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Speaker 2: Oh, my family left me without a home, so I'm

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Speaker 2: cutting them off.

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Speaker 3: Ooh eausa. I'm a student.

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Speaker 2: My parents make enough money that when I went through

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Speaker 2: student finance to get my maintenance loan, I was told

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Speaker 2: I could only get the minimum, just over three K

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Speaker 2: a year, because finance is calculated from what your parents earn,

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Speaker 2: and there's an assumption that your parents will help you out,

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Speaker 2: I mean, if you're a dependent maybe. By the way,

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Speaker 2: this comes from bitter business, and if you want to

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Speaker 2: Storytime separate it. So I'm on a high intensity course

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Speaker 2: and I wasn't sure how I'd be able to balance

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Speaker 2: studying and working. So when I found out I was

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Speaker 2: going to get the minimum, I told my parents I

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Speaker 2: wanted to either take the coming year to save up

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Speaker 2: later than planned, or go to my second choice now

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Speaker 2: because I wouldn't be able to afford to live in

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Speaker 2: the city. My first choice is in. My parents then

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Speaker 2: said that they would pay my rent if I went

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Speaker 2: to my first choice on schedule. They set me up

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Speaker 2: at a studio plant, so all I had to do

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Speaker 2: of food and built. On eighteenth of February, my twentieth birthday,

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Speaker 2: they called me and said that I was relying on

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Speaker 2: them too much and needed to find out what the

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Speaker 2: real world was like by earning my own money, so

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Speaker 2: they would cover my rent and phone for that month,

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Speaker 2: so until end of February, and after that I was

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Speaker 2: on my own. Then they said they were still my

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Speaker 2: parents and they loved me and wanted me to stay

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Speaker 2: in touch. Just learn some independence while doing this. Okay,

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Speaker 2: but like not the way they do it.

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Speaker 3: Better ways not the way to do it.

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Speaker 2: I begged them to reconsider, but they ended the call,

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Speaker 2: so I had eleven days notice that I would have

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Speaker 2: no flat or phone. I begged my UNI for emergency housing,

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Speaker 2: but they said that I had no proof I'd been

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Speaker 2: cut off, so they couldn't do anything. What I emailed

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Speaker 2: my parents asking them to write letters stating they'd cut

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Speaker 2: me off so I could sort my student finance and

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Speaker 2: emergency housing.

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Speaker 3: They said, no, why, why why are the parents.

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Speaker 2: They're actively hindering you. It feels like they don't want

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Speaker 2: you to go to college.

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Speaker 3: They're roadblocking you right now.

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Speaker 2: I asked work if I could take on more hours

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Speaker 2: and was told that due to my contract, I can't

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Speaker 2: do any more than I'm already doing, so I'm now

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Speaker 2: looking for a second job. I'm sleeping on a friend's

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Speaker 2: sofa until a place I can afford opens up, and

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Speaker 2: as I still don't have proof i've been cut off

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Speaker 2: for student finance, I will probably have to drop out

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Speaker 2: this summer. I got a Facebook message from them today

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Speaker 2: telling me they were disappointed I didn't call on mom's

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Speaker 2: birthday a couple of days ago. Ah, wow, yeah, I.

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Speaker 3: Know one have a relationship with you. Guys. We're really

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Speaker 3: disappointed in you. Oh my goodness, like well boing flip,

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Speaker 3: I'm disappointed in you for handling this is as poorly

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Speaker 2: And that I've not given them my new phone number yet.

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Speaker 2: I responded, telling them the position I'm currently in and

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Speaker 2: that I no longer want a relationship with them. I've

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Speaker 2: gotten a bunch of messages from them and my brothers

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Speaker 2: asking me to reconsider. My friend says I shouldn't feel bad,

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Speaker 2: but I feel incredibly guilty and like a spoiled brat

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Speaker 2: because I don't love my family for their money. I

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Speaker 2: love them because they're my family. But at the same time,

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Speaker 2: they're really screwing me over here. Am I the ale

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Speaker 2: for not wanting a relationship with them? And there is

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Speaker 2: an update? But Dakota, what do you say?

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Speaker 3: I mean? Like, I wouldn't say you're an a hole

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Speaker 3: for that, not at all. Like it's crazy that they

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Speaker 3: don't seem to be understanding how part of a spot

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Speaker 3: they are putting you in right now.

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Speaker 2: I'm also wondering what kind of what they did with

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Speaker 2: where they just threw independence on them.

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Speaker 3: Or maybe they didn't and now they're that's why it's

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Speaker 3: so bad, is they don't know how to do it. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: and they're just being like, you know what, We're gonna

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Speaker 3: pull the rug out from under you, actually, and that'll

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Speaker 3: be a great way to teach you how to be independent. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: And also, Op, it's not that you don't want to

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Speaker 2: be in a relationship or like, have a relationship with

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Speaker 2: your family because of money. It's they totally are like

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Speaker 2: messing with your life. They're taking away your opportunity to

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Speaker 2: go to school. You even said, okay, you're not giving

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Speaker 2: me money. Can you just tell them the school that

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Speaker 3: Giving me money? And they were like no, which is

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Speaker 3: that's crazy. Yeah, that's right, That's what I be like,

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Speaker 3: all right, so I guess we aren't really I'm not

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Speaker 2: Yeah, No, your parents are being stinky. There is an update.

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Speaker 2: I messaged them asking why they cut me off, saying

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Speaker 2: the least they could do was explain why they're fine

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Speaker 2: leaving me homeless. They responded, my friend, the one I'm

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Speaker 2: staying with, is an out and proud sappha. There are

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Speaker 2: maybe two posts about me on our social media, one

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Speaker 2: to lunch because we weren't planning on seeing each other on

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Speaker 2: my actual birthday. In the caption, she refers to me

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Speaker 2: as princess in a clearly joking way. My brothers then

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Speaker 2: showed our parents and told them I was a sapphic

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Speaker 2: and she was my girlfriend. So now I have proof

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Speaker 2: that they cut me off, proof they are homophobic, and

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Speaker 2: confirmation that they can and will switch on me at

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Speaker 2: the drop of a hat, as well as proof of

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Speaker 2: my brothers, who are older than me and living with

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Speaker 2: our parents, being jealous crapheads.

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Speaker 3: Now it makes sense they hate the gays.

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Speaker 2: They didn't just tell me this on the phone because

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Speaker 2: they hoped i'd figured it out, which is tricky given

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Speaker 2: that it's not effing true. Apparently there's enough affection still

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Speaker 2: there for them to expect a call on mom's birthday,

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Speaker 2: but not enough to not totally f me over.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's a weird it's weird. Yeah, I honestly I

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Speaker 3: can't pin down what they actually wanted out of this.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Racer says they want power, but not to let

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Speaker 2: her have anything good in her life. It sounds like, yeah,

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Speaker 2: maybe they just like they don't want you around your friend.

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Speaker 3: Which sounds like they don't want you to be a lesbian.

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Speaker 3: But like, why they're just like, all right, if we

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Speaker 3: completely destabilize her ability to stay in school, then that

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Speaker 3: so they're like, learn her lesson or something, and then

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Speaker 3: let's make our daughter drop out of college. That way

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Speaker 2: It's a weird kind of mind mental gymnastics that they've done.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, never talking to them again, any of them.

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Speaker 2: I've sent the screenshots to the person I spoke to

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Speaker 2: in emergency housing, though I've been warned that for something

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Speaker 3: My friend has said I can stay with her as

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Speaker 3: long as I need.

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Speaker 2: The reply my parents sent hasn't explicitly said the phrase

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Speaker 2: we cut you off because, but given the context of

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Speaker 2: them replying to my message asking why it should be enough,

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Speaker 2: thanks everyone, I felt really crappy cutting them off over finances.

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Speaker 3: But now I know.

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Speaker 2: They're pure, pure effing evil, I don't feel so bad.

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Speaker 2: I've also sent my parents the screenshots of my brother

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Speaker 2: confirming that he and my brother lied about me, and

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Speaker 2: they're very apologetic, but that doesn't change anything. As my

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Speaker 2: happy together right now. I mean, yeah, who cares if

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Speaker 2: they lied to the parents and the parents come back saying,

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Speaker 2: oh my god, we didn't we were lied to it's like, no,

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Speaker 2: you still suck.

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Speaker 3: I've shown who you are is people. It's how you

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Speaker 3: prove that you don't love me unconditionally. Yeah, I mean,

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Speaker 3: I guess. I mean maybe they still love you.

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Speaker 2: But not unconditionally. But what the condition that they love

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Speaker 2: you on is that you're straight?

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Speaker 3: Well, the condition that they provide anything, Yeah that's.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but you can still call them if you're not straight,

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Speaker 2: but they won't they won't pay any Like we.

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Speaker 3: Love you, we just don't want to prop up your

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Speaker 3: gay lifestyle. Yeah they stink. You can prop that one

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Speaker 2: New plan, Opie says changing the focus of my studies

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Speaker 2: want to do, not the ones my parents wanted me

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Speaker 2: to do. If I do this, I have a far

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Speaker 2: better shot at getting a work placement. It's far less

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Speaker 2: popular than my current field of study. And if I

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Speaker 3: Failing this, and if I can't get any help.

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Speaker 2: My friend says I can stay with her as long

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Speaker 2: I have a confirmed roommate.

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Speaker 3: That's great. Okay, your parents pushed you right into the

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Speaker 3: arms of the gaze. That's what they did.

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Speaker 2: I no longer think i'm the ale, so I'll probably

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Speaker 2: be taking this down.

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Speaker 3: So here's the thing. I know it. I might not

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Speaker 3: be straight. I freaking knew it. Hey, what do you

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Speaker 3: mean it might not be straight.

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Speaker 2: I'm figuring it out and I don't really have the

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Speaker 2: my parents were homophobic.

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Speaker 3: Oh wow. So she waited a minutes I break and

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Speaker 3: knew it. She was like, my parents cut me off

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Speaker 3: because they think I'm gay. But I think I'm gay.

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Speaker 3: She's like, ah, they they just might be on to something.

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Speaker 2: So my brothers may have thought they were lying, but

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Speaker 2: they also may have been inadvertently. And I have to say,

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Speaker 2: being correct by accident is very typical of them, and

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Speaker 2: there is an update. The blind ones says, my parents

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Speaker 2: cutting me off for being gay made me gay.

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Speaker 3: That would have been a great title for this.

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Speaker 2: Am I the a hole for becoming gay after my

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Speaker 2: parents accused me of being gay?

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Speaker 3: Am I the a hole of my parents making me gay?

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Speaker 3: You did this, but they they don't want it. They

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Speaker 3: didn't mean to.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that is a great end to this.

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Speaker 2: It's not the end of the story, but it is,

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Speaker 2: you know, a great result of this story. I won't

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Speaker 2: be getting emergency housing from UNI. What that is so frustrating.

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Speaker 2: It's like the financial aids. I mean, I don't know

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Speaker 3: That you know you're figuring everything else. We did it.

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Speaker 3: I'm sorry, she's got like multiple bachelors at seventeen. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: Can you research that? Keon? Throughout all this, I still excelled.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, And you could just start talking your mom like, oh, Mom,

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00:20:01,440 --> 00:20:04,199
Speaker 3: you've just been eating too much dirt today, haven't you,

435
00:20:04,240 --> 00:20:06,000
Speaker 3: And she'll be like, I don't eat dirt, and she'd

436
00:20:06,040 --> 00:20:09,639
Speaker 3: be like classic mom, always saying she doesn't eat dirt.

437
00:20:09,640 --> 00:20:12,160
Speaker 3: You eat like a cubic meter of dirt every day.

438
00:20:12,640 --> 00:20:16,600
Speaker 3: Lie to her man anyway. Meanwhile, my sister drops out

439
00:20:16,600 --> 00:20:19,600
Speaker 3: of nursing school, gets a seven twenty five dollars an

440
00:20:19,600 --> 00:20:21,880
Speaker 3: hour job at a fast food joint, and moves back

441
00:20:21,880 --> 00:20:25,000
Speaker 3: in with my parents. Now, most of our students are

442
00:20:25,040 --> 00:20:28,440
Speaker 3: beginning violin or piano, students K twelve students who need

443
00:20:28,480 --> 00:20:32,119
Speaker 3: homework help, and the occasional homeschooler whose parents aren't ready

444
00:20:32,320 --> 00:20:35,920
Speaker 3: to teach trigonometry. The chicks finished all but one year

445
00:20:36,119 --> 00:20:39,520
Speaker 3: of nursing school and played violin and piano for ten years.

446
00:20:39,560 --> 00:20:42,400
Speaker 3: Not hard, right, I decide to hire her. Oh right,

447
00:20:42,480 --> 00:20:44,879
Speaker 3: so my sister. I'm hiring my sister who dropped out

448
00:20:44,880 --> 00:20:47,760
Speaker 3: of nursing school. I decided to hire her to take

449
00:20:47,800 --> 00:20:50,720
Speaker 3: my students so that I will no longer have to work.

450
00:20:50,760 --> 00:20:53,600
Speaker 3: And because it made my heartache to see my sister

451
00:20:53,640 --> 00:20:56,399
Speaker 3: working minimum wage, I assign a senior employee to be

452
00:20:56,520 --> 00:20:59,600
Speaker 3: my manager, and my husband and I leave for his parents'

453
00:20:59,640 --> 00:21:02,120
Speaker 3: house too, two hundred miles away in the mountains, where

454
00:21:02,160 --> 00:21:04,119
Speaker 3: I can be out of the city to recover and

455
00:21:04,200 --> 00:21:07,000
Speaker 3: have more physical support. Remember I'm not allowed to be

456
00:21:07,080 --> 00:21:09,960
Speaker 3: left alone. You literally are doing like the classic like

457
00:21:10,280 --> 00:21:13,159
Speaker 3: moving to the mountains for fresh air. Yeah, didn't they

458
00:21:13,200 --> 00:21:14,720
Speaker 3: do that in that movie? Uh?

459
00:21:14,760 --> 00:21:17,440
Speaker 2: The wind rise, the shining. I haven't seen the shining.

