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Speaker 1: This is Mandy B. Welcome to Selective Ignorance, a production

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Speaker 1: of the BLACKPEC Podcast Network and iHeartRadio. Hey, classmates, it's

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Speaker 1: your girl, Mandy B. And it is a bonus episode

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Speaker 1: of Selective Ignorance. On this Friday day, Hopefully it's payday

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Speaker 1: for some of you, and hopefully it's payday for some

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Speaker 1: of y'all who wasn't paid for forty three days. It

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Speaker 1: looks like the government shut down is finally done, is

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Speaker 1: finally over. I still feel like we are living in

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Speaker 1: I don't know, y'all know, I'm trying to think of

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Speaker 1: another word besides ghetto, but that's what it is. If

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Speaker 1: you guys follow me on social media, the government shutdown

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Speaker 1: impacted my motherfucking travel. I guess that's how I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: start this. If you tuned into my Instagram story on Sunday,

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Speaker 1: you will see I had the travel day from hell.

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Speaker 1: And basically, as we know, last weekend, because of the

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Speaker 1: government shut down, air traffic controllers were calling out TSA employees,

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Speaker 1: we're calling out and the airport was in shambles. Basically

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Speaker 1: across the board. They went to canceling about ten percent

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Speaker 1: of flights, which impacted thousands of travelers, including your girl.

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Speaker 1: I guess I'll try to get into my storytelling bag

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Speaker 1: so that y'all can experience the frustration with me. So

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Speaker 1: I was in New York this past weekend. I was

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Speaker 1: on stage with Tonight's Conversations. Shout out to Ace metaphor,

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Speaker 1: shout out to Mona. Got to like kick it with

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Speaker 1: Mona for a little bit and really just love her.

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Speaker 1: She has her own podcast called Don't Call Me White Girl.

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Speaker 1: She's recently a new addition to the Joe Butden podcast.

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Speaker 1: Love her down on that podcast, okay, like the replacement

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Speaker 1: that took place there. Also got to kick it with

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Speaker 1: doctor Schi and Bryant, who I actually really enjoyed. I

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Speaker 1: had to like come to her like, girl, your team

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Speaker 1: be playing on my motherfucking face and I don't like it.

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Speaker 1: She basically was supposed to do probably like three different

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Speaker 1: episodes of Decisions Decisions, and I think one time we

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Speaker 1: couldn't get a hotel for her team, and the second

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Speaker 1: two times they like rescheduled. And here's the thing with me,

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Speaker 1: it could be my ego, but bitch, if we plan

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Speaker 1: for you to come at twelve o'clock and you hit

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Speaker 1: us the morning of and say, hey, double booked, can

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Speaker 1: we push it to five? Sorry? No, suck my dick

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Speaker 1: from the back. I immediately feel disrespected because I know

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Speaker 1: that's something you wouldn't ask of a breakfast club. I

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Speaker 1: know you wouldn't ask of a larger platform, like as

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Speaker 1: a creative as someone being in the creative space. People

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Speaker 1: know like photographers are books, studio times are book. People's

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Speaker 1: days are coordinated around this time slot. So I felt

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Speaker 1: the kind of way. But we got to actually like

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Speaker 1: sit and chat, and I was like, all right, I bitch,

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Speaker 1: don't do it again. But I really like her now.

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Speaker 1: So hopefully we get doctor Shy and Brian either here

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Speaker 1: on selective ignorance or on decisions decisions, and then just

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Speaker 1: everyone else. Kendred g again, got to see Kitty Rose

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Speaker 1: ac tral A c. It was really good to be

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Speaker 1: around everyone. So I was in New York for work,

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Speaker 1: not leisure, and so Sunday I have my flight back

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Speaker 1: to Atlanta. The bullshit starts on Saturday. So right before

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Speaker 1: I hit the stage, I get a text message that

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Speaker 1: says I've been upgraded to first class on my flight

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Speaker 1: from LaGuardia to Columbus, Ohio. And I'm like, bitch, is

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Speaker 1: this a spam? Like, bitch, ain't nobody going to Columbus.

