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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Dakota and this is Riley, your favorite

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Speaker 1: I made my daughter's boyfriend buy a new shirt because

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Speaker 1: it was disrespectful.

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Speaker 2: What was on it A naked lady.

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Speaker 1: The twenty third of December, my daughter's nineteen boyfriend, nineteen

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Speaker 1: came for dinner. We had a dinner then because he's

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Speaker 1: going away with his family for Christmas.

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Speaker 2: Oh that's nice.

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Speaker 1: He arrived, rang the bell and I answered the door,

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Speaker 1: and came in, took off his jacket, and that's when

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Speaker 1: I saw it. He was wearing a T shirt that said,

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Speaker 1: it's not gonna suck itself.

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Speaker 2: Buddy to family get together.

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Speaker 1: You wore that shirt till the family get together? An it.

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Speaker 2: The dad is definitely wearing a tie with this like

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Speaker 2: a vest on kind of thing. You know what I'm

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Speaker 2: talking about, A Christmas kind of vest business guy.

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Speaker 1: I see it. I would really hope he'd be wearing

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Speaker 1: like a paring shirt. Oh right, no.

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Speaker 2: No, this is what he's wearing. This is what he's wearing.

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Speaker 2: Son's wearing that kid's wearing that, the dad's wearing. Twenty

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Speaker 2: dollars is twenty dollars. I'm not gay, but twenty dollars

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Speaker 2: is twenty dollars. That's the shirt he's wearing.

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Speaker 1: He just wears a shirt that says I love to suck.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, let us say it. Yeah, I'm not gay, but

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Speaker 2: twenty dollars is twenty dollars.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Match made in heaven right there by the way.

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Speaker 2: I'm Dakota, I'm Riley.

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Speaker 1: We're going to talk about whatever this story has in

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Speaker 1: store for us, and you're going to talk about whatever

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Speaker 1: you want to talk about in our comments.

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Speaker 2: No, you have the freedom.

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Speaker 1: Those are our roles. That is what we do for

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Speaker 1: each other, that's what we provide. So Op says, I

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Speaker 1: took one look at that shirt and I asked him

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Speaker 1: if he had any money. He said no. And to ask.

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Speaker 2: Why that is kind of weird.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean you can automatically assume anyone wearing that

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Speaker 1: shirt probably doesn't have a lot of money.

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Speaker 2: And man, you got a dollar, you have any money.

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Speaker 1: I was just wondering I might take you up on

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Speaker 1: your offer. He said no and asked why. I told

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Speaker 1: him that the shirt showed a marked lack of respect

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Speaker 1: for both my daughter and my wife. I pulled two

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Speaker 1: twenties out of my wallet and quietly ushered him back

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Speaker 1: out the door. Told him there's a Walmart three miles away,

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Speaker 1: and to buy a more respectful shirt and come back

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Speaker 1: with it on fair, honestly fair. Yeah, you gave him, man,

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Speaker 1: forty dollars of T shirt money.

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Speaker 2: Dude, that's ten dollars of T shirt money. Thirty dollars

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Speaker 2: in my pocket.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, five dollars T shirt money.

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Speaker 2: Oh shoot, dude, I'm.

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Speaker 1: Going to the dollar store. Mind you. This whole exchange

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Speaker 2: That's good. Yeah, I'm sorry, not a scene. Walmart has

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Speaker 2: some pretty good clothes, they do. They got some nice

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Speaker 2: dress shirts. You could probably come back in a full

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Speaker 2: Christmas dinner outfit.

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Speaker 1: I had most of my work button ups when I

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Speaker 1: worked in restaurants, so I got him from Walmart. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's nice, totally, totally works. He was gone for fifteen minutes,

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Speaker 1: came back with a nice polo shirt on. We had

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Speaker 1: a nice dinner together and nothing was mentioned of the incident. Okay, right,

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Speaker 1: and that should be the end of the story, but

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Speaker 1: we have like seven eighths of the story left to read.

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Speaker 2: Dude, what No? You handled it as a man. Also,

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Speaker 2: I'm proud of you because this young man, you're giving

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Speaker 2: him an example what a father would do and what

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Speaker 1: It is true. I mean, you know you've handled this flawlessly.

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Speaker 2: This is perfect.

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Speaker 1: You can't read the it's ain't gonna suck itself shirt.

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Speaker 1: You can't wear that to family night. You can't wear

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Speaker 1: So the next day my daughter came to me and

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Speaker 1: her mother and told us what I did humiliated him.

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Speaker 1: They aren't in breakup territory or anything, and no yelling

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Speaker 1: tell me I could have handled it differently, So read it.

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Speaker 1: Am I wrong for handling it this way? And if so,

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Speaker 1: how could I have handled it? And there's an edit?

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Speaker 2: Dude, your wife didn't back you up. Yeah, that's a

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna read this edit real quick. I'm fifty seven,

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Speaker 1: ten years away from the funniest number, and a long

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Speaker 2: I drive eighteen hundred miles in a knot.

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Speaker 1: No, honestly, I think you're you're giving long haul trucker

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Speaker 1: is a good name here, because I think most people

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Speaker 1: would presume a long haul trucker would have like ripped

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Speaker 2: Or been like, hell, yeah, I like that ash truck buddy.

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Speaker 1: Oh why don't you hone zip son.

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Speaker 2: I'll help you right now. You're right, your shirt is

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Speaker 2: very informative to this guy's so much better.

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Speaker 1: So as a long haul truck driver, I've had my

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Speaker 1: share of bad moments. Most of us guys here can

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Speaker 1: remember stupid things that we did as teens, even into

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Speaker 1: the ones where someone didn't react with anger or malice.

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Speaker 1: They were the ones that someone reacted with constructive kindness,

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Speaker 1: ones where a quiet redemption was offered, where a mirror

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Speaker 1: was quietly held up to my behavior. Those are the

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Speaker 1: comes out the other side with a new appreciation for

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Speaker 1: kindness offered quietly and without fanfare. Just my thoughts here

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Speaker 1: there is an update by my brother. You did everything perfectly.

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Speaker 2: It is a humiliating thing, but you didn't do hi

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Speaker 2: in front of everyone. He gave him forty bucks. Did

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Speaker 2: he give you any money back? Because I know for

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Speaker 2: dang sure that Polo did not cost forty dollars now from.

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Speaker 1: The Walton store. He does he not understand? Like, first

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Speaker 1: of all, his humiliation came from himself. He humiliated himself. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and also he got saved from the humiliation being way worse.

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Speaker 2: You should be grateful for that. You should, yeah. And

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Speaker 2: because he told you to change.

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Speaker 1: Dude, this man just saved your social standing with the

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Speaker 1: entire family. I would love to meet this man on

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Speaker 1: where is your daughter's brain? By the way, did I

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Speaker 1: mean did she not know he was where? Hearing that

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Speaker 1: I don't know what the female equivalent of that shirt is.

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Speaker 2: But no, no, I know what it is is if a

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Speaker 2: it says like juicy.

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Speaker 1: Or that but I mean, like that's even that as

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Speaker 1: like a brand, like this was a command. This shirt

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Speaker 1: was basically a command who said, well, take my pants off,

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Speaker 1: to say, sh long, take my pants offing get to what?

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Speaker 2: Well that I feel like that crazy. I feel like

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Speaker 2: the pants at a family dinner is like, oh, look

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Speaker 2: at my juicy flamboyant bombas. I don't know, it have

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Speaker 2: to be more like kiss me anyways. Anyways, I get

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Speaker 2: your point.

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Speaker 1: It would have to be a shirt that said like,

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Speaker 1: it's really bad, shirt that says fresh clam chowder and

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Speaker 1: just an arrow pointing down. That would be like a hey, babe,

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Speaker 1: you cannot wear that to my dinner with my family.

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Speaker 1: You one thousand percent can't do that. I'm not letting

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Speaker 2: That could also be said as a brand. There's no

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, I'm still I'm still the point being

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Speaker 1: not letting that one, not being like, well, I'm gonna

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that was god, you know, man, Like you know,

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Speaker 2: I'm also very disappointing your wife. I think that's the

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Speaker 2: person I'm mos disappointing.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean who or Op's daughter is.

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Speaker 2: Also, if this was my daughter, I'd be like, girl,

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Speaker 2: you were worth more than this than to be sexualized.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you know at your own family dinner.

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Speaker 2: It's crazy during Christmas and they're making this dinner, and

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Speaker 2: they're doing this dinner for him because he's he won't

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Speaker 2: be able to see her daughter for Christmas.

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Speaker 1: He's talking about what's something in Christmas? You gotta suck

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Speaker 1: the yule log?

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Speaker 2: I don't know, the candy candy can.

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Speaker 1: You gotta suck? Maybe he was talking about all the

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Speaker 2: I don't know, man, Yeah, golly anyway.

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Speaker 1: Update. After reading these comments and listening to everyone's point

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Speaker 1: of view, I sat my daughter down this morning and

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Speaker 1: asked her what her boyfriend actually said to her. This

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Speaker 1: change is my opinion of him.

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Speaker 2: Oh God, she's probably he's a little.

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Speaker 1: He's a little liar.

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Speaker 2: He's alloying, he's manipulative, that manipulaly conniving.

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Speaker 1: Apparently he had not told my daughter what the phrase

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Speaker 1: Her rush to defend him came from our examples. Apparently

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Speaker 1: she's taken note of times I've defended my wife and

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Speaker 1: vice versa. She also took note of our disagreements in private.

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Speaker 1: After the fact, she is going to talk to him

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Speaker 1: when he gets back tomorrow to follow up on why

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Speaker 1: I'll update again after that conversation.

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Speaker 2: Yes, dude, dude, another point to this dad, because he

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Speaker 2: raised his daughter right.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, holy cow, daughter was being lied to, yo, dude.

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Speaker 2: Also perhaps to you, dad for straightening this out. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: holy cow, dude. This is a beautiful play by play.

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Speaker 1: This is a good playbook of what to do. This

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Speaker 1: is Oh my gosh, we're seeing we're seeing behind the

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Speaker 1: curtain on how how the top the top dogs stop

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Speaker 1: on it. Yeah, the running their ships right now. And

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Speaker 1: we do have that other update. So my daughter called

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Speaker 1: him about an hour ago, and this will be informative.

