1 00:00:02,800 --> 00:00:11,560 Speaker 1: This is Teddy tea Pod with Cabin. Hi, guys, welcome 2 00:00:11,600 --> 00:00:14,920 Speaker 1: to this week's Teddy Teapod. I have missed you all 3 00:00:15,080 --> 00:00:18,599 Speaker 1: so much, and I figured what better way to start 4 00:00:18,600 --> 00:00:22,919 Speaker 1: than to talk all things mom I'm bringing on a 5 00:00:23,040 --> 00:00:27,640 Speaker 1: couple other moms with me. Terra Jolt. She's from Little 6 00:00:27,680 --> 00:00:33,040 Speaker 1: Women Atlanta, which is on Friday's on Lifetime Mina starsiak 7 00:00:33,280 --> 00:00:35,360 Speaker 1: Um which you guys have to order her book, it's 8 00:00:35,360 --> 00:00:38,160 Speaker 1: called Built Together. You can get it on Amazon. She's 9 00:00:38,240 --> 00:00:42,519 Speaker 1: also on nationally acclaimed hit renovation show Good Bones, and 10 00:00:42,560 --> 00:00:46,160 Speaker 1: also Elizabeth Joy. She just had a baby in September, 11 00:00:46,240 --> 00:00:48,559 Speaker 1: so she can answer a lot of those new mommy questions. 12 00:00:48,600 --> 00:00:59,680 Speaker 1: So let's bring them on and get going. All right, 13 00:00:59,680 --> 00:01:03,640 Speaker 1: now we're back, we can get into all things mom life, 14 00:01:03,680 --> 00:01:07,160 Speaker 1: the good, the bad, and the ugly. You had so 15 00:01:07,280 --> 00:01:10,160 Speaker 1: many questions and we can't wait to answer them. So you, guys, 16 00:01:10,240 --> 00:01:13,360 Speaker 1: thank you so much for joining me this week. Thank you. 17 00:01:14,520 --> 00:01:16,119 Speaker 1: And I know there's a bunch of us We're all 18 00:01:16,120 --> 00:01:19,039 Speaker 1: gonna have a lot of answers, um, but I'm gonna 19 00:01:19,120 --> 00:01:22,680 Speaker 1: just break it down by like each section of things 20 00:01:22,720 --> 00:01:26,560 Speaker 1: that people ask. So I'm starting out with birth because 21 00:01:26,600 --> 00:01:29,160 Speaker 1: a lot of people had a lot of nervousness when 22 00:01:29,240 --> 00:01:33,119 Speaker 1: it comes to childbirth. How many of us have recently 23 00:01:33,160 --> 00:01:36,400 Speaker 1: had a baby? I'm within a year all of us 24 00:01:36,520 --> 00:01:44,680 Speaker 1: was here. We're all crazy. Um ten months, ten months okay, 25 00:01:44,680 --> 00:01:51,240 Speaker 1: so mons four months? Five months? Wow uh and we 26 00:01:51,280 --> 00:01:54,120 Speaker 1: can all just kind of go around. For me, child 27 00:01:54,520 --> 00:01:57,880 Speaker 1: birth was like the least of the stressful of parts. 28 00:01:58,720 --> 00:02:01,600 Speaker 1: It was once the baby came, So don't even worry 29 00:02:01,640 --> 00:02:03,880 Speaker 1: about that part. Just go on, And what do you 30 00:02:03,880 --> 00:02:08,320 Speaker 1: guys think? I agree, I mean, having the baby is 31 00:02:08,360 --> 00:02:11,000 Speaker 1: the least of my especially with this pregnancy for me, Um, 32 00:02:11,040 --> 00:02:14,480 Speaker 1: if you knew my track record, but yeah, having the 33 00:02:14,480 --> 00:02:19,960 Speaker 1: baby is definitely the aftermath is the hardest part. And 34 00:02:20,000 --> 00:02:22,480 Speaker 1: also all three of my births were c sections, so 35 00:02:22,560 --> 00:02:24,960 Speaker 1: it was a recovery process for every single one, and 36 00:02:25,000 --> 00:02:27,480 Speaker 1: every single one was so different than the other, which 37 00:02:27,600 --> 00:02:29,880 Speaker 1: I'm sure as moms you all know, no two births 38 00:02:29,919 --> 00:02:34,240 Speaker 1: were the same. For sure, my second one, my first 39 00:02:34,240 --> 00:02:37,600 Speaker 1: one was a thirty five hours in C section, and 40 00:02:37,600 --> 00:02:40,880 Speaker 1: then Charlie, whose four months was a schedule a C section, 41 00:02:41,320 --> 00:02:43,960 Speaker 1: which is perfect for me. I'm super tight and I'm like, 42 00:02:44,000 --> 00:02:45,520 Speaker 1: I know a time I'm gonna have my baby. I 43 00:02:45,680 --> 00:02:48,440 Speaker 1: walked into the l R, which is weird because you 44 00:02:48,520 --> 00:02:50,919 Speaker 1: just walk in, laid down, and then then you're asleep, 45 00:02:50,919 --> 00:02:52,600 Speaker 1: and then you know then well, actually I was awake. 46 00:02:53,160 --> 00:02:55,040 Speaker 1: I think I thought I was asleep because the first 47 00:02:55,040 --> 00:02:57,200 Speaker 1: time I was so out of it. But you know, 48 00:02:57,360 --> 00:03:01,600 Speaker 1: baby out done so But I don't think it's normal 49 00:03:02,080 --> 00:03:05,400 Speaker 1: necessarily to not be a little bit anxious about it. 50 00:03:06,240 --> 00:03:10,320 Speaker 1: Mm hmm um. I feel like for me, my, because 51 00:03:10,320 --> 00:03:12,080 Speaker 1: I work as a birth dueler, so I had this 52 00:03:12,120 --> 00:03:14,440 Speaker 1: whole plan of how I was going to have this 53 00:03:14,560 --> 00:03:19,560 Speaker 1: unmedicated birth, and then after like twenty hours of excruciating labor, 54 00:03:19,600 --> 00:03:21,720 Speaker 1: I got the epidergal and it was like the best 55 00:03:21,720 --> 00:03:24,440 Speaker 1: thing that ever happened to me. I remember just telling 56 00:03:24,440 --> 00:03:26,760 Speaker 1: my husband, like, you don't get why people don't do this, 57 00:03:27,040 --> 00:03:29,560 Speaker 1: Why don't people want do this? This is so amazing. 58 00:03:29,840 --> 00:03:33,239 Speaker 1: But I was so exhausted from labor that I felt 59 00:03:33,280 --> 00:03:36,080 Speaker 1: like I couldn't even really enjoy my daughter. Right when 60 00:03:36,120 --> 00:03:38,800 Speaker 1: she was born. It was hard for me to connect 61 00:03:38,880 --> 00:03:41,120 Speaker 1: with her because I was just I just wanted to 62 00:03:41,160 --> 00:03:44,640 Speaker 1: sleep at that point. Um. And and so I mean, 63 00:03:44,680 --> 00:03:47,200 Speaker 1: you said how people are really nervous about getting birth 64 00:03:47,200 --> 00:03:49,800 Speaker 1: and we're giving all these stories, probably making them more nervous, 65 00:03:49,880 --> 00:03:53,880 Speaker 1: but I think the ease nerves though, UM, talk to 66 00:03:53,920 --> 00:03:55,920 Speaker 1: your doctor. You just get to know your birth team, 67 00:03:55,960 --> 00:03:59,480 Speaker 1: the people who are surrounding you, build that trust with them, 68 00:03:59,520 --> 00:04:01,920 Speaker 1: build that relationship with them, and try to educate yourself 69 00:04:02,000 --> 00:04:04,360 Speaker 1: as much as possible so then you know, Hey, if 70 00:04:04,360 --> 00:04:06,320 Speaker 1: I end up getting in at the girl like this 71 00:04:06,360 --> 00:04:07,680 Speaker 1: is going to happen, or if I end up in 72 00:04:07,680 --> 00:04:10,440 Speaker 1: a C section, it's okay. At least I'm prepped and 73 00:04:10,480 --> 00:04:12,640 Speaker 1: I know what's going to happen, then it's not as 74 00:04:12,680 --> 00:04:15,840 Speaker 1: scary if if that is your circumstance, well, And I 75 00:04:15,840 --> 00:04:18,760 Speaker 1: think something that I did not mention that it was 76 00:04:19,000 --> 00:04:24,440 Speaker 1: super important um and unique to pandemic birth giving. The 77 00:04:24,560 --> 00:04:26,520 Speaker 1: hospital that I was set to go to my friends 78 00:04:26,520 --> 00:04:28,599 Speaker 1: delivered a week before and told me that the nursery 79 00:04:28,640 --> 00:04:32,040 Speaker 1: was closed, and I said, hey'll know, I'm not doing that, 80 00:04:32,200 --> 00:04:34,000 Speaker 1: And then we stuck after a C section for four 81 00:04:34,080 --> 00:04:38,000 Speaker 1: days with no help. So I called I you UM, 82 00:04:38,040 --> 00:04:41,039 Speaker 1: which is another hospital women's hospital. Sorry, no, I was 83 00:04:41,080 --> 00:04:42,520 Speaker 1: at at You. I called a different one in their 84 00:04:42,600 --> 00:04:46,039 Speaker 1: nursery was open. So I think being mentally prepared, whether 85 00:04:46,240 --> 00:04:49,360 Speaker 1: that you're sticking with your hospital and it's closed, or 86 00:04:49,400 --> 00:04:51,400 Speaker 1: you're trying to find one that's open. Just knowing that 87 00:04:51,720 --> 00:04:55,599 Speaker 1: because my first time baby making friends did not and 88 00:04:55,680 --> 00:04:58,640 Speaker 1: it was a really bad experience for that. And I 89 00:04:58,680 --> 00:05:02,320 Speaker 1: think also talking to your significant other and seeing yes, 90 00:05:02,640 --> 00:05:05,600 Speaker 1: really they're going to be when it's go time. Like 91 00:05:06,320 --> 00:05:08,839 Speaker 1: I have friends that were like, oh, my husband rubbing 92 00:05:08,880 --> 00:05:11,800 Speaker 1: my feet and like putting oils on me and like 93 00:05:12,000 --> 00:05:15,479 Speaker 1: how to playlist plant like mine like went across the 94 00:05:15,560 --> 00:05:18,640 Speaker 1: street to like go get food like three times for himself. 