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Speaker 1: you're out in the dating world to try new things,
Speaker 1: whether it's a new restaurant or some new foods, or
Speaker 1: find a new safe word. One of the longest words
Speaker 1: in the English Dictionary, flossinas in the hill of hilification.
Speaker 1: Try to use that as a safe word. You screw
Speaker 1: up one syllable. It's going to take a long time
Speaker 1: for things to stop. And Dan is on the phone
Speaker 1: right now for a second date update. He tried something
Speaker 1: new for his first date, but now he's not getting
Speaker 1: a call back. What's up, Dan? What's up? Hey? Guys?
Speaker 1: How are you? I'm cool? Man? All right, well, not
Speaker 1: totally all right, because you're not getting a call back
Speaker 1: from a girl you really want to go out with again.
Speaker 1: But before we get into your actual date, what's her name? Amanda? Amanda?
Speaker 1: All right? And where did you meet Amanda? You've heard
Speaker 1: that thing called tender. Yeah you're a funny guy too. Yeah,
Speaker 1: never heard, never heard of it. I don't know. We
Speaker 1: do these second at updates all the time. First time
Speaker 1: anybody's ever mentioned tender. Someone just told me about it.
Speaker 1: So I was like, oh, you know, I'll get up there.
Speaker 1: I'm more of a match dot com guy. But they
Speaker 1: were like, tender is really the way to go? And wait,
Speaker 1: so are you serious? You didn't really you hadn't really
Speaker 1: heard of tender before. I mean I had heard people
Speaker 1: talking about it, and I was like, uh, okay, okay,
Speaker 1: so to actually try it? All right? So you met her,
Speaker 1: no idea. It's a whole new world. It's a lot
Speaker 1: different than match, isn't it a lot of different than match? Right?
Speaker 1: But yeah, we is all the swiping stuff and like
Speaker 1: I don't know, like we matched and there's that moment
Speaker 1: or oh my god, maybe this and we were like
Speaker 1: chatting like I don't know, two weeks or whatever. We're
Speaker 1: trying to Yeah, it is a while, but like you know,
Speaker 1: I asked like the five questions, like you know, what's
Speaker 1: your favorite with your favorite tackle, what's your favorite sports team?
Speaker 1: And you're not short on details, You're not short on details, Dan,
Speaker 1: and that's what I like about you. You make sure
Speaker 1: you get everything in. Let's just get to the date.
Speaker 1: Not to rush you along, but we we you know,
Speaker 1: we're up against the clock here. Yeah yeah, I know,
Speaker 1: I know you're excited about tender, but let's get to
Speaker 1: what you guys actually did. Your email said that you
Speaker 1: did something that you haven't done before with a girl.
Speaker 1: And what exactly was that? If you can say it
Speaker 1: on the radio, Well, she said, hey, you might if
Speaker 1: I pick a place, and I was like, oh, no,
Speaker 1: that's cool, and she goes, yeah, there's this great bar.
Speaker 1: The drinks are like a little on the cheaper side,
Speaker 1: so it's it's really casual, and they've gotten music. And like,
Speaker 1: again with the details, did what did you do you
Speaker 1: make sure you get you like sold it? And I
Speaker 1: was like yeah, okay, fine, And we get to the
Speaker 1: place and there was a rainbow flag out fry. Okay,
Speaker 1: so it's a gay bar. Yeah. She was like, hey,
Speaker 1: it's a it's she brought me to a gay bar
Speaker 1: and I was like, whoa, I've never been to a
Speaker 1: gay bar, but what rock are you living? Understand? I
Speaker 1: didn't know that you could just sort of like go
Speaker 1: to a gay bar to hang out if you weren't
Speaker 1: gay and check, yeah they're not. Yeah. They're actually one
Speaker 1: of the groups in America that's pretty inclusive, like pretty
Speaker 1: understanding of people that want to like hang out. You know.
Speaker 1: I think they've had a lot of people tell them
Speaker 1: they can't go places, so they're pretty cool with anybody
Speaker 1: showing up. Yeah I know that. Now. Did that freak
Speaker 1: you out? No, it didn't freak me out at all.
Speaker 1: I just like, I'm not gay, so I didn't know
Speaker 1: like if I had to act a certain way. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we got that. Yeah, you can just go be yourself.
Speaker 1: Were you? Yourself? Is the reason you're not getting a
Speaker 1: call back because you were all weird. I actually I
Speaker 1: felt freer than I'd ever saw them in a while.
