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Speaker 1: Let me start with this anonymous, do not move in

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Speaker 1: with this man? Okay, do not? What's up everybody, Welcome

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Speaker 1: back to the podcast, Happy Monday. Thanks for being here.

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Speaker 1: Wherever you're listening to or whatever platform you're listening from,

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Speaker 1: thank you for being here. I answer your questions on

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Speaker 1: this podcast. That's what we do. You email me Grangersmith

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Speaker 1: podcast at gmail dot com about any subject. We walk

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Speaker 1: through it long form like we're two friends. I'm not

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Speaker 1: always right. I'm just giving you the advice that I

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Speaker 1: would give to any friend, and hopefully you do the

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Speaker 1: same for me. I don't have notes. I have not

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Speaker 1: prepared these questions. I have not pre screened these questions.

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Speaker 1: So we're jumping into something together. So as I read it,

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Speaker 1: I'm reading it for the first time, and then you're

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Speaker 1: hearing it for the first time. And then you could

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Speaker 1: do a better job. And then if you think you

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Speaker 1: could do a better job, then email me and say hey,

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Speaker 1: I heard you answer that question and you're wrong and

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Speaker 1: here's why and here's the right answer. Then I could

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Speaker 1: read that on the podcast. That's an interesting thought. First question,

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Speaker 1: jumping right into it subject line says a sixth sense

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Speaker 1: and the afterlife message comes from longtime fan Laurie Funk.

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much for emailing Laurie. It's good to

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Speaker 1: hear from you, And she says. My therapist informed me

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Speaker 1: that I am an EmPATH. It is like having a

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Speaker 1: than others. This makes complete sense to me, because I

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Speaker 1: could feel the emotions of people all around me. It

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Speaker 1: seems that to stretch this also seems to stretch to

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Speaker 1: feeling spirits around me as well. I used to feel

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Speaker 1: dark entities and ordinary honorary spirits of those that had passed.

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Speaker 1: Is that how you say that? Right? I could walk

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Speaker 1: room they were in. I would get a very strong,

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Speaker 1: high anxiety, hair raising feeling. I would ask an employee

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Speaker 1: if there'd ever been ghost sightings and they would confirm

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Speaker 1: my exact suspicions. The strongest I have ever felt was

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Speaker 1: that the Buffalo bills I or irma hotel and Cody Wyoming,

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Speaker 1: So yeah, Buffalo bills irma hotel and Cody Wyoming no doubt.

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Speaker 1: I had to wait to read about it until I

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Speaker 1: had service at our hotel that night and it was haunted.

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Speaker 1: A friend told me, since I was feeling dark entities,

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Speaker 1: I must be veering away from God. This changed my

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Speaker 1: perspective entirely, especially considering I was pregnant at the time.

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Speaker 1: I didn't want to have that feeling anymore. My life

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Speaker 1: his word, and now I see more signs of His

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Speaker 1: present presence. My son Cody is my biggest blessing from God.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes I feel like He gives me signs that I

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Speaker 1: am to share with others, and maybe they're directly from

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Speaker 1: those who have passed. For example, my neighbor John had

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Speaker 1: He and I spent deep talks before he passed away.

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Speaker 1: He was mostly worried about his wife, Ginger, and spoke

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Speaker 1: you so much for emailing, And let's dive into this.

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Speaker 1: So I mentioned earlier that I'm not always right about stuff,

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Speaker 1: but what I do have is biblical truth. That's truth

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Speaker 1: So there's objective truth, which is the Bible, and then

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Speaker 1: this and God's word is revealed. People often say, how

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Speaker 1: Lorie that you asked in this email. And I'll say again,

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Speaker 1: not my opinion. It's not something I grew to know

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Speaker 1: here's the answer. Here's the answer, Megan. You want you

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Speaker 1: deal with that because you're feeling empty, you're feeling lost,

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Speaker 1: you're feeling not fulfilled. I can tell you that answer.

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Speaker 1: It's in your Bible. You're gonna you're gonna find your

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Speaker 1: pleading with you. I could sit here and I can

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Speaker 1: go through verses, and I could I could dissect it

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Speaker 1: And here is why, right here on this page. And

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Speaker 1: then you're gonna get your you're gonna get your pen,

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Speaker 1: gonna go, wait, there's another one. This is another example,

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Speaker 1: and you're gonna circle it. This is your answer, Megan, please,

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Speaker 1: I'm pleading with you. Your answer could be found when

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Speaker 1: in subject line, says social media posting. Hey Grangel, my

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Speaker 1: boyfriend and I've been dating for six months and right

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Speaker 1: now we are long distance. He has yet to post

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Speaker 1: me on any social media platforms and says he doesn't

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Speaker 1: want to make it official here until we are married.

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Speaker 1: He has posted x's in the past and has made

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Speaker 1: it official with them. I met his close friends and family,

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Speaker 1: and he is about to quit his job and move

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Speaker 1: in with me. For some reason, I feel like he's

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Speaker 1: hiding me, and it makes me think there might be

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Speaker 1: another woman. I've been honest with him about how I feel,

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Speaker 1: and he gets very upset when I want to talk

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Speaker 1: about any of this. Am I going crazy? I need

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Speaker 1: some advice? Anonymous? Okay, anonymous. Thank you for thank you

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Speaker 1: for the question, and I hear you it's legitimate. Let

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Speaker 1: me man, let me start with this anonymous. Do not

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Speaker 1: move in with this man. Okay, do not. And I

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00:29:53,600 --> 00:29:56,840
Speaker 1: don't even know him. I don't know any of his intentions.

