1 00:00:18,880 --> 00:00:22,320 Speaker 1: Hello, everyone, it's your big sister Cheeky's and you've reached 2 00:00:22,320 --> 00:00:26,320 Speaker 1: my personal voicemailbox for the Dear Cheekys podcast. I'm here 3 00:00:26,360 --> 00:00:28,560 Speaker 1: to give you a device on anything and everything you 4 00:00:28,680 --> 00:00:31,160 Speaker 1: need help with. Whether you're going through a breakup or 5 00:00:31,200 --> 00:00:33,640 Speaker 1: having issues with your family, or maybe you have a 6 00:00:33,720 --> 00:00:36,360 Speaker 1: question about my personal life. Whatever the case is, I 7 00:00:36,400 --> 00:00:39,360 Speaker 1: want to hear from you. Remember these are my thoughts 8 00:00:39,360 --> 00:00:41,640 Speaker 1: in my opinions, and if you're suffering from a serious 9 00:00:41,680 --> 00:00:45,560 Speaker 1: issue or hardship, you should seek help from a qualified professional. 10 00:00:45,960 --> 00:00:48,800 Speaker 1: All right, now, go ahead and leave your message at 11 00:00:48,800 --> 00:00:49,560 Speaker 1: the sound of the beeB. 12 00:00:51,440 --> 00:00:55,240 Speaker 2: Hey Cheekys, First, thank you so much for creating a 13 00:00:55,320 --> 00:00:58,720 Speaker 2: space where people can be vulnerable and feel seen. My 14 00:00:58,880 --> 00:01:02,320 Speaker 2: question is kind of emotional. I'm a first generation athena 15 00:01:02,880 --> 00:01:04,600 Speaker 2: first in my family to go to college here in 16 00:01:04,640 --> 00:01:07,520 Speaker 2: the US, as my parents are both from Mexico, and 17 00:01:07,560 --> 00:01:10,320 Speaker 2: I'm about to graduate with my master's degree at twenty 18 00:01:10,360 --> 00:01:13,440 Speaker 2: three years old. It feels like a really big accomplishment, 19 00:01:13,560 --> 00:01:17,039 Speaker 2: especially because I did celebrate my bachelor's degree and I've 20 00:01:17,080 --> 00:01:20,360 Speaker 2: been planning a small graduation party, like, nothing too big, 21 00:01:20,520 --> 00:01:24,600 Speaker 2: just homemade food, decorations from Babilabby and like I really 22 00:01:24,600 --> 00:01:26,640 Speaker 2: wanted to run things like a mechanical bool or a 23 00:01:26,680 --> 00:01:29,080 Speaker 2: photo with a girl. Tell me why they're so expensive 24 00:01:30,120 --> 00:01:32,800 Speaker 2: and right now, like when he's like a bit tight 25 00:01:32,840 --> 00:01:35,720 Speaker 2: and my parents are helping me with food and they 26 00:01:35,840 --> 00:01:38,240 Speaker 2: never complain like about helping me. They're always willing to help. 27 00:01:38,280 --> 00:01:41,720 Speaker 2: But I just feel really guilty, Like my mom has 28 00:01:41,760 --> 00:01:45,200 Speaker 2: to be a psoriasis and she needs expensive medication and 29 00:01:45,360 --> 00:01:47,680 Speaker 2: her she doesn't have a car anymore, and I don't 30 00:01:47,720 --> 00:01:50,400 Speaker 2: even have a car myself. Like I try to save 31 00:01:50,440 --> 00:01:52,240 Speaker 2: and everything, but it's just so hard when I know 32 00:01:52,320 --> 00:01:53,720 Speaker 2: my parents need it and they don't want to ever 33 00:01:53,760 --> 00:01:56,280 Speaker 2: take my buddy, but I just like come randomly home 34 00:01:56,320 --> 00:01:58,080 Speaker 2: with groceries or I try to do my best to 35 00:01:58,080 --> 00:02:01,560 Speaker 2: help them. I feel selfish throwing a party when I 36 00:02:01,560 --> 00:02:04,440 Speaker 2: know that money could go towards like my mom's health 37 00:02:04,560 --> 00:02:06,800 Speaker 2: or a car for her, or even for me a 38 00:02:06,880 --> 00:02:09,720 Speaker 2: cheap one, just anything. And I guess my question is like, 39 00:02:09,919 --> 00:02:12,600 Speaker 2: am I wrong for wanting to celebrate this mouthstone when 40 00:02:12,639 --> 00:02:14,680 Speaker 2: I know there's more urgent needs in my family? 