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Speaker 1: She asked him why he hadn't told her what the

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Speaker 1: shirt said when he talked to her. His reply was telling,

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Speaker 1: he said, because it was embarrassing. Hey, stupid why you

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Speaker 1: wear it to the dinner?

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Speaker 2: Dude? You literally could have never ever spoken about this again,

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Speaker 2: and it would have been between Manda Man. Yeah, Manda Man.

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Speaker 2: But you had a lie.

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Speaker 1: You had to You just had to go and fibre yourself,

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Speaker 1: didn't you. Boy? I mean, my guy.

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Speaker 2: This is a boy. He could have been a man boy,

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Speaker 2: but he failed the man test.

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Speaker 1: Then she went on to ask him why he wore

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Speaker 1: it originally, and he admitted that the shirt had been

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Speaker 1: a gift from his older brother twenty one, and that

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Speaker 1: the older brother had dared him to and called him

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Speaker 1: chicken when he objected, etc. Whose dumb sibling crap?

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Speaker 2: Apparently I don't believe that.

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Speaker 1: Well, I mean, you wouldn't have done this to one

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Speaker 1: Update three? This will make those of you following this

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Speaker 2: D Oh my god, dude, imagine getting home like they

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Speaker 1: But he comes home and they're like, didn't your brother

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Speaker 2: Again? This is so funny.

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Speaker 1: They told me that they love my daughter and that

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Speaker 2: Uh?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, what a revelation, to quote his dad. As

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Speaker 1: and we have more updates.

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Speaker 2: People, Stop it, dude. I haven't equally I think worse,

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Speaker 2: No way worse. I have an equally way worse story

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Speaker 1: You, and yes, hell yeah, dude. Update number four. Dinner

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Speaker 1: was very pleasant. Let me say that his parents are great.

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Speaker 1: Boyfriend showed up with red roses for my daughter and

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Speaker 1: that's bold. He offered what I thought was a very

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Speaker 2: it was like butter chicken.

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Speaker 1: Buttered chicken. Buttered chicken the most inaccessible form of chicken,

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna have to bring it tomorrow and have you

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Speaker 1: There's a restaurant down the street from our place.

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Speaker 2: Indian food. I think I know what you're talking about.

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Speaker 1: No, it's like a Nepalese place. Oh so good.

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Speaker 2: Sounds good.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. As it turns out, older brother is the family

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Speaker 2: I see ya, yes, yes, yes, yes, yeah, yeah yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, this could never be you because you'd be too

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Speaker 1: So yeah, but yeah, yeah, you'd never be like, you

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Speaker 1: That's how that's the law of the jungle right there.

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Speaker 2: Okay, so we got so weird food. Brother brother bullies him.

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Speaker 1: His mom is the boss though, for thinking outside the box.

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Speaker 1: His access to cash is also cut off until said

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Speaker 2: I don't know about the bright pink shirts. Maybe like

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know, bright pink like humiliation factor.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like that's just gonna lead to retribution.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, honestly, I probably would have took some

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Speaker 1: Yeah, what would you guys do as the big dogs?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Yeah, you gotta learn. These are like parents that

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Speaker 1: Yeah these are not these are bottom dogs. Anyway, a

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Speaker 2: Wait, how far in are we?

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Speaker 1: We're getting closer to the end. Oh, I think we've

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Speaker 2: Wow, I thought we like we're halfway through. I was like,

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Speaker 1: We're pulling up. We're pulling up Update five. Just to

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Speaker 2: Sure, I knew that was gonna happen.

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Speaker 1: Apparently his girlfriend likes them and he he's gotten a

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Speaker 1: like a backfire. Yeah, you're just gonna make him like

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Speaker 2: You can be. It's not care.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's hard to do. My lovely daughter is more

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Speaker 1: The two of them read the comments here and she

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Speaker 2: Take care he doesn't want to leave us.

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Speaker 1: We do have a final update coming up.

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Speaker 2: Fair dude, dang wow.

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Speaker 1: I want these parents to write a book.

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Speaker 2: How to to be parenting big dog one on one.

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Speaker 1: The teacher and the truck driver colon how to beat

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Speaker 2: And like your gosh. I feel like with books like that,

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Speaker 2: you need your like success stories. You know, I want to

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Speaker 2: talking about like your testimony high Yeah, your highlights, and

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Speaker 2: you're just psych Here's my daughter, she makes a million

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Speaker 2: Here's my daughter, she is a millionaire.

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Speaker 1: Her boyfriend made a mistake and she made him pay

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Speaker 2: And this is how she became a millionaire.

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Speaker 1: Yes, when we've got an update, we've got a six update.

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Speaker 1: My daughter, son and my daughter's boyfriend head back to

439
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Speaker 1: school this next weekend. I missed them immensely when they're gone,

440
00:20:43,240 --> 00:20:46,360
Speaker 1: but I'm so proud and excited for their futures. Boyfriend

441
00:20:46,400 --> 00:20:49,800
Speaker 1: has been very respectful and shows real kindness. His parents

442
00:20:49,800 --> 00:20:52,720
Speaker 1: and older brother came for dinner last weekend. Again, we

443
00:20:52,800 --> 00:20:55,600
Speaker 1: are becoming quick friends, so things are going very well.

444
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Speaker 1: Thank you all so very much from both my wife

445
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Speaker 1: and I for the kind words.

446
00:21:00,160 --> 00:21:03,240
Speaker 2: Are cute parent friends.

447
00:21:03,080 --> 00:21:06,199
Speaker 1: Parent friends, parends.

448
00:21:06,480 --> 00:21:08,800
Speaker 2: So if this kid did not do this, they'd be

449
00:21:08,840 --> 00:21:10,960
Speaker 2: missing out. Also, it showed that the guy liked the

450
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Speaker 2: daughter a lot.

451
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Speaker 1: Yeah, and it shows that, you know, maybe we're learning

452
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Speaker 1: the lesson that we don't just have to listen to

453
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Speaker 1: our older brother all the time. Even though lusaka player.

454
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Speaker 2: I don't know about that. I think we should listen

455
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Speaker 2: to our older brothers.

456
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Speaker 1: Especially when your last name is Wilson. Yes, mis rat,

457
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Speaker 1: he listened to your oldest brother.

458
00:21:28,640 --> 00:21:29,600
Speaker 2: Don't forget about that.

459
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Speaker 1: Even though he's your shortest brother.

460
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Speaker 2: I will be the shortest pretty soon, give it ten years.

461
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Speaker 2: I'll be short, but we're gonna get to the next story.

462
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Speaker 1: My dude's you're saving all your height to pass on

463
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Speaker 1: to your child.

464
00:21:40,160 --> 00:21:41,520
Speaker 2: And they're not. They're using it all.

465
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Speaker 1: You're gonna have a seven foot five American Wemba Yama.

466
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Speaker 2: My mom humiliated my brother's new girlfriend, and the blame

467
00:21:50,280 --> 00:21:53,800
Speaker 2: is on me to a fault for being born. My

468
00:21:54,320 --> 00:21:58,640
Speaker 2: mal thirty one brother has a broken off long term relationship.

469
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Speaker 2: He decided to see a therapist to help with his

470
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Speaker 2: depression and that has helped him tremendously. My mother and

471
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Speaker 2: I don't have a relationship. My brother and I are

472
00:22:06,920 --> 00:22:10,280
Speaker 2: low contact with her. She's very upset about him breaking

473
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Speaker 2: his engagement. Previously, not once did she call to see

474
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Speaker 2: how he was coping. She only called to berat him.

475
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Speaker 1: She called him to say, you should be ashamed of yourself, lovely,

476
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Speaker 1: that's what moms are for shame.

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Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from a remarkable Bison sixty

478
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Speaker 2: nine And if you want to submit your own stories,

479
00:22:28,640 --> 00:22:31,199
Speaker 2: go with the r slash okay story on subreddits. I'm Riley,

480
00:22:31,359 --> 00:22:33,879
Speaker 2: I'm Dakota, and we're here to give good advice. Schoofully,

481
00:22:34,040 --> 00:22:35,439
Speaker 2: we don't have all the answers but if you do,

482
00:22:35,480 --> 00:22:38,680
Speaker 2: please put them down below. Anop says, my brother met

483
00:22:38,720 --> 00:22:41,359
Speaker 2: someone Anna at a party we went to. They hit

484
00:22:41,480 --> 00:22:43,359
Speaker 2: off in one on a few dates. He asked me

485
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Speaker 2: to keep this to myself and that he was doing

486
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Speaker 2: things at his own pace.

487
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Speaker 1: The Pacer, the Indiana.

488
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Speaker 2: Yesterday, I get a call from my mother asking me

489
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Speaker 2: if I knew that my brother was seeing someone. She

490
00:22:54,000 --> 00:22:56,240
Speaker 2: said she saw him with Anna at a restaurant and

491
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Speaker 2: confronted him. So that's what you do? What about that?

492
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Speaker 2: To other girl, saying what happened at her?

493
00:23:02,040 --> 00:23:04,000
Speaker 1: Oh the one I broke up with?

494
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Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, mom, you're not really being a great wingman

495
00:23:07,200 --> 00:23:10,200
Speaker 2: right now. Mom, Mom, stop it.

496
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Speaker 1: Stop being ack.

497
00:23:12,880 --> 00:23:15,679
Speaker 2: My brother freaked out and left Anna at the restaurant.

498
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Speaker 1: Well it's you, don't you also? Don't you do? You

499
00:23:18,280 --> 00:23:20,879
Speaker 1: don't do that either. You just just just just something

500
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Speaker 1: you don't do.

501
00:23:21,600 --> 00:23:23,840
Speaker 2: I tell her that his love life is none of

502
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Speaker 2: her business, and she responded by saying that I manipulated

503
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Speaker 2: her only son into breaking off his engagements. I just

504
00:23:30,960 --> 00:23:33,120
Speaker 2: hung up and called Anna to see if she needed help.

505
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Speaker 2: She asked me to come pick her up. Oh so

506
00:23:34,920 --> 00:23:35,880
Speaker 2: this just happened?

507
00:23:36,320 --> 00:23:38,000
Speaker 1: Is actively happening right now.

