Speaker 1: Hey everybody, we're back. Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours,
Speaker 1: Golden Hour. Thanks so much for joining us again.
Speaker 2: Hey Kathy, Hey Susan, it's so good to see you again.
Speaker 2: If you have not listened to our episode on Wednesday,
Speaker 2: I don't know. I keep saying the same thing, but
Speaker 2: I'm hopefully this time they're gonna listen. Check it out.
Speaker 2: Susan and I had a great time, as we always do.
Speaker 1: We certainly did.
Speaker 3: We're a green more more and more. It's getting me scared, Susan.
Speaker 1: I'm telling you, I hope you guys are all enjoying us,
Speaker 1: because we definitely enjoy hearing from you. So today we're
Speaker 1: gonna answer more of our fan questions. We're so excited
Speaker 1: to get into these.
Speaker 3: I can't wait.
Speaker 2: And we've got some great ones today. But don't forget.
Speaker 2: If you have a question for Susan and me, send
Speaker 2: them in. All you have to do it's really simple.
Speaker 2: Go to Bachelornation dot com slash Golden type in your question.
Speaker 3: We will answer it. We love hearing from y'all.
Speaker 1: And before we get into these questions, you know what, Kath,
Speaker 1: we have our question today. Wait, how was your week
Speaker 1: so far? How about my weather.
Speaker 3: It's so hot and humid, it's ridiculous.
Speaker 2: I flew to California on a twenty four hour flight
Speaker 2: and I just got back and I don't know.
Speaker 3: It was crazy period.
Speaker 1: You're busy too, Oh God, Okay, you're ready for our
Speaker 1: question of the day, Cat, all right, go read to me.
Speaker 1: Topic for discussion is with the rise of TikTok quote
Speaker 1: find the cheater quote unquote type of videos have gotten
Speaker 1: really popular. This is when girls in Vegas at bars
Speaker 1: and so on, we'll catch a guy on his bachelor
Speaker 1: party making out with other girls or doing some other
Speaker 1: form of obvious cheating. So lots of young women will
Speaker 1: come to TikTok detailing the entire incident in the hopes
Speaker 1: that the video will blow up and find the girl
Speaker 1: so they can warn her. So, Kathy, the question today
Speaker 1: is when it comes to these find the Cheater videos
Speaker 1: that go viral on TikTok, do you think they do
Speaker 1: more harm than good?
Speaker 2: Well, since I've got a part time job filming these
Speaker 2: guys and getting paid by the cheaters, you know, just kidding,
Speaker 2: you know, I think this comes down what we talk
Speaker 2: about a lot. There is a lot of good things
Speaker 2: on social media. Really we're going to post this on
Speaker 2: TikTok and warn the girl. Think about this for a second.
Speaker 2: Your daughter or your niece or someone's getting married and
Speaker 2: they're spending their time on TikTok looking to see if
Speaker 2: their fiance has been tagged or they've been tagged.
Speaker 1: Now, I think, you know what some things. Can I
Speaker 1: just say this quote really quick? Yeah, left unsaid, the
Speaker 1: least you know, the better. I don't agree with guys
Speaker 1: before they get married having an affair or whatever, a
Speaker 1: fling that is, you know, on their bachelor party.
Speaker 3: Right.
Speaker 1: But and then the girl finds out we had a
Speaker 1: question like that not too long ago, remember, and she
Speaker 1: was like it was years ago and they were all friends.
Speaker 2: On the other hand, that I mean, on the other hand,
Speaker 2: what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas.
Speaker 3: This is my point. I know, I think there's just
Speaker 3: too much.
Speaker 2: I think, I mean that this borders on you know, privacy,
Speaker 2: It borders on privacy issues. I think, uh, it's wrong.
Speaker 2: I think that this generation wrong.
Speaker 1: Cheating is wrong too. Prior to getting married.
Speaker 2: Yes, but I'm saying it's just it's ridiculous that this
Speaker 2: generation relies so much on you know. If it's on
Speaker 2: the internet, Susan, it must be true. If I saw
Speaker 2: it on TikTok, it must be true.
Speaker 1: Right, So look at our show, Kathy, all the stuff
Speaker 1: that was said out there. It's just a question and
Speaker 1: they get people's minds going, and then all the comments
Speaker 1: and people think this stuff is really happening.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I mean, listen, if if if you're old enough, not you,
Speaker 2: because we are, but if one is, if one is
Speaker 2: old enough to be getting married to somebody and you're
Speaker 2: judging the fidelity of your fiance on a TikTok video,
Speaker 2: you might want to rethink going down the aisle, getting
Speaker 2: married under the old oak tree.
Speaker 3: Whatever. You might want to rethink it.
Speaker 1: I mean, TikTok has some great things, but all.
Speaker 2: Social media it can be great, and it can be misused.
Speaker 2: And I think this is a clear misuse. If all
Speaker 2: those that you're.
