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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, my dad has. My poor dad, it's a miracle.

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Speaker 2: and we would have.

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Speaker 1: Cautious exactly they would they would have used no caution

431
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Speaker 1: to call him the terrorists from no Rip because at

432
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Speaker 1: first they were like, do you think it's isis? And

433
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Speaker 1: then when they were like, oh, Okay, no, even though

434
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Speaker 1: iis claim responsibility, you know, because like you said, they

435
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Speaker 1: always do. They were like, oh no, because you're right,

436
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Speaker 1: maybe technically he's not considered a terrorist, but I guarantee

437
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Speaker 1: that if he was anything other than a white male,

438
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Speaker 1: they would have used that without any hesitation. And I

439
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Speaker 1: guess that's what it's, whether technical or not, you know

440
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Speaker 1: that it's.

441
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Speaker 2: Always things like he was a suspected terrorist or you know,

442
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Speaker 2: at least the question would have come up a lot more.

443
00:20:59,760 --> 00:21:02,119
Speaker 2: But you know, we can only assume. I think, but

444
00:21:02,200 --> 00:21:04,560
Speaker 2: in terms of like the profile of a mass shooter

445
00:21:04,600 --> 00:21:08,720
Speaker 2: in America, he's almost a textbook definition other than the

446
00:21:08,760 --> 00:21:10,879
Speaker 2: fact that he's not twenty two years old, he's a

447
00:21:10,920 --> 00:21:15,000
Speaker 2: white male and more like, the majority of mass shootings

448
00:21:15,040 --> 00:21:18,480
Speaker 2: in America have been caused by white men, like and

449
00:21:18,560 --> 00:21:22,320
Speaker 2: people don't want to acknowledge that. So I don't know,

450
00:21:23,240 --> 00:21:25,359
Speaker 2: That's what I've been seeing in people at news reports, like, oh,

451
00:21:25,400 --> 00:21:27,480
Speaker 2: he doesn't fit the profile, you know of a typical,

452
00:21:28,359 --> 00:21:31,119
Speaker 2: you know, a mass shooter. I don't know, a loaner.

453
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Speaker 2: It seems like he was a loaner. It seems like

454
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Speaker 2: he's a white guy. You know, he had I think

455
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Speaker 2: it's his whole. I don't know. I just feel like

456
00:21:37,760 --> 00:21:41,080
Speaker 2: we're still trying to figure out who he is. I mean,

457
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Speaker 2: I give a lot of credit. One thing happens so fast,

458
00:21:44,080 --> 00:21:45,480
Speaker 2: and I do give a lot of credit because I

459
00:21:45,480 --> 00:21:48,480
Speaker 2: know how hard people are working to get stories of

460
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Speaker 2: the victims. And I today, this is what day three

461
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Speaker 2: since the attack? Day no, this is the second full

462
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Speaker 2: day scency attack. Today, I saw a lot of stories.

463
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Speaker 2: Maybe it's just because I was choosing to see them.

464
00:22:00,680 --> 00:22:04,040
Speaker 2: Of stories of the people who were of the fifty

465
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Speaker 2: nine fifty nine, right, something like fifty nine who died, Yeah,

466
00:22:07,680 --> 00:22:10,879
Speaker 2: fifty nine starting to come. And I don't know, I've

467
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Speaker 2: I'm glad, you know, I at least want to. I'm

468
00:22:13,560 --> 00:22:16,000
Speaker 2: glad that they're getting some attention. But I agree it's

469
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Speaker 2: really important how they characterize these shooters. And yeah, I

470
00:22:21,119 --> 00:22:25,000
Speaker 2: think your frustration is well placed. Not that you need

471
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Speaker 2: to me to validate you, but I agree, I know.

472
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Speaker 1: But it's just so frustrating because you're just like really like,

473
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Speaker 1: so I can kill someone and be humanized, but I

474
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Speaker 1: could be killed and be demonized, and it's all about

475
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Speaker 1: you know what, I look like I'm over it. That

476
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Speaker 1: should be the way we should close off the the buzzworthy.

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Speaker 2: Well, I think our hearts go out to the victims. Yes,

478
00:22:52,840 --> 00:22:56,840
Speaker 2: in Vegas, people still struggling in Puerto Rico. I don't know,

479
00:22:56,960 --> 00:22:59,840
Speaker 2: hug a loved one. It really, you know, forget all

480
00:22:59,880 --> 00:23:02,280
Speaker 2: the politics, forget all the you know, all this is

481
00:23:02,320 --> 00:23:03,800
Speaker 2: like valid, But I think at the end of the day,

482
00:23:03,840 --> 00:23:06,520
Speaker 2: it's just a reminder too. Every day is a gift.

483
00:23:06,800 --> 00:23:11,000
Speaker 2: Nothing is for certain, and I don't know our politicians

484
00:23:11,000 --> 00:23:15,200
Speaker 2: aren't gonna be protecting us from types of gun violence apparently,

485
00:23:16,320 --> 00:23:18,760
Speaker 2: So don't take any day for granted.

486
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Speaker 1: And do something. I always think this that, like my

487
00:23:21,720 --> 00:23:24,639
Speaker 1: philosophy is like if I can help like the people

488
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Speaker 1: on my and my most immediate spear, like the people

489
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Speaker 1: you know, like I watch Superman, like help the kids

490
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Speaker 1: next door, and you know, put air in this one's

491
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Speaker 1: bike and you know, order an extra uniform when he

492
00:23:36,359 --> 00:23:38,920
Speaker 1: orders his daughter's uniform, that kind of thing, and that

493
00:23:39,040 --> 00:23:42,560
Speaker 1: radiates outward, you know, And so sometimes you know, people

494
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Speaker 1: think that like, oh, you've you've got to do these

495
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Speaker 1: huge overtures, and I'm really learning that you know that

496
00:23:50,320 --> 00:23:52,879
Speaker 1: that's not necessarily true, that you don't necessarily have to

497
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Speaker 1: make these huge overtures that like looking after the little

498
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Speaker 1: kids on your block, or making sure the old lady

499
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Speaker 1: down the street, you know, is okay in the winter,

500
00:24:00,960 --> 00:24:03,119
Speaker 1: and all those things. Those things matter, and you can

501
00:24:03,200 --> 00:24:05,280
Speaker 1: start to radiate positivity right where you are.

502
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Speaker 2: Heymen, sister friend.

503
00:24:16,320 --> 00:24:21,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, now it's time to break or boost for all

504
00:24:21,280 --> 00:24:27,200
Speaker 1: our family break or booze boost? Break? What will it be? Mandy?

505
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Speaker 1: That was awesome.

506
00:24:28,840 --> 00:24:36,639
Speaker 2: That was top three because it actually I know, I don't.

507
00:24:36,520 --> 00:24:38,000
Speaker 1: Know where it came from, and I'm not gonna lie.

508
00:24:38,040 --> 00:24:39,560
Speaker 1: As I was nearing to the clothes, I was like,

509
00:24:39,840 --> 00:24:42,760
Speaker 1: don't blow the cippy, don't you blow this? And then

510
00:24:42,760 --> 00:24:45,000
Speaker 1: your name popped into my head and I said, I said, Robs,

511
00:24:45,040 --> 00:24:47,080
Speaker 1: just do it, Just do it. Be calm. So I

512
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Speaker 1: have to say, I'm feeling very proud of myself.

513
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Speaker 2: All right, jay Z watch out.

514
00:24:52,480 --> 00:24:54,479
Speaker 1: So are you gonna break? Are you gonna boost?

515
00:24:54,680 --> 00:24:57,359
Speaker 2: I need to do. I need to add an addendum

516
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Speaker 2: to my my break from last week. Remember when I

517
00:25:00,760 --> 00:25:04,520
Speaker 2: took a break from meal prep. I said it was stupid.

518
00:25:04,640 --> 00:25:07,520
Speaker 2: I said, I was exhausted. I said it was the worst.

519
00:25:08,359 --> 00:25:10,520
Speaker 2: I said, these mommy bloggers have no idea what they're

520
00:25:10,520 --> 00:25:16,359
Speaker 2: talking about. I know they didn't come for me. They

521
00:25:16,560 --> 00:25:19,040
Speaker 2: I didn't actually call them out, so maybe now they will.

522
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Speaker 1: No.

523
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Speaker 2: I remember I gave that boost on like Monday when

524
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Speaker 2: we were recording and I actually hadn't had a week

525
00:25:27,200 --> 00:25:31,640
Speaker 2: to eat my my my prepped meals. And actually, by

526
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Speaker 2: like day three, when I was so relieved to actually

527
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Speaker 2: have food in the fridge for dinner, I was like,

528
00:25:35,960 --> 00:25:39,760
Speaker 2: all right, maybe I kind of understand why people do

529
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Speaker 2: meal prep because I legitimately I had food to eat

530
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Speaker 2: when I was too tired to cook, and I got it.

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Speaker 2: And I don't know why to. I mean, I just

532
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Speaker 2: I think I just had to. Actually I had I

533
00:25:52,160 --> 00:25:56,000
Speaker 2: spoke too soon, and I apologize to the meal prep

534
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Speaker 2: fans of America. This week I did not do such

535
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Speaker 2: an ambitious meal prep. There was no spaghetti, squash and

536
00:26:03,440 --> 00:26:06,919
Speaker 2: like thirteen different you know, types of vegetables. I just

537
00:26:07,119 --> 00:26:09,000
Speaker 2: baked some salmon and I just have it for dinner.

538
00:26:09,080 --> 00:26:11,199
Speaker 2: You know, it's just very simple. So I simplified and

539
00:26:11,240 --> 00:26:14,639
Speaker 2: it's going much better. But I'm still eating out for lunch.

540
00:26:14,760 --> 00:26:16,840
Speaker 2: I'm treating my I'm letting myself eat out for lunch.

541
00:26:16,920 --> 00:26:19,080
Speaker 2: I'm playing, I'm paying more attention to what I'm eating

542
00:26:19,080 --> 00:26:21,400
Speaker 2: for dinner, like at home, because I didn't get home

543
00:26:21,440 --> 00:26:21,840
Speaker 2: so late.