508
00:23:38,520 --> 00:23:41,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, And as the story is being told, so Mom

509
00:23:41,359 --> 00:23:44,840
Speaker 2: confronts calls Opie and he's like, I'll come pick you up. Now,

510
00:23:45,000 --> 00:23:47,080
Speaker 2: that's crazy. When I get to the restaurant, I see

511
00:23:47,119 --> 00:23:50,000
Speaker 2: her outside getting screamed at by my mother. She was

512
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Speaker 2: with a family friend, calling her a home wrecker, which

513
00:23:53,000 --> 00:23:55,600
Speaker 2: gold digger. And I got my car. My mother came

514
00:23:55,640 --> 00:23:57,960
Speaker 2: to my car and banged on the windows. People were

515
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Speaker 2: staring now and my mom literally put herself in front

516
00:24:01,320 --> 00:24:03,280
Speaker 2: of my car to block our way. I got out

517
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Speaker 2: of the car, grabbed her by the arm, and pushed

518
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Speaker 2: her away. She couldn't get a word in because I

519
00:24:08,160 --> 00:24:10,960
Speaker 2: was yelling about how she's a pathetic excuse of a

520
00:24:11,040 --> 00:24:14,120
Speaker 2: mother and that all her children ever hate her, and

521
00:24:14,160 --> 00:24:16,480
Speaker 2: she's the only reason that my brother didn't want to

522
00:24:16,520 --> 00:24:19,840
Speaker 2: tell her he's seeing someone. Oh my, what is this.

523
00:24:20,080 --> 00:24:23,720
Speaker 1: She sounds like she needs to go to elite parent school.

524
00:24:24,800 --> 00:24:28,520
Speaker 1: She is very very small dog, tiny little dog parent.

525
00:24:28,640 --> 00:24:29,760
Speaker 1: She needs to be a big dog.

526
00:24:29,840 --> 00:24:32,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, this is what the bottom one percent looks like.

527
00:24:32,359 --> 00:24:34,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, we need up her, We need we need to

528
00:24:34,160 --> 00:24:34,960
Speaker 1: up our percents.

529
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Speaker 2: Hmm, that's what the bell curve. Yeah, at the end

530
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Speaker 2: My mother was speechless for a second and we just

531
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Speaker 2: left poor Anna. Anna was shaking, so I decided to

532
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Speaker 2: bring her over to our house. This is all the set,

533
00:24:46,880 --> 00:24:49,280
Speaker 2: so there's all the way to get to Anna. You

534
00:24:49,320 --> 00:24:53,960
Speaker 2: wanted Anna the whole time. My brother locked himself into

535
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Speaker 2: his room and didn't want to talk to anyone. We

536
00:24:57,040 --> 00:24:59,200
Speaker 2: just sat Anna down, and when she got her bearing,

537
00:24:59,280 --> 00:25:01,920
Speaker 2: she decided to at home. My partner dropped her off

538
00:25:01,960 --> 00:25:04,200
Speaker 2: at her house. The next day, I get a voicemail

539
00:25:04,240 --> 00:25:06,760
Speaker 2: from my mother telling me that I humiliated her in

540
00:25:06,800 --> 00:25:11,040
Speaker 2: front of her friend by telling lies and slandering her reputation,

541
00:25:11,480 --> 00:25:13,159
Speaker 2: and that I assaulted her.

542
00:25:13,440 --> 00:25:15,159
Speaker 1: Well, actually, mod's that's battery.

543
00:25:15,200 --> 00:25:16,560
Speaker 2: I pushed you get a right.

544
00:25:16,920 --> 00:25:19,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, I did the thing I it wasn't the threat

545
00:25:20,000 --> 00:25:20,520
Speaker 1: of doing it.

546
00:25:20,800 --> 00:25:23,639
Speaker 2: I'm getting calls from family saying that I should have

547
00:25:23,720 --> 00:25:25,919
Speaker 2: never spoken to my mother like that, and that it

548
00:25:26,000 --> 00:25:28,159
Speaker 2: affected my poor mother's mental health.

549
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Speaker 1: Sounds like there was already a lot affecting that before

550
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Speaker 1: we showed up.

551
00:25:34,960 --> 00:25:38,040
Speaker 2: All right, some of our extended family didn't know why

552
00:25:38,119 --> 00:25:40,720
Speaker 2: my brother ended his engagement, but they're all taking my

553
00:25:40,840 --> 00:25:44,119
Speaker 2: mother's side now. Probably should have videotaped it, that's sad

554
00:25:44,160 --> 00:25:45,080
Speaker 2: to even say.

555
00:25:45,080 --> 00:25:47,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, she'd have had the body camera on, dude.

556
00:25:47,800 --> 00:25:50,400
Speaker 2: Good lock in. That would have saved you. I only

557
00:25:50,400 --> 00:25:53,040
Speaker 2: feel bad because my brother is also getting bombarded by

558
00:25:53,080 --> 00:25:56,040
Speaker 2: calls and text saying he let his ex down, that

559
00:25:56,119 --> 00:25:58,639
Speaker 2: he was hurting his mother so much that he should

560
00:25:58,640 --> 00:26:00,960
Speaker 2: be ashamed. I feel like we're back at square one

561
00:26:01,040 --> 00:26:03,639
Speaker 2: now because I chose to confront my mother. I tried

562
00:26:03,640 --> 00:26:05,520
Speaker 2: to get him to make an appointment with this therapist

563
00:26:05,520 --> 00:26:08,159
Speaker 2: this week, but he's been ghosting me. I feel like

564
00:26:08,240 --> 00:26:10,520
Speaker 2: this turn of events could have been avoided if I

565
00:26:10,560 --> 00:26:13,200
Speaker 2: didn't confront my mother and just left with Anna, and

566
00:26:13,240 --> 00:26:15,840
Speaker 2: that it made Anna an even bigger target for my

567
00:26:15,840 --> 00:26:17,960
Speaker 2: mother because she was with me when I exploded. Am

568
00:26:17,960 --> 00:26:19,920
Speaker 2: I the a hole here? I think anything you would

569
00:26:20,000 --> 00:26:22,439
Speaker 2: have done she would have made fun of you for

570
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Speaker 2: so no.

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Speaker 1: I know, yeah, clearly the one who's the able here

572
00:26:27,000 --> 00:26:30,920
Speaker 1: is your mom. Yeah. I know. We can't be held

573
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Speaker 1: responsible for the way our mom is.

574
00:26:34,000 --> 00:26:39,040
Speaker 2: She's an adult. She literally birthed you, so yeah, yeah.

575
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Speaker 1: If I had to put you both on the scale

576
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Speaker 1: and weigh you, she would be the much larger, stinkier person.

577
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Speaker 2: Dude, I thought about doing that with a game show.

578
00:26:46,760 --> 00:26:48,040
Speaker 1: But like weighing each other.

579
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Speaker 2: No, no, like getting a weight, like two weights. Cut a

580
00:26:50,720 --> 00:26:54,240
Speaker 2: banana in half? What so you get a banana, you

581
00:26:54,280 --> 00:26:55,919
Speaker 2: cut it where he thinks in the middle, and you

582
00:26:56,000 --> 00:26:58,000
Speaker 2: try to like evenly cut it, and then you like

583
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Speaker 2: measure the grounds.

584
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Speaker 1: Oh that's interesting. Yeah, I got so mini games we

585
00:27:05,720 --> 00:27:10,320
Speaker 1: could do like that. I like that edit.

586
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Speaker 2: Thank you all to those that answered. I have to

587
00:27:13,680 --> 00:27:15,960
Speaker 2: take care of exam week for my students, so I

588
00:27:15,960 --> 00:27:18,520
Speaker 2: don't have time to edit before now, so much organizing

589
00:27:18,560 --> 00:27:20,720
Speaker 2: to do. I who hardly agreed that my brother was

590
00:27:20,800 --> 00:27:23,000
Speaker 2: also an a hole, but I know that he acted

591
00:27:23,040 --> 00:27:26,479
Speaker 2: recklessly because he couldn't deal with the situation emotionally. He

592
00:27:26,560 --> 00:27:29,360
Speaker 2: finally decided to see his therapist again. I read over

593
00:27:29,480 --> 00:27:31,800
Speaker 2: every comment and we'll try to answer the most I can.

594
00:27:31,960 --> 00:27:34,560
Speaker 2: My mother did not press charges for me grabbing her arm,

595
00:27:34,720 --> 00:27:36,960
Speaker 2: but I agree with the comment saying I shouldn't have

596
00:27:37,000 --> 00:27:39,239
Speaker 2: done that. Thank you all for the update. I mean

597
00:27:39,240 --> 00:27:40,520
Speaker 2: you had to get her out of the way of

598
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Speaker 2: your car. I don't know.

599
00:27:42,400 --> 00:27:45,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, some people need a gentle push in the right direction.

600
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Speaker 2: Mm hmm or out of the direction of your car. Yeah,

601
00:27:48,800 --> 00:27:50,440
Speaker 2: I said, I just wanted to show you. You should

602
00:27:50,480 --> 00:27:54,560
Speaker 2: be over here. Yeah, stay here. Update. I've decided to

603
00:27:54,600 --> 00:27:58,480
Speaker 2: go full no contact with my mother, and all my

604
00:27:58,560 --> 00:28:01,040
Speaker 2: siblings have decided to do the same after they heard

605
00:28:01,080 --> 00:28:04,000
Speaker 2: about what had happened. Obviously, my mother is not pleased

606
00:28:04,040 --> 00:28:06,479
Speaker 2: with this, and it's telling everyone I demonized her.

607
00:28:06,800 --> 00:28:11,640
Speaker 1: I think it was your demons that demonized you, girl. Yeah,

608
00:28:11,720 --> 00:28:13,720
Speaker 1: it was the demons you got inside you.

609
00:28:15,240 --> 00:28:18,080
Speaker 2: I tried chucking holy water at her. We'll never know.

610
00:28:18,520 --> 00:28:20,719
Speaker 2: I'm moving out of the country for a job opportunity

611
00:28:20,760 --> 00:28:24,160
Speaker 2: with my current partner. Frankly, I feel like putting as

612
00:28:24,280 --> 00:28:26,760
Speaker 2: much distance between me and my mother is going to

613
00:28:26,800 --> 00:28:29,680
Speaker 2: be the best outcome for everyone. Like how he's satting

614
00:28:29,680 --> 00:28:29,919
Speaker 2: out of.

