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Speaker 1: Hey, hey, Hey, we're back. We're black and Brown. Hey Mandy,

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Speaker 1: Hey Tiff, Yeah, how was your day?

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Speaker 2: My day was long. I had to get up at

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Speaker 2: three am to catch a flight. Well I didn't have

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Speaker 2: to get up at three, but you know when you

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Speaker 2: have like the early flight and then your anxiety wakes

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Speaker 2: you up at three and you're like, why anxiety?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, did you pack in the morning or did you

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Speaker 1: pack last night.

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Speaker 2: I just grabbed a few things in the morning because

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Speaker 2: I'm only staying one night just for work. Okay, shout

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Speaker 2: out to Starbucks.

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Speaker 1: I actually went by the house today and I actually

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Speaker 1: I think I picked out a child that I really like.

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Speaker 1: It's called Africa Tempesta. Oh, I know, it's well honestly,

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Speaker 1: it's it's a marble with so this is like my

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Speaker 1: accent talle in the kitchen and the master bath. It's

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Speaker 1: and I really thought it was pretty. So I'm like, yay,

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Speaker 1: because like, I'm gonna do a lot of like white

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Speaker 1: that was going to, you know, something a little fancy

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Speaker 1: for trim. So I was excited to buy the samples today,

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Speaker 2: Are you guys doing everything on your own as far

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Speaker 1: Health Well, I'm working with Rihanna. She's a designer at

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Speaker 1: Remain Homes. She and her husband. She's a designer and

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Speaker 1: and so like now it's like kind of like her part.

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Speaker 1: She's been helping me pick out, like figuring out like

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Speaker 1: what my style is and what Superman style is. And

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Speaker 1: we're getting to the park now where we're gonna, you know,

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Speaker 1: probably in like a week or so, really get down

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Speaker 1: I'm excited about that, very exciting.

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Speaker 2: I feel like this is a very long, stressful week.

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Speaker 2: It's only Tuesday, but at the end of this week

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Speaker 2: we are moving in to our house.

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Speaker 1: Oh so many changes to change. Is how do you feel?

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Speaker 2: I feel like I'm finally letting myself get excited. It's

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Speaker 2: been it's been about a month longer than we were

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Speaker 2: originally planning. Without what we'd be in before Thanksgiving, but

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Speaker 2: I'm letting myself start getting excited. I'm also getting nervous

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Speaker 2: I just don't understand.

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Speaker 1: Yikes, I have not bought anything. Oh my gosh, now

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Speaker 1: thanks for saying that. Now I have anxiety by Christmas.

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Speaker 2: You should probably buy some stuff. I don't know why

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Speaker 2: my my siblings decided this year we were going to

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Speaker 2: do presents for everybody. There's no white elephant, there's no

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Speaker 2: giving people about it. I know, but I'm going with

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Speaker 2: like books, you know, I'm trying to respect my own

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Speaker 1: I don't think we're going to do presents, but I

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Speaker 1: we're doing like my my my team and I are

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Speaker 1: doin using something called Elvester. So that's like you know,

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Speaker 1: the white elephant, where you kind of just exchange gifts.

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Speaker 1: And then my sisters and I. We use this website

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Speaker 1: The good thing about like Elvester is that because everyone

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Speaker 1: Honestly, I don't know how to do any they're planning it,

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Speaker 2: But listen at least but at a holiday party, there's

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Speaker 1: No, but the fact that you're in the yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: Not Tom, but I met you, Mandra That I mean

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Speaker 2: Oh man, I feel like my lifestyle is so out

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Speaker 2: it hasn't helped that, like work has not slowed down,

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Speaker 2: You know, summer was going to be chill, and then

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Speaker 2: because it's for my health. I just can't keep using

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Speaker 2: Like I need to be the one to put that barrier.

