WEBVTT - Much Ado About Something | ‘Golden Hour’

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<v Speaker 1>Hey everybody, we're back. Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours,

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<v Speaker 1>Golden Hour. Thanks so much for joining us again.

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<v Speaker 1>And before we get into these questions, you know what, Kath,

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<v Speaker 1>we have our question today. Wait, how was your week

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<v Speaker 1>so far? How about my weather.

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<v Speaker 3>It's so hot and humid, it's ridiculous.

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<v Speaker 2>I flew to California on a twenty four hour flight

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<v Speaker 2>and I just got back and I don't know.

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<v Speaker 3>It was crazy period.

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<v Speaker 1>You're busy too, Oh God, Okay, you're ready for our

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<v Speaker 1>question of the day, Cat, all right, go read to me.

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<v Speaker 1>Topic for discussion is with the rise of TikTok quote

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<v Speaker 1>find the cheater quote unquote type of videos have gotten

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<v Speaker 1>really popular. This is when girls in Vegas at bars

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<v Speaker 1>and so on, we'll catch a guy on his bachelor

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<v Speaker 1>party making out with other girls or doing some other

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<v Speaker 1>form of obvious cheating. So lots of young women will

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<v Speaker 1>come to TikTok detailing the entire incident in the hopes

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<v Speaker 1>that the video will blow up and find the girl

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<v Speaker 1>so they can warn her. So, Kathy, the question today

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<v Speaker 1>is when it comes to these find the Cheater videos

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<v Speaker 1>that go viral on TikTok, do you think they do

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<v Speaker 1>more harm than good?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, since I've got a part time job filming these

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<v Speaker 2>guys and getting paid by the cheaters, you know, just kidding,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, I think this comes down what we talk

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<v Speaker 2>about a lot. There is a lot of good things

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<v Speaker 2>on social media. Really we're going to post this on

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<v Speaker 2>TikTok and warn the girl. Think about this for a second.

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<v Speaker 2>Your daughter or your niece or someone's getting married and

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<v Speaker 2>they're spending their time on TikTok looking to see if

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<v Speaker 2>their fiance has been tagged or they've been tagged.

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<v Speaker 1>Now, I think, you know what some things. Can I

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<v Speaker 1>just say this quote really quick? Yeah, left unsaid, the

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<v Speaker 1>least you know, the better. I don't agree with guys

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<v Speaker 1>before they get married having an affair or whatever, a

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<v Speaker 1>fling that is, you know, on their bachelor party.

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<v Speaker 3>Right.

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<v Speaker 1>But and then the girl finds out we had a

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<v Speaker 1>question like that not too long ago, remember, and she

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<v Speaker 1>was like it was years ago and they were all friends.

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<v Speaker 2>On the other hand, that I mean, on the other hand,

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<v Speaker 2>what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas.

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<v Speaker 3>This is my point. I know, I think there's just

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<v Speaker 3>too much.

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<v Speaker 2>I think, I mean that this borders on you know, privacy,

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<v Speaker 2>It borders on privacy issues. I think, uh, it's wrong.

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<v Speaker 2>I think that this generation wrong.

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<v Speaker 1>Cheating is wrong too. Prior to getting married.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, but I'm saying it's just it's ridiculous that this

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<v Speaker 2>generation relies so much on you know. If it's on

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<v Speaker 2>the internet, Susan, it must be true. If I saw

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<v Speaker 2>it on TikTok, it must be true.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, So look at our show, Kathy, all the stuff

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<v Speaker 1>that was said out there. It's just a question and

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<v Speaker 1>they get people's minds going, and then all the comments

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<v Speaker 1>and people think this stuff is really happening.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, listen, if if if you're old enough, not you,

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<v Speaker 2>because we are, but if one is, if one is

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<v Speaker 2>old enough to be getting married to somebody and you're

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<v Speaker 2>judging the fidelity of your fiance on a TikTok video,

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<v Speaker 2>you might want to rethink going down the aisle, getting

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<v Speaker 2>married under the old oak tree.

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<v Speaker 3>Whatever. You might want to rethink it.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, TikTok has some great things, but all.

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<v Speaker 2>Social media it can be great, and it can be misused.

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<v Speaker 2>And I think this is a clear misuse. If all

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<v Speaker 2>those that you're.

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<v Speaker 1>There with they do more harm than God.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, be out there.

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<v Speaker 2>If you are relying on TikTok to decide if you're

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<v Speaker 2>making a mistake, Mary and your boyfriend, rethink it.

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<v Speaker 3>Rethink the whole thing.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, think leave the cheater alone. I will want

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<v Speaker 1>to know. I just think it's stupid.

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<v Speaker 2>That men need to wait a minute. Wait a minute.

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<v Speaker 2>You wouldn't want to know if the guy you're marrying

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<v Speaker 2>is cheating on you.

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<v Speaker 1>I wish i'd never knew, because if I did find

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<v Speaker 1>out that I love you?

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<v Speaker 2>Problem, Wait a minute, how much do I love you?

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<v Speaker 2>How much do I love you? I am here to

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<v Speaker 2>tell you it's right that much I love you. And

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<v Speaker 2>I am here to tell you. If I find out

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<v Speaker 2>the guy I'm with is cheating on me, he is

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<v Speaker 2>yesterday's news. I don't care if I'm halfway up the

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<v Speaker 2>aisle I find that out, the wedding gifts are going back.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm keeping the ring. We're done, all right, Let's move

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<v Speaker 2>on to our Q and A.

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<v Speaker 1>I think we should all right.

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<v Speaker 2>Let me do the first one here. This is from anonymous. Hi,

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<v Speaker 2>Kathy and Susan. My question is about friendships. I'm twenty

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<v Speaker 2>five living in LA and I have a great group

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<v Speaker 2>of friends. Up until this point in my life, I've

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<v Speaker 2>always been surrounded by girlfriends. I've always had guy friends

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<v Speaker 2>as well, but my closest friends have always been women.

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<v Speaker 2>I've unfortunately lost close girlfriends from high school and college

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<v Speaker 2>and experienced a lot of really hurtful cattiness each time.

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<v Speaker 2>Despite those toxic friendships, I'm lucky to say that I

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<v Speaker 2>currently have a lot of really wonderful women that are

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<v Speaker 2>close friends. The only problem now is that none of

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<v Speaker 2>them live near near me. Sounds like you and me, Susan,

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<v Speaker 2>I really miss having girls' nights, getting ready together, borrowing

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<v Speaker 2>each other's clothes, going out, and having a great time.

