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Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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Speaker 1: with iHeartRadio.

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Speaker 2: Welcome to another episode of the Almost Famous Podcast. Today

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Speaker 2: we have Michelle Young here. She's been engaged since we

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Speaker 2: last talked to her. Hey Michelle, Hello, how are you

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Speaker 2: doing good. So we were reporting on your engagement in December,

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Speaker 2: but you guys got engaged a significant amount of time

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Speaker 2: before that, right.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we got engaged in October and we're able to

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Speaker 3: just kind of enjoy it and keep this secret for

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Speaker 3: a little bit, which was really nice. Not something that

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Speaker 3: we expected, just because it was outside and there's some

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Speaker 3: people that sawce who were like, let's hope that they

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Speaker 3: just let us announce it, but they did, so, yeah,

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Speaker 3: it was. It happened in October, and we didn't announce

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Speaker 3: until like end of December, early January, and it's just

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Speaker 3: been wedding planning chaos. It's been great though.

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Speaker 4: Oh that's so nice.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So I'm assuming you just did it so that

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Speaker 2: you can privately enjoy the engagement before anybody else knew knew?

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Speaker 2: Did you tell your family and your friends right away?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, So we had Jack set up a little bit

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Speaker 3: of an engagement party right afterwards, and so we were

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Speaker 3: able to have like an intimate gathering with family and

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Speaker 3: friends and tell some people, and then we got on

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Speaker 3: the phone with some other like family members that were

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Speaker 3: out of state, and so people who were really close

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Speaker 3: to us knew. But we were careful to like not

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Speaker 3: let it get too big, just because then you know,

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Speaker 3: something happens, it slips up. We want to be the

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Speaker 3: one to be able to stay, and we just wanted

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Speaker 3: to enjoy it for a little bit. And you know,

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Speaker 3: once you kind of announced something like that, I think

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Speaker 3: all these like questions and full blown like planning and

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Speaker 3: all this other stuff comes into play. So we're like,

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Speaker 3: let's just take a breath and enjoy the holidays and everything.

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Speaker 3: And then well as afterwards.

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Speaker 2: I think that's a good decision because, yeah, you immediately

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Speaker 2: get asked about planning and you're like, are you guys crazy?

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Speaker 4: It just happened.

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Speaker 2: Now that you've been engaged, well twice because of the show.

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Speaker 2: How do two engagements compare?

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Speaker 3: They don't compare?

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Speaker 4: Okay, everything about those feelings.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think that we just I've talked about this before,

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Speaker 3: but Jack, he just calms my nervous system so much,

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Speaker 3: and he really puts my anxiety at Bay and so

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Speaker 3: I just feel like with him, I'm able to. I know,

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Speaker 3: social media has seen a little bit more of like

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Speaker 3: my goofy side and all these different sides that have

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Speaker 3: always been there, but I think just there's always so

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Speaker 3: much going on, and so it's been really nice to

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Speaker 3: just fully feel so comfortable in a relationship and so

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Speaker 3: accepted and so loved. And he just is somebody who's

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Speaker 3: always going to stick around. And I don't know, I

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Speaker 3: can't when you're in a healthy relationship after you've been

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Speaker 3: in not so healthy relationships, it's hard to expec Lane

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Speaker 3: because I always said, oh, it's just a feeling, it's

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Speaker 3: just a feeling. There's times where I thought I had

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Speaker 3: it's supposed to feel like, Like this is what I

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Speaker 3: actually like a healthy relationship feels like and how it operates.

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Speaker 3: And so we just have, I don't know, a really

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Speaker 3: great system, really great communication, and he's just he's just

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Speaker 3: such a jump. I don't know how the hell I

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Speaker 3: found him in Minnesota, I really don't, but if anyone

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Speaker 3: could get to know him, he's like literally a lovely man.

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Speaker 3: He's so wonderful Oh.

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Speaker 4: That's so nice.