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Speaker 2: take out a new loan to pay for my car

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Speaker 2: through my credit union. Basically, my question is what would

432
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Speaker 2: you do with this for your situation? So her son,

433
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Speaker 2: I know, this is a lot to unpack. Her son

434
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Speaker 2: was in an accident. He's got fifteen thousand dollars from

435
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Speaker 2: the insurance company that I'm assuming he's a minor, and

436
00:21:19,880 --> 00:21:23,160
Speaker 2: so his mom wants to basically wants to get the Okay, okay,

437
00:21:23,200 --> 00:21:26,200
Speaker 2: can I use this money for me, even though technically

438
00:21:26,520 --> 00:21:28,640
Speaker 2: it should be his since he was involved in the accident.

439
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Speaker 2: So she's either going to take ten k to pay

440
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Speaker 2: down her car, oh sorry, ten k to pay down

441
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Speaker 2: her car and buy a new one and only say

442
00:21:36,840 --> 00:21:39,320
Speaker 2: five K for her son, or flip it and save

443
00:21:39,400 --> 00:21:41,720
Speaker 2: ten k for her son and then use five K

444
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Speaker 2: to pay out her credit card debt and then take

445
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Speaker 2: out a new loan to get a carricky.

446
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Speaker 1: I know it is here. Well, I'll say this, I

447
00:21:52,920 --> 00:21:56,520
Speaker 1: don't know how old her son is. That you know, like,

448
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Speaker 1: your car is not like some It's not like you're

449
00:22:01,200 --> 00:22:03,240
Speaker 1: using it for like shenanigans, Like you're like I want

450
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Speaker 1: to go on vacation. You know that, like your cars.

451
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Speaker 1: Assume I'm assuming it's how you get to work, which

452
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Speaker 1: is how you pay your bills, and how you put

453
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Speaker 1: food on the table. So you know, I'm not opposed

454
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Speaker 1: to using some of the money to make sure that

455
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Speaker 1: you can ensure that you can continue to provide for

456
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Speaker 1: your son. You know, I don't you know, if possible,

457
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Speaker 1: I would, I wouldn't want to use all of it,

458
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Speaker 1: which is what you suggested, And I don't know, I

459
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Speaker 1: probably wouldn't feel comfortable putting it toward my credit card

460
00:22:33,520 --> 00:22:35,080
Speaker 1: debt because I'd be like, well, these are my choices

461
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Speaker 1: that I've made. Like I feel like, like I said, a car,

462
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Speaker 1: especially in certain states, it really is a necessity. This

463
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Speaker 1: is not a you know, this is not a luxury,

464
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Speaker 1: Like I have to have a car to go to work,

465
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Speaker 1: So I feel like I lean more toward that, although

466
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Speaker 1: it's more money toward what you and it's do you

467
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Speaker 1: have to put down ten like what can you afford?

468
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Speaker 1: You know?

469
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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's true. She says, you use ten thousand dollars

470
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Speaker 2: or the money to put it down payment on a

471
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Speaker 2: used vehicle, so my note would be payoff quickly and easily.

472
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Speaker 2: I mean, you want to use vehicle that's good and reliable,

473
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Speaker 2: because she has a son tea on a used car.

474
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Speaker 2: You know that's not for a good used car.

475
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Speaker 1: Yeah.

476
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Speaker 2: We got a used car that was well one year

477
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Speaker 2: pre owned that was more than that, So I mean

478
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Speaker 2: it's not I don't think it's out it's outrageous to

479
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Speaker 2: spend a reliable car.

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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, because mine was. I think it was two years.

481
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Speaker 1: Like you know, I think my car was a year

482
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Speaker 1: too old and it was twenty two thousand dollars, So

483
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Speaker 1: you're right, you put down ten k. You're thinking like

484
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Speaker 1: if a car is what ten cars fifteen to twenty

485
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Speaker 1: thousand dollars for a used car that's still really reliable,

486
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Speaker 1: maybe only a year two old, maybe certified pre owned.

487
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Speaker 1: Let's just say twenty thousand. You put down ten, you

488
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Speaker 1: pay ten off over the next three years, So that's

489
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Speaker 1: not crazy. I feel like I leave more to because

490
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Speaker 1: how do you feel about many about using the money

491
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Speaker 1: to pay off credit card debt.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I know, logically, if the credit card debt

493
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Speaker 2: has a higher interest rate than her alone would be,

494
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Speaker 2: then it would make sense to pay it off first.

