1 00:00:01,000 --> 00:00:06,000 Speaker 1: This is the most dramatic podcast ever and iHeartRadio podcast. 2 00:00:07,320 --> 00:00:09,360 Speaker 1: Chris Harrison and Lauren z Ema coming to you from 3 00:00:09,400 --> 00:00:13,880 Speaker 1: our home office in Austin, Texas, LZ, Happy universary. 4 00:00:13,520 --> 00:00:16,360 Speaker 2: Happy anniversary, babe. We wanted to come on and record 5 00:00:16,360 --> 00:00:20,720 Speaker 2: a podcast because one year ago today today, November fourth, 6 00:00:20,760 --> 00:00:26,120 Speaker 2: twenty twenty three, we were having the best morning of 7 00:00:26,760 --> 00:00:31,200 Speaker 2: getting ready at home. Our kids were there, Josh and Taylor, 8 00:00:31,440 --> 00:00:34,880 Speaker 2: Josh's girlfriend, Catherine, my family, our your family, your family 9 00:00:35,200 --> 00:00:39,320 Speaker 2: was in town. Our dearest friends were all getting ready 10 00:00:39,320 --> 00:00:43,159 Speaker 2: and looking dapper in accordance with the theme that I 11 00:00:43,200 --> 00:00:46,519 Speaker 2: pushed upon them, all cowboy chic and getting ready for 12 00:00:46,640 --> 00:00:50,519 Speaker 2: us to have the best party of our lives in Austin, Texas. 13 00:00:50,520 --> 00:00:53,000 Speaker 1: Actually, what I was doing I remember vividly that morning. 14 00:00:54,160 --> 00:00:56,800 Speaker 1: I walked out because we had two meat smokers in 15 00:00:56,840 --> 00:00:58,840 Speaker 1: our driveway and yes. 16 00:00:58,800 --> 00:01:02,760 Speaker 2: Courtesy of Bambam's Barbecue in Utah. 17 00:01:03,080 --> 00:01:07,240 Speaker 1: Our boy Cameron and so our friend Cameron. One of 18 00:01:06,959 --> 00:01:09,280 Speaker 1: his gift to us was he wanted to come in 19 00:01:09,840 --> 00:01:13,160 Speaker 1: from his barbecue place in Provo, Utah. And if you're 20 00:01:13,200 --> 00:01:17,160 Speaker 1: around Salt Lake City, if you get up to Park City, 21 00:01:17,440 --> 00:01:20,160 Speaker 1: if you're around Provo, got to go to Bam Bams anyway, 22 00:01:20,200 --> 00:01:22,240 Speaker 1: so he wanted a barbecue. He's like, well, I'm just 23 00:01:22,240 --> 00:01:24,000 Speaker 1: going to barbecue in your driveway. So he dropped a 24 00:01:24,040 --> 00:01:26,360 Speaker 1: bunch of meat smokers in our driveway. So at eight 25 00:01:26,440 --> 00:01:28,200 Speaker 1: thirty in the morning, I walked out on my wedding 26 00:01:28,240 --> 00:01:30,880 Speaker 1: day and he's out there pulling the pork butts off 27 00:01:30,920 --> 00:01:31,680 Speaker 1: in the brisket. 28 00:01:31,880 --> 00:01:34,280 Speaker 2: And he'd been cooking all night with my mom. He'd 29 00:01:34,319 --> 00:01:36,560 Speaker 2: been out. They'd been baking together with my mom and 30 00:01:36,600 --> 00:01:38,200 Speaker 2: sister and my brother's girlfriend. 31 00:01:38,400 --> 00:01:40,120 Speaker 1: And that's how the wedding day started. 32 00:01:40,319 --> 00:01:42,720 Speaker 2: It was wonderful. And look, I know we kind of 33 00:01:42,720 --> 00:01:46,440 Speaker 2: we mentioned our anniversary a few podcasts ago because and 34 00:01:46,480 --> 00:01:47,840 Speaker 2: we got to figure out how we're going to move 35 00:01:47,840 --> 00:01:50,800 Speaker 2: forward here. But I'm also a big like the more celebrating, 36 00:01:50,840 --> 00:01:54,480 Speaker 2: the better person. So we got married on October fourteenth 37 00:01:54,880 --> 00:01:58,240 Speaker 2: in Napa at the most beautiful wedding at Roy Estate. 38 00:01:58,400 --> 00:02:00,720 Speaker 2: Go there if you are in Napa. Is the most 39 00:02:00,760 --> 00:02:04,800 Speaker 2: magical place. It's like a modern day castle in Napa, California, 40 00:02:05,000 --> 00:02:07,840 Speaker 2: on the most stunning day with our a small group 41 00:02:07,920 --> 00:02:11,120 Speaker 2: about thirty five of our closest family and friends, and 42 00:02:11,200 --> 00:02:14,360 Speaker 2: it was magical. And we drank great wine and had 43 00:02:14,360 --> 00:02:17,520 Speaker 2: an incredible dinner and danced all night at the Archer 44 00:02:17,600 --> 00:02:20,560 Speaker 2: Hotel there. But then we thought, we have so many 45 00:02:20,600 --> 00:02:22,760 Speaker 2: great family and friends in our lives, we got to 46 00:02:22,800 --> 00:02:24,920 Speaker 2: have a big blowout party in the home we love 47 00:02:25,040 --> 00:02:27,320 Speaker 2: so much, Austin, Texas. And that's what we did on 48 00:02:27,360 --> 00:02:29,760 Speaker 2: November fourth. Yeah, the night, two hundred and fifty people 49 00:02:29,800 --> 00:02:30,239 Speaker 2: at that one. 50 00:02:30,480 --> 00:02:32,720 Speaker 1: That was it was amazing. So the night before, you know, 51 00:02:32,720 --> 00:02:34,960 Speaker 1: obviously I think we've we've talked about this before. We 52 00:02:34,960 --> 00:02:37,400 Speaker 1: had the bachelor family, all of them that could make 53 00:02:37,440 --> 00:02:39,040 Speaker 1: it in town that night made. 54 00:02:38,800 --> 00:02:40,320 Speaker 2: It there and then here here in Austin. 55 00:02:40,360 --> 00:02:41,040 Speaker 1: Here in Austin. 56 00:02:41,200 --> 00:02:43,720 Speaker 2: Friday night that weekend we had a bachelor reunion at 57 00:02:43,760 --> 00:02:45,200 Speaker 2: our house and intimate gathering. 58 00:02:45,360 --> 00:02:47,720 Speaker 1: A couple of people like Elon Gail, our producer, I 59 00:02:47,720 --> 00:02:49,720 Speaker 1: think Sean and Catherine came in the day of so 60 00:02:50,680 --> 00:02:54,440 Speaker 1: but it was a great night that led into a 61 00:02:54,440 --> 00:02:56,920 Speaker 1: wonderful morning. So we got up that morning we were 62 00:02:56,960 --> 00:02:58,840 Speaker 1: barbecuing with cam and the driveway and all that. But 63 00:02:58,880 --> 00:03:01,840 Speaker 1: the whole day was so chill. 