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<v Speaker 2>My friends that I see every weekend truly mean the

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<v Speaker 2>world to me, and I wouldn't trade them for anything,

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<v Speaker 2>but I occasionally find myself missing those girls' nights. I've

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<v Speaker 2>also come to realize that being hurt by girlfriends in

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<v Speaker 2>the past has really wounded my ability to trust women

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<v Speaker 2>and make new relationships with them. Do you have any

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<v Speaker 2>advice on anything I can do to make the situation better?

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you so much and love you both well.

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<v Speaker 3>Thank you, Anonymous.

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<v Speaker 1>What do you think, Susan, We love you back so

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<v Speaker 1>number one, she's twenty five. I think that's a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of it right there. I can as you were reading,

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<v Speaker 1>I couldn't help but think of my daughter and what

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<v Speaker 1>she went through with things like that. An I don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to call you immature, Anonymous, but you will grow

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<v Speaker 1>and mature yourself, and you'll be able to differentiate the

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<v Speaker 1>friendships and those that are true and meaningful. If you

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<v Speaker 1>were hurt by one of them, when you're mature enough,

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<v Speaker 1>you're going to talk to them about it and you

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<v Speaker 1>won't allow things to happen to you, or you just

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<v Speaker 1>find new friends. I mean, you don't hang out with

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<v Speaker 1>those kind of people.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, so that I scary. Again, I'm agreeing with you.

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<v Speaker 1>I think love it when I know it's like date night.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like you're right, But I also think that

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<v Speaker 2>you know, friends, people come into our lives for a

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<v Speaker 2>reason and a season, and so she's learning right from

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<v Speaker 2>all these relationships. It's fair that she misses the girls'

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<v Speaker 2>nights and she's been hurt by girls in the past.

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<v Speaker 3>But you know what, Anonymous, like everything else.

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<v Speaker 2>In life, you have to be willing to take good risks, right,

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<v Speaker 2>So get yourself out there and make some new girlfriends.

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<v Speaker 2>The lessons you've learned in the past will serve you

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<v Speaker 2>well in your future.

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<v Speaker 1>If it's in years and you're already going to be knowledgeable.

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<v Speaker 3>You know what, I think.

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<v Speaker 2>I think that she was willing to ask this question

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<v Speaker 2>shows me that she's feeling it. She's feeling it, and

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<v Speaker 2>she's learned from her past. And you know what, Anonymous,

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<v Speaker 2>we all learn I used to be a teacher. You

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<v Speaker 2>don't learn from the things you do right in life, Anonymous,

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<v Speaker 2>you learn from the things you do wrong. So get

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<v Speaker 2>out there and make some new girlfriends, and you're going

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<v Speaker 2>to find your situations a lot better.

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<v Speaker 1>And one last thing, forgive and move on. Just forgive,

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<v Speaker 1>don't hold on to it forever. Yeah, thank you for writing.

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<v Speaker 3>And good luck. I hope you find some great new friends.

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<v Speaker 1>We have another Anonymous Kathy. Wow, Okay, hi, Kathy and Susan,

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<v Speaker 1>I really need your help. I'm honestly too embarrassed to

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<v Speaker 1>ask my friends about this. Uh oh, but will have

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<v Speaker 1>an answer. We'll have an answer. My boyfriend and I

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<v Speaker 1>have been together for a little over a year, and

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<v Speaker 1>there's really only one thing that bothers me in our relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>He follows a lot of girls on Instagram that post

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<v Speaker 1>revealing pictures of themselves.

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<v Speaker 3>Can we stop right there? To stop? Go ahead?

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<v Speaker 1>Sorry, I have here's a good one. I have absolutely

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<v Speaker 1>no issue with women posting themselves. Whatever makes them comfortable

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<v Speaker 1>and feel beautiful is what's important, very important line in this.

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<v Speaker 1>I just find it really disrespectful that he follows them.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like having a crush or finding someone attractive

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<v Speaker 1>is one thing that's healthy and unavoidable, but those are

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<v Speaker 1>things you can keep to yourself. Being able to see

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<v Speaker 1>my boyfriend who my boyfriend finds attractive and going out

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<v Speaker 1>of his way to follow them engage with their content

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<v Speaker 1>on Instagram is something that I think is disrespectful. I

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<v Speaker 1>tried to talk to my mom about it, but social

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<v Speaker 1>media is something that I know she just doesn't understand,

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<v Speaker 1>so she always says she doesn't get it, she doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>get what the big deal is. I don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>go to my friends about it because I honestly don't

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<v Speaker 1>want them to know. The ability for someone to see

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<v Speaker 1>that my boyfriend follows a ton of famously hot girls

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<v Speaker 1>on Instagram makes me feel really embarrassed. So my question is,

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<v Speaker 1>how do I bring this up to my boyfriend. I

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<v Speaker 1>always get really nervous because it's such a confusing feeling,

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<v Speaker 1>and I don't know how to tell him it bothers

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<v Speaker 1>me without making it seem like I'm accusing him of cheating.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't see this as cheating. I just see it

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<v Speaker 1>as honesty. Shitty. What do I do.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, she doesn't see this as honesty. She sees it

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<v Speaker 3>honestly as.

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<v Speaker 1>Shitty as shitty. Whoa, that's a lot.

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<v Speaker 2>So yeah, Well, first of all, I'm anonymous. I can't

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<v Speaker 2>weigh in because I'm one of the hot hotties that

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<v Speaker 2>he's following.

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<v Speaker 1>Wait, famously hatty, So she means famous people like that's no,

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<v Speaker 1>I think the hobby.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>Listen, I think there is there's more going on here

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<v Speaker 2>that meets the eye. I think, Well, for me, it's

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<v Speaker 2>very interesting that she says in the beginning the line

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<v Speaker 2>that you referred to, she doesn't have any problem with

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<v Speaker 2>women being comfortable and putting themselves out there.