615
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Speaker 1: Town sending out of the country. He's said into a

616
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Speaker 1: new hemisphere.

617
00:28:33,840 --> 00:28:35,600
Speaker 2: Where the toilet swirls deal got to be.

618
00:28:35,520 --> 00:28:38,520
Speaker 1: A really bad for it to be explicitly, I need

619
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Speaker 1: to maximize the distance between me and my mother. That

620
00:28:42,120 --> 00:28:45,600
Speaker 1: is what is best for everyone involved. It'd be pretty

621
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Speaker 1: bad for that to be the case.

622
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Speaker 2: It was wild. We're moving in in about two months

623
00:28:49,440 --> 00:28:52,360
Speaker 2: to Switzerland. Oh wow. And I and my brother have

624
00:28:52,520 --> 00:28:55,360
Speaker 2: spoken about what he did. He's apologized and told her

625
00:28:55,400 --> 00:28:57,680
Speaker 2: that he thought at the time that he was ready

626
00:28:57,720 --> 00:29:00,800
Speaker 2: to move on and be his normal self again, but

627
00:29:00,880 --> 00:29:03,520
Speaker 2: he realized that he needs way more help. He apologized

628
00:29:03,560 --> 00:29:06,080
Speaker 2: profusely for what he did to her, and he would

629
00:29:06,160 --> 00:29:08,240
Speaker 2: understand if she didn't want to speak to him again.

630
00:29:08,360 --> 00:29:11,920
Speaker 2: He's regularly been seeing his therapists and has cut contact

631
00:29:11,960 --> 00:29:14,400
Speaker 2: with her mother, and it was hesitant at first, but

632
00:29:14,600 --> 00:29:17,880
Speaker 2: decided to forgive them. Oh, and they've decided that being

633
00:29:17,920 --> 00:29:20,160
Speaker 2: friends would be better off for them. We're all meeting

634
00:29:20,360 --> 00:29:23,160
Speaker 2: siblings and friends for a New Year's Eve party tonight,

635
00:29:23,240 --> 00:29:26,240
Speaker 2: and we'll have fun or not since we're extremely competitive

636
00:29:26,280 --> 00:29:28,360
Speaker 2: when it comes to board games and things get heated

637
00:29:28,440 --> 00:29:30,000
Speaker 2: in a good way. So I feel like it's a

638
00:29:30,000 --> 00:29:32,520
Speaker 2: happy ending for everyone except my mother. I feel a

639
00:29:32,520 --> 00:29:34,720
Speaker 2: bit bad saying this, but that makes me happy.

640
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Speaker 1: Dude. No, I feel bad for you saying that.

641
00:29:37,080 --> 00:29:41,680
Speaker 2: Man, what the heck? That's I mean, sounds like she

642
00:29:41,720 --> 00:29:43,920
Speaker 2: has tormented you and her brother for a while now.

643
00:29:43,960 --> 00:29:48,160
Speaker 2: That is also true. I imagine, like making a scene

644
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Speaker 2: at a restaurant.

645
00:29:49,360 --> 00:29:51,960
Speaker 1: I kind of think of if I've ever done such

646
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Speaker 1: a thing in my life.

647
00:29:53,760 --> 00:29:57,120
Speaker 2: No, not a public space. I mean I know a

648
00:29:57,200 --> 00:29:59,840
Speaker 2: family relative that could have, but they are now passed away.

649
00:30:00,200 --> 00:30:01,960
Speaker 1: I think the closest thing I've come to make in

650
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Speaker 1: a scene in the restaurant would probably be arguing with

651
00:30:05,720 --> 00:30:10,240
Speaker 1: my own mom at oh god, yeah, yeah, that is

652
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Speaker 1: what happened. Mm hmm yep, dang, I can't even remember

653
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Speaker 1: what it was about.

654
00:30:15,440 --> 00:30:18,600
Speaker 2: That's tough. But guys, we got another story. Coda's gonna

655
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Speaker 2: pull that up first. Hey, this is Riley, your favorite

656
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Speaker 2: Southern bill. We're gonna get back to these stories, but

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Speaker 1: I told my sister to grow up over her grudge

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Speaker 1: and most lost her.

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Speaker 2: Now she's holding it against you.

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Speaker 1: Hmmm, let's find out if we're going to read this.

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Speaker 1: I am twenty eight male and my sister is twenty

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Speaker 1: five female. We did not get along as kids. She

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Speaker 1: was the typical annoying little sister and I was the

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Speaker 1: mean older brother. I teased her a lot growing up,

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Speaker 1: but I did my best to make sure that if

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Speaker 1: I did tease her or if we did have a fight,

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Speaker 1: I said sorry or made her feel like I didn't

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Speaker 1: mean any of it.

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Speaker 2: Cute.

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Speaker 1: I never wanted her to go to bed thinking we

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Speaker 1: were not on good terms. By the way, this comes

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Speaker 1: from us your brubber grudge. If you want us to

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Speaker 1: meet your own stories, go to the r slash. Okay,

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Speaker 1: storytime subburn it.

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Speaker 2: I'm Dakota, I'm Riley Weir.

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Speaker 1: We're gonna yap about this story. We're gonna give our

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Speaker 1: take on it. But you know what, we haven't been

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Speaker 1: in this situation. So if you got any insights, let

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Speaker 1: us know in the comments. Let us know what they are.

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Speaker 1: Oh P says She moved out when I was twenty two, Okay,

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Speaker 1: Taylor Swift and she was nineteen. I went to her

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Speaker 1: farewell party, and I really thought we were good. I

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Speaker 1: never apologized for what I did, but I was proud

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Speaker 1: of her for going to college. We stayed in contact

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Speaker 1: about once a month, just saying how our lives were going.

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Speaker 1: We weren't close, but we weren't pushing it, and I

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Speaker 1: enjoyed seeing her tell me what was going on in

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Speaker 1: her life.

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Speaker 2: Okay.

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Speaker 1: She came back for Thanksgiving when I was twenty three

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Speaker 1: and she was twenty and it went well. I saw

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Speaker 1: her in person one more time at Christmas when I

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Speaker 1: was twenty five and she was twenty two. I didn't

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Speaker 1: go to any family holidays on my side for like

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Speaker 1: three years since I got really serious with my SOO.

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Speaker 1: We got engaged two months ago, and I went to

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Speaker 1: her family's place for those holidays since we lived closer.

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Speaker 1: Yesterday was my dad's birthday and I haven't seen him

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Speaker 1: in person for a few years, so I spent quite

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Speaker 1: a bit of money to have me and my significant

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Speaker 1: other fly down to their house and stay the week.

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Speaker 1: My sister was there too, and I was happy to

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Speaker 1: see her in person again and have her meet my partner.

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Speaker 1: The whole party was fine, and I know my parents

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Speaker 1: were happy that both their kids were together in their

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Speaker 1: house again. At night, when my parents went to bed,

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Speaker 1: I was having a drinky poo with my sister while

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Speaker 1: my partner was going to the store for breakfast items.

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Speaker 1: All Right, the subject of our past years somehow came up,

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Speaker 1: and I told her I felt bad and was sorry

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Speaker 1: for any troubles I gave her. During that time, I

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Speaker 1: could tell she was kind of miffed, and I don't

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Speaker 1: know if it was the booze talking, but she basically

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Speaker 1: said that once our parents pass away, she doesn't want

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Speaker 1: much to do with me because of how much of

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Speaker 1: a butt I was when we were kids.

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Speaker 2: Oh interesting, dang you. This is what happens when you

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Speaker 2: don't talk as siblings, resentment. It's a big shock.

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Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, I can't really fault either party here.

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Speaker 1: I mean well, I mean we can fault op for

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Speaker 1: having been the mean boy. But it's like, you know,

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I guess we need more info.

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Speaker 2: More info, perspective. What exactly she's holding against you?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? What did you do? Yeah? What exactly did you do? Anyway?

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Speaker 1: I was shocked when she said that, because I thought

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Speaker 1: we both had moved on from that and had a

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Speaker 1: loving and caring yet distant relationship. I didn't even know

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Speaker 1: what to say, and I was and still am heartbroken

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Speaker 1: because I do love her and always wanted us to

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Speaker 1: at least be caring towards each other. Her basically saying

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Speaker 1: she has no desire to do much with me really hurt.

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Speaker 1: I finally got it out and said, what we did

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Speaker 1: as kids was years ago, and if you're still on

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Speaker 1: about that, then you just need to grow up. Ooh,

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Speaker 1: that's a bad way to apologize. I'm sorry for how

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Speaker 1: I treated you, but it shouldn't be the basis of

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Speaker 1: why you hate me now. Yeah, you kind of really

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Speaker 1: were off the mark with that being an apology.

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Speaker 2: Mm hmmm hmm. I mean I get your sentiment, but

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Speaker 2: if she's holding something against you, you should probably flesh it out.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you can't be like, oh, you're stupid for feeling

743
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Speaker 1: this way and you need to not feel that way

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Speaker 1: because it's the dumb way to feel. And I'm right, mikes. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: She didn't say anything after that, but are you done?

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Speaker 1: And then she went to bed. The next day she

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Speaker 1: talked to me like nothing happened, and I was weirded

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Speaker 1: out by that, but didn't want to make a scene

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Speaker 1: in front of our parents, who still have the view

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Speaker 1: of us being close. So Reredditt, I asked you, am

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Speaker 1: I the a hole for telling my sister to grow

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Speaker 1: up after she's held on to grudges that have been

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Speaker 1: like ten plus years old and there is an update

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Speaker 1: and I would say.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, some helpful context is to know what grudges

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Speaker 2: she has against you. Some of these grudges may need

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Speaker 2: more than a just grow up.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, And it's like, look, were you the a hole

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Speaker 1: for the stuff you did like as a kid? Essentially,

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Speaker 1: like it's like, you know, so common for siblings to

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Speaker 1: go through that. I wouldn't even necessarily say you're an

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Speaker 1: able for that, But for the one specific context you

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Speaker 1: asked about, which was essentially the way you phrased your

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Speaker 1: apology to your sister, Yeah, you were wrong for that.

