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Speaker 1: Just d your should any other mainstreams media outlet breakfast clubs.

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Speaker 2: Don't taken tick, I'm gonna get you, gonna take it,

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Speaker 2: break up Lean Cay you then come here when this

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Speaker 2: stay DJ Envy and Charlamagne the guy being here.

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Speaker 3: Next to all of you guys. It's really this.

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Speaker 4: It's one of my favorite shows to do, just because

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Speaker 4: you're always keeping one.

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Speaker 5: Hundred y'all keep it real. But what better place then

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Speaker 5: than here?

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Speaker 6: I think everybody should go on the Breakfast Club and

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Speaker 6: start out.

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Speaker 5: Y'all want to shake it up?

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Speaker 7: Ray right, Ray yo, Charlomagne, Daffy, what up are we?

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Speaker 1: Lies?

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Speaker 5: This is your time to get it off your chest.

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Speaker 5: I got an indoor pool, door pool. We want to

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Speaker 5: hear from you on the Breakfast Club.

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Speaker 8: Get on the phone right now here, tell you what.

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Speaker 5: It is we lie? Hello, who's this?

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Speaker 9: Here's it going?

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Speaker 5: Man? God, God, what's up? Get it off your chest?

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Speaker 5: Why it sounds so damn brother?

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Speaker 1: No, I ain't done.

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Speaker 9: Just woke up man by.

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Speaker 5: The tum your uber ship.

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Speaker 10: What you do we're at?

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Speaker 9: I thought? He said?

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Speaker 8: He.

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Speaker 9: I was like, God, damn, you gotta get your life together?

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Speaker 5: He said, Uber, Yeah, what do you do ober at

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Speaker 5: bro in Brooklyn on Brooklyn. Okay, is it is it

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Speaker 5: true that Uber takes like what of what you make?

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Speaker 8: Nah?

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Speaker 11: I don't think once the ride popping up on your screen,

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Speaker 11: you just accept it and you get all the money

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Speaker 11: to pop up on the screen.

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Speaker 9: I don't know anybody be complaining about And we appreciate you, brother.

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Speaker 11: No doubt, I appreciate you too. But yeah, I just

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Speaker 11: want to let all the drivers know when they'll be

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Speaker 11: on the road stop with these emotional terms. I'll be

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Speaker 11: making the bike lane is to the right every time

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Speaker 11: you drive. Every time is a driver in front of

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Speaker 11: another driver and they're trying to get around. They always

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Speaker 11: make these emotional turn try to get around the driver

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Speaker 11: in front.

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Speaker 9: Of them, and I'm always to the right.

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Speaker 12: Drivers, we are to your right. Stop with the emotional turns.

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Speaker 12: They're gonna hurt somebody.

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Speaker 5: Okay, Oh, thank you man.

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Speaker 8: No doubt.

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Speaker 9: Man, have a good day, please.

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Speaker 10: Sir, you too. Hello.

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Speaker 8: Who's this?

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Speaker 13: It's your boy KP from the bro KP.

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Speaker 7: For the b X.

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Speaker 10: What up?

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Speaker 5: Get it off your chest, bro, I'll.

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Speaker 13: Telling man, listen, I'm calling because I want to be

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Speaker 13: positive this morning, like in the next like five six hours.

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Speaker 13: I'm getting ready to get on the Carnival cruise and

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Speaker 13: go on an eight day trip to Turk, Saint Thomas.

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Speaker 9: And Puerto Rico a dam.

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Speaker 13: I know it's gonna be a good vibe.

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Speaker 9: That's right, man, set the vibes early. I like that.

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Speaker 9: Who you taking your wife? Now?

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Speaker 13: I'm going with the family. I'm going one of my

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Speaker 13: my close dusk friends and mom. Everybody like that, my

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Speaker 13: extended family.

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Speaker 9: Oh that's right. Well the enjoy bro enjoy that. Man,

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Speaker 9: put your put your feet.

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Speaker 13: Hot again, I.

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Speaker 4: Said, put your feet in the sand of Turks and

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Speaker 4: Kko's Man, it's a beautiful place.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Nah.

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Speaker 13: In fact, I've been there one time, but only when

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Speaker 13: I was younger. So I know it's gonna be great

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Speaker 13: now that I'm gonna go.

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Speaker 5: Have you been on the cruise before?

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Speaker 8: Yeah?

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Speaker 13: Probably like nothing.

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Speaker 12: Nothing.

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Speaker 13: It's like my ninth time cruise and I'm been on Carnival, Caribbean, Disney.

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Speaker 10: Okay, all things.

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Speaker 5: So you're a professional. You know where you need to go,

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Speaker 5: what time you need to go to lunch and dinner,

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Speaker 5: and how to book all a little sturgeons and all that.

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Speaker 5: You are pro.

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Speaker 13: That's not after sack my grandmother taught me a long

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Speaker 13: time ago. We've been going on for years, so you

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Speaker 13: know she's not with us no more. But it's something

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Speaker 13: I like to keep doing because you know, it makes

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Speaker 13: me remember her.

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Speaker 5: Okay, Bro, I have a going Hello.

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Speaker 10: Who's this?

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Speaker 7: Hey? This is Sean. What's up?

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Speaker 5: Showing?

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Speaker 7: What up?

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Speaker 5: Get it off your chest?

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Speaker 8: Hey?

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Speaker 7: As a founding member of the congregation, we are about

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Speaker 7: to revoke the membership from charlam Man if he don't

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Speaker 7: change his era, change my what sharp girl era? We

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Speaker 7: don't want that anymore.

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Speaker 9: I am in my soft girl era?

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Speaker 7: Bro, No, we will revoke your membership.

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Speaker 9: Why are you you a soft girl?

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Speaker 7: No? We're true. We don't like to hear you like that.

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Speaker 9: What membership are we talking about? What club am I in?

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Speaker 7: Ye? You're in a real man club.

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Speaker 5: You don't know what he identifies as, sir.

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Speaker 7: We definitely do.

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Speaker 8: No what here?

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Speaker 7: I dentify as I'm in.

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Speaker 9: My soft girl era.

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Speaker 5: He's a soft girl right now?

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Speaker 9: Sir?

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Speaker 5: He looks good.

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Speaker 7: Man, you got twenty four.

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Speaker 9: Look at that. You ain't even got a good You

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Speaker 9: can't even be in the highphone family.

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Speaker 5: You still got an android? Get it off your chest.

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Speaker 5: Eight hundrednk five eight five one oh five one. If

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Speaker 5: you need to vent something on your mind, call us

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Speaker 5: up right now. It's the Breakfast Lugan morning.

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Speaker 14: The Breakfast Club. Wait, this is your time to get

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Speaker 14: it off your chest. Eight hundred and five eight five

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Speaker 14: five one. We want to hear from you on the

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Speaker 14: Breakfast Club.

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Speaker 5: Hello.

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Speaker 8: Who's this wald?

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Speaker 1: This is Prince Free from Virginia Beach seven five seven

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Speaker 1: What I'm brother, Junior Beach? What's club's family? Look? Look, man,

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Speaker 1: let me get this off my chest real quick, man,

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Speaker 1: because I got a daughter. She's twenty. She's at North

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Speaker 1: of State. Sorry about that envy, but anyway, in Norfolk State,

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Speaker 1: and you know I went in went up there to

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Speaker 1: go get her. And all these kids walking with their phones,

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Speaker 1: they're not even paying attention. So every morning I'll send

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Speaker 1: my daughter this text message ABC, always be checking, Always

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Speaker 1: be careful. And I want to send that out to

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Speaker 1: folks man, because there's a lot of evil going out there, man,

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Speaker 1: a lot of evil lurking, you know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: So my message this morning is to tell these young

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Speaker 1: folks man, get out of them phones while y'all walking

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Speaker 1: no place outside, you know, understanding the outside. It's not safe.

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Speaker 1: So I just want to send that. Man came out

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Speaker 1: man on my favorite.

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Speaker 4: You're absolutely right, But shouldn't you call your daughter if

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Speaker 4: you're trying to get her to stop looking down at

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Speaker 9: Why would you text her? Why would you contribute to

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Speaker 9: the problem.

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Speaker 1: Now, now I send that to her before our classes.

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Speaker 1: But it's because I'm shouting man, totally right, bro, I

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Speaker 1: do call her. One of the things is with with

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Speaker 1: with my mental health thing is that we don't call them,

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Speaker 1: we don't talk. We're not humanizing things anymore. But you're right.

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Speaker 1: I text and I called, but I know that she's

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Speaker 1: being class So that's why I.

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Speaker 5: Text, as you should and shout to everybody heading the

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Speaker 5: college out to Norfolk State, Shotahampton of course in Virginia State,

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Speaker 5: Virginia Union, all the colleges out in Virginia slot to

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Speaker 5: the same five to seven.

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Speaker 9: All right, brother, no doubt, no doubt, he's right. I

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Speaker 9: can't yeah, I can't stand that either.

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Speaker 4: I hate like I pull up, you know, to pick

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Speaker 4: my daughter up from cheerleading, and all the girls are

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Speaker 4: outside looking down at them, and pay attention to your

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Speaker 4: damn surrounding, you know, what I mean, you can't even

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Speaker 4: see nothing coming.

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Speaker 10: Hello.

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Speaker 9: Who's this?

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Speaker 8: Hey? Nor truck. I just want to say, you know

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Speaker 8: what I said about the car show man, it was amazing.

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Speaker 8: My family had a good time. I was, I was all.

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Speaker 8: I was amazing to see how your kids were able

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Speaker 8: to walk around, you know, play with other people kids.

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Speaker 8: And it was, like you said, it was nothing bad happened.

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Speaker 8: We had a great time.

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Speaker 7: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: Nah, my kids had a great time. I mean they

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Speaker 5: love the car shows because it gives them an opportunity

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Speaker 5: to really just enjoy themselves. And like I tell everybody,

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Speaker 5: that's what it's about. It it's your kids playing with

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Speaker 5: my kids. And you know, we have enough security and

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Speaker 5: safety there to make sure all the kids are straight.

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Speaker 5: But also it's a big community. Everybody's looking over each

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Speaker 5: other kids and just everybody had a great time. And

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Speaker 5: it's a loutle t bringing your family up. Brother, appreciate you.

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Speaker 8: Hey, thanks, Hello, who's this?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 8: Good morning? But this is Blue from the Bronx.

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Speaker 5: Blue from the Brons. Getting off your chest, brother.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, I just want my hand for Charla made you

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Speaker 8: know how you always said flat people are crazy. The

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Speaker 8: Bronx people are crazy. It a little slick. He is

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Speaker 8: makeing flick of remark, but then he don't let nobody respond.

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Speaker 8: He hang up the phone. I just want you to

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Speaker 8: stop hanging up the phone. Get the man a chance

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Speaker 8: to respond.

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Speaker 4: I don't even I don't I don't even control the phone, sir,

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Speaker 4: But that respond to him.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, I just want him to go that there's some

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Speaker 8: frazy people in the Bronx. Yeah, but I understand you

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Speaker 8: don't never get nobody a chance to respond. So what

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Speaker 8: I'm telling you is all this click stuff to be saying,

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Speaker 8: it's give a man a chance to respond.

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Speaker 4: In fact, the craziest people in America come from the

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Speaker 4: Bronx and all the Florida.

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Speaker 9: There is science, sir, Why are you arguing with science?

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Speaker 7: No?

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Speaker 8: No, I mean here, what all I wanted you to

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Speaker 8: do when you make your slick remark it said it

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Speaker 8: just hanging up.

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Speaker 4: I'm letting you respond and you're not responding.

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Speaker 9: Just crazy this morning, sir.

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Speaker 5: Try to let him respond. He just said, I just

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Speaker 5: want you to let me respond. I let him respond,

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Speaker 5: and he just said, I just want you to let

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Speaker 5: me respond.

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Speaker 9: He's just showing how crazy they are.

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Speaker 5: Eight hundred five A five one five one get it

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Speaker 5: off your chests. Call us up. Now, it's the Breakfast Club.

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Speaker 5: Good morning, the Breakfast Club.

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Speaker 15: It's topic time called eight hundred five A five one

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Speaker 15: five one to join into the discussion with the Breakfast Club.

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Speaker 5: Morning everybody. It's DJ n V Charlamagne the God. We

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Speaker 5: are the Breakfast Club. We got our guest co host

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Speaker 5: Kiki here. Hey, friends, Now we're asking eight hundred five

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Speaker 5: A five one o five one, what are some signs

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Speaker 5: you are getting old? This conversation comes from Kevin Hart.

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Speaker 5: We reported in the rumors early that Kevin Hart was

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Speaker 5: trying to uh, I guess, raise somebody in a in

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Speaker 5: right fast. So we're asking eight hundred five A five

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Speaker 5: one oh five one. Let's start with you, Kiki.

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Speaker 16: Okay, Now, for me, when I knew I was getting older,

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Speaker 16: and I'm I'm an early thirties, so I'm still, you know,

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Speaker 16: a little young. But what tells you is when you

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Speaker 16: hang around younger people. So like my sister in law

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Speaker 16: We gotta turn up, we gotta pop bottles. And I

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Speaker 16: also know when I go over somebody house and they

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Speaker 16: music real loud, Like why is everything so loud? That's

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Speaker 16: what I know I was getting old. And also when

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Speaker 16: I discovered baseboards in my house, like I don't know,

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Speaker 16: out what that was. I was like, yeah, you're getting old.

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Speaker 5: Yeah. For myself, this there's a couple of things. One

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Speaker 5: That that Also if I'm going somewhere, like I'm touching

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Speaker 5: a long flight, I watched what I ate up meeting,

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Speaker 5: old man basketball. So you know, I got six kids, yes,

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Speaker 5: two boys, four girls. And when I play my kids

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Speaker 5: just old man style and just kind of just do

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Speaker 5: I don't want to play with them the more I'm tired,

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Speaker 5: like I just want to win and then go those

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Speaker 5: got tennis elbow, and I haven't played tennis in twenty years,

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Speaker 5: and I think that's an old man's injury tennis elbow. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: I was born in nineteen hundred and seventy eight. So

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Speaker 4: thought the question is, what can we do anymore? After

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Speaker 5: Your memories messed up? I can see it right now, okay.

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Speaker 5: And he was just struggling with Instagram, certain instagramm I

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Speaker 5: tag Michael, somebody, where're my niece? Can my knees help me?

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Speaker 7: Yeah?

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Speaker 9: When you get frustrated, what can not doing any more?

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Speaker 4: Damn near everything and especially everything I don't want to

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Speaker 4: do and it'd be the littlest things, Like I realize

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Speaker 4: now while our parents you know, used to be in

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Speaker 4: matter where we was at, in the apartment, at the house.

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Speaker 9: Or the trailer, just to get them some water control.

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Speaker 4: Literally right there, I'm talking about, like right there, a

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Speaker 4: foot away from you. But boy, when you be on

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Speaker 9: Do it, So come use your little young legs and

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Speaker 9: get it for me.

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Speaker 4: Another thing I can't do anymore at my age small talk.

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Speaker 4: I don't want any small talk. I have no problem

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Speaker 4: either sitting around in silence, or if you're talking to

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Speaker 4: me about something I don't care about, I might tell

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Speaker 4: you shut the f up right in the middle of

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Speaker 9: For the small talk. I don't care in no way,

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Speaker 5: And you know another reason why I knew I was

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Speaker 5: getting older. I started wearing crocs. Oh yeah, I started

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Speaker 5: wearing I look at my glass old ass people shoes.

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Speaker 9: Now you ain't mentioned had died. You ain't realize you

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Speaker 9: was getting older.

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Speaker 4: You had to start dye in your bed and painting,

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Speaker 4: your painting, your faith envy.

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Speaker 16: You be out here leaving them little things on T shirts?

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Speaker 9: Yes you did, did you? Definitely you put it? It

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Speaker 9: was no you know what he had on himself.

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Speaker 4: He had a hoodie on one day and it was

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Speaker 4: all on the neck of the hoodie, the little black paddle.

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Speaker 10: You want kick.

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Speaker 9: Just actually just observing, laughing at me and sorry, I'm sorry.

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Speaker 9: You don't do that no more, you stop because I

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Speaker 9: keep calling.

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Speaker 1: You on.

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Speaker 5: And the wal Greens ran out of just man. So

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Speaker 5: I've been stuck for a little bit. But I got

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Speaker 5: a new delivery coming today. Don't worry about Okay, you

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Speaker 5: hate it? Kick it those laugh I know, I know

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Speaker 5: you ain't die your hair before, Kiki babe.

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Speaker 10: You know what not.

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Speaker 3: I don't die my hair, baby, it's not.

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Speaker 17: I put a whole wig on.

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Speaker 16: So it's a.

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Speaker 5: Chico.

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Speaker 9: Trust me, he would too if they made beard wigs.

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Speaker 5: Hello, who's this? He KD from a walk, a KD

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Speaker 5: from a wall. We're talking about signs of getting on.

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Speaker 12: Well, I know I'm only thirty and it's a bad

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Speaker 12: example for sure. I got to carry a kit around

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Speaker 12: with me.

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Speaker 8: They got bio freeze ice.

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Speaker 12: Packs and all of that.

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Speaker 17: Why what was you doing in your twenties?

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Speaker 9: Word?

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Speaker 12: Well, I was always a sport head. So I mean recently,

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Speaker 12: like probably like a year and a half ago. I

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Speaker 12: was at a track meeting. They had like a little

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Speaker 12: I still got it. I started running. I got fifty

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Speaker 12: is I was on the ground there.

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Speaker 9: How old are you?

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Speaker 12: My hairstrag and I ain't doing the same thing.

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Speaker 9: How old are you?

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Speaker 12: I just turned thirty in February.

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Speaker 9: Now you know it's babies.

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Speaker 10: Man.

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Speaker 5: If y'all don't cut it out, I won't tell you.

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Speaker 5: Another sign is always going to the doctor. If I

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Speaker 4: Just having good health insurance, I have plenty of people

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Speaker 4: who would love to just go to the doctor whatever

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Speaker 5: I'll go. I'll go to the ear if I if

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Speaker 4: To the l I tell you, I'll tell you what

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Speaker 4: a good Another good sign is when you go through

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Speaker 5: Happy man.

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Speaker 4: I got one Monday, Okay, says, Overall, my results are

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Speaker 4: excellent despite a high calcium score for your age, there's

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Speaker 4: only minimal.

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Speaker 9: Plaque in your heart arteries.

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Speaker 4: Furthermore, your cholesterol profile is excellent and well below goal

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Speaker 4: on your current stat of medication and aspirin, which I

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Speaker 4: would continue. Your blood pressure and heart rate are those

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Speaker 4: of a man twenty years younger. All these factors contribute

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Speaker 4: to a very low ten year cardiovascular risk only three

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Speaker 4: point five percent optimal. Optimal for men of your age

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Speaker 4: would be three percent. So you are in very good shape.

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Speaker 5: What about your button?

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Speaker 9: To doctor Puma and everybody at sore in medical.

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Speaker 5: About your butt?

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Speaker 7: Do man?

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Speaker 8: Shut up?

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Speaker 5: Colon kolonosko be that's a mesking.

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Speaker 4: I did that already. I got no polyms, no redness,

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Speaker 4: no nothing.

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Speaker 5: I think you need a second opinion.

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Speaker 9: I can think about what.

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Speaker 5: Sexy ray step that?

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Speaker 10: Hello?

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Speaker 8: Hello?

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Speaker 5: Ain't Stephanie? Good morning?

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Speaker 18: Good morning?

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Speaker 5: How old are you Stephanie?

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Speaker 18: Fifty?

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Speaker 9: Okay, now you're talking?

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Speaker 16: Now?

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Speaker 5: What are some signe you getting old? Stephanie?

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Speaker 18: They listen, I've been like five six years ago. Had

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Speaker 18: to go back to the missionary. I can't do the flips,

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Speaker 18: the tricks and the turn so yeah, we're back on missionary.

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Speaker 5: No more backshots for you, no more. You ain't right enoughing.

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Speaker 18: They riding a knee and I ain't doing nothing.

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Speaker 4: Okay, okay, okay, okay, I need I need to know

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Speaker 4: the measurements. I need your height, girl, don't don't do it, girl, don't.

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Speaker 9: I think there's other factors involved, other in age.

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Speaker 18: Yeah, well, I'm so so serious missionary, and it's not

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Speaker 5: So serious to how how old are you, Stephanie?

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Speaker 9: How much do you weite? Don't do it?

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Speaker 3: Girl?

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Speaker 8: One sixty?

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Speaker 17: Okay, now, what's the excuse?

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Speaker 8: Nothing?

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Speaker 4: A little I mean a little round, but nothing crazy,

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Speaker 4: you know what I mean? She just lazy, lazy.

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Speaker 1: I'm to be bone right.

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Speaker 5: Damn Well, how old is your boyfriend?

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Speaker 9: Her husband?

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Speaker 18: Fifty?

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Speaker 17: Sorry to that man?

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Speaker 5: Were you sixty? He's fifty fifty fifty?

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Speaker 9: Might be time to tack somebody else in?

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Speaker 18: I got go ahead.

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Speaker 4: I'm just saying, interesting, what's going on when she can't

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Speaker 4: do nothing but missionary? It's time to tag somebody else in,

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Speaker 4: especially if he is able to do other things?

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Speaker 9: Is he able to do everything?

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Speaker 18: That's right? I'm not sitting up with that gone.

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Speaker 5: You are, y'all a little bugging. That's y'all married, y'are

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Speaker 5: supposed to look, you're supposed to go all the way

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Speaker 5: to the end. Y'all been together, y'all been together a

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Speaker 5: long time?

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Speaker 13: Oh twenty years?

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Speaker 5: Oh yeah, No, no, no, he's supposed to take that.