495
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Speaker 2: But I mean I see what you're saying, like, if

496
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Speaker 2: it's his credit card debt, I feel like getting a

497
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Speaker 2: new car, you could at least say, well, this will

498
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Speaker 2: benefit my son and my family and my household for

499
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Speaker 2: time to come. And she doesn't say she has that

500
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Speaker 2: much credit card debt. She seems like she has. She

501
00:24:19,760 --> 00:24:21,480
Speaker 2: says a little bit of credit card debt. That's not

502
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Speaker 2: very much. So if you put ten k, get a

503
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Speaker 2: reliable car, and then like you say, five thousand and

504
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Speaker 2: savings for your son, and then you make a plan

505
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Speaker 2: to pay off the rest of your credit card debt

506
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Speaker 2: and don't you know, promise not to dip into that

507
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Speaker 2: five thousand dollars you've saved for him, then I think

508
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Speaker 2: that's two birds with one stone. But at the end

509
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Speaker 2: of the day, it's what you live with and what

510
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Speaker 2: you're happy with.

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Speaker 1: M hm. And as long as like you said, like

512
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Speaker 1: I think many and are on the same page, is

513
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Speaker 1: that that the money should benefit your son, even if indirectly,

514
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Speaker 1: because benefiting you is a mom, especially a mom of

515
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Speaker 1: a of a child that's a mine, then like you know,

516
00:25:01,600 --> 00:25:05,160
Speaker 1: making sure that you and your household are are okay,

517
00:25:05,600 --> 00:25:08,520
Speaker 1: it's what's it's what's important. And so just making a

518
00:25:08,600 --> 00:25:10,680
Speaker 1: choice that that does that, you know.

519
00:25:11,520 --> 00:25:16,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, because you don't want to get into car debt either.

520
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Speaker 2: It's a really interesting question, it is. I like this

521
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Speaker 2: question because it's one of the more challenging ones that

522
00:25:22,040 --> 00:25:23,760
Speaker 2: we've had, and it's not so black and white, and

523
00:25:23,760 --> 00:25:26,240
Speaker 2: there's a lot of different ways you could go. So

524
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Speaker 2: thanks for asking it. I don't know that there's a

525
00:25:28,359 --> 00:25:31,600
Speaker 2: perfect answer. Yeah, there's so many, and only you know

526
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Speaker 2: your situation. I feel like that's the kind of that's

527
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Speaker 2: the kind of question. I feel like my mom and

528
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Speaker 2: my dad had to answer a lot when I was

529
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Speaker 2: growing up, how to give and take? And really it's

530
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Speaker 2: it's what would you feel rat proud telling your son

531
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Speaker 2: that you did Yeah, when he's older, think of it

532
00:25:48,040 --> 00:25:51,639
Speaker 2: that way. I think you could totally justify we needed

533
00:25:51,640 --> 00:25:53,639
Speaker 2: a car for the for the house and for our family,

534
00:25:53,960 --> 00:25:56,040
Speaker 2: and I still saved you this amount and your savings

535
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Speaker 2: and that's that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I agree.

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Speaker 2: Thank you for your challenging an interesting question. Amy. Again,

538
00:26:04,359 --> 00:26:06,639
Speaker 2: you can hit us up at Brianimission podcast dot com

539
00:26:06,640 --> 00:26:07,240
Speaker 2: with your quest.

540
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Speaker 1: Booze then break I have. I think I'm wanna go.

541
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Speaker 1: I think I want to go first because of mine

542
00:26:31,600 --> 00:26:34,159
Speaker 1: is a little bit sad, so I'm like I just

543
00:26:34,160 --> 00:26:36,440
Speaker 1: want to well, well not sad for me, but sad

544
00:26:36,480 --> 00:26:39,720
Speaker 1: for this young girl. You know, the young woman, Centoya Brown.