41 00:02:16,200 --> 00:02:20,280 Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, Gabriela, you sound like such an awesome girl, 42 00:02:20,360 --> 00:02:22,160 Speaker 1: someone I want to hang out with. And thank you 43 00:02:22,200 --> 00:02:26,079 Speaker 1: so much for your comment about this space, because that's 44 00:02:26,120 --> 00:02:28,560 Speaker 1: exactly what we wanted to create with your cheekys is 45 00:02:28,560 --> 00:02:30,440 Speaker 1: give you guys a space where you guys can express 46 00:02:30,480 --> 00:02:33,240 Speaker 1: yourselves and be vulnerable. So that makes me so happy. 47 00:02:33,280 --> 00:02:36,960 Speaker 1: That's music to my ears. Okay, so you're twenty three girl, 48 00:02:37,080 --> 00:02:41,040 Speaker 1: you're a Latina for generation, and you're graduating with your 49 00:02:41,200 --> 00:02:45,359 Speaker 1: master's degree. You guys, you know how big I am 50 00:02:46,080 --> 00:02:50,520 Speaker 1: on education. I think it's again something that no one 51 00:02:50,680 --> 00:02:53,480 Speaker 1: can ever take from you. And you should be proud, Mama. 52 00:02:53,639 --> 00:02:56,040 Speaker 1: You should, and I honor the fact that you want 53 00:02:56,080 --> 00:02:58,639 Speaker 1: to help your family, and as you should. I think 54 00:02:58,639 --> 00:03:01,680 Speaker 1: it's a beautiful thing, especially if you have a great parents. 55 00:03:02,440 --> 00:03:05,760 Speaker 1: But I also think it's okay for you to celebrate yourself. 56 00:03:06,600 --> 00:03:10,400 Speaker 1: This is a huge milestone, Like this is amazing. The 57 00:03:10,440 --> 00:03:12,320 Speaker 1: fact that you're so young, that you're a Latina, that 58 00:03:12,360 --> 00:03:15,800 Speaker 1: you have your master's degree like that is absolutely something 59 00:03:15,840 --> 00:03:18,959 Speaker 1: to celebrate, and I want to celebrate you. So yes, 60 00:03:19,200 --> 00:03:22,080 Speaker 1: don't feel guilty for a baby. I think you definitely 61 00:03:22,120 --> 00:03:24,400 Speaker 1: need to do it again. Like you said, it doesn't 62 00:03:24,440 --> 00:03:28,760 Speaker 1: have to be all extravagant and anything crazy, but if 63 00:03:28,800 --> 00:03:32,000 Speaker 1: you want to do something small and to just show hey, guys, 64 00:03:32,000 --> 00:03:35,600 Speaker 1: I'm doing it, like, yes, one hundred percent do it. 65 00:03:35,600 --> 00:03:38,360 Speaker 1: It's not selfish. This is something beautiful and something you 66 00:03:38,360 --> 00:03:40,720 Speaker 1: should be proud of and something that I'm sure your 67 00:03:40,760 --> 00:03:44,400 Speaker 1: family is very proud of. So yes, set the tone. 68 00:03:44,960 --> 00:03:50,040 Speaker 1: Do it. Be happy because you should be very, very 69 00:03:50,160 --> 00:03:54,080 Speaker 1: very proud. So I say, do it and send my 70 00:03:54,240 --> 00:03:57,119 Speaker 1: producers a message because I want to get that mechanical 71 00:03:57,120 --> 00:04:00,280 Speaker 1: bal for you. If your party hasn't happened yet, party 72 00:04:00,280 --> 00:04:02,040 Speaker 1: hasn't happened, I would love to give that for you, 73 00:04:02,240 --> 00:04:05,960 Speaker 1: So reach out to us and Godino, I would love 74 00:04:06,280 --> 00:04:12,720 Speaker 1: to give that to you for your party. Okay, guys, 75 00:04:13,120 --> 00:04:15,920 Speaker 1: next question Anonymous, Here we go, let's see. 76 00:04:16,040 --> 00:04:17,880 Speaker 2: Hi Cheeky's first. 