WEBVTT - Episode 57 ft Nat D from Mob Wives 0:00:01.639 --> 0:00:04.800 What's up. It's Angela, it's lip service. I'm Stephanie Santiago, 0:00:04.880 --> 0:00:07.240 I'm G G McGuire. Okay, and we have a very 0:00:07.280 --> 0:00:10.440 special guest with us today, Natalie de Donato, not d 0:00:11.280 --> 0:00:15.400 right from my wives from Philly. Hey, girl, what's up? 0:00:15.840 --> 0:00:17.279 You don't know each other from Philly? Because I know 0:00:17.320 --> 0:00:20.279 G knows everybody in Philly. We know a few of 0:00:20.280 --> 0:00:23.400 the same people in Philly, and we recently connected on 0:00:24.200 --> 0:00:27.400 some business ship. So okay, I ended up with her 0:00:27.480 --> 0:00:29.600 coming to chill with us today. Are we allowed to 0:00:29.640 --> 0:00:32.600 know what kind of business this is? Well? I am 0:00:32.960 --> 0:00:37.200 part of a booking and branding or booking company, booking 0:00:37.240 --> 0:00:41.720 agency and branding brand management company called Interletics and um 0:00:41.840 --> 0:00:48.479 that is one of our prospective clients. Okay, yes, oh, alright, 0:00:48.520 --> 0:00:50.640 so much money for us. So we work our way 0:00:50.720 --> 0:00:53.199 up to the Angela break it yet, but we will wait. Now, 0:00:53.240 --> 0:00:55.760 hold on a second. I have no problem with that. 0:00:55.880 --> 0:00:58.920 I want to get down with this antletics and Atletics. 0:00:59.800 --> 0:01:01.880 We talk about that later, all right. Now, we started 0:01:01.960 --> 0:01:03.680 a flip service at the tip of the day always, 0:01:03.960 --> 0:01:06.800 So today's tip is what is the appropriate amount of 0:01:06.800 --> 0:01:09.000 time that you should wait before you publicly move on 0:01:09.080 --> 0:01:12.440 with somebody. Okay, you know you've been dating somebody publicly, 0:01:12.959 --> 0:01:15.720 and sometimes you jump right into another relationship and then 0:01:15.720 --> 0:01:18.360 everybody has things to say. What do you think it's 0:01:18.360 --> 0:01:20.240 the right amount of time to wait before you move 0:01:20.280 --> 0:01:24.720 on when you feel the need, right, I think everybody 0:01:24.720 --> 0:01:27.000 has their own timing. I think at least you do 0:01:27.040 --> 0:01:29.200 a month, though, don't be jumping the gun quick with it, 0:01:29.280 --> 0:01:32.800 because you know, sometimes you speak too fast and then 0:01:32.800 --> 0:01:34.280 things don't work out. You're like what, and then you 0:01:34.280 --> 0:01:37.160 feel stupid. Man. I was with my son's father for 0:01:37.200 --> 0:01:39.280 seven and a half years and we were broken up 0:01:39.319 --> 0:01:41.480 for two months and he was already in a serious 0:01:41.480 --> 0:01:44.960 relationship with somebody else promoting it though. Yeah, they were 0:01:45.000 --> 0:01:48.720 all over the internet. I was like really, I was like, 0:01:48.760 --> 0:01:51.760 it's all good because my side nigga that became my 0:01:51.840 --> 0:01:57.720 main nigga, was all right, he was, yeah, And I 0:01:57.880 --> 0:02:00.400 for you, what was the best time period for you? Though, 0:02:00.440 --> 0:02:01.640 like from me, it would have to be at least 0:02:01.640 --> 0:02:03.440 a month. You really don't get to know somebody so 0:02:03.560 --> 0:02:05.480 full year if you think about it, you know, right. 