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Speaker 5: This is just like if he lose a legs, she's

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Speaker 5: supposed to still stay with him regardless, be like, let

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Speaker 5: me go get a man with some legs.

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Speaker 10: No, she got that.

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Speaker 18: I don't want nobody else.

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Speaker 1: I don't want nobody.

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Speaker 10: That's right, girl.

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Speaker 5: You stay with your man, and he probably and you

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Speaker 5: can always get a vino lotion. You can make miracles

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Speaker 5: happen with a vino.

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Speaker 10: All right?

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Speaker 4: With my mom and.

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Speaker 9: Asy, she don't even know. Ve don't know Jergon. You

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Speaker 4: She thinks gold On is where you go when you

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Speaker 4: get locked up? Oh my god, what's what's the morell

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Speaker 4: of the story. The more of the story is aging

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Speaker 4: beats the alternatives. So I enjoy it, all right.

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Speaker 5: The breakfast club you want to everybody is TJ add Charlamagne,

456
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Speaker 5: the guy. We all the breakfast club. We got a

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Speaker 5: special guest in the building. Yes, indeed, brother Malcolm Jenkins.

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Speaker 10: Welcome, brother, appreciate y'all having me.

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Speaker 5: How you're doing blessed Black and Holly favorite?

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Speaker 9: How you doing doing well?

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Speaker 10: Doing well?

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Speaker 4: Malcolm got a new book I'll called What Winners Won't

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Speaker 4: Tell You. I love that title. Break that title down.

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Speaker 10: Yeah.

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Speaker 15: I mean, you know, a lot of the times we

466
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Speaker 15: see people who have a lot of success, who are champions,

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Speaker 15: and we hold them up high, but oftentimes we don't see,

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Speaker 15: you know, what makes them that way.

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Speaker 8: Uh.

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Speaker 15: And oftentimes we kind of glorify that that process and

471
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Speaker 15: look at the end of you know, the end result.

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Speaker 15: But for me, I've always been a bridge a bridge builder,

473
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Speaker 15: and wanted to make sure that I can textualize the

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Speaker 15: thirteen year career that I've just finished, you know, all

475
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Speaker 15: of the things that I've kind of accomplished by showcasing

476
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Speaker 15: that that journey, that process, that evolution of you know,

477
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Speaker 15: a man into what you see now. And really, that's

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Speaker 15: to me, that's what you what you want to do,

479
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Speaker 15: that's what you want to live. You want to have

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Speaker 15: impact on things, you want to leave people with breadcrumb

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Speaker 15: to that success.

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Speaker 7: Uh.

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Speaker 10: And so I kind of open up.

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Speaker 15: The reason I don't have a shirt on on the

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Speaker 15: covers because it's it's a very vulnerable memoir. It's one

486
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Speaker 15: of the things I showed, kind of the failures, the process,

487
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Speaker 15: how I developed, you know, into the person I am today.

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Speaker 5: He played in the NFL former NFL play You got

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Speaker 5: drafted with New Orleans and then you play for the Eagles.

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Speaker 4: Whoa you got congoy?

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Speaker 10: No, not at all at all. We know what's gonna

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Speaker 10: happen at the end of the year.

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Speaker 5: He said that every year. Every year he says that.

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Speaker 5: But you said that last year, said that last year. Now,

495
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Speaker 5: what made you want to write this book? Now you

496
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Speaker 5: talk about the winning and losing and being so open

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Speaker 5: and vulnerable. What made you want to write the book

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Speaker 5: at this time?

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Speaker 15: So, you know, one of the things is an athlete

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Speaker 15: your your your life is usually documented by other people.

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Speaker 15: Everybody else writes about you, talks about you, and we

502
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Speaker 15: rarely get to hear the athlete talk about their own

503
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Speaker 15: experience and contextualizing for themselves.

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Speaker 10: I got two young daughters, like you know that.

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Speaker 15: I think a lot about what they what I want

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Speaker 15: to leave to them, how I want them to view me,

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Speaker 15: And so I figured it was better for my story

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Speaker 15: to be told from my own words. So I ended

509
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Speaker 15: up writing the book myself. You know, cover the cover

510
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Speaker 15: is all me, and it's and it's one of those

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Speaker 15: things that I'm always involved in everything I do, so

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Speaker 15: you know, for me, it's it's one of those things

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Speaker 15: that again, everybody doesn't get to see what goes into

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Speaker 15: the process, that goes into the mindset, the cerebral parts

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Speaker 15: of not only football, but life, the failures.

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Speaker 10: And I think that that's.

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Speaker 15: Always been important for the people I know who are

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Speaker 15: watching me to see that part of it, because that's

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Speaker 15: the difference. You know, most of the time, you'll see

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Speaker 15: somebody at the top and you you think you can't

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Speaker 15: get there. You seem so different, you know, so far

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Speaker 15: from your example. And hopefully this kind of closes that

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Speaker 15: gap for the reader to see that, no, these people

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Speaker 15: who have success are just like you that go through trials,

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Speaker 15: they go through tripulations. It's those who continue to fight,

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Speaker 15: those continue to play, you know, the idea, you know

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Speaker 15: that life is this journey. You don't especially with sports.

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Speaker 15: I think life is like a game. We tend to

529
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Speaker 15: only enjoy life or the game after we've won the victory.

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Speaker 15: Is when you get to enjoy life. But really the

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Speaker 15: winners will tell you that you enjoy playing the game.

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Speaker 15: In life, you have to enjoy where your feet are,

533
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Speaker 15: enjoy the process regardless of the results. And really that's

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Speaker 15: how I've lived in my life. That's how I've grown

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Speaker 15: to have success, and I try to live that every day.

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Speaker 4: I love in the book you talk about a lot

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Speaker 4: of the things you did as far as than the

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Speaker 4: social justice space, because you were the head of the players.

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Speaker 4: When it comes to social justice and being an athlete,

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Speaker 4: what's the balance.

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Speaker 10: Man's you know.

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Speaker 15: One of the things we had to do was find

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Speaker 15: what our role was, you know, because we're not the experts.

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Speaker 15: We're not we're not devoting our lives to be activists,

545
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Speaker 15: but we do have a role, you know, as as

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Speaker 15: role models in a platform to do something. And I

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Speaker 15: think one of the things that we found to be

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Speaker 15: very useful was to place ourselves as conveners. We can

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Speaker 15: bring you know, communities to politicians, to police, we can

550
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Speaker 15: use all of the intention that we get to drop

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Speaker 15: to put pressure on you know, those who are in power,

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Speaker 15: especially in our local markets. And that's really how we

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Speaker 15: formulated InCom Boldaan myself formulated the Player's Coalition as a

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Speaker 15: vehicle for athletes all over the country. If you say

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Speaker 15: I want to get involved, you know, with the things

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Speaker 15: going on in my community, you want to get involved

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Speaker 15: with politics in whatever you want to lobby, here's the

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Speaker 15: education on the issues locally, here's who you need to

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Speaker 15: push on, here's people are power, and here's some resources

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Speaker 15: to put those things together. So, you know, we we

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Speaker 15: kind of worked through that on our own, and then

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Speaker 15: once we figured out the plan or figured out what worked,

563
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Speaker 15: we just held the door for anybody who wanted to come.

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Speaker 15: It started with a group of about twelve athletes and

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Speaker 15: now is expanded to twelve professional leagues of sports, which

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Speaker 15: is far greater than anything I could imagine when we started.

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Speaker 15: It have an impact with you know, grassroots organizations all

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Speaker 15: the way up to you know, politics.

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Speaker 4: What's all of the accomplishments that the Players Coalition did

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Speaker 4: that we didn't hear about.

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Speaker 15: So the majority of the work was like, hey, all right,

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Speaker 15: talking about the negotiation with the league and things like that.

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Speaker 10: But what we were able.

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Speaker 15: To turn that into, you know, so specifically, and my

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Speaker 15: focus was in Pennsylvania. One of the things I was

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Speaker 15: most proud of was. We pushed for a bill to

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Speaker 15: get pass called the Clean Slate Act. And most people

578
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Speaker 15: don't know one in three people in America have some

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Speaker 15: kind of criminal record, and so what this did was

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Speaker 15: roll back or explunge those records after ten years if

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Speaker 15: you hadn't violated for non violent offenses. And we were like,

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Speaker 15: you know, that's a low hanging fruit, let's get that

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Speaker 15: out of the way. But that ended up affecting like

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Speaker 15: over three million people across the state of Pennsylvania. So

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Speaker 15: that's that affects how you know, what jobs you can get, where.

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Speaker 10: You can live.

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Speaker 15: And it's just that's a very low hanging you know,

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Speaker 15: low hanging fruit when it comes to the policy and

589
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Speaker 15: New England guys were doing things. They lobby to get

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Speaker 15: a bunch of millions of dollars put into the school

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Speaker 15: system to close the digital divide, you know, computers and

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Speaker 15: things like that. So these are happening all over the

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Speaker 15: country Louisiana, Florida, Ohio, all the way to Cali, and

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Speaker 15: it's being done not only by me, but obviously by

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Speaker 15: athletes all over.

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Speaker 5: Now when players with kneeling at one time, how did

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Speaker 5: you guys support the players if at all.

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Speaker 10: Yeah, well I was raising my fist and I was one.

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Speaker 15: That's how the player coalition kind of came to a

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Speaker 15: bout And I talk about it in the book, just

601
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Speaker 15: about like that moment, everybody wanting to figure out what

602
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Speaker 15: to do but not quite agreeing, which seems to be

603
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Speaker 15: over the time and history, a common threat like people

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Speaker 15: having you know, the same ideas a bunch of people

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Speaker 15: want being very passionate about, you know, pushing black people

606
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Speaker 15: forward or getting involved, but having differences, you know, differences

607
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Speaker 15: of opinion and strategy. But my biggest thing was always

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Speaker 15: about the world. I'm like, whoever is about you know,

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Speaker 15: making a change and putting in the time and effort

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Speaker 15: to do it. Let's let's collaborate, let's work together. And

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Speaker 15: we've been doing that over you know, over the course

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Speaker 15: of now, coming up on a decade.

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Speaker 4: I feel like you took a lot of heat back then. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: you know, Eric re called you a sellout. You know,

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Speaker 4: y'all had y'all if you watch football, your famous confrontation

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Speaker 4: you know, during the game before the game as well,

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Speaker 4: Like have y'all been able to have a conversation since then?

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Speaker 10: Nah, you know, and a lot of people.

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Speaker 15: You know, even in those times we're like, hey man,

620
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Speaker 15: you need to reconcile that, you need to squash that.

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Speaker 15: But I've always maintained that, you know, I never wanted

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Speaker 15: to be besides that. And I was very disappointed after

623
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Speaker 15: that game and myself because I gave the media that image.

624
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Speaker 15: Last thing I wanted was two black men fighting over

625
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Speaker 15: trying to say that people were trying to help the

626
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Speaker 15: people are just counterintuitive.

627
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Speaker 10: It doesn't work.

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Speaker 15: And so for me, I've always maintained that, like, I'm

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Speaker 15: proud of the work that they did. I'm proud of

630
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Speaker 15: you know, all of us were trying to figure it

631
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Speaker 15: out at that time, but it's not me. It's not

632
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Speaker 15: on me to reconcile the situation. Like, I never had

633
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Speaker 15: a problem. I don't hold any gripes. I was always

634
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Speaker 15: focused on the work. I knew that regardless of how

635
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Speaker 15: you know, I was feeling the things that were coming

636
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Speaker 15: down to me, that things, what people were saying.

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Speaker 10: My focus was always in the people.

638
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Speaker 15: I got into this, not you know, to lift myself up,

639
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Speaker 15: So my feelings didn't matter. It was like, Okay, what's

640
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Speaker 15: the what's the goal here, and it's to help, So

641
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Speaker 15: all of that to me was distractions and I had

642
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Speaker 15: to stay, you know, stay focused on the goal. Why

643
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Speaker 15: I was there, why you know I put myself in

644
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Speaker 15: that position, and just maintain all right.

645
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Speaker 5: We got more with Malcolm Jenkins when we come back,

646
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Speaker 5: his new book, What Winners Won't Tell You It's out

647
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Speaker 5: right now. It's the Breakfast Club in the morning wanting

648
00:25:30,920 --> 00:25:34,800
Speaker 5: everybody's dj MV. Charlamage, the guy we all the Breakfast Club.

649
00:25:34,800 --> 00:25:37,479
Speaker 5: He's still kicking it with Malcolm Jenkins's new book, What

650
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Speaker 5: Winners Won't Tell You, It's out right Now. What was

651
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Speaker 5: your thoughts on everything that's going on with Colin Kaepernick

652
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Speaker 5: and everything that's happening right now, what's your thoughts on that?

653
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Speaker 15: I mean, it's you know, it's confusing at this time,

654
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Speaker 15: it's seven years. The way you know, it's you almost

655
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Speaker 15: want them to just kind of like stand on his legacy.

656
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Speaker 10: I think.

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Speaker 15: Any the way that it's being approached now and the

658
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Speaker 15: way that it's being kind of laid out, it almost

659
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Speaker 15: you know, it's like worries.

660
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Speaker 10: It makes me makes me a little worried.

661
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Speaker 5: What you mean.

662
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Speaker 15: I mean, you know you're talking about, you know, somebody

663
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Speaker 15: who wants to play in the super Bowl. That's down

664
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Speaker 15: like begging to be on a practice squad seven years

665
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Speaker 15: after later.

666
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Speaker 10: It's you know, forget the politics or who he is.

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Speaker 15: Any athlete that's out of the game for seven years

668
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Speaker 15: and it's still begging to being a practice squad.

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Speaker 10: It's concerning to me.

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Speaker 15: It's that now being on the other side of retirement

671
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Speaker 15: and having to deal with that's that identity change myself,

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Speaker 15: you know that that's that's it's a strong thing that

673
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Speaker 15: he's dealing with, and you worry about, like, Okay, how

674
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Speaker 15: does one handle transitioning into the next phase of life,

675
00:26:33,480 --> 00:26:36,280
Speaker 15: the next chapter, because that one's done, like you can't

676
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Speaker 15: play football forever, so we need to see, you know,

677
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Speaker 15: what that next example is. And it's with so many

678
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Speaker 15: people following them, I think we all want to know, like,

679
00:26:43,119 --> 00:26:43,760
Speaker 15: all right, what's that?

680
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Speaker 10: What's that next move?

681
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Speaker 5: You know? Some people would say that, you know, he's

682
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Speaker 5: been playing similar to you, I'm shaw since you were

683
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Speaker 5: three years old, so that's all that you know and

684
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Speaker 5: love and maybe on the bucket list, what's playing in

685
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Speaker 5: the super Bowl or winning the Super Bowl? I should

686
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Speaker 5: say so for some people who say maybe he hasn't

687
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Speaker 5: got that off yet, And then some people would say,

688
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Speaker 5: you know, like even Charlamage has mentioned that he feels

689
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Speaker 5: like that letter was kind of like an embarrassment and

690
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Speaker 5: it issgrace that, you know, you go from pro athlete

691
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Speaker 5: to super Bowl contended to practice squad.

692
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Speaker 9: No, I don't.

693
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Speaker 15: I don't think anybody want to win a super Bowl

694
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Speaker 15: that bad. I don't think it's about the super Bowl

695
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Speaker 15: because that's not what we're talking about, right, We're talking

696
00:27:16,560 --> 00:27:17,920
Speaker 15: about just getting on a roster.

697
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Speaker 10: But you know who knows.

698
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Speaker 15: I think that's the That's the one thing that that

699
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Speaker 15: that leads the concern is we don't know what the

700
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Speaker 15: motivation is. But I don't. I don't know that you know,

701
00:27:28,760 --> 00:27:31,760
Speaker 15: one is chasing super Bowl. I think it is. I

702
00:27:31,840 --> 00:27:34,520
Speaker 15: think it comes down to you and I'm watching it

703
00:27:34,560 --> 00:27:36,639
Speaker 15: in many teammates of mind, like even I don't know

704
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Speaker 15: if you saw Kelsey. Jason Kelsey did a documentary about

705
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Speaker 15: his life last year. He was trying to decide if

706
00:27:41,560 --> 00:27:43,439
Speaker 15: he wanted to play or not. At the end of it,

707
00:27:43,480 --> 00:27:45,840
Speaker 15: he goes through all of these things that he loves most,

708
00:27:45,920 --> 00:27:50,280
Speaker 15: his family's wife, his health, but he is so afraid

709
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Speaker 15: of moving on to something else. He says, I can't

710
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Speaker 15: imagine myself being the best in the world of anything else,

711
00:27:55,520 --> 00:27:57,520
Speaker 15: and so he decides to come back. He's obviously playing

712
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Speaker 15: again this year, and I watched it. Most people applaud it.

713
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Speaker 15: I watched it in fear, because here you are saying

714
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Speaker 15: all the things that you value most, you're willing to

715
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Speaker 15: sacrifice because you're afraid to step into the unknown.

716
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Speaker 5: Dang.

717
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Speaker 15: And I think that's one of the things that, like,

718
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Speaker 15: I know, for me, the opening chapter in my book

719
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Speaker 15: is fear. I've learned to always like step into the

720
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Speaker 15: things I'm afraid of. And that's how I knew I

721
00:28:16,600 --> 00:28:18,640
Speaker 15: was ready to step away from the game is because

722
00:28:18,640 --> 00:28:20,359
Speaker 15: the only thing that was holding me there. I had

723
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Speaker 15: made enough money, my body was healthy, I was I

724
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Speaker 15: was focused on other things, But the only thing really

725
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Speaker 15: keeping me there was the fact that I was afraid

726
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Speaker 15: to step into the unknown of You know, I've been

727
00:28:29,200 --> 00:28:31,760
Speaker 15: playing football since I was seven, same same type of thing.

728
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Speaker 10: But for me, my response is to lean into that.

729
00:28:34,280 --> 00:28:35,400
Speaker 10: So it's I think there is a.

730
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Speaker 15: Lot of that going on with athletes right now, and

731
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Speaker 15: I think with Kaepernick being who he is and what

732
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Speaker 15: he means to especially our people, I think, you know,

733
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Speaker 15: we always want him to be the example. But I

734
00:28:45,320 --> 00:28:48,200
Speaker 15: think it's a great kind of reminder that everybody's human,

735
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Speaker 15: everybody's dealing with the human.

736
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Speaker 4: Stuff and oftentimes too when you when you're when you're

737
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Speaker 4: when you don't let go of something, you block a

738
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Speaker 4: lot of your blessing. You never know what the future

739
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Speaker 4: is hold if you keep holding onto the path.

740
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Speaker 10: Yeah.

741
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Speaker 15: I never thought I would write a book. Never, never

742
00:29:00,720 --> 00:29:01,920
Speaker 15: in my life thought I would write a book.

743
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Speaker 10: Wow.

744
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Speaker 15: And it wasn't until like, yeah, you start to let

745
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Speaker 15: go of these ideas of who you're supposed to be

746
00:29:07,520 --> 00:29:10,560
Speaker 15: and these limitations we've kind of put on ourselves, and

747
00:29:10,640 --> 00:29:13,400
Speaker 15: you lean into the unknown and say, well, okay, I

748
00:29:13,440 --> 00:29:17,120
Speaker 15: can't tell myself I can't do this until I've proven myself,

749
00:29:17,240 --> 00:29:19,880
Speaker 15: you know, until til life proves that I can't do something.

750
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Speaker 10: I have to always assume that I can.

751
00:29:21,800 --> 00:29:24,680
Speaker 15: And for me, it's just always about like trying to expand,

752
00:29:25,320 --> 00:29:27,400
Speaker 15: you know, the human experience as much as possible.

753
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Speaker 10: Forever learner, I'm curious about everything, and.

754
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Speaker 15: The more and more you learn, the more you do,

755
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Speaker 15: you start to realize, you know that there are no

756
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Speaker 15: limitations that any of the problems that you have in

757
00:29:36,800 --> 00:29:38,720
Speaker 15: your life. You are going to be a base of

758
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Speaker 15: that solution. And that's a journey. It's not easy to

759
00:29:41,120 --> 00:29:43,520
Speaker 15: get there that that takes a lot of trial and error.

760
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Speaker 9: I love why you started chapter two.

761
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Speaker 4: You started with a quote, we must all suffer one

762
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Speaker 4: or two pains, the pain of discipline or the pain

763
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Speaker 4: and regret regret.

764
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Speaker 9: Which one did you do you suffer?

765
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Speaker 15: The more I think I suffered both until I learned,

766
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Speaker 15: you know, the pain of discipline. I think I've gotten

767
00:29:58,760 --> 00:30:01,360
Speaker 15: so much more comfortable in the pain of discipline than

768
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Speaker 15: the pain that regret. Both hurt, though, and I think

769
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Speaker 15: you know, especially when you talk about like even love

770
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Speaker 15: is one of those things. Is I've come to find

771
00:30:09,360 --> 00:30:11,280
Speaker 15: love is like an action word. I take love out

772
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Speaker 15: as a noun in my vocabulary because we often love

773
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Speaker 15: in feelings. But to really love somebody, or even love yourself,

774
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Speaker 15: it looks like discipline.

775
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Speaker 10: It doesn't.

776
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Speaker 15: We'll look in the mirror and say, I feel good

777
00:30:21,040 --> 00:30:23,800
Speaker 15: about myself, so I love myself. I feel confident, so

778
00:30:23,840 --> 00:30:26,800
Speaker 15: I must love myself, and so we love everybody else

779
00:30:26,840 --> 00:30:29,560
Speaker 15: with feelings. But when you start to just look at actions,

780
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Speaker 15: like how what are the things you do to love yourself? Okay,

781
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Speaker 15: do you have discipline with what you eat, how you

782
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Speaker 15: work out, how you take care of yourself. You know,

783
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Speaker 15: do you go places you don't need to? Are you reading?

