WEBVTT - Choosing a Baby Name 0:00:00.240 --> 0:00:08.880 Who baby A baby? I need you, Oh hell, I 0:00:09.160 --> 0:00:14.000 need you. What to Expect is a production of I 0:00:14.200 --> 0:00:18.239 Heart Radio. I'm your host Heidi Murko and I'm a 0:00:18.280 --> 0:00:20.960 mom on a mission, A mission to help you know 0:00:21.120 --> 0:00:27.080 what to expect every step of the way. A baby 0:00:27.200 --> 0:00:30.000 by any name would smell a sweet. That's just a fact. 0:00:30.160 --> 0:00:33.640 So what's in a name? Too soon to be parents, 0:00:33.640 --> 0:00:37.240 whether they're expecting their first bundle or their fifth, a 0:00:37.280 --> 0:00:40.880 lot hangs on that name. Choice names are, after all, 0:00:41.159 --> 0:00:46.440 for life, for better, for worse, for mispronounced from misspelled. 0:00:47.080 --> 0:00:50.040 Some parents have those baby names picked out before they 0:00:50.120 --> 0:00:53.680 even start trying to conceive boy less and girl less 0:00:54.120 --> 0:00:57.720 first names and middle names. Lucky them. But if you're 0:00:57.800 --> 0:01:00.560 still not sold on a name or family only feuds 0:01:00.600 --> 0:01:04.480 are fueling a contentious debate, or you're just playing stressed 0:01:04.480 --> 0:01:07.759 about the responsibility of naming the bundle you'll soon be 0:01:07.800 --> 0:01:13.920 bringing home, you're not alone. Lucky you. We're here to help. Today. 0:01:14.040 --> 0:01:17.760 We are breaking down latest trends in baby names and 0:01:17.840 --> 0:01:21.319 your biggest questions about what to call your little one. 0:01:21.800 --> 0:01:26.560 Besides sweet, I'm here with Emma. A baby I named personally. 0:01:26.800 --> 0:01:28.440 I like it, I didn't like it. When I was 0:01:28.520 --> 0:01:32.319 like nine, I wanted to be in Michelle after Michelle Tanner. 0:01:32.600 --> 0:01:37.680 But um, now I'm happy with it. Okay, how did 0:01:37.720 --> 0:01:41.960 you choose Lennox and Sebastian. So Lennox I looked at 0:01:42.000 --> 0:01:44.080 like a literature baby name book. One night in the 0:01:44.120 --> 0:01:45.720 middle of the night when I couldn't sleep, I was like, oh, 0:01:45.800 --> 0:01:48.720 I love Lennox. It's like a Shakespearean play. I think 0:01:48.720 --> 0:01:51.559 it's King Lear and his middle name is Page after 0:01:51.640 --> 0:01:55.400 Jimmy Page. Sebastian's name is a lot more fun. I 0:01:55.440 --> 0:01:57.320 wanted to name him something else, and my husband's like, no, 0:01:57.400 --> 0:01:59.480 we have to name a Sebastian. What did you want 0:01:59.480 --> 0:02:02.400 to name like West or something. I don't know. There's 0:02:02.400 --> 0:02:05.360 a kin Lennox's class names now, so it would be weird. Yeah, 0:02:05.400 --> 0:02:08.920 so with your names, um, Emma, I love the book 0:02:08.960 --> 0:02:12.399 by Jane Austen, so that was a no brainer. Now, Wyatt, 0:02:12.600 --> 0:02:14.520 we didn't know the gender with either one of you, 0:02:14.680 --> 0:02:17.000 so if why it had been a girl, he would 0:02:17.000 --> 0:02:19.800 have been Willa, which I still wish I had another 0:02:19.840 --> 0:02:21.840 girl to name Will. I love that name. He broke 0:02:21.880 --> 0:02:25.560 the mold with me, Mom, true that with why we 0:02:25.560 --> 0:02:28.680 were all set on the name Winston until like thirty 0:02:28.760 --> 0:02:33.760 seven weeks when Eric just all of a sudden realized 0:02:34.240 --> 0:02:36.600 the baby's names should be Wyatt. He's a big fan 0:02:36.680 --> 0:02:39.800 of Western so that made sense. He's not a Winston, 0:02:40.160 --> 0:02:43.639 he's so a Wyatt. So how far into your pregnancy 0:02:43.720 --> 0:02:46.200 were you when you knew the gender? So that gave 0:02:46.240 --> 0:02:49.080 you a head start. Um, I don't pretty like immediately 0:02:49.320 --> 0:02:53.360 like he was like, okay, it's Sebastian. Okay, um, and 0:02:53.440 --> 0:02:56.640 then Lennox I think halfway through. Okay. So baby names 0:02:57.040 --> 0:03:01.280 here in the US, of course, anything seem to go um, 0:03:01.320 --> 0:03:04.079 and not just when it comes to celebrity baby names anymore. 