0:02:05.680 --> 0:02:07.600 I also think sometimes girls had to move on quick 0:02:07.600 --> 0:02:10.000 because they see their man moved on quick, so they 0:02:10.000 --> 0:02:12.640 see him at with somebody. And I do believe that 0:02:12.720 --> 0:02:14.760 men do things and they don't get judged obviously the 0:02:14.760 --> 0:02:16.600 same way that we do, right, But there's nothing like 0:02:16.600 --> 0:02:18.120 a female that can stand on our own and don't 0:02:18.160 --> 0:02:20.800 even need to split anybody like you just sometimes some 0:02:20.840 --> 0:02:23.400 things are better left, you know, I personally am more 0:02:23.720 --> 0:02:25.200 when it comes to my personal life. I don't put 0:02:25.240 --> 0:02:27.440 all that stuff on social media. I feel like there's 0:02:27.440 --> 0:02:30.280 always like bitches that hate so bad and always try 0:02:30.280 --> 0:02:32.320 and bring you down. So I trying to keep myself 0:02:32.320 --> 0:02:34.400 like more. In the in the cut, I say this, 0:02:34.520 --> 0:02:38.000 I waited, Um, I waited two and a half years 0:02:38.080 --> 0:02:41.600 before I went public. I was in a serious relationship 0:02:41.639 --> 0:02:44.360 before my last serious relationship with somebody else that wasn't 0:02:44.360 --> 0:02:46.919 my son's father, and I didn't go public with that 0:02:47.000 --> 0:02:49.760 relationship because I felt like it was too soon. But 0:02:50.440 --> 0:02:53.079 I was publicly in another relationship two and a half 0:02:53.200 --> 0:02:55.880 years later. Okay, with two and half years that really bad, 0:02:57.360 --> 0:02:59.040 so bad, because like even if you look at say 0:02:59.120 --> 0:03:01.840 Kylie Jennet right out right, her and Tiger broke up 0:03:02.320 --> 0:03:03.840 and then she was with a party next door like 0:03:03.919 --> 0:03:07.560 immediately after and we're like, damn, maybe you should wait 0:03:07.680 --> 0:03:10.760 a second, you know what I mean? But did we 0:03:10.760 --> 0:03:12.320 look at party next door and said you was just 0:03:12.360 --> 0:03:15.959 with Kalani? I feel like you do what you want 0:03:15.960 --> 0:03:17.440 to do when you feel like the time is right 0:03:17.480 --> 0:03:19.880 for you, and you really shouldn't worried about worry about 0:03:19.880 --> 0:03:22.320 what other people have to say about it, especially those 0:03:22.400 --> 0:03:26.160 random people that are in your comments business. Now, have 0:03:26.200 --> 0:03:28.000 any of you ever dated a guy who wears a 0:03:28.040 --> 0:03:29.960 suit to work every day? I was just thinking about 0:03:29.960 --> 0:03:32.079 this because I was outside his hat out and there's 0:03:32.080 --> 0:03:33.800 a lot of guys walking around wearing suits, and I'm like, 0:03:33.800 --> 0:03:35.320 you know what, I don't know if I've ever dated 0:03:35.320 --> 0:03:36.920 a guy who had to wear a suit to work 0:03:36.920 --> 0:03:40.960 every day? Yes? I have? You have, so, yeah, you 0:03:41.040 --> 0:03:43.200 might be the only one in the room. Yeah, I've 0:03:43.280 --> 0:03:45.120 dated a guy that had to wear a suit to court. 0:03:49.120 --> 0:03:51.400 My guy has to wear a suit to work sometimes 0:03:51.400 --> 0:03:54.640 when he has to go to a lot. I think 0:03:54.640 --> 0:03:56.800 he looks really good when he were to suit Grammys, 0:03:57.120 --> 0:04:00.040 So once the year, his tucks. When he goes to 0:04:00.120 --> 0:04:02.600 the Grammys or to like an important like you know, 0:04:02.680 --> 0:04:04.480 event or dinner, he'll have to get dressed up in 0:04:04.480 --> 0:04:07.160 the suit, and I think it's sexy. You think it 0:04:07.240 --> 0:04:08.880 sexy if you could switch up. I like a little 0:04:08.920 --> 0:04:11.480 bit of a thug and somebody that's like tight and 0:04:11.520 --> 0:04:13.800 proper as well, Like there's nothing sexy. I mean, I 0:04:13.800 --> 0:04:15.960 mean I put on it a Zeppie shoo, Gucci shoe on, 0:04:16.600 --> 0:04:19.520 Hugo ball suit like unfitted European suit. I don't know. 0:04:19.560 --> 0:04:23.120 I think that's sexy sex when a guy was a cheap, 0:04:23.160 --> 0:04:33.240 ill fitting suit like suck up him suit, ye anywhere period. 