Speaker 1: There with they do more harm than God.
Speaker 3: Yeah, be out there.
Speaker 2: If you are relying on TikTok to decide if you're
Speaker 2: making a mistake, Mary and your boyfriend, rethink it.
Speaker 3: Rethink the whole thing.
Speaker 1: All right, think leave the cheater alone. I will want
Speaker 1: to know. I just think it's stupid.
Speaker 2: That men need to wait a minute. Wait a minute.
Speaker 2: You wouldn't want to know if the guy you're marrying
Speaker 2: is cheating on you.
Speaker 1: I wish i'd never knew, because if I did find
Speaker 1: out that I love you?
Speaker 2: Problem, Wait a minute, how much do I love you?
Speaker 2: How much do I love you? I am here to
Speaker 2: tell you it's right that much I love you. And
Speaker 2: I am here to tell you. If I find out
Speaker 2: the guy I'm with is cheating on me, he is
Speaker 2: yesterday's news. I don't care if I'm halfway up the
Speaker 2: aisle I find that out, the wedding gifts are going back.
Speaker 2: I'm keeping the ring. We're done, all right, Let's move
Speaker 2: on to our Q and A.
Speaker 1: I think we should all right.
Speaker 2: Let me do the first one here. This is from anonymous. Hi,
Speaker 2: Kathy and Susan. My question is about friendships. I'm twenty
Speaker 2: five living in LA and I have a great group
Speaker 2: of friends. Up until this point in my life, I've
Speaker 2: always been surrounded by girlfriends. I've always had guy friends
Speaker 2: as well, but my closest friends have always been women.
Speaker 2: I've unfortunately lost close girlfriends from high school and college
Speaker 2: and experienced a lot of really hurtful cattiness each time.
Speaker 2: Despite those toxic friendships, I'm lucky to say that I
Speaker 2: currently have a lot of really wonderful women that are
Speaker 2: close friends. The only problem now is that none of
Speaker 2: them live near near me. Sounds like you and me, Susan,
Speaker 2: I really miss having girls' nights, getting ready together, borrowing
Speaker 2: each other's clothes, going out, and having a great time.
Speaker 2: My friends that I see every weekend truly mean the
Speaker 2: world to me, and I wouldn't trade them for anything,
Speaker 2: but I occasionally find myself missing those girls' nights. I've
Speaker 2: also come to realize that being hurt by girlfriends in
Speaker 2: the past has really wounded my ability to trust women
Speaker 2: and make new relationships with them. Do you have any
Speaker 2: advice on anything I can do to make the situation better?
Speaker 2: Thank you so much and love you both well.
Speaker 3: Thank you, Anonymous.
Speaker 1: What do you think, Susan, We love you back so
Speaker 1: number one, she's twenty five. I think that's a lot
Speaker 1: of it right there. I can as you were reading,
Speaker 1: I couldn't help but think of my daughter and what
Speaker 1: she went through with things like that. An I don't
Speaker 1: want to call you immature, Anonymous, but you will grow
Speaker 1: and mature yourself, and you'll be able to differentiate the
Speaker 1: friendships and those that are true and meaningful. If you
Speaker 1: were hurt by one of them, when you're mature enough,
Speaker 1: you're going to talk to them about it and you
Speaker 1: won't allow things to happen to you, or you just
Speaker 1: find new friends. I mean, you don't hang out with
Speaker 1: those kind of people.
Speaker 3: Well, so that I scary. Again, I'm agreeing with you.
Speaker 1: I think love it when I know it's like date night.
Speaker 2: I feel like you're right, But I also think that
Speaker 2: you know, friends, people come into our lives for a
Speaker 2: reason and a season, and so she's learning right from
Speaker 2: all these relationships. It's fair that she misses the girls'
Speaker 2: nights and she's been hurt by girls in the past.
Speaker 3: But you know what, Anonymous, like everything else.
Speaker 2: In life, you have to be willing to take good risks, right,
Speaker 2: So get yourself out there and make some new girlfriends.
Speaker 2: The lessons you've learned in the past will serve you
Speaker 2: well in your future.
Speaker 1: If it's in years and you're already going to be knowledgeable.
Speaker 3: You know what, I think.
Speaker 2: I think that she was willing to ask this question
Speaker 2: shows me that she's feeling it. She's feeling it, and
Speaker 2: she's learned from her past. And you know what, Anonymous,
Speaker 2: we all learn I used to be a teacher. You
Speaker 2: don't learn from the things you do right in life, Anonymous,
Speaker 2: you learn from the things you do wrong. So get
Speaker 2: out there and make some new girlfriends, and you're going
Speaker 2: to find your situations a lot better.
Speaker 1: And one last thing, forgive and move on. Just forgive,
Speaker 1: don't hold on to it forever. Yeah, thank you for writing.
Speaker 3: And good luck. I hope you find some great new friends.