77 00:04:17,920 --> 00:04:21,040 Speaker 3: I want to say, I love, love, love your podcasts. 78 00:04:21,360 --> 00:04:25,520 Speaker 3: I love you. I look forward to listening every week. 79 00:04:26,360 --> 00:04:30,600 Speaker 3: But I need to know who is your favorite character 80 00:04:30,920 --> 00:04:33,839 Speaker 3: on Sex and the City. Do you have a favorite character, 81 00:04:34,320 --> 00:04:37,520 Speaker 3: do you have a least favorite character? Do you have 82 00:04:37,760 --> 00:04:42,280 Speaker 3: a favorite storyline? I need to know because I found 83 00:04:42,279 --> 00:04:44,839 Speaker 3: out recently that you liked Sex and the City. 84 00:04:45,520 --> 00:04:46,839 Speaker 1: I think it's a great show. 85 00:04:47,720 --> 00:04:48,240 Speaker 3: I love it. 86 00:04:48,279 --> 00:04:49,599 Speaker 1: I've binged all of it. 87 00:04:50,400 --> 00:04:54,640 Speaker 3: I love like just the women talking about their dating lives, 88 00:04:54,720 --> 00:05:00,360 Speaker 3: their sex lives, their careers, everything. So tell me what's 89 00:05:00,360 --> 00:05:03,240 Speaker 3: your favorite and if you have a least favorite character, 90 00:05:03,920 --> 00:05:07,240 Speaker 3: did you like any of their fashion, like their styles? 91 00:05:07,720 --> 00:05:09,480 Speaker 3: I just need to know. Thank you. 92 00:05:11,120 --> 00:05:13,599 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, I love this question. It is so 93 00:05:13,680 --> 00:05:15,960 Speaker 1: freaking cute. Okay, So yes, I do love Sex and 94 00:05:16,000 --> 00:05:18,479 Speaker 1: the City. Love Love Love. I binged it in China. 95 00:05:18,600 --> 00:05:21,000 Speaker 1: I talked about it on an episode on Cheeks and Chill. 96 00:05:21,000 --> 00:05:22,560 Speaker 1: If you guys haven't heard it, go check it out. 97 00:05:23,240 --> 00:05:27,960 Speaker 1: But okay, so my favorite character for sure, I love Carrie. 98 00:05:28,040 --> 00:05:32,880 Speaker 1: I love Carrie because the fashion and like that she writes. 99 00:05:33,000 --> 00:05:34,600 Speaker 1: That's kind of I think where I was like, oh 100 00:05:34,640 --> 00:05:36,159 Speaker 1: I want to I want to write a book. I 101 00:05:36,160 --> 00:05:39,720 Speaker 1: think that's where it started because she would sit there 102 00:05:39,720 --> 00:05:42,320 Speaker 1: at her apartment, you know, when she was big, and 103 00:05:42,360 --> 00:05:44,440 Speaker 1: she would just go there and just write and just 104 00:05:44,520 --> 00:05:48,000 Speaker 1: feel inspired. And she was always just everywhere with her emotion. 105 00:05:48,120 --> 00:05:51,440 Speaker 1: So she reminds me a lot of myself. I love 106 00:05:51,480 --> 00:05:54,080 Speaker 1: all the girls, and they remind me of like my 107 00:05:54,120 --> 00:05:57,080 Speaker 1: friends and I, you know, like we would call ourselves 108 00:05:57,320 --> 00:05:59,760 Speaker 1: mechs in the city. You know, Mahikana's in the city 109 00:06:00,080 --> 00:06:02,520 Speaker 1: next in the city, so I love it. I love 110 00:06:02,560 --> 00:06:05,760 Speaker 1: them all. My least favorite character would have to be 111 00:06:05,800 --> 00:06:09,600 Speaker 1: Big because he broke Carrie's heart so much and then 112 00:06:09,760 --> 00:06:14,080 Speaker 1: left her at the altar. Oh, I was livid, livid. 