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<v Speaker 3>Da da da da da.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, okay, great, if your problem is not with the

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<v Speaker 2>girls that he's following, your problem is with the boyfriend, Anonymous,

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<v Speaker 2>guess what, you have to kindly go to your boyfriend,

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<v Speaker 2>because really, what you're suffering from here, you're either envious

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<v Speaker 2>or jealous or worried that he is cheating on you,

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<v Speaker 2>and that this is just a metaphor for what else

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<v Speaker 2>is he doing? You know, if he's following these girls online,

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<v Speaker 2>what else is he doing? I think she's got some

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<v Speaker 2>frust issues. I think she's got not in it. She's

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<v Speaker 2>jealous that he's following these babes. That's what I'm I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 2>I think I'm just giving you my opinion. Yeah, I

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<v Speaker 2>think she said. I think she says, I'm not accusing

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<v Speaker 2>Room of cheating.

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<v Speaker 3>No, she's not.

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<v Speaker 2>In her brain, she's thinking, Wow, I wonder if he's cheating.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe she's got some self esteem issues. Maybe she doesn't

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<v Speaker 2>think she's as hot as I am. I mean, that's

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<v Speaker 2>the other way.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe she should get on there herself and show them houth. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>here's my question. Does he realize she knows about who

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<v Speaker 1>he follows? Is she doing a private eye thing and sneaking?

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<v Speaker 3>Does matter? Doesn't matter?

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<v Speaker 1>Well, yes, she'd have to come clean with that first.

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<v Speaker 1>She would have to say, Babe, I checked out who

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<v Speaker 1>you follow on Instagram.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, and I'm on Instagram, but susan their friends on Instagram.

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<v Speaker 2>The way Instagram works, you know, if I'm friends with you,

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<v Speaker 2>I can see who your friends are on Instagram. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>you can see what other people are posting. So I

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<v Speaker 2>think it's I think this is much ado about something,

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm calling it out. I think the something is

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<v Speaker 2>she's worried he's cheating.

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<v Speaker 1>She's nervous, and it's such a confusing feeling. And yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know how to tell him at.

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<v Speaker 3>This Trust is not confusing that it's distrust.

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<v Speaker 1>Seem like I'm accusing him. I think when you have

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<v Speaker 1>this conversation, you're gonna come across as jealous, because.

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<v Speaker 2>That's what she's either jealous, envious, or he's cheating, or

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<v Speaker 2>she's worried he's cheating.

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<v Speaker 1>So she's ask him, what do I do? What would

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<v Speaker 1>you tell her to do?

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<v Speaker 2>Kath, same thing you and I tell lots of people anonymous,

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<v Speaker 2>sit them down, say I love you, honey, whatever it is,

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<v Speaker 2>wherever you are in your relationship, and say this, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>use the eye statements. I feel badly when I see this.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like I'm not enough for you. Whatever she's feeling,

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<v Speaker 2>because you know what feelings are are okay, Your feelings

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<v Speaker 2>are okay. If you say you this, you that, then

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<v Speaker 2>you sound accusatory and that's.

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<v Speaker 3>Never going to work.

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<v Speaker 1>Use the C word communicate, Well, let's talking about it.

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<v Speaker 1>You've got to talk.

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<v Speaker 2>But it's how you talk about it. Yeah, how you

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<v Speaker 2>talk about it. I think if you come across say

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<v Speaker 2>I feel this way. He can at least hear how

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<v Speaker 2>you're feeling. And I Anonymous, I'll bet you are a

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<v Speaker 2>fabulous woman who just doesn't have quite the confidence that

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<v Speaker 2>you think you have.

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<v Speaker 3>So go and talk to him about it. Tell them

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<v Speaker 3>how you feel.

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<v Speaker 1>So I have one more thing to add to that.

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<v Speaker 1>I know some women have issues with their husband on

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<v Speaker 1>porn all the time. A lot of men watch a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of porn. You know, I don't know that I'd

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<v Speaker 1>be okay with that if he did that all the

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<v Speaker 1>time without me, you know what I mean. So he's

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<v Speaker 1>following these hot babes. Sometimes it's just a sexy body

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<v Speaker 1>like man looking at Playboy ors. That's so outdated, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what I'm saying. Just looking at it hot well

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<v Speaker 1>is a thing. It's amazing. But Susan, it's only a thing.

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<v Speaker 2>It's Listen, what works for one couple may not work

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<v Speaker 2>for another couple, right, So if it works for Anonymous

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<v Speaker 2>and her boyfriend, great, But she thinks it's disrespectful. So

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<v Speaker 2>if she's feeling disrespected, she said, Anonymous, you got to

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<v Speaker 2>tell him how you feel. And that's you know, that's

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<v Speaker 2>something I wish more women were comfortable with you. Don't

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<v Speaker 2>have to scream, rant or ray. Just tell him how

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<v Speaker 2>you feel.

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<v Speaker 1>And I wish stay comfortable in your own skin, sweetheart,

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<v Speaker 1>respect yourself. Once you love and respect yourself, you're not

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<v Speaker 1>going to hold back if that's bothering you. Just like

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<v Speaker 1>Kathy said, have a conversation and use the word I

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<v Speaker 1>not because of you.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, don't say you do this to me, you do that.

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<v Speaker 2>The I statements are always better nobody Candy can give you.

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<v Speaker 1>For instance, it's your boyfriend doing this and you're going

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<v Speaker 1>to say something, how you.

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<v Speaker 2>Go, I'm going to say, I'm bringing my friend Susan

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<v Speaker 2>Noles over, she's got a baseball that she's taking it

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<v Speaker 2>out on you.

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<v Speaker 3>That's the eye statement I'm making.

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<v Speaker 1>Hey, babe, you know what if I got all sexed

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<v Speaker 1>up and put myself out there. You follow all these chicks.

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<v Speaker 2>I honestly, I mean, I see why she's upset because

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<v Speaker 2>she feels insecure.

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<v Speaker 3>So what you're saying? What would I say to my guy?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, if it was me, i'd say, look, I know

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<v Speaker 2>you're following all these twenty year olds. Do you want

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<v Speaker 2>a twenty year old because they don't want you? So

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<v Speaker 2>let's get back to me. That's how I feel.

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<v Speaker 1>I love it so anonymous. I hope we've helped you.