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Speaker 2: Would you think that your relationship with Nate during the

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Speaker 2: show do you think it was healthy during filming? Do

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Speaker 2: you think that it's a place that anybody can find

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Speaker 2: a relationship that they really know is going to work

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Speaker 2: out because you only know them for eight weeks and

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Speaker 2: in a secluded environment.

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Speaker 3: I mean, I think anything is possible. So you see,

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Speaker 3: you do see successful relationships. Yeah, I would be lying

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Speaker 3: if I didn't say I really thought. I had watched

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Speaker 3: So when I was stepping into the lead, I really thought, oh,

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Speaker 3: I'm going to ask the right questions so that I

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Speaker 3: get out of it and go through what I guess

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Speaker 3: what I went through. I did have this like shattering

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Speaker 3: moment where I'm like, holy shit, you do not know

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Speaker 3: because you have to watch people go through a certain

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Speaker 3: amount of life, like people pass away, you navigate through

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Speaker 3: death together, you navigate through sickness, together, you navigate through

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Speaker 3: social media together. There's so many different things that you

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Speaker 3: ask questions and see during that period of time getting

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Speaker 3: to know each other. But you truly don't know unless

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Speaker 3: it's like this lengthy period of time. And so do

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Speaker 3: I fully believe you can hundred percent you can get

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Speaker 3: to know somebody. No, can you take a risk and

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Speaker 3: can that risk work out? Yes? Am I really incredibly

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Speaker 3: happy that my risk didn't work out? Hell? Yeah, I'm

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Speaker 3: definitely with the person I'm supposed to be with and

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Speaker 3: could not be happier.

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Speaker 4: Oh, we're so happy for you. This is awesome.

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Speaker 2: I like love, Like you could just tell from looking

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Speaker 2: at her she's just absolutely going and I love It's amazing.

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Speaker 2: You were really close to quote winning Matt James this

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Speaker 2: season ended up being with Rachel for quite some time.

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Speaker 2: They obviously got to know each other very well in

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Speaker 2: real life. Did you see I mean you probably didn't

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Speaker 2: see this breakup coming, as we all didn't.

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Speaker 4: Really what was your take on it all?

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Speaker 3: I think my take was honestly that I didn't have

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Speaker 3: a take with social media. It's everyone assumes that it's

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Speaker 3: or opportunities to speak on things, you hear one side

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Speaker 3: of the story, not the other side of the story.

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Speaker 3: But you can agree with certain things, you can disagree

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Speaker 3: with certain things. But for me personally, I can't sit

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Speaker 3: and think about, Okay, well, who's corner am I in

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Speaker 3: because through that situation, like I'm in my corner when

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Speaker 3: I kind of take a look at that relationship and

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Speaker 3: just this whole like I wanna say, like bandwig and

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Speaker 3: jumping when it comes to like these big breakup statements

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Speaker 3: or like things happening in social media, I think back

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Speaker 3: to like that whole massive controversy that I sat down

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Speaker 3: And I went through this whole like racial trauma experience

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Speaker 3: and I don't think about it, like I just choose

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Speaker 3: who's wrong, because I think both parties can make mistakes

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Speaker 3: and relationships. But also it's like I spend a lot

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Speaker 3: Acho and had to have the whole conversation be about race,

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Speaker 3: and so it's like I really just am in nobody's

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Speaker 3: really just have tried to say off social media because

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Speaker 3: like every other scroll has been this whole thing, and

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Speaker 3: I'm like, yeah, you know, maybe it's not something that

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Speaker 3: I want to like focus on spen energy on.

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Speaker 4: So have you spoken to either of them since that time?

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Speaker 3: No, Okay, No, I think we briefly all ran into

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Speaker 3: like everything was put down, but it's just not something

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Speaker 2: Totally understand that, all right, So back to you and Jack.

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Speaker 2: I'm going to ask the annoying question, have you guys

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Speaker 2: started wedding planning?

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Speaker 3: We have. We have started wedding planning. We have a

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Speaker 3: date picked out, we have a venue picked out?

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Speaker 4: Is it this year? Can you let us know?