95 00:05:18,760 --> 00:05:21,520 Speaker 1: We can't can't eat in your labor Like there was 96 00:05:21,640 --> 00:05:26,000 Speaker 1: none of that. And then like when the doctor came 97 00:05:26,040 --> 00:05:28,400 Speaker 1: in to like actually deliver the baby, like we were 98 00:05:28,520 --> 00:05:32,039 Speaker 1: in time, he put on scrubs and was like just 99 00:05:32,080 --> 00:05:33,839 Speaker 1: so in the pic he looked like he was like 100 00:05:33,920 --> 00:05:36,359 Speaker 1: on and popping. I was like, listen to and I 101 00:05:37,000 --> 00:05:41,000 Speaker 1: you on phone calls so like talk and I didn't 102 00:05:41,040 --> 00:05:42,600 Speaker 1: really like for me, I was like, all right, I'm 103 00:05:42,640 --> 00:05:44,960 Speaker 1: gonna just you know, listen to podcasts and do what 104 00:05:45,000 --> 00:05:47,039 Speaker 1: I wanted to do and then tell him when I 105 00:05:47,080 --> 00:05:49,840 Speaker 1: need him to step in. But I think having that 106 00:05:49,920 --> 00:05:53,720 Speaker 1: conversation so you're not blindsided by how your partner maybe 107 00:05:54,040 --> 00:05:57,840 Speaker 1: during a delivery is important. Also, even if you're having 108 00:05:57,880 --> 00:06:00,320 Speaker 1: a c section, like a scheduled c section, have a 109 00:06:00,400 --> 00:06:03,080 Speaker 1: birth plan. Like I went in thinking that I was 110 00:06:03,120 --> 00:06:05,160 Speaker 1: going to have a one touch final, which is for 111 00:06:05,360 --> 00:06:08,240 Speaker 1: my type of back, is much more safe and so 112 00:06:08,279 --> 00:06:11,400 Speaker 1: the needle won't ever break off with an epidural because 113 00:06:11,400 --> 00:06:14,120 Speaker 1: it's in there the whole time. And it was seriously, 114 00:06:14,200 --> 00:06:16,640 Speaker 1: my first pregnancy was like a scene out of Knocked Up. 115 00:06:16,760 --> 00:06:18,680 Speaker 1: It was like the doctor was like, no, you can't 116 00:06:18,720 --> 00:06:20,599 Speaker 1: have that, and I was like, well, what do you 117 00:06:20,600 --> 00:06:22,320 Speaker 1: mean I can't have that? And I was like, find 118 00:06:22,360 --> 00:06:25,279 Speaker 1: another thesiologist. And I never even knew that you could. 119 00:06:25,760 --> 00:06:28,240 Speaker 1: And so if the first thing a thesiologist doesn't give 120 00:06:28,240 --> 00:06:30,240 Speaker 1: you the answers that you want, all you have to 121 00:06:30,320 --> 00:06:34,200 Speaker 1: do is really get your husband in check and saying, go, 122 00:06:34,200 --> 00:06:37,000 Speaker 1: go do that make this happen for me because I'm 123 00:06:37,040 --> 00:06:40,920 Speaker 1: about to have this baby. That huge. Being your own 124 00:06:41,000 --> 00:06:43,640 Speaker 1: advocate is so huge, And you'll realize the same thing 125 00:06:43,640 --> 00:06:45,719 Speaker 1: when it comes to your kids. You have a gut 126 00:06:45,760 --> 00:06:49,000 Speaker 1: feeling about something, you have to say. You have to ask, oh, 127 00:06:49,040 --> 00:06:50,880 Speaker 1: look at we have a little cutie that joined as 128 00:06:50,880 --> 00:06:52,880 Speaker 1: I know you guys, are you supposed to be napping 129 00:06:53,200 --> 00:06:56,359 Speaker 1: but she is not well. That even takes me to 130 00:06:56,400 --> 00:06:58,599 Speaker 1: the next question, which is, once you have the baby, 131 00:06:58,680 --> 00:07:00,720 Speaker 1: do you do sleep schedules? How do you do it? 132 00:07:00,920 --> 00:07:04,200 Speaker 1: I see that your baby is currently wearing a sleep suit, 133 00:07:04,320 --> 00:07:09,479 Speaker 1: the Magic Merlin, which it is. Well, I'm obsessed with it. Yes, 134 00:07:10,040 --> 00:07:12,920 Speaker 1: it is is. Um before you have kids, you know, 135 00:07:12,960 --> 00:07:15,000 Speaker 1: I'm sure you guys all know everyone gives you so 136 00:07:15,080 --> 00:07:19,120 Speaker 1: much unsolicited advice. And of all the unsolicited advice, the 137 00:07:19,200 --> 00:07:23,360 Speaker 1: two that we're given that I again give is the 138 00:07:23,400 --> 00:07:27,000 Speaker 1: Magic Merlin sleepsuit and the snoo and twelve hours in 139 00:07:27,000 --> 00:07:31,320 Speaker 1: twelve weeks, because Jack and Charlie both slept through the night, 140 00:07:31,400 --> 00:07:34,480 Speaker 1: like twelve hours her when she was nine weeks in 141 00:07:34,560 --> 00:07:37,880 Speaker 1: Jack by the time he was twelve, And that's life saving. 142 00:07:38,680 --> 00:07:42,880 Speaker 1: Did you guys sleep train as well? I did. I 143 00:07:42,960 --> 00:07:46,720 Speaker 1: had to in order to be sane. But um, it 144 00:07:46,800 --> 00:07:53,080 Speaker 1: didn't always work as planned. Uh, we're currently like in 145 00:07:53,120 --> 00:07:55,680 Speaker 1: the middle of it. So my daughter's like four and 146 00:07:55,720 --> 00:07:59,560 Speaker 1: a half months, um, and she slept great as a baby, 147 00:07:59,600 --> 00:08:02,480 Speaker 1: and then right around three months we had like six 148 00:08:02,560 --> 00:08:05,440 Speaker 1: weeks of hell of just like waking up five to 149 00:08:05,520 --> 00:08:08,200 Speaker 1: seven times a night, and it just I didn't know 150 00:08:08,240 --> 00:08:09,680 Speaker 1: what I was gonna do. But it got to a 151 00:08:09,720 --> 00:08:12,720 Speaker 1: point where it was like my sanity or like because 152 00:08:12,720 --> 00:08:14,720 Speaker 1: I was getting angry. I felt like the emotion like 153 00:08:14,800 --> 00:08:16,840 Speaker 1: when she'd wake up for the third time that night 154 00:08:17,240 --> 00:08:19,280 Speaker 1: and it's only two o'clock in the morning, and I 155 00:08:19,280 --> 00:08:21,200 Speaker 1: know she's gonna wake up two more times, Like I 156 00:08:21,200 --> 00:08:24,600 Speaker 1: could feel myself like getting angry because I'm like, I'm 157 00:08:24,720 --> 00:08:28,320 Speaker 1: so exhausted, i feel like a horrible mom because I'm 158 00:08:28,360 --> 00:08:30,880 Speaker 1: pissed at you and you're just a baby, and I'm 159 00:08:30,920 --> 00:08:34,920 Speaker 1: mad that, you know, I feel like I'm I'm breastfeeding, 160 00:08:35,000 --> 00:08:38,440 Speaker 1: so you need me, and um, like why can't you 161 00:08:38,480 --> 00:08:41,280 Speaker 1: just sleep? You know? So I for me, I felt 162 00:08:41,320 --> 00:08:44,360 Speaker 1: like those emotions coming up and feeling triggered by her 163 00:08:44,360 --> 00:08:47,719 Speaker 1: waking up all the time, because when I sleep better, 164 00:08:47,800 --> 00:08:50,760 Speaker 1: I'm a happier mom. And um, I'm sure a lot 165 00:08:50,800 --> 00:08:52,600 Speaker 1: of people can relate to that. So we ended up 166 00:08:52,960 --> 00:08:56,040 Speaker 1: um doing sleep training and we're only like two weeks 167 00:08:56,040 --> 00:08:59,959 Speaker 1: into it, but already, like it's such a world of difference, 168 00:09:00,080 --> 00:09:02,800 Speaker 1: Like she wakes up once a night to eat and 169 00:09:03,080 --> 00:09:05,040 Speaker 1: we're still working on the naps, which can be like 170 00:09:05,080 --> 00:09:07,200 Speaker 1: a big struggle. They say, like the night's sleep comes 171 00:09:07,240 --> 00:09:09,360 Speaker 1: first and then the naps. But I haven't tried the 172 00:09:09,360 --> 00:09:11,800 Speaker 1: sleep suit yet and I've been wanting to, so I 173 00:09:11,880 --> 00:09:15,240 Speaker 1: might have to buy one of those. And that being said, 174 00:09:15,320 --> 00:09:17,720 Speaker 1: I did not breastfeed, and that makes a huge difference 175 00:09:17,720 --> 00:09:20,040 Speaker 1: because the formula with Jack I did for a little bit, 176 00:09:20,280 --> 00:09:21,920 Speaker 1: which is why I think it took him longer to 177 00:09:21,960 --> 00:09:24,640 Speaker 1: sleep through the night for various reasons. I mean, it 178 00:09:24,679 --> 00:09:26,720 Speaker 1: just it doesn't stick with them as long. So for her, 179 00:09:27,400 --> 00:09:29,960 Speaker 1: I think it was easier because it was formula from 180 00:09:30,040 --> 00:09:34,080 Speaker 1: the get go. Um, y'all are stronger women than me. 181 00:09:34,080 --> 00:09:37,640 Speaker 1: I couldn't do it again, and I think that's something 182 00:09:37,679 --> 00:09:39,480 Speaker 1: that we all have. You know, we could talk about 183 00:09:39,480 --> 00:09:43,160 Speaker 1: two is like breastfeeding, and we put so much pressure 184 00:09:43,200 --> 00:09:46,760 Speaker 1: on ourselves. And I've talked about this openly. But after 185 00:09:47,120 --> 00:09:49,839 Speaker 1: I had my first two kids, I went and got 186 00:09:49,880 --> 00:09:52,360 Speaker 1: my boots done, not assuming that I was going to 187 00:09:52,480 --> 00:09:54,640 Speaker 1: have any other kids. I never even asked the question 188 00:09:54,679 --> 00:09:56,600 Speaker 1: to the doctor, like, well, I'd be able to breastfeed 189 00:09:56,600 --> 00:09:59,640 Speaker 1: after this, Because I my first two it was IVF 190 00:09:59,679 --> 00:10:01,800 Speaker 1: and it's emanation. I didn't think I would naturally get 191 00:10:01,840 --> 00:10:05,000 