64 00:03:01,919 --> 00:03:02,720 Speaker 2: They were so easy. 65 00:03:02,800 --> 00:03:03,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, it was very easy. 66 00:03:04,880 --> 00:03:07,720 Speaker 2: I think we had taken the nerves out of it 67 00:03:07,960 --> 00:03:11,639 Speaker 2: with the NAPA wedding first, and again I can't recommend, 68 00:03:12,160 --> 00:03:14,520 Speaker 2: I don't recommend the two party system, but I recommend 69 00:03:14,520 --> 00:03:19,480 Speaker 2: the two wedding system. We had this emotional wedding with 70 00:03:19,560 --> 00:03:23,760 Speaker 2: again just the smallest amount of family and friends, and 71 00:03:23,880 --> 00:03:25,840 Speaker 2: so we got our nerves out there. We had the 72 00:03:25,840 --> 00:03:28,440 Speaker 2: big butterflies in our stomach leading up to the vows 73 00:03:28,480 --> 00:03:32,080 Speaker 2: there and we were able to have really focused time 74 00:03:32,200 --> 00:03:34,720 Speaker 2: with family and friends. So I think the day of 75 00:03:34,760 --> 00:03:37,360 Speaker 2: this big party in Austin and we did our vows 76 00:03:37,360 --> 00:03:40,560 Speaker 2: again in Austin, so all of our friends and family 77 00:03:40,560 --> 00:03:42,680 Speaker 2: who were there got to hear everything and feel part 78 00:03:42,720 --> 00:03:45,160 Speaker 2: of everything, but our nerves were gone. We'd kind of 79 00:03:45,440 --> 00:03:47,400 Speaker 2: already done it once through and knew we nailed it, 80 00:03:47,480 --> 00:03:51,320 Speaker 2: and we just got to enjoy. I thought, and actually 81 00:03:51,320 --> 00:03:53,800 Speaker 2: I love doing the vows twice because then I sort 82 00:03:53,800 --> 00:03:56,320 Speaker 2: of really got to hear what you were saying, because 83 00:03:56,520 --> 00:03:58,520 Speaker 2: you know, the first time you almost black out a 84 00:03:58,520 --> 00:03:59,320 Speaker 2: little bit or something. 85 00:03:59,760 --> 00:04:03,640 Speaker 1: Favorite part of the day and one of my two 86 00:04:03,680 --> 00:04:06,600 Speaker 1: things that really stood out that I would I don't 87 00:04:06,640 --> 00:04:08,200 Speaker 1: know how you can do it, because if you don't 88 00:04:08,200 --> 00:04:10,600 Speaker 1: do two weddings, you know you're not going to get 89 00:04:10,640 --> 00:04:12,480 Speaker 1: the first look and all that. So we'd already done 90 00:04:12,520 --> 00:04:14,600 Speaker 1: all those things, like Lauren was just talking about. So 91 00:04:14,920 --> 00:04:16,880 Speaker 1: one of the most beautiful things is we got ready 92 00:04:16,920 --> 00:04:21,880 Speaker 1: here at the house, and there's something easy about getting 93 00:04:21,960 --> 00:04:25,320 Speaker 1: ready in your own place. So we're getting ready together. 94 00:04:26,200 --> 00:04:28,240 Speaker 2: I know. That was really fun because we weren't because 95 00:04:28,279 --> 00:04:30,440 Speaker 2: in Napa, obviously it's like we're waiting to see. But 96 00:04:30,480 --> 00:04:33,320 Speaker 2: I liked having both. I liked ware traditional until the 97 00:04:33,360 --> 00:04:34,159 Speaker 2: walk down the aisle. 98 00:04:34,040 --> 00:04:36,360 Speaker 1: That was more traditional. We're separated and all that, which 99 00:04:36,400 --> 00:04:39,479 Speaker 1: is great, and the anticipation was building all day. You know, 100 00:04:39,520 --> 00:04:41,799 Speaker 1: I was like, what she doing. And I was hanging 101 00:04:41,800 --> 00:04:43,680 Speaker 1: out with my you know, my dad and my brother 102 00:04:43,760 --> 00:04:46,200 Speaker 1: and your brother, and we were kind of taking you know, 103 00:04:46,240 --> 00:04:50,480 Speaker 1: it's just like traditional. But that day here getting ready 104 00:04:50,480 --> 00:04:54,400 Speaker 1: with you, just walking around, the kids were here. I'll 105 00:04:54,440 --> 00:04:57,840 Speaker 1: never forget when we to drive over to the ceremony. 106 00:04:58,440 --> 00:05:01,159 Speaker 1: That's what really struck me is this is fantastic. It 107 00:05:01,200 --> 00:05:05,520 Speaker 1: was really it was weird. But everybody had left your family, 108 00:05:05,520 --> 00:05:08,440 Speaker 1: everybody had already made it their way to the wedding site, 109 00:05:08,600 --> 00:05:10,440 Speaker 1: and the only people that were left were us and 110 00:05:10,480 --> 00:05:14,159 Speaker 1: we me, you and Josh and Tay got in the 111 00:05:14,200 --> 00:05:17,200 Speaker 1: truck and drove to our wedding and it was just 112 00:05:17,480 --> 00:05:19,599 Speaker 1: it was we just put on some music and we 113 00:05:19,600 --> 00:05:21,599 Speaker 1: were just talking like we were going to dinner. 114 00:05:21,760 --> 00:05:26,279 Speaker 2: It was really casual and cool, and you know, obviously 115 00:05:26,320 --> 00:05:30,520 Speaker 2: we were able to afford these two parties. But I 116 00:05:30,560 --> 00:05:33,640 Speaker 2: will also say we did a lot of I don't know, 117 00:05:33,680 --> 00:05:35,760 Speaker 2: I'm still a Midwest girl. I save money where I can. 118 00:05:36,040 --> 00:05:39,160 Speaker 2: We did a lot of doing some stuff ourselves, including 119 00:05:39,520 --> 00:05:42,080 Speaker 2: my mother baking a lot of the desserts for the wedding. 120 00:05:42,640 --> 00:05:46,560 Speaker 2: We did a lot of you know, I don't like 121 00:05:47,200 --> 00:05:50,760 Speaker 2: our friend Cam did, so we did a lot of 122 00:05:50,800 --> 00:05:53,679 Speaker 2: things here and there, and ultimately, I would confidently say 123 00:05:53,720 --> 00:05:56,760 Speaker 2: that we got both weddings in total for the price 124 00:05:56,800 --> 00:05:58,360 Speaker 2: of what a lot of people pay for one wedding. 125 00:05:59,760 --> 00:06:03,080 Speaker 2: Now that being said, you know, whatever you can afford, 126 00:06:03,120 --> 00:06:04,560 Speaker 2: you can afford. And at the end of the day, 127 00:06:04,560 --> 00:06:06,640 Speaker 2: it's just about being with your friends and family. 128 00:06:06,760 --> 00:06:09,360 Speaker 1: And we saved money on a car. We love ourselves, 129 00:06:09,680 --> 00:06:12,640 Speaker 1: but pulled up to our own wedding. 130 00:06:13,240 --> 00:06:15,599 Speaker 2: But I think the most important thing is the people 131 00:06:16,480 --> 00:06:20,520 Speaker 2: and having some great music and you know, a few 132 00:06:20,600 --> 00:06:23,360 Speaker 2: drinks and dancing all night long. But again, I sort 133 00:06:23,400 --> 00:06:26,040 Speaker 2: of really do recommend all this as I'm reflecting one 134 00:06:26,080 --> 00:06:28,200 Speaker 2: year later, which we wanted this podcast to be about, 135 00:06:28,279 --> 00:06:30,800 Speaker 2: kind of reflecting one year later. We want to talk 136 00:06:30,800 --> 00:06:32,400 Speaker 2: a little bit about where our marriage is at one 137 00:06:32,440 --> 00:06:35,839 Speaker 2: year later. And as I'm thinking back, I think what 138 00:06:35,920 --> 00:06:38,880 Speaker 2: people struggle with the most when planning a wedding is 139 00:06:39,080 --> 00:06:43,480 Speaker 2: managing all the expectations, both for yourself and for those 140 00:06:43,520 --> 00:06:45,320 Speaker 2: who love you like you're you know, a lot of 141 00:06:45,320 --> 00:06:47,400 Speaker 2: people say like, oh, well, my mom was mad I 142 00:06:47,440 --> 00:06:49,120 Speaker 2: didn't spend more time with her the day of, and 143 00:06:49,440 --> 00:06:51,520 Speaker 2: and we kind of eliminated that with the two weddings, 144 00:06:51,640 --> 00:06:53,520 Speaker 2: or well I was so busy saying hi to everyone, 145 00:06:53,560 --> 00:06:55,039 Speaker 2: I didn't get to enjoy it, and we kind of 146 00:06:55,040 --> 00:06:59,000 Speaker 2: eliminated that with the two weddings. So I stand behind, 147 00:06:59,680 --> 00:07:02,760 Speaker 2: do something intimate and then have a party. 