1 00:00:02,279 --> 00:00:07,440 Speaker 1: Welcome everyone to your Sunday morning run. It's Sunday, October fifth, 2 00:00:07,480 --> 00:00:10,239 Speaker 1: and this is the morning where we go over our 3 00:00:10,360 --> 00:00:13,040 Speaker 1: quotes of the week, hopefully getting you a little inspired 4 00:00:13,080 --> 00:00:16,079 Speaker 1: and certainly maybe getting your headspace in the right place 5 00:00:16,160 --> 00:00:19,320 Speaker 1: as you start your work week. And so we will 6 00:00:19,400 --> 00:00:22,200 Speaker 1: begin with our quote. And I love this because it 7 00:00:22,280 --> 00:00:24,520 Speaker 1: is Breast Cancer Awareness month. In case any of you 8 00:00:24,600 --> 00:00:27,720 Speaker 1: haven't heard, this comes to us from a breast cancer survivor. 9 00:00:27,760 --> 00:00:30,640 Speaker 1: And I say that because her quote comes from hard 10 00:00:30,680 --> 00:00:33,280 Speaker 1: earned wisdom. This is from Regina Brett. She's an American 11 00:00:33,320 --> 00:00:38,560 Speaker 1: author and a survivor. And Thriver burn the candles, use 12 00:00:38,680 --> 00:00:42,760 Speaker 1: the nice sheets where the fancy lingerie, don't save it 13 00:00:42,800 --> 00:00:46,600 Speaker 1: for a special occasion. Today is special. 14 00:00:46,920 --> 00:00:51,960 Speaker 2: Yeah, spoken like someone who thought her life might not continue, 15 00:00:52,240 --> 00:00:55,360 Speaker 2: spoken like someone who has an experience, a life and 16 00:00:55,400 --> 00:00:59,440 Speaker 2: a lived experience. It takes something sometimes, this disease, surviving 17 00:00:59,480 --> 00:01:01,480 Speaker 2: an accident, where people start to look at the world 18 00:01:01,560 --> 00:01:06,160 Speaker 2: and look at life differently. And why why wait till tomorrow? 19 00:01:06,160 --> 00:01:10,200 Speaker 2: I've done this as silly as it sounds with clothes, 20 00:01:11,040 --> 00:01:13,480 Speaker 2: it sounds so stupid, But I'll look as that. Oh, 21 00:01:13,520 --> 00:01:15,959 Speaker 2: I'll save that for when da da da da. I'm 22 00:01:16,000 --> 00:01:18,760 Speaker 2: doing something that I just put it on. I know 23 00:01:18,840 --> 00:01:20,600 Speaker 2: it's a weird little thing to compare it to, but yeah, 24 00:01:20,640 --> 00:01:22,679 Speaker 2: I think about that sentiment often. 25 00:01:22,920 --> 00:01:27,120 Speaker 1: I always think of this when it comes to fine wine, age, whatever. 26 00:01:27,160 --> 00:01:30,280 Speaker 1: We're waiting for that special occasion to pop the champagne 27 00:01:30,440 --> 00:01:34,480 Speaker 1: or to pour that wine we've been saving for someone 28 00:01:34,640 --> 00:01:38,640 Speaker 1: or some other occasion down the road. It's just a reminder, Yeah, 29 00:01:38,680 --> 00:01:42,440 Speaker 1: wear the outfit, drink the wine, you. 30 00:01:42,360 --> 00:01:43,800 Speaker 3: Know, enjoy your life. 31 00:01:44,760 --> 00:01:47,199 Speaker 1: Call your mom, like, do the things that you're putting 32 00:01:47,200 --> 00:01:48,960 Speaker 1: off that you think I'll wait and do that later. 33 00:01:49,360 --> 00:01:52,080 Speaker 1: You just don't know what tomorrow brings. So I just 34 00:01:52,120 --> 00:01:54,640 Speaker 1: think it's such a good reminder. And yes, burning candles, 35 00:01:54,680 --> 00:01:56,280 Speaker 1: we do that too. We save the candle. I don't 36 00:01:56,280 --> 00:01:56,960 Speaker 1: want to burn it all. 37 00:01:57,160 --> 00:01:58,040 Speaker 3: It smells so good. 38 00:01:58,120 --> 00:01:59,640 Speaker 1: I want to save it for when people are over, 39 00:01:59,800 --> 00:02:01,280 Speaker 1: when someone else can enjoy it. 40 00:02:01,600 --> 00:02:03,720 Speaker 3: Now, burn the candle and then buy another one if 41 00:02:03,760 --> 00:02:04,000 Speaker 3: you can. 42 00:02:04,120 --> 00:02:06,480 Speaker 1: You know, just we actually got into a subscribe and 43 00:02:06,520 --> 00:02:08,600 Speaker 1: save thing with our candles so that we don't feel 44 00:02:08,639 --> 00:02:11,120 Speaker 1: guilty about burning our candles. But I feel like that's 45 00:02:11,120 --> 00:02:13,880 Speaker 1: a universal feeling. People are trying to not waste and 46 00:02:14,160 --> 00:02:17,239 Speaker 1: save it for a rainy day, but today's the day. 47 00:02:17,440 --> 00:02:19,760 Speaker 2: What's the light the sideways? Right? Is that the movie? Yes, 48 00:02:19,880 --> 00:02:23,440 Speaker 2: about the wine? Where what's his name? Paul? Is it 49 00:02:23,480 --> 00:02:27,480 Speaker 2: Paul Giomanni Geamoni? That line about the wine. He said, 50 00:02:28,320 --> 00:02:31,880 Speaker 2: everybody's waiting for a special occasion to open this bottle 51 00:02:31,880 --> 00:02:36,239 Speaker 2: of line opening. It is the special occasion. I love 52 00:02:36,280 --> 00:02:38,200 Speaker 2: that he has a line in there. Always remember that's 53 00:02:38,280 --> 00:02:38,639 Speaker 2: very cool. 54 00:02:38,639 --> 00:02:42,560 Speaker 1: So Regina Brett says, this, burn the candles, use the 55 00:02:42,680 --> 00:02:46,560 Speaker 1: nice sheets, wear the fancy laingerie, don't save it for 56 00:02:46,639 --> 00:02:50,560 Speaker 1: a special occasion. Today is special, all right. Our next 57 00:02:50,639 --> 00:02:52,880 Speaker 1: quote comes to us from the author of Seven Habits 58 00:02:52,880 --> 00:02:55,160 Speaker 1: of Highly Effective People. Many of you may have read 59 00:02:55,160 --> 00:02:57,519 Speaker 1: that book. If you haven't, it's excellent. I haven't picked 60 00:02:57,560 --> 00:02:59,360 Speaker 1: it up in a long, long, long, long time, but 61 00:02:59,360 --> 00:03:02,160 Speaker 1: it's by Steven and I love. 62 00:03:02,240 --> 00:03:04,839 Speaker 3: We actually used this quote in our morning run. 63 00:03:04,880 --> 00:03:06,760 Speaker 1: I think the following day with the news story that 64 00:03:06,840 --> 00:03:08,960 Speaker 1: was a clear example of this. But here's what he 65 00:03:09,000 --> 00:03:12,400 Speaker 1: had to say. You can learn great things from your 66 00:03:12,440 --> 00:03:15,440 Speaker 1: mistakes when you aren't busy denying them. 67 00:03:15,720 --> 00:03:18,840 Speaker 2: That was the lady with the who took the headband 68 00:03:18,880 --> 00:03:20,400 Speaker 2: from the kid at the football game. 69 00:03:20,639 --> 00:03:23,480 Speaker 1: She denied, she denied, she denied, and then she had 70 00:03:23,480 --> 00:03:27,000 Speaker 1: to put up a second post saying oopsie, I'm sorry. 71 00:03:27,639 --> 00:03:31,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's step one. Everybody listening right now has somebody 72 00:03:31,560 --> 00:03:35,240 Speaker 2: they can immediately think of in their lives that just 73 00:03:35,520 --> 00:03:39,240 Speaker 2: won't change because they won't admit that they are the 74 00:03:39,320 --> 00:03:42,000 Speaker 2: problem or admit that they were wrong. Or you can't 75 00:03:42,040 --> 00:03:45,960 Speaker 2: ever move on from that. You can't move you can't. So, yeah, 76 00:03:46,000 --> 00:03:47,120 Speaker 2: you gotta get out of your own way. 77 00:03:47,200 --> 00:03:49,520 Speaker 1: It's our ego, it's our pride, and we're so And 78 00:03:49,600 --> 00:03:51,280 Speaker 1: I get this. It's a human thing to want to 79 00:03:51,320 --> 00:03:54,560 Speaker 1: defend yourself immediately, and by defending yourself, you're denying the 80 00:03:54,600 --> 00:03:56,760 Speaker 1: harm you caused. You're denying the mistake you made. But 81 00:03:56,760 --> 00:03:59,200 Speaker 1: if you actually really can take a beat, take a 82 00:03:59,280 --> 00:04:02,000 Speaker 1: break before you launch into that, which I've really I've 83 00:04:02,040 --> 00:04:06,560 Speaker 1: personally been working on this and say, wait, deep breath, 84 00:04:06,880 --> 00:04:10,400 Speaker 1: and then learn from the mistakes you made. 85 00:04:10,480 --> 00:04:10,720 Speaker 3: First. 