544
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Speaker 1: So I think that's good. So I'm glad because you're

545
00:26:29,520 --> 00:26:32,680
Speaker 1: right mill purpose. I mean it could be overwhelming sometimes

546
00:26:32,680 --> 00:26:34,320
Speaker 1: because you're right, You're like wall, I have to chop

547
00:26:34,359 --> 00:26:38,000
Speaker 1: and skip and and you know, but more and more

548
00:26:38,040 --> 00:26:41,520
Speaker 1: now that I'm which, I like this new term a

549
00:26:41,600 --> 00:26:44,800
Speaker 1: vanity vegan, and I accepted. I embrace it. Wait what

550
00:26:45,800 --> 00:26:47,960
Speaker 1: I'm a vanity vegan? That's what someone called me. I

551
00:26:47,960 --> 00:26:49,679
Speaker 1: was like, girl, you not. You won't say nothing, but

552
00:26:49,720 --> 00:26:51,560
Speaker 1: where are you here? I am I feeling what is that

553
00:26:51,880 --> 00:26:56,119
Speaker 1: vanity vegan? So most vegans from like doing a little research,

554
00:26:56,240 --> 00:26:58,240
Speaker 1: research meeting, Like I'm part of one Facebook group, so

555
00:26:58,320 --> 00:27:02,320
Speaker 1: whatever that vegans, I guess to be a true vegan,

556
00:27:02,359 --> 00:27:05,040
Speaker 1: you're doing it for the animals and like, yeah, you're

557
00:27:05,400 --> 00:27:07,320
Speaker 1: like the health is secondary. It's like, no, I want

558
00:27:07,359 --> 00:27:10,560
Speaker 1: to save the animals. And although I do like animals,

559
00:27:10,760 --> 00:27:12,560
Speaker 1: and I'm not saying that I don't want the animals

560
00:27:12,560 --> 00:27:16,280
Speaker 1: to be healthy. I do. My primary reason for being

561
00:27:16,359 --> 00:27:21,000
Speaker 1: vegan is one to be snatched, two to be healthier.

562
00:27:21,400 --> 00:27:23,680
Speaker 1: Three you know, hey, yes, I would like the animals

563
00:27:23,680 --> 00:27:25,399
Speaker 1: not to have a terrible life. But I'm not gonna lie.

564
00:27:25,440 --> 00:27:28,479
Speaker 1: I'm honest here snatchness is eye on the list. So

565
00:27:28,520 --> 00:27:30,440
Speaker 1: someone was like, girl, you're a vanity vegan. I said,

566
00:27:30,520 --> 00:27:36,000
Speaker 1: I will take it. So I'm a vanity vegan. And

567
00:27:36,080 --> 00:27:38,359
Speaker 1: so meal prep is definitely helpful because I can't, like,

568
00:27:38,960 --> 00:27:41,480
Speaker 1: if I don't honestly, I go down near hungry at

569
00:27:41,560 --> 00:27:44,480
Speaker 1: night or I have to eat like a cereal with

570
00:27:44,480 --> 00:27:46,600
Speaker 1: with almond milk. So if I don't like, kind of

571
00:27:46,640 --> 00:27:49,960
Speaker 1: like decide, like, you know, Tiffany, let's chop up. Like

572
00:27:50,000 --> 00:27:52,600
Speaker 1: I've had cauliflower rice for the first time, but I

573
00:27:52,600 --> 00:27:54,280
Speaker 1: had to chop that up. But it was actually really good.

574
00:27:54,280 --> 00:27:55,960
Speaker 1: But you know, I have to plan in advance.

575
00:27:56,080 --> 00:27:58,359
Speaker 2: Pro tip Trader Joe sells it.

576
00:27:59,760 --> 00:28:03,800
Speaker 1: You know, the two who shopwrite tells it too.

577
00:28:04,280 --> 00:28:05,919
Speaker 2: Look at that mm hm.

578
00:28:06,040 --> 00:28:07,560
Speaker 1: So I tried it and I actually really liked it.

579
00:28:07,640 --> 00:28:10,119
Speaker 1: I made myself this like Santa fe bol, which is

580
00:28:10,200 --> 00:28:12,960
Speaker 1: like typically that would be like rice, and it would

581
00:28:13,000 --> 00:28:15,840
Speaker 1: be like all these kind of like quote unquote air

582
00:28:15,920 --> 00:28:21,520
Speaker 1: quotes Mexican like like beans and and like tomatoes and

583
00:28:22,840 --> 00:28:25,280
Speaker 1: guaqu and sour cream all that kind of stuff and cheese.

584
00:28:25,320 --> 00:28:27,720
Speaker 1: So I did. I did with colidflower rice and I

585
00:28:27,760 --> 00:28:30,800
Speaker 1: put beans and corn and no cheese obviously, no sour cream,

586
00:28:30,840 --> 00:28:33,119
Speaker 1: but guac and what else did I have on it?

587
00:28:33,119 --> 00:28:34,600
Speaker 1: It was really good, honestly, so it was like a

588
00:28:34,640 --> 00:28:37,320
Speaker 1: Santa fe bol without any dairy or any meat. Basically,

589
00:28:37,359 --> 00:28:40,040
Speaker 1: it was like a bowl of veggies. And it was

590
00:28:40,440 --> 00:28:43,719
Speaker 1: so delicious, honestly, so delicious. It's one of my new

591
00:28:43,840 --> 00:28:47,160
Speaker 1: favorite warm dishes where it's basically a bowl of vegetables,

592
00:28:47,200 --> 00:28:48,840
Speaker 1: but it doesn't kind of taste like it. It tastes

593
00:28:48,960 --> 00:28:51,720
Speaker 1: like you might be having, like, you know, a rice

594
00:28:51,800 --> 00:28:54,760
Speaker 1: and beans bowl, but you're really not. You're just eating vegetables.

595
00:28:55,560 --> 00:28:59,920
Speaker 1: That sounds taste so love It was, yes, oh yes,

596
00:29:00,000 --> 00:29:03,600
Speaker 1: Squawka's best. So here's my I'm not gonna boost. I've

597
00:29:03,600 --> 00:29:06,520
Speaker 1: been boosting lately, which is good, but I'm going to break.

598
00:29:07,240 --> 00:29:09,640
Speaker 1: And it's a little light hearted break, but I'm sick

599
00:29:09,720 --> 00:29:12,240
Speaker 1: of it. So here's what I'm sick of. I'm sick

600
00:29:12,320 --> 00:29:18,200
Speaker 1: of everyone pumpkin spicing every dagon thing. When I went

601
00:29:18,280 --> 00:29:21,960
Speaker 1: to the supermarket and I saw they had cheerios pumpkin

602
00:29:22,080 --> 00:29:25,160
Speaker 1: spice cheerios, I said, I've added I've had a mouth.

603
00:29:26,200 --> 00:29:28,840
Speaker 1: I get it, it's fall. I think, what did pumpkin

604
00:29:28,920 --> 00:29:32,280
Speaker 1: spice start? Did it start with with the latte at Starbucks?

605
00:29:32,320 --> 00:29:34,680
Speaker 1: Is that who started this whole trend of pumpkin spicing thing?

606
00:29:34,960 --> 00:29:37,240
Speaker 2: I mean, lord knows Yankee Candles probably had a pumpkin

607
00:29:37,280 --> 00:29:40,560
Speaker 2: spice candle for decades. But yes, I think Starbucks the

608
00:29:40,640 --> 00:29:43,000
Speaker 2: flavoring of pumpkin spice. We can lame that on Starbucks

609
00:29:43,080 --> 00:29:43,840
Speaker 2: and basic pitches.

610
00:29:44,920 --> 00:29:47,800
Speaker 1: Yes, and I'm sick of it. I've actually found like

611
00:29:48,120 --> 00:29:51,640
Speaker 1: a bunch of hilarious means like tam PACs pumpkin spice.

612
00:29:53,160 --> 00:29:55,040
Speaker 1: They have pumpkin spice xanax.

613
00:29:55,520 --> 00:29:58,640
Speaker 2: I'm so so excited that you broke on this. Actually

614
00:29:58,680 --> 00:30:00,360
Speaker 2: you kind of stole my break for next week, but

615
00:30:00,440 --> 00:30:03,960
Speaker 2: I'm gonna let you have it because because I had

616
00:30:04,000 --> 00:30:06,720
Speaker 2: the exact same thought. Me and my team at Magnified

617
00:30:06,760 --> 00:30:08,880
Speaker 2: Money and earlier this month, we sent out our reporter,

618
00:30:08,960 --> 00:30:12,480
Speaker 2: Brittany shout out to Brittany to five to seven different

619
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Speaker 2: grocery stores, and we had her look at two hundred

620
00:30:15,120 --> 00:30:18,840
Speaker 2: different products, the pumpkin spice version and the regular version,

621
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Speaker 2: and we calculated how much retailers are charging for pumpkin

622
00:30:22,600 --> 00:30:25,520
Speaker 2: spice taxes, That's what I'm calling it. So that's like

623
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Speaker 2: the up charge that they put on products when they're

624
00:30:28,760 --> 00:30:32,160
Speaker 2: pumpkin spice. Yes, guess this is like a this is

625
00:30:32,160 --> 00:30:34,320
Speaker 2: a sneak peak because we have not released this, we

626
00:30:34,440 --> 00:30:37,240
Speaker 2: have not released the results of the study yet. And

627
00:30:37,320 --> 00:30:39,400
Speaker 2: I'm probably gonna be special because we're supposed to be

628
00:30:39,400 --> 00:30:41,240
Speaker 2: it's supposed to be under embargo. But whatever, you're gonna

629
00:30:41,240 --> 00:30:44,920
Speaker 2: get a little taste. So here's the thing, Like, the

630
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Speaker 2: worst offender for pumpkin spice taxes was Trader Joe's, Like,

631
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Speaker 2: hands down, my baby Trader JOm my baby Trader Joe's.

632
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Speaker 2: Just for an example, here's one of the most infuriating

633
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Speaker 2: things because not only are some businesses charging more for

634
00:31:00,680 --> 00:31:04,680
Speaker 2: pumpkin spice products, they're giving you less of the products

635
00:31:05,080 --> 00:31:06,880
Speaker 2: and they have the audacity to charge more for it.