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Speaker 1: So I go to my Delta app and it says

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Speaker 1: and then Columbus to Atlanta. But as I go to

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Speaker 1: the app, bitch, that flight from Columbus to Atlanta is

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Speaker 1: already showing delayed. Y'all it's nine thirty at night. So

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Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, so my eight o'clock then I put

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Speaker 1: to a six o'clock with a layover. Yeah, no, and

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Speaker 1: that shit showing delayed. Who do I know in Columbus?

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Speaker 1: The only thing I know about Columbus, Ohio is little

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Speaker 1: bow Wow. You just don't know the way you move

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Speaker 1: so fast across the floor, Like I know, I know

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Speaker 1: bow Wow's from there. Other than that, what the fuck

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Speaker 1: getting stuck there? Like ooh. So I called Delta and

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Speaker 1: I was like, okay, Well, I'm not gonna be done

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Speaker 1: So I said, bitch, I'm pulling the all nighter six

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Speaker 1: o'clock flight. I got luggage to check in. I need

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Speaker 1: point thirty. Bitch. We partying this last night in New York.

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Speaker 1: So I end up uptown, uptown baby, uptown baby. I'm

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Speaker 1: little thing thing, and we drinking. We having a good time.

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Speaker 1: creep around. I'm like, who all right, time to go

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Speaker 1: turn on the shower. Bitch, I get an alert to

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Speaker 1: my phone again. Six am. Flight canceled. They booked me

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Speaker 1: onto the seven oh five heading to Charlotte with a

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Speaker 1: let me fuck for another forty five minutes. I'm not

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Speaker 1: too mad. I'm like, Okay, Charlotte is at least heading

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Speaker 1: I got too long a layo, I'm gonna call a sante.

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Speaker 1: So maybe get on the flight at seven, mind y'all,

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Speaker 1: quick little detail. I'm so drunk, exhausted and dehydrated from

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Speaker 1: all of the liquids that left my body for the

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Speaker 1: last three hours that I decide I don't really want

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Speaker 1: to get dressed. And then my luggage is a Turkey onesie.

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Speaker 1: That's right, a Turkey onesie because Thanksgiving is coming up

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Speaker 1: and I chose to put journalism Jason, my super producer,

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Speaker 1: in this costume for our Thanksgiving Day episode, and I

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Speaker 1: goddamn costume and was like, fuck it, this will be

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Speaker 1: a quick travel day. Just gonna put on a goddamn onesie,

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Speaker 1: hide under the goddamn gobble gobble, and be in Cognegro. Nope.

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Speaker 1: I don't know how people recognize me as a Turkey,

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Speaker 1: and I feel a way about it because I a fuck,

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Speaker 1: did you notice me in a Turkey onesie? AnyWho? I

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Speaker 1: bought the flight. I'm like all right, layover eight no layover.

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Speaker 1: It's literally like a twenty five minute layover. So I

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Speaker 1: I'll be in Atlanta, Georgia by ten thirty a m.

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Speaker 1: So landing Charlotte, the gate is directly next to it.

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Speaker 1: It's already boarding. As we land. I go from one

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Speaker 1: and I'm ready to take off. Bitch, tell me why.

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Speaker 1: In the middle of boarding, they stop and they say

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Speaker 1: we have to deplane. This plane needs maintenance, stamped a

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Speaker 1: two hour delay. Immediately, I'm like, but so I go

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Speaker 1: see that there is an eleven thirty eight flight. Oh,

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Speaker 1: for maintenance, they cancel it. It's canceled. Christmas is canceled.

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Speaker 1: this other flight. So there's an eleven thirty eight flight

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Speaker 1: I get to the desk and I start crying. I do.

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Speaker 1: There are tears coming down my turkey eyes, and I'm like, fuck.

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Speaker 1: I called Delta. They they have nothing, but they put

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Speaker 1: I've been seeing these flights get canceled left and right.

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Speaker 1: that's already been pushed back to five thirty because of

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Speaker 2: Like what?