460
00:21:18,280 --> 00:21:21,679
Speaker 2: What have you seen the wind rises?

461
00:21:22,440 --> 00:21:24,560
Speaker 3: Yeah? They're good. Yeah, they go to the mountains. She

462
00:21:24,600 --> 00:21:27,920
Speaker 3: goes to the mountains because she us tuberculosis. I can't

463
00:21:27,960 --> 00:21:30,120
Speaker 3: believe that's sad ever seen the shining.

464
00:21:30,280 --> 00:21:32,800
Speaker 4: Also, there's no fixed number of how many times you

465
00:21:32,840 --> 00:21:34,919
Speaker 4: can get pneumonia and it will be fatal.

466
00:21:35,119 --> 00:21:37,640
Speaker 3: So wow, I just yeah, I mean, yeah, I don't.

467
00:21:37,840 --> 00:21:40,359
Speaker 2: I think it just depends on other health factors and

468
00:21:40,400 --> 00:21:44,400
Speaker 2: stuff like for like the Pope he had double pneumonia

469
00:21:44,440 --> 00:21:46,840
Speaker 2: because I think he had like a missing he had

470
00:21:47,040 --> 00:21:50,600
Speaker 2: like childhood illness. Yeah, it was something like he had

471
00:21:50,640 --> 00:21:53,240
Speaker 2: a childhood illness, and so that was why it's so

472
00:21:53,280 --> 00:21:54,080
Speaker 2: severely affective.

473
00:21:54,119 --> 00:21:56,200
Speaker 3: If somebody took pneumonia and said double it and give

474
00:21:56,200 --> 00:21:57,240
Speaker 3: it to the next person.

475
00:21:57,080 --> 00:21:58,920
Speaker 4: Yeah, that'suble to give it to the next post.

476
00:21:58,920 --> 00:22:03,080
Speaker 3: Don't do that, Amnia popemonia. I set my sister's salary

477
00:22:03,119 --> 00:22:05,960
Speaker 3: at what I charge per hour, not taking a cut

478
00:22:06,000 --> 00:22:08,920
Speaker 3: because I'm bid and generous. This way. Before I leave,

479
00:22:09,000 --> 00:22:11,760
Speaker 3: my sister shows up at my house at seven am unannounced.

480
00:22:11,840 --> 00:22:14,080
Speaker 3: I wake up, open the door, and the bright sun

481
00:22:14,160 --> 00:22:17,719
Speaker 3: outside trigger is a seizure. I collapse. That is so

482
00:22:18,240 --> 00:22:21,400
Speaker 3: hard wild, did you gotta get some? Stevie wonders on man, Yeah,

483
00:22:21,359 --> 00:22:23,520
Speaker 3: it's the sunglass I mean to wrap around. So I'm

484
00:22:23,760 --> 00:22:25,960
Speaker 3: there must be so many triggers that ope Kenn even

485
00:22:26,040 --> 00:22:29,560
Speaker 3: link tell what's going to trigger it? And when I

486
00:22:29,600 --> 00:22:33,480
Speaker 3: come to, she's sitting on my couch smoking my Devil's lettuce.

487
00:22:33,760 --> 00:22:36,720
Speaker 3: I want paid, she says, I think I want to

488
00:22:36,760 --> 00:22:40,239
Speaker 3: be paid. I want paid. Now, I'm gonna say that

489
00:22:40,240 --> 00:22:45,560
Speaker 3: that's exactly what pay. I want paid, she says, not

490
00:22:45,840 --> 00:22:48,920
Speaker 3: commenting on my seizure, which is the first grand mouse

491
00:22:48,960 --> 00:22:52,160
Speaker 3: she's witnessed to my knowledge. And I want it in cash.

492
00:22:52,320 --> 00:22:55,600
Speaker 3: I want pay, and I want in cash. She refuses

493
00:22:55,640 --> 00:22:57,719
Speaker 3: to give me her direct deposit information so I can

494
00:22:57,720 --> 00:23:00,439
Speaker 3: pay her automatically like I do my other employees. I

495
00:23:00,440 --> 00:23:03,760
Speaker 3: pay her in cash. She leaves, I would fire her.

496
00:23:03,960 --> 00:23:07,119
Speaker 3: This can't be real, dude, I would fire her. I'm sorry.

497
00:23:07,240 --> 00:23:10,280
Speaker 2: Your sister watches you have a seizure, does nothing, and

498
00:23:10,320 --> 00:23:11,680
Speaker 2: then says, give me money.

499
00:23:11,920 --> 00:23:16,840
Speaker 3: You are too smart, having graduated college at seventeen, you're

500
00:23:16,840 --> 00:23:20,320
Speaker 3: too smart to not know that you don't have that.

501
00:23:20,400 --> 00:23:21,840
Speaker 3: Your sister just disrespected you.

502
00:23:22,000 --> 00:23:26,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, your sister just take that scene and sinners and

503
00:23:26,080 --> 00:23:28,720
Speaker 2: I won't. I won't say anything further. You don't know

504
00:23:28,720 --> 00:23:31,119
Speaker 2: what I'm talking about. She says, I want to be paid.

505
00:23:31,160 --> 00:23:31,720
Speaker 3: That doesn't make it.

506
00:23:31,760 --> 00:23:32,760
Speaker 4: Oh, gotcha, gotcha?

507
00:23:32,840 --> 00:23:36,160
Speaker 3: Yeah. My husband and I leave town, leaving his best

508
00:23:36,160 --> 00:23:39,600
Speaker 3: friend of three years and the most qualified employee in charge.

509
00:23:39,640 --> 00:23:42,600
Speaker 3: We've had only one problem with her before we left.

510
00:23:42,680 --> 00:23:45,919
Speaker 3: She suggested docking her own pay because she ran our

511
00:23:45,960 --> 00:23:48,520
Speaker 3: account numbers and didn't think our profit margin was fair

512
00:23:48,600 --> 00:23:50,639
Speaker 3: for as much as I work. I give her a

513
00:23:50,640 --> 00:23:54,360
Speaker 3: few extra duties, but didn't dock her salary. First major problem.

514
00:23:54,440 --> 00:23:56,960
Speaker 3: I go to run payroll and realize there's not enough

515
00:23:56,960 --> 00:24:00,879
Speaker 3: money in the business account. I investigate several fans's haven't

516
00:24:00,920 --> 00:24:04,359
Speaker 3: paid my sister's students. I call them. Several gave her

517
00:24:04,440 --> 00:24:06,760
Speaker 3: checks without a name because they were confused about if

518
00:24:06,760 --> 00:24:08,840
Speaker 3: they were supposed to pay her or the company. I

519
00:24:08,920 --> 00:24:11,320
Speaker 3: call my sister and she admits that our mother was

520
00:24:11,359 --> 00:24:14,000
Speaker 3: pressuring her to cash the checks for herself to avoid

521
00:24:14,040 --> 00:24:16,600
Speaker 3: taxes and make sure I don't take a cut. She says,

522
00:24:16,640 --> 00:24:18,720
Speaker 3: she chickened out and we'll give the checks to my manager.

523
00:24:18,840 --> 00:24:21,320
Speaker 3: Two weeks later, my manager still doesn't have them and

524
00:24:21,359 --> 00:24:23,920
Speaker 3: tells me that my sister told her a similar story

525
00:24:23,960 --> 00:24:28,600
Speaker 3: regarding my mother. I overdraw over two thousand dollars running payroll. Hey,

526
00:24:28,680 --> 00:24:30,120
Speaker 3: so right now, immediately.

527
00:24:30,400 --> 00:24:33,320
Speaker 2: I don't understand how you could have run a successful

528
00:24:33,359 --> 00:24:35,240
Speaker 2: business and then let your sister do.

529
00:24:35,760 --> 00:24:38,160
Speaker 3: Right, Well, it wasn't that the sister's not in charge

530
00:24:38,200 --> 00:24:40,919
Speaker 3: of anything. I know. It was the sisters taking the

531
00:24:41,000 --> 00:24:41,879
Speaker 3: checks and they didn't.

532
00:24:42,040 --> 00:24:44,320
Speaker 2: No, I understand, but I ope. He has said at

533
00:24:44,359 --> 00:24:47,480
Speaker 2: the beginning of the story that she's running a successful business. Yes,

534
00:24:47,760 --> 00:24:51,400
Speaker 2: How can you run a successful business and then be like, well,

535
00:24:51,560 --> 00:24:53,640
Speaker 2: my sister's stealing money and I'm.

536
00:24:53,440 --> 00:24:55,480
Speaker 3: Not going to fire her, right, No, it needs to

537
00:24:55,520 --> 00:24:58,560
Speaker 3: be like, hey, so you can't do that, and that'll

538
00:24:58,600 --> 00:25:00,880
Speaker 3: be a great lesson for you to use at your

539
00:25:00,960 --> 00:25:04,040
Speaker 3: next job because you can't work here anymore. Sure, what

540
00:25:04,119 --> 00:25:06,960
Speaker 3: are you doing? Yeah, and if you don't fix this,

541
00:25:07,320 --> 00:25:10,879
Speaker 3: you're gonna get arrested for it. My manager, Julie, goes

542
00:25:10,920 --> 00:25:13,520
Speaker 3: to my mother's house to physically get the checks from

543
00:25:13,520 --> 00:25:15,720
Speaker 3: my sister. My mom tries to tell my manager that

544
00:25:15,800 --> 00:25:18,919
Speaker 3: I have Munchausen's disease, where you fake serious illness to

545
00:25:18,920 --> 00:25:21,520
Speaker 3: get medical attention, and then I'm lazy, not accountable in

546
00:25:21,600 --> 00:25:24,359
Speaker 3: not doing my job. When I confront my mother about it,

547
00:25:24,400 --> 00:25:26,760
Speaker 3: she tells me that my manager is lying. She's trying

548
00:25:26,760 --> 00:25:28,800
Speaker 3: to steal my husband in my business, and that there's

549
00:25:28,840 --> 00:25:31,040
Speaker 3: a major conspiracy going on in your company and it

550
00:25:31,080 --> 00:25:33,080
Speaker 3: has nothing to do with your sister. Honestly, your mother

551
00:25:33,280 --> 00:25:36,080
Speaker 3: sounds very mentally ill. Yeah. I don't know if it's

552
00:25:36,080 --> 00:25:36,679
Speaker 3: like I just.

553
00:25:36,680 --> 00:25:39,280
Speaker 2: Don't understand why we're continuing to have a relationship with

554
00:25:39,320 --> 00:25:40,480
Speaker 2: people who are so awful.

555
00:25:40,720 --> 00:25:42,760
Speaker 3: Honestly, at this point, I think it sounds like the

556
00:25:42,800 --> 00:25:46,560
Speaker 3: mom's almost having paranoid delusions. Yeah, where it's like she's know,

557
00:25:46,840 --> 00:25:49,240
Speaker 3: I know you're actually not sick, and it's like I

558
00:25:49,280 --> 00:25:53,359
Speaker 3: had three seizures this week, one in front of my sister.

559
00:25:53,600 --> 00:25:57,280
Speaker 3: There's a grand conspiracy around about you being sick and

560
00:25:57,320 --> 00:26:00,000
Speaker 3: now you're a manager wants your husband and it's actually

561
00:26:00,400 --> 00:26:03,240
Speaker 3: your mom's ill. Anyway, I call my mother on her

562
00:26:03,280 --> 00:26:05,760
Speaker 3: bs and tell her that I really am sick and

563
00:26:05,760 --> 00:26:07,720
Speaker 3: that if she can't be nice to me, don't talk

564
00:26:07,760 --> 00:26:09,760
Speaker 3: to me at all. Great, it'll be a great break

565
00:26:09,760 --> 00:26:12,639
Speaker 3: from your drama and verbal abuse, she says, and has

566
00:26:12,720 --> 00:26:16,119
Speaker 3: not talked to me since. Meanwhile, my sister contacts me.

567
00:26:16,240 --> 00:26:18,320
Speaker 3: This little witch is an a hole. I don't want

568
00:26:18,320 --> 00:26:21,439
Speaker 3: to work with her anymore. Me. Okay, contact Julie and

569
00:26:21,440 --> 00:26:24,080
Speaker 3: She'll have someone else take it. Why is she still

570
00:26:24,240 --> 00:26:28,159
Speaker 3: working for you? She stole your money? Yeah, why is

571
00:26:28,200 --> 00:26:31,040
Speaker 3: she still working for you? Is she even good at

572
00:26:31,080 --> 00:26:34,080
Speaker 3: her job? Seemingly? No. If this is what she's saying,

573
00:26:34,520 --> 00:26:37,080
Speaker 3: I'm yeah, I'm gonna read the rest of the story.

574
00:26:37,119 --> 00:26:39,160
Speaker 3: But I'm reading the rest of it from the perspective

575
00:26:39,160 --> 00:26:41,680
Speaker 3: that this is rage bait. That's that's what I'm doing.

576
00:26:41,720 --> 00:26:43,720
Speaker 2: I can only read it from the perspective that it's

577
00:26:43,760 --> 00:26:44,480
Speaker 2: all true.

578
00:26:44,760 --> 00:26:48,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, so we'll have both then, So I say, all right,

579
00:26:48,760 --> 00:26:52,439
Speaker 3: contact Julie, another tutor will take this student. She says, no,

580
00:26:52,880 --> 00:26:56,040
Speaker 3: this is your best nest. You deal with it. Me,

581
00:26:56,280 --> 00:26:59,119
Speaker 3: I say, Julie is your manager? Talk to her the

582
00:26:59,200 --> 00:27:01,959
Speaker 3: following week. I'm not making enough money. I need more hours.

583
00:27:02,000 --> 00:27:05,560
Speaker 3: Stop taking out taxes, is she do? She doesn't know

584
00:27:05,640 --> 00:27:06,439
Speaker 3: what taxes are.

