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Speaker 1: What's up. It's Angela, it's lip service. I'm Stephanie Santiago,

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Speaker 1: I'm G G McGuire. Okay, and we have a very

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Speaker 1: special guest with us today, Natalie de Donato, not d

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Speaker 1: right from my wives from Philly. Hey, girl, what's up?

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Speaker 1: You don't know each other from Philly? Because I know

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Speaker 1: G knows everybody in Philly. We know a few of

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Speaker 1: the same people in Philly, and we recently connected on

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Speaker 1: some business ship. So okay, I ended up with her

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Speaker 1: coming to chill with us today. Are we allowed to

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Speaker 1: know what kind of business this is? Well? I am

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Speaker 1: part of a booking and branding or booking company, booking

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Speaker 1: agency and branding brand management company called Interletics and um

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Speaker 1: that is one of our prospective clients. Okay, yes, oh, alright,

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Speaker 1: so much money for us. So we work our way

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Speaker 1: up to the Angela break it yet, but we will wait. Now,

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Speaker 1: hold on a second. I have no problem with that.

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Speaker 1: I want to get down with this antletics and Atletics.

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Speaker 1: We talk about that later, all right. Now, we started

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Speaker 1: a flip service at the tip of the day always,

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Speaker 1: So today's tip is what is the appropriate amount of

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Speaker 1: time that you should wait before you publicly move on

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Speaker 1: with somebody. Okay, you know you've been dating somebody publicly,

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Speaker 1: and sometimes you jump right into another relationship and then

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Speaker 1: everybody has things to say. What do you think it's

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Speaker 1: the right amount of time to wait before you move

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Speaker 1: on when you feel the need, right, I think everybody

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Speaker 1: has their own timing. I think at least you do

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Speaker 1: a month, though, don't be jumping the gun quick with it,

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Speaker 1: because you know, sometimes you speak too fast and then

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Speaker 1: things don't work out. You're like what, and then you

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Speaker 1: feel stupid. Man. I was with my son's father for

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Speaker 1: seven and a half years and we were broken up

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Speaker 1: for two months and he was already in a serious

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Speaker 1: relationship with somebody else promoting it though. Yeah, they were

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Speaker 1: all over the internet. I was like really, I was like,

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Speaker 1: it's all good because my side nigga that became my

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Speaker 1: main nigga, was all right, he was, yeah, And I

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Speaker 1: for you, what was the best time period for you? Though,

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Speaker 1: like from me, it would have to be at least

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Speaker 1: a month. You really don't get to know somebody so

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Speaker 1: full year if you think about it, you know, right.

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Speaker 1: I also think sometimes girls had to move on quick

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Speaker 1: because they see their man moved on quick, so they

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Speaker 1: see him at with somebody. And I do believe that

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Speaker 1: men do things and they don't get judged obviously the

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Speaker 1: same way that we do, right, But there's nothing like

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Speaker 1: a female that can stand on our own and don't

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Speaker 1: even need to split anybody like you just sometimes some

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Speaker 1: things are better left, you know, I personally am more

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Speaker 1: when it comes to my personal life. I don't put

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Speaker 1: all that stuff on social media. I feel like there's

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Speaker 1: always like bitches that hate so bad and always try

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Speaker 1: and bring you down. So I trying to keep myself

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Speaker 1: like more. In the in the cut, I say this,

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Speaker 1: I waited, Um, I waited two and a half years

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Speaker 1: before I went public. I was in a serious relationship

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Speaker 1: before my last serious relationship with somebody else that wasn't

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Speaker 1: my son's father, and I didn't go public with that

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Speaker 1: relationship because I felt like it was too soon. But

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Speaker 1: I was publicly in another relationship two and a half

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Speaker 1: years later. Okay, with two and half years that really bad,

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Speaker 1: so bad, because like even if you look at say

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Speaker 1: Kylie Jennet right out right, her and Tiger broke up

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Speaker 1: and then she was with a party next door like

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Speaker 1: immediately after and we're like, damn, maybe you should wait

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Speaker 1: a second, you know what I mean? But did we

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Speaker 1: with Kalani? I feel like you do what you want

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Speaker 1: to do when you feel like the time is right

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Speaker 1: for you, and you really shouldn't worried about worry about

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Speaker 1: what other people have to say about it, especially those

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Speaker 1: random people that are in your comments business. Now, have

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Speaker 1: any of you ever dated a guy who wears a

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Speaker 1: suit to work every day? I was just thinking about

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Speaker 1: this because I was outside his hat out and there's

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Speaker 1: a lot of guys walking around wearing suits, and I'm like,

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Speaker 1: you know what, I don't know if I've ever dated

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Speaker 1: every day? Yes? I have? You have, so, yeah, you

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Speaker 1: dated a guy that had to wear a suit to court.

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Speaker 1: My guy has to wear a suit to work sometimes

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Speaker 1: when he has to go to a lot. I think

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Speaker 1: he looks really good when he were to suit Grammys,

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Speaker 1: So once the year, his tucks. When he goes to

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Speaker 1: the suit, and I think it's sexy. You think it

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Speaker 1: sexy if you could switch up. I like a little

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Speaker 1: mean I put on it a Zeppie shoo, Gucci shoe on,

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Speaker 1: Hugo ball suit like unfitted European suit. I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I think that's sexy sex when a guy was a cheap,

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Speaker 1: ill fitting suit like suck up him suit, ye anywhere period.

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Speaker 1: Stephanie was your man hat when he had on the

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Speaker 1: suit in court? Um the last time I saw him

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Speaker 1: in the suit? If it him kind of big, look

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Speaker 1: that's bad. Yeah, remember Lebron many years ago, but he

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Speaker 1: none of that. I mean, I kind of like my

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Speaker 1: last boyfriend what I had, and you know, like a

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Speaker 1: white tea on and Timber lambots. I don't he looked

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Speaker 1: weird like his I didn't like the way he looked

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Speaker 1: like he was going to jail. But then you are,

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Speaker 1: do you really want a guy that like, I don't

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Speaker 1: want my boyfriend walking around wearing no wife beater and

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Speaker 1: stuff like that. Either I like when I like when

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Speaker 1: guys how to dress. I like you guys, but I

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Speaker 1: like a man that takes pride and he's like the

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Speaker 1: way he dressed me like someone got my fly. Yeah yeah,

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Speaker 1: I like it and dressed up. Take some pride in

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Speaker 1: your appearance. Guy, Absolutely don't be wearing like white beaters,

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Speaker 1: some sweatpants or sneakers like even that I looked at

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Speaker 1: like dick sneakers like terrible, like dirty sneaker. Yeah, like

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Speaker 1: I like one. I like to see um, I like

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Speaker 1: to see my favorite boyfriend and his basketball favorite person

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Speaker 1: his home saying he's like he's like walking around. I'll

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Speaker 1: be like, oh, bib can give me some water, and

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Speaker 1: I could see like his dick friend showing through his

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Speaker 1: sweats when he's coming back, Like that's like that's like

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Speaker 1: their camel too, right, Yeah, that's the man's version of baby.

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Speaker 1: What about guys with a little but you like guys

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Speaker 1: It reminds me of like, how about being bed guy

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Speaker 1: with himps? Yea, you ever had a guy with hips?

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Speaker 1: I haven't eaten what I like. I've seen a few

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Speaker 1: guys they had hips, like yo, that nigga guy hip

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Speaker 1: a guy with a muscle. But yeah, because it's fair

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Speaker 1: that the muscle. Have any of you ever been engaged before?

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Speaker 1: We were talking about engagements? Yeah you have? How many times?

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Speaker 1: I was engaged? Three times? Saying wow, yeah, yeah, three

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Speaker 1: for twelve years. It was like a night Mary. We

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Speaker 1: him over? Yeah? And then yeah, let's go back a

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Speaker 1: little bit. So first engagement, why did y'all call Why

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Speaker 1: did you call it? We were young? He was my

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Speaker 1: the first time, like, he tried to step it up

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Speaker 1: it was too intense. The second time he got called

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Speaker 1: I called wash the happy ending is that in Philly?

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Speaker 1: The house in New York Like okay, okay, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: you pay to get your dick socked. They called it

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Speaker 1: the washing and Philly. Most men they do do that

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Speaker 1: They ain't got no you know what I'm saying. This

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Speaker 1: is another woman. Yeah, so what she massage pussy? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I don't the right amount of money or play with

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Speaker 1: I feel like, if you need to feel the need

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Speaker 1: play and you can pay me. That's some fucking look me,

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Speaker 1: it's Harvard me and roll play. I'll put on whatever

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Speaker 1: guys say, like, I've worked with a lot of guys

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Speaker 1: and every one of them, unfortunately all gonna kill me

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Speaker 1: Does that mean you're fucking five or four? You know

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Speaker 1: what that means, you know, look at Holly Berry. She

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Speaker 1: was a bad she's a bad bit, you know what

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Speaker 1: I'm saying, and she doesn't buy the best of them. Right.

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Speaker 1: But listen, everybody, I think it don't even matter as

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Speaker 1: I was destroyed over Distraught would be a better word.

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Speaker 1: I was distraught over it. But you know, with time

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Speaker 1: prepare for something like that. Either way, it's harsh news,

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Speaker 1: like it's your man, like, I'm very like I don't

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Speaker 1: And that's so corny because then he's gonna tell everybody

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Speaker 1: basically put me in those situations. I don't want to

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Speaker 1: your corny gass friends. And anything you don't do when

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Speaker 1: I don't want to orchestrate everything, like nothing's better that

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Speaker 1: and he would like, let's do it. Like anything you said,

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Speaker 1: Does that mean that? And this is your first date

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Speaker 1: I think that it's a no brainer for him to

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Speaker 1: It's it's a it's a couple of dollars for some food.

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Speaker 1: I try to stay away from people the other other way,

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Speaker 1: like I don't know, but yeah, but doesn't let anybody

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Speaker 1: just think that's a very strong move and it's a

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Speaker 1: She was I mean, I don't think he knew them

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Speaker 1: Some people really don't put then want to put on

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Speaker 1: I think that's extreme. I don't think anybody should have

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Speaker 1: hundred and fifty dollars a person. See, I feel as

427
00:20:06,280 --> 00:20:09,720
Speaker 1: though children some people have kids, though, like I think

428
00:20:09,760 --> 00:20:13,639
Speaker 1: that could be a little expensive. But I think you

429
00:20:13,720 --> 00:20:17,880
Speaker 1: let people know in advance is what's important. You tell them, Okay,

430
00:20:17,960 --> 00:20:19,760
Speaker 1: we're gonna have a dinner, and you do a prefix

431
00:20:19,840 --> 00:20:21,760
Speaker 1: and you say it's gonna be this amount of person

432
00:20:22,280 --> 00:20:24,320
Speaker 1: and drinks. If you buy drinks, you know that's something

433
00:20:24,359 --> 00:20:27,080
Speaker 1: you But you have to let people know. Now, y'all know,

434
00:20:27,119 --> 00:20:29,040
Speaker 1: if you come to dinner for me and it's my birthday,

435
00:20:29,119 --> 00:20:32,000
Speaker 1: nobody's paying. Nobody's paying for anything. But I wouldn't invite

436
00:20:32,000 --> 00:20:34,080
Speaker 1: anybody to my birthday dinner if they had to pay.

437
00:20:34,160 --> 00:20:37,520
Speaker 1: But everybody doesn't have it like that. Everybody doesn't don't

438
00:20:38,280 --> 00:20:41,200
Speaker 1: talk about you. Yeah, some they're gonna be some bitches

439
00:20:41,200 --> 00:20:43,280
Speaker 1: you know, are your friends. They're gonna make sure you

440
00:20:43,320 --> 00:20:45,800
Speaker 1: believe that that stuff. She thinks she just ship shed

441
00:20:46,119 --> 00:20:49,320
Speaker 1: three right, and I do think and they're going to

442
00:20:49,400 --> 00:20:51,080
Speaker 1: do it. It's kind of really sometimes to do that

443
00:20:51,160 --> 00:20:52,840
Speaker 1: to people if they can't afford it, don't have a

444
00:20:52,920 --> 00:20:54,919
Speaker 1: dinner that's really expensive. If you know some of your

445
00:20:54,920 --> 00:20:57,680
Speaker 1: friends don't have it like that, definitely awkward because one

446
00:20:57,720 --> 00:21:01,000
Speaker 1: time my friend, um, she invited did us to dinner.

447
00:21:01,200 --> 00:21:03,760
Speaker 1: It was me and my last boyfriend, and you already

448
00:21:03,760 --> 00:21:07,280
Speaker 1: know that's what the guy all boyfriend and you know,

449
00:21:07,400 --> 00:21:09,159
Speaker 1: the bill came back and it was three hundred and

450
00:21:09,160 --> 00:21:12,560
Speaker 1: fifty dollars for each of us, and I paid for it.

451
00:21:12,600 --> 00:21:14,840
Speaker 1: I ended up paying for it. He gave me back

452
00:21:14,840 --> 00:21:16,880
Speaker 1: the money, but I ended up paying for it. That night.

