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Speaker 1: All I'm doing is running my mouth for an hour

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Speaker 2: People are interested in listening to that. God bless you all.

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Speaker 1: Can I just say that this podcast is meant to connect, inspire,

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Speaker 1: maybe bring you a little joy. Also, my hope is

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Speaker 1: that we could just make the world a better place,

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Speaker 2: Right.

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Speaker 1: So, today I've been thinking a lot about those people.

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Speaker 1: We all have those people in our lives who send

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Speaker 1: us memes and reels on Instagram and TikTok's just all

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Speaker 1: day long, and it's like you can't keep up. You

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Speaker 1: But imagine you have multiple friends doing that, how and

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Speaker 2: And I'm like, which one? Which one? You've sent? So many?

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Speaker 1: It's they go together, I guys, it's a lot. Think

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Speaker 2: It's giving spam.

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Speaker 1: Maybe you say to your friend, hey, friend, you're giving

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Speaker 1: And of course, there are worse things in the world. Guys,

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Speaker 1: But boy, oh boy, getting an endless stream of reels

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Speaker 1: It's too much and when they have it so some friends,

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Speaker 1: I used to double tap just to be like, Okay,

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Speaker 1: No, And is it real us back in or rain

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Speaker 1: us back in? I don't know, honey, it's my podcast.

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Speaker 1: Something I'm gonna do very right though, is talk to

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Speaker 1: Wanda Sykes, the legend that she is.

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Speaker 2: is an absolute legend. Do you understand?

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Speaker 1: Actress, writer, comedian, producer, coming up in the final season

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Speaker 1: of The Upshaws this year and going on tour with

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Speaker 2: I'm hyping. I'm so excited. It's Wanda Sykes. Yay, thank you, Yes,

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Speaker 2: make some noise for what makes them real. Let's hear it.

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Speaker 2: Wanda Sykes in the building? Are you kidding me? Absolute legend?

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Speaker 2: One of my favorites.

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Speaker 1: My assistant texting me this morning was I have a

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Speaker 1: great time with miss Wanda. She's absolutely one of my favorites.

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Speaker 1: And I feel like everyone says that about you.

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Speaker 2: That's so sweet, but you would deserve it. You've been

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Speaker 2: working hard. I've been out here. I've been out here

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Speaker 1: So if I was like I like your blouse, which

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Speaker 1: I do, how would you you just say thank you?

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Speaker 2: Thank you? Okay? And we wouldn't tried to. I used to,

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Speaker 2: And sometime I have to go I didn't pick it out. Somebody,

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Speaker 1: Comes like, yeah, it was just ten dollars that you

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Speaker 1: I just just listen. I'm making you uncomfortable. I just

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Speaker 2: wonder do you have anything anyone you want to say?

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Speaker 2: Thank you too? I want to say thank you because

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Speaker 1: We don't have the heart, but can I ask about it?

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Speaker 2: Be sure that? That was amazing, right, it was amazing.

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Speaker 2: I'll just say it was amazing. You don't want to

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Speaker 2: That's beautiful. Susan, chief of staff for ES Psychs. We

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Speaker 1: I love to hear that because I imagine a person

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Speaker 1: I didn't tell anybody. I said, yeah, just moved out

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like Dundalk, Oh, Dundalk. Oh my goodness.

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Speaker 1: And my brother so I grew up with people who

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Speaker 1: Okay, so they did know the finance yecause I'll tell

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Speaker 1: How many siblings do you have?

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Speaker 2: Just want one older brother? Were you too close? Yeah? Okay, yes, right,

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Speaker 2: that's beautiful, and then your mom we can go forever

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Speaker 2: I'm just trying to think. I don't No, that hasn't happened.

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Speaker 2: And I'm like, oh, really, you're gonna make this about you? Right,

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Speaker 1: from this clinic, the fertility clinic or whatever. And they

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00:22:12,920 --> 00:22:15,679
Speaker 1: gave me a box of stuff. I was like, presumably

430
00:22:15,800 --> 00:22:17,520
Speaker 1: all of the things are here, because I don't know

431
00:22:17,600 --> 00:22:19,520
Speaker 1: what any of it is. It's like reading foreign language.

432
00:22:19,600 --> 00:22:19,879
Speaker 2: Okay.

433
00:22:20,520 --> 00:22:23,200
Speaker 1: So on the last day, I've done everything diligently. I

434
00:22:23,240 --> 00:22:25,600
Speaker 1: even left a dinner party once to go give myself

435
00:22:25,680 --> 00:22:26,960
Speaker 1: my shot right at seven pm.

436
00:22:27,160 --> 00:22:29,000
Speaker 2: I was like, I'll be back, gotta go give myself

437
00:22:29,040 --> 00:22:29,439
Speaker 2: a shot in.

438
00:22:29,480 --> 00:22:33,120
Speaker 1: The belly, and so so diligent. And on the last

439
00:22:33,240 --> 00:22:36,080
Speaker 1: day where I went, you're supposed to do two shots

440
00:22:36,119 --> 00:22:38,400
Speaker 1: on the last day, right before they do the retrieval

441
00:22:38,480 --> 00:22:42,200
Speaker 1: the next day, and I go to and I was like, well,

442
00:22:42,280 --> 00:22:44,119
Speaker 1: thank god, I haven't had any moments because I know

443
00:22:44,200 --> 00:22:46,800
Speaker 1: I'm full of hormones and I've been told I could

444
00:22:46,840 --> 00:22:49,359
Speaker 1: get emotional. I'm like, I haven't gotten emotional. Well, I

445
00:22:49,520 --> 00:22:51,640
Speaker 1: go to look in the fridge on the last day

446
00:22:52,119 --> 00:22:53,840
Speaker 1: and it's ten forty five when I'm supposed to give

447
00:22:53,840 --> 00:22:54,760
Speaker 1: myself the shot PM.

448
00:22:55,240 --> 00:22:55,680
Speaker 2: I opened.

449
00:22:55,680 --> 00:22:59,040
Speaker 1: There's one shot in there. There's like one thing, and

450
00:22:59,119 --> 00:23:00,760
Speaker 1: they had given me multi to pull up the thing,

451
00:23:01,040 --> 00:23:03,480
Speaker 1: the one version, so I didn't notice that this other

452
00:23:03,800 --> 00:23:05,840
Speaker 1: injection was not in there.

453
00:23:06,680 --> 00:23:07,080
Speaker 2: Wanda.

454
00:23:07,760 --> 00:23:11,000
Speaker 1: I was like your mom that day, why god, I

455
00:23:11,119 --> 00:23:12,680
Speaker 1: think I just think. I called my sister and I

456
00:23:12,680 --> 00:23:15,920
Speaker 1: remember sliding down the wall and had this awareness like

457
00:23:15,960 --> 00:23:18,520
Speaker 1: you're doing too much, but I couldn't stop it. I

458
00:23:18,720 --> 00:23:22,040
Speaker 1: was like, you're being so dramatic, but I could not

459
00:23:22,200 --> 00:23:23,160
Speaker 1: get myself to stop.

460
00:23:23,240 --> 00:23:26,960
Speaker 2: I was like, the other shot is missing. But again,

461
00:23:27,480 --> 00:23:31,920
Speaker 2: like your mother, I've made this about me and we're

462
00:23:31,920 --> 00:23:35,240
Speaker 2: gonna go back to you. Ok I enjoyed it.

463
00:23:45,800 --> 00:23:50,639
Speaker 1: Was your brother, supportive of you always. Okay, okay. You

464
00:23:50,760 --> 00:23:53,080
Speaker 1: seem to have a lot of grace though, does that?

465
00:23:53,359 --> 00:23:56,040
Speaker 1: See MACI because you have to, you know, it's.

466
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Speaker 3: You do.

467
00:23:57,960 --> 00:24:00,920
Speaker 2: You have to give people grace exactly how you know

468
00:24:01,200 --> 00:24:04,240
Speaker 2: grace has been given to you. So I yeah, I

469
00:24:04,440 --> 00:24:07,680
Speaker 2: try to do that and that makes sense. Yeah, let people,

470
00:24:07,840 --> 00:24:11,240
Speaker 2: let people work through this stuff and you're patient that

471
00:24:11,720 --> 00:24:17,840
Speaker 2: Oh no, well I am. I am to an extent,

472
00:24:18,359 --> 00:24:22,920
Speaker 2: you know. Uh, but my patience isn't I want to

473
00:24:22,960 --> 00:24:25,640
Speaker 2: sit here and be patient with them. My patient is, girl,

474
00:24:25,680 --> 00:24:28,560
Speaker 2: I haint got time for that, right, That's that's my patience. Okay,

475
00:24:28,640 --> 00:24:30,440
Speaker 2: that's why I'm gonna let you deal with d I

476
00:24:30,600 --> 00:24:32,960
Speaker 2: got time I don't have, but I love it.

477
00:24:33,000 --> 00:24:35,800
Speaker 1: It's boundaries though, and then people always kind of come around,

478
00:24:35,960 --> 00:24:37,119
Speaker 1: right they always do.

479
00:24:37,560 --> 00:24:40,480
Speaker 2: That's really beautiful. Yeah, you have kids wander yes, okay,

480
00:24:40,480 --> 00:24:45,840
Speaker 2: how many twins? Twins? Sixteen year olds old? Are they driving? Yeah?

481
00:24:46,119 --> 00:24:49,919
Speaker 2: They just got their learners permit and my daughter's driving.

482
00:24:50,840 --> 00:24:54,600
Speaker 2: Uh and but my son he's off doing other stuff

483
00:24:54,680 --> 00:24:56,480
Speaker 2: right now. He doesn't worry about driving. He's not worried

484
00:24:56,480 --> 00:24:56,920
Speaker 2: about driving.

485
00:24:56,960 --> 00:24:59,119
Speaker 1: I always find that so interesting because when I was

486
00:24:59,760 --> 00:25:01,959
Speaker 1: in Maryland, is fifteen and nine months you could get

487
00:25:02,000 --> 00:25:06,000
Speaker 1: your perm, you remember, Okay, I at fifteen and nine months,

488
00:25:06,080 --> 00:25:08,359
Speaker 1: like Mayday's March tenth, April tenth.