Speaker 1: We have another Anonymous Kathy. Wow, Okay, hi, Kathy and Susan,
Speaker 1: I really need your help. I'm honestly too embarrassed to
Speaker 1: ask my friends about this. Uh oh, but will have
Speaker 1: an answer. We'll have an answer. My boyfriend and I
Speaker 1: have been together for a little over a year, and
Speaker 1: there's really only one thing that bothers me in our relationship.
Speaker 1: He follows a lot of girls on Instagram that post
Speaker 1: revealing pictures of themselves.
Speaker 3: Can we stop right there? To stop? Go ahead?
Speaker 1: Sorry, I have here's a good one. I have absolutely
Speaker 1: no issue with women posting themselves. Whatever makes them comfortable
Speaker 1: and feel beautiful is what's important, very important line in this.
Speaker 1: I just find it really disrespectful that he follows them.
Speaker 1: I feel like having a crush or finding someone attractive
Speaker 1: is one thing that's healthy and unavoidable, but those are
Speaker 1: things you can keep to yourself. Being able to see
Speaker 1: my boyfriend who my boyfriend finds attractive and going out
Speaker 1: of his way to follow them engage with their content
Speaker 1: on Instagram is something that I think is disrespectful. I
Speaker 1: tried to talk to my mom about it, but social
Speaker 1: media is something that I know she just doesn't understand,
Speaker 1: so she always says she doesn't get it, she doesn't
Speaker 1: get what the big deal is. I don't want to
Speaker 1: go to my friends about it because I honestly don't
Speaker 1: want them to know. The ability for someone to see
Speaker 1: that my boyfriend follows a ton of famously hot girls
Speaker 1: on Instagram makes me feel really embarrassed. So my question is,
Speaker 1: how do I bring this up to my boyfriend. I
Speaker 1: always get really nervous because it's such a confusing feeling,
Speaker 1: and I don't know how to tell him it bothers
Speaker 1: me without making it seem like I'm accusing him of cheating.
Speaker 1: I don't see this as cheating. I just see it
Speaker 1: as honesty. Shitty. What do I do.
Speaker 3: Oh, she doesn't see this as honesty. She sees it
Speaker 3: honestly as.
Speaker 1: Shitty as shitty. Whoa, that's a lot.
Speaker 2: So yeah, Well, first of all, I'm anonymous. I can't
Speaker 2: weigh in because I'm one of the hot hotties that
Speaker 2: he's following.
Speaker 1: Wait, famously hatty, So she means famous people like that's no,
Speaker 1: I think the hobby.
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 2: Listen, I think there is there's more going on here
Speaker 2: that meets the eye. I think, Well, for me, it's
Speaker 2: very interesting that she says in the beginning the line
Speaker 2: that you referred to, she doesn't have any problem with
Speaker 2: women being comfortable and putting themselves out there.
Speaker 3: Da da da da da.
Speaker 2: Well, okay, great, if your problem is not with the
Speaker 2: girls that he's following, your problem is with the boyfriend, Anonymous,
Speaker 2: guess what, you have to kindly go to your boyfriend,
Speaker 2: because really, what you're suffering from here, you're either envious
Speaker 2: or jealous or worried that he is cheating on you,
Speaker 2: and that this is just a metaphor for what else
Speaker 2: is he doing? You know, if he's following these girls online,
Speaker 2: what else is he doing? I think she's got some
Speaker 2: frust issues. I think she's got not in it. She's
Speaker 2: jealous that he's following these babes. That's what I'm I'm saying.
Speaker 2: I think I'm just giving you my opinion. Yeah, I
Speaker 2: think she said. I think she says, I'm not accusing
Speaker 2: Room of cheating.
Speaker 3: No, she's not.
Speaker 2: In her brain, she's thinking, Wow, I wonder if he's cheating.
Speaker 2: Maybe she's got some self esteem issues. Maybe she doesn't
Speaker 2: think she's as hot as I am. I mean, that's
Speaker 2: the other way.
Speaker 1: Maybe she should get on there herself and show them houth. Well,
Speaker 1: here's my question. Does he realize she knows about who
Speaker 1: he follows? Is she doing a private eye thing and sneaking?
Speaker 3: Does matter? Doesn't matter?
Speaker 1: Well, yes, she'd have to come clean with that first.
Speaker 1: She would have to say, Babe, I checked out who
Speaker 1: you follow on Instagram.
Speaker 2: Well, and I'm on Instagram, but susan their friends on Instagram.
Speaker 2: The way Instagram works, you know, if I'm friends with you,
Speaker 2: I can see who your friends are on Instagram. You know,
Speaker 2: you can see what other people are posting. So I
Speaker 2: think it's I think this is much ado about something,
Speaker 2: and I'm calling it out. I think the something is
Speaker 2: she's worried he's cheating.
Speaker 1: She's nervous, and it's such a confusing feeling. And yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't know how to tell him at.