Speaker 1: pregnant on my own with my third and then I 192 00:10:05,200 --> 00:10:08,239 Speaker 1: you know, after I had Dove, I went to breastfeed 193 00:10:08,280 --> 00:10:11,240 Speaker 1: and the ducks didn't match up. There was no milk 194 00:10:11,280 --> 00:10:14,920 Speaker 1: coming out. I tortured myself in the hospital having fortility 195 00:10:14,960 --> 00:10:20,000 Speaker 1: I mean not fortility uh lactational specialation. Yeah, like and 196 00:10:20,480 --> 00:10:23,320 Speaker 1: putting on the mega pomp, like doing everything we can 197 00:10:23,720 --> 00:10:28,320 Speaker 1: and just driving ourselves crazy. And us moms can do 198 00:10:30,040 --> 00:10:34,440 Speaker 1: that is best whatever, even if it's for your mental sanity, 199 00:10:34,559 --> 00:10:37,080 Speaker 1: if it's because of physically something that you can or 200 00:10:37,120 --> 00:10:40,679 Speaker 1: can't do. But like, we put so much pressure on 201 00:10:40,720 --> 00:10:46,040 Speaker 1: ourselves as moms to show up and be everything all 202 00:10:46,080 --> 00:10:48,559 Speaker 1: the time. But like feeding your kid and taking care 203 00:10:48,559 --> 00:10:50,240 Speaker 1: of your kid and figuring out the best way for 204 00:10:50,320 --> 00:10:53,040 Speaker 1: him or her to sleep, that's pretty darn good. So like, 205 00:10:53,240 --> 00:10:56,080 Speaker 1: you cut yourself some slack. I'm gonna have to tell 206 00:10:56,120 --> 00:10:59,880 Speaker 1: my husband your story, because, um, we we're told after 207 00:11:00,040 --> 00:11:02,080 Speaker 1: Jack Jack was a miracle, we were never gonna get 208 00:11:02,120 --> 00:11:04,439 Speaker 1: pregnant again. We'd have to use donor eggs. Did a 209 00:11:04,480 --> 00:11:06,880 Speaker 1: hail Mary I U I and got her and my 210 00:11:06,960 --> 00:11:11,240 Speaker 1: husband just had a vasectomy two weeks ago. And you 211 00:11:11,240 --> 00:11:13,360 Speaker 1: have to go back after eight weeks to make sure 212 00:11:13,559 --> 00:11:17,600 Speaker 1: it worked. And between them, they're like, use other methods 213 00:11:17,600 --> 00:11:20,080 Speaker 1: if you don't want to get pregnant, which I'm sure 214 00:11:20,120 --> 00:11:22,720 Speaker 1: you all can understand men don't typically like to do. 215 00:11:23,160 --> 00:11:25,560 Speaker 1: So we haven't. He's like, you can't get pregnant anyways, 216 00:11:26,240 --> 00:11:31,880 Speaker 1: but her we got hurt, so we shall see. I 217 00:11:31,880 --> 00:11:33,679 Speaker 1: didn't even know I was pregnant until I was ten 218 00:11:33,720 --> 00:11:37,560 Speaker 1: weeks pregnant. Oh wow, I just got my boob job 219 00:11:37,559 --> 00:11:39,440 Speaker 1: in my tummy. Talk to I'm like eight weeks out. 220 00:11:40,120 --> 00:11:42,160 Speaker 1: You hold on, you have to tell us about that. 221 00:11:42,200 --> 00:11:44,839 Speaker 1: Has anybody else had so I've had my boobs done? 222 00:11:45,000 --> 00:11:47,480 Speaker 1: Has anyone had any mommy makeovers? Because a lot of 223 00:11:48,160 --> 00:11:52,160 Speaker 1: people are asking about those I feel during quarantine, I've 224 00:11:52,160 --> 00:11:56,000 Speaker 1: really played out any kind of doctor's office as much 225 00:11:56,000 --> 00:11:58,680 Speaker 1: as I possibly can, especially being in l A County 226 00:11:58,720 --> 00:12:01,760 Speaker 1: for myself, have a I risk daughter, and so I've 227 00:12:01,760 --> 00:12:07,320 Speaker 1: really tried to protect our family hands down in that sense. 228 00:12:07,360 --> 00:12:09,840 Speaker 1: So not for me, but I do miss a good 229 00:12:10,080 --> 00:12:14,960 Speaker 1: you know, botox lift and whatever. I haven't had that 230 00:12:15,040 --> 00:12:20,079 Speaker 1: done a job ten years ago, so um, I didn't 231 00:12:20,080 --> 00:12:24,520 Speaker 1: know work out for me and it's um. But I 232 00:12:24,559 --> 00:12:27,760 Speaker 1: think because of that too, I've already told my husband, 233 00:12:27,760 --> 00:12:29,839 Speaker 1: I'm like, when I'm when we're done having kids, I'm 234 00:12:29,840 --> 00:12:33,360 Speaker 1: gonna have to fix this situation because they're just like 235 00:12:33,640 --> 00:12:37,040 Speaker 1: after like having I got a boob job when I 236 00:12:37,080 --> 00:12:41,679 Speaker 1: was like twenty three years old or something, and um 237 00:12:41,840 --> 00:12:45,280 Speaker 1: and just after ten years and my body changing and 238 00:12:45,320 --> 00:12:48,959 Speaker 1: then breastfeeding and everything like that changing, I'm like this, 239 00:12:49,360 --> 00:12:51,040 Speaker 1: I don't I feel like my boobs are just going 240 00:12:51,080 --> 00:12:53,720 Speaker 1: to be like the implant and then my nipple down 241 00:12:53,760 --> 00:12:56,320 Speaker 1: here after I'm done with all of this. So I'm like, 242 00:12:56,520 --> 00:12:59,480 Speaker 1: we'll probably have to rearrange some things when we're done. 243 00:13:00,320 --> 00:13:02,440 Speaker 1: And then Mina, what was the tummy tuck like with 244 00:13:02,480 --> 00:13:06,640 Speaker 1: the recovery on that, I hadn't much to C sections, 245 00:13:06,679 --> 00:13:10,800 Speaker 1: so it was pretty comparable, but I also had like 246 00:13:10,880 --> 00:13:14,400 Speaker 1: light bone random places and that kind of feels like 247 00:13:14,400 --> 00:13:16,480 Speaker 1: you got ran over by a truck. And then I 248 00:13:16,559 --> 00:13:19,920 Speaker 1: think the hardest thing with the I feel like it 249 00:13:20,040 --> 00:13:22,440 Speaker 1: happened with my C section, but also with the tummy tech. 250 00:13:22,920 --> 00:13:25,160 Speaker 1: The pain was really like the nerve pain as it 251 00:13:25,200 --> 00:13:29,120 Speaker 1: was regenerating, feels like hot lightning bolts being stabbed in you. 252 00:13:30,000 --> 00:13:33,280 Speaker 1: So I got some nerve medication. Um ne rotten and 253 00:13:33,360 --> 00:13:37,959 Speaker 1: that helped with that ton But it hasn't been hasn't 254 00:13:37,960 --> 00:13:42,599 Speaker 1: been anything worse than I expected after having to C sections, 255 00:13:42,720 --> 00:13:46,559 Speaker 1: and my breast haven't hurt at all other than being sensitive, 256 00:13:47,080 --> 00:13:50,760 Speaker 1: like there's any other pain and that's nothing. Yeah, I 257 00:13:50,760 --> 00:13:53,680 Speaker 1: probably didn't feel like it's everything else hurt. Well, I think, 258 00:13:53,720 --> 00:13:55,120 Speaker 1: and you know a lot of people ask about like 259 00:13:55,160 --> 00:13:57,439 Speaker 1: getting back into shape after having kids and all that 260 00:13:57,480 --> 00:13:59,719 Speaker 1: kind of stuff, and I think it's the biggest thing 261 00:13:59,800 --> 00:14:03,240 Speaker 1: that we can remember. It's like, you have to remember 262 00:14:03,240 --> 00:14:07,040 Speaker 1: what's mentally gonna make you feel your best and the 263 00:14:07,040 --> 00:14:11,720 Speaker 1: physical stuff that's going to change with time regardless, but 264 00:14:12,080 --> 00:14:14,520 Speaker 1: first to show, like for me, it was a huge 265 00:14:14,559 --> 00:14:17,800 Speaker 1: deal to like take my kids on walks in the stroller. 266 00:14:17,920 --> 00:14:21,320 Speaker 1: Just move my body, get outside, you know, not especially 267 00:14:21,400 --> 00:14:24,840 Speaker 1: during the pandemic, not around people, but just move and 268 00:14:24,880 --> 00:14:28,480 Speaker 1: walk once my body felt ready, because if not, you 269 00:14:28,560 --> 00:14:31,160 Speaker 1: can get into like a darker place and then you 270 00:14:31,360 --> 00:14:33,560 Speaker 1: and then if you spend your time scrolling on Instagram 271 00:14:33,600 --> 00:14:37,640 Speaker 1: looking at all of these you know, highlight reels, you 272 00:14:37,680 --> 00:14:40,280 Speaker 1: start comparing and thinking, why don't I look like that one? 273 00:14:40,320 --> 00:14:43,640 Speaker 1: We have to remember we all are completely different in general, 274 00:14:43,680 --> 00:14:47,880 Speaker 1: but like after having a baby. Remember, like it's hard, 275 00:14:48,040 --> 00:14:50,520 Speaker 1: but it's going to happen. Take care of the mental 276 00:14:50,560 --> 00:14:53,280 Speaker 1: first and the physical will come after. Is my biggest 277 00:14:53,360 --> 00:14:56,680 Speaker 1: piece of advice. What about you, guys? What are you? 278 00:14:56,720 --> 00:14:58,920 Speaker 1: What are your thoughts? Did you did you have a 279 00:14:58,920 --> 00:15:03,880 Speaker 1: hard time with comparis then after I have for sure, Um, 280 00:15:03,920 --> 00:15:07,200 Speaker 1: I feel like it's for me. So I haven't really 281 00:15:07,200 --> 00:15:09,400 Speaker 1: started like working out. I had like one week of 282 00:15:09,520 --> 00:15:12,800 Speaker 1: oh yeah, I'm working out, I'm doing awesome. Um. And 283 00:15:13,040 --> 00:15:15,160 Speaker 1: what I've found is it's just really hard for me 284 00:15:15,240 --> 00:15:20,800 Speaker 1: to balance being a mom working and then working out, 285 00:15:21,280 --> 00:15:25,240 Speaker 1: um and taking care of myself. So like I'm like, okay, 286 00:15:25,280 --> 00:15:27,440 Speaker 1: I'm having a hard time just even finding time to 287 00:15:27,480 --> 00:15:29,800 Speaker 1: go do a twenty minute workout, So like what can 288 00:15:29,880 --> 00:15:32,480 Speaker 1: I do? So just trying to nourish my body with 289 00:15:32,480 --> 00:15:34,760 Speaker 1: healthy foods and be as healthy as I can and 290 00:15:34,840 --> 00:15:37,600 Speaker 1: getting fresh air. Um. I live outside Chicago. We had 291 00:15:37,640 --> 00:15:40,400 Speaker 1: a huge snowstorm this week, Like the week before that, 292 00:15:40,480 --> 00:15:44,160 Speaker 1: it was seventeen degrees outside. Um, so it's harder for 293 00:15:44,200 --> 00:15:46,800 Speaker 1: me to like just take my daughter out that when 294 00:15:46,840 --> 00:15:50,200 Speaker 1: it's like around thirty degrees or warmer, I'll bundle her 295 00:15:50,240 --> 00:15:55,320 Speaker 1: up and we'll go. But when it's so cold like this, um, 296 00:15:55,360 --> 00:15:58,160 Speaker 1: I found it really helpful. Just I'm so thankful that 297 00:15:58,200 --> 00:16:00,600 Speaker 1: I have family nearby, so I'll drive to my other laws. 298 00:16:01,280 --> 00:16:03,640 Speaker 1: My daughter will fall asleep, I'll leave her inside and 299 00:16:03,680 --> 00:16:05,600 Speaker 1: I'll go for a walk with my dog, like out back, 300 00:16:05,640 --> 00:16:08,200 Speaker 1: and just like getting that fresh air, even if it's 301 00:16:08,280 --> 00:16:12,240 Speaker 1: ten minutes or whatever is has been super beneficial to me. 302 00:16:12,520 --> 00:16:15,240 Speaker 1: My first pregnancy, I gained half of my body weight. 303 00:16:15,280 --> 00:16:18,360 Speaker 1: I weighed ninety pounds and I came out and I like, 304 00:16:18,560 --> 00:16:20,640 Speaker 1: when I went in, I was a hundred and forty 305 00:16:20,640 --> 00:16:23,720 Speaker 1: five pounds and I thought, oh, this is normal. I'm 306 00:16:23,720 --> 00:16:26,840 Speaker 1: gonna totally lose it after it's gonna be great. And 307 00:16:26,920 --> 00:16:29,760 Speaker 1: it was horrible. It was the worst idea I ever had. 308 00:16:29,880 --> 00:16:33,360 Speaker 1: And I like, to this day, I have not lost 309 00:16:33,480 --> 00:16:35,520 Speaker 1: all of that weight, Like I haven't seen that nine 310 00:16:35,600 --> 00:16:37,440 Speaker 1: zero on a scale, and for a girl that's four 311 00:16:37,480 --> 00:16:42,920 Speaker 1: ft two, like I live for ninety pounds. And sometimes 312 00:16:42,920 --> 00:16:44,320 Speaker 1: you just have to say, you know, what is this 313 00:16:44,400 --> 00:16:48,320 Speaker 1: your new look? Working out, you're doing yoga, You're actually 314 00:16:48,400 --> 00:16:51,400 Speaker 1: making that time. I'm waking up at five am so 315 00:16:51,440 --> 00:16:55,000 Speaker 1: that I can have two hours to myself meditating and exercising, 316 00:16:55,480 --> 00:16:57,720 Speaker 1: but then I lose out in sleep, and then I 317 00:16:57,800 --> 00:16:59,560 Speaker 1: take it out on my kids, and you know, it's 318 00:16:59,560 --> 00:17:02,960 Speaker 1: that whole process. So what I've really discovered is that, 319 00:17:03,080 --> 00:17:05,960 Speaker 1: like there's a point where you say, I'm doing all 320 00:17:05,960 --> 00:17:08,680 Speaker 1: that I can and my best and right now this 321 00:17:08,760 --> 00:17:12,000 Speaker 1: is my best body, and I'm happy with this mob 322 00:17:12,240 --> 00:17:18,280 Speaker 1: body for sure, And like there's no sense and like 323 00:17:18,320 --> 00:17:20,879 Speaker 1: when people are like, how is everything so balanced? Is 324 00:17:20,920 --> 00:17:24,880 Speaker 1: everything balanced? People like, no, it's not. It's like some 325 00:17:24,920 --> 00:17:28,879 Speaker 1: weeks are crazy work weeks, Like it's just NonStop work. 326 00:17:29,280 --> 00:17:31,560 Speaker 1: Some weeks I'm like, all right, I'm taking it, scaling 327 00:17:31,600 --> 00:17:34,520 Speaker 1: it back. It's gonna be about family. Some weeks I'm 328 00:17:34,560 --> 00:17:37,239 Speaker 1: just in a bad mood, you know, Like you have 329 00:17:37,359 --> 00:17:40,879 Speaker 1: to know that, like you are a human being and 330 00:17:41,560 --> 00:17:43,320 Speaker 1: none of us are perfect, and like we can't take 331 00:17:43,320 --> 00:17:48,440 Speaker 1: ourselves too seriously, Like we gotta put up, do the work, 332 00:17:48,520 --> 00:17:51,040 Speaker 1: do the best that we can. But like when push 333 00:17:51,119 --> 00:17:55,120 Speaker 1: comes to shove, like our kids are as long as 334 00:17:55,119 --> 00:17:58,000 Speaker 1: we're showing up and doing the best we can, it's 335 00:17:58,040 --> 00:18:00,280 Speaker 1: probably as good as it's gonna get for have and 336 00:18:00,320 --> 00:18:02,760 Speaker 1: they and they're happy and if they're feeling love that's 337 00:18:02,800 --> 00:18:06,200 Speaker 1: what's most important. So whatever we gotta do to show 338 00:18:06,280 --> 00:18:10,600 Speaker 1: them love is key. The which brings me to the 339 00:18:10,640 --> 00:18:13,960 Speaker 1: next portion, which is a lot of people have questions 340 00:18:14,000 --> 00:18:19,679 Speaker 1: on discipline, disciplining their kids. What is so yours the 341 00:18:19,800 --> 00:18:22,360 Speaker 1: four month old? You know, you're not really there yet. 342 00:18:22,400 --> 00:18:25,600 Speaker 1: I'm not really like giving dove time outs, but like 343 00:18:26,119 --> 00:18:28,920 Speaker 1: for those of us with a little bit of older kids, UM, 344 00:18:29,040 --> 00:18:35,240 Speaker 1: what what about you guys? Um? I have a variation 345 00:18:35,280 --> 00:18:41,320 Speaker 1: of um things that we've tried, and I have found, uh, 346 00:18:41,520 --> 00:18:44,800 Speaker 1: bedroom time out without anyone else around has been the 347 00:18:44,840 --> 00:18:47,879 Speaker 1: most successful. And we start with five minutes, and then 348 00:18:47,920 --> 00:18:49,920 Speaker 1: if they do it again, it goes up to ten minutes. 349 00:18:50,200 --> 00:18:52,600 Speaker 1: And so far I haven't had to go beyond ten 350 00:18:52,640 --> 00:18:56,639 Speaker 1: minutes because all of my children, thank goodness, they yearned 351 00:18:56,720 --> 00:19:00,600 Speaker 1: to be around me. I don't know why, but but 352 00:19:00,680 --> 00:19:05,200 Speaker 1: at least it's working. Um, And that's as far as 353 00:19:05,200 --> 00:19:07,600 Speaker 1: we've gotten. But it's I mean, you can hear. I'm 354 00:19:07,600 --> 00:19:09,760 Speaker 1: having to mute myself because I can hear my kids. 355 00:19:09,800 --> 00:19:11,399 Speaker 1: I don't even want to know what's going on in 356 00:19:11,400 --> 00:19:17,760 Speaker 1: the next room and screaming upstairs. Yes, Uh, we have 357 00:19:18,160 --> 00:19:20,760 Speaker 1: a nanny that we got, super super lucky. She actually 358 00:19:20,800 --> 00:19:23,879 Speaker 1: lives with us. She's awesome, like early childhood development teacher 359 00:19:24,200 --> 00:19:27,240 Speaker 1: that didn't want to teach yet, and so she's here 360 00:19:27,760 --> 00:19:30,879 Speaker 1: all the time and works like eight to four usually, 361 00:19:31,119 --> 00:19:34,119 Speaker 1: and even with her, it's still super hard. In Jack's 362 00:19:34,240 --> 00:19:37,639 Speaker 1: just at the ages two and a half where he's 363 00:19:37,720 --> 00:19:41,200 Speaker 1: testing the boundaries, so like he's done time out maybe 364 00:19:41,200 --> 00:19:45,359 Speaker 1: three or four times now and he gets but it 365 00:19:45,440 --> 00:19:47,600 Speaker 1: takes about three minutes and I'm like, okay, do you 366 00:19:47,600 --> 00:19:51,120 Speaker 1: want to try again to help clean up? And then 367 00:19:51,160 --> 00:19:54,440 Speaker 1: he'll help. So that's all we had to do so far. 368 00:19:54,520 --> 00:19:58,760 Speaker 1: Too well, mine are a little bit older, some of them, 369 00:19:58,840 --> 00:20:01,720 Speaker 1: so I definitely do time out, but then I also 370 00:20:01,760 --> 00:20:06,159 Speaker 1: do reward so like example, if you do this for 371 00:20:06,200 --> 00:20:08,800 Speaker 1: the entire week, or you know, like they have their 372 00:20:08,840 --> 00:20:11,120 Speaker 1: checklist and if they complete it all, then I'll be like, great, 373 00:20:11,160 --> 00:20:14,680 Speaker 1: then you can pick something that's eight dollars off of Amazon. 