585
00:27:06,520 --> 00:27:08,760
Speaker 2: She's like, you keep taking money from me, and I'll

586
00:27:08,760 --> 00:27:12,120
Speaker 2: be's like, no, So the way that the world works

587
00:27:12,359 --> 00:27:15,360
Speaker 2: is that there are taxes that are applied to all

588
00:27:15,400 --> 00:27:18,800
Speaker 2: of your chests, and you're taking my money.

589
00:27:18,920 --> 00:27:23,320
Speaker 3: It goes to the government, not me. I'm not the government.

590
00:27:23,600 --> 00:27:26,320
Speaker 3: Oh okay, I say, if you want me to stop

591
00:27:26,320 --> 00:27:29,160
Speaker 3: withholding taxes, you have to put it on your W four.

592
00:27:29,320 --> 00:27:31,240
Speaker 3: Julie can help you with it. I'll see what I

593
00:27:31,280 --> 00:27:33,600
Speaker 3: can do about hours. But the student you gave up

594
00:27:33,680 --> 00:27:35,600
Speaker 3: was eight hours a week and it'll take me some

595
00:27:35,760 --> 00:27:38,440
Speaker 3: time to replace that gig, she says, But your job

596
00:27:38,560 --> 00:27:41,359
Speaker 3: is to make sure I have work. The following Friday,

597
00:27:41,400 --> 00:27:43,520
Speaker 3: I call her, asking if she needs any help with

598
00:27:43,600 --> 00:27:46,679
Speaker 3: building summer homework for her students. She says no. The

599
00:27:46,760 --> 00:27:49,080
Speaker 3: next Tuesday, I text her and ask the same thing.

600
00:27:49,240 --> 00:27:52,080
Speaker 3: She ignores My text message, asking why she hasn't been

601
00:27:52,119 --> 00:27:55,159
Speaker 3: paid yet. She has delayed turning checks in. Again. I

602
00:27:55,200 --> 00:27:57,000
Speaker 3: explained that Julie will write her a check as soon

603
00:27:57,000 --> 00:27:59,160
Speaker 3: as she turns in all the tuition. Three days later,

604
00:27:59,320 --> 00:28:02,200
Speaker 3: this past Friday to day, she texts, I'm firing the Johnson's.

605
00:28:02,359 --> 00:28:05,840
Speaker 3: Give them to someone else. I won't be showing up anymore. Thanks.

606
00:28:06,240 --> 00:28:09,680
Speaker 3: Let Julie know, She says, no, you're my boss. You

607
00:28:09,720 --> 00:28:13,040
Speaker 3: handle it. Dude. You can't keep complaining about this and

608
00:28:13,160 --> 00:28:16,159
Speaker 3: keep her on. Just fire her. You can't.

609
00:28:16,359 --> 00:28:18,760
Speaker 2: You're like, we're we already know that you're not supposed

610
00:28:18,800 --> 00:28:20,080
Speaker 2: to be handling any of this.

611
00:28:20,400 --> 00:28:22,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think, Thank god this woman didn't become a

612
00:28:22,600 --> 00:28:24,960
Speaker 3: nurse though, can you imagine can you imagine this person

613
00:28:25,040 --> 00:28:27,000
Speaker 3: trying to put an ivy in you? She'd be like,

614
00:28:27,520 --> 00:28:31,439
Speaker 3: she's like stabbing your arms. She's like firing this patient.

615
00:28:32,240 --> 00:28:32,679
Speaker 3: Messed up.

616
00:28:32,760 --> 00:28:35,440
Speaker 2: Your veins aren't even there. And you're like, I think

617
00:28:35,480 --> 00:28:38,000
Speaker 2: you're not doing it right. She's like, no, your arm's

618
00:28:38,040 --> 00:28:38,560
Speaker 2: messed up.

619
00:28:38,720 --> 00:28:41,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know. I think you know, maybe op

620
00:28:41,360 --> 00:28:43,400
Speaker 3: is a super genius, but they just don't have the

621
00:28:43,600 --> 00:28:47,920
Speaker 3: uh emotional or the people intelligence to know like, hey,

622
00:28:48,000 --> 00:28:50,120
Speaker 3: you just use bad news for your business. You gotta

623
00:28:50,160 --> 00:28:54,880
Speaker 3: fire that news family in business, keep them separated, like

624
00:28:54,920 --> 00:28:58,400
Speaker 3: Biggie small set. Well not always. Sometimes it works sure,

625
00:28:58,440 --> 00:29:00,840
Speaker 3: but it can become messy. Sometimes it works out great.

626
00:29:01,040 --> 00:29:03,760
Speaker 3: This is not I don't count this. I don't count

627
00:29:03,800 --> 00:29:07,600
Speaker 3: what we're doing, although that is that is funny. I'm like,

628
00:29:07,800 --> 00:29:12,360
Speaker 3: don't do that mean do whatever? Actually? Well, well, yeah,

629
00:29:12,400 --> 00:29:15,040
Speaker 3: well I woke up this morning, checked the calendar and

630
00:29:15,080 --> 00:29:17,840
Speaker 3: saw that the Johnson's were scheduled for today. I contact

631
00:29:17,880 --> 00:29:20,200
Speaker 3: my manager and she says, my sister hasn't said anything,

632
00:29:20,320 --> 00:29:23,360
Speaker 3: even though they worked some families together and carpool. I

633
00:29:23,440 --> 00:29:25,880
Speaker 3: call and text my sister, did you talk to Julie

634
00:29:25,920 --> 00:29:28,640
Speaker 3: about the Johnson's. Are they scheduled for today? She says yes.

635
00:29:29,040 --> 00:29:33,040
Speaker 3: Now those are two different answers, right and me knowing

636
00:29:33,120 --> 00:29:35,280
Speaker 3: she hadn't talked to Julie, I say, when did you

637
00:29:35,320 --> 00:29:37,120
Speaker 3: talk to her? And why are they scheduled today? In

638
00:29:37,120 --> 00:29:39,600
Speaker 3: the system? No response. I ask my manager to do

639
00:29:39,640 --> 00:29:41,960
Speaker 3: the same thing. My sister responds to my manager with

640
00:29:42,000 --> 00:29:44,080
Speaker 3: several long text about how I'm lazy, not doing my

641
00:29:44,200 --> 00:29:46,160
Speaker 3: job and how she's not getting enough help and I

642
00:29:46,280 --> 00:29:48,760
Speaker 3: keep passing the buck on to other people. So she

643
00:29:48,880 --> 00:29:51,480
Speaker 3: talks about how she's ready to quit, Oh thank god,

644
00:29:51,720 --> 00:29:54,640
Speaker 3: but knows my business will fall apart without her. At

645
00:29:54,640 --> 00:29:56,800
Speaker 3: this point, the appointment is in less than two hours.

646
00:29:56,880 --> 00:29:59,520
Speaker 3: I have Julie call the family. She discovers that the

647
00:29:59,520 --> 00:30:02,400
Speaker 3: family I was expecting my sister to show up today.

648
00:30:02,560 --> 00:30:04,880
Speaker 3: I tell Julie to cancel the appointment and say that

649
00:30:05,000 --> 00:30:07,040
Speaker 3: I'll return to the city within the week and we'll

650
00:30:07,040 --> 00:30:09,240
Speaker 3: take over their case again. This is not a great

651
00:30:09,240 --> 00:30:11,360
Speaker 3: thing because I'm still having several seizures a day and

652
00:30:11,360 --> 00:30:13,360
Speaker 3: I'm not supposed to work. My sister has still not

653
00:30:13,400 --> 00:30:17,200
Speaker 3: texted me. It's been three hours. The answer seems obvious well, yeah,

654
00:30:17,240 --> 00:30:19,080
Speaker 3: when she said I want to quit and then she quit,

655
00:30:19,320 --> 00:30:23,840
Speaker 3: I'm glad the answer, the obvious answer seems obvious, blurry,

656
00:30:23,960 --> 00:30:27,000
Speaker 3: Let's keep going. She is a crappy employee and sister.

657
00:30:27,120 --> 00:30:30,600
Speaker 3: But the backlash from my family will be incredible if

658
00:30:30,640 --> 00:30:32,320
Speaker 3: I fire her. And I don't want to be the

659
00:30:32,320 --> 00:30:34,920
Speaker 3: reason my sister's unemployed. You're not the reason and your

660
00:30:34,920 --> 00:30:39,280
Speaker 3: sister's unemployed. Your sister quit, your sister quit. And also

661
00:30:39,520 --> 00:30:43,120
Speaker 3: if there's family backlash, cut them off. Yeah. At this point,

662
00:30:43,160 --> 00:30:46,440
Speaker 3: your like, your mom sounds like she needs help. Yeah,

663
00:30:46,480 --> 00:30:48,360
Speaker 3: and again, if anyone blames this for you'd be like,

664
00:30:48,440 --> 00:30:51,920
Speaker 3: I'm not where are her? Where's her accountability?

665
00:30:52,080 --> 00:30:54,360
Speaker 2: I'm also wondering what the husband's doing in all of this,

666
00:30:54,400 --> 00:30:56,160
Speaker 2: because a lot of people in the chatter are saying, like,

667
00:30:56,320 --> 00:30:58,560
Speaker 2: why is he not stepping in? Isn't this both of

668
00:30:58,640 --> 00:31:01,160
Speaker 2: their business? What's going on here?

669
00:31:01,400 --> 00:31:03,760
Speaker 3: I don't know. He's probably busy, you know, trying to

670
00:31:03,840 --> 00:31:06,800
Speaker 3: help her not have three seizures a day. That's true. Well,

671
00:31:06,840 --> 00:31:08,520
Speaker 3: he's not doing a good job if she's having to

672
00:31:08,560 --> 00:31:11,320
Speaker 3: go back now. Yeah, he's getting it on all fronts.

673
00:31:11,400 --> 00:31:14,479
Speaker 3: There's no way he's poor guy. Hey, it's Sam. We're

674
00:31:14,520 --> 00:31:16,200
Speaker 3: gonna get back to the stories. But here's three minutes

675
00:31:16,200 --> 00:31:19,120
Speaker 3: of bads from our sponsors. I don't have any hard

676
00:31:19,200 --> 00:31:22,920
Speaker 3: evidence that she's stolen money, and all the clients she has,

677
00:31:23,080 --> 00:31:25,920
Speaker 3: even the ones she's fired, absolutely adore her. Do you

678
00:31:26,120 --> 00:31:29,160
Speaker 3: mean what do you mean you don't have any evidence?

679
00:31:29,520 --> 00:31:31,840
Speaker 3: She said, Oh yeah, Mom told me not to give

680
00:31:31,880 --> 00:31:34,760
Speaker 3: them to you anyway. That's said. If any of my

681
00:31:34,840 --> 00:31:37,280
Speaker 3: other employees had talked to me this way or withheld checks,

682
00:31:37,280 --> 00:31:38,960
Speaker 3: they would have been fired on the spot. This is

683
00:31:39,040 --> 00:31:41,400
Speaker 3: a right to work state. Though I treat my employees

684
00:31:41,760 --> 00:31:44,320
Speaker 3: very well, we work with children, and I can't afford

685
00:31:44,360 --> 00:31:46,520
Speaker 3: to take bs. My manager is getting ready to go

686
00:31:46,560 --> 00:31:48,280
Speaker 3: out of town for a week, and if I fire

687
00:31:48,320 --> 00:31:50,680
Speaker 3: my sister, my husband and I will have to return

688
00:31:50,720 --> 00:31:53,320
Speaker 3: to the city a month early, cover both of their schedules,

689
00:31:53,320 --> 00:31:56,200
Speaker 3: and start looking for another employee to replace my sister.

690
00:31:56,320 --> 00:31:59,400
Speaker 3: We will also have to deal with huge backlash from

691
00:31:59,400 --> 00:32:03,080
Speaker 3: my family and possibly violent intimidation from my sister. She's

692
00:32:03,160 --> 00:32:06,480
Speaker 3: bipolar and not medicated, because my family doesn't believe in illnesses.

693
00:32:06,520 --> 00:32:11,080
Speaker 3: You can't see. She has physicallyked me several times over

694
00:32:11,120 --> 00:32:13,280
Speaker 3: the years. The last time hit me square in the

695
00:32:13,320 --> 00:32:15,959
Speaker 3: face on Christmas Eve over a comment I made in

696
00:32:16,000 --> 00:32:18,560
Speaker 3: response to her calling me a lazy freeloader. I've been

697
00:32:18,600 --> 00:32:21,080
Speaker 3: home from college less than seventy two hours and had

698
00:32:21,080 --> 00:32:23,040
Speaker 3: spent most of the time sleeping.

699
00:32:22,880 --> 00:32:27,760
Speaker 2: And you're letting her be around children on your behalf. Yeah,

700
00:32:27,920 --> 00:32:33,760
Speaker 2: I don't know, unmedicated bipolar who has literally already attacked you.

701
00:32:34,040 --> 00:32:37,240
Speaker 3: And you're like, yeah, she'd be great to teach kids. Well, yeah,

702
00:32:37,240 --> 00:32:40,520
Speaker 3: because she's got the piano and violin lessons and you

703
00:32:40,520 --> 00:32:43,400
Speaker 3: know what, and she likes violence. She does knife and

704
00:32:44,200 --> 00:32:49,640
Speaker 3: chainsaw juggling, she's she's flames fitting, she's Jay K. Simmons

705
00:32:49,680 --> 00:32:53,160
Speaker 3: and whiplash. Yeah, she's like again again, and she's she's

706
00:32:53,240 --> 00:32:56,719
Speaker 3: instigating online fights with people telling him to pull up.

707
00:32:56,880 --> 00:32:58,520
Speaker 3: There's a five year old and she's like, are you

708
00:32:58,600 --> 00:33:03,800
Speaker 3: rushing or dragging? Are you rushing symbols? Yes? How do

709
00:33:03,880 --> 00:33:06,840
Speaker 3: I handle this without getting myself unaligned?

710
00:33:07,120 --> 00:33:09,800
Speaker 2: Dude, if you think that your sister is going to

711
00:33:09,880 --> 00:33:14,160
Speaker 2: attack you for firing her, then call the police, get

712
00:33:14,160 --> 00:33:16,360
Speaker 2: a restraining order and fire her.