453
00:21:17,080 --> 00:21:18,520
Speaker 1: He did give me back the money. He gave me

454
00:21:18,520 --> 00:21:20,760
Speaker 1: back the full amount of money. In a situation like that,

455
00:21:20,800 --> 00:21:23,720
Speaker 1: you feel obligated. Yeah, yeah, and it was my friend

456
00:21:23,760 --> 00:21:25,920
Speaker 1: and no, I wasn't gonna he forced me to take

457
00:21:25,920 --> 00:21:27,520
Speaker 1: back the money. I didn't even want to take back

458
00:21:27,560 --> 00:21:30,240
Speaker 1: the money, you know, because I invited him, but he

459
00:21:30,680 --> 00:21:32,720
Speaker 1: like he we had an argument and he put the

460
00:21:32,720 --> 00:21:37,040
Speaker 1: money in my drawer and made and left. We were arguing,

461
00:21:37,119 --> 00:21:45,879
Speaker 1: like he came up to two pages exactly so, but

462
00:21:46,000 --> 00:21:48,679
Speaker 1: he was like, you know, um, he's like who invites

463
00:21:48,720 --> 00:21:50,720
Speaker 1: people to a birthday thenner and then got to pay

464
00:21:50,760 --> 00:21:52,720
Speaker 1: for it? Like he was kind of he was like

465
00:21:52,760 --> 00:21:54,960
Speaker 1: taking it back, while you're like, I mean, it happens,

466
00:21:54,960 --> 00:21:56,439
Speaker 1: but I think you just have to be conscious of

467
00:21:56,440 --> 00:21:58,600
Speaker 1: who you're inviting. Like, if I have a bunch of

468
00:21:58,640 --> 00:22:01,240
Speaker 1: friends and everybody gotta pay for himself, I'm not gonna

469
00:22:01,280 --> 00:22:04,480
Speaker 1: go someplace really expensive. Now if the dinner is paid

470
00:22:04,480 --> 00:22:06,639
Speaker 1: for sky's the limit, you know what I'm saying. And

471
00:22:06,680 --> 00:22:10,200
Speaker 1: I'm gonna make sure everybody's good, but be aware. Yeah,

472
00:22:12,680 --> 00:22:15,359
Speaker 1: I just wanted to talk about well because he was

473
00:22:15,400 --> 00:22:17,199
Speaker 1: just thinking about that dinner and you know, I just

474
00:22:17,240 --> 00:22:19,119
Speaker 1: he was thinking about it. Now. It didn't bother me.

475
00:22:19,200 --> 00:22:21,280
Speaker 1: I I didn't end up, but it made me feel

476
00:22:21,280 --> 00:22:25,040
Speaker 1: bad that what if your boyfriend embarrassed money from you, like,

477
00:22:25,080 --> 00:22:26,760
Speaker 1: oh you can you just give me this right now

478
00:22:26,840 --> 00:22:28,520
Speaker 1: just because he doesn't have it on him or whatever,

479
00:22:28,840 --> 00:22:30,720
Speaker 1: and then never brings it up again. It doesn't pay

480
00:22:30,720 --> 00:22:33,280
Speaker 1: you that super gross like that throw up in my

481
00:22:33,320 --> 00:22:36,160
Speaker 1: mouth and eat it again, and I'm I'm so terrible,

482
00:22:36,359 --> 00:22:39,520
Speaker 1: Like it's one thing. It would really irk I offer

483
00:22:39,800 --> 00:22:42,800
Speaker 1: if I offer to give you something that's different, like

484
00:22:42,800 --> 00:22:44,679
Speaker 1: if I'm like, oh here I have it, take this,

485
00:22:45,000 --> 00:22:47,560
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. But if you ask me

486
00:22:47,600 --> 00:22:50,680
Speaker 1: to borrow something like I am a real crazy mega

487
00:22:50,720 --> 00:22:52,240
Speaker 1: bit you know what I mean. As soon as you

488
00:22:52,320 --> 00:22:54,120
Speaker 1: do something, I guess on my nerves. I'm like, yeah,

489
00:22:56,680 --> 00:22:58,399
Speaker 1: can you do me a favor? And but this flight

490
00:22:58,440 --> 00:23:01,200
Speaker 1: for me, he's you know, ready for this. I'm dating

491
00:23:01,240 --> 00:23:04,200
Speaker 1: this guy. We're dating like two months. It's intense, so

492
00:23:04,520 --> 00:23:07,119
Speaker 1: he just long story short, I wind up getting my

493
00:23:07,240 --> 00:23:09,600
Speaker 1: car stopped. I had had a booking in d C.

494
00:23:10,520 --> 00:23:12,760
Speaker 1: My car, brand new car never stopped. I don't know

495
00:23:12,760 --> 00:23:16,200
Speaker 1: what stopped the middlefucking parkway. Long story short, I needed

496
00:23:16,720 --> 00:23:18,600
Speaker 1: something went on with the engine. Will they get the car?

497
00:23:18,640 --> 00:23:21,960
Speaker 1: Told it costs like two thousand dollars, like from DC

498
00:23:22,119 --> 00:23:25,760
Speaker 1: to Philly he paid for willingly, Fine, you got that.

499
00:23:26,240 --> 00:23:28,000
Speaker 1: We go to the Catalect dealership where he gets his

500
00:23:28,040 --> 00:23:30,240
Speaker 1: car done. He's like, oh, they gotta steal my car.

501
00:23:30,280 --> 00:23:31,679
Speaker 1: He's like, I left my will at home. You got

502
00:23:31,680 --> 00:23:33,320
Speaker 1: five Hunter on you. I'm like, yeah, all day, I

503
00:23:33,359 --> 00:23:35,600
Speaker 1: got it, no problem, Like go my bag, given the

504
00:23:35,640 --> 00:23:38,960
Speaker 1: five Hunter. All right. Two days go by, dude, don't

505
00:23:39,000 --> 00:23:41,480
Speaker 1: say nothing about the five Hunter, And like three days

506
00:23:41,480 --> 00:23:44,160
Speaker 1: go by, a whole week goes by, two weeks goes by.

507
00:23:44,200 --> 00:23:45,639
Speaker 1: I'm like, yo, what's up with that five Hunter. I

508
00:23:45,680 --> 00:23:47,040
Speaker 1: don't need to be a dick or not them, but like,

509
00:23:47,280 --> 00:23:48,880
Speaker 1: you know, like I took it up my bank account

510
00:23:48,880 --> 00:23:50,960
Speaker 1: and gave it to you, you know, And he's like, oh,

511
00:23:51,000 --> 00:23:52,359
Speaker 1: he's like I just thought, you know. I was like

512
00:23:52,359 --> 00:23:54,520
Speaker 1: you thought what? Because you you you got me on

513
00:23:54,560 --> 00:23:56,520
Speaker 1: the two thousand that like I owe you money, like

514
00:23:56,560 --> 00:23:57,600
Speaker 1: I just want to know, like did you do a

515
00:23:57,640 --> 00:24:00,000
Speaker 1: favor for a favor? And I made it like motherfucker,

516
00:24:00,040 --> 00:24:02,359
Speaker 1: I'll kill you like I want that five hunter. And

517
00:24:02,480 --> 00:24:04,720
Speaker 1: I got that five hunter because the steam was coming

518
00:24:04,720 --> 00:24:06,520
Speaker 1: out of every hole in my body and I was like,

519
00:24:06,720 --> 00:24:09,160
Speaker 1: you'd better die, like I want that five hunter because

520
00:24:09,200 --> 00:24:12,719
Speaker 1: that's sucking sucked up. And he he was basically burning.

521
00:24:13,040 --> 00:24:15,520
Speaker 1: He had like alligator arms giving it back, like his

522
00:24:15,680 --> 00:24:19,600
Speaker 1: arms are like this. I was like, yeah, I felt

523
00:24:19,600 --> 00:24:21,600
Speaker 1: some type of way though at that moment, I was

524
00:24:21,680 --> 00:24:23,800
Speaker 1: convinced that this dude's the sucker, like I see, I

525
00:24:23,800 --> 00:24:26,119
Speaker 1: just wantn't feeling that I hate asking people for money

526
00:24:26,119 --> 00:24:30,600
Speaker 1: back like I don't. It's it's the fun out of yours,

527
00:24:31,960 --> 00:24:34,000
Speaker 1: because I'd be I'll be mad, but I won't say

528
00:24:34,119 --> 00:24:35,399
Speaker 1: that's enough for you for you to go out of

529
00:24:35,400 --> 00:24:37,000
Speaker 1: your way and lend it to put somebody in a

530
00:24:37,040 --> 00:24:39,520
Speaker 1: position to be able to be in that position. But

531
00:24:39,520 --> 00:24:41,000
Speaker 1: it's their obligation to give it back to you. And

532
00:24:41,040 --> 00:24:43,280
Speaker 1: you sure that mentioned shit about getting back. That's a

533
00:24:43,280 --> 00:24:48,000
Speaker 1: disrespectful tactic towards you some people, because some people might

534
00:24:48,040 --> 00:24:53,119
Speaker 1: just forget no if it's a you're not forgetting because

535
00:24:53,119 --> 00:24:55,520
Speaker 1: I have that's a major favor. She's one of my

536
00:24:55,560 --> 00:24:58,040
Speaker 1: best fans, and she always borrows money and forgets about it.

537
00:24:58,119 --> 00:24:59,960
Speaker 1: And she don't do it on purpose. I know she doesn't.

538
00:25:00,000 --> 00:25:01,679
Speaker 1: She'd be playing because she's the type of person that

539
00:25:01,680 --> 00:25:04,520
Speaker 1: will give you anything, and she is forgetful like that.

540
00:25:04,560 --> 00:25:06,040
Speaker 1: So she might be like, oh my god, you know,

541
00:25:06,119 --> 00:25:08,199
Speaker 1: can you dad? And you give it to her, but

542
00:25:08,280 --> 00:25:10,119
Speaker 1: I don't, like, I would never even ask her for

543
00:25:10,160 --> 00:25:12,719
Speaker 1: it back. But I feel like she really does forget.

544
00:25:13,320 --> 00:25:17,000
Speaker 1: Maybe she's hoping you forget because you don't really like that. Now,

545
00:25:17,000 --> 00:25:19,959
Speaker 1: what about guys who don't tip? Well, you ever went

546
00:25:20,000 --> 00:25:21,680
Speaker 1: out with somebody? Yeah? Where I want to go to

547
00:25:21,800 --> 00:25:24,680
Speaker 1: funk home right now? I want to die, like because

548
00:25:24,720 --> 00:25:29,320
Speaker 1: I don't like cheat people allergic absolutely, And that's one

549
00:25:29,359 --> 00:25:31,040
Speaker 1: of the moms when you get on your phone and

550
00:25:31,080 --> 00:25:35,120
Speaker 1: be like can you call right now? And one time

551
00:25:35,160 --> 00:25:37,119
Speaker 1: I went out with this guy to lunch and he

552
00:25:37,240 --> 00:25:39,560
Speaker 1: left a two dollar tip And how much was the bill?

553
00:25:39,960 --> 00:25:41,439
Speaker 1: I think it wasn't even that much. It might have

554
00:25:41,480 --> 00:25:46,320
Speaker 1: been like fifty dollars a girl, because it was like

555
00:25:46,400 --> 00:25:49,480
Speaker 1: lunch we had, like people were burgers two dollar tip

556
00:25:50,240 --> 00:25:52,320
Speaker 1: as well, not like the time, like that's an insult.

557
00:25:52,359 --> 00:25:54,119
Speaker 1: I never went out with him again because of that.

558
00:25:54,160 --> 00:25:57,359
Speaker 1: And let me tell you, I am very adamant about

559
00:25:57,480 --> 00:25:59,320
Speaker 1: like when we get a bill, because I think sometimes

560
00:25:59,359 --> 00:26:01,359
Speaker 1: people don't really last how much they should be leaving.

561
00:26:02,000 --> 00:26:05,320
Speaker 1: I'm a calculator forever, but I don't know it's place

562
00:26:05,400 --> 00:26:09,919
Speaker 1: is eighteen, but it's twenty all day. Yeah, So I

563
00:26:09,960 --> 00:26:12,000
Speaker 1: always say, do you want me to get the tips?

564
00:26:12,040 --> 00:26:13,719
Speaker 1: Like if somebody takes me out, I'd be like, oh,

565
00:26:13,760 --> 00:26:15,840
Speaker 1: you want me to leave because I want to make

566
00:26:15,840 --> 00:26:18,880
Speaker 1: sure we leave a good tip to right, So it's

567
00:26:18,960 --> 00:26:21,440
Speaker 1: I feel as though it's a real man'll be like, girl,

568
00:26:21,480 --> 00:26:22,879
Speaker 1: what you're doing looking at this bill? You know? I

569
00:26:22,920 --> 00:26:25,280
Speaker 1: got this ship? But then I'd be like, how much

570
00:26:25,359 --> 00:26:26,960
Speaker 1: you leaving? Because I need to know? And then a

571
00:26:27,000 --> 00:26:28,959
Speaker 1: man that is about his ship will say more than enough.

572
00:26:29,040 --> 00:26:31,520
Speaker 1: You ain't gotta worry about it over here, Like for

573
00:26:31,520 --> 00:26:34,280
Speaker 1: for all that is just terrible. I came out a

574
00:26:34,280 --> 00:26:36,920
Speaker 1: good tipper because I've worked for tips in my life,

575
00:26:37,480 --> 00:26:41,480
Speaker 1: so I know that struggle. I know, like I give

576
00:26:41,520 --> 00:26:44,400
Speaker 1: the person that bags my bags at the groceries five

577
00:26:44,440 --> 00:26:47,800
Speaker 1: dollars you know what I'm saying. But if it's service

578
00:26:47,880 --> 00:26:52,440
Speaker 1: is bad, you get. If services bad, I'll still leave.

579
00:26:53,040 --> 00:26:55,800
Speaker 1: You still happen, and it might not have been their fault,

580
00:26:56,119 --> 00:26:57,680
Speaker 1: like it could have been a problem in the kitchen.

581
00:26:57,760 --> 00:26:59,879
Speaker 1: Back up your food to come out wrong, and you

582
00:27:00,000 --> 00:27:01,800
Speaker 1: can't take it out on the they have a don't

583
00:27:01,800 --> 00:27:05,600
Speaker 1: shoot the messenger. Um worst. But I really feel like

584
00:27:05,640 --> 00:27:08,159
Speaker 1: tipping is very, very important and for those of you

585
00:27:08,200 --> 00:27:10,600
Speaker 1: out there listening who don't tip well, this should be

586
00:27:10,640 --> 00:27:12,960
Speaker 1: your lesson that you need to tip well. You need

587
00:27:12,960 --> 00:27:15,280
Speaker 1: to tip according to your service, and if you had

588
00:27:15,280 --> 00:27:19,320
Speaker 1: a good service, then you definitely need to tip approximately appropriately,

589
00:27:19,560 --> 00:27:22,040
Speaker 1: and especially if it's in place you frequent often. Yes,

590
00:27:22,200 --> 00:27:26,399
Speaker 1: I don't want I went to a nail salon and

591
00:27:26,480 --> 00:27:30,160
Speaker 1: Philly not too long ago, and I got a service.