Speaker 3: This Trust is not confusing that it's distrust.
Speaker 1: Seem like I'm accusing him. I think when you have
Speaker 1: this conversation, you're gonna come across as jealous, because.
Speaker 2: That's what she's either jealous, envious, or he's cheating, or
Speaker 2: she's worried he's cheating.
Speaker 1: So she's ask him, what do I do? What would
Speaker 1: you tell her to do?
Speaker 2: Kath, same thing you and I tell lots of people anonymous,
Speaker 2: sit them down, say I love you, honey, whatever it is,
Speaker 2: wherever you are in your relationship, and say this, you know,
Speaker 2: use the eye statements. I feel badly when I see this.
Speaker 2: I feel like I'm not enough for you. Whatever she's feeling,
Speaker 2: because you know what feelings are are okay, Your feelings
Speaker 2: are okay. If you say you this, you that, then
Speaker 2: you sound accusatory and that's.
Speaker 3: Never going to work.
Speaker 1: Use the C word communicate, Well, let's talking about it.
Speaker 1: You've got to talk.
Speaker 2: But it's how you talk about it. Yeah, how you
Speaker 2: talk about it. I think if you come across say
Speaker 2: I feel this way. He can at least hear how
Speaker 2: you're feeling. And I Anonymous, I'll bet you are a
Speaker 2: fabulous woman who just doesn't have quite the confidence that
Speaker 2: you think you have.
Speaker 3: So go and talk to him about it. Tell them
Speaker 3: how you feel.
Speaker 1: So I have one more thing to add to that.
Speaker 1: I know some women have issues with their husband on
Speaker 1: porn all the time. A lot of men watch a
Speaker 1: lot of porn. You know, I don't know that I'd
Speaker 1: be okay with that if he did that all the
Speaker 1: time without me, you know what I mean. So he's
Speaker 1: following these hot babes. Sometimes it's just a sexy body
Speaker 1: like man looking at Playboy ors. That's so outdated, you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. Just looking at it hot well
Speaker 1: is a thing. It's amazing. But Susan, it's only a thing.
Speaker 2: It's Listen, what works for one couple may not work
Speaker 2: for another couple, right, So if it works for Anonymous
Speaker 2: and her boyfriend, great, But she thinks it's disrespectful. So
Speaker 2: if she's feeling disrespected, she said, Anonymous, you got to
Speaker 2: tell him how you feel. And that's you know, that's
Speaker 2: something I wish more women were comfortable with you. Don't
Speaker 2: have to scream, rant or ray. Just tell him how
Speaker 2: you feel.
Speaker 1: And I wish stay comfortable in your own skin, sweetheart,
Speaker 1: respect yourself. Once you love and respect yourself, you're not
Speaker 1: going to hold back if that's bothering you. Just like
Speaker 1: Kathy said, have a conversation and use the word I
Speaker 1: not because of you.
Speaker 3: Yeah, don't say you do this to me, you do that.
Speaker 2: The I statements are always better nobody Candy can give you.
Speaker 1: For instance, it's your boyfriend doing this and you're going
Speaker 1: to say something, how you.
Speaker 2: Go, I'm going to say, I'm bringing my friend Susan
Speaker 2: Noles over, she's got a baseball that she's taking it
Speaker 2: out on you.
Speaker 3: That's the eye statement I'm making.
Speaker 1: Hey, babe, you know what if I got all sexed
Speaker 1: up and put myself out there. You follow all these chicks.
Speaker 2: I honestly, I mean, I see why she's upset because
Speaker 2: she feels insecure.
Speaker 3: So what you're saying? What would I say to my guy?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Yeah, if it was me, i'd say, look, I know
Speaker 2: you're following all these twenty year olds. Do you want
Speaker 2: a twenty year old because they don't want you? So
Speaker 2: let's get back to me. That's how I feel.
Speaker 1: I love it so anonymous. I hope we've helped you.
Speaker 1: But the whole thing, the whole world this story is
Speaker 1: talk to him. You'll talk to me confident. Yeah, be
Speaker 1: confident in yourself and tell him how you feel. And
Speaker 1: good luck to you. Okay, Marissa, moving on? You got
Speaker 1: a name?
Speaker 2: Okay, Marissa, he's not anonymous. Hi cout, I love it too,
Speaker 2: but we don't mind anonymous calls or now. Yeah, because,
Speaker 2: like I said on another podcast, if you have the question,
Speaker 2: somebody else does. So feel free. We love hearing your name,
Speaker 2: but you don't need to do it. Okay, Marissa says, Hi,
Speaker 2: Kathy and Susan, I need some dating advice pronto. I
Speaker 2: feel like we as women always catch ourselves in the
Speaker 2: same predicament when it comes to going on dates, trying
Speaker 2: to find someone. The guy is either too forward and smothering,
Speaker 2: not into at all, or deceitfully shows interest when he's
Speaker 2: quote not ready for a relationship or whatever excuse they
Speaker 2: have that particular day. It's so hard. I don't want
Speaker 2: to entertain a guy just because he likes me. I
Speaker 2: want to tell someone that I like like me back
Speaker 2: why is that so hard to find?