Speaker 1: It's like really cool, like we were dancing, but then
Speaker 1: um we decided to like sit down and talk for
Speaker 1: a while. And people kept coming up to her and
Speaker 1: they were like, who's this tall drink of water And
Speaker 1: I've never heard that before. I was like, I'm a
Speaker 1: drink of water, Like, I've never never heard that before either. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's a pretty common thing people say, Oh, so Dan,
Speaker 1: did you act mystified the entire time you were there,
Speaker 1: because I would say that would be a turn off
Speaker 1: for me. And no, I wasn't mystified. I was just
Speaker 1: and I was smiling a lot, like it was cool.
Speaker 1: I was having a good time. So like, eventually the
Speaker 1: bar was getting a little rowdy, a little too loud
Speaker 1: and crowded and so um, we just decided to just
Speaker 1: head out and we were walking back to her car,
Speaker 1: and I don't know, I was just like, it's good.
Speaker 1: I felt pretty free and I kissed her her okay,
Speaker 1: oh nice, Yeah, did she enjoy it? Yeah? She kissed
Speaker 1: me back, and I was like, hey, I've had the
Speaker 1: best time tonight. You want to do this again? And
Speaker 1: she said yeah, like resounding yes. And I reached out
Speaker 1: the next day and I was like, hey, I had
Speaker 1: had a great time. I even put like a little
Speaker 1: gay flag emoji on the text. I thought that was
Speaker 1: kind of cool because we were at a gay bar.
Speaker 1: But whatever, and then nothing, and uh, like the blue
Speaker 1: bubbles went to green bubbles and I was like, oh wait,
Speaker 1: I think I got like blocked. Wait she blocked your number. Well,
Speaker 1: I don't know, you know how sometimes here give your
Speaker 1: blue bubbles turned to Green Bubbles. Does that mean you
Speaker 1: got blocked? I've never been. I just thought it went
Speaker 1: off I message. Yeah, I don't know. We well, like,
Speaker 1: we've got so much information here to work with now, Dan,
Speaker 1: I don't I don't want to get into all that, sure,
Speaker 1: but we do know that she's ignored you since your date. Please,
Speaker 1: I don't like to use the word ignored, but yeah,
Speaker 1: she's been ignoring me. And Okay, honestly, I had like
Speaker 1: a much better time than I expect that I was
Speaker 1: going to at at a gay bar. It was pretty cool. Well, okay,
Speaker 1: we'll give it a shot. Let's try. Okay, all right,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna I'm gonna play a song and then we'll
Speaker 1: come back and call her and get your second date update.
Speaker 1: All right, cool? Okay brooking jubil in the morning up
Speaker 1: right in the middle of a second date update. And
Speaker 1: if you're just joining us, Dan is on the phone
Speaker 1: and the world is basically a whole new place for
Speaker 1: Dan all the time. It sounds like, if you miss
Speaker 1: the first part, Dan met a girl on tender. It's
Speaker 1: the first time he's really used tender and they went
Speaker 1: out to a gay bar. Was her choice, but he
Speaker 1: was just surprised because he'd never been to a gay
Speaker 1: bar before. I didn't have any judgment. Just the whole
Speaker 1: thing was very interesting to him and it would open
Speaker 1: up his eyes to that lifestyle and how they have
Speaker 1: bars just like normal people. I know he was freaking
Speaker 1: out about it. But anyway, they hung out there then left.
Speaker 1: He had end up kissing her before she got in
Speaker 1: the car and went home. But now she's not talking
Speaker 1: to him at all. We're gonna see if we can
Speaker 1: find out what went wrong. And you can't think of
Speaker 1: like any awkward moments, Dan, That's the thing. During this
Speaker 1: ghosting period, I was like, did I did I say
Speaker 1: something weird? Did my breath smell? Did I smell like?
Speaker 1: And I can't think of anything, and I'm just kind
Speaker 1: of weirded out by it all, you know. All Right, Well,
Speaker 1: we'll see if we can figure it out for you. Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna dial her phone number right now, right on. Hello?
Speaker 1: Hi is this Amanda? Yeah? Hi? Who's this? Hey Amanda?
