like discharge, and I got it today

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Speaker 1: and I'm like, oh my god, like I'm so on

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Speaker 1: make sense.

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Speaker 2: Wait, so you're saying, because today's your first day of that, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: and you had the results of it, yes.

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Speaker 1: But normally I would just get it and you don't

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Speaker 1: think twice, you know what I mean, Like you just

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Speaker 1: And now I'm like, oh my gosh, Like I had

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Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my gosh, my cycle sinking is correct.

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Speaker 2: You really fine the bright side.

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Speaker 3: And I mean, the body is such a beautiful thing.

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Speaker 5: It just is discharge is like where I go like, wow,

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Speaker 5: this is like amazing, but the body is amazing, and

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Speaker 5: it's actually really cool because like I'll most likely never

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Speaker 5: do what you're doing, so it's cool to hear the

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Speaker 5: what you're noticing and like yeah, and like.

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Speaker 1: They reading that the follicular phase is the phase right

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Speaker 1: after you are on your period, so it's the first

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Speaker 1: that you're supposed to have this kind of uh like

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Speaker 1: creativity and a lot of energy and just like wanting

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Speaker 3: And I was in that phase.

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Speaker 1: I was like super motivated and inspired and I set

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Speaker 1: goals and like, I don't know, it's just it's fascinating

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Speaker 2: But when I think of you, I think of you

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Speaker 2: always being that way.

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Speaker 3: I mean.

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Speaker 1: It's but I also like during my during my period,

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Speaker 1: I did a lot of yoga which I and I

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Speaker 1: took a day off, which I like never do.

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Speaker 3: So I don't know I'm feeling it's feeling fun.

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Speaker 6: It'd be interesting to find out, Like, oh, Taylor Swift

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Speaker 6: wrote folklore in her like you do you hope you

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Speaker 6: know what I mean? Like to hear like if it's

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Speaker 6: supposed to be just like bursts of creativity and energy,

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Speaker 6: like like there must be some great works that have

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Speaker 1: By I do say there there are they They say

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Speaker 1: like to kind of try and stack if you if

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Speaker 1: you're able to with work stuff like stack your stuff

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Speaker 1: that you need your creativity and you need your energy

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Speaker 3: It is very interesting. I don't know.

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Speaker 2: So every meal that you're making and everything, is it

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Speaker 1: It's really it's easy because there's a chart. You can

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Speaker 1: literally google the chart and it's for every phase. It

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Speaker 1: just kind of tells you like fruits, vegetables, meat, and

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Speaker 1: like grains are good for that. So it's basically just

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Speaker 1: kind of to nutrients and food. You know, there's so

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Speaker 1: much like nutrients in the food that we eat. So

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Speaker 1: I basically just kind of like, let's say, pumpkin seeds

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Speaker 1: like I eat fruit every day, so I'll just kind

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Speaker 3: Good for my phase that you know, those next couple

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Speaker 1: So I'm just doing it kind of slowly and integrating

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Speaker 3: So it's easy.

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Speaker 4: I've had a few moments in life when I've been

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Speaker 4: really happy to be a dude, like when my wife

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Speaker 4: was in labor. Yeah, and this one, those three come

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Speaker 4: the three moments I've been happiest to be a dude.

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Speaker 1: Well, yeah, because you know what, all these studies that

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Speaker 1: come out about all these new you know, these new

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Speaker 1: diets that work like a charm and you know, you

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Speaker 1: what was the one where you eat like a bunch

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you know you're gonna lose all this bad da

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Speaker 1: But they only test these things on men and men's bodies,

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Speaker 1: and the testosterone is so different from the woman's body,

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Speaker 1: and so we're like being told all this stuff. And

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Speaker 1: you know, I'm one of those people. I used to

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Speaker 1: buy into all that stuff. I would try every diet

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Speaker 2: I mean I've tried every I mean when I say try,

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Speaker 2: they're like, do this and you will lose weight rapidly,

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Speaker 2: and I'm like, I'm on it. I'm on it, and

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Speaker 2: then I buy all of it. I do it for

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Speaker 2: like two days. I'm like, nope, I'm hungry, No results done.

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Speaker 2: Going back to my recist sticks yeah, starburs Mini.

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Speaker 1: So I mean I do want to say too, like

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Speaker 1: I'm not a doctor and I'm not I'm lunchible.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So the lunchible was a quick grab at target

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Speaker 2: the other day. I was like, that sounds like it

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Speaker 3: Like, how do you have energy to do things?

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Speaker 2: I really don't like I have to like mentally create it.

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Speaker 2: I don't have like the physical energy.

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Speaker 3: Okay, so that makes sense.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm not like trying to act like I feel

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Speaker 1: Right, if I hit a lunchible, I feel like I

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Speaker 1: would you probably throw up, you think.

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Speaker 2: I don't know what your body was delicious?

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Speaker 4: Different too, I don't eat great. I don't eat like

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm energy. Yes, interesting if I like if I'm

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Speaker 2: having like a balance and like eating, you know, I

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Speaker 2: so freaking good. Why do I stray from this? Heaven?

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Speaker 2: I know?

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Speaker 1: Well, I actually did want to say because I had

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Speaker 1: a girl reach out to me on Instagram because she

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Speaker 1: was saying, how I should be more clear that I'm

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Speaker 3: Oh but I'm not necessary.

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Speaker 1: I'm not doing it to lose weight. I'm really doing

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Speaker 1: it to balance my hormones. But there is They do

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Speaker 1: your body's kind of a reaction to the workouts that

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Speaker 1: I'm doing. So if I'm working with my cycle, I

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Speaker 1: to make it clear that I'm not doing it because

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Speaker 4: My understanding was that you are knocked out by your

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Speaker 4: and you want to do something to help your body

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Speaker 4: through it and make it more balanced.

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Speaker 3: Exactly.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, but I think.

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Speaker 3: I have my period. My period doesn't have me anymore. Okay.

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Speaker 2: And but mine are like pretty you know, I just

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Speaker 2: Special occasion could be when we all do go on

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Speaker 1: And I've never heard of one, but I was like,

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Speaker 3: Do you think there's a potato festival somewhere?

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Speaker 3: It's gonna be here before you know it.

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Speaker 1: My first my first reaction when we found out we

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Speaker 2: Yeah? She said that in the group chat, which.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, thank you, because like, why just live life, you know,

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Speaker 3: The actually shirts? How cute is that? Are you kidding?

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Speaker 2: There's two sides of that. Why can't we just live?

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Speaker 2: Oh my god.

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Speaker 6: There is a Sweet Potato Festival this September in Livingston, California,

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Speaker 2: Perfect done.

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Speaker 6: You can make it happen.

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Speaker 2: I feel like I've been there.

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Speaker 4: He doesn't want to do that. Don't don't do that. Don't.

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Speaker 1: Okay, I'm gonna I'm gonna what's the word, I'm gonna press. No, No,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna lob the idea of wearing them on the plane.

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Speaker 3: I like that plan. I like that plan. That's cute.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, so a few people might see you, but he's

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Speaker 2: So who wears the yes I Am shirt? Me? Oh yeah,

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Speaker 2: But no, there's something. Is it demasculating or emasculating, emasculating.

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Speaker 1: I think it's emasculating, but it means d wearing matching

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Speaker 2: Like yes I or you're my sweet potato, Yes I am.

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Speaker 3: But yeah, maybe I don't do it in front of

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Speaker 2: that the Sex in the City revival hasn't even started filming.

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00:20:24,560 --> 00:20:28,040
Speaker 2: I thought it was pretty much done and it was

448
00:20:28,080 --> 00:20:30,159
Speaker 2: going to come out soon. I had no idea that

449
00:20:30,240 --> 00:20:32,119
Speaker 2: it was like not even in production yet.

450
00:20:32,240 --> 00:20:34,000
Speaker 3: And do you read the stories or do you just

451
00:20:34,000 --> 00:20:37,480
Speaker 3: read the headline? I read the headline, okay.

452
00:20:37,359 --> 00:20:40,199
Speaker 6: When SJP made that post I saw it. I'm like,

453
00:20:40,359 --> 00:20:42,159
Speaker 6: not a word of this has been written yet, Like

454
00:20:42,280 --> 00:20:43,600
Speaker 6: they don't even know what this is going to do.

455
00:20:44,800 --> 00:20:46,359
Speaker 2: I was like, are we not getting this to like

456
00:20:46,359 --> 00:20:47,520
Speaker 2: twenty twenty three.

457
00:20:47,359 --> 00:20:47,960
Speaker 6: At this point?

458
00:20:48,080 --> 00:20:48,639
Speaker 4: Yeah?

459
00:20:48,720 --> 00:20:50,679
Speaker 1: Yeah, because all the stories keep coming out about like

460
00:20:50,720 --> 00:20:52,679
Speaker 1: he's not in it, he is going to be in it,

461
00:20:52,800 --> 00:20:54,120
Speaker 1: He's in it, They're in it.

462
00:20:54,119 --> 00:20:56,120
Speaker 3: It's like, Okay, they don't know what they're doing quite yet.

463
00:20:57,280 --> 00:20:58,520
Speaker 2: Oh, not a clue.

464
00:20:58,600 --> 00:21:00,679
Speaker 6: It's doomed. I'm not looking for to this at all.

465
00:21:00,800 --> 00:21:02,560
Speaker 6: I wanted to stop, please stop.

466
00:21:03,200 --> 00:21:04,359
Speaker 3: You think it's going to be bad.

467
00:21:04,840 --> 00:21:06,800
Speaker 6: I think it's going to be really bad. I'm really

468
00:21:06,840 --> 00:21:08,160
Speaker 6: dreading it as a fan.

469
00:21:08,400 --> 00:21:10,440
Speaker 3: I honestly I'm kind of scared of it too.

470
00:21:11,600 --> 00:21:13,120
Speaker 2: I'll be tuned in but I.

471
00:21:13,080 --> 00:21:15,320
Speaker 4: Mean, for sure, you said the same thing about the

472
00:21:15,359 --> 00:21:18,320
Speaker 4: friends reunion, and we all were happy with the friends.

473
00:21:18,119 --> 00:21:20,679
Speaker 2: Reunion, right, Yes, that's the point. But the parts that

474
00:21:20,720 --> 00:21:23,200
Speaker 2: we were hesitant about of the friends reunion. I still

475
00:21:23,240 --> 00:21:24,280
Speaker 2: didn't love about the.

476
00:21:24,200 --> 00:21:27,480
Speaker 1: Friend But also it's different. The friends reunion was a

477
00:21:27,560 --> 00:21:30,760
Speaker 1: reunion Sex and City. They're trying to continue this story

478
00:21:31,280 --> 00:21:33,760
Speaker 1: script it, Yeah, which is concerning.

479
00:21:34,160 --> 00:21:37,679
Speaker 4: Oh, it's scary for sure. Yeah, And honestly, that picture

480
00:21:37,720 --> 00:21:40,000
Speaker 4: didn't I mean, it was nice to see them together again,

481
00:21:40,040 --> 00:21:41,880
Speaker 4: but that picture didn't fill me with excitement.

482
00:21:42,280 --> 00:21:50,280
Speaker 2: It seemed overly excited. And that's all I'll say about that. Yeah,

483
00:21:50,320 --> 00:21:52,080
Speaker 2: but maybe they just had a long day and someone

484
00:21:52,119 --> 00:21:54,240
Speaker 2: was like, let's have a picture. I you know, let's

485
00:21:54,720 --> 00:21:56,000
Speaker 2: won't get into that too much.

486
00:21:56,040 --> 00:21:56,840
Speaker 3: All I have to say.

487
00:21:56,920 --> 00:21:58,440
Speaker 1: I don't even know if I don't know if I've

488
00:21:58,440 --> 00:22:00,639
Speaker 1: shared this story on the podcast before. But I was

489
00:22:01,119 --> 00:22:03,879
Speaker 1: Sarah Juska Parker's escort for jingle Ball. This was like

490
00:22:04,000 --> 00:22:07,720
Speaker 1: years ago, oh yeah, in New York, and I was

491
00:22:07,800 --> 00:22:09,400
Speaker 1: I mean, I've been a huge sexon City fan since

492
00:22:09,400 --> 00:22:15,199
Speaker 1: I was in high school. So I was like inside shaking, crumbling,

493
00:22:15,280 --> 00:22:19,240
Speaker 1: but I kept my cool and she brought her son

494
00:22:19,320 --> 00:22:22,080
Speaker 1: with her, and she like so before I met her,

495
00:22:22,080 --> 00:22:25,680
Speaker 1: I was shaking. The second I met her, she could

496
00:22:25,720 --> 00:22:28,960
Speaker 1: not have been more like loving and sweet. She was

497
00:22:29,000 --> 00:22:31,640
Speaker 1: like fangirling over the people. Like you know how when

498
00:22:31,640 --> 00:22:35,400
Speaker 1: you when you go to shows or radio shows, there's

499
00:22:35,440 --> 00:22:37,840
Speaker 1: a bunch of artists from you know, different just a

500
00:22:37,880 --> 00:22:39,919
Speaker 1: bunch of different artists, so they have all their names

501
00:22:40,000 --> 00:22:43,040
Speaker 1: kind of like Megan Trainer that way, Sam Smith that way,

502
00:22:43,200 --> 00:22:45,560
Speaker 1: Nick Jns that way, you know, with arrows. She saw

503
00:22:46,000 --> 00:22:48,200
Speaker 1: the wall with all the signs and she was freaking out,

504
00:22:48,320 --> 00:22:51,800
Speaker 1: like taking pictures of it, and just so cute and

505
00:22:51,880 --> 00:22:54,359
Speaker 1: unfazed by the fact that like she is Sarah Sarah

506
00:22:54,400 --> 00:22:58,520
Speaker 1: Jessica Parker. Yeah, And so I brought her to her seats,

507
00:22:58,520 --> 00:22:59,639
Speaker 1: and then she had to do she did like a

508
00:22:59,680 --> 00:23:00,440
Speaker 1: stage announcement.