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<v Speaker 1>But the whole thing, the whole world this story is

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<v Speaker 1>talk to him. You'll talk to me confident. Yeah, be

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<v Speaker 1>confident in yourself and tell him how you feel. And

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<v Speaker 1>good luck to you. Okay, Marissa, moving on? You got

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<v Speaker 1>a name?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, Marissa, he's not anonymous. Hi cout, I love it too,

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<v Speaker 2>but we don't mind anonymous calls or now. Yeah, because,

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<v Speaker 2>like I said on another podcast, if you have the question,

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<v Speaker 2>somebody else does. So feel free. We love hearing your name,

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<v Speaker 2>but you don't need to do it. Okay, Marissa says, Hi,

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<v Speaker 2>Kathy and Susan, I need some dating advice pronto. I

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<v Speaker 2>feel like we as women always catch ourselves in the

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<v Speaker 2>same predicament when it comes to going on dates, trying

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<v Speaker 2>to find someone. The guy is either too forward and smothering,

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<v Speaker 2>not into at all, or deceitfully shows interest when he's

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<v Speaker 2>quote not ready for a relationship or whatever excuse they

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<v Speaker 2>have that particular day. It's so hard. I don't want

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<v Speaker 2>to entertain a guy just because he likes me. I

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<v Speaker 2>want to tell someone that I like like me back

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<v Speaker 2>why is that so hard to find?

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>But if Susan, if we find the answer, we have found, we've.

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<v Speaker 3>Won the lot of a millionaire.

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<v Speaker 2>Really, Okay, I keep asking my mom for advice, as

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<v Speaker 2>my friends and I are all basically in the same boat.

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<v Speaker 2>But she always tells me I never give guys a chance.

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<v Speaker 2>It's really unfair because I do.

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<v Speaker 3>I do. I get to know them, I go.

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<v Speaker 2>On a minimum of two dates with them if I

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<v Speaker 2>feel like there's a chance, and I end things when

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<v Speaker 2>I when I know I'm not feeling it, and it

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<v Speaker 2>isn't fair to them. Any and all advice would be

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<v Speaker 2>much appreciated.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I think you're very fair giving them a sign.

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<v Speaker 3>It sounds to.

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<v Speaker 1>What is she doing wrong?

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not listen. I don't see a problem here, Marissa.

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<v Speaker 2>First of all, out there, Yeah, you're having a lot

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<v Speaker 2>more dates since Susan and I are combined. So let's

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<v Speaker 2>start with that.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll start there.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, the guys too forward? What the hell does

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<v Speaker 2>that mean? Too forward? Whatever?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, if his hands are all over you first,

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<v Speaker 1>stay like, slow down, big boy, I'm gonna have or

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<v Speaker 1>in my case, keep it coming. No, come on, seriously,

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm confused as to her question about what advice

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<v Speaker 1>does she want, Like, we can't control what's out there,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know what, it's all part of the game.

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<v Speaker 2>Unfortunately, I think she what I'm hearing is she's tired

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<v Speaker 2>of dating guys and either they're not into her or

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<v Speaker 2>she goes on dates like you and I do, and

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<v Speaker 2>we're watching the stop clock saying time to go.

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<v Speaker 3>And Marissa, the answer to that.

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<v Speaker 2>Is called dating. That like what you do, it's life

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<v Speaker 2>and when you meet the guy, you know it's going

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<v Speaker 2>to happen. Marissa, when you meet the guy that you

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<v Speaker 2>fall for and he falls for you, that clock is

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<v Speaker 2>going to stop. Time is going to stop, and all

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<v Speaker 2>of the rest of this is going to fall away.

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<v Speaker 2>So in my opinion, you are doing the right things

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<v Speaker 2>because every date you have you learn more about what

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<v Speaker 2>you're looking for and a guy. So keep those dates coming.

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<v Speaker 2>Throw them to the curb when it doesn't you know,

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<v Speaker 2>when they're well, don't throw them that's you know, but

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<v Speaker 2>politely say have a nice day.

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<v Speaker 3>And move on. I don't see a problem with this.

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<v Speaker 1>And as far as I'm concerned, this is a part

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<v Speaker 1>of life, and you could do what I did if

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<v Speaker 1>you like I got off all the dating sites. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>taking a sabbatical. Are you in a hiatus hiatusabatical?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>Whatever?

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<v Speaker 1>You and I because you know what, honey, I felt

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<v Speaker 1>the same exact way. And then I start feeling guilty

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<v Speaker 1>because a few men would really be interested and I wasn't.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's even harder when you have to say, well,

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<v Speaker 1>that's what she said. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And then like

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<v Speaker 1>Ketty said, you'll know, but maybe just take a break

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<v Speaker 1>from it all and just do.

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<v Speaker 2>You right, I mean I'd keep getting because that's how

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<v Speaker 2>she's going to find the guy.

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<v Speaker 3>But right, good luck, Marissa.

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<v Speaker 1>But let us know what happens.

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<v Speaker 3>Listen.

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<v Speaker 1>I bet you the best one will come next after this, I.

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<v Speaker 2>Know, Marissa, do us a favor. Ask them if their

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<v Speaker 2>dads and grandpas are married. If they aren't talking to

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<v Speaker 2>ride into the show. Thank you.

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<v Speaker 3>That was my past. That was my public service announcement

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<v Speaker 3>for the show.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, go carry on, okay, Charlee's right, hy Kathy

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<v Speaker 1>and Susan. I need some help with my little sister

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<v Speaker 1>for contacts. I'm twenty seven and she's nineteen. About six

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<v Speaker 1>months ago, she started dating a guy she works with

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<v Speaker 1>who's twenty six. She works at a restaurant part time

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<v Speaker 1>while she's in school. I know she's a smart girl

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<v Speaker 1>with a good head on her shoulders, but there are

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<v Speaker 1>some things in life that you just come to learn

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<v Speaker 1>with age, and age gaps like these are one of them.

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<v Speaker 1>They don't really have anything in common, and I remember

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<v Speaker 1>when they were just friends hanging out in the beginning,

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<v Speaker 1>she would make comments about how she felt bad that

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<v Speaker 1>he was obviously really into her. I really don't want

0:23:02.600 --> 0:23:06.200
<v Speaker 1>her to get trapped in a relationship she isn't into.

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<v Speaker 1>Breakups can already be so difficult, and they become even

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<v Speaker 1>harder when you're super inexperienced dating someone much more experience.