0:04:34.160 --> 0:04:35.760 Stephanie was your man hat when he had on the 0:04:35.839 --> 0:04:39.680 suit in court? Um the last time I saw him 0:04:39.680 --> 0:04:42.000 in the suit? If it him kind of big, look 0:04:42.560 --> 0:04:46.960 that's bad. Yeah, remember Lebron many years ago, but he 0:04:47.040 --> 0:04:51.400 had so did um Carmelo on the red carpet with 0:04:52.400 --> 0:04:56.680 none of that. I mean, I kind of like my 0:04:56.760 --> 0:04:58.880 last boyfriend what I had, and you know, like a 0:04:58.920 --> 0:05:02.680 white tea on and Timber lambots. I don't he looked 0:05:02.720 --> 0:05:05.720 weird like his I didn't like the way he looked 0:05:05.760 --> 0:05:09.640 like he was going to jail. But then you are, 0:05:09.880 --> 0:05:11.360 do you really want a guy that like, I don't 0:05:11.360 --> 0:05:13.400 want my boyfriend walking around wearing no wife beater and 0:05:13.400 --> 0:05:17.800 stuff like that. Either I like when I like when 0:05:17.839 --> 0:05:21.240 guys how to dress. I like you guys, but I 0:05:21.320 --> 0:05:22.840 like a man that takes pride and he's like the 0:05:22.839 --> 0:05:26.320 way he dressed me like someone got my fly. Yeah yeah, 0:05:26.560 --> 0:05:29.120 I like it and dressed up. Take some pride in 0:05:29.160 --> 0:05:32.160 your appearance. Guy, Absolutely don't be wearing like white beaters, 0:05:32.160 --> 0:05:36.400 some sweatpants or sneakers like even that I looked at 0:05:36.400 --> 0:05:41.720 like dick sneakers like terrible, like dirty sneaker. Yeah, like 0:05:41.880 --> 0:05:44.839 or choked out like no, I can't. I'm a strange. 0:05:45.920 --> 0:05:48.359 I like one. I like to see um, I like 0:05:48.400 --> 0:05:51.320 to see my favorite boyfriend and his basketball favorite person 0:05:51.440 --> 0:05:54.640 or and I like like I like when I can 0:05:54.680 --> 0:05:57.440 see my guys like yeah, I like when I'm in 0:05:57.520 --> 0:05:59.960 his home saying he's like he's like walking around. I'll 0:06:00.040 --> 0:06:02.040 be like, oh, bib can give me some water, and 0:06:02.120 --> 0:06:03.640 he's like gets some to go get the water. And 0:06:03.680 --> 0:06:05.960 I could see like his dick friend showing through his 0:06:06.040 --> 0:06:10.320 sweats when he's coming back, Like that's like that's like 0:06:10.320 --> 0:06:15.320 their camel too, right, Yeah, that's the man's version of baby. 0:06:17.600 --> 0:06:20.520 What about guys with a little but you like guys 0:06:20.520 --> 0:06:23.520 that have like a little rustled by body. I don't 0:06:23.520 --> 0:06:25.120 like a guy with a flat ass that's like a 0:06:25.160 --> 0:06:27.880 flat back and matches his button what. I don't like it. 0:06:28.120 --> 0:06:30.120 It reminds me of like, how about being bed guy 0:06:30.200 --> 0:06:32.840 with himps? Yea, you ever had a guy with hips? 0:06:33.080 --> 0:06:35.760 I haven't eaten what I like. I've seen a few 0:06:35.760 --> 0:06:38.120 guys they had hips, like yo, that nigga guy hip 0:06:39.680 --> 0:06:42.839 before hips to me and hold on to I like 0:06:42.920 --> 0:06:45.440 a guy with a muscle. But yeah, because it's fair 0:06:49.240 --> 0:06:55.200 that the muscle. Have any of you ever been engaged before? 0:06:55.480 --> 0:06:58.479 We were talking about engagements? Yeah you have? How many times? 0:06:58.720 --> 0:07:01.960 I was engaged? Three times? Saying wow, yeah, yeah, three 0:07:01.960 --> 0:07:03.760 different rings too. We got married. I was with him 0:07:03.760 --> 0:07:05.320 for twelve years. It was like a night Mary. We 0:07:05.400 --> 0:07:08.200 killed each other, like rand each other over, like yeah, 0:07:08.320 --> 0:07:10.200 like it was crazy, ran each other. Oh I ran 0:07:10.360 --> 0:07:14.240 him over? Yeah? And then yeah, let's go back a 0:07:14.320 --> 0:07:17.080 little bit. So first engagement, why did y'all call Why 0:07:17.080 --> 0:07:18.480 did you call it? We were young? He was my 0:07:18.520 --> 0:07:21.160 high school sweetheart, so I was young. I was like 0:07:21.520 --> 0:07:23.080 the first time, like, he tried to step it up 0:07:23.080 --> 0:07:25.120 so much. It was like a four It was a 0:07:25.120 --> 0:07:27.600 four carrot ring and I was twenty three years old. 0:07:27.640 --> 0:07:30.920 I was like, you know, and then um, I just 0:07:31.040 --> 0:07:32.880 it was too intense. The second time he got called 0:07:32.920 --> 0:07:36.680 cheat and like going to a Gisha house. Yeah, so 0:07:36.720 --> 0:07:44.960 I called wash the happy ending is that in Philly? 