509
00:23:00,480 --> 00:23:01,120
Speaker 3: So while she was in the.

510
00:23:01,040 --> 00:23:03,320
Speaker 1: Green room reading through her script, I took her son

511
00:23:03,440 --> 00:23:05,640
Speaker 1: to meet I think he met Sam Smith and Nick

512
00:23:05,720 --> 00:23:07,640
Speaker 1: Jonas and I got him a picture with both of them,

513
00:23:08,280 --> 00:23:13,000
Speaker 1: and she could not have been more grateful. She said

514
00:23:13,000 --> 00:23:16,000
Speaker 1: thank you probably a thousand times to me. I will

515
00:23:16,040 --> 00:23:18,679
Speaker 1: never forget that experience because she was everything I wanted

516
00:23:18,680 --> 00:23:21,719
Speaker 1: her to be. Times a hundred and then when I

517
00:23:21,760 --> 00:23:24,280
Speaker 1: was walking her out, she asked me if I wanted

518
00:23:24,280 --> 00:23:27,440
Speaker 1: a picture with her, and I said no because I

519
00:23:27,480 --> 00:23:30,000
Speaker 1: was just trying to be professional and still to this

520
00:23:30,080 --> 00:23:32,560
Speaker 1: day it's my biggest regret in life.

521
00:23:33,040 --> 00:23:36,119
Speaker 2: She asked you if you wanted a picture and you

522
00:23:36,240 --> 00:23:38,080
Speaker 2: said no.

523
00:23:37,200 --> 00:23:39,320
Speaker 3: No, Like she wasn't like, oh I love you, let's

524
00:23:39,320 --> 00:23:40,840
Speaker 3: take a picture. She was just like yeah.

525
00:23:40,880 --> 00:23:42,800
Speaker 1: The girl that she was with, her handler said like

526
00:23:43,040 --> 00:23:45,119
Speaker 1: or not her handler, her pr or whatever, said do

527
00:23:45,119 --> 00:23:46,840
Speaker 1: you want to take a photo before we leave?

528
00:23:47,640 --> 00:23:49,479
Speaker 3: I said no. I said no.

529
00:23:49,520 --> 00:23:51,639
Speaker 1: I said, it was just such a pleasure, you know,

530
00:23:51,720 --> 00:23:53,240
Speaker 1: thank you so much. I'm such a fan. Because I

531
00:23:53,320 --> 00:23:56,560
Speaker 1: said I was a fan, I was trying to be professional.

532
00:23:56,960 --> 00:23:58,560
Speaker 2: That is called a miss.

533
00:23:58,720 --> 00:24:02,000
Speaker 3: That's a huge noise and a miss, I know.

534
00:24:02,680 --> 00:24:05,760
Speaker 4: And you never the entire time let down your professionalism.

535
00:24:06,600 --> 00:24:06,800
Speaker 3: No.

536
00:24:07,520 --> 00:24:11,000
Speaker 2: Wow, is that not the Tawnya that we know? Like,

537
00:24:11,040 --> 00:24:14,560
Speaker 2: there's something that's so genuine about Tania. I think what

538
00:24:14,600 --> 00:24:17,160
Speaker 2: people love about her is that she is such a fangirl.

539
00:24:17,680 --> 00:24:20,399
Speaker 2: This is earlier in your like before you kinda.

540
00:24:20,800 --> 00:24:21,840
Speaker 3: Before on air for sure.

541
00:24:21,920 --> 00:24:23,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, so you were like trying to.

542
00:24:24,000 --> 00:24:26,040
Speaker 3: Definitely said I was a fan, but I wasn't.

543
00:24:25,880 --> 00:24:29,760
Speaker 1: Like, like, I am such a Charlotte.

544
00:24:29,880 --> 00:24:31,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm such a Charlotte.

545
00:24:31,320 --> 00:24:34,080
Speaker 1: You have an idea like I bought fake nipples because

546
00:24:34,119 --> 00:24:37,080
Speaker 1: of Samantha like all that stuff, Like I didn't do that,

547
00:24:37,280 --> 00:24:39,280
Speaker 1: but I definitely said I was a fan.

548
00:24:39,640 --> 00:24:42,199
Speaker 2: Okay. Yeah, it's like I can't even picture you, like

549
00:24:42,320 --> 00:24:44,679
Speaker 2: not just like raving to someone about how much you

550
00:24:44,720 --> 00:24:45,160
Speaker 2: love them.

551
00:24:45,240 --> 00:24:46,159
Speaker 3: I know, I know.

552
00:24:46,359 --> 00:24:48,480
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure I did it to the publicist, which

553
00:24:48,480 --> 00:24:50,240
Speaker 1: is probably why she asked if I wanted a picture.

554
00:24:50,480 --> 00:24:52,480
Speaker 3: She's like that I didn't do it to Sarah Diska.

555
00:24:52,200 --> 00:24:56,480
Speaker 1: Parker herself, which I am proud of myself for proud

556
00:24:56,480 --> 00:24:57,040
Speaker 1: of that for you.

557
00:24:57,320 --> 00:25:00,679
Speaker 3: But can you believe the memory will just be with

558
00:25:00,760 --> 00:25:02,320
Speaker 3: me forever?

559
00:25:02,760 --> 00:25:04,760
Speaker 2: You know? What I have that memory about was when

560
00:25:04,760 --> 00:25:06,879
Speaker 2: I was on the plane with Ellen Pompeo and her

561
00:25:06,920 --> 00:25:09,320
Speaker 2: family and I asked her husband instead of just asking

562
00:25:09,359 --> 00:25:14,480
Speaker 2: her because it crushed my spirits regardless.

563
00:25:14,680 --> 00:25:16,520
Speaker 3: Do you regret that? Yeah?

564
00:25:16,600 --> 00:25:21,280
Speaker 2: I wish. I think that she would have even if

565
00:25:21,320 --> 00:25:23,480
Speaker 2: she didn't want to. I feel like she may have

566
00:25:23,560 --> 00:25:26,159
Speaker 2: said yes because everyone always talks about how nice like

567
00:25:26,160 --> 00:25:30,160
Speaker 2: when they've met her in the wild, but she's so nice. Yeah,

568
00:25:30,440 --> 00:25:31,800
Speaker 2: but I don't know.

569
00:25:32,119 --> 00:25:35,640
Speaker 4: I think you played that right. Actually, yeah, I do.

570
00:25:35,720 --> 00:25:37,639
Speaker 4: I think it good to get a gauge. Otherwise it

571
00:25:37,640 --> 00:25:39,240
Speaker 4: could have gone even worse. She could gone straight to

572
00:25:39,240 --> 00:25:41,439
Speaker 4: her and she'd like, you know, been like, ah, they

573
00:25:41,480 --> 00:25:42,080
Speaker 4: don't want that.

574
00:25:42,359 --> 00:25:45,640
Speaker 2: I would have been left and just sheer crumbles.

575
00:25:46,160 --> 00:25:47,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, that would have been traagy.

576
00:25:47,880 --> 00:25:51,119
Speaker 2: And I had was so hungover from the night before

577
00:25:51,240 --> 00:25:55,159
Speaker 2: New York that like, if that rejection on top of

578
00:25:55,200 --> 00:25:57,960
Speaker 2: how I was feeling, I'd still be laying on the

579
00:25:57,960 --> 00:26:00,880
Speaker 2: floor at Lax these years later.

580
00:26:01,600 --> 00:26:02,040
Speaker 6: I can't.

581
00:26:02,080 --> 00:26:05,280
Speaker 1: I haven't really honestly, could you imagine anybody that you

582
00:26:05,359 --> 00:26:08,680
Speaker 1: love that much not being Even if she said no,

583
00:26:08,760 --> 00:26:10,600
Speaker 1: not for a photo, I feel like she would say

584
00:26:10,600 --> 00:26:11,640
Speaker 1: it in a nice way.

585
00:26:12,840 --> 00:26:16,359
Speaker 2: Yeah, but like no, it's still no matter how nice

586
00:26:16,400 --> 00:26:16,919
Speaker 2: you say it.

587
00:26:17,119 --> 00:26:21,240
Speaker 3: No is like you would understand that though I do understand.

588
00:26:21,400 --> 00:26:24,879
Speaker 2: Yeah, her husband telling me no, I understood, But it

589
00:26:25,119 --> 00:26:27,240
Speaker 2: still was rejection.

590
00:26:28,560 --> 00:26:30,680
Speaker 4: And that's how Sarah Jessica Parker felt she wanted to

591
00:26:30,680 --> 00:26:31,399
Speaker 4: pitch with Tom.

592
00:26:33,480 --> 00:26:37,080
Speaker 2: No exactly crush her dreams.

593
00:26:37,280 --> 00:26:40,760
Speaker 1: This is the opposite, you guys, completely, opero.

594
00:26:42,760 --> 00:26:45,120
Speaker 4: That's why I don't want to meet my heroes. Because

595
00:26:45,119 --> 00:26:48,280
Speaker 4: I feel like I feel like nothing really good can

596
00:26:48,280 --> 00:26:50,480
Speaker 4: come of that. I'm not going to have anything interesting

597
00:26:50,520 --> 00:26:53,119
Speaker 4: to say. They're not going to gain anything from meeting me.

598
00:26:53,480 --> 00:26:57,280
Speaker 4: I'm a waste of their time. I don't coming from.

599
00:26:57,320 --> 00:27:00,199
Speaker 1: Do you remember when Shakira came in studio and I

600
00:27:00,240 --> 00:27:02,800
Speaker 1: told I was so nervous because I told her about

601
00:27:02,800 --> 00:27:06,080
Speaker 1: my Shakira John Mayor fan club. I do remember that

602
00:27:06,119 --> 00:27:09,640
Speaker 1: she could not have been sweeter about it, Like truly could.

603
00:27:09,520 --> 00:27:10,720
Speaker 3: Not have been sweeter about it.

604
00:27:11,920 --> 00:27:12,480
Speaker 4: And I get that.

605
00:27:12,680 --> 00:27:13,080
Speaker 3: I get it.

606
00:27:13,119 --> 00:27:15,560
Speaker 1: They're a little bit on they're doing promo, they're in

607
00:27:15,720 --> 00:27:17,119
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, They're not in the wild

608
00:27:17,240 --> 00:27:21,120
Speaker 1: per se. But she came back to like that back

609
00:27:21,200 --> 00:27:22,000
Speaker 1: room where I sat.

610
00:27:22,080 --> 00:27:23,240
Speaker 3: She didn't do it on air.

611
00:27:23,400 --> 00:27:26,919
Speaker 1: She did it all on the side, away from cameras,

612
00:27:27,440 --> 00:27:30,240
Speaker 1: and she was so like cute about it.

613
00:27:30,640 --> 00:27:33,679
Speaker 2: Well, because no one else in the world has a

614
00:27:33,800 --> 00:27:37,679
Speaker 2: John Mayer Securra Synergy Club, so like that was the

615
00:27:37,760 --> 00:27:39,840
Speaker 2: first and last you'd ever hear about something.

616
00:27:40,240 --> 00:27:43,040
Speaker 1: John Mayer's reaction was, why did they have to share

617
00:27:43,359 --> 00:27:44,400
Speaker 1: the club with Shakira?

618
00:27:44,560 --> 00:27:45,199
Speaker 2: Do you remember that?

619
00:27:46,720 --> 00:27:48,600
Speaker 1: Like, because I was the president and I loved you

620
00:27:48,600 --> 00:27:50,040
Speaker 1: both equally, so.

621
00:27:50,680 --> 00:27:55,240
Speaker 7: Yeah, it's just so I would never choose the like

622
00:27:55,480 --> 00:27:57,320
Speaker 7: if you were like name too artists who would be

623
00:27:57,400 --> 00:27:59,639
Speaker 7: like in a synergy club together, which whatever the hell

624
00:27:59,680 --> 00:28:00,960
Speaker 7: about it, I'd.

625
00:28:00,760 --> 00:28:05,959
Speaker 2: Be like, you know, she's Kira and I don't know,

626
00:28:06,040 --> 00:28:09,480
Speaker 2: like Ricky Martin or Kara and Jalo, or I'd be

627
00:28:09,520 --> 00:28:12,840
Speaker 2: like John Mayer and uh Ingrid Michaelson. You know, I

628
00:28:12,840 --> 00:28:14,359
Speaker 2: would like, it's just like you.

629
00:28:14,760 --> 00:28:16,960
Speaker 3: The vibes, Yeah, the vibes are different.

630
00:28:17,040 --> 00:28:21,479
Speaker 1: John Mayer was for my my angsty, sad portions of

631
00:28:21,520 --> 00:28:25,359
Speaker 1: my teenage years, and the Shakiro was for the like vibrant,

632
00:28:26,119 --> 00:28:27,240
Speaker 1: fun part of me.