Speaker 1: How are you? This is Jewel from the radio show
Speaker 1: Brook and Jewel in the Morning. Kay. Are you familiar
Speaker 1: at all? I think I've heard of it before, but
Speaker 1: I don't listen to radio very much. To be honest,
Speaker 1: that's fine. That's how we like it. We like people
Speaker 1: who have just heard of it and not listened, so
Speaker 1: that you don't really know how to judge us, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. We prefer people just kind of
Speaker 1: know of us, but don't really actually actively listen to
Speaker 1: our show. So it's nice to meet you, Amanda m
Speaker 1: Yeah you too. Can I ask why you're calling me? No, yes,
Speaker 1: of course you can. Yeah, that's all. I just want
Speaker 1: to see if you're familiar at all with us. Man,
Speaker 1: I'm calling you because we got an email about you
Speaker 1: from somebody who listens to our show. Oh really, yeah
Speaker 1: his name is and oh okay, yeah, yeah, you went
Speaker 1: on a date with Dan h. But now you're not
Speaker 1: talking to him and he's wondering why. Um, is this
Speaker 1: like a normal thing you guys do. Yeah, yeah it is.
Speaker 1: We do a segment our so called the Second Date Updates,
Speaker 1: where if you go out on a date with somebody
Speaker 1: and then blow them off, they can email us to
Speaker 1: call you and figure out what happened. And that's why
Speaker 1: Dan emailed us. All right, did he maybe come across
Speaker 1: as ignorant? I guess you would say, he seemed really
Speaker 1: baffled by a lot of things like Tinder and gay bars,
Speaker 1: and like maybe he said something that he shouldn't have. No,
Speaker 1: we had a good time. He's a great guy. Actually
Speaker 1: really Okay, so you had a good time. He was
Speaker 1: a great guy, but you don't want to talk to
Speaker 1: him anymore? Yeah, why come on? That doesn't give us
Speaker 1: a lot. I mean, it's kind of weird to tell
Speaker 1: you guys about it. Can you and not even us?
Speaker 1: Can you tell us so that we can tell him,
Speaker 1: because he's the one that's really curious. I mean, I'd
Speaker 1: rather you not tell him. Why is it something that
Speaker 1: he did? Kind of all right, I'll just I don't
Speaker 1: know how much he told you guys. But we went
Speaker 1: to a gay bar and some of my friends were there,
Speaker 1: a few gay friends, and they're one hundred percent sure
Speaker 1: he's not straight. Oh really, Like all of them collectively
Speaker 1: thought that, yeah, yeah, and they're never wrong about this stuff. Okay,
Speaker 1: So you don't want to go out with him on
Speaker 1: another date because you think that he's not interested in you. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's what I mean women in general. Yeah, I mean
Speaker 1: he seemed interested, and at the time I didn't actually
Speaker 1: think so, But the more I have been thinking about
Speaker 1: it since then, the more I agree with them, and
Speaker 1: I think he's probably gay. I feel like, if he
Speaker 1: is gay, he doesn't even know he's gay yet, because, yeah,
Speaker 1: he seems pretty oblivious to most things in life. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's that's what they were saying, is that he probably
Speaker 1: has no idea, but he he was just way too comfortable,
Speaker 1: Like he said it was the first time he's been
Speaker 1: to a gay bar, but he was like singing and dancing,
Speaker 1: and like, don't you think maybe he was just cutting loose,
Speaker 1: Like I don't dance in normal bars, but anytime I've
Speaker 1: been to a gay bar, for some reason, the dancing
Speaker 1: takes over and I'll get hammered to dance. I don't
Speaker 1: know why. And he did say that he had felt
Speaker 1: more open and comfortable there than he has Yeah. Maybe ever, Yeah,
Speaker 1: at the time, I just thought he was having fun
Speaker 1: and like we were having a fun time together. But like,
Speaker 1: for example, my friends pointed out like he was in
Speaker 1: the bathroom grooming his hair and like just being really
Speaker 1: meticulous about it. Obviously I didn't see that, but they
Speaker 1: were telling me about it, and they were saying, like
Speaker 1: his mannerisms are like kind of typically gay or a
Speaker 1: feminine you know, yeah, but does I mean it sounds
Speaker 1: like they're even playing into the gay stereotype at this point,
Speaker 1: you know, yeah, I know it sounds like stereotyping, but
Speaker 1: like they were very insistent that they are all in agreement.