636
00:31:06,960 --> 00:31:09,200
Speaker 2: So have you ever heard of so you just said

637
00:31:09,240 --> 00:31:12,880
Speaker 2: pumpkin spice cereal? Right, So, for example, Trader Joe's has

638
00:31:12,960 --> 00:31:15,960
Speaker 2: regular Trader Joe's O's, which is like their cheerios fifteen

639
00:31:16,000 --> 00:31:20,720
Speaker 2: ounces for one ninety nine pumpkin o's Pumpkin O's for

640
00:31:20,880 --> 00:31:24,280
Speaker 2: twelve ounce. Is that three ounces less, it costs two

641
00:31:24,480 --> 00:31:28,840
Speaker 2: sixty nine So seventy cents more for three ounces less.

642
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Speaker 2: That's a sixty nine percent Wow. Pumpkin spice tax rate

643
00:31:32,240 --> 00:31:36,280
Speaker 2: per ounce. You're welcome, America. We're all being screwed.

644
00:31:37,280 --> 00:31:39,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, we are, and I'm over it. They have pumpkin

645
00:31:39,840 --> 00:31:41,600
Speaker 1: spice Oreo Pokies. Have you seen this?

646
00:31:41,920 --> 00:31:44,680
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, oh yeah, don't to hear how much more

647
00:31:44,680 --> 00:31:46,880
Speaker 2: they charge for the Oreo pumpkin spice, I mean the

648
00:31:46,960 --> 00:31:50,760
Speaker 2: pumpkin spice Oreo. It's a thirty thirty three percent pumpkin

649
00:31:50,840 --> 00:31:54,880
Speaker 2: spice rate pumpkin spice tax rate on the Oreos pumpkin

650
00:31:54,960 --> 00:31:58,120
Speaker 2: spice flavor at Target thirty three percent more.

651
00:31:59,120 --> 00:31:59,880
Speaker 1: Wow, that's a lot.

652
00:32:00,320 --> 00:32:01,840
Speaker 2: You get four ounces less.

653
00:32:03,600 --> 00:32:05,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, I can't. I'm closing when I yeah, I just

654
00:32:06,160 --> 00:32:08,120
Speaker 1: honestly when it was the Cheerios that did me in

655
00:32:08,480 --> 00:32:11,560
Speaker 1: because I was like walking down the aisle and I'm like, wait, what,

656
00:32:12,160 --> 00:32:14,080
Speaker 1: I see a big old pumpkin on a Cheerios box.

657
00:32:14,080 --> 00:32:16,320
Speaker 1: I said, that doesn't belong there. I saw it and

658
00:32:16,640 --> 00:32:19,200
Speaker 1: I wanted to take my arm, pull it out straight

659
00:32:19,320 --> 00:32:21,080
Speaker 1: and put a fist at the end and just drag

660
00:32:21,160 --> 00:32:24,880
Speaker 1: my arm across the shelf and then knock it all

661
00:32:24,920 --> 00:32:27,320
Speaker 1: down and just run and say no by back gets byes,

662
00:32:27,480 --> 00:32:30,440
Speaker 1: we're balds, We're balds. Was this I didn't. Instead, I

663
00:32:30,560 --> 00:32:32,800
Speaker 1: just discussed and I said to myself, did shall be

664
00:32:32,920 --> 00:32:33,560
Speaker 1: my bomb break?

665
00:32:34,280 --> 00:32:35,959
Speaker 2: You don't want one hundred and thirty You don't want

666
00:32:35,960 --> 00:32:37,880
Speaker 2: to pay one hundred and thirty three percent tax rate

667
00:32:37,960 --> 00:32:40,360
Speaker 2: on pumpkin spice pancake mix from freder Joe's.

668
00:32:41,280 --> 00:32:41,920
Speaker 1: That's so cool.

669
00:32:41,920 --> 00:32:44,240
Speaker 2: You get ten ounces less than the real version and

670
00:32:44,360 --> 00:32:45,360
Speaker 2: you pay a dollar more.

671
00:32:46,280 --> 00:32:48,880
Speaker 1: That is just I'm like, you know, I always think this.

672
00:32:49,080 --> 00:32:51,479
Speaker 1: It's so you know, because we live in the Northeast, right,

673
00:32:51,920 --> 00:32:55,120
Speaker 1: So I'm like, so quote unquote, I guess you could

674
00:32:55,160 --> 00:32:58,280
Speaker 1: call it spoiled by the fact that we have seasons

675
00:32:58,360 --> 00:32:59,920
Speaker 1: in the way like they are like in the book,

676
00:33:00,040 --> 00:33:02,920
Speaker 1: you know, like hey, fall gets chilli and the leaves

677
00:33:03,000 --> 00:33:05,440
Speaker 1: tearing colors. So do they pumpkin spice it up in

678
00:33:05,520 --> 00:33:08,520
Speaker 1: like California and places where the seasons are not like ours,

679
00:33:08,600 --> 00:33:11,120
Speaker 1: they have their own kind of seasons. Oh, I don't know,

680
00:33:12,080 --> 00:33:14,920
Speaker 1: I know, you know what I mean, Like, I'm always curious,

681
00:33:14,920 --> 00:33:15,480
Speaker 1: and maybe.

682
00:33:15,280 --> 00:33:17,480
Speaker 2: They do even more because they don't have the seasons

683
00:33:17,520 --> 00:33:19,120
Speaker 2: and they want to pretend that they do, although it

684
00:33:19,200 --> 00:33:23,120
Speaker 2: does get cold in La in like California, it gets cold,

685
00:33:23,160 --> 00:33:23,440
Speaker 2: and right.

686
00:33:25,400 --> 00:33:28,000
Speaker 1: I always just I just wonder that they're like, huh,

687
00:33:28,680 --> 00:33:30,920
Speaker 1: like for places like, you know, when we have these

688
00:33:30,960 --> 00:33:34,320
Speaker 1: super seasonal items, do places that kind of they don't

689
00:33:34,360 --> 00:33:37,120
Speaker 1: have the fluctuating weather that we have. I wonder if

690
00:33:37,280 --> 00:33:39,640
Speaker 1: you know, they're like girl, like say Hawaii, they're like, girl,

691
00:33:40,120 --> 00:33:41,760
Speaker 1: get out of here with this pumpkin spice. It's the

692
00:33:41,840 --> 00:33:46,720
Speaker 1: same all year round beautiful. So I'm just curious about that.

693
00:33:46,760 --> 00:33:48,640
Speaker 1: I just wonder, just a little wandering.

694
00:33:48,800 --> 00:33:54,360
Speaker 2: There's basic bitches everywhere. I'm sure made it around the round. Well,

695
00:33:54,400 --> 00:33:56,920
Speaker 2: you're welcome for the sink peak at our pumpkin spice

696
00:33:56,960 --> 00:33:57,480
Speaker 2: talk story.

697
00:33:58,320 --> 00:33:59,440
Speaker 1: Yes, I definitely want to read it.

698
00:33:59,560 --> 00:34:02,400
Speaker 2: I get so mad talking about it. All right, Well, anyway, moving.

699
00:34:02,280 --> 00:34:09,040
Speaker 1: On question Q. Question question question, So who today needs

700
00:34:09,080 --> 00:34:11,080
Speaker 1: to get their life together that we can only dream

701
00:34:11,120 --> 00:34:11,439
Speaker 1: to help.

702
00:34:13,600 --> 00:34:15,799
Speaker 2: It's a good way of putting it, I know, right,

703
00:34:15,800 --> 00:34:16,279
Speaker 2: I'm like, in.

704
00:34:16,320 --> 00:34:18,800
Speaker 1: Other words, we're not experts, I mean well meaning like

705
00:34:19,520 --> 00:34:21,759
Speaker 1: you need a lawyer or a doctor or nurse or whatever.

706
00:34:22,080 --> 00:34:24,759
Speaker 1: We're just here to give friendly girlfriend advice that you

707
00:34:24,800 --> 00:34:26,800
Speaker 1: should run by an expert that you're paying money to.

708
00:34:28,120 --> 00:34:33,359
Speaker 1: Sometimes I felt you like, that's our disclosure for a girl.

709
00:34:34,520 --> 00:34:37,040
Speaker 1: Someone asked me the other day something about like, well,

710
00:34:37,080 --> 00:34:38,440
Speaker 1: when you tell us stuff, should.

711
00:34:38,200 --> 00:34:38,719
Speaker 2: We just do it?

712
00:34:38,880 --> 00:34:40,240
Speaker 1: I said, girl, I'm not Jesus.

713
00:34:41,840 --> 00:34:43,840
Speaker 2: Now, I don't want a letter from your lawyer saying

714
00:34:43,920 --> 00:34:46,200
Speaker 2: we followed your advice from episode sixty two point five

715
00:34:46,600 --> 00:34:48,560
Speaker 2: and you told us to do X Y Z, and

716
00:34:48,640 --> 00:34:49,200
Speaker 2: now we're broke.

717
00:34:49,320 --> 00:34:52,080
Speaker 1: Do yeah know yeah, I'm like no, no, don't no, no,

718
00:34:52,320 --> 00:34:55,160
Speaker 1: do your googles? Do you discernment Like I'm not Jesus Christ,

719
00:34:55,200 --> 00:34:57,880
Speaker 1: I'm not God. I'm merely someone who will let it

720
00:34:58,360 --> 00:35:00,360
Speaker 1: for what I need and then I'll pass it along

721
00:35:00,480 --> 00:35:03,080
Speaker 1: and then you can decide, and you should bet it

722
00:35:03,160 --> 00:35:06,520
Speaker 1: even further and then decide for yourself. Shoall someho, I

723
00:35:07,480 --> 00:35:08,320
Speaker 1: should not just do it.