784
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Speaker 15: Are you cultivating these parts of yourself? Those things are uncomfortable,

785
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Speaker 15: They take discipline, but they always expand.

786
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Speaker 10: Who you are.

787
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Speaker 15: They help you grow, They help you go to where

788
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Speaker 15: you're trying to get to. And I think a lot

789
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Speaker 15: of the times we try to avoid that discipline and

790
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Speaker 15: end up just still being uncomfortable with the results because

791
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Speaker 15: we regret it not having that, you know, not taking

792
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Speaker 15: advantage of those times. So for me, I'm always trying

793
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Speaker 15: to focus on, you know, the end goal, doing those

794
00:31:02,080 --> 00:31:06,560
Speaker 15: small things daily that starve yourself. Maybe sometimes it's some enjoyment,

795
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Speaker 15: but at the same time, you know you're moving in

796
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Speaker 15: the direction you want to go.

797
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Speaker 5: Now, you mentioned earlier you had two daughters, and I

798
00:31:11,760 --> 00:31:13,880
Speaker 5: always ask athletes when they come up here, if you

799
00:31:13,920 --> 00:31:16,080
Speaker 5: did have a son, would you want your son to

800
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Speaker 5: play in the NFL.

801
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Speaker 10: I don't think I would have a desire for the

802
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Speaker 10: play if he wanted to.

803
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Speaker 15: You know, for sure, I got all the keys to

804
00:31:21,920 --> 00:31:23,920
Speaker 15: show you how to get there and stay there. You know,

805
00:31:24,000 --> 00:31:27,520
Speaker 15: it's a dangerous sport, but everything is dangerous, and I

806
00:31:27,560 --> 00:31:30,200
Speaker 15: think one of the things about me my first the

807
00:31:30,320 --> 00:31:32,080
Speaker 15: first half of my career, I was I would get

808
00:31:32,080 --> 00:31:34,840
Speaker 15: these nagging injuries my neck. I talked about in the book,

809
00:31:34,880 --> 00:31:36,320
Speaker 15: I had to get a bunch of everidor shots in

810
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Speaker 15: my neck. I'm like, I thought those were just for women. Yeah,

811
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Speaker 15: I was getting them in my neck to play football.

812
00:31:41,360 --> 00:31:44,680
Speaker 15: You're on heavy kind of anti inflammatories things like that.

813
00:31:44,960 --> 00:31:45,960
Speaker 10: So they are the negative things.

814
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Speaker 15: But when I stopped trying to hurt people in the game,

815
00:31:48,520 --> 00:31:51,320
Speaker 15: I stopped trying to punish my defenders, I stopped getting

816
00:31:51,360 --> 00:31:54,240
Speaker 15: hurt and I played eight seasons straight with no injury,

817
00:31:54,320 --> 00:31:56,960
Speaker 15: which is absurd in the NFL. So there is a

818
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Speaker 15: way to play the game. There's a way to kind

819
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Speaker 15: of move about it, take care of yourself that is safe.

820
00:32:02,000 --> 00:32:04,400
Speaker 15: But obviously it's it's a violent sport. But the things

821
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Speaker 15: that I've learned from playing football are things that, you know,

822
00:32:07,800 --> 00:32:09,640
Speaker 15: have made me who I am. I think they give

823
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Speaker 15: me an advantage in any situation. You know, you talk about,

824
00:32:12,960 --> 00:32:15,000
Speaker 15: you know, stepping away from the game and being Since

825
00:32:15,040 --> 00:32:16,840
Speaker 15: seven years old, you've been trained to be a leader,

826
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Speaker 15: You've been training a problem solve. You've been trained to

827
00:32:20,040 --> 00:32:24,120
Speaker 15: go through processes to evaluate yourself, to evaluate your opponent, fail,

828
00:32:24,520 --> 00:32:27,880
Speaker 15: do it all over again, like live on routine. Like

829
00:32:27,920 --> 00:32:29,400
Speaker 15: all of those things are things that when you get

830
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Speaker 15: out into the world you see regular people CEOs all

831
00:32:31,760 --> 00:32:34,960
Speaker 15: the way down struggle with Yet we've been equipped to

832
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Speaker 15: do this and been kind of trained to do that,

833
00:32:36,920 --> 00:32:38,680
Speaker 15: so you know, it's a trade off. You know, I

834
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Speaker 15: think some of those things are good, some of them bad.

835
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Speaker 15: It's just up to If I had a sign, it

836
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Speaker 15: would really be up to him.

837
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Speaker 10: All Right.

838
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Speaker 5: We got more with Malcolm Jenkins when we come backs.

839
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Speaker 5: New book, What Winners Won't Tell You, it's out right now.

840
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Speaker 5: It's the Breakfast Club for the morning morning everybody is

841
00:32:50,400 --> 00:32:53,560
Speaker 5: dj NV Charlamage, the guy we are the Breakfast Club

842
00:32:53,680 --> 00:32:56,160
Speaker 5: is still kicking it with Malcolm Jenkins is new book,

843
00:32:56,200 --> 00:32:58,880
Speaker 5: What Winners Won't tell You. It's out right now, Charlamagne.

844
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Speaker 4: You know Tom Brady the forward of your book, he's

845
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Speaker 4: playing that relationship because I would never have Tom Brady.

846
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Speaker 15: Yeah, I mean, you know we were looking obviously we

847
00:33:08,000 --> 00:33:09,680
Speaker 15: titled it, you know what was gonna tell you Lessons

848
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Speaker 15: from a Legendary defender. We're kind of like, all right, well,

849
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Speaker 15: who do we get to write the foreword? And Tom's

850
00:33:15,280 --> 00:33:17,200
Speaker 15: name came up, and I'm like, guys, like I've been

851
00:33:17,240 --> 00:33:20,320
Speaker 15: trolling Tom about this super Bowl for a few years now.

852
00:33:20,560 --> 00:33:22,640
Speaker 15: I don't know Tom's gonna write it, but you know,

853
00:33:22,760 --> 00:33:25,400
Speaker 15: and I think about as a defender, who was my

854
00:33:25,440 --> 00:33:26,160
Speaker 15: favorite opponent?

855
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Speaker 10: It was Tom Brady. Love playing Tom.

856
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Speaker 15: He always brought the best out of me as a player,

857
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Speaker 15: and you know, he's the greatest of all time. So

858
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Speaker 15: I just kind of shot my shot shot in the

859
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Speaker 15: text and he obliged.

860
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Speaker 8: You know.

861
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Speaker 15: That was and it was kind of the cherry on

862
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Speaker 15: top of the book, definitely, you know, a stamp.

863
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Speaker 10: I appreciated him for that.

864
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Speaker 9: Did you'll have a relationship before that?

865
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Speaker 15: Really just a mutual you know, relationship respects like an

866
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Speaker 15: opponent being peers in the league.

867
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Speaker 10: But no, we're not like friends. We don't hang out.

868
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Speaker 15: So this is really just based off of like I

869
00:33:52,440 --> 00:33:53,880
Speaker 15: see you, you see me type of thing.

870
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Speaker 5: Now.

871
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Speaker 4: You said he's the greatest of all time. I did, Yeah,

872
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Speaker 4: so you stand by he's the greatest quarterback of all time?

873
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Speaker 15: Yeah, okay, why as he does the ordinary better than everybody,

874
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Speaker 15: Like I look at Aaron Rodgers, and I'm looking at

875
00:34:04,400 --> 00:34:06,520
Speaker 15: his skill set like, Okay, Aaron Rodgers is probably the

876
00:34:06,600 --> 00:34:09,320
Speaker 15: tougher one to play because he has a skill set

877
00:34:09,560 --> 00:34:11,839
Speaker 15: that really nobody else has, Like on the fields hard,

878
00:34:11,840 --> 00:34:16,000
Speaker 15: but Tom, he's not fastening. Everybody's people have better arm talent.

879
00:34:16,480 --> 00:34:19,200
Speaker 15: He you know, there have been other cerebral quarterbacks. But

880
00:34:19,239 --> 00:34:22,240
Speaker 15: it's like, well, why is he having a success he has?

881
00:34:22,719 --> 00:34:24,600
Speaker 15: And it's because of his process. He does all the

882
00:34:24,680 --> 00:34:28,120
Speaker 15: ordinary things better than everybody else. And I think that's

883
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Speaker 15: that to me, is like the cheat code of life.

884
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Speaker 15: Like you can there's always gonna be people with God

885
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Speaker 15: giving talent, but you master the things that don't take

886
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Speaker 15: talent and watch how far it goes.

887
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Speaker 9: I feel like, man, what you just said makes so

888
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Speaker 9: much sense.

889
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Speaker 4: When you look at the people who have God given talent,

890
00:34:41,360 --> 00:34:44,359
Speaker 4: they usually do the basics better than everybody. Like they

891
00:34:44,440 --> 00:34:48,240
Speaker 4: usually do something as simple as practice harder than everybody.

892
00:34:48,400 --> 00:34:50,680
Speaker 15: I mean, think about you look at Steph Curry, Jordan,

893
00:34:50,800 --> 00:34:54,840
Speaker 15: all these whole like Kobrey, they talk about practicing like

894
00:34:55,200 --> 00:34:57,279
Speaker 15: they don't talk about like, ah, yeah, I gotta you know,

895
00:34:57,520 --> 00:35:00,000
Speaker 15: I can jump high, so that's I just jumped over No,

896
00:35:00,000 --> 00:35:02,439
Speaker 15: so they doing the very simple things over and over

897
00:35:02,480 --> 00:35:05,200
Speaker 15: and over again, and we only see it in the game, like, oh,

898
00:35:05,200 --> 00:35:07,560
Speaker 15: this is crazy. You don't realize he's just been doing

899
00:35:07,560 --> 00:35:10,960
Speaker 15: the same drill since the age of seven, right, and

900
00:35:11,000 --> 00:35:13,200
Speaker 15: so now it's like clockwork body, you know, it's a

901
00:35:13,320 --> 00:35:15,800
Speaker 15: muscle memory. And I think that's that's something I've always

902
00:35:15,800 --> 00:35:18,080
Speaker 15: been fascinated in and try to do myself. Is like

903
00:35:18,120 --> 00:35:20,080
Speaker 15: instead of trying to be the best at some guy

904
00:35:20,080 --> 00:35:21,960
Speaker 15: giving talent or do these amazing things, like how do

905
00:35:22,000 --> 00:35:24,879
Speaker 15: you just do the ordinary better than everybody else?

906
00:35:24,960 --> 00:35:27,520
Speaker 5: Absolutely, Now, you were just inducted into the Ohio State

907
00:35:27,600 --> 00:35:30,360
Speaker 5: Hall of Fame, So congratulations that. Now, just if you

908
00:35:30,400 --> 00:35:31,880
Speaker 5: could go back and change it, because you know, we

909
00:35:31,960 --> 00:35:33,680
Speaker 5: talk about all the things you stand for. Now, would

910
00:35:33,680 --> 00:35:36,360
Speaker 5: you prefer or would you rather went to HBCU.

911
00:35:36,960 --> 00:35:38,080
Speaker 10: Both my parents went to.

912
00:35:39,680 --> 00:35:43,680
Speaker 15: Nokolina A and t I think going back, no, it

913
00:35:43,800 --> 00:35:46,200
Speaker 15: was a different time, right, I think right now, the

914
00:35:46,239 --> 00:35:48,520
Speaker 15: way that there's a tension on it, there's people willing

915
00:35:48,520 --> 00:35:50,719
Speaker 15: to put resources behind the programs.

916
00:35:50,280 --> 00:35:51,080
Speaker 10: And all that's happened.

917
00:35:51,280 --> 00:35:53,279
Speaker 15: Of course I would now, you know, I think back

918
00:35:53,320 --> 00:35:55,640
Speaker 15: then you would have just kind of been selling yourself

919
00:35:55,680 --> 00:35:59,000
Speaker 15: short it's like you you need the entire environment, you

920
00:35:59,040 --> 00:36:01,760
Speaker 15: need the coach it to come because one player coming,

921
00:36:01,760 --> 00:36:04,960
Speaker 15: you need the coach. Like what Dion was doing, you

922
00:36:05,000 --> 00:36:09,080
Speaker 15: know for HBC users was a movement and that's the thing.

923
00:36:09,160 --> 00:36:11,160
Speaker 15: What is what we wanted to see, That's what would

924
00:36:11,200 --> 00:36:13,880
Speaker 15: have made it, you know, appetizing for me as an athlete.

925
00:36:13,920 --> 00:36:15,880
Speaker 15: And you know, but I do look at these athletes

926
00:36:15,920 --> 00:36:18,359
Speaker 15: now who are doing it like I wish I had.

927
00:36:18,400 --> 00:36:20,320
Speaker 10: I wish the environment was like that when I was

928
00:36:20,360 --> 00:36:20,719
Speaker 10: coming out.

929
00:36:21,120 --> 00:36:23,520
Speaker 4: We have those conversations, man, But I keep thinking, I

930
00:36:23,600 --> 00:36:26,320
Speaker 4: want people to remember de anomaly, man, like Dion was

931
00:36:26,360 --> 00:36:28,640
Speaker 4: one of the biggest stars in the world.

932
00:36:28,640 --> 00:36:30,839
Speaker 9: Because it's not like Eddie George.

933
00:36:30,560 --> 00:36:34,680
Speaker 4: Is coaching right like we could be supported to It's

934
00:36:34,719 --> 00:36:37,120
Speaker 4: because it's Dion, Like that's what It's not.

935
00:36:38,200 --> 00:36:40,319
Speaker 10: Huge Jackson's in Hugh Jackson's coaching too.

936
00:36:40,400 --> 00:36:42,799
Speaker 15: R believe Yeah, yeah, I mean, like I said, he's

937
00:36:42,840 --> 00:36:45,040
Speaker 15: not the only one. But it is the Dion effect

938
00:36:45,080 --> 00:36:47,560
Speaker 15: for sure. It's the It's not just the on field

939
00:36:47,600 --> 00:36:50,840
Speaker 15: stuff and coaching. It's the attention you're bringing, the message

940
00:36:50,840 --> 00:36:54,360
Speaker 15: that you're bringing, the pride and kind of the showmanship

941
00:36:54,400 --> 00:36:55,239
Speaker 15: that you bring to it too.

942
00:36:55,280 --> 00:36:56,160
Speaker 10: You gotta make it cool.

943
00:36:57,160 --> 00:37:00,799
Speaker 4: How did your trip to Ghana influence your advocacy, Yeah,

944
00:37:00,880 --> 00:37:02,480
Speaker 4: I just changed your life period.

945
00:37:02,200 --> 00:37:03,120
Speaker 10: It changed everything.

946
00:37:03,280 --> 00:37:05,200
Speaker 15: You know, you start to I think all of us

947
00:37:05,600 --> 00:37:08,200
Speaker 15: have a bit of an identity crisis at some point.

948
00:37:08,400 --> 00:37:10,400
Speaker 15: You know there if you're African American, you want to

949
00:37:10,440 --> 00:37:13,759
Speaker 15: know where you came from. And at the lowest point

950
00:37:13,800 --> 00:37:14,879
Speaker 15: in my life, it was like one of the most

951
00:37:14,880 --> 00:37:17,319
Speaker 15: critical moments in my in the book, I needed to

952
00:37:17,320 --> 00:37:18,960
Speaker 15: get away, and I was like, I always wanted to

953
00:37:18,960 --> 00:37:20,840
Speaker 15: go to Africa. So I went to Ghana and it

954
00:37:20,960 --> 00:37:24,840
Speaker 15: was just to be around something, you know, a place

955
00:37:24,840 --> 00:37:27,279
Speaker 15: that's all black or a week and a half. I

956
00:37:27,320 --> 00:37:30,839
Speaker 15: didn't realize how much I needed that until I came back.

957
00:37:30,960 --> 00:37:33,399
Speaker 15: I was like, I hadn't I hadn't even thought about

958
00:37:33,440 --> 00:37:35,759
Speaker 15: being black for a week and a half. And I

959
00:37:35,800 --> 00:37:38,279
Speaker 15: was like, that must be what white privilege feels like.

960
00:37:38,400 --> 00:37:38,840
Speaker 5: Man.

961
00:37:39,000 --> 00:37:40,919
Speaker 15: And I'm like, oh, you know, it's like you didn't

962
00:37:40,960 --> 00:37:43,520
Speaker 15: realize you needed those spaces to get away. And so

963
00:37:43,719 --> 00:37:47,200
Speaker 15: just going to the lake, slave castles, the door, and

964
00:37:47,239 --> 00:37:50,480
Speaker 15: the return, you just feel this this connection with your

965
00:37:50,520 --> 00:37:54,280
Speaker 15: ancestry that I hadn't had before. And so and even

966
00:37:54,360 --> 00:37:56,640
Speaker 15: just nature and all of those things. So for me

967
00:37:56,719 --> 00:37:58,759
Speaker 15: it was it was life changing and change my perspective

968
00:37:58,800 --> 00:38:01,640
Speaker 15: of like what's in and what's my role here? Like

969
00:38:01,680 --> 00:38:04,800
Speaker 15: you don't I don't strive to have success in this

970
00:38:05,000 --> 00:38:08,600
Speaker 15: kind of like American society. It's like, I'm here for

971
00:38:08,640 --> 00:38:10,160
Speaker 15: a purpose and i'ma live here. This is what I

972
00:38:10,200 --> 00:38:12,680
Speaker 15: call home. But I don't have to buy into the ideology.

973
00:38:12,719 --> 00:38:15,040
Speaker 15: You have a you have something before slavery now to

974
00:38:15,080 --> 00:38:19,239
Speaker 15: tap into a history, to to to explore. And I

975
00:38:19,280 --> 00:38:21,759
Speaker 15: think that that that was mentally liberating for me. Do

976
00:38:21,800 --> 00:38:24,319
Speaker 15: you think your daughters, No, they haven't been yet. We've been,

977
00:38:24,400 --> 00:38:28,840
Speaker 15: We've been to the continent we were in like Northern Africa, Morocco, Americas,

978
00:38:28,880 --> 00:38:29,959
Speaker 15: but they haven't been a gane yet.

979
00:38:30,040 --> 00:38:32,440
Speaker 4: Y'all took off for mine and my seven year old

980
00:38:32,480 --> 00:38:35,160
Speaker 4: she's eight now. She she literally was like, where are

981
00:38:35,160 --> 00:38:42,560
Speaker 4: the white people that.

982
00:38:36,360 --> 00:38:39,960
Speaker 10: I talk about in the book.

983
00:38:39,960 --> 00:38:41,960
Speaker 15: The only white face I saw it was Jesus and

984
00:38:42,040 --> 00:38:45,280
Speaker 15: they have him white Jesus is everywhere. It was crazy,

985
00:38:45,280 --> 00:38:47,879
Speaker 15: But I did bring. I brought my two brothers, UH

986
00:38:48,200 --> 00:38:49,840
Speaker 15: brought some of my frat brothers. I've been there like

987
00:38:49,880 --> 00:38:53,080
Speaker 15: four times. The last time and we closed out the

988
00:38:53,080 --> 00:38:55,279
Speaker 15: book with it is uh the time I bring my parents.

989
00:38:55,320 --> 00:38:57,360
Speaker 15: They always wanted to get to the continent, and so

990
00:38:57,400 --> 00:38:59,319
Speaker 15: I bring them with them, bring them with me, and

991
00:38:59,360 --> 00:39:00,920
Speaker 15: they have had a blast.

992
00:39:01,000 --> 00:39:03,240
Speaker 5: You got to pick up the new book that winness

993
00:39:03,280 --> 00:39:05,839
Speaker 5: will tell you what tell you you appreciate you, Thank

994
00:39:05,840 --> 00:39:06,680
Speaker 5: you for joining us this morning.

995
00:39:06,680 --> 00:39:08,120
Speaker 10: Appreciate your having me for sure.

996
00:39:07,960 --> 00:39:10,759
Speaker 5: Pick up the book right now, Malcolm Jenkins, it's the

997
00:39:10,760 --> 00:39:11,359
Speaker 5: Breakfast Club.

998
00:39:11,360 --> 00:39:15,000
Speaker 14: Good morning, the Breakfast Club. Your mornings will never be

999
00:39:15,160 --> 00:39:15,720
Speaker 14: the same.

1000
00:39:16,960 --> 00:39:19,319
Speaker 5: Make sure you're telling the watch out for Florida, Lord Orda.

1001
00:39:21,440 --> 00:39:23,919
Speaker 4: The craziest people in America come from the Bronx in

1002
00:39:24,000 --> 00:39:25,240
Speaker 4: all of Florida.

1003
00:39:25,440 --> 00:39:27,880
Speaker 9: Yes, you are a donkey.

1004
00:39:28,400 --> 00:39:31,200
Speaker 2: The Florida man A taped an ATM for a very

1005
00:39:31,239 --> 00:39:32,080
Speaker 2: strange reason.

1006
00:39:32,160 --> 00:39:33,440
Speaker 3: It gave him too much money.

1007
00:39:33,440 --> 00:39:35,759
Speaker 6: Florida man is arrested after w stag he rigged the

1008
00:39:35,800 --> 00:39:37,759
Speaker 6: Dolordia his home in an attempt to electric hit his

1009
00:39:37,800 --> 00:39:38,439
Speaker 6: presnant lights.

1010
00:39:38,520 --> 00:39:41,120
Speaker 16: At Lease arrested and Orlando Man we're talking to from

1011
00:39:41,160 --> 00:39:43,879
Speaker 16: Meado with the Breakfast Club bench Donkey of the Day

1012
00:39:44,040 --> 00:39:45,120
Speaker 16: with Charlam heyne to gud.

1013
00:39:45,160 --> 00:39:46,480
Speaker 10: I don't know why y'all keep letting him.