633
00:28:28,320 --> 00:28:30,320
Speaker 2: Who do you listen to now when you're angsty?

634
00:28:31,280 --> 00:28:34,560
Speaker 3: Olivia Rodrigo Oh oh yeah, oh yeah.

635
00:28:34,640 --> 00:28:37,639
Speaker 2: Sometimes when I'm singing along to Brutal or like listening

636
00:28:37,680 --> 00:28:41,120
Speaker 2: and she's like says something about like being seventeen and

637
00:28:41,160 --> 00:28:44,960
Speaker 2: I just want to die, and I'm like, oh, she's seventeen.

638
00:28:45,840 --> 00:28:47,440
Speaker 3: Technically think she's eighteen now?

639
00:28:47,920 --> 00:28:48,160
Speaker 4: True?

640
00:28:48,480 --> 00:28:50,960
Speaker 1: Yeah song when I'm were you an Avri Lavine fan

641
00:28:51,000 --> 00:28:51,720
Speaker 1: when you were younger?

642
00:28:53,080 --> 00:28:57,000
Speaker 2: Not like I actually appreciate her music more now than

643
00:28:57,040 --> 00:28:58,640
Speaker 2: I did in the heat of the moment.

644
00:29:00,600 --> 00:29:04,360
Speaker 3: Hold on, I forget the name but you all.

645
00:29:04,520 --> 00:29:06,880
Speaker 2: You can say what I want to say say. I

646
00:29:06,920 --> 00:29:11,000
Speaker 2: want to know you away way every night I like

647
00:29:11,080 --> 00:29:13,880
Speaker 2: you and I start singing. Tanya panics and has to

648
00:29:13,920 --> 00:29:16,200
Speaker 2: like jump in, but I can't get there soon enough.

649
00:29:17,160 --> 00:29:21,600
Speaker 1: There are like I'm with you, I'm with you.

650
00:29:21,960 --> 00:29:26,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I liked all her, like her.

651
00:29:27,600 --> 00:29:29,960
Speaker 3: Honestly losing grip.

652
00:29:30,640 --> 00:29:34,240
Speaker 1: If anybody needs like just a moment to feel things,

653
00:29:34,280 --> 00:29:39,200
Speaker 1: to just feel every feeling they've ever felt, take a

654
00:29:39,280 --> 00:29:42,080
Speaker 1: listen to an Avril Lamine album, and I will like

655
00:29:42,160 --> 00:29:44,520
Speaker 1: I used to write her and Michelle Branch. I used

656
00:29:44,560 --> 00:29:47,040
Speaker 1: to write all their song lyrics in journals, and I

657
00:29:47,040 --> 00:29:49,360
Speaker 1: would just write them over and over and over again.

658
00:29:49,400 --> 00:29:51,720
Speaker 1: I would draw the guy's name, I would draw stick

659
00:29:51,800 --> 00:29:56,440
Speaker 1: figures and just write the lyrics, just write them out as.

660
00:30:00,280 --> 00:30:02,800
Speaker 4: True. Boy, I said.

661
00:30:03,160 --> 00:30:05,680
Speaker 3: See you later, boy. I mean, those weren't even her

662
00:30:05,680 --> 00:30:06,280
Speaker 3: best ones.

663
00:30:06,400 --> 00:30:08,840
Speaker 2: That's any of your old journals here.

664
00:30:09,120 --> 00:30:11,760
Speaker 1: No, not here, something I'd have to go to my parents'

665
00:30:11,760 --> 00:30:12,600
Speaker 1: house and look through.

666
00:30:12,560 --> 00:30:15,880
Speaker 2: Because I'm going to need some readings of those one day,

667
00:30:15,920 --> 00:30:18,240
Speaker 2: if you're able to locate them, I'm.

668
00:30:18,080 --> 00:30:20,800
Speaker 1: Telling you, Avril Levine just did it like that was

669
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Speaker 1: the first I went to Hollywood and Highland. I think

670
00:30:23,400 --> 00:30:25,240
Speaker 1: I did school that day because she was performing at

671
00:30:25,240 --> 00:30:28,600
Speaker 1: Hollywood Highland. Whoa, because I wanted to see her so bad.

672
00:30:28,920 --> 00:30:29,800
Speaker 2: Did you want show?

673
00:30:30,200 --> 00:30:31,840
Speaker 3: I think it was Ryan's show. Yeah.

674
00:30:32,320 --> 00:30:35,200
Speaker 2: Did you ever hear me about my story? When I

675
00:30:35,760 --> 00:30:39,440
Speaker 2: had just moved to San Diego and I there, Demi

676
00:30:39,520 --> 00:30:41,480
Speaker 2: Levado was going to be at the opening of the

677
00:30:41,520 --> 00:30:45,160
Speaker 2: Microsoft store in the mall, and so I went with

678
00:30:45,240 --> 00:30:47,960
Speaker 2: a friend and the first fifty people on line got

679
00:30:47,960 --> 00:30:49,480
Speaker 2: to go in and do a meet and greet with her.

680
00:30:49,920 --> 00:30:52,120
Speaker 2: I was going for my youngest sister. Heink it's her

681
00:30:52,120 --> 00:30:54,960
Speaker 2: birthday today, by the way, Happy birthday. I was going

682
00:30:55,040 --> 00:30:56,120
Speaker 2: to get her an autograph.

683
00:30:56,400 --> 00:30:59,800
Speaker 3: And your sister's a Gemini. Yeah.

684
00:31:00,400 --> 00:31:04,600
Speaker 2: And I waited all night, like did not sleep. Those

685
00:31:04,680 --> 00:31:07,760
Speaker 2: sun comes up. It's finally times she's arrived where all

686
00:31:07,880 --> 00:31:11,280
Speaker 2: the first fifty of us are just exhausted. We go

687
00:31:11,440 --> 00:31:15,479
Speaker 2: in and she literally we like get they won't let

688
00:31:15,560 --> 00:31:17,960
Speaker 2: us have our phones out. She takes just like a

689
00:31:18,000 --> 00:31:20,120
Speaker 2: post of herself and just signs her name and hands

690
00:31:20,120 --> 00:31:22,160
Speaker 2: it and like smiles at me, and that was it.

691
00:31:22,400 --> 00:31:25,760
Speaker 2: I didn't get like too, I didn't get anything. No,

692
00:31:26,040 --> 00:31:29,760
Speaker 2: I was like, oh my gosh, I just wasted a

693
00:31:29,760 --> 00:31:33,880
Speaker 2: whole night to sleep for nothing, even personalized. I could

694
00:31:33,880 --> 00:31:34,520
Speaker 2: have bought that off.

695
00:31:34,560 --> 00:31:37,480
Speaker 4: But this is Debbie Levado. Haven't we covered this before?

696
00:31:37,640 --> 00:31:39,320
Speaker 4: This is what she does, This is who she is.

697
00:31:39,440 --> 00:31:41,960
Speaker 2: I feel like me Elvado. If I saw her now

698
00:31:42,000 --> 00:31:44,600
Speaker 2: at a meet and greet, we could have a conversation.

699
00:31:44,920 --> 00:31:47,760
Speaker 4: Yeah, Tanya has a video of her, like trying to

700
00:31:47,800 --> 00:31:49,640
Speaker 4: be friendly to her and she just walks right by.

701
00:31:49,880 --> 00:31:51,320
Speaker 4: I don't have a great opinion of her.

702
00:31:51,400 --> 00:31:54,280
Speaker 2: That was she loves talking, I know she does.

703
00:31:55,000 --> 00:31:59,600
Speaker 1: Yes, Yeah, so the video Mark's talking about is because okay,

704
00:31:59,600 --> 00:32:02,560
Speaker 1: when you're on a press line and you're you're press

705
00:32:03,040 --> 00:32:07,600
Speaker 1: and the artist isn't doing press, they're gonna skip by you, right.

706
00:32:07,800 --> 00:32:10,680
Speaker 1: But so me, Tanya like thinking, oh, Debbie loves me.

707
00:32:10,720 --> 00:32:13,040
Speaker 1: I'm just like, wait, what was this for? I can't

708
00:32:13,120 --> 00:32:16,360
Speaker 1: remember exactly what carpet it was, to be honest, I

709
00:32:16,400 --> 00:32:20,360
Speaker 1: can't remember. But no, no, I mean a few years ago,

710
00:32:20,480 --> 00:32:26,280
Speaker 1: okay more recent than not. But and so yeah, I

711
00:32:26,320 --> 00:32:29,480
Speaker 1: was like shouting her name out. But I to her defense,

712
00:32:29,480 --> 00:32:31,360
Speaker 1: she can't stop and just say hi to me because

713
00:32:31,520 --> 00:32:31,920
Speaker 1: all of it.

714
00:32:31,920 --> 00:32:36,080
Speaker 4: It's not like Selena Gomez loves Tanya. A lot of

715
00:32:36,120 --> 00:32:38,600
Speaker 4: the artists to come on our show love Tanya. Demie

716
00:32:38,640 --> 00:32:41,520
Speaker 4: Levado loves Tiny with quotations around it, it's like a

717
00:32:41,640 --> 00:32:43,040
Speaker 4: showbiz loves Tanya.

718
00:32:43,480 --> 00:32:48,480
Speaker 2: Oh. I think so team was probably just like listen,

719
00:32:48,560 --> 00:32:50,120
Speaker 2: you can't stop. If you stop there, you have to

720
00:32:50,120 --> 00:32:51,800
Speaker 2: stop by every single person.

721
00:32:51,600 --> 00:32:53,720
Speaker 3: And then everybody's gonna be like, no, I wait, talk

722
00:32:53,760 --> 00:32:55,880
Speaker 3: to us, talk to us. LAA Well.

723
00:32:56,600 --> 00:32:59,200
Speaker 2: I think if I had I got to season in

724
00:32:59,320 --> 00:33:03,480
Speaker 2: Levato now we would have I could get a signed autographer. Heint.

725
00:33:03,600 --> 00:33:04,400
Speaker 2: That's what I true.

726
00:33:04,480 --> 00:33:07,000
Speaker 6: I believe if I may stand it. For Demi Levado,

727
00:33:07,320 --> 00:33:09,600
Speaker 6: when I first moved to Los Angeles in twenty twelve,

728
00:33:09,800 --> 00:33:11,840
Speaker 6: she was on the cover of seventeen magazine and she

729
00:33:11,880 --> 00:33:13,600
Speaker 6: did a signing at the Grove and me and my

730
00:33:13,640 --> 00:33:16,200
Speaker 6: friend Andy waited in a very long line, and she

731
00:33:16,280 --> 00:33:18,560
Speaker 6: signed my copy of seventeen magazine and she talked to

732
00:33:18,600 --> 00:33:21,400
Speaker 6: me for like three minutes, and I was just a

733
00:33:21,440 --> 00:33:26,320
Speaker 6: fan hole three whole minutes. And I told her how

734
00:33:26,400 --> 00:33:28,480
Speaker 6: much I loved her on Sunday with a Chance and

735
00:33:28,520 --> 00:33:31,920
Speaker 6: we had a fun discussion. Actually, she was super nice.

736
00:33:32,120 --> 00:33:34,560
Speaker 2: I think that was around the same time. Was she

737
00:33:34,600 --> 00:33:35,680
Speaker 2: at the Microsoft store.

738
00:33:36,600 --> 00:33:38,800
Speaker 6: She was at Burnes and Noble at the Grove.

739
00:33:38,920 --> 00:33:42,520
Speaker 2: Okay, well I'm like I said, I think it was

740
00:33:42,680 --> 00:33:44,520
Speaker 2: just she was there and they were like, listen, you

741
00:33:44,560 --> 00:33:47,440
Speaker 2: only have time to sign, sign, autograph, sign your name,

742
00:33:47,520 --> 00:33:49,320
Speaker 2: and that's no time with her picture.

743
00:33:49,360 --> 00:33:51,720
Speaker 1: I feel like Marcus forgetting our love fest. When she

744
00:33:51,840 --> 00:33:53,200
Speaker 1: came on to premiere Heart.

745
00:33:53,000 --> 00:33:55,560
Speaker 4: Attime show on the Show is Different, and I.

746
00:33:55,600 --> 00:33:58,520
Speaker 2: Was singing the lyrics saying, she liked you if it

747
00:33:58,560 --> 00:33:59,760
Speaker 2: benefits her all radio.

748
00:34:00,240 --> 00:34:03,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's on the radio, that's different. She's she loves

749
00:34:03,480 --> 00:34:05,560
Speaker 4: you the way Ariana Grande is really happened to be

750
00:34:05,600 --> 00:34:12,719
Speaker 4: there for the interview. Oh but she puts on a

751
00:34:12,760 --> 00:34:14,000
Speaker 4: happy face and pretends to.

752
00:34:13,960 --> 00:34:21,759
Speaker 2: Be listen that sorry to crush your dreams.

753
00:34:21,880 --> 00:34:24,600
Speaker 3: But you know, like I think the love is real.

754
00:34:25,120 --> 00:34:28,000
Speaker 1: I feel it in my heart in places, yeah, in

755
00:34:28,080 --> 00:34:31,040
Speaker 1: places and places in my heart.

756
00:34:31,400 --> 00:34:32,879
Speaker 3: Wait, where are we going with that?