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Speaker 1: Maybe he's a great guy, none of that matters. You're

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Speaker 1: not married. Don't move in with them. You're already anxious.

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00:30:04,160 --> 00:30:06,640
Speaker 1: You already have some anxiety, you already have some trust issues,

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Speaker 1: You're already worried. Why would you take this step because

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Speaker 1: you know what you know what happens next. This is

510
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Speaker 1: coming from reading all of your emails. What happens next

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Speaker 1: is you make a baby, and then then you're you

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Speaker 1: have problems and you have a baby, and so now

513
00:30:25,160 --> 00:30:28,800
Speaker 1: these problems are magnified. Don't move in with this guy.

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Speaker 1: Don't move in with any guy. It doesn't matter who

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Speaker 1: he is until you get married. That's the way it's

516
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Speaker 1: set up. It's not set up that way to give

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Speaker 1: you some handcuffs, to make your life suck, to make

518
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Speaker 1: things hard on you. Are not fair or uncool. It's

519
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Speaker 1: set up this way for your protection, for your ultimate joy,

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Speaker 1: so that when you follow this pattern that's set up

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Speaker 1: for you by your creator. You can experience lessing anxiety,

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Speaker 1: you could experience joy, you could have hopeful grieving whenever

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00:31:05,080 --> 00:31:08,120
Speaker 1: you're grieving. But this stuff is set up for you.

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00:31:10,160 --> 00:31:13,400
Speaker 1: So I mean, should you be legitimately worried that he's

525
00:31:13,440 --> 00:31:16,640
Speaker 1: not posting about you? I don't know. Yeah, it sounds

526
00:31:16,640 --> 00:31:18,880
Speaker 1: like you're going a little crazy. I don't blame you

527
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Speaker 1: for going crazy, and can't I can't say that if

528
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Speaker 1: I wasn't in the same situation, I wouldn't think that's weird.

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00:31:24,960 --> 00:31:27,200
Speaker 1: It's strange that you have to go and look at

530
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Speaker 1: his previous feeds and see that he posted about X's.

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Speaker 1: That's just strange. It's also strange that he's not saying

532
00:31:34,040 --> 00:31:36,400
Speaker 1: anything about you. It's strange that you feel like he's

533
00:31:36,480 --> 00:31:42,040
Speaker 1: hiding something. Maybe you're going crazy, Maybe he's making you crazy.

534
00:31:42,160 --> 00:31:45,680
Speaker 1: Maybe you're a sane person, but together with him, you're

535
00:31:45,760 --> 00:31:48,320
Speaker 1: kind of going insane a little bit, and that pressure

536
00:31:48,360 --> 00:31:50,760
Speaker 1: could mount up if you're thinking he's the one. It's

537
00:31:50,800 --> 00:31:53,520
Speaker 1: only been six months, but we're already talking about marriage,

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00:31:54,360 --> 00:31:56,560
Speaker 1: and I've met his close friends and family, and he's

539
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Speaker 1: about to quit his job and move in with me.

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00:31:58,360 --> 00:32:00,720
Speaker 1: There's like a lot of pressure. Could you're like, oh, man,

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Speaker 1: he's the one, And so then you start analyzing, like,

542
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Speaker 1: if he's the one, that I better make sure before

543
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Speaker 1: you get married that everything's in line, all the ducks

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Speaker 1: are in a row. And I see a problem. He's

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00:32:11,880 --> 00:32:13,920
Speaker 1: not posting about me and he posts about his exes,

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Speaker 1: So sure, maybe it's a problem. Maybe it's not. Maybe

547
00:32:18,480 --> 00:32:21,680
Speaker 1: you're crazy, Maybe he's making you crazy. Maybe this is

548
00:32:21,680 --> 00:32:25,120
Speaker 1: all blown out of proportion, but it all boils down

549
00:32:25,200 --> 00:32:28,080
Speaker 1: to me. What I see in her email is don't

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00:32:28,120 --> 00:32:30,400
Speaker 1: move in with him, Like that's the worst thing you

551
00:32:30,480 --> 00:32:33,800
Speaker 1: could do. You could talk about this stuff with him.

552
00:32:33,920 --> 00:32:36,640
Speaker 1: You can could go to dinner and just say, hey,

553
00:32:37,280 --> 00:32:40,280
Speaker 1: I'm really embarrassed to even bring this up. And I

554
00:32:40,320 --> 00:32:42,520
Speaker 1: don't want to sound naggy. I don't want to sound

555
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Speaker 1: like a crazy girlfriend, but I get this weird feeling

556
00:32:47,480 --> 00:32:50,240
Speaker 1: that I'm sorry, I gotta say it, but I feel

557
00:32:50,240 --> 00:32:53,440
Speaker 1: like you're hiding something from me, And part of it

558
00:32:53,560 --> 00:32:55,920
Speaker 1: comes just from an insecurity that you haven't said anything

559
00:32:55,920 --> 00:32:58,520
Speaker 1: about me on social media, and it kind of feels

560
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Speaker 1: like you're hiding me from everyone else in the world.