0:03:04.800 --> 0:03:09.120 People get super creative, and for the most part in 0:03:09.160 --> 0:03:12.520 the US, you can by law and name your baby 0:03:13.160 --> 0:03:15.280 anything you want to. I mean, there are some states 0:03:15.320 --> 0:03:18.440 that limit the total number of letters if you add 0:03:18.480 --> 0:03:20.880 up the first, middle, and last name, so it can 0:03:20.919 --> 0:03:23.760 all fit on a legal form um. But those letters 0:03:23.840 --> 0:03:26.919 can spell just about anything. No number. Elon Musk learned 0:03:26.919 --> 0:03:29.640 about the hard way. No numbers, yes, but in other 0:03:29.800 --> 0:03:32.799 parts of the world apparently not so much. I did 0:03:32.840 --> 0:03:35.240 not know this until I was digging a little bit. 0:03:35.280 --> 0:03:39.520 But baby names are actually restricted by law in some countries, 0:03:40.000 --> 0:03:45.520 and that's including countries like Denmark, Norway, Sweden, Germany, New Zealand. 0:03:46.240 --> 0:03:49.160 For instance, in many countries, you can't name your baby 0:03:49.280 --> 0:03:54.480 something that could be potentially embarrassing or have them made 0:03:54.520 --> 0:03:58.800 fun of or negatively impact a child's well being. Some 0:03:58.880 --> 0:04:05.200 obvious example balls would be Satan Hitler Anus. Yeah, you 0:04:05.240 --> 0:04:09.200 can't name your baby anus. Governments have also rejected names 0:04:09.240 --> 0:04:12.160 that are even more random, like sexy fruit I'm still 0:04:12.160 --> 0:04:18.000 stuck on anus um. Also, unconventional spellings of traditional names 0:04:18.000 --> 0:04:21.440 are discouraged now. Some countries like Norway and Sweden, require 0:04:21.520 --> 0:04:25.360 that a first name sounds like a first name. Anderson. 0:04:25.800 --> 0:04:28.880 You can't name your baby Anderson, So sorry about that, 0:04:28.960 --> 0:04:33.400 Anderson cooper um. Some countries banned brand names, and that 0:04:33.440 --> 0:04:36.640 would include some names that are pretty popular here like Chanel, 0:04:37.040 --> 0:04:41.560 Mercedes and in Sweden you can't name your kid I Kea. 0:04:41.880 --> 0:04:45.280 I'm okay with that. Some countries don't allow names that 0:04:45.320 --> 0:04:48.840 aren't gender specific, like the name has to tell you 0:04:48.960 --> 0:04:51.719 right away whether it's a boy or girl, So a 0:04:51.800 --> 0:04:54.440 lot of favorite names here would be out, like Charlie. 0:04:54.440 --> 0:04:57.600 I love that super cute Charlie, so cute for a girl, 0:04:57.920 --> 0:05:01.160 but apparently it's not legal in Germany and Iceland. There 0:05:01.200 --> 0:05:04.120 are also plenty of baby name traditions from around the 0:05:04.160 --> 0:05:08.160 world that date way back. In some parts of Africa, 0:05:08.600 --> 0:05:10.960 I thought this was so sweet. An elder in the 0:05:11.080 --> 0:05:16.279 village picks the name and whispers it into the baby's 0:05:16.279 --> 0:05:20.320 ear before they announced it at the baby naming ceremony, 0:05:20.360 --> 0:05:22.560 because the belief is that the baby should hear his 0:05:22.720 --> 0:05:27.200 or her name, especially beautiful thing I've ever heard. You know, 0:05:28.080 --> 0:05:30.520 Let's take a quick break and when we come back, 0:05:30.560 --> 0:05:50.440 we're going over our community's biggest questions about baby names. So, Emma, 0:05:50.640 --> 0:05:54.080 let's read through some of these messages from what to Expect. 0:05:54.520 --> 0:05:56.480 So we looked at some of the posts about baby 0:05:56.560 --> 0:06:00.440 names on the what to Expect community message boards, and 0:06:00.520 --> 0:06:03.280 there's a lot of them. We pulled out some of 0:06:03.320 --> 0:06:06.880 the topics of conversation you all have. Um Emma, let's 0:06:06.880 --> 0:06:10.200 read through some of these and discuss on the other side. 0:06:10.600 --> 0:06:14.760 What are the most popular ways people come up with names, 0:06:14.800 --> 0:06:19.200 I mean, besides just liking how it sounds for the moment. 