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Speaker 2: If take came up to me said I don't want

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Speaker 2: to play basketball with you anymore because all the time

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Speaker 2: you beat me as a kid, then I would be like,

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Speaker 2: grow up, man, that was ten years ago. You're better

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Speaker 2: than you were then. Yeah, we can still play.

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Speaker 1: But if he was like, I don't want you to

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Speaker 1: be around my family because of the way you made

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Speaker 1: me feel and the way you treated me as a child,

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Speaker 1: let's talk it out, you would go, oh my god,

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Speaker 1: I had no idea you felt that way. Still, I

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Speaker 1: look back on that with regret.

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Speaker 2: Regret, and you know, oh, he didn't do did not

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Speaker 2: take accountability at all, zero percent. He said, I'm sorry,

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry, but I'm sorry, but you shouldn't.

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Speaker 1: Feel this way.

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Speaker 2: No, no, no, she's she won. She's putting herself out there.

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Speaker 2: You should probably actually talk with her. What the heck?

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Speaker 1: If you really do feel sorry, you need to say it.

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Speaker 1: Uh huh, Because I mean you say that you do

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Speaker 1: your response felt like, you don't dude.

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Speaker 2: We weren't taught how to really actually say sorry. No. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: it was just like you say sorry, you say it's okay,

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Speaker 2: and you live on with life. It's complicated that up date.

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Speaker 1: So this has a really happy ending.

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Speaker 2: Oh I needed directylert okie.

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Speaker 1: I hope that's not sarcastic. A day or two later,

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Speaker 1: after she blew up on me and I told her

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Speaker 1: to grow up, me and her had another sit down

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Speaker 1: and I just listened. Turns out she hated how I

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Speaker 1: was never there for her, and I will admit I wasn't.

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Speaker 1: I just left the state as soon as I could

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Speaker 1: and didn't even try to come back other than for holidays.

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Speaker 1: She also said she wished I called her more. She

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Speaker 1: would text me on social media and would call me,

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Speaker 1: but it wasn't that one week thing. So I just

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Speaker 1: didn't answer, and I felt horrible. Most of you all

801
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Speaker 1: said I was the ahle and that I should just

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Speaker 1: hear what she has to say and apologize. I could

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Speaker 1: tell she was tearing up, so I did something I

804
00:37:15,760 --> 00:37:18,359
Speaker 1: hadn't done since we were children. I just flat out

805
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Speaker 1: hugged her and let her cry on me. Bro, you

806
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Speaker 1: hadn't hugged your sister since you were children darks. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: talk about close but distant in your head. Yeah, great,

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Speaker 1: googly moogli. At the end of it, I apologized and

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Speaker 1: promised to do a better job, but I asked her

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Speaker 1: to please give me another chance to be a good brother.

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Speaker 1: She agreed to that. For the past month, I've texted

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Speaker 1: her every other day and called weekly. It's effort and

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Speaker 1: it's actually working. I won't say we are as close

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Speaker 1: as we were as kids, but it's good and I

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Speaker 1: enjoy talking to her now. It's cool to know stuff

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Speaker 1: about her so we can coordinate things for our parents

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Speaker 1: without having them stress about anything. I'm currently in town

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Speaker 1: for Thanksgiving and she and her partner have been very

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Speaker 1: generous in allowing me and my partner to stay at

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Speaker 1: her place for the week. Thank you for all the

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Speaker 1: comments in for calling me the a hole for being

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Speaker 1: so petty to my sister. It pretty much saved the relationship.

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Speaker 2: This is sweet. I'm glad that he actually took He's

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Speaker 2: being humble. You need to be humble in the scenarios.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes the solution is to listen to women who would

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Speaker 1: have thought.

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Speaker 2: Just to listen.

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Speaker 1: In general, who would have thought that listening to women

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Speaker 1: could solve problems?

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Speaker 2: Guess you wouldn't have.

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Speaker 1: Like, well that The sarcasm is that you should very

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Speaker 1: obviously listen to women. They're very smart m hm, and

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Speaker 1: we should listen to them.

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Speaker 2: I like women.

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Speaker 1: You're a woman doctor.

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Speaker 2: That's right.

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Speaker 1: Categorically, yes, yeah, categorrectally. There's an edit here. The reason

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Speaker 1: they have never heard from me for five years is

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Speaker 1: because I had a substance use disorder and they booted

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Speaker 1: me out. I was hurt and scared and hated my

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Speaker 1: parents because of it, and I grouped my sister in

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Speaker 1: with them. About five years later, I realized how much

843
00:39:04,880 --> 00:39:08,520
Speaker 1: of a spoiled little nuisance I was and reconnected with them.

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Speaker 1: My parents were happy, but my sister wasn't. But I

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Speaker 1: was able to talk her into giving me another chance,

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Speaker 1: and now we're pretty good.

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Speaker 2: Oh wow, that is very helpful context. Yeah, we do.

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Speaker 1: We get some context there, and that is some good

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Speaker 1: context that informs us a lot.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. I love that we get to the end of

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Speaker 2: these stories sometimes and they just drop a bomb like

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Speaker 2: oh oh yeah, yeah, yeah, and would have been useful.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that would have been useful context to have the

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Speaker 1: entire time things. Well, we do have some comments to

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Speaker 1: finish it off coming. Number one, not gonna lie. My

856
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Speaker 1: eyes bugged out of my head when I first read

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Speaker 1: the post and you said that you hadn't seen your

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Speaker 1: sister in years and that you never go to family

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Speaker 1: holidays because you got close with your so Just for

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Speaker 1: the record, people usually don't ditch their entire family for

861
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Speaker 1: years unless they hate them. I can see why your

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00:39:55,880 --> 00:39:58,640
Speaker 1: sister was extremely offendive. Comment to says, my brother did

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Speaker 1: this and we didn't see him for so seven years

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Speaker 1: and he wasn't but thirty minutes away. Turns out he

865
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Speaker 1: was miserable. When my husband saw him in a store

866
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Speaker 1: one day and told him everyone missed him and would

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Speaker 1: welcome him back with open arms, he left her and

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Speaker 1: came back. If your ESSO is keeping you from family

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Speaker 1: and your family isn't bad people, you should worry. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: op says my SOO actually asked me on numerous occasions

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Speaker 1: to go visit my family. I was just in a dumb,

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Speaker 1: angry state of mind and that is the end of

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Speaker 1: that story. And ain't that the truth that the dumb,

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Speaker 1: angry state of mind will keep you from a lot

875
00:40:32,680 --> 00:40:33,240
Speaker 1: of stuff?

876
00:40:33,400 --> 00:40:34,319
Speaker 2: That's good. That's good.

877
00:40:34,560 --> 00:40:37,200
Speaker 1: Namely, yeah, of your family. It can keep you from

878
00:40:37,320 --> 00:40:40,400
Speaker 1: your friends, your career, your loved ones.

879
00:40:40,600 --> 00:40:43,640
Speaker 2: You really have to have a significant other that supports you.

880
00:40:44,000 --> 00:40:47,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, have a significant other who points out when you're

881
00:40:47,200 --> 00:40:49,959
Speaker 1: in an angry, dumb state of mind. You have to Yeah,

882
00:40:50,080 --> 00:40:52,480
Speaker 1: you're dumb and angry. You don't want to be dangry.

883
00:40:52,920 --> 00:40:56,080
Speaker 2: Angry because you'll look angry and angry is a stupid

884
00:40:56,120 --> 00:40:57,600
Speaker 2: word because it's not real.

885
00:40:58,080 --> 00:41:02,680
Speaker 1: How Well, we got another story coming up right now.

886
00:41:03,040 --> 00:41:06,240
Speaker 1: My late wife's family wanted her ring, but I won't

887
00:41:06,239 --> 00:41:08,920
Speaker 1: give it back. It's literally on my finger.

888
00:41:09,280 --> 00:41:12,640
Speaker 2: I female thirty married my wife, female thirty six a

889
00:41:12,680 --> 00:41:18,960
Speaker 2: year ago. Lesbian couple Alert, Lesbian couple alert A. These

890
00:41:19,000 --> 00:41:24,000
Speaker 2: are two women, not the U haul. No. We had

891
00:41:24,080 --> 00:41:27,480
Speaker 2: been together six years, married for one before she passed.

892
00:41:27,680 --> 00:41:30,279
Speaker 2: It has been a really rocky time for me and

893
00:41:30,320 --> 00:41:33,839
Speaker 2: I'm still struggling but getting there day by day.

894
00:41:33,960 --> 00:41:36,480
Speaker 1: Well, you know, good news is you're a strong lesbian.

895
00:41:36,640 --> 00:41:39,479
Speaker 2: That's right, and you're beautiful. By the way, this comes

896
00:41:39,520 --> 00:41:42,520
Speaker 2: from sports Representative six. And if you want to speak

897
00:41:42,520 --> 00:41:45,160
Speaker 2: your own stories are the are slash okay stories on subreddits.

898
00:41:45,400 --> 00:41:48,920
Speaker 2: I'm Riley. I'm Dakota, and we're here to give good advice. Goofully,

899
00:41:49,160 --> 00:41:51,959
Speaker 2: and you're here to comment. Hope. He says. My wife

900
00:41:52,000 --> 00:41:54,920
Speaker 2: had been close with her grandmother when she was growing up,

901
00:41:55,160 --> 00:41:57,960
Speaker 2: and when she passed away, her grandmother left a beautiful

902
00:41:58,080 --> 00:42:01,279
Speaker 2: ring which had been in the family for generations. My

903
00:42:01,360 --> 00:42:03,719
Speaker 2: wife used this ring to propose to me, and it

904
00:42:03,719 --> 00:42:06,680
Speaker 2: became my wedding ring. I have worn it every day

905
00:42:06,719 --> 00:42:08,880
Speaker 2: since she gave it to me, and it is truly

906
00:42:08,920 --> 00:42:12,160
Speaker 2: the most precious item from her. Feels like she is

907
00:42:12,239 --> 00:42:15,000
Speaker 2: with me always, and when I look at it, it

908
00:42:15,040 --> 00:42:18,719
Speaker 2: brings my heart some happiness to remember our time together. Oh,

909
00:42:18,800 --> 00:42:24,439
Speaker 2: we stop stop making me sad, Please cut the onions here.

