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These are the radio 11 00:00:29,600 --> 00:00:31,120 Speaker 1: blogs on the Fred Show. 12 00:00:31,160 --> 00:00:33,559 Speaker 2: Also forty minutes commercial free Fred Show. You don't have 13 00:00:33,600 --> 00:00:36,840 Speaker 2: to go anywhere. Kaylen's got to blog our audio journals go. 14 00:00:37,320 --> 00:00:40,599 Speaker 3: Thank you, dear blog. So hit us up if you 15 00:00:40,720 --> 00:00:46,639 Speaker 3: can relate to this. But I just feel like our grandparents' generation, 16 00:00:47,040 --> 00:00:50,920 Speaker 3: like they were built different in terms of keeping like 17 00:00:51,040 --> 00:00:53,000 Speaker 3: families together and being the matriarchs. 18 00:00:53,000 --> 00:00:55,400 Speaker 1: It's just, Yeah, they were tougher people than we are. Tougher, 19 00:00:55,480 --> 00:00:56,440 Speaker 1: they're bill different. 20 00:00:56,640 --> 00:00:59,200 Speaker 3: They had different I don't know if it's values or 21 00:01:00,160 --> 00:01:02,760 Speaker 3: they just kept kind of the family together right, and 22 00:01:02,800 --> 00:01:04,959 Speaker 3: so they put Yeah, I. 23 00:01:05,760 --> 00:01:09,600 Speaker 2: Think I think their level of commitment and their toleration 24 00:01:09,680 --> 00:01:13,039 Speaker 2: of things that now would be divorceable offenses correct for 25 00:01:13,080 --> 00:01:13,640 Speaker 2: twenty minutes. 26 00:01:13,680 --> 00:01:16,880 Speaker 3: Yeah, that kind of thing, undiagnosed mentally ill. 27 00:01:17,000 --> 00:01:21,160 Speaker 1: You know, I feel for that. 28 00:01:22,319 --> 00:01:22,880 Speaker 2: You know. 29 00:01:22,959 --> 00:01:24,920 Speaker 3: I used to look at my grandma and be like, like, 30 00:01:25,000 --> 00:01:27,320 Speaker 3: you don't even know what's going, you know whatever. Anyways, 31 00:01:27,319 --> 00:01:31,720 Speaker 3: so I digress. But on my mom's side, we unfortunately 32 00:01:31,760 --> 00:01:35,600 Speaker 3: lost uh my my mom has two sisters, so three girls, 33 00:01:35,800 --> 00:01:38,119 Speaker 3: both of my grandparents within a short period of time. 34 00:01:38,520 --> 00:01:40,880 Speaker 3: And their house was kind of like the house that 35 00:01:40,959 --> 00:01:43,360 Speaker 3: kept everything together, you know, even if you weren't close 36 00:01:43,440 --> 00:01:45,840 Speaker 3: with certain family members, you'd still see them whatever. So 37 00:01:45,880 --> 00:01:49,320 Speaker 3: once we lost them, you know, it was kind of 38 00:01:49,560 --> 00:01:52,520 Speaker 3: we were looking to my parents' generation to kind of 39 00:01:52,560 --> 00:01:55,480 Speaker 3: like keep things together, and everyone's busy. 40 00:01:55,640 --> 00:01:57,120 Speaker 1: It was hard to lose their parents. 41 00:01:57,160 --> 00:01:59,960 Speaker 3: So they're not really doing it, and not for bad reason, 42 00:02:00,040 --> 00:02:01,320 Speaker 3: and it's just it's a lot. 43 00:02:01,400 --> 00:02:02,080 Speaker 1: Life is a lot. 44 00:02:02,160 --> 00:02:04,760 Speaker 3: So there's six of us cousins and we have kind 45 00:02:04,760 --> 00:02:07,600 Speaker 3: of taken taken it upon ourselves to like try and 46 00:02:08,080 --> 00:02:10,959 Speaker 3: recreate some of those traditions. We live in different places, 47 00:02:11,760 --> 00:02:14,520 Speaker 3: and it's not as easy as it looked, you know 48 00:02:14,560 --> 00:02:16,720 Speaker 3: what I mean, because it'll be like each holiday will 49 00:02:16,720 --> 00:02:17,840 Speaker 3: be like, oh, who wants. 50 00:02:17,600 --> 00:02:18,240 Speaker 1: To have people over. 51 00:02:18,240 --> 00:02:18,919 Speaker 3: I don't feel like doing it. 52 00:02:18,960 --> 00:02:19,760 Speaker 1: I don't feel like doing it. 53 00:02:19,800 --> 00:02:21,960 Speaker 3: So we're we have this cousins group checks and we 54 00:02:22,000 --> 00:02:24,200 Speaker 3: are very much trying to take this responsibility. 