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 2: But if Susan, if we find the answer, we have found, we've.
Speaker 3: Won the lot of a millionaire.
Speaker 2: Really, Okay, I keep asking my mom for advice, as
Speaker 2: my friends and I are all basically in the same boat.
Speaker 2: But she always tells me I never give guys a chance.
Speaker 2: It's really unfair because I do.
Speaker 3: I do. I get to know them, I go.
Speaker 2: On a minimum of two dates with them if I
Speaker 2: feel like there's a chance, and I end things when
Speaker 2: I when I know I'm not feeling it, and it
Speaker 2: isn't fair to them. Any and all advice would be
Speaker 2: much appreciated.
Speaker 1: Well, I think you're very fair giving them a sign.
Speaker 3: It sounds to.
Speaker 1: What is she doing wrong?
Speaker 3: I'm not listen. I don't see a problem here, Marissa.
Speaker 2: First of all, out there, Yeah, you're having a lot
Speaker 2: more dates since Susan and I are combined. So let's
Speaker 2: start with that.
Speaker 1: I'll start there.
Speaker 2: I mean, the guys too forward? What the hell does
Speaker 2: that mean? Too forward? Whatever?
Speaker 1: I mean, if his hands are all over you first,
Speaker 1: stay like, slow down, big boy, I'm gonna have or
Speaker 1: in my case, keep it coming. No, come on, seriously,
Speaker 1: So I'm confused as to her question about what advice
Speaker 1: does she want, Like, we can't control what's out there,
Speaker 1: and you know what, it's all part of the game.
Speaker 2: Unfortunately, I think she what I'm hearing is she's tired
Speaker 2: of dating guys and either they're not into her or
Speaker 2: she goes on dates like you and I do, and
Speaker 2: we're watching the stop clock saying time to go.
Speaker 3: And Marissa, the answer to that.
Speaker 2: Is called dating. That like what you do, it's life
Speaker 2: and when you meet the guy, you know it's going
Speaker 2: to happen. Marissa, when you meet the guy that you
Speaker 2: fall for and he falls for you, that clock is
Speaker 2: going to stop. Time is going to stop, and all
Speaker 2: of the rest of this is going to fall away.
Speaker 2: So in my opinion, you are doing the right things
Speaker 2: because every date you have you learn more about what
Speaker 2: you're looking for and a guy. So keep those dates coming.
Speaker 2: Throw them to the curb when it doesn't you know,
Speaker 2: when they're well, don't throw them that's you know, but
Speaker 2: politely say have a nice day.
Speaker 3: And move on. I don't see a problem with this.
Speaker 1: And as far as I'm concerned, this is a part
Speaker 1: of life, and you could do what I did if
Speaker 1: you like I got off all the dating sites. I'm
Speaker 1: taking a sabbatical. Are you in a hiatus hiatusabatical?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Whatever?
Speaker 1: You and I because you know what, honey, I felt
Speaker 1: the same exact way. And then I start feeling guilty
Speaker 1: because a few men would really be interested and I wasn't.
Speaker 1: And that's even harder when you have to say, well,
Speaker 1: that's what she said. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And then like
Speaker 1: Ketty said, you'll know, but maybe just take a break
Speaker 1: from it all and just do.
Speaker 2: You right, I mean I'd keep getting because that's how
Speaker 2: she's going to find the guy.
Speaker 3: But right, good luck, Marissa.
Speaker 1: But let us know what happens.
Speaker 3: Listen.
Speaker 1: I bet you the best one will come next after this, I.
Speaker 2: Know, Marissa, do us a favor. Ask them if their
Speaker 2: dads and grandpas are married. If they aren't talking to
Speaker 2: ride into the show. Thank you.
Speaker 3: That was my past. That was my public service announcement
Speaker 3: for the show.
Speaker 1: All right, go carry on, okay, Charlee's right, hy Kathy
Speaker 1: and Susan. I need some help with my little sister
Speaker 1: for contacts. I'm twenty seven and she's nineteen. About six
Speaker 1: months ago, she started dating a guy she works with
Speaker 1: who's twenty six. She works at a restaurant part time
Speaker 1: while she's in school. I know she's a smart girl
Speaker 1: with a good head on her shoulders, but there are
Speaker 1: some things in life that you just come to learn
Speaker 1: with age, and age gaps like these are one of them.
Speaker 1: They don't really have anything in common, and I remember
Speaker 1: when they were just friends hanging out in the beginning,
Speaker 1: she would make comments about how she felt bad that
Speaker 1: he was obviously really into her. I really don't want
Speaker 1: her to get trapped in a relationship she isn't into.