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Speaker 1: At this point, I decided to go on Expedia. I

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Speaker 1: So pilot comes on and says, hey, guys, we're delayed,

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Speaker 1: not for anything except there is low staff for the baggage,

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Speaker 1: about eight o'clock, y'all. Thirteen hours, thirteen thirteen hours. It's

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Speaker 1: how much it took me to get from LaGuardia to

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Speaker 1: shut down real quick. That also is probably gonna come

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Speaker 1: off a bit selfish, but maybe not. We know that

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Speaker 1: snap benefits were impacted. We know that government and federal

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Speaker 1: employees were not getting paid and we wanted the Democrats

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Speaker 1: experiencing this, was dreading and could not even fathom what

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Speaker 1: this is gonna impact my flight to Dallas. But in

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Speaker 1: a while, their family members that are sick, that this

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Speaker 1: this government shut down need to end. However, the goddamn

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Speaker 1: This already pisses me off. I thought I was being

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Speaker 1: Don't ruin Christmas before it starts. Okay, okay, okay, okay, okay, okay,

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Speaker 1: to speak for me. I know what I said. I

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Speaker 1: told her, I'm literally trying to just prevent them from

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Speaker 1: coming at you. And if I push back to her now,

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Speaker 1: they'll be on ten by December. She said. If she

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Speaker 1: don't push back, they'll be on ten. She said, I'm

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Speaker 1: being ignorant by treating her existence like a pro problem

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Speaker 1: to manage and asking her to be grateful just to

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Speaker 1: be invited. I told her the older generation just doesn't

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Speaker 1: know no better, and then she should pick her battles

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Speaker 1: because it's not that deep and it's just one dinner.

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Speaker 1: Now she's low key discent, and my mom says that

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Speaker 1: I might have just made it worse by trying to

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Speaker 1: keep the peace in a way that now throws my

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Speaker 1: cousin under the bus before the holidays even start. It's

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Speaker 1: a tricky one. Am I being ignorant by trying to

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Speaker 1: shut down the conflict early in the group chat instead

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Speaker 1: of just directly defending Jade ooh ooh. Now I will say,

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Speaker 1: if you are not queer, you just sitting here trying

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Speaker 1: to be an ally and kind of making it to

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Speaker 1: where these people now just need to shut up, or

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00:32:27,440 --> 00:32:29,680
Speaker 1: making it seem like Jay does have to kind of

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Speaker 1: shrink herself. Here's the thing when it comes to sexual identity,

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Speaker 1: when it comes to women having babies, when it comes

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00:32:40,800 --> 00:32:46,880
Speaker 1: to just the things that we are preparing ourselves to

446
00:32:47,000 --> 00:32:51,880
Speaker 1: bring up during the holiday season, just let people fight

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Speaker 1: their own battles. I actually agree with your cousin. It's

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Speaker 1: not for you to sit here and tell the people

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Speaker 1: what they can or cannot bring up. But also I

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Speaker 1: think that someone who's queer, someone who may be battling

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Speaker 1: with infertility, someone who has to defend their ain't shit partner,

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Speaker 1: leave that shit to them. Yes, it's only one dinner,

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Speaker 1: but I think that this is always and should be

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Speaker 1: one of those teaching moments. I think that politics is

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Speaker 1: something that's going to be brought up in the holidays,

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Speaker 1: especially this year. I think that identity and lifestyle is

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Speaker 1: something that continuously needs to be brought up because even

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Speaker 1: for an older generation, why do we want to keep

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Speaker 1: them ignorant? This could be your cousin's moment to educate,

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Speaker 1: This could be your cousin's moment to show them their

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Speaker 1: ignorance and hopefully change their mind, whether your cousin is

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Speaker 1: bringing her partner or his partner, whether your cousin is

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Speaker 1: gonna come super flamboyant and make them see that they

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Speaker 1: are a human being and that they shouldn't be judged

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Speaker 1: because of their identity. Like, I ain't gonna hold you.