592
00:27:30,200 --> 00:27:31,800
Speaker 1: I think I just got like a manicure and the

593
00:27:31,880 --> 00:27:36,800
Speaker 1: eyebrow wax or something. Anyway, it was like twenty two dollars, right,

594
00:27:37,520 --> 00:27:41,240
Speaker 1: So I was giving her um a tip. I was

595
00:27:41,280 --> 00:27:43,920
Speaker 1: giving her um I think it was like a seven

596
00:27:43,960 --> 00:27:46,280
Speaker 1: dollar tip. So I give her the money and then

597
00:27:46,320 --> 00:27:48,320
Speaker 1: she gives it back and she's like, oh no, only

598
00:27:48,320 --> 00:27:50,040
Speaker 1: twenty two And I'm like, no, the rest of it

599
00:27:50,080 --> 00:27:51,440
Speaker 1: is for you. And I'm like, what people don't tip

600
00:27:51,440 --> 00:27:53,560
Speaker 1: around here? And she was just like so happy for

601
00:27:53,600 --> 00:27:55,440
Speaker 1: the little seven dollar tip, and I was just like,

602
00:27:57,080 --> 00:27:59,479
Speaker 1: I give her. I give my nail person, because they

603
00:27:59,520 --> 00:28:02,960
Speaker 1: do my and my hands. I give them. Yeah. I

604
00:28:03,320 --> 00:28:05,560
Speaker 1: usually do, like if it's good service, I usually do

605
00:28:05,600 --> 00:28:08,000
Speaker 1: like five dollars of service. Yeah. And he says a

606
00:28:08,000 --> 00:28:10,280
Speaker 1: lot about you who you are as a person, like,

607
00:28:10,520 --> 00:28:12,399
Speaker 1: you know, I'm not always rolling, but what I am like,

608
00:28:12,440 --> 00:28:16,000
Speaker 1: you know, my services. I make sure regardless, I don't

609
00:28:16,000 --> 00:28:17,879
Speaker 1: go and treat myself if I'm not rolling, but I

610
00:28:17,960 --> 00:28:20,040
Speaker 1: make sure that I leave. You know, when people to

611
00:28:20,080 --> 00:28:23,199
Speaker 1: be like all that pitched on tip and then and

612
00:28:23,200 --> 00:28:25,000
Speaker 1: then when you tip go when you're known as a

613
00:28:25,040 --> 00:28:27,680
Speaker 1: good tipper in the nail shop, they like make room

614
00:28:27,720 --> 00:28:32,760
Speaker 1: for you if you go somewhere free, if you visit

615
00:28:32,800 --> 00:28:35,359
Speaker 1: a place frequently, no matter what type of service it is,

616
00:28:35,400 --> 00:28:38,320
Speaker 1: and you visit them frequently and you tipped well, they

617
00:28:38,400 --> 00:28:40,680
Speaker 1: know that trust that, they know that they know when

618
00:28:40,680 --> 00:28:43,120
Speaker 1: you're not but they appreciate you tip it well and

619
00:28:43,120 --> 00:28:44,760
Speaker 1: they will take care of you. In response, you have

620
00:28:44,800 --> 00:28:46,400
Speaker 1: to take care of happy to see because they will

621
00:28:47,800 --> 00:28:50,680
Speaker 1: when I like when I worked at the Strip club,

622
00:28:50,720 --> 00:28:52,720
Speaker 1: I was like Ginger and Casino. I was welcome around

623
00:28:52,720 --> 00:28:55,440
Speaker 1: tipping everybody. And guess what, they all took care of

624
00:28:55,480 --> 00:28:58,520
Speaker 1: me because I tipped. Well, like, that's just what you

625
00:28:58,560 --> 00:29:00,760
Speaker 1: have to do. Yeah, I was a trip. I was

626
00:29:00,760 --> 00:29:02,800
Speaker 1: a real good tipper. I used to top the DJ,

627
00:29:03,000 --> 00:29:07,800
Speaker 1: real good. I used to set the bounce. I didn't

628
00:29:07,840 --> 00:29:10,800
Speaker 1: know that. And the house man, I started to sept

629
00:29:10,800 --> 00:29:12,560
Speaker 1: the house to the DJ. You have to you have

630
00:29:12,640 --> 00:29:15,560
Speaker 1: to pay a house fee. You have to. Um. I

631
00:29:15,560 --> 00:29:20,680
Speaker 1: didn't pay a house fee so much because, yeah, the

632
00:29:20,760 --> 00:29:22,680
Speaker 1: house for a while, you know, you know those days

633
00:29:22,720 --> 00:29:25,880
Speaker 1: when you got a house, but his house a lot

634
00:29:25,920 --> 00:29:28,120
Speaker 1: of money. I got tail. Yeah it turns out to

635
00:29:28,200 --> 00:29:31,680
Speaker 1: like a hundred dollars. It depends, but you definitely put

636
00:29:31,720 --> 00:29:35,000
Speaker 1: out a lot of money before your money. Yeah. But

637
00:29:35,240 --> 00:29:36,720
Speaker 1: then I used to tip the bouncers. I used to

638
00:29:36,720 --> 00:29:42,240
Speaker 1: set the guy in the front. I used to barres articulates.

639
00:29:42,440 --> 00:29:44,320
Speaker 1: I didn't know used to tip that many people. When

640
00:29:44,360 --> 00:29:46,320
Speaker 1: you come in, they treat you like a queen. They

641
00:29:46,440 --> 00:29:49,720
Speaker 1: let out the red carpet for us. Tip the bouncing.

642
00:29:50,080 --> 00:29:52,520
Speaker 1: It depends, I used to give. It depends on Yeah,

643
00:29:52,680 --> 00:29:54,719
Speaker 1: like if m if he was holding me down all night,

644
00:29:54,720 --> 00:29:57,920
Speaker 1: I'll give him like fifty bucks forty how much I made,

645
00:29:57,960 --> 00:29:59,480
Speaker 1: you know what I so, I made a lot of money,

646
00:29:59,560 --> 00:30:01,960
Speaker 1: and and then the bactors came and cleaned my money

647
00:30:02,080 --> 00:30:05,240
Speaker 1: up for me. I'm giving my hundred me to my

648
00:30:05,280 --> 00:30:08,400
Speaker 1: car with my trash bag then, you know, Yeah, if

649
00:30:08,400 --> 00:30:10,560
Speaker 1: I made on a regular night, you give them like

650
00:30:10,840 --> 00:30:14,920
Speaker 1: anywhere from twenty to forty dollars and then like on

651
00:30:14,920 --> 00:30:16,560
Speaker 1: a good night, you're giving them a hundred. But they

652
00:30:16,560 --> 00:30:18,640
Speaker 1: love you for that, you know. They never forget to

653
00:30:18,680 --> 00:30:20,840
Speaker 1: listen one thing certain two things for sure. I always

654
00:30:20,840 --> 00:30:24,640
Speaker 1: took care of the DJH always, Yeah, the DJ, and

655
00:30:24,680 --> 00:30:28,040
Speaker 1: the DJ is the most important person and the most

656
00:30:28,080 --> 00:30:30,640
Speaker 1: important because the house mom is gonna hold you down

657
00:30:30,680 --> 00:30:32,640
Speaker 1: watching stuff and all night, you know what I mean,

658
00:30:34,080 --> 00:30:36,680
Speaker 1: outfits for you. So they do that in New York too,

659
00:30:36,680 --> 00:30:38,800
Speaker 1: because like m VB DJ and all the ship clause

660
00:30:38,880 --> 00:30:40,760
Speaker 1: do do they don't tip him? I don't know they

661
00:30:40,800 --> 00:30:43,560
Speaker 1: have a house DJ to tip. That's a special. Yeah,

662
00:30:44,000 --> 00:30:46,240
Speaker 1: a special get paid to show up. Yeah, he just

663
00:30:46,280 --> 00:30:48,760
Speaker 1: get paid. Don't they make their money off of it? Yeah,

664
00:30:48,800 --> 00:30:52,160
Speaker 1: exactly so, and that's important to tip the DJ when

665
00:30:52,160 --> 00:30:54,680
Speaker 1: you're a stripper, because they pay your music, you know

666
00:30:54,680 --> 00:30:58,120
Speaker 1: what I mean, vibe. They might slidge you an extra

667
00:30:58,160 --> 00:31:00,360
Speaker 1: songs too when ain't nobody paying attention or this is

668
00:31:00,400 --> 00:31:02,000
Speaker 1: what they used to do when there was a lot

669
00:31:02,000 --> 00:31:04,520
Speaker 1: of money. They would stall on the next song and

670
00:31:04,600 --> 00:31:07,640
Speaker 1: like ring running back. So you can continue to make

671
00:31:07,680 --> 00:31:09,160
Speaker 1: that money. I gotta take care of it. But the

672
00:31:09,160 --> 00:31:18,040
Speaker 1: girls who don't sit, they you gotta the wacky song.

673
00:31:18,080 --> 00:31:22,760
Speaker 1: I don't nobody want to hear. And Natalie, before you

674
00:31:22,760 --> 00:31:26,040
Speaker 1: got here, we were talking about tantric sex. What's up now?

675
00:31:26,120 --> 00:31:28,320
Speaker 1: Tantric sex. We were trying to figure this out. This

676
00:31:28,360 --> 00:31:32,240
Speaker 1: has when you guys like you meditate, meditate staring to

677
00:31:32,280 --> 00:31:34,880
Speaker 1: each other's eyes for like ten minutes like a soulful.

678
00:31:35,120 --> 00:31:38,800
Speaker 1: It's supposed to be like the connection. No, um, I

679
00:31:38,840 --> 00:31:41,720
Speaker 1: wanna I wanna learn. I remember didn he said he

680
00:31:41,720 --> 00:31:45,280
Speaker 1: has sex for like two days tantric sex he did?

681
00:31:45,360 --> 00:31:47,479
Speaker 1: You don't remember when he was talking about that. I

682
00:31:47,520 --> 00:31:50,760
Speaker 1: can't even I remember seeing tantric sex on sex in

683
00:31:50,760 --> 00:31:55,920
Speaker 1: the city. Remember that? Oh yes, he would You be

684
00:31:56,160 --> 00:31:58,960
Speaker 1: supposed to be like become one ship like yeah, like

685
00:31:59,080 --> 00:32:05,960
Speaker 1: beside because they have like different jobs and massaging and stuff.

686
00:32:05,960 --> 00:32:08,240
Speaker 1: It's like a deeper said that you have to look

687
00:32:08,280 --> 00:32:12,000
Speaker 1: into each other's eyes. Look in each other. I feel

688
00:32:12,080 --> 00:32:16,560
Speaker 1: like breathing. Like just after like fifteen seconds of staring

689
00:32:16,600 --> 00:32:21,120
Speaker 1: into my favorite boyfriends, alright, you're ready to me? Right?

690
00:32:22,800 --> 00:32:27,200
Speaker 1: You ready to put? And they said, can you help

691
00:32:27,200 --> 00:32:31,320
Speaker 1: me my mouth? Now? Look at this they do like, um,

692
00:32:31,520 --> 00:32:38,360
Speaker 1: yoga poses or something together. I like to do my

693
00:32:38,360 --> 00:32:40,320
Speaker 1: own thing like but if to each his own, like

694
00:32:40,360 --> 00:32:42,440
Speaker 1: whatever you're into that works for you. You know, they

695
00:32:42,520 --> 00:32:45,239
Speaker 1: want to reinvent yourself as a couple. She gets old.

696
00:32:45,280 --> 00:32:47,760
Speaker 1: I know, motherfucker's have been together for like ten twenty years.

697
00:32:47,800 --> 00:32:49,960
Speaker 1: You know, sometimes you gotta step it up or try

698
00:32:50,000 --> 00:32:51,720
Speaker 1: some of that ship. I guess, is there anything that

699
00:32:51,760 --> 00:32:53,440
Speaker 1: you do that you feel like it's a little different

700
00:32:53,520 --> 00:32:56,600
Speaker 1: or weird that no one else does? In the bedroom,

701
00:32:56,680 --> 00:32:59,000
Speaker 1: I feel like, um, I do some porno ship, like

702
00:32:59,040 --> 00:33:01,280
Speaker 1: I always want a motherfuck can remember me? Like, I

703
00:33:01,320 --> 00:33:04,200
Speaker 1: want to be in your dreams and ship right on

704
00:33:04,200 --> 00:33:08,640
Speaker 1: your dick whatever they love that ship smacked the deck

705
00:33:08,720 --> 00:33:11,200
Speaker 1: on your face. I was with this one guy. I

706
00:33:11,240 --> 00:33:13,600
Speaker 1: was with this one guy and I'm like spinning on

707
00:33:13,680 --> 00:33:15,320
Speaker 1: his zick and I felt like I was giving him

708
00:33:15,320 --> 00:33:17,680
Speaker 1: the best blow job in the world, and he was like,

709
00:33:18,400 --> 00:33:25,720
Speaker 1: stop spinning. I was king was killing like what. I

710
00:33:25,840 --> 00:33:33,040
Speaker 1: was like, okay, I'm not wasting my space. I'll take

711
00:33:33,080 --> 00:33:41,560
Speaker 1: that way. Was like just like what okay, he says,

712
00:33:41,640 --> 00:33:45,440
Speaker 1: just like the really clean blow job, all right? And

713
00:33:45,520 --> 00:33:47,800
Speaker 1: you know what, It's interesting because different people like different things, right,

714
00:33:48,000 --> 00:33:52,720
Speaker 1: I thought most guys like it really messy, messy to please.