757
00:34:35,040 --> 00:34:41,000
Speaker 4: Where are we going? Ever? And we just top and recorded.

758
00:34:40,719 --> 00:34:44,279
Speaker 2: We're talking about Sex and the City reboot, and then

759
00:34:44,280 --> 00:34:47,799
Speaker 2: we got into Sarah Doeska Barker and then you said

760
00:34:47,800 --> 00:34:49,680
Speaker 2: that was your regret, and then I said my regret

761
00:34:49,760 --> 00:34:52,600
Speaker 2: was not getting photo with Ellen Pompeo. Oh right, all right,

762
00:34:52,920 --> 00:34:57,280
Speaker 2: and then I brought up my experience waiting in line

763
00:34:57,320 --> 00:34:58,080
Speaker 2: for an autograph.

764
00:34:58,440 --> 00:35:00,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know if I want to meet al Bean,

765
00:35:00,320 --> 00:35:04,319
Speaker 1: because truly that was just like a moment in my

766
00:35:04,400 --> 00:35:06,920
Speaker 1: teenage years where I'm going to revisit that album and

767
00:35:07,640 --> 00:35:09,879
Speaker 1: really just get to it.

768
00:35:10,400 --> 00:35:14,880
Speaker 2: You're just like sending red Star like angsty text and.

769
00:35:14,719 --> 00:35:16,560
Speaker 3: It's like, what's going on?

770
00:35:16,719 --> 00:35:17,960
Speaker 2: I thought we were just fine?

771
00:35:19,040 --> 00:35:21,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, but you know, actually this reminds me of.

772
00:35:23,400 --> 00:35:28,719
Speaker 1: The music that's coming out is I mean, who uh,

773
00:35:28,800 --> 00:35:30,719
Speaker 1: Maroon five just came out their album. It's actually really

774
00:35:30,719 --> 00:35:33,520
Speaker 1: good if you're in your backyard barbecuing this summer, Maroon five,

775
00:35:33,560 --> 00:35:35,080
Speaker 1: it's a really nice one to throw on there.

776
00:35:35,320 --> 00:35:37,879
Speaker 2: Specific Okay, who else?

777
00:35:37,920 --> 00:35:42,000
Speaker 3: There was another Sophia Carson song that just came out, Vibe.

778
00:35:41,840 --> 00:35:46,959
Speaker 2: Is that Barbecue? No, that is like that is late

779
00:35:47,040 --> 00:35:48,040
Speaker 2: night car ride, A.

780
00:35:48,040 --> 00:35:52,120
Speaker 1: Late night car ride if you're feeling everybody can feel

781
00:35:52,120 --> 00:35:54,880
Speaker 1: the lyrics of that song. There are specific lyrics in

782
00:35:54,920 --> 00:35:57,280
Speaker 1: that song that have to do with my breakup.

783
00:35:57,440 --> 00:35:59,040
Speaker 2: And so I was gonna ask if that was the

784
00:35:59,040 --> 00:36:00,839
Speaker 2: one that I didn't know if I was allowed to ask.

785
00:36:00,960 --> 00:36:03,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, So that one just hits me a little different

786
00:36:03,680 --> 00:36:07,839
Speaker 1: literally yeah. And then Lord Wow, Lord just came out

787
00:36:07,880 --> 00:36:09,640
Speaker 1: with a new single. Oh yeah, tell me out with

788
00:36:09,640 --> 00:36:12,160
Speaker 1: an album. And I am a massive Lord fan, so

789
00:36:12,160 --> 00:36:12,680
Speaker 1: I have been.

790
00:36:12,520 --> 00:36:16,400
Speaker 4: Going green Light did not get the credit it deserves.

791
00:36:16,080 --> 00:36:19,040
Speaker 3: And Homemade Dynamized, so that whole album.

792
00:36:18,800 --> 00:36:21,759
Speaker 2: Was really yeah, super cut, Like all those songs are

793
00:36:21,800 --> 00:36:23,680
Speaker 2: so good and didn't get the credit they deserve.

794
00:36:23,760 --> 00:36:26,120
Speaker 1: We're gonna get a new Billie Eilish album this summer.

795
00:36:26,120 --> 00:36:28,200
Speaker 1: We're going to get a new Drake album before the end.

796
00:36:28,080 --> 00:36:28,680
Speaker 3: Of this summer.

797
00:36:29,400 --> 00:36:31,840
Speaker 1: Uh, We're going to get an a Doja Cat album

798
00:36:31,920 --> 00:36:34,839
Speaker 1: next weekend. It's like an embarrassment of riches. I don't

799
00:36:34,840 --> 00:36:36,360
Speaker 1: even know what to do. We're getting a new ed

800
00:36:36,440 --> 00:36:37,879
Speaker 1: Cheron song soon, Like.

801
00:36:38,400 --> 00:36:41,400
Speaker 2: Hello, what is that Sharon song going to be for?

802
00:36:42,480 --> 00:36:42,880
Speaker 3: What do you mean?

803
00:36:43,400 --> 00:36:45,280
Speaker 2: Well, Maroon five is for barbecue?

804
00:36:45,320 --> 00:36:45,480
Speaker 4: Oh?

805
00:36:45,520 --> 00:36:47,319
Speaker 3: I don't know. I haven't heard it, so it's hard

806
00:36:47,360 --> 00:36:47,720
Speaker 3: to say.

807
00:36:47,800 --> 00:36:50,000
Speaker 4: But am I the only one that loves le Calvin

808
00:36:50,000 --> 00:36:52,520
Speaker 4: Harras song Because I think it's really good and I've

809
00:36:52,520 --> 00:36:54,319
Speaker 4: played it for my kids and they loved it.

810
00:36:55,160 --> 00:36:57,200
Speaker 2: I don't I'm not familiar with it.

811
00:36:57,200 --> 00:37:00,120
Speaker 3: It's a grower, not a shower because the show or

812
00:37:00,200 --> 00:37:00,440
Speaker 3: for me.

813
00:37:00,440 --> 00:37:01,799
Speaker 4: The first time I heard it, I was like, this

814
00:37:01,920 --> 00:37:02,520
Speaker 4: is amazing.

815
00:37:02,640 --> 00:37:04,120
Speaker 1: The first time I heard it, I was kind of like,

816
00:37:04,200 --> 00:37:06,560
Speaker 1: this is lame, and it's grown on me, like I'm

817
00:37:06,640 --> 00:37:07,120
Speaker 1: enjoying it.

818
00:37:07,160 --> 00:37:07,359
Speaker 4: Now.

819
00:37:07,960 --> 00:37:10,360
Speaker 2: Let's see what I've been listening to, because y'all are

820
00:37:10,360 --> 00:37:12,399
Speaker 2: talking about things that I have no idea what you're

821
00:37:12,440 --> 00:37:17,200
Speaker 2: talking about. I've been listening to Underwined, the two thousands.

822
00:37:21,080 --> 00:37:23,319
Speaker 2: Oh wait, yeah, I know. I'm sorry. These are my

823
00:37:23,400 --> 00:37:28,480
Speaker 2: recent playlists. I listened to Sour Olivia Rodrigo two thousands Heartache,

824
00:37:28,480 --> 00:37:31,640
Speaker 2: which has like collide and come on, get higher and

825
00:37:33,080 --> 00:37:35,400
Speaker 2: get higher, luc My Lips faces.

826
00:37:36,760 --> 00:37:40,399
Speaker 3: Hips who sings that song?

827
00:37:41,040 --> 00:37:47,560
Speaker 2: Matt Nathanson Nathanson Out of the Woods Radio, which has

828
00:37:47,640 --> 00:37:51,840
Speaker 2: some just bops. I quit drinking the new Kelsey Ballerina

829
00:37:52,520 --> 00:38:01,880
Speaker 2: with really Good Chance, Haley Kyoko radiomes Fleetwood Mac like

830
00:38:01,960 --> 00:38:06,600
Speaker 2: it's just I gotta wow assortment of so like when

831
00:38:06,640 --> 00:38:09,160
Speaker 2: you all talk about new music, I don't know and

832
00:38:09,239 --> 00:38:10,880
Speaker 2: until it goes on one of those playlists.

833
00:38:10,960 --> 00:38:13,600
Speaker 1: I listened to, Oh geez, are you familiar with the

834
00:38:13,640 --> 00:38:14,399
Speaker 1: New BTS song?

835
00:38:15,080 --> 00:38:19,560
Speaker 3: No, oh my cool, You're missing out? Summer Summer is

836
00:38:19,640 --> 00:38:20,800
Speaker 3: just you're missing out.

837
00:38:20,920 --> 00:38:22,640
Speaker 4: I'm not. I don't. I'm not loving.

838
00:38:22,320 --> 00:38:24,560
Speaker 3: Butter, Oh I am. It's good to me.

839
00:38:24,880 --> 00:38:28,279
Speaker 4: It feels like it just feels overly calculated to be

840
00:38:28,360 --> 00:38:30,520
Speaker 4: a summer song. They really wanted to make a song

841
00:38:30,560 --> 00:38:31,960
Speaker 4: of summer, and it just feels like out of a

842
00:38:32,040 --> 00:38:32,840
Speaker 4: laboratory to me.

843
00:38:33,040 --> 00:38:37,040
Speaker 6: Yeah, I like Dynamite much more. Really, Yeah, I see.

844
00:38:37,040 --> 00:38:38,359
Speaker 3: I'm like, I feel like they did it. They hit

845
00:38:38,400 --> 00:38:39,879
Speaker 3: the nail on the head with it. Yeah.

846
00:38:39,880 --> 00:38:42,520
Speaker 6: I think Butter is fine. I just think that Dynamite

847
00:38:42,760 --> 00:38:45,879
Speaker 6: was to borrow a phrase. It was dynamite. It blew

848
00:38:45,880 --> 00:38:46,160
Speaker 6: me up.

849
00:38:46,280 --> 00:38:47,839
Speaker 3: Have you have you not heard the new Lord song.

850
00:38:48,120 --> 00:38:50,360
Speaker 2: I listened to it once. I think that might be

851
00:38:50,400 --> 00:38:51,479
Speaker 2: a grower not a show.

852
00:38:51,520 --> 00:38:56,319
Speaker 1: Or it is so cute I can't handle.

853
00:38:56,040 --> 00:38:59,600
Speaker 2: It, Like the lyrics are, how it sounds, how it sounds.

854
00:38:59,600 --> 00:39:01,800
Speaker 3: Oh oh, it's so cute.

855
00:39:02,440 --> 00:39:03,319
Speaker 2: Like oh, I.

856
00:39:05,320 --> 00:39:08,000
Speaker 1: Wasn't loving life this weekend because I just had so

857
00:39:08,120 --> 00:39:09,160
Speaker 1: much new music to consume.

858
00:39:09,960 --> 00:39:12,800
Speaker 6: I like that Lord's song, but someone on Twitter layered

859
00:39:13,239 --> 00:39:16,760
Speaker 6: a like legal disclaimer for like an anti depressant medication

860
00:39:16,880 --> 00:39:19,520
Speaker 6: on top of it, and it sounded too perfect, like

861
00:39:19,719 --> 00:39:23,120
Speaker 6: it's like try prima vera. It results me very like

862
00:39:23,239 --> 00:39:26,479
Speaker 6: that kind of thing, and it's it worked really well,

863
00:39:26,719 --> 00:39:28,600
Speaker 6: but the song is very good. I just thought that

864
00:39:28,719 --> 00:39:30,960
Speaker 6: was so funny. Something funny.

865
00:39:31,239 --> 00:39:32,440
Speaker 3: O wait, it's so funny.

866
00:39:32,560 --> 00:39:36,480
Speaker 1: So the day that Sophia wrote that song, she came

867
00:39:36,560 --> 00:39:38,880
Speaker 1: home and we were facetiming and she was like, so

868
00:39:39,000 --> 00:39:44,600
Speaker 1: I wrote a song inspired by partially by you, and

869
00:39:44,719 --> 00:39:46,880
Speaker 1: I was like, let's hear it. So I hear it,

870
00:39:47,040 --> 00:39:50,080
Speaker 1: and we like recorded the FaceTime of when I heard it,

871
00:39:50,400 --> 00:39:52,680
Speaker 1: and like, my face just literally you can see it.

872
00:39:52,760 --> 00:39:53,680
Speaker 3: You can't hear it because when.

873
00:39:53,560 --> 00:39:55,040
Speaker 1: You record facing you can't hear anything, but you just

874
00:39:55,040 --> 00:39:59,560
Speaker 1: see in my face where I'm like, it's so good.

875
00:40:00,400 --> 00:40:01,960
Speaker 3: And then she and her sister got in the car.

876
00:40:02,040 --> 00:40:03,880
Speaker 1: I didn't realize that they were coming to get me,

877
00:40:04,840 --> 00:40:06,120
Speaker 1: but they got in the car and we were still

878
00:40:06,120 --> 00:40:08,200
Speaker 1: face timing and chatting da da da, and they said

879
00:40:08,360 --> 00:40:11,319
Speaker 1: come outside and they'd come to my apartments. Like got

880
00:40:11,400 --> 00:40:13,120
Speaker 1: in the car and we just like drove around for

881
00:40:13,160 --> 00:40:15,239
Speaker 1: an hour just like listening to it on repeat and

882
00:40:15,440 --> 00:40:17,520
Speaker 1: just singing it at the top of our lungs.

