WEBVTT - The Second First Anniversary

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<v Speaker 1>This is the most dramatic podcast ever and iHeartRadio podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Chris Harrison and Lauren z Ema coming to you from

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<v Speaker 1>our home office in Austin, Texas, LZ, Happy universary.

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<v Speaker 2>Happy anniversary, babe. We wanted to come on and record

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<v Speaker 2>a podcast because one year ago today today, November fourth,

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<v Speaker 2>twenty twenty three, we were having the best morning of

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<v Speaker 2>getting ready at home. Our kids were there, Josh and Taylor,

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<v Speaker 2>Josh's girlfriend, Catherine, my family, our your family, your family

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<v Speaker 2>was in town. Our dearest friends were all getting ready

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<v Speaker 2>and looking dapper in accordance with the theme that I

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<v Speaker 2>pushed upon them, all cowboy chic and getting ready for

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<v Speaker 2>us to have the best party of our lives in Austin, Texas.

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<v Speaker 1>Actually, what I was doing I remember vividly that morning.

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<v Speaker 1>I walked out because we had two meat smokers in

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<v Speaker 1>our driveway and yes.

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<v Speaker 2>Courtesy of Bambam's Barbecue in Utah.

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<v Speaker 1>Our boy Cameron and so our friend Cameron. One of

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<v Speaker 1>his gift to us was he wanted to come in

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<v Speaker 1>from his barbecue place in Provo, Utah. And if you're

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<v Speaker 1>around Salt Lake City, if you get up to Park City,

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<v Speaker 1>if you're around Provo, got to go to Bam Bams anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>so he wanted a barbecue. He's like, well, I'm just

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<v Speaker 1>going to barbecue in your driveway. So he dropped a

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<v Speaker 1>bunch of meat smokers in our driveway. So at eight

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<v Speaker 1>thirty in the morning, I walked out on my wedding

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<v Speaker 1>day and he's out there pulling the pork butts off

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<v Speaker 1>in the brisket.

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<v Speaker 2>And he'd been cooking all night with my mom. He'd

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<v Speaker 2>been out. They'd been baking together with my mom and

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<v Speaker 2>sister and my brother's girlfriend.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's how the wedding day started.

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<v Speaker 2>It was wonderful. And look, I know we kind of

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<v Speaker 2>we mentioned our anniversary a few podcasts ago because and

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<v Speaker 2>we got to figure out how we're going to move

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<v Speaker 2>forward here. But I'm also a big like the more celebrating,

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<v Speaker 2>the better person. So we got married on October fourteenth

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<v Speaker 2>in Napa at the most beautiful wedding at Roy Estate.

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<v Speaker 2>Go there if you are in Napa. Is the most

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<v Speaker 2>magical place. It's like a modern day castle in Napa, California,

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<v Speaker 2>on the most stunning day with our a small group

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<v Speaker 2>about thirty five of our closest family and friends, and

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<v Speaker 2>it was magical. And we drank great wine and had

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<v Speaker 2>an incredible dinner and danced all night at the Archer

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<v Speaker 2>Hotel there. But then we thought, we have so many

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<v Speaker 2>great family and friends in our lives, we got to

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<v Speaker 2>have a big blowout party in the home we love

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<v Speaker 2>so much, Austin, Texas. And that's what we did on

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<v Speaker 2>November fourth. Yeah, the night, two hundred and fifty people

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<v Speaker 2>at that one.

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<v Speaker 1>That was it was amazing. So the night before, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>obviously I think we've we've talked about this before. We

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<v Speaker 1>had the bachelor family, all of them that could make

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<v Speaker 1>it in town that night made.

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<v Speaker 2>It there and then here here in Austin.

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<v Speaker 1>Here in Austin.

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<v Speaker 2>Friday night that weekend we had a bachelor reunion at

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<v Speaker 2>our house and intimate gathering.

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<v Speaker 1>A couple of people like Elon Gail, our producer, I

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<v Speaker 1>think Sean and Catherine came in the day of so

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<v Speaker 1>but it was a great night that led into a

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<v Speaker 1>wonderful morning. So we got up that morning we were

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<v Speaker 1>barbecuing with cam and the driveway and all that. But

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<v Speaker 1>the whole day was so chill.

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<v Speaker 2>They were so easy.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it was very easy.