374 00:20:14,840 --> 00:20:17,840 Speaker 1: So instead of giving them allowance, I do a reward 375 00:20:17,960 --> 00:20:20,439 Speaker 1: chart for the things that I want them to do. 376 00:20:20,520 --> 00:20:22,760 Speaker 1: So I because I don't want to wake up every morning, 377 00:20:23,000 --> 00:20:26,119 Speaker 1: make your bed, like, get your stuff ready for zoom, 378 00:20:26,160 --> 00:20:28,240 Speaker 1: brush your teeth, like I want them to check it 379 00:20:28,280 --> 00:20:29,560 Speaker 1: off the list, and at the end of the week 380 00:20:29,600 --> 00:20:31,960 Speaker 1: we can look at it and if it went well, great, 381 00:20:32,040 --> 00:20:34,280 Speaker 1: If it didn't, sorry for your luck. You're not getting 382 00:20:34,320 --> 00:20:38,400 Speaker 1: the Amazon. And then they're bummed when they're siblings. Amazon 383 00:20:38,480 --> 00:20:41,480 Speaker 1: stuff come and they're sitting there like, wow, let me 384 00:20:41,520 --> 00:20:44,960 Speaker 1: go kick rocks, and like my daughter's flute arrived today 385 00:20:45,000 --> 00:20:50,200 Speaker 1: and my son was like, and I'm like, I'm not 386 00:20:50,680 --> 00:20:52,639 Speaker 1: I'm not about bribery. We have a whole bag of 387 00:20:52,720 --> 00:20:55,960 Speaker 1: jelly beans. Get a jelly bean whenever he does something 388 00:20:55,960 --> 00:20:58,680 Speaker 1: that we ask them to. Oh my gosh, you guys, 389 00:20:58,680 --> 00:21:00,600 Speaker 1: we have to take a quick break. I lost drag 390 00:21:00,680 --> 00:21:03,200 Speaker 1: time because we were laughing. But um, we'll come right back, 391 00:21:12,040 --> 00:21:16,240 Speaker 1: all right, perfect, So now that we're still let's let's 392 00:21:16,440 --> 00:21:19,400 Speaker 1: let's not get off of discipline quite yet. How many 393 00:21:19,480 --> 00:21:22,679 Speaker 1: of you have like kids that throw complete tantrums Like 394 00:21:23,160 --> 00:21:25,880 Speaker 1: my daughter doves in the phase where when you try 395 00:21:25,920 --> 00:21:29,840 Speaker 1: to put her into the high chair she screams like 396 00:21:29,920 --> 00:21:33,320 Speaker 1: bloody murder. So I have to have the food already 397 00:21:33,400 --> 00:21:35,239 Speaker 1: laid out so I can hold it like without its 398 00:21:35,240 --> 00:21:37,360 Speaker 1: spilling over to the side. And then it's like one 399 00:21:37,400 --> 00:21:39,959 Speaker 1: fell swoop to get her in get the snack, like 400 00:21:40,040 --> 00:21:43,840 Speaker 1: get the whatever she's eating raspberries and then she's okay, 401 00:21:43,880 --> 00:21:51,720 Speaker 1: But because she isn't using words yet, it's just like constant. Yeah, Jack, 402 00:21:51,920 --> 00:21:54,320 Speaker 1: I mean, I think it's always a toss up. People 403 00:21:54,359 --> 00:21:56,680 Speaker 1: call the terrible twos, and everyone says three is the worst. 404 00:21:56,720 --> 00:21:58,800 Speaker 1: And he's two and a half. So he's right there 405 00:21:58,800 --> 00:22:01,480 Speaker 1: in the thick of it, has like that sensory been 406 00:22:01,560 --> 00:22:05,560 Speaker 1: with beans in it that he plays with and just 407 00:22:06,160 --> 00:22:08,840 Speaker 1: chucked him everywhere, and then when I told him he 408 00:22:08,880 --> 00:22:10,960 Speaker 1: needed to help clean up, he threw himself on the 409 00:22:10,960 --> 00:22:14,160 Speaker 1: ground and then screaming and swimming in them and throwing 410 00:22:14,200 --> 00:22:17,840 Speaker 1: them more. Um, So definitely we have a lot of 411 00:22:17,880 --> 00:22:20,760 Speaker 1: that this at this stage. And are any of you 412 00:22:20,760 --> 00:22:24,800 Speaker 1: guys on potty training yet? Yes? Any want to talk 413 00:22:24,840 --> 00:22:30,640 Speaker 1: about that. Somebody's question was, how do I transition my 414 00:22:31,200 --> 00:22:34,280 Speaker 1: daughter from not wetting her bed with pull ups at night? 415 00:22:34,280 --> 00:22:37,240 Speaker 1: Anybody got any brilliant advice on this? When well, when 416 00:22:37,280 --> 00:22:40,200 Speaker 1: I wake up to breastfeed is when I also take 417 00:22:40,840 --> 00:22:44,200 Speaker 1: a door round a bathroom. My daughter, thank goodness, at five, 418 00:22:44,240 --> 00:22:47,720 Speaker 1: she's completely potty trained, but my son still has night 419 00:22:47,840 --> 00:22:53,479 Speaker 1: issues and he's four. So my niece, Um, we had 420 00:22:53,520 --> 00:22:56,520 Speaker 1: custody and my niece for a year and when she 421 00:22:56,680 --> 00:22:58,080 Speaker 1: was one and a half to two and a half, 422 00:22:58,119 --> 00:23:01,159 Speaker 1: and so we did potty train her um. And she 423 00:23:01,359 --> 00:23:04,720 Speaker 1: was way easier than Jack because as a girl you 424 00:23:04,760 --> 00:23:08,160 Speaker 1: peete on yourself, which is uncomfortable, whereas boys just think 425 00:23:08,200 --> 00:23:11,840 Speaker 1: it's funny because they have a fountain. Um. But with her, 426 00:23:12,040 --> 00:23:14,640 Speaker 1: we did like the naked boot camp for a weekend, 427 00:23:14,960 --> 00:23:17,119 Speaker 1: which she hated, like anytime she's gonna go to the bathroom, 428 00:23:17,160 --> 00:23:20,280 Speaker 1: she'd scream bloody murder for two minutes, then run to 429 00:23:20,320 --> 00:23:22,360 Speaker 1: her little toilet, go to the bathroom and move on. 430 00:23:22,880 --> 00:23:27,080 Speaker 1: And we just had to be um aware of liquids. 431 00:23:27,440 --> 00:23:29,440 Speaker 1: I don't want to like not give her water, but 432 00:23:29,520 --> 00:23:32,160 Speaker 1: it was within a certain amount of time before bed 433 00:23:32,640 --> 00:23:35,320 Speaker 1: she just didn't have like water or milk or anything. Um. 434 00:23:35,600 --> 00:23:38,960 Speaker 1: And then just made her sit and try before laying 435 00:23:38,960 --> 00:23:41,800 Speaker 1: her down for you know, fifteen minutes. Um. But I 436 00:23:41,800 --> 00:23:45,119 Speaker 1: think some kids are just easier than others and is 437 00:23:45,160 --> 00:23:46,520 Speaker 1: not one of them. He will look at me while 438 00:23:46,520 --> 00:23:50,440 Speaker 1: he's pooping and say poop and won't do anything about it. 439 00:23:51,880 --> 00:23:56,119 Speaker 1: We did a pretty underwear the Cute Underwear UM, which 440 00:23:56,160 --> 00:23:59,080 Speaker 1: is the kids get to pick out their favorite underwear 441 00:23:59,119 --> 00:24:03,280 Speaker 1: and when they are ready to wear these underwear but 442 00:24:03,480 --> 00:24:06,560 Speaker 1: with no pot like no more mistakes and they can 443 00:24:06,800 --> 00:24:09,320 Speaker 1: then they can get them. So we like they picked 444 00:24:09,359 --> 00:24:12,000 Speaker 1: out there like Crews picked up a little big boy 445 00:24:12,080 --> 00:24:14,160 Speaker 1: and these and he was like so excited to wear them. 446 00:24:14,200 --> 00:24:16,080 Speaker 1: And then that night it would happened and be like, well, 447 00:24:17,280 --> 00:24:19,200 Speaker 1: those paw patrols are gonna have to sit it out 448 00:24:19,240 --> 00:24:22,359 Speaker 1: another week, buddy. And that's really that's how it happens. 449 00:24:22,359 --> 00:24:24,399 Speaker 1: It was. I don't know if we just got lucky, 450 00:24:24,440 --> 00:24:27,280 Speaker 1: but the kids are pretty pretty good with the potty training. 451 00:24:27,359 --> 00:24:29,400 Speaker 1: I don't DEVI will probably throw me for a loop 452 00:24:29,440 --> 00:24:32,119 Speaker 1: and be like I don't care about your pretty underwear, mom, Like, 453 00:24:32,440 --> 00:24:36,080 Speaker 1: but so far we've been all right with the potty training. 454 00:24:36,080 --> 00:24:38,399 Speaker 1: But sometimes it's easier when they have older siblings and 455 00:24:38,400 --> 00:24:43,800 Speaker 1: they see it. Yeah, um, all right, getting kids to 456 00:24:44,040 --> 00:24:48,520 Speaker 1: eat foods that aren't like, well, my son prefers only 457 00:24:48,600 --> 00:24:52,600 Speaker 1: cheese products, how do you guys do it? I'm the same, 458 00:24:52,880 --> 00:24:56,080 Speaker 1: My children are like my son will eat everything amazing, 459 00:24:56,160 --> 00:24:59,600 Speaker 1: he's um, he's he eats meats and vegetables and fruits, 460 00:24:59,640 --> 00:25:02,399 Speaker 1: and my 's like, I'll take being a cheese bowl please, 461 00:25:03,000 --> 00:25:05,520 Speaker 1: or I'll take a cheese time, or I'll take a 462 00:25:05,560 --> 00:25:13,240 Speaker 1: grilled cheese Like aren't you constipated? Yes you are. But 463 00:25:13,840 --> 00:25:17,760 Speaker 1: even pizza now that comes in with cauliflower crust. There's 464 00:25:17,800 --> 00:25:22,000 Speaker 1: ways that you can incorporate some vegetables without letting them know. 465 00:25:23,200 --> 00:25:26,159 Speaker 1: And eventually, even if they're not a huge fan of it, 466 00:25:26,240 --> 00:25:28,080 Speaker 1: I've noticed that if you don't give them anything else, 467 00:25:28,119 --> 00:25:31,120 Speaker 1: if you don't give in that's what our pediatrician said. 468 00:25:31,160 --> 00:25:33,520 Speaker 1: She was like, when they're hungry, they'll eat, like, because 469 00:25:33,520 --> 00:25:37,480 Speaker 1: my problem is not necessarily getting Jack to eat a 470 00:25:37,520 --> 00:25:41,800 Speaker 1: certain thing, it's just to eat. He lives on milk 471 00:25:42,119 --> 00:25:43,720 Speaker 