561
00:33:01,640 --> 00:33:04,520
Speaker 1: And I can't help, but I'm sorry. I'm not a stalker,

562
00:33:04,600 --> 00:33:06,920
Speaker 1: but I can't help but notice that you posted about

563
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Speaker 1: an X. Is that weird? And let him explain it,

564
00:33:11,800 --> 00:33:16,960
Speaker 1: like maybe he's like, oh, honestly, yeah, I totally you're

565
00:33:17,120 --> 00:33:21,320
Speaker 1: You're right, and I'll delete those old X posts. And

566
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Speaker 1: I need to make a better effort of putting you

567
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Speaker 1: in my social media. I mean, this is twenty twenty

568
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Speaker 1: two props big time, but it's a legitimate conversation. All

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Speaker 1: that being said, you know, yes, no, maybe he's the one,

570
00:33:35,960 --> 00:33:38,160
Speaker 1: maybe he's not. Maybe he's hiding something, maybe he's not,

571
00:33:38,400 --> 00:33:42,120
Speaker 1: Maybe he's just lazy, Maybe he just hasn't thought about it. Whatever,

572
00:33:43,040 --> 00:33:45,240
Speaker 1: I don't really care. I just don't want you to

573
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Speaker 1: move in with him. I don't want you to move

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Speaker 1: into him with him till you're married. Okay, next question.

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Speaker 1: Scroll around here for a sec it said This subject

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Speaker 1: line says September twenty third, How do I handle this?

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00:34:05,040 --> 00:34:07,000
Speaker 1: And look to God? Hey, Granger's been a fan of

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Speaker 1: years for a long time, especially now on after midnight.

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Speaker 1: Today is the day I was supposed to get married

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00:34:12,840 --> 00:34:15,360
Speaker 1: to a man I would have been with for eight years,

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Speaker 1: but that isn't happening due to decisions he made several

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Speaker 1: months ago in March, when he decided to be unfaithful

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Speaker 1: and eventually marry someone else in June. I was just

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Speaker 1: wondering if you had any advice for handling my quote

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Speaker 1: what would have been wedding day and trusting God through

586
00:34:33,120 --> 00:34:35,880
Speaker 1: the hurt and the journey of getting back into dating

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00:34:36,040 --> 00:34:41,000
Speaker 1: after eight years. Thanks Emily, Emily, thank you so much

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00:34:41,040 --> 00:34:47,719
Speaker 1: for the email. What's really cool. What I enjoy from

589
00:34:47,800 --> 00:34:51,840
Speaker 1: this podcast is how we could randomly, through these random emails,

590
00:34:51,960 --> 00:34:55,640
Speaker 1: we could go back to back on two different storylines

591
00:34:56,320 --> 00:35:01,000
Speaker 1: that are in different places of relationship. It's crazy, right,

592
00:35:01,120 --> 00:35:03,759
Speaker 1: It's crazy going back to back hearing a girl that's

593
00:35:03,760 --> 00:35:05,640
Speaker 1: been dating for six months and about to move in

594
00:35:05,880 --> 00:35:09,640
Speaker 1: and she's worried he might have a girlfriend. And then

595
00:35:09,800 --> 00:35:12,800
Speaker 1: we go to the next email and it's Emily saying

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00:35:14,760 --> 00:35:16,799
Speaker 1: the man that she was supposed to marry they got

597
00:35:16,880 --> 00:35:20,120
Speaker 1: engaged because they probably moved in together. No judgment, Emily,

598
00:35:20,160 --> 00:35:23,239
Speaker 1: I'm just saying, I'm never judging on this podcast, guys.

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00:35:23,520 --> 00:35:27,120
Speaker 1: I'm just trying to give my best suggestions out of love. Okay,

600
00:35:27,680 --> 00:35:30,000
Speaker 1: I've messed up so many things in my life, so

601
00:35:30,320 --> 00:35:32,520
Speaker 1: I can't stand on any kind of judgment seat. So

602
00:35:32,640 --> 00:35:35,759
Speaker 1: that's not what I mean. But I'm saying, Emily, look

603
00:35:35,840 --> 00:35:40,160
Speaker 1: at this, and look at Anonymous right before you, who

604
00:35:40,400 --> 00:35:43,840
Speaker 1: had a suspicion of what you actually went through and

605
00:35:43,920 --> 00:35:47,719
Speaker 1: didn't get married because he was with another girl, And

606
00:35:47,840 --> 00:35:51,040
Speaker 1: now you're stuck here. So my point is Anonymous email

607
00:35:51,120 --> 00:35:55,359
Speaker 1: before look at Emily, look at Emily and be like, hey,

608
00:35:55,600 --> 00:35:57,480
Speaker 1: I need to go ahead and take care of this

609
00:35:57,640 --> 00:35:59,719
Speaker 1: before we get engaged, before we get a date on

610
00:35:59,760 --> 00:36:04,000
Speaker 1: the caer, before we living together, and then I'm suffering

611
00:36:04,120 --> 00:36:06,320
Speaker 1: eight years later at the date that we would have

612
00:36:06,360 --> 00:36:09,799
Speaker 1: gotten married, Like you could hit the brakes now, Anonymous,

613
00:36:10,800 --> 00:36:15,160
Speaker 1: because now we got a different problem with Emily. So Emily,

614
00:36:17,680 --> 00:36:20,880
Speaker 1: the thing about you, Emily, is that what a blessing