713
00:33:16,800 --> 00:33:19,880
Speaker 3: Silence people who think the story is real. A person

714
00:33:19,920 --> 00:33:21,720
Speaker 3: who knows the story is fake is talking.

715
00:33:22,840 --> 00:33:24,800
Speaker 2: I think we have to operate as if all of

716
00:33:24,840 --> 00:33:25,760
Speaker 2: our stories are real.

717
00:33:26,480 --> 00:33:29,400
Speaker 3: I agree with you, but this is so crazy.

718
00:33:29,600 --> 00:33:32,400
Speaker 2: I think it is so everyone else can think that

719
00:33:32,440 --> 00:33:34,440
Speaker 2: it's fake, but I think we have to give advices

720
00:33:34,440 --> 00:33:34,760
Speaker 2: if it were.

721
00:33:34,960 --> 00:33:36,720
Speaker 3: And also, I just wanted to make that I wanted

722
00:33:36,760 --> 00:33:39,200
Speaker 3: to reference that meme from Kingdom of Heaven. Oh, you

723
00:33:39,200 --> 00:33:42,080
Speaker 3: don't even know what I'm talking about. No, sorry, interrupted,

724
00:33:42,120 --> 00:33:45,800
Speaker 3: I was referencing a meme. Oh that was Ed Norton's character.

725
00:33:45,840 --> 00:33:48,680
Speaker 3: He plays the Uh, shoot, what's his name? He's based

726
00:33:48,720 --> 00:33:51,080
Speaker 3: on a real guy. He was like a warrior king,

727
00:33:51,480 --> 00:33:54,120
Speaker 3: like had leprosy and he died real early, but he's

728
00:33:54,120 --> 00:33:57,000
Speaker 3: like a genius. Can't remember his name. Dang, that's bothering me.

729
00:33:57,080 --> 00:33:59,080
Speaker 3: But yeah, it's like, what do you do here? It's

730
00:33:59,080 --> 00:34:01,560
Speaker 3: like what you realistic do? As you fire your sister

731
00:34:01,680 --> 00:34:05,080
Speaker 3: and then you stop talking to your family members that

732
00:34:05,240 --> 00:34:07,920
Speaker 3: think you're lying about having seizure three times a day.

733
00:34:08,040 --> 00:34:12,560
Speaker 3: We rely on your husband, improve your business. Just literally,

734
00:34:12,600 --> 00:34:15,279
Speaker 3: don't worry about these people at all. You're twenty three

735
00:34:15,320 --> 00:34:18,120
Speaker 3: and you have a master's degree and you're worried about

736
00:34:18,120 --> 00:34:21,840
Speaker 3: these people. She's fired. But it did not go well.

737
00:34:22,160 --> 00:34:24,920
Speaker 3: My husband and I decided to return to the city

738
00:34:25,040 --> 00:34:27,640
Speaker 3: after escaping from it. But I made the decision to

739
00:34:27,680 --> 00:34:30,279
Speaker 3: call my sister and have the conversation with her while

740
00:34:30,320 --> 00:34:33,000
Speaker 3: I was still two hundred miles away. It felt cowardly

741
00:34:33,120 --> 00:34:35,200
Speaker 3: at first, but now I'm so glad I did. Right

742
00:34:35,280 --> 00:34:37,719
Speaker 3: before I made the call, my manager forwarded me some

743
00:34:37,800 --> 00:34:40,840
Speaker 3: texts that my sister had sent her. In them, my

744
00:34:40,880 --> 00:34:43,760
Speaker 3: sister completely tore apart my character and told my manager

745
00:34:43,800 --> 00:34:45,560
Speaker 3: she was ready to quit and that she had started

746
00:34:45,600 --> 00:34:48,319
Speaker 3: calling in sick to students just so I don't have

747
00:34:48,400 --> 00:34:51,279
Speaker 3: to deal with it. I say to my sister, so

748
00:34:51,440 --> 00:34:54,640
Speaker 3: I hear you're frustrated and wanting to quit. She says, yes,

749
00:34:54,840 --> 00:34:57,279
Speaker 3: I'm frustrated because you're not doing your job and telling

750
00:34:57,320 --> 00:34:59,480
Speaker 3: me what I'm supposed to do with these students. I reply,

751
00:35:00,080 --> 00:35:02,280
Speaker 3: I and the rest of the team are always available

752
00:35:02,320 --> 00:35:04,480
Speaker 3: to help, but you have to communicate with us. I

753
00:35:04,560 --> 00:35:07,160
Speaker 3: asked you three times last week if you needed help,

754
00:35:07,200 --> 00:35:10,040
Speaker 3: and you never responded. She says. This does not fall

755
00:35:10,120 --> 00:35:12,520
Speaker 3: on me. This is your business, and you can't keep

756
00:35:12,560 --> 00:35:15,560
Speaker 3: passing the buck to your employees. I have fully communicated

757
00:35:15,560 --> 00:35:18,600
Speaker 3: my frustrations and you've done nothing. Now one word text

758
00:35:18,640 --> 00:35:22,520
Speaker 3: and insults do not qualify as adequate communication, particularly when

759
00:35:22,640 --> 00:35:25,120
Speaker 3: you did not ask for help. When you need help,

760
00:35:25,160 --> 00:35:26,719
Speaker 3: you have to ask for it. But you can't just

761
00:35:26,800 --> 00:35:29,080
Speaker 3: call in sick to avoid dealing with it. But maybe

762
00:35:29,080 --> 00:35:31,800
Speaker 3: I was sick. Okay, then you're supposed to call someone

763
00:35:31,840 --> 00:35:33,839
Speaker 3: so we can send a substitute. I can't have an

764
00:35:33,840 --> 00:35:36,120
Speaker 3: employee who just doesn't show up to work. If anyone

765
00:35:36,160 --> 00:35:37,920
Speaker 3: else on the team pulled this, they'd be gone. She

766
00:35:38,040 --> 00:35:40,279
Speaker 3: hung up on me. I had a meltdown, but knew

767
00:35:40,280 --> 00:35:42,600
Speaker 3: it was for the best and felt a little vindicated

768
00:35:42,680 --> 00:35:44,480
Speaker 3: that she was the one who hung up, even though

769
00:35:44,520 --> 00:35:46,640
Speaker 3: I was doing my best to be nice. Again, we're

770
00:35:46,680 --> 00:35:49,840
Speaker 3: carrying way too much. We're caring so so much about

771
00:35:49,880 --> 00:35:53,839
Speaker 3: the perception of this situation, about the politics, about ooh,

772
00:35:53,960 --> 00:35:54,840
Speaker 3: are they going to be mad?

773
00:35:55,000 --> 00:35:56,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, she gonna be upset with me or my family

774
00:35:56,800 --> 00:35:58,799
Speaker 2: going to be upset with Who cares? If you need

775
00:35:58,840 --> 00:36:01,880
Speaker 2: a restraining order, get the restrain Otherwise, who cares what

776
00:36:01,920 --> 00:36:03,160
Speaker 2: they think these people are?

777
00:36:03,360 --> 00:36:06,560
Speaker 3: Pray pray yes. Two hours later, she sent me a text,

778
00:36:06,719 --> 00:36:08,719
Speaker 3: I hope your husband never wakes up out of his

779
00:36:08,840 --> 00:36:12,080
Speaker 3: trance because very few people in your life like you,

780
00:36:12,280 --> 00:36:15,120
Speaker 3: and you'd be effed if he did. I felt sorry

781
00:36:15,160 --> 00:36:17,080
Speaker 3: for you as a kid because you had no friends.

782
00:36:17,160 --> 00:36:19,360
Speaker 3: But the truth was even your friends couldn't stand to you,

783
00:36:19,400 --> 00:36:21,600
Speaker 3: because I can't even stand to you and never have

784
00:36:21,680 --> 00:36:24,000
Speaker 3: been able to. We may be blood, but we're not friends.

785
00:36:24,120 --> 00:36:26,000
Speaker 3: I hope you like the bed you've made for yourself

786
00:36:26,040 --> 00:36:28,000
Speaker 3: and that the rest of your life is just like this.

787
00:36:28,280 --> 00:36:31,520
Speaker 3: I responded with, if that's how you feel, don't contact me,

788
00:36:31,880 --> 00:36:35,840
Speaker 3: don't call me, don't come by my house. We're done.

789
00:36:36,160 --> 00:36:39,560
Speaker 3: I then burst into tears. Ah, dang it, you should

790
00:36:39,560 --> 00:36:40,480
Speaker 3: have been tears of joy.

791
00:36:40,719 --> 00:36:42,759
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean this is the more realistic and that

792
00:36:42,920 --> 00:36:45,400
Speaker 2: you've having to set this. You're having to set this

793
00:36:45,440 --> 00:36:48,000
Speaker 2: boundary with your family and your sibling, and now you're

794
00:36:48,080 --> 00:36:50,719
Speaker 2: feeling a lot of emotions from it. That's fair, that's reasonable,

795
00:36:50,840 --> 00:36:51,439
Speaker 2: this is true.

796
00:36:51,480 --> 00:36:54,319
Speaker 3: I then burst into tears, stop them up with some

797
00:36:54,560 --> 00:36:58,120
Speaker 3: adult party favors, and my husband immediately started to load

798
00:36:58,160 --> 00:36:59,600
Speaker 3: the car to return to the city.

799
00:37:00,640 --> 00:37:03,000
Speaker 2: This is just like a medical thing, like can you

800
00:37:03,040 --> 00:37:05,960
Speaker 2: still drink if you have like a pretty severe epilepsy.

801
00:37:06,040 --> 00:37:08,920
Speaker 2: That's I actually don't know I'm asking that question.

802
00:37:08,920 --> 00:37:12,040
Speaker 3: I presumably he's doing it, I would guess so, and

803
00:37:12,120 --> 00:37:14,040
Speaker 3: maybe that's why she keeps having three seizuars a day

804
00:37:14,080 --> 00:37:15,960
Speaker 3: because she can't stop. She cants, she's not putting down

805
00:37:15,960 --> 00:37:17,959
Speaker 3: the tequila. I have no idea. A little while later,

806
00:37:18,080 --> 00:37:20,319
Speaker 3: my sister Sarah at nineteen, called me to say that

807
00:37:20,360 --> 00:37:22,680
Speaker 3: our sister Amy had deleted me from Facebook and made

808
00:37:22,680 --> 00:37:25,040
Speaker 3: a public post about how she has only one sister

809
00:37:25,120 --> 00:37:28,200
Speaker 3: and that she's amazing, talking smack about me and tagging

810
00:37:28,239 --> 00:37:30,560
Speaker 3: Sarah to make sure I saw it. Sarah immediately removed

811
00:37:30,560 --> 00:37:32,560
Speaker 3: it from her own wall to spare my feelings, and

812
00:37:32,600 --> 00:37:34,719
Speaker 3: I never did see it. Sarah is now getting the

813
00:37:34,760 --> 00:37:37,080
Speaker 3: wrath of Amy, and Sarah is so fed up with

814
00:37:37,120 --> 00:37:39,400
Speaker 3: the family drama that she's leaving the country for the

815
00:37:39,440 --> 00:37:42,319
Speaker 3: rest of the summer before returning to Boston. We got

816
00:37:42,360 --> 00:37:44,520
Speaker 3: back to the city last night. I didn't sleep most

817
00:37:44,520 --> 00:37:46,040
Speaker 3: of the night. I had a seizure in the parking

818
00:37:46,040 --> 00:37:47,719
Speaker 3: lot at the grocery store today and woke up in

819
00:37:47,760 --> 00:37:50,960
Speaker 3: the back of an ambulance. I came to in complete hysterics,

820
00:37:51,120 --> 00:37:53,680
Speaker 3: fear and embarrassment because I've never had nine one one

821
00:37:53,680 --> 00:37:56,160
Speaker 3: called on me before, and the emotional pain as well

822
00:37:56,280 --> 00:37:58,920
Speaker 3: as I told my husband. I don't miss either of them.

823
00:37:59,000 --> 00:38:00,880
Speaker 3: I just wish I had a mother and a sister.

824
00:38:01,040 --> 00:38:03,239
Speaker 3: After I was discharged, I was able to get an

825
00:38:03,239 --> 00:38:05,719
Speaker 3: emergency appointment with my therapist and it helped a lot.

826
00:38:05,880 --> 00:38:08,759
Speaker 3: I'm on ordered bed rest for forty eight hours, even

827
00:38:08,800 --> 00:38:11,400
Speaker 3: though I'm technically on rest until September, when I'll be

828
00:38:11,600 --> 00:38:14,359
Speaker 3: to the full dose of my anti convulsants. I want

829
00:38:14,400 --> 00:38:17,120
Speaker 3: to thank everyone who commented on my previous posts. The

830
00:38:17,160 --> 00:38:20,080
Speaker 3: perspective and courage you gifted me has helped me finally

831
00:38:20,120 --> 00:38:23,280
Speaker 3: set some boundaries with my harmful family. My littlest sister

832
00:38:23,320 --> 00:38:25,200
Speaker 3: and I are on good terms, and I'm so happy

833
00:38:25,239 --> 00:38:28,200
Speaker 3: she's removing herself from that situation. I have subscribed to

834
00:38:28,440 --> 00:38:32,680
Speaker 3: are Slash Raised by Narcissists and appreciate the multiple referrals.

835
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Speaker 3: And there's an update. Let's just get into it. Let's

836
00:38:34,880 --> 00:38:37,279
Speaker 3: get into it. As I stated in the comments, I

837
00:38:37,440 --> 00:38:41,560
Speaker 3: had my manager contact my sister, confirming the termination, instructing

838
00:38:41,600 --> 00:38:45,239
Speaker 3: her not to contact any students, requesting her final timesheet,

839
00:38:45,320 --> 00:38:47,640
Speaker 3: and telling her that her final paycheck will be mailed

840
00:38:47,640 --> 00:38:49,760
Speaker 3: to her along with her W two and a formal

841
00:38:49,840 --> 00:38:52,880
Speaker 3: statement of termination. I began calling families to notify them

842
00:38:52,920 --> 00:38:54,960
Speaker 3: that their appointments will now be with a different tutor.