489
00:25:08,520 --> 00:25:11,520
Speaker 2: I was there, Yeah, is that correct? Fifteen and nine months.

490
00:25:11,680 --> 00:25:14,040
Speaker 1: I'm doing math wrong. But anyway, point is fifteen and

491
00:25:14,119 --> 00:25:16,200
Speaker 1: nine months. I was like, I'm off, I'm getting my

492
00:25:16,359 --> 00:25:18,760
Speaker 1: I'm getting my permit today. I wanted I wanted to

493
00:25:18,840 --> 00:25:21,560
Speaker 1: drive so badly. I wanted the independence. I wanted to

494
00:25:21,560 --> 00:25:24,159
Speaker 1: be able to skirt myself around. And so anytime I

495
00:25:24,240 --> 00:25:26,639
Speaker 1: meet someone grown, I know so many grown people, especially

496
00:25:26,640 --> 00:25:27,879
Speaker 1: because I live in New York. You're like, I've never

497
00:25:28,000 --> 00:25:30,240
Speaker 1: driven a card and I don't have interest.

498
00:25:30,359 --> 00:25:33,560
Speaker 2: Isn't that crazy? It's crazy to me. It's crazy to me.

499
00:25:33,760 --> 00:25:35,920
Speaker 1: Some of them have moved here, even to LA and

500
00:25:36,040 --> 00:25:38,840
Speaker 1: they're like, I just I don't I'm not interested in

501
00:25:38,960 --> 00:25:40,720
Speaker 1: learning how to drive. And I'm like, that's all I

502
00:25:40,840 --> 00:25:43,080
Speaker 1: ever wanted was to drive. So your son is like that,

503
00:25:43,160 --> 00:25:44,040
Speaker 1: He's like, I'm not dripping.

504
00:25:44,800 --> 00:25:49,399
Speaker 2: Yeah. Also, he's going to school in France right now.

505
00:25:49,640 --> 00:25:53,080
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, So he's like, when I get back here.

506
00:25:53,160 --> 00:25:55,000
Speaker 1: Okay, do you think he'll be I feel like he's

507
00:25:55,080 --> 00:25:56,760
Speaker 1: going to come back here and be like I don't care.

508
00:25:58,119 --> 00:26:01,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, You're like, I'm not doing or not doing it.

509
00:26:01,320 --> 00:26:04,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, So as being a parent made you more patient

510
00:26:04,760 --> 00:26:07,560
Speaker 1: than you maybe were before you had kids, I.

511
00:26:07,600 --> 00:26:10,640
Speaker 2: Think so, yes, yeah, I think so in what way

512
00:26:11,080 --> 00:26:17,440
Speaker 2: is it more patient? Or I think it's being a

513
00:26:17,680 --> 00:26:23,880
Speaker 2: parent you have have to put in your mind that, uh,

514
00:26:24,680 --> 00:26:29,960
Speaker 2: you're not the most important thing. You're you know, like whatever,

515
00:26:30,000 --> 00:26:31,800
Speaker 2: Oh yeah that's might might be what you want, but

516
00:26:31,960 --> 00:26:35,560
Speaker 2: it's not happening and you just have to put yourself

517
00:26:35,600 --> 00:26:38,560
Speaker 2: on the back burner for a minute. Yeah. Yeah, so

518
00:26:38,720 --> 00:26:41,119
Speaker 2: it's not patience, it's just okay.

519
00:26:41,720 --> 00:26:44,879
Speaker 1: It's almost like surrender in a sense, like surrender and

520
00:26:44,960 --> 00:26:48,680
Speaker 1: be like yeah, because I think about parenting, it's good that.

521
00:26:48,800 --> 00:26:50,879
Speaker 1: I mean, if you could learn surrender and if I

522
00:26:50,880 --> 00:26:53,200
Speaker 1: could learn surrender in other ways in my life, things

523
00:26:53,240 --> 00:26:56,159
Speaker 1: would just be better all around. But I'm like you,

524
00:26:56,760 --> 00:26:59,560
Speaker 1: as an individual without kids, I'm like, yeah, everything is

525
00:26:59,680 --> 00:27:02,040
Speaker 1: kind of in my world kind of when I would

526
00:27:02,119 --> 00:27:04,919
Speaker 1: like to do the thing contingent upon other people occasionally,

527
00:27:05,080 --> 00:27:07,000
Speaker 1: right right, But I'm like, everything's like when I would

528
00:27:07,040 --> 00:27:08,440
Speaker 1: like to do the thing how I would like to

529
00:27:08,520 --> 00:27:11,240
Speaker 1: do the thing in my space, and when you think

530
00:27:11,240 --> 00:27:14,600
Speaker 1: about being responsible for another I have a dog, and

531
00:27:14,720 --> 00:27:15,960
Speaker 1: even that has made me.

532
00:27:16,240 --> 00:27:18,840
Speaker 2: So sweet Angelo. His name is Chief he is. Do

533
00:27:18,880 --> 00:27:21,560
Speaker 2: you have any dogs I had? I had? Yeah, I

534
00:27:21,640 --> 00:27:27,280
Speaker 2: had a dog, Riley. He was almost eighteen years. Still

535
00:27:27,320 --> 00:27:29,480
Speaker 2: miss him. He's been going with four years. And then

536
00:27:30,160 --> 00:27:34,879
Speaker 2: we had a a Chihuahua, Simon, and just back in

537
00:27:34,960 --> 00:27:37,280
Speaker 2: August had to say goodbye to him. I'm sorry, I'm

538
00:27:37,320 --> 00:27:38,480
Speaker 2: so he was almost nineteen.

539
00:27:38,600 --> 00:27:40,720
Speaker 1: Oh wow, you spend a long time with them. I

540
00:27:40,760 --> 00:27:42,119
Speaker 1: mean when I first got my puppy, because I got

541
00:27:42,320 --> 00:27:45,359
Speaker 1: his puppy, I was like, I, yes, everything right now

542
00:27:45,640 --> 00:27:47,960
Speaker 1: is not about me, and I'm kind of having to

543
00:27:49,160 --> 00:27:51,920
Speaker 1: change my schedule because I've raised that little dog. Yeah,

544
00:27:52,000 --> 00:27:53,840
Speaker 1: but I'm like, this is a good practice for me

545
00:27:53,880 --> 00:27:56,320
Speaker 1: a person who wants children. I'm like to go, I

546
00:27:56,480 --> 00:27:59,520
Speaker 1: have to keep you in mind. And some things like

547
00:27:59,640 --> 00:28:03,440
Speaker 1: him having diarrhea or vomiting at the most inconvenient times,

548
00:28:03,480 --> 00:28:05,720
Speaker 1: and I'm like, this is right now what I was

549
00:28:05,800 --> 00:28:08,920
Speaker 1: about to go do drop back burner to attend to you.

550
00:28:09,320 --> 00:28:11,720
Speaker 1: I do think it sounds silly, but I'm like, I

551
00:28:11,800 --> 00:28:13,400
Speaker 1: do really think it's kind of practice.

552
00:28:13,480 --> 00:28:16,800
Speaker 2: No, You're absolutely right. I thought that with with Riley.

553
00:28:17,040 --> 00:28:20,440
Speaker 2: Why when I met my wife, I had Riley, and

554
00:28:21,400 --> 00:28:24,639
Speaker 2: uh I don't think if I had if I hadn't

555
00:28:24,880 --> 00:28:32,000
Speaker 2: had right Riley, I wouldn't have been in any shape too. Okay, Yeah,

556
00:28:32,320 --> 00:28:37,440
Speaker 2: they have this relationship and kids and all that. It's

557
00:28:37,520 --> 00:28:39,640
Speaker 2: crazy how that I've been out here in these streets.

558
00:28:40,400 --> 00:28:45,520
Speaker 2: If I had Riley made me go home.

559
00:28:45,920 --> 00:28:52,760
Speaker 1: Really also want there is nothing outside nothing nothing, And

560
00:28:52,840 --> 00:28:54,400
Speaker 1: I know that you know that now, but for other

561
00:28:54,440 --> 00:28:56,720
Speaker 1: people who are back, but back.

562
00:28:56,600 --> 00:28:58,960
Speaker 2: Then, was there stuff outside? Back then, there was a

563
00:28:59,000 --> 00:29:01,200
Speaker 2: lot out I wish I would been grown up back then.

564
00:29:02,360 --> 00:29:04,840
Speaker 2: Tell me about it. What was outside it was?

565
00:29:05,760 --> 00:29:10,640
Speaker 1: Wait, tell me our spots and all. There's nothing now.

566
00:29:10,720 --> 00:29:13,480
Speaker 1: You want to be at home with your Yeah, and

567
00:29:13,560 --> 00:29:16,160
Speaker 1: I similarly right, and I'm and I don't have the

568
00:29:16,240 --> 00:29:18,360
Speaker 1: partner and the kids. But I'm like, just let me

569
00:29:18,440 --> 00:29:20,640
Speaker 1: be at the house with my dog. When I got him,

570
00:29:20,680 --> 00:29:23,880
Speaker 1: though at first, I was like, this is a huge

571
00:29:23,920 --> 00:29:26,480
Speaker 1: responsibility that I feel like people won't speak about enough.

572
00:29:26,560 --> 00:29:29,760
Speaker 1: Getting a puppy. Did you have Riley as a puppy? Yes, yeah,

573
00:29:29,880 --> 00:29:32,480
Speaker 1: that is a lot of responsibility because everyone's like, here's

574
00:29:32,520 --> 00:29:34,000
Speaker 1: my cute dog, here's a picture of my dog.

575
00:29:34,400 --> 00:29:36,000
Speaker 2: I'm walking my dog. That's nice.

576
00:29:36,040 --> 00:29:38,640
Speaker 1: But then the reality of it is like waking up

577
00:29:38,720 --> 00:29:41,360
Speaker 1: every three hours because this little animal that is either

578
00:29:41,440 --> 00:29:44,800
Speaker 1: gonna pooh and pee all over your home needs to

579
00:29:44,880 --> 00:29:46,360
Speaker 1: go or you're gonna let them do it on your

580
00:29:46,440 --> 00:29:49,400
Speaker 1: run again for the hundredth time. I just remember being like,

581
00:29:49,480 --> 00:29:50,160
Speaker 1: what have I done?