0:07:41.400 --> 0:07:48.760 The house in New York Like okay, okay, yeah, yeah, 0:07:49.000 --> 0:07:50.720 you pay to get your dick socked. They called it 0:07:50.800 --> 0:07:53.680 the washing and Philly. Most men they do do that 0:07:53.680 --> 0:07:56.960 ship And you can girls cold to the Washy Washy 0:07:57.080 --> 0:07:59.080 and Philly. I mean you can go to Yeah, we 0:07:59.080 --> 0:08:02.120 should go here. I mean I don't want to go. 0:08:02.400 --> 0:08:03.920 They ain't got no you know what I'm saying. This 0:08:04.000 --> 0:08:09.480 is another woman. Yeah, so what she massage pussy? Yeah, 0:08:09.520 --> 0:08:11.880 I don't the right amount of money or play with 0:08:11.920 --> 0:08:14.120 you and stuff like that. But is that something you're 0:08:14.160 --> 0:08:16.240 able to forgive a guy just paying on women for 0:08:16.280 --> 0:08:18.240 a service like that? Yeah, I got over it. I mean, 0:08:18.320 --> 0:08:20.040 for the most part, we were young. He was young. 0:08:20.200 --> 0:08:21.680 I mean we were We've been through a lot. So 0:08:21.720 --> 0:08:24.880 I got over that. And then um, back back to that, 0:08:24.920 --> 0:08:26.920 what if he just gets a hand job, That's what 0:08:26.960 --> 0:08:28.520 he said he was getting. And I was like, yeah, 0:08:28.600 --> 0:08:31.200 sure you were whatever. They nobody getting no hand job. 0:08:31.240 --> 0:08:35.080 Come on with that bullshit. And that's what you got. 0:08:35.240 --> 0:08:37.040 I feel like, if you need to feel the need 0:08:37.080 --> 0:08:38.440 to go pay for some pussy, we can just role 0:08:38.480 --> 0:08:40.520 play and you can pay me. That's some fucking look me, 0:08:40.679 --> 0:08:44.000 it's Harvard me and roll play. I'll put on whatever 0:08:44.080 --> 0:08:46.720 little costume, I'll dress up with whoever you want me 0:08:46.760 --> 0:08:49.160 to be, and if you feel like paying for some pussy, 0:08:49.240 --> 0:08:50.560 we can role play. But the thing is is like 0:08:50.640 --> 0:08:52.960 I'm not even trying to like drain his balls like 0:08:53.000 --> 0:08:55.240 four times a week. So it's like how much you 0:08:55.280 --> 0:08:56.960 want to funk? Like you know, how many more? How 0:08:57.000 --> 0:08:58.719 many more? Like damn? What then are you going to? 0:08:59.120 --> 0:09:01.240 But you know what, men and women are different when 0:09:01.280 --> 0:09:03.000 it comes to things like that, because I do feel 0:09:03.040 --> 0:09:05.120 like men like variety more than we did, Like they 0:09:05.320 --> 0:09:07.040 ran the pussy like men most men do, and they 0:09:07.080 --> 0:09:09.000 don't give a pussy has no face. A lot of 0:09:09.000 --> 0:09:13.640 guys say, like, I've worked with a lot of guys 0:09:13.880 --> 0:09:17.240 and every one of them, unfortunately all gonna kill me 0:09:17.280 --> 0:09:19.839 if you hear the ship. But they they're all been like, yo, 0:09:20.080 --> 0:09:21.839 ain't got the face. I'm like, what does that mean? 0:09:22.200 --> 0:09:24.800 Does that mean you're fucking five or four? You know 0:09:26.880 --> 0:09:29.440 what that means, you know, look at Holly Berry. She 0:09:29.520 --> 0:09:30.920 was a bad she's a bad bit, you know what 0:09:30.920 --> 0:09:33.200 I'm saying, and she doesn't buy the best of them. Right. 