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Speaker 2: Lucy is on the phone today for a first date
Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Brandon.
Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we're gonna call him and
Speaker 2: see if you'll tell us why he's ghostinger and maybe
Speaker 2: get her another date. But first, Lucy, how long has
Speaker 2: it been since you heard from Brandon?
Speaker 3: It's one two week?
Speaker 4: Two weeks? Okay, have you reached out? Did you try?
Speaker 5: Yeah? I did.
Speaker 3: I invited him into a game of ski ball, but
Speaker 3: he didn't respond.
Speaker 1: Oh no, okay, Well, see if we can figure it out.
Speaker 1: Want to tell us about the date and how you guys.
Speaker 3: Met Yeah, Maul, you know how it goes.
Speaker 6: I met Brendan on the app.
Speaker 3: We talked briefly back and forth, good chemistry.
Speaker 6: Before deciding to meet up at a.
Speaker 5: Local bar by us.
Speaker 6: We both like to play pool or both go at.
Speaker 3: It, so yeah, it was kind of fun. It was
Speaker 3: like a hot challenge to build some flirty chemistry and
Speaker 3: we definitely did. We turned it into this drinking game
Speaker 3: and anytime one of us missed a shot, we.
Speaker 2: Would drink you said, you guys are good, So did
Speaker 2: you end up drinking a lot? Like you know, first
Speaker 2: people are good at it like me, I would get hammer.
Speaker 6: Yeah, you could say that.
Speaker 3: We got a little handsy, not in like a growth way,
Speaker 3: you know.
Speaker 6: But we played a few.
Speaker 3: Games, We danced around, talked.
Speaker 6: Kissed each other.
Speaker 3: We shared an uber home. It was a good time.
Speaker 6: It was definitely a good time.
Speaker 4: You shared an Uber home. So I went home together,
Speaker 4: so he.
Speaker 3: Made sure that I got home first. He was definitely
Speaker 3: a gentleman. Yeah, he took good care of me. He's
Speaker 3: not like the other guys have dated.
Speaker 4: Did he try?
Speaker 3: No, he didn't. He was such a gentleman. And I
Speaker 3: mean we had a great kiss in.
Speaker 6: The car, but then when it was time to go.
Speaker 3: Home, he said good night and didn't even try.
Speaker 4: That's refreshing.
Speaker 3: Yeah, So, I mean, as you can imagine, I was
Speaker 3: pretty excited to see him again.
Speaker 4: So, yeah, why do you think you're getting ghosted them?
Speaker 6: I don't know.
Speaker 3: I did have this one moment where I kind of shrieked.
Speaker 6: Out a little bit, not on him.
Speaker 1: But.
Speaker 3: We were like having a little moment in the corner,
Speaker 3: and the drunk girl walked by and bumped into me
Speaker 3: and she made me still my deer all over my
Speaker 3: brand new top. Oh, I kind of freaked out a
Speaker 3: little bit on her. I snapped, but I like dialed
Speaker 3: it back before I went too far.
Speaker 6: I apologized.
Speaker 2: Brandon described snap like start throwing chairs.
Speaker 4: Hey girl, do you know you just did that? Or
Speaker 4: was it like we're you know, snap in?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I made like a verbal like what the you know,
Speaker 3: and just kind of I don't know. I I have
Speaker 3: been more becoming in the past, but I don't know.
Speaker 6: I didn't.
Speaker 3: I didn't think it was that big of a deal.
Speaker 3: And I totally apologized to Brandon for doing it.
Speaker 6: That girl was definitely.
Speaker 3: A mess, like she was not innocent, you know.
Speaker 4: So yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 3: I'm afraid that he was just like being polite in
Speaker 3: the moment and saying it was fine, and maybe I
Speaker 3: might have turned him off from it and not normal
Speaker 3: for me to do that, but when someone deserves it,
Speaker 3: you know, Okay, I'm only human, but I wanted to
Speaker 3: know that I'm not going to just freak out on
Speaker 3: him randomly like that, you know, right?
Speaker 4: Would that turn you off to you?
Speaker 5: Hole?
Speaker 3: It?
Speaker 4: When's how it was? Yeah, I think it might turn
Speaker 4: me off now, but past.
Speaker 2: Me would have loved what yeah, especially if you turn
Speaker 2: around and freaked out on me, I'd be like, whoa,
Speaker 2: oh she's hot. Oh thankfully I've learned my lesson with
Speaker 2: that though. But so it might it might be a
Speaker 2: little bit much, So we'll see. We'll play a song
Speaker 2: come back, and then call him and see if the
Speaker 2: tulas why is ghosting you?