883
00:40:17,560 --> 00:40:20,640
Speaker 3: It was so cute. It's a memory I will never forget.

884
00:40:20,800 --> 00:40:24,359
Speaker 2: I was laughing because You're post about that and how

885
00:40:24,520 --> 00:40:26,759
Speaker 2: close your face is to the FaceTime and You're like, yeah,

886
00:40:26,840 --> 00:40:29,359
Speaker 2: and yes, I always FaceTime this close to the camera,

887
00:40:29,440 --> 00:40:33,200
Speaker 2: and I'm like, I know that, but it was funny,

888
00:40:34,200 --> 00:40:37,920
Speaker 2: like realizing that Tanya talks like with the phone right here,

889
00:40:38,320 --> 00:40:40,040
Speaker 2: Like when I do it, I don't even want to be.

890
00:40:40,080 --> 00:40:41,440
Speaker 3: That up clas I FaceTime like this.

891
00:40:41,880 --> 00:40:45,920
Speaker 1: Yes, so my face is but I've never seen my

892
00:40:46,040 --> 00:40:48,239
Speaker 1: face like that because I've never You can't.

893
00:40:48,239 --> 00:40:48,520
Speaker 3: I can't.

894
00:40:49,200 --> 00:40:51,760
Speaker 1: I'm small in mine in my own phone, so seeing

895
00:40:51,800 --> 00:40:54,040
Speaker 1: it from somebody else's phone was quite jarring.

896
00:40:54,520 --> 00:40:57,000
Speaker 2: Actually that's why when you faced him, I'm like, all right,

897
00:40:57,120 --> 00:40:59,080
Speaker 2: here we go, she's gonna be right there.

898
00:40:59,239 --> 00:41:01,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like there's no screen, it's just my face, like

899
00:41:01,800 --> 00:41:03,640
Speaker 1: there's nothing, there's no space around.

900
00:41:03,360 --> 00:41:04,480
Speaker 2: Your face is the screen?

901
00:41:04,600 --> 00:41:07,280
Speaker 4: Yeah? What is that song out? Because I think scrobbers

902
00:41:07,280 --> 00:41:08,560
Speaker 4: are really really going to want to hear it.

903
00:41:08,640 --> 00:41:11,120
Speaker 3: It's out. It's called It's called he Love He Loves Me,

904
00:41:11,200 --> 00:41:11,560
Speaker 3: but Oh.

905
00:41:11,560 --> 00:41:12,000
Speaker 2: He Loves Me?

906
00:41:12,120 --> 00:41:15,719
Speaker 4: But that one's about you or inspired partially inspired by you?

907
00:41:15,960 --> 00:41:16,280
Speaker 2: Correct?

908
00:41:16,760 --> 00:41:20,080
Speaker 4: And where were you in the in the heartache breakup

909
00:41:20,239 --> 00:41:23,000
Speaker 4: process when they came and got you and debuted that song?

910
00:41:23,080 --> 00:41:23,239
Speaker 4: For you.

911
00:41:25,600 --> 00:41:28,160
Speaker 3: That's a good questions. A couple of months ago, so

912
00:41:28,400 --> 00:41:31,560
Speaker 3: like we all were only broken two months, three two

913
00:41:31,640 --> 00:41:32,040
Speaker 3: or three months?

914
00:41:32,120 --> 00:41:32,759
Speaker 2: Yeah and a half months.

915
00:41:32,840 --> 00:41:34,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, so in the middle of it, sore, in the

916
00:41:34,480 --> 00:41:34,840
Speaker 3: middle of it.

917
00:41:35,160 --> 00:41:37,719
Speaker 4: I mean, that's pretty amazing. Yeah, Like I was trying

918
00:41:37,760 --> 00:41:39,520
Speaker 4: to remember, like when I was in the depths of

919
00:41:39,560 --> 00:41:42,400
Speaker 4: a breakup, if a major recording artist came by my house,

920
00:41:43,000 --> 00:41:45,400
Speaker 4: you know, Adam Dirret's accounting Crows comes by its he

921
00:41:45,680 --> 00:41:48,000
Speaker 4: gett in the car. I wrote a song about your situation.

922
00:41:48,239 --> 00:41:50,120
Speaker 4: Let's go drive around and sing, And I'm like, whoa,

923
00:41:50,680 --> 00:41:51,640
Speaker 4: that's a pretty cool thing.

924
00:41:52,000 --> 00:41:56,839
Speaker 1: Honestly, it really was because it was just like so real,

925
00:41:57,120 --> 00:41:59,880
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like I've never experienced some

926
00:42:00,120 --> 00:42:02,280
Speaker 1: things so raw and real before.

927
00:42:03,320 --> 00:42:05,839
Speaker 2: Yeah, that is really cool. I don't know how i'd

928
00:42:05,880 --> 00:42:07,840
Speaker 2: even react if someone did that for me.

929
00:42:08,560 --> 00:42:09,239
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's cool.

930
00:42:09,880 --> 00:42:11,480
Speaker 2: Has been turned into but.

931
00:42:11,560 --> 00:42:12,440
Speaker 3: That's what everybody does.

932
00:42:12,520 --> 00:42:14,640
Speaker 1: They draw inspiration from, you know what I mean, the

933
00:42:14,680 --> 00:42:16,880
Speaker 1: people in their lives and you know, things like that,

934
00:42:17,120 --> 00:42:19,920
Speaker 1: So it's makes sense. But yeah, it was really funny

935
00:42:19,920 --> 00:42:21,960
Speaker 1: because when the song came out, I had read star

936
00:42:22,080 --> 00:42:22,480
Speaker 1: listened to.

937
00:42:22,560 --> 00:42:24,279
Speaker 2: It, you know.

938
00:42:24,560 --> 00:42:28,439
Speaker 1: Yeah, for us, he was like, I'm really conflicted about

939
00:42:28,440 --> 00:42:29,440
Speaker 1: the song because I love it.

940
00:42:29,760 --> 00:42:35,640
Speaker 2: But okay, so there was I got on Facebook this

941
00:42:35,800 --> 00:42:38,000
Speaker 2: morning and there was this anonymous post posted by the

942
00:42:38,080 --> 00:42:39,840
Speaker 2: moderators Mark. I just sent it to you. I was

943
00:42:39,840 --> 00:42:40,800
Speaker 2: gonna see if you can read it.

944
00:42:41,000 --> 00:42:43,279
Speaker 4: It's funny. I saw this one I've also read.

945
00:42:43,480 --> 00:42:46,160
Speaker 2: I was curious about y'all's perspective on it, because, like,

946
00:42:46,320 --> 00:42:48,320
Speaker 2: I have a thought process about it, but I was

947
00:42:48,400 --> 00:42:52,200
Speaker 2: curious about y'all, you know, being in a marriage and

948
00:42:54,000 --> 00:42:55,800
Speaker 2: as men, so I was.

949
00:42:55,960 --> 00:42:58,080
Speaker 4: I just sent it to you to read, sure, and

950
00:42:58,320 --> 00:43:01,040
Speaker 4: I'll clean it up a little bit so it's not awkward.

951
00:43:01,200 --> 00:43:02,919
Speaker 4: My husband and I have been married for two years,

952
00:43:02,920 --> 00:43:05,040
Speaker 4: and he makes significantly more money than I do, three

953
00:43:05,120 --> 00:43:08,400
Speaker 4: times more we are combined financially, but recently he has

954
00:43:08,480 --> 00:43:11,080
Speaker 4: been acting like he has control over me financially and

955
00:43:11,200 --> 00:43:14,880
Speaker 4: is expecting and asking for more and more bjays because

956
00:43:14,920 --> 00:43:17,759
Speaker 4: he supports us. He has been saying how he would

957
00:43:17,800 --> 00:43:19,680
Speaker 4: love for me to take the initiative and give him

958
00:43:19,719 --> 00:43:22,920
Speaker 4: frequent bjays one to two a week. He says it's

959
00:43:22,920 --> 00:43:24,840
Speaker 4: an easy way for me to make him feel special

960
00:43:24,880 --> 00:43:28,120
Speaker 4: and appreciate, appreciated, since he is the one providing us

961
00:43:28,120 --> 00:43:30,799
Speaker 4: to lifestyle we live. I do the laundry, the cooking,

962
00:43:30,920 --> 00:43:33,200
Speaker 4: the cleaning, the shopping. I keep the house afloat. We're

963
00:43:33,239 --> 00:43:35,239
Speaker 4: pretty traditional in that sense. Before we got married, we

964
00:43:35,280 --> 00:43:38,440
Speaker 4: made it clear we both agreed on these traditional marital roles.

965
00:43:38,880 --> 00:43:41,839
Speaker 4: I've been very, very explicit with him that I never

966
00:43:41,960 --> 00:43:44,240
Speaker 4: want money to be tied to sex and him leveraging

967
00:43:44,320 --> 00:43:48,040
Speaker 4: money with expectations. But he's having a hard time understanding. Look,

968
00:43:48,160 --> 00:43:51,560
Speaker 4: I genuinely love doing that and he usually guests like

969
00:43:51,640 --> 00:43:54,319
Speaker 4: two a month, but he wants more. Has anyone else

970
00:43:54,400 --> 00:43:57,160
Speaker 4: been in this situation. I'm sure many people would suggest counseling,

971
00:43:57,320 --> 00:43:59,040
Speaker 4: but I'm just seeing if there's advice or anything I

972
00:43:59,080 --> 00:44:01,880
Speaker 4: should do first. It's not ruining our marriage, but it's

973
00:44:01,920 --> 00:44:04,480
Speaker 4: a definite challenge we're facing, and we're leveraging money with

974
00:44:04,600 --> 00:44:07,120
Speaker 4: sexual expectations and I don't love that. Thank you everyone,

975
00:44:08,320 --> 00:44:09,719
Speaker 4: I'm fired up.

976
00:44:11,680 --> 00:44:14,440
Speaker 2: Yeah. Well I felt fired up as well, and I

977
00:44:14,480 --> 00:44:17,000
Speaker 2: think majority of the comments were feeling the same thing.

978
00:44:17,120 --> 00:44:19,759
Speaker 3: Should we take a break and discuss sure?

979
00:44:20,320 --> 00:44:39,719
Speaker 2: All right, wow, Cliffhanger, Okay, we're back. So basically, she

980
00:44:40,000 --> 00:44:44,880
Speaker 2: said she didn't want to leverage their financial situation with

981
00:44:45,080 --> 00:44:47,880
Speaker 2: sex and like how often they're having sex or sexual

982
00:44:47,960 --> 00:44:52,759
Speaker 2: favors whatever, And then his response is that it makes

983
00:44:52,800 --> 00:44:55,799
Speaker 2: him feel special and cared for. I guess as being

984
00:44:55,920 --> 00:45:05,759
Speaker 2: like the bread winner. I was like flabbergasted, because I

985
00:45:07,760 --> 00:45:09,640
Speaker 2: I would have a really hard time with that and

986
00:45:09,800 --> 00:45:15,640
Speaker 2: also feel very manipulated. I guess is the word that

987
00:45:15,760 --> 00:45:18,600
Speaker 2: I would feel. I don't know, but I didn't. I

988
00:45:18,719 --> 00:45:21,880
Speaker 2: don't like it, but I that was my opinion. But

989
00:45:21,960 --> 00:45:24,640
Speaker 2: I found it interesting to see like two different sides

990
00:45:24,680 --> 00:45:26,239
Speaker 2: of how people were responding to it.

991
00:45:26,920 --> 00:45:28,600
Speaker 3: Oh, how are people responding to it?

992
00:45:28,880 --> 00:45:31,640
Speaker 2: Well, some people were like, you know, he communicated his

993
00:45:31,840 --> 00:45:33,879
Speaker 2: needs to you and said that that's something that makes

994
00:45:33,920 --> 00:45:36,320
Speaker 2: him feel special, So like, maybe you can have a

995
00:45:36,360 --> 00:45:39,719
Speaker 2: conversation about how it made you feel in return, so

996
00:45:39,840 --> 00:45:41,919
Speaker 2: y'all can meet in the middle. And then some people

997
00:45:42,000 --> 00:45:44,880
Speaker 2: were like, absolutely not, this is so disrespectful to you,

998
00:45:45,160 --> 00:45:50,040
Speaker 2: like you're not a I don't know sex work or whatever.

999
00:45:51,480 --> 00:45:54,320
Speaker 2: So it got pretty it got a little like to

1000
00:45:54,440 --> 00:45:57,760
Speaker 2: you know, in my mind, like when I opened the comments,

1001
00:45:57,840 --> 00:46:00,800
Speaker 2: I quickly expected it to be like, no way, this

1002
00:46:01,040 --> 00:46:04,040
Speaker 2: is crazy. And then there were some other opinions I

1003
00:46:04,120 --> 00:46:07,400
Speaker 2: was curious about and curious about Mark and Easton's opinion

1004
00:46:07,480 --> 00:46:12,040
Speaker 2: as married men who obviously probably enjoy a blowjob twice

1005
00:46:12,040 --> 00:46:12,799
Speaker 2: a month at least.