615
00:36:21,920 --> 00:36:25,920
Speaker 1: that you didn't marry this guy? Like, what what a

616
00:36:26,120 --> 00:36:28,600
Speaker 1: what a miracle? Because we could go back. I could

617
00:36:28,640 --> 00:36:30,880
Speaker 1: probably flip right now on the screen and hit another

618
00:36:30,960 --> 00:36:35,239
Speaker 1: email that's talking about some bad divorce. You don't have

619
00:36:35,360 --> 00:36:39,120
Speaker 1: to go through that, and you don't have a child

620
00:36:39,440 --> 00:36:44,720
Speaker 1: that you've mentioned. Great, what a what a blessing? No child,

621
00:36:45,360 --> 00:36:49,480
Speaker 1: no divorce, no nasty court settlement. You got out clean.

622
00:36:50,040 --> 00:36:53,040
Speaker 1: And the guy's a jerk. The guy messed up and

623
00:36:53,120 --> 00:36:56,480
Speaker 1: then he ended up marrying this other girl. Like wow, that,

624
00:36:56,800 --> 00:36:59,360
Speaker 1: I mean, it can't be. You can't get better closure

625
00:36:59,480 --> 00:37:04,080
Speaker 1: than that. So here's the thing. I don't believe in

626
00:37:04,400 --> 00:37:08,080
Speaker 1: what would have been. I don't believe in what would

627
00:37:08,120 --> 00:37:14,680
Speaker 1: have been? Why because it didn't. It just didn't. I

628
00:37:14,719 --> 00:37:16,560
Speaker 1: don't think there is such thing as a what would

629
00:37:16,600 --> 00:37:22,680
Speaker 1: have been unless it actually happened. So the date, I understand,

630
00:37:22,719 --> 00:37:25,279
Speaker 1: there's a connection with that date. You would have been

631
00:37:25,360 --> 00:37:27,960
Speaker 1: married on this day he's coming up on the calendar.

632
00:37:29,239 --> 00:37:33,080
Speaker 1: But that day you should look at. That day on

633
00:37:33,160 --> 00:37:36,480
Speaker 1: the calendar is Freedom Day? Like you should You should

634
00:37:36,560 --> 00:37:39,839
Speaker 1: take a pin right now on your calendar, and did

635
00:37:39,920 --> 00:37:42,280
Speaker 1: you say what day it is? You didn't say whatever

636
00:37:42,400 --> 00:37:45,600
Speaker 1: day that you didn't say the day, whatever it is,

637
00:37:46,200 --> 00:37:51,600
Speaker 1: I would write freedom, like that's that's Emily's freedom Day. Yes,

638
00:37:51,880 --> 00:37:53,920
Speaker 1: rejoice in that. Put your hands in the air and

639
00:37:54,000 --> 00:37:57,600
Speaker 1: say freedom Day. That's the day I was supposed to

640
00:37:57,719 --> 00:38:01,440
Speaker 1: marry the guy that I never did because I found

641
00:38:01,480 --> 00:38:05,040
Speaker 1: out early enough. I had a suspicion, and he screwed

642
00:38:05,160 --> 00:38:08,320
Speaker 1: up and he was unfaithful and he married somebody else. Freedom.

643
00:38:09,719 --> 00:38:11,960
Speaker 1: Thank god, I don't have to deal with divorce. Thank

644
00:38:12,000 --> 00:38:14,520
Speaker 1: god I don't have to deal with child custody problems.

645
00:38:14,920 --> 00:38:16,839
Speaker 1: Thank god we didn't have three kids that are now

646
00:38:17,960 --> 00:38:22,480
Speaker 1: hurt because mommy and daddy aren't together. I did it, freedom,

647
00:38:22,800 --> 00:38:25,160
Speaker 1: Thank you God. I'm gonna write that on my calendar,

648
00:38:25,280 --> 00:38:29,480
Speaker 1: Freedom Day. Like that's the you're asking me, how do

649
00:38:29,560 --> 00:38:33,520
Speaker 1: you handle that? There? You go, you celebrate it, You

650
00:38:33,840 --> 00:38:36,880
Speaker 1: celebrate it. I'm talking make a cake. You invite your

651
00:38:36,920 --> 00:38:40,160
Speaker 1: friends over and make a cake and tell them, hey,

652
00:38:40,200 --> 00:38:42,560
Speaker 1: you guys want to come over on Thursday and have

653
00:38:42,640 --> 00:38:44,239
Speaker 1: a cake. And they're like why, and You're like, it's

654
00:38:44,280 --> 00:38:47,920
Speaker 1: Freedom Day, baby, Freedom. I'm making a big cake. We're

655
00:38:47,920 --> 00:38:50,879
Speaker 1: having a party. We're gonna invite friends over. We're gonna

656
00:38:50,880 --> 00:38:54,480
Speaker 1: turn on some music, turn the lights down, have some cake.

657
00:38:55,200 --> 00:38:58,920
Speaker 1: It's gonna be amazing. I'm actually gonna spend about seventy

658
00:38:58,960 --> 00:39:01,640
Speaker 1: five bucks. I'm gonna spend spend money on a good baker.

659
00:39:01,840 --> 00:39:04,279
Speaker 1: We're gonna make this nice cake and we're gonna have

660
00:39:04,520 --> 00:39:07,560
Speaker 1: slices of this cake and we're gonna go Freedom, baby, Freedom.