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<v Speaker 1>I trust that she's safe. Our family has met him,

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<v Speaker 1>and there are no causes for major concern. I just

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<v Speaker 1>feel like I can tell she's really unhappy because she's

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<v Speaker 1>not into him. But I don't want to come off

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<v Speaker 1>as a know it all big sister where all she

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<v Speaker 1>hears is just dump him. How do I talk to

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<v Speaker 1>her about this? This will be my first time mentioning

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<v Speaker 1>it as a serious conversation. I've made supportive comments whenever

0:23:45.280 --> 0:23:50.959
<v Speaker 1>she's casually mentioned him, encouraging her to not get sucked

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<v Speaker 1>into an exhausting relationship. But I feel it's time to

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<v Speaker 1>really seriously address this. I just don't want her to

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<v Speaker 1>miss out on the joys of or just being young

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<v Speaker 1>and single because she can't find a way out of this.

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<v Speaker 1>I could be wrong, but I need to know for sure. Charlie,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so grateful that you wrote that sentence. I could

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<v Speaker 1>be wrong, because you could be and you could be

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<v Speaker 1>asking all this for nothing. Well, I mean, all right,

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<v Speaker 1>the kid's nineteen, I think.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, listen, you, there is when you're nineteen, and

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<v Speaker 2>that's a seven year age difference. And I actually agree

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<v Speaker 2>with Charlie's at that age.

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<v Speaker 1>My parents did, that's for sure.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it's a it's a big age difference. It is.

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<v Speaker 2>However, However, just because this her sister said, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>she felt badly that he was obviously really into her

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<v Speaker 2>all those things. I mean, she may have changed her mind.

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<v Speaker 2>I think that you can talk to your sister. And again,

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<v Speaker 2>it's all in the way you approach a topic.

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<v Speaker 3>I love you, since I loved.

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<v Speaker 1>You, you said that. It's the approach, it's the yes.

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<v Speaker 3>It's there.

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<v Speaker 2>It's so you know, sit down with your sister, go

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<v Speaker 2>out for a coffee, go out for a glass of

0:25:10.240 --> 0:25:13.320
<v Speaker 2>wine away she can't drink legally yet, you know, sit

0:25:13.440 --> 0:25:16.240
<v Speaker 2>down and chit chat with her and say, if you

0:25:16.280 --> 0:25:19.480
<v Speaker 2>guys have a good relationship, you can tell her what

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<v Speaker 2>your concerns are. I think the big warning here is

0:25:23.000 --> 0:25:27.159
<v Speaker 2>be careful that you don't come across as I'm smarter

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<v Speaker 2>than you, I'm older than you, and I have all

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<v Speaker 2>the right answers because as.

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<v Speaker 1>You just said, you know it'd be wrong. Yeah you're not,

0:25:35.640 --> 0:25:40.760
<v Speaker 1>you know, as well as just say I'm worried about you, sis.

0:25:41.400 --> 0:25:44.960
<v Speaker 1>But the part that she's trying to avoid her sister,

0:25:45.040 --> 0:25:48.280
<v Speaker 1>to avoid to protect hers going through heartbreak. She has

0:25:48.400 --> 0:25:52.080
<v Speaker 1>to go through heartbreak to get past it. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't wish it on anybody. I can count how

0:25:54.880 --> 0:25:57.879
<v Speaker 1>many times I've cried my eyes out growing up, and

0:25:57.920 --> 0:26:00.399
<v Speaker 1>you think it's the end of the world. But she

0:26:00.600 --> 0:26:03.320
<v Speaker 1>does have to experience this right, And I love that

0:26:03.400 --> 0:26:04.600
<v Speaker 1>you love her that much.

0:26:04.840 --> 0:26:08.480
<v Speaker 2>But but you know what she I think Charlie says,

0:26:09.280 --> 0:26:12.400
<v Speaker 2>all her sister heres is just dump him. If Charlie said,

0:26:12.400 --> 0:26:17.159
<v Speaker 2>if that's all she's hearing, then modify your approach, change

0:26:17.160 --> 0:26:22.720
<v Speaker 2>your words and see if you can't get into a

0:26:22.760 --> 0:26:28.600
<v Speaker 2>better conversation about it and where she feels your love? Yeah,

0:26:28.680 --> 0:26:31.399
<v Speaker 2>love her, love her because you know what family is

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<v Speaker 2>so important?

0:26:32.640 --> 0:26:35.399
<v Speaker 1>It is it is and she's nineteen, so get ready

0:26:35.400 --> 0:26:38.920
<v Speaker 1>for anything. Yeah, but thank you for asking us, and

0:26:39.000 --> 0:26:40.440
<v Speaker 1>I wish you a ton of luck.

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<v Speaker 3>Good luck with your sister Charlie's Oh.

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<v Speaker 1>Your fair boy, Kathy. I hate this game. I never

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<v Speaker 1>do it way right.

0:26:49.480 --> 0:26:51.080
<v Speaker 3>It's time of going to play.

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<v Speaker 1>A game more quandary.

0:26:54.240 --> 0:26:55.480
<v Speaker 3>I love this game.

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<v Speaker 2>And as soon as Susan learns how to play it,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know, in the next six months or so, Uh,

0:27:00.880 --> 0:27:03.640
<v Speaker 2>it's going to be more fun. All right, we're gonna

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna give you the directions again, Susan, pay attention.

0:27:06.040 --> 0:27:08.360
<v Speaker 1>Now, I'm supposed to guess what you would do. Right.

0:27:08.359 --> 0:27:10.600
<v Speaker 3>Oh, there you go a for effort today.

0:27:10.960 --> 0:27:13.120
<v Speaker 2>All right, So we're gonna take turns of reading the quandary,

0:27:13.160 --> 0:27:17.280
<v Speaker 2>give our thoughts on what we think the other person

0:27:17.480 --> 0:27:17.840
<v Speaker 2>would do.

0:27:17.920 --> 0:27:19.600
<v Speaker 3>And I hear we I'm gonna give you the first one.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay.

0:27:20.480 --> 0:27:23.639
<v Speaker 2>You notice a former hookup, now now you know what

0:27:23.680 --> 0:27:24.359
<v Speaker 2>a hookup is?

0:27:24.520 --> 0:27:25.240
<v Speaker 1>Oh my god?

0:27:25.320 --> 0:27:29.160
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, all right, you notice a former hookup has been

0:27:29.320 --> 0:27:33.680
<v Speaker 2>liking your pictures and Instagram stories that are just of you.