Speaker 1: Breakups can already be so difficult, and they become even
Speaker 1: harder when you're super inexperienced dating someone much more experience.
Speaker 1: I trust that she's safe. Our family has met him,
Speaker 1: and there are no causes for major concern. I just
Speaker 1: feel like I can tell she's really unhappy because she's
Speaker 1: not into him. But I don't want to come off
Speaker 1: as a know it all big sister where all she
Speaker 1: hears is just dump him. How do I talk to
Speaker 1: her about this? This will be my first time mentioning
Speaker 1: it as a serious conversation. I've made supportive comments whenever
Speaker 1: she's casually mentioned him, encouraging her to not get sucked
Speaker 1: into an exhausting relationship. But I feel it's time to
Speaker 1: really seriously address this. I just don't want her to
Speaker 1: miss out on the joys of or just being young
Speaker 1: and single because she can't find a way out of this.
Speaker 1: I could be wrong, but I need to know for sure. Charlie,
Speaker 1: I'm so grateful that you wrote that sentence. I could
Speaker 1: be wrong, because you could be and you could be
Speaker 1: asking all this for nothing. Well, I mean, all right,
Speaker 1: the kid's nineteen, I think.
Speaker 2: I mean, listen, you, there is when you're nineteen, and
Speaker 2: that's a seven year age difference. And I actually agree
Speaker 2: with Charlie's at that age.
Speaker 1: My parents did, that's for sure.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's a it's a big age difference. It is.
Speaker 2: However, However, just because this her sister said, you know,
Speaker 2: she felt badly that he was obviously really into her
Speaker 2: all those things. I mean, she may have changed her mind.
Speaker 2: I think that you can talk to your sister. And again,
Speaker 2: it's all in the way you approach a topic.
Speaker 3: I love you, since I loved.
Speaker 1: You, you said that. It's the approach, it's the yes.
Speaker 3: It's there.
Speaker 2: It's so you know, sit down with your sister, go
Speaker 2: out for a coffee, go out for a glass of
Speaker 2: wine away she can't drink legally yet, you know, sit
Speaker 2: down and chit chat with her and say, if you
Speaker 2: guys have a good relationship, you can tell her what
Speaker 2: your concerns are. I think the big warning here is
Speaker 2: be careful that you don't come across as I'm smarter
Speaker 2: than you, I'm older than you, and I have all
Speaker 2: the right answers because as.
Speaker 1: You just said, you know it'd be wrong. Yeah you're not,
Speaker 1: you know, as well as just say I'm worried about you, sis.
Speaker 1: But the part that she's trying to avoid her sister,
Speaker 1: to avoid to protect hers going through heartbreak. She has
Speaker 1: to go through heartbreak to get past it. I mean,
Speaker 1: I don't wish it on anybody. I can count how
Speaker 1: many times I've cried my eyes out growing up, and
Speaker 1: you think it's the end of the world. But she
Speaker 1: does have to experience this right, And I love that
Speaker 1: you love her that much.
Speaker 2: But but you know what she I think Charlie says,
Speaker 2: all her sister heres is just dump him. If Charlie said,
Speaker 2: if that's all she's hearing, then modify your approach, change
Speaker 2: your words and see if you can't get into a
Speaker 2: better conversation about it and where she feels your love? Yeah,
Speaker 2: love her, love her because you know what family is
Speaker 2: so important?
Speaker 1: It is it is and she's nineteen, so get ready
Speaker 1: for anything. Yeah, but thank you for asking us, and
Speaker 1: I wish you a ton of luck.
Speaker 3: Good luck with your sister Charlie's Oh.
Speaker 1: Your fair boy, Kathy. I hate this game. I never
Speaker 1: do it way right.
Speaker 3: It's time of going to play.
Speaker 1: A game more quandary.
Speaker 3: I love this game.
Speaker 2: And as soon as Susan learns how to play it,
Speaker 2: I don't know, in the next six months or so, Uh,
Speaker 2: it's going to be more fun. All right, we're gonna
Speaker 2: I'm gonna give you the directions again, Susan, pay attention.
Speaker 1: Now, I'm supposed to guess what you would do. Right.
Speaker 3: Oh, there you go a for effort today.
Speaker 2: All right, So we're gonna take turns of reading the quandary,
Speaker 2: give our thoughts on what we think the other person
Speaker 2: would do.
Speaker 3: And I hear we I'm gonna give you the first one.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 2: You notice a former hookup, now now you know what
Speaker 2: a hookup is?
Speaker 1: Oh my god?
Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, you notice a former hookup has been
Speaker 2: liking your pictures and Instagram stories that are just of you.
Speaker 3: When you go to his page, you see.
Speaker 2: His girlfriend in a bunch of recent posts, so you're
Speaker 2: able to find her page pretty quickly. Do you DM
Speaker 2: her to tell her about what he's been doing? Or
Speaker 2: keep it to yourself? Now, Susan, what would I do?