843
00:38:55,000 --> 00:38:57,799
Speaker 3: And it turns out that my sister continued to see

844
00:38:57,800 --> 00:39:00,960
Speaker 3: students even though I explicitly told her. I tried to

845
00:39:01,000 --> 00:39:03,520
Speaker 3: contact her, and she blocked calls from me, my husband,

846
00:39:03,560 --> 00:39:06,680
Speaker 3: and our manager. I left her a voicemail reinstating that

847
00:39:06,840 --> 00:39:09,839
Speaker 3: she could not have any contact with any students, and

848
00:39:09,920 --> 00:39:12,719
Speaker 3: my husband sent her another text with the same information.

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Speaker 2: My point that I was gonna make right now is

854
00:39:30,520 --> 00:39:33,240
Speaker 2: I have a friend who works as a tutor and

855
00:39:33,760 --> 00:39:36,799
Speaker 2: I and she in her contract. She is not like

856
00:39:36,880 --> 00:39:39,280
Speaker 2: if she were to quit or stop working with the company,

857
00:39:39,360 --> 00:39:41,239
Speaker 2: she would not be able to work with any of

858
00:39:41,239 --> 00:39:44,400
Speaker 2: the students, or she would do so hopefully. Oh, he

859
00:39:44,560 --> 00:39:48,600
Speaker 2: has some sort of legal recourse to go after her sister,

860
00:39:48,920 --> 00:39:51,040
Speaker 2: And I feel like she doesn't want to, or she

861
00:39:51,080 --> 00:39:54,640
Speaker 2: wouldn't want to, but she should absolutely see her sister

862
00:39:55,000 --> 00:39:56,880
Speaker 2: for trying to steal her clients.

863
00:39:57,160 --> 00:40:00,319
Speaker 3: Meanwhile, families that were hers are one by one leaving

864
00:40:00,360 --> 00:40:03,000
Speaker 3: the company. Some had already started paying her directly, and

865
00:40:03,040 --> 00:40:05,200
Speaker 3: the others are upset that their child has to go

866
00:40:05,280 --> 00:40:08,319
Speaker 3: through the emotional trauma of switching instructors. So far, the

867
00:40:08,320 --> 00:40:11,279
Speaker 3: company has lost four families. I've informed the others to

868
00:40:11,320 --> 00:40:13,480
Speaker 3: call the police if my sister arrives at their home.

869
00:40:13,560 --> 00:40:16,400
Speaker 3: My manager is also informed me that my mom is

870
00:40:16,400 --> 00:40:18,840
Speaker 3: now accusing me of stealing thousands of dollars of piano

871
00:40:18,920 --> 00:40:20,600
Speaker 3: music from the family. I'm the only one in the

872
00:40:20,600 --> 00:40:22,719
Speaker 3: family that plays the piano, and she delivered all the

873
00:40:22,800 --> 00:40:25,200
Speaker 3: music to my house herself. I don't need to be told.

874
00:40:25,200 --> 00:40:27,000
Speaker 3: I've been bit up to this point. What do I

875
00:40:27,040 --> 00:40:30,360
Speaker 3: do next? This woman is actively blatantly attempting to destroy

876
00:40:30,480 --> 00:40:32,320
Speaker 3: my life. You sue her.

877
00:40:32,719 --> 00:40:36,280
Speaker 2: If you were smart, which I mean you've graduated called Reily,

878
00:40:36,440 --> 00:40:39,120
Speaker 2: you would hopefully have a contract that says if she

879
00:40:39,360 --> 00:40:44,120
Speaker 2: tries to continue working with your students after she quits

880
00:40:44,200 --> 00:40:47,839
Speaker 2: or after she's terminated, then she's sued, then you can

881
00:40:47,880 --> 00:40:48,880
Speaker 2: take a legal action.

882
00:40:49,400 --> 00:40:52,880
Speaker 3: You should have a contract that sets that man. So

883
00:40:52,920 --> 00:40:55,279
Speaker 3: she's got all the book smarts and none of the

884
00:40:55,320 --> 00:40:58,960
Speaker 3: street smarts. None of those streets smarts zero percent street smarts,

885
00:40:59,040 --> 00:41:00,400
Speaker 3: one smart.

886
00:41:00,480 --> 00:41:03,160
Speaker 2: To be fair, I mean that is a possibility. She

887
00:41:03,400 --> 00:41:06,120
Speaker 2: is quite young, she's only twenty three. I mean, yeah,

888
00:41:06,360 --> 00:41:09,239
Speaker 2: you can be very book smart and not necessarily know

889
00:41:09,360 --> 00:41:11,720
Speaker 2: all of the ins and outs of working with people

890
00:41:11,719 --> 00:41:12,400
Speaker 2: in a business.

891
00:41:12,480 --> 00:41:14,680
Speaker 3: What do you do now? I don't know what you

892
00:41:14,719 --> 00:41:17,399
Speaker 3: do now? So you see your sister. What really does

893
00:41:17,440 --> 00:41:19,520
Speaker 3: matter is what you should have done then. And I

894
00:41:19,600 --> 00:41:22,279
Speaker 3: think you as soon as your sister becomes it, as

895
00:41:22,280 --> 00:41:24,000
Speaker 3: soon as any employee, as soon as you're like, man,

896
00:41:24,040 --> 00:41:26,360
Speaker 3: if any other employee did this, i'd be I'd be

897
00:41:26,400 --> 00:41:28,360
Speaker 3: firing them. Yeah, that's when you fired. That's when you

898
00:41:28,360 --> 00:41:30,719
Speaker 3: should have fired your sisters right then. Yeah, and now

899
00:41:30,760 --> 00:41:33,480
Speaker 3: you know, now you know, And I know that that

900
00:41:33,560 --> 00:41:35,279
Speaker 3: was the end of that story. That's what I know.

901
00:41:35,440 --> 00:41:36,840
Speaker 3: And that was maybe real.

902
00:41:37,160 --> 00:41:40,440
Speaker 5: I was doing some super slew things. Yeah, Josephine, I

903
00:41:40,440 --> 00:41:43,319
Speaker 5: think it's real because I was on the train. The

904
00:41:43,360 --> 00:41:46,799
Speaker 5: account is pretty active for a while of like not

905
00:41:47,040 --> 00:41:49,560
Speaker 5: just like they're all tied to op and like her

906
00:41:49,560 --> 00:41:53,040
Speaker 5: conditioning and all like all her like family trauma, and

907
00:41:53,080 --> 00:41:55,279
Speaker 5: there's a lot more that I was like, whoa, It

908
00:41:55,320 --> 00:41:57,560
Speaker 5: gets into some spicy stuff with her husband.

909
00:41:57,560 --> 00:41:58,960
Speaker 4: But it's like, Okay, great.

910
00:41:58,880 --> 00:42:01,799
Speaker 3: Joke's on you. Everyone was never off that train. That's

911
00:42:01,840 --> 00:42:04,600
Speaker 3: a role play right at account No, yep, that's a

912
00:42:04,640 --> 00:42:08,359
Speaker 3: person pretending to be another person, like I found. No, No,

913
00:42:08,400 --> 00:42:08,719
Speaker 3: they don't.

914
00:42:08,800 --> 00:42:10,800
Speaker 4: I found it. I found one. Like right now, should

915
00:42:10,840 --> 00:42:12,640
Speaker 4: I put my husband or myself on payroll?

916
00:42:12,880 --> 00:42:16,160
Speaker 3: Like? Yep, that they're they're they're trying their best to

917
00:42:16,160 --> 00:42:17,400
Speaker 3: pull the wool over our eyes.

918
00:42:17,480 --> 00:42:20,560
Speaker 2: I don't think anyone puts that much. Okay, maybe some

919
00:42:20,600 --> 00:42:20,960
Speaker 2: people do.

920
00:42:21,080 --> 00:42:23,120
Speaker 4: Switching my employees to an independent contract.

921
00:42:23,200 --> 00:42:26,799
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's more just completely it's so unbelievable that this

922
00:42:26,840 --> 00:42:32,439
Speaker 3: person doesn't have respect to be like, I guess I'm

923
00:42:32,480 --> 00:42:35,680
Speaker 3: not a lazy, but it's like, it's that's one thing

924
00:42:35,719 --> 00:42:38,040
Speaker 3: if you're like working at a cafe like I was

925
00:42:38,080 --> 00:42:40,680
Speaker 3: doing it. Twenty three. This person has a tutoring business

926
00:42:40,719 --> 00:42:42,280
Speaker 3: and they graduated college at seventeen.

927
00:42:42,520 --> 00:42:44,759
Speaker 4: Again we said this though, Yeah, we said this that

928
00:42:44,800 --> 00:42:46,560
Speaker 4: OPI is extremely book smart.

929
00:42:46,640 --> 00:42:49,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, but it's smart. They could be the same thing.

930
00:42:50,160 --> 00:42:53,840
Speaker 3: He's also twenty three. Folks, I don't think epilepsy doesn't exist.

931
00:42:54,160 --> 00:42:56,480
Speaker 3: For God's sake, what I don't know, I just some

932
00:42:56,560 --> 00:43:00,200
Speaker 3: of demonic says my boyfriend is epileptic Tokota and he

933
00:43:00,239 --> 00:43:03,960
Speaker 3: does and he isn't real. It's fake. He's fake. This

934
00:43:04,080 --> 00:43:07,839
Speaker 3: is he's a scary version of Decanta. He wears his printer.

935
00:43:07,680 --> 00:43:12,120
Speaker 2: Where he wears sunglasses, sunglasses inside. Yeah, Dakota wearing sunglasses

936
00:43:12,160 --> 00:43:12,480
Speaker 2: is evil.

937
00:43:12,560 --> 00:43:15,920
Speaker 3: Dakota. Oh that's scary. I don't. Oh Jesus, you look

938
00:43:15,960 --> 00:43:16,960
Speaker 3: too scary. Stop it.

939
00:43:17,160 --> 00:43:19,840
Speaker 2: The storny contain of says catfish people fake being different

940
00:43:19,840 --> 00:43:20,680
Speaker 2: people for years.

941
00:43:20,719 --> 00:43:23,160
Speaker 3: It's possible. I mean, look, I'm operating on the reel.

942
00:43:23,320 --> 00:43:26,160
Speaker 3: I think he is real. And here's some real stuff. Man,

943
00:43:26,239 --> 00:43:28,880
Speaker 3: you need to have like, uh, what's it called? Like

944
00:43:29,080 --> 00:43:31,120
Speaker 3: remember like the bit like the anger translator.

945
00:43:31,480 --> 00:43:33,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, you need you need to like to fire people.

946
00:43:34,040 --> 00:43:37,239
Speaker 2: You need to give your manager firing power. Interactions with

947
00:43:37,320 --> 00:43:39,560
Speaker 2: your family translator. That's what you need.

948
00:43:39,680 --> 00:43:41,240
Speaker 3: But is that the end of the episode.

949
00:43:41,400 --> 00:43:43,960
Speaker 4: No, anyone more. That's why let's go into it.

950
00:43:44,120 --> 00:43:46,840
Speaker 3: All right, let's get into it, folks.

951
00:43:47,280 --> 00:43:51,280
Speaker 2: My pregnant sister demands compromise for the family vacation.

952
00:43:51,640 --> 00:43:54,480
Speaker 3: It's driving us apart. We're all pregnant.

953
00:43:54,600 --> 00:43:58,680
Speaker 2: Now what My family also consists of me thirty nine female,

954
00:43:58,719 --> 00:44:01,839
Speaker 2: my brother forty one man, and my parents sixty four

955
00:44:01,880 --> 00:44:04,759
Speaker 2: male and female, along with our significant others. We have

956
00:44:04,840 --> 00:44:08,800
Speaker 2: been having this annual family vacation for almost thirteen years.

957
00:44:09,080 --> 00:44:13,160
Speaker 2: We are very athletic, fitness oriented family and usually spend

958
00:44:13,200 --> 00:44:17,200
Speaker 2: our annual family vacations doing sporty things like trek in,

959
00:44:17,800 --> 00:44:21,840
Speaker 2: rock climbing, kayaking, biking, and some other fun stuff like

960
00:44:22,040 --> 00:44:23,520
Speaker 2: apps sailing, AB sailing.

961
00:44:23,640 --> 00:44:26,000
Speaker 3: What's app sailing? You sail with your abs?

962
00:44:26,320 --> 00:44:26,400
Speaker 5: What?

963
00:44:26,840 --> 00:44:29,000
Speaker 3: You just stand up on a board and you have

964
00:44:29,120 --> 00:44:33,799
Speaker 3: four into the wind and bungee jumping? Can someone actually

965
00:44:33,840 --> 00:44:35,920
Speaker 3: tell me what app sailing is? I think AB sailing

966
00:44:36,040 --> 00:44:38,560
Speaker 3: is when you actually it's like a small sale. It's

967
00:44:38,560 --> 00:44:41,120
Speaker 3: like it almost looks like a pontoon where there's like

968
00:44:41,120 --> 00:44:43,239
Speaker 3: two little floats and there's like a net in the middle.

969
00:44:43,280 --> 00:44:45,680
Speaker 3: And oh, I think that's what absailing is.

970
00:44:45,880 --> 00:44:48,360
Speaker 2: This year we found out that my sister was pregnant

971
00:44:48,520 --> 00:44:49,880
Speaker 2: currently around four months.

972
00:44:50,080 --> 00:44:51,239
Speaker 3: By the way, this comes.