0:27:34.040 --> 0:27:36.720
<v Speaker 3>When you go to his page, you see.

0:27:36.520 --> 0:27:39.920
<v Speaker 2>His girlfriend in a bunch of recent posts, so you're

0:27:39.960 --> 0:27:43.199
<v Speaker 2>able to find her page pretty quickly. Do you DM

0:27:43.280 --> 0:27:45.879
<v Speaker 2>her to tell her about what he's been doing? Or

0:27:45.960 --> 0:27:49.159
<v Speaker 2>keep it to yourself? Now, Susan, what would I do?

0:27:49.680 --> 0:27:52.399
<v Speaker 2>Would I DM? Would I DM her? Or would I

0:27:52.480 --> 0:27:56.959
<v Speaker 2>keep it to myself? Don't think too.

0:27:57.160 --> 0:27:58.640
<v Speaker 1>I don't think you would DM her.

0:27:59.040 --> 0:28:02.800
<v Speaker 3>You're so right, congratulations, I knew you.

0:28:03.200 --> 0:28:04.720
<v Speaker 1>Yes, How do you think I would either?

0:28:04.840 --> 0:28:06.960
<v Speaker 3>I was gonna say, Mike, no, I see you didn't

0:28:07.000 --> 0:28:07.600
<v Speaker 3>let me guess.

0:28:07.840 --> 0:28:10.000
<v Speaker 1>Oh, I got it half right.

0:28:10.280 --> 0:28:10.680
<v Speaker 3>Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>We're now six and a half months in Susan, still

0:28:13.359 --> 0:28:14.960
<v Speaker 2>learning the rule. No, no, no, five and a half.

0:28:15.000 --> 0:28:17.080
<v Speaker 2>I got half right. Okay, all right, I'll give it

0:28:17.080 --> 0:28:21.919
<v Speaker 2>to you. So, yeah, I would not. I mean, lots

0:28:21.960 --> 0:28:25.120
<v Speaker 2>of people like things. You know, we put too much

0:28:25.160 --> 0:28:28.400
<v Speaker 2>emphasis on someone clicking a like button. Get over it,

0:28:28.760 --> 0:28:30.800
<v Speaker 2>don't worry about it. Let them work out their life.

0:28:30.800 --> 0:28:33.000
<v Speaker 2>You live your life, let them live there, then move on.

0:28:33.359 --> 0:28:36.920
<v Speaker 1>I mean, he's not asking you out formally, he's liking something.

0:28:37.200 --> 0:28:40.360
<v Speaker 1>I obviously liked you because you hooked up, so let

0:28:40.360 --> 0:28:43.520
<v Speaker 1>it go. Yeah, yeah, all right, go all right. You

0:28:43.600 --> 0:28:46.040
<v Speaker 1>and your best friend are at him watching a movie

0:28:46.040 --> 0:28:48.600
<v Speaker 1>together with both of your boyfriends.

0:28:48.760 --> 0:28:50.920
<v Speaker 3>Oh, Susan, this sounds so much fun. Let's do it.

0:28:51.480 --> 0:28:55.680
<v Speaker 1>She is notoriously a talker during movies, but it's never

0:28:55.760 --> 0:28:59.480
<v Speaker 1>bothered you. You always just answer her questions if she

0:28:59.600 --> 0:29:03.280
<v Speaker 1>hasn't or don't even really notice if she just has

0:29:03.320 --> 0:29:07.600
<v Speaker 1>an audible reaction. Suddenly you realize your boyfriend is getting

0:29:07.720 --> 0:29:11.240
<v Speaker 1>seriously irritated by it. How do you proceed?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I I can't tell you. After I tell you

0:29:16.000 --> 0:29:18.160
<v Speaker 2>you then I'm going to tell you a funny little story.

0:29:19.000 --> 0:29:24.520
<v Speaker 2>I think you would say, Kathy, shut the hell I

0:29:24.600 --> 0:29:28.560
<v Speaker 2>was gonna say, at the freaking movie, Kat, that's what

0:29:28.640 --> 0:29:33.040
<v Speaker 2>you would do? I would I would probably do something.

0:29:35.840 --> 0:29:36.360
<v Speaker 1>Yes with you?

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<v Speaker 3>Five months?

0:29:38.240 --> 0:29:38.680
<v Speaker 1>What would you?

0:29:38.720 --> 0:29:39.280
<v Speaker 3>What would I do?

0:29:39.520 --> 0:29:42.680
<v Speaker 1>Gaming? I'm gaining now you're doing the absolutely same thing.

0:29:42.760 --> 0:29:46.200
<v Speaker 1>Because if you guys are friends, it's annoying when somebody

0:29:46.240 --> 0:29:49.360
<v Speaker 1>talks through a movie. My best friends, Kathy, you're gonna

0:29:49.400 --> 0:29:51.120
<v Speaker 1>meet them, are gonna go to CALLI and see them?

0:29:51.240 --> 0:29:52.800
<v Speaker 1>My Italians from Middle Andrew.

0:29:52.920 --> 0:29:54.640
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, Angelo talks to it.

0:29:54.720 --> 0:29:59.280
<v Speaker 1>He explains the entire movie to me, and his wife's like, aunt,

0:29:59.360 --> 0:30:02.920
<v Speaker 1>stop answered, I go, and I can't follow the movie

0:30:02.920 --> 0:30:03.920
<v Speaker 1>and keep talking.

0:30:05.400 --> 0:30:08.080
<v Speaker 2>Exactly I used to. I used to do this with

0:30:08.200 --> 0:30:11.400
<v Speaker 2>my husband. I used to ask questions and he would

0:30:11.400 --> 0:30:13.239
<v Speaker 2>answer the same thing. He would answer them, and he did.

0:30:13.520 --> 0:30:15.560
<v Speaker 2>And one day he looked at me, goes, could you

0:30:15.760 --> 0:30:17.760
<v Speaker 2>just save your questions till the end of the movie,

0:30:17.880 --> 0:30:20.479
<v Speaker 2>because I promise you most of the questions are going

0:30:20.520 --> 0:30:23.600
<v Speaker 2>to get answered if you just watch the movie. So

0:30:23.720 --> 0:30:28.080
<v Speaker 2>I stopped. You know, zip it, I'm telling you, zipp

0:30:28.080 --> 0:30:31.400
<v Speaker 2>it works in so many occasions. I'm like, I'm telling it.