545
00:26:40,680 --> 00:26:44,399
Speaker 1: You know she killed that that uh I think she

546
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Speaker 1: was like, uh fifteen or sixteen and she killed. She

547
00:26:48,840 --> 00:26:54,520
Speaker 1: was a victim of sex trafficking and she killed the

548
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Speaker 1: uh I think it was like forty three year old

549
00:26:56,359 --> 00:27:02,600
Speaker 1: man and because after he solicited her for sex. Yeah,

550
00:27:02,600 --> 00:27:05,560
Speaker 1: he was forty three, she was she was sixteen, and

551
00:27:05,600 --> 00:27:09,080
Speaker 1: she said he was it was he She thought he

552
00:27:09,119 --> 00:27:11,880
Speaker 1: was reaching under his bed to get a gun. Meanwhile,

553
00:27:11,920 --> 00:27:15,000
Speaker 1: after he had sex with her as a minor and

554
00:27:15,040 --> 00:27:17,359
Speaker 1: she had been you know, it wasn't you know, a choice,

555
00:27:17,400 --> 00:27:21,080
Speaker 1: she had been traffic and so she got She's been

556
00:27:21,080 --> 00:27:26,000
Speaker 1: in jail since that time. And now in Tennessee, she

557
00:27:26,640 --> 00:27:29,359
Speaker 1: they're saying she's going to have to serve out fifty

558
00:27:29,400 --> 00:27:32,400
Speaker 1: one years in prison before she's eligible for parole. Isn't

559
00:27:32,400 --> 00:27:37,520
Speaker 1: that crazy? And it is? And so that's just my

560
00:27:37,600 --> 00:27:42,280
Speaker 1: break because it's just this is not and it was

561
00:27:42,920 --> 00:27:48,200
Speaker 1: unanimous the decision, and I'm just like that just seems

562
00:27:48,320 --> 00:27:51,920
Speaker 1: so a forty three year old man can could basically

563
00:27:52,000 --> 00:27:55,000
Speaker 1: rape because you can't consent at sixteen in the United

564
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Speaker 1: States of America, can basically rape a child that has

565
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Speaker 1: been traffic. So I'm assuming if she's sixteen and this

566
00:28:03,960 --> 00:28:06,480
Speaker 1: is happening a long I can't imagine how long she's

567
00:28:06,520 --> 00:28:11,399
Speaker 1: been in this industry and you know, being afraid for

568
00:28:11,440 --> 00:28:15,280
Speaker 1: her life and killing someone who raped her basically, I

569
00:28:15,359 --> 00:28:17,320
Speaker 1: just I just don't even know what that means, you

570
00:28:17,359 --> 00:28:19,800
Speaker 1: know what I mean? Yeah? And I just feel like

571
00:28:20,040 --> 00:28:21,920
Speaker 1: more of us need to say things about it, like

572
00:28:21,920 --> 00:28:26,680
Speaker 1: remember that young boy who who had influenza. Isn't that

573
00:28:26,720 --> 00:28:31,040
Speaker 1: so crazy? You remember? And it was he like I

574
00:28:31,040 --> 00:28:33,480
Speaker 1: guess he took his car and he I don't, I don't,

575
00:28:33,480 --> 00:28:35,080
Speaker 1: I can't remember the crime he can be but basically

576
00:28:35,160 --> 00:28:36,879
Speaker 1: took someone's life and they said, oh he had influenza.

577
00:28:37,119 --> 00:28:38,920
Speaker 1: He has so much influence that he didn't even know

578
00:28:38,960 --> 00:28:40,880
Speaker 1: what he was doing. He didn't get like any time.

579
00:28:41,240 --> 00:28:43,960
Speaker 1: Or the young man that raped an intoxicated woman she

580
00:28:44,080 --> 00:28:48,160
Speaker 1: was unconscious. He got six months. I just I don't know.

581
00:28:48,160 --> 00:28:49,800
Speaker 1: I just don't even I don't, I don't even know,

582
00:28:49,840 --> 00:28:50,400
Speaker 1: you know what I mean?