724
00:35:09,440 --> 00:35:12,560
Speaker 2: No, but in all seriousness, I mean in all seriousness

725
00:35:12,760 --> 00:35:15,560
Speaker 2: when I when I'm reviewing questions, if it is too

726
00:35:15,640 --> 00:35:17,799
Speaker 2: complex for us, or if it's beyond what I think

727
00:35:17,880 --> 00:35:21,800
Speaker 2: is our general like knowledge, I typically refer people to

728
00:35:21,960 --> 00:35:24,040
Speaker 2: sources that they can use instead, or refer them to,

729
00:35:24,480 --> 00:35:28,360
Speaker 2: you know, talk to an expert so anyway, don't you

730
00:35:28,400 --> 00:35:29,560
Speaker 2: don't have to worry. I mean, I feel like the

731
00:35:29,640 --> 00:35:32,080
Speaker 2: questions we answer on the show are pretty much in

732
00:35:32,200 --> 00:35:34,920
Speaker 2: line with what we know, at least enough to get

733
00:35:34,960 --> 00:35:35,680
Speaker 2: people started.

734
00:35:36,840 --> 00:35:37,279
Speaker 1: Very true.

735
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Speaker 2: With that being said, send us your questions. Go to

736
00:35:40,360 --> 00:35:43,640
Speaker 2: brund Ambition podcast dot com click on ask us anything.

737
00:35:44,200 --> 00:35:47,920
Speaker 2: You can be anonymous. We will not be outing anyone's

738
00:35:47,960 --> 00:35:52,719
Speaker 2: financial ghosts on the show. But yeah, we have a

739
00:35:52,760 --> 00:35:54,680
Speaker 2: couple of the questions for today. We'll try it. Maybe

740
00:35:54,719 --> 00:35:58,440
Speaker 2: we can get through too. So this reader, this listener anyway,

741
00:35:58,880 --> 00:36:01,800
Speaker 2: messaged us and she says I had an apartment in

742
00:36:01,880 --> 00:36:04,279
Speaker 2: my name. I think she wants to remain anonymous, so

743
00:36:04,320 --> 00:36:06,320
Speaker 2: I won't reveal her name. So I had an apartment

744
00:36:06,440 --> 00:36:08,440
Speaker 2: in my name for a relative. This was before I

745
00:36:08,480 --> 00:36:11,400
Speaker 2: got credit smart. They moved out of the apartment and

746
00:36:11,520 --> 00:36:13,840
Speaker 2: broke the lease. I didn't know they moved out, and

747
00:36:13,880 --> 00:36:16,320
Speaker 2: they didn't let me know. A few months later, I

748
00:36:16,400 --> 00:36:19,759
Speaker 2: got a credit collection letter in the mail. Furious, but

749
00:36:19,840 --> 00:36:22,399
Speaker 2: I paid it off in full. Later I found out

750
00:36:22,480 --> 00:36:24,640
Speaker 2: that there was a judgment filed with the county courts

751
00:36:24,680 --> 00:36:26,680
Speaker 2: when I tried to get an apartment myself. A few

752
00:36:26,719 --> 00:36:29,680
Speaker 2: years later, I was told I could have the judgment

753
00:36:29,760 --> 00:36:33,800
Speaker 2: lifted by reporting by the credit reporting company, and recently

754
00:36:34,120 --> 00:36:36,920
Speaker 2: they did submit an update to the courts. However, the

755
00:36:37,040 --> 00:36:40,360
Speaker 2: update just said it was dismissed without prejudice, which I

756
00:36:40,480 --> 00:36:43,360
Speaker 2: later found out means that they can actually reopen the

757
00:36:43,440 --> 00:36:46,200
Speaker 2: case if they wanted to. It should have been filed

758
00:36:46,320 --> 00:36:49,640
Speaker 2: as dismissed with prejudice, meaning the case is closed and

759
00:36:49,680 --> 00:36:51,480
Speaker 2: the balance is paid in full. Do you have any

760
00:36:51,600 --> 00:36:54,600
Speaker 2: suggestions on how to resolve this and have it removed

761
00:36:54,600 --> 00:36:55,560
Speaker 2: from my credit report?

762
00:36:56,440 --> 00:36:58,520
Speaker 1: Well, one, she's right, because I did my googles as

763
00:36:58,560 --> 00:37:00,960
Speaker 1: far as it's like the difference which you dismissed without

764
00:37:01,120 --> 00:37:05,840
Speaker 1: dismissed with prejudice, but what my Google's also revealed to me?

765
00:37:06,000 --> 00:37:07,880
Speaker 1: And I asked like a quick like one of my

766
00:37:08,680 --> 00:37:10,560
Speaker 1: friends who's a lawyer. We were just like Facebook chatting,

767
00:37:10,560 --> 00:37:14,200
Speaker 1: so I was asking her. She said that typically when

768
00:37:14,320 --> 00:37:17,600
Speaker 1: something is dismissed without prejudice, it means that they can

769
00:37:17,680 --> 00:37:22,000
Speaker 1: refile once, but there's a statute of limitations, meaning like

770
00:37:22,480 --> 00:37:25,400
Speaker 1: it has to be filed within a certain time period.

771
00:37:25,960 --> 00:37:28,959
Speaker 1: So I if you can find out in your state,

772
00:37:29,160 --> 00:37:31,120
Speaker 1: like you know, do it like a Google search, because

773
00:37:31,320 --> 00:37:34,200
Speaker 1: even though it was dismissed without prejudice. If that statute,

774
00:37:34,200 --> 00:37:36,080
Speaker 1: if it's six months, if it's a year, whatever, if

775
00:37:36,120 --> 00:37:38,120
Speaker 1: that time has passed, you don't have to worry about

776
00:37:38,120 --> 00:37:39,560
Speaker 1: them trying to come back and get money from you.

777
00:37:40,400 --> 00:37:44,080
Speaker 1: But I can't understand your nervousness. My assumption is that

778
00:37:44,200 --> 00:37:46,680
Speaker 1: you're nervous that they might come back and be like, side,

779
00:37:46,719 --> 00:37:49,000
Speaker 1: we want our money. Even though you paid so one,

780
00:37:49,400 --> 00:37:51,759
Speaker 1: you know, it might not if it was a year

781
00:37:51,800 --> 00:37:54,120
Speaker 1: ago or whatever, and you're like, oh, it's past the statute.

782
00:37:54,160 --> 00:37:57,319
Speaker 1: They even though it was dismissed without prejudice, they can't

783
00:37:57,360 --> 00:38:00,440
Speaker 1: come back because that time has expired. Then I wouldn't

784
00:38:00,440 --> 00:38:03,040
Speaker 1: worry about that if the time has expired, unless that

785
00:38:03,239 --> 00:38:05,600
Speaker 1: wording is keeping you from getting an apartment. But if

786
00:38:05,640 --> 00:38:08,440
Speaker 1: it's still within that time, I would think that you

787
00:38:08,480 --> 00:38:13,160
Speaker 1: would go back to the to the credit company right

788
00:38:13,280 --> 00:38:15,840
Speaker 1: and say, hey, why is it like this? Or go

789
00:38:15,960 --> 00:38:18,080
Speaker 1: back to the court system and say why is this?

790
00:38:18,880 --> 00:38:20,880
Speaker 1: Why is it still kind of like pending and open

791
00:38:21,280 --> 00:38:23,080
Speaker 1: you know, who do I need to speak to in

792
00:38:23,280 --> 00:38:24,320
Speaker 1: order to get that fixed?

793
00:38:25,120 --> 00:38:26,879
Speaker 2: Yeah? Or ask if they can put a note even

794
00:38:26,920 --> 00:38:29,640
Speaker 2: if they have to keep the with prejudice there with prejudice,

795
00:38:29,680 --> 00:38:33,400
Speaker 2: but balance paid in full. My only concern is I

796
00:38:33,440 --> 00:38:35,440
Speaker 2: don't know that she'll ever get it off her credit report.

797
00:38:35,520 --> 00:38:38,440
Speaker 2: I mean, it's legitimate, you know you were, your name

798
00:38:38,560 --> 00:38:43,440
Speaker 2: was on the apartment. It's it's your credit unfortunately, I think,

799
00:38:43,719 --> 00:38:45,480
Speaker 2: and she says, it's been a few years later, so

800
00:38:45,560 --> 00:38:47,200
Speaker 2: that might mean that you have a few more years

801
00:38:47,239 --> 00:38:51,200
Speaker 2: of this being on your credit report. So unfortunately, there's

802
00:38:51,200 --> 00:38:52,359
Speaker 2: probably not a way for you to get it off

803
00:38:52,400 --> 00:38:53,960
Speaker 2: your credit report. But maybe there's a way for them

804
00:38:54,000 --> 00:38:56,080
Speaker 2: to at least note on their balance paid in full,

805
00:38:56,280 --> 00:38:58,120
Speaker 2: so that the next time you apply for an apartment

806
00:38:58,200 --> 00:39:01,040
Speaker 2: you can at least you can you can defend yourself

807
00:39:01,120 --> 00:39:03,040
Speaker 2: and say, well, I paid it in full and try to,

808
00:39:03,760 --> 00:39:07,839
Speaker 2: you know, explain yourself to whoever's doing the background check. Yeah,

809
00:39:08,000 --> 00:39:11,000
Speaker 2: my good friend actually was just searching for an apartment

810
00:39:11,040 --> 00:39:13,480
Speaker 2: in New York and she this might be a case

811
00:39:13,520 --> 00:39:15,160
Speaker 2: where someone has a similar name to her, and I

812
00:39:15,200 --> 00:39:16,960
Speaker 2: wonder if this has happened to anyone else. But she

813
00:39:17,840 --> 00:39:20,600
Speaker 2: apparently these people who like own this apartment are really

814
00:39:20,800 --> 00:39:23,359
Speaker 2: sticklers for background checks, and they did this crazy check

815
00:39:23,760 --> 00:39:27,040
Speaker 2: and it turns out like she found or they said

816
00:39:27,120 --> 00:39:33,040
Speaker 2: that she had a similar a similar mark or like

817
00:39:33,280 --> 00:39:35,960
Speaker 2: a judgment in like a county back in Georgia where

818
00:39:36,000 --> 00:39:39,640
Speaker 2: she's from from over ten years ago, from missing a

819
00:39:39,680 --> 00:39:42,640
Speaker 2: bunch of rent payments and it wasn't on her credit report,

820
00:39:43,200 --> 00:39:46,080
Speaker 2: but they had filed the claim in court apparently with

821
00:39:46,200 --> 00:39:49,960
Speaker 2: the county, and this had come up in a background

822
00:39:50,000 --> 00:39:52,640
Speaker 2: check for an apartment all these years later and it

823
00:39:52,800 --> 00:39:55,520
Speaker 2: wasn't her and she was sort of she had to

824
00:39:55,600 --> 00:39:57,600
Speaker 2: move on to a different apartment because she tried calling

825
00:39:57,680 --> 00:39:59,120
Speaker 2: the county, she tried to call with the court. She

826
00:39:59,239 --> 00:40:01,400
Speaker 2: called all these people to try and figure out and

827
00:40:01,560 --> 00:40:04,279
Speaker 2: even though the core, the county, whoever she called, said

828
00:40:04,320 --> 00:40:07,879
Speaker 2: they couldn't find the same record that this background check found. Okay,

829
00:40:08,160 --> 00:40:10,279
Speaker 2: there really wasn't anything she could do and it wasn't

830
00:40:10,320 --> 00:40:12,919
Speaker 2: on her credit report. It was just stopping her from

831
00:40:13,040 --> 00:40:16,680
Speaker 2: getting an apartment, which sucked. All she could do is just,

832
00:40:16,800 --> 00:40:18,520
Speaker 2: you know, give up on that apartment and try to

833
00:40:18,520 --> 00:40:20,319
Speaker 2: find another one where they weren't going to do such

834
00:40:20,320 --> 00:40:22,480
Speaker 2: a crazy I don't know background check.