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<v Speaker 2>I think we had taken the nerves out of it

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<v Speaker 2>with the NAPA wedding first, and again I can't recommend,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't recommend the two party system, but I recommend

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<v Speaker 2>the two wedding system. We had this emotional wedding with

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<v Speaker 2>again just the smallest amount of family and friends, and

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<v Speaker 2>so we got our nerves out there. We had the

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<v Speaker 2>big butterflies in our stomach leading up to the vows

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<v Speaker 2>there and we were able to have really focused time

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<v Speaker 2>with family and friends. So I think the day of

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<v Speaker 2>this big party in Austin and we did our vows

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<v Speaker 2>again in Austin, so all of our friends and family

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<v Speaker 2>who were there got to hear everything and feel part

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<v Speaker 2>of everything, but our nerves were gone. We'd kind of

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<v Speaker 2>already done it once through and knew we nailed it,

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<v Speaker 2>and we just got to enjoy. I thought, and actually

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<v Speaker 2>I love doing the vows twice because then I sort

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<v Speaker 2>of really got to hear what you were saying, because

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<v Speaker 2>you know, the first time you almost black out a

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<v Speaker 2>little bit or something.

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<v Speaker 1>Favorite part of the day and one of my two

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<v Speaker 1>things that really stood out that I would I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know how you can do it, because if you don't

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<v Speaker 1>do two weddings, you know you're not going to get

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<v Speaker 1>the first look and all that. So we'd already done

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<v Speaker 1>all those things, like Lauren was just talking about. So

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<v Speaker 1>one of the most beautiful things is we got ready

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<v Speaker 1>here at the house, and there's something easy about getting

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<v Speaker 1>ready in your own place. So we're getting ready together.

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<v Speaker 2>I know. That was really fun because we weren't because

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<v Speaker 2>in Napa, obviously it's like we're waiting to see. But

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<v Speaker 2>I liked having both. I liked ware traditional until the

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<v Speaker 2>walk down the aisle.

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<v Speaker 1>That was more traditional. We're separated and all that, which

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<v Speaker 1>is great, and the anticipation was building all day. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, what she doing. And I was hanging

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<v Speaker 1>out with my you know, my dad and my brother

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<v Speaker 1>and your brother, and we were kind of taking you know,

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<v Speaker 1>it's just like traditional. But that day here getting ready

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<v Speaker 1>with you, just walking around, the kids were here. I'll

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<v Speaker 1>never forget when we to drive over to the ceremony.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what really struck me is this is fantastic. It

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<v Speaker 1>was really it was weird. But everybody had left your family,

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<v Speaker 1>everybody had already made it their way to the wedding site,

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<v Speaker 1>and the only people that were left were us and

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<v Speaker 1>we me, you and Josh and Tay got in the

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<v Speaker 1>truck and drove to our wedding and it was just

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<v Speaker 1>it was we just put on some music and we

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<v Speaker 1>were just talking like we were going to dinner.

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<v Speaker 2>It was really casual and cool, and you know, obviously

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<v Speaker 2>we were able to afford these two parties. But I

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<v Speaker 2>will also say we did a lot of I don't know,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm still a Midwest girl. I save money where I can.

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<v Speaker 2>We did a lot of doing some stuff ourselves, including

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<v Speaker 2>my mother baking a lot of the desserts for the wedding.

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<v Speaker 2>We did a lot of you know, I don't like

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<v Speaker 2>our friend Cam did, so we did a lot of

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<v Speaker 2>things here and there, and ultimately, I would confidently say

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<v Speaker 2>that we got both weddings in total for the price

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<v Speaker 2>of what a lot of people pay for one wedding.

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<v Speaker 2>Now that being said, you know, whatever you can afford,

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<v Speaker 2>you can afford. And at the end of the day,

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<v Speaker 2>it's just about being with your friends and family.

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<v Speaker 1>And we saved money on a car. We love ourselves,

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<v Speaker 1>but pulled up to our own wedding.

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<v Speaker 2>But I think the most important thing is the people

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<v Speaker 2>and having some great music and you know, a few

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<v Speaker 2>drinks and dancing all night long. But again, I sort

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<v Speaker 2>of really do recommend all this as I'm reflecting one

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<v Speaker 2>year later, which we wanted this podcast to be about,

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<v Speaker 2>kind of reflecting one year later. We want to talk

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<v Speaker 2>a little bit about where our marriage is at one

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<v Speaker 2>year later. And as I'm thinking back, I think what

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<v Speaker 2>people struggle with the most when planning a wedding is

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<v Speaker 2>managing all the expectations, both for yourself and for those

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<v Speaker 2>who love you like you're you know, a lot of

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<v Speaker 2>people say like, oh, well, my mom was mad I

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<v Speaker 2>didn't spend more time with her the day of, and

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<v Speaker 2>and we kind of eliminated that with the two weddings,