973
00:44:50,960 --> 00:44:53,320
Speaker 2: From deleted and if you want to spit your own stories,

974
00:44:53,440 --> 00:44:56,120
Speaker 2: go to the r slash okay storytime separate it. So

975
00:44:56,360 --> 00:44:59,000
Speaker 2: we were surprised at first because we thought none of

976
00:44:59,040 --> 00:45:00,920
Speaker 2: us were going to have kids. Yes, that said, we

977
00:45:01,000 --> 00:45:03,480
Speaker 2: are very happy for This will be the first baby

978
00:45:03,480 --> 00:45:06,000
Speaker 2: in our family. My brother and I are child free

979
00:45:06,080 --> 00:45:09,360
Speaker 2: with our respective essos. We were planning on our usual

980
00:45:09,480 --> 00:45:12,560
Speaker 2: vacation and this time we're planning on going mountain climbing

981
00:45:12,680 --> 00:45:15,640
Speaker 2: and biking, plus one night of drinking and talking at

982
00:45:15,640 --> 00:45:18,480
Speaker 2: the local pub we always do the one night of drinking.

983
00:45:18,640 --> 00:45:21,960
Speaker 2: That was our plan initially. However, sister has said she

984
00:45:22,040 --> 00:45:23,799
Speaker 2: doesn't want to go for this and wants to go

985
00:45:23,880 --> 00:45:25,520
Speaker 2: for a beach resort kind of vacation.

986
00:45:25,960 --> 00:45:27,520
Speaker 3: None of us are keen to do that.

987
00:45:28,160 --> 00:45:31,200
Speaker 2: Sister complained that the current itinerary would exclude her as

988
00:45:31,239 --> 00:45:34,400
Speaker 2: she cannot do rigorous activity while pregnant. My mother decided

989
00:45:34,440 --> 00:45:36,440
Speaker 2: to sit out the fun activities and we came up

990
00:45:36,480 --> 00:45:38,920
Speaker 2: with a different set of activities she will do with

991
00:45:38,960 --> 00:45:41,960
Speaker 2: my sister. Our plan is that me, dad, brother, and

992
00:45:42,080 --> 00:45:45,600
Speaker 2: oursos will go and do all the activities we planned well. Mother,

993
00:45:45,760 --> 00:45:48,160
Speaker 2: sister and brother in law will do other stuff like

994
00:45:48,239 --> 00:45:51,080
Speaker 2: the spaw, massages and shopping. Then we'll meet up in

995
00:45:51,080 --> 00:45:53,280
Speaker 2: the evening to have dinner together. To me, it sounded

996
00:45:53,320 --> 00:45:57,280
Speaker 2: like a fair compromise. Everyone gets tough fun without excluding anyone,

997
00:45:57,320 --> 00:45:59,560
Speaker 2: and we still get to spend time as a family

998
00:46:00,120 --> 00:46:02,480
Speaker 2: doesn't want this compromise. She says it won't be fun

999
00:46:02,520 --> 00:46:04,600
Speaker 2: for her and that's not fair to her. I asked

1000
00:46:04,600 --> 00:46:07,200
Speaker 2: her to do some research and choose other activities she

1001
00:46:07,280 --> 00:46:09,600
Speaker 2: can do with mother. She refused and said, if we

1002
00:46:09,680 --> 00:46:11,600
Speaker 2: don't care about her, then we can go for the

1003
00:46:11,719 --> 00:46:12,880
Speaker 2: current plan vacation.

1004
00:46:13,120 --> 00:46:16,600
Speaker 3: Okay. That's when I'd start saying, Okay, sure, if that's

1005
00:46:16,640 --> 00:46:17,200
Speaker 3: what you want.

1006
00:46:17,520 --> 00:46:19,760
Speaker 2: But if we really cared about her and the baby,

1007
00:46:19,800 --> 00:46:22,320
Speaker 2: we would go for the beach resort vacation that she wants.

1008
00:46:22,880 --> 00:46:25,319
Speaker 3: And that also sounds pretty nice. Not gonna lie.

1009
00:46:25,840 --> 00:46:28,839
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm like a little bit conflicted because I do

1010
00:46:28,880 --> 00:46:31,759
Speaker 2: think that she's being unreasonable and not compromising, but I

1011
00:46:31,800 --> 00:46:34,239
Speaker 2: also would understand that she would feel left out.

1012
00:46:34,360 --> 00:46:37,399
Speaker 3: It's like an extremes It sounds like an extreme sport family. Yeah,

1013
00:46:37,719 --> 00:46:40,520
Speaker 3: I think my mind immediately went to like a team

1014
00:46:40,600 --> 00:46:43,759
Speaker 3: manning a sailboat when they sit ab sailing, because there's

1015
00:46:43,760 --> 00:46:45,400
Speaker 3: like there's like it's like five or six people on

1016
00:46:45,440 --> 00:46:47,080
Speaker 3: that little thing, like all managing stuff. It was like,

1017
00:46:47,160 --> 00:46:50,759
Speaker 3: that's like our team family unit bonding activity while we're

1018
00:46:50,800 --> 00:46:53,279
Speaker 3: all I don't know these you know what? Well, these

1019
00:46:53,440 --> 00:46:55,440
Speaker 3: you know you know what learn to relax on the

1020
00:46:55,480 --> 00:46:58,759
Speaker 3: beach with your pregnant family member. That's why I'm saying it.

1021
00:46:59,160 --> 00:47:01,600
Speaker 2: I do think that I would put I don't know,

1022
00:47:02,080 --> 00:47:04,160
Speaker 2: like it seems like a fair compromise, but I do

1023
00:47:04,200 --> 00:47:06,360
Speaker 2: I would want to at least include my sister in

1024
00:47:06,480 --> 00:47:08,960
Speaker 2: like a couple of the days, you know, because it's

1025
00:47:09,040 --> 00:47:11,480
Speaker 2: it's only this year. I mean, she might have more children,

1026
00:47:11,520 --> 00:47:13,239
Speaker 2: but like currently it's this year.

1027
00:47:13,680 --> 00:47:16,719
Speaker 3: She better not. We have a tight schedule. We've got

1028
00:47:16,760 --> 00:47:20,280
Speaker 3: things to do. We've got a railing Viking ab sailing.

1029
00:47:20,719 --> 00:47:23,680
Speaker 2: At this point, my brother is pissed because her refusal

1030
00:47:23,719 --> 00:47:26,839
Speaker 2: to compromise is delaying our booking. We need to book accommodation,

1031
00:47:27,000 --> 00:47:31,040
Speaker 2: flights and other things. She is causing trouble and delaying

1032
00:47:31,120 --> 00:47:33,680
Speaker 2: the whole thing. Brother says, if she continues to be

1033
00:47:33,680 --> 00:47:35,799
Speaker 2: a baby about this, then he can He's going to

1034
00:47:35,840 --> 00:47:38,080
Speaker 2: go ahead without her and book the vacation. Anyway, she

1035
00:47:38,160 --> 00:47:41,360
Speaker 2: can grow up and come or be left behind. His words,

1036
00:47:41,440 --> 00:47:43,680
Speaker 2: not mine. I would really like her to be included,

1037
00:47:43,719 --> 00:47:46,080
Speaker 2: as I hate confrontation and drama. We have been a

1038
00:47:46,120 --> 00:47:49,160
Speaker 2: pretty peaceful and happy family usually. Does anyone have any

1039
00:47:49,160 --> 00:47:49,840
Speaker 2: idea why.

1040
00:47:49,719 --> 00:47:52,279
Speaker 3: She's acting like this well, yeah, I.

1041
00:47:52,239 --> 00:47:54,680
Speaker 2: Mean, okay, I'm gonna finish this. My brother says she's

1042
00:47:54,760 --> 00:47:57,720
Speaker 2: just being witchy and entitled. My husband sides with my brother.

1043
00:47:57,960 --> 00:48:00,279
Speaker 2: My sister in law thinks this will blow up and

1044
00:48:00,400 --> 00:48:02,840
Speaker 2: that this behavior is just due to pregnancy and hormones.

1045
00:48:03,040 --> 00:48:04,920
Speaker 2: I tried to ask brother in law, but he just

1046
00:48:04,920 --> 00:48:08,320
Speaker 2: said he supports sister's decision for a beach for thort vacation.

1047
00:48:08,640 --> 00:48:10,920
Speaker 2: Our current plan is to go ahead and book the

1048
00:48:10,960 --> 00:48:14,200
Speaker 2: vacation and include tickets and accommodation for her and brother

1049
00:48:14,200 --> 00:48:16,040
Speaker 2: in law so that if she decides to come at

1050
00:48:16,080 --> 00:48:18,080
Speaker 2: the last minute, we don't have to scramble for tickets

1051
00:48:18,080 --> 00:48:21,239
Speaker 2: and flights. If she decides not to come, close aunt

1052
00:48:21,320 --> 00:48:23,120
Speaker 2: and uncle will come with us instead.

1053
00:48:23,280 --> 00:48:25,080
Speaker 3: And there are some comments don here.

1054
00:48:25,120 --> 00:48:26,880
Speaker 1: We're gonna get back to this juicy story, but a

1055
00:48:26,920 --> 00:48:29,400
Speaker 1: quick three minute break of ads from our sponsors, but

1056
00:48:29,560 --> 00:48:30,160
Speaker 1: really quick.

1057
00:48:30,400 --> 00:48:32,719
Speaker 2: I feel like everyone's being kind of a little bit

1058
00:48:32,880 --> 00:48:35,840
Speaker 2: sucky here because I think, you know, obviously, the pregnant

1059
00:48:35,920 --> 00:48:39,160
Speaker 2: sister is not compromising at all, but also I feel

1060
00:48:39,200 --> 00:48:42,040
Speaker 2: like you guys, you and your family are not being

1061
00:48:42,520 --> 00:48:45,680
Speaker 2: super empathetic, like this is the first time she's being

1062
00:48:45,719 --> 00:48:49,080
Speaker 2: pregnant and all of her friends and family or sorry,

1063
00:48:49,320 --> 00:48:50,719
Speaker 2: all of her family are going to be doing all

1064
00:48:50,760 --> 00:48:52,040
Speaker 2: this fun stuff without her.

1065
00:48:52,160 --> 00:48:54,680
Speaker 3: You know, I'm seeing a lot of comments that are saying, like,

1066
00:48:54,840 --> 00:48:57,400
Speaker 3: she's pregnant, now, yeah, she's she can do a lot

1067
00:48:57,480 --> 00:49:01,040
Speaker 3: of that stuff. Oh well, also that which is you

1068
00:49:01,040 --> 00:49:03,479
Speaker 3: can't go drinking. Now what I expect. I didn't expect

1069
00:49:03,520 --> 00:49:05,319
Speaker 3: people to be like, yeah, rock climbing, you could do

1070
00:49:05,400 --> 00:49:06,200
Speaker 3: that when you're pregnant.

1071
00:49:06,400 --> 00:49:09,480
Speaker 2: Like it, you can, but it has to be like,

1072
00:49:09,520 --> 00:49:11,760
Speaker 2: you can do a lot of exercise and physical exertion

1073
00:49:11,840 --> 00:49:14,200
Speaker 2: stuff when you're pregnant, but you have to have been

1074
00:49:14,280 --> 00:49:16,600
Speaker 2: doing it, you know, like they always say, if you

1075
00:49:16,680 --> 00:49:20,680
Speaker 2: have been consistently exercising before you got pregnant and keep going,

1076
00:49:20,840 --> 00:49:23,880
Speaker 2: that's okay. You can't just like do a bunch of

1077
00:49:23,880 --> 00:49:25,399
Speaker 2: crazy stuff that you haven't been doing.

1078
00:49:25,680 --> 00:49:25,919
Speaker 5: Well.

1079
00:49:26,320 --> 00:49:28,959
Speaker 3: I don't know. This really all just comes down into

1080
00:49:29,000 --> 00:49:31,400
Speaker 3: the like I think someone said at the very beginning,

1081
00:49:31,440 --> 00:49:34,879
Speaker 3: you can't demand compromise. No, that's the defeast, the very

1082
00:49:35,080 --> 00:49:38,319
Speaker 3: purpose and nature of compromise. So someone just needs to

1083
00:49:38,320 --> 00:49:39,880
Speaker 3: be ready to meet in the middle here, and it

1084
00:49:39,920 --> 00:49:42,200
Speaker 3: feels like neither of them want I agree that's what

1085
00:49:42,280 --> 00:49:42,680
Speaker 3: I think.

1086
00:49:42,880 --> 00:49:44,879
Speaker 2: Like, I think it's everyone's a little bit sucky here

1087
00:49:44,920 --> 00:49:46,600
Speaker 2: because no one's willing.

1088
00:49:46,320 --> 00:49:48,799
Speaker 3: To, yeah, to compromise. And I also saw a comment

1089
00:49:48,840 --> 00:49:50,520
Speaker 3: that said that you think this is bad, wait until

1090
00:49:50,520 --> 00:49:53,040
Speaker 3: the baby's born. That's every vacation is going to be

1091
00:49:53,040 --> 00:49:55,399
Speaker 3: about the baby. What the the Oh, the baby can't

1092
00:49:55,440 --> 00:49:56,560
Speaker 3: do that, We can't do that.

1093
00:49:56,480 --> 00:49:58,640
Speaker 2: In which case that like, maybe this is a conversation

1094
00:49:58,680 --> 00:50:00,879
Speaker 2: that needs to happen now and say like, hey, there,

1095
00:50:00,880 --> 00:50:03,880
Speaker 2: it seems like there's gotta be vacations down the line

1096
00:50:03,920 --> 00:50:06,480
Speaker 2: that once you have this baby, we're gonna still want

1097
00:50:06,520 --> 00:50:08,480
Speaker 2: to do all of this and you might not be

1098
00:50:08,520 --> 00:50:11,760
Speaker 2: able to go. And you know, have that conversation right now.

1099
00:50:11,680 --> 00:50:15,000
Speaker 3: You say, hey, this extreme family demands an extreme baby.

1100
00:50:15,040 --> 00:50:17,120
Speaker 3: If your baby's not extreme enough to keep up, we're

1101
00:50:17,200 --> 00:50:18,000
Speaker 3: leaving you behind.

1102
00:50:18,200 --> 00:50:20,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, but also you know she can't ask you guys

1103
00:50:20,160 --> 00:50:22,080
Speaker 2: to completely stop everything that you're doing.