835
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Speaker 1: Oh no, it is weird. So you know, that brought

836
00:40:26,719 --> 00:40:29,480
Speaker 1: up reminded me. Remember I talked about last week, how

837
00:40:30,320 --> 00:40:32,160
Speaker 1: for an order for Superman and I to close on

838
00:40:32,200 --> 00:40:34,320
Speaker 1: the house, we have to do the title search, and

839
00:40:34,440 --> 00:40:36,279
Speaker 1: it pulled up some old ticket or whatever he had

840
00:40:36,320 --> 00:40:40,200
Speaker 1: for one hundred something dollars, right, So it turns out

841
00:40:40,200 --> 00:40:42,359
Speaker 1: because I was like, wait, So I was asking him,

842
00:40:42,400 --> 00:40:44,040
Speaker 1: like it seems weird that, like, why would we have

843
00:40:44,160 --> 00:40:46,560
Speaker 1: to pay this in order to move forward? We don't

844
00:40:47,080 --> 00:40:49,840
Speaker 1: so that he can leave that hundred and something thousand

845
00:40:50,000 --> 00:40:52,160
Speaker 1: that hundred Oh what if it was one hundred something thousand,

846
00:40:52,160 --> 00:40:55,160
Speaker 1: forget it. I'd be like, boy, I'm out, I'm out,

847
00:40:55,400 --> 00:40:58,200
Speaker 1: or your neighbor's office. But for that hundred and it

848
00:40:58,239 --> 00:41:01,200
Speaker 1: was like one hundred and eight dollars, So that it's

849
00:41:01,320 --> 00:41:04,239
Speaker 1: not that he had to pay it because we're buying

850
00:41:04,280 --> 00:41:08,480
Speaker 1: the house cash. But what happens is if we were

851
00:41:08,560 --> 00:41:13,319
Speaker 1: getting a mortgage, the mortgage company may not give us

852
00:41:13,320 --> 00:41:16,360
Speaker 1: the mortgage because to them that because he owed and

853
00:41:16,400 --> 00:41:18,200
Speaker 1: he'd be an owner of the house, that would be

854
00:41:18,239 --> 00:41:19,880
Speaker 1: a lean against the property that would have to be

855
00:41:20,000 --> 00:41:22,279
Speaker 1: satisfied if we decide to sell it, you see what

856
00:41:22,320 --> 00:41:26,279
Speaker 1: I mean? And so I said, oh, so, I mean

857
00:41:26,320 --> 00:41:27,759
Speaker 1: we're going to pay it because you know, like why

858
00:41:27,920 --> 00:41:30,920
Speaker 1: have that sitting there? So if we wanted to refinance.

859
00:41:31,000 --> 00:41:35,520
Speaker 1: For example, the big thing for mortgage companies is if

860
00:41:35,800 --> 00:41:38,320
Speaker 1: one day you can't pay, we have to take this

861
00:41:38,440 --> 00:41:40,600
Speaker 1: house back from you and sell it. We want to

862
00:41:40,640 --> 00:41:42,640
Speaker 1: make sure that we get our money back, so if

863
00:41:42,680 --> 00:41:45,000
Speaker 1: there's any lean against your name, we don't want anyone

864
00:41:45,080 --> 00:41:46,879
Speaker 1: coming at you'd be like, oh, just selling your house.

865
00:41:47,280 --> 00:41:49,320
Speaker 1: We need our money back as well. And so I

866
00:41:49,440 --> 00:41:51,640
Speaker 1: was like, oh, so technically, like I said, we don't

867
00:41:51,680 --> 00:41:52,960
Speaker 1: have to pay that, but I just want to give

868
00:41:52,960 --> 00:41:54,719
Speaker 1: an update because it was like the news to me

869
00:41:54,840 --> 00:41:57,399
Speaker 1: that we don't have to pay it, but it might

870
00:41:57,520 --> 00:41:59,520
Speaker 1: hold us up if we were getting a mortgage or

871
00:41:59,560 --> 00:42:01,160
Speaker 1: refinance later on in the future.

872
00:42:01,600 --> 00:42:03,360
Speaker 2: Is there any way that you could have found that

873
00:42:03,400 --> 00:42:06,080
Speaker 2: out yourself? Like what how if you wanted to? Because

874
00:42:06,080 --> 00:42:08,600
Speaker 2: we got a question about that same thing about happened

875
00:42:08,600 --> 00:42:10,719
Speaker 2: to Superman from a listener who wanted to know if

876
00:42:10,800 --> 00:42:12,719
Speaker 2: she wants to because she's thinking of buying a house,

877
00:42:12,760 --> 00:42:14,840
Speaker 2: if she wants to run her own check, Like, is

878
00:42:14,880 --> 00:42:16,840
Speaker 2: there a way do you know how they found it

879
00:42:16,920 --> 00:42:18,600
Speaker 2: and if she could do her or do title search

880
00:42:18,640 --> 00:42:20,640
Speaker 2: companies just have their own you know.

881
00:42:20,680 --> 00:42:24,440
Speaker 1: I don't know, honestly, search tools I was shocked. So

882
00:42:24,680 --> 00:42:26,520
Speaker 1: I don't even like because you know, we checked his

883
00:42:26,640 --> 00:42:29,400
Speaker 1: credit and even when we were initially we were going

884
00:42:29,480 --> 00:42:30,960
Speaker 1: to get a more expensive house, we were going to

885
00:42:31,000 --> 00:42:33,160
Speaker 1: get a mortgage, even when because we hadn't done a

886
00:42:33,239 --> 00:42:36,320
Speaker 1: full title search before, but we had definitely like started

887
00:42:36,360 --> 00:42:39,080
Speaker 1: to do the basic mortgage thing. Like they ran his credit,

888
00:42:39,160 --> 00:42:42,680
Speaker 1: none of that came up. So it's I'm not gonna lie.

889
00:42:42,800 --> 00:42:44,480
Speaker 1: I don't know. I didn't even you know, he was like,

890
00:42:44,600 --> 00:42:47,040
Speaker 1: what one hundred eighty dollars? I was like, you know,

891
00:42:47,239 --> 00:42:49,560
Speaker 1: So honestly, I don't know how they found it. It

892
00:42:49,640 --> 00:42:52,440
Speaker 1: didn't come up on his credit, It didn't show up

893
00:42:52,440 --> 00:42:55,239
Speaker 1: any other time. I don't know. It's almost like it's

894
00:42:55,239 --> 00:42:58,360
Speaker 1: almost like a title search. They look at your what

895
00:42:58,520 --> 00:43:01,040
Speaker 1: the court is saying, that's what it looks like, because

896
00:43:01,160 --> 00:43:03,319
Speaker 1: like I said before, they were like people who owe

897
00:43:03,400 --> 00:43:07,040
Speaker 1: child support, people who like owe probation and stuff like that,

898
00:43:07,480 --> 00:43:10,000
Speaker 1: so this was like an outstanding ticket. So it's almost

899
00:43:10,160 --> 00:43:11,879
Speaker 1: like that. And I mean, like I said, I don't

900
00:43:11,920 --> 00:43:13,320
Speaker 1: quote me because I don't know for sure, but it

901
00:43:13,400 --> 00:43:15,840
Speaker 1: was just looking at the other folks who had similar

902
00:43:15,920 --> 00:43:18,440
Speaker 1: names to him that weren't him. They all seem like

903
00:43:18,800 --> 00:43:24,440
Speaker 1: court related finds that were pulled up, and so I

904
00:43:24,520 --> 00:43:26,480
Speaker 1: don't know honestly, So you might, I mean, I might

905
00:43:26,520 --> 00:43:27,840
Speaker 1: do a Google start and I can. What I can

906
00:43:27,960 --> 00:43:30,960
Speaker 1: do is I can ask my title company, like you know, well,

907
00:43:31,040 --> 00:43:32,239
Speaker 1: I don't know if they tell me like how do

908
00:43:32,320 --> 00:43:36,520
Speaker 1: I do it myself? So but I can certainly ask

909
00:43:36,560 --> 00:43:38,759
Speaker 1: my realtor, who's amazing, like you know, is there a

910
00:43:38,800 --> 00:43:40,319
Speaker 1: way to kind of pull this up ahead of time?

911
00:43:41,280 --> 00:43:42,799
Speaker 2: All right? Let us know what they find out?

912
00:43:44,120 --> 00:43:45,960
Speaker 1: Yes, Lord, I can't wait till we closed. It's just

913
00:43:46,040 --> 00:43:48,239
Speaker 1: one thing after another, thing after another thing like what's

914
00:43:48,280 --> 00:43:51,400
Speaker 1: the COO. You have to get like a certificate of occupancy,

915
00:43:51,600 --> 00:43:53,319
Speaker 1: Like you have to get like the firehouse to come

916
00:43:53,360 --> 00:43:54,880
Speaker 1: out and make sure that your house is not like

917
00:43:55,440 --> 00:43:57,680
Speaker 1: dangerous and all this other stuff before you can buy it.