715
00:33:52,760 --> 00:33:55,480
Speaker 1: I have another another guy. I'm I know, I was

716
00:33:55,480 --> 00:33:57,560
Speaker 1: giving him the best blow job ever, but I'm like

717
00:33:57,600 --> 00:34:00,320
Speaker 1: sucking him, sucking him, sucking him and I threw up

718
00:34:00,400 --> 00:34:02,880
Speaker 1: like and I swallowed him back up and he was like, oh,

719
00:34:03,320 --> 00:34:05,920
Speaker 1: do that again. I'm not gonna throw up again. I'm

720
00:34:06,000 --> 00:34:10,440
Speaker 1: not gonna again. I don't remember that stop, you know.

721
00:34:10,600 --> 00:34:13,719
Speaker 1: He he liked that gag sensation at your throat made

722
00:34:13,719 --> 00:34:16,560
Speaker 1: when you threw up and started and they really slimy

723
00:34:17,440 --> 00:34:19,759
Speaker 1: and it was real warm. Probably it was like he

724
00:34:19,840 --> 00:34:22,879
Speaker 1: was like, I'll do that again. I was like, no, no,

725
00:34:23,200 --> 00:34:26,120
Speaker 1: I I just started laughing. Do you like you guys

726
00:34:26,120 --> 00:34:29,080
Speaker 1: spin on your pussy? No. I like when they suck

727
00:34:29,080 --> 00:34:32,880
Speaker 1: it like like like a past it like a binky.

728
00:34:33,719 --> 00:34:36,760
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna I don't like a messy or sex

729
00:34:36,840 --> 00:34:38,520
Speaker 1: either on me, Like I don't like for the whole

730
00:34:38,560 --> 00:34:40,560
Speaker 1: wed and it needs me to be wet, and I'm

731
00:34:40,600 --> 00:34:43,120
Speaker 1: like sitting in a wet battle. I'm always in a

732
00:34:43,120 --> 00:34:45,920
Speaker 1: wet spot. Did you ever heard anybody like everythinger is

733
00:34:45,960 --> 00:34:49,800
Speaker 1: in you while they performed like they do like that,

734
00:34:49,560 --> 00:34:55,279
Speaker 1: like some dude this thing like with his fingers like

735
00:34:55,520 --> 00:34:58,279
Speaker 1: went like this and like went and I was like,

736
00:34:58,360 --> 00:35:02,360
Speaker 1: whoa that make it square? That does it make you sweat? Definitely?

737
00:35:03,640 --> 00:35:11,120
Speaker 1: That's it? Bubble. It was crazy? Is that the only time?

738
00:35:11,239 --> 00:35:13,520
Speaker 1: I'm just you know, I think that if you are

739
00:35:13,560 --> 00:35:17,000
Speaker 1: a real sexual person and you like into like being sensual,

740
00:35:17,120 --> 00:35:19,400
Speaker 1: kissing bite and not really biting too much, but like

741
00:35:19,440 --> 00:35:22,520
Speaker 1: you know all my spots and you sexy and ship,

742
00:35:22,719 --> 00:35:26,160
Speaker 1: that could definitely happen. I see, this is what I think.

743
00:35:26,200 --> 00:35:29,080
Speaker 1: I hate when guys if you're getting if he's giving

744
00:35:29,080 --> 00:35:30,640
Speaker 1: you head, I guess I want to feel like the

745
00:35:30,680 --> 00:35:32,799
Speaker 1: girl I want to feel. I think girls get face.

746
00:35:33,200 --> 00:35:36,200
Speaker 1: I think it's bad when I'm about to come and

747
00:35:36,200 --> 00:35:39,480
Speaker 1: then he like switches it up so annoying, like you

748
00:35:39,560 --> 00:35:42,680
Speaker 1: sucked it up. Now we gotta go. You got to

749
00:35:42,719 --> 00:35:45,719
Speaker 1: push the cross but right if you just turn back

750
00:35:45,719 --> 00:35:47,680
Speaker 1: there at the time they do something like if I'm

751
00:35:47,680 --> 00:35:49,480
Speaker 1: about to come, you can't stick your finger in right,

752
00:35:49,520 --> 00:35:51,040
Speaker 1: then that's what you're gonna like, I'm about to calm,

753
00:35:51,120 --> 00:35:53,120
Speaker 1: and then they can't suck that shut up because they

754
00:35:53,360 --> 00:35:56,719
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. They don't stop hard to do

755
00:35:56,800 --> 00:36:00,040
Speaker 1: the same thing. They might they might try to you

756
00:36:00,200 --> 00:36:03,719
Speaker 1: some other extra ship and then suck it up. I

757
00:36:03,760 --> 00:36:06,680
Speaker 1: like it. I like to come quietly and you come

758
00:36:06,760 --> 00:36:11,120
Speaker 1: like this is how you come. Answer, But I well,

759
00:36:11,239 --> 00:36:13,960
Speaker 1: like my legs was shaking, said yo, no, but when

760
00:36:14,000 --> 00:36:23,000
Speaker 1: I get away, for me, touch me. Yeah, if it's

761
00:36:23,000 --> 00:36:29,040
Speaker 1: a really intense orgasm, get away. Okay. So you're Natalie.

762
00:36:29,160 --> 00:36:32,600
Speaker 1: Some noise before, like I'm a heavens could hear, but

763
00:36:32,719 --> 00:36:37,160
Speaker 1: pretty up there we know. Yeah, I talk. I'm talking

764
00:36:37,239 --> 00:36:39,720
Speaker 1: the whole time, and you're like being slapped in stuff.

765
00:36:39,719 --> 00:36:41,680
Speaker 1: I like being slapped and choked like you we were

766
00:36:41,680 --> 00:36:44,080
Speaker 1: talking about what is its hand truck? It's like, you know,

767
00:36:44,160 --> 00:36:47,200
Speaker 1: sound slow and sensual. I like the opposite. It's like

768
00:36:47,280 --> 00:36:55,000
Speaker 1: I call it masaki sta sexs like, but you never

769
00:36:55,080 --> 00:36:57,839
Speaker 1: tried the other way. I have tried the other way.

770
00:36:57,840 --> 00:37:02,080
Speaker 1: I've had like yeah, left like, nah, I've had the

771
00:37:02,360 --> 00:37:06,440
Speaker 1: slow passionate. It's nice. You thought you'd be surprised. Some

772
00:37:06,520 --> 00:37:09,400
Speaker 1: guys wanted like that. That's what they want. They got

773
00:37:09,520 --> 00:37:11,600
Speaker 1: to beg you to do that. Yeah. For me, it's

774
00:37:11,600 --> 00:37:16,399
Speaker 1: like us, you know me, am I am I? Why

775
00:37:16,400 --> 00:37:18,840
Speaker 1: are you kissing me now? With my last boyfriend like that?

776
00:37:19,160 --> 00:37:20,879
Speaker 1: You know, because he was going away, So the last

777
00:37:20,880 --> 00:37:22,840
Speaker 1: few times we got sex, he wanted us to be

778
00:37:22,920 --> 00:37:25,120
Speaker 1: like real slow and passionate, and I'm just like, man,

779
00:37:25,160 --> 00:37:29,040
Speaker 1: I'm just good. Put me over, like I'll hear that.

780
00:37:31,239 --> 00:37:33,080
Speaker 1: I want to hear that without your hands even touch

781
00:37:33,160 --> 00:37:39,840
Speaker 1: it exactly. Yeah, I do want to. I want to

782
00:37:39,880 --> 00:37:44,239
Speaker 1: come on. But you know, I just I come. I

783
00:37:44,280 --> 00:37:46,360
Speaker 1: have rough sex makes me come, you know, like I

784
00:37:46,440 --> 00:37:51,080
Speaker 1: come from having insecurts from dick, and like I come

785
00:37:51,120 --> 00:37:58,440
Speaker 1: from getting pounded. Say it sounds like a baggate. I

786
00:37:58,600 --> 00:38:01,280
Speaker 1: come from getting come from that founded. Can you pound?

787
00:38:01,600 --> 00:38:10,120
Speaker 1: You found this pound for pounds? He's the best. That

788
00:38:10,160 --> 00:38:11,719
Speaker 1: would you be mad if you were dating a guy

789
00:38:11,760 --> 00:38:13,680
Speaker 1: and he gave another woman a woman crush Wednesday? But

790
00:38:13,760 --> 00:38:16,880
Speaker 1: say she was like a celebrity, you know, I mean

791
00:38:16,920 --> 00:38:19,359
Speaker 1: if a celebrity, No, but I mean, we're together, we're

792
00:38:19,360 --> 00:38:21,360
Speaker 1: in a relationship. I don't know why you would go

793
00:38:21,480 --> 00:38:24,920
Speaker 1: public and do something like that, you know, I don't

794
00:38:24,960 --> 00:38:28,160
Speaker 1: know if what if he gave Black Rosa Parks of

795
00:38:28,200 --> 00:38:34,839
Speaker 1: Women Crush Wednesday? Come on, come on, I'm bitchy. Gave

796
00:38:34,920 --> 00:38:39,000
Speaker 1: Oprah a woman crush her, love her, I'll be like,

797
00:38:39,000 --> 00:38:46,320
Speaker 1: go head dad woman crush Wednesday and said things. I

798
00:38:46,360 --> 00:38:48,160
Speaker 1: would understand it. You know what I'm saying. But now,

799
00:38:48,239 --> 00:38:50,960
Speaker 1: what if he gave somebody y'all grew up with women

800
00:38:51,000 --> 00:38:53,920
Speaker 1: crush Winday? What if he gave Sharona from seventeen Street

801
00:38:55,160 --> 00:38:58,640
Speaker 1: whack because he's up to He's probably on the cover

802
00:38:58,840 --> 00:39:01,440
Speaker 1: to Nigga Go tell sar Ronzo to wash your drawls

803
00:39:06,000 --> 00:39:07,920
Speaker 1: I with a woman crush Onesday, I don't care if

804
00:39:07,920 --> 00:39:13,840
Speaker 1: it's Iria, I'll never do it. No, Nope, I'll be

805
00:39:13,840 --> 00:39:17,000
Speaker 1: like a word Rihanna Yo, woman crush Wednesday, go find it. Bit,

806
00:39:17,320 --> 00:39:21,080
Speaker 1: I'm changing my number right now. Sucks you just like

807
00:39:21,120 --> 00:39:24,440
Speaker 1: I suck you goodbye. I'm not having it. It's it

808
00:39:24,560 --> 00:39:26,320
Speaker 1: root for a guy to talk about other women he

809
00:39:26,360 --> 00:39:29,080
Speaker 1: finds attractive, like in front of you, or if you're

810
00:39:29,080 --> 00:39:32,759
Speaker 1: watching TV together and not if she's not that, he's like, damn,

811
00:39:32,840 --> 00:39:35,000
Speaker 1: she's just watching a movie and she's bad as ship.

812
00:39:35,400 --> 00:39:38,160
Speaker 1: Like let's say it's j Lo and he's like, damn, big,

813
00:39:38,280 --> 00:39:40,160
Speaker 1: you think she's bad. She looks good. I'd be like, yeah,

814
00:39:40,160 --> 00:39:41,880
Speaker 1: she looks good as she That's a different way he

815
00:39:41,920 --> 00:39:44,080
Speaker 1: asked you first, like what's you think about? Right? But

816
00:39:44,239 --> 00:39:46,640
Speaker 1: he's talking about that has and fort. But if I'm

817
00:39:46,640 --> 00:39:48,600
Speaker 1: sitting in front of the TV and it's like, damn,

818
00:39:48,640 --> 00:39:51,400
Speaker 1: that's a bad bitch, I would be like, I'm sitting

819
00:39:51,480 --> 00:39:58,160
Speaker 1: right here, Hello, what's the that's the next guy that

820
00:39:58,200 --> 00:39:59,840
Speaker 1: comes on? That's bad? You do it right back to

821
00:40:00,120 --> 00:40:06,839
Speaker 1: m Z the exactly way I gotta call. I gotta

822
00:40:06,880 --> 00:40:11,000
Speaker 1: call I'm watching this show. You gotta call your friends, bitch.

