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Speaker 1: First date of follow up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 1: Attorneys online at Advocateslaw dot com.

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Speaker 2: Michelle is on the phone today for a first date

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Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Steven.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we're gonna call him and

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Speaker 2: see if it's us why he's ghosting her, and maybe

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Speaker 2: get her another date. But first, Michelle, how long has

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Speaker 2: it been since you heard from Stephen.

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Speaker 3: It's been about a week and a.

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Speaker 4: Half, okay, And have you reached out to him in

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Speaker 4: that time?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? I texted three times, but then I was just like,

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Speaker 3: after the third text with no response, I felt like

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Speaker 3: I had to have some dignity and I.

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Speaker 2: Saw it's understandable.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, yea.

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Speaker 4: So how was your date then? What happened?

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Speaker 3: Well, it was actually a great date. We went on

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Speaker 3: a picnic together and it was super cute, and then

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Speaker 3: we went on a little walk. It was just like

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Speaker 3: a lovely little hike. It was. It was also a

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Speaker 3: great date, like it was the kind of date that

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Speaker 3: you would see in a rom com. And I felt

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Speaker 3: so good after and we you know, shared a romantic

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Speaker 3: sunset kiss at the Yeah, it was it was really lovely.

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Speaker 3: And I didn't end up going home with him, and

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Speaker 3: then he was a gentleman so he didn't ask. But yeah,

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Speaker 3: I felt great about it afterwards.

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Speaker 2: Why do you think he's not calling you back?

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Speaker 3: Well, I did mention on the date that I read

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Speaker 3: very smut book and.

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Speaker 4: Like them, they like fairy born, this the kind of

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Speaker 4: books our friend.

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Speaker 3: Ready, It's like demeanor kind of changed after I brought

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Speaker 3: that up, and so I thought maybe that put him

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Speaker 3: off or he was judging me about that, But like,

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Speaker 3: I'd like a chance to explain myself because I don't

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Speaker 3: think it's that weird, but anything, I feel like it's that.

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Speaker 2: All our social media producer Gaby rees that stuff all

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Speaker 2: the time. Yeah, she's always talking about the fairies that

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Speaker 2: are doing each other.

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Speaker 1: But I want to know more. So when you brought

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Speaker 1: that up, how did he react to it? Was he like,

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Speaker 1: I read too. Do you think maybe it's the fact

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Speaker 1: that you read or that it's fairy porn.

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Speaker 3: It's definitely the fairy porn aspect and not the reading.

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Speaker 3: He just kind of went quiet, and then after a

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Speaker 3: while he was like, oh, that's cool, and then he

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Speaker 3: didn't say anything else, so we changed the subject.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so his vibe kind of changed after that for

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Speaker 2: the rest of the date, or it was just that

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Speaker 2: one awkward moment.

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Speaker 3: I mean, for the rest of the hike, his vibe

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Speaker 3: definitely was different. Yeah, we kept hiking for a while

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Speaker 3: after that, but he seemed like he was super distracted.

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Speaker 1: But then he was fine when you guys kissed and

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Speaker 1: then did he say that he wanted to see you again?

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Speaker 3: At the end, he was kind of like, yeah, I'd

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Speaker 3: love to see you again, but it felt sort of

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Speaker 3: half hearted, and then we parted ways, and I don't know,

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Speaker 3: he just seems like tired and over it by the end.

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Speaker 3: It was weird.

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Speaker 4: So what about that makes you feel like you want

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Speaker 4: to talk to him again?

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Speaker 3: Well, I think feel like, up until the very end,

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Speaker 3: the date was so calm and so romantic, and I

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Speaker 3: hadn't had a date like that in such a long time,

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Speaker 3: and you know, I've been single for a couple of years.

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Speaker 3: I just like really enjoyed it. So I feel like

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Speaker 3: there is potential here. I just want to be able

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Speaker 3: to like clear up the fairy smutt issue.

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Speaker 2: If that's what it is, all right, well, we'll see

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Speaker 2: if we can figure it out for you. Then we'll

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Speaker 2: play a song come Back, and then call him and

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Speaker 2: see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting you, and

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Speaker 2: maybe get you another date if you still want me. Okay,

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Speaker 2: all right, thank you, all right, we'll play a song

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Speaker 2: come Back, do your first day follow up next. Right

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Speaker 2: in the middle of today's first date follow up and

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Speaker 2: if you're just joining us, Michelle is on the phone

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Speaker 2: and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Steven. So

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Speaker 2: we're about to call him and see if he'll tell

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Speaker 2: us why he's ghosting her and maybe get her another

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Speaker 2: date if she still wants one. But before we do that,

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Speaker 2: one of your fresh Everdy's memory on your date with Stephen.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. So Steve and I went on a date about

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Speaker 3: two weeks ago. We went on a picnic, we went

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Speaker 3: for a hike. It was lovely and I had a

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Speaker 3: great time. But at one point I mentioned that I

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Speaker 3: read fairy smut book. How have changed? So I'm trying

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Speaker 3: to figure out what the problem is. He hasn't reached

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Speaker 3: out to me. Half.

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Speaker 2: Well, are you ready to see if it was a

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Speaker 2: very smut that ruined your date? I'm ready, I'm all right,

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Speaker 2: here we go. I'm gonna call him right now. Hello, Hi, man,

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Speaker 2: I speak to Stephen. Please. This is Steven. How are

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Speaker 2: you man? My name is Jewbel. I'm calling from a

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Speaker 2: radio show. It's called The Jewbel Show.

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Speaker 4: Hi, Stephen, I'm Nina also on the show.

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Speaker 2: Hi, I am Victoria.

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Speaker 3: Oh what okay?

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Speaker 2: What have you ever listened to the show before?

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I've heard of it? Okay, why I don't up?