113 00:06:14,839 --> 00:06:17,640 Speaker 1: Oh they did kill him off, you know, he was 114 00:06:17,640 --> 00:06:19,200 Speaker 1: on the peloton. I don't know if you guys saw that, 115 00:06:19,279 --> 00:06:23,400 Speaker 1: but anyway, yeah, I mean, yeah, that was pretty crazy. 116 00:06:23,440 --> 00:06:25,359 Speaker 1: But yeah, he's my least favorite. He was just not 117 00:06:25,520 --> 00:06:28,960 Speaker 1: nice anyway. But I love the question. Thank you so much. 118 00:06:29,000 --> 00:06:30,280 Speaker 1: I wish I knew your name so I can call 119 00:06:30,279 --> 00:06:32,480 Speaker 1: you by your name. But it's okay, It's all good, 120 00:06:33,320 --> 00:06:35,080 Speaker 1: and I'd love to hear from you. So give us 121 00:06:35,120 --> 00:06:38,360 Speaker 1: an update. Who is your favorite and who's your least favorite? Okay, 122 00:06:38,520 --> 00:06:47,200 Speaker 1: it's all Oh my god, I love that question, you guys. Okay. 123 00:06:47,279 --> 00:06:49,240 Speaker 1: Last question comes from Adi. 124 00:06:49,640 --> 00:06:52,800 Speaker 4: Hi Cheeky's So my question for you today is how 125 00:06:52,839 --> 00:06:57,680 Speaker 4: do I get more comfortable speaking Spanish in front of 126 00:06:58,960 --> 00:07:02,440 Speaker 4: Spanish speaker. I'm learning Spanish, or I've been learning for 127 00:07:02,480 --> 00:07:06,479 Speaker 4: the past couple of years, but something that's hindered me 128 00:07:07,080 --> 00:07:11,360 Speaker 4: is the fact that I get really nervous and shy 129 00:07:11,520 --> 00:07:15,080 Speaker 4: and like like like a little girl almost in front 130 00:07:15,120 --> 00:07:19,440 Speaker 4: of people who speak Spanish. And I don't know why 131 00:07:19,440 --> 00:07:22,200 Speaker 4: I do this. Nobody has been mean to me. Everybody 132 00:07:22,280 --> 00:07:26,800 Speaker 4: is super encouraging when I try to speak Spanish. It's 133 00:07:26,840 --> 00:07:31,200 Speaker 4: just something in me that makes me like like clam up. 134 00:07:31,960 --> 00:07:35,880 Speaker 4: So what advice would you have for me? You know, 135 00:07:36,000 --> 00:07:40,120 Speaker 4: I know you're bilingual in your you speak really good 136 00:07:40,160 --> 00:07:43,240 Speaker 4: English and really good Spanish, So you know, how would 137 00:07:43,240 --> 00:07:43,960 Speaker 4: you help me out grow? 138 00:07:44,280 --> 00:07:48,200 Speaker 1: Thank you, Ari, I love your question. I love that 139 00:07:48,280 --> 00:07:51,400 Speaker 1: you are learning Spanish. I love that if I just 140 00:07:51,440 --> 00:07:52,960 Speaker 1: give you a little piece of advice, I'm sure you're 141 00:07:52,960 --> 00:07:55,680 Speaker 1: already doing it. But the way I learned to speak 142 00:07:55,760 --> 00:07:59,040 Speaker 1: better Spanish was by listening to Spanish radio and watching 143 00:07:59,040 --> 00:08:04,880 Speaker 1: Spanish television and reading in Spanish, because as you're learning 144 00:08:05,240 --> 00:08:09,560 Speaker 1: in Spanish, it's you pronounce it exactly how it's written. 