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Speaker 1: Do I have a story for you?

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Speaker 2: Oh shit, I can't believe.

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Speaker 1: This happened to me today. So, uh, November was really

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Speaker 1: full of work. We've kind of talked about this on

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Speaker 1: the podcast.

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Speaker 3: Day alone has been like a full week's worth of

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Speaker 3: word for me.

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Speaker 1: Well, that's a separate subject.

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Speaker 2: I'm just kidding.

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Speaker 1: No, I mean I think a lot of people are

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Speaker 1: just trying to wrap up the year, and so it's

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Speaker 1: just kind of all gets piled into one. I in

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Speaker 1: November was just on set a lot, which I was

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Speaker 1: like so grateful for because a lot of my friends

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Speaker 1: have actually been slow in Nashville. But I was on

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Speaker 1: set a lot, meaning you really don't have a life

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Speaker 1: other than whatever show or shoot you're working on, which

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Speaker 1: it's kind of hard to explain to people, but it

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Speaker 1: just once set, life is just a different world. Like

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Speaker 1: I don't write, like how would you say that, chip,

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Speaker 1: But just like you're it sucked in so.

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Speaker 3: Anyway do anything else? Really?

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Speaker 1: You really can't. I mean it's hard to manage so that.

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Speaker 1: So I just didn't work out in November, like there

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Speaker 1: was just no time and I was like, you know what,

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Speaker 1: I'm not even going to freak out about it or

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Speaker 1: I feel. But I just December is going to definitely

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Speaker 1: be the month that I like get back to my workouts.

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Speaker 1: So I went to Barry's boot Camp today. Okay, and

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Speaker 1: I went last week for the first time, and it

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Speaker 1: was rough. I mean, Barry's is no joke, but like

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Speaker 1: I just sort of am under the mentality of rip

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Speaker 1: the band aid, let's get this shit go in, like

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Speaker 1: just for me too. When I'm like getting back into

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Speaker 1: like working out, classes are easier or they're more motivating

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Speaker 1: because it's like someone's telling you what to do. It

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Speaker 1: I probably wouldn't push myself.

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Speaker 2: So wait, and for those of you who don't know

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Speaker 2: what Barr's boot Camp is, oh, it is a really

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Speaker 2: intense hit workout class where you'd spend it's like an

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Speaker 2: ass off correct and the other half you're spending on

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Speaker 2: the floor with like freeway, are doing like crunches or

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Speaker 2: some sort of torture.

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Speaker 1: Depending on what like today was abs and.

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Speaker 3: Ass but like also it's torture.

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Speaker 1: But every yeah, so anyway, everyone though, is on the

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Speaker 1: tremill like you said, like busting ass. I like last

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Speaker 1: week I did a slight job like Nott, let's not

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Speaker 1: go into sprinting and stuff yet, like I'm definitely not there.

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Speaker 1: I could barely even walk, like after I did it

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Speaker 1: for four days because my calves hurt so bad because

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Speaker 1: I hate running, so I just never do it. But

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Speaker 1: sometimes you just need like a jump start. So today

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Speaker 1: I was like, all right, it's time to get back,

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Speaker 1: like I did pilates yesterday, which is way more my speed. Right,

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Speaker 1: but here we go. So I go to class. I

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Speaker 1: go back and forth. My first series was on the floor.

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Speaker 1: But we're just going through it. I mean he did

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Speaker 1: Like that's not hard for me. It's hard, Okay, let

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Speaker 1: me take that back. It's hard, but I'm not like dying.

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Speaker 1: But all of a sudden, I'm sitting there as like

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Speaker 2: No, because because there would have been a video.

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Speaker 1: But I start dry heaving and I'm like, oh my god,

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Speaker 1: And it was like, I guess, like does this I

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Speaker 1: don't know if this happens to anyone else, but sometimes

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Speaker 1: if I take vitamins and especially yeah, and I have

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Speaker 1: So I've been trying to pump these like wellness formula

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Speaker 1: they really like it's just full of like echa nature

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Speaker 1: if you've been around sick people or you feel yourself

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Speaker 1: starting to get sick. And so I guess I had

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Speaker 2: Know who the fuck you thing you are.