823
00:40:11,160 --> 00:40:18,880
Speaker 1: Turn to a girl, baby, you understand before the same thing. Now,

824
00:40:18,960 --> 00:40:21,279
Speaker 1: have you ever been jealous of your boyfriend's friends, Like

825
00:40:21,400 --> 00:40:23,960
Speaker 1: he hangs out with his boys too much? And you're like, damn,

826
00:40:25,000 --> 00:40:27,520
Speaker 1: how come I can't come? What about me? Y'all gotta

827
00:40:27,520 --> 00:40:30,839
Speaker 1: go on these boys trips from dudes like that? Like

828
00:40:31,440 --> 00:40:34,000
Speaker 1: that's like babies, Like you're still doing that, like hang

829
00:40:34,000 --> 00:40:35,680
Speaker 1: out with your homies. But I don't know like I

830
00:40:35,680 --> 00:40:37,759
Speaker 1: feel as if your girl can't be there, like I'm

831
00:40:37,800 --> 00:40:39,440
Speaker 1: cool ship. If I can't be around once in a

832
00:40:39,480 --> 00:40:42,120
Speaker 1: while or go on trips with y'all, then that ain't

833
00:40:42,120 --> 00:40:44,000
Speaker 1: from me. Like I don't want somebody like that. What's

834
00:40:44,000 --> 00:40:48,080
Speaker 1: the secretive ship y'all doing? That's one thing about dating

835
00:40:48,080 --> 00:40:51,560
Speaker 1: guys and always got a cruel niggers around them. Yeah,

836
00:40:52,160 --> 00:40:54,839
Speaker 1: but what if it's like a bad and he's going

837
00:40:54,920 --> 00:40:56,799
Speaker 1: with his book like a lot of guys in the thirties, Well,

838
00:40:56,800 --> 00:41:00,919
Speaker 1: the bachelor party look like some guys guys I grew

839
00:41:00,960 --> 00:41:04,799
Speaker 1: up with like that on my age are nightmares, the ucking,

840
00:41:04,880 --> 00:41:07,279
Speaker 1: fat and bold most of them. I'm gonna do either,

841
00:41:08,040 --> 00:41:09,680
Speaker 1: like I work out, I'll go to the Like I said,

842
00:41:09,719 --> 00:41:11,360
Speaker 1: I would like to take pride of myself, like I

843
00:41:11,360 --> 00:41:13,840
Speaker 1: want somebody that's on that level. But you if you

844
00:41:14,200 --> 00:41:17,680
Speaker 1: used to be you, like thirty five, like looking at

845
00:41:17,760 --> 00:41:20,279
Speaker 1: mess I don't want to be too superficial, and you

846
00:41:20,280 --> 00:41:22,680
Speaker 1: know there's people that like you know there's but I

847
00:41:23,040 --> 00:41:26,880
Speaker 1: think it doesn't take care of themselves. Is unattractive and

848
00:41:27,200 --> 00:41:30,000
Speaker 1: I feel like I feel like the guys who were

849
00:41:30,000 --> 00:41:32,560
Speaker 1: hot when I was a kid, they're just not hot.

850
00:41:32,760 --> 00:41:36,280
Speaker 1: There used to be for sure, like I'm dead serious,

851
00:41:36,320 --> 00:41:38,319
Speaker 1: like I'm like I took care of myself, and it's

852
00:41:38,360 --> 00:41:40,520
Speaker 1: harder for a woman, like, well, what's up with y'all?

853
00:41:40,719 --> 00:41:42,520
Speaker 1: But even a lot of game. As we know that

854
00:41:42,600 --> 00:41:45,520
Speaker 1: we grew up with all of the girls from high

855
00:41:45,520 --> 00:41:47,840
Speaker 1: school that was thick with it, it's fat with it.

856
00:41:48,200 --> 00:41:51,800
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna look around looking like them. Oh the

857
00:41:51,840 --> 00:41:53,600
Speaker 1: school with this girl, she was like the hottest scraper

858
00:41:54,400 --> 00:41:57,280
Speaker 1: she is. Oh man, she looks like a great auntie,

859
00:41:57,360 --> 00:42:00,960
Speaker 1: like she's terrible, now terrible. She a happy though, No

860
00:42:04,600 --> 00:42:08,400
Speaker 1: man kids around do drugs. That's why she looked like that.

861
00:42:08,000 --> 00:42:11,239
Speaker 1: That's what bitches that do drugs and ship looking like

862
00:42:11,239 --> 00:42:13,400
Speaker 1: they got a bad paper out. Now we now we

863
00:42:13,440 --> 00:42:15,560
Speaker 1: gotta come back to you now. Then you said the

864
00:42:15,640 --> 00:42:19,000
Speaker 1: third time, y'all got back together, Yeah, the third time.

865
00:42:19,040 --> 00:42:21,759
Speaker 1: Then we just got married. You got to Jersey, bought

866
00:42:21,800 --> 00:42:25,120
Speaker 1: the big house on the golf course. Um, that life

867
00:42:25,160 --> 00:42:27,040
Speaker 1: was good. We both were hustlers who both make a

868
00:42:27,120 --> 00:42:29,000
Speaker 1: lot of money. We lived the good life, went on

869
00:42:29,080 --> 00:42:32,279
Speaker 1: vacation three times a year. Our families were like one.

870
00:42:32,440 --> 00:42:35,560
Speaker 1: But um, a lot of stuff happened, and I just

871
00:42:35,680 --> 00:42:37,120
Speaker 1: I wasn't with it no more. And it took me

872
00:42:37,160 --> 00:42:39,520
Speaker 1: a long time to get out of it. Just abusive

873
00:42:39,680 --> 00:42:42,360
Speaker 1: like verbally, and then it would get physical because I

874
00:42:42,400 --> 00:42:44,880
Speaker 1: don't let nobody, like anybody calls me out, you getting

875
00:42:44,880 --> 00:42:46,640
Speaker 1: beat the funk up, Like that's just the way I am.

876
00:42:46,719 --> 00:42:48,680
Speaker 1: You got a rap for me, you want to break

877
00:42:48,760 --> 00:42:50,400
Speaker 1: me down verbally, and you keep doing it, you keep

878
00:42:50,480 --> 00:42:53,400
Speaker 1: doing it eventually. I'm a physical person and you know,

879
00:42:53,440 --> 00:42:55,959
Speaker 1: I'm not saying I'm proud of that, but I will,

880
00:42:56,200 --> 00:42:58,840
Speaker 1: you know, take it to you just for sure. And

881
00:42:58,880 --> 00:43:01,319
Speaker 1: people always ask, I don't you just leave and they

882
00:43:01,320 --> 00:43:03,799
Speaker 1: don't realize how heart it is sometimes when yeah, because

883
00:43:03,840 --> 00:43:05,719
Speaker 1: I loved him so much. But see I'm a sweetheart,

884
00:43:05,760 --> 00:43:08,399
Speaker 1: Like I've never started, no problems with nobody. People will

885
00:43:08,400 --> 00:43:09,880
Speaker 1: normally funk with me, like and then I got to

886
00:43:09,880 --> 00:43:12,040
Speaker 1: beat them the funk up. And that's just like, you know,

887
00:43:12,280 --> 00:43:13,840
Speaker 1: after a while, like him and I would have like

888
00:43:14,239 --> 00:43:15,759
Speaker 1: we would have a beautiful home and then by like

889
00:43:15,880 --> 00:43:17,960
Speaker 1: I don't know, like two weeks later, like the house

890
00:43:18,040 --> 00:43:21,760
Speaker 1: we destroyed were spackling sand, sanding like holes in the wall,

891
00:43:22,320 --> 00:43:25,160
Speaker 1: I don't know, throwing vases at each other. I was

892
00:43:25,200 --> 00:43:27,160
Speaker 1: just very hactic it was either like the highs and

893
00:43:27,160 --> 00:43:29,640
Speaker 1: the lowers were crazy. There was no middle and no

894
00:43:29,719 --> 00:43:32,680
Speaker 1: other worst relationships because it's hard. They're gonna go place

895
00:43:32,760 --> 00:43:35,040
Speaker 1: with somebody that like it, doesn't know how to turn

896
00:43:35,040 --> 00:43:38,160
Speaker 1: it off, very jealous like oh you're wearing that? Are

897
00:43:38,160 --> 00:43:41,800
Speaker 1: you crazy? Like cut my ship up? Like damn wanted

898
00:43:41,880 --> 00:43:46,120
Speaker 1: me like proper all the time. Yeah, was it difficult

899
00:43:46,120 --> 00:43:47,840
Speaker 1: for you to do? My wives then knowing that you

900
00:43:47,920 --> 00:43:50,480
Speaker 1: had like a lot of turmoil and everything because him

901
00:43:50,480 --> 00:43:52,279
Speaker 1: and I have been broken up. I've been divorced now

902
00:43:52,320 --> 00:43:54,719
Speaker 1: for seven years. We were seeing each other like three

903
00:43:54,760 --> 00:43:57,000
Speaker 1: years ago. We started seeing each other again, but I

904
00:43:57,040 --> 00:43:59,680
Speaker 1: cut that off and I actually I don't have anything

905
00:44:00,000 --> 00:44:02,600
Speaker 1: say about him because he got remarried. I'm happy he's

906
00:44:02,600 --> 00:44:04,320
Speaker 1: in a good place, and I wish I'm not with

907
00:44:04,360 --> 00:44:06,720
Speaker 1: the best. But um, there wasn't nobody could really control

908
00:44:06,840 --> 00:44:09,560
Speaker 1: me and make me feel like there's anything hard or

909
00:44:09,560 --> 00:44:11,439
Speaker 1: difficult for me to do, because I'm the type person

910
00:44:11,520 --> 00:44:13,840
Speaker 1: that like, if my mind, like I want to do something,

911
00:44:14,200 --> 00:44:16,319
Speaker 1: my mind's made up, You're gonna give your opinion, but

912
00:44:16,360 --> 00:44:17,839
Speaker 1: I'm still going to do what I want to do.

913
00:44:18,120 --> 00:44:19,920
Speaker 1: So no, it wasn't hard for me, you feel like

914
00:44:19,960 --> 00:44:22,759
Speaker 1: you were addicted to him, Yeah, I actually was. I

915
00:44:22,760 --> 00:44:25,319
Speaker 1: actually experienced that though on another level with somebody else,

916
00:44:25,480 --> 00:44:27,439
Speaker 1: a boyfriend that I was with for five years, where

917
00:44:27,440 --> 00:44:29,920
Speaker 1: we were so addicted. The sex was crazy and it

918
00:44:30,000 --> 00:44:33,120
Speaker 1: was just like he's like I really like I couldn't

919
00:44:33,239 --> 00:44:35,239
Speaker 1: no matter what he did, Like it was crazy. Had

920
00:44:35,360 --> 00:44:37,480
Speaker 1: he was like this way about him, And I think

921
00:44:37,520 --> 00:44:40,160
Speaker 1: that everybody gets got once in one relationship, and he

922
00:44:40,200 --> 00:44:41,920
Speaker 1: really did get the best of me, this dude. Like

923
00:44:41,960 --> 00:44:44,000
Speaker 1: it was crazy. And eventually I came out of it.

924
00:44:44,360 --> 00:44:46,640
Speaker 1: The smoke cleared, and I was done with them. But

925
00:44:46,880 --> 00:44:49,879
Speaker 1: I know what it feels like to definitely feel like

926
00:44:50,120 --> 00:44:53,279
Speaker 1: somebody's addicted or addictive, because sometimes it's hard because you

927
00:44:53,280 --> 00:44:55,600
Speaker 1: also don't want that person to be with anybody else. Well,

928
00:44:55,640 --> 00:44:57,160
Speaker 1: sometimes when you grow up with somebody though it's been

929
00:44:57,160 --> 00:45:00,239
Speaker 1: a twelve year relationship, it's all you know, Like you know,

930
00:45:00,280 --> 00:45:01,960
Speaker 1: he was like we went through so many things together,

931
00:45:02,000 --> 00:45:04,160
Speaker 1: Like he was like I was a kid when I

932
00:45:04,200 --> 00:45:06,680
Speaker 1: started seeing him and we were friends for five years,

933
00:45:06,680 --> 00:45:08,680
Speaker 1: and he would be like listen, he opened my first

934
00:45:08,719 --> 00:45:11,120
Speaker 1: bank account, like you know, this is gonna stack money,

935
00:45:11,120 --> 00:45:14,280
Speaker 1: and he showed me so many things that like opened

936
00:45:14,280 --> 00:45:16,560
Speaker 1: me up to the streets, but also we're beneficial to

937
00:45:16,640 --> 00:45:20,480
Speaker 1: me and like just being like work ethics and just

938
00:45:20,560 --> 00:45:22,760
Speaker 1: certain things. And but he always was like a protector

939
00:45:22,800 --> 00:45:24,960
Speaker 1: of me. So no matter what, he was the only

940
00:45:24,960 --> 00:45:26,960
Speaker 1: one that can hurt me. Nobody else could. So I

941
00:45:27,000 --> 00:45:29,200
Speaker 1: know that sounds, you know, because sometimes you know your

942
00:45:29,239 --> 00:45:31,680
Speaker 1: relationship is bad if and I think there's a few

943
00:45:31,719 --> 00:45:33,960
Speaker 1: things that are like clues, like if none of your

944
00:45:34,000 --> 00:45:36,600
Speaker 1: friends like that person, right, did your friends like him?

945
00:45:37,360 --> 00:45:40,480
Speaker 1: They love them? Because I mean, he was one of us.

946
00:45:40,560 --> 00:45:42,480
Speaker 1: We just killed each other. But did they feel like

947
00:45:42,520 --> 00:45:45,000
Speaker 1: this is not healthy? Because sometimes for sure. But the

948
00:45:45,040 --> 00:45:46,920
Speaker 1: boyfriend that I was with for five years, he was

949
00:45:46,960 --> 00:45:48,840
Speaker 1: locked up and I held it down for him for

950
00:45:48,880 --> 00:45:50,600
Speaker 1: a year and a half. He was a scumbag, and

951
00:45:50,640 --> 00:45:53,200
Speaker 1: my friends saw me right from the rep red flags,

952
00:45:53,239 --> 00:45:55,840
Speaker 1: red flags run. He's no good And I should have listened.

953
00:45:55,920 --> 00:45:58,560
Speaker 1: But I'm the type of person that now I listened,

954
00:45:58,960 --> 00:46:02,000
Speaker 1: but um, you know, I had to be drunk to

955
00:46:02,080 --> 00:46:04,400
Speaker 1: the mud. And you know, sometimes it makes it worse too,

956
00:46:04,440 --> 00:46:06,400
Speaker 1: when your friends don't like somebody and they keep telling you,

957
00:46:06,400 --> 00:46:08,160
Speaker 1: because it makes you not want to tell them stuff,

958
00:46:08,320 --> 00:46:09,960
Speaker 1: and it makes you want to prove them wrong. I

959
00:46:09,960 --> 00:46:11,560
Speaker 1: don't think you shoul tell your friends everything anyway. I

960
00:46:11,600 --> 00:46:13,320
Speaker 1: think you should have your own secrets because at the

961
00:46:13,400 --> 00:46:14,640
Speaker 1: end of the day, when you make up with them,

962
00:46:14,680 --> 00:46:16,759
Speaker 1: you make up with your move, they're gonna remember and

963
00:46:16,760 --> 00:46:20,360
Speaker 1: you're gonna forget. What then are you doing, like he

964
00:46:20,440 --> 00:46:22,160
Speaker 1: just beat your ass or he didn't cheat on you,

965
00:46:22,200 --> 00:46:23,520
Speaker 1: and you like, you know what I'm saying, look a

966
00:46:23,520 --> 00:46:25,640
Speaker 1: weak link, but they don't know what you got. So

967
00:46:26,040 --> 00:46:27,960
Speaker 1: it's I just think that you should tell your friends

968
00:46:28,000 --> 00:46:29,640
Speaker 1: will be a quarter or what goes on, because I

969
00:46:29,680 --> 00:46:31,400
Speaker 1: do think that you should have your own secrets, and

970
00:46:31,600 --> 00:46:35,160
Speaker 1: privacy is important to someone, but it's also important to

971
00:46:35,320 --> 00:46:37,320
Speaker 1: have somebody to talk to when you're going through something.