661
00:39:10,560 --> 00:39:14,720
Speaker 1: That's what I gotta say about that. All right, flipping

662
00:39:14,760 --> 00:39:18,239
Speaker 1: through what is coming up next? Let's see, here's something

663
00:39:18,520 --> 00:39:21,680
Speaker 1: looks like it's completely off topic. Subject line says German

664
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Speaker 1: short haired pointers. Hey, graduate, My name is Luke from London, Ohio.

665
00:39:25,800 --> 00:39:27,560
Speaker 1: Want to start off by saying thank you for the podcast.

666
00:39:27,600 --> 00:39:31,160
Speaker 1: I'm twenty five. My wife and I love how you

667
00:39:31,400 --> 00:39:34,280
Speaker 1: have this platform and share God's word and help folks

668
00:39:34,320 --> 00:39:38,480
Speaker 1: that need advice. That being said, I'm a journeyman electrician.

669
00:39:38,680 --> 00:39:40,440
Speaker 1: I love what you do. I love what I do.

670
00:39:40,600 --> 00:39:42,879
Speaker 1: Excuse me, I love what I do. However, I love

671
00:39:43,120 --> 00:39:46,560
Speaker 1: training and running bird dogs. Other than going to church,

672
00:39:46,640 --> 00:39:49,600
Speaker 1: reading my Bible, spending time with my family, I don't

673
00:39:49,640 --> 00:39:53,040
Speaker 1: get any more enjoyment than working with dogs. I want

674
00:39:53,080 --> 00:39:55,560
Speaker 1: to get your take on if I should pursue training

675
00:39:55,680 --> 00:39:59,480
Speaker 1: dogs or continue being an electrician. I pray about it

676
00:39:59,560 --> 00:40:04,480
Speaker 1: often because it's a hard choice to make do due

677
00:40:04,520 --> 00:40:07,960
Speaker 1: to my wife being seventeen weeks pregnant with our first son.

678
00:40:08,120 --> 00:40:10,320
Speaker 1: I make a fair amount of money being an electrician

679
00:40:10,400 --> 00:40:11,960
Speaker 1: and I want to be able to provide for them,

680
00:40:12,040 --> 00:40:13,920
Speaker 1: and I don't know if working with dogs is going

681
00:40:14,000 --> 00:40:17,319
Speaker 1: to cut it. Thank you and God bless all right,

682
00:40:17,440 --> 00:40:22,360
Speaker 1: Luke bro thank you for emailing. And I too have

683
00:40:22,960 --> 00:40:26,359
Speaker 1: a German short haired pointer. I have two of them.

684
00:40:26,840 --> 00:40:31,680
Speaker 1: I love GSPS great dogs. So I share a little

685
00:40:31,719 --> 00:40:37,040
Speaker 1: bit of your love for these bird dogs. And I

686
00:40:37,160 --> 00:40:41,440
Speaker 1: totally hear what you're saying. And so this is You're

687
00:40:41,440 --> 00:40:43,600
Speaker 1: gonna think I'm crazy, But this is easy. This is

688
00:40:43,719 --> 00:40:51,000
Speaker 1: really easy. And we really overcomplicate life decisions, we really do.

689
00:40:51,320 --> 00:40:53,879
Speaker 1: We just we dig too deep or like what's God's will?

690
00:40:54,000 --> 00:40:57,320
Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't know. Yes, call them no, collumn,

691
00:40:57,400 --> 00:40:59,520
Speaker 1: make money, don't make money, but got a kid. Come

692
00:40:59,600 --> 00:41:02,640
Speaker 1: and don't blame me for that, Luke at all, because

693
00:41:02,640 --> 00:41:06,040
Speaker 1: I understand the pressures of that. But I think you're

694
00:41:06,040 --> 00:41:08,920
Speaker 1: making it too complicated. Here's what I would do, Okay,

695
00:41:09,080 --> 00:41:11,360
Speaker 1: if I were you, Luke. If i'm you, this is

696
00:41:11,400 --> 00:41:16,200
Speaker 1: what I do. I call my friend. I've got a

697
00:41:16,239 --> 00:41:21,240
Speaker 1: buddy that has a kennel called Woe Nellie's Kennel. Okay,

698
00:41:21,560 --> 00:41:24,800
Speaker 1: they're on Instagram. You can go to their website and

699
00:41:26,520 --> 00:41:28,680
Speaker 1: I would say I would call them and say, what's up.

700
00:41:28,719 --> 00:41:32,239
Speaker 1: My name is Luke. They're in Missouri. You say, hey,

701
00:41:32,360 --> 00:41:36,000
Speaker 1: I know you're in Missouri. I'm in Ohio. I'm an electrician.