0:09:34.880 --> 0:09:37.240 But listen, everybody, I think it don't even matter as 0:09:37.280 --> 0:09:41.720 a woman, how great you are. I felt a man. 0:09:42.320 --> 0:09:44.680 I was destroyed over Distraught would be a better word. 0:09:44.960 --> 0:09:47.240 I was distraught over it. But you know, with time 0:09:47.280 --> 0:09:49.600 and we got back, we got mad. Would you have 0:09:49.600 --> 0:09:52.120 to feel better if he was honest and was like okay, 0:09:52.240 --> 0:09:53.640 instead of just saying you gotta hands up, if he 0:09:53.720 --> 0:09:55.320 was like I'm gonna be I don't think anybody could 0:09:55.320 --> 0:09:57.520 prepare for something like that. Either way, it's harsh news, 0:09:57.559 --> 0:10:00.200 like it's your man, like, I'm very like I don't 0:10:00.200 --> 0:10:01.679 want to share in my dick, like if I love 0:10:01.720 --> 0:10:05.120 somebody that's sucking not even like no, it's because we 0:10:05.240 --> 0:10:07.120 say we say we wouldn't know the truth. Do we 0:10:07.160 --> 0:10:09.120 really want to know the truth. I think some things 0:10:09.480 --> 0:10:12.840 you can't prepare for, you know, because I know, like 0:10:12.880 --> 0:10:14.720 a lot of us have been through some things here 0:10:14.800 --> 0:10:17.319 like geez, I'm sure you guys, you and your relationship 0:10:17.360 --> 0:10:19.680 breaking again back together, you'll both have to come clean 0:10:19.679 --> 0:10:21.880 about a lot of things. Do you feel like you'd 0:10:21.880 --> 0:10:25.440 have been better off not knowing certain things? Um, I'm 0:10:25.480 --> 0:10:27.800 glad I know everything that I know, and I'm sure 0:10:27.840 --> 0:10:29.679 there's some stuff that happened that I don't know about. 0:10:29.679 --> 0:10:31.839 But guess what was done in the dark will always 0:10:31.880 --> 0:10:33.320 come in to light and it's gonna come full circle 0:10:33.360 --> 0:10:35.360 soon or later, because that's a hard thing to figure 0:10:35.360 --> 0:10:41.800 out if you do something right. Because what's hard about 0:10:41.840 --> 0:10:43.840 that is if you do something sucked up right and 0:10:43.880 --> 0:10:46.199 you cheat and you get caught, do you then have 0:10:46.280 --> 0:10:50.640 to tell everything and just kind of cleanse yourself and 0:10:50.640 --> 0:10:52.319 tell it all? Or do you not tell everything I 0:10:52.360 --> 0:11:00.760 don't know about tell everything that wasn't me. Yeah, I 0:11:00.800 --> 0:11:04.199 don't know about admitting anything. I mean only what they 0:11:04.240 --> 0:11:06.120 want you to like. Whatever they know, I will play 0:11:06.160 --> 0:11:09.160 that out. I just think that some things are I 0:11:09.200 --> 0:11:11.760 don't know. Yeah, I feel like, um, you should tell 0:11:12.000 --> 0:11:14.280 things that they're gonna find out about things. You know 0:11:14.400 --> 0:11:16.800 that something you don't know if they're going to find exactly. 0:11:17.080 --> 0:11:19.120 And then if you get into a situation where there's 0:11:19.120 --> 0:11:20.960 something you didn't something but he's about to find out, 0:11:21.000 --> 0:11:23.480 tell him then. But I don't feel like you should 0:11:23.600 --> 0:11:28.360 dave his face, like, so you just feel embarrassment for him, Like, um, like, 0:11:28.760 --> 0:11:31.079 have you ever dated somebody and they're like, oh, how 0:11:31.080 --> 0:11:33.400 many guys have you had sex with? No, because that's 0:11:33.440 --> 0:11:35.800 a stupid ass question. I mean I've done I've dated 0:11:35.840 --> 0:11:45.840 some people that have left. I would never how many 0:11:43.240 --> 0:11:47.719 sex I had a guy. I had a guy that 0:11:47.800 --> 0:11:49.920 I was just talking to. I never even slept with 0:11:49.960 --> 0:11:52.480 this guy, and he was, um, he was an athlete. 