148 00:07:02,920 --> 00:07:05,400 Speaker 1: Yeah. I don't know how what that looks like in 149 00:07:05,400 --> 00:07:07,720 Speaker 1: any traditional sense, if you just like we're you know, 150 00:07:08,240 --> 00:07:11,800 Speaker 1: doing the traditional church or traditional type of wedding. But man, 151 00:07:11,840 --> 00:07:14,960 Speaker 1: it really did just it was like a release valve 152 00:07:14,960 --> 00:07:17,080 Speaker 1: of pressure, and it was for everybody. And you know, 153 00:07:17,160 --> 00:07:20,000 Speaker 1: Laura and I talk about ourselves and our pressure because 154 00:07:20,000 --> 00:07:21,600 Speaker 1: that you know, the bride and groom are usually the 155 00:07:21,600 --> 00:07:24,600 Speaker 1: ones that really feel it, but everybody kind of felt totally. 156 00:07:24,640 --> 00:07:27,400 Speaker 2: Like my sister was more tense, not you know, but 157 00:07:27,520 --> 00:07:30,160 Speaker 2: more on edge on the day of the NAPA wedding 158 00:07:30,160 --> 00:07:31,880 Speaker 2: because she's thinking, I got to walk down the aisle 159 00:07:31,920 --> 00:07:32,400 Speaker 2: and I'm. 160 00:07:32,280 --> 00:07:34,600 Speaker 1: Your mom my, mom my, dad. Yeah, yeah, for sure, 161 00:07:34,680 --> 00:07:38,720 Speaker 1: No for everybody. Everybody got to just relax, and there 162 00:07:38,800 --> 00:07:40,440 Speaker 1: was like a little bit of a cocktail hour before 163 00:07:40,480 --> 00:07:42,840 Speaker 1: you and I got to the Austin wedding. But the 164 00:07:43,200 --> 00:07:45,880 Speaker 1: second thing that I love the most in retrospect, and 165 00:07:45,920 --> 00:07:47,720 Speaker 1: I'm looking back at pictures today, you and I are 166 00:07:47,760 --> 00:07:52,920 Speaker 1: both looking at videos and pictures and the walk down 167 00:07:52,960 --> 00:07:55,800 Speaker 1: the aisle when we got there, the kids walked in, 168 00:07:56,360 --> 00:07:58,880 Speaker 1: and you and I stood around the corner and we 169 00:07:58,960 --> 00:08:00,560 Speaker 1: held hands and we got to be there together for 170 00:08:00,600 --> 00:08:02,920 Speaker 1: a minute. And then we walked into our own wedding together, 171 00:08:03,440 --> 00:08:05,679 Speaker 1: and again it was just talk about a release valve 172 00:08:05,720 --> 00:08:07,520 Speaker 1: of emotions where we got to look at each other, 173 00:08:07,560 --> 00:08:10,440 Speaker 1: We got to stop look and make eye contact with 174 00:08:10,480 --> 00:08:11,480 Speaker 1: the people that were there. 175 00:08:11,920 --> 00:08:14,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, because we weren't looking at each other as we 176 00:08:14,280 --> 00:08:17,360 Speaker 2: did in the more traditional NAPA wedding. In that wedding, 177 00:08:17,400 --> 00:08:20,280 Speaker 2: I was focused on you, But at Austin, I was 178 00:08:20,400 --> 00:08:23,080 Speaker 2: looking around and seeing everyone as we walked down the aisle, 179 00:08:23,120 --> 00:08:24,360 Speaker 2: like oh, and saying hi to people. 180 00:08:24,560 --> 00:08:28,240 Speaker 1: We watched the video of both weddings today, saved it 181 00:08:28,360 --> 00:08:30,200 Speaker 1: had not watched it, had not watched it. So we 182 00:08:30,240 --> 00:08:32,360 Speaker 1: watched it together, tears in our eyes, of course, and 183 00:08:32,400 --> 00:08:34,719 Speaker 1: we're crying and it was beautiful. But one thing that 184 00:08:35,360 --> 00:08:37,480 Speaker 1: hit me was when I saw myself walking down the 185 00:08:37,520 --> 00:08:40,079 Speaker 1: aisle in Napa at our first wedding, I'm like, why 186 00:08:40,080 --> 00:08:43,400 Speaker 1: didn't you slow down? Why didn't you like pat people 187 00:08:43,440 --> 00:08:45,840 Speaker 1: on the shoulder and like hug people and like, But 188 00:08:45,920 --> 00:08:50,080 Speaker 1: I didn't. I was so nervous and excited in my head, 189 00:08:50,120 --> 00:08:53,240 Speaker 1: I all but sprinted down the aisle. And I give 190 00:08:53,280 --> 00:08:55,199 Speaker 1: this advice all the time, take time to smell the 191 00:08:55,280 --> 00:08:56,080 Speaker 1: roses and take it all. 192 00:08:56,400 --> 00:08:59,240 Speaker 2: So logistics, that's the thing. It isn't all on you. 193 00:08:59,280 --> 00:09:01,600 Speaker 2: Part of its legit. You're thinking is the bride and groom. 194 00:09:01,760 --> 00:09:04,280 Speaker 2: We only have this place until ten pm or whatever. 195 00:09:04,360 --> 00:09:06,840 Speaker 2: Like there's literally a schedule you have to follow. So 196 00:09:07,640 --> 00:09:09,920 Speaker 2: the two wedding system, it took a lot of the 197 00:09:11,280 --> 00:09:15,000 Speaker 2: tension out of it. I feel so blessed for both days. 198 00:09:15,040 --> 00:09:17,040 Speaker 2: And yeah, we wanted to wait until our one year 199 00:09:17,040 --> 00:09:20,800 Speaker 2: anniversary to watch our videos and to look through a 200 00:09:20,840 --> 00:09:23,719 Speaker 2: photo album. We had to save something special, So I was. 201 00:09:24,240 --> 00:09:28,680 Speaker 1: Any strike you did anything pop out to you. Watching 202 00:09:28,679 --> 00:09:30,040 Speaker 1: the videos for the first time. 203 00:09:31,400 --> 00:09:35,720 Speaker 2: It was really cool. Well, I mean it just unlocked memories. 204 00:09:35,840 --> 00:09:38,800 Speaker 2: I sort of had forgotten what the getting ready process was. Like. 205 00:09:40,480 --> 00:09:43,199 Speaker 2: It was cool to see you getting ready because we're separate, so. 206 00:09:43,160 --> 00:09:44,760 Speaker 1: The same thing. It was fun to see behind the 207 00:09:44,760 --> 00:09:46,800 Speaker 1: scenes that you and your your mom and your sister 208 00:09:46,840 --> 00:09:47,800 Speaker 1: getting you ready. 209 00:09:47,559 --> 00:09:49,560 Speaker 2: And probably you know, everybody has a cell phone today, 210 00:09:49,559 --> 00:09:52,280 Speaker 2: but still a videographer is just going to get angles 211 00:09:52,320 --> 00:09:53,760 Speaker 2: you didn't and that kind of thing. 