1: all day, and I try to like, I don't want 472 00:25:43,720 --> 00:25:45,040 Speaker 1: to not give him milk, like you don't want to 473 00:25:45,040 --> 00:25:47,719 Speaker 1: not give him food, And our patricians like, if that's 474 00:25:47,760 --> 00:25:49,199 Speaker 1: what he wants, that's what he wants. And he's in 475 00:25:49,200 --> 00:25:52,000 Speaker 1: a phase right now where he really likes like breakfast 476 00:25:52,000 --> 00:25:55,720 Speaker 1: sausage links. So we have a giant Costco bag of 477 00:25:56,359 --> 00:25:58,560 Speaker 1: turkey breakfast sausage links, and that's what he eats for 478 00:25:58,560 --> 00:26:02,160 Speaker 1: three meals a day. I feel like there's so many 479 00:26:02,240 --> 00:26:05,000 Speaker 1: like there's so much information out there, Like I feel 480 00:26:05,080 --> 00:26:07,840 Speaker 1: all of these camps that help you, like learn how 481 00:26:07,880 --> 00:26:09,840 Speaker 1: to get your kids to eat, but then until you're 482 00:26:09,880 --> 00:26:12,320 Speaker 1: in it, until you're going through it, then you're like, 483 00:26:12,359 --> 00:26:15,440 Speaker 1: I've tried all these things, like every kid is so different, 484 00:26:15,960 --> 00:26:19,919 Speaker 1: and um what what I've heard I have no experience 485 00:26:19,960 --> 00:26:22,200 Speaker 1: in is just keep offering it, like even if they're 486 00:26:22,200 --> 00:26:24,080 Speaker 1: not going to eat it, if they see it, like 487 00:26:24,119 --> 00:26:27,040 Speaker 1: you're saying, Tara, like if you're you know, just keep 488 00:26:27,080 --> 00:26:29,720 Speaker 1: offering it, like you see that they eventually like have 489 00:26:29,840 --> 00:26:34,080 Speaker 1: a little bit or eventually try it. Yeah. I fully 490 00:26:34,080 --> 00:26:36,160 Speaker 1: agree on that too. And then I think also if 491 00:26:36,160 --> 00:26:38,960 Speaker 1: you continue putting it there, My rule is Okay, you 492 00:26:39,000 --> 00:26:41,119 Speaker 1: don't have to finish it, but you have to try it. 493 00:26:41,520 --> 00:26:45,919 Speaker 1: M So like you green beans, Yeah, I don't want to. Okay, 494 00:26:46,280 --> 00:26:47,560 Speaker 1: you don't have to eat all that. You can eat 495 00:26:47,600 --> 00:26:49,200 Speaker 1: all the other things on your plate, but I want 496 00:26:49,200 --> 00:26:52,880 Speaker 1: one bite because like I didn't do that growing up, 497 00:26:52,920 --> 00:26:55,320 Speaker 1: and like I had no idea. I liked things until 498 00:26:55,320 --> 00:26:59,840 Speaker 1: I was like thirty years old, Like I honestly I 499 00:27:00,160 --> 00:27:03,520 Speaker 1: the first time I tried sushi, like, I was like, 500 00:27:03,760 --> 00:27:09,040 Speaker 1: what make me through this? Well? Jack the opposite, He 501 00:27:09,040 --> 00:27:11,600 Speaker 1: would eat anything when he was little like six months 502 00:27:11,600 --> 00:27:15,040 Speaker 1: on when he started eating salads, sushi and avocado and 503 00:27:15,600 --> 00:27:17,560 Speaker 1: o hey, all kinds of stuff and then he kind 504 00:27:17,560 --> 00:27:21,639 Speaker 1: of isn't. But I imagine they all go through phases. 505 00:27:23,080 --> 00:27:27,760 Speaker 1: Yeah for sure. Um, all right. Other parenting stuff that 506 00:27:27,800 --> 00:27:32,200 Speaker 1: we can maybe dig into is overall moods. So like 507 00:27:32,680 --> 00:27:36,239 Speaker 1: if your kid is having a bad day or a 508 00:27:36,320 --> 00:27:40,439 Speaker 1: rough day, do you talk to them about it? Do 509 00:27:40,560 --> 00:27:42,640 Speaker 1: you kind of just let it ride? Like what's your 510 00:27:42,680 --> 00:27:47,320 Speaker 1: parenting style? So, um, my daughter is the most vocal. 511 00:27:47,840 --> 00:27:51,879 Speaker 1: Um she's five years old, and um, A big mood 512 00:27:51,920 --> 00:27:55,320 Speaker 1: that she will have is not understanding. Like we just 513 00:27:55,480 --> 00:27:59,240 Speaker 1: started letting her play video games, and contrary to most 514 00:27:59,280 --> 00:28:01,879 Speaker 1: parents feel things about playing video games, I find it 515 00:28:02,000 --> 00:28:06,119 Speaker 1: to be a very great learning tool. And but the 516 00:28:06,160 --> 00:28:08,560 Speaker 1: best learning tool that we have given her is that 517 00:28:08,600 --> 00:28:13,359 Speaker 1: she has to read a book before she it's twenty 518 00:28:13,440 --> 00:28:16,400 Speaker 1: or thirty minutes on a video game. And that has 519 00:28:16,400 --> 00:28:19,439 Speaker 1: been her mood. She's like nah, like she does not 520 00:28:19,520 --> 00:28:21,800 Speaker 1: want to read prior to playing a video game. And 521 00:28:21,800 --> 00:28:24,240 Speaker 1: so we sit down and say, look, this is good. 522 00:28:24,440 --> 00:28:26,320 Speaker 1: I want you to play. Like I'm almost in a 523 00:28:26,400 --> 00:28:30,000 Speaker 1: negotiations standpoint, I want you to play this video game 524 00:28:30,280 --> 00:28:33,480 Speaker 1: but all you have to do is read this one book. 525 00:28:33,960 --> 00:28:38,000 Speaker 1: That's it, and eventually we come to an agreement. But 526 00:28:38,040 --> 00:28:40,239 Speaker 1: I feel like talking to your children, even if they 527 00:28:40,280 --> 00:28:42,280 Speaker 1: don't understand as much as you would hope that they 528 00:28:42,360 --> 00:28:47,760 Speaker 1: understand there if there's an incentive involved, they eventually get it. 529 00:28:48,880 --> 00:28:51,400 Speaker 1: That's my opinion. Yeah, for sure, And we have the 530 00:28:51,440 --> 00:28:55,960 Speaker 1: same thing. Like my son's obsessed with playing Madden UM, 531 00:28:56,000 --> 00:29:00,240 Speaker 1: but I think that for sure, I need to take 532 00:29:00,240 --> 00:29:02,360 Speaker 1: that up, but I need to do the reading, sure, 533 00:29:02,440 --> 00:29:05,200 Speaker 1: But I also know that I kind of have to 534 00:29:05,240 --> 00:29:10,160 Speaker 1: embrace each kid's personality. Like Slate wants to do everything 535 00:29:10,240 --> 00:29:12,840 Speaker 1: right all the time, like she's just like she's on it, 536 00:29:13,360 --> 00:29:16,040 Speaker 1: and Cruise his goal in life is to make people 537 00:29:16,120 --> 00:29:19,239 Speaker 1: laugh and be the class clown and so like you 538 00:29:19,280 --> 00:29:22,720 Speaker 1: don't want to take away who they are because that's 539 00:29:22,720 --> 00:29:24,719 Speaker 1: who that you know, but you also have to be like, 540 00:29:24,760 --> 00:29:29,000 Speaker 1: all right, listen, we we can do those things, but 541 00:29:29,080 --> 00:29:31,440 Speaker 1: we also need to do these things. And I think 542 00:29:31,480 --> 00:29:35,520 Speaker 1: it's really just about explaining that like we don't always 543 00:29:35,560 --> 00:29:39,200 Speaker 1: get what we want, that like sometimes I don't get 544 00:29:39,240 --> 00:29:41,600 Speaker 1: to do what I want every single day, and they 545 00:29:41,640 --> 00:29:44,560 Speaker 1: start to get it, and that it is about we 546 00:29:44,640 --> 00:29:46,440 Speaker 1: got to do this to do that. So I think 547 00:29:46,480 --> 00:29:49,040 Speaker 1: the reading is huge and such a good tip any 548 00:29:49,040 --> 00:29:54,320 Speaker 1: other suggestions from y'all. And Jack's just kind of at 549 00:29:54,360 --> 00:29:57,640 Speaker 1: the age where you can explain stuff to him, like 550 00:29:57,680 --> 00:29:59,960 Speaker 1: if he's upset. But you know, sometimes I just way 551 00:30:00,080 --> 00:30:02,239 Speaker 1: kept cranky and he needs a minute. He doesn't need 552 00:30:02,320 --> 00:30:04,120 Speaker 1: me to talk to him about his feelings. I just 553 00:30:04,160 --> 00:30:07,680 Speaker 1: annoy him. Um. But then like once I can get 554 00:30:07,720 --> 00:30:09,920 Speaker 1: him kind of paying attention and like I understand and 555 00:30:09,960 --> 00:30:15,000 Speaker 1: you're frustrated, right, you know, we go through that, UM, 556 00:30:15,040 --> 00:30:17,760 Speaker 1: and he's starting to understand like how to communicate a 557 00:30:17,800 --> 00:30:21,640 Speaker 1: little bit better, um, other than just being mad. So uh, 558 00:30:22,040 --> 00:30:25,760 Speaker 1: that's at the beginning of that journey. I feel like 559 00:30:25,800 --> 00:30:30,680 Speaker 1: when babies are so small, um, like my daughter Jovi, Um, 560 00:30:30,880 --> 00:30:35,480 Speaker 1: like they're still going to have off days. Um. And 561 00:30:35,520 --> 00:30:37,600 Speaker 1: a piece of advice that somebody gave me just even 562 00:30:37,600 --> 00:30:39,800 Speaker 1: as they continue to grow is like, as an adult, 563 00:30:40,040 --> 00:30:41,680 Speaker 1: we have days where we're off. We just have days 564 00:30:41,720 --> 00:30:43,920 Speaker 1: where we're grumpy. We have days where we go through stuff, 565 00:30:44,040 --> 00:30:46,160 Speaker 1: and you can't expect kids to not have the same, 566 00:30:46,320 --> 00:30:49,800 