582
00:29:50,240 --> 00:29:51,480
Speaker 2: I might need to give him back.

583
00:29:52,760 --> 00:29:54,640
Speaker 1: I mean, that's the truth. And since he's a dog,

584
00:29:54,720 --> 00:29:56,600
Speaker 1: he'll never know that I thought that. But I'm just

585
00:29:56,680 --> 00:29:58,800
Speaker 1: confessing here, and I'd have friends who have.

586
00:29:58,800 --> 00:30:01,240
Speaker 2: Had to give dogs back. They're like, I didn't realize

587
00:30:01,240 --> 00:30:03,520
Speaker 2: it would be this much of a responsibility. That's funny

588
00:30:03,520 --> 00:30:07,200
Speaker 2: because I felt that when we brought the twins home

589
00:30:07,640 --> 00:30:12,600
Speaker 2: really because in the hospital it was it was good.

590
00:30:12,800 --> 00:30:16,360
Speaker 2: And then we got home and they were both napping

591
00:30:16,480 --> 00:30:19,040
Speaker 2: and I'm like looking at at Alex and we were like, oh,

592
00:30:19,120 --> 00:30:22,160
Speaker 2: this is cool. We got this. Then you know, they

593
00:30:22,720 --> 00:30:25,080
Speaker 2: they went on. They were cool and it was time

594
00:30:25,160 --> 00:30:26,680
Speaker 2: to go to bed. So as we put them in

595
00:30:26,720 --> 00:30:29,040
Speaker 2: the bed, we laid down and was like a I

596
00:30:29,120 --> 00:30:31,680
Speaker 2: was like, oh, I got this and the other one

597
00:30:31,760 --> 00:30:34,600
Speaker 2: so and then it came like both of them back

598
00:30:34,640 --> 00:30:37,000
Speaker 2: and forth, back and forth like this one no no,

599
00:30:37,080 --> 00:30:39,000
Speaker 2: no way, no no change, this one feet this will

600
00:30:39,800 --> 00:30:42,280
Speaker 2: And I really said, we might have to take one back,

601
00:30:42,400 --> 00:30:49,000
Speaker 2: because yeah, I said, we not one. It's a lot.

602
00:30:49,320 --> 00:30:52,560
Speaker 1: I mean they say like twins having twins in generational

603
00:30:52,640 --> 00:30:55,520
Speaker 1: two as well in genetics or something like that, and

604
00:30:55,640 --> 00:30:58,440
Speaker 1: I think my generation in my family is due for twins.

605
00:30:59,400 --> 00:31:01,400
Speaker 1: And I'm scared because I would I would be too

606
00:31:01,480 --> 00:31:03,880
Speaker 1: scared to have twins because exactly what you're describing. I

607
00:31:03,960 --> 00:31:06,000
Speaker 1: feel like my head would be spinning.

608
00:31:06,520 --> 00:31:08,320
Speaker 2: And that's what it was. You're like, we might have

609
00:31:08,400 --> 00:31:10,960
Speaker 2: to take one back. Yeah, we were lucky because the

610
00:31:13,360 --> 00:31:15,760
Speaker 2: telling all her business, because you don't have to say

611
00:31:15,800 --> 00:31:17,960
Speaker 2: the name. Yeah, because my wife was like, oh, we

612
00:31:18,040 --> 00:31:20,760
Speaker 2: can put we should put The doctor said that there's

613
00:31:20,800 --> 00:31:23,320
Speaker 2: three good eggs, so we should put maybe put the

614
00:31:23,400 --> 00:31:27,800
Speaker 2: three back. I said no, no, no, two was tops top.

615
00:31:30,360 --> 00:31:34,120
Speaker 2: He said, if we put two, we get one, we're winning. Yeah.

616
00:31:34,200 --> 00:31:37,960
Speaker 2: See we put two, Yeah, get two, okay, but we'll

617
00:31:38,040 --> 00:31:40,320
Speaker 2: do it. We got it, so glad you did. But

618
00:31:40,440 --> 00:31:45,040
Speaker 2: if we get three, one staying here, like one one

619
00:31:45,160 --> 00:31:48,880
Speaker 2: staying here, say that right now, I'm going to pray

620
00:31:48,960 --> 00:31:53,080
Speaker 2: for one of them to eat one. If we're not

621
00:31:53,240 --> 00:31:54,560
Speaker 2: doing this, we're not doing three.

622
00:31:54,880 --> 00:31:56,400
Speaker 1: But then you wouldn't even want to keep the baby

623
00:31:56,440 --> 00:31:57,920
Speaker 1: that ate the other baby, because you're like, that's a

624
00:31:58,000 --> 00:32:00,480
Speaker 1: different kind of baby, that's a different had a child

625
00:32:00,760 --> 00:32:02,920
Speaker 1: gonna grow up to be something something else.

626
00:32:03,440 --> 00:32:06,560
Speaker 2: I'm gonna gwup to be such true, I know that's twins. Twins.

627
00:32:06,720 --> 00:32:09,360
Speaker 1: God bless all the parents out there raising twins or

628
00:32:09,400 --> 00:32:10,360
Speaker 1: triplets or more.

629
00:32:10,440 --> 00:32:14,320
Speaker 2: I'm like, just nowadays, just raising kids. It's a lot.

630
00:32:14,880 --> 00:32:18,400
Speaker 2: My mom is one of nine. Damn, God damn, that's

631
00:32:18,440 --> 00:32:22,920
Speaker 2: what I say. I'm like, how but there's really one

632
00:32:23,000 --> 00:32:24,960
Speaker 2: of the sets of kids. It's nine.

633
00:32:25,080 --> 00:32:29,520
Speaker 1: Three are a set of triplets. So like, technically gave birth.

634
00:32:29,600 --> 00:32:31,480
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be bad at math right now, three or

635
00:32:31,520 --> 00:32:36,200
Speaker 1: six times something like that. Oh yeah, it's crazy, it's crazy.

636
00:32:36,640 --> 00:32:40,239
Speaker 1: Or seven times. Anyway, how many siblings do each your

637
00:32:40,280 --> 00:32:40,640
Speaker 1: parents have?

638
00:32:40,880 --> 00:32:45,360
Speaker 2: Roughly if you got I think both of them, somewhere

639
00:32:45,400 --> 00:32:47,920
Speaker 2: between seven and nine.

640
00:32:48,480 --> 00:32:50,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, And that was so normal, and now it's like

641
00:32:51,160 --> 00:32:52,720
Speaker 1: and I used to think because I'm one of four,

642
00:32:53,120 --> 00:32:54,480
Speaker 1: and for whatever reason, when I was a kid, I'm like,

643
00:32:54,560 --> 00:32:56,200
Speaker 1: I want four kids because I was one of four.

644
00:32:56,320 --> 00:32:58,840
Speaker 1: And now each year of life I go one less,

645
00:32:58,920 --> 00:33:01,400
Speaker 1: one less. For a few years, I'm like, actually, one

646
00:33:01,440 --> 00:33:02,840
Speaker 1: would be that's great.

647
00:33:03,320 --> 00:33:07,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, it's maybe a time shared exactly. We don't

648
00:33:07,560 --> 00:33:09,160
Speaker 2: need to do all of that. We don't need to

649
00:33:09,240 --> 00:33:11,040
Speaker 2: do all of that. So what do you How would

650
00:33:11,080 --> 00:33:13,280
Speaker 2: you describe this phase of your life? Though I'm in

651
00:33:13,360 --> 00:33:16,520
Speaker 2: a good space and it's trying to just fare out

652
00:33:16,560 --> 00:33:19,640
Speaker 2: what's the what's the next thing? I guess more of

653
00:33:19,920 --> 00:33:29,400
Speaker 2: a challenge, I think, or it's more of the of

654
00:33:29,840 --> 00:33:39,240
Speaker 2: creating projects. Okay, I think yeah, instead of it's always well,

655
00:33:39,240 --> 00:33:42,320
Speaker 2: I shouldn't say always, because we just did the upshaws

656
00:33:42,320 --> 00:33:45,720
Speaker 2: and I created that, but it's you know, it's always

657
00:33:45,720 --> 00:33:50,000
Speaker 2: getting hired for different projects, which I'm grateful for. But

658
00:33:50,200 --> 00:33:53,040
Speaker 2: I think I want to, yeah, create some stuff now.

659
00:33:53,280 --> 00:33:56,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's when you say a challenge, is it because

660
00:33:56,680 --> 00:33:59,520
Speaker 1: that's not something you've done as regularly as you would

661
00:33:59,600 --> 00:33:59,760
Speaker 1: like to.

662
00:34:00,720 --> 00:34:02,240
Speaker 2: But I think it's because of the of the type

663
00:34:02,280 --> 00:34:05,520
Speaker 2: of project I'm trying to think of, you know, it's

664
00:34:05,560 --> 00:34:05,840
Speaker 2: more that.

665
00:34:08,120 --> 00:34:10,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, and in the midst of that, what made you

666
00:34:10,040 --> 00:34:11,520
Speaker 1: want to go on tour? Obviously you have more jokes

667
00:34:11,560 --> 00:34:12,920
Speaker 1: to tell, more to say to us.

668
00:34:13,400 --> 00:34:15,520
Speaker 2: And is that that was it? Or is it? Is

669
00:34:15,600 --> 00:34:17,359
Speaker 2: there any other reason that you'd be like I would

670
00:34:17,640 --> 00:34:20,040
Speaker 2: want to go. I love doing stand up. I love

671
00:34:20,840 --> 00:34:24,359
Speaker 2: you know, touring, well, I should say I love torn,

672
00:34:24,440 --> 00:34:30,000
Speaker 2: but I loved sounds. Really it's hard. It sounds lovely

673
00:34:30,200 --> 00:34:32,600
Speaker 2: until you're doing it. But it's not like I'm standing,

674
00:34:32,840 --> 00:34:37,680
Speaker 2: you know, like a cheap motel. You know, it's like, okay,

675
00:34:38,440 --> 00:34:42,759
Speaker 2: you know, it's nice, it's nice. Travel first, it's not.