212 00:09:53,840 --> 00:09:56,200 Speaker 1: And like I wrote you a letter every day of 213 00:09:56,200 --> 00:09:58,320 Speaker 1: the last week before our wedding. I didn't know you 214 00:09:58,440 --> 00:10:01,560 Speaker 1: read the last one, Like I didn't know when I 215 00:10:01,559 --> 00:10:03,560 Speaker 1: thought maybe you did it that morning or and so 216 00:10:03,640 --> 00:10:05,800 Speaker 1: I got to see you reading that for the first time, 217 00:10:06,640 --> 00:10:08,319 Speaker 1: and so all of it just being able to kind 218 00:10:08,320 --> 00:10:09,680 Speaker 1: of I was like a fly on the wall. 219 00:10:09,800 --> 00:10:11,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a reminder of the details. You remember it 220 00:10:11,920 --> 00:10:14,720 Speaker 2: as this big, happy thing, but it is nice to 221 00:10:15,080 --> 00:10:17,640 Speaker 2: have those, oh, visual memories. 222 00:10:17,280 --> 00:10:20,319 Speaker 1: A mistake I made, and luckily you corrected it, and 223 00:10:20,440 --> 00:10:21,960 Speaker 1: it would have would have been a big faux pas. 224 00:10:22,200 --> 00:10:25,640 Speaker 1: As we watched the videos today, I wasn't all that 225 00:10:25,679 --> 00:10:29,599 Speaker 1: into a videographer to start, Remember, I was like, oh, photographer, 226 00:10:29,600 --> 00:10:31,160 Speaker 1: I want the pictures and all that, but I don't. 227 00:10:31,559 --> 00:10:33,320 Speaker 1: Maybe it's because of bats or days and being on 228 00:10:33,360 --> 00:10:35,440 Speaker 1: camera so much and you and I doing so much 229 00:10:35,480 --> 00:10:37,160 Speaker 1: TV as like, oh, I don't really care to see 230 00:10:37,160 --> 00:10:41,480 Speaker 1: myself on TV again anymore. And I would have been 231 00:10:41,600 --> 00:10:44,520 Speaker 1: so stilled that way. Well, no, I don't mean like 232 00:10:44,600 --> 00:10:47,720 Speaker 1: I don't want to work again. I just met like 233 00:10:48,800 --> 00:10:51,480 Speaker 1: I don't need to. I didn't feel the need to 234 00:10:51,559 --> 00:10:53,719 Speaker 1: video myself because I don't know I did. 235 00:10:53,880 --> 00:10:55,320 Speaker 2: It felt self indulgent or something. 236 00:10:55,240 --> 00:10:56,240 Speaker 1: Yeah or something, I don't know. 237 00:10:56,280 --> 00:10:58,240 Speaker 2: I was just like you, only like weddings went the 238 00:10:58,280 --> 00:10:58,719 Speaker 2: focus on. 239 00:11:00,000 --> 00:11:02,160 Speaker 1: But I was the one that was like, oh, babe, 240 00:11:02,200 --> 00:11:04,760 Speaker 1: I don't know if we need a videographer, and you 241 00:11:05,000 --> 00:11:07,280 Speaker 1: and our assistant Karen, who was such a big part 242 00:11:07,320 --> 00:11:08,360 Speaker 1: of this wedding. 243 00:11:08,040 --> 00:11:10,200 Speaker 2: And shout out to Karen, so helpful. 244 00:11:11,559 --> 00:11:14,400 Speaker 1: But that you guys forced me to do that, and 245 00:11:14,440 --> 00:11:16,920 Speaker 1: I am so glad as we watched that video that 246 00:11:16,960 --> 00:11:19,760 Speaker 1: would have been lost forever. So many in it, by 247 00:11:19,800 --> 00:11:22,920 Speaker 1: the way, different than pictures. Everything looks so much more 248 00:11:23,000 --> 00:11:23,960 Speaker 1: vibrant and beautiful. 249 00:11:24,040 --> 00:11:27,040 Speaker 2: Yes, and thank god it came together at the last 250 00:11:27,040 --> 00:11:30,000 Speaker 2: minute because we finally convinced you of this a little close. 251 00:11:30,200 --> 00:11:31,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, I was late. I was late. 252 00:11:31,679 --> 00:11:33,200 Speaker 2: Was I figed someone? 253 00:11:33,280 --> 00:11:34,400 Speaker 1: That was my big gap. 254 00:11:34,520 --> 00:11:37,240 Speaker 2: Thank you to Kiko, Francisco Media and NAPA for coming 255 00:11:37,280 --> 00:11:39,719 Speaker 2: through close to the end there I goofed on that. 256 00:11:40,080 --> 00:11:43,640 Speaker 2: You know, I listen. I actually, uh, I used to 257 00:11:43,679 --> 00:11:45,880 Speaker 2: feel the same as you, like in the very beginning, 258 00:11:45,920 --> 00:11:48,520 Speaker 2: I kind of agreed with you, like, yeah, who watches 259 00:11:48,559 --> 00:11:50,440 Speaker 2: their wedding video? You kind of just need the pictures. 260 00:11:50,800 --> 00:11:52,839 Speaker 2: But I think it's a different time now. I mean, 261 00:11:52,880 --> 00:11:56,160 Speaker 2: everything is so on social media and it's so video 262 00:11:56,280 --> 00:11:59,760 Speaker 2: focused now that actually video is what you watch more 263 00:11:59,760 --> 00:12:03,000 Speaker 2: than pictures in modern times. I think like back in 264 00:12:03,040 --> 00:12:05,600 Speaker 2: the day, people probably even lost their vhs of their 265 00:12:05,800 --> 00:12:07,920 Speaker 2: wedding video, but you know, you frame the photos and 266 00:12:07,920 --> 00:12:10,280 Speaker 2: put them on your walls. Today, I think people take 267 00:12:10,280 --> 00:12:13,280 Speaker 2: in video more. And you're right. One thing I didn't 268 00:12:13,280 --> 00:12:17,400 Speaker 2: see coming was that I actually think the video captured 269 00:12:18,000 --> 00:12:24,400 Speaker 2: the the day better than the photos. Well, I don't know. 270 00:12:24,440 --> 00:12:26,679 Speaker 2: I guess it's the difference of camera or whatever, but 271 00:12:26,800 --> 00:12:30,000 Speaker 2: literally you could the sky was so beautiful in Napa, 272 00:12:30,480 --> 00:12:33,480 Speaker 2: and I think the video captured it better than the 273 00:12:33,520 --> 00:12:36,960 Speaker 2: photography did, just because of cameras and lenses and stuff, 274 00:12:36,960 --> 00:12:40,760 Speaker 2: and so it was so gorgeous. And I really do feel, 275 00:12:40,920 --> 00:12:44,920 Speaker 2: on that note, blessed for both Austin and Napa. When 276 00:12:44,960 --> 00:12:48,920 Speaker 2: I look back in Napa the week before there had 277 00:12:48,920 --> 00:12:52,280 Speaker 2: been a massive heat wave and we were sort of nervous, 278 00:12:52,520 --> 00:12:55,120 Speaker 2: and then the day of our wedding, it not only 279 00:12:55,240 --> 00:12:58,400 Speaker 2: was the weather amazing, but the sky was stunning. And 280 00:12:58,440 --> 00:13:00,920 Speaker 2: then in Austin, now that I kind of know Austin 281 00:13:00,960 --> 00:13:02,960 Speaker 2: a little better, I think the week before it was raining. 282 00:13:03,160 --> 00:13:06,280 Speaker 1: Well look at today as we are taping this, it's 283 00:13:06,400 --> 00:13:09,080 Speaker 1: raining here in Austin. There's a massive storm coming in 284 00:13:09,120 --> 00:13:09,959 Speaker 1: the next two days. 285 00:13:10,080 --> 00:13:11,360 Speaker 2: Yes, so we were taking more of a risk with 286 00:13:11,400 --> 00:13:15,320 Speaker 2: an outside wedding than I thought we were. And again 287 00:13:15,360 --> 00:13:18,640 Speaker 2: we just had a perfect, glorious day. We didn't even 288 00:13:18,720 --> 00:13:21,000 Speaker 2: need We were worried should we get heaters. We didn't 289 00:13:21,000 --> 00:13:21,600 Speaker 2: need anything. 