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Speaker 3: Yes? It is? It is and it's coming up quick

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Speaker 3: here I'll say that. Who Yeah, yeah, we got to

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Speaker 3: it like the man means business. It's really kind of

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Speaker 3: nice to. I mean, long engagements are fine too, but

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Speaker 3: it's we got engaged. We're like, yeah, let's do life together,

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Speaker 3: let's go. And so it's been really fun with the

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Speaker 3: whole wedding planning thing. But we were like full force

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Speaker 3: wedding planning like we are. I don't even want to

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Speaker 3: give away which everything that we've like are ordering or

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Speaker 3: like look up how many months ahead you would do that. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: I'll give it away. But yeah, we have our wedding party.

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Speaker 3: We have all that stuff asked and figured out. It's

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Speaker 2: Were you able to book the venue that you wanted

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Speaker 2: to book so last minute?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? Yes, Honestly, we didn't have I was never one

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Speaker 3: I always told myself I was gonna leave it open.

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Speaker 3: And so we never had like this ideal, let's do this,

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Speaker 3: and that conversation really pushed us to do like, okay,

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Speaker 3: And so we started looking around and we were able

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Speaker 3: to find a venue that we absolutely absolutely love. And

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Speaker 3: I would say it was like one of my dream

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Speaker 3: didn't know it yet. So we're really happy.

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Speaker 2: That sounds like it's in Minnesota, YESO okay, and you

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Speaker 4: So how did you meet again?

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Speaker 3: We met a little over a year and a half ago. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: it's just kind of crazy to think about because it's

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Speaker 3: really not that long. It feels like we've been together

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Speaker 3: a lot longer. But yeah, we met a year and

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Speaker 3: a half ago, So like August twenty twenty four.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, wow, yeah twenty three.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so it's been it's been good. I mean, we

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Speaker 4: So do you meet through friends?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? Yeah we did. Okay, Yeah, we met through friends,

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Speaker 3: So it was connection.

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Speaker 2: Look at that go on the Bachelorette end up meeting

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Speaker 2: How long were you friends with these friends? And why

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Speaker 3: That's what I asked. So we had both been friends

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Speaker 3: But oh my goodness, did you hear that whole new

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Speaker 4: We both see the same Instagram.

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Speaker 4: So how does that make sense? I don't know. We

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Speaker 2: Just from my experience, I'm gonna say that I'm not

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Speaker 4: Is it going to be small? Large? Have you picked

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Speaker 2: But there was something about the anxiety, like not anxiety,

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Speaker 4: That, just my body can't take it. So Jared and I.

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Speaker 3: That's such a cute idea.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it was so good, and I was so bummed

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Speaker 2: I was like, let's just go and have like the

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Speaker 2: that they let us do that.

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Speaker 3: That's amazing. That's a good wedding tip.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it is a good wedding tip.

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Speaker 2: My other wedding tip if you're solicit advice here is

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Speaker 2: just make sure that you guys hang out with each

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Speaker 2: From his side, this is not a day to make

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Speaker 2: new friends. And don't need to say hi to like

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Speaker 2: people that you're not going to see for another year,

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Speaker 2: next month, because the day is about you guys, and

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Speaker 2: you can chat with them some other time. Quick clothes

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Speaker 3: I think that is like the biggest wedding tip that

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Speaker 3: other's side. Yeah, we've already, we've already talked about it.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, let's just like handcuff each other so you

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you see too many brides and grooms on that day,

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Speaker 2: just with a totally different group of people for over

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Speaker 4: Like, no, never leave each other for more than five

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Speaker 3: Okay, got it?

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Speaker 2: Okay, And that's it because the next time we probably

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Speaker 2: please come on then and tell us all the details

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Speaker 2: hopefully well. Michelle, thank you so much for joining us,

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Speaker 2: and good luck and enjoy every single freaking second of it.

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Speaker 4: It's so it's just one of the best periods of life.

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Speaker 3: Thank you so much. It's nice talking to you.

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Speaker 4: See you you too. Bye.

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