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Speaker 1: I think you ignorant as hell for trying to shut

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Speaker 1: down something that's inevitable. The older generation be ignorant, gonna

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Speaker 1: be ignorant, whether your cousin come in there swirling and

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Speaker 1: what they rainbow flag or not. And so you just

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Speaker 1: inserting yourself in a way that does now make your

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Speaker 1: cousin feel like they can't show up as themselves only

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Speaker 1: to protect the ignorance of this older generation. But you

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Speaker 1: dead ass wrong, You dead ass wrong. And so a

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Speaker 1: way to make this up would be to go in

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Speaker 1: there with your with a rainbow flag and stand and

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Speaker 1: solace at dinner if things get uncomfortable. But yet you're

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Speaker 1: kind of actually amplifying the issue before goddamn Christmas dinner

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Speaker 1: even comes about. Now, elephant in the room. The Aunties

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Speaker 1: don't like the gays because they're homophobic. So hey, gay

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Speaker 1: queer cousin, tone that shit down so we could just

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Speaker 1: sit in peace. No, girl, So I actually do think

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Speaker 1: that you was ignorant for trying to bring peace to

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Speaker 1: the family prior, because at the end of the day,

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Speaker 1: your queer cousin's identity and sexuality isn't going to change

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Speaker 1: before Christmas, so the elephant will still be present. And

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Speaker 1: who wants to be around a whole bunch of phony people. Nah,

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Speaker 1: set that shit on fire. This is the time where

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Speaker 1: we have to push back on the ignorance, and what

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Speaker 1: better time to do it than the goddamn holidays. Ha ha,

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Speaker 1: look at my evil laugh. I think it's great. I

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Speaker 1: like hearing all the debates and seeing why you don't

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Speaker 1: deal with family members throughout the year, because bitch, they're

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Speaker 1: human and y'all saying this blood is thicker than water. Bullshit.

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Speaker 1: Some family members fuckome, absolutely fuck them. Speaking of let's

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Speaker 1: see if we can do one kind of political one. Ooh,

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Speaker 1: I like this one, the diversity higher joke. All right, now,

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Speaker 1: let me see if this is some black and white shit.

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Speaker 1: Oh all right, y'all. Hey, Mandy girl, hear me out.

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Speaker 1: Hear me out? Is crazy. Let's see. I'm a twenty

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Speaker 1: seven year old black female working in a mid sized

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Speaker 1: marketing firm. Our team recently hired a white man as

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Speaker 1: a junior copywriter. During his first week, our manager casually

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Speaker 1: joked in the break room well hr said we needed

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Speaker 1: more diversity, so we got let's call him Liam with

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Speaker 1: the nosering and everyone laughed. I guess Liam is the

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Speaker 1: white junior copywriter. I gave a tight smile but didn't

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Speaker 1: say anything. Later that day, we were chatting as a

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Speaker 1: team and I made a joke like, yeah, they already

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Speaker 1: filled their diversity quota this year, with me more awkward laughter.

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Speaker 1: After the meeting, another coworker of color pulled me aside

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Speaker 1: and said that those jokes bother her because they minimize

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Speaker 1: our work and make it sound like we're only here

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Speaker 1: to check boxes. I told her, I get it, but

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Speaker 1: I'd rather laugh than be the angry black woman in

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Speaker 1: the office. If I call it out, it becomes a

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Speaker 1: whole hr thing. She said that making the joke myself,

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Speaker 1: I'm normalizing it and giving other people permission to say

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Speaker 1: wild stuff. The next day, Liam said in a lighthearted tone, hey,

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Speaker 1: can you help me with this? You're the diversity expert

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Speaker 1: around here, and I snapped and said, I'm not your

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Speaker 1: diversity mascot in front of the team. Now people think

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Speaker 1: I overreacted, and Anna says I helped create that environment

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Speaker 1: by joking along. Was I ignorant in how I handled

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Speaker 1: the situation or are they ignorant for not seeing the

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Speaker 1: impacts of those quote unquote jokes. Tricky. It's tricky because

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Speaker 1: as Black women specifically, we like overly feel microaggressions. And

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Speaker 1: I'm not sure if it's because we've received them for

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Speaker 1: so long throughout school, throughout work, just within even maybe

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Speaker 1: some social settings. Microaggressions are overly thrown at us, and

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Speaker 1: a lot of times we just have to laugh or

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Speaker 1: smile it off. Like literally, this week, my friend and

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Speaker 1: I spoke briefly about a microaggression that she experienced in

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Speaker 1: a job interview. So my homegirl has been having these

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Speaker 1: interviews and she gets on the phone, this is the

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Speaker 1: second interview with a woman and she gets on the

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Speaker 1: call and they start talking and literally midway through the interview,

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Speaker 1: the lady says, wow, you speak so well. And at

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Speaker 1: this point now my friend's like, we'll beat you and

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Speaker 1: see my resume and I'm almost forty and so she

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Speaker 1: received and it certainly was a microaggression, because are white

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Speaker 1: women telling other white women that they speak well? Mitch? What?