86 00:04:10,760 --> 00:04:12,400 Speaker 1: You have to admit you made the mistake before you 87 00:04:12,440 --> 00:04:14,920 Speaker 1: can learn from it. And that's the hardest part, isn't it. 88 00:04:15,000 --> 00:04:15,800 Speaker 3: So I love this. 89 00:04:15,880 --> 00:04:18,720 Speaker 1: You can learn great things from your mistakes when you 90 00:04:18,800 --> 00:04:23,200 Speaker 1: aren't busy denying them. All right, Our next quote of 91 00:04:23,240 --> 00:04:26,800 Speaker 1: the day is just a reminder. And this is when 92 00:04:26,839 --> 00:04:31,160 Speaker 1: I actually would love to just put on my nightstand. 93 00:04:31,800 --> 00:04:34,640 Speaker 1: No matter how good or bad you have it, wake 94 00:04:34,760 --> 00:04:38,799 Speaker 1: up each day thankful for your life. Someone somewhere else 95 00:04:39,279 --> 00:04:42,440 Speaker 1: is desperately fighting for theirs. Who was this again, this 96 00:04:42,520 --> 00:04:45,640 Speaker 1: didn't have anyone attached to it. This is something sometimes 97 00:04:45,680 --> 00:04:48,320 Speaker 1: I find quotes that are just circulating on social media. 98 00:04:48,440 --> 00:04:50,560 Speaker 1: People put them up and there's no attribution. I think 99 00:04:50,600 --> 00:04:52,520 Speaker 1: a lot of folks have said different versions of this, 100 00:04:53,080 --> 00:04:56,240 Speaker 1: But the way this one was phrased, I really appreciated. 101 00:04:56,600 --> 00:04:59,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, I like that one. I mean, we talked about 102 00:04:59,440 --> 00:05:03,279 Speaker 2: this time last week when it was in the morning. 103 00:05:03,360 --> 00:05:06,479 Speaker 2: Run this idea of comparative suffering, all right, this idea 104 00:05:06,560 --> 00:05:09,400 Speaker 2: that somebody has it worse than you or whatever it 105 00:05:09,440 --> 00:05:13,280 Speaker 2: may be. I don't subscribe to that. But this quote, 106 00:05:13,600 --> 00:05:16,080 Speaker 2: and at least the way they put it, is just 107 00:05:16,160 --> 00:05:18,080 Speaker 2: more about gratitude than comparison. 108 00:05:18,120 --> 00:05:18,800 Speaker 3: I think it's more. 109 00:05:18,760 --> 00:05:20,599 Speaker 1: About gratitude and about perspective. 110 00:05:20,640 --> 00:05:20,800 Speaker 2: You know. 111 00:05:20,880 --> 00:05:23,680 Speaker 1: Sometimes, yes, we don't want to not acknowledge how we're 112 00:05:23,680 --> 00:05:26,839 Speaker 1: feeling and not acknowledge some of the sadness or disappointments 113 00:05:26,880 --> 00:05:28,640 Speaker 1: that we've had in our lives. So that's important, I 114 00:05:28,680 --> 00:05:33,200 Speaker 1: think to process and to cycle through. But to dismiss 115 00:05:33,240 --> 00:05:35,159 Speaker 1: how you're feeling and just say, well, someone has it worse. 116 00:05:35,480 --> 00:05:37,880 Speaker 1: That's usually not effective and not helpful. 117 00:05:37,480 --> 00:05:38,039 Speaker 3: In any way. 118 00:05:38,080 --> 00:05:40,560 Speaker 1: But this is when you first wake up. 119 00:05:40,680 --> 00:05:42,240 Speaker 3: When you first wake up, you. 120 00:05:42,160 --> 00:05:44,640 Speaker 1: Can set the tone for your entire day if you 121 00:05:44,760 --> 00:05:48,039 Speaker 1: keep this perspective in mind, no matter how good or 122 00:05:48,279 --> 00:05:51,240 Speaker 1: bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for 123 00:05:51,320 --> 00:05:55,919 Speaker 1: your life. Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs. 124 00:05:56,440 --> 00:05:57,320 Speaker 3: Love that all right. 125 00:05:57,360 --> 00:06:00,680 Speaker 1: This one also isn't attributed to anyone specifically, but. 126 00:06:02,240 --> 00:06:03,880 Speaker 3: We actually talked about this as. 127 00:06:03,800 --> 00:06:05,800 Speaker 1: We We've been doing a lot of travel lately, and 128 00:06:05,839 --> 00:06:08,520 Speaker 1: we're lucky and I'm grateful to be able to do so, 129 00:06:08,880 --> 00:06:12,479 Speaker 1: to see family, friends and football. But it can get 130 00:06:13,120 --> 00:06:16,760 Speaker 1: messy and complicated and stressful. So I loved this quote. 