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Speaker 1: Oh but the worst part is my friend had put

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Speaker 2: Hey, dush yourself off and try again.

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Speaker 1: I definitely only walked on the treadmill though, and I

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Speaker 1: know the instructor was like, this bitch is so lazy,

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Speaker 1: far as you know, I'm pregnant. Guy, Like I just

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Speaker 2: I had something similar happen once the first time I

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Speaker 2: I took my friend Jimmy, and I made fun of

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Speaker 2: And I was like dry heaving, and then I was like,

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Speaker 2: I was like, is there even anything in there? And

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Speaker 2: And went all over the wall, It went everywhere, and

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Speaker 2: I was like, this is literally I wanted to just

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Speaker 2: I was like, this is because I didn't even know

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Speaker 1: To happen, but you were at home.

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Speaker 2: I was at least at home, so no one saw it,

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Speaker 1: That is terrible.

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Speaker 3: Again.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I don't think that's going to be the solution.

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Speaker 1: I'm literally sitting here drinking lemon ginger tea though, because

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Speaker 1: I still feel really weird. It's like, once you puke

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Speaker 2: You ever had a.

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Speaker 1: Well have you ever had those nights when you were younger.

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Speaker 1: It wasn't like we were responsible. I definitely didn't know

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Speaker 1: how to drink responsibly. I do not encourage people to

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Speaker 2: We called it boot and rally. Boot Y, Yeah, you

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Speaker 3: Because it was the only way out of it.

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Speaker 2: And it actually would save me the next day, because

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Speaker 3: Knew I was going to have a major hangover the

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Speaker 1: These are the things that our generation thought were normal

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Speaker 1: to poison yourself and then throw.

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Speaker 2: Up because we also drank the vodka that costs fifty

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Speaker 1: You know, it's like this literal probably poisoned that we

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Speaker 1: would put in our bodies. The younger generations are like

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Speaker 1: just be sober curious. Where was this when we were little?

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Speaker 1: They're just doing ecstasy, you know, It's it's true. They

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Speaker 1: probably a dime store crack. Yeah, smarter though I fully

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Speaker 1: support Anyway, do you want to talk about family and

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Speaker 1: the holidays? Because I mean we're speaking about a Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I feel like this is the consistent commonality? Is that

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Speaker 1: a word commonality, common theme that everyone has in their lives.

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Speaker 1: Like literally, if you do a family holiday, the chances

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Speaker 2: I mean, and we're coming out of Thanksgiving too, so

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Speaker 2: like a lot of people have already spent some time

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Speaker 2: with their families. They probably haven't seen it in a while,

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Speaker 2: and we've gotten a taste of it. But I think

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Speaker 2: Christmas everything is even more heightened.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and I think it might.

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Speaker 2: Be because like everyone wants it to be a perfect

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Speaker 1: The magical holiday, or supposed to be it's supposed to

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Speaker 1: be the most wonderful. Yeah, yeah, I mean I do

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Speaker 1: think you're totally right that like the quick turnaround between

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Speaker 1: Thanksgiving and Christmas might be the culprit here. But I

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Speaker 1: mean I think it's also just like balancing family dynamics.

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Speaker 1: At what's happening to me today? Everything's like get out

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Speaker 1: Oh my god. It was like a normal dad and

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Speaker 2: husband had even put up the neighbor's Christmas lights and

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Speaker 2: done some chores in her yard as she was newly separated,

440
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Speaker 2: and he wanted to be quote unquote neighborly.

441
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Speaker 1: I bet you did.