0:11:52.520 --> 0:11:54.800 I never even slept with him. And he went down 0:11:54.840 --> 0:11:57.640 the list of all the like famous people he'd been with. 0:11:57.960 --> 0:12:00.200 Why what do you think? He definitely is insecure. I 0:12:00.320 --> 0:12:02.439 was that the fucking shut it up glow. That's a 0:12:02.480 --> 0:12:05.800 whack motherfucker right there. You're gonna have some issues with that. 0:12:05.800 --> 0:12:08.280 That's a name dropper. I was like, I'm never gonna 0:12:08.320 --> 0:12:13.480 And that's so corny because then he's gonna tell everybody 0:12:13.520 --> 0:12:19.440 after Bragger And he wasn't even like he was kind 0:12:19.440 --> 0:12:21.559 of corny. But you know a lot of these athletic 0:12:21.640 --> 0:12:25.000 sites to be corny there. Let me tell you. Let 0:12:25.040 --> 0:12:30.079 me tell you something, just because you have an athletic 0:12:30.120 --> 0:12:33.360 talent and you make it to the pros because not 0:12:34.000 --> 0:12:35.800 and you have a lot of money that does not 0:12:35.920 --> 0:12:38.320 take away your lameness that you can still be a 0:12:38.440 --> 0:12:42.920 lame ass fuck boy digging a booty ask nigga. You 0:12:42.920 --> 0:12:45.320 guys with a lot of money and very talents, and 0:12:45.320 --> 0:12:47.720 it also could because you never developed your social skills 0:12:47.760 --> 0:12:49.960 so much exactly because you were playing your sport all 0:12:50.000 --> 0:12:52.520 the time and you were in school. You know you 0:12:52.640 --> 0:12:55.280 counted or not. Whatever reason. Just know that just because 0:12:55.320 --> 0:12:57.880 you have a contract and a lot of money don't 0:12:57.880 --> 0:13:00.199 make you a real nigga. Just be a lame There's 0:13:00.200 --> 0:13:01.880 a lot of them out there, trust me and like, 0:13:01.960 --> 0:13:05.120 and you'd be surprised, like a lot of like football players. 0:13:05.280 --> 0:13:07.440 Football is my favorite sport, is the only sport I 0:13:07.480 --> 0:13:10.680 really follow, and you know, like it's an intense sport. 0:13:10.720 --> 0:13:14.080 They're really killing each other the whole time. And you'll 0:13:14.120 --> 0:13:17.040 be surprised that some of these guys are pussy off 0:13:17.080 --> 0:13:19.760 the field, like they're scary, like they're scared to come out. 0:13:19.800 --> 0:13:26.840 They like like I like, I'm like, I'm I'm friends 0:13:27.040 --> 0:13:30.199 like I have like this is the guy, Like the 0:13:30.280 --> 0:13:34.560 guy that I'm I'm friends with. He he really impresses 0:13:34.600 --> 0:13:38.360 me because like he fights. He will fund somebody up 0:13:38.360 --> 0:13:41.120 on site anywhere you know what I mean, and everybody 0:13:41.160 --> 0:13:44.280 looks at him. She's a pretty boy and he's scary, 0:13:44.360 --> 0:13:46.640 but he really fights, you know, But I don't like 0:13:46.760 --> 0:13:48.920 that all the time. Now he don't fight all the time, 0:13:48.960 --> 0:13:51.400 but he won't let nobody you know him, Like you 0:13:51.440 --> 0:13:53.760 don't let people punking out. Sometimes people be having too 0:13:53.840 --> 0:13:56.000 quick of a temper and they could just easily avoid 0:13:56.000 --> 0:13:59.840 a situation, right they could get don't like, don't don't 0:14:00.120 --> 0:14:03.160 basically put me in those situations. I don't want to 0:14:03.200 --> 0:14:06.440 subject me, right. But I remember one time I was 0:14:06.480 --> 0:14:08.600 in where it was. I was in Tampa. One of 0:14:08.600 --> 0:14:11.040 my home girls, she was dating one of the one 0:14:11.040 --> 0:14:12.800 of the Bucks, one of the guys from the Bucks, 0:14:13.480 --> 0:14:16.200 and he um, we went out and this guy like 0:14:16.360 --> 0:14:19.440 really suck at him like he was scared. He's big 0:14:19.520 --> 0:14:22.440 as football player and he was like scared of the fans. 0:14:22.440 --> 0:14:25.600 So when we were all like what the hell is 0:14:25.640 --> 0:14:28.920 going on here? It was kind of weird. It's like 0:14:28.960 --> 0:14:32.320 you you like, he's like no, He's like, no, be fighting. 