676
00:34:42,920 --> 00:34:46,319
Speaker 2: It's nice, but it's still it's just getting up and yes,

677
00:34:46,560 --> 00:34:48,399
Speaker 2: but staying like one night in a place.

678
00:34:48,400 --> 00:34:50,440
Speaker 1: I don't know if you have multiple nights and multiples

679
00:34:50,680 --> 00:34:53,600
Speaker 1: uh one night, yeah, but like one night, take off

680
00:34:53,640 --> 00:34:56,000
Speaker 1: the next day in time for check off, check out,

681
00:34:56,000 --> 00:34:58,480
Speaker 1: in order to getxity. It's a little bit of a grind,

682
00:34:58,640 --> 00:35:00,920
Speaker 1: it is. And it's not to complain because how blessed

683
00:35:01,239 --> 00:35:03,160
Speaker 1: are we to get to do what we do. But

684
00:35:03,239 --> 00:35:05,960
Speaker 1: it's such an interesting thing when I've romanticized being on

685
00:35:05,960 --> 00:35:07,880
Speaker 1: the road and getting to see every little city, and

686
00:35:08,440 --> 00:35:12,120
Speaker 1: I've gone on tours with podcasts I've done, I've done

687
00:35:12,320 --> 00:35:13,880
Speaker 1: shows myself, and I'm like.

688
00:35:14,400 --> 00:35:15,400
Speaker 2: This is a grind.

689
00:35:15,600 --> 00:35:18,720
Speaker 1: Yeah truly, Because you say, yeah, I've been to Portland,

690
00:35:18,800 --> 00:35:20,759
Speaker 1: but I haven't really been to Portland. I did a

691
00:35:20,800 --> 00:35:23,120
Speaker 1: show at Portland, like people be like, how was it?

692
00:35:23,480 --> 00:35:26,760
Speaker 2: I don't know. I got in and out unfortunately exactly.

693
00:35:27,440 --> 00:35:30,280
Speaker 2: But so you're you're enjoying though, you enjoyed not necessarily

694
00:35:30,280 --> 00:35:32,680
Speaker 2: being on the road, but live performing. Of course I do. Yeah,

695
00:35:32,800 --> 00:35:35,120
Speaker 2: I still love that. Yeah, that's beautiful. Do either of

696
00:35:35,200 --> 00:35:38,759
Speaker 2: your kids want to be in the business? Not yet?

697
00:35:39,160 --> 00:35:44,560
Speaker 2: All right? Not yet? How would you respond should they Yeah? Yeah,

698
00:35:44,560 --> 00:35:47,480
Speaker 2: if they want to do it, you know, i'd be supportive.

699
00:35:47,760 --> 00:35:50,040
Speaker 2: I mean, I wouldn't help them, but i'd supportive. You're

700
00:35:50,080 --> 00:35:54,480
Speaker 2: not gonna let them take advantage of a little nepotism, no, no, see,

701
00:35:54,560 --> 00:35:55,480
Speaker 2: I think it's great.

702
00:35:55,560 --> 00:36:00,200
Speaker 1: I'm gonna have nepo babies. I'm like, I can not

703
00:36:00,320 --> 00:36:03,200
Speaker 1: wait to have an epple baby. You're so when you

704
00:36:03,560 --> 00:36:06,319
Speaker 1: you're really not gonna help them like not and of course,

705
00:36:06,480 --> 00:36:08,560
Speaker 1: like as a parent would, but you're not gonna be like, hey,

706
00:36:08,680 --> 00:36:10,360
Speaker 1: get them in there and do If they were like

707
00:36:10,800 --> 00:36:11,360
Speaker 1: I want.

708
00:36:11,200 --> 00:36:13,080
Speaker 2: To do this, they got to figure it out. Well,

709
00:36:13,239 --> 00:36:15,480
Speaker 2: they have to have the talent. Yeah, I can't help

710
00:36:15,520 --> 00:36:20,080
Speaker 2: them with that. Hopefully some of it passed the talent.

711
00:36:20,200 --> 00:36:30,479
Speaker 2: I'm just like, yeah, are you really honest with your kids?

712
00:36:30,800 --> 00:36:36,040
Speaker 2: In general? Uh? In general? Yes, in general, but I'm

713
00:36:36,080 --> 00:36:38,719
Speaker 2: not Yeah, I don't. I don't. I don't lie to them,

714
00:36:39,280 --> 00:36:41,359
Speaker 2: but I'm not gonna I don't. I'm not gonna try

715
00:36:41,400 --> 00:36:43,920
Speaker 2: to crush them. I'm always lift them up.

716
00:36:45,000 --> 00:36:50,239
Speaker 1: Are there any ways that you approach parentsing that are

717
00:36:50,400 --> 00:36:53,920
Speaker 1: unlike the ways parents you were parented? So where you're like,

718
00:36:54,000 --> 00:36:57,160
Speaker 1: I'm trying to do something different here than my parents had.

719
00:36:57,760 --> 00:37:01,879
Speaker 2: Uh, try to listen? Okay, yeah, I do listen to them,

720
00:37:02,400 --> 00:37:06,640
Speaker 2: and I allow them to. Let's let's discuss this, and

721
00:37:06,800 --> 00:37:10,560
Speaker 2: you can ask me why I said no. Like growing up,

722
00:37:10,640 --> 00:37:12,400
Speaker 2: it was because I said.

723
00:37:12,280 --> 00:37:16,879
Speaker 1: So it which is yeah, it was. I mean, who

724
00:37:16,960 --> 00:37:19,960
Speaker 1: knows what way is this? I would say this new

725
00:37:20,080 --> 00:37:23,280
Speaker 1: era of parenting that has emerged and in the recent

726
00:37:23,400 --> 00:37:26,600
Speaker 1: years will be messed up. But I'm like, this is

727
00:37:26,680 --> 00:37:28,439
Speaker 1: so much more lovely. And I'm like, I wish somebody

728
00:37:28,480 --> 00:37:31,040
Speaker 1: had asked me, let me have a conversation with them.

729
00:37:31,080 --> 00:37:32,600
Speaker 1: But I know it's like nobody wants to be talking

730
00:37:32,600 --> 00:37:35,440
Speaker 1: to a little kid. But I'm actually kids have something

731
00:37:35,480 --> 00:37:38,719
Speaker 1: to say sometimes they do, yeah, and so giving them

732
00:37:38,800 --> 00:37:41,120
Speaker 1: that space, I do agree. I mean, I don't have

733
00:37:41,280 --> 00:37:43,760
Speaker 1: kids is important, but I also imagine that at times

734
00:37:43,800 --> 00:37:47,000
Speaker 1: It is a test of patience too. It is yes, yeah,

735
00:37:47,239 --> 00:37:50,520
Speaker 1: and you approach it with yes. I mean, we're not

736
00:37:50,600 --> 00:37:54,200
Speaker 1: going to have a full on you know, you know

737
00:37:54,200 --> 00:37:57,240
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. I'm gonna let you get a few questions.

738
00:37:56,920 --> 00:37:59,520
Speaker 2: Off and then that's that's it. That's it.

739
00:38:00,120 --> 00:38:00,279
Speaker 3: Yeah.

740
00:38:01,239 --> 00:38:04,359
Speaker 2: I mean everything always leads to because I said so yeah,

741
00:38:04,400 --> 00:38:07,560
Speaker 2: well okay, but I first.

742
00:38:07,360 --> 00:38:09,919
Speaker 1: Make you feel like it's not just because I said

743
00:38:10,360 --> 00:38:13,879
Speaker 1: but we both know it's because I said so yeah.

744
00:38:14,200 --> 00:38:17,040
Speaker 2: I respect. I don't know. I'm just getting the feeling yeah,

745
00:38:17,400 --> 00:38:20,239
Speaker 2: and they're like what, I don't know. I just don't

746
00:38:20,320 --> 00:38:21,320
Speaker 2: feel like you should.

747
00:38:21,080 --> 00:38:24,560
Speaker 1: Go yeah oh to parties like that. But also a

748
00:38:24,719 --> 00:38:27,920
Speaker 1: parent's intuition though, Yeah, that I'm older, I can have.

749
00:38:28,120 --> 00:38:31,960
Speaker 1: I have immense respect for it now because before growing up,

750
00:38:32,200 --> 00:38:34,640
Speaker 1: like certain, my mom at times would be like, you're

751
00:38:34,640 --> 00:38:37,040
Speaker 1: never sleeping over those people's house again. I'd be like why,

752
00:38:37,440 --> 00:38:39,640
Speaker 1: But now I understand. She's like when I want to

753
00:38:39,719 --> 00:38:42,560
Speaker 1: drop you off strange folks. Yes, she's still let me

754
00:38:42,600 --> 00:38:44,840
Speaker 1: spend the night, though, She's like, I'm willing to gamble,

755
00:38:45,120 --> 00:38:46,640
Speaker 1: but not again.

756
00:38:46,880 --> 00:38:51,359
Speaker 2: After this she was probably yeah the whole time, right,

757
00:38:52,040 --> 00:38:56,439
Speaker 2: But I'm like the parent's intuition is real. It's real.

758
00:38:56,800 --> 00:39:02,080
Speaker 2: I was in college and and we were living in

759
00:39:02,160 --> 00:39:04,200
Speaker 2: this house. It was on campus, but you know, all

760
00:39:04,239 --> 00:39:06,319
Speaker 2: these roommates. It's like four of us, and we were

761
00:39:06,640 --> 00:39:08,520
Speaker 2: getting ready to go to this party. You want to

762
00:39:09,200 --> 00:39:12,320
Speaker 2: go leave Hampton and go over to Norfolk to this party.

763
00:39:12,680 --> 00:39:15,960
Speaker 2: We were all getting dressed, you know whatever, and Tracy

764
00:39:17,960 --> 00:39:20,719
Speaker 2: got a phone call, so she goes pay phone, yo,

765
00:39:21,320 --> 00:39:23,920
Speaker 2: Tracy's mom. So Tracey's on the phone with her mom

766
00:39:24,040 --> 00:39:27,279
Speaker 2: and she's like, uh huh uh huh okay, yeah, all right.