0:30:32.040 --> 0:30:35.960
<v Speaker 2>I was smart when I said that. Okay, here we go.

0:30:37.200 --> 0:30:41.640
<v Speaker 2>During the night out, a stranger is being incredibly rude

0:30:41.680 --> 0:30:44.280
<v Speaker 2>to your group as a whole. Three of your friends

0:30:44.320 --> 0:30:47.440
<v Speaker 2>decide to stand up for you all and the strangers

0:30:47.520 --> 0:30:50.280
<v Speaker 2>being nothing but rude back You don't see what the

0:30:50.280 --> 0:30:53.000
<v Speaker 2>big deal is, but no one on either side is

0:30:53.080 --> 0:30:56.200
<v Speaker 2>backing down. Do you apologize on be off of your friends,

0:30:56.520 --> 0:30:58.800
<v Speaker 2>let them handle it, or proceed another way?

0:30:58.920 --> 0:31:02.480
<v Speaker 3>What would I do? And I bet you don't get this.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, During a night out, a stranger is being rude

0:31:06.800 --> 0:31:09.920
<v Speaker 1>to your whole group. Right, three of your friends decide

0:31:09.960 --> 0:31:10.720
<v Speaker 1>to stand up.

0:31:11.200 --> 0:31:13.200
<v Speaker 3>So basically there's an altercation here.

0:31:13.320 --> 0:31:16.840
<v Speaker 2>You got three friends telling this guy off who continues

0:31:16.920 --> 0:31:17.520
<v Speaker 2>to be rude.

0:31:18.120 --> 0:31:21.000
<v Speaker 1>Now, oh, no, back exactly what you do?

0:31:21.240 --> 0:31:21.680
<v Speaker 3>Oh really?

0:31:21.760 --> 0:31:25.160
<v Speaker 1>You would not apologize you You would say, dude, you're

0:31:25.200 --> 0:31:26.760
<v Speaker 1>being rude. They're right, move on.

0:31:28.040 --> 0:31:30.400
<v Speaker 2>No, for all of you out there, I am shaking

0:31:30.440 --> 0:31:32.680
<v Speaker 2>my head. You know what, I would really do? What

0:31:33.800 --> 0:31:34.560
<v Speaker 2>you've forgotten?

0:31:34.920 --> 0:31:35.560
<v Speaker 3>Believe it or not.

0:31:35.720 --> 0:31:39.240
<v Speaker 2>Bachelor of Nation won't believe this either. I run from altercation.

0:31:39.640 --> 0:31:42.000
<v Speaker 2>I would turn around and walk away and wait for

0:31:42.040 --> 0:31:43.320
<v Speaker 2>you a'll to finish.

0:31:43.360 --> 0:31:44.120
<v Speaker 1>That's exactly.

0:31:44.480 --> 0:31:47.160
<v Speaker 2>And I think you were back to five and a

0:31:47.160 --> 0:31:51.240
<v Speaker 2>half months, you would absolutely jump in there and say,

0:31:51.280 --> 0:31:55.000
<v Speaker 2>what the hell, shut up, leave my friends alone, get

0:31:55.000 --> 0:31:55.640
<v Speaker 2>over yourself.

0:31:55.680 --> 0:31:58.120
<v Speaker 1>You would you take about no, No, I do it

0:31:58.280 --> 0:32:00.120
<v Speaker 1>kindly though, trust.

0:32:00.080 --> 0:32:03.240
<v Speaker 2>Well, No, you'd be kind, but you would say you'd

0:32:03.280 --> 0:32:05.200
<v Speaker 2>get the point across that you'd had all the fun

0:32:05.240 --> 0:32:07.760
<v Speaker 2>you could handle and he needed to back off.

0:32:08.080 --> 0:32:11.000
<v Speaker 1>Do you do this every day to everybody? Do you

0:32:11.000 --> 0:32:16.080
<v Speaker 1>think that's attractive? I'm sorry now, I just we don't

0:32:16.120 --> 0:32:16.920
<v Speaker 1>have time for you.

0:32:16.920 --> 0:32:19.800
<v Speaker 2>You know, it's like having a political conversation. You're never

0:32:19.840 --> 0:32:22.720
<v Speaker 2>going to get that person to agree with you. Alrighty okay.

0:32:22.800 --> 0:32:26.560
<v Speaker 1>You have a friend that always posts terrible pictures of

0:32:26.600 --> 0:32:29.920
<v Speaker 1>the two of you where only she looks really good.

0:32:30.160 --> 0:32:34.560
<v Speaker 1>For your birthday, she posted one that you explicitly asked

0:32:34.600 --> 0:32:38.200
<v Speaker 1>her to delete when it was taken. Do you confront

0:32:38.240 --> 0:32:40.880
<v Speaker 1>her about this? Get even or let it go?

0:32:41.520 --> 0:32:44.880
<v Speaker 3>So Susan, this is so easy, so easy.

0:32:45.200 --> 0:32:47.920
<v Speaker 2>If you if I did this and posted a picture

0:32:47.960 --> 0:32:52.440
<v Speaker 2>of you, yeah, yeah, couldn't let me say it, you'd

0:32:52.560 --> 0:32:55.400
<v Speaker 2>kill me. You would say, I told you not to

0:32:55.480 --> 0:32:57.640
<v Speaker 2>post that picture. I'm coming after you.

0:32:58.000 --> 0:32:59.880
<v Speaker 3>I would say I'm so sorry, and I would delete it.

0:33:01.320 --> 0:33:02.360
<v Speaker 1>And what would you do?

0:33:02.560 --> 0:33:04.920
<v Speaker 3>Cat, I don't know you're gonna tell me? What would

0:33:04.960 --> 0:33:05.240
<v Speaker 3>I do?

0:33:05.640 --> 0:33:07.960
<v Speaker 1>You'd say, Susan, really you had to pick that one,

0:33:08.000 --> 0:33:09.560
<v Speaker 1>didn't I tell you to delete that one?

0:33:10.120 --> 0:33:12.080
<v Speaker 3>And you would do the same thing. You would say,

0:33:12.080 --> 0:33:13.600
<v Speaker 3>I'm really sorry, I'll delete it.