972
00:46:37,360 --> 00:46:39,719
Speaker 1: If you have one friend or a family man no

973
00:46:39,800 --> 00:46:41,719
Speaker 1: longer a secret though. When you open your mouth and

974
00:46:41,760 --> 00:46:45,399
Speaker 1: you just you you disclose information. At that moment, it's

975
00:46:45,440 --> 00:46:48,840
Speaker 1: no longer personal. It's not even though you said please

976
00:46:49,120 --> 00:46:51,759
Speaker 1: stuff whatever you do, don't tell you know nobody. I'm

977
00:46:51,800 --> 00:46:56,640
Speaker 1: confiding right, there's that slim possibility. Girls could be out

978
00:46:56,960 --> 00:47:00,239
Speaker 1: over some drinks be like, damn, you know, gotta do

979
00:47:00,239 --> 00:47:02,319
Speaker 1: an different mesure with this bit. She's tripping you know,

980
00:47:02,719 --> 00:47:05,400
Speaker 1: like the dick is that good? Like you know, cause

981
00:47:05,440 --> 00:47:07,000
Speaker 1: it has to be hard to not have anybody that

982
00:47:07,040 --> 00:47:08,239
Speaker 1: you can talk to you when you go and through

983
00:47:08,239 --> 00:47:10,640
Speaker 1: some ship though too that you're gonna do it. It's terrible.

984
00:47:10,760 --> 00:47:12,879
Speaker 1: Like I'm the friend that all my friends they tell

985
00:47:12,920 --> 00:47:15,360
Speaker 1: me all their business and I don't be telling them nothing,

986
00:47:16,200 --> 00:47:18,640
Speaker 1: Like I just keep just the only obvious things. I

987
00:47:18,680 --> 00:47:21,640
Speaker 1: only tell my friends with my obvious problems and my relationship,

988
00:47:22,040 --> 00:47:25,560
Speaker 1: like the things that I just can't but like personal things,

989
00:47:25,680 --> 00:47:28,600
Speaker 1: I just feel like you shouldn't tell everything to anyone,

990
00:47:28,880 --> 00:47:33,480
Speaker 1: right because it's true. Some things you just can't take back. Man,

991
00:47:34,880 --> 00:47:37,680
Speaker 1: I feel like I lost. I grew up with ten girls,

992
00:47:37,920 --> 00:47:40,320
Speaker 1: and um, I've been friends with them for years, the

993
00:47:40,360 --> 00:47:43,200
Speaker 1: same girls. Um, I'm only friends of like five of

994
00:47:43,239 --> 00:47:46,960
Speaker 1: them now because of learning that you can't confide I had.

995
00:47:47,560 --> 00:47:49,680
Speaker 1: I had one of my girlfriends. She actually broke my

996
00:47:49,680 --> 00:47:51,360
Speaker 1: heart because I love my friends and she was like

997
00:47:51,440 --> 00:47:53,360
Speaker 1: we just don't. She's like, not listen, I love you

998
00:47:53,400 --> 00:47:55,120
Speaker 1: to death. But like I'm married and I have kids.

999
00:47:55,200 --> 00:47:56,960
Speaker 1: We're living two different lives and I was like, oh,

1000
00:47:57,080 --> 00:47:59,120
Speaker 1: are you breaking out with me? Like like you you

1001
00:47:59,280 --> 00:48:01,840
Speaker 1: that like telling like we can't be friends because you

1002
00:48:01,880 --> 00:48:03,920
Speaker 1: know the life that you live and maybe maybe like

1003
00:48:03,960 --> 00:48:05,680
Speaker 1: maybe I'm abandoned, Bunce, is that what you're trying to

1004
00:48:05,719 --> 00:48:07,680
Speaker 1: say or you know? And it kind of like sucked

1005
00:48:07,680 --> 00:48:09,600
Speaker 1: me up. And then after she kind of spoke her peace,

1006
00:48:09,960 --> 00:48:11,520
Speaker 1: I never felt the same way and I just stop

1007
00:48:11,640 --> 00:48:13,120
Speaker 1: sucking whatever because I felt like she was a eight

1008
00:48:13,200 --> 00:48:15,399
Speaker 1: or on the low. For me, I could never say

1009
00:48:15,440 --> 00:48:17,920
Speaker 1: something no matter if you, no matter the highs the

1010
00:48:18,000 --> 00:48:20,280
Speaker 1: lows you at the bottom, I'm gonna love you regardless

1011
00:48:20,560 --> 00:48:23,239
Speaker 1: to be your friend. For you, it just made me

1012
00:48:23,320 --> 00:48:25,520
Speaker 1: feel like we're no longer on an eye level. The

1013
00:48:25,600 --> 00:48:27,919
Speaker 1: things I told her, her and a few other people,

1014
00:48:27,920 --> 00:48:31,480
Speaker 1: they used against me because I was forgiving. But come

1015
00:48:31,480 --> 00:48:34,319
Speaker 1: to find out after a period of time, who got

1016
00:48:34,320 --> 00:48:37,160
Speaker 1: divorced then ship went out for this one. I would

1017
00:48:37,160 --> 00:48:39,759
Speaker 1: always be there for them regardless. But they're the same

1018
00:48:39,800 --> 00:48:41,840
Speaker 1: motherfucker's that judge me and look at the ship you

1019
00:48:41,880 --> 00:48:44,080
Speaker 1: went through, Like that's why you always say be careful

1020
00:48:44,080 --> 00:48:45,880
Speaker 1: about the things. I'm not saying you should be held

1021
00:48:45,880 --> 00:48:48,520
Speaker 1: accountable for everything you say. But the people that tend

1022
00:48:48,520 --> 00:48:50,120
Speaker 1: to judge the most and talk are the ones that

1023
00:48:50,200 --> 00:48:53,799
Speaker 1: always doing ship extra the same ones that to tell you,

1024
00:48:53,840 --> 00:48:57,520
Speaker 1: oh yeah man nay ship da dada da, right, or

1025
00:48:57,640 --> 00:48:59,480
Speaker 1: they haven't been faced with the situation is that you

1026
00:48:59,520 --> 00:49:01,440
Speaker 1: were you we're faced with at the time, and then

1027
00:49:01,440 --> 00:49:03,520
Speaker 1: when they go through it, it's like they go through

1028
00:49:03,600 --> 00:49:06,319
Speaker 1: maybe times maybe like ten times worse and go and

1029
00:49:06,320 --> 00:49:08,640
Speaker 1: do some dumb ship and you're like, damn, where the

1030
00:49:08,680 --> 00:49:10,440
Speaker 1: bitch that was gonna be? This whole fucking like, you know,

1031
00:49:10,760 --> 00:49:12,680
Speaker 1: this whole speel about how what I was doing wasn't

1032
00:49:12,680 --> 00:49:17,600
Speaker 1: the right, Like I just don't judge nobody. I made,

1033
00:49:17,640 --> 00:49:19,600
Speaker 1: not a judgmental person. And for me, it was just

1034
00:49:19,680 --> 00:49:22,880
Speaker 1: like now I have my file five solid friends, it's

1035
00:49:22,920 --> 00:49:24,960
Speaker 1: all I need. And I learned less is more with

1036
00:49:25,040 --> 00:49:28,600
Speaker 1: bitches I did and that's right. No, And I just

1037
00:49:28,640 --> 00:49:31,360
Speaker 1: feel like you should only tell when you're in a relationship.

1038
00:49:31,360 --> 00:49:32,839
Speaker 1: You should just tell the things that you don't care

1039
00:49:32,840 --> 00:49:35,640
Speaker 1: about everybody knowing, even if you don't, even if you're

1040
00:49:35,680 --> 00:49:38,440
Speaker 1: not telling everybody, but just in case you know what happens.

1041
00:49:38,520 --> 00:49:41,480
Speaker 1: Women are emotional. We're very emotional people, not all of us,

1042
00:49:41,480 --> 00:49:43,640
Speaker 1: but some of us. And we get heated and we

1043
00:49:43,680 --> 00:49:47,080
Speaker 1: get upset and in the moment lose track of what

1044
00:49:47,280 --> 00:49:51,040
Speaker 1: Higgs precedents, and then that gets used against us down

1045
00:49:51,080 --> 00:49:53,160
Speaker 1: the road, and it's just all around is hurtful. But

1046
00:49:53,400 --> 00:49:54,880
Speaker 1: you know, most of the time you've been in is

1047
00:49:54,880 --> 00:49:57,560
Speaker 1: when you're looking upset or like you need a shoulder

1048
00:49:57,560 --> 00:49:59,080
Speaker 1: to cry on, and then when somebody goes and use

1049
00:49:59,160 --> 00:50:01,600
Speaker 1: that against you, like you know, they don't say anything

1050
00:50:01,680 --> 00:50:03,440
Speaker 1: or they're like, oh, you're gonna take them back again

1051
00:50:03,520 --> 00:50:05,400
Speaker 1: or whatever. I just feel like a friend should be

1052
00:50:05,440 --> 00:50:08,520
Speaker 1: there regardless, even they don't prove of it. Yeah, I

1053
00:50:08,520 --> 00:50:10,240
Speaker 1: think I feel like a lot of my friends confided

1054
00:50:10,280 --> 00:50:12,840
Speaker 1: me all the time, though, Yeah, because I'm not a

1055
00:50:12,920 --> 00:50:15,480
Speaker 1: very judgmental person. The only time I really had to

1056
00:50:15,560 --> 00:50:18,160
Speaker 1: make my friend break up with somebody was he did

1057
00:50:18,200 --> 00:50:20,239
Speaker 1: something really crazy. I actually had to take her to

1058
00:50:20,320 --> 00:50:22,120
Speaker 1: the police station and make her get a restraining order

1059
00:50:22,160 --> 00:50:26,080
Speaker 1: because they had kids together and he was abusive. She

1060
00:50:26,120 --> 00:50:27,840
Speaker 1: wasn't gonna leave him alone, so it was her Like,

1061
00:50:28,040 --> 00:50:29,600
Speaker 1: I don't ever want to tell her what to do

1062
00:50:29,680 --> 00:50:31,680
Speaker 1: because I don't want her to not tell me stuff.

1063
00:50:31,880 --> 00:50:34,040
Speaker 1: So I never want to be like, Okay, you know,

1064
00:50:34,160 --> 00:50:35,880
Speaker 1: you stupid you doing this, you're doing that, because I

1065
00:50:35,880 --> 00:50:37,359
Speaker 1: don't want you to feel like Damn. I can't even

1066
00:50:37,360 --> 00:50:40,120
Speaker 1: tell Angela because I don't want her to judge my situation.

1067
00:50:40,160 --> 00:50:42,560
Speaker 1: But he sent naked pictures of her to her boss,

1068
00:50:43,400 --> 00:50:48,200
Speaker 1: to her, her parents, her brother. That's terrible. Actually had

1069
00:50:48,239 --> 00:50:51,200
Speaker 1: an ex boyfriend and threatened me and uh, he sent

1070
00:50:51,440 --> 00:50:54,640
Speaker 1: a naked picture of me out to everybody in his phone. WHOA, Yeah,

1071
00:50:54,680 --> 00:50:57,280
Speaker 1: I got around little hole softly. It was on the internet.

1072
00:50:57,320 --> 00:50:59,279
Speaker 1: I didn't have a lawyer, paid for a lawyer to

1073
00:50:59,320 --> 00:51:01,880
Speaker 1: take it down, but I look good as fucking picture

1074
00:51:02,040 --> 00:51:06,800
Speaker 1: because I didn't. But that's it was upsetting in the beginning.

1075
00:51:07,120 --> 00:51:10,480
Speaker 1: But everybody like real, recognized real, and that's a scumbag

1076
00:51:10,560 --> 00:51:13,080
Speaker 1: fucking move. So everybody was like, damn, dude, even with

1077
00:51:13,120 --> 00:51:14,560
Speaker 1: this girl, she was good to you, you had a

1078
00:51:14,560 --> 00:51:15,960
Speaker 1: fallen out with her, and this is like a ship.

1079
00:51:16,440 --> 00:51:19,120
Speaker 1: It made him look crazy because yeah, he looks crazy

1080
00:51:19,120 --> 00:51:22,040
Speaker 1: because who does that number one? Of course, we expect

1081
00:51:22,120 --> 00:51:24,560
Speaker 1: your man to have naked pictures of you, right, I mean,

1082
00:51:24,600 --> 00:51:27,000
Speaker 1: that's nothing crazy about that. And it wasn't like I

1083
00:51:27,000 --> 00:51:28,400
Speaker 1: had no ship hanging out at me like a dildo

1084
00:51:28,480 --> 00:51:30,520
Speaker 1: or not. Like it was like I like, not the lord,

1085
00:51:31,880 --> 00:51:35,480
Speaker 1: but definitely some of those exists challenging. It was another

1086
00:51:35,560 --> 00:51:37,080
Speaker 1: hurdle I have to get over in life. And I

1087
00:51:37,120 --> 00:51:39,400
Speaker 1: got through it, so, you know, and I told you,

1088
00:51:39,480 --> 00:51:42,239
Speaker 1: I said, listen, y'all have kids together. He's threatening you,

1089
00:51:42,320 --> 00:51:44,400
Speaker 1: he's doing this. He sent it to your boss. I

1090
00:51:44,400 --> 00:51:46,719
Speaker 1: didn't get to that level though somebody like you, like

1091
00:51:46,760 --> 00:51:48,960
Speaker 1: a friend, I did to get involved for sure. I

1092
00:51:49,040 --> 00:51:50,440
Speaker 1: was like, I'm coming with you and I'm taking you.