55 00:02:24,240 --> 00:02:25,280 Speaker 1: On one thing that we. 56 00:02:25,240 --> 00:02:28,200 Speaker 3: Did together, which would be your absolute nightmare, Fred, but 57 00:02:28,320 --> 00:02:34,120 Speaker 3: we did a what it's called a houseboat on Lake Cumberland. Yes, 58 00:02:34,200 --> 00:02:37,080 Speaker 3: it was all fair body and a body of water. 59 00:02:38,360 --> 00:02:40,600 Speaker 1: Nope, big old boat. There was like a hot time 60 00:02:40,840 --> 00:02:41,519 Speaker 1: and it's fly. 61 00:02:44,080 --> 00:02:45,880 Speaker 3: Yeah, and we all did it together and it was 62 00:02:45,960 --> 00:02:48,040 Speaker 3: so fun, and so we're that is one of the 63 00:02:48,040 --> 00:02:49,960 Speaker 3: things that we are trying to plan and do. My 64 00:02:50,080 --> 00:02:52,520 Speaker 3: sister was a whole ass baby when we did that trip, 65 00:02:52,560 --> 00:02:54,120 Speaker 3: so she never got to experience it. And I do 66 00:02:54,160 --> 00:02:56,679 Speaker 3: feel like also the babies of the family, Kiki, you 67 00:02:56,720 --> 00:02:59,720 Speaker 3: may be able to relate like sometimes like the older ones, 68 00:02:59,720 --> 00:03:01,400 Speaker 3: like they grew up in the family was still fun 69 00:03:01,440 --> 00:03:04,440 Speaker 3: and still had their stamina. And by the baby, it's like, 70 00:03:04,639 --> 00:03:06,640 Speaker 3: you know, we don't feel like putting stuff together. You 71 00:03:06,720 --> 00:03:08,799 Speaker 3: missed out on all the trips and all the memories. 72 00:03:08,960 --> 00:03:10,840 Speaker 3: So we're trying to do all this and it's not 73 00:03:11,000 --> 00:03:13,000 Speaker 3: as easy as it looks. And I just don't know 74 00:03:13,040 --> 00:03:15,720 Speaker 3: if any of our listeners feel like, you know, okay, 75 00:03:15,520 --> 00:03:18,000 Speaker 3: we lost the center point, either the house or the 76 00:03:18,000 --> 00:03:21,080 Speaker 3: people that kept everything together, and how they're working to 77 00:03:21,400 --> 00:03:24,440 Speaker 3: either make new traditions or bring it together, because you know, 78 00:03:24,520 --> 00:03:26,080 Speaker 3: it's sad to watch it go away. 79 00:03:26,360 --> 00:03:30,760 Speaker 2: It's amazing, whether it's family or friends, as people get older, 80 00:03:30,880 --> 00:03:35,360 Speaker 2: it's very difficult to sort of keep relationships as strong 81 00:03:35,400 --> 00:03:38,320 Speaker 2: as they once were. Yeah, and proximity is a big deal, 82 00:03:39,040 --> 00:03:40,600 Speaker 2: even if you're in the same city. Like a lot 83 00:03:40,600 --> 00:03:42,680 Speaker 2: of I don't have cousins, but like my close friends, 84 00:03:42,680 --> 00:03:44,840 Speaker 2: over the years, they've their lives have change, they've had 85 00:03:44,920 --> 00:03:46,640 Speaker 2: kids and gotten married, and they're doing different things that 86 00:03:46,680 --> 00:03:48,600 Speaker 2: I'm doing, and there's no lack of love. But they 87 00:03:48,600 --> 00:03:50,960 Speaker 2: live in the suburbs and they get together over things 88 00:03:50,960 --> 00:03:52,800 Speaker 2: that have to do with kids, and they don't include 89 00:03:52,800 --> 00:03:54,960 Speaker 2: me in that stuff necessarily because well they don't think 90 00:03:55,000 --> 00:03:57,120 Speaker 2: i'd want to go, because I don't necessarily want to 91 00:03:57,120 --> 00:03:59,120 Speaker 2: watch their kids run around like a play place or whatever. 