290 00:13:21,800 --> 00:13:24,640 Speaker 1: One of those Texas sunsets with a huge Texas sky, 291 00:13:24,920 --> 00:13:27,000 Speaker 1: and you know, it was fun. As I look back 292 00:13:27,040 --> 00:13:29,000 Speaker 1: as we saw the video of like our friends, because 293 00:13:29,000 --> 00:13:31,280 Speaker 1: there was like a real longhorn, a Texas longhorn there 294 00:13:31,320 --> 00:13:33,680 Speaker 1: and our friends, you know, that showed up from LA 295 00:13:33,880 --> 00:13:35,360 Speaker 1: and a lot of the batch of people are taking 296 00:13:35,400 --> 00:13:38,720 Speaker 1: pictures with the longhorn. And it was just a great 297 00:13:39,000 --> 00:13:43,480 Speaker 1: country western Austin, Texas theme and it really came off 298 00:13:43,520 --> 00:13:45,360 Speaker 1: and you know, like it could be a little cheesy, 299 00:13:45,400 --> 00:13:46,680 Speaker 1: but it came off really well. 300 00:13:47,240 --> 00:13:47,920 Speaker 2: It was cowboy she. 301 00:13:48,160 --> 00:13:58,160 Speaker 3: It was cowboy she. 302 00:14:01,120 --> 00:14:04,520 Speaker 2: I feel so blessed to feel that there's not a 303 00:14:04,559 --> 00:14:08,360 Speaker 2: thing I would go back and change. I mean, well, 304 00:14:08,640 --> 00:14:11,000 Speaker 2: I say that with a caveat could you analyze it 305 00:14:11,360 --> 00:14:14,720 Speaker 2: and say, oh sure. But if you're planning a wedding, 306 00:14:14,840 --> 00:14:19,200 Speaker 2: my advice is you just have to accept that, like 307 00:14:19,240 --> 00:14:20,920 Speaker 2: you're going to hope for an A minus, you know 308 00:14:21,000 --> 00:14:23,800 Speaker 2: what I mean. It is impossible when you're planning a 309 00:14:23,840 --> 00:14:26,680 Speaker 2: wedding is a production, it is an event. Life is 310 00:14:26,720 --> 00:14:29,280 Speaker 2: going to happen. It will be impossible that it will 311 00:14:29,320 --> 00:14:33,000 Speaker 2: go completely perfectly as you picture it in your mind. 312 00:14:33,640 --> 00:14:37,280 Speaker 2: But if you have an A minus, it's it's amazing. 313 00:14:37,440 --> 00:14:41,400 Speaker 2: And I really do think it was the perfect combination 314 00:14:41,640 --> 00:14:45,240 Speaker 2: of you know, spending money where we did, doing some 315 00:14:45,320 --> 00:14:47,680 Speaker 2: things ourselves where we did, because that also made it 316 00:14:47,720 --> 00:14:52,480 Speaker 2: more personal and connected, and having our families involved, and 317 00:14:53,080 --> 00:14:56,080 Speaker 2: you know, there's laughter and joy like in those moments 318 00:14:56,160 --> 00:14:59,120 Speaker 2: like baking with Cam and our and my mind was 319 00:14:59,200 --> 00:15:01,880 Speaker 2: up all night before, yeah, and doing the gift bags 320 00:15:01,880 --> 00:15:05,080 Speaker 2: with my sister. And so when you family feel I 321 00:15:05,320 --> 00:15:08,520 Speaker 2: recommend involving family because they feel part of it. And 322 00:15:08,560 --> 00:15:11,360 Speaker 2: then I think there's like a spiritual element. I really 323 00:15:11,400 --> 00:15:14,480 Speaker 2: do think my Dad was looking down on us, giving 324 00:15:14,560 --> 00:15:17,960 Speaker 2: us those two perfect days of weather, and I felt 325 00:15:17,960 --> 00:15:22,000 Speaker 2: that all of our hard work came together, and that 326 00:15:22,080 --> 00:15:25,800 Speaker 2: also our attitude of knowing, of keeping the perspective like 327 00:15:26,200 --> 00:15:29,040 Speaker 2: I did go into it thinking if a few things 328 00:15:29,040 --> 00:15:31,200 Speaker 2: go wrong, I'm not going to be upset because I'm 329 00:15:31,240 --> 00:15:33,760 Speaker 2: really just happy to marry this man. And what I 330 00:15:33,840 --> 00:15:36,960 Speaker 2: do tell people is a good gauge on whether you 331 00:15:36,960 --> 00:15:40,320 Speaker 2: should marry someone, is this, if you couldn't have a wedding, 332 00:15:41,000 --> 00:15:43,080 Speaker 2: if you were not allowed to have the party that 333 00:15:43,120 --> 00:15:45,560 Speaker 2: we all dream of, would you still want to marry 334 00:15:45,560 --> 00:15:50,160 Speaker 2: the person. Well, some people get wrapped up in the party. 335 00:15:50,200 --> 00:15:52,760 Speaker 2: I think it's easy to do because it's such a 336 00:15:52,760 --> 00:15:53,800 Speaker 2: big part of our culture. 337 00:15:54,520 --> 00:15:57,760 Speaker 1: It's been a year. Does it feel like it to you? 338 00:15:58,920 --> 00:16:02,520 Speaker 1: To me, it seems like a long time ago. If 339 00:16:02,560 --> 00:16:04,480 Speaker 1: you told me it was two years or three, I'd be. 340 00:16:04,360 --> 00:16:07,000 Speaker 2: Like, I, why do you think that is? I agree? 341 00:16:07,280 --> 00:16:08,760 Speaker 2: Is it because we're in this election? You're in? This 342 00:16:08,800 --> 00:16:10,400 Speaker 2: Year's felt like a lot going on. I know. 343 00:16:10,440 --> 00:16:13,840 Speaker 1: I just feel like I look like the eve of. 344 00:16:13,840 --> 00:16:16,560 Speaker 2: Our I mean, we're on the our anniversary and it's 345 00:16:16,600 --> 00:16:17,280 Speaker 2: the eve of the election. 346 00:16:17,640 --> 00:16:20,240 Speaker 1: Yeah. I know that we didn't plan out for now 347 00:16:20,480 --> 00:16:23,600 Speaker 1: thinking a year ahead. But maybe this is the the 348 00:16:23,720 --> 00:16:28,160 Speaker 1: distraction we all need. But to me, it just I 349 00:16:28,200 --> 00:16:31,200 Speaker 1: look back and I think, Wow, a lot's changed in 350 00:16:31,240 --> 00:16:35,040 Speaker 1: a great way since in just a year. It feels 351 00:16:35,040 --> 00:16:36,680 Speaker 1: like a long time. I feel like we've grown a 352 00:16:36,760 --> 00:16:40,360 Speaker 1: lot together, and I feel like we did. Honestly, if 353 00:16:40,400 --> 00:16:42,880 Speaker 1: you'd asked me that day, this day, a year ago, 354 00:16:43,400 --> 00:16:45,000 Speaker 1: do you have a lot more to grow and to 355 00:16:45,120 --> 00:16:49,720 Speaker 1: learn and to progress in your love in relationship? I'd 356 00:16:49,760 --> 00:16:52,720 Speaker 1: say no, you know we're there. But it is amazing 357 00:16:52,760 --> 00:16:57,960 Speaker 1: how time and history and just experiences propels you forward 358 00:16:57,960 --> 00:16:59,800 Speaker 1: in a relationship. If you're both in love and you're 359 00:16:59,800 --> 00:17:02,960 Speaker 1: both willing and able to dive into that, and so 360 00:17:03,040 --> 00:17:05,600 Speaker 1: I guess this year is just I feel like we've 361 00:17:05,640 --> 00:17:08,399 Speaker 1: progressed so much as a couple, and I assume we 362 00:17:08,480 --> 00:17:11,080 Speaker 1: will feel the same a year from now and two, 363 00:17:11,200 --> 00:17:13,439 Speaker 1: you know, as we go on. So