702
00:41:36,680 --> 00:41:42,279
Speaker 1: I have a passion for bird dogs exclusively GSPS. You

703
00:41:42,480 --> 00:41:47,719
Speaker 1: have a very successful kennel in Missouri. Is there any way,

704
00:41:48,239 --> 00:41:51,640
Speaker 1: maybe is there a day next month or next year

705
00:41:51,760 --> 00:41:55,279
Speaker 1: or whenever I could come visit you. I'm gonna drive

706
00:41:55,320 --> 00:41:57,319
Speaker 1: from Ohio to Missouri and just me and my wife

707
00:41:57,320 --> 00:41:59,919
Speaker 1: are gonna come and just see your operation and pick

708
00:42:00,080 --> 00:42:02,480
Speaker 1: your brain a little bit, like maybe you could have

709
00:42:02,600 --> 00:42:05,719
Speaker 1: some really good insight on on me in my life

710
00:42:05,800 --> 00:42:08,359
Speaker 1: and my career. And maybe maybe you'll say, dude, don't

711
00:42:08,440 --> 00:42:11,360
Speaker 1: don't get into this business. It's too complicated. This is

712
00:42:11,600 --> 00:42:14,319
Speaker 1: this is scary. Don't do it. Or you need land,

713
00:42:14,400 --> 00:42:17,200
Speaker 1: you need ten acres, if you don't have ten acres whatever,

714
00:42:17,719 --> 00:42:19,400
Speaker 1: If you don't have a pond, if you don't have

715
00:42:19,600 --> 00:42:22,120
Speaker 1: a lake, then this is I don't know what he's

716
00:42:22,120 --> 00:42:24,920
Speaker 1: gonna say, but but what you'll do is you'll just

717
00:42:24,960 --> 00:42:27,360
Speaker 1: go and learn. Just be a sponge for a few hours.

718
00:42:28,120 --> 00:42:30,120
Speaker 1: It's not gonna take all day. Just drive down there,

719
00:42:30,680 --> 00:42:33,360
Speaker 1: you guys, get a hotel, enjoy the road trip, you

720
00:42:33,440 --> 00:42:37,040
Speaker 1: and your wife on a Sunday whatever, and go see

721
00:42:37,080 --> 00:42:39,840
Speaker 1: them at Wo Nelly's kennel. And I say that because

722
00:42:39,840 --> 00:42:41,480
Speaker 1: I know them and I've gotten a dog from them,

723
00:42:41,560 --> 00:42:43,560
Speaker 1: and but there's there's there's other ones too. I just

724
00:42:43,640 --> 00:42:45,839
Speaker 1: happen to know that they're really good, and they're really

725
00:42:45,880 --> 00:42:48,280
Speaker 1: good what they do, and they love dogs. They're very passionate.

726
00:42:48,600 --> 00:42:50,319
Speaker 1: So I would find somebody like that and I would

727
00:42:50,360 --> 00:42:52,879
Speaker 1: just soak it up, say this, this is my deal.

728
00:42:53,280 --> 00:42:57,160
Speaker 1: What do you think And if they say, yeah, do it,

729
00:42:57,680 --> 00:43:01,440
Speaker 1: then they'll say, here's your next step. Your next step

730
00:43:01,680 --> 00:43:06,160
Speaker 1: is get this, save for this. And you'll go, okay,

731
00:43:06,200 --> 00:43:08,600
Speaker 1: don't I don't have that much money, so now I

732
00:43:08,719 --> 00:43:11,920
Speaker 1: have a goal to save. All the time, you're not

733
00:43:12,520 --> 00:43:16,239
Speaker 1: quitting your electrician job. You're not quitting it, so you're

734
00:43:16,239 --> 00:43:19,760
Speaker 1: still making the money. But on the side, you're researching

735
00:43:20,239 --> 00:43:21,919
Speaker 1: and you're kind of putting your toe in the water

736
00:43:22,040 --> 00:43:24,560
Speaker 1: of what it might be like to be this breeder.

737
00:43:25,640 --> 00:43:28,040
Speaker 1: And you just take slow steps and then and you

738
00:43:29,400 --> 00:43:32,160
Speaker 1: did you mention God? I have to look, I don't

739
00:43:32,160 --> 00:43:33,960
Speaker 1: know if you said, God, yeah you did? You did?

740
00:43:34,080 --> 00:43:36,279
Speaker 1: You did? You did? Said? I go to church? Reado okay.

741
00:43:36,320 --> 00:43:39,400
Speaker 1: So so then at in the meantime, you're just passionately praying.

742
00:43:39,440 --> 00:43:42,960
Speaker 1: You're like, God, God, did you did you put this passion?

743
00:43:43,160 --> 00:43:45,560
Speaker 1: You gave me this passion for German short hairs? And

744
00:43:46,480 --> 00:43:49,120
Speaker 1: and I feel that God so so. God, if this

745
00:43:49,280 --> 00:43:51,279
Speaker 1: is something you need me to do, you open this door,

746
00:43:51,360 --> 00:43:53,560
Speaker 1: you open the next door, and I'll walk through it.

747
00:43:53,880 --> 00:43:55,560
Speaker 1: If it's not something I need to do, close that

748
00:43:55,640 --> 00:43:57,920
Speaker 1: door right in my face. Just slam the door right

749
00:43:57,920 --> 00:43:59,120
Speaker 1: in my face. Because I don't want to. I don't

750
00:43:59,120 --> 00:44:01,719
Speaker 1: want to do anything out of your will. So I'm

751
00:44:01,719 --> 00:44:04,400
Speaker 1: gonna I'm gonna walk towards it. This is my this

752
00:44:04,600 --> 00:44:07,080
Speaker 1: is what I think is my dream. I'm gonna walk

753
00:44:07,239 --> 00:44:10,839
Speaker 1: towards it. And then God close the door. If I'm

754
00:44:10,880 --> 00:44:14,040
Speaker 1: not supposed to go that way, make a canyon between

755
00:44:14,120 --> 00:44:17,160
Speaker 1: me and that next space I'm walking to right. But

756
00:44:17,320 --> 00:44:18,840
Speaker 1: in the meantime, I'm gonna take a step. I'm not

757
00:44:18,840 --> 00:44:21,040
Speaker 1: gonna do anything crazy. I'm not gonna quit my job.