1014
00:39:46,480 --> 00:39:49,480
Speaker 4: Get y'all like, well, do all this your own people, Okay, Donkey,

1015
00:39:49,560 --> 00:39:53,120
Speaker 4: Today goes the Renee don Skogland. I know I pronounced

1016
00:39:53,120 --> 00:39:55,760
Speaker 4: their last name wrong. Okay, but Renee is from Florida,

1017
00:39:55,840 --> 00:39:58,280
Speaker 4: ladies and gettlemen. And what does your uncle Shawa always

1018
00:39:58,280 --> 00:40:00,719
Speaker 4: say about the great state of Florida. The easiest people

1019
00:40:00,760 --> 00:40:02,880
Speaker 4: in America come from the Bronx and all of Florida,

1020
00:40:03,040 --> 00:40:04,200
Speaker 4: and today is no exception.

1021
00:40:04,280 --> 00:40:04,520
Speaker 9: Okay.

1022
00:40:04,560 --> 00:40:06,960
Speaker 4: Renee is thirty years old and she will spend two

1023
00:40:07,040 --> 00:40:09,680
Speaker 4: years under community control which is a form of house arrest,

1024
00:40:09,880 --> 00:40:11,880
Speaker 4: eight years on probation, and will have to pay a

1025
00:40:11,880 --> 00:40:14,959
Speaker 4: fine of more than seventeen grand And personally, I don't

1026
00:40:14,960 --> 00:40:17,000
Speaker 4: think that is enough. In fact, I think she should

1027
00:40:17,000 --> 00:40:19,960
Speaker 4: get actual prison time. Why Uncle Shawla, why are you

1028
00:40:20,000 --> 00:40:22,560
Speaker 4: wishing Printon time on this woman? Well, let's go to

1029
00:40:22,600 --> 00:40:24,000
Speaker 4: Fox thirteen Tampa for the report.

1030
00:40:24,040 --> 00:40:27,800
Speaker 6: Please, South Dakota resident Rede Skogland is far from home

1031
00:40:28,320 --> 00:40:33,400
Speaker 6: an illegal hot water that even surprised the judge.

1032
00:40:33,880 --> 00:40:35,319
Speaker 18: This is really unbelievable.

1033
00:40:35,719 --> 00:40:39,080
Speaker 6: Skogland's trail of lies started was she decided to come

1034
00:40:39,120 --> 00:40:42,120
Speaker 6: to Tampa Bay and cheat on her husband.

1035
00:40:42,760 --> 00:40:45,120
Speaker 15: That she felt guilty about this due to her marital

1036
00:40:45,160 --> 00:40:47,440
Speaker 15: status and she wanted to get checked for her sexual

1037
00:40:47,480 --> 00:40:48,880
Speaker 15: transmitted diseases.

1038
00:40:48,760 --> 00:40:51,799
Speaker 6: But she wanted to get tested for free, so she

1039
00:40:51,960 --> 00:40:55,080
Speaker 6: decided to call nine one one. Cogland made up a

1040
00:40:55,120 --> 00:40:58,480
Speaker 6: story about having car trouble and pulling over on the

1041
00:40:58,520 --> 00:40:59,239
Speaker 6: side of the road.

1042
00:41:00,719 --> 00:41:01,439
Speaker 18: Approached her.

1043
00:41:02,000 --> 00:41:05,239
Speaker 6: Because her face was covered, she couldn't describe her attacker.

1044
00:41:05,680 --> 00:41:09,080
Speaker 6: When police checked her cell phone and found this Walmart

1045
00:41:09,160 --> 00:41:14,520
Speaker 6: surveillance video, Skogland find the rope herself. She confessed to

1046
00:41:14,600 --> 00:41:17,760
Speaker 6: making the whole thing up. She was charged with making

1047
00:41:17,800 --> 00:41:21,479
Speaker 6: a false police report and decided to take a plea deal.

1048
00:41:21,800 --> 00:41:23,799
Speaker 4: She not even from Florida. She from South Dakota, came

1049
00:41:23,840 --> 00:41:25,520
Speaker 4: to Florida and became a Florida fool because it was

1050
00:41:25,520 --> 00:41:27,440
Speaker 4: in the water, all right, This woman made up a

1051
00:41:27,480 --> 00:41:31,160
Speaker 4: false rape report in Florida to get a free STD test.

1052
00:41:31,239 --> 00:41:32,960
Speaker 4: Let's just sit here for a second and take that

1053
00:41:33,040 --> 00:41:35,600
Speaker 4: in me, like my Paula Santo. Just think about that.

1054
00:41:36,360 --> 00:41:39,920
Speaker 4: Renee made up a false rape report in Florida to

1055
00:41:40,000 --> 00:41:44,040
Speaker 4: get a free STD test. Huh believe all women? Huh

1056
00:41:44,160 --> 00:41:46,640
Speaker 4: define all? Okay, that's what we should have asked when

1057
00:41:46,640 --> 00:41:49,400
Speaker 4: that foolish ass slogan became part of our lexicon.

1058
00:41:49,440 --> 00:41:50,359
Speaker 9: What do you mean by all?

1059
00:41:50,440 --> 00:41:53,560
Speaker 4: Because women like Renee can't possibly be under the umbrella

1060
00:41:53,600 --> 00:41:54,400
Speaker 4: of all correct.

1061
00:41:54,560 --> 00:41:56,719
Speaker 9: I have so many questions. Why didn't she just go

1062
00:41:56,760 --> 00:41:57,680
Speaker 9: through the clinic? Okay?

1063
00:41:57,680 --> 00:41:59,800
Speaker 4: I did some research, and by research I mean Google,

1064
00:41:59,840 --> 00:42:02,320
Speaker 4: and all I did was type in free STD testing

1065
00:42:02,360 --> 00:42:05,360
Speaker 4: in Florida. It's a whole website called saye for STD

1066
00:42:05,480 --> 00:42:07,560
Speaker 4: testing dot com. It tells you all the clinics that

1067
00:42:07,560 --> 00:42:09,919
Speaker 4: are near you. It says right here, if you're looking

1068
00:42:09,960 --> 00:42:12,880
Speaker 4: for cheap STD testing clinics in the state of Florida.

1069
00:42:12,960 --> 00:42:16,160
Speaker 4: To get an HIV, herpes, committee a gonnery, a, syphilis,

1070
00:42:16,239 --> 00:42:18,640
Speaker 4: a hepatitis screening for yourself or your partner, you can

1071
00:42:18,680 --> 00:42:21,719
Speaker 4: get tested today by selecting an option below to find

1072
00:42:21,760 --> 00:42:25,400
Speaker 4: an affordable STD test clinic near you. Same day STD

1073
00:42:25,520 --> 00:42:28,840
Speaker 4: testing locations also available with results in one to two days.

1074
00:42:28,920 --> 00:42:30,480
Speaker 9: Why didn't you just go to a free clinic?

1075
00:42:30,760 --> 00:42:32,799
Speaker 4: Now, Renee at the time was married, and she lied

1076
00:42:32,840 --> 00:42:35,600
Speaker 4: about this sexual assault in attempt to get a free

1077
00:42:35,640 --> 00:42:37,960
Speaker 4: STD test After she had a one.

1078
00:42:38,200 --> 00:42:41,279
Speaker 9: Night stand in Tampa, so she.

1079
00:42:41,360 --> 00:42:44,360
Speaker 4: Cheated on her husband, felt guilty about it, so she

1080
00:42:44,440 --> 00:42:46,799
Speaker 4: decided to go get checked out for an STD and

1081
00:42:46,840 --> 00:42:49,360
Speaker 4: instead of just going to a doctor or a clinic,

1082
00:42:49,520 --> 00:42:51,719
Speaker 4: she decided to lie about being a rape so she

1083
00:42:51,719 --> 00:42:53,400
Speaker 4: could get a free STD.

1084
00:42:53,120 --> 00:42:57,560
Speaker 9: Test forne What was your plan? B? Okay? If that

1085
00:42:57,719 --> 00:42:59,319
Speaker 9: was planing A? What was planning B?

1086
00:42:59,480 --> 00:43:01,560
Speaker 4: This couldn't you've been the only plan not to mention

1087
00:43:01,840 --> 00:43:03,799
Speaker 4: you lied about a rape claim so you could get

1088
00:43:03,800 --> 00:43:04,839
Speaker 4: a free SDD test.

1089
00:43:04,840 --> 00:43:06,000
Speaker 9: So clearly you hard.

1090
00:43:05,760 --> 00:43:08,799
Speaker 4: On money, but you had money to buy rope. We

1091
00:43:08,840 --> 00:43:11,719
Speaker 4: looked it up. The hollow braided rope that she bought

1092
00:43:11,800 --> 00:43:12,840
Speaker 4: is twenty two dollars.

1093
00:43:13,080 --> 00:43:15,280
Speaker 9: Okay? How much is an STD test in Florida?

1094
00:43:15,360 --> 00:43:16,440
Speaker 5: According to Google, the.

1095
00:43:16,400 --> 00:43:18,560
Speaker 9: Cost of it. STD tests will vary by location and

1096
00:43:18,600 --> 00:43:19,120
Speaker 9: test type.

1097
00:43:19,160 --> 00:43:22,160
Speaker 4: Some clinics, usually community or nonprofit clinics, are for free.

1098
00:43:22,239 --> 00:43:23,720
Speaker 9: Are low cost testing labs.

1099
00:43:23,719 --> 00:43:26,480
Speaker 4: Clinics and at home testing companies may accept insurance to

1100
00:43:26,560 --> 00:43:29,080
Speaker 4: cover all lower your cost of testing and lab testing

1101
00:43:29,120 --> 00:43:32,600
Speaker 4: fees ranged from eight dollars to one hundred and fifty dollars.

1102
00:43:32,920 --> 00:43:34,439
Speaker 4: You had money for an STD test?

1103
00:43:34,440 --> 00:43:34,680
Speaker 9: Okay?

1104
00:43:34,680 --> 00:43:36,440
Speaker 4: I saw Other sources say that the STD test in

1105
00:43:36,440 --> 00:43:39,040
Speaker 4: Florida it's fifty five dollars. The test cover syphilis and

1106
00:43:39,160 --> 00:43:42,279
Speaker 4: HIV Committia Gonnerhea Herpe's test forty five dollars. All I'm

1107
00:43:42,320 --> 00:43:44,600
Speaker 4: saying is if you had money for ROPE, you could

1108
00:43:44,600 --> 00:43:47,080
Speaker 4: have gotten some money for STD test. Hell, you had

1109
00:43:47,120 --> 00:43:49,759
Speaker 4: money to travel from South Dakota to Tampa to creep

1110
00:43:49,800 --> 00:43:53,840
Speaker 4: in the first place. Okay, Renee, what about condoms, which

1111
00:43:53,880 --> 00:43:56,200
Speaker 4: you too can get free from the clinic? All right,

1112
00:43:56,239 --> 00:43:59,719
Speaker 4: two words for you, Renee, planned parenthood. They can help

1113
00:43:59,719 --> 00:44:02,320
Speaker 4: you get condoms and other birth control methods for free.

1114
00:44:02,520 --> 00:44:05,520
Speaker 4: If that where inflation is taking us now, where people

1115
00:44:05,560 --> 00:44:08,719
Speaker 4: can't even afford to cheat. What happened to the good

1116
00:44:08,719 --> 00:44:10,680
Speaker 4: old days? When you know you got an STD and

1117
00:44:10,680 --> 00:44:13,759
Speaker 4: blamed it on your significant other. We used to be

1118
00:44:13,840 --> 00:44:16,759
Speaker 4: a country. We are getting away from traditional values. Not

1119
00:44:16,800 --> 00:44:19,920
Speaker 4: to mention you, nasty Renee, Not only are you a

1120
00:44:19,960 --> 00:44:22,799
Speaker 4: despicable human who would lie about being raped.

1121
00:44:22,920 --> 00:44:26,120
Speaker 9: You slept with your little side piece unprotected.

1122
00:44:26,840 --> 00:44:27,399
Speaker 5: Bad back.

1123
00:44:27,560 --> 00:44:30,600
Speaker 4: Shimmy, shimmy, y'ah, shimmy, yeah, shimmy yan. You fought bad

1124
00:44:30,640 --> 00:44:32,879
Speaker 4: knuckle in the club and thought you lost. That's why

1125
00:44:32,920 --> 00:44:35,360
Speaker 4: you went to go get in that ste test. Okay,

1126
00:44:35,719 --> 00:44:37,960
Speaker 4: Lock this woman up, all right, put her under the jail.

1127
00:44:37,960 --> 00:44:40,120
Speaker 4: There's too many women out here who are real victims,

1128
00:44:40,120 --> 00:44:42,120
Speaker 4: who actually are dealing with the real trauma of being

1129
00:44:42,160 --> 00:44:44,759
Speaker 4: sexually assaulted. And you out here lying simply because you

1130
00:44:44,840 --> 00:44:47,280
Speaker 4: cheated on your husband and did the raw Dog Roulet

1131
00:44:47,480 --> 00:44:48,319
Speaker 4: with another man.

1132
00:44:48,840 --> 00:44:49,120
Speaker 5: Huh.

1133
00:44:49,680 --> 00:44:54,520
Speaker 4: Please give Renee Dawn starg Lawn the biggest he hull.

1134
00:44:59,400 --> 00:45:00,880
Speaker 9: What a world living man.

1135
00:45:02,480 --> 00:45:02,920
Speaker 5: Wild?

1136
00:45:03,280 --> 00:45:06,000
Speaker 9: You want to play a game I do? All right,

1137
00:45:06,239 --> 00:45:08,439
Speaker 9: Let's play a game of guess what.

1138
00:45:08,920 --> 00:45:15,640
Speaker 4: Rac Ise Don's Godlawn from South Dakota traveled all the

1139
00:45:15,640 --> 00:45:17,839
Speaker 4: way to Temble, Florida, so she could do the raw

1140
00:45:17,920 --> 00:45:20,680
Speaker 4: Dog Roulette with a side piece. Thought she called an STD,

1141
00:45:20,880 --> 00:45:23,080
Speaker 4: so she lied about being raped so she could get

1142
00:45:23,080 --> 00:45:24,120
Speaker 4: a free STD test.

1143
00:45:24,440 --> 00:45:27,800
Speaker 9: Mona, guess what race is?

1144
00:45:28,239 --> 00:45:31,080
Speaker 17: She is a Caucasian from the Coffeest Mountains.

1145
00:45:32,680 --> 00:45:34,400
Speaker 9: One of your Coop's finest creations.

1146
00:45:34,480 --> 00:45:45,560
Speaker 4: Mona says, Jesus, okay, dj NB, well don't call me

1147
00:45:45,640 --> 00:45:49,440
Speaker 4: white girl and dj NB, yes, sir, you're both correct.

1148
00:45:49,560 --> 00:45:56,880
Speaker 9: Renee and Cau. She got made by yall Coop on

1149
00:45:56,920 --> 00:45:57,360
Speaker 9: her ass.

1150
00:45:57,360 --> 00:45:59,920
Speaker 5: She Jesus right, what did I win?

1151
00:46:01,600 --> 00:46:01,920
Speaker 9: Nothing?

1152
00:46:02,040 --> 00:46:06,880
Speaker 5: Nothing? Anyway nothing. It's the breakfast Club Morning, the Breakfast

1153
00:46:06,920 --> 00:46:14,279
Speaker 5: clubdj MV Charlamage the God we are the Breakfast Club.

1154
00:46:14,320 --> 00:46:16,280
Speaker 5: We got a special guests in the building, the legendary

1155
00:46:16,400 --> 00:46:17,520
Speaker 5: TOAGP Henson.

1156
00:46:17,560 --> 00:46:18,920
Speaker 9: Well, come, how long are you?

1157
00:46:19,239 --> 00:46:19,880
Speaker 5: How are you feeling?

1158
00:46:20,000 --> 00:46:22,319
Speaker 3: I feel great? I feel great.

1159
00:46:22,400 --> 00:46:25,280
Speaker 16: You know, whenever I come to New York, and especially

1160
00:46:25,280 --> 00:46:27,719
Speaker 16: when I'm coming for Boys Lawn Tension Foundation, you know,

1161
00:46:27,800 --> 00:46:28,279
Speaker 16: we're coming to.

1162
00:46:28,280 --> 00:46:31,440
Speaker 3: Spread joy, spread a message that it's okay not to

1163
00:46:31,480 --> 00:46:32,080
Speaker 3: be okay.

1164
00:46:32,160 --> 00:46:32,560
Speaker 9: That's right.

1165
00:46:32,680 --> 00:46:34,480
Speaker 3: You started that conversation.

1166
00:46:34,360 --> 00:46:36,640
Speaker 9: For people who don't know what the Boy's lawnce Tension

1167
00:46:36,680 --> 00:46:37,279
Speaker 9: Foundation is.

1168
00:46:37,360 --> 00:46:40,280
Speaker 3: Okay, Yes, Bory's Lawrence Henson Foundation.

1169
00:46:40,440 --> 00:46:44,320
Speaker 16: We launched in twenty eighteen, and it's really to eradicate

1170
00:46:44,320 --> 00:46:47,560
Speaker 16: the stigma around mental illness in the black community and

1171
00:46:47,600 --> 00:46:50,680
Speaker 16: to bring more awareness to mental wellness and the Black

1172
00:46:50,680 --> 00:46:52,480
Speaker 16: communit because you know, we don't talk about it. We

1173
00:46:52,480 --> 00:46:55,239
Speaker 16: suffer in silence, We isolate, and we try to be

1174
00:46:55,320 --> 00:47:00,120
Speaker 16: strong and we're dying. So out of my own necessity

1175
00:47:00,480 --> 00:47:05,000
Speaker 16: for my own help mental wellness and my son, I

1176
00:47:05,080 --> 00:47:07,879
Speaker 16: realized there was no real help out there for us.

1177
00:47:08,200 --> 00:47:10,440
Speaker 16: So I had to do something about it. So my

1178
00:47:10,480 --> 00:47:14,680
Speaker 16: best friend since the seventh grade, Tracy J. We launched

1179
00:47:14,680 --> 00:47:20,880
Speaker 16: the Boards Lawntenson Foundation to hopefully help an underserved community.

1180
00:47:21,080 --> 00:47:21,839
Speaker 5: How's your son doing.

1181
00:47:22,000 --> 00:47:24,960
Speaker 3: He's so great, great, Yeah, he's so great.

1182
00:47:25,000 --> 00:47:27,880
Speaker 16: He's maneuvering through you know, trying to become being a

1183
00:47:27,880 --> 00:47:30,040
Speaker 16: young black man in America. You know when those rose

1184
00:47:30,080 --> 00:47:33,000
Speaker 16: colored glasses come on. I'm sure you remember those days.

1185
00:47:33,000 --> 00:47:35,200
Speaker 16: But he's maneuvered through it pretty well.

1186
00:47:35,280 --> 00:47:37,759
Speaker 9: Did he have a moment, Oh, he had a huge moment.

1187
00:47:37,680 --> 00:47:40,359
Speaker 16: But I was he picked the right mother, because you know,

1188
00:47:41,280 --> 00:47:44,279
Speaker 16: and it's interesting because I had an older gentleman tell

1189
00:47:44,360 --> 00:47:47,759
Speaker 16: me years ago when I was on the television show

1190
00:47:47,800 --> 00:47:50,160
Speaker 16: called The Division. It was my first series regular, and

1191
00:47:50,200 --> 00:47:52,560
Speaker 16: I came in upset about something with Marcel. He was

1192
00:47:52,600 --> 00:47:55,160
Speaker 16: little at the time, and this guy said, don't you

1193
00:47:55,200 --> 00:47:57,400
Speaker 16: ever give up on him, don't ever give up. I

1194
00:47:57,440 --> 00:47:59,480
Speaker 16: don't even know if Mark is still alive to this day,

1195
00:47:59,520 --> 00:48:00,680
Speaker 16: but I just remember him.

1196
00:48:00,800 --> 00:48:02,239
Speaker 3: I never forget him saying that.

1197
00:48:02,560 --> 00:48:05,359
Speaker 16: Every time I would have these issues with my son,

1198
00:48:05,400 --> 00:48:07,560
Speaker 16: I was wanting to choke him, I would hear his voice,

1199
00:48:07,600 --> 00:48:10,400
Speaker 16: don't ever give up, and you can't give up on

1200
00:48:10,440 --> 00:48:13,040
Speaker 16: your kids. You just gotta pray. Tracy sent me something

1201
00:48:13,120 --> 00:48:15,280
Speaker 16: or was it you a Pam? Somebody sent me something

1202
00:48:15,320 --> 00:48:18,279
Speaker 16: about I think it was a pastor who was saying,

1203
00:48:18,320 --> 00:48:19,560
Speaker 16: don't give up on your baby.

1204
00:48:19,600 --> 00:48:20,960
Speaker 3: I don't care if they strung out on.

1205
00:48:20,960 --> 00:48:24,560
Speaker 16: Drugs, whatever their problem is, you wrap them up in prayer.

1206
00:48:24,719 --> 00:48:26,320
Speaker 3: Don't ever give up on your children.

1207
00:48:27,040 --> 00:48:28,479
Speaker 9: So what if you have to? Damn?

1208
00:48:28,560 --> 00:48:29,040
Speaker 5: Can you set?

1209
00:48:29,320 --> 00:48:29,719
Speaker 9: Maybe think?

1210
00:48:29,719 --> 00:48:31,279
Speaker 5: Can you set boundaries with your kids that you need?

1211
00:48:31,320 --> 00:48:34,120
Speaker 16: You have to set boundaries. You must set boundaries.

1212
00:48:34,760 --> 00:48:35,600
Speaker 5: What type of boundaries?

1213
00:48:36,040 --> 00:48:36,680
Speaker 3: Boundaries?

1214
00:48:36,840 --> 00:48:36,960
Speaker 8: Like?