Speaker 1: Like they're gonna have days where they're grumpy, where they're off. Um. 567 00:30:49,880 --> 00:30:52,640 Speaker 1: And if if people listening or in the beginning phases 568 00:30:52,720 --> 00:30:58,440 Speaker 1: of the motherhood journey, uh just seeing like staying curious 569 00:30:58,480 --> 00:31:00,600 Speaker 1: of your still getting to know your daughter or your 570 00:31:00,600 --> 00:31:06,800 Speaker 1: son their cues, um, their moods, and uh two figure 571 00:31:06,840 --> 00:31:10,560 Speaker 1: out how how to respond to those um it is 572 00:31:10,600 --> 00:31:14,840 Speaker 1: hard like learning you know what what they're trying to 573 00:31:14,880 --> 00:31:17,240 Speaker 1: say when they can't communicate with you yet, but just 574 00:31:17,360 --> 00:31:21,120 Speaker 1: kind of staying patient. Um. And I have twelve nieces 575 00:31:21,120 --> 00:31:23,280 Speaker 1: and nephews, so I've seen the big moods and the 576 00:31:23,320 --> 00:31:25,520 Speaker 1: big tantrum, so I know what's coming. And I don't 577 00:31:25,520 --> 00:31:28,160 Speaker 1: know if there's anything that can prepare you until until 578 00:31:28,200 --> 00:31:30,240 Speaker 1: you're in it, except for what exactly what you guys 579 00:31:30,280 --> 00:31:33,720 Speaker 1: are saying. And I think also telling your kids about 580 00:31:33,760 --> 00:31:37,840 Speaker 1: your own personal moods are huge. Like I know there's 581 00:31:37,880 --> 00:31:40,800 Speaker 1: some days like where if I have press and then 582 00:31:40,840 --> 00:31:43,600 Speaker 1: podcasting and filming and then also all my all in stuff, 583 00:31:43,800 --> 00:31:46,600 Speaker 1: I know I'm going to be like a little more tense. 584 00:31:47,080 --> 00:31:49,120 Speaker 1: And I feel like if I say to them, like, hey, guys, 585 00:31:49,160 --> 00:31:51,280 Speaker 1: mommy has a really busy work day to day, I 586 00:31:51,320 --> 00:31:52,840 Speaker 1: just want you to know if I see him a 587 00:31:52,840 --> 00:31:55,880 Speaker 1: little like like I'm racing around or I'm stressed, it 588 00:31:55,880 --> 00:31:59,000 Speaker 1: has nothing to do with you. Then they kind of know, 589 00:31:59,280 --> 00:32:02,400 Speaker 1: they're like, okay, where if I don't say anything and 590 00:32:02,440 --> 00:32:05,400 Speaker 1: I'm just like white knuckling it like everything's great, my 591 00:32:05,480 --> 00:32:07,400 Speaker 1: daughter will be like you all right, And then they 592 00:32:07,440 --> 00:32:10,080 Speaker 1: take it on them. So I think it is really 593 00:32:10,120 --> 00:32:12,600 Speaker 1: important that like once they get older, that you just 594 00:32:12,880 --> 00:32:15,000 Speaker 1: you kind of talk about things, and you talk about 595 00:32:15,000 --> 00:32:16,800 Speaker 1: your goals and you talk about your dreams, but you 596 00:32:16,840 --> 00:32:19,440 Speaker 1: also talk about the days that are harder, so they 597 00:32:19,560 --> 00:32:26,160 Speaker 1: understand and they don't take things personally. M hm, that's good. Um. 598 00:32:26,200 --> 00:32:30,280 Speaker 1: And then a lot of questions about nanny's and help 599 00:32:31,640 --> 00:32:35,440 Speaker 1: and how much should you feel bad if you have it? 600 00:32:36,160 --> 00:32:39,160 Speaker 1: Will there be in a different type of relationship with 601 00:32:39,240 --> 00:32:42,240 Speaker 1: you if you have one all those type of things. 602 00:32:42,320 --> 00:32:47,239 Speaker 1: What are your guys thoughts I personally with with like 603 00:32:47,320 --> 00:32:50,400 Speaker 1: all my stuff, I was out there with my surgery. 604 00:32:50,680 --> 00:32:54,600 Speaker 1: I have a nanny, you know, because it's really hard 605 00:32:54,640 --> 00:32:57,120 Speaker 1: to see people that look like you're doing it all 606 00:32:57,160 --> 00:32:59,600 Speaker 1: and you're like why, like why can I not man 607 00:32:59,640 --> 00:33:02,280 Speaker 1: it just myself? And they probably have a lot of 608 00:33:02,280 --> 00:33:06,960 Speaker 1: help and just aren't as like outward with with the information. 609 00:33:07,120 --> 00:33:09,200 Speaker 1: And if they don't have it. I don't know how 610 00:33:09,240 --> 00:33:13,840 Speaker 1: people survive. Like obviously we're all very busy women between 611 00:33:14,280 --> 00:33:19,120 Speaker 1: various multiple works, kids, families. Um so I don't know 612 00:33:19,160 --> 00:33:22,520 Speaker 1: how we wouldn't function. And we got super super lucky 613 00:33:22,840 --> 00:33:27,440 Speaker 1: with who we have because she sees Jack and Charlie. 614 00:33:27,520 --> 00:33:29,640 Speaker 1: I mean now that we're working from home more obviously 615 00:33:29,680 --> 00:33:32,239 Speaker 1: around them, but pre pandemic, she spent more time with 616 00:33:32,320 --> 00:33:36,200 Speaker 1: Jack in his awake period than we did. So, um, 617 00:33:36,240 --> 00:33:39,960 Speaker 1: I get that fear of like, oh, like he'll he'll 618 00:33:40,000 --> 00:33:42,000 Speaker 1: he'll go to dad, the last dad. Then I'll last 619 00:33:42,040 --> 00:33:44,320 Speaker 1: for Hannah, and then I'll last for mom because I'm 620 00:33:44,440 --> 00:33:47,800 Speaker 1: the tough one. So that happens, and that's fine. We 621 00:33:47,920 --> 00:33:52,600 Speaker 1: had a full time nanny prior to the pandemic. Um 622 00:33:52,760 --> 00:33:56,520 Speaker 1: since Penelopes Day one five years ago. This is the 623 00:33:56,520 --> 00:33:59,800 Speaker 1: first time that we've ever not had help. And we're three. 624 00:34:00,040 --> 00:34:03,959 Speaker 1: It's still working full time, still taking our kids to school. 625 00:34:04,560 --> 00:34:07,480 Speaker 1: I have two children that are in school zooms, which 626 00:34:08,360 --> 00:34:10,520 Speaker 1: everybody thinks, oh, well, since you're at home, it's no 627 00:34:10,560 --> 00:34:14,040 Speaker 1: big deal. It's easy. It is not easy. I don't 628 00:34:14,040 --> 00:34:17,480 Speaker 1: care who says that it's easy, because you really have 629 00:34:17,600 --> 00:34:20,359 Speaker 1: to pick and choose like what you're focusing your time on. 630 00:34:21,239 --> 00:34:24,960 Speaker 1: And I totally if you are financially able, or if 631 00:34:25,000 --> 00:34:28,359 Speaker 1: you have family members or if you have anyone that 632 00:34:29,280 --> 00:34:33,600 Speaker 1: cares about your world, I totally recommend having a nanny 633 00:34:33,880 --> 00:34:37,880 Speaker 1: full time. Riven, I'm all about it. However, due to 634 00:34:37,920 --> 00:34:41,319 Speaker 1: the pandemic, like with my daughter being high risk, we 635 00:34:41,600 --> 00:34:45,120 Speaker 1: just have not risked it. And that's us. I think 636 00:34:45,160 --> 00:34:48,239 Speaker 1: in motherhood there should be no shame with how with 637 00:34:48,320 --> 00:34:50,400 Speaker 1: the decisions that you're making for you and your family 638 00:34:50,480 --> 00:34:54,920 Speaker 1: and for at like hiring somebody to help out, that's awesome, 639 00:34:54,960 --> 00:34:58,040 Speaker 1: Like if you're able to do that, um, there there 640 00:34:58,040 --> 00:35:01,520 Speaker 1: shouldn't be any shame around that at all all. Yeah, 641 00:35:01,520 --> 00:35:03,399 Speaker 1: And I think it depends where you are in your 642 00:35:03,400 --> 00:35:05,680 Speaker 1: life and what you need. I mean with my with Slate, 643 00:35:05,840 --> 00:35:08,440 Speaker 1: I didn't have help. I wasn't in the same place. 644 00:35:08,480 --> 00:35:12,200 Speaker 1: I hadn't started my business yet and I had you know, 645 00:35:12,200 --> 00:35:15,320 Speaker 1: I had ridden horses, so I couldn't do my current 646 00:35:15,400 --> 00:35:18,239 Speaker 1: job with a new book, you know, like it just 647 00:35:18,280 --> 00:35:21,840 Speaker 1: wasn't an option. And I stayed home and I I 648 00:35:21,920 --> 00:35:24,960 Speaker 1: struggled with that as well, you know, like there's all 649 00:35:25,080 --> 00:35:30,160 Speaker 1: different ways of kind of figuring out motherhood and figuring 650 00:35:30,200 --> 00:35:33,160 Speaker 1: out what how to show up and how to be 651 00:35:33,280 --> 00:35:35,200 Speaker 1: there and how to change your it's going to change 652 00:35:35,239 --> 00:35:39,279 Speaker 1: your life and and coming to terms with that. And 653 00:35:39,360 --> 00:35:42,120 Speaker 1: so then I remember when my life started, you know, 654 00:35:42,200 --> 00:35:45,160 Speaker 1: I started working more and I wasn't able to do 655 00:35:45,200 --> 00:35:48,480 Speaker 1: it full to be able to be full time mom. 656 00:35:49,080 --> 00:35:52,239 Speaker 1: I remember like beating myself up over it, and then 657 00:35:52,280 --> 00:35:58,720 Speaker 1: I realized I'd rather quality time than quantity time. And 658 00:35:59,080 --> 00:36:01,279 Speaker 1: that is I you know, when you're trying to do 659 00:36:01,360 --> 00:36:03,560 Speaker 1: it all, if if you have the