1093
00:51:50,480 --> 00:51:52,640
Speaker 1: And she was so stressed out. She her nails were

1094
00:51:52,680 --> 00:51:55,560
Speaker 1: all messed up. She was peeling back her nails because

1095
00:51:55,560 --> 00:51:57,480
Speaker 1: she was so stressed out. But sometimes you do got

1096
00:51:57,480 --> 00:52:00,480
Speaker 1: to step in, you know, for your friends and loving

1097
00:52:00,560 --> 00:52:04,040
Speaker 1: way as as possible. And it's not good to be

1098
00:52:04,080 --> 00:52:07,399
Speaker 1: a hater or to be judgmental if you call yourself

1099
00:52:07,440 --> 00:52:10,760
Speaker 1: a friend. I hate being that single friend that tells

1100
00:52:10,760 --> 00:52:13,120
Speaker 1: a girl tell us her girlfriends, like, girl, you need

1101
00:52:13,200 --> 00:52:16,200
Speaker 1: to leave the right people would leave somebody when they're

1102
00:52:16,239 --> 00:52:19,040
Speaker 1: ready to do it right right, Yeah, you'll be ready

1103
00:52:19,160 --> 00:52:21,640
Speaker 1: when you're ready. Because sometimes I think as women, we

1104
00:52:21,680 --> 00:52:23,239
Speaker 1: know we want to leave somebody and we're gonna do

1105
00:52:23,280 --> 00:52:26,279
Speaker 1: it eventually, but it takes some time to get to them.

1106
00:52:26,280 --> 00:52:28,320
Speaker 1: But let me go through some more ship and eventually

1107
00:52:28,360 --> 00:52:30,759
Speaker 1: I'll get tired of it, right, My girl's always been

1108
00:52:30,880 --> 00:52:34,000
Speaker 1: into me. And I always start with a disclaimer, like,

1109
00:52:34,200 --> 00:52:37,680
Speaker 1: you know I'm single, so you know my advice might

1110
00:52:37,719 --> 00:52:40,560
Speaker 1: not be the best one, you know what I mean, Like,

1111
00:52:41,440 --> 00:52:43,480
Speaker 1: don't you don't want to be living lonely like me?

1112
00:52:43,560 --> 00:52:45,160
Speaker 1: And they'll be like, well, your life is great, and

1113
00:52:45,160 --> 00:52:49,239
Speaker 1: I'd be like, I'm just saying I'm single, but nothing

1114
00:52:49,320 --> 00:52:51,560
Speaker 1: like new dick to get over that old dick sometimes too,

1115
00:52:51,719 --> 00:52:56,480
Speaker 1: you know, Oh I agree, Please remember I'll stressed out.

1116
00:52:56,520 --> 00:52:59,080
Speaker 1: I was in my last relationship when I'm one of

1117
00:52:59,120 --> 00:53:01,520
Speaker 1: my last relationship gold ronning to have sex for six

1118
00:53:01,560 --> 00:53:04,239
Speaker 1: weeks and then when you do. Once I did, I

1119
00:53:04,280 --> 00:53:08,520
Speaker 1: was like, what relationship? I got somebody to text and

1120
00:53:08,600 --> 00:53:12,319
Speaker 1: talk to and go out with. But when you try

1121
00:53:12,320 --> 00:53:13,840
Speaker 1: to get over that old dick a new dick and

1122
00:53:14,120 --> 00:53:19,439
Speaker 1: it was a waste of time too, the time, that's

1123
00:53:19,480 --> 00:53:21,319
Speaker 1: the funk that you wish you could take back and

1124
00:53:21,520 --> 00:53:24,040
Speaker 1: make you miss your I wish, yeah, there's nothing worse.

1125
00:53:24,160 --> 00:53:27,480
Speaker 1: And then um, then having like the new dick be bad.

1126
00:53:27,960 --> 00:53:30,319
Speaker 1: The new sex is just bad and it makes you

1127
00:53:30,360 --> 00:53:33,120
Speaker 1: think about your acts. How great he wasn't bad? But

1128
00:53:33,200 --> 00:53:37,759
Speaker 1: I didn't go through that, yeah, for your Unfortunately that

1129
00:53:37,840 --> 00:53:42,200
Speaker 1: never happened to me. Happened. Is there anything a guy

1130
00:53:42,280 --> 00:53:43,520
Speaker 1: ever asked you to do when you had to tell

1131
00:53:43,560 --> 00:53:47,239
Speaker 1: them now not doing that? Like in bed? Yeah? Actually, um,

1132
00:53:47,280 --> 00:53:50,600
Speaker 1: someone I was with was really pressuring me to have

1133
00:53:50,640 --> 00:53:52,200
Speaker 1: a three song with a guy, and I was like,

1134
00:53:52,239 --> 00:53:55,480
Speaker 1: are you but that guy? Yeah? It got weird. It

1135
00:53:55,560 --> 00:53:57,239
Speaker 1: was no, it was I swear to God, I can't

1136
00:53:57,280 --> 00:53:59,320
Speaker 1: and make it up. I'm dead serious. Like a whole

1137
00:54:00,080 --> 00:54:02,800
Speaker 1: bunch of ship came along with it, like my mother

1138
00:54:02,880 --> 00:54:05,600
Speaker 1: and my sister family on Craigslist with like my head

1139
00:54:05,640 --> 00:54:07,520
Speaker 1: chopped off, and like the Lingrey outfit that I was

1140
00:54:07,560 --> 00:54:10,600
Speaker 1: in a magazine and he was promoting me like, you know,

1141
00:54:10,760 --> 00:54:12,839
Speaker 1: my bitch is exotic, she wants a bit a guy

1142
00:54:12,840 --> 00:54:15,320
Speaker 1: that matches her to our care gave a whole fucking

1143
00:54:15,360 --> 00:54:18,040
Speaker 1: ad okay, and was like when I found it, my

1144
00:54:18,080 --> 00:54:19,719
Speaker 1: mom was like, you noted this. It's him right when

1145
00:54:19,760 --> 00:54:21,160
Speaker 1: you get on the phone with him, And all of

1146
00:54:21,200 --> 00:54:24,359
Speaker 1: a sudden the ad disappears, And sure enough, soon as

1147
00:54:24,360 --> 00:54:25,800
Speaker 1: I got on the phone with him, that ship was

1148
00:54:25,840 --> 00:54:28,359
Speaker 1: taken off of Craigslist and I knew it was him.

1149
00:54:28,440 --> 00:54:30,480
Speaker 1: I was devastated. I was like, are you kidding me?

1150
00:54:30,680 --> 00:54:34,400
Speaker 1: Because it was quite identical and coincidental to what he

1151
00:54:34,440 --> 00:54:36,920
Speaker 1: was saying to me when he was in the ad anyway,

1152
00:54:37,400 --> 00:54:39,160
Speaker 1: and I was like, yo, you know how you want

1153
00:54:39,160 --> 00:54:40,960
Speaker 1: to have a fucking three someone to do because you

1154
00:54:41,000 --> 00:54:42,799
Speaker 1: want to run to the back and suck this dude

1155
00:54:42,880 --> 00:54:45,919
Speaker 1: or maybe getting dick sucked from and you gay And

1156
00:54:46,160 --> 00:54:48,520
Speaker 1: it definitely I feel because I would be riding him

1157
00:54:48,520 --> 00:54:53,799
Speaker 1: and he'd be like He'd be like, he would be like,

1158
00:54:54,120 --> 00:54:55,839
Speaker 1: show me how you would show me how you would

1159
00:54:55,880 --> 00:54:57,680
Speaker 1: ride another dick, Show me how you would suck another dick,

1160
00:54:57,680 --> 00:54:59,600
Speaker 1: and he would do the gesture why would be on

1161
00:54:59,640 --> 00:55:02,719
Speaker 1: top of he would be like yeah, he would like

1162
00:55:02,719 --> 00:55:04,400
Speaker 1: show me, and I would be like this, this is

1163
00:55:04,440 --> 00:55:06,560
Speaker 1: the this is a dude that like it was so

1164
00:55:06,680 --> 00:55:09,400
Speaker 1: manly and like his sex was like the best. It

1165
00:55:09,480 --> 00:55:12,280
Speaker 1: was so great, and I was like I just couldn't

1166
00:55:12,320 --> 00:55:14,000
Speaker 1: believe it. Like I think I think I was like

1167
00:55:14,040 --> 00:55:17,319
Speaker 1: super I think for people around when I get around people,

1168
00:55:17,320 --> 00:55:19,560
Speaker 1: they could be themselves. And I just felt like he

1169
00:55:19,600 --> 00:55:25,240
Speaker 1: got so comfortable that something extra came out of it together.

1170
00:55:25,320 --> 00:55:27,560
Speaker 1: And I was like, I was like, this is a joke,

1171
00:55:27,600 --> 00:55:29,760
Speaker 1: because like that's not a three song, that's a train.

1172
00:55:29,920 --> 00:55:31,239
Speaker 1: I was like, you want to get it, you want

1173
00:55:31,239 --> 00:55:33,560
Speaker 1: to ride a train like you want to? I was like, I,

1174
00:55:33,600 --> 00:55:35,000
Speaker 1: first of all, I could barely take one dick. I

1175
00:55:35,000 --> 00:55:36,600
Speaker 1: was like, you wanted me to take two dicks? Like

1176
00:55:36,680 --> 00:55:38,640
Speaker 1: that's just it was he wanted to take a dick

1177
00:55:40,040 --> 00:55:43,560
Speaker 1: like eat his asshole or nothing like that, or he's

1178
00:55:43,600 --> 00:55:45,759
Speaker 1: never asked me, but I think he would be about it,

1179
00:55:45,800 --> 00:55:48,880
Speaker 1: like you know, I mean, it was never surprising. It

1180
00:55:48,960 --> 00:55:51,239
Speaker 1: was so surprising because it was just like we were

1181
00:55:51,280 --> 00:55:53,680
Speaker 1: really sexual. We had said a lot of sex, so

1182
00:55:53,719 --> 00:55:56,560
Speaker 1: I just think that it was like another notch something else.

1183
00:55:56,600 --> 00:55:58,640
Speaker 1: And when I was like, I would like sex was

1184
00:55:58,680 --> 00:56:00,840
Speaker 1: a gateway drug? Are you in? Like are you you

1185
00:56:00,920 --> 00:56:04,960
Speaker 1: need fucking help? You know? Um? Needless to say, we

1186
00:56:05,040 --> 00:56:11,640
Speaker 1: kind of broke up over that, But you think three

1187
00:56:12,040 --> 00:56:14,200
Speaker 1: women though, you'd have been okay with that. Um, I

1188
00:56:14,200 --> 00:56:15,600
Speaker 1: don't know. I've been there and done that. I've had

1189
00:56:15,640 --> 00:56:17,239
Speaker 1: a three one a girl before. I was all right.

1190
00:56:17,320 --> 00:56:21,000
Speaker 1: I mean, you know, I just wouldn't let my man

1191
00:56:21,239 --> 00:56:24,200
Speaker 1: put his penis another girl, Like you know, she couldn't

1192
00:56:24,200 --> 00:56:25,799
Speaker 1: hook him up and he could do the same. But

1193
00:56:25,840 --> 00:56:28,000
Speaker 1: I just feel like, you know, and there has to

1194
00:56:28,080 --> 00:56:30,000
Speaker 1: be rules that they gotta be mine and I laid

1195
00:56:30,000 --> 00:56:32,440
Speaker 1: down there that is definitely the rules to a three simple.

1196
00:56:32,520 --> 00:56:33,680
Speaker 1: Other guys out there, if you want to have have a

1197
00:56:33,719 --> 00:56:35,560
Speaker 1: three sing with your women, she has to make all

1198
00:56:35,600 --> 00:56:38,640
Speaker 1: the rules. So whatever she's not comfortable with you cannot do.

1199
00:56:38,760 --> 00:56:41,239
Speaker 1: She has to pick the woman. Also, that's one of

1200
00:56:41,280 --> 00:56:42,759
Speaker 1: the rules you have to tick. I mean, if I'm

1201
00:56:42,760 --> 00:56:44,160
Speaker 1: gonna go with a girl, she has to be bad

1202
00:56:44,239 --> 00:56:47,040
Speaker 1: like exotic, you know. But for the most part, I'm

1203
00:56:47,040 --> 00:56:49,640
Speaker 1: not really into that. It's just something that happened. I

1204
00:56:49,640 --> 00:56:52,279
Speaker 1: wouldn't be like, oh, for my next relationship, threesomes are sucking.