1215
00:48:37,000 --> 00:48:39,719
Speaker 16: What are you willing to accept and not accept? You

1216
00:48:39,880 --> 00:48:43,200
Speaker 16: have to because these kids nowadays come so privileged. They're

1217
00:48:43,200 --> 00:48:45,440
Speaker 16: not like us now. I was talking to somebody the

1218
00:48:45,520 --> 00:48:47,080
Speaker 16: other day. I was like, I don't even think. I

1219
00:48:47,719 --> 00:48:49,480
Speaker 16: can't remember the last time I saw a group of

1220
00:48:49,520 --> 00:48:54,880
Speaker 16: children playing outside real. Yeah, you have to because they

1221
00:48:54,920 --> 00:48:58,240
Speaker 16: have these devices now, which is not good for the mental.

1222
00:48:58,680 --> 00:49:01,359
Speaker 3: So these kids are they don't even know what fresh

1223
00:49:01,440 --> 00:49:04,560
Speaker 3: air is anymore. I don't think. You know, it's just

1224
00:49:04,560 --> 00:49:05,479
Speaker 3: a weird time to.

1225
00:49:05,360 --> 00:49:06,279
Speaker 5: Be a that's true.

1226
00:49:06,280 --> 00:49:08,520
Speaker 9: You don't even tell you smell like outside. They don't

1227
00:49:08,520 --> 00:49:08,839
Speaker 9: go out there.

1228
00:49:10,280 --> 00:49:12,399
Speaker 16: I can't remember the last time I seen girls playing

1229
00:49:12,440 --> 00:49:15,680
Speaker 16: double Dutch, or or just riding bits or anything.

1230
00:49:16,000 --> 00:49:17,880
Speaker 4: I guess the scariest thing is you don't want them

1231
00:49:17,920 --> 00:49:20,960
Speaker 4: to like make any mistakes that's going to really cost

1232
00:49:21,000 --> 00:49:22,120
Speaker 4: them while they're coming on us.

1233
00:49:22,160 --> 00:49:25,880
Speaker 16: Correct absolutely that that was your mother's fear. That's every

1234
00:49:26,040 --> 00:49:28,480
Speaker 16: parent's fear, that was your father's fear. That's all of

1235
00:49:28,520 --> 00:49:32,000
Speaker 16: our fear forever. Like my mother to this day, she

1236
00:49:32,080 --> 00:49:34,680
Speaker 16: tracks me. I'm fifty three, she tracks me. She's like,

1237
00:49:34,719 --> 00:49:36,719
Speaker 16: I just feel so much better knowing where you are,

1238
00:49:37,160 --> 00:49:39,200
Speaker 16: and when I see you're not moving, I can sleep

1239
00:49:39,239 --> 00:49:39,600
Speaker 16: at night.

1240
00:49:39,680 --> 00:49:41,760
Speaker 3: It never ends, It never ends.

1241
00:49:42,160 --> 00:49:44,719
Speaker 4: What you know, we don't talk about enough the resources

1242
00:49:44,719 --> 00:49:47,960
Speaker 4: that are available for the friends and family that have

1243
00:49:48,040 --> 00:49:51,280
Speaker 4: to deal with folks who have mental health issues.

1244
00:49:51,040 --> 00:49:54,280
Speaker 16: Exactly, you know, because it takes a toll on them,

1245
00:49:54,560 --> 00:49:57,840
Speaker 16: especially parents, because you feel like I can't fix my child.

1246
00:49:57,880 --> 00:49:59,360
Speaker 3: It's something that I did wrong.

1247
00:49:59,680 --> 00:50:04,080
Speaker 16: It's really hard because that's your job to protect your

1248
00:50:04,160 --> 00:50:06,880
Speaker 16: kids and save them from the you know, mishaps, and

1249
00:50:06,920 --> 00:50:10,279
Speaker 16: when you can't, you feel inadequate or you feel like

1250
00:50:11,640 --> 00:50:12,200
Speaker 16: if you're not.

1251
00:50:12,120 --> 00:50:13,560
Speaker 3: Doing your job. It's hard.

1252
00:50:13,719 --> 00:50:16,520
Speaker 16: Parenting is not easy, and then being a single parent,

1253
00:50:16,560 --> 00:50:18,800
Speaker 16: I promise you I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.

1254
00:50:19,640 --> 00:50:21,800
Speaker 3: I wouldn't. I just wouldn't.

1255
00:50:21,840 --> 00:50:25,280
Speaker 16: It's it's first of all, children need both parents boy,

1256
00:50:25,600 --> 00:50:27,640
Speaker 16: boys and girls, I don't care. You need both of

1257
00:50:27,680 --> 00:50:30,920
Speaker 16: your parents. If you're not living in the same household,

1258
00:50:31,239 --> 00:50:34,640
Speaker 16: you still need both. I mean, you know, regardless of

1259
00:50:34,680 --> 00:50:36,640
Speaker 16: whether your relationship works out, that has nothing to do

1260
00:50:36,680 --> 00:50:38,439
Speaker 16: with the kid. You still have to show up both

1261
00:50:38,520 --> 00:50:41,720
Speaker 16: parents for that child. Unfortunately, my son's father was murdered,

1262
00:50:41,880 --> 00:50:45,560
Speaker 16: so I didn't have an option. But yeah, it's hard.

1263
00:50:45,680 --> 00:50:49,760
Speaker 16: It's tough, especially me being a boy mom.

1264
00:50:50,120 --> 00:50:52,400
Speaker 3: I need the man. I can't teach him how to

1265
00:50:52,440 --> 00:50:54,239
Speaker 3: be a man. I don't know how to be a man,

1266
00:50:54,800 --> 00:50:55,040
Speaker 3: you know.

1267
00:50:55,520 --> 00:50:58,080
Speaker 16: And that was the that was the hardest struggle for us,

1268
00:50:58,160 --> 00:50:59,960
Speaker 16: because when he was becoming a man, he's looking at

1269
00:51:00,120 --> 00:51:01,440
Speaker 16: me like, you can't tell me anything.

1270
00:51:01,560 --> 00:51:02,960
Speaker 3: What can you tell me your girl?

1271
00:51:03,320 --> 00:51:05,600
Speaker 16: You know? It's just the dynamic is it gets a

1272
00:51:05,600 --> 00:51:07,600
Speaker 16: little difficult in the young adult years.

1273
00:51:07,760 --> 00:51:09,680
Speaker 5: Like Chelomy was, you're saying, you know, so what do

1274
00:51:09,719 --> 00:51:11,200
Speaker 5: you do to make sure your mental is good?

1275
00:51:11,920 --> 00:51:14,799
Speaker 16: Remember when I went to BALI you there for a

1276
00:51:14,840 --> 00:51:16,399
Speaker 16: long time too, for a whole month.

1277
00:51:16,520 --> 00:51:17,239
Speaker 3: Yeah, I had to.

1278
00:51:17,600 --> 00:51:18,080
Speaker 17: I had to.

1279
00:51:18,120 --> 00:51:19,279
Speaker 3: I was coming apart.

1280
00:51:19,040 --> 00:51:21,880
Speaker 16: At the seams and I didn't realize it because I

1281
00:51:22,000 --> 00:51:26,080
Speaker 16: was working and God is God is amazing. Because God

1282
00:51:26,120 --> 00:51:28,719
Speaker 16: will put you in a situation where you have to

1283
00:51:28,760 --> 00:51:33,200
Speaker 16: sit down. And I have been working, and it's doing

1284
00:51:33,239 --> 00:51:36,280
Speaker 16: this for over twenty years. I have been working NonStop

1285
00:51:36,680 --> 00:51:39,960
Speaker 16: my entire career, right, And it was just this past

1286
00:51:40,080 --> 00:51:42,360
Speaker 16: year where I didn't have a lot. You know, I

1287
00:51:42,520 --> 00:51:44,359
Speaker 16: did color purple when I was just kind of like

1288
00:51:45,160 --> 00:51:48,400
Speaker 16: sitting around and not sitting around. I had other stuff

1289
00:51:48,440 --> 00:51:50,080
Speaker 16: to do, but as far as like a call sheet

1290
00:51:50,160 --> 00:51:52,480
Speaker 16: and showing up and knowing lines and that kind of

1291
00:51:52,520 --> 00:51:56,280
Speaker 16: work acting gigs. And it was for a reason because

1292
00:51:56,360 --> 00:51:58,680
Speaker 16: I needed to. I needed to take care of me.

1293
00:51:58,920 --> 00:52:01,600
Speaker 16: I was not in a good place mentally. I just

1294
00:52:01,680 --> 00:52:06,440
Speaker 16: really wasn't. And thank God I had that time to

1295
00:52:06,719 --> 00:52:08,719
Speaker 16: take care because Lord knows where I would be if

1296
00:52:08,760 --> 00:52:12,840
Speaker 16: I didn't have the time to really listen to myself

1297
00:52:13,000 --> 00:52:16,879
Speaker 16: and take time for myself. And I think we live

1298
00:52:16,920 --> 00:52:19,560
Speaker 16: in such a grind society. It's all about grinding it.

1299
00:52:19,760 --> 00:52:21,680
Speaker 16: You can sleep when you're in that box. Well, if

1300
00:52:21,680 --> 00:52:23,279
Speaker 16: you don't sleep now, you might get to that box

1301
00:52:23,320 --> 00:52:24,800
Speaker 16: a little sooner than you're playing.

1302
00:52:25,200 --> 00:52:28,640
Speaker 4: When you finally slowed down, you were you surprised that

1303
00:52:28,719 --> 00:52:29,480
Speaker 4: you weren't happy?

1304
00:52:30,640 --> 00:52:30,759
Speaker 8: Uh?

1305
00:52:31,880 --> 00:52:34,520
Speaker 16: I was at first, but then I wasn't because once

1306
00:52:34,560 --> 00:52:36,960
Speaker 16: you sit down and you go, well, how did you

1307
00:52:37,000 --> 00:52:39,680
Speaker 16: expect to be happy if you weren't paying attention Like

1308
00:52:39,719 --> 00:52:41,200
Speaker 16: I wasn't tracking my feelings.

1309
00:52:41,200 --> 00:52:43,799
Speaker 3: I was just working. And when you finally make it,

1310
00:52:43,880 --> 00:52:45,400
Speaker 3: you have this dream. I don't care what it is.

1311
00:52:45,440 --> 00:52:45,799
Speaker 4: You could be.

1312
00:52:45,880 --> 00:52:48,080
Speaker 16: It could be to be a chef or whatever, but

1313
00:52:48,160 --> 00:52:50,960
Speaker 16: you have this dream and it finally comes true. It's

1314
00:52:51,040 --> 00:52:53,439
Speaker 16: like I can't stop now because what if the phone

1315
00:52:53,480 --> 00:52:54,200
Speaker 16: stops ringing?

1316
00:52:54,440 --> 00:52:55,040
Speaker 3: You know what I mean.

1317
00:52:55,080 --> 00:52:57,799
Speaker 16: So you're not really paying attention to you're not doing

1318
00:52:57,880 --> 00:53:01,000
Speaker 16: a mental check. And then, like I said, God did

1319
00:53:01,040 --> 00:53:03,839
Speaker 16: it for me. I didn't have the jobs piled up,

1320
00:53:03,880 --> 00:53:07,600
Speaker 16: and I literally had to stop and check myself. I

1321
00:53:07,719 --> 00:53:10,320
Speaker 16: wasn't doing well, and I knew because I was looking

1322
00:53:10,320 --> 00:53:12,160
Speaker 16: at the people around me, and they were like walking

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00:53:12,160 --> 00:53:14,919
Speaker 16: on eggshells and I'm a cool person, like I'm I'm

1324
00:53:15,160 --> 00:53:17,479
Speaker 16: I'm the most fun person, but they were concerned because

1325
00:53:17,520 --> 00:53:19,680
Speaker 16: I was a short fuse any little thing. I was like,

1326
00:53:19,719 --> 00:53:22,879
Speaker 16: I'm so annoyed. I was annoyed about every little thing.

1327
00:53:22,920 --> 00:53:26,360
Speaker 16: And it was like like I could even feel myself

1328
00:53:26,400 --> 00:53:29,400
Speaker 16: wanting to get into like arguments on the streets and

1329
00:53:29,440 --> 00:53:31,759
Speaker 16: you know, nowadays, that's not safe.

1330
00:53:32,400 --> 00:53:34,080
Speaker 3: It could be the end of your life, you know.

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00:53:34,480 --> 00:53:37,239
Speaker 16: And so it was things like little things were triggering me,

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00:53:37,440 --> 00:53:41,160
Speaker 16: little things that once upon a time would just you know,

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00:53:41,200 --> 00:53:44,320
Speaker 16: be water under the bridge, water off my back, but whatever.

1334
00:53:44,719 --> 00:53:47,239
Speaker 3: But I was literally everything was.

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00:53:47,239 --> 00:53:50,839
Speaker 16: Just just I felt like I could just run through

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00:53:50,840 --> 00:53:51,280
Speaker 16: a wall.

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00:53:54,239 --> 00:53:55,560
Speaker 4: A lot of people, don't you know a lot of

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00:53:55,560 --> 00:53:56,879
Speaker 4: people woulody else.

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00:53:57,480 --> 00:53:58,080
Speaker 3: No, no, no, no.

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00:53:58,440 --> 00:54:02,240
Speaker 16: I'm the type like if I don't feel I stay home.

1341
00:54:02,440 --> 00:54:05,000
Speaker 16: I don't put my own other people, Like if I'm

1342
00:54:05,000 --> 00:54:06,719
Speaker 16: not in the best move, I want to be the

1343
00:54:06,719 --> 00:54:08,960
Speaker 16: type of person when I come into a room and

1344
00:54:09,000 --> 00:54:12,799
Speaker 16: I leave, everybody's much better after my presence, right, And

1345
00:54:12,880 --> 00:54:15,160
Speaker 16: if I can't give that, then I need to stay home.

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00:54:16,080 --> 00:54:18,239
Speaker 5: We got to Roger p Henson when we come back,

1347
00:54:18,239 --> 00:54:20,760
Speaker 5: don't move. It's to breakfast club. Good morning morning. Everybody

1348
00:54:20,880 --> 00:54:23,840
Speaker 5: is dj en v Charlamage the God. We are the

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00:54:23,840 --> 00:54:24,600
Speaker 5: breakfast club.

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00:54:27,760 --> 00:54:28,720
Speaker 9: What is joy joints?

1351
00:54:29,280 --> 00:54:30,239
Speaker 3: Joy joints?

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00:54:30,360 --> 00:54:33,480
Speaker 16: Okay, this is what I love because this is a

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00:54:33,560 --> 00:54:39,280
Speaker 16: time for us to really celebrate us and to find

1354
00:54:39,360 --> 00:54:43,200
Speaker 16: that joy and remind ourselves that that joy is our birthright.

1355
00:54:43,360 --> 00:54:45,240
Speaker 16: It's something that we were born with and it's something

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00:54:45,280 --> 00:54:49,799
Speaker 16: that is ours and so across the nation. We want

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00:54:49,800 --> 00:54:52,600
Speaker 16: people to if you have if you're at work, it

1358
00:54:52,640 --> 00:54:55,640
Speaker 16: can be an office group, it could be friends. Remember

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00:54:55,680 --> 00:54:57,960
Speaker 16: how I said, we don't see people playing outside anymore

1360
00:54:57,960 --> 00:55:00,759
Speaker 16: that we're trying to recreate that. Get the kids have kickball,

1361
00:55:00,920 --> 00:55:04,200
Speaker 16: you know, go outside and play kickball or spades games,

1362
00:55:04,239 --> 00:55:06,960
Speaker 16: double dutch, whatever it is that brings you joy, get

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00:55:07,000 --> 00:55:08,840
Speaker 16: a group of people and do it.

1364
00:55:09,560 --> 00:55:11,080
Speaker 3: And we're all.

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00:55:10,880 --> 00:55:15,320
Speaker 16: Connecting through the Boris Lawrence Henson Foundation to raise awareness of.

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00:55:15,600 --> 00:55:18,560
Speaker 3: Just finding your joy, tapping back into.

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00:55:18,320 --> 00:55:19,920
Speaker 9: Your joy like a party.

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00:55:20,000 --> 00:55:24,840
Speaker 16: Oh, it's a huge party, and a nationwide party on this.

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00:55:25,040 --> 00:55:25,320
Speaker 9: Yes.

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00:55:25,440 --> 00:55:30,080
Speaker 16: Kate Spade has been our partner since twenty a twenty

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00:55:30,120 --> 00:55:34,000
Speaker 16: twenty two, and they have really just been incredible partners.

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00:55:34,239 --> 00:55:36,960
Speaker 16: Case Bade New York justs been everything. They are the

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00:55:37,000 --> 00:55:40,960
Speaker 16: reason why we're able to erect these wellness pods.

1374
00:55:41,160 --> 00:55:42,680
Speaker 3: At HBCU campuses.

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00:55:42,760 --> 00:55:45,200
Speaker 16: They've been our partners in that and just in our

1376
00:55:45,280 --> 00:55:48,200
Speaker 16: partners and getting the message of mental wellness.

1377
00:55:47,960 --> 00:55:50,880
Speaker 5: And talk about that what you're doing on those HBCU campuses. Okay,

1378
00:55:50,920 --> 00:55:52,799
Speaker 5: and the first campuses you're started.

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00:55:52,480 --> 00:55:56,720
Speaker 16: With, Yeah, we started with Alabama State University. We erected

1380
00:55:56,760 --> 00:56:01,080
Speaker 16: the first pod back April and it's been a huge success.

1381
00:56:01,640 --> 00:56:05,640
Speaker 16: We're interested in the universities that have who are very

1382
00:56:05,680 --> 00:56:10,400
Speaker 16: serious or invested in their student body mental wellness, because

1383
00:56:10,680 --> 00:56:13,279
Speaker 16: it's one thing for us to bring the pod, but

1384
00:56:13,360 --> 00:56:15,880
Speaker 16: now we need your help to keep it going and

1385
00:56:15,920 --> 00:56:18,279
Speaker 16: make sure that the kids are getting, you know, the

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00:56:18,280 --> 00:56:18,879
Speaker 16: help and the.

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00:56:18,760 --> 00:56:19,960
Speaker 3: Resources that they need.

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00:56:20,640 --> 00:56:23,520
Speaker 16: And our next stop is Hampton and we're doing this

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00:56:23,560 --> 00:56:26,759
Speaker 16: one in November, and this is our second university.

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00:56:26,840 --> 00:56:28,480
Speaker 9: We are you allowed to do it at Hampton.

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00:56:30,160 --> 00:56:34,160
Speaker 16: I knew he was gonna bring something. He got trying

1392
00:56:34,200 --> 00:56:35,399
Speaker 16: to give me back because he missed me.

1393
00:56:35,360 --> 00:56:35,879
Speaker 3: On his wall.

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00:56:37,320 --> 00:56:38,800
Speaker 9: Wow, people think.

1395
00:56:41,200 --> 00:56:44,440
Speaker 5: Lost last weekend? You know, was it HAMPTONWI game. It's

1396
00:56:44,480 --> 00:56:44,799
Speaker 5: kind of like.

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00:56:44,800 --> 00:56:46,560
Speaker 3: Y'all number one on in anything.

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00:56:46,760 --> 00:57:00,080
Speaker 16: Damn joy joy we have we're here, just bread joy.

1399
00:57:00,840 --> 00:57:07,280
Speaker 2: He tried his helmet, helmet, get.

1400
00:57:07,120 --> 00:57:08,279
Speaker 17: That water bucket out of it.

1401
00:57:12,920 --> 00:57:19,120
Speaker 16: Anyway, he threw me off My joys exactly. Oh, they're

1402
00:57:19,160 --> 00:57:22,439
Speaker 16: like these containers, you know, those containers that everybody's making

1403
00:57:22,480 --> 00:57:25,959
Speaker 16: into homes now. So we found a company that's side

1404
00:57:26,000 --> 00:57:30,000
Speaker 16: container bills and they are amazing. We had a student

1405
00:57:30,160 --> 00:57:34,760
Speaker 16: from Alabama State University who's a visual artist and she

1406
00:57:34,960 --> 00:57:38,200
Speaker 16: made the whole mural which is so beautiful. But in

1407
00:57:38,240 --> 00:57:43,120
Speaker 16: the respite pod, you can have meditation, you can do yoga.

1408
00:57:43,360 --> 00:57:46,240
Speaker 3: We have two actual rest pods.

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00:57:46,560 --> 00:57:49,200
Speaker 16: We're student because you know, when you're in college, you're

1410
00:57:49,240 --> 00:57:52,720
Speaker 16: always around people. You know, you have roommates, it's study

1411
00:57:52,760 --> 00:57:55,000
Speaker 16: halls to students, and sometimes you just need to get

1412
00:57:55,000 --> 00:57:57,200
Speaker 16: away from all of that, and so we have these

1413
00:57:57,280 --> 00:57:59,120
Speaker 16: rooms where you can go respite.

1414
00:57:59,240 --> 00:58:01,080
Speaker 3: You can you can.

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00:58:01,040 --> 00:58:04,360
Speaker 16: Meet with a therapist virtually or in person, or you

1416
00:58:04,360 --> 00:58:06,400
Speaker 16: can just go in there and just relax and chill.

1417
00:58:07,040 --> 00:58:07,680
Speaker 9: Sometimes you need.

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00:58:09,240 --> 00:58:12,320
Speaker 16: Yes, yes, yes, So it's a safe space for students

1419
00:58:12,320 --> 00:58:14,840
Speaker 16: to go when they feel stressed, well, when it's too much.