767
00:39:27,760 --> 00:39:31,200
Speaker 2: So she comes back upstairs. She goes, guys, we can't go,

768
00:39:31,480 --> 00:39:35,560
Speaker 2: and we were like what. She's like, I just talked

769
00:39:35,560 --> 00:39:37,680
Speaker 2: to my mom, and you know, she said, asked what

770
00:39:37,760 --> 00:39:39,320
Speaker 2: we were doing. I told we were going out, and

771
00:39:39,320 --> 00:39:42,040
Speaker 2: she said she felt something and that we shouldn't go.

772
00:39:43,360 --> 00:39:48,160
Speaker 2: And we were like, damn, why did she take that call? Yeah? Yeah,

773
00:39:48,800 --> 00:39:51,080
Speaker 2: and we didn't go. You didn't go cause we didn't.

774
00:39:51,280 --> 00:39:53,480
Speaker 2: Did we find out that anything happened at no. I

775
00:39:53,600 --> 00:39:56,680
Speaker 2: was like, somebody better get shot in Norfolk tonight. I

776
00:39:56,719 --> 00:39:59,520
Speaker 2: said it better if we wake up tomorrow morning and

777
00:39:59,640 --> 00:40:03,759
Speaker 2: nobody I got showed. I need to talk to your

778
00:40:03,880 --> 00:40:06,839
Speaker 2: mom Tracy's out the friend Yeah, out of the friend group.

779
00:40:07,000 --> 00:40:12,640
Speaker 2: That's a mess, But it's true though. It's it's it's interesting,

780
00:40:12,719 --> 00:40:12,920
Speaker 2: like I.

781
00:40:12,960 --> 00:40:15,840
Speaker 1: Missed a flight recently, and I like to tell myself that.

782
00:40:15,840 --> 00:40:17,520
Speaker 1: I'm like, it's because I wasn't supposed to be on

783
00:40:17,719 --> 00:40:19,439
Speaker 1: that plane. I was supposed to be on that plane.

784
00:40:19,480 --> 00:40:22,680
Speaker 1: Nothing happened on that plane. Girl, you missed your flight,

785
00:40:22,880 --> 00:40:25,279
Speaker 1: and doesn't it doesn't have to be that.

786
00:40:25,920 --> 00:40:27,959
Speaker 2: But you know what, it might not have been the flight.

787
00:40:28,040 --> 00:40:30,520
Speaker 2: It could have been when you landed at that time,

788
00:40:31,200 --> 00:40:33,919
Speaker 2: getting in the car, going to that place, something could

789
00:40:33,960 --> 00:40:36,880
Speaker 2: have happened. That is so true. It's true. Are you

790
00:40:36,960 --> 00:40:39,200
Speaker 2: a person who believes everything happens for a reason? Yes,

791
00:40:39,200 --> 00:40:40,880
Speaker 2: that's true. Yeah I do.

792
00:40:41,360 --> 00:40:43,439
Speaker 1: Have you ever heard people say like, in that reason,

793
00:40:43,520 --> 00:40:48,520
Speaker 1: sometimes it's because you're being dumb. I've heard that I

794
00:40:48,640 --> 00:40:50,000
Speaker 1: believe everything happens for a reason.

795
00:40:51,040 --> 00:40:54,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, silly to think, no people, Yeah, I've heard people

796
00:40:55,000 --> 00:40:57,600
Speaker 2: say that. Yeah. Yeah, I believe I am where I'm

797
00:40:57,600 --> 00:40:59,880
Speaker 2: supposed to be. Right. Do you raise your kids with

798
00:41:00,000 --> 00:41:03,440
Speaker 2: any sort of faith? You know what? That's the area

799
00:41:04,239 --> 00:41:09,040
Speaker 2: that I feel like I'm not gonna say failing at,

800
00:41:09,320 --> 00:41:13,480
Speaker 2: but where I need to step up. But there's sixteen now,

801
00:41:13,560 --> 00:41:19,319
Speaker 2: so I don't let but I've always, you know, had

802
00:41:19,640 --> 00:41:24,640
Speaker 2: we say grace before you know, we eat, and they

803
00:41:24,680 --> 00:41:26,800
Speaker 2: see that I go to you know, either go to

804
00:41:26,920 --> 00:41:31,320
Speaker 2: church or online church or online church from the company

805
00:41:31,440 --> 00:41:36,560
Speaker 2: or bed, praise the Lord from this best. You know

806
00:41:37,000 --> 00:41:42,239
Speaker 2: you can order like the little communion. You can't stop it. Yes, yes,

807
00:41:42,480 --> 00:41:45,160
Speaker 2: oh you're you can get a little the little thing

808
00:41:45,239 --> 00:41:47,960
Speaker 2: and you just right there. Wait a minute, you're serious.

809
00:41:48,280 --> 00:41:50,520
Speaker 2: Don't tell me this. Why would you tell me this

810
00:41:51,040 --> 00:41:52,879
Speaker 2: because I'm trying to physically, I'm trying to get back

811
00:41:52,920 --> 00:41:55,879
Speaker 2: into physically going. Oh, well, you know, definitely, But I'm

812
00:41:55,920 --> 00:41:56,560
Speaker 2: the same.

813
00:41:58,440 --> 00:42:01,680
Speaker 1: Good communion from bed and bed is my I have

814
00:42:01,880 --> 00:42:04,120
Speaker 1: established here that bed is my favorite place to be

815
00:42:04,239 --> 00:42:04,960
Speaker 1: at all times.

816
00:42:05,320 --> 00:42:07,480
Speaker 2: Don't tell me I'm doing communion from bred in the

817
00:42:07,560 --> 00:42:12,120
Speaker 2: name of the file son. Wow, okay, it's over. I'm

818
00:42:12,200 --> 00:42:16,880
Speaker 2: not stepping foot in another yet. Communion from bed, blessing myself.

819
00:42:18,000 --> 00:42:20,480
Speaker 2: Oh wait, okay, so you do all night, but you

820
00:42:20,560 --> 00:42:24,319
Speaker 2: don't make that watch with you. No, I don't. I don't.

821
00:42:24,520 --> 00:42:28,840
Speaker 2: Here's the thing. Tell me, because you know, my my

822
00:42:29,040 --> 00:42:33,439
Speaker 2: church is black. So so I'm like, oh, passala slip

823
00:42:33,520 --> 00:42:36,400
Speaker 2: up say slept to day crazy, here's a white So

824
00:42:36,520 --> 00:42:49,080
Speaker 2: it's like up, you know, yeah, Wanda, you know what,

825
00:42:50,160 --> 00:42:53,160
Speaker 2: But listen, I do get it because everyone, which I

826
00:42:53,200 --> 00:42:55,120
Speaker 2: want to say, which he never does, my church is

827
00:42:55,280 --> 00:42:57,960
Speaker 2: very loving cour and he's yeah, this is the best

828
00:42:58,360 --> 00:43:00,759
Speaker 2: that just in case that one off, get that fear

829
00:43:00,840 --> 00:43:03,600
Speaker 2: that maybe this is the one day you make them

830
00:43:03,719 --> 00:43:06,239
Speaker 2: sit for church. It's gonna be the days you don't

831
00:43:06,400 --> 00:43:09,920
Speaker 2: like what, Yeah, we don't like white people in this house,

832
00:43:10,719 --> 00:43:16,759
Speaker 2: pastor what the pastor? We hate to see it because

833
00:43:16,760 --> 00:43:19,640
Speaker 2: that would really turn them from God. Yes, and understandably.

834
00:43:19,800 --> 00:43:22,960
Speaker 1: So so what made you not make them besides like

835
00:43:23,200 --> 00:43:25,800
Speaker 1: not wanted them to hear the pastor say anything he

836
00:43:25,920 --> 00:43:26,799
Speaker 1: hasn't said yet?

837
00:43:27,680 --> 00:43:30,799
Speaker 2: What is what made you not in any way say hey,

838
00:43:30,840 --> 00:43:33,840
Speaker 2: we have to do this? Well honestly, Also, I was

839
00:43:33,880 --> 00:43:38,279
Speaker 2: also trying to find the church I'm in now, I was,

840
00:43:38,360 --> 00:43:40,359
Speaker 2: you know, so I was bouncing around trying to find

841
00:43:40,400 --> 00:43:45,200
Speaker 2: it church. I like, so, yeah, I would let them watch.

842
00:43:45,920 --> 00:43:47,759
Speaker 2: I would try to get them, you know, I will.

843
00:43:48,440 --> 00:43:51,600
Speaker 2: I'm saying, that's what my plan. It's a goal. I

844
00:43:51,640 --> 00:43:54,800
Speaker 2: would like to take them physically to the building. Okay,

845
00:43:55,560 --> 00:44:00,680
Speaker 2: but we we I have. You're like, was one like

846
00:44:00,800 --> 00:44:06,400
Speaker 2: Christmas Eve Mass or whatever? There's a a like a

847
00:44:06,560 --> 00:44:11,120
Speaker 2: Unitarian church. I'm like, this is good. It's a good move. Yeah,

848
00:44:11,320 --> 00:44:16,120
Speaker 2: so I would take them there. And but for me,

849
00:44:16,239 --> 00:44:17,879
Speaker 2: I just I don't feel I don't feel like I've

850
00:44:17,880 --> 00:44:18,399
Speaker 2: been to church.

851
00:44:18,480 --> 00:44:18,600
Speaker 3: You know.