1104
00:50:22,200 --> 00:50:23,880
Speaker 3: We're gonna, I don't know, I want to You're going

1105
00:50:23,920 --> 00:50:25,600
Speaker 3: to deliver that baby while ab sailing.

1106
00:50:25,719 --> 00:50:28,239
Speaker 2: I think everyone's being a little bit un empathetic, like

1107
00:50:28,320 --> 00:50:29,600
Speaker 2: your your brothers are.

1108
00:50:29,480 --> 00:50:32,680
Speaker 3: Like who cares, She's just being witchy. It's like she's pregnant.

1109
00:50:32,719 --> 00:50:36,279
Speaker 3: Pregnant is she she's four months? You know that is

1110
00:50:36,360 --> 00:50:39,840
Speaker 3: not pregnant enough to not do all that stuff. A

1111
00:50:39,880 --> 00:50:45,080
Speaker 3: lot of people, well i'm not again Again, she's like

1112
00:50:45,120 --> 00:50:47,680
Speaker 3: you said, if she's been doing all this stuff, but

1113
00:50:47,760 --> 00:50:51,160
Speaker 3: we don't know if she's active, we still do this stuff.

1114
00:50:51,160 --> 00:50:53,879
Speaker 3: She's not about to give birth in a week. Well,

1115
00:50:53,920 --> 00:50:55,600
Speaker 3: she can't go to the bar. But she can't go

1116
00:50:55,640 --> 00:50:59,640
Speaker 3: to the bar. Yeah, there are some things that she's

1117
00:50:59,680 --> 00:51:02,080
Speaker 3: going to. We canna get upset about that. Stay hold,

1118
00:51:02,320 --> 00:51:04,879
Speaker 3: that's what she's saying. Okay, didn't do that, but she's

1119
00:51:04,920 --> 00:51:06,640
Speaker 3: gonna do that and then be like upset about it.

1120
00:51:06,640 --> 00:51:08,480
Speaker 3: Instead of like this is what I want, she'd be like,

1121
00:51:08,520 --> 00:51:10,439
Speaker 3: this is what I have to do to win.

1122
00:51:11,960 --> 00:51:14,800
Speaker 2: I think everyone's being at a little bit unempathetic story,

1123
00:51:14,920 --> 00:51:16,920
Speaker 2: including her comment one. I feel like everyone in this

1124
00:51:17,000 --> 00:51:19,960
Speaker 2: situation is acting kind of babyish. Yes, it's selfish for

1125
00:51:20,040 --> 00:51:23,320
Speaker 2: her to expect you all to completely change the holiday

1126
00:51:23,320 --> 00:51:25,319
Speaker 2: plans for her, but it's also going to be hard

1127
00:51:25,320 --> 00:51:27,480
Speaker 2: to include her in your current plans. And I think

1128
00:51:27,520 --> 00:51:29,400
Speaker 2: her issue is that she wants to spend the holiday

1129
00:51:29,440 --> 00:51:32,080
Speaker 2: all together as a family, yeah, not separately.

1130
00:51:32,120 --> 00:51:32,640
Speaker 3: Doing stuff.

1131
00:51:32,880 --> 00:51:34,760
Speaker 2: Is there no way to have a holiday that includes

1132
00:51:34,800 --> 00:51:37,040
Speaker 2: both a beach holiday and an active holiday. That's kind

1133
00:51:37,080 --> 00:51:39,360
Speaker 2: of what I was thinking, Like, why don't we compromise

1134
00:51:39,480 --> 00:51:40,560
Speaker 2: and do both those things?

1135
00:51:40,560 --> 00:51:42,360
Speaker 3: Maybe go swim in the ocean.

1136
00:51:42,239 --> 00:51:45,160
Speaker 2: A seaside resort that has hiking trails and watersports, that

1137
00:51:45,239 --> 00:51:47,120
Speaker 2: kind of thing. You could spend the morning on the

1138
00:51:47,120 --> 00:51:50,120
Speaker 2: beach chilling together, the afternoon's off doing whatever, and the

1139
00:51:50,160 --> 00:51:52,520
Speaker 2: evenings together for dinner, and everyone should be happy and

1140
00:51:52,560 --> 00:51:53,560
Speaker 2: there is an update.

1141
00:51:53,760 --> 00:51:54,200
Speaker 3: I agree.

1142
00:51:54,239 --> 00:51:56,160
Speaker 2: That's that is the comment I most agree with, I

1143
00:51:56,200 --> 00:51:58,279
Speaker 2: think because I think she is pregnant and there are

1144
00:51:58,400 --> 00:52:01,640
Speaker 2: things that you cannot do when you're pregnant. But also

1145
00:52:02,360 --> 00:52:04,680
Speaker 2: she is, you know, not compromising at all and trying

1146
00:52:04,680 --> 00:52:05,800
Speaker 2: to change everyone's plans.

1147
00:52:05,840 --> 00:52:07,600
Speaker 3: I think there is a middle ground that could be

1148
00:52:07,600 --> 00:52:09,680
Speaker 3: reached here for both sides. I'm saying, get over it.

1149
00:52:09,840 --> 00:52:12,359
Speaker 3: That's my take. I disagree with that, but that's fine,

1150
00:52:12,400 --> 00:52:15,160
Speaker 3: that's okay. But it's like, apply this to not pregnancy.

1151
00:52:15,200 --> 00:52:17,759
Speaker 3: It's like imagine like, and I'm not equating pregnancy to

1152
00:52:17,800 --> 00:52:20,239
Speaker 3: a broken ankle, but imagine someone's got a broken ankle.

1153
00:52:20,280 --> 00:52:21,640
Speaker 3: They're like, I can't do all this stuff. So we

1154
00:52:21,640 --> 00:52:23,920
Speaker 3: can't do it. No one would be jumping to accommodate that.

1155
00:52:24,080 --> 00:52:26,600
Speaker 3: You will be like, well you can't do that, yeah,

1156
00:52:26,640 --> 00:52:28,920
Speaker 3: but I you can maybe do this. I don't think

1157
00:52:28,960 --> 00:52:31,880
Speaker 3: you can equention. And again it's a similar situation of

1158
00:52:31,960 --> 00:52:33,600
Speaker 3: just someone being like, oh, I have this thing, so

1159
00:52:33,760 --> 00:52:35,640
Speaker 3: we can't do that. Well no, no, no, you have

1160
00:52:35,680 --> 00:52:37,799
Speaker 3: that thing, so you can't do that, but we can

1161
00:52:37,840 --> 00:52:41,719
Speaker 3: still do other stuff you can still enjoy. I don't know.

1162
00:52:41,760 --> 00:52:44,520
Speaker 3: It just sounds like I just think one side needs

1163
00:52:44,520 --> 00:52:47,319
Speaker 3: to go. I don't care. So that's all that needs

1164
00:52:47,320 --> 00:52:48,880
Speaker 3: to happen. But I don't care what side it is.

1165
00:52:49,040 --> 00:52:51,200
Speaker 2: I think at the end of the day, the point

1166
00:52:51,200 --> 00:52:53,560
Speaker 2: of it is to be a family vacation. And I

1167
00:52:53,600 --> 00:52:55,960
Speaker 2: think she's saying I want to do stuff with my family,

1168
00:52:56,160 --> 00:52:58,320
Speaker 2: and obviously she's the sister is kind of making a

1169
00:52:58,320 --> 00:53:00,080
Speaker 2: big deal about a bunch of things. But I I

1170
00:53:00,080 --> 00:53:02,040
Speaker 2: feel like it's like, for example, if you have the

1171
00:53:02,040 --> 00:53:04,960
Speaker 2: person who has the broken ankle or whatever, you have

1172
00:53:05,040 --> 00:53:06,960
Speaker 2: to make a choice. Do I want to hang out

1173
00:53:06,960 --> 00:53:08,799
Speaker 2: with them more than I want to do all this

1174
00:53:08,880 --> 00:53:09,520
Speaker 2: cool stuff?

1175
00:53:09,600 --> 00:53:11,560
Speaker 3: Bro? If I had the brook to be clear, if

1176
00:53:11,600 --> 00:53:15,120
Speaker 3: I'm broken ankle, boy I'm just going anyway, all right,

1177
00:53:15,239 --> 00:53:17,600
Speaker 3: I'll hang out, I'll meet a friend, I'll make a

1178
00:53:17,640 --> 00:53:20,759
Speaker 3: friend while y'all are out there parasailing you were a

1179
00:53:20,760 --> 00:53:23,400
Speaker 3: different person, all what do you mean? It's like you

1180
00:53:23,480 --> 00:53:26,280
Speaker 3: were a different person. You met strangers and made friends

1181
00:53:26,920 --> 00:53:27,560
Speaker 3: a different person.

1182
00:53:27,680 --> 00:53:31,240
Speaker 2: But there's an updates After looking through the original post

1183
00:53:31,239 --> 00:53:33,960
Speaker 2: and replies, I'm not really sure why I posted on Reddit.

1184
00:53:34,120 --> 00:53:36,880
Speaker 2: I know my sister, and while she can be selfish sometimes,

1185
00:53:36,920 --> 00:53:39,760
Speaker 2: she's also usually quick to compromise. I had a really

1186
00:53:39,800 --> 00:53:42,960
Speaker 2: strong hunch that there was another underlying reason for this issue,

1187
00:53:43,000 --> 00:53:44,800
Speaker 2: and I was right, which is why we should be

1188
00:53:44,880 --> 00:53:48,279
Speaker 2: curious a I think I posted here hoping that some

1189
00:53:48,360 --> 00:53:51,160
Speaker 2: redditor could come up with a correct explanation for this,

1190
00:53:51,440 --> 00:53:53,480
Speaker 2: but I was hoping for too much, as no one

1191
00:53:53,560 --> 00:53:55,880
Speaker 2: is a mind reader. Honestly, most of the comments were

1192
00:53:55,920 --> 00:53:58,799
Speaker 2: not helpful, as everyone was suggesting changing the location, which

1193
00:53:58,840 --> 00:54:01,120
Speaker 2: was out of the question. Was a bunch of judgment

1194
00:54:01,120 --> 00:54:03,560
Speaker 2: from strangers who don't know a thing about my family.

1195
00:54:03,719 --> 00:54:06,760
Speaker 2: Thank you to the people who provided constructive feedback.

1196
00:54:06,360 --> 00:54:09,120
Speaker 3: Though I hope they consider get over it as constructive.

1197
00:54:09,880 --> 00:54:13,959
Speaker 3: That's get over it is not an effect is shit conversation.

1198
00:54:15,239 --> 00:54:17,880
Speaker 3: All right, come over it. You can come wrong and

1199
00:54:18,000 --> 00:54:20,759
Speaker 3: change things. We can do this. I'm a conversation. I

1200
00:54:20,840 --> 00:54:24,040
Speaker 3: realized that I just had to talk to my sister. Yeah. Yeah,

1201
00:54:24,160 --> 00:54:26,279
Speaker 3: that's how to get over it. That's have a conversation,

1202
00:54:26,560 --> 00:54:28,760
Speaker 3: have a conversation. Tell her. I don't care anymore wrong.

1203
00:54:28,920 --> 00:54:31,000
Speaker 2: I called her to talk about this for what felt

1204
00:54:31,000 --> 00:54:33,960
Speaker 2: like the hundredth time. I explained that this vacation was

1205
00:54:34,000 --> 00:54:36,759
Speaker 2: something all of us treasured and was very important to us.

1206
00:54:36,920 --> 00:54:39,360
Speaker 2: We would love it if she could come with us

1207
00:54:39,400 --> 00:54:42,319
Speaker 2: and we could find other things to do together there.

1208
00:54:42,400 --> 00:54:45,080
Speaker 2: I strongly emphasized that we would love to have her

1209
00:54:45,120 --> 00:54:48,000
Speaker 2: with us. She started crying after that. She said she

1210
00:54:48,120 --> 00:54:48,560
Speaker 2: and brother in.

1211
00:54:48,600 --> 00:54:50,640
Speaker 3: Law couldn't afford to go on the vacation.

1212
00:54:51,080 --> 00:54:55,160
Speaker 2: Honestly, financial difficulty never even crossed my mind, So.

1213
00:54:55,080 --> 00:54:58,240
Speaker 3: She's just lying. Great, So, folks, what have we learned?

1214
00:54:58,400 --> 00:54:59,080
Speaker 3: Don't lie?

1215
00:54:59,320 --> 00:55:02,000
Speaker 2: I think I took financial stability for granted. In the

1216
00:55:02,000 --> 00:55:05,400
Speaker 2: interest of privacy, I left out many details about the vacation.

1217
00:55:05,680 --> 00:55:08,319
Speaker 2: The vacation isn't a short five day one. We are

1218
00:55:08,360 --> 00:55:10,480
Speaker 2: spending eighteen days over there.

1219
00:55:10,520 --> 00:55:10,800
Speaker 3: Wow.

1220
00:55:10,960 --> 00:55:14,759
Speaker 2: The cost of lodging, flights, food, and all the gear

1221
00:55:14,880 --> 00:55:16,880
Speaker 2: we will be renting for our activities would amount to

1222
00:55:17,080 --> 00:55:20,040
Speaker 2: very high costs. Apparently, brother in law lost his job

1223
00:55:20,160 --> 00:55:22,359
Speaker 2: earlier this year, but has since found another one that

1224
00:55:22,360 --> 00:55:25,759
Speaker 2: pays much less less. Sister is quitting her job soon

1225
00:55:25,800 --> 00:55:27,839
Speaker 2: to be a stay at home mom. As such, they

1226
00:55:27,880 --> 00:55:30,080
Speaker 2: will need to save as much money as possible. He

1227
00:55:30,200 --> 00:55:32,239
Speaker 2: was pushing for the beach vacation as it would be

1228
00:55:32,360 --> 00:55:35,200
Speaker 2: much much cheaper and much shorter as well, so which

1229
00:55:35,280 --> 00:55:36,879
Speaker 2: in which she should have been honest.

1230
00:55:36,719 --> 00:55:39,360
Speaker 3: Even she knows never find.