1006
00:46:16,360 --> 00:46:19,440
Speaker 6: Okay, this sucks. This whole thing sucks. Pardon the pun,

1007
00:46:19,880 --> 00:46:24,960
Speaker 6: but I think I think that married, if you look

1008
00:46:25,000 --> 00:46:27,640
Speaker 6: at a marriage or relationship is transactional like that like

1009
00:46:28,040 --> 00:46:30,680
Speaker 6: he or Also, we can't forget she has a job,

1010
00:46:30,800 --> 00:46:33,440
Speaker 6: she contributes financially to this. She just doesn't make as

1011
00:46:33,520 --> 00:46:35,239
Speaker 6: much as he does. But if you look at it,

1012
00:46:35,360 --> 00:46:38,040
Speaker 6: like he makes the money, I do the cleaning, he

1013
00:46:39,120 --> 00:46:41,840
Speaker 6: pays the bills. I suck his wiener, you know, Like

1014
00:46:41,960 --> 00:46:44,320
Speaker 6: that's I think that it should be both of you

1015
00:46:44,440 --> 00:46:46,600
Speaker 6: as a team, working towards the same goal. I don't

1016
00:46:46,640 --> 00:46:48,080
Speaker 6: think it should be like you do this and I

1017
00:46:48,239 --> 00:46:52,120
Speaker 6: do this in exchange for that. Yeah, this dude sucks

1018
00:46:52,160 --> 00:46:56,080
Speaker 6: big time. Also, I don't want to shame anyone for

1019
00:46:56,160 --> 00:46:59,399
Speaker 6: what they're into sexually, but I just think every time

1020
00:46:59,440 --> 00:47:02,920
Speaker 6: I hear it, guy who's really into I don't think

1021
00:47:02,960 --> 00:47:06,160
Speaker 6: we can say the word, but BJ's like really into it,

1022
00:47:06,280 --> 00:47:08,520
Speaker 6: like demanding them all the time, like obsessed with it.

1023
00:47:08,719 --> 00:47:10,680
Speaker 6: It's always been a red flag. There's always some weird

1024
00:47:10,760 --> 00:47:16,239
Speaker 6: hang up there. Yes, yes, definitely, So like, yeah, I'm

1025
00:47:16,239 --> 00:47:18,080
Speaker 6: not good. I'm not going to turn one down, but

1026
00:47:18,239 --> 00:47:22,000
Speaker 6: like it's I just think that like he's like demanding

1027
00:47:22,160 --> 00:47:25,960
Speaker 6: that specifically, there's a really weird hang up there. This

1028
00:47:26,080 --> 00:47:28,120
Speaker 6: man needs therapy so badly, right.

1029
00:47:28,200 --> 00:47:32,200
Speaker 4: He's demanding that. He's not demanding Yeah, exactly, that's it.

1030
00:47:32,320 --> 00:47:33,719
Speaker 4: That's really it's an interesting thing.

1031
00:47:33,920 --> 00:47:35,160
Speaker 3: It is an interesting point.

1032
00:47:35,280 --> 00:47:39,680
Speaker 2: But I also feel maybe, and I'm not defending him,

1033
00:47:39,680 --> 00:47:41,880
Speaker 2: I'm just playing Devil's advocate, and maybe she's like, I

1034
00:47:41,960 --> 00:47:46,839
Speaker 2: don't want I don't need or want sex because that's

1035
00:47:46,880 --> 00:47:49,880
Speaker 2: her decision if she wants intercourse. So it could be

1036
00:47:50,000 --> 00:47:52,560
Speaker 2: that he like knows she doesn't want that. So he's like, well,

1037
00:47:53,160 --> 00:47:56,120
Speaker 2: could be I need something and that's what makes me

1038
00:47:56,239 --> 00:47:59,080
Speaker 2: feel good. But I'm the same way as you Easton,

1039
00:47:59,160 --> 00:48:01,839
Speaker 2: and like a relation, like if you're constantly it's tit

1040
00:48:01,960 --> 00:48:04,840
Speaker 2: for tat every single time you do something, because like

1041
00:48:05,000 --> 00:48:08,080
Speaker 2: there's so many stay at home moms who keep the

1042
00:48:08,160 --> 00:48:11,080
Speaker 2: house cleaner, watch keep the kids alive, and watch the

1043
00:48:11,200 --> 00:48:15,560
Speaker 2: kids who are exhausted by the time their partner gets home,

1044
00:48:15,640 --> 00:48:19,200
Speaker 2: who may be making the money financially, and the last

1045
00:48:19,239 --> 00:48:21,520
Speaker 2: thing they want to do is have a scheduled amount

1046
00:48:21,560 --> 00:48:26,200
Speaker 2: of times for bjs because their husband needs that because

1047
00:48:26,239 --> 00:48:29,360
Speaker 2: he's bringing in the money. So I just felt like

1048
00:48:30,000 --> 00:48:33,759
Speaker 2: rageful for the people who the women who stay home

1049
00:48:33,880 --> 00:48:37,120
Speaker 2: and like that's their job and it's so valuable and important,

1050
00:48:37,480 --> 00:48:41,759
Speaker 2: and just because it's not the same financial income to

1051
00:48:41,920 --> 00:48:45,719
Speaker 2: make it seem like he could leverage that, I don't know,

1052
00:48:46,360 --> 00:48:48,080
Speaker 2: just sat with It didn't sit well with me.

1053
00:48:49,040 --> 00:48:52,080
Speaker 1: It's not sitting well with me either, And let me

1054
00:48:52,120 --> 00:48:56,600
Speaker 1: tell you why, because first of all, tying sexual anything

1055
00:48:56,840 --> 00:49:02,080
Speaker 1: to money is so beyond and like I've not married

1056
00:49:02,120 --> 00:49:04,320
Speaker 1: and never been married, but that's not marriage to me,

1057
00:49:04,719 --> 00:49:06,759
Speaker 1: Like I just that can't even wrap my head around that.

1058
00:49:07,440 --> 00:49:09,239
Speaker 1: I think when you're in a partnership and you're in

1059
00:49:09,280 --> 00:49:12,840
Speaker 1: a loving, committed relationship, you should both be wanting to

1060
00:49:13,080 --> 00:49:18,080
Speaker 1: please the other person sexually. And it like for me,

1061
00:49:18,320 --> 00:49:20,520
Speaker 1: I like giving BJ so I offer to do it

1062
00:49:20,560 --> 00:49:22,239
Speaker 1: all the time because I just like like it. I

1063
00:49:22,280 --> 00:49:24,080
Speaker 1: also like doing other things all the time, do you

1064
00:49:24,120 --> 00:49:26,640
Speaker 1: know what I mean? So to me, it's not like

1065
00:49:26,760 --> 00:49:29,400
Speaker 1: I just want to make sure that and he can

1066
00:49:29,440 --> 00:49:31,080
Speaker 1: say if he wants or if he doesn't want whatever,

1067
00:49:31,920 --> 00:49:34,440
Speaker 1: but I never want that to be tied was if

1068
00:49:34,480 --> 00:49:37,920
Speaker 1: that was ever tied to some financial part of anything,

1069
00:49:38,120 --> 00:49:41,239
Speaker 1: I would feel the complete opposite. I would never want

1070
00:49:41,280 --> 00:49:43,640
Speaker 1: to do it. I would start resenting him. I would like,

1071
00:49:44,680 --> 00:49:46,080
Speaker 1: I just feel like that's not the way to go

1072
00:49:46,160 --> 00:49:49,600
Speaker 1: about it. And then second of all, I have this

1073
00:49:49,800 --> 00:49:55,040
Speaker 1: thing where I feel like, whatever, the way that you

1074
00:49:55,680 --> 00:49:57,520
Speaker 1: want to be in a marriage is up to you

1075
00:49:57,640 --> 00:50:01,720
Speaker 1: if you want to. You know, if there is a money,

1076
00:50:03,120 --> 00:50:05,279
Speaker 1: you know, some person brings in a lot more money

1077
00:50:05,320 --> 00:50:08,360
Speaker 1: than the other. I think as long as you, I

1078
00:50:08,440 --> 00:50:10,800
Speaker 1: think that you lose a bit of yourself when you

1079
00:50:10,880 --> 00:50:15,120
Speaker 1: are completely dependent on somebody else. So I feel like

1080
00:50:15,280 --> 00:50:18,080
Speaker 1: I have a girlfriend who her husband makes a lot

1081
00:50:18,120 --> 00:50:20,000
Speaker 1: of money and she doesn't need to work. So she

1082
00:50:20,120 --> 00:50:22,600
Speaker 1: quit her job, her corporate job, because it was she

1083
00:50:22,840 --> 00:50:26,360
Speaker 1: was just losing herself, which I get it right, and

1084
00:50:26,400 --> 00:50:31,000
Speaker 1: she didn't need to work, and nothing bad happened in

1085
00:50:31,080 --> 00:50:34,080
Speaker 1: their in their marriage, but she basically was like, I

1086
00:50:34,520 --> 00:50:35,000
Speaker 1: want to.

1087
00:50:36,040 --> 00:50:38,960
Speaker 3: Make something, even if it's a little bit, a little.

1088
00:50:38,800 --> 00:50:42,720
Speaker 1: Something, so that I am not completely dependent on another

1089
00:50:42,880 --> 00:50:46,319
Speaker 1: human being that's not myself. Because I think if you are,

1090
00:50:46,480 --> 00:50:48,800
Speaker 1: if you can be independent in a relationship, even in

1091
00:50:48,880 --> 00:50:52,440
Speaker 1: a twenty year marriage, there's something that just levels it out.

1092
00:50:52,600 --> 00:50:54,800
Speaker 1: So it's like, like she said that she does have

1093
00:50:54,880 --> 00:50:57,439
Speaker 1: a job, she is contributing, So I feel as though

1094
00:50:58,040 --> 00:51:00,200
Speaker 1: she didn't lose that part, because I think sometimes you

1095
00:51:00,239 --> 00:51:02,440
Speaker 1: lose that part, that's when things start to get shaky

1096
00:51:02,600 --> 00:51:04,239
Speaker 1: and you start to please the other person.

1097
00:51:04,320 --> 00:51:05,040
Speaker 3: You don't really.

1098
00:51:06,400 --> 00:51:08,040
Speaker 1: Have your own needs or wants. You just want to

1099
00:51:08,360 --> 00:51:12,080
Speaker 1: please the other person. So I don't know, I don't

1100
00:51:12,080 --> 00:51:13,440
Speaker 1: even know what I would do in this situation.

1101
00:51:14,040 --> 00:51:17,400
Speaker 2: Well, I think having a conversation because he might listen,

1102
00:51:17,920 --> 00:51:20,560
Speaker 2: I don't know him, and I would like to give

1103
00:51:20,800 --> 00:51:22,960
Speaker 2: him the benefit of the doubt. And she seems so

1104
00:51:23,360 --> 00:51:25,640
Speaker 2: like the way she presented it seemed like so sweet

1105
00:51:25,760 --> 00:51:29,880
Speaker 2: and like she was just genuinely seeking advice. And I

1106
00:51:30,320 --> 00:51:33,000
Speaker 2: hope for her sake that he's a better guy than

1107
00:51:33,040 --> 00:51:35,320
Speaker 2: it came across and the little information we got. But

1108
00:51:35,920 --> 00:51:38,200
Speaker 2: I think just having a conversation being like I just

1109
00:51:38,280 --> 00:51:39,799
Speaker 2: want you to know this is how it made me feel.

1110
00:51:39,880 --> 00:51:44,719
Speaker 2: Like we talked about not leveraging sex in money, and

1111
00:51:45,520 --> 00:51:49,720
Speaker 2: it it really hurt my feelings that like my worth

1112
00:51:49,960 --> 00:51:53,800
Speaker 2: in this sense is being connected to how many sexual

1113
00:51:53,920 --> 00:51:57,400
Speaker 2: favors I'm doing versus how much money I'm making compared

1114
00:51:57,440 --> 00:51:59,920
Speaker 2: to you, Like, I think having a conversation about it,

1115
00:52:00,000 --> 00:52:03,000
Speaker 2: and if he is does not accept it or isn't

1116
00:52:03,000 --> 00:52:05,799
Speaker 2: even willing to hear her out, then I think it's

1117
00:52:05,920 --> 00:52:12,320
Speaker 2: kind of like I can't one of Red Star's texts

1118
00:52:12,400 --> 00:52:13,160
Speaker 2: popped up on the.

1119
00:52:13,560 --> 00:52:16,120
Speaker 3: Computer and I don't know how to unsync my computer

1120
00:52:16,239 --> 00:52:16,920
Speaker 3: and really.

1121
00:52:16,840 --> 00:52:20,560
Speaker 2: Funny, not sexual, just funny. But yeah, I think having

1122
00:52:20,600 --> 00:52:23,080
Speaker 2: a conversation about it, because I do think if he

1123
00:52:23,320 --> 00:52:26,200
Speaker 2: came to her and said it in more of like, hey,

1124
00:52:26,880 --> 00:52:29,720
Speaker 2: I'm not expecting you to want to have like sex

1125
00:52:30,160 --> 00:52:33,040
Speaker 2: all the time if that isn't something you want all

1126
00:52:33,080 --> 00:52:37,480
Speaker 2: the time, but I have like needs and you know this,

1127
00:52:37,920 --> 00:52:40,120
Speaker 2: if we can maybe meet in the middle. But I

1128
00:52:40,160 --> 00:52:42,160
Speaker 2: don't know, I think it comes a lot to communicating.