131 00:06:16,839 --> 00:06:17,279 Speaker 2: It can. 132 00:06:17,520 --> 00:06:21,200 Speaker 1: It does almost always stressed well. I think, yes, when 133 00:06:21,240 --> 00:06:22,960 Speaker 1: you're trying to make sure you've got everything you need 134 00:06:23,000 --> 00:06:25,440 Speaker 1: and you get to the airport on time, the lines, 135 00:06:25,480 --> 00:06:27,679 Speaker 1: like you know, we just get we get bogged down 136 00:06:27,720 --> 00:06:31,240 Speaker 1: in the messiness of life and wanting things to be easier. 137 00:06:31,360 --> 00:06:33,120 Speaker 2: I thought you're talking about the family stress. 138 00:06:33,200 --> 00:06:35,000 Speaker 1: Oh no, that's the fun part. 139 00:06:35,279 --> 00:06:35,679 Speaker 3: Arriving. 140 00:06:35,920 --> 00:06:38,120 Speaker 1: Just getting there is the hard part sometimes, but just 141 00:06:38,240 --> 00:06:40,880 Speaker 1: in general, throughout your day there are all sorts of 142 00:06:41,160 --> 00:06:44,640 Speaker 1: little annoying hiccups, and we have this feeling that somehow 143 00:06:44,720 --> 00:06:45,320 Speaker 1: it's not fair. 144 00:06:45,440 --> 00:06:46,920 Speaker 3: Right, So I love this quote. 145 00:06:47,440 --> 00:06:50,840 Speaker 1: The minute you stop expecting life to be simple, fair 146 00:06:50,880 --> 00:06:54,920 Speaker 1: and easy, it becomes simple, fair and easy. 147 00:06:56,520 --> 00:06:57,719 Speaker 2: I can't lie be simple. 148 00:07:00,200 --> 00:07:03,680 Speaker 1: You stop expecting it to be, then you have an acceptance, 149 00:07:03,760 --> 00:07:05,039 Speaker 1: and then it does become that. 150 00:07:05,240 --> 00:07:08,240 Speaker 2: Oh sweart that that terrain left a long time ago. 151 00:07:08,320 --> 00:07:11,320 Speaker 2: Any hope I had of having a simple life, Oh no, no, no, no, no, 152 00:07:11,920 --> 00:07:15,440 Speaker 2: I wish that could be the case. But no, man, 153 00:07:15,600 --> 00:07:17,800 Speaker 2: think back, to think back to all the parts of 154 00:07:17,840 --> 00:07:19,920 Speaker 2: your life you're most proud of. It probably wasn't a 155 00:07:19,960 --> 00:07:20,600 Speaker 2: simple time. 156 00:07:20,880 --> 00:07:23,000 Speaker 3: No cool, No, it's that's so true. 157 00:07:23,000 --> 00:07:24,920 Speaker 1: And look your mom my mom told me growing up 158 00:07:25,320 --> 00:07:27,760 Speaker 1: life isn't fair, like get used to it. That was 159 00:07:27,880 --> 00:07:30,960 Speaker 1: something that I heard repeatedly as a child. And so 160 00:07:31,040 --> 00:07:33,320 Speaker 1: once you kind of get to that place of acceptance 161 00:07:33,360 --> 00:07:37,600 Speaker 1: where things are complex, things are unjust, and they're difficult. 162 00:07:37,800 --> 00:07:39,360 Speaker 2: My parents didn't have to have that talk with me. 163 00:07:43,160 --> 00:07:45,080 Speaker 3: I understood comparative suffering. 164 00:07:45,640 --> 00:07:49,840 Speaker 2: I understood. I'll compare on this one. I'll play the race, 165 00:07:49,880 --> 00:07:50,560 Speaker 2: gud it's fair. 166 00:07:50,800 --> 00:07:51,680 Speaker 3: No, But I get that. 167 00:07:51,840 --> 00:07:54,160 Speaker 1: And it is one of those lessons that there is 168 00:07:54,200 --> 00:07:57,080 Speaker 1: an expectation some for some people more than others, that 169 00:07:57,160 --> 00:07:59,400 Speaker 1: it should be different, that it should be this way, 170 00:07:59,640 --> 00:08:01,520 Speaker 1: and that's that's not the point of life. The point 171 00:08:01,560 --> 00:08:03,160 Speaker 1: of life is to learn and to love. And you 172 00:08:03,200 --> 00:08:06,400 Speaker 1: don't learn and you don't really understand love until you've 173 00:08:06,400 --> 00:08:09,080 Speaker 1: gone through the tough times. I just, I truly believe that. 174 00:08:09,480 --> 00:08:12,960 Speaker 1: So the minute you stop expecting life to be simple, 175 00:08:13,000 --> 00:08:17,440 Speaker 1: fair and easy, it becomes simple, fair and easy, all right. 176 00:08:19,160 --> 00:08:22,440 Speaker 1: I on Friday loved this one for you, TJ, because 177 00:08:22,440 --> 00:08:24,560 Speaker 1: this sounds like something you would say, and then when 178 00:08:24,560 --> 00:08:26,360 Speaker 1: you found out who said it, it made a lot 179 00:08:26,400 --> 00:08:31,040 Speaker 1: of sense. US Army General Gordon R. Sullivan said this, 180 00:08:32,120 --> 00:08:34,240 Speaker 1: Hope is not a strategy. 