918
00:43:57,840 --> 00:43:59,840
Speaker 1: So there are all of these things that kind of

919
00:44:00,440 --> 00:44:03,239
Speaker 1: are not obstacles. But I didn't realize these things that

920
00:44:03,320 --> 00:44:05,239
Speaker 1: you have to do before you actually close. It's not

921
00:44:05,320 --> 00:44:08,320
Speaker 1: just enough to say, hey, I have cash, take my money. No,

922
00:44:08,719 --> 00:44:10,440
Speaker 1: there are things that have to happen, at least in

923
00:44:10,480 --> 00:44:11,960
Speaker 1: the state of New Jersey and in Newark. So I

924
00:44:12,000 --> 00:44:14,560
Speaker 1: don't know what other states do differently, but I have

925
00:44:14,680 --> 00:44:16,640
Speaker 1: to get a COO. It's two hundred and fifty dollars.

926
00:44:16,680 --> 00:44:20,200
Speaker 1: But luckily a mina, my realtor negotiated for the for

927
00:44:20,280 --> 00:44:23,160
Speaker 1: the bank to pay that, and so that way, you know,

928
00:44:23,280 --> 00:44:26,560
Speaker 1: we'll get the whoever to come in and say, yes,

929
00:44:26,600 --> 00:44:29,360
Speaker 1: this house is safe, here's your certificate of occupancy, and

930
00:44:29,400 --> 00:44:31,680
Speaker 1: then we can close and give them even more money

931
00:44:31,719 --> 00:44:33,080
Speaker 1: to close, which is.

932
00:44:33,160 --> 00:44:41,920
Speaker 2: Like yay, all right, well good luck. It seems like

933
00:44:41,960 --> 00:44:44,320
Speaker 2: they will be smooth sailing. I mean maybe I don't know,

934
00:44:44,440 --> 00:44:46,120
Speaker 2: never mind, knock on wed and I'm.

935
00:44:46,000 --> 00:44:48,799
Speaker 1: Like, yeah, well, honestly, I'm not even honestly, we're gonna

936
00:44:48,800 --> 00:44:50,239
Speaker 1: get that. I'm not worried, but I know that, like

937
00:44:50,440 --> 00:44:52,759
Speaker 1: after this, it's going to be all about renovating. So

938
00:44:52,800 --> 00:44:55,399
Speaker 1: I'm sure there's gonna be delightful stories of oh my god,

939
00:44:55,440 --> 00:44:57,920
Speaker 1: we found it, like, you know, a pack of wild

940
00:44:58,760 --> 00:44:59,799
Speaker 1: raccoon living in the ceil.

941
00:45:01,680 --> 00:45:05,360
Speaker 2: Raccoon's better than termine. So right, yes, I mean you

942
00:45:05,400 --> 00:45:08,719
Speaker 2: can just don't even keep on the pay. Raccoons are

943
00:45:08,800 --> 00:45:11,400
Speaker 2: very trendy now, They're all over Instagram. All right, you

944
00:45:11,480 --> 00:45:13,319
Speaker 2: have a date, you need to go, you need to move.

945
00:45:13,440 --> 00:45:16,719
Speaker 1: I know I do, all right, So let's let's let's

946
00:45:16,760 --> 00:45:18,440
Speaker 1: do our wins. What you want to win for.

947
00:45:21,960 --> 00:45:25,200
Speaker 2: Michelle. So I want to do my win for the

948
00:45:25,239 --> 00:45:28,480
Speaker 2: twenty fifth anniversary of my president and my first lady,

949
00:45:28,520 --> 00:45:31,800
Speaker 2: Michelle and Barack Obama. What is a twenty fifth anniversary?

950
00:45:31,880 --> 00:45:35,640
Speaker 2: Is that your silver cotton? I don't know. There's always

951
00:45:35,760 --> 00:45:36,719
Speaker 2: materials that go with.

952
00:45:36,719 --> 00:45:39,920
Speaker 1: Each Yeah, there's like a I think diamond is like fiftieth.

953
00:45:39,520 --> 00:45:43,040
Speaker 2: Right, yeah, something like that. But twenty five years sounds

954
00:45:43,040 --> 00:45:46,800
Speaker 2: like a lifetime. I mean it is a lifetime. So congratulations.

955
00:45:47,040 --> 00:45:50,400
Speaker 2: There are still a couple goals. There are still adult goals,

956
00:45:50,719 --> 00:45:53,279
Speaker 2: life goals, there everything. And I and I say this

957
00:45:53,440 --> 00:45:55,759
Speaker 2: because I feel like Michelle is having She's finally coming

958
00:45:55,800 --> 00:45:58,480
Speaker 2: a little bit back out in spotlight. You see, she

959
00:45:58,560 --> 00:46:01,160
Speaker 2: did a talk at some conference with Shonda Rhymes, and

960
00:46:01,960 --> 00:46:04,799
Speaker 2: she met She really is opening up about being first Lady.

961
00:46:04,840 --> 00:46:06,960
Speaker 2: I cannot wait for her book to come out. I

962
00:46:07,040 --> 00:46:08,719
Speaker 2: know why she's been so quiet, because she's like, I'm

963
00:46:08,719 --> 00:46:11,880
Speaker 2: going to save all the tea for my book and

964
00:46:11,920 --> 00:46:13,920
Speaker 2: then it shall be spilled and I will make millions

965
00:46:13,960 --> 00:46:16,760
Speaker 2: of dollars, which I you know, she should make millions

966
00:46:16,800 --> 00:46:18,719
Speaker 2: of dollars off of it. But uh, I can't wait.

967
00:46:18,800 --> 00:46:20,560
Speaker 2: I think the book is coming out early next year.

968
00:46:22,840 --> 00:46:24,840
Speaker 1: I can't wait. Like, honestly, you're right, I'd love to

969
00:46:24,880 --> 00:46:26,760
Speaker 1: hear the tea the tete.

970
00:46:27,400 --> 00:46:29,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, I love that I got her this book. I

971
00:46:29,840 --> 00:46:30,680
Speaker 2: can't wait to read hers.

972
00:46:31,000 --> 00:46:33,200
Speaker 1: I wonder what she's like. What's her book? It's her

973
00:46:33,239 --> 00:46:35,960
Speaker 1: book about like specifically about the election, we just in general.

974
00:46:36,520 --> 00:46:38,960
Speaker 2: I'm on page five and it's five hundred pages. But

975
00:46:39,520 --> 00:46:41,960
Speaker 2: in the first few pages, I mean I wanted to

976
00:46:42,000 --> 00:46:44,200
Speaker 2: read it because I kept reading everyone's opinion about it,

977
00:46:44,200 --> 00:46:45,719
Speaker 2: and I'm like, no one's read this book yet, Like

978
00:46:45,760 --> 00:46:47,759
Speaker 2: it's five hundred pages. It just came out a week ago.

979
00:46:47,880 --> 00:46:50,279
Speaker 2: People need to actually read it first. But no, it

980
00:46:50,400 --> 00:46:52,600
Speaker 2: is it's like her, it's it's I think what it is.

981
00:46:52,719 --> 00:46:54,680
Speaker 2: I just reading her, just reading her author's note at

982
00:46:54,719 --> 00:46:56,879
Speaker 2: the beginning. I understand why she wrote it. And yeah,

983
00:46:56,920 --> 00:46:58,920
Speaker 2: there's a lot of people who were upset. They're like, well,

984
00:46:59,000 --> 00:47:01,839
Speaker 2: she sit down and shut up. She lost the election,

985
00:47:01,960 --> 00:47:04,520
Speaker 2: me to move on. She's just a sore loser, you know.

986
00:47:04,680 --> 00:47:06,840
Speaker 2: She wants to take a chance to blame everyone but herself.

987
00:47:06,920 --> 00:47:09,360
Speaker 2: But honestly, I think what she wants is, you know

988
00:47:09,440 --> 00:47:12,200
Speaker 2: how the winners in history are the ones who write history.

989
00:47:12,560 --> 00:47:14,680
Speaker 2: I think this is her saying, I'm not going to

990
00:47:14,800 --> 00:47:17,560
Speaker 2: let this winner write the history books the way he

991
00:47:17,680 --> 00:47:19,600
Speaker 2: wants them. I'm going to put my voice out there.

992
00:47:19,640 --> 00:47:21,200
Speaker 2: I'm going to tell the story as I saw it

993
00:47:21,280 --> 00:47:24,120
Speaker 2: in my perspective. Matters and it should be out there.

994
00:47:24,280 --> 00:47:26,680
Speaker 2: And I was the first female to ever be nominated

995
00:47:26,719 --> 00:47:28,880
Speaker 2: by a major party for president, and that matters, and

996
00:47:28,920 --> 00:47:31,480
Speaker 2: I want to tell that story. And yeah, I think,

997
00:47:31,560 --> 00:47:34,279
Speaker 2: of course it also covers everything that, you know, what

998
00:47:34,360 --> 00:47:36,560
Speaker 2: happened to the election, but she also is talking about

999
00:47:37,120 --> 00:47:40,360
Speaker 2: what's happened after. She talks about being there at the

1000
00:47:40,400 --> 00:47:43,080
Speaker 2: inaugural and how sick she felt during and how she

1001
00:47:43,160 --> 00:47:46,520
Speaker 2: almost did it go to the inaugural. So it's it's juicy,

1002
00:47:46,640 --> 00:47:48,040
Speaker 2: and I don't know, I'm going to read the whole thing.

1003
00:47:48,080 --> 00:47:51,560
Speaker 2: I think I'm interested. I think, yeah, it shouldn't just

1004
00:47:51,640 --> 00:47:53,680
Speaker 2: be Lord knows. I don't want the only record of

1005
00:47:53,760 --> 00:47:57,360
Speaker 2: this election to be at all clockwork orange in the

1006
00:47:57,400 --> 00:47:57,919
Speaker 2: White House.