I don't know, 364 00:17:13,560 --> 00:17:15,080 Speaker 1: that's how I feel. How do you feel? 365 00:17:15,320 --> 00:17:19,640 Speaker 2: I completely agree? And what strange is we didn't talk 366 00:17:19,680 --> 00:17:21,879 Speaker 2: about this before we'd sat down to record this, but 367 00:17:21,920 --> 00:17:24,960 Speaker 2: I was just like in the bathroom and thinking about 368 00:17:25,560 --> 00:17:30,119 Speaker 2: how it is weird. I do feel we've grown a 369 00:17:30,119 --> 00:17:32,800 Speaker 2: lot in a year. And it's odd how you can 370 00:17:32,960 --> 00:17:35,919 Speaker 2: feel really good. It's not like things were bad. You 371 00:17:36,000 --> 00:17:38,480 Speaker 2: can feel good about your relationship. We're so happy the 372 00:17:38,560 --> 00:17:41,840 Speaker 2: day we got married, and yet and yet looking back, 373 00:17:41,920 --> 00:17:46,560 Speaker 2: I do feel we've progressed. And I guess the lesson 374 00:17:46,560 --> 00:17:49,440 Speaker 2: there is, even when things are good, there's still growth 375 00:17:49,480 --> 00:17:52,080 Speaker 2: to happen, and you want things to keep getting better, 376 00:17:52,480 --> 00:17:53,560 Speaker 2: and growth is part of that. 377 00:17:53,760 --> 00:17:57,199 Speaker 1: So and you think of the experience in life just 378 00:17:57,560 --> 00:18:00,399 Speaker 1: comes at you right, and it's like, in that time, 379 00:18:00,480 --> 00:18:02,959 Speaker 1: we've had a child graduate college and get them off 380 00:18:02,960 --> 00:18:06,360 Speaker 1: in the real world, and a daughter get back to college, 381 00:18:06,359 --> 00:18:10,520 Speaker 1: and a baby born in our family, and so good 382 00:18:10,560 --> 00:18:13,040 Speaker 1: things and great things and there's In that. 383 00:18:13,040 --> 00:18:14,360 Speaker 2: Time, we started a new job. 384 00:18:14,400 --> 00:18:18,920 Speaker 1: We started media, joined mayor of Street Media that we 385 00:18:19,000 --> 00:18:22,560 Speaker 1: had kind of started talking about in Earnest. Really around 386 00:18:22,560 --> 00:18:26,119 Speaker 1: this our wedding, which was the one in Napa is 387 00:18:26,119 --> 00:18:28,840 Speaker 1: when we really like kind of started cementing this deal. 388 00:18:29,200 --> 00:18:31,520 Speaker 2: And so, yeah, gosh, I forgot about that. It was 389 00:18:31,520 --> 00:18:33,560 Speaker 2: like on our wedding weekend we cemented the deal. 390 00:18:33,760 --> 00:18:36,320 Speaker 1: We got a call and said happy wedding present from 391 00:18:36,320 --> 00:18:36,840 Speaker 1: our lawyer. 392 00:18:37,119 --> 00:18:40,000 Speaker 2: Wow, And then. 393 00:18:39,000 --> 00:18:41,440 Speaker 1: The both our lawyers were at the Austin wedding. Yes, 394 00:18:41,800 --> 00:18:45,160 Speaker 1: shout out to Chris Chatham and Brian Freeman. But yeah, 395 00:18:45,200 --> 00:18:49,280 Speaker 1: so it just things happen, right, and it galvanizes you, 396 00:18:49,880 --> 00:18:52,040 Speaker 1: or I guess that it could tear you apart if 397 00:18:52,040 --> 00:18:55,000 Speaker 1: you're not strong. And you're both not into this, but. 398 00:18:54,960 --> 00:18:56,879 Speaker 2: I think you're both not open. I think that's the 399 00:18:56,920 --> 00:18:59,720 Speaker 2: biggest thing, right to me, The people who suffer the 400 00:18:59,720 --> 00:19:03,640 Speaker 2: most in life are the ones who aren't open to growth, 401 00:19:03,720 --> 00:19:08,360 Speaker 2: open to change, flexible, who don't welcome experiences affecting them. 402 00:19:08,359 --> 00:19:11,359 Speaker 2: I think those are the people who truly suffer the most, 403 00:19:11,400 --> 00:19:12,920 Speaker 2: because life's about evolution. 404 00:19:13,720 --> 00:19:15,240 Speaker 1: There was a brain surgery in the family. 405 00:19:16,359 --> 00:19:18,359 Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, yeah, we went to everything with your. 406 00:19:18,240 --> 00:19:22,199 Speaker 1: Mom, thank god. Yeah, those things like you get to 407 00:19:22,240 --> 00:19:24,560 Speaker 1: see like even honestly, like that week, I got to 408 00:19:24,560 --> 00:19:26,720 Speaker 1: see a side of you that I had not seen before, 409 00:19:27,160 --> 00:19:30,000 Speaker 1: this caretaker side of how is she going to take 410 00:19:30,040 --> 00:19:32,200 Speaker 1: care of me and my family in need? 411 00:19:32,280 --> 00:19:35,240 Speaker 2: And you mean the week with stuff with your mom? 412 00:19:35,320 --> 00:19:37,119 Speaker 1: Yeah, just like you know, when things happen like that, 413 00:19:37,320 --> 00:19:40,520 Speaker 1: like you just no, no, no no. 414 00:19:40,560 --> 00:19:41,359 Speaker 2: And when there. 415 00:19:41,200 --> 00:19:43,840 Speaker 1: Are times when things happen you're like you know and 416 00:19:44,160 --> 00:19:47,439 Speaker 1: my uncle passing away and there, you know, there are 417 00:19:47,520 --> 00:19:49,800 Speaker 1: things when you get different glimpses of your spouse, it 418 00:19:50,080 --> 00:19:53,240 Speaker 1: just it brings you together. But again that's a good 419 00:19:53,240 --> 00:19:55,359 Speaker 1: thing because those things could also tear your apart and 420 00:19:55,400 --> 00:19:57,560 Speaker 1: fracture you and go, oh, she didn't really handle that well, 421 00:19:57,640 --> 00:19:59,199 Speaker 1: or he didn't come, he didn't show up for me 422 00:19:59,240 --> 00:19:59,640 Speaker 1: that day. 423 00:19:59,720 --> 00:20:04,159 Speaker 2: And what do you think is the biggest change or 424 00:20:04,160 --> 00:20:06,920 Speaker 2: evolution or growth that we have made in our relationship 425 00:20:06,960 --> 00:20:07,320 Speaker 2: this year? 426 00:20:08,640 --> 00:20:12,679 Speaker 1: I just feel more and more even and it's not 427 00:20:12,760 --> 00:20:14,760 Speaker 1: like I didn't feel this a year ago, but I 428 00:20:14,800 --> 00:20:21,800 Speaker 1: feel even more now that you are my partner in life. 429 00:20:22,160 --> 00:20:27,440 Speaker 1: You are behind me, but not in a unquestioning way 430 00:20:28,240 --> 00:20:30,640 Speaker 1: like you will put me, you know, hold my feet 431 00:20:30,680 --> 00:20:33,720 Speaker 1: to the fire. You will question, but at the same 432 00:20:33,720 --> 00:20:37,520 Speaker 1: time you will love and appreciate. You're my biggest fan 433 00:20:37,600 --> 00:20:40,560 Speaker 1: and my biggest cheerleader, and I love that and I 434 00:20:40,600 --> 00:20:42,959 Speaker 1: know that. But also again, you have to earn it, 435 00:20:43,320 --> 00:20:44,879 Speaker 1: and I love that with you, is that you have 436 00:20:44,920 --> 00:20:48,120 Speaker 1: to earn it and fight for it and work at it. 437 00:20:48,240 --> 00:20:52,560 Speaker 1: And it's not just. It's not just given. Everything's earned. 