181 00:08:35,920 --> 00:08:36,319 Speaker 2: I get that. 182 00:08:37,760 --> 00:08:37,920 Speaker 3: Oh. 183 00:08:38,400 --> 00:08:42,120 Speaker 2: I hope it works out, really, Ah, I just hope. 184 00:08:42,480 --> 00:08:47,480 Speaker 2: I don't know. Hope should be kind of the side dish. 185 00:08:47,600 --> 00:08:47,760 Speaker 1: Right. 186 00:08:48,360 --> 00:08:51,560 Speaker 2: I'll take this with a side of hope. But it's 187 00:08:51,559 --> 00:08:53,240 Speaker 2: got to be some hard work. It's got to be 188 00:08:53,320 --> 00:08:56,160 Speaker 2: some focus, it's got to be something a plan even 189 00:08:56,679 --> 00:09:00,760 Speaker 2: instead of just hope. It sounds like something in general would. 190 00:09:00,600 --> 00:09:03,800 Speaker 1: Say, right, because look, I love the idea of hope. 191 00:09:03,840 --> 00:09:05,600 Speaker 1: I think we need hope in our lives. I think 192 00:09:05,640 --> 00:09:08,560 Speaker 1: losing hope is probably one of the bleakest experiences you 193 00:09:08,559 --> 00:09:11,200 Speaker 1: can have in life, when you lose all hope. To me, 194 00:09:11,320 --> 00:09:15,840 Speaker 1: that is as dark as it gets. However, you put 195 00:09:15,880 --> 00:09:19,280 Speaker 1: in the work, you put in the discipline, you put 196 00:09:19,320 --> 00:09:24,160 Speaker 1: in the effort, and yeah, at a side, it's the flavor, 197 00:09:24,200 --> 00:09:26,920 Speaker 1: it's the sauce of hope. But knowing that you did 198 00:09:27,080 --> 00:09:29,920 Speaker 1: all you could to get where you want to go, 199 00:09:30,080 --> 00:09:33,080 Speaker 1: to become what you want to be, that's the most 200 00:09:33,120 --> 00:09:35,439 Speaker 1: important part of it. And yes, I love the idea 201 00:09:35,440 --> 00:09:38,240 Speaker 1: of keeping hope alive. I love the idea of always 202 00:09:38,760 --> 00:09:41,640 Speaker 1: hoping for the best but preparing for the worst. I mean, 203 00:09:41,679 --> 00:09:43,440 Speaker 1: that's what they say, right, So this kind of speaks 204 00:09:43,480 --> 00:09:44,200 Speaker 1: to that in a way. 205 00:09:44,320 --> 00:09:46,360 Speaker 2: Im't You're about to do a Jesse Jackson impression in 206 00:09:46,360 --> 00:09:47,679 Speaker 2: there keep hope alive? 207 00:09:51,000 --> 00:09:53,920 Speaker 1: Well, I mean there is something to that. However, hope 208 00:09:54,520 --> 00:09:57,280 Speaker 1: is not a strategy. All right, when we come back, 209 00:09:57,480 --> 00:10:00,520 Speaker 1: we're going to go over a bonus quote that I 210 00:10:00,640 --> 00:10:03,319 Speaker 1: found here and it's really it's less of a quote 211 00:10:03,720 --> 00:10:09,319 Speaker 1: and it's more of an instruction from someone who lived 212 00:10:09,360 --> 00:10:11,880 Speaker 1: at one hundred and six BC. I love these when 213 00:10:11,880 --> 00:10:15,079 Speaker 1: you get the old school philosophers who knew more about 214 00:10:15,120 --> 00:10:17,880 Speaker 1: how we're living today than we even probably know as 215 00:10:17,920 --> 00:10:18,600 Speaker 1: we're living it. 216 00:10:18,960 --> 00:10:21,000 Speaker 3: But this is what. 217 00:10:21,080 --> 00:10:26,319 Speaker 1: Marcus Tullius Cicero says are the six mistakes of man. 218 00:10:26,440 --> 00:10:38,439 Speaker 1: When we come back and welcome back to your Sunday 219 00:10:38,559 --> 00:10:41,280 Speaker 1: morning run and we have your bonus quote, it's more 220 00:10:41,320 --> 00:10:43,560 Speaker 1: of a little it's a little bit more than a quote. 221 00:10:43,559 --> 00:10:47,560 Speaker 1: It's it's the six mistakes of man, as written by 222 00:10:48,040 --> 00:10:52,120 Speaker 1: Marcus Tullius Cicero. He has he was born in one 223 00:10:52,200 --> 00:10:54,880 Speaker 1: hundred and six BC died at forty three BC, so 224 00:10:55,000 --> 00:10:59,520 Speaker 1: this is an ancient words of wisdom basically. But man, 225 00:10:59,559 --> 00:11:03,520 Speaker 1: I love everything Marcus had to say about the six 226 00:11:03,679 --> 00:11:08,200 Speaker 1: mistakes of man. The first mistake the illusion that personal 227 00:11:08,280 --> 00:11:11,040 Speaker 1: gain is made up of crushing others. 