Speaker 4: Maybe get you another date?
Speaker 6: Okay, okay, thanks you all all right?
Speaker 2: Plaus song come back, get your first day follow up
Speaker 2: next if you're just joining us for today's first Day
Speaker 2: follow up. Lucy is on the phone and she's getting
Speaker 2: ghosted by a guy named Brandon. So in a second,
Speaker 2: we're gonna get him on the phone and see if
Speaker 2: the tulas why is ghostinger? But first, Lucy, why don't
Speaker 2: you catch us up on your situation?
Speaker 3: So basically, I went out with this guy. He was
Speaker 3: super hot, super cool. We had a good time, great chemistry.
Speaker 3: I may have snapped when a girl dropped her on me,
Speaker 3: and I'm just worried that maybe I might have scared
Speaker 3: them off from that, But I wanted to know that
Speaker 3: that's not who I am.
Speaker 6: Like, I couldn't just randomly him.
Speaker 4: Right, are you ready for us to call him?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 6: Let's do it all right.
Speaker 4: Here we go. Hello, Hi, man, I speak to Brandon please. Yeah,
Speaker 4: this is where Brandon. How are you?
Speaker 2: My name is Jubel. I'm calling from a radio show.
Speaker 2: It's called The Jubil Show.
Speaker 1: Hi, Brandon, this is Nina. I'm also on the show. Hi,
Speaker 1: and I'm Victoria.
Speaker 4: What's up? How are you show?
Speaker 2: Yes, and we're calling you because we do a segment
Speaker 2: that's called the first Aid follow Up. That's where if
Speaker 2: you go on a day with somebody and you ghost them,
Speaker 2: that person can email us to get you on the
Speaker 2: phone and ask why you're ghosting. So we got an
Speaker 2: email about you from somebody, do you know?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 4: We think. Who do you think would email us and
Speaker 4: say that you're ghosting them?
Speaker 5: I don't know, you tell me. It could be a
Speaker 5: couple of people.
Speaker 4: But all right, Okay, was about to get really good then, Brandon.
Speaker 4: Her name is Lucy.
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, Lucy? I remember her?
Speaker 2: Okay, do you remember liking Lucy? Do you remember going
Speaker 2: on a date with her?
Speaker 5: Yeah? Man, we had a great time and that girl
Speaker 5: was hot, smoking, I mean.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 4: Okay, So then what's the deal. She's so bomb. Where
Speaker 4: are you gone? She's sneaky, man, snaky, She's sneaky.
Speaker 5: No, she's sneaky. She pulled some stuff on a date
Speaker 5: man that was just not cool.
Speaker 4: Like what, Well, we.
Speaker 5: Went on, we had a great time, and you know,
Speaker 5: it ended up where we were in a ball having
Speaker 5: a good time. We staked out our little corner and
Speaker 5: uh we were actually relating to each other pretty well. Touchy,
Speaker 5: steely kid. I was into her. She was into me,
Speaker 5: I thought. And then some random dude walks up to
Speaker 5: her out of nowhere and it's like a whistle of lucy.
Speaker 5: I'm like, who is this clown? And she's like having
Speaker 5: small talk with him. She turns her back to me
Speaker 5: and like almost starts arguing with this guy, doesn't introduce me,
Speaker 5: doesn't tell me what's going on, And I'm like, what
Speaker 5: is what is the deal here? What is she hiding something?
Speaker 5: She's smiling and flirting and all this stuff with this guy,
Speaker 5: and I'm like, wait a minute, whether she just kissing me?
Speaker 5: Then it gets worse. We start playing pool. All of
Speaker 5: a sudden, she sees a group of people I guess
Speaker 5: over the other side of room with this guy. She
Speaker 5: walks over to him and just starts hanging out with him,
Speaker 5: like she came to the bar with them. I'm like,
Speaker 5: we just got done kissing patting in the corner, and
Speaker 5: now you're over here with a whole nother group. What
Speaker 5: the hell is going on?
Speaker 4: Did you ask her?
Speaker 5: Yeah? And she apologized and she's like, oh, it's just
Speaker 5: somebody I used to hang out with. It. You know,
Speaker 5: it's no big deal. But it just sounded weird, you know,
Speaker 5: and the whole thing just it just didn't feel right.
Speaker 5: She was way too mysterious, and you know, I was
Speaker 5: waiting for it to even take me over there and
Speaker 5: introduce me to these people, but it didn't happen. I
Speaker 5: wasn't even upset about that. I mean, you know, things happened,
Speaker 5: but she was gone like fifteen twenty minutes.
Speaker 4: Oh that's a game. Oh that's a long time.