438 00:20:52,960 --> 00:20:55,439 Speaker 1: And I feel the same way, and so I guess 439 00:20:55,600 --> 00:20:57,560 Speaker 1: the point is, there wasn't a moment that did that. 440 00:20:58,040 --> 00:21:00,760 Speaker 1: Every hurdle that we've had, good or bad. Right, you 441 00:21:00,800 --> 00:21:03,240 Speaker 1: have hurdles in life, and sometimes you're going up in life. 442 00:21:03,240 --> 00:21:06,320 Speaker 1: Sometimes you're on the roller coaster down. But every hurdle 443 00:21:06,359 --> 00:21:09,840 Speaker 1: we've crossed together, whether we've stumbled or not, it's brought 444 00:21:09,920 --> 00:21:12,119 Speaker 1: us closer together. And I've seen a little different something 445 00:21:12,160 --> 00:21:12,560 Speaker 1: about you. 446 00:21:24,520 --> 00:21:27,800 Speaker 2: I do think you've changed a little bit on seeing 447 00:21:29,080 --> 00:21:32,640 Speaker 2: challenging as like not a negative thing. Yeah, I think 448 00:21:32,720 --> 00:21:36,240 Speaker 2: you see it as a more positive and loving thing. Now. 449 00:21:36,240 --> 00:21:38,560 Speaker 1: That's happened this year, Yeah, yeah, that took You're right 450 00:21:38,600 --> 00:21:40,560 Speaker 1: that we even though we've been together for five years, 451 00:21:40,600 --> 00:21:42,399 Speaker 1: I think this year I've really come. 452 00:21:42,280 --> 00:21:44,560 Speaker 2: To, but you always let me. You always. It's not 453 00:21:44,600 --> 00:21:46,360 Speaker 2: like you never let me challenge you. But I think 454 00:21:46,400 --> 00:21:48,760 Speaker 2: you've shifted your viewpoint in the past when I might 455 00:21:48,840 --> 00:21:51,359 Speaker 2: challenge you or push you on something, you heard it, 456 00:21:51,400 --> 00:21:53,239 Speaker 2: but you thought it was this negative thing, and now 457 00:21:53,280 --> 00:21:54,360 Speaker 2: you're like, no, it's a good thing. 458 00:21:54,840 --> 00:21:58,760 Speaker 1: More and more, how you're how the Zemis women speak 459 00:21:58,800 --> 00:21:59,000 Speaker 1: a lot. 460 00:21:59,040 --> 00:22:01,120 Speaker 2: I don't think it's just the Zeo. I think that's 461 00:22:01,160 --> 00:22:01,520 Speaker 2: all women. 462 00:22:01,600 --> 00:22:07,960 Speaker 1: Man. No, Yeah, you're fair particular way of pushing each 463 00:22:07,960 --> 00:22:11,159 Speaker 1: other and I and I've come to love that and 464 00:22:11,240 --> 00:22:11,639 Speaker 1: learn it. 465 00:22:12,000 --> 00:22:15,680 Speaker 2: I think that the biggest thing that we've grown and 466 00:22:15,760 --> 00:22:19,320 Speaker 2: has been our communication, which is in that realm. I 467 00:22:19,359 --> 00:22:25,320 Speaker 2: think we're a lot like we've reached deeper levels of communication. Again, 468 00:22:25,400 --> 00:22:28,040 Speaker 2: it's almost i'd be curious of other people who are 469 00:22:28,040 --> 00:22:31,000 Speaker 2: married or have been with partners for a long time. 470 00:22:31,520 --> 00:22:33,639 Speaker 2: Please shoot me a DM if you understand this or 471 00:22:33,640 --> 00:22:36,080 Speaker 2: can put it in better words than I am right now. 472 00:22:37,840 --> 00:22:40,600 Speaker 2: I never felt we had bad communication, but I have 473 00:22:40,720 --> 00:22:44,800 Speaker 2: now seen us unlock new levels of depth of communication, 474 00:22:45,119 --> 00:22:51,560 Speaker 2: of vulnerability with each other that I didn't know we 475 00:22:51,600 --> 00:22:54,720 Speaker 2: could even achieve, which makes me really excited for where 476 00:22:54,720 --> 00:22:56,440 Speaker 2: our marriage will go from here. 477 00:22:56,400 --> 00:22:59,240 Speaker 1: And it takes effort, you know. I think. I think 478 00:22:59,280 --> 00:23:01,920 Speaker 1: when you get married off and you're like, okay, good, like. 479 00:23:01,880 --> 00:23:03,960 Speaker 2: We're good, I'm set, I got my person. 480 00:23:04,080 --> 00:23:05,680 Speaker 1: And it's easy because then you get back to life, 481 00:23:05,760 --> 00:23:07,280 Speaker 1: it's like, okay, now we got the kids and we 482 00:23:07,359 --> 00:23:09,400 Speaker 1: got jobs, and we got you know, you just kind 483 00:23:09,400 --> 00:23:12,200 Speaker 1: of start cruising. And even when you're happy, Uh, those 484 00:23:12,240 --> 00:23:14,080 Speaker 1: are the times you kind of have to really push 485 00:23:14,080 --> 00:23:17,520 Speaker 1: yourselves to try harder because when you are experiencing bliss 486 00:23:17,560 --> 00:23:19,720 Speaker 1: and whether you're newly married or just things are good 487 00:23:19,720 --> 00:23:23,160 Speaker 1: in life, it's you got to really push each other 488 00:23:23,280 --> 00:23:27,000 Speaker 1: to challenge each other to continue to communicate and go deeper. 489 00:23:27,680 --> 00:23:29,639 Speaker 1: It's easy to kind of hit the pause button and 490 00:23:29,720 --> 00:23:32,560 Speaker 1: just cruise control. And I do think we have fought 491 00:23:32,600 --> 00:23:36,560 Speaker 1: that hard this year. And really, you're you're great at 492 00:23:36,600 --> 00:23:38,760 Speaker 1: You're better than I am. It's one of the great 493 00:23:38,800 --> 00:23:44,040 Speaker 1: attributes you have given to me of don't just hit 494 00:23:44,119 --> 00:23:46,040 Speaker 1: cruise control, and you really got to work at that. 495 00:23:46,480 --> 00:23:48,600 Speaker 1: You're better at that than I am. You think, so, yeah, 496 00:23:48,680 --> 00:23:52,200 Speaker 1: you're you're you're overall you're a better communicator than I am. 497 00:23:52,560 --> 00:23:56,960 Speaker 2: I agree with that. You're you're not a bad communicator. 498 00:23:56,320 --> 00:23:58,800 Speaker 1: But no, I'm not I I and I won't even 499 00:23:58,800 --> 00:24:00,679 Speaker 1: say for a guy, because you know, that's such a 500 00:24:01,080 --> 00:24:03,760 Speaker 1: sexist thing to say, and guys aren't that bad, and 501 00:24:03,800 --> 00:24:06,239 Speaker 1: we get a bad rap for that. But you are 502 00:24:06,280 --> 00:24:08,800 Speaker 1: a better communicator because you and I think you come 503 00:24:08,840 --> 00:24:11,240 Speaker 1: about it honestly, not only with your family but your friends. 504 00:24:11,760 --> 00:24:14,640 Speaker 1: You come from a great group of women who are 505 00:24:14,800 --> 00:24:18,119 Speaker 1: such good communicators, and that's really rare, even for women. 506 00:24:18,160 --> 00:24:20,320 Speaker 1: I think it's rare. And so you're just better. You're 507 00:24:20,320 --> 00:24:26,000 Speaker 1: more intentional, you're more intense, and those things are important. 