910
00:42:24,560 --> 00:42:27,720
Speaker 1: I'm already gonna say this is a very nuanced issue,

911
00:42:27,760 --> 00:42:32,640
Speaker 1: clearly because yes, that was your wife, but that was

912
00:42:32,719 --> 00:42:36,480
Speaker 1: also their daughter and sister and cousin and all that

913
00:42:36,840 --> 00:42:39,719
Speaker 1: and the ring being in the family for multiple generations.

914
00:42:40,360 --> 00:42:42,319
Speaker 2: Ah, this is true.

915
00:42:42,320 --> 00:42:45,759
Speaker 1: It does feel like maybe it should return, oh when

916
00:42:45,920 --> 00:42:48,120
Speaker 1: someone could make use of it, you know.

917
00:42:48,320 --> 00:42:53,200
Speaker 2: Interesting. I disagree, Okay, I disagree. Goes on the other

918
00:42:53,200 --> 00:42:55,399
Speaker 2: side of the fence here. My wife even spent money

919
00:42:55,440 --> 00:42:57,600
Speaker 2: on the ring to get it restored as I had

920
00:42:57,640 --> 00:43:00,800
Speaker 2: a few cosmetic faults, but by doing this more or

921
00:43:00,920 --> 00:43:03,759
Speaker 2: less doubled the value of the ring too. It's very

922
00:43:03,840 --> 00:43:06,640
Speaker 2: unique and shaped like a snake with a diamond in

923
00:43:06,640 --> 00:43:09,600
Speaker 2: its head and rubies for the eyes. The diamond was

924
00:43:09,800 --> 00:43:13,040
Speaker 2: cracked and the blue enamel needed repairing what she did

925
00:43:13,080 --> 00:43:15,600
Speaker 2: before proposing. My brother in law has now decided to

926
00:43:15,600 --> 00:43:18,319
Speaker 2: propose to his girlfriend and he wants to make use

927
00:43:18,360 --> 00:43:20,839
Speaker 2: of the snake ring as her grandmother wanted the ring

928
00:43:20,920 --> 00:43:23,520
Speaker 2: to be used as an engagement ring for when one

929
00:43:23,600 --> 00:43:27,040
Speaker 2: of her grandchildren wanted to get married, a first come,

930
00:43:27,120 --> 00:43:31,040
Speaker 2: first surf situation, although it was never really expected her

931
00:43:31,160 --> 00:43:34,720
Speaker 2: granddaughter would be doing the proposing because it was always

932
00:43:34,760 --> 00:43:37,680
Speaker 2: assumed the boys would offer it to their girlfriends. But

933
00:43:38,120 --> 00:43:40,719
Speaker 2: my wife got there and did it first and that

934
00:43:41,000 --> 00:43:44,160
Speaker 2: was that. So a couple thoughts, you want to go

935
00:43:44,200 --> 00:43:46,840
Speaker 2: back on what you said or no? Well, first of all,

936
00:43:46,960 --> 00:43:50,000
Speaker 2: that ring sounds sick. Yeah, that's a dope ring.

937
00:43:50,160 --> 00:43:53,600
Speaker 1: I want. That ring also really doesn't feel like a

938
00:43:53,719 --> 00:43:55,200
Speaker 1: ring you proposed to someone with.

939
00:43:55,840 --> 00:44:00,120
Speaker 2: That's a family thing, like a snake effigy with like

940
00:44:00,200 --> 00:44:03,400
Speaker 2: a diamond in its head and red eyes like I

941
00:44:03,400 --> 00:44:04,640
Speaker 2: wouldn't do that with my family.

942
00:44:04,880 --> 00:44:07,840
Speaker 1: It doesn't. It doesn't feel like it just doesn't.

943
00:44:08,000 --> 00:44:10,280
Speaker 2: It doesn't say love, it doesn't say romance.

944
00:44:10,600 --> 00:44:13,279
Speaker 1: No, it just feels I don't know, it feels that's

945
00:44:13,280 --> 00:44:14,160
Speaker 1: just like a cool thing.

946
00:44:14,480 --> 00:44:17,560
Speaker 2: Is your family just like all gothic that would check

947
00:44:17,560 --> 00:44:21,000
Speaker 2: out more say, everyone in your family's somehow goth that

948
00:44:21,000 --> 00:44:21,640
Speaker 2: that makes sense.

949
00:44:21,800 --> 00:44:24,680
Speaker 1: I'm keeping that ring, man, you're keeping it. I'm keeping

950
00:44:24,680 --> 00:44:26,279
Speaker 1: that ring. Yeah too, cool man.

951
00:44:27,040 --> 00:44:31,000
Speaker 2: She went through and she restored it. It doubled the price,

952
00:44:31,400 --> 00:44:34,960
Speaker 2: and that's a gift from grandmother to her to uopie.

953
00:44:35,400 --> 00:44:37,319
Speaker 2: No one has any right to want it back.

954
00:44:37,320 --> 00:44:39,239
Speaker 1: Maybe you can get somebody to make it and make

955
00:44:39,280 --> 00:44:40,120
Speaker 1: one that looks like that.

956
00:44:40,360 --> 00:44:42,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, given to them. It was never really questioned either,

957
00:44:42,640 --> 00:44:44,920
Speaker 2: as my wife and she had been so close to

958
00:44:45,239 --> 00:44:47,960
Speaker 2: nobody had any objections at the time, as the ring

959
00:44:48,160 --> 00:44:50,319
Speaker 2: was still within the family and neither of my brother

960
00:44:50,320 --> 00:44:53,200
Speaker 2: in laws were anywhere near getting engaged. I refuse to

961
00:44:53,200 --> 00:44:55,840
Speaker 2: give the ring back now, and I've caused a huge

962
00:44:55,920 --> 00:44:58,359
Speaker 2: rift with my family in law. My mother in law

963
00:44:58,360 --> 00:45:00,759
Speaker 2: and brother in laws are calling me an a. They

964
00:45:00,800 --> 00:45:02,959
Speaker 2: want the ring to continue being a part of their

965
00:45:03,080 --> 00:45:05,960
Speaker 2: family and to be passed down in the generations as

966
00:45:05,960 --> 00:45:08,879
Speaker 2: they were suspected to. I'm distraught. My wife and I

967
00:45:09,280 --> 00:45:13,160
Speaker 2: were not big sentimental gift giffs, and this honestly is

968
00:45:13,200 --> 00:45:15,680
Speaker 2: the only thing she was truly proud to givet me.

969
00:45:16,040 --> 00:45:18,319
Speaker 2: It was a huge deal for us and meant the

970
00:45:18,360 --> 00:45:21,160
Speaker 2: world to both of us, and they want to pass

971
00:45:21,160 --> 00:45:24,040
Speaker 2: it down to generations if that was like the reasoning

972
00:45:24,320 --> 00:45:26,520
Speaker 2: the grandmother should have given it to a guy instead

973
00:45:26,560 --> 00:45:27,319
Speaker 2: of you know, the.

974
00:45:27,880 --> 00:45:30,920
Speaker 1: I think something can be arranged. Really, I think you

975
00:45:30,960 --> 00:45:33,959
Speaker 1: can make an arrangement that it's like maybe.

976
00:45:34,680 --> 00:45:36,479
Speaker 2: After I pass I give it to one of your kids.

977
00:45:36,520 --> 00:45:38,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, if you don't have any kids, maybe the ring

978
00:45:38,800 --> 00:45:43,200
Speaker 1: goes back into their family or something. I could see that, Like,

979
00:45:43,680 --> 00:45:46,400
Speaker 1: not for this round, but it's like whenever the guys

980
00:45:46,480 --> 00:45:48,680
Speaker 1: get married and then they have their families and they

981
00:45:48,680 --> 00:45:50,960
Speaker 1: have kids, maybe you can give the ring back then

982
00:45:51,600 --> 00:45:54,080
Speaker 1: give it to one of their kids. Oh yeah, But

983
00:45:54,200 --> 00:45:56,759
Speaker 1: it's like just because I would be really insulted because

984
00:45:56,800 --> 00:45:59,080
Speaker 1: it's almost like the vibe would be like, oh, so

985
00:45:59,160 --> 00:46:01,760
Speaker 1: because she passed away, she just like didn't ever exist,

986
00:46:01,920 --> 00:46:04,160
Speaker 1: and we can just pretend like she didn't get engaged

987
00:46:04,160 --> 00:46:05,600
Speaker 1: to me and marry me and give me this ring

988
00:46:05,920 --> 00:46:07,680
Speaker 1: and we can just pretend like we can just give

989
00:46:07,680 --> 00:46:08,040
Speaker 1: it back.

990
00:46:08,160 --> 00:46:08,359
Speaker 2: Yeah.

991
00:46:08,520 --> 00:46:10,160
Speaker 1: If that never happened, I would be very I would

992
00:46:10,160 --> 00:46:11,160
Speaker 1: probably be pretty insulted.

993
00:46:11,280 --> 00:46:12,600
Speaker 2: Yeah. No, no, no, that is insulting.

994
00:46:13,000 --> 00:46:16,040
Speaker 1: Hey, it's Dakota, your favorite good time boy host.

995
00:46:16,080 --> 00:46:16,360
Speaker 2: Here.

996
00:46:16,560 --> 00:46:18,680
Speaker 1: We're gonna get back to the stories. But here's three

997
00:46:18,719 --> 00:46:20,400
Speaker 1: minutes of ads from our sponsors.

998
00:46:20,880 --> 00:46:23,080
Speaker 2: My family in law have also thrown in my face

999
00:46:23,120 --> 00:46:25,319
Speaker 2: that the grandmother wanted me to have it since she

1000
00:46:25,400 --> 00:46:28,080
Speaker 2: was Russian and would have very been much against the

1001
00:46:28,120 --> 00:46:31,359
Speaker 2: same spicy sleep couple. This really hurt me. It feels

1002
00:46:31,400 --> 00:46:34,760
Speaker 2: like a low blow, although it's definitely true. I accepted

1003
00:46:34,800 --> 00:46:37,640
Speaker 2: my family in law. The grandmother had been long gone

1004
00:46:37,680 --> 00:46:39,920
Speaker 2: before I met my wife. They are now saying that

1005
00:46:39,960 --> 00:46:41,920
Speaker 2: it should go to the boys as intended.