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<v Speaker 2>or well I was so busy saying hi to everyone,

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't get to enjoy it, and we kind of

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<v Speaker 2>eliminated that with the two weddings. So I stand behind,

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<v Speaker 2>do something intimate and then have a party.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. I don't know how what that looks like in

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<v Speaker 1>any traditional sense, if you just like we're you know,

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<v Speaker 1>doing the traditional church or traditional type of wedding. But man,

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<v Speaker 1>it really did just it was like a release valve

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<v Speaker 1>of pressure, and it was for everybody. And you know,

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<v Speaker 1>Laura and I talk about ourselves and our pressure because

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<v Speaker 1>that you know, the bride and groom are usually the

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<v Speaker 1>ones that really feel it, but everybody kind of felt totally.

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<v Speaker 2>Like my sister was more tense, not you know, but

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<v Speaker 2>more on edge on the day of the NAPA wedding

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<v Speaker 2>because she's thinking, I got to walk down the aisle

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm.

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<v Speaker 1>Your mom my, mom my, dad. Yeah, yeah, for sure,

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<v Speaker 1>No for everybody. Everybody got to just relax, and there

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<v Speaker 1>was like a little bit of a cocktail hour before

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<v Speaker 1>you and I got to the Austin wedding. But the

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<v Speaker 1>second thing that I love the most in retrospect, and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm looking back at pictures today, you and I are

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<v Speaker 1>both looking at videos and pictures and the walk down

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<v Speaker 1>the aisle when we got there, the kids walked in,

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<v Speaker 1>and you and I stood around the corner and we

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<v Speaker 1>held hands and we got to be there together for

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<v Speaker 1>a minute. And then we walked into our own wedding together,

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<v Speaker 1>and again it was just talk about a release valve

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<v Speaker 1>of emotions where we got to look at each other,

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<v Speaker 1>We got to stop look and make eye contact with

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<v Speaker 1>the people that were there.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, because we weren't looking at each other as we

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<v Speaker 2>did in the more traditional NAPA wedding. In that wedding,

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<v Speaker 2>I was focused on you, But at Austin, I was

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<v Speaker 2>looking around and seeing everyone as we walked down the aisle,

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<v Speaker 2>like oh, and saying hi to people.

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<v Speaker 1>We watched the video of both weddings today, saved it

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<v Speaker 1>had not watched it, had not watched it. So we

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<v Speaker 1>watched it together, tears in our eyes, of course, and

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<v Speaker 1>we're crying and it was beautiful. But one thing that

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<v Speaker 1>hit me was when I saw myself walking down the

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<v Speaker 1>aisle in Napa at our first wedding, I'm like, why

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<v Speaker 1>didn't you slow down? Why didn't you like pat people

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<v Speaker 1>on the shoulder and like hug people and like, But

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't. I was so nervous and excited in my head,

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<v Speaker 1>I all but sprinted down the aisle. And I give

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<v Speaker 1>this advice all the time, take time to smell the

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<v Speaker 1>roses and take it all.

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<v Speaker 2>So logistics, that's the thing. It isn't all on you.

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<v Speaker 2>Part of its legit. You're thinking is the bride and groom.

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<v Speaker 2>We only have this place until ten pm or whatever.

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<v Speaker 2>Like there's literally a schedule you have to follow. So

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<v Speaker 2>the two wedding system, it took a lot of the

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<v Speaker 2>tension out of it. I feel so blessed for both days.

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<v Speaker 2>And yeah, we wanted to wait until our one year

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<v Speaker 2>anniversary to watch our videos and to look through a

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<v Speaker 2>photo album. We had to save something special, So I was.

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<v Speaker 1>Any strike you did anything pop out to you. Watching

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<v Speaker 1>the videos for the first time.

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<v Speaker 2>It was really cool. Well, I mean it just unlocked memories.

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<v Speaker 2>I sort of had forgotten what the getting ready process was. Like.

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<v Speaker 2>It was cool to see you getting ready because we're separate, so.

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<v Speaker 1>The same thing. It was fun to see behind the

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<v Speaker 1>scenes that you and your your mom and your sister

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<v Speaker 1>getting you ready.

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<v Speaker 2>And probably you know, everybody has a cell phone today,

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<v Speaker 2>but still a videographer is just going to get angles

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<v Speaker 2>you didn't and that kind of thing.