Speaker 2: Would I DM? Would I DM her? Or would I
Speaker 2: keep it to myself? Don't think too.
Speaker 1: I don't think you would DM her.
Speaker 3: You're so right, congratulations, I knew you.
Speaker 1: Yes, How do you think I would either?
Speaker 3: I was gonna say, Mike, no, I see you didn't
Speaker 3: let me guess.
Speaker 1: Oh, I got it half right.
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 2: We're now six and a half months in Susan, still
Speaker 2: learning the rule. No, no, no, five and a half.
Speaker 2: I got half right. Okay, all right, I'll give it
Speaker 2: to you. So, yeah, I would not. I mean, lots
Speaker 2: of people like things. You know, we put too much
Speaker 2: emphasis on someone clicking a like button. Get over it,
Speaker 2: don't worry about it. Let them work out their life.
Speaker 2: You live your life, let them live there, then move on.
Speaker 1: I mean, he's not asking you out formally, he's liking something.
Speaker 1: I obviously liked you because you hooked up, so let
Speaker 1: it go. Yeah, yeah, all right, go all right. You
Speaker 1: and your best friend are at him watching a movie
Speaker 1: together with both of your boyfriends.
Speaker 3: Oh, Susan, this sounds so much fun. Let's do it.
Speaker 1: She is notoriously a talker during movies, but it's never
Speaker 1: bothered you. You always just answer her questions if she
Speaker 1: hasn't or don't even really notice if she just has
Speaker 1: an audible reaction. Suddenly you realize your boyfriend is getting
Speaker 1: seriously irritated by it. How do you proceed?
Speaker 2: Well, I I can't tell you. After I tell you
Speaker 2: you then I'm going to tell you a funny little story.
Speaker 2: I think you would say, Kathy, shut the hell I
Speaker 2: was gonna say, at the freaking movie, Kat, that's what
Speaker 2: you would do? I would I would probably do something.
Speaker 1: Yes with you?
Speaker 3: Five months?
Speaker 1: What would you?
Speaker 3: What would I do?
Speaker 1: Gaming? I'm gaining now you're doing the absolutely same thing.
Speaker 1: Because if you guys are friends, it's annoying when somebody
Speaker 1: talks through a movie. My best friends, Kathy, you're gonna
Speaker 1: meet them, are gonna go to CALLI and see them?
Speaker 1: My Italians from Middle Andrew.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Angelo talks to it.
Speaker 1: He explains the entire movie to me, and his wife's like, aunt,
Speaker 1: stop answered, I go, and I can't follow the movie
Speaker 1: and keep talking.
Speaker 2: Exactly I used to. I used to do this with
Speaker 2: my husband. I used to ask questions and he would
Speaker 2: answer the same thing. He would answer them, and he did.
Speaker 2: And one day he looked at me, goes, could you
Speaker 2: just save your questions till the end of the movie,
Speaker 2: because I promise you most of the questions are going
Speaker 2: to get answered if you just watch the movie. So
Speaker 2: I stopped. You know, zip it, I'm telling you, zipp
Speaker 2: it works in so many occasions. I'm like, I'm telling it.
Speaker 2: I was smart when I said that. Okay, here we go.
Speaker 2: During the night out, a stranger is being incredibly rude
Speaker 2: to your group as a whole. Three of your friends
Speaker 2: decide to stand up for you all and the strangers
Speaker 2: being nothing but rude back You don't see what the
Speaker 2: big deal is, but no one on either side is
Speaker 2: backing down. Do you apologize on be off of your friends,
Speaker 2: let them handle it, or proceed another way?
Speaker 3: What would I do? And I bet you don't get this.
Speaker 1: Right, During a night out, a stranger is being rude
Speaker 1: to your whole group. Right, three of your friends decide
Speaker 1: to stand up.
Speaker 3: So basically there's an altercation here.
Speaker 2: You got three friends telling this guy off who continues
Speaker 2: to be rude.
Speaker 1: Now, oh, no, back exactly what you do?
Speaker 3: Oh really?
Speaker 1: You would not apologize you You would say, dude, you're
Speaker 1: being rude. They're right, move on.
Speaker 2: No, for all of you out there, I am shaking
Speaker 2: my head. You know what, I would really do? What
Speaker 2: you've forgotten?
Speaker 3: Believe it or not.
Speaker 2: Bachelor of Nation won't believe this either. I run from altercation.
Speaker 2: I would turn around and walk away and wait for
Speaker 2: you a'll to finish.
Speaker 1: That's exactly.
Speaker 2: And I think you were back to five and a
Speaker 2: half months, you would absolutely jump in there and say,
Speaker 2: what the hell, shut up, leave my friends alone, get
Speaker 2: over yourself.
Speaker 1: You would you take about no, No, I do it
Speaker 1: kindly though, trust.