1231
00:55:39,800 --> 00:55:43,000
Speaker 2: Everything started falling into place after that. At first I

1232
00:55:43,040 --> 00:55:46,000
Speaker 2: thought she was just being unreasonable harping on the beach vacation,

1233
00:55:46,200 --> 00:55:48,360
Speaker 2: but now I can see her reasoning. I felt so

1234
00:55:48,640 --> 00:55:51,560
Speaker 2: much for Leaf after learning the actual problem, as now

1235
00:55:51,600 --> 00:55:53,640
Speaker 2: I know how to go about solving it. My dad,

1236
00:55:53,680 --> 00:55:55,880
Speaker 2: brother and I offered to chip in and pay fifty

1237
00:55:55,920 --> 00:55:57,240
Speaker 2: percent of the total cost.

1238
00:55:57,040 --> 00:55:57,960
Speaker 3: To have the costs.

1239
00:55:58,120 --> 00:56:00,279
Speaker 2: Sister says, will that would be great. Brother in law

1240
00:56:00,320 --> 00:56:02,560
Speaker 2: doesn't want her to take money from us, and brother

1241
00:56:02,560 --> 00:56:05,680
Speaker 2: in law feels embarrassed accepting money from us. Sister also

1242
00:56:05,760 --> 00:56:07,399
Speaker 2: said brother in law did not want us to learn

1243
00:56:07,440 --> 00:56:10,600
Speaker 2: about their financial difficulties and that was why she didn't

1244
00:56:10,600 --> 00:56:11,680
Speaker 2: talk about it initially.

1245
00:56:11,680 --> 00:56:13,799
Speaker 3: You know what I have to say about that. Get

1246
00:56:13,880 --> 00:56:15,840
Speaker 3: over it, dude. You have these people that love you

1247
00:56:15,920 --> 00:56:17,440
Speaker 3: and care about you, want to help you out so

1248
00:56:17,480 --> 00:56:19,520
Speaker 3: that you can participate in this vacation, and you're like,

1249
00:56:19,520 --> 00:56:22,560
Speaker 3: oh no, it makes me feel not manly. Shut up,

1250
00:56:22,640 --> 00:56:28,520
Speaker 3: get over it. We've learned today is just I'm over it.

1251
00:56:28,120 --> 00:56:34,160
Speaker 3: It's Dakota being aggressive and aggressive. It's like, oh, these

1252
00:56:34,160 --> 00:56:36,200
Speaker 3: people are trying to help you out. Yeah, and I

1253
00:56:36,239 --> 00:56:38,960
Speaker 3: even found out even the pregnant woman is like, look,

1254
00:56:38,960 --> 00:56:40,680
Speaker 3: it's not really because I'm pregnant. I could do all

1255
00:56:40,680 --> 00:56:43,120
Speaker 3: that stuff pregnant because we're broke. I agree with the

1256
00:56:43,200 --> 00:56:46,560
Speaker 3: underlying sentiment, but I agree in a nicer way. All right, No.

1257
00:56:46,600 --> 00:56:49,400
Speaker 2: Wonder talking to her before about the reason was really

1258
00:56:49,440 --> 00:56:51,759
Speaker 2: like talking to a brick wall. I wish sister could

1259
00:56:51,800 --> 00:56:54,680
Speaker 2: have been forthcoming about the financial aspect earlier on, so

1260
00:56:54,719 --> 00:56:57,600
Speaker 2: we could have solved this earlier. I also wish brother

1261
00:56:57,640 --> 00:56:59,919
Speaker 2: in law would be more willing to accept financial help.

1262
00:57:00,440 --> 00:57:03,360
Speaker 2: Oh well, I mean, people are very prideful, sister said she.

1263
00:57:03,719 --> 00:57:07,560
Speaker 3: To sin folks. One of the big ones. Crazy, you're

1264
00:57:07,600 --> 00:57:08,080
Speaker 3: on one.

1265
00:57:08,320 --> 00:57:10,799
Speaker 2: Sister said she will sit out the vacation as she

1266
00:57:10,920 --> 00:57:13,640
Speaker 2: can't afford it. Brother said, we could extend the vacation

1267
00:57:13,800 --> 00:57:16,120
Speaker 2: and have a two day beach vacation after where she

1268
00:57:16,160 --> 00:57:16,919
Speaker 2: could join us.

1269
00:57:17,000 --> 00:57:21,440
Speaker 3: Eighteen days extended to twenty y'all do y'all don't have jobs? Yeah? Like,

1270
00:57:21,600 --> 00:57:24,360
Speaker 3: how what tax bracket is this family? This is crazy.

1271
00:57:24,400 --> 00:57:26,840
Speaker 3: They're like, yeah, we can pay for you guys, literally

1272
00:57:26,880 --> 00:57:30,160
Speaker 3: forgetting money exists. They're like, oh, I didn't even even

1273
00:57:30,160 --> 00:57:33,920
Speaker 3: think about someone could not be financially stable. That's crazy.

1274
00:57:34,000 --> 00:57:36,400
Speaker 3: We just thought she was a witch. Yeah, we didn't

1275
00:57:36,400 --> 00:57:39,680
Speaker 3: even ask about her finances, which, by the way, that.

1276
00:57:39,680 --> 00:57:42,720
Speaker 2: Goes back to my point about empathy. Be curious, folks.

1277
00:57:42,880 --> 00:57:46,520
Speaker 3: If I'm five months away from newborn child, I'm doing

1278
00:57:46,600 --> 00:57:49,480
Speaker 3: everything I can to have an eighteen day vacation. Oh serious,

1279
00:57:49,560 --> 00:57:51,240
Speaker 3: See I was. I thought you were going the route.

1280
00:57:51,280 --> 00:57:54,040
Speaker 2: If I'm about advocated, I'm doing everything I can to

1281
00:57:54,080 --> 00:57:54,640
Speaker 2: save money.

1282
00:57:54,720 --> 00:57:57,040
Speaker 3: Well, yeah, sure, and that would be a great way

1283
00:57:57,040 --> 00:57:59,479
Speaker 3: to save money by accepting that fifty percent off price

1284
00:57:59,520 --> 00:58:02,120
Speaker 3: tag on the eighteen day trip. Well you're still paying

1285
00:58:02,200 --> 00:58:03,880
Speaker 3: fifty percent and also not working.

1286
00:58:04,080 --> 00:58:07,760
Speaker 2: Well okay, However, sister says, after thinking about it, she

1287
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Speaker 2: would rather save the money, as she wasn't gen on

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Speaker 2: the beach vacation at all in the first place, and

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Speaker 2: only suggested it as an alternative. By the way, there

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Speaker 2: is no alternative listening to full episodes.

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Speaker 3: With stories just like this.

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Speaker 2: US only just go to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or iHeartRadio

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00:58:24,720 --> 00:58:27,000
Speaker 2: and search a f Okeys story time do There is

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Speaker 2: a little bit left to this, but can't live on

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Speaker 2: compon is a very good point. They definitely live in Europe.

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Speaker 2: I think they mentioned something European before, and if they are,

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Speaker 2: they get so much more vacation time than we do.

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Speaker 3: Well, yeah, we get none where it's like a legal

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Speaker 3: amount of like paid vacation. America's is dry days. It's

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00:58:42,760 --> 00:58:44,840
Speaker 3: like every other country basically has like at least like

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00:58:44,840 --> 00:58:47,600
Speaker 3: a week, yeah, and also paid for a week to

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Speaker 3: do nothing.

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00:58:48,120 --> 00:58:51,240
Speaker 2: Some jobs have very different like maternity leaves thing, you know,

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00:58:51,480 --> 00:58:53,520
Speaker 2: like I think in other countries you get a lot

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00:58:53,600 --> 00:58:55,560
Speaker 2: longer maternity leave, but here.

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Speaker 3: It's like two weeks or is that true?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Here in America we're so cool. We've have it, have

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00:59:00,160 --> 00:59:02,200
Speaker 3: everything figured out and everything's perfect, so we don't let

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Speaker 3: moms have a situcation Somewhere between two to six weeks.

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Speaker 3: I don't remember. Well, we think, well, you want a

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Speaker 3: vacation just because you have a child to raise. Get

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Speaker 3: back to my any closing thoughts, because I got something, Yeah,

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Speaker 3: my closing thoughts. First of all, I don't support the

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Speaker 3: American position on maternity leave. I think I honestly think

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Speaker 3: mothers should raise their kids for like four years.

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Speaker 2: And my thought on this story is, uh, that everyone

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00:59:25,720 --> 00:59:28,000
Speaker 2: sucked a little bit in the story because there was

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Speaker 2: very little communication on both ends and you got you.

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Speaker 3: Guys just kind of jumped on your sister and we're like, ash,

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Speaker 3: she's a witch.

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Speaker 2: She's not compromising, even though she's always been known to compromise,

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Speaker 2: and this was very out.

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Speaker 3: Of you know, unlike her.

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Speaker 2: So just you know, when you have a sibling who

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Speaker 2: is not behaving like themselves and is also about to

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Speaker 2: have a baby, maybe get a little curious, get a

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00:59:50,960 --> 00:59:52,840
Speaker 2: little curious before we jump down their throat.

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Speaker 3: Of course, of course, however, she was lying exactly why

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Speaker 3: That's why everyone sucks a little bit here, which is

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Speaker 3: you know, also, be honest your family about the situations

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Speaker 3: that you're in. That's true. Honesty is key. Honesty is everything.

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Speaker 2: Anyway, So everything has been resolved. This is the first

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Speaker 2: time the family has to deal with such trauma, and

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Speaker 2: I feel like I've just completed a twelve mile run.

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Speaker 3: I think I'm going to take a long nap now.

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Speaker 3: Thanks for reading. PS.

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Speaker 2: I would like to thank the person who said I

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Speaker 2: have to face the reality that the family is changing

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Speaker 2: now and family vacations don't mean everyone's able to go.

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Speaker 2: I guess I was hanging on too tightly to the

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Speaker 2: tradition of everyone coming. This trip will be a good

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Speaker 2: time to come to terms with that. Thank you everyone,

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01:00:31,760 --> 01:00:34,280
Speaker 2: Hope you all have a great day. Common one says

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01:00:34,320 --> 01:00:37,400
Speaker 2: this is honestly a pretty sad update. Opie says, I

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01:00:37,440 --> 01:00:40,040
Speaker 2: actually agree. I wish sister could come, but she would

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01:00:40,120 --> 01:00:42,080
Speaker 2: rather save the money and brother in law isn't budging

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01:00:42,120 --> 01:00:43,760
Speaker 2: on the money issues, so there is not much we

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01:00:43,840 --> 01:00:46,640
Speaker 2: can do. And he reply says, I disagree. This is

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01:00:46,680 --> 01:00:49,720
Speaker 2: a real update. The fact is that reality happens, people

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01:00:49,760 --> 01:00:52,480
Speaker 2: lose their jobs. Money is a reality, and so is pride.

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01:00:52,600 --> 01:00:56,000
Speaker 2: Perhaps from this further understanding and compromise can be reached

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01:00:56,160 --> 01:00:59,400
Speaker 2: to encourage future trips. This doesn't have to be negative

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01:01:00,120 --> 01:01:02,440
Speaker 2: your trip anyway. Sister Shirley wouldn't want you to be

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Speaker 2: Mopi on her account, repliesays, obviously she is an ode

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Speaker 2: to free ride. But isn't the whole point of this

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Speaker 2: that it is a family vacation. Why don't you go

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01:01:10,240 --> 01:01:12,360
Speaker 2: somewhere closer to home and all pitch in to cover

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01:01:12,400 --> 01:01:14,200
Speaker 2: her and brother in law? You know she can't come

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Speaker 2: any future year, right? This is just really tugging at

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Speaker 2: my heart strength.

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Speaker 3: Why can't she come any future year?

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Speaker 2: Well, I mean, if she's dealing with monetary problems, it's

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Speaker 2: only gonna get worse.

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Speaker 3: Wing. Hey, no, no, no, that's not the right mind

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01:01:26,720 --> 01:01:29,680
Speaker 3: We need an abundance mindset. She's gonna she's on the

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01:01:29,760 --> 01:01:32,440
Speaker 3: upswing now and her baby's going to be the youngest

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Speaker 3: ever extreme sports superstar. We're on the end. We're gonna

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Speaker 3: win the Olympics.

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Speaker 2: I can't imagine going on a big vacation with my

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Speaker 2: family and leaving just one member behind because they can't

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Speaker 2: afford it. Opie says, we offer to, but brother in

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01:01:43,800 --> 01:01:46,760
Speaker 2: law strongly objected to that. I think sister telling us

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Speaker 2: about the financial issues they were facing really made brother

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01:01:49,200 --> 01:01:52,680
Speaker 2: in law very angry. There was shouting and screaming apparently,

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Speaker 2: which is frustrating. And we don't want to cause more

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Speaker 2: problems between them. Our offer of paying fifty percent or

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01:01:58,960 --> 01:02:01,200
Speaker 2: adding a cheaper vacation, but at the end still stands

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Speaker 2: if she and brother in law changed their mind, and uh,

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Speaker 2: that is the end.

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Speaker 3: Of that story. Yeah it we'll call it. But uh,

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Speaker 3: honesty and communication, Yeah, dude, do them. And I might

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Speaker 3: be being a little flippant, but I do believe on

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Speaker 3: a real level there are moments when you can just go,

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01:02:16,720 --> 01:02:19,640
Speaker 3: you know what. Actually, I just I just don't care anymore.

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01:02:19,800 --> 01:02:23,720
Speaker 3: I've realized now that what I was I had planted

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Speaker 3: my flag in the ground, but the ground is made

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Speaker 3: of sand. I don't. I just don't care. We'll do

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Speaker 3: what you want. Yeah, okay, family, family, Vin Diesel. But

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01:02:31,840 --> 01:02:33,840
Speaker 3: that's the end of that story and the end of

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Speaker 3: this episode. So I thought we were passing it. So

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Speaker 3: you and see you tomorrow.