Speaker 1: He is not straight. Every single one of your gay
Speaker 1: friends thinks that's dude is gay? Gang. Yeah, they were
Speaker 1: like five of my friends there, five gay guys I
Speaker 1: know who all agree. Why wouldn't you go out on
Speaker 1: another day with them and just I don't know, find
Speaker 1: out the water. I just don't want to get involved.
Speaker 1: If he's like discovering something about himself, I don't want
Speaker 1: to complicate that anymore than it already is. You know what.
Speaker 1: We talked to him, and he did sound like he
Speaker 1: was discovering a lot of things, Like he was the
Speaker 1: way that he even talked about being that he was
Speaker 1: like I felt the most free. So, I mean, I
Speaker 1: don't know if I can necessarily argue with you, maybe
Speaker 1: he is, but you don't want to go out with
Speaker 1: him again just in case he's all of a sudden
Speaker 1: realizing that he might be gay. He's a great guy
Speaker 1: and we could be friends, but I just don't want
Speaker 1: to get romantically involved with him right now. You know, Well,
Speaker 1: maybe you can talk to him about being his friend,
Speaker 1: because he's actually on the phone right now listening and
Speaker 1: wants to talk to you. And oh my god, I'm
Speaker 1: so sorry, Dan, I did not know you were listening. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm a little confused here. Um, I think so. I
Speaker 1: think that's the whole point of the phone called Dan. No,
Speaker 1: I mean, Amanda, I don't know how to say this,
Speaker 1: but I'm I'm not gay, Amanda. I think your friends
Speaker 1: are mistaken. I think they're the ones that are a
Speaker 1: little confused because I'm I'm super straight, like like super
Speaker 1: duper Look, Dan, I'm really sorry. I'm not trying to
Speaker 1: call you out or out you on the radio, but
Speaker 1: I just am going by what my friend said. Your
Speaker 1: friends were so cool, like I would trust them also,
Speaker 1: but not about this, Like we like totally hit it off.
Speaker 1: And I mean if I was gay, would we have
Speaker 1: like that kiss? Was that? That? Kids kind of rocks, right? Yeah?
Speaker 1: I mean but bang eyes can kiss well too. That
Speaker 1: doesn't doesn't mean anything, but but they usually kiss guys well.
Speaker 1: I mean, I will say I don't think that you're
Speaker 1: being fair. Like he's saying he is attracted to you,
Speaker 1: and that's all that matters. Do you know what I'm saying? Like,
Speaker 1: even if, even if down the road, he's attracted to me,
Speaker 1: right now, he's attracted to you. Wait, I'm sorry, hang on,
Speaker 1: Uh yeah, I'm not attracted to men, so I'm not
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna like become attracted to men. Okay, Well
Speaker 1: what about my friend with the tattoo. You're like holding
Speaker 1: his arm like admiring his tattoo for I don't know,
Speaker 1: like five full minutes. WHOA. The ink work on his
Speaker 1: arm is spectacular. The shadowing is amazing. I've been wanting
Speaker 1: to get like a really rad tribal for a while,
Speaker 1: and Charlie's work was really rad tribal. I don't think
Speaker 1: he's gay, Amanda. You had a good time with him,
Speaker 1: You had fun. You guys shared a great kiss. I
Speaker 1: feel like you're letting your friends ruin something that could
Speaker 1: be really cool. Ye. Like I said, he's saying he's
Speaker 1: attracted to you and he likes tattoos. One of them said, Seante,
Speaker 1: you stay and look. I don't know what that means,
Speaker 1: but I was like, I'm cool. I'm gonna hang out. Okay,
Speaker 1: so what I don't know. I have no idea what
Speaker 1: you just said, Dan, or we're even trying to explain.
Speaker 1: But Amanda, will you go out on a second date
Speaker 1: with Dan? We will pay for it. He's telling you
Speaker 1: that he's not gay, even though your friends say he is.
Speaker 1: I'm not gay. I'm not gay. I guess if you
Speaker 1: guys are paying for it, I'd be open into that
Speaker 1: we can hang out. But I feel like I'm gonna
Speaker 1: need some convincing that you're actually not gay. I am
Speaker 1: so down to convince you that I don't should be
Speaker 1: with a man, but I want to like hang out
Speaker 1: with you. Yeah, I'm not convinced, but hopefully, Amanda, you'll
Speaker 1: be convinced. Congratulations, Dan, you got a second day. Seantey
Speaker 1: you stay y, Yes, Shantell you stay. Congratulations Broken Jewel
Speaker 1: in the morning,