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Speaker 1: All right, guys, time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And

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Speaker 1: going to read this one right here, right now. You

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Speaker 1: We got it for you here. It is a Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, nephew. Subject too much of a good thing.

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley, I've been in a relationship with a

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Speaker 1: woman for the past fifteen years. It's been on and

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Speaker 1: off again, but she's the one for me. She's my

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Speaker 1: everything and our kids are my world. I bet you're

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Speaker 1: wondering why haven't I married her, and maybe you can

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Speaker 1: help me figure it out too. For the first few

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Speaker 1: years of our relationship, we kept it on the download

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Speaker 1: because of her age. She was sixteen when I started

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Speaker 1: dating her and I was nineteen. It didn't matter much

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Speaker 1: to us, but I was afraid of her father and

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Speaker 1: that he would object. He found out about it and

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Speaker 1: took it better than we expected. He actually walked in

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Speaker 1: on us having sex in his house when she was eighteen,

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Speaker 1: and he threatened to shoot me, but thank god he didn't.

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Speaker 1: We're super cool now and he's hoping I get a

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Speaker 1: ring soon and marry his daughter. Over the years, financial

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Speaker 1: issues and raising our children has come between us. We

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Speaker 1: live together one minute, we'll live together one minute, and

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Speaker 1: the next minute she's moving out. Quite honestly, the only

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Speaker 1: time we get along is when we're having sex. What

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Speaker 1: makes it hard is that we have sex almost every day. Yes,

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Speaker 1: even when we're apart, she will come to me and

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Speaker 1: demand sex. We've had sex in the strangest places because

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Speaker 1: it's her way of feeling closer to me if we're arguing.

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Speaker 1: I've talked her into buying a home together so we

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Speaker 1: can be stable for our children. She's happy about it

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Speaker 1: only because she will have me in her bed every night.

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Speaker 1: I feel like a slave to her, and if I

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Speaker 1: tell her no, I feel awful. There are just times

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Speaker 1: that I can't perform, nor do I want to. Like

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Speaker 1: if she says something to emasculate me in front of

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Speaker 1: my eight year old son, I have no desire to

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Speaker 1: make love to her. I need some help here, guys,

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Speaker 1: before I move in with her? Should I let her

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Speaker 1: continue to use me for sex if we grew apart

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Speaker 1: years ago? This letter is confusing to me because it

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Speaker 1: really seems like two different letters. I mean, the first part,

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Speaker 1: you're happy, she's a one for you, she's your everything.

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Speaker 1: Then part two, you're an emasculated sex slave. There's a

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Speaker 1: lot of sex going on in this marriage, but not

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Speaker 1: a lot of communication in this relationship. After fifteen years

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Speaker 1: and kids, of course, you guys should be married. Of

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Speaker 1: course you should. I'm with the dad. Where's the ring?

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Speaker 1: So why aren't you? Is the question? And I really

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Speaker 1: don't think it's for any of the reasons you gave.

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Speaker 1: Because sex every night, I think that's most men's dream,

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Speaker 1: isn't it. After all the years you got, you guys

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Speaker 1: should be able to talk about anything. I mean, you

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Speaker 1: guys should be able to express yourselves. You should tell

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Speaker 1: her not to talk to you crazy in front of

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Speaker 1: your son, and she would probably stop doing it. So,

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Speaker 1: so now what do you want moving forward? Because you

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Speaker 1: guys bought a home like a married couple. I mean

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Speaker 1: you said you talked her into that and she was

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Speaker 1: on board. You have kids like a married couple, and

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Speaker 1: you have more sex than a lot of married couples.

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Speaker 1: So what's the problem. I mean, you seem to keep

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Speaker 1: making excuses money problems, kid problems, sex problems. I mean,

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Speaker 1: you know, in a lot of relationships these things are normal.

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Speaker 1: So I just say, no more excuses. Stop all these excuses.

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Speaker 1: Be a man asked this man to marry you. I

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Speaker 1: asked this woman to marry you. I mean, seriously, Steve,

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Speaker 1: I don't I don't know. This letter is crazy. I don't.