92 00:03:59,120 --> 00:04:01,680 Speaker 2: But I would because But whether it's family or friends, 93 00:04:01,720 --> 00:04:04,480 Speaker 2: like it's just people spread out and there's no lack 94 00:04:04,520 --> 00:04:07,400 Speaker 2: of love there. But it's like it happens probably once 95 00:04:07,440 --> 00:04:09,680 Speaker 2: a month where I reconnect with someone at least briefly 96 00:04:09,960 --> 00:04:11,960 Speaker 2: from the past, and it's like, why don't we talk 97 00:04:12,000 --> 00:04:13,720 Speaker 2: more often? I don't know, why don't we hang out? 98 00:04:13,800 --> 00:04:15,640 Speaker 2: I don't know, let's do it. And then another year 99 00:04:15,680 --> 00:04:18,320 Speaker 2: goes by, and so you have to work at stuff like. 100 00:04:18,279 --> 00:04:21,520 Speaker 3: That, and it's a lot of work, you know. So 101 00:04:21,839 --> 00:04:24,120 Speaker 3: if you're going through the same thing, I feel you. 102 00:04:24,200 --> 00:04:26,840 Speaker 3: And if you have any ideas, you know for how 103 00:04:26,839 --> 00:04:29,320 Speaker 3: to keep the family and traditions together, shoot on my wist, 104 00:04:29,320 --> 00:04:29,800 Speaker 3: Well I want to do. 105 00:04:29,839 --> 00:04:32,159 Speaker 2: I'm going to rent a houseboat and put all my 106 00:04:32,200 --> 00:04:34,360 Speaker 2: buddies and their wives on the boat. But then I'm 107 00:04:34,360 --> 00:04:36,560 Speaker 2: going to have a cabin so we dock there. But 108 00:04:36,640 --> 00:04:38,840 Speaker 2: then at the nighttime, we just set that boat out 109 00:04:38,880 --> 00:04:42,599 Speaker 2: to the middle of the lake or vice versa, whatever, 110 00:04:42,640 --> 00:04:44,600 Speaker 2: as long as there's a place for or maybe there's 111 00:04:44,640 --> 00:04:47,760 Speaker 2: a little dinghy attached to it, and I row myself 112 00:04:47,760 --> 00:04:48,960 Speaker 2: to the days in on the dock. 113 00:04:49,000 --> 00:04:51,280 Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. Yeah, that's a great one. 114 00:04:51,279 --> 00:04:53,760 Speaker 4: I'm married to a family like this, Kalen, so with 115 00:04:54,000 --> 00:04:57,400 Speaker 4: the like the cousins thing and the closeness. So Hobby 116 00:04:57,440 --> 00:04:59,520 Speaker 4: comes from a really big family and there's like a 117 00:04:59,560 --> 00:05:01,640 Speaker 4: lot of co and then like you're right, it's like 118 00:05:01,680 --> 00:05:04,200 Speaker 4: the older crew than the baby crew, who are like 119 00:05:04,240 --> 00:05:06,920 Speaker 4: the twenty year old now they did not experience from 120 00:05:07,000 --> 00:05:08,800 Speaker 4: the stories that I've heard of, like all the get 121 00:05:08,839 --> 00:05:11,760 Speaker 4: together is the family parties. Even true, it was ate, 122 00:05:11,800 --> 00:05:13,680 Speaker 4: it sounds like, I mean, I missed the jukes out 123 00:05:13,680 --> 00:05:16,200 Speaker 4: wasn't there. But I feel like now Hobby is trying 124 00:05:16,200 --> 00:05:18,400 Speaker 4: to be that glue because his father is so his 125 00:05:18,440 --> 00:05:20,640 Speaker 4: father's kind of the glue after the parents, the grandparents 126 00:05:20,640 --> 00:05:24,360 Speaker 4: passed away I think twenty nineteen, maybe he's trying to 127 00:05:24,360 --> 00:05:26,360 Speaker 4: be the glue because one day, you know, his father 128 00:05:26,400 --> 00:05:29,320 Speaker 4: won't be able to anymore either. Yeah, but it's hard 129 00:05:29,360 --> 00:05:31,919 Speaker 4: work even just hosting, entertaining all of that, Like I 130 00:05:31,920 --> 00:05:33,839 Speaker 4: don't know how people do that. 131 00:05:33,760 --> 00:05:35,600 Speaker 1: So that it might be your house and that's that's 132 00:05:35,640 --> 00:05:37,760 Speaker 1: a lot of work. But it's also such a beautiful thing. 