442
00:21:00,280 --> 00:21:03,720
Speaker 2: Moved out and the other woman left the neighborhood. And

443
00:21:03,760 --> 00:21:06,320
Speaker 2: the other woman left the neighborhood after the other wives

444
00:21:06,359 --> 00:21:09,280
Speaker 2: on the street harassed her, including putting honey around her

445
00:21:09,280 --> 00:21:12,600
Speaker 2: garage door to attract ants, which I think was going

446
00:21:12,600 --> 00:21:14,280
Speaker 2: a little too far, but I think it's funny as

447
00:21:14,280 --> 00:21:18,760
Speaker 2: shit too. Anyway, the brother in law and his mistress

448
00:21:18,880 --> 00:21:22,120
Speaker 2: got married, and it sounds like they're now headed for divorce.

449
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Speaker 1: Well, it's never a good start to a relationship. The

450
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Speaker 1: honey though, you and I were talking before the podcast,

451
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Speaker 1: that is savage, like because think about how difficult that

452
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Speaker 1: would be to clean. I feel, yeah, you know what

453
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Speaker 1: I mean, and so like putting it and she probably

454
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Speaker 1: didn't even know it was there for so long. She

455
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Speaker 1: just notices she has.

456
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Speaker 3: Water to some point.

457
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Speaker 1: Damn. That was like gut will get you, Yeah, Kara

458
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Speaker 1: Karma Plan. I mean, we did mention this earlier, but

459
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Speaker 1: probably I would say the number one issue for family

460
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Speaker 1: is just avoiding hard combos. It seems like I feel like,

461
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Speaker 1: you know what, you're getting into. Usually you've known these

462
00:22:07,200 --> 00:22:10,640
Speaker 1: people your whole lives. And like we said, just because

463
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Speaker 1: you grew up in the same house doesn't mean you

464
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Speaker 1: have the same views, you have anything in common. Like

465
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Speaker 1: you were saying, like your whole family has different political

466
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Speaker 1: views than you. I have parts of my family who

467
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Speaker 1: have different ones than me, And so it's like, what

468
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Speaker 1: do you do because there are so many divisive topics

469
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Speaker 1: and there's so many sticky situations that it's just like

470
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Speaker 1: what you're saying with the dishes. It's like you have

471
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Speaker 1: one little thing said and it just sets somebody off

472
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Speaker 1: and then the whole night is ruined.

473
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Speaker 3: That's ruined.

474
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Speaker 1: I will say my parents have a seventy two hour rule,

475
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Speaker 1: like they can be in the like same vicinity as

476
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Speaker 1: the family for the extended family for seventy two hours.

477
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Speaker 1: That's a rule they've put on themselves. They won't do

478
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Speaker 1: over that. I think it even got to like forty

479
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Speaker 1: eight hours. Was between forty eight and seventy two sometimes,

480
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Speaker 1: but they say because you know, they want to go in,

481
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Speaker 1: and they also grade themselves, so they're like, I want

482
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Speaker 1: to go in and I want to make an a

483
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Speaker 1: whenever you know, I want to be nice to everyone

484
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Speaker 1: or whatever. I'm okay with a B or a C,

485
00:23:10,200 --> 00:23:12,119
Speaker 1: but when you get to a C, I mean a

486
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Speaker 1: D or an F, like it's not going to be good.

487
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Speaker 1: And the longer you're there, obviously you can't. Like it's

488
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Speaker 1: just as hard to.

489
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Speaker 2: Turn it around too. Once it starts to go south,

490
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Speaker 2: it's like it's time to go.

491
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Speaker 1: Well, and it's just like everyone gets a little comfortable,

492
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Speaker 1: you know, you kind of just don't have your filter

493
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Speaker 1: on anymore. And so they just have said, like that

494
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Speaker 1: way we still get good quality time with people, but

495
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Speaker 1: it's also not pushing it too far, because after seventy

496
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Speaker 1: two hours, it's like it's hard to keep the calm

497
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Speaker 1: and the piece, you know, like all bets are off,

498
00:23:45,000 --> 00:23:47,560
Speaker 1: things get a little iffy. So I always thought that

499
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Speaker 1: was like a really good rule. Do you guys have

500
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Speaker 1: any sort of parameters in your family?

501
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Speaker 3: Not really?