Speaker 5: Yeah, she's hugging and laughing with these people with a
Speaker 5: back turn like she's trying to block me out. I'm like,
Speaker 5: sounds sneaky. Reminded me of an X. I was checked out.
Speaker 2: Well, okay, thank you for telling us, and now I'll
Speaker 2: let you know that Lucy is actually on the phone
Speaker 2: listening and wants to talk to you.
Speaker 5: Oh oh thanks, guys, appreciate it.
Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, clear some stuff up from both of you guys,
Speaker 4: you know Lucy.
Speaker 3: Hey, Yeah, hi Brandon, what wrong.
Speaker 5: Again? Oh my god? Yeah I left, I'll tell you. Okay.
Speaker 3: One, I don't think I was gone for that long.
Speaker 3: And Two, that was so unbelievably awkward for me. I
Speaker 3: did not think that these people are going to show
Speaker 3: up there. These are people that I like, know and
Speaker 3: I'm trying to kind of like fizzle out, and so
Speaker 3: it was super awkward for me. And I did not
Speaker 3: want to introduce you to these people, like I didn't
Speaker 3: want to mix that.
Speaker 5: You know, I understand what you're saying. It's just the
Speaker 5: only true part about what you just said is you
Speaker 5: didn't think because you didn't take me into consideration at all.
Speaker 5: You left me hanging. And I mean I just watched
Speaker 5: you have a beer pour it all over. Obviously I'm
Speaker 5: kind of into you if I'm still sticking around.
Speaker 3: Okay, I mean, I definitely did not think it was
Speaker 3: a big deal.
Speaker 6: We were just talking.
Speaker 3: I mean, if you hadn't seen some people that you
Speaker 3: knew and you were talking to them, I wouldn't be
Speaker 3: so sensitive about it.
Speaker 5: Well, let's loop the script. Let's say that I take
Speaker 5: you out, I leave you somewhere, and I go to
Speaker 5: talk to a bunch of girls that I know, and
Speaker 5: then I come back and say, Hey, it's no big deal.
Speaker 5: These are just some girls that I know. How would
Speaker 5: you feel about that?
Speaker 3: If I'm being like completely transparent and honest with you.
Speaker 3: That guy was my egg, and I really don't think
Speaker 3: that there was any world where you two needed to
Speaker 3: be like talking and meeting each other and whatever, and
Speaker 3: so like with all of our old friends there it
Speaker 3: was like weird for me and awkward, and so I
Speaker 3: wanted to just kind of like be like what's up,
Speaker 3: but also not mix y'all together. You know, I'm trying
Speaker 3: to fizzle that out. I'm trying to get away for
Speaker 3: each I think that you're a great guy. I really
Speaker 3: like you, and I did not at all want you
Speaker 3: involved in that.
Speaker 5: It just sounds sneaky, And you want to talk about
Speaker 5: being uncomfortable.
Speaker 4: Radio's telling you the truth.
Speaker 5: I'm on the radio. What if your guys listen to this,
Speaker 5: you have, Well.
Speaker 3: I guess he knows that I'm not interested anymore.
Speaker 5: Then I'm just saying the whole things sounded shady to me.
Speaker 5: That was why, that was why I ghosted you. I
Speaker 5: don't even know what to say at this point. I'm
Speaker 5: just kind of confused. Where do we go from here?
Speaker 1: Well, let's flip it again, Brandon. What if your ex
Speaker 1: girlfriend showed up and you were with Lucy?
Speaker 4: What do you do?
Speaker 5: Introduce them?
Speaker 4: Do you you would introduce them?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 4: I don't know if I would.
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's my ex girlfriend. The way Lucy looks. If
Speaker 5: you met my ex girlfriend, oh, I would definitely introduce them.
Speaker 3: You don't know, man, I genuinely hope to be a
Speaker 3: different person. I did not want that those stories like
Speaker 3: coming to you. I'd much rather just like ease into
Speaker 3: this thing with you.
Speaker 4: Brandon. Would you like to go on another day with Lucy?
Speaker 4: We'll pay for it.
Speaker 5: I mean, it's just funny that you think I couldn't
Speaker 5: handle that, so in a public situation, you just decided
Speaker 5: that now I couldn't handle it. I'm gonna ease into it.
Speaker 5: I don't know, you know what, anybody can make a mistakes.
Speaker 5: Let's do it.
Speaker 4: Okay, right, Okay, you got another date Lucy?
Speaker 5: All right, let's go let's do it. I'll probably go
Speaker 5: somewhere and not bump into your ex.
Speaker 3: You know that sounds like a plan to meet police you.
Speaker 3: Wile's first date fall up