145 00:08:09,960 --> 00:08:12,119 Speaker 1: And I'm a very visual person, so it always helped 146 00:08:12,120 --> 00:08:15,200 Speaker 1: me to like see the words in Spanish because English 147 00:08:15,280 --> 00:08:17,760 Speaker 1: language is like we've talked about it before and I 148 00:08:17,760 --> 00:08:20,760 Speaker 1: won't get into it, but it's just different. So that's 149 00:08:20,800 --> 00:08:22,440 Speaker 1: just a little piece of advice, a little side note. 150 00:08:22,960 --> 00:08:24,600 Speaker 1: But I think you need to get out of your 151 00:08:24,600 --> 00:08:27,160 Speaker 1: own way. Mama, sit mosa. I think you need to 152 00:08:27,320 --> 00:08:29,320 Speaker 1: get out of your head, especially if no one has 153 00:08:29,360 --> 00:08:31,440 Speaker 1: been mean to you about it. I think it's just 154 00:08:31,520 --> 00:08:34,400 Speaker 1: your being mean to yourself subconsciously, like, oh, someone's gonna 155 00:08:34,400 --> 00:08:35,800 Speaker 1: make fun of me. I'm going to make fun of myself. 156 00:08:35,840 --> 00:08:38,760 Speaker 1: Like you got to just do it. Just do it. 157 00:08:39,520 --> 00:08:41,840 Speaker 1: You're not going to lose anything. I think the more 158 00:08:41,880 --> 00:08:44,800 Speaker 1: you speak it, especially with people that speak Spanish, the 159 00:08:44,840 --> 00:08:46,959 Speaker 1: better you're going to get. I think it's just doing it, 160 00:08:47,040 --> 00:08:49,240 Speaker 1: and the more you do it, the better you're going 161 00:08:49,280 --> 00:08:51,520 Speaker 1: to feel about it. You get me. It's as easy 162 00:08:51,559 --> 00:08:53,360 Speaker 1: as it sounds. I know it's not that easy, but 163 00:08:54,320 --> 00:08:56,960 Speaker 1: that is what it is. I think you just got 164 00:08:56,960 --> 00:08:58,720 Speaker 1: to get out of your own way, and it's okay. 165 00:08:58,840 --> 00:09:00,800 Speaker 1: We all get in our way sometime. Trust me, I 166 00:09:00,840 --> 00:09:03,720 Speaker 1: still do it. It happens. I just am here to 167 00:09:03,760 --> 00:09:06,439 Speaker 1: remind you. So just do it, baby, do it. And 168 00:09:06,600 --> 00:09:09,120 Speaker 1: I love it. I love that you're learning and wanting 169 00:09:09,120 --> 00:09:11,280 Speaker 1: to learn Spanish. I want to learn a third language, 170 00:09:11,320 --> 00:09:14,800 Speaker 1: but I was thinking of Portuguese, but because I love it. 171 00:09:14,920 --> 00:09:18,600 Speaker 1: But oh, I was like, damn, that's just hard. But anyway, Okay, 172 00:09:19,160 --> 00:09:21,040 Speaker 1: thank you guys so much for your question. Ari I 173 00:09:21,040 --> 00:09:23,880 Speaker 1: hope I was able to help. I appreciate you guys 174 00:09:23,920 --> 00:09:26,760 Speaker 1: so much. And yeah, I'll catch you guys here. I'll 175 00:09:26,800 --> 00:09:28,640 Speaker 1: be waiting for your questions. If you have a question 176 00:09:28,679 --> 00:09:31,760 Speaker 1: about anything and everything, you know, I am here to 177 00:09:31,880 --> 00:09:34,560 Speaker 1: answer it and give you the best advice because I 178 00:09:34,600 --> 00:09:37,040 Speaker 1: do have your best interest at heart. Okay, so leave 179 00:09:37,080 --> 00:09:41,160 Speaker 1: your question at speakpipe dot com slash Cheeky's and Chill podcast. 180 00:09:41,520 --> 00:09:43,280 Speaker 1: I think I need to do like a little jingle 181 00:09:43,280 --> 00:09:45,760 Speaker 1: with the speak pipe speakpipe dot com slash Chickens and Chill. 182 00:09:45,760 --> 00:09:47,600 Speaker 1: But anyway, you guys have a good day. I love you. 183 00:09:47,640 --> 00:09:55,360 Speaker 1: Thank you for listening. Approxima. This is a production of 184 00:09:55,440 --> 00:10:00,000 Speaker 1: iHeartRadio and the Micuda podcast Network. Follow us on Instagram 185 00:10:00,080 --> 00:10:03,040 Speaker 1: at Michael Doura Podcasts and follow me Cheeky's That's c 186 00:10:03,400 --> 00:10:06,800 Speaker 1: h I q U I s. 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