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<v Speaker 1>And like I wrote you a letter every day of

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<v Speaker 1>the last week before our wedding. I didn't know you

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<v Speaker 1>read the last one, Like I didn't know when I

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<v Speaker 1>thought maybe you did it that morning or and so

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<v Speaker 1>I got to see you reading that for the first time,

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<v Speaker 1>and so all of it just being able to kind

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<v Speaker 1>of I was like a fly on the wall.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's a reminder of the details. You remember it

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<v Speaker 2>as this big, happy thing, but it is nice to

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<v Speaker 2>have those, oh, visual memories.

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<v Speaker 1>A mistake I made, and luckily you corrected it, and

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<v Speaker 1>it would have would have been a big faux pas.

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<v Speaker 1>As we watched the videos today, I wasn't all that

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<v Speaker 1>into a videographer to start, Remember, I was like, oh, photographer,

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<v Speaker 1>I want the pictures and all that, but I don't.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe it's because of bats or days and being on

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<v Speaker 1>camera so much and you and I doing so much

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<v Speaker 1>TV as like, oh, I don't really care to see

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<v Speaker 1>myself on TV again anymore. And I would have been

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<v Speaker 1>so stilled that way. Well, no, I don't mean like

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to work again. I just met like

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<v Speaker 1>I don't need to. I didn't feel the need to

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<v Speaker 1>video myself because I don't know I did.

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<v Speaker 2>It felt self indulgent or something.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah or something, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>I was just like you, only like weddings went the

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<v Speaker 2>focus on.

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<v Speaker 1>But I was the one that was like, oh, babe,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if we need a videographer, and you

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<v Speaker 1>and our assistant Karen, who was such a big part

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<v Speaker 1>of this wedding.

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<v Speaker 2>And shout out to Karen, so helpful.

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<v Speaker 1>But that you guys forced me to do that, and

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<v Speaker 1>I am so glad as we watched that video that

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<v Speaker 1>would have been lost forever. So many in it, by

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<v Speaker 1>the way, different than pictures. Everything looks so much more

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<v Speaker 1>vibrant and beautiful.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, and thank god it came together at the last

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<v Speaker 2>minute because we finally convinced you of this a little close.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I was late. I was late.

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<v Speaker 2>Was I figed someone?

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<v Speaker 1>That was my big gap.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you to Kiko, Francisco Media and NAPA for coming

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<v Speaker 2>through close to the end there I goofed on that.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, I listen. I actually, uh, I used to

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<v Speaker 2>feel the same as you, like in the very beginning,

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<v Speaker 2>I kind of agreed with you, like, yeah, who watches

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<v Speaker 2>their wedding video? You kind of just need the pictures.

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<v Speaker 2>But I think it's a different time now. I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>everything is so on social media and it's so video

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<v Speaker 2>focused now that actually video is what you watch more

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<v Speaker 2>than pictures in modern times. I think like back in

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<v Speaker 2>the day, people probably even lost their vhs of their

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<v Speaker 2>wedding video, but you know, you frame the photos and

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<v Speaker 2>put them on your walls. Today, I think people take

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<v Speaker 2>in video more. And you're right. One thing I didn't

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<v Speaker 2>see coming was that I actually think the video captured

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<v Speaker 2>the the day better than the photos. Well, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>I guess it's the difference of camera or whatever, but

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<v Speaker 2>literally you could the sky was so beautiful in Napa,

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<v Speaker 2>and I think the video captured it better than the

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<v Speaker 2>photography did, just because of cameras and lenses and stuff,

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<v Speaker 2>and so it was so gorgeous. And I really do feel,

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<v Speaker 2>on that note, blessed for both Austin and Napa. When

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<v Speaker 2>I look back in Napa the week before there had

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<v Speaker 2>been a massive heat wave and we were sort of nervous,

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<v Speaker 2>and then the day of our wedding, it not only

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<v Speaker 2>was the weather amazing, but the sky was stunning. And

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<v Speaker 2>then in Austin, now that I kind of know Austin

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<v Speaker 2>a little better, I think the week before it was raining.

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<v Speaker 1>Well look at today as we are taping this, it's

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<v Speaker 1>raining here in Austin. There's a massive storm coming in

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<v Speaker 1>the next two days.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, so we were taking more of a risk with

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<v Speaker 2>an outside wedding than I thought we were. And again

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<v Speaker 2>we just had a perfect, glorious day. We didn't even

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<v Speaker 2>need We were worried should we get heaters. We didn't

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<v Speaker 2>need anything.

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<v Speaker 1>One of those Texas sunsets with a huge Texas sky,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, it was fun. As I look back

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<v Speaker 1>as we saw the video of like our friends, because

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<v Speaker 1>there was like a real longhorn, a Texas longhorn there

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<v Speaker 1>and our friends, you know, that showed up from LA

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<v Speaker 1>and a lot of the batch of people are taking

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<v Speaker 1>pictures with the longhorn. And it was just a great

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<v Speaker 1>country western Austin, Texas theme and it really came off

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, like it could be a little cheesy,

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<v Speaker 1>but it came off really well.