1129
00:52:42,239 --> 00:52:44,400
Speaker 2: I just don't want her to feel like that's not

1130
00:52:44,560 --> 00:52:48,120
Speaker 2: healthy what's happening. In my opinion, Yeah, it's just.

1131
00:52:48,200 --> 00:52:50,520
Speaker 4: A conversation that they have to have separately. It's got

1132
00:52:50,640 --> 00:52:52,719
Speaker 4: to be you have to have your expectations in a

1133
00:52:52,719 --> 00:52:54,720
Speaker 4: relationship and you got to communicate those with your partner,

1134
00:52:54,760 --> 00:52:56,239
Speaker 4: and you got to figure out how it's going to

1135
00:52:56,280 --> 00:52:58,640
Speaker 4: work for both of you. It sounds like he wants

1136
00:52:58,680 --> 00:53:00,399
Speaker 4: a servant more than he wants a while the way

1137
00:53:00,440 --> 00:53:02,359
Speaker 4: that she wrote this, and again, hope that's not the case.

1138
00:53:03,280 --> 00:53:05,040
Speaker 4: They have to be. It's church and state. You got

1139
00:53:05,120 --> 00:53:07,080
Speaker 4: to have completely sat It's gotta be a wall up

1140
00:53:07,120 --> 00:53:10,440
Speaker 4: between those two sides of the relationship. But also, I

1141
00:53:10,680 --> 00:53:13,200
Speaker 4: don't like that she makes such a big deal out

1142
00:53:13,200 --> 00:53:14,920
Speaker 4: of the fact that he makes triple what she does.

1143
00:53:14,960 --> 00:53:17,360
Speaker 4: Who cares, it doesn't matter, all goes into one pile.

1144
00:53:17,520 --> 00:53:19,680
Speaker 4: That should never even be an issue. You're a team,

1145
00:53:19,880 --> 00:53:22,000
Speaker 4: like I've never you know, you always hear about these

1146
00:53:22,680 --> 00:53:24,960
Speaker 4: you know, CEOs or actors, whatever, and they get a

1147
00:53:25,000 --> 00:53:27,760
Speaker 4: divorce and the wife gets half the money. That always

1148
00:53:27,760 --> 00:53:30,160
Speaker 4: made sense to me because he's out working, but she's

1149
00:53:30,239 --> 00:53:31,880
Speaker 4: doing she's raising the kids, and she's doing all the

1150
00:53:31,880 --> 00:53:33,879
Speaker 4: stuff in the house or whatever it is. You're a team.

1151
00:53:33,960 --> 00:53:35,799
Speaker 4: All this stuff has to get done. You're just kind

1152
00:53:35,840 --> 00:53:38,920
Speaker 4: of dividing it up however it works. But she is

1153
00:53:38,960 --> 00:53:43,040
Speaker 4: an equal contributor to this relationship, even though she makes

1154
00:53:43,560 --> 00:53:45,560
Speaker 4: less than he does. It needs to be an equal

1155
00:53:45,600 --> 00:53:47,080
Speaker 4: partnership or it's never gonna work.

1156
00:53:47,280 --> 00:53:52,239
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I just sent you another post from this group. Well,

1157
00:53:52,280 --> 00:53:55,160
Speaker 2: I'm just seeking out advice column.

1158
00:53:58,320 --> 00:54:00,440
Speaker 4: I have not received. Oh here it is, Yeah, I

1159
00:54:00,480 --> 00:54:00,759
Speaker 4: hear it is.

1160
00:54:00,880 --> 00:54:03,839
Speaker 3: Well, that would just make me so mad, so mad.

1161
00:54:05,400 --> 00:54:07,000
Speaker 4: All right, I'm reading this one cold. Let's say what

1162
00:54:07,040 --> 00:54:10,520
Speaker 4: it is. Help my husband and ies right there, My

1163
00:54:10,640 --> 00:54:13,680
Speaker 4: husband and my sex life is not great. For context.

1164
00:54:13,760 --> 00:54:15,880
Speaker 4: On twenty six we're on kid number two. We've been

1165
00:54:15,880 --> 00:54:18,160
Speaker 4: married for over three years. We waited till we got

1166
00:54:18,239 --> 00:54:20,360
Speaker 4: memoried for each other. But prior to him, I had

1167
00:54:20,400 --> 00:54:22,160
Speaker 4: a long term boyfriend that I did sleep with, and

1168
00:54:22,239 --> 00:54:26,120
Speaker 4: shamefully to say, it was like, really really good. My

1169
00:54:26,280 --> 00:54:28,880
Speaker 4: husband is not experienced, which praise be that is so

1170
00:54:29,040 --> 00:54:30,960
Speaker 4: often and I'm proud of that, but he is scared

1171
00:54:31,000 --> 00:54:35,200
Speaker 4: to experiment. He doesn't touch me. He doesn't like me

1172
00:54:35,520 --> 00:54:39,840
Speaker 4: touching him. It's basically just kissing with his shirt on

1173
00:54:40,400 --> 00:54:42,919
Speaker 4: and then one position of the deed and then done.

1174
00:54:43,360 --> 00:54:45,799
Speaker 4: And let me tell you, my husband is smoking hot,

1175
00:54:45,880 --> 00:54:48,480
Speaker 4: so I don't think it's an insecurity thing. I wrote

1176
00:54:48,560 --> 00:54:50,680
Speaker 4: up the idea of getting a vibrator to get things

1177
00:54:50,760 --> 00:54:52,719
Speaker 4: going a little better, but last night when I wanted

1178
00:54:52,760 --> 00:54:54,799
Speaker 4: to bring it out, it was a hard no from him.

1179
00:54:55,360 --> 00:54:57,239
Speaker 4: He said it was weird, and after that we didn't

1180
00:54:57,239 --> 00:55:01,080
Speaker 4: even continue just went to bed. I'm sad, rustrated, discouraged.

1181
00:55:01,120 --> 00:55:03,120
Speaker 4: I'm not sure what to do. How do I spice

1182
00:55:03,160 --> 00:55:04,880
Speaker 4: things up with a husband that isn't willing to get

1183
00:55:04,880 --> 00:55:05,839
Speaker 4: out of his comfort zone.

1184
00:55:07,040 --> 00:55:12,719
Speaker 1: Well, for starters, save the toys. You need an icebreaker

1185
00:55:12,800 --> 00:55:14,839
Speaker 1: before he's bring his t shirt.

1186
00:55:14,880 --> 00:55:18,040
Speaker 3: While you're having sex and you bring out a toy, I'm.

1187
00:55:17,880 --> 00:55:21,359
Speaker 1: Gonna tell you he's gonna be like, no, sole, pump

1188
00:55:21,440 --> 00:55:23,520
Speaker 1: the brakes on the toys for a minute, just for

1189
00:55:23,600 --> 00:55:24,000
Speaker 1: a minute.

1190
00:55:24,040 --> 00:55:27,320
Speaker 2: I think the toy is more so that she's getting

1191
00:55:27,400 --> 00:55:30,320
Speaker 2: pleasure and he doesn't feel like the pressure of giving

1192
00:55:30,400 --> 00:55:32,479
Speaker 2: her the pleasure, like it all being on hymn.

1193
00:55:32,560 --> 00:55:33,719
Speaker 3: That's not what he sees it as.

1194
00:55:34,200 --> 00:55:36,680
Speaker 4: No, that's not what hes It makes him feel inadequate

1195
00:55:36,719 --> 00:55:37,640
Speaker 4: and it makes it Yeah.

1196
00:55:37,960 --> 00:55:41,920
Speaker 1: So I don't really this is I'm just this is

1197
00:55:42,000 --> 00:55:47,359
Speaker 1: my suggestion. Get super drunk. That's how good things always start.

1198
00:55:51,080 --> 00:55:56,239
Speaker 1: So get super drunk, and like I don't want to

1199
00:55:56,239 --> 00:55:58,719
Speaker 1: say talk dirty, but like tell him how hot he is,

1200
00:55:58,880 --> 00:56:01,880
Speaker 1: and like what he like that he burns your loins and.

1201
00:56:02,080 --> 00:56:06,719
Speaker 2: Like, don't say that that is not sexy, however she wants.

1202
00:56:06,560 --> 00:56:09,359
Speaker 1: To say it, but just like give him like dirty talk,

1203
00:56:09,480 --> 00:56:11,840
Speaker 1: like just make him feel super hot and like what

1204
00:56:12,080 --> 00:56:15,680
Speaker 1: he does to you internally, and I think that could

1205
00:56:15,760 --> 00:56:16,840
Speaker 1: rev his engines.

1206
00:56:17,040 --> 00:56:19,960
Speaker 2: Let's let the men talk about what they would want

1207
00:56:20,000 --> 00:56:21,600
Speaker 2: to hear burning the loins.

1208
00:56:23,880 --> 00:56:26,319
Speaker 6: I try to stay away from a burning sensation down there,

1209
00:56:26,400 --> 00:56:28,400
Speaker 6: that's the goal. Typically.

1210
00:56:30,360 --> 00:56:33,719
Speaker 2: I think this is really common, especially when you wait

1211
00:56:34,840 --> 00:56:38,320
Speaker 2: to have sex with one person, Like I think everyone

1212
00:56:38,480 --> 00:56:41,320
Speaker 2: goes through the like awkward, like I don't know what

1213
00:56:41,400 --> 00:56:44,880
Speaker 2: I'm doing, stress of having the first time, and it

1214
00:56:45,080 --> 00:56:46,800
Speaker 2: just happens to be that his first time was with

1215
00:56:46,920 --> 00:56:51,480
Speaker 2: his wife and so he's still maybe I don't know,

1216
00:56:51,560 --> 00:56:54,560
Speaker 2: maybe he hasn't found his confidence because he's been scared

1217
00:56:54,800 --> 00:56:59,040
Speaker 2: of the feeling of not performing to the ability that

1218
00:56:59,400 --> 00:56:59,839
Speaker 2: you want.

1219
00:57:00,360 --> 00:57:02,399
Speaker 1: You know, but he's only letting you be if only

1220
00:57:02,480 --> 00:57:04,960
Speaker 1: only doing it in one position, like flip around and

1221
00:57:05,040 --> 00:57:05,640
Speaker 1: be like haha.

1222
00:57:07,440 --> 00:57:09,600
Speaker 2: She said he doesn't want to touch her and he

1223
00:57:09,640 --> 00:57:10,680
Speaker 2: won't let her touch him.

1224
00:57:11,239 --> 00:57:13,800
Speaker 4: Well she put touching in quotes. I'm not sure what

1225
00:57:13,960 --> 00:57:14,360
Speaker 4: to make of.

1226
00:57:14,440 --> 00:57:18,120
Speaker 2: That, like like, well, no, I think they probably yeah,

1227
00:57:18,120 --> 00:57:18,840
Speaker 2: I'm thinking like.

1228
00:57:20,080 --> 00:57:21,920
Speaker 4: I read that it's digital stimulation.

1229
00:57:23,160 --> 00:57:23,640
Speaker 3: Digital.

1230
00:57:25,680 --> 00:57:29,080
Speaker 6: I love digital manipulation and stimulation. What's the what is

1231
00:57:29,160 --> 00:57:31,680
Speaker 6: that what do you This is a digit? This is

1232
00:57:31,720 --> 00:57:33,600
Speaker 6: a digit? Oh your fingers.

1233
00:57:34,160 --> 00:57:36,320
Speaker 3: So they just like put the weed, put it in.

1234
00:57:36,800 --> 00:57:37,120
Speaker 2: They just.

1235
00:57:38,720 --> 00:57:40,000
Speaker 3: Kiss and and she.

1236
00:57:40,000 --> 00:57:43,320
Speaker 2: Said basically he has his shirt on and they kiss

1237
00:57:43,440 --> 00:57:46,680
Speaker 2: and then one position which I'm assuming is missionary, and

1238
00:57:47,000 --> 00:57:49,760
Speaker 2: it's done. So it doesn't sound like she's really getting

1239
00:57:49,920 --> 00:57:53,919
Speaker 2: much from the sex experience.

1240
00:57:57,120 --> 00:57:57,800
Speaker 3: That's what I'm saying.

1241
00:57:57,920 --> 00:58:00,720
Speaker 1: She needs to know deep in thought is right now

1242
00:58:01,080 --> 00:58:04,320
Speaker 1: I'm trusting here out how she can like really do

1243
00:58:04,520 --> 00:58:06,440
Speaker 1: it in the moment to where I.

1244
00:58:06,520 --> 00:58:08,440
Speaker 4: See, that's the thing. I think that's the mistake. You're

1245
00:58:08,480 --> 00:58:09,920
Speaker 4: doing it in the moment. I think you guys have

1246
00:58:10,000 --> 00:58:12,080
Speaker 4: to have a conversation that's removed from all of it,

1247
00:58:12,640 --> 00:58:14,280
Speaker 4: and we need to get into a little bit why

1248
00:58:14,400 --> 00:58:16,520
Speaker 4: he's like this. And you may know why he's like this.

1249
00:58:16,680 --> 00:58:20,520
Speaker 4: Maybe he's deeply religious and feels like he's doing something wrong.