1205
00:56:52,880 --> 00:56:55,360
Speaker 1: It has to be threesomes all in the relationship. Otherwise,

1206
00:56:55,440 --> 00:56:57,800
Speaker 1: you know, it has to be relationship material. Like you know,

1207
00:56:57,800 --> 00:57:00,360
Speaker 1: I'm saying three some material now that wouldn't be Now,

1208
00:57:00,440 --> 00:57:03,040
Speaker 1: have you ever dated somebody who said racist things? Oh

1209
00:57:03,080 --> 00:57:06,799
Speaker 1: for sure, he's like absolutely, I have a lot of

1210
00:57:06,800 --> 00:57:08,759
Speaker 1: black friends, a lot of Spanish friends, and if I

1211
00:57:08,760 --> 00:57:11,480
Speaker 1: have a few times dating Italian guys that absolutely have

1212
00:57:11,520 --> 00:57:13,879
Speaker 1: a problem with that, absolutely, And would you check them

1213
00:57:13,880 --> 00:57:17,080
Speaker 1: on it or oh battle yes, like a check like

1214
00:57:17,160 --> 00:57:20,440
Speaker 1: it would be like oh my god, yeah, like we

1215
00:57:20,480 --> 00:57:22,680
Speaker 1: would go heavy at it because my best friend is

1216
00:57:23,080 --> 00:57:26,760
Speaker 1: she's black in Italian. My godchildren are mixed and I

1217
00:57:26,800 --> 00:57:30,560
Speaker 1: don't see color. And growing up I was me. I

1218
00:57:30,640 --> 00:57:34,040
Speaker 1: was like the Italian girls who black girlfriends. So for me,

1219
00:57:34,120 --> 00:57:37,360
Speaker 1: I always watched them go through terrible things growing up,

1220
00:57:37,440 --> 00:57:39,480
Speaker 1: like have to sit on the stet, not be allowed

1221
00:57:39,480 --> 00:57:42,400
Speaker 1: in people's houses, watch them cry, me cry we were

1222
00:57:42,400 --> 00:57:45,400
Speaker 1: little girls, like how could you do that? Predominantly the

1223
00:57:45,440 --> 00:57:48,800
Speaker 1: fathers would always give them problems. So for me, it's

1224
00:57:48,840 --> 00:57:50,760
Speaker 1: a race is a horrible thing when I to go

1225
00:57:50,840 --> 00:57:53,360
Speaker 1: through that or be called like certain names like why

1226
00:57:53,400 --> 00:57:55,400
Speaker 1: you want to hang out with you know what I mean? Like, yeah,

1227
00:57:55,440 --> 00:57:57,920
Speaker 1: it would be absolutely I would not tolerate that. Ship

1228
00:57:58,200 --> 00:58:00,439
Speaker 1: to the day, I don't tolerate that ship. Was dating

1229
00:58:00,480 --> 00:58:02,840
Speaker 1: an Italian guy and he used to meet like um

1230
00:58:02,840 --> 00:58:06,280
Speaker 1: black cyber marks and I had to like, you know,

1231
00:58:06,360 --> 00:58:09,680
Speaker 1: give him the whole conversation and teach him like you know,

1232
00:58:10,280 --> 00:58:13,520
Speaker 1: you're Italian, I'm a Puerto Rican. You know there's a

1233
00:58:13,560 --> 00:58:17,280
Speaker 1: lot I'm black, so like get it together. I'm I'm

1234
00:58:17,280 --> 00:58:20,240
Speaker 1: part of African, I'm part of Spanish, um part to

1235
00:58:20,400 --> 00:58:23,120
Speaker 1: you know, Indian, Like you can't make these comments just

1236
00:58:23,160 --> 00:58:25,760
Speaker 1: because my skin is olive, you know, just because of

1237
00:58:25,800 --> 00:58:28,280
Speaker 1: my skin is light. You know, you're talking about my

1238
00:58:28,320 --> 00:58:31,520
Speaker 1: own people in my face. So I had to like

1239
00:58:31,640 --> 00:58:35,280
Speaker 1: drop the whole conscious lecture on him, like teach him

1240
00:58:35,280 --> 00:58:38,120
Speaker 1: about himself, teach him about me. This girl Linda did

1241
00:58:38,240 --> 00:58:40,440
Speaker 1: this polish guy. She was black and he was Polish,

1242
00:58:40,640 --> 00:58:42,560
Speaker 1: and he would make her pretend to be a slave

1243
00:58:43,080 --> 00:58:47,960
Speaker 1: in the bedroom. But she did it. Hell fucking crazy.

1244
00:58:48,560 --> 00:58:50,720
Speaker 1: And I have another friend who dated a white guy

1245
00:58:50,760 --> 00:58:54,480
Speaker 1: and she told me that the same thing. That's so

1246
00:58:54,560 --> 00:58:59,240
Speaker 1: belittle whatever. I don't even know have happy women in

1247
00:58:59,280 --> 00:59:01,720
Speaker 1: this world. That ship. I would kick him in his face.

1248
00:59:02,720 --> 00:59:07,040
Speaker 1: He died that Natalie, are you enjoying being single now? Yeah,

1249
00:59:07,120 --> 00:59:09,320
Speaker 1: it's the first time in my life I had a relationship.

1250
00:59:09,320 --> 00:59:12,360
Speaker 1: I've been in a relationship since I was fourteen, So

1251
00:59:13,160 --> 00:59:15,600
Speaker 1: I like it. I wake up every day with no drama.

1252
00:59:15,960 --> 00:59:19,280
Speaker 1: I'm chill and I'm cool, Like I don't need a man,

1253
00:59:19,360 --> 00:59:21,560
Speaker 1: Like if anything, I want a man, but I'm already.

1254
00:59:21,560 --> 00:59:23,560
Speaker 1: I'm going to my own two right now, and whatever

1255
00:59:23,600 --> 00:59:26,800
Speaker 1: happens happens. But I had enough love for a lifetime.

1256
00:59:26,840 --> 00:59:28,760
Speaker 1: I'm good, Like if if I don't have kids, I

1257
00:59:28,800 --> 00:59:31,240
Speaker 1: don't get married again. I want that. I want that

1258
00:59:31,320 --> 00:59:34,560
Speaker 1: for myself. I'm not but I'm alright if it don't

1259
00:59:34,560 --> 00:59:36,960
Speaker 1: happen either, Like I live that life. I'm cool. Yeah,

1260
00:59:37,000 --> 00:59:38,720
Speaker 1: because I hate when people be like, oh, yes, single,

1261
00:59:38,760 --> 00:59:40,760
Speaker 1: you can't find a man. It's not that you can't

1262
00:59:41,160 --> 00:59:43,680
Speaker 1: find I choose to be single. I mean I can

1263
00:59:43,920 --> 00:59:45,760
Speaker 1: date and find a man. I just want to make

1264
00:59:45,800 --> 00:59:47,680
Speaker 1: sure that I'm sucking him and I and you know,

1265
00:59:48,040 --> 00:59:51,760
Speaker 1: not settling for some bumbas dude. So funny, I'm out.

1266
00:59:52,240 --> 00:59:55,880
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm a I'm a rebound all star. Like

1267
00:59:56,000 --> 01:00:00,120
Speaker 1: usually I jumped from relationships and relationship this time, know

1268
01:00:00,280 --> 01:00:02,480
Speaker 1: like I have, I have great guys that want to

1269
01:00:02,520 --> 01:00:06,240
Speaker 1: be in serious relationships with me, and I'm just not sure.

1270
01:00:06,360 --> 01:00:07,760
Speaker 1: You know, I don't. I don't want to settle. I

1271
01:00:07,880 --> 01:00:09,600
Speaker 1: know what I want and I want to I'm gonna

1272
01:00:09,640 --> 01:00:12,120
Speaker 1: wait till I get that. Sometimes it's really good though,

1273
01:00:12,160 --> 01:00:15,000
Speaker 1: I'm really noticing, like to really figure out who you are.

1274
01:00:15,600 --> 01:00:17,200
Speaker 1: I'm not saying you need to be alone, because who

1275
01:00:17,240 --> 01:00:19,520
Speaker 1: the funk wants to be alone? That does? It sounds good?

1276
01:00:19,840 --> 01:00:21,640
Speaker 1: But yeah, because I feel like I'm single, but I'm

1277
01:00:21,680 --> 01:00:24,960
Speaker 1: not very lonely right, I'm single. I just feel like

1278
01:00:25,680 --> 01:00:27,920
Speaker 1: sometimes it's good to figure out who you are, the

1279
01:00:28,640 --> 01:00:30,760
Speaker 1: choices and decisions you want to make on your own,

1280
01:00:31,160 --> 01:00:34,120
Speaker 1: and then due time you'll figure it out. Sometimes I

1281
01:00:34,160 --> 01:00:36,000
Speaker 1: feel like you've got to clear your slate to allow

1282
01:00:36,160 --> 01:00:38,760
Speaker 1: somebody good to come into your life. Also, because you know,

1283
01:00:38,800 --> 01:00:41,160
Speaker 1: we have all these people that clutter our lives and

1284
01:00:41,440 --> 01:00:43,200
Speaker 1: it's a waste of time. It's not somebody that you

1285
01:00:43,200 --> 01:00:46,600
Speaker 1: want to be with, and you're really blocking something great

1286
01:00:46,600 --> 01:00:49,240
Speaker 1: from happening. And if pomy have anybody to waste your

1287
01:00:49,240 --> 01:00:51,960
Speaker 1: time or to spurn time, but imagine finding somebody that's

1288
01:00:51,960 --> 01:00:54,600
Speaker 1: on your level that's worth given your time to, you

1289
01:00:54,640 --> 01:00:57,960
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, Like even on a friendship type

1290
01:00:58,080 --> 01:01:01,920
Speaker 1: understanding thing. You know. So all right, Well, we appreciate

1291
01:01:01,960 --> 01:01:03,720
Speaker 1: you so much for coming through and kicking it with

1292
01:01:03,800 --> 01:01:06,120
Speaker 1: us about you. I love the show. I think it's dope.

1293
01:01:07,320 --> 01:01:10,160
Speaker 1: Nobody has ever asked me to have a nobody's actually

1294
01:01:10,160 --> 01:01:18,920
Speaker 1: have three somebody another man, yes, no, no, no, But

1295
01:01:19,000 --> 01:01:21,800
Speaker 1: nobody have actually put a finger in ass yes, yes,

1296
01:01:21,880 --> 01:01:24,680
Speaker 1: come on, I've never had somebody asked me yes. The

1297
01:01:26,200 --> 01:01:31,680
Speaker 1: guys that I'm not singing my girlfriend. She was telling

1298
01:01:31,680 --> 01:01:34,560
Speaker 1: me about this glove situation. She was like, this dude

1299
01:01:34,600 --> 01:01:36,840
Speaker 1: was adamant about getting this as she was like, you

1300
01:01:36,880 --> 01:01:38,520
Speaker 1: have a glove. His mom happened to be a nurse.

1301
01:01:38,600 --> 01:01:42,760
Speaker 1: Always weird shopping on a latex glove and fucking this

1302
01:01:42,840 --> 01:01:45,760
Speaker 1: dude in the ass. I was like, what I mean,

1303
01:01:45,840 --> 01:01:47,880
Speaker 1: I don't mind putting fingers in a guy's ass. I

1304
01:01:47,880 --> 01:01:52,680
Speaker 1: think it's fun. I think I think I think it's

1305
01:01:52,680 --> 01:01:59,480
Speaker 1: so gross. I'm not about it. I'd be amazed at

1306
01:01:59,480 --> 01:02:02,920
Speaker 1: the fact that they like like they like it, amazing

1307
01:02:02,920 --> 01:02:04,160
Speaker 1: the fact they're letting me do it. And then I'll

1308
01:02:04,200 --> 01:02:05,480
Speaker 1: be at the fact that how much they like it

1309
01:02:05,680 --> 01:02:12,440
Speaker 1: exactly so you just like doing that. I think you

1310
01:02:12,520 --> 01:02:14,360
Speaker 1: got something to hold over their here like wish you

1311
01:02:14,440 --> 01:02:21,080
Speaker 1: would not there. And then there's levels. There's levels of

1312
01:02:21,160 --> 01:02:24,400
Speaker 1: fingers in the eyes. It's like one finger, okay, two fingers.

1313
01:02:26,560 --> 01:02:28,880
Speaker 1: I'm gonna talk about you. I'm gonna be calling stuff.

1314
01:02:28,880 --> 01:02:34,600
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell your friends that your friends. No, I'm

1315
01:02:34,640 --> 01:02:42,880
Speaker 1: not tell my friends. I know why you guys are laughing.

1316
01:02:42,880 --> 01:02:44,440
Speaker 1: I would never sell any of your life friends not

1317
01:02:47,160 --> 01:02:50,040
Speaker 1: and the guy eat your ask can they kiss you after? Yeah?

1318
01:02:50,120 --> 01:02:54,520
Speaker 1: My house is sweet clean. You said, yeah, sweet, I'm great. Yeah,

1319
01:02:54,720 --> 01:02:56,480
Speaker 1: I ain't sucking stinky like you know what I'm saying.

1320
01:02:56,600 --> 01:02:58,960
Speaker 1: I'm gonna make sure I'm on point. Honestly, I like

1321
01:02:59,160 --> 01:03:01,320
Speaker 1: when a guy is eating my pussy and he comes

1322
01:03:01,360 --> 01:03:07,800
Speaker 1: up to kiss me. I like you get back to you.

1323
01:03:08,160 --> 01:03:12,760
Speaker 1: I like my flavor. You know what. I'm serious? Because

1324
01:03:12,760 --> 01:03:14,280
Speaker 1: you know you can't have anal sex and then have

1325
01:03:14,800 --> 01:03:18,040
Speaker 1: BA can't after that because you could get it. Actually,

1326
01:03:18,040 --> 01:03:21,160
Speaker 1: you bringing all the unless you switch the condom right,

1327
01:03:21,320 --> 01:03:23,000
Speaker 1: just putting it out there for all of you out there,

1328
01:03:23,040 --> 01:03:25,640
Speaker 1: just so because I use if you're not using a condom,

1329
01:03:25,680 --> 01:03:27,880
Speaker 1: wash your dick before you go back back door to

1330
01:03:27,920 --> 01:03:30,960
Speaker 1: the front door. Okay, leave the package in the back.

1331
01:03:32,560 --> 01:03:33,080
Speaker 1: Theage