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Speaker 1: And so we spoke about this, right, and so here's

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Speaker 1: the thing, the manager bringing up, we need more diversity.

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Speaker 1: So we hired Liam with the nose ring. I don't

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Speaker 1: know if this is in office that is predominantly black

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Speaker 1: or people of color, or if the nose ring part

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Speaker 1: was the joke that as the diversity It's it's weird

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Speaker 1: because microaggression can happen with us too. Ooh, that can

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Speaker 1: sound ignorant. You making the joke in front of the

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Speaker 1: team that you feel the diversity quota in front of

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Speaker 1: the team, and then getting mad when someone on the

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Speaker 1: team brings up diversity behind you. It was the person

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Speaker 1: that also just got quote unquote hired as a diversity

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Speaker 1: higher right, snapping after telling the other girl in the

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Speaker 1: office that you don't want to be seen as the

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Speaker 1: angry black woman that's the thing. It's like, it's kind

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Speaker 1: of what we'd be saying about the N word. And

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Speaker 1: this is just where my mind goes, right, we say nigga,

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Speaker 1: n ni, nigga, nigga all through the office, and then

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00:42:06,719 --> 00:42:08,919
Speaker 1: someone else says the in word, and it's like, nah, bit,

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Speaker 1: you can't say that. It's like, in certain spaces, if

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Speaker 1: we don't want people to feel comfortable saying the things,

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Speaker 1: we have kind of an unspoken responsibility not to say

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Speaker 1: the things. Now, the inWORD is a stretch. I know

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00:42:31,480 --> 00:42:37,680
Speaker 1: that's that's like an over exaggerated example. But if you

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Speaker 1: genuinely are tied emotionally to what's happened with the removal

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Speaker 1: of DEI and what's happening across companies with diversity, if

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Speaker 1: you are a little bit inside feeling like a diversity higher,

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Speaker 1: that's not something to make a joke lightly of out

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Speaker 1: of your own mouth, because if you're almost allowing someone

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Speaker 1: else to be able to say that to you, which

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00:43:04,800 --> 00:43:08,040
Speaker 1: in this case happened all the way around here, actually

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Speaker 1: you're ignorant for how you handle the situation and snapping

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Speaker 1: at him and saying I'm not your diversity mascot girl,

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Speaker 1: and I think you removed their ability to be ignorant

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Speaker 1: around not seeing the impact of the jokes. When you

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Speaker 1: led with be in the punchline for the jokes, you

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Speaker 1: kind of waved the flag and was like, I'm the

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Speaker 1: diversity higher bitch, I already met you know, I was

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Speaker 1: the quota for that. Yeah, I'm looking at this and

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Speaker 1: you're all the way not only ignorant, you playing victim

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Speaker 1: when you brought it on yourself. Girl, I ain't even

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Speaker 1: gonna hold you. Your coworker. Let you know, girl, your

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Speaker 1: coworker said, girl, it is not for you to sit

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Speaker 1: here and make these jokes. And then when when when

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Speaker 1: the crackers bring the jokes? Now you offended, Now you snapping,

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Speaker 1: and now unfortunately you look like the angry black woman

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Speaker 1: in the office. I actually agree with your coworker. It

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00:44:15,960 --> 00:44:19,239
Speaker 1: shouldn't have been a laughing matter. You shouldn't have made

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Speaker 1: yourself the butt of the joke. Because now that you're

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Speaker 1: the butt of the joke and someone else's joke, you're offended.

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Speaker 1: You gotta take a little bit of responsibility here. Nonetheless, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna say you're all the way ignorant here, babe,

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Speaker 1: all the way all right, Well, y'all. Next week we

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Speaker 1: have a really really, really really good episode coming to you.

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