1250
00:58:21,880 --> 00:58:25,880
Speaker 4: Maybe he's insecure. Look, the hottest guys have insecurities. Everybody

1251
00:58:25,960 --> 00:58:28,400
Speaker 4: has insecurities. It could be that there could be some

1252
00:58:28,840 --> 00:58:31,000
Speaker 4: shame that's associated with it, that was inflicted by his

1253
00:58:31,120 --> 00:58:33,120
Speaker 4: parents or something. So I think a lot of conversation.

1254
00:58:33,440 --> 00:58:36,080
Speaker 4: I think therapy would be great, but conversation is going

1255
00:58:36,160 --> 00:58:37,960
Speaker 4: to help you get closer to it. And it might

1256
00:58:38,000 --> 00:58:40,000
Speaker 4: be as simple as a conversation of finding out what

1257
00:58:40,200 --> 00:58:42,520
Speaker 4: he likes, what he would be into, but doing it

1258
00:58:42,880 --> 00:58:45,920
Speaker 4: far removed from a bedroom, closed removal situation that's going

1259
00:58:46,000 --> 00:58:47,320
Speaker 4: to make him freeze up.

1260
00:58:47,880 --> 00:58:50,840
Speaker 2: I will say, there is so if he if they're religious,

1261
00:58:50,920 --> 00:58:53,960
Speaker 2: which I mean normally the choice to wait until marriage

1262
00:58:54,040 --> 00:58:57,760
Speaker 2: is normally associated with religion, and there's a lot of

1263
00:58:57,920 --> 00:59:04,120
Speaker 2: shame and guilt, specifically in the church and religion associated

1264
00:59:04,160 --> 00:59:08,480
Speaker 2: with sex and like using toys and masturbation, Like there's

1265
00:59:08,600 --> 00:59:11,240
Speaker 2: so much guilt and shame associated with that that he's

1266
00:59:11,360 --> 00:59:13,600
Speaker 2: still even though he's married and doing it in the

1267
00:59:13,720 --> 00:59:18,080
Speaker 2: context with which you know religion says it's okay, he

1268
00:59:18,400 --> 00:59:23,120
Speaker 2: still can't get over what has been ingrained in him

1269
00:59:23,240 --> 00:59:23,560
Speaker 2: about it.

1270
00:59:23,640 --> 00:59:24,800
Speaker 4: It's hard to flip that switch.

1271
00:59:25,040 --> 00:59:28,280
Speaker 2: It's so I mean, I believe me. I speak from experience,

1272
00:59:28,400 --> 00:59:31,280
Speaker 2: not so much in the same area, but even like

1273
00:59:31,640 --> 00:59:33,920
Speaker 2: being a virgin and choosing to wait, and then when

1274
00:59:34,000 --> 00:59:36,800
Speaker 2: I had sex, like the guilt and shame I felt, yeah,

1275
00:59:36,920 --> 00:59:39,320
Speaker 2: And it's like it really is ingrained in you, and

1276
00:59:39,480 --> 00:59:42,960
Speaker 2: like it's not like all the sudden you can get

1277
00:59:43,120 --> 00:59:45,640
Speaker 2: married and just like turn it off. Like for some people,

1278
00:59:45,760 --> 00:59:49,120
Speaker 2: it's not that easy. So I agree with Mark. I

1279
00:59:49,160 --> 00:59:51,880
Speaker 2: think it's having a conversation that's not in the moment

1280
00:59:52,040 --> 00:59:54,960
Speaker 2: or in the bedroom. I think it's talking about it

1281
00:59:55,080 --> 00:59:57,840
Speaker 2: and being honest. And I do think seeing a counselor

1282
00:59:57,880 --> 01:00:00,560
Speaker 2: or therapist whatever, even if it's through your te or

1283
01:00:00,760 --> 01:00:04,640
Speaker 2: if it is if you're religious, talking to someone about

1284
01:00:04,680 --> 01:00:07,520
Speaker 2: it who can help, because eventually that is going to

1285
01:00:07,560 --> 01:00:11,840
Speaker 2: be a problem and you're gonna maybe start hiding and

1286
01:00:12,320 --> 01:00:18,200
Speaker 2: doing things on your own. Like that makes that forms

1287
01:00:18,280 --> 01:00:20,680
Speaker 2: like a what am I trying to say, like a

1288
01:00:23,120 --> 01:00:24,640
Speaker 2: tough spot in nails relationship?

1289
01:00:24,840 --> 01:00:27,360
Speaker 1: Like if I'm just saying, I think you guys are

1290
01:00:27,600 --> 01:00:32,120
Speaker 1: really not giving a credit to a nice little sexy

1291
01:00:32,240 --> 01:00:35,080
Speaker 1: lingerie outfit with some stiletto's.

1292
01:00:35,240 --> 01:00:37,680
Speaker 3: And I know, a dance show.

1293
01:00:39,400 --> 01:00:40,240
Speaker 2: Do you know what? Do you know?

1294
01:00:40,360 --> 01:00:41,880
Speaker 3: What that thing does to.

1295
01:00:44,200 --> 01:00:46,280
Speaker 4: His wife is like being like a stripper. It's gonna

1296
01:00:46,280 --> 01:00:50,720
Speaker 4: make him really uncomfortable. And what if stripper, that's what

1297
01:00:50,800 --> 01:00:51,680
Speaker 4: it sounds like you're doing.

1298
01:00:53,920 --> 01:00:57,360
Speaker 2: But what if what if that's not what is missing

1299
01:00:57,480 --> 01:00:59,280
Speaker 2: for him? And then he doesn't react the way she

1300
01:00:59,360 --> 01:01:01,080
Speaker 2: needs and then her she's like hurt.

1301
01:01:03,360 --> 01:01:05,960
Speaker 4: And that's what will happen. Yeah, and she'll be vera rejected.

1302
01:01:07,080 --> 01:01:09,040
Speaker 4: I think, you know, I've said this kind of happened

1303
01:01:09,040 --> 01:01:10,120
Speaker 4: to me. You know, when I was a kid, I

1304
01:01:10,240 --> 01:01:13,040
Speaker 4: was told drinking is wrong, drugs are wrong, smoking is wrong,

1305
01:01:13,120 --> 01:01:15,200
Speaker 4: coffee is wrong. Because I was like five, and that

1306
01:01:15,320 --> 01:01:18,160
Speaker 4: switch never flipped for me. And now I'm almost fifty

1307
01:01:18,480 --> 01:01:20,520
Speaker 4: and I still don't do any of those things because

1308
01:01:20,520 --> 01:01:23,080
Speaker 4: that switch is still on the wrong position. I think

1309
01:01:23,120 --> 01:01:25,040
Speaker 4: this guy just needs time. I think I think you've

1310
01:01:25,160 --> 01:01:26,600
Speaker 4: not been married that long. I think it's going to

1311
01:01:26,640 --> 01:01:27,840
Speaker 4: come around, but it's going to take a lot of

1312
01:01:27,880 --> 01:01:30,160
Speaker 4: conversation and a lot of time, a lot of baby steps.

1313
01:01:30,280 --> 01:01:33,400
Speaker 2: I thought I wasn't allowed to love Jennifer Aniston because

1314
01:01:33,440 --> 01:01:35,800
Speaker 2: I found out she smoked and I like cigarettes, and

1315
01:01:35,920 --> 01:01:37,760
Speaker 2: my mom had told me that that was really bad,

1316
01:01:37,880 --> 01:01:41,400
Speaker 2: and so like I always held onto that, like like,

1317
01:01:42,040 --> 01:01:44,480
Speaker 2: oh my gosh, she's like not a good role model

1318
01:01:44,560 --> 01:01:44,800
Speaker 2: for me.

1319
01:01:45,160 --> 01:01:46,480
Speaker 3: Does she still smokes cigarettes?

1320
01:01:46,840 --> 01:01:48,480
Speaker 2: I don't know, But who cares.

1321
01:01:49,040 --> 01:01:52,960
Speaker 3: I know that's interesting because she's so like yoga girl.

1322
01:01:53,280 --> 01:01:55,840
Speaker 4: Oh did you see the trailer for season two of

1323
01:01:55,880 --> 01:01:56,439
Speaker 4: the Morning Show?

1324
01:01:56,520 --> 01:01:57,360
Speaker 3: I haven't seen it yet.

1325
01:01:57,600 --> 01:01:59,240
Speaker 4: Oh that's really.

1326
01:01:59,040 --> 01:02:02,360
Speaker 2: Good anyways, anonymous. I hope that everything works out for

1327
01:02:02,440 --> 01:02:05,720
Speaker 2: both of our anonymous writers, because y'all both seem like

1328
01:02:06,600 --> 01:02:11,400
Speaker 2: awesome and your husbands just need a little some conversation,

1329
01:02:11,480 --> 01:02:13,400
Speaker 2: some hard conversations.

1330
01:02:14,400 --> 01:02:18,120
Speaker 3: And flip it. Flip it down, scrub it and reverse it.

1331
01:02:18,360 --> 01:02:20,480
Speaker 3: Just see what it does.

1332
01:02:21,040 --> 01:02:22,840
Speaker 2: You don't know, flip it down.

1333
01:02:23,640 --> 01:02:25,560
Speaker 3: If she's saying they only do it in one position,

1334
01:02:25,760 --> 01:02:29,840
Speaker 3: she can like flip around and like face another way.

1335
01:02:30,000 --> 01:02:32,840
Speaker 4: And he doesn't want he's going to be uncomfortable with that.

1336
01:02:33,000 --> 01:02:36,880
Speaker 3: Well, you know what, you know what happensable.

1337
01:02:37,120 --> 01:02:41,400
Speaker 4: Pedestal? Yeah, you know what I mean?

1338
01:02:41,560 --> 01:02:44,480
Speaker 3: Then let's get a pedestal and bring that in the bedroom.

1339
01:02:46,080 --> 01:02:47,560
Speaker 3: We're crown, I don't.

1340
01:02:47,440 --> 01:02:53,160
Speaker 2: Know, poor Red Star.

1341
01:02:55,080 --> 01:02:56,320
Speaker 4: Star actual.

1342
01:02:58,480 --> 01:03:01,200
Speaker 3: Exactly, Lucky Red Stars.

1343
01:03:02,600 --> 01:03:05,640
Speaker 4: When we get back to the shirts, then exactly.

1344
01:03:05,800 --> 01:03:08,160
Speaker 3: But in this case, it's not, it's the opposite.

1345
01:03:08,920 --> 01:03:11,800
Speaker 2: I'm just saying. Tanya's just like, turn around. Do you

1346
01:03:11,920 --> 01:03:16,400
Speaker 2: know what to do to my lloys? Do you know

1347
01:03:16,440 --> 01:03:21,160
Speaker 2: what that thing does to me? He's like, just turn around.

1348
01:03:25,320 --> 01:03:27,760
Speaker 1: Well, I feel like I always try and make like

1349
01:03:27,840 --> 01:03:30,760
Speaker 1: dirty jokes to the point now where like it's almost

1350
01:03:30,840 --> 01:03:33,760
Speaker 1: laughable and I'm like, this isn't quite what I was

1351
01:03:33,840 --> 01:03:35,320
Speaker 1: going for when I was you know.

1352
01:03:35,800 --> 01:03:38,000
Speaker 2: Will you please do me a favor? Okay, there's this

1353
01:03:38,200 --> 01:03:40,320
Speaker 2: like it was a while ago that it went viral,

1354
01:03:40,400 --> 01:03:42,120
Speaker 2: but I still see them every now and then where

1355
01:03:43,120 --> 01:03:45,760
Speaker 2: the couple will be at like a family function and

1356
01:03:45,880 --> 01:03:48,120
Speaker 2: the girl will send the guy like a really dirty

1357
01:03:48,200 --> 01:03:50,680
Speaker 2: text and film him like checking his phone, and the

1358
01:03:50,760 --> 01:03:54,680
Speaker 2: reactions are so funny. That's so good. You should do

1359
01:03:54,720 --> 01:03:55,720
Speaker 2: a real TikTok.

1360
01:03:57,920 --> 01:04:01,720
Speaker 3: Maybe I'll do it tonight, yeah, or just like for you.

1361
01:04:01,760 --> 01:04:04,560
Speaker 2: Know me, send it to me. Don't have to be public.

1362
01:04:04,600 --> 01:04:05,000
Speaker 2: I just wait.

1363
01:04:05,080 --> 01:04:06,560
Speaker 3: That could be funny because we're going to dinner with

1364
01:04:07,240 --> 01:04:07,760
Speaker 3: his cousin.

1365
01:04:07,920 --> 01:04:11,440
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, okay, all right, well, you know,

1366
01:04:11,640 --> 01:04:15,240
Speaker 2: unfortunately the time has come to end this podcast.

1367
01:04:15,520 --> 01:04:16,400
Speaker 3: Oh sucks.

1368
01:04:16,880 --> 01:04:19,480
Speaker 2: But it was a good one. I felt good about it.

1369
01:04:19,640 --> 01:04:20,960
Speaker 3: I don't even remember we talked about.

1370
01:04:20,960 --> 01:04:22,480
Speaker 2: It was a lot. There was a lot that we

1371
01:04:22,600 --> 01:04:27,520
Speaker 2: talked about. So I don't know either. But I hope

1372
01:04:27,560 --> 01:04:30,240
Speaker 2: you all have a great week and we'll be back

1373
01:04:30,320 --> 01:04:32,800
Speaker 2: next Monday. That's right, that's right.

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01:04:33,280 --> 01:04:34,040
Speaker 3: Bye bye.