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<v Speaker 2>It was cowboy she.

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<v Speaker 3>It was cowboy she.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel so blessed to feel that there's not a

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<v Speaker 2>thing I would go back and change. I mean, well,

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<v Speaker 2>I say that with a caveat could you analyze it

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<v Speaker 2>and say, oh sure. But if you're planning a wedding,

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<v Speaker 2>my advice is you just have to accept that, like

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<v Speaker 2>you're going to hope for an A minus, you know

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<v Speaker 2>what I mean. It is impossible when you're planning a

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<v Speaker 2>wedding is a production, it is an event. Life is

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<v Speaker 2>going to happen. It will be impossible that it will

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<v Speaker 2>go completely perfectly as you picture it in your mind.

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<v Speaker 2>But if you have an A minus, it's it's amazing.

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<v Speaker 2>And I really do think it was the perfect combination

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<v Speaker 2>of you know, spending money where we did, doing some

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<v Speaker 2>things ourselves where we did, because that also made it

0:14:47.720 --> 0:14:52.480
<v Speaker 2>more personal and connected, and having our families involved, and

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<v Speaker 2>you know, there's laughter and joy like in those moments

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<v Speaker 2>like baking with Cam and our and my mind was

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<v Speaker 2>up all night before, yeah, and doing the gift bags

0:15:01.880 --> 0:15:05.080
<v Speaker 2>with my sister. And so when you family feel I

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<v Speaker 2>recommend involving family because they feel part of it. And

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<v Speaker 2>then I think there's like a spiritual element. I really

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<v Speaker 2>do think my Dad was looking down on us, giving

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<v Speaker 2>us those two perfect days of weather, and I felt

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<v Speaker 2>that all of our hard work came together, and that

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<v Speaker 2>also our attitude of knowing, of keeping the perspective like

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<v Speaker 2>I did go into it thinking if a few things

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<v Speaker 2>go wrong, I'm not going to be upset because I'm

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<v Speaker 2>really just happy to marry this man. And what I

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<v Speaker 2>do tell people is a good gauge on whether you

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<v Speaker 2>should marry someone, is this, if you couldn't have a wedding,

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<v Speaker 2>if you were not allowed to have the party that

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<v Speaker 2>we all dream of, would you still want to marry

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<v Speaker 2>the person. Well, some people get wrapped up in the party.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's easy to do because it's such a

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<v Speaker 2>big part of our culture.

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<v Speaker 1>It's been a year. Does it feel like it to you?

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<v Speaker 1>To me, it seems like a long time ago. If

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<v Speaker 1>you told me it was two years or three, I'd be.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, I, why do you think that is? I agree?

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<v Speaker 2>Is it because we're in this election? You're in? This

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<v Speaker 2>Year's felt like a lot going on. I know.

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<v Speaker 1>I just feel like I look like the eve of.

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<v Speaker 2>Our I mean, we're on the our anniversary and it's

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<v Speaker 2>the eve of the election.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. I know that we didn't plan out for now

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<v Speaker 1>thinking a year ahead. But maybe this is the the

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<v Speaker 1>distraction we all need. But to me, it just I

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<v Speaker 1>look back and I think, Wow, a lot's changed in

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<v Speaker 1>a great way since in just a year. It feels

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<v Speaker 1>like a long time. I feel like we've grown a

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<v Speaker 1>lot together, and I feel like we did. Honestly, if

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<v Speaker 1>you'd asked me that day, this day, a year ago,

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<v Speaker 1>do you have a lot more to grow and to

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<v Speaker 1>learn and to progress in your love in relationship? I'd

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<v Speaker 1>say no, you know we're there. But it is amazing

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<v Speaker 1>how time and history and just experiences propels you forward

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<v Speaker 1>in a relationship. If you're both in love and you're

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<v Speaker 1>both willing and able to dive into that, and so

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<v Speaker 1>I guess this year is just I feel like we've

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<v Speaker 1>progressed so much as a couple, and I assume we

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<v Speaker 1>will feel the same a year from now and two,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, as we go on. So I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>that's how I feel. How do you feel?