583
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Speaker 2: Like what, yeah, Like if she weren't a woman of color,

584
00:28:53,960 --> 00:28:55,760
Speaker 2: do you think it would have been the same outcome?

585
00:28:56,320 --> 00:28:59,680
Speaker 1: Of course not. And imagine she was a woman of

586
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Speaker 1: color and the man she killed, because I think the

587
00:29:01,720 --> 00:29:03,880
Speaker 1: man she killed was white and the man she killed

588
00:29:03,960 --> 00:29:06,080
Speaker 1: was black. If she was white and the man she

589
00:29:06,160 --> 00:29:07,960
Speaker 1: kill was black, there, first of all, there wouldn't have

590
00:29:08,000 --> 00:29:11,680
Speaker 1: been there wouldn't have been any of this. And it's

591
00:29:11,720 --> 00:29:16,080
Speaker 1: a shame because it's like, what, this girl has never

592
00:29:16,160 --> 00:29:20,560
Speaker 1: caught a break, like, you know, being sex traffic at sixteen,

593
00:29:20,640 --> 00:29:24,720
Speaker 1: Lord only knows when it started, and yeah for it

594
00:29:24,800 --> 00:29:26,680
Speaker 1: to be she's not going to be eligible for parole

595
00:29:26,760 --> 00:29:29,080
Speaker 1: until she's sixty nine years old, Like what does that

596
00:29:29,120 --> 00:29:31,320
Speaker 1: even mean? This is not someone who was a danger

597
00:29:31,400 --> 00:29:33,760
Speaker 1: to society. This is someone who is society has been

598
00:29:33,760 --> 00:29:37,240
Speaker 1: a danger to her, you know. Yeah, so that's my boost,

599
00:29:37,280 --> 00:29:40,480
Speaker 1: but that's my break. It's just like just it's hard

600
00:29:40,480 --> 00:29:42,480
Speaker 1: when those these types of things happen because you're like, well,

601
00:29:42,520 --> 00:29:45,560
Speaker 1: what do you do do you know, besides bring attention

602
00:29:45,640 --> 00:29:48,959
Speaker 1: to her? What can be done? Because this just seems

603
00:29:49,000 --> 00:29:52,320
Speaker 1: like how is this okay? That this young girl should

604
00:29:52,360 --> 00:29:55,000
Speaker 1: have suffered all of this time and then to have

605
00:29:55,160 --> 00:29:58,400
Speaker 1: to suffer even more for her lifetime, like a full lifetime,

606
00:29:58,720 --> 00:29:59,560
Speaker 1: a full lifetime.

607
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Speaker 2: It just well, I was gonna take a brown boost

608
00:30:03,280 --> 00:30:06,520
Speaker 2: from office holiday parties. But I feel kind of awkward

609
00:30:06,560 --> 00:30:11,120
Speaker 2: now you're talking about the justice system.

610
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Speaker 1: It's always good. I mean sometimes I usually take a boost,

611
00:30:14,560 --> 00:30:16,200
Speaker 1: so it's good. Let's end with a boost.

612
00:30:18,320 --> 00:30:20,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, my office holiday party. So we are our team

613
00:30:20,880 --> 00:30:22,719
Speaker 2: is growing, and I'm very very excited that we're doing

614
00:30:22,760 --> 00:30:25,840
Speaker 2: it like a little office party this Friday. And it

615
00:30:25,880 --> 00:30:27,479
Speaker 2: would be a good Like I've been talking about how

616
00:30:27,480 --> 00:30:29,320
Speaker 2: hard we've been working, and I feel like everyone just

617
00:30:29,360 --> 00:30:31,880
Speaker 2: deserves a night to kick back and have fun and

618
00:30:31,960 --> 00:30:34,680
Speaker 2: have all the margarita's. We're going to a Mexican restaurant.