852
00:44:18,640 --> 00:44:22,759
Speaker 2: It's like, oh, okay, yeah, actually I took my church,

853
00:44:22,960 --> 00:44:27,399
Speaker 2: my son recently the church. What happened about that? Yeah,

854
00:44:28,920 --> 00:44:33,640
Speaker 2: on on Fire Island there's an episcopal uh uh church,

855
00:44:33,760 --> 00:44:37,279
Speaker 2: but it's held in our community center on Sundays. Right,

856
00:44:37,400 --> 00:44:41,840
Speaker 2: So he did he like it? Yeah? He did, Okay,

857
00:44:42,040 --> 00:44:46,520
Speaker 2: he did. He was like, all right, that is all right,

858
00:44:47,000 --> 00:44:48,480
Speaker 2: But you don't feel the need to in any way

859
00:44:48,520 --> 00:44:51,200
Speaker 2: impose faith on them, So you know, I do, but

860
00:44:52,360 --> 00:44:54,680
Speaker 2: I want to. And I feel like that's where, you know,

861
00:44:54,880 --> 00:44:57,239
Speaker 2: kind of failed. I get what you're saying, but like,

862
00:44:57,280 --> 00:45:00,320
Speaker 2: because my parents gave that to me, at least was

863
00:45:00,440 --> 00:45:03,719
Speaker 2: there and maybe if I you know, it was kind

864
00:45:03,760 --> 00:45:07,839
Speaker 2: of not practicing for you know, for a minute, It's

865
00:45:07,920 --> 00:45:10,560
Speaker 2: all it always been there. I could always tap into it, okay,

866
00:45:10,600 --> 00:45:12,759
Speaker 2: you know, like if things were like really bad or

867
00:45:14,480 --> 00:45:17,759
Speaker 2: I knew I could always tap into that to pull

868
00:45:17,840 --> 00:45:20,440
Speaker 2: myself out of you know, or for God to help

869
00:45:20,480 --> 00:45:22,760
Speaker 2: me to pull my you know, out of this whatever

870
00:45:22,880 --> 00:45:25,800
Speaker 2: thing I was in. So I want them to have that,

871
00:45:26,040 --> 00:45:30,640
Speaker 2: to know that that they they there's always a place

872
00:45:30,719 --> 00:45:33,319
Speaker 2: they can go. There's always yeah. Yeah, did you ever

873
00:45:33,400 --> 00:45:35,080
Speaker 2: flat out reject faith? No?

874
00:45:35,400 --> 00:45:38,040
Speaker 1: No, see neither neither of. I have some friends who

875
00:45:38,239 --> 00:45:41,360
Speaker 1: have and then have returned to it. Yeah, But for me,

876
00:45:41,440 --> 00:45:44,200
Speaker 1: I'm always like, it's a place for me. You want

877
00:45:44,239 --> 00:45:46,239
Speaker 1: to show up and engage with your faith at all

878
00:45:46,280 --> 00:45:49,840
Speaker 1: times in a dream perfect world, right, But that's not

879
00:45:49,960 --> 00:45:52,120
Speaker 1: how it always goes. And sometimes you're like, oh, I

880
00:45:52,160 --> 00:45:54,759
Speaker 1: haven't tapped back in, and I haven't. I haven't felt

881
00:45:54,840 --> 00:45:57,800
Speaker 1: as connected to my faith. Yeah, and now I would

882
00:45:57,960 --> 00:45:59,680
Speaker 1: like to do that. And you make a point to

883
00:45:59,880 --> 00:46:02,800
Speaker 1: or but but I've said to people like, in my

884
00:46:02,960 --> 00:46:05,040
Speaker 1: lowest moments, I'm like, I have that thing I could go.

885
00:46:05,239 --> 00:46:07,840
Speaker 2: I know, I know what to reach for.

886
00:46:08,560 --> 00:46:10,360
Speaker 1: And so that's beautiful that you want to give that

887
00:46:10,440 --> 00:46:12,239
Speaker 1: to your kids, because it sounds like you feel like

888
00:46:12,320 --> 00:46:13,680
Speaker 1: it's a gift to your parents gave you.

889
00:46:14,000 --> 00:46:14,160
Speaker 2: Yes.

890
00:46:14,840 --> 00:46:16,919
Speaker 1: And I have a friend who once said, in terms

891
00:46:17,000 --> 00:46:22,120
Speaker 1: of imposing anything on her son, she and her partner

892
00:46:22,160 --> 00:46:25,080
Speaker 1: at the time, were like, we want to teach him

893
00:46:25,200 --> 00:46:27,759
Speaker 1: something because he's gonna look for something to believe in,

894
00:46:28,360 --> 00:46:31,040
Speaker 1: whether you show him the way or not, like people

895
00:46:31,280 --> 00:46:34,000
Speaker 1: or people want something to believe I feel.

896
00:46:34,120 --> 00:46:36,160
Speaker 2: So that's beautiful. And so your daughter hasn't been to

897
00:46:36,280 --> 00:46:39,720
Speaker 2: church yet, I'm not not without me like that. Okay,

898
00:46:40,320 --> 00:46:42,480
Speaker 2: I will. It's gonna happen. I feel it. But say,

899
00:46:42,520 --> 00:46:45,160
Speaker 2: but here's the other thing too. I put this back

900
00:46:45,320 --> 00:46:50,440
Speaker 2: on on my wife because because when we were because

901
00:46:50,480 --> 00:46:54,880
Speaker 2: when they were born, she was so like like focused

902
00:46:54,960 --> 00:46:58,279
Speaker 2: in and like hell bent on getting them baptized, like

903
00:46:58,840 --> 00:47:02,239
Speaker 2: raised Catholic. So I'm like, okay, so she has the

904
00:47:02,320 --> 00:47:07,120
Speaker 2: faith thing. I can roll with this, right, she's I

905
00:47:07,239 --> 00:47:11,560
Speaker 2: learned the hell mary things whatever. As long as they

906
00:47:11,600 --> 00:47:15,080
Speaker 2: have something, I'm good with this. Yeah, it's the same guy, okay.

907
00:47:16,160 --> 00:47:20,200
Speaker 2: And so you know, she did all this and we

908
00:47:20,320 --> 00:47:22,800
Speaker 2: went to France, she got them baptized and then that

909
00:47:22,960 --> 00:47:26,359
Speaker 2: was it, and you know, and I was like, aren't

910
00:47:26,400 --> 00:47:30,400
Speaker 2: you supposed to be like classes? So she's like, oh no,

911
00:47:30,520 --> 00:47:32,600
Speaker 2: we we you know, baby, that's too much. That's just

912
00:47:32,800 --> 00:47:38,200
Speaker 2: like so there she's there, Catholic by name, Okay, okay,

913
00:47:38,400 --> 00:47:41,080
Speaker 2: but she's that way because her her parents didn't really

914
00:47:41,600 --> 00:47:45,880
Speaker 2: take them on her own. No no, no, no, no no.

915
00:47:46,440 --> 00:47:48,920
Speaker 2: It was kind of like the same way. They were

916
00:47:48,960 --> 00:47:54,719
Speaker 2: like baptist and then yeah, okay, wow, all right, and

917
00:47:55,680 --> 00:47:58,520
Speaker 2: you had no follow up. It was like there was

918
00:47:58,560 --> 00:48:02,160
Speaker 2: a follow up all that you press me to get

919
00:48:02,200 --> 00:48:03,080
Speaker 2: them baptized.

920
00:48:03,200 --> 00:48:05,960
Speaker 1: We got to follow the follow because sometimes I think

921
00:48:06,000 --> 00:48:08,040
Speaker 1: some people think you just do the thing and then

922
00:48:08,040 --> 00:48:10,799
Speaker 1: they're they're good. But they have to have their own,

923
00:48:10,960 --> 00:48:13,719
Speaker 1: in my mind, relationship with it right for it to

924
00:48:13,840 --> 00:48:16,160
Speaker 1: be to be probably what you want it to be.

925
00:48:16,600 --> 00:48:21,920
Speaker 2: Right. That is really lovely that you said she's got it.

926
00:48:22,520 --> 00:48:22,959
Speaker 2: I'm sorry.

927
00:48:22,960 --> 00:48:26,160
Speaker 1: I just imagine, like, oh cool, she really cares about yes,

928
00:48:26,640 --> 00:48:28,600
Speaker 1: And then you realize up under you're like, wait, no,

929
00:48:28,680 --> 00:48:31,480
Speaker 1: you just kind of gave us crazy. That's but you

930
00:48:31,600 --> 00:48:34,280
Speaker 1: put it on her, you know, told her business today

931
00:48:34,920 --> 00:48:39,440
Speaker 1: and you've blamed her. Is this what being a partner is? Okay,

932
00:48:39,600 --> 00:48:42,879
Speaker 1: I'm learning from you. I'm learning from you every step

933
00:48:42,920 --> 00:48:47,160
Speaker 1: of the way. I have to ask because I need

934
00:48:47,239 --> 00:48:55,040
Speaker 1: advice for life, all right. Your longevity in this industry

935
00:48:55,560 --> 00:48:58,800
Speaker 1: that can be very fickle, right, it's hard. It's what

936
00:48:58,960 --> 00:49:01,960
Speaker 1: you've done I think is remarkable and how you have

937
00:49:02,239 --> 00:49:07,399
Speaker 1: stayed so you and so funny and so relevant all

938
00:49:07,440 --> 00:49:08,040
Speaker 1: these years.

939
00:49:08,440 --> 00:49:13,239
Speaker 2: How does one do it? That's oh, this segment is

940
00:49:13,320 --> 00:49:16,800
Speaker 2: called that was nice? But what about me? What about me? Okay, okay,

941
00:49:23,239 --> 00:49:26,640
Speaker 2: I had one goal right when I started this business.

942
00:49:26,680 --> 00:49:29,480
Speaker 2: You know, I even go go further back. I was

943
00:49:29,520 --> 00:49:33,440
Speaker 2: working in the government and you know, up at my

944
00:49:33,600 --> 00:49:36,880
Speaker 2: job said there. And I was at my job, at

945
00:49:36,920 --> 00:49:39,560
Speaker 2: my job at the government job, good job, good job,

946
00:49:39,680 --> 00:49:43,759
Speaker 2: good job, And I just knew I wasn't happy, and

947
00:49:43,760 --> 00:49:46,560
Speaker 2: I knew it was something else that I was supposed

948
00:49:46,600 --> 00:49:51,160
Speaker 2: to be doing. And and I remember everyone saying how

949
00:49:51,200 --> 00:49:53,680
Speaker 2: funny I was, and you should be on stage, and

950
00:49:54,719 --> 00:49:56,000
Speaker 2: so I was like, okay, you know, I'm gonna try it.