means to be 660 00:36:03,600 --> 00:36:06,839 Speaker 1: able to get help, or you have the family, your 661 00:36:06,920 --> 00:36:10,239 Speaker 1: kids would rather be in a situation where they're in 662 00:36:10,239 --> 00:36:12,840 Speaker 1: a relaxed setting, then you're raising them around, throwing the 663 00:36:12,960 --> 00:36:16,080 Speaker 1: every like so you can get to every single appointment 664 00:36:16,200 --> 00:36:18,319 Speaker 1: or client or whatever it may be. So if you 665 00:36:18,360 --> 00:36:20,560 Speaker 1: can do it, great, And I don't judge anyway, Like 666 00:36:21,080 --> 00:36:24,600 Speaker 1: I have a living since stuff. Um Maria, who we 667 00:36:24,760 --> 00:36:27,719 Speaker 1: love because when the pandemic happened, I was like, I 668 00:36:27,760 --> 00:36:32,960 Speaker 1: don't want somebody coming and going yeah, and so it 669 00:36:33,080 --> 00:36:35,279 Speaker 1: was so you know so and honestly she's part of 670 00:36:35,280 --> 00:36:37,480 Speaker 1: her family. She was like on one of our Christmas cards, 671 00:36:37,520 --> 00:36:43,400 Speaker 1: like and the kids love her and um, we you know, 672 00:36:43,480 --> 00:36:45,960 Speaker 1: we need that help, and I think there is no 673 00:36:46,200 --> 00:36:49,360 Speaker 1: shame in that. I think the biggest shame is when parents, 674 00:36:49,840 --> 00:36:53,239 Speaker 1: as you guys were saying, pretend, especially people in the 675 00:36:53,280 --> 00:36:56,960 Speaker 1: public eye, give the illusion that they've done it all 676 00:36:57,000 --> 00:37:00,319 Speaker 1: and it's effortless and it's this perfect healthy balance and 677 00:37:00,440 --> 00:37:02,560 Speaker 1: that can be you know, that can be hard for others. 678 00:37:02,560 --> 00:37:05,360 Speaker 1: But I think whether you know you're in it or 679 00:37:05,360 --> 00:37:07,840 Speaker 1: you're not in it, with the nanny or no nanny, 680 00:37:08,000 --> 00:37:11,799 Speaker 1: it's still a lot of work and there's a lot 681 00:37:11,800 --> 00:37:13,840 Speaker 1: of love that comes at the end, but it's definitely 682 00:37:13,840 --> 00:37:16,839 Speaker 1: a lot of work. All Right, guys, the time went 683 00:37:16,920 --> 00:37:19,200 Speaker 1: by so fast. I wish we could ask you like 684 00:37:19,239 --> 00:37:23,720 Speaker 1: a million more questions because um, kids, they are enlist 685 00:37:24,280 --> 00:37:26,400 Speaker 1: Let's have our guests share what they're working on for 686 00:37:26,400 --> 00:37:30,280 Speaker 1: our listeners. I'll start, Um, so I just discovered TikTok 687 00:37:30,560 --> 00:37:34,400 Speaker 1: and oh my Atlanta, I love that thing. That is 688 00:37:34,440 --> 00:37:38,719 Speaker 1: like a great channel for my brain. And um, you 689 00:37:38,760 --> 00:37:42,360 Speaker 1: can find me a Tarra underscore jal. But like the 690 00:37:42,360 --> 00:37:44,400 Speaker 1: only thing that I've been doing app since the pandemic 691 00:37:44,440 --> 00:37:48,160 Speaker 1: started is producing more shows and so the fun side 692 00:37:48,480 --> 00:37:52,080 Speaker 1: is finding me on social media but yeah, producing shows 693 00:37:52,080 --> 00:37:59,719 Speaker 1: and find me a terror deal, Elizabeth. Yeah. So I'm 694 00:37:59,719 --> 00:38:03,480 Speaker 1: actually working on a partner guide for birth. Um. I'm 695 00:38:03,480 --> 00:38:07,799 Speaker 1: writing my first book because just with my husband being 696 00:38:08,080 --> 00:38:11,319 Speaker 1: I think you're saying, like, you know, when to tell 697 00:38:11,400 --> 00:38:13,480 Speaker 1: him he was like going to get food. You know, 698 00:38:13,680 --> 00:38:17,200 Speaker 1: it's hard for partners to know how to best help 699 00:38:17,320 --> 00:38:21,080 Speaker 1: you during those circumstances, and even as a birth duela, Like, 700 00:38:21,120 --> 00:38:23,560 Speaker 1: I've just noticed a lot of similar patterns at births, 701 00:38:23,600 --> 00:38:26,759 Speaker 1: and a lot of people not knowing what's normal. They 702 00:38:26,800 --> 00:38:29,040 Speaker 1: look at you after they have a baby and their 703 00:38:29,080 --> 00:38:32,880 Speaker 1: body is like convulsing and shaking, their terrified, Their partner's terrified, 704 00:38:32,920 --> 00:38:34,680 Speaker 1: and you and I'm there to remind them, this is 705 00:38:34,719 --> 00:38:37,719 Speaker 1: so normal your body, you have an exodus of hormones 706 00:38:37,760 --> 00:38:41,040 Speaker 1: going on right now. This is normal. But your partner 707 00:38:41,040 --> 00:38:43,200 Speaker 1: doesn't know that, You don't know that, and most people 708 00:38:43,239 --> 00:38:45,520 Speaker 1: don't have a dula there who's telling them that. So 709 00:38:45,680 --> 00:38:50,120 Speaker 1: it's just kind of a super easy to read picture 710 00:38:50,239 --> 00:38:53,400 Speaker 1: book that's not like this thick partner guide that nobody 711 00:38:53,440 --> 00:38:57,239 Speaker 1: wants to read. Um that I'm working on that hopefully 712 00:38:57,280 --> 00:39:00,560 Speaker 1: it will be up out when ready to go by 713 00:39:00,600 --> 00:39:02,520 Speaker 1: the end of the year. So I'm working on that, 714 00:39:02,600 --> 00:39:05,239 Speaker 1: and then I also have my podcast, Miraculous Mamas, that 715 00:39:05,400 --> 00:39:08,719 Speaker 1: is just a bunch of actually terribly You came on 716 00:39:08,800 --> 00:39:11,439 Speaker 1: my podcast last year. Um, we bring on a bunch 717 00:39:11,480 --> 00:39:14,719 Speaker 1: of moms, we bring on a lot of experts. Uh, 718 00:39:15,120 --> 00:39:17,640 Speaker 1: so it's kind of like a learning platform. I'm just 719 00:39:17,640 --> 00:39:23,200 Speaker 1: really passionate about educating and empowering women, um too as 720 00:39:23,320 --> 00:39:26,080 Speaker 1: versions of themselves as moms. I knew I knew your name. 721 00:39:26,160 --> 00:39:29,479 Speaker 1: I was one of the worst podcast I've ever done. 722 00:39:29,520 --> 00:39:31,880 Speaker 1: I was literally at a water park with two kids 723 00:39:31,920 --> 00:39:35,160 Speaker 1: in my arms trying to talk to you during the 724 00:39:35,400 --> 00:39:38,080 Speaker 1: It was such a nightmare, and I just remember feeling 725 00:39:38,120 --> 00:39:44,560 Speaker 1: so guilty, like I just do my career and I helped, 726 00:39:44,680 --> 00:39:47,080 Speaker 1: Like I knew I knew your name. I was like, 727 00:39:47,120 --> 00:39:49,920 Speaker 1: how do I know her? Uh yeah, it was like 728 00:39:49,960 --> 00:39:51,880 Speaker 1: a year, maybe even two years ago. It was a 729 00:39:51,880 --> 00:39:53,840 Speaker 1: while ago. Yeah, it was a while. But yeah. You 730 00:39:53,920 --> 00:39:57,200 Speaker 1: can follow me at East Sandos I post last up 731 00:39:57,200 --> 00:40:00,480 Speaker 1: there or at Miraculous Mamas. Um. I actually have been 732 00:40:00,520 --> 00:40:02,680 Speaker 1: working on a kid's book for the last two years 733 00:40:02,719 --> 00:40:06,520 Speaker 1: and it comes out on the second of February, so uh, 734 00:40:07,080 --> 00:40:09,640 Speaker 1: very exciting. It's called Built Together and my family is 735 00:40:09,920 --> 00:40:13,080 Speaker 1: all kinds of hodgepodge and for this from like your mom, dad, 736 00:40:13,080 --> 00:40:15,120 Speaker 1: two and a half kids, So it's kind of just 737 00:40:15,200 --> 00:40:18,480 Speaker 1: a fun play on that. Um. Um you build your 738 00:40:18,520 --> 00:40:21,960 Speaker 1: family like you build a house and and just fun 739 00:40:21,960 --> 00:40:24,000 Speaker 1: because it makes it like from a young age you 740 00:40:24,040 --> 00:40:27,680 Speaker 1: get to see something different. Um, because there's so many 741 00:40:27,680 --> 00:40:31,480 Speaker 1: differentkinds of families now. So it's uh out on the second, 742 00:40:31,520 --> 00:40:34,400 Speaker 1: which is very exciting. Uh. We have we opened our 743 00:40:34,560 --> 00:40:37,399 Speaker 1: store in Indie two Chicks District Co. It's been open 744 00:40:37,400 --> 00:40:42,120 Speaker 1: for about six months um and online which is exciting. UM. 745 00:40:42,239 --> 00:40:46,680 Speaker 1: And uh, I'm gonna start filming season seven here hopefully 746 00:40:46,719 --> 00:40:48,440 Speaker 1: in a couple of months for Good Browns. So stay 747 00:40:48,480 --> 00:40:51,239 Speaker 1: I'm busy. I love you guys, Thank you so much. 748 00:40:51,280 --> 00:40:53,720 Speaker 1: And for you guys listening, make sure that you send 749 00:40:53,719 --> 00:40:57,240 Speaker 1: in any questions that you have for us on Teddy 750 00:40:57,280 --> 00:40:59,160 Speaker 1: tea pod and we'll make sure to answer them for you. 751 00:40:59,440 --> 00:41:01,400 Speaker 1: Thank you guys for tuning in and I'll talk to 752 00:41:01,440 --> 00:41:05,480 Speaker 1: you soon. Thanks for listening. Subscribe to to Eddie Teapot 753 00:41:05,560 --> 00:41:08,600 Speaker 1: on I Heart Radio or wherever you listen to podcasts.