758
00:44:21,600 --> 00:44:24,000
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna go buy twenty five dogs and put

759
00:44:24,040 --> 00:44:27,360
Speaker 1: them in my backyard and start building fences. I'm gonna

760
00:44:27,360 --> 00:44:31,239
Speaker 1: take it slow. I'm gonna aim low, and i'm gonna go.

761
00:44:31,400 --> 00:44:32,920
Speaker 1: And first thing I'm gonna do is take a trip

762
00:44:32,960 --> 00:44:36,080
Speaker 1: to woe nell Is Kennel. Ask him everything you're gonna know,

763
00:44:36,200 --> 00:44:38,120
Speaker 1: so much like on that trip back from Missouri, I

764
00:44:38,200 --> 00:44:41,239
Speaker 1: hope you do it. On that trip back, you are

765
00:44:41,320 --> 00:44:44,440
Speaker 1: gonna be. You're gonna have so much more knowledge than

766
00:44:44,480 --> 00:44:47,000
Speaker 1: you have today. You're gonna be like, Man, I know

767
00:44:47,080 --> 00:44:50,359
Speaker 1: a ton now, I know so much more just from

768
00:44:50,440 --> 00:44:54,160
Speaker 1: taking this trip. Guys, apply this kind of logic with

769
00:44:54,320 --> 00:44:57,120
Speaker 1: anything you're doing. I know I've said a similar story

770
00:44:57,160 --> 00:45:00,239
Speaker 1: with the police academy. I've said last week, I said

771
00:45:00,280 --> 00:45:03,880
Speaker 1: something with criminal justice. I've said many similar things with

772
00:45:03,960 --> 00:45:09,520
Speaker 1: the music business. So these are just practical, logical, slow,

773
00:45:09,840 --> 00:45:14,160
Speaker 1: aiming low steps to take. Next, the only way to

774
00:45:14,239 --> 00:45:19,799
Speaker 1: eat an elephant is one bite at a time. Let's

775
00:45:19,880 --> 00:45:27,200
Speaker 1: hit another one. Okay, subject line says, should I do it? Hey? Granger?

776
00:45:27,280 --> 00:45:30,120
Speaker 1: Started listening to your podcast. I've been wanting to go

777
00:45:30,239 --> 00:45:33,040
Speaker 1: into to the Marine Corps since I was seven. I'm

778
00:45:33,120 --> 00:45:37,080
Speaker 1: now twelve, man, twelve years old listening to podcast. Man,

779
00:45:37,920 --> 00:45:41,279
Speaker 1: hat's off to you, brother. The military runs through our

780
00:45:41,400 --> 00:45:44,800
Speaker 1: family blood. My great grandpa was in the Marine Corps

781
00:45:44,960 --> 00:45:48,840
Speaker 1: and my grandpa was in the Okay, my great grandpa

782
00:45:49,000 --> 00:45:50,600
Speaker 1: was in the Marine Corps and my grandpa was in

783
00:45:50,640 --> 00:45:52,600
Speaker 1: the Marine Corps, and my cousin just got out of

784
00:45:52,640 --> 00:45:55,279
Speaker 1: the Army. I've been wondering if I should go to

785
00:45:55,440 --> 00:45:58,960
Speaker 1: the military because I believe this five years will fly by,

786
00:45:59,719 --> 00:46:02,040
Speaker 1: and I don't know if I should keep if I

787
00:46:02,200 --> 00:46:07,200
Speaker 1: should keep my promise with my grandpa. I want to

788
00:46:07,320 --> 00:46:09,280
Speaker 1: have your opinion because I don't know if I should

789
00:46:09,280 --> 00:46:14,160
Speaker 1: follow through. I don't know what I would do after

790
00:46:14,280 --> 00:46:16,400
Speaker 1: the military, or if I was able to get a

791
00:46:16,480 --> 00:46:22,680
Speaker 1: job after and that really scares me. Sincerely, Thomas Williams, Thomas, Buddy,

792
00:46:22,760 --> 00:46:27,640
Speaker 1: thank you for emailing me. Bro. It's crazy. My daughter's

793
00:46:27,680 --> 00:46:31,160
Speaker 1: eleven and you are already talking about the rest of

794
00:46:31,239 --> 00:46:35,800
Speaker 1: your life and you're twelve. Dude, this is super, super easy.

795
00:46:36,960 --> 00:46:39,080
Speaker 1: You say these next five years are going to fly by.

796
00:46:40,160 --> 00:46:44,120
Speaker 1: Don't think of it that way because you're twelve and

797
00:46:45,040 --> 00:46:49,480
Speaker 1: the next five years toil you're seventeen are so important.