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00:58:14,920 --> 00:58:18,560
Speaker 5: How many HBCUs are you going to for this? That's yes,

1421
00:58:18,680 --> 00:58:21,800
Speaker 5: that's dope. The students need that because because it gets stressful,

1422
00:58:21,920 --> 00:58:25,480
Speaker 5: and especially for students that's never been alone, going to

1423
00:58:25,520 --> 00:58:28,920
Speaker 5: those schools and not knowing people gives you anxiety having

1424
00:58:28,960 --> 00:58:30,959
Speaker 5: to pass and knowing that if you get a lower

1425
00:58:30,960 --> 00:58:32,920
Speaker 5: grade than a certain you lose your scholarship, and to

1426
00:58:33,000 --> 00:58:34,840
Speaker 5: meet a new friends. So I think that's that's amazing.

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00:58:35,120 --> 00:58:40,120
Speaker 16: Yeah, And it's also for students to feel like they belong. Correct,

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00:58:40,400 --> 00:58:44,560
Speaker 16: The dropout rate is insane, and it's I think it's

1429
00:58:44,640 --> 00:58:45,320
Speaker 16: a lot of it is.

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00:58:45,400 --> 00:58:47,480
Speaker 3: It's you know, it's a lot on these students.

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00:58:47,520 --> 00:58:50,640
Speaker 16: And now throw all social media in the mix on

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00:58:50,720 --> 00:58:51,920
Speaker 16: top of all the other things.

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00:58:52,000 --> 00:58:54,040
Speaker 3: You know. So we're just trying to help.

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00:58:54,160 --> 00:58:57,560
Speaker 16: We're just trying to save us and save our future

1435
00:58:57,720 --> 00:58:58,880
Speaker 16: by saving these kids.

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00:58:59,560 --> 00:59:01,000
Speaker 9: I feel like you should come out with a line

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00:59:01,040 --> 00:59:02,600
Speaker 9: of pre rolls called Joy Joints.

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00:59:02,720 --> 00:59:07,440
Speaker 16: George Joints, Yes, okay, Joy Joints, a lot.

1439
00:59:07,240 --> 00:59:12,920
Speaker 9: Of pre rolls. I got it based medicine for the anxiety.

1440
00:59:12,560 --> 00:59:13,760
Speaker 5: Depression and stuff like that.

1441
00:59:13,960 --> 00:59:14,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, they are.

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00:59:14,920 --> 00:59:17,480
Speaker 9: That'd be dope. You also have the women I was

1443
00:59:17,640 --> 00:59:18,360
Speaker 9: Joy Challenge.

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00:59:18,640 --> 00:59:19,920
Speaker 3: Oh absolutely, yeah, you.

1445
00:59:19,880 --> 00:59:22,040
Speaker 9: Started that last bring. How did somebody join that?

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00:59:22,560 --> 00:59:27,000
Speaker 3: Bors Lhenson Foundation dot org. And you can find out

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00:59:27,040 --> 00:59:29,160
Speaker 3: how you can sign up for the Joy Joints or

1448
00:59:29,200 --> 00:59:30,920
Speaker 3: how you just if you just want to donate.

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00:59:31,960 --> 00:59:34,800
Speaker 5: You know. Tyler Perry spoke about something a couple of

1450
00:59:34,880 --> 00:59:35,320
Speaker 5: days ago.

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00:59:41,880 --> 00:59:43,240
Speaker 9: Can you talk about your Broadway show?

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00:59:44,920 --> 00:59:44,960
Speaker 8: That?

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00:59:45,200 --> 00:59:46,680
Speaker 9: Okay, okay, I.

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00:59:46,600 --> 00:59:50,400
Speaker 16: Am so proud to be a producer of a Broadway show.

1455
00:59:50,840 --> 00:59:52,800
Speaker 16: What I love about this show is it because it

1456
00:59:52,880 --> 00:59:56,960
Speaker 16: showcases these women, and I love bringing life to hidden figures.

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00:59:57,280 --> 00:59:58,240
Speaker 3: You know, I grew up in d C.

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00:59:58,760 --> 01:00:00,200
Speaker 16: I used to get my hair braided, but but it

1459
01:00:00,240 --> 01:00:03,280
Speaker 16: was always over somebody's house, a friend's house. I never

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01:00:03,400 --> 01:00:07,800
Speaker 16: really knew about the hair braiding salons hung out millions

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01:00:07,800 --> 01:00:10,760
Speaker 16: of times in Parlem and I would walk past the salons.

1462
01:00:10,800 --> 01:00:13,360
Speaker 16: I just walked past them, you know. But this play

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01:00:13,600 --> 01:00:16,120
Speaker 16: brings such a light to these women. And another thing,

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01:00:16,160 --> 01:00:19,000
Speaker 16: when you think about Ice and deportation, you never think

1465
01:00:19,000 --> 01:00:21,360
Speaker 16: about us because the only images they always show are

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01:00:21,400 --> 01:00:24,880
Speaker 16: the Latin community, right, But this play showcases that these

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01:00:24,920 --> 01:00:28,240
Speaker 16: women are undocumented. They're in this country and they're trying

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01:00:28,240 --> 01:00:30,160
Speaker 16: to make a living. This is how they're doing their

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01:00:30,160 --> 01:00:32,200
Speaker 16: braiding hair. And in the play you see that they

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01:00:32,240 --> 01:00:35,720
Speaker 16: have an issue with Ice and their documentation. I never

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01:00:35,720 --> 01:00:37,160
Speaker 16: think about that. Do you think about that?

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Speaker 4: No, one time when they I think it was was

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01:00:40,440 --> 01:00:42,720
Speaker 4: it the Haitian migrats who they say were coming over.

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01:00:43,600 --> 01:00:44,880
Speaker 9: That was a couple of years ago. It was like

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01:00:44,880 --> 01:00:45,240
Speaker 9: a mention.

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01:00:45,320 --> 01:00:46,360
Speaker 3: It It was just a mention.

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01:00:46,640 --> 01:00:49,440
Speaker 16: But whenever Ice shows up, you never see it's always

1478
01:00:49,480 --> 01:00:51,200
Speaker 16: they're coming down on a Latin community.

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01:00:51,560 --> 01:00:53,080
Speaker 3: So I never even thought about that.

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01:00:53,200 --> 01:00:57,080
Speaker 16: I never even thought about undocumented black people in the US,

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01:00:57,240 --> 01:00:59,640
Speaker 16: you know what I mean. And these women literally just

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01:00:59,680 --> 01:01:02,280
Speaker 16: trying to make a living, and so that was very

1483
01:01:02,280 --> 01:01:03,120
Speaker 16: interesting to me.

1484
01:01:03,640 --> 01:01:05,840
Speaker 3: Not only that, yes, bringing life.

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01:01:05,560 --> 01:01:08,760
Speaker 16: To their their story and their lives and these incredible women.

1486
01:01:08,960 --> 01:01:13,280
Speaker 3: But I love hair. I almost became a cosmetologist.

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01:01:13,440 --> 01:01:15,880
Speaker 16: I mean I almost went to school for cosmetology, but

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01:01:15,920 --> 01:01:17,520
Speaker 16: I missed it by one year. And I have a

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01:01:17,520 --> 01:01:19,360
Speaker 16: hair care line, so it really makes it was a

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01:01:19,360 --> 01:01:21,000
Speaker 16: no brainer for me to produce the show.

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01:01:21,080 --> 01:01:23,560
Speaker 5: And congratulations on the haircairline won a bunch of awards.

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01:01:23,800 --> 01:01:26,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, are you using it at your household?

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01:01:26,760 --> 01:01:29,680
Speaker 5: I did try some my kids as well. You know what,

1494
01:01:30,600 --> 01:01:32,680
Speaker 5: my daughter had a problem with Boyd.

1495
01:01:32,480 --> 01:01:33,440
Speaker 9: And Hampton People's live for.

1496
01:01:36,160 --> 01:01:38,680
Speaker 5: Because I actually had to go and get everybody's hair

1497
01:01:38,720 --> 01:01:42,560
Speaker 5: product because my daughter had I don't know what it was,

1498
01:01:42,680 --> 01:01:44,919
Speaker 5: but she had something in the hair and we went

1499
01:01:44,960 --> 01:01:47,160
Speaker 5: and got everybody's here. I mean I didn't got the Brat.

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01:01:47,160 --> 01:01:48,640
Speaker 5: I didn't even know the Brat had a hair products.

1501
01:01:48,640 --> 01:01:50,920
Speaker 5: I got picked up the Brat hair products. Porscha has

1502
01:01:50,920 --> 01:01:53,120
Speaker 5: hair products. I picked up because my wife sent me

1503
01:01:53,160 --> 01:01:54,880
Speaker 5: to the store and I just looked for anybody black

1504
01:01:54,880 --> 01:01:56,520
Speaker 5: and I just got on the products.

1505
01:01:58,120 --> 01:02:00,400
Speaker 3: But you love TPAH. But anyway, that's what you forgot

1506
01:02:00,400 --> 01:02:00,720
Speaker 3: to say.

1507
01:02:00,920 --> 01:02:02,600
Speaker 5: I will hold up whole lot of thought. We got

1508
01:02:02,600 --> 01:02:04,880
Speaker 5: more with Taraji p Henson when we come back. It's

1509
01:02:04,920 --> 01:02:07,360
Speaker 5: the Breakfast Club, Good Morning, wake up, good morning on

1510
01:02:07,600 --> 01:02:10,720
Speaker 5: the Breakfast Club, DJ MV, Charlamagne, the Gods. We're still

1511
01:02:10,760 --> 01:02:12,520
Speaker 5: kicking it with Taraji p Henson.

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01:02:13,000 --> 01:02:15,960
Speaker 16: Makes stand off for everybody else because t p A

1513
01:02:16,160 --> 01:02:20,400
Speaker 16: specializes in scalp care. Honey, you gotta clean your scalp first,

1514
01:02:20,400 --> 01:02:22,840
Speaker 16: and you have a head that is naked.

1515
01:02:23,160 --> 01:02:24,000
Speaker 10: You can see.

1516
01:02:25,520 --> 01:02:27,360
Speaker 5: Do you have anything?

1517
01:02:29,000 --> 01:02:30,360
Speaker 17: He has a scout doesn't it.

1518
01:02:30,480 --> 01:02:31,440
Speaker 5: You still got to clean.

1519
01:02:33,240 --> 01:02:34,800
Speaker 9: And moisturizers don't get dry.

1520
01:02:35,920 --> 01:02:36,600
Speaker 3: That's what TPS.

1521
01:02:36,680 --> 01:02:40,720
Speaker 5: You got something for him? Boy, that one.

1522
01:02:41,840 --> 01:02:42,800
Speaker 3: This is what I came.

1523
01:02:46,400 --> 01:02:48,439
Speaker 9: But that but that's another way to bring joy.

1524
01:02:48,760 --> 01:02:48,920
Speaker 4: Oh.

1525
01:02:48,960 --> 01:02:51,800
Speaker 3: Absolutely, I believe self care.

1526
01:02:52,000 --> 01:02:55,400
Speaker 16: Hair care is self care, especially for women from ethnic

1527
01:02:55,440 --> 01:02:59,960
Speaker 16: backgrounds because we have curly, thick, big hair and we

1528
01:03:00,240 --> 01:03:02,600
Speaker 16: look at doing our hair as a chore and so

1529
01:03:02,720 --> 01:03:05,960
Speaker 16: with the TPH line, it's more of it's like a

1530
01:03:06,000 --> 01:03:10,240
Speaker 16: spa experience, so you pamper yourself from scout to toe

1531
01:03:10,360 --> 01:03:12,160
Speaker 16: that's you do not have a body line too.

1532
01:03:12,800 --> 01:03:17,040
Speaker 3: So the whole line was created to change.

1533
01:03:16,840 --> 01:03:20,880
Speaker 16: The narrative of you know, taking care of yourself as

1534
01:03:20,880 --> 01:03:24,040
Speaker 16: a chore and look at it more as self care.

1535
01:03:24,000 --> 01:03:26,920
Speaker 3: Like take yourself to the spa. And the reason I came.

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01:03:26,800 --> 01:03:29,040
Speaker 16: Up with that is because my care care line launched

1537
01:03:29,120 --> 01:03:32,520
Speaker 16: during the pandemic. People were afraid to go to salons

1538
01:03:32,520 --> 01:03:35,440
Speaker 16: and be around other people. So it was more like

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01:03:35,480 --> 01:03:41,480
Speaker 16: bring the salon home to you at an affordable price. Absolutely,

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Speaker 16: you have a scout right.

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01:03:43,840 --> 01:03:46,120
Speaker 4: Yes, But I'm talking about guys that use like the

1542
01:03:46,280 --> 01:03:48,240
Speaker 4: just for men in the Beijing, like will it wash

1543
01:03:48,320 --> 01:03:48,520
Speaker 4: it out?

1544
01:03:49,040 --> 01:03:51,440
Speaker 3: It'll wash it all off? Damn Yeah, I think I

1545
01:03:51,480 --> 01:03:52,439
Speaker 3: hear soap and rain.

1546
01:03:54,640 --> 01:03:57,280
Speaker 16: Yeah, you try to be funny.

1547
01:03:57,360 --> 01:03:59,360
Speaker 4: We had a whole conversation about this because I think

1548
01:03:59,400 --> 01:04:01,120
Speaker 4: a lot of gods they're doing this not they're getting

1549
01:04:01,120 --> 01:04:04,240
Speaker 4: their transplants into Beijing and the gentlemen, and I'm like,

1550
01:04:04,480 --> 01:04:06,840
Speaker 4: I'm like why, like who are y'all doing this for?

1551
01:04:07,080 --> 01:04:08,320
Speaker 9: And so a lot of women call them fires. They

1552
01:04:08,400 --> 01:04:08,960
Speaker 9: don't even like that.

1553
01:04:08,960 --> 01:04:11,440
Speaker 4: They rather the guys just just bed be bald or

1554
01:04:11,480 --> 01:04:12,880
Speaker 4: go to the salt and pepper bag.

1555
01:04:13,240 --> 01:04:15,280
Speaker 3: Would rather us. Just wear our hair and not wear

1556
01:04:15,320 --> 01:04:16,080
Speaker 3: weeds and stuff.

1557
01:04:16,320 --> 01:04:19,320
Speaker 16: Oh I don't care, you know, but I hear that,

1558
01:04:19,720 --> 01:04:20,600
Speaker 16: you know a lot of minutes.

1559
01:04:20,720 --> 01:04:21,720
Speaker 3: Just just be natural.

1560
01:04:21,880 --> 01:04:24,560
Speaker 4: They don't believe that. I think they just I think

1561
01:04:24,600 --> 01:04:26,040
Speaker 4: you should do whatever it is that makes you happy.

1562
01:04:26,040 --> 01:04:28,240
Speaker 4: It makes you happy unless you're a man. If you're

1563
01:04:28,240 --> 01:04:29,800
Speaker 4: a man, you should let the salt and pepper.

1564
01:04:29,880 --> 01:04:30,080
Speaker 8: Girl.

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01:04:30,200 --> 01:04:31,120
Speaker 3: Men can't do.

1566
01:04:31,200 --> 01:04:32,400
Speaker 9: Because it looks ridiculous.

1567
01:04:32,440 --> 01:04:33,040
Speaker 3: That's terrible.

1568
01:04:33,080 --> 01:04:35,760
Speaker 9: They haven't learned how to blend it in, like it don't.

1569
01:04:35,560 --> 01:04:36,560
Speaker 17: Look natural good.

1570
01:04:36,640 --> 01:04:38,320
Speaker 16: You don't mind if it looks if it looks good,

1571
01:04:38,800 --> 01:04:41,000
Speaker 16: because some of those wigs look really good.

1572
01:04:41,280 --> 01:04:43,040
Speaker 3: I'm trying to say this with a straight face.

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01:04:44,720 --> 01:04:47,640
Speaker 16: I'm really not trying to be funny because I believe

1574
01:04:47,720 --> 01:04:49,880
Speaker 16: people should do what makes them feel good. And if

1575
01:04:50,160 --> 01:04:52,440
Speaker 16: if women can't wear laceron, men can to.

1576
01:04:53,640 --> 01:04:55,880
Speaker 5: Baby hair. They've been going crazy with the baby.

1577
01:04:55,640 --> 01:04:58,240
Speaker 16: Hair is a little out of control. The baby they're bangs,

1578
01:04:58,240 --> 01:04:59,760
Speaker 16: they're not baby baby.

1579
01:04:59,600 --> 01:05:02,320
Speaker 5: Going down to your mouth like this, your nod, like

1580
01:05:02,400 --> 01:05:02,960
Speaker 5: your cheeks.

1581
01:05:04,560 --> 01:05:06,560
Speaker 16: It's getting crazy now, you know what you know what

1582
01:05:06,640 --> 01:05:08,280
Speaker 16: it is when the baby here meet the eyebrown.

1583
01:05:08,320 --> 01:05:11,520
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's getting crazy now, Judge some people like it.

1584
01:05:11,560 --> 01:05:15,040
Speaker 16: And if that makes you happy, wear that baby, bang baby,

1585
01:05:15,040 --> 01:05:17,480
Speaker 16: because that that is a.

1586
01:05:17,360 --> 01:05:18,520
Speaker 3: Bang on your forehead.

1587
01:05:18,800 --> 01:05:21,920
Speaker 16: But if that makes you feel good, wear that bang

1588
01:05:22,000 --> 01:05:25,040
Speaker 16: baby and get you some TPH products to slick it down.

1589
01:05:25,480 --> 01:05:28,080
Speaker 4: That's right, that's right now. World Mental Health Day is

1590
01:05:28,080 --> 01:05:30,640
Speaker 4: coming up. Yeah, what are some things people could do

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01:05:30,920 --> 01:05:33,160
Speaker 4: in their community to create their own joy joints and

1592
01:05:33,480 --> 01:05:34,720
Speaker 4: joy challenges?

1593
01:05:34,800 --> 01:05:35,760
Speaker 3: Get the best group.

1594
01:05:35,880 --> 01:05:38,760
Speaker 16: If you like space, you like oh no, whatever it

1595
01:05:38,840 --> 01:05:41,640
Speaker 16: is that brings you joy. It could be sitting outside,

1596
01:05:42,040 --> 01:05:44,960
Speaker 16: sitting on the stoop talking, whatever it is, whatever brings

1597
01:05:45,000 --> 01:05:45,400
Speaker 16: you joy.

1598
01:05:45,560 --> 01:05:46,360
Speaker 17: I can't tell you.

1599
01:05:46,320 --> 01:05:48,960
Speaker 3: What brings you, Joe, I know what brings me joy.

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01:05:49,560 --> 01:05:50,120
Speaker 17: I want to play.

1601
01:05:50,160 --> 01:05:53,160
Speaker 3: I want to do double dutch. I want to jump

1602
01:05:53,240 --> 01:05:53,800
Speaker 3: double ducks.

1603
01:05:53,800 --> 01:05:54,480
Speaker 9: You still doing nothing?

1604
01:05:54,600 --> 01:05:57,080
Speaker 16: Play jacks? I haven't in a while, but I would

1605
01:05:58,080 --> 01:06:00,200
Speaker 16: to bring myself joy. I'm willing to do any thing

1606
01:06:00,280 --> 01:06:04,160
Speaker 16: people do. Child Absolutely never let your in a child die.

1607
01:06:04,720 --> 01:06:07,200
Speaker 5: People don't double dust, nor do they know how to

1608
01:06:07,240 --> 01:06:09,640
Speaker 5: double dutch and know and that which is crazy because

1609
01:06:09,640 --> 01:06:12,200
Speaker 5: when we do the events, I bring this double dutch team,

1610
01:06:12,400 --> 01:06:14,520
Speaker 5: husband and wife, and they teach people how to double dutch,

1611
01:06:14,560 --> 01:06:16,080
Speaker 5: men and women, and they teach you the easy way

1612
01:06:16,080 --> 01:06:18,200
Speaker 5: how to how to? You know, because I'm double handed,

1613
01:06:18,240 --> 01:06:19,120
Speaker 5: so I don't know how to. I don't know how

1614
01:06:19,160 --> 01:06:21,520
Speaker 5: to do it. But but it teach you because it's

1615
01:06:21,520 --> 01:06:23,320
Speaker 5: funny and it's an exercise. And a lot of people

1616
01:06:23,320 --> 01:06:24,080
Speaker 5: that they don't know how to do it.

1617
01:06:24,360 --> 01:06:26,680
Speaker 3: No, they don't because people aren't playing outside anymore.

1618
01:06:26,880 --> 01:06:27,480
Speaker 5: That's correct.

1619
01:06:27,720 --> 01:06:30,080
Speaker 4: I like what you said about that, because you know

1620
01:06:30,400 --> 01:06:32,160
Speaker 4: a lot of people are afraid to do that because

1621
01:06:32,160 --> 01:06:34,760
Speaker 4: they're in a child still needs so broken. Yeah, so

1622
01:06:34,960 --> 01:06:36,600
Speaker 4: what do you do when you're in a child still

1623
01:06:36,640 --> 01:06:37,880
Speaker 4: needs to be loved?

1624
01:06:38,000 --> 01:06:39,000
Speaker 3: You have to nurture it.

1625
01:06:39,400 --> 01:06:42,200
Speaker 16: Have to nurture that little child, pay attention to it.

1626
01:06:42,440 --> 01:06:46,960
Speaker 16: That child cries out for attention all the time. I

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01:06:46,960 --> 01:06:48,640
Speaker 16: play still to this day.

1628
01:06:48,880 --> 01:06:50,160
Speaker 3: That's what my salon is about.