Speaker 2: Well, No, you'd be kind, but you would say you'd
Speaker 2: get the point across that you'd had all the fun
Speaker 2: you could handle and he needed to back off.
Speaker 1: Do you do this every day to everybody? Do you
Speaker 1: think that's attractive? I'm sorry now, I just we don't
Speaker 1: have time for you.
Speaker 2: You know, it's like having a political conversation. You're never
Speaker 2: going to get that person to agree with you. Alrighty okay.
Speaker 1: You have a friend that always posts terrible pictures of
Speaker 1: the two of you where only she looks really good.
Speaker 1: For your birthday, she posted one that you explicitly asked
Speaker 1: her to delete when it was taken. Do you confront
Speaker 1: her about this? Get even or let it go?
Speaker 3: So Susan, this is so easy, so easy.
Speaker 2: If you if I did this and posted a picture
Speaker 2: of you, yeah, yeah, couldn't let me say it, you'd
Speaker 2: kill me. You would say, I told you not to
Speaker 2: post that picture. I'm coming after you.
Speaker 3: I would say I'm so sorry, and I would delete it.
Speaker 1: And what would you do?
Speaker 3: Cat, I don't know you're gonna tell me? What would
Speaker 3: I do?
Speaker 1: You'd say, Susan, really you had to pick that one,
Speaker 1: didn't I tell you to delete that one?
Speaker 3: And you would do the same thing. You would say,
Speaker 3: I'm really sorry, I'll delete it.
Speaker 1: Because you know if you told me you hated that picture,
Speaker 1: I wouldn't have posted.
Speaker 3: Well, I wouldn't have either. I wouldn't have either.
Speaker 2: And you know what, if it's really a good friend,
Speaker 2: I'd cut you out of it.
Speaker 1: If I look that good, I just cut you out
Speaker 1: and post it to me.
Speaker 2: First, she'd blow it up, make it life size, put
Speaker 2: it on poster board, and put along. She put it
Speaker 2: in times square, and then all right, you're pet sitting
Speaker 2: your friend's cat. Oh, this will be right at my alley.
Speaker 2: You're pet sitting your friend's cat while they're away for
Speaker 2: a few weeks, and you noticed the cat is constantly
Speaker 2: being overfed? Do you mention this to your friend? Change
Speaker 2: the cat's diet without telling her, or keep proceeding as
Speaker 2: you were instructed to by your friend.
Speaker 1: You have cats?
Speaker 3: I have cats.
Speaker 1: Are you going to try to change the diet? Are
Speaker 1: you going to talk to your friend that you feel
Speaker 1: like they're being overfed? You would do that. I think
Speaker 1: I would do what you would talk to your friend
Speaker 1: when they got back. You keep the schedule and say listen,
Speaker 1: I own cats too, and I feel like you're overfeeding
Speaker 1: right now? Mind your own business.
Speaker 3: Mind.
Speaker 1: I wouldn't say a damn thing. First of all, I
Speaker 1: would cats.
Speaker 3: I would you would for me? Would you for me?
Speaker 1: I do anything for you? Cat? God, you're annoying.
Speaker 3: I love you.
Speaker 2: I cleaned your pool for you, as.
Speaker 3: Long as it comes with a cabana.
Speaker 2: Boy, do you mention I would I would never mention
Speaker 2: that to you. I would it's your cat, it's your dog,
Speaker 2: all right, exactly. I don't think you do anymore. All right,
Speaker 2: that doesn't for another episode of Bachelor or Happy Hours
Speaker 2: Golden Hour.
Speaker 3: We've had so much fun.
Speaker 2: Thank you to all our listeners for joining in and
Speaker 2: sending us such great questions.
Speaker 3: We hope we have you today, Kathy.
Speaker 1: We had so many questions today we didn't get to
Speaker 1: talk about us. I mean, sometimes we got to talk
Speaker 1: about what we're doing in life. So next time we're
Speaker 1: going to squeeze that in. But I do want to
Speaker 1: thank everybody for listening and make sure to follow us
Speaker 1: at Bachelor Happy Hour as we have new episodes coming
Speaker 1: out every week and you might hear us talk about
Speaker 1: our own lives.
Speaker 2: Really if we can out and get a chance. But
Speaker 2: also we love getting your questions. We love answering them.
Speaker 2: You know, Susan, you and I have talked about this.
Speaker 2: People have stopped us on the street. I had someone
Speaker 2: on the airplane stop me, believe it or not, that
Speaker 2: we'd answered their question and they said, you really haven't
Speaker 2: been awesome. I loved it. So keep those questions coming.
Speaker 2: All you have to do is go to bachelornation dot
Speaker 2: com slash Golden Hour, or you can hit us up
Speaker 2: on social at Bachelor Happy Hour.
Speaker 3: We really want to hear from you.
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Speaker 1: for tuning in to out for now, See you next time.
Speaker 2: Mm hmm