0:14:32.640 --> 0:14:35.360 I was like, oh, ship were not, Natalie, Let's talk 0:14:35.360 --> 0:14:37.640 about how you got over because you said all right, 0:14:37.680 --> 0:14:39.520 So the second time then you guys ended up getting 0:14:39.560 --> 0:14:41.960 married so you forgave him because you figured you guys 0:14:42.000 --> 0:14:44.640 were both young. I'm not no angel I the ship 0:14:44.800 --> 0:14:46.840 to you know what I'm saying, Like, um, you know 0:14:46.880 --> 0:14:49.040 it wasn't like tip for tap, but after a while, 0:14:49.120 --> 0:14:52.040 you know, you know eventually you're just gonna go out 0:14:52.040 --> 0:14:53.560 and do your things. Was it harder for him to 0:14:53.560 --> 0:14:56.480 get over it? Yeah? Because I was like, man, it's plightful, 0:14:56.680 --> 0:14:58.440 you know, not like I would never do the friend thing. 0:14:58.480 --> 0:15:00.520 I don't do that. There's there's like bialy sans and 0:15:00.880 --> 0:15:02.880 certain code you don't break. And just for me as 0:15:02.880 --> 0:15:06.320 a person, I have my own rules. But would you say, 0:15:06.320 --> 0:15:08.640 are the rules like you should never go with like 0:15:08.680 --> 0:15:11.120 your man's friend, Like you don't do the crew at 0:15:11.200 --> 0:15:15.880 a street smart move, that's law, and yeah, you just don't. 0:15:16.200 --> 0:15:19.040 And even acquaintances like that should whack like it is 0:15:19.200 --> 0:15:22.720 or enemies it is even worse for sure. Yeah about that, 0:15:23.040 --> 0:15:27.120 like yourself, you look bad. And my son's father slept 0:15:27.120 --> 0:15:29.280 with one of my friends while we were on a breakup, 0:15:29.760 --> 0:15:31.920 and you know, he's like, what are you gonna do 0:15:31.920 --> 0:15:33.920 now one of my friends? And I'm like, no, I'm 0:15:33.920 --> 0:15:35.680 not gonna suk one of your friends. One I went 0:15:35.760 --> 0:15:38.840 and do that. I wouldn't disrespect my own pussy like that. 0:15:39.280 --> 0:15:42.560 And so all your friends are cornballs. I don't want 0:15:42.560 --> 0:15:47.560 to give none of them. Get one out of all 0:15:47.600 --> 0:15:50.320 your corny gass friends. And anything you don't do when 0:15:50.360 --> 0:15:52.200 you break up with somebody is tell their business to 0:15:52.240 --> 0:15:54.520 other people. Well, it shows the lack of yourself, like 0:15:54.600 --> 0:15:56.720 you look like you have leaking to the mouth, like 0:15:56.760 --> 0:16:00.160 you don't know loyalty, saying like I don't know. I 0:16:00.200 --> 0:16:01.760 just think that you have to have your own rules. 0:16:01.800 --> 0:16:04.400 But for him, it was harder because some guys, it 0:16:04.480 --> 0:16:07.240 feels though, especially I hate to say this, but predominantly 0:16:07.240 --> 0:16:11.920 Italian men are very controlling and some of them really 0:16:11.920 --> 0:16:13.600 feel like that woman should be in the house clucking 0:16:13.640 --> 0:16:15.920 their their food, you know, waiting for them to go 0:16:16.120 --> 0:16:18.760 coming from work, and you know, ship happens, you're supposed 0:16:18.760 --> 0:16:21.400 to just kind of eat it. It's sad, but I 0:16:21.440 --> 0:16:23.360 have to say most of Italian guys are really like that, 0:16:23.640 --> 0:16:27.680 especially once from South Philly. Those South Philly Italians is 0:16:27.680 --> 0:16:30.520 a whole different breed of the chime. Yeah I had. 0:16:30.600 --> 0:16:33.960 I've had my fair share of them in my past, 0:16:34.120 --> 0:16:37.440 and they don't work around. I had this one Italian. 0:16:38.040 --> 0:16:40.360 He was a piece of work. What does that mean? 0:16:40.560 --> 0:16:43.880 He was? He was just he was like really bossy, 0:16:44.320 --> 0:16:47.840 and he was kind of like intimidating. And I was 0:16:47.920 --> 0:16:50.240 really young, and I was just like, you know, this 0:16:50.280 --> 0:16:53.040 is when I thought I was white, So I was yeah, 0:16:53.040 --> 0:16:54.720 so I was going through my whole white girl phase 0:16:55.040 --> 0:16:57.200 and I was just really happy to have a white boyfriend. 