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<v Speaker 2>I completely agree? And what strange is we didn't talk

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<v Speaker 2>about this before we'd sat down to record this, but

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<v Speaker 2>I was just like in the bathroom and thinking about

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<v Speaker 2>how it is weird. I do feel we've grown a

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<v Speaker 2>lot in a year. And it's odd how you can

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<v Speaker 2>feel really good. It's not like things were bad. You

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<v Speaker 2>can feel good about your relationship. We're so happy the

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<v Speaker 2>day we got married, and yet and yet looking back,

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<v Speaker 2>I do feel we've progressed. And I guess the lesson

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<v Speaker 2>there is, even when things are good, there's still growth

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<v Speaker 2>to happen, and you want things to keep getting better,

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<v Speaker 2>and growth is part of that.

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<v Speaker 1>So and you think of the experience in life just

0:17:57.560 --> 0:18:00.399
<v Speaker 1>comes at you right, and it's like, in that time,

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<v Speaker 1>we've had a child graduate college and get them off

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<v Speaker 1>in the real world, and a daughter get back to college,

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<v Speaker 1>and a baby born in our family, and so good

0:18:10.560 --> 0:18:13.040
<v Speaker 1>things and great things and there's In that.

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<v Speaker 2>Time, we started a new job.

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<v Speaker 1>We started media, joined mayor of Street Media that we

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<v Speaker 1>had kind of started talking about in Earnest. Really around

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<v Speaker 1>this our wedding, which was the one in Napa is

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<v Speaker 1>when we really like kind of started cementing this deal.

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<v Speaker 2>And so, yeah, gosh, I forgot about that. It was

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<v Speaker 2>like on our wedding weekend we cemented the deal.

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<v Speaker 1>We got a call and said happy wedding present from

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<v Speaker 1>our lawyer.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow, And then.

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<v Speaker 1>The both our lawyers were at the Austin wedding. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>shout out to Chris Chatham and Brian Freeman. But yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>so it just things happen, right, and it galvanizes you,

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<v Speaker 1>or I guess that it could tear you apart if

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<v Speaker 1>you're not strong. And you're both not into this, but.

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<v Speaker 2>I think you're both not open. I think that's the

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<v Speaker 2>biggest thing, right to me, The people who suffer the

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<v Speaker 2>most in life are the ones who aren't open to growth,

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<v Speaker 2>open to change, flexible, who don't welcome experiences affecting them.

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<v Speaker 2>I think those are the people who truly suffer the most,

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<v Speaker 2>because life's about evolution.

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<v Speaker 1>There was a brain surgery in the family.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my gosh, yeah, we went to everything with your.

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<v Speaker 1>Mom, thank god. Yeah, those things like you get to

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<v Speaker 1>see like even honestly, like that week, I got to

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<v Speaker 1>see a side of you that I had not seen before,

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<v Speaker 1>this caretaker side of how is she going to take

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<v Speaker 1>care of me and my family in need?

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<v Speaker 2>And you mean the week with stuff with your mom?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, just like you know, when things happen like that,

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<v Speaker 1>like you just no, no, no no.

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<v Speaker 2>And when there.

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<v Speaker 1>Are times when things happen you're like you know and

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<v Speaker 1>my uncle passing away and there, you know, there are

0:19:47.520 --> 0:19:49.800
<v Speaker 1>things when you get different glimpses of your spouse, it

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<v Speaker 1>just it brings you together. But again that's a good

0:19:53.240 --> 0:19:55.359
<v Speaker 1>thing because those things could also tear your apart and

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<v Speaker 1>fracture you and go, oh, she didn't really handle that well,

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<v Speaker 1>or he didn't come, he didn't show up for me

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<v Speaker 1>that day.

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<v Speaker 2>And what do you think is the biggest change or

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<v Speaker 2>evolution or growth that we have made in our relationship

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<v Speaker 2>this year?

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<v Speaker 1>I just feel more and more even and it's not

0:20:12.760 --> 0:20:14.760
<v Speaker 1>like I didn't feel this a year ago, but I

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<v Speaker 1>feel even more now that you are my partner in life.

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<v Speaker 1>You are behind me, but not in a unquestioning way

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<v Speaker 1>like you will put me, you know, hold my feet

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<v Speaker 1>to the fire. You will question, but at the same

0:20:33.720 --> 0:20:37.520
<v Speaker 1>time you will love and appreciate. You're my biggest fan

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<v Speaker 1>and my biggest cheerleader, and I love that and I

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<v Speaker 1>know that. But also again, you have to earn it,

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<v Speaker 1>and I love that with you, is that you have

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<v Speaker 1>to earn it and fight for it and work at it.

0:20:48.240 --> 0:20:52.560
<v Speaker 1>And it's not just. It's not just given. Everything's earned.