502
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Speaker 2: I mean I'm I'm maybe trying to make some for myself,

503
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Speaker 2: because yeah, they spend so much more time together than

504
00:24:02,200 --> 00:24:05,960
Speaker 2: I do, so I feel like I'm I'm the trigger

505
00:24:06,160 --> 00:24:11,840
Speaker 2: in some ways, right, And so you know it's like

506
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Speaker 2: the older I get, I'm like, I just there's only

507
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Speaker 2: so many more years.

508
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Speaker 3: I'm gonna have my parents at Christmas.

509
00:24:17,200 --> 00:24:18,879
Speaker 2: And it's like that's just a reality, and I'm not

510
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Speaker 2: trying to bring the conversation down.

511
00:24:20,119 --> 00:24:23,400
Speaker 3: It's just true. So I need to do my.

512
00:24:23,480 --> 00:24:26,840
Speaker 2: Best to make sure that you know, it's like I

513
00:24:26,960 --> 00:24:28,840
Speaker 2: enjoy it, and I like, I want to go home

514
00:24:28,880 --> 00:24:32,840
Speaker 2: and have fun and like make memories and you know,

515
00:24:33,119 --> 00:24:35,640
Speaker 2: have them, wish that I was around more and all

516
00:24:35,680 --> 00:24:38,080
Speaker 2: of those things. So I did a little bit of

517
00:24:38,119 --> 00:24:41,760
Speaker 2: research and I found some some tips I'm gonna use

518
00:24:41,800 --> 00:24:44,479
Speaker 2: that I'm not gonna it's a pretty exhausting list, but

519
00:24:44,560 --> 00:24:47,040
Speaker 2: like the first one is manager expectations, and I think

520
00:24:47,080 --> 00:24:49,840
Speaker 2: that's something that like I'm putting it on myself, like

521
00:24:50,680 --> 00:24:53,520
Speaker 2: I know what it's like, I need to like it's

522
00:24:53,520 --> 00:24:56,159
Speaker 2: not gonna change, because that's the definition of insanity for

523
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Speaker 2: me to expect that it's going to be different this year.

524
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Speaker 2: The only thing that I can guarantee that different is

525
00:25:00,680 --> 00:25:03,120
Speaker 2: the way that I act. So I'm going to manage

526
00:25:03,160 --> 00:25:07,480
Speaker 2: thats adjusting my mindset. I think that feels the same

527
00:25:07,520 --> 00:25:11,119
Speaker 2: way it says, emphasize your shared interest. So it's like,

528
00:25:12,400 --> 00:25:14,800
Speaker 2: you know, it's maybe we don't need to talk about

529
00:25:14,800 --> 00:25:17,320
Speaker 2: politics let's talk about other things. Maybe we should sit

530
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Speaker 2: around and talk about our grandparents who aren't with us anymore,

531
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Speaker 2: or pets that we used to love, or you know, fun,

532
00:25:23,600 --> 00:25:27,399
Speaker 2: you know, holiday memories. Maybe it's sitting around and listening

533
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Speaker 2: to Christmas music and singing as a family or something

534
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Speaker 2: like that. I mean, my family wouldn't do that, but

535
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Speaker 2: I know that there are musical families. Set a time

536
00:25:35,200 --> 00:25:39,560
Speaker 2: limit on your visit so that plays. Yes, yeah, find

537
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Speaker 2: common ground. Avoid that family member. So there's usually the

538
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Speaker 2: one person.

539
00:25:44,960 --> 00:25:47,040
Speaker 1: That really is and you know it is.

540
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Speaker 3: So avoid that person. Remove yourself when you can.

541
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Speaker 2: So if you feel that something is getting heated, maybe

542
00:25:55,800 --> 00:25:58,159
Speaker 2: go read, you know, go take a walk, take a

543
00:25:58,160 --> 00:26:01,200
Speaker 2: break to self practice self care, find time to work out,

544
00:26:01,440 --> 00:26:04,280
Speaker 2: go take a walk, read, do those of things.

545
00:26:04,400 --> 00:26:06,560
Speaker 3: Meditate in the morning to get yourself centered.