0:06:19.560 --> 0:06:23.800 I actually signed thousands of books a year, and I 0:06:23.880 --> 0:06:27.159 have heard just about every baby name out there. Oh yeah, 0:06:27.160 --> 0:06:29.520 I bet I've heard it all. I've spelled it all. 0:06:29.800 --> 0:06:33.120 And there are a lot of families, you know. I 0:06:33.120 --> 0:06:35.080 sign a lot of books from military families, and a 0:06:35.080 --> 0:06:38.320 lot of those families the tradition is you give your 0:06:38.440 --> 0:06:43.360 baby dad's name. Um, so it's a lot of junior seconds, 0:06:43.480 --> 0:06:46.960 thirds force five. I've had six. I think I'm not 0:06:47.000 --> 0:06:49.440 sure I went any higher than that that would be impressed. 0:06:49.520 --> 0:06:51.560 Some families actually just used the same name for the 0:06:51.600 --> 0:06:54.760 father and son, so for instance, Marcus and Marcus, not 0:06:54.839 --> 0:07:00.000 Marcus senior and Marcus juior, Marcus Marcus. Some do diminutives, 0:07:00.320 --> 0:07:04.520 like Jonathan and Johnny. Um, wasn't it George Foreman who 0:07:04.680 --> 0:07:07.520 named all his sons George. I looked it up and 0:07:07.560 --> 0:07:10.160 he gave each one a number two, So George one 0:07:10.200 --> 0:07:14.120 George too. It's a little confusing maybe, but I guess 0:07:14.320 --> 0:07:17.880 you don't get the names mixed up. That's a plus. Um, 0:07:17.960 --> 0:07:20.200 some people do. I think this is so cute. Some 0:07:20.240 --> 0:07:23.040 people do. See jays for you know, Christopher John or 0:07:23.600 --> 0:07:28.560 John um ore J's t js and I feel like 0:07:28.600 --> 0:07:31.920 those are names that you know, sure their nicknames, but 0:07:32.040 --> 0:07:37.040 their nicknames that you can grow with. Biblical names are 0:07:37.040 --> 0:07:41.000 always popular. Some people choose them because they're religious. Some 0:07:41.000 --> 0:07:44.840 people just choose them because their traditional names. Some families 0:07:44.960 --> 0:07:48.120 keep the biblical theme going for all their kids. So 0:07:48.200 --> 0:07:53.200 you've got Samuel, Noah, Isaac. Isaiah is one that I 0:07:53.240 --> 0:07:58.880 always forget how to spell Ezekiel, or let's say Mohammed, Aliyah, 0:07:59.520 --> 0:08:04.360 Hannah esther all. This ancestry dot com has brought back 0:08:04.440 --> 0:08:08.240 a lot of ancestral names. Now. Some parents named baby 0:08:08.320 --> 0:08:12.160 after where they were conceived. So, Emma, you would have 0:08:12.160 --> 0:08:15.680 been Greenwich Village. I know a mom on Instagram said 0:08:16.240 --> 0:08:20.080 Hayden Park after the neighborhood where her baby was conceived. 0:08:20.200 --> 0:08:24.000 That's really pretty. Yeah, it's really pretty. It's like Beyonce's 0:08:24.040 --> 0:08:26.720 line Ivy Park. I'm not mad. A lot of military 0:08:26.760 --> 0:08:30.080 families were always moving around from base to base. Sometimes 0:08:30.080 --> 0:08:32.720 they choose the name from the place that they're based 0:08:32.760 --> 0:08:35.959 when the baby's conceived, so like Hawaiian name and Italian name, 0:08:36.040 --> 0:08:40.280 a Japanese name. I had a mom who didn't know 0:08:40.360 --> 0:08:43.079 the baby's gender yet when I signed her book, so 0:08:43.200 --> 0:08:45.200 I signed it to both the boy and girl named. 0:08:45.200 --> 0:08:48.520 The boy name was going to be Ben after Big Ben, 0:08:48.640 --> 0:08:51.400 not Benjamin Benn and the girl name was going to 0:08:51.480 --> 0:08:58.880 be Abbey, after Westminster Abbey. That cute. Um celebrity names. 0:08:59.520 --> 0:09:04.679 One mom told me Reese Witherspoon. She named her baby Reese. 0:09:05.160 --> 0:09:08.320 I think there's been a run on Chase. I'm not 0:09:08.320 --> 0:09:10.600 sure if that was from Chase Crawford or whether it's 0:09:10.640 --> 0:09:13.880 from Pap Patrol if they have a younger kid, maybe 0:09:13.880 --> 0:09:16.080 Pap Patrol. When I was in high school, that name 0:09:16.160 --> 0:09:18.679 was pretty popular to Chase. I like that name. It's 0:09:18.679 --> 0:09:21.280 a good, sturdy name. I think it's coming back, making 0:09:21.320 --> 0:09:24.839 a comeback. Sophia is like super popular. I think it's 0:09:24.840 --> 0:09:26.600 like at the top of the list right now. But 0:09:26.679 --> 0:09:29.880 it's not from Sophia Lorenne. That's what somebody a few 0:09:29.880 --> 0:09:32.760 people told me on Instagram. It was after Sophia Lorene. H. 0:09:33.320 --> 0:09:37.240 I finm sure names like Blake for Blake Lively. Also, 0:09:37.280 --> 0:09:40.199 I'm sure a lot of character names. Yeah, I've heard 0:09:40.240 --> 0:09:43.880 a lot of movie characters. So Aurelia from Love actually 0:09:44.200 --> 0:09:46.120 is one that I've heard several times. One of my 0:09:46.200 --> 0:09:48.600 favorite all time movies. Oh yeah, that's a big one. 0:09:48.880 --> 0:09:54.520 Disney characters, UM names from music, characters and books. UM. 0:09:54.559 --> 0:10:01.360 Somebody mentioned characters from Game of Thrones. I've never seen it. Aria, 0:10:01.679 --> 0:10:04.600 I haven't seen I saw like one season, but that's 0:10:04.640 --> 0:10:09.720 a big one. Okay, Eighties TV and movie characters, especially 0:10:09.760 --> 0:10:12.520 for moms of a certain generation. I have no idea 0:10:12.600 --> 0:10:17.560 any of those constellations, stars, planets, mercury. I hear a 0:10:17.559 --> 0:10:25.720 lot of Greek gods. I get Adonis, Apollo, Ena, Venus, whoa, Yeah, 0:10:25.760 --> 0:10:29.200 I've seen a lot of newborn adonis Is. That's adorable. 0:10:29.440 --> 0:10:34.720 Donnie Presidents Kennedy. Oh yeah, that's great for I know 0:10:34.800 --> 0:10:39.360 a girl Kennedy. Also, you can use that for both genders. Yep, Theodore, 0:10:40.000 --> 0:10:42.800 I love that. Teddy Rosevel Well, I love Teddy so 0:10:42.880 --> 0:10:45.959 that I know a teddy girl. And President's kids like Malia. 0:10:47.000 --> 0:10:50.120 That's a great one from President Obama. Sports figures Nolan 0:10:50.240 --> 0:10:54.680 after Nolan Ryan. There's also a naming tradition, a Jewish 0:10:54.760 --> 0:10:58.880 naming tradition, where you name your baby after a relative ooside, 0:10:58.920 --> 0:11:01.559 but you don't necessarily have to use that particular name, 0:11:02.000 --> 0:11:05.640 but the name should start with the same letter. There's 0:11:05.679 --> 0:11:09.400 also names that come from tragedies, like this year, there 0:11:09.400 --> 0:11:13.920 have been a lot of Koby's and Gianna's. I also 0:11:14.000 --> 0:11:16.600 wonder if Ruth is going to make it come back. 0:11:16.720 --> 0:11:21.240 Maybe Ruth Bader. That's the cutest little girl name ever, Ruth, 0:11:21.320 --> 0:11:25.880 are you kidding? Best legacy ever? Old school names. So 0:11:26.040 --> 0:11:29.320 I love when babies are named like old people, because 0:11:29.720 --> 0:11:32.160 don't they look like little men anyway? A lot of 0:11:32.200 --> 0:11:35.520 the time they do. It's literally like Benjamin Button. The 0:11:35.640 --> 0:11:39.160 name kind of fits. So Grandpa names like Daddy is 0:11:39.400 --> 0:11:44.720 or Eugene. That's the best time ever. Parents Bernard, will 0:11:44.840 --> 0:11:54.920 my heart be Stanley? And then this grandma names like Irene, Mabel, Harriet, Edith, Dorothy, 0:11:55.080 --> 0:11:59.800 eleanor has made a huge comeback, Florence. You can call 0:11:59.840 --> 0:12:04.400 it baby flow yeah, except anything about the progressive I know. 0:12:04.480 --> 0:12:06.079 I was thinking that at the same time. Everyone it 0:12:06.200 --> 0:12:09.480 for me, but God or your aunt flow right, Please 0:12:09.559 --> 0:12:13.640 somebody naming your baby Wilber I know, and or Clarence 0:12:13.679 --> 0:12:15.760 and then d m me and show me a picture 0:12:15.760 --> 0:12:20.120 of them, or Mabel or d m me too. Um. 0:12:20.200 --> 0:12:22.440 And then when people go by the meaning of the name, 0:12:22.720 --> 0:12:25.600 some people don't care. We didn't care, but somehow your 0:12:25.679 --> 0:12:31.560 name's actually fit the meaning. So Emma comes from all embracing, 0:12:31.600 --> 0:12:33.640 which I did not know until I looked it up. 0:12:33.679 --> 0:12:37.040 But all embracing. That's totally you. That's me Why it 0:12:37.200 --> 0:12:42.680 means strong, brave, and hearty, which is like incredible because 0:12:42.880 --> 0:12:47.120 his preschool teacher when he was to described him as stoic. 0:12:47.400 --> 0:12:49.600 I really don't know many two year olds who are 0:12:49.640 --> 0:12:53.560 described as stoic, but that's why he's definitely stoic, completely 0:12:53.960 --> 0:12:58.319 someone you've met. Sometimes parents will name their kids after 0:12:58.480 --> 0:13:00.840 someone they've met once they really like the name, or 0:13:00.920 --> 0:13:05.280 someone you know, you babysat for now. Popularity is a 0:13:05.320 --> 0:13:09.280 funny thing. No one named their kids Emma or Wyatt. 0:13:09.480 --> 0:13:12.280 When we did, we thought we were picking names that 0:13:12.320 --> 0:13:17.960 would never become popular, and go figure, they're super super popular. 0:13:18.240 --> 0:13:20.760 So there's really no guarantee that when you pick your 0:13:20.880 --> 0:13:25.920 name that is going to remain uncommon. Um. Some people 0:13:26.000 --> 0:13:31.280 like to avoid super popular names. Others embrace trends. They 0:13:31.320 --> 0:13:33.840 hear a name, they hear it a lot, they like it, 0:13:33.960 --> 0:13:35.880 they use it, it doesn't matter if it's about to 0:13:35.920 --> 0:13:38.640 break the top ten. Others look for names that are 0:13:38.640 --> 0:13:41.360 not too popular, not too uncommon, you know, just right. 0:13:41.640 --> 0:13:45.079 It's it's a very important choice. I need to tell 0:13:45.120 --> 0:13:49.240 you one funny story. One mom told me that her husband, 0:13:49.920 --> 0:13:53.840 when he was in high school. He had Bob Marley 0:13:53.960 --> 0:13:58.040 come to him in a dream. Really yeah, and he 0:13:58.240 --> 0:14:01.440 promised for some reason, he promised Bob Marley and his 0:14:01.559 --> 0:14:05.880 dream to name his firstborn son after him. And so 0:14:06.360 --> 0:14:09.040 you know, she met him. They got married, not her 0:14:09.080 --> 0:14:11.839 and Bob Marley, her and her husband. And he said, well, 0:14:11.840 --> 0:14:13.640 by the way, our son has to be named after 0:14:13.720 --> 0:14:15.920 Bob Marley. And she didn't like the name Bob. She 0:14:15.920 --> 0:14:19.760 didn't like the name Robert, so they named their baby Morley. 0:14:20.080 --> 0:14:22.320 Their firstborn son was Morley, and then they wanted to 0:14:22.400 --> 0:14:24.640 keep the music theme, so they named the second one 0:14:24.680 --> 0:14:28.960 Morrison and call may. So it's so cute, Maury, that's 0:14:29.040 --> 0:14:32.080 so great. Have you ever heard of people inventing their 0:14:32.080 --> 0:14:35.480 own name. I feel like that's really popular. Yeah, that's 0:14:35.600 --> 0:14:38.600 very popular, and you can definitely do that, um, at 0:14:38.640 --> 0:14:41.120 least if you live in the US. Some people blend 0:14:41.160 --> 0:14:44.960 two names together. Sometimes they change a letter, like instead 0:14:44.960 --> 0:14:49.120 of Olivia, it's Olivia with an A, or Arissa instead 0:14:49.160 --> 0:14:52.760 of Alissa or Marissa. But I feel like changing names 0:14:52.800 --> 0:14:55.400 is great because that's solidified that you won't have a 0:14:55.520 --> 0:14:58.440 name that's like super popular. Even if the name was popular, 0:14:58.640 --> 0:15:00.840 the spelling is different, so of like keeps you in 0:15:00.880 --> 0:15:05.440 that unique little bubble. Yeah, some people do Brianna instead 0:15:05.480 --> 0:15:08.600 of Brianna. You can take Oakley and make it Oaklynn. 0:15:08.800 --> 0:15:12.080 I've heard that a lot. But then your kid gets 0:15:12.120 --> 0:15:15.080 to the gas station or the souvenir shop and there 0:15:15.120 --> 0:15:18.640 are no key chains or cups. There's never a key 0:15:18.680 --> 0:15:21.040 chain for either of my kids. No, And it's funny. 0:15:21.080 --> 0:15:23.440 There were no Emma's back when you were growing up. 0:15:23.440 --> 0:15:25.720 There were no Wyatts. Maybe there are now now we're 0:15:25.720 --> 0:15:29.360 lousy with Emma's now they probably are. But actually, you know, 0:15:29.400 --> 0:15:31.840 that could be a blessing, one mom pointed out, because 0:15:31.840 --> 0:15:34.200 then you don't have to buy all those collectibles. True, 0:15:34.360 --> 0:15:38.080 there are a lot of tricky spellings too, and sometimes 0:15:38.160 --> 0:15:43.280 they're on purpose, sometimes not. There must be seventeen ways 0:15:43.400 --> 0:15:48.000 to spell Riley and Kayla and Kylie and Mackenzie. I 0:15:48.040 --> 0:15:50.880 mean even Sarah has to well, actually three ways. I 0:15:50.880 --> 0:15:54.800 know Sarah who spelled s e r A. I met 0:15:54.800 --> 0:15:59.000 a mom whose father misspelled her name on her birth certificate. 0:15:59.080 --> 0:16:01.480 I wish I could remember for the name. It was 0:16:01.520 --> 0:16:05.360 something super it was super simple, and he didn't know 0:16:05.360 --> 0:16:07.200 how to spell it, so he put the wrong spelling 0:16:07.480 --> 0:16:09.760 down and she had to live with it. But you know, 0:16:09.800 --> 0:16:13.160 of course now it's a great story, that's amazing. And 0:16:13.160 --> 0:16:17.840 then of course there's misspelling on purpose creative spelling. My 0:16:17.920 --> 0:16:21.160 sister's name is Sandy with two ease, and that said 0:16:21.200 --> 0:16:24.480 my name is Heidi, but nobody can spell it. Really, 0:16:24.640 --> 0:16:27.160 there's no tricks. It's just nobody can spell Heidi. Well, 0:16:27.200 --> 0:16:31.280 sometimes people spell my name with one M. It's rare, 0:16:31.360 --> 0:16:36.720 but it happens. So what about thinking whether the name 0:16:36.760 --> 0:16:40.680 has a nickname? Like some just naturally do some don't. 0:16:41.320 --> 0:16:45.560 I remember when you named Lennox, we were thinking, oh, 0:16:45.640 --> 0:16:47.800 that means we're going to call him Len, and he 0:16:48.000 --> 0:16:51.040 is such a Len. We call him Len all the time. 0:16:51.080 --> 0:16:55.800 It's so cute. With Seby, I don't even call him no, 0:16:55.960 --> 0:16:59.080 I don't ever call him Sebastian. I think that, you know, 0:16:59.160 --> 0:17:01.560 you really you need to sit there and like trying 0:17:01.600 --> 0:17:03.560 to think of all the nicknames that your kid could 0:17:03.560 --> 0:17:09.400 possibly have, because school, school can be rough. What happens 0:17:09.560 --> 0:17:12.520 if you and your partner do not agree on the 0:17:12.600 --> 0:17:17.119 name that I feel like the finals say should be 0:17:17.200 --> 0:17:19.960 going to the person who pushes that child out, that's true, 0:17:20.119 --> 0:17:23.720 or gives birth to it. Somehow did the heavy listing parents? 0:17:24.320 --> 0:17:26.800 You know, sometimes they had a mom who told me 0:17:27.000 --> 0:17:29.560 she and her husband talked about it on their first 0:17:29.640 --> 0:17:34.000 date and apparently they agreed on the name so they 0:17:34.040 --> 0:17:36.480 could move to the next step. That's a very important 0:17:36.520 --> 0:17:41.520 first stake conversation. I know some parents have kept a 0:17:41.560 --> 0:17:44.919 list since high school. I have, and you didn't use 0:17:44.960 --> 0:17:48.919 any of them like that. No, I've been in the 0:17:48.960 --> 0:17:52.120 awkward position of signing books. You know, the mom's there 0:17:52.320 --> 0:17:55.359 and she doesn't like the name the dad wants, and 0:17:55.400 --> 0:17:57.679 the dad doesn't like the name she wants, and so 0:17:57.720 --> 0:18:00.560 they asked me to sign the name that they like. 0:18:00.880 --> 0:18:03.760 And I feel that's a lot of pressure, A little 0:18:03.760 --> 0:18:07.080 awkward about that, but still some people take it so 0:18:07.160 --> 0:18:11.199 seriously they actually do bracket a limit. My husband, you know, 0:18:11.280 --> 0:18:13.400 I let him have it because it was his first 0:18:13.480 --> 0:18:15.000 and it was my second. So I was like, you 0:18:15.000 --> 0:18:21.119 know what you do you okay, if you decide on 0:18:21.200 --> 0:18:24.680 a name during pregnancy, should you tell your friends and family? 0:18:25.359 --> 0:18:30.399 I feel like I did not tell. The majority of 0:18:30.440 --> 0:18:34.280 my family told us. I mean my extended family. I 0:18:34.359 --> 0:18:37.040 told a few people, but I kept it on the dal. 0:18:37.240 --> 0:18:39.720 A lot of horror stories I've read on what to 0:18:39.760 --> 0:18:43.879 Expect message boards of moms sharing names and people making 0:18:44.040 --> 0:18:49.240 negative comments, which is I've seen that that's so mean. Yeah, 0:18:49.480 --> 0:18:52.720 you can think it, but don't say it, or write it, 0:18:53.119 --> 0:18:54.919 write it in a on a piece of paper and 0:18:54.960 --> 0:18:56.960 just throw it in the trash. Should they never seen you? 0:18:57.280 --> 0:18:59.920 Don't say it out loud. Now. A lot of moms 0:19:00.119 --> 0:19:02.119 told me they actually like to share the name so 0:19:02.160 --> 0:19:06.080 that they get personalized gifts for their babies. But I 0:19:06.119 --> 0:19:09.240 did have one mom who did a gender reveal with 0:19:09.400 --> 0:19:12.560 the name. Everything was picked out a whole nine yards, 0:19:12.920 --> 0:19:15.440 picked out the registry based on the gender only, and 0:19:15.480 --> 0:19:18.159 turned out when the baby was born he was a 0:19:18.280 --> 0:19:21.560 she and they had to redo everything. I mean, it 0:19:21.640 --> 0:19:25.439 doesn't happen often that those mistakes were me, but it 0:19:25.520 --> 0:19:27.560 does happen for me that I feel a little guilty 0:19:27.560 --> 0:19:29.560 about it, because what about the peanut gallery, Like, what 0:19:29.560 --> 0:19:32.280 should you do if there's pressure from a family member 0:19:32.560 --> 0:19:36.320 to name the baby after a relative or to use 0:19:36.440 --> 0:19:40.960 a letter in honor of someone and you don't want to. 0:19:43.440 --> 0:19:46.080 I really don't know why people think they get a 0:19:46.160 --> 0:19:49.720 vote on someone else's baby. I mean, even if it's 0:19:49.720 --> 0:19:52.000 their grandchild. They just don't get a vote. I mean, 0:19:52.040 --> 0:19:56.200 opinions from the Peanut Gallery about your Peanuts name should 0:19:56.200 --> 0:19:59.320 not matter. The problem is that they actually can hurt, 0:19:59.520 --> 0:20:02.040 and they can hurt a lot. I mean, this is 0:20:02.040 --> 0:20:05.160 how I look at it. You made this baby together, 0:20:05.520 --> 0:20:08.920 you raise the baby together, you pay babies bills together, 0:20:09.520 --> 0:20:14.560 You get to name the baby together without outside interference. 0:20:14.680 --> 0:20:17.960 You are the only ones who should have a vote. 0:20:18.640 --> 0:20:21.040 I mean that doesn't stop mothers and mother in laws, 0:20:21.119 --> 0:20:23.800 fathers and father in laws from giving their two cents 0:20:23.800 --> 0:20:29.840 and even saying, you know, I've heard some incredibly hurtful 0:20:29.880 --> 0:20:34.000 things that family members have said, laying on the guilt 0:20:34.600 --> 0:20:37.359 when they don't like your choice. That's not fair, or 0:20:37.400 --> 0:20:40.960 getting all passive aggressive about it, or pressure and you 0:20:41.520 --> 0:20:45.600 even some family members pressure parents to change the name. 0:20:45.680 --> 0:20:48.399 It's so messed up. Emma, one of the moms on 0:20:48.440 --> 0:20:51.720 your Instagram said she listened to the Peanut Gallery, actually 0:20:51.880 --> 0:20:55.239 changed her baby's name based on the Peanut Gallery and 0:20:55.320 --> 0:20:58.960 still has name recrap. I mean, I think that's so 0:20:59.160 --> 0:21:03.280 beyond unfair and messed up. You should name your child 0:21:03.359 --> 0:21:05.080 what you want to name your child, not what your 0:21:05.080 --> 0:21:06.760 mother in law wants you to name your child. She 0:21:06.840 --> 0:21:09.160 got to pick her son's name, she should let you 0:21:09.280 --> 0:21:12.600 and your husband pick your name. And also, I don't 0:21:12.640 --> 0:21:16.240 think it's fair that if you have decided on a name, 0:21:16.320 --> 0:21:18.600 for anybody to have any sort of voice in that. 0:21:18.880 --> 0:21:20.880 You know, if you're kind of throwing names out there, 0:21:21.119 --> 0:21:23.040 it's okay to say, I mean it's not my favorite, 0:21:23.040 --> 0:21:25.320 but I like this one more. That's fine, But you 0:21:25.359 --> 0:21:28.280 don't need when that name is solid, you know what, 0:21:28.480 --> 0:21:30.440 just let it go. You know what happened with your 0:21:30.480 --> 0:21:34.200 middle name? My mother hated it and we ended up 0:21:34.240 --> 0:21:37.119 because I felt so super guilty and I was so hormonal. 