0:33:13.680 --> 0:33:16.080
<v Speaker 1>Because you know if you told me you hated that picture,

0:33:16.120 --> 0:33:16.840
<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't have posted.

0:33:16.920 --> 0:33:18.640
<v Speaker 3>Well, I wouldn't have either. I wouldn't have either.

0:33:18.880 --> 0:33:21.719
<v Speaker 2>And you know what, if it's really a good friend,

0:33:22.640 --> 0:33:23.600
<v Speaker 2>I'd cut you out of it.

0:33:23.640 --> 0:33:25.560
<v Speaker 1>If I look that good, I just cut you out

0:33:25.600 --> 0:33:26.320
<v Speaker 1>and post it to me.

0:33:27.480 --> 0:33:30.440
<v Speaker 2>First, she'd blow it up, make it life size, put

0:33:30.440 --> 0:33:33.080
<v Speaker 2>it on poster board, and put along. She put it

0:33:33.080 --> 0:33:38.600
<v Speaker 2>in times square, and then all right, you're pet sitting

0:33:38.720 --> 0:33:41.920
<v Speaker 2>your friend's cat. Oh, this will be right at my alley.

0:33:42.280 --> 0:33:46.280
<v Speaker 2>You're pet sitting your friend's cat while they're away for

0:33:46.360 --> 0:33:48.800
<v Speaker 2>a few weeks, and you noticed the cat is constantly

0:33:48.880 --> 0:33:51.920
<v Speaker 2>being overfed? Do you mention this to your friend? Change

0:33:51.920 --> 0:33:54.920
<v Speaker 2>the cat's diet without telling her, or keep proceeding as

0:33:54.960 --> 0:33:57.040
<v Speaker 2>you were instructed to by your friend.

0:34:00.360 --> 0:34:01.240
<v Speaker 1>You have cats?

0:34:01.600 --> 0:34:02.280
<v Speaker 3>I have cats.

0:34:02.760 --> 0:34:04.520
<v Speaker 1>Are you going to try to change the diet? Are

0:34:04.560 --> 0:34:06.520
<v Speaker 1>you going to talk to your friend that you feel

0:34:06.520 --> 0:34:10.320
<v Speaker 1>like they're being overfed? You would do that. I think

0:34:11.080 --> 0:34:13.240
<v Speaker 1>I would do what you would talk to your friend

0:34:13.280 --> 0:34:15.720
<v Speaker 1>when they got back. You keep the schedule and say listen,

0:34:16.080 --> 0:34:18.560
<v Speaker 1>I own cats too, and I feel like you're overfeeding

0:34:20.360 --> 0:34:22.160
<v Speaker 1>right now? Mind your own business.

0:34:22.320 --> 0:34:22.520
<v Speaker 3>Mind.

0:34:22.800 --> 0:34:24.600
<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't say a damn thing. First of all, I

0:34:24.640 --> 0:34:25.160
<v Speaker 1>would cats.

0:34:25.760 --> 0:34:28.239
<v Speaker 3>I would you would for me? Would you for me?

0:34:28.480 --> 0:34:30.640
<v Speaker 1>I do anything for you? Cat? God, you're annoying.

0:34:32.000 --> 0:34:33.000
<v Speaker 3>I love you.

0:34:33.600 --> 0:34:35.640
<v Speaker 2>I cleaned your pool for you, as.

0:34:37.920 --> 0:34:39.040
<v Speaker 3>Long as it comes with a cabana.

0:34:39.080 --> 0:34:42.359
<v Speaker 2>Boy, do you mention I would I would never mention

0:34:42.440 --> 0:34:44.520
<v Speaker 2>that to you. I would it's your cat, it's your dog,

0:34:44.680 --> 0:34:48.239
<v Speaker 2>all right, exactly. I don't think you do anymore. All right,

0:34:48.640 --> 0:34:52.680
<v Speaker 2>that doesn't for another episode of Bachelor or Happy Hours

0:34:52.719 --> 0:34:53.200
<v Speaker 2>Golden Hour.

0:34:53.280 --> 0:34:54.600
<v Speaker 3>We've had so much fun.

0:34:55.239 --> 0:34:57.920
<v Speaker 2>Thank you to all our listeners for joining in and

0:34:57.960 --> 0:34:59.440
<v Speaker 2>sending us such great questions.

0:34:59.440 --> 0:35:01.560
<v Speaker 3>We hope we have you today, Kathy.

0:35:01.600 --> 0:35:03.279
<v Speaker 1>We had so many questions today we didn't get to

0:35:03.280 --> 0:35:05.480
<v Speaker 1>talk about us. I mean, sometimes we got to talk

0:35:05.480 --> 0:35:07.960
<v Speaker 1>about what we're doing in life. So next time we're

0:35:07.960 --> 0:35:10.160
<v Speaker 1>going to squeeze that in. But I do want to

0:35:10.200 --> 0:35:13.040
<v Speaker 1>thank everybody for listening and make sure to follow us

0:35:13.320 --> 0:35:16.080
<v Speaker 1>at Bachelor Happy Hour as we have new episodes coming

0:35:16.080 --> 0:35:19.120
<v Speaker 1>out every week and you might hear us talk about

0:35:19.160 --> 0:35:20.200
<v Speaker 1>our own lives.

0:35:20.239 --> 0:35:22.279
<v Speaker 2>Really if we can out and get a chance. But

0:35:22.520 --> 0:35:25.960
<v Speaker 2>also we love getting your questions. We love answering them.

0:35:26.160 --> 0:35:28.120
<v Speaker 2>You know, Susan, you and I have talked about this.

0:35:28.239 --> 0:35:30.880
<v Speaker 2>People have stopped us on the street. I had someone

0:35:30.880 --> 0:35:33.160
<v Speaker 2>on the airplane stop me, believe it or not, that

0:35:33.200 --> 0:35:36.160
<v Speaker 2>we'd answered their question and they said, you really haven't

0:35:36.160 --> 0:35:39.320
<v Speaker 2>been awesome. I loved it. So keep those questions coming.

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<v Speaker 2>All you have to do is go to bachelornation dot

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0:35:46.520 --> 0:35:48.560
<v Speaker 2>on social at Bachelor Happy Hour.

0:35:48.719 --> 0:35:49.880
<v Speaker 3>We really want to hear from you.

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<v Speaker 1>Absolutely, listen to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour on the

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<v Speaker 2>Mm hmm