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<v Speaker 1>And I feel the same way, and so I guess

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<v Speaker 1>the point is, there wasn't a moment that did that.

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<v Speaker 1>Every hurdle that we've had, good or bad. Right, you

0:21:00.800 --> 0:21:03.240
<v Speaker 1>have hurdles in life, and sometimes you're going up in life.

0:21:03.240 --> 0:21:06.320
<v Speaker 1>Sometimes you're on the roller coaster down. But every hurdle

0:21:06.359 --> 0:21:09.840
<v Speaker 1>we've crossed together, whether we've stumbled or not, it's brought

0:21:09.920 --> 0:21:12.119
<v Speaker 1>us closer together. And I've seen a little different something

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<v Speaker 1>about you.

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<v Speaker 2>I do think you've changed a little bit on seeing

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<v Speaker 2>challenging as like not a negative thing. Yeah, I think

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<v Speaker 2>you see it as a more positive and loving thing. Now.

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<v Speaker 1>That's happened this year, Yeah, yeah, that took You're right

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<v Speaker 1>that we even though we've been together for five years,

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<v Speaker 1>I think this year I've really come.

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<v Speaker 2>To, but you always let me. You always. It's not

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<v Speaker 2>like you never let me challenge you. But I think

0:21:46.400 --> 0:21:48.760
<v Speaker 2>you've shifted your viewpoint in the past when I might

0:21:48.840 --> 0:21:51.359
<v Speaker 2>challenge you or push you on something, you heard it,

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<v Speaker 2>but you thought it was this negative thing, and now

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<v Speaker 2>you're like, no, it's a good thing.

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<v Speaker 1>More and more, how you're how the Zemis women speak

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<v Speaker 1>a lot.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think it's just the Zeo. I think that's

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<v Speaker 2>all women.

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<v Speaker 1>Man. No, Yeah, you're fair particular way of pushing each

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<v Speaker 1>other and I and I've come to love that and

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<v Speaker 1>learn it.

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<v Speaker 2>I think that the biggest thing that we've grown and

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<v Speaker 2>has been our communication, which is in that realm. I

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<v Speaker 2>think we're a lot like we've reached deeper levels of communication. Again,

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<v Speaker 2>it's almost i'd be curious of other people who are

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<v Speaker 2>married or have been with partners for a long time.

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<v Speaker 2>Please shoot me a DM if you understand this or

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<v Speaker 2>can put it in better words than I am right now.

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<v Speaker 2>I never felt we had bad communication, but I have

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<v Speaker 2>now seen us unlock new levels of depth of communication,

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<v Speaker 2>of vulnerability with each other that I didn't know we

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<v Speaker 2>could even achieve, which makes me really excited for where

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<v Speaker 2>our marriage will go from here.

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<v Speaker 1>And it takes effort, you know. I think. I think

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<v Speaker 1>when you get married off and you're like, okay, good, like.

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<v Speaker 2>We're good, I'm set, I got my person.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's easy because then you get back to life,

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<v Speaker 1>it's like, okay, now we got the kids and we

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<v Speaker 1>got jobs, and we got you know, you just kind

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<v Speaker 1>of start cruising. And even when you're happy, Uh, those

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<v Speaker 1>are the times you kind of have to really push

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<v Speaker 1>yourselves to try harder because when you are experiencing bliss

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<v Speaker 1>and whether you're newly married or just things are good

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<v Speaker 1>in life, it's you got to really push each other

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<v Speaker 1>to challenge each other to continue to communicate and go deeper.

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<v Speaker 1>It's easy to kind of hit the pause button and

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<v Speaker 1>just cruise control. And I do think we have fought

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<v Speaker 1>that hard this year. And really, you're you're great at

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<v Speaker 1>You're better than I am. It's one of the great

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<v Speaker 1>attributes you have given to me of don't just hit

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<v Speaker 1>cruise control, and you really got to work at that.

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<v Speaker 1>You're better at that than I am. You think, so, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you're you're you're overall you're a better communicator than I am.

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<v Speaker 2>I agree with that. You're you're not a bad communicator.

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<v Speaker 1>But no, I'm not I I and I won't even

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<v Speaker 1>say for a guy, because you know, that's such a

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<v Speaker 1>sexist thing to say, and guys aren't that bad, and

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<v Speaker 1>we get a bad rap for that. But you are

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<v Speaker 1>a better communicator because you and I think you come

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<v Speaker 1>about it honestly, not only with your family but your friends.

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<v Speaker 1>You come from a great group of women who are

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<v Speaker 1>such good communicators, and that's really rare, even for women.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's rare. And so you're just better. You're

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<v Speaker 1>more intentional, you're more intense, and those things are important.