1006
00:46:42,200 --> 00:46:44,560
Speaker 1: It's all, wait, okay, so why do we care what

1007
00:46:44,680 --> 00:46:46,439
Speaker 1: the bigot thought? Do you know what I mean? Where

1008
00:46:46,440 --> 00:46:50,440
Speaker 1: it's like, oh, it's like, well, like imagine the context

1009
00:46:50,480 --> 00:46:52,640
Speaker 1: is the same, but it's like, well, grandma was racist,

1010
00:46:53,000 --> 00:46:56,080
Speaker 1: so I don't know because you're not the same color

1011
00:46:56,120 --> 00:46:58,480
Speaker 1: as us. You need to give the ring back because

1012
00:46:58,520 --> 00:47:01,680
Speaker 1: Grandma wouldn't have liked that. It's like, where do we

1013
00:47:01,760 --> 00:47:04,319
Speaker 1: stop with that? Right, the whims of the dead? Where

1014
00:47:04,320 --> 00:47:04,879
Speaker 1: do we quit?

1015
00:47:05,360 --> 00:47:05,560
Speaker 2: Yeah?

1016
00:47:06,080 --> 00:47:09,400
Speaker 1: Also you could pull out Well, guess what. My wife

1017
00:47:09,480 --> 00:47:12,439
Speaker 1: is also no longer with us. I think she would

1018
00:47:12,480 --> 00:47:13,600
Speaker 1: want me to keep the ring.

1019
00:47:14,040 --> 00:47:17,200
Speaker 2: Huh. She's a generation closer and she proposed to me.

1020
00:47:17,719 --> 00:47:22,000
Speaker 2: So yeah. Uh, it's all gotten really nasty and I

1021
00:47:22,080 --> 00:47:24,680
Speaker 2: just don't know what to do. The family have offered

1022
00:47:24,680 --> 00:47:27,080
Speaker 2: to buy the ring off me for the full value

1023
00:47:27,160 --> 00:47:30,319
Speaker 2: of the ring with the repairs, but I refuse. It's

1024
00:47:30,360 --> 00:47:32,360
Speaker 2: the only thing I have with my wife, and parting

1025
00:47:32,400 --> 00:47:35,200
Speaker 2: with it feels like the only piece I have left

1026
00:47:35,239 --> 00:47:38,040
Speaker 2: of my broken heart being taken away. Am on the

1027
00:47:38,040 --> 00:47:41,840
Speaker 2: a hole simple? No, Nah, that was gifted to you.

1028
00:47:42,280 --> 00:47:45,399
Speaker 1: But it is complicated, and it does make sense why

1029
00:47:45,400 --> 00:47:46,239
Speaker 1: they're upset with you.

1030
00:47:46,680 --> 00:47:48,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, because it's.

1031
00:47:48,719 --> 00:47:52,680
Speaker 1: Just an untenable situation. But I think you could make

1032
00:47:52,719 --> 00:47:55,440
Speaker 1: that contract where it's like down the line. Yeah, the

1033
00:47:55,480 --> 00:47:57,799
Speaker 1: boys aren't going to get it this generation, but I

1034
00:47:57,920 --> 00:48:02,120
Speaker 1: will leave it to y'all's children and it can come

1035
00:48:02,160 --> 00:48:04,799
Speaker 1: back to the family. But like you said, that is

1036
00:48:04,840 --> 00:48:08,440
Speaker 1: the last thing connecting you to your deceased partner.

1037
00:48:08,680 --> 00:48:12,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, so just don't keep it, man, edit. No, my

1038
00:48:12,200 --> 00:48:15,200
Speaker 2: wife and I do not have children. Grandma definitely wouldn't

1039
00:48:15,239 --> 00:48:18,160
Speaker 2: have accepted the relationship. She was very old fashioned. So

1040
00:48:18,400 --> 00:48:20,560
Speaker 2: shall we say. There were a lot of comments about

1041
00:48:20,640 --> 00:48:22,840
Speaker 2: leaving the ring in my will, which I think is

1042
00:48:22,840 --> 00:48:25,600
Speaker 2: a great idea, which you've been talking about. I hadn't

1043
00:48:25,600 --> 00:48:28,400
Speaker 2: been able to think clearly since it all happened, because

1044
00:48:28,520 --> 00:48:32,160
Speaker 2: I felt stricken with grief again after the shock of

1045
00:48:32,200 --> 00:48:34,520
Speaker 2: being asked. I am going to speak with mother in

1046
00:48:34,600 --> 00:48:36,440
Speaker 2: law and brother in law asap to see if I

1047
00:48:36,480 --> 00:48:38,440
Speaker 2: can offer the ring to the brother in law's future

1048
00:48:38,520 --> 00:48:41,200
Speaker 2: children in my will. I don't want to part the

1049
00:48:41,239 --> 00:48:43,720
Speaker 2: family from the ring, but I don't want to part

1050
00:48:43,719 --> 00:48:46,440
Speaker 2: with it in my lifetime, so I'm hoping this will

1051
00:48:46,480 --> 00:48:48,960
Speaker 2: be resolved. I will post an update as soon as

1052
00:48:49,000 --> 00:48:51,520
Speaker 2: I've spoken to everyone for those who have been mentioned

1053
00:48:51,560 --> 00:48:54,760
Speaker 2: about giving it up if I remarry, I couldn't possibly

1054
00:48:54,800 --> 00:48:57,240
Speaker 2: answer this question at this point in time. My grief

1055
00:48:57,360 --> 00:49:00,239
Speaker 2: is blinding. To think about loving anyone else in this

1056
00:49:00,280 --> 00:49:04,239
Speaker 2: world feels absolutely impossible. We have an update a month later,

1057
00:49:04,280 --> 00:49:05,560
Speaker 2: she's taking your advice.

1058
00:49:05,280 --> 00:49:06,320
Speaker 1: And she's getting married.

1059
00:49:07,600 --> 00:49:10,920
Speaker 2: It's been a month she's she has gone through the

1060
00:49:10,960 --> 00:49:13,359
Speaker 2: grief she's moved in. You're getting married.

1061
00:49:13,360 --> 00:49:15,920
Speaker 1: This update is going to be about where the cheapest

1062
00:49:15,920 --> 00:49:19,120
Speaker 1: place to rent the U haul is. No, I'm just kidding.

1063
00:49:19,600 --> 00:49:23,520
Speaker 1: I'm just so waking at clever observation about the nature

1064
00:49:23,560 --> 00:49:25,640
Speaker 1: of same sex female relationships.

1065
00:49:25,640 --> 00:49:28,319
Speaker 2: Way Uber has a deal that I can get a

1066
00:49:28,360 --> 00:49:31,600
Speaker 2: delivery truck to my place and to the other person's place.

1067
00:49:32,000 --> 00:49:34,720
Speaker 1: You all should do that, honestly. Yeah, you all should

1068
00:49:34,719 --> 00:49:36,960
Speaker 1: just be an app and it shows up. You all

1069
00:49:37,000 --> 00:49:38,280
Speaker 1: should just be the next way.

1070
00:49:38,080 --> 00:49:39,520
Speaker 2: Mo honestly for moving.

1071
00:49:39,719 --> 00:49:43,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, honestly, robo movers. That will be the a jillion

1072
00:49:43,719 --> 00:49:47,160
Speaker 1: dollar industry. We should get into that, robot movers. There

1073
00:49:47,160 --> 00:49:50,120
Speaker 1: we go, that's our business plan. Update A month later,

1074
00:49:50,280 --> 00:49:52,520
Speaker 1: since my last post, my sister in law and I

1075
00:49:52,640 --> 00:49:56,160
Speaker 1: have talked regarding the rink. She has been my mediator

1076
00:49:56,480 --> 00:49:59,000
Speaker 1: and we were always good friends. She agreed from the

1077
00:49:59,040 --> 00:50:01,160
Speaker 1: beginning that I should keep the ring. We met up

1078
00:50:01,200 --> 00:50:04,040
Speaker 1: to discuss things and face to face, without the pressure

1079
00:50:04,080 --> 00:50:04,760
Speaker 1: of the rest.

1080
00:50:04,520 --> 00:50:07,000
Speaker 2: Of the family breathing down my neck, we were able

1081
00:50:07,040 --> 00:50:09,680
Speaker 2: to discuss the rink and its future. I told her

1082
00:50:09,719 --> 00:50:12,200
Speaker 2: about my Reddit post and the advice I had been given,

1083
00:50:12,480 --> 00:50:14,719
Speaker 2: and that I would be very happy to leave the

1084
00:50:14,800 --> 00:50:18,280
Speaker 2: ring in my will for the first niece or nephew

1085
00:50:18,360 --> 00:50:19,240
Speaker 2: born to the family.

1086
00:50:19,520 --> 00:50:23,480
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, that's a perfectly acceptable plan.

1087
00:50:23,280 --> 00:50:26,600
Speaker 2: I think, so that it'll go back into the family eventually.

1088
00:50:26,840 --> 00:50:28,640
Speaker 2: I told my sister in law between her and I

1089
00:50:28,920 --> 00:50:31,319
Speaker 2: that if I marry at some point, I feel that

1090
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Speaker 2: I'm able to part with it then and maybe sooner.

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00:50:34,719 --> 00:50:37,759
Speaker 2: But I definitely didn't want that in writing. I said

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00:50:37,800 --> 00:50:40,360
Speaker 2: that I'm happy to draw up said contracts and will

1093
00:50:40,600 --> 00:50:44,840
Speaker 2: and relevant copies for this agreement before my departure. Sister

1094
00:50:44,840 --> 00:50:47,799
Speaker 2: in law totally agreed with the proposal, and once the

1095
00:50:47,840 --> 00:50:50,440
Speaker 2: business conversation was out of the way, she told me

1096
00:50:50,680 --> 00:50:53,760
Speaker 2: that this was the spark that lit this horrendous fire.