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Speaker 1: I don't know too much of a good thing. You've

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Speaker 1: been a relationship with a woman for the past fifteen years,

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Speaker 1: but it's been off and owned. See I keep well,

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Speaker 1: I don't understand. I've been in these great relationships, but

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Speaker 1: they've been off and on. That's not a great relationship.

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Speaker 1: But she's the one for me. But y'all offing on.

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Speaker 1: She's my everything and my kids our world. Dog. Y'all

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Speaker 1: off and on for fifteen years. I bet you wondering

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Speaker 1: why I ain't married, And maybe we can help figure

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Speaker 1: out because it's off and own. Boy, that's why every

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Speaker 1: time you want to marry her, something happened and y'all

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Speaker 1: go off. Then y'all got to work yourself back on.

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Speaker 1: That's why for the first few years of our relationship

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Speaker 1: were kept it on the down low because of her age.

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Speaker 1: Here we go. She was sixteen when I started dating Hunt.

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Speaker 1: I was nineteen. It didn't matter much to us. Oh,

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Speaker 1: it might not have mattered to you, but the police department,

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Speaker 1: the FBI government give us a damn about this man. Boy,

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Speaker 1: It didn't matter much to us. Good thing, you didn't

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Speaker 1: share it with anybody else. It didn't matter much to us,

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Speaker 1: but I was afraid her father would object. You think

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Speaker 1: next line he saved. He actually walked in on us

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Speaker 1: having sex in his house when she was eighteen, and

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Speaker 1: he threatened to shoot me. Didn't you just say he

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Speaker 1: took it much better than you expected? Did you just

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Speaker 1: say that, dog, bro? Did he walked in on y'all

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Speaker 1: having sex when she was eighteen and threatened to shoot you? Well,

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Speaker 1: good thing he took it. Wey off? Whoa, But thank

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Speaker 1: god he didn't. We're super cool now and he's hoping

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Speaker 1: I get a ring soon and marry his daughter. I

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Speaker 1: guess after the death threat, you don't. You don't realize

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Speaker 1: this is a slow burned shotgun wed and dog. I

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Speaker 1: don't know if you realize this or nothing. When we

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Speaker 1: come back, I'll tell you the rest. But you've been

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Speaker 1: threatened with death. All right? All right, Steve, we'll have

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Speaker 1: part two of your response coming up to the Strawberry letter.

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Speaker 1: Too much of a Good Thing is the subject of

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Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after the hour right after this, you're

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Speaker 1: listening Morning show. All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap

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Speaker 1: today's Strawberry letter. The subject too much of a good Thing? Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: too much. We ain't even got to the sex part yet.

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Speaker 1: H dated this girl when she was sixteen he was nineteen.

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Speaker 1: Had to keep it on the down low. Said it

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Speaker 1: didn't matter much to us. Well, like I said before,

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Speaker 1: it mattered to a lot of other people. If the

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Speaker 1: police and the FBI had found about it, it would

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Speaker 1: have really mattered son. But they didn't then, so you

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Speaker 1: got away with it. And then you were scared to

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Speaker 1: tell him. You kept it on download because you're scared

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Speaker 1: of how her father would react. But He actually took

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Speaker 1: it better than we expected because we was in there

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Speaker 1: having sex in the house when she was eighteen and

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Speaker 1: he threatened to shoot me. That's that's that's how well

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Speaker 1: he took it. But thank god he didn't. We super

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Speaker 1: cool now, yeah, yeah, and he hoping I get a ring. Now,

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Speaker 1: you're super cool now he opened, I get a ring.

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Speaker 1: Marriage daughter. Over the years, financial issues and raising our

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Speaker 1: children has come between us. The children have come between y'all.

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Speaker 1: Ain't that the thing that you're one? Thing that y'all

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Speaker 1: can have together. You want to know why you can't

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Speaker 1: one of the two. I don't know which one it is. Yet.

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Speaker 1: We lived together one minute and the next minute she's

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Speaker 1: moving out. Hard to marry somebody when they pack it.

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Speaker 1: I'm just gonna tell you that, quite honestly, the only

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Speaker 1: time we get along it's when we have it sex.