0:16:57.800 --> 0:17:00.720 But do you think it's a turn on that one 0:17:00.760 --> 0:17:03.560 guys kind of a powerful and buss he liked that 0:17:03.600 --> 0:17:05.760 and take charge. I think that there are some situations 0:17:05.760 --> 0:17:07.879 where the man has to be the man, and I 0:17:07.920 --> 0:17:09.480 definitely don't want a bitch, Like I don't want to 0:17:09.560 --> 0:17:11.199 dude where I gotta run you and tell you how 0:17:11.240 --> 0:17:12.520 to fund me or I tell you how to be 0:17:13.000 --> 0:17:14.560 like a man. I like a man that has a lineup, 0:17:14.600 --> 0:17:15.880 Like if you want to take me out, he knows 0:17:16.200 --> 0:17:18.399 what to do, how to do it, And that to 0:17:18.440 --> 0:17:20.679 me is just like, you know, it's kind of like 0:17:20.720 --> 0:17:22.479 a turnal and like there has to be bad though, 0:17:22.520 --> 0:17:25.359 I don't want to orchestrate everything, like nothing's better that 0:17:26.000 --> 0:17:30.040 guy knows how to pick a restaurant, right, Ben, we're 0:17:30.119 --> 0:17:31.480 gonna go, where do you want to go? What do 0:17:31.520 --> 0:17:34.840 you want to do? Like, I can't see a guy 0:17:34.880 --> 0:17:36.080 that You could be like I want to eat it, 0:17:36.119 --> 0:17:38.160 and he would like, let's do it. Like anything you said, 0:17:38.200 --> 0:17:41.159 he'd be like, oh, I love that too. Issues And 0:17:41.200 --> 0:17:42.600 it could be you could be on a straight up 0:17:42.640 --> 0:17:45.080 stretch and this dude has no personality. You could just 0:17:45.119 --> 0:17:48.800 tell anything you say. It's like, I don't know, that's funny. 0:17:48.800 --> 0:17:50.840 We were just talking about that um in the other 0:17:50.920 --> 0:17:53.720 room while we were waiting to get started. We were saying, 0:17:53.720 --> 0:17:56.000 if you meet a guy and you're like okay, and 0:17:56.000 --> 0:17:57.639 he's like, what do you want to do? And you 0:17:57.720 --> 0:18:00.119 tell him I want you to take me out to NOBU? 0:18:00.520 --> 0:18:02.720 Does that mean that? And this is your first date 0:18:02.800 --> 0:18:04.239 and you tell him that's where you want to go, 0:18:04.640 --> 0:18:06.160 do you expect him to pay for you? Or did 0:18:06.160 --> 0:18:07.600 you ask him out and now you got to pay 0:18:07.600 --> 0:18:09.600 for him? I think, as a man and a gentleman, 0:18:09.640 --> 0:18:11.520 I think that it's a no brainer for him to 0:18:11.520 --> 0:18:13.880 go in his pocket. I mean, you know, you, being 0:18:13.920 --> 0:18:15.560 a woman of your stature, you should always have some 0:18:15.640 --> 0:18:18.560 bright on you just in case, so don't show yourself short. 0:18:19.040 --> 0:18:20.520 But for the most part, I think if you were 0:18:20.520 --> 0:18:22.960 to pull out I think he should take the lead 0:18:23.000 --> 0:18:24.280 to be like, I got this. You know what I'm saying. 0:18:24.280 --> 0:18:26.679 It's it's a it's a couple of dollars for some food. 0:18:26.720 --> 0:18:28.640 Like you, you pull out some money just to see 0:18:28.680 --> 0:18:32.200 what he's gonna do. Some guys offer, some guys. Some guys. 0:18:32.240 --> 0:18:34.280 I know a few guys that rather we're dating or not, 0:18:34.400 --> 0:18:36.520 we just won't let me go on my pocket number, right, 0:18:36.880 --> 0:18:38.680 I try to stay away from people the other other way, 0:18:38.720 --> 0:18:41.280 like I don't know, but yeah, but doesn't let anybody 0:18:41.280 --> 0:18:45.040 pay for anything? No, never ever, Ever, when I think 0:18:45.080 --> 0:18:47.640 that shows up everybody's everything. I think that shows such 0:18:47.640 --> 0:18:50.960 a strong like from a good upbringing to like just 0:18:51.119 --> 0:18:53.399 or or just being gathered like I don't know, I 0:18:53.440 --> 0:18:55.480 just think that's a very strong move and it's a 0:18:55.480 --> 0:18:58.520