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<v Speaker 1>You need that and you've taught me to be better

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<v Speaker 1>at that, thanks Anny. Yeah, honestly, if and when we

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<v Speaker 1>get back to work, I think I'll be even better

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<v Speaker 1>at what I used to do. Oh wow, at asking

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<v Speaker 1>questions and really driving.

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<v Speaker 2>I agree. And I won't get this right. But there's

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<v Speaker 2>some it's a marriage therapist out there, someone who has

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<v Speaker 2>a quote about like how relationships are the best form

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<v Speaker 2>of therapy, And I think that's so true. Where do

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<v Speaker 2>we learn the most about ourselves through our relationships with others?

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<v Speaker 2>Where we challenge to be better through our relationships with

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<v Speaker 2>and marriage has got to be number one on that,

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<v Speaker 2>and a good relationship, friendship or romantic will be one

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<v Speaker 2>that pushes you to be better. And I'm just so

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<v Speaker 2>grateful I you know, I yeah, Like you were just saying,

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<v Speaker 2>when you kind of get into the day and day out,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I'm trying. I'm really trying to reflect on

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<v Speaker 2>this past year and everything that's happened and things that

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<v Speaker 2>we've done, and sometimes it can all run together. But

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<v Speaker 2>I do think we're in really happy years right now,

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<v Speaker 2>which I'm really thankful for. Is there anything you want

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<v Speaker 2>to achieve in the next year of our marriage.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean in our lives together. I just like that.

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<v Speaker 1>What I really enjoy is us just striving together and

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<v Speaker 1>working together. I didn't I was there was moments of

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<v Speaker 1>trepidation of like, oh, should we work together, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>because I've heard pluses and minuses for couples working together.

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<v Speaker 1>But I've really enjoyed working with you and seeing that

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<v Speaker 1>side of your brain. I always loved it and respected

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<v Speaker 1>it from afar when I was like watching you at

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<v Speaker 1>entertainment tonight or you know, when you were interviewing me

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<v Speaker 1>and interviewing other people, I got to see you and

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<v Speaker 1>I knew you were good, but working by your side

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<v Speaker 1>is different, and how we speak to each other at

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<v Speaker 1>times and work is different than in our love life,

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<v Speaker 1>and so learning that balance and that back and forth

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<v Speaker 1>has also been good for us, and I think we've

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<v Speaker 1>done a good job of that this year. So that's

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's what I look forward to. As you said,

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<v Speaker 1>we're in a good season, and God bless us. I

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<v Speaker 1>hope that season continues there. You know, there will be

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<v Speaker 1>a fall in a winter to life. There always is,

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<v Speaker 1>but right now it's it's wonderful and now I'm excited

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<v Speaker 1>to kind of see what our next chapter is and

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<v Speaker 1>what this next year will bring.

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<v Speaker 2>At the anniversary, Babe, I love you.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think the most like hopeful thing and loving

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<v Speaker 1>thing I can say is I wish we were doing

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<v Speaker 1>it again tonight. I wish we were getting dressed right

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<v Speaker 1>now and getting ready to go back to the same

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<v Speaker 1>party that we had last year.

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<v Speaker 2>I truly feel so thankful that I look back on

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<v Speaker 2>our wedding and think I would do that night over

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<v Speaker 2>and over and over again. I really would dance all

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<v Speaker 2>night long with the people you love, to.

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<v Speaker 1>All our friends and family, to everybody that was here,

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<v Speaker 1>all the vacter nation that showed up. We love you.

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<v Speaker 1>It's been so fun to go back and look at

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<v Speaker 1>the pictures, the videos, and one more tip as I

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<v Speaker 1>close this out and we wrap up this episode, save

0:27:28.320 --> 0:27:30.600
<v Speaker 1>something you know I used to save that top tier

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<v Speaker 1>of wedding cake for the anniversary. Save a video, save

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<v Speaker 1>some pictures, Save something for anniversaries when you get a

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<v Speaker 1>year later and you have perspective and it might just

0:27:40.920 --> 0:27:43.360
<v Speaker 1>look it might rekindle something, but it also just might

0:27:43.400 --> 0:27:45.840
<v Speaker 1>remind you of that love and how great it was

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<v Speaker 1>and that you want to do it all over again.

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<v Speaker 1>And thank you guys for letting us share our love

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<v Speaker 1>with you. It's been a great adventure this first year.

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<v Speaker 1>Happy anniversary, babe, I love you and here's to many,

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<v Speaker 1>many more. Thanks for listening. Follow us on Instagram at

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