1007
00:47:58,920 --> 00:48:00,560
Speaker 1: Oh my god, that's like the perfec name for it

1008
00:48:00,920 --> 00:48:05,640
Speaker 1: for him, flockwork Orange. Well, my whin it's gonna be

1009
00:48:05,680 --> 00:48:07,200
Speaker 1: a little bit of a personal win. And I think

1010
00:48:07,239 --> 00:48:08,759
Speaker 1: a lot of women kind of kind of relate that

1011
00:48:09,040 --> 00:48:11,120
Speaker 1: I was going to actually do you know first lady

1012
00:48:11,200 --> 00:48:13,640
Speaker 1: in President Rock, but I was like, oh man, he's

1013
00:48:13,640 --> 00:48:16,480
Speaker 1: a thief, so whatever, since I stole pumpkins vice from you,

1014
00:48:16,600 --> 00:48:20,200
Speaker 1: I was like, whenever I'll take it, we share, we share.

1015
00:48:21,560 --> 00:48:23,400
Speaker 1: So my win is just like a little bit personal

1016
00:48:23,440 --> 00:48:26,560
Speaker 1: because I am getting better at And I don't know

1017
00:48:26,680 --> 00:48:29,520
Speaker 1: if if women, I mean, maybe not you, because I

1018
00:48:29,560 --> 00:48:33,160
Speaker 1: feel like you've like are like someone who's not easily

1019
00:48:33,200 --> 00:48:36,120
Speaker 1: as intimidated because surprisingly, even though I have my own business,

1020
00:48:36,200 --> 00:48:39,520
Speaker 1: I can easily be not I don't know if intimidated

1021
00:48:39,600 --> 00:48:43,520
Speaker 1: is the word, but I'm a like a let's not bite,

1022
00:48:43,719 --> 00:48:46,200
Speaker 1: let's just say you got it type of person. You know.

1023
00:48:46,360 --> 00:48:50,200
Speaker 1: So I used to hire what I would call or

1024
00:48:50,280 --> 00:48:52,200
Speaker 1: not even just hire, but I used to have at

1025
00:48:52,320 --> 00:48:55,560
Speaker 1: least one what I call a bully friend. And I've

1026
00:48:55,640 --> 00:48:57,080
Speaker 1: noticed that this has been a trend since I was

1027
00:48:57,120 --> 00:48:58,759
Speaker 1: a kid, Like there was always somebody in my life

1028
00:48:58,920 --> 00:49:01,080
Speaker 1: who is my friend, but there was an edge of

1029
00:49:01,160 --> 00:49:04,120
Speaker 1: bullyiness in that, you know, where I was like whenever

1030
00:49:04,200 --> 00:49:05,839
Speaker 1: they came around, I'd be like Oh my god, it's

1031
00:49:05,880 --> 00:49:09,200
Speaker 1: my bully friend. Hey girl, Hey, yeah, whatever you want,

1032
00:49:09,239 --> 00:49:10,880
Speaker 1: it's fine. You know, I'll send the back. No, no,

1033
00:49:11,080 --> 00:49:13,000
Speaker 1: this is the problem. You could take the bigger share,

1034
00:49:13,719 --> 00:49:16,040
Speaker 1: I'll get the middle seat. And I don't know what

1035
00:49:16,200 --> 00:49:18,840
Speaker 1: it is or what it is about that person's personality

1036
00:49:18,920 --> 00:49:23,319
Speaker 1: that they would not necessarily bully other people, but there

1037
00:49:23,440 --> 00:49:24,880
Speaker 1: was something in them and something in me. When we

1038
00:49:24,920 --> 00:49:28,680
Speaker 1: got together. I became like subservient and they became like

1039
00:49:29,160 --> 00:49:30,840
Speaker 1: kind of a bully and I wouldn't see them do

1040
00:49:30,920 --> 00:49:32,759
Speaker 1: that to other people, and I was wondering, like, wow,

1041
00:49:32,880 --> 00:49:37,799
Speaker 1: what is that. So I have finally recognized it because

1042
00:49:37,840 --> 00:49:39,040
Speaker 1: it was a friend of mine who told me that.

1043
00:49:39,360 --> 00:49:41,480
Speaker 1: He was like, why do you like I just talk

1044
00:49:41,480 --> 00:49:43,520
Speaker 1: to you that way? And I'm like like what, They're like,

1045
00:49:43,600 --> 00:49:46,120
Speaker 1: I don't know, crazy, I'm like do they They're like,

1046
00:49:46,280 --> 00:49:50,480
Speaker 1: uh yeah. So just recently I have been really cleaning

1047
00:49:50,560 --> 00:49:52,600
Speaker 1: out because one of my best friends in high school

1048
00:49:53,040 --> 00:49:54,960
Speaker 1: was a bully friend. It was awesome at first, who

1049
00:49:55,000 --> 00:49:57,480
Speaker 1: were best friends. Everything was great, and then it's almost

1050
00:49:57,560 --> 00:49:59,920
Speaker 1: like maybe I let her say something to me sideways

1051
00:50:00,040 --> 00:50:02,080
Speaker 1: and I let it slide, and then it grew By

1052
00:50:02,120 --> 00:50:05,320
Speaker 1: the time we graduated in high college. She was terrible

1053
00:50:05,440 --> 00:50:08,640
Speaker 1: to me anyway, and it like it took everything in

1054
00:50:08,760 --> 00:50:12,000
Speaker 1: me to kind of let her go. But I recognize that,

1055
00:50:12,120 --> 00:50:13,520
Speaker 1: Like every once in a while, I would pick up

1056
00:50:13,520 --> 00:50:15,279
Speaker 1: a new bully friend, whether it's somebody who I was

1057
00:50:15,320 --> 00:50:17,960
Speaker 1: working with or you know, something like that. And so

1058
00:50:18,080 --> 00:50:22,560
Speaker 1: recently I really started to clean up the bully friends

1059
00:50:23,440 --> 00:50:26,640
Speaker 1: or just even bully coworkers or bully partners or whatever

1060
00:50:27,000 --> 00:50:31,080
Speaker 1: in my life and gotten rid of them. And like

1061
00:50:31,160 --> 00:50:33,200
Speaker 1: I said, not because they're super terrible people. I'm not

1062
00:50:33,200 --> 00:50:36,120
Speaker 1: even gonna say that. There's just sometimes it's and I

1063
00:50:36,160 --> 00:50:37,839
Speaker 1: don't know where that comes from in me. I don't

1064
00:50:37,840 --> 00:50:39,560
Speaker 1: know if it's because I'm like from a big family.

1065
00:50:39,680 --> 00:50:42,160
Speaker 1: I don't know that my dad had a really strong personality,

1066
00:50:42,400 --> 00:50:44,919
Speaker 1: and I learned to just be like easygoing, like it's fine,

1067
00:50:44,960 --> 00:50:47,520
Speaker 1: it's fine, Like I don't know what it is, but

1068
00:50:47,680 --> 00:50:50,359
Speaker 1: it doesn't come out a whole lot. But every once

1069
00:50:50,400 --> 00:50:52,800
Speaker 1: in a while, there's just someone who does that. So

1070
00:50:53,239 --> 00:50:55,040
Speaker 1: like I, like I said, this is Sia.

1071
00:50:55,480 --> 00:50:58,400
Speaker 2: Maybe they're just assholes and you're nice, Like what is that?

1072
00:50:59,040 --> 00:51:00,319
Speaker 2: Why are you blaming your self?

1073
00:51:01,640 --> 00:51:02,040
Speaker 1: You know what?

1074
00:51:02,239 --> 00:51:03,520
Speaker 2: And maybe they're just there.

1075
00:51:05,320 --> 00:51:06,839
Speaker 1: And you know what, and I don't. I mean, it's

1076
00:51:06,920 --> 00:51:08,960
Speaker 1: that's to me, it's easy to dismiss it, dismiss it

1077
00:51:09,040 --> 00:51:11,960
Speaker 1: at that, but honestly, oftentimes like it doesn't start off

1078
00:51:12,040 --> 00:51:13,920
Speaker 1: that way, or I won't see them be like that

1079
00:51:14,080 --> 00:51:16,319
Speaker 1: with everyone. And I'm like, and I used to think

1080
00:51:16,360 --> 00:51:18,480
Speaker 1: to myself, like when I was kind of like engaged

1081
00:51:18,480 --> 00:51:20,560
Speaker 1: in that kind of weird dynamic, that like Tiffany you

1082
00:51:20,600 --> 00:51:22,440
Speaker 1: have to stand up for yourself or Tiffy you have

1083
00:51:22,520 --> 00:51:24,560
Speaker 1: to figure out, like how do you conquer this? But

1084
00:51:24,680 --> 00:51:26,319
Speaker 1: now I'm realizing at the age I am now, I'm

1085
00:51:26,360 --> 00:51:28,879
Speaker 1: not trying to conquer it, just get out, Like I'm

1086
00:51:28,920 --> 00:51:30,759
Speaker 1: not trying to figure out like why we had this

1087
00:51:30,840 --> 00:51:33,080
Speaker 1: weird dynamic or how we started off so great and

1088
00:51:33,160 --> 00:51:35,719
Speaker 1: now you're so mean, or now you talk flip to

1089
00:51:35,760 --> 00:51:37,000
Speaker 1: me when we get on the phone and I'm like,

1090
00:51:37,040 --> 00:51:39,520
Speaker 1: what the hell how do we get here? Honestly, I

1091
00:51:39,560 --> 00:51:42,359
Speaker 1: don't care anymore. I don't care about the backstory. I'm

1092
00:51:42,480 --> 00:51:44,520
Speaker 1: just now I've just learned to clean out, and so

1093
00:51:44,680 --> 00:51:47,560
Speaker 1: just recently I've done a lot of cleaning out. And

1094
00:51:47,800 --> 00:51:52,280
Speaker 1: today someone who like is on my team really remarked

1095
00:51:52,360 --> 00:51:54,680
Speaker 1: upon how different I am now that we've done a

1096
00:51:54,680 --> 00:51:57,600
Speaker 1: lot of cleaning and pruning. And she was like, Yo,

1097
00:51:57,719 --> 00:52:01,440
Speaker 1: you're like amazing. I'm like what she's like, Your leadership style,

1098
00:52:01,880 --> 00:52:05,840
Speaker 1: your energy, everything's been amazing. And I'm like, wow, So

1099
00:52:06,040 --> 00:52:09,640
Speaker 1: it's making this huge difference in that that's a dark cloud.