508 00:24:26,040 --> 00:24:28,280 Speaker 1: You need that and you've taught me to be better 509 00:24:28,320 --> 00:24:31,280 Speaker 1: at that, thanks Anny. Yeah, honestly, if and when we 510 00:24:31,320 --> 00:24:34,040 Speaker 1: get back to work, I think I'll be even better 511 00:24:34,080 --> 00:24:36,600 Speaker 1: at what I used to do. Oh wow, at asking 512 00:24:36,680 --> 00:24:39,000 Speaker 1: questions and really driving. 513 00:24:39,240 --> 00:24:43,320 Speaker 2: I agree. And I won't get this right. But there's 514 00:24:43,400 --> 00:24:46,520 Speaker 2: some it's a marriage therapist out there, someone who has 515 00:24:46,520 --> 00:24:50,240 Speaker 2: a quote about like how relationships are the best form 516 00:24:50,280 --> 00:24:53,439 Speaker 2: of therapy, And I think that's so true. Where do 517 00:24:53,480 --> 00:24:57,040 Speaker 2: we learn the most about ourselves through our relationships with others? 518 00:24:57,119 --> 00:24:59,840 Speaker 2: Where we challenge to be better through our relationships with 519 00:25:00,359 --> 00:25:02,919 Speaker 2: and marriage has got to be number one on that, 520 00:25:04,280 --> 00:25:08,400 Speaker 2: and a good relationship, friendship or romantic will be one 521 00:25:08,440 --> 00:25:13,879 Speaker 2: that pushes you to be better. And I'm just so 522 00:25:13,960 --> 00:25:19,520 Speaker 2: grateful I you know, I yeah, Like you were just saying, 523 00:25:19,520 --> 00:25:21,520 Speaker 2: when you kind of get into the day and day out, 524 00:25:21,560 --> 00:25:23,240 Speaker 2: I mean, I'm trying. I'm really trying to reflect on 525 00:25:23,280 --> 00:25:26,119 Speaker 2: this past year and everything that's happened and things that 526 00:25:26,160 --> 00:25:28,760 Speaker 2: we've done, and sometimes it can all run together. But 527 00:25:29,400 --> 00:25:31,639 Speaker 2: I do think we're in really happy years right now, 528 00:25:31,800 --> 00:25:35,360 Speaker 2: which I'm really thankful for. Is there anything you want 529 00:25:35,359 --> 00:25:41,800 Speaker 2: to achieve in the next year of our marriage. 530 00:25:39,600 --> 00:25:41,960 Speaker 1: I mean in our lives together. I just like that. 531 00:25:42,560 --> 00:25:44,720 Speaker 1: What I really enjoy is us just striving together and 532 00:25:44,800 --> 00:25:48,040 Speaker 1: working together. I didn't I was there was moments of 533 00:25:48,080 --> 00:25:50,280 Speaker 1: trepidation of like, oh, should we work together, you know, 534 00:25:50,320 --> 00:25:53,359 Speaker 1: because I've heard pluses and minuses for couples working together. 535 00:25:53,800 --> 00:25:56,240 Speaker 1: But I've really enjoyed working with you and seeing that 536 00:25:56,280 --> 00:25:58,720 Speaker 1: side of your brain. I always loved it and respected 537 00:25:58,760 --> 00:26:00,520 Speaker 1: it from afar when I was like watching you at 538 00:26:00,600 --> 00:26:03,280 Speaker 1: entertainment tonight or you know, when you were interviewing me 539 00:26:03,480 --> 00:26:05,480 Speaker 1: and interviewing other people, I got to see you and 540 00:26:05,480 --> 00:26:08,720 Speaker 1: I knew you were good, but working by your side 541 00:26:08,840 --> 00:26:11,720 Speaker 1: is different, and how we speak to each other at 542 00:26:11,800 --> 00:26:16,160 Speaker 1: times and work is different than in our love life, 543 00:26:16,640 --> 00:26:18,920 Speaker 1: and so learning that balance and that back and forth 544 00:26:18,960 --> 00:26:20,800 Speaker 1: has also been good for us, and I think we've 545 00:26:20,840 --> 00:26:22,520 Speaker 1: done a good job of that this year. So that's 546 00:26:22,680 --> 00:26:24,360 Speaker 1: I think that's what I look forward to. As you said, 547 00:26:24,400 --> 00:26:27,159 Speaker 1: we're in a good season, and God bless us. I 548 00:26:27,160 --> 00:26:31,600 Speaker 1: hope that season continues there. You know, there will be 549 00:26:31,640 --> 00:26:34,159 Speaker 1: a fall in a winter to life. There always is, 550 00:26:34,400 --> 00:26:37,360 Speaker 1: but right now it's it's wonderful and now I'm excited 551 00:26:37,359 --> 00:26:39,440 Speaker 1: to kind of see what our next chapter is and 552 00:26:39,480 --> 00:26:40,800 Speaker 1: what this next year will bring. 553 00:26:41,480 --> 00:26:43,440 Speaker 2: At the anniversary, Babe, I love you. 554 00:26:43,840 --> 00:26:49,520 Speaker 1: And I think the most like hopeful thing and loving 555 00:26:49,520 --> 00:26:52,960 Speaker 1: thing I can say is I wish we were doing 556 00:26:52,960 --> 00:26:56,280 Speaker 1: it again tonight. I wish we were getting dressed right 557 00:26:56,320 --> 00:26:58,880 Speaker 1: now and getting ready to go back to the same 558 00:26:58,920 --> 00:27:00,000 Speaker 1: party that we had last year. 559 00:27:00,359 --> 00:27:06,120 Speaker 2: I truly feel so thankful that I look back on 560 00:27:06,400 --> 00:27:09,480 Speaker 2: our wedding and think I would do that night over 561 00:27:09,640 --> 00:27:13,040 Speaker 2: and over and over again. I really would dance all 562 00:27:13,119 --> 00:27:14,600 Speaker 2: night long with the people you love, to. 563 00:27:14,600 --> 00:27:16,800 Speaker 1: All our friends and family, to everybody that was here, 564 00:27:17,280 --> 00:27:19,560 Speaker 1: all the vacter nation that showed up. We love you. 565 00:27:20,800 --> 00:27:22,240 Speaker 1: It's been so fun to go back and look at 566 00:27:22,280 --> 00:27:25,000 Speaker 1: the pictures, the videos, and one more tip as I 567 00:27:25,040 --> 00:27:28,280 Speaker 1: close this out and we wrap up this episode, save 568 00:27:28,320 --> 00:27:30,600 Speaker 1: something you know I used to save that top tier 569 00:27:30,640 --> 00:27:33,800 Speaker 1: of wedding cake for the anniversary. Save a video, save 570 00:27:33,880 --> 00:27:37,359 Speaker 1: some pictures, Save something for anniversaries when you get a 571 00:27:37,440 --> 00:27:40,480 Speaker 1: year later and you have perspective and it might just 572 00:27:40,920 --> 00:27:43,360 Speaker 1: look it might rekindle something, but it also just might 573 00:27:43,400 --> 00:27:45,840 Speaker 1: remind you of that love and how great it was 574 00:27:45,840 --> 00:27:47,320 Speaker 1: and that you want to do it all over again. 575 00:27:47,359 --> 00:27:49,680 Speaker 1: And thank you guys for letting us share our love 576 00:27:49,720 --> 00:27:52,640 Speaker 1: with you. It's been a great adventure this first year. 577 00:27:53,400 --> 00:27:56,520 Speaker 1: Happy anniversary, babe, I love you and here's to many, 578 00:27:56,800 --> 00:27:59,760 Speaker 1: many more. Thanks for listening. 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