951
00:49:56,120 --> 00:50:00,600
Speaker 2: So I did some jokes and I knew immediately like

952
00:50:00,760 --> 00:50:03,160
Speaker 2: this is what I wanted to do. So my thing,

953
00:50:03,239 --> 00:50:05,600
Speaker 2: it all has al had always been I want to be,

954
00:50:06,800 --> 00:50:11,799
Speaker 2: you know, one of the funniest uh comedians, comics, not female, male,

955
00:50:12,000 --> 00:50:17,080
Speaker 2: just across the board, period, And that's what that's what

956
00:50:17,160 --> 00:50:20,200
Speaker 2: I work towards, and that's what I still work at,

957
00:50:21,000 --> 00:50:24,480
Speaker 2: you know, and all everything else kind of just happened

958
00:50:24,520 --> 00:50:27,799
Speaker 2: from that, right, I did stand up and I opened

959
00:50:27,880 --> 00:50:31,120
Speaker 2: up for Chris Rock when he was doing Bringing the Pain,

960
00:50:31,520 --> 00:50:34,279
Speaker 2: he was working on that, he remembered me. So when

961
00:50:34,320 --> 00:50:39,680
Speaker 2: he got his show, Hey this is funny comic, started writing, Oh,

962
00:50:39,840 --> 00:50:42,920
Speaker 2: so now from my stand up I I'm now writing,

963
00:50:42,960 --> 00:50:45,960
Speaker 2: I'm a writer. Okay, cool, but I'm still, you know,

964
00:50:46,120 --> 00:50:49,000
Speaker 2: slinging these jokes, still slinging these jokes. And then it's

965
00:50:49,800 --> 00:50:51,799
Speaker 2: from from there, Oh, We're gonna put you in front

966
00:50:51,800 --> 00:50:55,200
Speaker 2: of the camera. Oh I I guess, you know. And

967
00:50:55,360 --> 00:50:59,799
Speaker 2: and that happened because we we had booked a crew

968
00:51:00,360 --> 00:51:03,840
Speaker 2: to shoot some things, right and still had like a

969
00:51:03,920 --> 00:51:06,719
Speaker 2: couple hours left on the crew. P was a lie,

970
00:51:07,040 --> 00:51:09,320
Speaker 2: what y'all got, What y'all got? Come on to shoot something?

971
00:51:09,400 --> 00:51:11,239
Speaker 2: It has to be quick. Want to get in front

972
00:51:11,239 --> 00:51:13,839
Speaker 2: of this. And we're gonna do a video mama. You're

973
00:51:13,840 --> 00:51:17,200
Speaker 2: gonna you know, yeah, so a babysitter. So I'm playing

974
00:51:17,280 --> 00:51:19,080
Speaker 2: video mama. So now I'm in front of the camera.

975
00:51:19,640 --> 00:51:22,960
Speaker 2: Oh okay, and just things. But it all started from

976
00:51:23,000 --> 00:51:27,600
Speaker 2: that one goal, and so I always just go back

977
00:51:27,680 --> 00:51:29,520
Speaker 2: to that as far as and that probably is why

978
00:51:29,520 --> 00:51:32,200
Speaker 2: I'm still doing stand up. But everything just kind of

979
00:51:33,160 --> 00:51:38,960
Speaker 2: fell from that and still just stayed me you know yes.

980
00:51:39,120 --> 00:51:42,600
Speaker 1: And you're very clear in that way. Now, given how

981
00:51:42,840 --> 00:51:45,719
Speaker 1: like what you have accomplished in the way we all

982
00:51:45,840 --> 00:51:49,120
Speaker 1: see you and the expectation we all have of you,

983
00:51:50,360 --> 00:51:52,960
Speaker 1: have you bombed anytime in the last like five years?

984
00:51:53,800 --> 00:51:55,120
Speaker 2: Five years? I'm sure?

985
00:51:55,640 --> 00:51:57,799
Speaker 1: And what does that feel like for you? Being one

986
00:51:57,800 --> 00:51:59,440
Speaker 1: of the sex and people come in and like, we

987
00:51:59,600 --> 00:52:02,360
Speaker 1: love Wanda, we love Wanda. Wanda is the funniest.

988
00:52:02,600 --> 00:52:04,239
Speaker 2: What does it feel like? Are you? How do you

989
00:52:04,280 --> 00:52:07,160
Speaker 2: take BOMBI now, it hurts, it still still hurts. And

990
00:52:07,280 --> 00:52:11,320
Speaker 2: usually when it happens, it's ated like some charity event.

991
00:52:11,560 --> 00:52:13,080
Speaker 2: You're like, I didn't even have to do I didn't

992
00:52:13,080 --> 00:52:14,560
Speaker 2: have to do this ship. I ain't even have to

993
00:52:14,640 --> 00:52:17,600
Speaker 2: be just say that on the way out, driping I do.

994
00:52:18,000 --> 00:52:21,160
Speaker 2: I'm like, this sucks, man, y'all Like, whoy are y'all

995
00:52:21,239 --> 00:52:27,960
Speaker 2: even having comments here? Y'all talking over there? Whatever? Clean

996
00:52:28,040 --> 00:52:28,719
Speaker 2: clean click clean?

997
00:52:31,000 --> 00:52:31,279
Speaker 3: You know what?

998
00:52:31,440 --> 00:52:34,319
Speaker 2: Next time, I'm just gonna write a check. Yeah, I'm

999
00:52:34,360 --> 00:52:39,640
Speaker 2: gonna write a check. I'm not coming. I'm not coming, y'all.

1000
00:52:39,880 --> 00:52:41,800
Speaker 2: You guys have been great tonight. You'll tell them you

1001
00:52:41,880 --> 00:52:47,279
Speaker 2: guys have sucked, ruined. I'm not gonna sleep tonight. Yeah,

1002
00:52:49,120 --> 00:52:50,959
Speaker 2: this is gonna be on my mind. I'm not gonna

1003
00:52:50,960 --> 00:52:53,879
Speaker 2: sleep tonight. And are y'all okay with that? Yeah? Wow, yeah,

1004
00:52:53,920 --> 00:52:56,480
Speaker 2: write a check. Yeah. But you never know which crowd.

1005
00:52:56,960 --> 00:52:58,880
Speaker 1: Sometimes they surprise you where you're like, this is not

1006
00:52:59,040 --> 00:53:01,840
Speaker 1: the crowd that I thought would enjoy this material in

1007
00:53:01,960 --> 00:53:04,440
Speaker 1: this way or this much. And then the crowds you

1008
00:53:04,560 --> 00:53:07,279
Speaker 1: think are gonna be great, it's like, yeah, it's the

1009
00:53:07,360 --> 00:53:11,600
Speaker 1: clink clink, clinking, not paying attention, heckling, huckling.

1010
00:53:11,680 --> 00:53:14,279
Speaker 2: You. I think it's lovely that you're telling the truth

1011
00:53:14,360 --> 00:53:15,960
Speaker 2: on the way out. You don't have to say you

1012
00:53:16,040 --> 00:53:19,120
Speaker 2: guys have been great. No, you don't have to. You

1013
00:53:19,200 --> 00:53:22,640
Speaker 2: don't have to okay, and you no, okay and yeah,

1014
00:53:23,120 --> 00:53:28,280
Speaker 2: or it's especially now you know if there's like somebody

1015
00:53:28,360 --> 00:53:31,720
Speaker 2: doesn't agree with my politics and they'll start saying something

1016
00:53:32,239 --> 00:53:36,080
Speaker 2: and they have to argue back whatever, and and it's

1017
00:53:36,560 --> 00:53:39,880
Speaker 2: it's the thing of I have to really tell myself, Wanda,

1018
00:53:39,960 --> 00:53:44,680
Speaker 2: don't go ballistic. Just that's one person. Yeah, so now

1019
00:53:44,800 --> 00:53:48,160
Speaker 2: my security they know they so they just hurt get

1020
00:53:48,200 --> 00:53:51,000
Speaker 2: that person out, okay, because they're like it'll ugly, it'll

1021
00:53:51,000 --> 00:53:52,759
Speaker 2: get my head and I just get and I just

1022
00:53:52,840 --> 00:53:57,160
Speaker 2: turn on everybody read and I don't like, yeah, since

1023
00:53:57,239 --> 00:53:59,400
Speaker 2: y'all out there sitting out there with that person, you

1024
00:53:59,480 --> 00:54:01,879
Speaker 2: can to help. Yeah, And then then I go too

1025
00:54:02,000 --> 00:54:06,920
Speaker 2: far and then it's like, so, oh okay, you know

1026
00:54:07,120 --> 00:54:13,080
Speaker 2: it's crazy and they're all out there. I saw that, like, no,

1027
00:54:13,160 --> 00:54:16,480
Speaker 2: we can't move on, No, we can't just move on one.

1028
00:54:16,640 --> 00:54:20,239
Speaker 2: But that was a lie. You really, yeah, you know what.

1029
00:54:20,480 --> 00:54:23,200
Speaker 1: But it's crazy how in life though the psychology of

1030
00:54:23,400 --> 00:54:28,879
Speaker 1: and it's like evolutionary, evolutionary apparently that to look out

1031
00:54:28,960 --> 00:54:31,880
Speaker 1: for threats, so like you see one negative comment or

1032
00:54:31,960 --> 00:54:34,960
Speaker 1: someone one person is engaging with you negatively in the audience.

1033
00:54:35,280 --> 00:54:37,160
Speaker 1: You could have a crowd of four hundred people and

1034
00:54:37,280 --> 00:54:39,880
Speaker 1: one person who is like, I don't agree with your

1035
00:54:39,880 --> 00:54:41,680
Speaker 1: politics and I'm gonna kind of say something about it.

1036
00:54:41,920 --> 00:54:44,680
Speaker 1: But like, there are three hundred and ninety nine people enjoying,

1037
00:54:44,719 --> 00:54:47,680
Speaker 1: but you're just like you, I am committed to getting you,

1038
00:54:48,360 --> 00:54:52,160
Speaker 1: demolishing you, which is like it is it's evolutionary that

1039
00:54:52,440 --> 00:54:55,279
Speaker 1: we were meant to scan for threats and like address them.

1040
00:54:55,600 --> 00:54:58,560
Speaker 1: But it's so crazy how we still still we're not

1041
00:54:58,760 --> 00:55:00,720
Speaker 1: under the same risk atty W one, but our brains

1042
00:55:00,719 --> 00:55:03,400
Speaker 1: still do that to us, like all this love, but

1043
00:55:03,520 --> 00:55:07,600
Speaker 1: I need to focus on that one person, that one

1044
00:55:07,640 --> 00:55:08,480
Speaker 1: person so secure.