1097
00:50:54,040 --> 00:50:57,160
Speaker 2: Father in law never got on with my late wife,

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00:50:57,239 --> 00:50:59,600
Speaker 2: and especially not with me. The ring is from his

1099
00:50:59,640 --> 00:51:03,440
Speaker 2: side of the family. He was always very greedy nature, and

1100
00:51:03,520 --> 00:51:06,880
Speaker 2: although he despised his mother, he despised the fact that

1101
00:51:07,040 --> 00:51:11,080
Speaker 2: something of value that deemed his inheritance has been taken

1102
00:51:11,120 --> 00:51:14,440
Speaker 2: away from him. That and he is an openly closet

1103
00:51:14,480 --> 00:51:17,040
Speaker 2: guard too. He hated my late wife for it, and

1104
00:51:17,080 --> 00:51:20,080
Speaker 2: apparently when he found out what his mother's wishes for

1105
00:51:20,120 --> 00:51:22,799
Speaker 2: the ring was he lost his mind even though he

1106
00:51:22,960 --> 00:51:25,839
Speaker 2: is an only child and inherited a small fortune from

1107
00:51:25,880 --> 00:51:28,880
Speaker 2: her after my wife passed, he saw it as an

1108
00:51:28,920 --> 00:51:31,239
Speaker 2: opportunity to get the ring back and her asked the

1109
00:51:31,280 --> 00:51:35,520
Speaker 2: family to go get it, no banner, what it takes. Cisylond.

1110
00:51:35,560 --> 00:51:37,280
Speaker 2: Brother in law don't even want it for his fiance,

1111
00:51:37,640 --> 00:51:40,760
Speaker 2: but they are all scared of father in law. Citis

1112
00:51:40,800 --> 00:51:42,480
Speaker 2: in law said that she is so glad that I

1113
00:51:42,520 --> 00:51:45,560
Speaker 2: am moving home to be with my family. We shared

1114
00:51:45,600 --> 00:51:47,839
Speaker 2: a lot of tears and it was so good to

1115
00:51:47,880 --> 00:51:50,920
Speaker 2: talk about my wife with her. Luckily, and hopefully for

1116
00:51:51,040 --> 00:51:53,319
Speaker 2: all of us, Cister in law shouldn't be too long

1117
00:51:53,360 --> 00:51:56,200
Speaker 2: before she has her first child with her husband, as

1118
00:51:56,239 --> 00:51:59,120
Speaker 2: they just started trying. Sister in law and I talked

1119
00:51:59,120 --> 00:52:02,480
Speaker 2: again over the after the relevant information was related to

1120
00:52:02,520 --> 00:52:06,279
Speaker 2: the family. Apparently father in law is still raging, but

1121
00:52:06,400 --> 00:52:08,439
Speaker 2: she said she could see in her brother in law

1122
00:52:08,480 --> 00:52:11,160
Speaker 2: and mother in law relief on their faces. Apparently father

1123
00:52:11,160 --> 00:52:13,920
Speaker 2: in law really lost his mind, which told him I'm

1124
00:52:13,960 --> 00:52:17,400
Speaker 2: moving back home, believing the ring will forever be lost,

1125
00:52:17,680 --> 00:52:20,520
Speaker 2: even though the paperwork and et cetera is all getting

1126
00:52:20,520 --> 00:52:23,320
Speaker 2: in order nicely, I wanted to finish this by thanking

1127
00:52:23,360 --> 00:52:26,840
Speaker 2: everyone for your kind words, especially relating to losing my wife.

1128
00:52:27,000 --> 00:52:29,360
Speaker 2: She would have been so touched to have seen so

1129
00:52:29,520 --> 00:52:32,239
Speaker 2: many supportive, kind people out there. It's been a hard

1130
00:52:32,280 --> 00:52:34,799
Speaker 2: time for me, but knowing there are good people out

1131
00:52:34,800 --> 00:52:38,400
Speaker 2: there in the world gives me much hope. Wow, that

1132
00:52:38,520 --> 00:52:41,359
Speaker 2: one ended kind of home wholesomely.

1133
00:52:41,600 --> 00:52:46,680
Speaker 1: Yeah. I agree, Wow, with a wholesome you know, hope

1134
00:52:47,000 --> 00:52:48,160
Speaker 1: for the for humanity.

1135
00:52:48,360 --> 00:52:51,200
Speaker 2: No, well, guys, that's the end of that episode.

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00:52:51,520 --> 00:52:52,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, we'd have comments.

1137
00:52:53,000 --> 00:52:54,240
Speaker 2: Oh, we got comments, We got.

1138
00:52:54,080 --> 00:52:57,960
Speaker 1: Comments, comments, we got comments to read. Are you gonna

1139
00:52:57,960 --> 00:52:59,359
Speaker 1: post up back there? Oh?

1140
00:52:59,400 --> 00:53:02,280
Speaker 2: This comes from the my girlfriend destroyed my daughter's scrap

1141
00:53:02,320 --> 00:53:04,879
Speaker 2: book of her mom posted January thirty first to twenty

1142
00:53:04,880 --> 00:53:07,279
Speaker 2: twenty six. This story is Emma the ile for not

1143
00:53:07,400 --> 00:53:09,600
Speaker 2: throwing away any pictures of my ex wife. This is

1144
00:53:09,600 --> 00:53:13,120
Speaker 2: the first story tldr Opie just got full custody of

1145
00:53:13,160 --> 00:53:15,680
Speaker 2: his five year old daughter after his ex moved away.

1146
00:53:16,080 --> 00:53:19,200
Speaker 2: His girlfriend was already upset about having to share time

1147
00:53:19,239 --> 00:53:22,600
Speaker 2: with the x, but things got worse fast. She got

1148
00:53:22,640 --> 00:53:25,799
Speaker 2: angry over driving to the airport on her birthday, then

1149
00:53:25,880 --> 00:53:29,839
Speaker 2: later ripped apart a scrap book the child's mom made Yeah,

1150
00:53:29,880 --> 00:53:33,440
Speaker 2: it was a ridiculous story. If you're curious about the

1151
00:53:33,440 --> 00:53:37,520
Speaker 2: full story, please watch the video down below. And Laura mcgurty, dude,

1152
00:53:37,520 --> 00:53:39,240
Speaker 2: she has been commenting a lot. This is my second

1153
00:53:39,280 --> 00:53:41,799
Speaker 2: time reading something from her s one. This kind of

1154
00:53:41,800 --> 00:53:47,120
Speaker 2: person absolutely infuriates me. Opie's girlfriend has made it abundantly

1155
00:53:47,160 --> 00:53:50,480
Speaker 2: clear that she has main character syndrome, and it's not

1156
00:53:50,640 --> 00:53:53,160
Speaker 2: enough if it's not one hundred percent about her. And

1157
00:53:53,200 --> 00:53:55,640
Speaker 2: she resents the fact that her partner has a child

1158
00:53:55,719 --> 00:53:58,480
Speaker 2: and that this child will always take priority over her,

1159
00:53:58,719 --> 00:54:01,440
Speaker 2: which would still be the case for any child she

1160
00:54:01,600 --> 00:54:04,960
Speaker 2: had with someone else. So the child is the enemy

1161
00:54:05,239 --> 00:54:07,520
Speaker 2: and the mother is also the enemy. So yes, the

1162
00:54:07,960 --> 00:54:10,600
Speaker 2: OPI is the a hole, but not for dumping the

1163
00:54:10,600 --> 00:54:13,759
Speaker 2: girlfriend and moving on with their life when the red

1164
00:54:13,800 --> 00:54:16,120
Speaker 2: flags first started showing. So it should have happened sooner.

1165
00:54:16,880 --> 00:54:19,880
Speaker 2: Insane story like she broke everything apart and then he

1166
00:54:19,920 --> 00:54:24,120
Speaker 2: had to like repair it. Raley Yukui says, first story,

1167
00:54:24,320 --> 00:54:26,680
Speaker 2: I am a woman who never wants kids. I would

1168
00:54:26,719 --> 00:54:29,280
Speaker 2: never be with a man who has or wants kids.

1169
00:54:29,600 --> 00:54:31,720
Speaker 2: That said, if I made the choice to date someone

1170
00:54:31,760 --> 00:54:36,120
Speaker 2: with the child, slash my partner against custody of a neflink.

1171
00:54:36,360 --> 00:54:38,520
Speaker 2: I would not be upset at my partner for being

1172
00:54:38,520 --> 00:54:40,840
Speaker 2: a good parent. As much as I want all the

1173
00:54:40,880 --> 00:54:43,960
Speaker 2: love and attention, it's a parent's first duty to take

1174
00:54:44,000 --> 00:54:46,759
Speaker 2: care of their child, not me this hissy fit for

1175
00:54:46,880 --> 00:54:49,920
Speaker 2: the sake of a two hour drive and after looking

1176
00:54:50,000 --> 00:54:53,319
Speaker 2: after the kid, she knows Opie has sounds like she

1177
00:54:53,320 --> 00:54:56,319
Speaker 2: wants him to be a neglectful father. She can't deal

1178
00:54:56,360 --> 00:54:59,480
Speaker 2: with someone having children, don't date them. And Kaylie Hopper

1179
00:55:00,160 --> 00:55:03,319
Speaker 2: thirty says, Meanwhile, me, a stepmom, stops my husband from

1180
00:55:03,320 --> 00:55:05,560
Speaker 2: throwing away pictures of him and his axe or my

1181
00:55:05,640 --> 00:55:08,480
Speaker 2: step son when he gets older. So Kaylee Hopper was

1182
00:55:08,480 --> 00:55:09,200
Speaker 2: on the other side of that.

1183
00:55:09,480 --> 00:55:12,279
Speaker 1: There you go. You know, yeah, I don't think you

1184
00:55:12,320 --> 00:55:14,879
Speaker 1: should do that. I think that as adults, we should

1185
00:55:14,920 --> 00:55:17,640
Speaker 1: be comfortable with the fact that, hey, maybe this person

1186
00:55:17,719 --> 00:55:21,040
Speaker 1: has been with and loved and had children with others.

1187
00:55:21,400 --> 00:55:23,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, honestly, we don't.

1188
00:55:23,040 --> 00:55:24,920
Speaker 1: Have to pretend like that never happened.

1189
00:55:25,000 --> 00:55:28,840
Speaker 2: Now, soop guys, that is the end of that episode

1190
00:55:29,360 --> 00:55:31,880
Speaker 2: and this and this yeah, the episode.

1191
00:55:32,200 --> 00:55:35,520
Speaker 1: Wow. So if you love us, make sure you subscribe

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