1100
00:52:09,840 --> 00:52:13,239
Speaker 1: And once I'm able to release myself from these type

1101
00:52:13,239 --> 00:52:16,160
Speaker 1: of people personally and professionally, you know, I can really

1102
00:52:16,400 --> 00:52:18,680
Speaker 1: like I mean, I think it seems so obvious, but

1103
00:52:18,880 --> 00:52:21,600
Speaker 1: it's hard, you know. And I didn't even recognize that

1104
00:52:21,680 --> 00:52:23,920
Speaker 1: was something that I was doing because just the other

1105
00:52:24,000 --> 00:52:28,399
Speaker 1: day I almost hired a bully. And because this person

1106
00:52:28,440 --> 00:52:30,719
Speaker 1: brought so much to the table. And I don't even

1107
00:52:30,760 --> 00:52:32,080
Speaker 1: think you know, they don't know this, but they brought

1108
00:52:32,080 --> 00:52:33,719
Speaker 1: so much to the table, I thought, Wow, this person

1109
00:52:33,880 --> 00:52:35,719
Speaker 1: is great. Like I'm reading through resumes and I did

1110
00:52:35,719 --> 00:52:37,600
Speaker 1: a bunch of interviews and I was like, Wow, this

1111
00:52:37,680 --> 00:52:40,200
Speaker 1: person is awesome. This person's great. But then after like

1112
00:52:40,360 --> 00:52:41,680
Speaker 1: talking to a bunch of people on the phone, I

1113
00:52:41,800 --> 00:52:46,200
Speaker 1: was like, wow, this person is very aggressive and silent, irreverend,

1114
00:52:46,280 --> 00:52:49,400
Speaker 1: and I realized that Tiffany, this is a bully. This

1115
00:52:49,560 --> 00:52:52,759
Speaker 1: is a bully. Do not bring this person into your life. No,

1116
00:52:53,160 --> 00:52:55,240
Speaker 1: you just got rid of all of your bully friends

1117
00:52:55,560 --> 00:52:59,880
Speaker 1: no more. And so you know, even though her credential

1118
00:53:00,080 --> 00:53:03,920
Speaker 1: were amazing, I said no, because it's possible to be

1119
00:53:04,160 --> 00:53:07,640
Speaker 1: both well credentialed and talented and nice.

1120
00:53:08,239 --> 00:53:13,160
Speaker 2: Oh so yeah, And that's that's a poison. That's a

1121
00:53:13,239 --> 00:53:16,000
Speaker 2: poisonous person. It's a toxicity that's going to seep through

1122
00:53:16,080 --> 00:53:20,359
Speaker 2: every I learned this the hard way last year when

1123
00:53:20,360 --> 00:53:23,279
Speaker 2: I hired my I hired this investigative reporter who was

1124
00:53:23,360 --> 00:53:28,040
Speaker 2: so well credentialed, and he was he was very he

1125
00:53:28,239 --> 00:53:32,040
Speaker 2: was older, and he was very tough and like rugged,

1126
00:53:32,160 --> 00:53:34,920
Speaker 2: like what you think of as an investigative reporter. And

1127
00:53:35,120 --> 00:53:37,279
Speaker 2: our conversations were great. And as soon as he came

1128
00:53:37,320 --> 00:53:39,960
Speaker 2: in the office to be interviewed or just to chat

1129
00:53:40,040 --> 00:53:42,960
Speaker 2: with and meet my the two co founders of our company,

1130
00:53:43,000 --> 00:53:45,759
Speaker 2: who are both male, it was like I wasn't in

1131
00:53:45,800 --> 00:53:49,839
Speaker 2: the room and he completely walked you know, you know, uh,

1132
00:53:50,120 --> 00:53:52,560
Speaker 2: ignored sort of what that I was there. And then

1133
00:53:52,800 --> 00:53:55,760
Speaker 2: I hired him anyway, feeling like okay, well'll be fine.

1134
00:53:56,360 --> 00:53:59,040
Speaker 2: And when I tell you like he would try and

1135
00:53:59,120 --> 00:54:01,680
Speaker 2: bully me by get around me and going to the men,

1136
00:54:02,239 --> 00:54:05,040
Speaker 2: going to the co founders who have no wh who

1137
00:54:05,200 --> 00:54:07,440
Speaker 2: don't oversee the editorial content. You know. I was his

1138
00:54:07,560 --> 00:54:10,560
Speaker 2: boss and he would literally go around me, and I

1139
00:54:10,760 --> 00:54:12,799
Speaker 2: was like, and this is the first time I will

1140
00:54:12,840 --> 00:54:14,320
Speaker 2: learn this lesson. I'm gonna try and make it be

1141
00:54:14,400 --> 00:54:17,680
Speaker 2: the last. That's That's one thing I thought of from

1142
00:54:17,719 --> 00:54:21,080
Speaker 2: your story. Another thing is that I can be a bully.

1143
00:54:21,239 --> 00:54:24,480
Speaker 2: Like in my I was that kid like who you know,

1144
00:54:24,560 --> 00:54:27,200
Speaker 2: you grow up kind of being tough and then unintentionally

1145
00:54:27,520 --> 00:54:29,480
Speaker 2: I you know, I know, I was flippant when I

1146
00:54:29,520 --> 00:54:31,560
Speaker 2: was like, maybe they're just an asshole. Like I've definitely

1147
00:54:31,960 --> 00:54:34,399
Speaker 2: had friends in my life who have been like Mandy,

1148
00:54:34,440 --> 00:54:36,120
Speaker 2: you can be a little too much. Sometimes you can

1149
00:54:36,160 --> 00:54:38,480
Speaker 2: be a little too you know, a little too opinionated,

1150
00:54:38,520 --> 00:54:40,920
Speaker 2: a little too judgy. And I did a lot. I've

1151
00:54:40,960 --> 00:54:43,160
Speaker 2: done a lot, a lot, a lot of work, and

1152
00:54:43,239 --> 00:54:46,040
Speaker 2: I still have work to do on managing and like

1153
00:54:46,120 --> 00:54:49,600
Speaker 2: finding where that comes from and doing better and luckily

1154
00:54:49,719 --> 00:54:52,280
Speaker 2: have saved those friendships because you know what's at stakes.

1155
00:54:52,280 --> 00:54:54,120
Speaker 2: People will only put up with that for so long.

1156
00:54:54,239 --> 00:54:57,000
Speaker 2: You can only make someone feel bad about themselves, you know,

1157
00:54:57,080 --> 00:55:01,840
Speaker 2: whether intentional or not, for so long. And I like

1158
00:55:01,880 --> 00:55:04,560
Speaker 2: to say I'm a bully, and bully is such a

1159
00:55:04,760 --> 00:55:06,239
Speaker 2: I hate saying that. I hate. I like to say

1160
00:55:06,239 --> 00:55:08,200
Speaker 2: I'm a judgy weggie, and.

1161
00:55:09,000 --> 00:55:10,400
Speaker 1: I was gonna say, I don't. I don't feel like

1162
00:55:10,440 --> 00:55:15,040
Speaker 1: you're a bully, but I mean recovering and I'm a

1163
00:55:15,120 --> 00:55:19,680
Speaker 1: recovering pushover. And like you wouldn't think, like running a company,

1164
00:55:19,719 --> 00:55:21,840
Speaker 1: that you could be a pushover. Oh it's quite possible,

1165
00:55:22,200 --> 00:55:24,440
Speaker 1: and so yeah, no, it's good though, take knowledge, like

1166
00:55:24,520 --> 00:55:27,640
Speaker 1: you know, how you can show up better in this

1167
00:55:27,800 --> 00:55:30,040
Speaker 1: world and how you're working on. So it's not about perfection.

1168
00:55:30,200 --> 00:55:32,520
Speaker 1: But yeah, so I was just like, oh, Tiffany go,

1169
00:55:33,160 --> 00:55:35,400
Speaker 1: But it's also good to have because honestly, like you,

1170
00:55:36,080 --> 00:55:38,160
Speaker 1: friends had to tell me like what are you doing?

1171
00:55:38,600 --> 00:55:41,120
Speaker 1: You know? And I was like, babe, They're like, girl, no,

1172
00:55:42,360 --> 00:55:43,640
Speaker 1: why are you let people talk to you like that?

1173
00:55:43,960 --> 00:55:46,399
Speaker 2: I know you're paying them too?

1174
00:55:48,760 --> 00:55:53,680
Speaker 1: What not anymore? Bubbo? So yeah, so hey, tell my

1175
00:55:53,760 --> 00:55:57,279
Speaker 1: bully friends you already outside the club now, Boo, you're

1176
00:55:57,320 --> 00:55:57,719
Speaker 1: a watch.

1177
00:55:57,880 --> 00:55:59,400
Speaker 2: If she hasn't dismissed you yet.

1178
00:56:01,719 --> 00:56:06,680
Speaker 1: Everybody's gone, Ah, that was a great show. I hope

1179
00:56:06,680 --> 00:56:08,880
Speaker 1: we inspired, I hope we talked.

1180
00:56:09,000 --> 00:56:10,600
Speaker 2: I hope we dide you last It was the best

1181
00:56:10,640 --> 00:56:13,840
Speaker 2: show ever. Everyone was inspired. They all said it was great.

1182
00:56:14,000 --> 00:56:16,960
Speaker 2: I got millions of tweets about it, brillion.

1183
00:56:17,640 --> 00:56:20,040
Speaker 1: The fake news will tell you nobody listen. It's all

1184
00:56:20,120 --> 00:56:21,359
Speaker 1: a lie. It's all a lie.

1185
00:56:21,480 --> 00:56:24,400
Speaker 2: At least a million point five people listen to this episode.

1186
00:56:24,840 --> 00:56:27,040
Speaker 2: I have no facts to support it, but uh, just

1187
00:56:27,080 --> 00:56:28,000
Speaker 2: take my hand a smile.

1188
00:56:29,360 --> 00:56:30,200
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh,