WEBVTT - Big Plans with Big Ed 0:00:00.480 --> 0:00:04.960 Hell I Suck It Dating with Ungler Jared Haven and 0:00:05.080 --> 0:00:12.040 I heart radio podcast What is Up, Sucky Daters? Welcome 0:00:12.080 --> 0:00:15.200 back to a brand new episode of Help I Suck 0:00:15.280 --> 0:00:18.920 at Dating. I'm being unglerts joined all the way across 0:00:18.960 --> 0:00:22.759 the country with Jared Haven and of course Tory in 0:00:22.920 --> 0:00:29.160 some in descript bath bedroom and some I don't know, yes, 0:00:29.240 --> 0:00:30.760 but I don't know where exactly in the country. She 0:00:30.920 --> 0:00:34.720 is probably California. But Jared, how are you? I'm dandy. 0:00:34.880 --> 0:00:37.040 I'm doing well, just one day at a time. That's 0:00:37.040 --> 0:00:39.400 the only thing we can do during this freaking thing. 0:00:39.800 --> 0:00:42.480 But everybody's doing you know, staying safe. Everybody's doing well. 0:00:42.560 --> 0:00:44.960 We're all healthy. That's all we can ask for. Ashley 0:00:44.960 --> 0:00:48.560 and I find are are like fighting over smaller things 0:00:48.600 --> 0:00:50.640 now more often. But I'm pretty sure that's got to 0:00:50.680 --> 0:00:53.320 be normal for every couple. Give us, give us an 0:00:53.320 --> 0:00:55.680 example of what you guys are fighting over. Um, it's 0:00:55.720 --> 0:00:58.160 not like big fights. It's just more of like annoyances. 0:00:58.760 --> 0:01:01.680 For example, we were trying to find something too. We 0:01:01.680 --> 0:01:03.920 were trying to watch a movie the other night and 0:01:04.600 --> 0:01:09.600 I I suggested Mission Impossible too because she hasn't seen it. 0:01:10.000 --> 0:01:11.200 And then she's like, no, I don't want to watch that. 0:01:11.200 --> 0:01:12.680 I was like, okay, that's fair, that would be my pick. 0:01:12.720 --> 0:01:16.120 And then she wanted to watch I don't remember what 0:01:16.160 --> 0:01:18.280 it was, but it was it was a rom com 0:01:18.319 --> 0:01:20.600 and I was like, I don't feel like watching, you know, 0:01:20.680 --> 0:01:23.240 a romance movie. And then we were trying to pick 0:01:23.240 --> 0:01:26.960 a movie in the middle, and I suggested something like 0:01:27.000 --> 0:01:30.080 a like a good drama, and she's like, we never 0:01:30.080 --> 0:01:32.520 watched movies I want to watch and I was like, well, 0:01:32.680 --> 0:01:34.440 I feel like I know. I was like, I feel 0:01:34.480 --> 0:01:36.240 like we're watching movies that we both enjoyed, Like we 0:01:36.360 --> 0:01:39.959 just watched Molly's Game and we just watched I figured 0:01:39.959 --> 0:01:43.000 out what else. But and then she goes She's like, 0:01:43.160 --> 0:01:45.399 she's like, I just feel like you're being selfish, and 0:01:45.440 --> 0:01:48.960 I was like, selfish, we're picking an equal movie, Like 0:01:49.000 --> 0:01:52.000 I suggested an action movie, you suggested a romance movie. 0:01:52.040 --> 0:01:57.320 We're meeting in the middle here, and question is why 0:01:57.320 --> 0:01:59.520 wouldn't you just be on board with whatever movie she 0:01:59.560 --> 0:02:02.560 picks in just like be on your phone the whole time. Well, 0:02:02.600 --> 0:02:04.480 that would be a dick move. See, I think it 0:02:04.480 --> 0:02:07.000 would be worse because there's nothing that bothers me more 0:02:07.080 --> 0:02:09.120 than if there's a movie I want to show someone 0:02:09.320 --> 0:02:11.080 and then they're on the phone. For example, I showed 0:02:11.080 --> 0:02:13.000 Ashley The Dark Knight like two years ago because she 0:02:13.080 --> 0:02:14.600 was like, I don't get it. I saw it once 0:02:14.680 --> 0:02:16.360 and I was like, you're gonna get this freaking movie. 0:02:16.360 --> 0:02:18.280 You're gonna get it, and you're gonna like it. So 0:02:18.320 --> 0:02:19.840 we watched it twenty minutes and then she was on 0:02:19.840 --> 0:02:21.359 her phone and I was like, actually, I'm gonna lose 0:02:21.400 --> 0:02:23.520 it because I really need you to just focus, pay attention, 0:02:23.520 --> 0:02:27.200 to appreciate, and really put effort into thinking you might 0:02:27.240 --> 0:02:28.799 like this, and if you don't like it, hey, we'll 0:02:28.840 --> 0:02:32.400 go our separate rays and figure things out later. But 0:02:32.480 --> 0:02:34.280 at least put the effort in. Now. That's a good point, 0:02:34.360 --> 0:02:35.720 I guess. I guess I didn't think of that. I 0:02:35.760 --> 0:02:38.840 just had thought because the she picked the movie that 0:02:38.880 --> 0:02:41.679 you had already seen and like definitely maybe or something 0:02:41.720 --> 0:02:43.960 like that. No, no, no, no, no no no. It was 0:02:43.960 --> 0:02:46.080 a movie that she has seen and she's like, oh, 0:02:46.120 --> 0:02:48.160 I could I could watch this And I was like, 0:02:48.400 --> 0:02:50.040 I'm kind of not in the mood for a romance 0:02:50.120 --> 0:02:53.440 right now, and so I thought I wasn't being that selfish, 0:02:53.600 --> 0:02:57.519 because you know, I suggested an action movie and then 0:02:57.600 --> 0:02:59.600 she was like, hey, let's watch a romance movie. And 0:02:59.639 --> 0:03:01.560 I was like, right, neither one is gonna win on 0:03:01.600 --> 0:03:03.079 that one, so let's go in the middle and watch 0:03:03.120 --> 0:03:05.079 a movie we can both enjoy it. Do you find 0:03:05.080 --> 0:03:07.320 it helpful to have Ashley's parents there with you kind 0:03:07.360 --> 0:03:10.560 of as like an intermediary? Um? No, I mean, like 0:03:10.600 --> 0:03:13.040 I said, the good thing about Ashley and eyes even 0:03:13.040 --> 0:03:16.080 when we fight, it's it's really it is far and 0:03:16.160 --> 0:03:20.079 few between. And uh because we just, like I've always said, 0:03:20.120 --> 0:03:22.240 our friendship is so good that we really know how 0:03:22.280 --> 0:03:26.680 to handle each other. But her parents being here, I 0:03:26.680 --> 0:03:29.800 don't know, that's a good question. And if there, I 0:03:29.800 --> 0:03:35.080 would say it's probably worse for um. Uh, Like I 0:03:35.120 --> 0:03:37.240 don't want to say worse for our relationship, but worse 0:03:37.360 --> 0:03:39.840 for when we're fighting, because then it makes me feel 0:03:39.840 --> 0:03:42.600 super awkward because her parents can hear, and then she 0:03:42.760 --> 0:03:45.400 uses them as more of a crutch instead of just 0:03:46.360 --> 0:03:50.040 hashing it out with me. Uh. But yeah, they like 0:03:50.080 --> 0:03:52.440 team up on you the I connects versus versus Jared. 0:03:52.480 --> 0:03:54.560 It sounds like, well, right now, there's four against one. 0:03:54.680 --> 0:03:57.760 So um sl if that's gonna happen. I got Lois 0:03:57.800 --> 0:04:01.400 on my side, that's about it, And even her, she's yeah, 0:04:01.400 --> 0:04:03.080 it doesn't seem like you're gonna win too many arguments 0:04:03.080 --> 0:04:04.800 over there. Well. Hey, on the bright side, it seems 0:04:04.800 --> 0:04:06.480 like things are slowly starting to go back to normal, 0:04:06.760 --> 0:04:10.560 at least getting closer to Yeah, yeah, I mean it is. 0:04:10.680 --> 0:04:13.080 It's still a little nerve racking scary because I just 0:04:13.920 --> 0:04:16.680 I don't know what's going to happen when the restrictions left, Like, 0:04:16.720 --> 0:04:19.480 for example, are you how comfortable are you going back 0:04:19.520 --> 0:04:22.400 into public and going back into the crowded areas well, 0:04:22.400 --> 0:04:24.480 I'm not quite as much about hypochondriac as you are, 0:04:24.520 --> 0:04:27.000 So I honestly not gonna have any issue. I'm not 0:04:27.040 --> 0:04:29.640 gonna be going to bars or like I guess it 0:04:29.680 --> 0:04:31.800 probably wouldn't really be going to shopping centers either. But 0:04:32.040 --> 0:04:33.760 I won't have an issue going to the beach, going 0:04:33.920 --> 0:04:36.279 hiking out in the you know, the parks and stuff 0:04:36.279 --> 0:04:39.120 like that. But I can see like if if but 0:04:39.120 --> 0:04:40.640 you guys don't really go to that many bars either, 0:04:40.680 --> 0:04:42.919 Like if people were like great like partying all the 0:04:42.960 --> 0:04:46.919 time before the quarantine, I can see them being like, oh, 0:04:46.960 --> 0:04:49.400 like things are never gonna be the same again. But 0:04:49.400 --> 0:04:51.480 I feel like for the most part, I guess there 0:04:51.480 --> 0:04:53.520 probably won't be like as many movie from premiers for 0:04:53.600 --> 0:04:56.600 you and actually to attend um and like those types 0:04:56.600 --> 0:04:58.359 of events probably will be a little bit fewer and 0:04:58.440 --> 0:05:00.800 farther between. Yeah, I've just been going to the movies, 0:05:00.839 --> 0:05:02.880 going out to dinner, like, I mean, granted, it's just 0:05:02.920 --> 0:05:06.000 gonna change restaurants with Paul would be halful even like dude, flying, 0:05:06.680 --> 0:05:09.520 you know, I mean, Ashley and I we were lucky 0:05:09.600 --> 0:05:10.839 that a lot of the things we had to do 0:05:10.880 --> 0:05:13.960 we we traveled for. And that's kind of I don't know, 0:05:14.360 --> 0:05:16.200 I don't feel like being on a plane for six hours, 0:05:16.200 --> 0:05:18.359 you know, I know, I know they say it's pretty 0:05:18.360 --> 0:05:19.600 safe with the fresh air and as long as you're 0:05:19.600 --> 0:05:22.479 wearing a mask. But still I'm not worried about flying. 0:05:22.560 --> 0:05:25.720 The only bummer for for me that strands flying specifically 0:05:25.760 --> 0:05:30.240 is that so many airlines are cutting their their airplane 0:05:30.760 --> 0:05:33.920 uh what's the word of looking for like availability, So 0:05:33.960 --> 0:05:37.400 they're gonna flights are essentially gonna get more expensive over time, 0:05:37.440 --> 0:05:41.360 which seems like a bummer too. But I'm not really 0:05:41.440 --> 0:05:43.920 terribly worried about the germs per se. I don't know 0:05:44.000 --> 0:05:47.920 it's gonna be. I have a question for you, Uh one, 0:05:48.839 --> 0:05:50.599 have you always had an earring? Because I'm looking at 0:05:50.640 --> 0:05:52.240 you and you have an earring now and too. How 0:05:52.279 --> 0:05:55.280 does Caylen feel about it? I've always had my ears pierced. Yeah, 0:05:55.320 --> 0:05:57.760 I've had both ears pierced. I have two pierce things 0:05:57.760 --> 0:05:59.480 into my left ear, but I only have one hearing 0:05:59.520 --> 0:06:02.960 and now. Uh, she's supportive of the of the I 0:06:03.000 --> 0:06:05.520 got a dangly like little bar gold earring in there 0:06:05.560 --> 0:06:07.480 right now. You know, it's just nice to spice it 0:06:07.560 --> 0:06:09.560 up a little bit and keep it fresh. Mix it 0:06:09.640 --> 0:06:11.200 up might as well. We've got nothing better to do 0:06:11.200 --> 0:06:13.200 in this quarantine. Are you wearing earrings in both ears? 0:06:13.200 --> 0:06:16.039 Are just the left? Um? I haven't worn earrings in 0:06:16.080 --> 0:06:19.479 both years since I was probably in college, but as 0:06:19.680 --> 0:06:22.440 recently as like last year, maybe a year or two ago, 0:06:22.960 --> 0:06:26.000 I had two piercings in my left lobe. Uh. So 0:06:26.040 --> 0:06:28.520 I had like two little mini hugger hoops uh in 0:06:28.600 --> 0:06:30.840 my left ear, which I really appreciate that look, but 0:06:31.560 --> 0:06:33.800 I think one of them closed up. Uh. And so 0:06:33.839 --> 0:06:35.360 I only have one hole in my left ear now. 0:06:35.560 --> 0:06:36.760 But yeah, like I said, you know, I just like 0:06:36.800 --> 0:06:38.760 to keep it fresh, keep it interesting. That's kind of 0:06:38.800 --> 0:06:40.360 why I played around the facial hair a little bit. 0:06:40.440 --> 0:06:42.240 I've got a nice little bun going on today too, 0:06:42.279 --> 0:06:44.119 because it's hot here in l A. But it keeps 0:06:44.120 --> 0:06:46.320 the look fresh too. You have the mustache, you have 0:06:46.360 --> 0:06:48.000 an earring, and you're wearing a headband and you have 0:06:48.040 --> 0:06:50.720 your hair in a bun. Yeah. Yeah, it's like I 0:06:50.760 --> 0:06:52.040 look in the mirror, I don't even know who I am, 0:06:52.040 --> 0:06:54.200 and that's kind of exciting for me. Even too, I'm like, whoa, 0:06:54.240 --> 0:06:57.000 who is this guy? You're hideous. But it's cool to, like, 0:06:57.080 --> 0:07:01.320 you know, have someone around the house. I guess. Yeah, 0:07:01.360 --> 0:07:03.680 it's like groundhog Day. So at least, yeah, you get 0:07:03.680 --> 0:07:05.599 to change your personality every day. Tori, how do you 0:07:05.600 --> 0:07:12.400 feel about guys with earrings? Oh? Great question, that's on 0:07:12.520 --> 0:07:16.200 fall of them. Sounds like she um doesn't want to 0:07:16.200 --> 0:07:18.440 answer honestly because she knows it's gonna hurt my feelings. 0:07:19.440 --> 0:07:24.320 I think that's done right. It can be attractive, but 0:07:24.400 --> 0:07:27.080 I'm I have a hard time with the dangle. But 0:07:27.120 --> 0:07:30.440 then I'm also like, I don't want Nicholas Shade Studs. Yeah, 0:07:30.520 --> 0:07:33.840 I do remember a couple I think back in jan No, 0:07:34.080 --> 0:07:36.920 in January February, I came to the studio to recording 0:07:36.960 --> 0:07:39.440 episode must of the January and I had the dangle 0:07:39.560 --> 0:07:41.880 earring and the dog and the cutches, and Tori was 0:07:42.040 --> 0:07:44.440 very critical of my dangle. I feel like Tory would 0:07:44.480 --> 0:07:46.280 be critical of you no matter what you do, because 0:07:46.320 --> 0:07:50.040 that's what she just likes, ridiculing you. It's not critique, 0:07:50.080 --> 0:07:53.680 it's that I know his potentials. Let's motivate. You know, 0:07:53.920 --> 0:07:55.960 where do you think, Tory, where do you think Dean 0:07:56.040 --> 0:07:59.080 has reached his most potential? Like, at what point throughout 0:07:59.120 --> 0:08:01.120 your friendship did you you think Dean is at his 0:08:01.320 --> 0:08:03.880 peak right now? Right now? I think every day, and 0:08:03.920 --> 0:08:05.960 it's a new it's a new peak for me. I 0:08:06.000 --> 0:08:09.800 think it was right before the leg injury. Yeah, you 0:08:09.840 --> 0:08:12.480 were like going out, you were happy, you were in nature, 0:08:12.760 --> 0:08:15.360 Calin was tagging along, you had your dog, like everything 0:08:15.440 --> 0:08:17.880 was like great. And then I think that kind of 0:08:18.200 --> 0:08:20.240 didn't like hinder your peak. But you were just like 0:08:20.320 --> 0:08:22.600 definitely peaking then for sure. And then I broke my 0:08:22.680 --> 0:08:29.200 leg in my life got ruined basically. Yeah, no, yeah, 0:08:29.200 --> 0:08:31.480 I would I would agree with that. Um, we also 0:08:31.720 --> 0:08:34.160 are fostering a dog as of an hour ago today, 0:08:34.200 --> 0:08:36.520 so we have a little sister for Pappy. So that's 0:08:36.559 --> 0:08:40.000 kind of exciting for us. What's the name? I think 0:08:40.000 --> 0:08:46.679 it's im Sorry, you think it's some weird, uh foreign 0:08:46.760 --> 0:08:49.599 name I'm not familiar with. I call her Frolio. But 0:08:49.720 --> 0:08:51.680 you just pete on the carpet in this in this 0:08:51.960 --> 0:08:57.480 room I'm broadcasting from so Star. She just turned to 0:08:57.720 --> 0:08:59.480 and she just had a litter of puppies and so 0:08:59.520 --> 0:09:03.960 she's got some nice, uh curvaceous teets, if you will. 0:09:04.559 --> 0:09:07.920 But we thought my thought process behind it was since uh, 0:09:08.000 --> 0:09:09.840 since Patty has been so down and out lately with 0:09:09.840 --> 0:09:12.040 his like oar threat is and his teeth, I wanted 0:09:12.040 --> 0:09:14.960 to have like a nice, sexy young female walking around 0:09:14.960 --> 0:09:16.480 the house to maybe like breathe a little bit of 0:09:16.920 --> 0:09:20.680 spark into him, Yeah, make him young again. Yeah, and 0:09:20.440 --> 0:09:22.480 uh you yet to see it, but he's been fighting 0:09:22.480 --> 0:09:24.079 for our attention ever since, which is like kind of 0:09:24.160 --> 0:09:25.680 nice to see him, you know, get a little bit 0:09:25.679 --> 0:09:28.880 more motivated for some pets. Is there potential that you'll 0:09:28.960 --> 0:09:32.840 keep throw young? Absolutely not. Oh please, I feel like 0:09:32.840 --> 0:09:35.079 you said the same thing about Pappy. I know I 0:09:35.120 --> 0:09:36.880 did say the same thing about Happy, but Pappy was 0:09:37.240 --> 0:09:39.880 an exception. He's just an amazing dog and as great 0:09:39.880 --> 0:09:42.800 as Throw You seems to be, Pappy needed us a 0:09:42.800 --> 0:09:45.800 lot more than I think Throw You will, so uh, 0:09:46.000 --> 0:09:47.880 you know, she's a little bit younger. She's got some 0:09:47.960 --> 0:09:50.280 spunk and some cuteness too, and Peppy's cute. But he 0:09:50.360 --> 0:09:53.280 was like so old that if we didn't adopt him, 0:09:53.440 --> 0:09:55.120 he probably would have died in the shelter or something, 0:09:55.160 --> 0:09:56.839 you know, which is a little bit of a different, 0:09:56.920 --> 0:09:59.680 different circumstance. Yeah, it's interesting. And Tory said your peak 0:09:59.720 --> 0:10:01.680 was right before you broke your leg, because I feel 0:10:01.760 --> 0:10:05.920 like since that incident happened, you and Klin have become 0:10:05.960 --> 0:10:09.600 a lot stronger, even though you guys were strong relationship beforehand, 0:10:10.000 --> 0:10:11.720 just from her going there and taking care of you, 0:10:11.760 --> 0:10:13.839 and now you guys are obviously in quarantine together. I 0:10:13.880 --> 0:10:16.160 guess I would say that I would disassociate my peak 0:10:16.200 --> 0:10:18.720 with my relationship, though, you know, like my personal peak 0:10:18.800 --> 0:10:22.040 is different than the strength of my relationship. I feel 0:10:22.040 --> 0:10:23.719 like Ashley would kill me if I said that I 0:10:24.000 --> 0:10:27.480 was I was at my peak before we got together. 0:10:28.120 --> 0:10:30.720 I think they're just two separate mountains with two different peaks. 0:10:30.880 --> 0:10:33.520 You can peek on your own on this mountain over here, 0:10:33.559 --> 0:10:35.440 and then the relationship peak is over here, and then 0:10:35.440 --> 0:10:37.440 actually got her on mountain that she's on by herself 0:10:37.480 --> 0:10:41.120 over there. They're all you know, it's all uh evan 0:10:41.200 --> 0:10:43.160 and flowing together. That's how I look at Yeah, I'll 0:10:43.160 --> 0:10:44.880 try to explain that to her and just let me 0:10:44.880 --> 0:10:47.520 know how it goes. Hopefully it'll be around next week. 0:10:48.200 --> 0:10:51.440 To your point earlier about like getting in small petty arguments, 0:10:51.480 --> 0:10:53.679 I mean, we definitely do the same thing, even just 0:10:53.679 --> 0:10:57.360 just yesterday. I can't remember what we were arguing about, 0:10:57.400 --> 0:11:00.160 but of something so so so silly, and it's just like, 0:11:00.200 --> 0:11:01.480 what is it? Is it just that the fact that 0:11:01.520 --> 0:11:03.240 we're spending too much time around each other is that 0:11:03.240 --> 0:11:05.600 we're all cooped up in this little apartment. We can't 0:11:05.600 --> 0:11:08.080 do the things that we want to do. I don't know, 0:11:08.120 --> 0:11:10.440 it's just I feel myself being more irritable. I like 0:11:10.480 --> 0:11:12.560 see myself getting annoyed at things, and I'm like, dude, 0:11:12.559 --> 0:11:13.959 what are you getting annoyed at that? For? You know 0:11:14.000 --> 0:11:17.480 what I mean? So hopefully, hopefully this is all just 0:11:17.559 --> 0:11:20.160 a means to an end. I think it will be. 0:11:20.360 --> 0:11:22.559 And I know it's interesting because today, like this time, 0:11:22.640 --> 0:11:25.400 is supposed to be a time full of perspective. You know, 0:11:25.480 --> 0:11:27.040 as long as we're healthy and doing well and we 0:11:27.080 --> 0:11:28.640 have a roof over our head and food, that we 0:11:28.640 --> 0:11:29.920 should be doing all right. But I agree with you. 0:11:29.960 --> 0:11:32.120 I found myself more irritable as well, and I take 0:11:32.120 --> 0:11:34.040 it out on Ashley sometimes and she does the same 0:11:34.040 --> 0:11:36.720 with me. But you know, that's just a relationship. And 0:11:36.760 --> 0:11:38.439 that's why you know, you put a ring on it, 0:11:38.480 --> 0:11:40.960 because even in times where you guys fight, you realize 0:11:41.000 --> 0:11:43.199 that you know, the sun will rise again and you 0:11:43.240 --> 0:11:44.880 guys are gonna be fine. You still love each other 0:11:44.920 --> 0:11:48.760 and everything is gonna be a okay, just like this podcast. 0:11:48.840 --> 0:11:50.680 It's this podcast is going to be a plus. You 0:11:50.679 --> 0:11:54.640 want to know why, Dean, because our peak, yours and 0:11:54.720 --> 0:11:57.480 mys peak, our relationship peak is still ahead of us. Well, 0:11:57.480 --> 0:11:59.320 I was gonna say it's Tories peak, but yeah, I 0:11:59.320 --> 0:12:02.800 mean that too. Hey, I've got a question for you 0:12:02.840 --> 0:12:05.960 in your relationship. I'm sorry to sidebar here, but I 0:12:06.000 --> 0:12:08.560 do remember the talk of children coming up a couple 0:12:08.559 --> 0:12:10.400 of weeks ago. Has that been discussed between you and 0:12:10.400 --> 0:12:15.440 actually all lately, um no, I mean nothing's changed. Yeah, 0:12:15.480 --> 0:12:19.480 we discuss it. We still wanna maybe try started having 0:12:19.559 --> 0:12:23.120 kids later this year. It's it's it's scary, man, It's 0:12:23.160 --> 0:12:28.440 just it's it's it's nerve racking about you know, uh, 0:12:28.480 --> 0:12:31.120 the idea of bringing a human in and then you 0:12:31.160 --> 0:12:35.960 know that human being is your responsibility and your responsibility 0:12:36.000 --> 0:12:39.600 only and don't f up because if you do, there 0:12:39.640 --> 0:12:45.360 will be some serious consequences. It's scary also wonderful. Um Like, 0:12:45.400 --> 0:12:48.120 I think about my parents, you know, and her parents 0:12:48.200 --> 0:12:50.880 and giving them a grandchild, and that makes me very happy. 0:12:51.840 --> 0:12:53.360 Well for what it's worth. And I'm sure you've heard 0:12:53.360 --> 0:12:55.920 this before. I think you make your fantastic father. Well 0:12:55.960 --> 0:12:59.000 thank you, Tina, I hope so. I appreciate that. And 0:12:59.120 --> 0:13:01.439 on my side of things, I can't wait to be 0:13:01.480 --> 0:13:04.440 a godfather. Like that's gonna be a great feeling. Uh 0:13:04.559 --> 0:13:06.800 you all we all know Nick is gonna just guilt 0:13:06.840 --> 0:13:09.719 me into making him the god I'll take. I'll take 0:13:09.760 --> 0:13:11.760 the title. That's fun uncle, even though I'm obviously not 0:13:12.000 --> 0:13:17.120 blood related. But um I, I have you talked about 0:13:17.440 --> 0:13:20.200 to Klin about the future at all? I mean, yeah, 0:13:20.240 --> 0:13:22.720 we talked about it. We don't really know what it holds. 0:13:23.000 --> 0:13:24.880 But we're we're coming up on our one year anniversary. 0:13:24.960 --> 0:13:27.120 I think in about like a month and a half 0:13:27.240 --> 0:13:29.839 will be at I'm sorry, Yeah, and a month and 0:13:29.840 --> 0:13:31.439 a half will be at our year anniversary. Like we're 0:13:31.440 --> 0:13:34.440 coming up on eleven months. For me, is a feat 0:13:34.480 --> 0:13:36.400 in and of itself. That's a long relationship for it. 0:13:36.440 --> 0:13:40.800 For me, that's the peak of year right there. Yeah, 0:13:40.800 --> 0:13:42.560 it's not quite the peak, but it's close to the 0:13:42.559 --> 0:13:46.520 longest relationship I've ever been in. Uh, we talk about 0:13:46.640 --> 0:13:49.040 things we don't really it's so in so much uncertainty, 0:13:49.080 --> 0:13:53.040 like you said, Uh, but we're happy with where we 0:13:53.080 --> 0:13:55.079 are as a couple now and we're not in any 0:13:55.200 --> 0:13:57.880 rush to change anything, and we're just taking it one 0:13:57.960 --> 0:14:01.360 day at a time. But you know, it's constant communication 0:14:01.360 --> 0:14:05.000 about that step to that way. There's no h blind sides. 0:14:05.200 --> 0:14:07.000 I guess if you will, do you want to be 0:14:07.040 --> 0:14:09.800 a father? Does she want to be a mom? Ah, 0:14:09.880 --> 0:14:12.880 that's a good question. I don't know. I don't really 0:14:12.920 --> 0:14:14.600 know how to answer that. I think that we both 0:14:14.640 --> 0:14:18.080 want to be parents, but we don't know what that means. 0:14:18.280 --> 0:14:20.040 If we're ready for it. Obviously we're not ready for 0:14:20.120 --> 0:14:21.760 it at the moment. Otherwise we would make an effort 0:14:21.800 --> 0:14:25.800 to be Uh. I personally don't. Although I've wanted to 0:14:25.840 --> 0:14:29.400 have kids my entire life. The older I get, seemingly 0:14:29.480 --> 0:14:33.040 the less I want to have children for whatever reason. Uh. 0:14:33.080 --> 0:14:37.800 And so that that could change, if you know, I 0:14:37.880 --> 0:14:41.040 wake up one day and decide otherwise. But at the 0:14:41.120 --> 0:14:43.480 end of the day, it's just I would have thought 0:14:43.800 --> 0:14:46.400 if you asked, like fifteen year old Dean, how many 0:14:46.480 --> 0:14:48.200 kids I would have when I was twenty nine, I 0:14:48.240 --> 0:14:49.960 would probably say, you know, I've got like a family 0:14:50.000 --> 0:14:51.760 of three, three little kids running around. I think all 0:14:51.800 --> 0:14:53.640 of us at that age are probably pretty optimistic. We're 0:14:53.640 --> 0:14:56.440 gonna have a lot of children. Then. Um. But yeah, 0:14:56.480 --> 0:14:58.080 the little older I get, the more and more I 0:14:58.120 --> 0:15:00.840 start to think about how I I could see a 0:15:00.880 --> 0:15:03.800 life without children, but I could also see life with children. 0:15:04.000 --> 0:15:05.520 But the look the weird thing I feel like I'm 0:15:05.560 --> 0:15:08.400 rambling here. The weird thing about I guess maybe the 0:15:08.440 --> 0:15:10.840 fortunate thing about my scenario situation is I've got an 0:15:10.840 --> 0:15:12.680 older brother who's nine years older than I am. So 0:15:12.720 --> 0:15:15.720 he's thirty eight, Well, he's thirty seventy thirty eight this year, 0:15:16.160 --> 0:15:18.400 he's getting married, doesn't have any kids, but he still 0:15:18.480 --> 0:15:21.040 could have kids. Like I could always look at myself 0:15:21.120 --> 0:15:24.160 essentially nine years into the future and be like, Okay, cool, 0:15:24.200 --> 0:15:27.040 I've got nine years to essentially reach the same standard 0:15:27.080 --> 0:15:29.480 that my brother has reached. You know, your biological clock 0:15:29.560 --> 0:15:32.880 isn't ticking, not even that. It's just like, you know, 0:15:32.960 --> 0:15:37.280 he's kind of maintained this uh this, what's you know, 0:15:37.360 --> 0:15:41.600 Peter pan like childlike vigor that you know, we all 0:15:41.640 --> 0:15:43.960 have his kids and he's like super playful. And I 0:15:43.960 --> 0:15:45.600 always look at him and I like, okay, cool. If 0:15:45.600 --> 0:15:48.240 he can be that way at that age, then I 0:15:48.360 --> 0:15:50.040 know that I can at least be that at that 0:15:50.080 --> 0:15:51.960 age as well, which gives me nine years to like, 0:15:52.520 --> 0:15:55.040 you know, continue to figure out exactly what I want. Yeah, no, 0:15:55.120 --> 0:15:56.800 that makes sense. I look at my parents and I'm 0:15:57.320 --> 0:15:59.880 just very grateful, Like I I think about what I'd 0:15:59.880 --> 0:16:01.600 be able to love my kid as much as my 0:16:01.680 --> 0:16:05.120 parents have loved me, and and sacrifice as much as 0:16:05.160 --> 0:16:08.880 they sacrifice. You know what all parents do where they 0:16:08.960 --> 0:16:12.600 just you know, their their life is now all about 0:16:12.640 --> 0:16:15.480 you and that's uh, that's the ultimate sacrifice. So well, 0:16:15.560 --> 0:16:17.600 especially for us, for us too. There was a guy 0:16:17.600 --> 0:16:19.680 that I met when I was getting my stoopl license 0:16:19.800 --> 0:16:21.960 a couple of years ago who was, like, he was 0:16:22.000 --> 0:16:23.520 a really young father. I think he had his first 0:16:23.560 --> 0:16:26.160 kid when he was like nineteen or something like that. Uh, 0:16:26.160 --> 0:16:27.840 And at the time, I was twenty seven, and he 0:16:28.000 --> 0:16:29.960 was I did it right, Like, you're you should have 0:16:30.040 --> 0:16:32.480 kids really really young, because now I'm turning forty five 0:16:32.520 --> 0:16:34.080 and my kids are already grown up and they're out 0:16:34.120 --> 0:16:35.800 of the house, and I've got like a second life 0:16:35.840 --> 0:16:37.840 again with my wife, and you know, I've got my 0:16:37.920 --> 0:16:40.040 friends and my kids who are my friends now. So 0:16:40.080 --> 0:16:41.640 there's kind of like two sides of the story where 0:16:41.680 --> 0:16:43.680 it's like you could have kids really young and then 0:16:43.720 --> 0:16:45.760 be a young parent and then be young when they 0:16:45.840 --> 0:16:48.040 go off to college and start throw own lives. Or 0:16:48.080 --> 0:16:51.000 you could spend your youth, you know, deciding if you 0:16:51.000 --> 0:16:52.400 want to have children, and then you know, when you're 0:16:52.400 --> 0:16:55.200 in Nash's case, have children your early thirties and then 0:16:55.440 --> 0:16:57.200 I don't know, it's just there's so many right ways 0:16:57.240 --> 0:16:59.480 to do it, you know. Yeah, you know, I agree. 0:16:59.560 --> 0:17:02.880 It's so weird sometimes how I hear people describe being 0:17:02.880 --> 0:17:05.080 a parent though, because like you said, he talked about like, 0:17:05.240 --> 0:17:06.800 oh I got it, like I got it over with 0:17:07.000 --> 0:17:09.720 kind of thing, like I was able to raise them 0:17:09.800 --> 0:17:11.320 my kids, and I love them and now I have 0:17:11.359 --> 0:17:15.080 a whole new life, and it's like, well not to 0:17:15.119 --> 0:17:17.919 be addict. Do you regret giving up that aspect of 0:17:17.960 --> 0:17:20.200 your life because now you see that you have it back? 0:17:20.440 --> 0:17:22.320 I don't know. But then they're like, I wouldn't change 0:17:22.320 --> 0:17:23.919 a thing because I love my kids more than anything. 0:17:23.920 --> 0:17:25.720 And you only realize how much you love them when 0:17:25.720 --> 0:17:29.120 you finally, like have children. I don't know. It's interesting, 0:17:29.160 --> 0:17:32.200 but I don't know. Anyway, we have a great guest 0:17:32.240 --> 0:17:34.280 on the podcast. 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