619
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Speaker 1: We're going to do a digital one. So we did

620
00:30:36,800 --> 00:30:39,840
Speaker 1: this thing like my team, like we used Elvester that

621
00:30:39,880 --> 00:30:42,080
Speaker 1: I mentioned earlier, and so we're we're going to have

622
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Speaker 1: a digital office party. I'm excited to see how it's

623
00:30:45,240 --> 00:30:45,680
Speaker 1: gonna go.

624
00:30:46,640 --> 00:30:48,400
Speaker 2: I don know how that goes because I feel awkward

625
00:30:48,400 --> 00:30:50,840
Speaker 2: because we have part of our team is remote, and

626
00:30:50,880 --> 00:30:52,840
Speaker 2: I'm like, all right, maybe you don't post in the

627
00:30:52,880 --> 00:30:54,600
Speaker 2: slack how much fun we're having.

628
00:30:56,320 --> 00:30:57,560
Speaker 1: Oh you guys use slack too?

629
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Speaker 2: Oh dad who doesn't use slack and regard right?

630
00:31:01,280 --> 00:31:06,400
Speaker 1: I love slack. I hope that you think slack is

631
00:31:06,440 --> 00:31:08,080
Speaker 1: not public it, right. I hope they go public slack

632
00:31:08,120 --> 00:31:08,760
Speaker 1: and buy their stock.

633
00:31:09,840 --> 00:31:13,080
Speaker 2: I am done buying stock. Listen, I've all the stocks

634
00:31:13,120 --> 00:31:15,880
Speaker 2: I chose this summer are just like crash and burned.

635
00:31:16,360 --> 00:31:18,200
Speaker 2: And I'm like, I mean, I cut my losses. I

636
00:31:18,200 --> 00:31:19,520
Speaker 2: didn't put that much in. But I'm like, let me

637
00:31:19,560 --> 00:31:21,480
Speaker 2: just stick to index funds. I'm done. I don't have

638
00:31:21,520 --> 00:31:24,280
Speaker 2: the times for a shout out to anyone who has

639
00:31:24,280 --> 00:31:27,600
Speaker 2: the patience and picks good stocks. But I think I'm

640
00:31:27,600 --> 00:31:31,080
Speaker 2: gonna just stick to my my target date fund. That's fine.

641
00:31:31,560 --> 00:31:34,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, No, I'm gonna I'm starting to get into index

642
00:31:34,360 --> 00:31:36,280
Speaker 1: funds a little bit more, but I still like to

643
00:31:36,280 --> 00:31:38,000
Speaker 1: play with stocks just for fun. Like like you said, it's

644
00:31:38,040 --> 00:31:40,440
Speaker 1: kind of like my the money is money.

645
00:31:40,840 --> 00:31:43,240
Speaker 2: I don't like it. I want to play if I win.

646
00:31:47,520 --> 00:31:51,040
Speaker 1: Oh well, it's been a good show.

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Speaker 2: This is your warning a week and a half till Christmas.

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Speaker 1: You guys, Yes, if you have not ordered your things

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Speaker 1: from wherever you're ordering them from, you might want to do.

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Speaker 2: This week just saying Amazon Prime.

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Speaker 1: Yes for real. I'm actually like, I'm gonna take a

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Speaker 1: day and be like, this is my Christmas shopping day.

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Speaker 1: Online and sometimes I'll go like to the stores, but

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Speaker 1: like only during the day, like like a Tuesday at too,

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Speaker 1: when everyone's at work.

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Speaker 2: I can't go to stores because I buy stuff for myself.

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Speaker 2: That's my That's how I try and prevent myself from

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Speaker 2: making bad decisions. Just don't put yourself in a situation

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Speaker 2: where you make bad decisions like don't go to peer

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Speaker 2: one or home goods by yourself.

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Speaker 1: Yes, those stores now are so addictive now right, yes

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Speaker 1: they are.

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Speaker 2: Well, have a good rest of your week. And next

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Speaker 2: week we will be the last week before Christmas, and

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Speaker 2: we'll be taking a couple of weeks off, right, sure,

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Speaker 2: little brown ambition break, our little holiday break.

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Speaker 1: Okay, okay, good at least Navi that not yet six