133 00:05:37,800 --> 00:05:39,600 Speaker 4: It is, And I love saying that because I want 134 00:05:39,640 --> 00:05:40,960 Speaker 4: my daughter and that I have a baby, I want 135 00:05:41,000 --> 00:05:43,159 Speaker 4: her to be like with the cousins and the crew. 136 00:05:43,240 --> 00:05:45,760 Speaker 2: Yes, yeah, we also just as an offshoot, speaking of 137 00:05:45,880 --> 00:05:48,360 Speaker 2: entertaining at your house, can we talk about something that 138 00:05:48,440 --> 00:05:50,240 Speaker 2: just went it just it was. 139 00:05:50,320 --> 00:05:51,760 Speaker 1: It came and went off the air. 140 00:05:52,360 --> 00:05:55,720 Speaker 2: But you are looking to sort of develop your backyard 141 00:05:55,720 --> 00:05:57,080 Speaker 2: a little bit, you know, because you want to have 142 00:05:57,120 --> 00:06:01,000 Speaker 2: people over to the house, and Hobby this idea was 143 00:06:01,520 --> 00:06:04,080 Speaker 2: for this kind of entertainment, so that cousins can come over. 144 00:06:04,120 --> 00:06:04,360 Speaker 1: Whatever. 145 00:06:04,680 --> 00:06:07,800 Speaker 2: Hobby's idea was to put a porta potty in the 146 00:06:07,920 --> 00:06:09,000 Speaker 2: backyard of your home. 147 00:06:09,320 --> 00:06:11,440 Speaker 1: He was very serious about this, So let's not laugh. 148 00:06:11,520 --> 00:06:15,560 Speaker 1: There actual porta potty. Yeah, in your back You're permanent inside. 149 00:06:15,560 --> 00:06:17,960 Speaker 1: I don't care. That would just stay there all the time. 150 00:06:18,120 --> 00:06:20,200 Speaker 4: He was serious, and he was so serious. He said, 151 00:06:20,200 --> 00:06:21,360 Speaker 4: you know, people don't have to go inside. Then the 152 00:06:21,520 --> 00:06:23,200 Speaker 4: here's use the port of potty. I said, sir, are 153 00:06:23,200 --> 00:06:25,960 Speaker 4: you sick? Like what are you talking about? I want 154 00:06:26,000 --> 00:06:28,000 Speaker 4: to see you tell my mother or your mother, so 155 00:06:28,200 --> 00:06:30,200 Speaker 4: use the bathroom to go crap in the in the 156 00:06:30,320 --> 00:06:32,320 Speaker 4: in the pot like go. I would love to see 157 00:06:32,360 --> 00:06:32,839 Speaker 4: that happen. 158 00:06:33,080 --> 00:06:35,080 Speaker 1: There's a lot I'd like to unpack about that, but 159 00:06:35,600 --> 00:06:38,120 Speaker 1: I like that. 160 00:06:38,240 --> 00:06:40,200 Speaker 2: Like if you go to ether if you like an 161 00:06:40,240 --> 00:06:43,560 Speaker 2: event like something whatever, and they just aren't enough bathrooms 162 00:06:43,600 --> 00:06:46,720 Speaker 2: for the mass public that shows up, okay, fine, Like 163 00:06:46,760 --> 00:06:48,120 Speaker 2: I go to a port a potty if you have to, 164 00:06:48,200 --> 00:06:50,200 Speaker 2: Oh my guess the worst possible thing. Like I try 165 00:06:50,240 --> 00:06:51,760 Speaker 2: everything not to have to do it, but I'll go 166 00:06:51,800 --> 00:06:54,159 Speaker 2: pee in there whatever. I don't know who peed before 167 00:06:54,200 --> 00:06:55,599 Speaker 2: me or after me, I don't know, But can you 168 00:06:55,640 --> 00:06:58,360 Speaker 2: imagine like crapping on top of your relatives crap all day? 169 00:06:58,880 --> 00:06:59,360 Speaker 1: You know what I mean. 170 00:06:59,480 --> 00:07:02,080 Speaker 2: I try to be gross, but like I can see 171 00:07:02,200 --> 00:07:06,320 Speaker 2: everybody who's used that. These are people I know. I'm 172 00:07:06,320 --> 00:07:09,040 Speaker 2: in there following people. I know, we're just it's just 173 00:07:09,040 --> 00:07:12,680 Speaker 2: it's a disgusting thing. It's plumbing at home. I don't 174 00:07:12,680 --> 00:07:15,040 Speaker 2: know why. 175 00:07:15,040 --> 00:07:20,840 Speaker 1: When did you guys get that? That's cool? Congratulations A 176 00:07:20,880 --> 00:07:21,880 Speaker 1: long way plummy