1629
01:06:50,240 --> 01:06:53,320
Speaker 16: I'm a salon in my house and I get my

1630
01:06:53,640 --> 01:06:55,960
Speaker 16: friends tease me all the time because I have a

1631
01:06:55,960 --> 01:06:59,439
Speaker 16: square like a register. It's just I used to play

1632
01:06:59,480 --> 01:07:01,960
Speaker 16: register when I was a kid, and as I grew up,

1633
01:07:02,040 --> 01:07:04,160
Speaker 16: I was like, I'm going to always purchase the things

1634
01:07:04,160 --> 01:07:06,080
Speaker 16: that I couldn't afford. When I was a kid, I

1635
01:07:06,200 --> 01:07:09,040
Speaker 16: was told no so much because we couldn't afford it,

1636
01:07:09,040 --> 01:07:11,400
Speaker 16: and when I can afford, I'm going to get it.

1637
01:07:11,480 --> 01:07:14,160
Speaker 16: And so my salon is more like my playroom, and

1638
01:07:14,200 --> 01:07:16,840
Speaker 16: that's where I go when things become too much.

1639
01:07:17,200 --> 01:07:19,240
Speaker 3: I go in there and I tell people, don't call me.

1640
01:07:19,400 --> 01:07:20,200
Speaker 3: I have clients.

1641
01:07:24,240 --> 01:07:26,160
Speaker 9: And what do you do do you go through a whole?

1642
01:07:26,320 --> 01:07:30,680
Speaker 16: Like ye have an appointment book and I make up appointments.

1643
01:07:31,280 --> 01:07:32,560
Speaker 3: I go there, I let my.

1644
01:07:32,520 --> 01:07:36,160
Speaker 16: Inner child play, and I have these dolls, these heads,

1645
01:07:36,200 --> 01:07:39,400
Speaker 16: and I do their hair like one may have a

1646
01:07:39,440 --> 01:07:41,600
Speaker 16: wet set appointment, one may have.

1647
01:07:42,160 --> 01:07:43,720
Speaker 3: A die, I may have to cut.

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01:07:43,880 --> 01:07:44,640
Speaker 5: You do by yourself.

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01:07:45,040 --> 01:07:46,040
Speaker 1: Yeah wow.

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01:07:46,280 --> 01:07:49,040
Speaker 16: I went to the University of YouTube and I learned

1651
01:07:49,040 --> 01:07:53,080
Speaker 16: a lot. I graduated magna cum lati, so I know a.

1652
01:07:53,040 --> 01:07:59,600
Speaker 5: Lot of things. Over your house, Oh yes, bring the

1653
01:07:59,680 --> 01:08:00,560
Speaker 5: boat drop off.

1654
01:08:00,760 --> 01:08:02,520
Speaker 3: I was like that, Why did I have a girl?

1655
01:08:03,200 --> 01:08:03,840
Speaker 4: You know what I mean?

1656
01:08:04,040 --> 01:08:07,160
Speaker 3: It was a hard man like miss me. With all

1657
01:08:07,160 --> 01:08:08,800
Speaker 3: of that, I'm not interested.

1658
01:08:09,240 --> 01:08:10,720
Speaker 5: Girls are hard. I got four of them.

1659
01:08:10,760 --> 01:08:12,760
Speaker 4: And my oldest is at that age where she don't

1660
01:08:12,760 --> 01:08:13,880
Speaker 4: want nothing to do with daddy.

1661
01:08:13,920 --> 01:08:16,800
Speaker 5: She's fifteen. Oh my god, and that's heartbreaking.

1662
01:08:17,280 --> 01:08:18,360
Speaker 3: Your put your seatbelt on.

1663
01:08:18,479 --> 01:08:22,400
Speaker 9: My wife says, it'll it'll go away. But how long though, Jez,

1664
01:08:22,640 --> 01:08:23,240
Speaker 9: you never know.

1665
01:08:23,479 --> 01:08:26,600
Speaker 5: Yeah, she gonna get a boyfriend.

1666
01:08:26,040 --> 01:08:29,160
Speaker 16: About five years, it could be tens, usually a ten

1667
01:08:29,280 --> 01:08:31,479
Speaker 16: year pretty much.

1668
01:08:31,720 --> 01:08:33,840
Speaker 5: Wait till she's twenty five that she's gonna get married

1669
01:08:34,120 --> 01:08:34,360
Speaker 5: or not.

1670
01:08:34,560 --> 01:08:38,200
Speaker 3: Yes, because it's true she got a baby. It's just

1671
01:08:38,360 --> 01:08:39,719
Speaker 3: like hang it up for the twenties.

1672
01:08:40,120 --> 01:08:43,200
Speaker 16: Just don't watch, just wait for her to come back,

1673
01:08:43,320 --> 01:08:45,080
Speaker 16: like twenty eight, twenty nine.

1674
01:08:45,439 --> 01:08:46,160
Speaker 5: Stop crying out.

1675
01:08:46,200 --> 01:08:47,839
Speaker 9: Yeah, I don't think people realize how heartbreaking.

1676
01:08:47,880 --> 01:08:49,680
Speaker 4: That's something that fathers don't talk about it enough, Like

1677
01:08:49,720 --> 01:08:52,560
Speaker 4: that's heartbreaking when you're your little girl all of a

1678
01:08:52,560 --> 01:08:54,920
Speaker 4: sudden don't want nothing to do with you and act

1679
01:08:55,000 --> 01:08:57,439
Speaker 4: like they don't even like you. Would you would you

1680
01:08:57,479 --> 01:08:59,639
Speaker 4: say that the boy Thorntento Foundation is your life's work.

1681
01:09:00,200 --> 01:09:04,880
Speaker 16: Yeah, definitely my life a life purpose, a purpose, a

1682
01:09:04,920 --> 01:09:07,200
Speaker 16: clear purpose. Like I thought it was acting I'm going

1683
01:09:07,240 --> 01:09:09,160
Speaker 16: to touch the people through my work, and of course

1684
01:09:09,200 --> 01:09:12,040
Speaker 16: I did, but I just felt like that was to

1685
01:09:12,080 --> 01:09:15,439
Speaker 16: bring me here because this feels really fulfilling, like I really,

1686
01:09:15,800 --> 01:09:19,400
Speaker 16: because you could do a performance, will you touch somebody?

1687
01:09:19,439 --> 01:09:21,559
Speaker 3: Will you change my I don't know, I hope.

1688
01:09:21,360 --> 01:09:23,960
Speaker 16: So, but this is the work that is really changing

1689
01:09:23,960 --> 01:09:28,200
Speaker 16: and saving lives and I feel good about what I'm doing.

1690
01:09:28,520 --> 01:09:32,880
Speaker 16: I feel important important, I know, I know, but this

1691
01:09:33,040 --> 01:09:36,040
Speaker 16: really makes me feel like I have a life purpose

1692
01:09:36,840 --> 01:09:40,080
Speaker 16: beyond vanity and being pretty in front of a camera.

1693
01:09:39,880 --> 01:09:41,040
Speaker 3: Or what does she have on?

1694
01:09:41,320 --> 01:09:43,240
Speaker 9: Or you know, are you almost Hollywood?

1695
01:09:44,840 --> 01:09:50,160
Speaker 3: Almost is anyway? But I still got some jobs to complete.

1696
01:09:51,000 --> 01:09:54,840
Speaker 16: I have some things that I'm working on, but I know, yeah,

1697
01:09:54,080 --> 01:09:56,640
Speaker 16: it's it's getting to the point where I'm ready to

1698
01:09:56,680 --> 01:09:59,240
Speaker 16: let these kids have it. You know, I'm looking for

1699
01:09:59,280 --> 01:10:01,559
Speaker 16: my exit stres ategy. I don't want to be doing

1700
01:10:01,600 --> 01:10:04,479
Speaker 16: this one, not on a grind now, you know. I

1701
01:10:04,520 --> 01:10:07,280
Speaker 16: want to dip back in when I'm ready, when it's

1702
01:10:07,280 --> 01:10:10,200
Speaker 16: a project that I feel so inclined that I will

1703
01:10:10,240 --> 01:10:10,920
Speaker 16: come out of my.

1704
01:10:10,880 --> 01:10:11,800
Speaker 3: Retirement, you know.

1705
01:10:12,200 --> 01:10:14,400
Speaker 16: But I'm literally ready to go stick my toes and

1706
01:10:14,439 --> 01:10:16,800
Speaker 16: some saying somewhere and let these kids have it.

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01:10:17,040 --> 01:10:19,639
Speaker 4: How can people donate a contribute to the Morris Launch

1708
01:10:19,720 --> 01:10:21,040
Speaker 4: Instant Foundation always?

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01:10:21,080 --> 01:10:25,240
Speaker 16: You can always go to www. Dot bors L Henson

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01:10:25,400 --> 01:10:26,479
Speaker 16: Foundation dot org.

1711
01:10:27,200 --> 01:10:29,719
Speaker 5: And we appreciate you joining us and you all loved

1712
01:10:29,840 --> 01:10:31,520
Speaker 5: valued and appreciate it absolutely.

1713
01:10:32,000 --> 01:10:34,320
Speaker 3: I will know that when I'm up on this wall.

1714
01:10:35,000 --> 01:10:38,440
Speaker 5: But we appreciate you ladies and gentlemen from Howard University.

1715
01:10:38,680 --> 01:10:42,200
Speaker 2: Hey, no period, get that water bucket.

1716
01:10:41,840 --> 01:10:42,240
Speaker 3: Out of here.

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01:10:45,160 --> 01:10:50,439
Speaker 5: Club watering the breakfast Club. Your mornings will never be

1718
01:10:50,600 --> 01:10:56,240
Speaker 5: the same morning. Everybody's dj n V Charlamagne gud We

1719
01:10:56,280 --> 01:10:58,479
Speaker 5: are the Breakfast Club. We got some special guest joining

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01:10:58,560 --> 01:10:59,080
Speaker 5: us this morning.

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01:10:59,120 --> 01:11:01,160
Speaker 9: Yes, indeed we have Queen.

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01:11:00,920 --> 01:11:03,400
Speaker 5: Of Four welcome back, so glad to be back. And

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01:11:03,439 --> 01:11:04,880
Speaker 5: Stephanie mcral welcome.

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01:11:05,120 --> 01:11:06,519
Speaker 3: Thank you so much for having us.

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01:11:06,560 --> 01:11:10,120
Speaker 19: You've always supported the wellness for our communities, and thank you.

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01:11:10,160 --> 01:11:13,320
Speaker 19: And I'm welcome to see you old. I'm welcome to CEO. Together.

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01:11:13,400 --> 01:11:16,639
Speaker 19: We are partnering in warm, a work of warm as

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01:11:16,640 --> 01:11:21,120
Speaker 19: we're coming forth to bring awareness to Domestic Violence month,

1729
01:11:21,320 --> 01:11:24,559
Speaker 19: you know, and within that in October. It's happening right now,

1730
01:11:24,880 --> 01:11:28,240
Speaker 19: Thursday the fifth. We're coming to us spectacular work today

1731
01:11:28,280 --> 01:11:29,400
Speaker 19: of Haarlem healing.

1732
01:11:29,560 --> 01:11:30,040
Speaker 10: What is that?

1733
01:11:30,080 --> 01:11:30,840
Speaker 5: Tell us what that is?

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01:11:31,720 --> 01:11:34,080
Speaker 19: Well, we're coming together and we're going to share ways

1735
01:11:34,080 --> 01:11:36,880
Speaker 19: in which to protect ourselves, to heal ourselves. And it's

1736
01:11:36,880 --> 01:11:39,680
Speaker 19: a family affair. Although the women, you know, you have

1737
01:11:40,040 --> 01:11:43,120
Speaker 19: all the women that have been challenged that they've been

1738
01:11:43,240 --> 01:11:46,559
Speaker 19: murdered basically in their own homes, so there's violence in

1739
01:11:46,600 --> 01:11:49,639
Speaker 19: our homes and we have to heal as people, as family.

1740
01:11:49,760 --> 01:11:51,639
Speaker 19: So it's not we're pointing to finger at our men,

1741
01:11:52,080 --> 01:11:54,639
Speaker 19: but we're looking at us as a community. What can

1742
01:11:54,680 --> 01:11:58,639
Speaker 19: we all do collectively to protect one another? Because when

1743
01:11:58,680 --> 01:12:01,360
Speaker 19: you take a woman's life in your own life and

1744
01:12:01,360 --> 01:12:04,360
Speaker 19: then the children are highly in danger. So we're coming

1745
01:12:04,360 --> 01:12:06,599
Speaker 19: together as me a holders to killer for the last

1746
01:12:06,600 --> 01:12:10,120
Speaker 19: fifty years, and you're doing your work in community building

1747
01:12:10,200 --> 01:12:13,240
Speaker 19: and not for profit and Warm. But it's been over

1748
01:12:13,280 --> 01:12:14,880
Speaker 19: twelve years, and it's been.

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01:12:14,800 --> 01:12:17,120
Speaker 17: Actually thirteen years is thirteen.

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01:12:17,320 --> 01:12:20,360
Speaker 2: I gave birth to Warm in twenty ten, coming out

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01:12:20,520 --> 01:12:23,800
Speaker 2: of this cycle of domestic violence. And when I came

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01:12:23,840 --> 01:12:26,479
Speaker 2: back to Harlem, I didn't see any women that looked

1753
01:12:26,520 --> 01:12:30,880
Speaker 2: like me. I didn't see any representation of women of color,

1754
01:12:31,240 --> 01:12:34,439
Speaker 2: and I certainly didn't see any lived experienced women. Where

1755
01:12:34,439 --> 01:12:36,759
Speaker 2: I come from, it is you are to be quiet

1756
01:12:37,160 --> 01:12:40,160
Speaker 2: and it is a shame. And we're saying that domestic

1757
01:12:40,200 --> 01:12:42,720
Speaker 2: violence is not a shame, it's a crime, and we

1758
01:12:42,760 --> 01:12:45,360
Speaker 2: want to expose it for what it is because women

1759
01:12:45,400 --> 01:12:48,000
Speaker 2: are dying. This book right here, Every woman in this

1760
01:12:48,000 --> 01:12:51,160
Speaker 2: book has been murdered. Did the candlelight Visuals did the

1761
01:12:51,160 --> 01:12:54,599
Speaker 2: funerals for mother and children. So it's a critical issue

1762
01:12:54,600 --> 01:12:57,599
Speaker 2: here and I'm so honored to you to have us here.

1763
01:12:58,000 --> 01:13:00,120
Speaker 2: And one of the things that we want to talk

1764
01:13:00,120 --> 01:13:02,840
Speaker 2: about it is important to feel. You gotta feel first,

1765
01:13:03,439 --> 01:13:06,000
Speaker 2: then you got to deal, and then you got to

1766
01:13:06,000 --> 01:13:09,920
Speaker 2: come to that table of healing our body minus spirits.

1767
01:13:09,920 --> 01:13:12,519
Speaker 17: So that's what we're going to do in Harlem this year.

1768
01:13:13,080 --> 01:13:16,679
Speaker 2: We in Harlem on October fifth is bring our community

1769
01:13:16,760 --> 01:13:18,720
Speaker 2: together because we've been devastated.

1770
01:13:18,880 --> 01:13:20,360
Speaker 5: Let me ask you a question. When you deal with

1771
01:13:20,400 --> 01:13:23,880
Speaker 5: people that's been affected by domestic violence, right especially now

1772
01:13:23,920 --> 01:13:27,840
Speaker 5: culture black men, why don't you think people shun them

1773
01:13:28,120 --> 01:13:30,160
Speaker 5: enough or shove those cases enough. A lot of times

1774
01:13:30,160 --> 01:13:32,280
Speaker 5: you see a lot of domestic violence cases get swept

1775
01:13:32,360 --> 01:13:34,320
Speaker 5: under the rug. A lot of times you see domestic

1776
01:13:34,400 --> 01:13:37,760
Speaker 5: violent cases people get plead out to lesser charges. Why

1777
01:13:37,760 --> 01:13:39,519
Speaker 5: do you think that happens so much in our community?

1778
01:13:39,560 --> 01:13:42,120
Speaker 5: And why don't you think it's spoken about more in

1779
01:13:42,160 --> 01:13:42,880
Speaker 5: our community?

1780
01:13:43,160 --> 01:13:47,720
Speaker 2: Well, the first thing is it is an uncomfortable conversation

1781
01:13:48,400 --> 01:13:51,960
Speaker 2: and a lot of times, because you're dealing with women

1782
01:13:52,160 --> 01:13:55,599
Speaker 2: and children who are still considered to be second class

1783
01:13:55,640 --> 01:13:57,240
Speaker 2: citizens in the world.

1784
01:13:57,800 --> 01:13:59,720
Speaker 17: So they don't take it serious enough.

1785
01:13:59,760 --> 01:14:02,639
Speaker 2: It's like, Okay, well it just happened that brother got

1786
01:14:02,640 --> 01:14:03,479
Speaker 2: a little upset.

1787
01:14:03,600 --> 01:14:07,240
Speaker 17: It's not that bad, but we're saying that it is bad.

1788
01:14:07,439 --> 01:14:11,240
Speaker 2: It is a human right issue now because women and

1789
01:14:11,360 --> 01:14:14,559
Speaker 2: children are being murdered. This book right here. All these

1790
01:14:14,560 --> 01:14:17,000
Speaker 2: women didn't make it out. And one of the things

1791
01:14:17,000 --> 01:14:20,960
Speaker 2: that you know in our community, there's just so much

1792
01:14:21,560 --> 01:14:24,599
Speaker 2: there's a lack, there's no resources there. So that's why

1793
01:14:24,680 --> 01:14:28,720
Speaker 2: I came back to Harlem, because there wasn't anything in

1794
01:14:28,800 --> 01:14:31,840
Speaker 2: Harlem for women like me that looked like me. So

1795
01:14:31,880 --> 01:14:35,440
Speaker 2: we opened up the floodgates and God has sent hundreds

1796
01:14:35,479 --> 01:14:37,280
Speaker 2: and thousands of his children.

1797
01:14:37,040 --> 01:14:40,720
Speaker 19: In some people at the event, Oh we're gonna have well,

1798
01:14:40,840 --> 01:14:43,479
Speaker 19: both of us are gonna be there, Yes of us there,

1799
01:14:44,120 --> 01:14:44,719
Speaker 19: and then we're.

1800
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Speaker 3: Gonna have China.

1801
01:14:46,360 --> 01:14:49,680
Speaker 19: China is the CEO of doll House Cosmetics, and we

1802
01:14:49,720 --> 01:14:54,439
Speaker 19: invited her because she's she overcame domestic violence and as

1803
01:14:54,439 --> 01:14:57,040
Speaker 19: a result, she became an entrepreneur to let you know

1804
01:14:57,080 --> 01:14:59,479
Speaker 19: that there's a future even though you've been beat down

1805
01:14:59,560 --> 01:15:02,240
Speaker 19: and heard wounded in your own home, that you can

1806
01:15:02,600 --> 01:15:04,519
Speaker 19: rise up, you can overcome. And she has a healthy

1807
01:15:04,560 --> 01:15:08,720
Speaker 19: relationship now, So that's an example. Then we have a moderator,

1808
01:15:09,040 --> 01:15:12,120
Speaker 19: BB Smith's I'm going to moderate everything. And then we

1809
01:15:12,160 --> 01:15:14,960
Speaker 19: have doctor Jeffrey Gernard. So he's going to be there

1810
01:15:14,960 --> 01:15:16,640
Speaker 19: and he's going to talk about the psychology and the

1811
01:15:16,680 --> 01:15:19,080
Speaker 19: emotions of it. I'm going to be talking about a

1812
01:15:19,160 --> 01:15:22,240
Speaker 19: way to bring medicine in our own homes. Buddhas medicine

1813
01:15:22,320 --> 01:15:24,559
Speaker 19: is my specialty. And a lot of the anger and

1814
01:15:24,600 --> 01:15:26,920
Speaker 19: the stresses is what we're eating and what's eating at us,

1815
01:15:27,320 --> 01:15:29,400
Speaker 19: and so we're acting. One of the things I had

1816
01:15:29,439 --> 01:15:32,720
Speaker 19: asked you, I said, well, what time when does this happen.

1817
01:15:32,439 --> 01:15:32,960
Speaker 17: The violence?

1818
01:15:32,960 --> 01:15:35,719
Speaker 19: And you said on the weekend. So that's after having

1819
01:15:35,760 --> 01:15:39,559
Speaker 19: some alcohol and some you know, something to numb the hurt.

1820
01:15:40,120 --> 01:15:42,000
Speaker 19: Women and men are numbing a lot of the hurt

1821
01:15:42,360 --> 01:15:45,080
Speaker 19: and so but then it doesn't numb out, it actually

1822
01:15:45,240 --> 01:15:49,040
Speaker 19: expresses itself further out. So I have a whole campaign

1823
01:15:49,040 --> 01:15:53,200
Speaker 19: of detoxing. We can detox the woundedness, the hurt that

1824
01:15:53,320 --> 01:15:57,639
Speaker 19: we're bringing attention that we can distress. We can release

1825
01:15:57,680 --> 01:16:02,000
Speaker 19: our anger in a positive way, maybe walking, maybe you know,

1826
01:16:02,080 --> 01:16:04,679
Speaker 19: working together, fasting and cleansing. So I'm doing a seven

1827
01:16:04,800 --> 01:16:05,719
Speaker 19: day at.

1828
01:16:05,600 --> 01:16:08,040
Speaker 3: The end of October.

1829
01:16:08,200 --> 01:16:08,839
Speaker 17: End of October.

1830
01:16:08,920 --> 01:16:11,479
Speaker 19: Yes, we're gonna come together. We're gonna launch at warm

1831
01:16:11,880 --> 01:16:14,519
Speaker 19: at your location on twenty sixth Streel in Harlem. Yes,

1832
01:16:15,200 --> 01:16:17,960
Speaker 19: and we're gonna launch our seven day detox, not seven

1833
01:16:18,000 --> 01:16:19,519
Speaker 19: too much, not twenty one days.

1834
01:16:19,680 --> 01:16:20,760
Speaker 3: Help me do seven days.