798
00:46:49,800 --> 00:46:54,680
Speaker 1: To keep your eyes open and to live it for today,

799
00:46:55,040 --> 00:46:58,480
Speaker 1: to live in this moment. It's not time. Twelve is

800
00:46:58,640 --> 00:47:02,400
Speaker 1: not the age to be playing for retirement. And essentially

801
00:47:02,440 --> 00:47:04,480
Speaker 1: you're saying, not only do you want to know if

802
00:47:04,520 --> 00:47:06,080
Speaker 1: you're going to join the Marine Corps, but you want

803
00:47:06,160 --> 00:47:08,120
Speaker 1: to know what kind of job you're gonna get after

804
00:47:08,200 --> 00:47:11,120
Speaker 1: the Marine Corps and you're twelve. You can't do that, Bro,

805
00:47:11,920 --> 00:47:13,760
Speaker 1: you can't do that. You need to be thinking about

806
00:47:14,239 --> 00:47:17,320
Speaker 1: your next class or the next sport you're gonna be planned.

807
00:47:17,840 --> 00:47:21,239
Speaker 1: If you love the military, cool, I think there's you

808
00:47:21,320 --> 00:47:26,480
Speaker 1: should join ROTC, join some kind of local ROTC and

809
00:47:26,640 --> 00:47:29,279
Speaker 1: go through drills and go through training, and go through

810
00:47:29,440 --> 00:47:33,960
Speaker 1: marching and go through cleaning rifles. And I would say

811
00:47:33,960 --> 00:47:37,040
Speaker 1: you could start upping your physical training, like you could

812
00:47:37,040 --> 00:47:38,840
Speaker 1: start working on your push ups and pull ups and

813
00:47:39,040 --> 00:47:41,600
Speaker 1: sit ups, and you could start working on your long

814
00:47:41,680 --> 00:47:45,120
Speaker 1: distance running, like hey, I'm I'm gonna run a half

815
00:47:45,200 --> 00:47:48,640
Speaker 1: a mile every morning around the neighborhood. Like that's a

816
00:47:48,719 --> 00:47:51,600
Speaker 1: great way to start. But you're not saying I have

817
00:47:51,840 --> 00:47:54,200
Speaker 1: to join the Marine Corps in five years. I have

818
00:47:54,280 --> 00:47:55,719
Speaker 1: to be ready and then I have to be ready

819
00:47:55,760 --> 00:47:57,960
Speaker 1: for the job that comes after that. Can't disappoint grandpa,

820
00:47:58,200 --> 00:48:00,440
Speaker 1: can't disappoint great grandpa. Like that's which is not a

821
00:48:00,520 --> 00:48:03,080
Speaker 1: way for a twelve year old to live. Here's how

822
00:48:03,160 --> 00:48:06,480
Speaker 1: easy it is. You say, I love the Marines. It's

823
00:48:06,520 --> 00:48:09,719
Speaker 1: in my family's blood, God willing. I'll be one two

824
00:48:10,600 --> 00:48:14,680
Speaker 1: and right now I'm in junior high or middle school whatever,

825
00:48:15,440 --> 00:48:18,120
Speaker 1: And what are you do your sixth grade your sixth

826
00:48:18,160 --> 00:48:21,400
Speaker 1: grade elementary school? And you just you go out and

827
00:48:21,440 --> 00:48:24,800
Speaker 1: you go for runs and you wear green and you

828
00:48:24,920 --> 00:48:27,920
Speaker 1: feel cool about it. But dude, so much can change.

829
00:48:29,000 --> 00:48:33,279
Speaker 1: There's nothing that needs to be decided right now. Bro Nothing. Okay.

830
00:48:33,719 --> 00:48:35,840
Speaker 1: The most important thing you could do is be twelve.

831
00:48:37,560 --> 00:48:40,440
Speaker 1: She could be twelve. You know what you can do too,

832
00:48:41,360 --> 00:48:47,200
Speaker 1: Join a Join a contact sport team, talking soccer, talking wrestling,

833
00:48:47,880 --> 00:48:54,759
Speaker 1: talking basketball, football, hockey, sand, volleyball. I don't know what

834
00:48:54,880 --> 00:49:00,640
Speaker 1: am I missing? Tons of other things. Rugby Texas, we

835
00:49:00,760 --> 00:49:04,239
Speaker 1: only know, we only know football. But yeah, join a

836
00:49:04,360 --> 00:49:09,920
Speaker 1: contact sport because that builds camaraderie and teamwork. That will

837
00:49:10,760 --> 00:49:13,680
Speaker 1: definitely prepare you for your next steps in the Marine Corps.

838
00:49:13,760 --> 00:49:16,120
Speaker 1: For boot camp. If you come into boot camp and

839
00:49:16,160 --> 00:49:19,480
Speaker 1: you've never had camaraderie, you've never had competition, you've never

840
00:49:19,560 --> 00:49:23,439
Speaker 1: had adversity, which all of those sports will help grow

841
00:49:23,800 --> 00:49:26,960
Speaker 1: in you. If you've never had that, boot camp's gonna

842
00:49:26,960 --> 00:49:29,680
Speaker 1: be a lot tougher. It's gonna be a lot tougher transition.

843
00:49:29,880 --> 00:49:33,240
Speaker 1: So take this passion. You having a lot, bro Thomas.

844
00:49:33,320 --> 00:49:35,560
Speaker 1: I love that you have passion, but put it into

845
00:49:35,880 --> 00:49:38,759
Speaker 1: put it into soccer or rugby or football. Put it

846
00:49:38,800 --> 00:49:42,120
Speaker 1: into that right now and in the meantime, you could

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