1045
00:55:08,520 --> 00:55:11,239
Speaker 2: I need to get security. I didn't connect it with

1046
00:55:11,400 --> 00:55:15,080
Speaker 2: the evolution. Okay, that makes sense a little something. I

1047
00:55:15,200 --> 00:55:17,759
Speaker 2: might have made it up. No, I did it. I

1048
00:55:17,840 --> 00:55:20,120
Speaker 2: didn't make that far. I didn't make it up. I

1049
00:55:20,239 --> 00:55:22,120
Speaker 2: need to get security though, That's what I'm hearing, so

1050
00:55:22,200 --> 00:55:24,680
Speaker 2: they can address sick security.

1051
00:55:24,719 --> 00:55:27,000
Speaker 1: And this person left the nasty comic. Go get him, fine,

1052
00:55:28,120 --> 00:55:29,560
Speaker 1: I want you to show up to their house and

1053
00:55:29,680 --> 00:55:34,200
Speaker 1: scare them. I really appreciate you being here, and I

1054
00:55:34,400 --> 00:55:36,279
Speaker 1: know I've had a selfish moment where I got to

1055
00:55:36,280 --> 00:55:39,160
Speaker 1: get advice from you. We have a listener who needs advice.

1056
00:55:39,239 --> 00:55:42,399
Speaker 1: Would you be willing to give them advice as well? Okay, Kevin,

1057
00:55:42,440 --> 00:55:43,520
Speaker 1: We're ready to hear from them.

1058
00:55:46,239 --> 00:55:49,279
Speaker 3: My best friend is engaged to a man that I

1059
00:55:49,600 --> 00:55:53,480
Speaker 3: literally could not give less of a fuck about. And

1060
00:55:53,800 --> 00:55:58,080
Speaker 3: I'm afraid that my role as like best friend is

1061
00:55:58,200 --> 00:56:02,880
Speaker 3: being replaced by this guy that, again I don't even

1062
00:56:02,960 --> 00:56:05,560
Speaker 3: give a fuck about. Although he didn't vote.

1063
00:56:08,440 --> 00:56:10,759
Speaker 2: Call me back. I don't have his number, but didn't vote.

1064
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Speaker 2: And what he didn't vote? He said?

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Speaker 1: The guy didn't vote. He's like, I don't give a

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Speaker 1: fuck about him, but he didn't vote, and was that it? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: he's like, oh, he's like, I really don't give a

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Speaker 1: fuck about him, although he didn't vote. It was just

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Speaker 1: like one little jab to the man on the way out. Okay,

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Speaker 1: so what would you say our listener does about this

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Speaker 1: best friend engaged?

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Speaker 2: It was layers to that.

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Speaker 1: It's so much there's I wish we could ask follow

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Speaker 1: up questions, but it's and he said, calling back, but

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Speaker 1: we don't have his number.

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Speaker 2: His best friend is engaged. Look that I have friends

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Speaker 2: that I'm not really involved with their you know, with

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Speaker 2: their partner. But it doesn't you know what I'm saying,

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Speaker 2: Like like, it doesn't mean that that they shouldn't be together.

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Speaker 2: You know, it's obviously it's something that she gets from

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00:57:04,840 --> 00:57:07,959
Speaker 2: or he or there's the two guys. Okay, it's something

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00:57:08,000 --> 00:57:11,080
Speaker 2: that he gets from this other guy, this from his

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00:57:11,280 --> 00:57:17,840
Speaker 2: partner that makes him happy. Right, So your your thing

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00:57:18,000 --> 00:57:20,520
Speaker 2: is just you're just supposed to be happy for your

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00:57:20,560 --> 00:57:23,120
Speaker 2: friend and make sure your friend is good and maybe

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Speaker 2: be a situation where it's good that you don't give

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Speaker 2: a fuck about this guy. Because when your friend sounds

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00:57:31,040 --> 00:57:33,480
Speaker 2: off on him. You could be like that. Yep, I know,

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Speaker 2: I told you exactly exactly, so you're that sounding board

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Speaker 2: for for your friends. So just you know, Hey, relationships

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00:57:44,880 --> 00:57:50,440
Speaker 2: are meant for us to work out childhood ship. Basically,

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00:57:51,880 --> 00:57:58,919
Speaker 2: it's yeah, so you roman attract, you end up being

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00:57:59,080 --> 00:58:03,560
Speaker 2: attracted to some body who Uh so you can actually

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00:58:03,640 --> 00:58:09,960
Speaker 2: have adult conversations with someone when you couldn't you know,

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Speaker 2: have that conversation as a child.

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Speaker 1: I've heard this sounds like relationships are just your re

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Speaker 1: enacting childhood in any ways.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but but as an adult now you get to

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Speaker 2: speak as an adult, Yes, with some you know, so

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Speaker 2: with some agency. So I think he should just status.

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Speaker 2: You know, maybe maybe he got a good dick and

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00:58:29,760 --> 00:58:34,000
Speaker 2: that's that's all. And you don't want you don't know,

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00:58:34,080 --> 00:58:39,720
Speaker 2: you don't know what friend's vote could be, right, just

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Speaker 2: what I'm saying, it could be. He's like you think

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Speaker 2: I'm talking to him. We don't. We ain't talk. We

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00:58:44,920 --> 00:58:46,840
Speaker 2: don't talk. We're just I'm just trying to lock this

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Speaker 2: dick up. The pipe is getting late. I'm not worried

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Speaker 2: about it. Have you hang out with and do culture

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00:58:56,160 --> 00:59:00,000
Speaker 2: ship and vote? I don't need to you think I'm

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Speaker 2: watching PBS with this molefu. You know what?

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00:59:06,000 --> 00:59:08,560
Speaker 1: That is so valid because also the listener said, I

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Speaker 1: don't give a fuck about I couldn't care less about.

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Speaker 1: But I'm like, sounds like you don't like him first

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Speaker 1: of all, but she keeps it out, so you're you

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Speaker 1: have to call it what it is. I think you

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00:59:17,120 --> 00:59:19,160
Speaker 1: don't like him. It's it's giving out a link and

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Speaker 1: then the little dig at the end, and he didn't vote,

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Speaker 1: but he might have a good dick and that might

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Speaker 1: be all.

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Speaker 2: Your friend is looking for at this stage in their

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00:59:26,680 --> 00:59:29,400
Speaker 2: life life. Yeah, that's true. You know what. That is valid.

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00:59:29,440 --> 00:59:32,040
Speaker 1: And I hadn't even considered because because every once in

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Speaker 1: a while you will see a couple together you won't

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Speaker 1: even know if the other person is a good person

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Speaker 1: or not, or they're voted or not whatever, and you're like,

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Speaker 1: that is an interesting match. But somebody's got some good genitals.

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Speaker 1: That's often what it is.

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Speaker 2: You are so right. Let me think about that next

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Speaker 2: time I see a mismatched couple. Yeah, I'm doing something.

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Speaker 1: Somebody's doing something different. Wanda, thank you so much for

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Speaker 1: being here. I really appreciate you. Best wishes on the tour.

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Speaker 2: Thank you.

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Speaker 1: I pray nobody makes you see red. Nobody does that,

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Speaker 1: and if they do, security gets them morning. Okay, But

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Speaker 1: come on, t I I feel like he owns that word.

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much, really appreciate you. I'm so glad

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Speaker 1: you could be.

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Speaker 2: Here with you. All right, folks, Folks, what where am

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Speaker 2: I from?

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Speaker 1: We've established that I'm from Maryland. We don't really say

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Speaker 1: that word. I guess I can't speak for everyone. Their

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01:00:36,080 --> 01:00:37,640
Speaker 1: point is I just talked to Wanda Sykes.

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Speaker 2: That was very fun.

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01:00:39,440 --> 01:00:42,840
Speaker 1: I love the Maryland specifics of that conversation. Many of

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01:00:42,920 --> 01:00:46,160
Speaker 1: you may not like it, but guys, that's okay. And

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01:00:46,240 --> 01:00:48,280
Speaker 1: I often talk about things people like and don't like

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01:00:48,360 --> 01:00:50,320
Speaker 1: on this podcast, and I'm here to say it whatever,

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01:00:50,840 --> 01:00:56,520
Speaker 1: it's okay, dog. I loved that conversation. She was so insightful,

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01:00:56,720 --> 01:00:59,040
Speaker 1: so funny, and getting to hear her talk about her

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01:00:59,120 --> 01:01:03,280
Speaker 1: children and savage ways was quite delightful for me. You know,

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01:01:03,360 --> 01:01:04,720
Speaker 1: what I didn't get to talk to her about is

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Speaker 1: Instagram use and how she feels about memes and reels.

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01:01:09,120 --> 01:01:12,919
Speaker 1: But if I were to guess, I think she ain't

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01:01:12,920 --> 01:01:15,240
Speaker 1: got time for that when we're talking about our patients, right.

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01:01:15,920 --> 01:01:17,600
Speaker 1: I have a feeling she doesn't have the patience for

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Speaker 1: endless reels and memes and tiktoks all day.

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Speaker 2: That was the sense I got.

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Speaker 1: I don't want to pin that on Wanda, but just

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01:01:25,560 --> 01:01:29,360
Speaker 1: a hunch. I'm intuitive, you see, like a parent. Anyway,

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Speaker 1: if you want advice from me and my guest, next guest,

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01:01:33,560 --> 01:01:38,040
Speaker 1: some guest, please, I'm begging you. I'm begging you to

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01:01:38,200 --> 01:01:41,080
Speaker 1: call us and leave a voicemail at five O two

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Speaker 1: eight four nine three two three seven. I remember the number.

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Speaker 1: There's no teleprompter, baby, that's just right up here. Okay,

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Speaker 1: five O two eight four nine three two three seven.

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Speaker 1: That's five O two Thanks TCHX.

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Speaker 2: Dad's more than one.

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01:01:57,280 --> 01:01:57,520
Speaker 3: Bye.

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Speaker 2: Thanks Dad.

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Speaker 1: Is a production of Will Ferrell's Big Money Players in

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