228 00:11:14,280 --> 00:11:16,040 Speaker 2: There are six. Yes, we're gonna do it one at 229 00:11:16,080 --> 00:11:16,360 Speaker 2: a time. 230 00:11:16,640 --> 00:11:18,960 Speaker 1: Well, I was just gonna get to if you had 231 00:11:19,000 --> 00:11:21,440 Speaker 1: an initial reaction, great, if you don't, I'll move on. 232 00:11:21,679 --> 00:11:24,439 Speaker 2: I did. Is that an understanding is that we feel 233 00:11:24,480 --> 00:11:26,400 Speaker 2: like that the only way we can get to the 234 00:11:26,400 --> 00:11:28,280 Speaker 2: top is that somebody else has to suffer for us 235 00:11:28,320 --> 00:11:31,840 Speaker 2: to get there. That's a mindset. It's almost people take 236 00:11:31,880 --> 00:11:35,480 Speaker 2: pride in crushing others. They take pride in beating others. 237 00:11:35,760 --> 00:11:38,160 Speaker 2: We look down the hallway. Wait, there's another woman who's 238 00:11:38,200 --> 00:11:41,880 Speaker 2: blonde hair, blue eyed. She must be destroyed. It's true, 239 00:11:42,040 --> 00:11:44,600 Speaker 2: all right. I've been in plenty of hallways. Look down 240 00:11:44,600 --> 00:11:47,720 Speaker 2: the hall very few black folks, so white it's just 241 00:11:47,760 --> 00:11:49,760 Speaker 2: me and him. Only one of us is going to 242 00:11:49,800 --> 00:11:52,080 Speaker 2: be allowed to stay on this floor. Like that mindset. 243 00:11:52,200 --> 00:11:56,480 Speaker 1: Take a gladiator mindset. Basically, we all can't win. It 244 00:11:56,520 --> 00:11:57,480 Speaker 1: has to be one or the others. 245 00:11:57,600 --> 00:11:58,800 Speaker 2: It's a big mistake. I agree with that. 246 00:11:58,840 --> 00:12:00,920 Speaker 1: One big mistake. The illusion and the personal gain is 247 00:12:00,960 --> 00:12:04,000 Speaker 1: made up of crushing others. Number two, the tendency to 248 00:12:04,040 --> 00:12:07,000 Speaker 1: worry about things that cannot be changed or corrected. 249 00:12:07,160 --> 00:12:09,400 Speaker 2: Do that all day, all the time we spend This 250 00:12:09,440 --> 00:12:11,320 Speaker 2: is what most people do all day long. 251 00:12:11,600 --> 00:12:13,400 Speaker 1: I think it's one of the biggest mistakes we make 252 00:12:13,480 --> 00:12:14,000 Speaker 1: in life. 253 00:12:14,120 --> 00:12:15,800 Speaker 2: Right now, folks, tell me what are you worried about? 254 00:12:16,520 --> 00:12:18,400 Speaker 2: And when you add today, go holy hell. I can't 255 00:12:18,440 --> 00:12:19,200 Speaker 2: do anything about that. 256 00:12:19,520 --> 00:12:21,720 Speaker 3: I can't change it, I can't correct it. So yes, 257 00:12:21,760 --> 00:12:22,960 Speaker 3: that's the second. 258 00:12:22,640 --> 00:12:25,319 Speaker 1: Biggest mistake of man, the tendency to worry about things 259 00:12:25,320 --> 00:12:29,160 Speaker 1: that cannot be changed or corrected. Third mistake insisting that 260 00:12:29,200 --> 00:12:34,960 Speaker 1: a thing is impossible because we cannot accomplish it. Huh 261 00:12:35,840 --> 00:12:38,719 Speaker 1: So it's you're defeating yourself. You're not giving yourself the 262 00:12:38,760 --> 00:12:42,480 Speaker 1: opportunity to overcome something. We insist that something is impossible 263 00:12:42,840 --> 00:12:46,240 Speaker 1: because we can't accomplish it. How many people throughout the 264 00:12:46,280 --> 00:12:48,439 Speaker 1: history of the world have proven that wrong. 265 00:12:49,440 --> 00:12:50,520 Speaker 3: We limit ourselves. 