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Speaker 2: Well, do a thing on the show. It's called the

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Speaker 2: first Date follow up? What that is? If you go

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Speaker 2: out on a date with somebody and then you ghost them,

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Speaker 2: that person can email us to call you and ask

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Speaker 2: why you're ghosting them. So we got an email about you.

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Speaker 6: Oh oh, and you did? Okay?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's from somebody named Michelle. Okay, and Michelle

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Speaker 2: told us a little bit about your date. She said

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Speaker 2: she really liked you, and she's wondering why you're ghosting her.

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Speaker 2: Can you tell us?

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Speaker 7: Oh?

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Speaker 6: I mean, I like Michelle. It's a really nice girl.

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Speaker 6: I got nothing bad to say about her.

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Speaker 3: I don't know what.

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Speaker 6: I don't know what to say she you know, she's

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Speaker 6: just uh, she's pretty cool.

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Speaker 4: Well, then how come you didn't respond when she reached

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Speaker 4: out to you three times?

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Speaker 6: I don't know she's like really like she's like very

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Speaker 6: physically fit and like she looks.

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Speaker 8: Beautiful and and like that's not like a knock on anybody.

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Speaker 8: But she likes to like hike and stuff, and like

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Speaker 8: I'm just kind of not into all that.

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Speaker 2: You're not into the hiking and stuff.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean it's.

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Speaker 8: Not like I don't like enjoy like a walk, but

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Speaker 8: like it seems like she's somebody that like.

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Speaker 6: Really gets out on, like you know, she's just yoga

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Speaker 6: and she and we went on.

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Speaker 8: The pike that like it was hot and I'm like

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Speaker 8: a gamer by heart dude, Like it wasn't that like

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Speaker 8: it wasn't necessarily her.

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Speaker 6: I just figured like if that's the type of date

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Speaker 6: that she's gonna.

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Speaker 8: Want to go on like over and over, Like I'm

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Speaker 8: really like I'm not lazy, but I'm just like that's

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Speaker 8: not my idea of.

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Speaker 6: A good time.

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Speaker 2: Oh okay, she thought it might be because she's into

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Speaker 2: those adult fairy smart books.

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Speaker 6: Oh no, no, that was about the reason at all.

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Speaker 3: No, no, not at all.

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Speaker 6: Actually, like I thought that was actually kind of cute.

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Speaker 6: Like I'm like, like I like I'm a gamer, Like.

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Speaker 2: I I was gonna say, yeah, if you're a gamer,

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Speaker 2: that's you.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you know.

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Speaker 5: I mean like I'm not like, you know, like creepy

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Speaker 5: or whatever. I don't I don't find it weird. Like

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Speaker 5: I like there's gamer stuff that I kind of like.

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Speaker 5: That I thought was it's pretty like I.

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Speaker 2: Thought that was cool.

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Speaker 6: I just don't like to freaking I just didn't want

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Speaker 2: All right, Well, thanks for being honest with man. I

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Speaker 2: appreciate that now, Like you know that Michelle is on

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Speaker 2: the phone and she's been listening and let's talk to you.

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Speaker 6: No, TI, Yeah, what's up and set up?

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Speaker 3: Why were you so down to go for a hike?

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Speaker 3: I would have been fine with not doing that.

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Speaker 6: I don't know.

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Speaker 9: I just thought I was just trying to be like easy,

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Speaker 9: but then I realized.

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Speaker 6: Like how much?

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Speaker 8: So you talked a lot about how you're so like

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Speaker 8: don't want to to do that all day every day.

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Speaker 3: So you didn't mind the fairy smut at all?

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Speaker 9: No?

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Speaker 6: No, no, no, dude, Actually, like I'm I think I

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Speaker 6: would like to hear more about that.

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Speaker 7: Okay, great, well I go indoors maybe yeah, No, we

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Speaker 7: don't have to even like get.

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Speaker 3: Up off the couch.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean not it's totally cool. But I mean,

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Speaker 8: You if you really like hiking, like what's gonna happen, like,

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Speaker 8: you know, a couple of weeks and months from no,

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Speaker 8: like if I just like, like I really am not

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Speaker 8: it's not something I enjoy it at all, Like is.

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Speaker 6: That gonna be a problem.

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Speaker 3: I mean I can probably like keep it to myself somewhat.

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Speaker 3: But how inactive are you really? I mean you do

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Speaker 9: I mean like I'm like my friends joke with me

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Speaker 9: and they say that I'm accidentally fit.

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Speaker 3: You know, I'm I'm not inactive.

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Speaker 8: I just like I'd prefer to be like you know,

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Speaker 8: like playing games like I E good and I do stuff.

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Speaker 6: But I don't like to just like set out on

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Speaker 6: an adventure and in nowhere to hike. That's not my

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Speaker 6: That's not what I like to do.

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Speaker 3: Okay, Well, we might have to get you a wee

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Speaker 3: fit or something like. We might have to find some

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Speaker 3: compromise here.

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Speaker 2: That seems fair. Okay, then, Steven, would you like another

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Speaker 2: date with Michelle? We'll pay for it. We're not going

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Speaker 2: to pay for a we fit, but we'll pay for it.

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Speaker 2: The date.

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Speaker 9: Yeah, no, I'm totally down, just as long as uh,

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Speaker 9: you know, maybe we could uber there and not go like.

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Speaker 2: Well, congratulations, Michelle, you got another date.

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Speaker 10: Yeay, yay, Okay, I'm yeah, I'm down to take a

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Speaker 10: car there, and I do have some smut recommendations for

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Speaker 10: you when you're ready.

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Speaker 1: You play your cards right, so we'll read you a

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Speaker 1: bedtime story.

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Speaker 4: First Date, fallow Up,