1835
01:16:20,760 --> 01:16:23,360
Speaker 19: And every night we'll be talking to the women, encouraging them,

1836
01:16:23,360 --> 01:16:25,800
Speaker 19: strengthening them, because I always see the women as the

1837
01:16:25,840 --> 01:16:28,400
Speaker 19: healers of the home. The women can heal and if

1838
01:16:28,400 --> 01:16:31,879
Speaker 19: they raise their vibrations strong enough and we all come together,

1839
01:16:32,200 --> 01:16:34,960
Speaker 19: then our men will respond to us differently because we'll

1840
01:16:35,000 --> 01:16:35,360
Speaker 19: be able.

1841
01:16:35,240 --> 01:16:35,880
Speaker 17: To help them.

1842
01:16:36,120 --> 01:16:37,360
Speaker 5: We're being to walk them off.

1843
01:16:37,200 --> 01:16:40,000
Speaker 19: The edge, walk them over the bridge, help them to detox.

1844
01:16:40,240 --> 01:16:42,679
Speaker 19: Just something a green juice. Every day was stressed. Bring

1845
01:16:42,680 --> 01:16:44,760
Speaker 19: the stress of us all the way down, a heell

1846
01:16:44,800 --> 01:16:47,680
Speaker 19: in barefloors. Have you not fight against yourself, but go

1847
01:16:47,800 --> 01:16:50,040
Speaker 19: inside and see what are my issues? What did I

1848
01:16:50,120 --> 01:16:52,639
Speaker 19: carry over through my mother and father fighting? And I'm

1849
01:16:52,680 --> 01:16:55,080
Speaker 19: bringing that into my house in this generation. And then

1850
01:16:55,080 --> 01:16:57,479
Speaker 19: it just keeps going from generation to generation. Because you

1851
01:16:57,560 --> 01:17:00,760
Speaker 19: talked about the digital cycle with your own family, you

1852
01:17:00,800 --> 01:17:03,080
Speaker 19: know that we're gone through that. We have a passion

1853
01:17:03,120 --> 01:17:05,040
Speaker 19: for this because we went through it ourself.

1854
01:17:05,120 --> 01:17:08,160
Speaker 5: Know, somebody might say, well, you know, why should we

1855
01:17:08,200 --> 01:17:10,639
Speaker 5: have to help the men that are going through their

1856
01:17:10,680 --> 01:17:12,840
Speaker 5: own problems and beating us? Why should we have to

1857
01:17:12,880 --> 01:17:15,479
Speaker 5: be the person to stop them from doing that. What

1858
01:17:15,520 --> 01:17:18,479
Speaker 5: would you say to that woman and people out there listening,

1859
01:17:18,479 --> 01:17:18,800
Speaker 5: You know.

1860
01:17:19,400 --> 01:17:22,400
Speaker 2: I would say that it is our duty to help

1861
01:17:22,479 --> 01:17:26,799
Speaker 2: our men. It is our obligation to help our men.

1862
01:17:26,960 --> 01:17:29,960
Speaker 2: It is what we've been called to do to help

1863
01:17:30,040 --> 01:17:33,400
Speaker 2: our men. You know, everything is birth from a woman.

1864
01:17:33,640 --> 01:17:37,479
Speaker 2: Everything comes from a woman. So we are talking about

1865
01:17:37,760 --> 01:17:40,760
Speaker 2: if we are getting ourself right and we are doing

1866
01:17:40,800 --> 01:17:43,559
Speaker 2: all the healing and eating right and fastening and praying,

1867
01:17:44,080 --> 01:17:47,120
Speaker 2: and if we don't bring our men into this equation

1868
01:17:47,240 --> 01:17:49,080
Speaker 2: of healing, then who.

1869
01:17:49,560 --> 01:17:51,519
Speaker 17: Are we going to turn to.

1870
01:17:51,920 --> 01:17:54,960
Speaker 2: So it is our obligation to tell our brothers. Look,

1871
01:17:55,040 --> 01:17:57,880
Speaker 2: and it is your obligation to tell your brothers, your

1872
01:17:57,920 --> 01:18:01,760
Speaker 2: brother that's domestic violence. For thirty something years, I'm into

1873
01:18:01,800 --> 01:18:05,000
Speaker 2: living in this world, and I didn't have the identification.

1874
01:18:05,439 --> 01:18:07,800
Speaker 17: It wasn't talked about, so we just thought that's what

1875
01:18:07,880 --> 01:18:10,519
Speaker 17: happened in the household, right, That's what my mother and

1876
01:18:10,520 --> 01:18:11,280
Speaker 17: my father do.

1877
01:18:11,640 --> 01:18:15,080
Speaker 2: So what our job is to bring our brothers into

1878
01:18:15,120 --> 01:18:15,759
Speaker 2: this equation.

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01:18:16,000 --> 01:18:17,680
Speaker 17: So yes, it is my obligation.

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01:18:17,880 --> 01:18:20,519
Speaker 4: You're not saying that if a woman is in that

1881
01:18:20,600 --> 01:18:23,240
Speaker 4: situation and she's receiving abuse from the man, she should

1882
01:18:23,280 --> 01:18:25,040
Speaker 4: just stay there and try to help the man.

1883
01:18:25,360 --> 01:18:26,679
Speaker 17: No, no, we're saying, get out.

1884
01:18:26,800 --> 01:18:27,639
Speaker 3: We can get you out.

1885
01:18:27,960 --> 01:18:29,720
Speaker 2: Let's get you out so you can get you some help.

1886
01:18:29,760 --> 01:18:31,280
Speaker 2: And thank you brother for bringing that around.

1887
01:18:31,840 --> 01:18:32,719
Speaker 17: Get you some help.

1888
01:18:32,800 --> 01:18:34,880
Speaker 2: What they said, when you get on a plane, put

1889
01:18:34,920 --> 01:18:38,800
Speaker 2: your acciden on first. Okay, if I'm not breathing, then

1890
01:18:39,040 --> 01:18:41,920
Speaker 2: nobody's brieving. So I got to breathe first. Then brother,

1891
01:18:42,000 --> 01:18:44,080
Speaker 2: let me come back and help you. I had to

1892
01:18:44,120 --> 01:18:44,479
Speaker 2: get out.

1893
01:18:44,520 --> 01:18:45,080
Speaker 17: I wanted to.

1894
01:18:45,320 --> 01:18:45,479
Speaker 4: You know.

1895
01:18:45,520 --> 01:18:48,160
Speaker 2: I had a conversation with one of my abuses I'm

1896
01:18:48,200 --> 01:18:50,400
Speaker 2: not mentioned in no names, and.

1897
01:18:50,280 --> 01:18:53,360
Speaker 17: I asked him, why were you violating me like that?

1898
01:18:54,200 --> 01:18:57,040
Speaker 17: And he said he was beating his mother.

1899
01:19:00,040 --> 01:19:01,439
Speaker 3: Oooh he just passed.

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01:19:01,479 --> 01:19:05,639
Speaker 17: I just like, okay, God, yeah you right now that statement.

1901
01:19:05,760 --> 01:19:08,280
Speaker 2: I got to go back and be available for our

1902
01:19:08,400 --> 01:19:10,439
Speaker 2: brothers because they are hurt and it's deep.

1903
01:19:11,240 --> 01:19:13,400
Speaker 17: It ain't just happened. I get an abuse relationship.

1904
01:19:13,439 --> 01:19:14,240
Speaker 9: It just happened.

1905
01:19:14,320 --> 01:19:16,240
Speaker 17: That thing happened when I was five years old. It

1906
01:19:16,320 --> 01:19:17,400
Speaker 17: was planned and.

1907
01:19:17,360 --> 01:19:18,360
Speaker 9: It was in depth.

1908
01:19:18,400 --> 01:19:20,840
Speaker 17: It was birthed in me because I've seen it.

1909
01:19:20,960 --> 01:19:22,960
Speaker 2: You know, when you spill something on the sofa, you

1910
01:19:23,000 --> 01:19:24,640
Speaker 2: see the little stained, but you don't see it.

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Speaker 17: That thing is steep down in me.

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Speaker 5: We have more with Queen of Four and Stephanie McGraw.

1913
01:19:29,080 --> 01:19:31,719
Speaker 5: When we come back the event day of Harlem Healing.

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Speaker 5: It's happened in Thursday, October fifth at the Harlem Hospital.

1915
01:19:34,280 --> 01:19:35,760
Speaker 5: We'll discuss with the more. So don't move. It's to

1916
01:19:35,760 --> 01:19:39,600
Speaker 5: Breakfast Club. Good morning morning everybody. It's DJ Envy Charlomagne

1917
01:19:39,600 --> 01:19:41,639
Speaker 5: the guy. We are the Breakfast Club. We're still kicking

1918
01:19:41,640 --> 01:19:44,200
Speaker 5: it with Queen of four and Stephanie McGraw Charlomagne.

1919
01:19:44,200 --> 01:19:46,120
Speaker 9: If somebody wants to get involved, how can they.

1920
01:19:46,160 --> 01:19:47,479
Speaker 17: Thank you for asking that question?

1921
01:19:47,640 --> 01:19:52,000
Speaker 2: So Warm is a five OC domestic violence organization. We're

1922
01:19:52,080 --> 01:19:54,960
Speaker 2: at eight West one hundred and twenty sixth Street, that's

1923
01:19:55,000 --> 01:19:58,320
Speaker 2: between Lennox and Fifth. We are open a nine to six.

1924
01:19:58,439 --> 01:20:02,160
Speaker 2: We work on Saturdays from nine to two. But if

1925
01:20:02,160 --> 01:20:04,000
Speaker 2: you want to get involved, you can reach out to

1926
01:20:04,080 --> 01:20:08,240
Speaker 2: us that we are really matter at gmail dot com

1927
01:20:08,320 --> 01:20:11,639
Speaker 2: or you can find us on Instagram. That's Warm and YC.

1928
01:20:12,400 --> 01:20:15,920
Speaker 2: We need everybody involved. Like I said at the top

1929
01:20:15,960 --> 01:20:18,200
Speaker 2: of this segment, this is a human issue. This is

1930
01:20:18,240 --> 01:20:21,280
Speaker 2: not just a domestic violence issue or man. It's a

1931
01:20:21,439 --> 01:20:24,880
Speaker 2: human issue and it's affecting us from around the world.

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Speaker 17: So we just encourage everybody.

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01:20:26,680 --> 01:20:28,479
Speaker 2: You can reach out to us at nine one seven

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01:20:28,880 --> 01:20:32,240
Speaker 2: seven three six sixteen twenty one or nine one seven

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Speaker 2: seven three six zero six eight zero.

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Speaker 5: A lot of women, I'm sure feel like like you

1937
01:20:37,479 --> 01:20:39,280
Speaker 5: said earlier, like you know, I mean, if this is

1938
01:20:39,320 --> 01:20:41,040
Speaker 5: my family, I don't want to do this to my kids,

1939
01:20:41,040 --> 01:20:43,519
Speaker 5: I don't want to break up the family. So what

1940
01:20:43,560 --> 01:20:45,559
Speaker 5: would you tell a woman out there that's listening right now,

1941
01:20:45,600 --> 01:20:48,320
Speaker 5: that might be going through similar situations, might be being

1942
01:20:48,360 --> 01:20:52,000
Speaker 5: abused mentally, might be abusing, being amused, abused physically. How

1943
01:20:52,040 --> 01:20:53,800
Speaker 5: would you tell them how to get out if they

1944
01:20:53,840 --> 01:20:54,599
Speaker 5: don't know how?

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01:20:54,840 --> 01:20:57,000
Speaker 19: Well, it's not just we do one thing, it's a

1946
01:20:57,080 --> 01:20:59,000
Speaker 19: multitude of things. First, you have to say no more.

1947
01:21:00,080 --> 01:21:02,519
Speaker 19: He's standing for yourself and your own quiety soul and

1948
01:21:02,560 --> 01:21:05,439
Speaker 19: said I'm because my children will be damaged from this.

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01:21:05,760 --> 01:21:07,240
Speaker 3: When we spoke of them.

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01:21:07,240 --> 01:21:10,639
Speaker 19: One of the last cases, you said, the husband took

1951
01:21:10,760 --> 01:21:13,439
Speaker 19: his life first took his wife's life, then he took

1952
01:21:13,439 --> 01:21:15,679
Speaker 19: his one year old, and then he murdered his three

1953
01:21:15,720 --> 01:21:19,599
Speaker 19: year old. So it goes to and he hinted his

1954
01:21:19,640 --> 01:21:22,000
Speaker 19: life at the end of that. So it is something

1955
01:21:22,040 --> 01:21:25,240
Speaker 19: that we have to act now. There is someone right

1956
01:21:25,280 --> 01:21:28,519
Speaker 19: now who's listening to us and who's feeling I don't

1957
01:21:28,520 --> 01:21:30,800
Speaker 19: know how to get out. You go to your mother,

1958
01:21:31,000 --> 01:21:33,680
Speaker 19: you go to your friend, you come to warm you

1959
01:21:33,760 --> 01:21:36,799
Speaker 19: come to Queen of four. We will will because everyone's

1960
01:21:36,800 --> 01:21:39,439
Speaker 19: case is not the same, and sometimes you have help

1961
01:21:39,439 --> 01:21:42,280
Speaker 19: that you're not even realizing. Sometimes women are fighting with

1962
01:21:42,320 --> 01:21:44,080
Speaker 19: their own mothers, so they can even go to back

1963
01:21:44,080 --> 01:21:46,560
Speaker 19: to their mother's home for help. So we as the

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01:21:46,600 --> 01:21:48,840
Speaker 19: people must begin to heal. So every case is a

1965
01:21:48,840 --> 01:21:52,640
Speaker 19: bit different. We're saying everyone come out on Wednesday on Thursday,

1966
01:21:52,880 --> 01:21:55,680
Speaker 19: because it's going to be around the world. Everyone can

1967
01:21:55,720 --> 01:21:58,000
Speaker 19: see it. It's free those who can get into the

1968
01:21:58,040 --> 01:22:00,280
Speaker 19: building at Harlem High. The fact that Harlem Hospital open

1969
01:22:00,360 --> 01:22:01,800
Speaker 19: up your doors for us to be able to do

1970
01:22:01,840 --> 01:22:04,520
Speaker 19: something like this, it's saying that we need the community

1971
01:22:04,720 --> 01:22:07,320
Speaker 19: to be the healers too. It's not just the hospital's

1972
01:22:07,360 --> 01:22:09,600
Speaker 19: going to heal us. We as a people are going

1973
01:22:09,680 --> 01:22:11,519
Speaker 19: to have to heal us. And that's why it's not

1974
01:22:11,600 --> 01:22:14,439
Speaker 19: about fighting the men or fighting when we need families,

1975
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Speaker 19: and you cannot have family of just women. You can

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Speaker 19: not have family with just men. You have to have

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Speaker 19: men who are healed up. You have to have women

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Speaker 19: who are healed up and prevent. Don't wait and tell,

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Speaker 19: because everyone's going through something. Sometimes yelling at someone will

1980
01:22:25,880 --> 01:22:28,880
Speaker 19: breaks someone's self esteem. Someone just pushing them. It seems

1981
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Speaker 19: so harmless, it's nothing to it. Sometimes they'll yell, they'll

1982
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Speaker 19: fight all of this. Probably everyone who's coming out, they'll say,

1983
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Speaker 19: it happened to me at least once in my life.

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Speaker 19: But maybe we can stop that when we start talking

1985
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Speaker 19: about it and we move to shame. And so if

1986
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Speaker 19: we move to shame and said this is what we're

1987
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Speaker 19: going through, let's work it out, what I have is

1988
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Speaker 19: it says black women are in a stead of emergency,

1989
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Speaker 19: but families are instead of emergency. And the spirit of

1990
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Speaker 19: Domestic Violence Month, I'm saying, get out the trap, overcome.

1991
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Speaker 19: Now be the change that I'm a change making. We'll

1992
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Speaker 19: all have the change making to do our poor. So

1993
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Speaker 19: on the October twenty seventh, this is like part one.

1994
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Speaker 19: Part one is just get all to Harlem. The drums

1995
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Speaker 19: will be playing. You know, Bob WA's coming out. Who

1996
01:23:11,640 --> 01:23:15,040
Speaker 19: else is Erica Porter's coming out. We are unifying. It's

1997
01:23:15,080 --> 01:23:18,120
Speaker 19: not like one organization or one group of healers. And

1998
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Speaker 19: it's where United Breakfast club saying I am supporting us.

1999
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Speaker 19: This is a big deal because we respect you, we

2000
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Speaker 19: love you, and we honor you and you honor us

2001
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Speaker 19: as the people. So you're allowing us to be here

2002
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Speaker 19: now it's going to help to stop some of the violence.

2003
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Speaker 5: We're talking about the event and the time and where

2004
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Speaker 5: people can come and how they can get involved. Absolutely,

2005
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Speaker 5: thank you.

2006
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Speaker 2: So it's going to be at Harlem Hospital. The doors

2007
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Speaker 2: open at five point thirty. We're actually everyone come make

2008
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Speaker 2: it a date night with your girlfriend, with your children,

2009
01:23:46,880 --> 01:23:49,479
Speaker 2: with your man, you know, with your grandmother, with your aunt,

2010
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Speaker 2: come out as a community. It's going to be at

2011
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Speaker 2: Harlem Hospital. That's five six Lenox Avenue again. The doors

2012
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Speaker 2: open at five thirty. It will be in the auditorium

2013
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Speaker 2: on the second floor. If you need more information, you

2014
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Speaker 2: can go to warm we are Really Matter at gmail

2015
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Speaker 2: dot com, or you can rich reach out to us

2016
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Speaker 2: on Instagram. That's Warm and YC and we will be there.

2017
01:24:15,680 --> 01:24:19,760
Speaker 2: We will be offering some of Queen's amazing tonics and

2018
01:24:20,760 --> 01:24:24,320
Speaker 2: detox And because for myself, you know, I didn't know

2019
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Speaker 2: how to grieve. I did not because they told us,

2020
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Speaker 2: you know, you get the little shot of alcohol, get

2021
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Speaker 2: you a little joint, that's how.

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Speaker 17: You should So I didn't know how it was.

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Speaker 9: Okay.

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Speaker 2: I put on ten pounds of betrayal because I didn't

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Speaker 2: know how to get in touch with what betrayal felt.

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Speaker 17: Like, how to process it out.

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Speaker 2: So what I did a hargandized ice cream chocolate cake

2028
01:24:46,400 --> 01:24:49,439
Speaker 2: every night because I didn't know how to until I

2029
01:24:49,479 --> 01:24:53,320
Speaker 2: got in touch with Queen in twenty sixteen. I crawled

2030
01:24:53,400 --> 01:24:58,080
Speaker 2: into her broken down and I got into the Queen

2031
01:24:58,080 --> 01:25:02,000
Speaker 2: of Food sacred room and train. I graduated as a

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01:25:02,000 --> 01:25:06,920
Speaker 2: sacred woman in twenty sixteen, and my whole life was

2033
01:25:06,960 --> 01:25:10,479
Speaker 2: shifted and changed. So I promote healthy eating because I

2034
01:25:10,560 --> 01:25:13,920
Speaker 2: know for myself, I can't get what God got me

2035
01:25:13,960 --> 01:25:16,559
Speaker 2: if I'm clogged up. I got to keep this vessel

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Speaker 2: clean to receive the messages. It's serious like that. What

2037
01:25:20,760 --> 01:25:24,559
Speaker 2: we're dealing with now is spiritual nature. A good old

2038
01:25:24,600 --> 01:25:27,040
Speaker 2: steak is not going to fix me from getting getting

2039
01:25:27,600 --> 01:25:30,640
Speaker 2: out of a bad relationship. But I know if I

2040
01:25:30,640 --> 01:25:33,480
Speaker 2: get on my knees and ask God to guide me out,

2041
01:25:33,880 --> 01:25:38,719
Speaker 2: you can't take something spiritual and fix it with something material.

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Speaker 17: It's just not going to work.

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01:25:40,760 --> 01:25:43,759
Speaker 2: So working with Queen has been one of my greatest gifts,

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Speaker 2: and I give that what she gave me to the women.

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Speaker 17: It's all gravy. I love it. I love what I do.

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Speaker 4: Well.

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Speaker 5: We appreciate you guys so much for joining us this morning.

2048
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Speaker 5: Thank you so much.

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Speaker 19: But those who want to change their lives now and

2050
01:26:02,680 --> 01:26:04,880
Speaker 19: they see they're in trouble, they can join us in

2051
01:26:04,920 --> 01:26:07,400
Speaker 19: a seven day detox and making the community of wellness.

2052
01:26:07,760 --> 01:26:10,040
Speaker 19: So the women are coming and getting well, but also

2053
01:26:10,040 --> 01:26:12,760
Speaker 19: our men are getting well, our people getting well. So

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Speaker 19: check out Queeneford dot com. You can register for the

2055
01:26:16,880 --> 01:26:19,559
Speaker 19: seven day detox that's coming up and be a part

2056
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Speaker 19: of the change. And if you have an organization that

2057
01:26:22,280 --> 01:26:24,840
Speaker 19: the women are stressing out, you know it's time to

2058
01:26:24,840 --> 01:26:27,280
Speaker 19: bring those women together. They can help the other women

2059
01:26:27,640 --> 01:26:30,080
Speaker 19: and help our families in our community to build up.

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Speaker 19: So we're just so grateful that you have us today.

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Speaker 19: We're going to pass the word. You're passing the word

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Speaker 19: globally high respect.

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Speaker 5: Stephanie mcgrough, thank you so much and don't forget the

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Speaker 5: events This Thursday, October fifth at Harlem Hospital and it's

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Speaker 5: the Breakfast Slub. Good morning, Breakfast club business you don't

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Speaker 10: Finish for y'all done,