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Speaker 1: And what makes it hard is that we have sex

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Speaker 1: almost every day. Yeah, yes, even when we are part

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Speaker 1: she will come to me and demand sex. We've had

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Speaker 1: sex in the strangest places because it's her way of

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Speaker 1: feeling closer to me. If we are arguing I talked

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Speaker 1: to him to buying a home together so we can

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Speaker 1: be stable by our children. She's happy about it only

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Speaker 1: because she would have me in her bed every night, everywhere,

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Speaker 1: every day. I feel like a slave to her. You

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Speaker 1: are here, you feel like a slave without being one,

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Speaker 1: And if I tell her no, I feel awful. Now

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Speaker 1: are just times I can't perform, nor do I want

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Speaker 1: to like. If she's saying something to emasculate me in

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Speaker 1: front of mine eight year old son, Get your punk

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Speaker 1: ass over here, get your punk cass over here, and

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Speaker 1: do like I tell you. Don't do that in front

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Speaker 1: of the baby, the boys looking. I don't give a damn.

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Speaker 1: He know who you are. You hold my lad the

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Speaker 1: kid yours over there? You shut up. You don't tell

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Speaker 1: him to shut up and hold my leg? A perfect

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Speaker 1: kid masculates me in front of my eight year old son,

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Speaker 1: But I have no desire to make love to her.

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Speaker 1: I need some help here, guys, Before I move in

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Speaker 1: with her, Should I let her continue to use me

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Speaker 1: for sex? If we grew apart years ago, listen to me, dog,

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Speaker 1: y'all apart. Now you've grown apart. While y'all buying a

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Speaker 1: But you know if you split up, she coming over there,

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Speaker 1: You ain't break up with me. I hold my leg.

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Speaker 1: You're you're gone. Boy, I'm not gonna tell you no more.

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Speaker 1: This ain't got nothing to do with you. This is

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Speaker 1: a re enactment. This is the boy the mother. Now

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Speaker 1: surely you beat the mother junior. You the boy, and

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Speaker 1: I'm I'm the dude that wrote to that. Anybody can stalk.

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Speaker 1: Honey coming here. It's time you heard mama coming him. Boy, boy,

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Speaker 1: ain't you got nothing to do? Don't worry about him,

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Speaker 1: worry about him. You got something to do. Baby, Stop

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Speaker 1: talking to me like this in front of this boy.

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Speaker 1: He doesn't understand what wait, what did you say? Boy?

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Speaker 1: Get naked? Yeah you heard him getting But that's you. See,

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Speaker 1: you put these thoughts in this boy's head. You got

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Speaker 1: this boy talking to me like this. Look, just do

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Speaker 1: don't worry about too. No, you're going to Okay, it's nighttime.

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Speaker 1: We do it every night. You don't stop now, don't stop.

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Speaker 1: And we've been doing it this way for fifteen Wait

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Speaker 1: a minute, baby, Wait a minute, boy, boy, go in

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Speaker 1: there and find yourself him to do. Don't worry about him,

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Speaker 1: worry about me. You're looking at me. I'm worried about hill.

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Speaker 1: Mamma said, you guy, you gotta do a mama, say, dude,

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Speaker 1: due Mama. That's right, baby, Tell your daddy to get

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Speaker 1: in here and do me. Jo punk ass in there

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Speaker 1: and do mama, if you called me, see you see

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Speaker 1: how you do it. Baby. You got this boy called

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Speaker 1: I'm his daddy and he called me punk Assney show

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Speaker 1: custom about the bush dead his damn teeth. Don't worry

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Speaker 1: about the baby. He's so cute. O, honey, you're so cute.

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Speaker 1: This baby ain't cute with his old looking ass. We

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Speaker 1: got an eight year old and little farty. Well he

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Speaker 1: looks just like you, but I'm I am farty. Look

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Speaker 1: we're wasting time standing out here arguing. Okay, you you

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Speaker 1: have a duty to perform. I want you. You have

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Speaker 1: a perform yet you dude, well, I want you the end,

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Speaker 1: It was good. It was good coming up in forty

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Speaker 1: after this, you're listening to the Stave Harvey Morning Show