266 00:12:51,720 --> 00:12:52,800 Speaker 2: Man, what a cop out. 267 00:12:53,600 --> 00:12:55,000 Speaker 3: I definitely fall prey to this. 268 00:12:55,000 --> 00:12:55,760 Speaker 2: This just can't be done. 269 00:12:55,760 --> 00:12:57,040 Speaker 1: What do you mean, Well, I just feel like someone 270 00:12:57,160 --> 00:12:58,760 Speaker 1: was like, that's impossible. There's no way I'm going to 271 00:12:58,760 --> 00:13:00,240 Speaker 1: be able to do that. I actually I had that 272 00:13:00,280 --> 00:13:02,840 Speaker 1: mindset about marathons for the longest time. For me, that's 273 00:13:02,840 --> 00:13:05,760 Speaker 1: a personal about face, because I watched my dad do it, 274 00:13:05,760 --> 00:13:08,680 Speaker 1: and I truly believed that it would be impossible for 275 00:13:08,760 --> 00:13:11,160 Speaker 1: me to finish a marathon. And it took me going 276 00:13:11,160 --> 00:13:14,120 Speaker 1: through breast cancer to recognize that I could push myself 277 00:13:14,559 --> 00:13:16,600 Speaker 1: beyond where I thought I could. I was stronger than 278 00:13:16,600 --> 00:13:18,800 Speaker 1: I thought. We always hear that but really, how many 279 00:13:18,800 --> 00:13:22,320 Speaker 1: times have you limited yourself because you actually thought something 280 00:13:22,400 --> 00:13:27,079 Speaker 1: was impossible because you couldn't accomplish it. Push yourself and 281 00:13:27,120 --> 00:13:30,320 Speaker 1: see what happens. So don't insist that something's impossible because 282 00:13:30,360 --> 00:13:31,320 Speaker 1: you can't accomplish it. 283 00:13:31,440 --> 00:13:32,319 Speaker 3: I love that, all right. 284 00:13:32,800 --> 00:13:39,160 Speaker 1: Next mistake of man refusing to set aside trivial preferences 285 00:13:41,440 --> 00:13:44,800 Speaker 1: is mean. So if you want something a certain way, 286 00:13:45,960 --> 00:13:50,800 Speaker 1: you insist that they are that way because you prefer it. 287 00:13:51,160 --> 00:13:54,560 Speaker 1: You are causing suffering to yourself, causing suffering to others 288 00:13:54,600 --> 00:13:57,680 Speaker 1: because you insist it has to be your way, your 289 00:13:57,760 --> 00:13:58,640 Speaker 1: personal preference. 290 00:13:59,160 --> 00:14:01,840 Speaker 3: Like you could be something as trivial as I. 291 00:14:01,920 --> 00:14:06,960 Speaker 1: Want the dishes cleaned this way, or I want my 292 00:14:07,000 --> 00:14:09,480 Speaker 1: food prepared that way, or you know, just but you 293 00:14:09,600 --> 00:14:12,880 Speaker 1: start to try to control everything, and so you actually 294 00:14:12,920 --> 00:14:16,360 Speaker 1: suffer because you of your personal preferences and they're trivial. 295 00:14:16,559 --> 00:14:19,560 Speaker 1: It doesn't really matter you. People can do things a 296 00:14:19,600 --> 00:14:21,760 Speaker 1: million different ways and they all can be okay and good. 297 00:14:21,760 --> 00:14:23,440 Speaker 1: So we kind of have to let go of these 298 00:14:23,800 --> 00:14:27,400 Speaker 1: preferences that we push on other people and even on ourselves. 299 00:14:28,120 --> 00:14:30,360 Speaker 1: I think that's a really cool way to find peace. 300 00:14:30,920 --> 00:14:34,400 Speaker 1: The next one neglecting development and refinement of the mind 301 00:14:34,920 --> 00:14:38,360 Speaker 1: and not acquiring the habit of reading and study. 302 00:14:40,520 --> 00:14:42,560 Speaker 2: Man, you got you should learn something every single day? 303 00:14:42,600 --> 00:14:43,280 Speaker 2: How agree with that? 304 00:14:45,680 --> 00:14:50,400 Speaker 1: We neglect our minds sometimes, and we neglect the fact 305 00:14:50,440 --> 00:14:52,960 Speaker 1: that we always still have more to learn, That we 306 00:14:53,040 --> 00:14:56,680 Speaker 1: need to actually create a habit of reading and study. 307 00:14:56,720 --> 00:14:59,560 Speaker 1: And you and I actually, through our podcasting have I 308 00:14:59,640 --> 00:15:02,080 Speaker 1: we I've been talking about this the other day, how 309 00:15:02,160 --> 00:15:04,680 Speaker 1: much more informed I feel about the world now that 310 00:15:04,720 --> 00:15:12,720 Speaker 1: I've taken We've taken a focus onto news all day long. Like, 311 00:15:12,800 --> 00:15:14,760 Speaker 1: I just feel so much more informed. I feel so 312 00:15:14,840 --> 00:15:18,120 Speaker 1: much more capable of understanding things when they happen because 313 00:15:18,120 --> 00:15:20,440 Speaker 1: we have made a point to