0:21:37.280 --> 0:21:41.159 We added another name to your your official name, just 0:21:41.560 --> 0:21:44.320 to a piece er, and we totally regretted it and 0:21:44.400 --> 0:21:46.800 we never used it. She didn't like my first name either. 0:21:46.880 --> 0:21:49.760 Did she know she didn't like any of it? Yes? 0:21:49.840 --> 0:21:51.960 So the only two people who should be able to 0:21:52.040 --> 0:21:55.880 change baby's name, in my opinion, are the parents. I say, 0:21:55.920 --> 0:21:59.919 tell them to butt out nicely, firmly or not nicely, 0:22:00.000 --> 0:22:02.840 if that's what it takes. The hormones talking. I'm pregnant. 0:22:18.400 --> 0:22:21.040 Can we really wait to decide on name until the 0:22:21.080 --> 0:22:23.840 baby is born? Is it true that you just know 0:22:24.119 --> 0:22:27.000 when you see them or know that like that's not 0:22:27.080 --> 0:22:29.560 the right name. Three months ago you see your kids like, 0:22:29.600 --> 0:22:34.080 oh that is not a Freend, that is a Henry. 0:22:34.480 --> 0:22:37.679 You know, it sounds like a movie cliche, but in 0:22:37.760 --> 0:22:42.080 fact a surprising number of parents say this. Um, there's 0:22:42.119 --> 0:22:45.879 still the minority by far like need to know ahead 0:22:45.880 --> 0:22:48.399 of time, but sometimes, you know, kind of use that 0:22:48.520 --> 0:22:51.440 birth moment to solidify how they feel about a name, 0:22:51.520 --> 0:22:54.800 to confirm that it fits. Um. Most parents have at 0:22:54.880 --> 0:22:58.840 least one name picked out already. Some actually do. I've 0:22:58.840 --> 0:23:02.440 heard several cass of parents changing the baby's name because 0:23:02.440 --> 0:23:05.320 it didn't fit once they held their baby. Usually they're 0:23:05.320 --> 0:23:08.560 not starting from scratch. Um, they've got a list of contenders. 0:23:09.640 --> 0:23:12.399 One thing that's actually I remember giving birth, you were like, 0:23:12.640 --> 0:23:15.240 come on, Sebastian's coming. Like it gave me that push 0:23:15.320 --> 0:23:18.320 that I was about to meet a person with a 0:23:18.480 --> 0:23:21.199 name rather than just a baby. I don't know for me, 0:23:21.320 --> 0:23:24.719 that was kind of helpful during delivery. Any other tips 0:23:24.800 --> 0:23:26.639 or things that you know we really should be aware of. 0:23:26.920 --> 0:23:29.480 There's an article and was respect dot com with women 0:23:29.560 --> 0:23:32.359 saying what they wish they've known before they picked their 0:23:32.400 --> 0:23:36.560 baby names. Some of the biggest takeaways pay attention to 0:23:36.640 --> 0:23:41.240 the initials. Babies with TRD, for instance, as initials. That 0:23:41.280 --> 0:23:45.400 sounds like turd, Alyssa Samantha Smiths. That makes an ass 0:23:45.400 --> 0:23:48.960 out of you and me. Amy Schumer remember changed her 0:23:49.000 --> 0:23:53.280 baby's name after realizing the gene ATel sounded like genital. 0:23:53.400 --> 0:23:55.720 I'm not mad at that, though, I mean Lennox is 0:23:56.000 --> 0:24:00.879 lp A little People's Association of America and SETTI is 0:24:01.160 --> 0:24:05.720 s s A, which is Social Security Administration. Oh, you're right, 0:24:06.600 --> 0:24:09.960 that's cute. One mom suggests that don't waste the middle name. 0:24:10.200 --> 0:24:12.160 You might need it one day if you have another 0:24:12.320 --> 0:24:18.159 baby of the same gender. Also important, say it out loud. Surprisingly, 0:24:18.240 --> 0:24:20.880 some parents never end up saying the baby's name out 0:24:20.880 --> 0:24:23.240 wowd they write it down. You know. Something else to 0:24:23.240 --> 0:24:26.040