read and study, not 314 00:15:20,520 --> 00:15:23,360 Speaker 1: just from one outlet, not just from a source that 315 00:15:23,440 --> 00:15:26,920 Speaker 1: reinforces what I think I believe, but actually exposing ourselves 316 00:15:27,000 --> 00:15:30,720 Speaker 1: to lots of different thoughts and opinions. And it's been 317 00:15:31,160 --> 00:15:36,760 Speaker 1: incredibly rewarding and valuable. All right, And here is the 318 00:15:36,800 --> 00:15:41,640 Speaker 1: final mistake of man, according to Marcus Tullius Cicero, attempting 319 00:15:41,720 --> 00:15:45,560 Speaker 1: to compel others to believe and live as we do. 320 00:15:47,320 --> 00:15:50,120 Speaker 2: Man, we should add that quote at the bottom of 321 00:15:51,000 --> 00:15:55,840 Speaker 2: every morning run. Ain't that the problem with us? Ain't 322 00:15:55,840 --> 00:15:58,880 Speaker 2: that the truth? Man? Say that one more time for 323 00:15:58,920 --> 00:15:59,640 Speaker 2: the people in the back. 324 00:15:59,800 --> 00:16:02,720 Speaker 1: This is one of the biggest mistakes man can make, 325 00:16:03,120 --> 00:16:08,560 Speaker 1: attempting to compel others to believe and live as we do. 326 00:16:11,080 --> 00:16:15,520 Speaker 1: He had that figured out before Christ was born, and 327 00:16:15,560 --> 00:16:18,360 Speaker 1: we still can't figure it out today in twenty twenty five. 328 00:16:19,120 --> 00:16:20,840 Speaker 2: Man, that's the root of so many of our issues. 329 00:16:21,760 --> 00:16:23,400 Speaker 2: And there's so much of our lack of peace and 330 00:16:23,440 --> 00:16:27,160 Speaker 2: lack of love in the country because it's okay we disagree, 331 00:16:27,880 --> 00:16:32,880 Speaker 2: even on like really big moral questions. We disagree. But man, 332 00:16:32,920 --> 00:16:35,400 Speaker 2: what a mistake to look at that person expect them 333 00:16:35,440 --> 00:16:37,520 Speaker 2: to do what you do, live how you live, and 334 00:16:37,560 --> 00:16:38,320 Speaker 2: think how you think. 335 00:16:39,120 --> 00:16:41,720 Speaker 1: But just check yourself, because it's not just other people 336 00:16:41,760 --> 00:16:43,920 Speaker 1: who do it. We all do it in small ways 337 00:16:44,360 --> 00:16:46,880 Speaker 1: where we kind of think our way is the right way, 338 00:16:46,960 --> 00:16:49,560 Speaker 1: our beliefs are the correct beliefs, and we don't leave 339 00:16:49,640 --> 00:16:52,200 Speaker 1: any space for any other way of doing or thinking. 340 00:16:52,320 --> 00:16:54,200 Speaker 1: And we all do it. Each one of us is 341 00:16:54,240 --> 00:16:56,160 Speaker 1: guilty of that. So when we start to go into 342 00:16:56,200 --> 00:16:59,680 Speaker 1: that mindset, you start to recognize that you're thinking that way, 343 00:17:00,240 --> 00:17:02,240 Speaker 1: and in a way, that's probably when you go into 344 00:17:02,240 --> 00:17:06,320 Speaker 1: defense mode. Check yourself, acknowledge it, recognize that you're doing it, 345 00:17:06,359 --> 00:17:08,199 Speaker 1: and say I'm going to stop right now because my 346 00:17:08,240 --> 00:17:10,400 Speaker 1: way isn't the only way. My beliefs aren't the only 347 00:17:10,520 --> 00:17:14,200 Speaker 1: right beliefs. There can be a room for so many 348 00:17:14,240 --> 00:17:16,760 Speaker 1: other ways of thinking, and how beautiful if we can 349 00:17:16,880 --> 00:17:21,160 Speaker 1: actually start living that way and thinking differently and doing differently. 350 00:17:21,520 --> 00:17:25,160 Speaker 1: So I loved those mistakes that we can all learn from, 351 00:17:25,440 --> 00:17:27,560 Speaker 1: and the first step is acknowledging that we do all 352 00:17:27,560 --> 00:17:29,320 Speaker 1: of them in some way, form or fashion, and we 353 00:17:29,320 --> 00:17:31,919 Speaker 1: can all do better. So with that, everyone, thank you 354 00:17:32,119 --> 00:17:34,480 Speaker 1: for listening to our Sunday morning run. I'm in the 355 00:17:34,600 --> 00:17:36,119 Speaker 1: Roeboch alongside TJ. Holmes. 356 00:17:36,600 --> 00:17:37,440 Speaker 3: We'll talk to you soon.