546
00:26:07,720 --> 00:26:09,239
Speaker 2: It says, you know, be the one to host an

547
00:26:09,240 --> 00:26:11,679
Speaker 2: event so that way you're at least like focused on

548
00:26:11,840 --> 00:26:14,280
Speaker 2: like making sure everyone's having a good time and you're

549
00:26:14,280 --> 00:26:17,480
Speaker 2: not worried about yourself having a good time. Obvious one.

550
00:26:17,640 --> 00:26:22,040
Speaker 2: Avoid controversial topics. You know, right they're going to come up.

551
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Speaker 2: But you can be the person that is trying to

552
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Speaker 2: not make them come up, and I tend to be

553
00:26:27,200 --> 00:26:29,920
Speaker 2: the like I start fights and I don't. I don't

554
00:26:29,960 --> 00:26:32,400
Speaker 2: mean to, it's just I get really annoyed. At least

555
00:26:32,480 --> 00:26:35,960
Speaker 2: you have awareness, yeah, be ready to change the subject,

556
00:26:36,040 --> 00:26:36,240
Speaker 2: you know.

557
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Speaker 3: So it's like maybe that's something that I can bring

558
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Speaker 3: to that.

559
00:26:38,880 --> 00:26:42,080
Speaker 2: Like when I feel that something is going awry, I

560
00:26:42,080 --> 00:26:43,720
Speaker 2: can be like, hey, let's just change the subject. Let's

561
00:26:43,720 --> 00:26:47,560
Speaker 2: talk about something that brings us, you know, together. Choose

562
00:26:47,600 --> 00:26:51,439
Speaker 2: your choose your battles. Avoid over indulgence, you know, Like

563
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Speaker 2: I think a lot of us over indulge because we're

564
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Speaker 2: nervous about the situation.

565
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Speaker 1: But then it makes you like more loose lipped and.

566
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Speaker 2: Write and it just elevates everything for sure, and bring

567
00:27:04,080 --> 00:27:07,840
Speaker 2: happy reminders, you know. Like I think that's a really

568
00:27:07,960 --> 00:27:11,080
Speaker 2: nice one. Use your time together as an opportunity to learn.

569
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Speaker 2: And don't be afraid to say no. If there's something

570
00:27:15,480 --> 00:27:18,720
Speaker 2: that you don't want to do, read your body, don't

571
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Speaker 2: do it because you're going to go into it with

572
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Speaker 2: a bad attitude.

573
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Speaker 1: I think that's so true. To go back to it,

574
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Speaker 1: like you said, trying to avoid the hard conversations if

575
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Speaker 1: you find that or if they come up and you

576
00:27:31,440 --> 00:27:34,399
Speaker 1: get stuck. I actually found some tips for that, and

577
00:27:34,440 --> 00:27:35,760
Speaker 1: I'll just read I'm just going to read three of

578
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Speaker 1: them really fast that I thought were really great. But

579
00:27:38,160 --> 00:27:40,399
Speaker 1: so if you do have that one family member that

580
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Speaker 1: always wants to get you hooked into like a political

581
00:27:43,800 --> 00:27:47,200
Speaker 1: conversation or you know, something about like gay rights or

582
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Speaker 1: abortion or racism. I mean, there's a million topics you

583
00:27:50,640 --> 00:27:53,080
Speaker 1: could bring up now that it seems like a lot

584
00:27:53,119 --> 00:27:55,320
Speaker 1: of people have differing views on. So if you do

585
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Speaker 1: find yourself in a conversation, this is from Psychology Today,

586
00:27:58,440 --> 00:28:01,720
Speaker 1: and they said just they said listen, and they said, actually,

587
00:28:01,760 --> 00:28:05,199
Speaker 1: don't just listen, actively listen, use active listening. And you

588
00:28:05,240 --> 00:28:06,879
Speaker 1: and I talk about that a lot, like on this

589
00:28:06,960 --> 00:28:10,359
Speaker 1: podcast because when we're doing interviews sometimes and we're doing

590
00:28:10,359 --> 00:28:12,720
Speaker 1: them on zoom, like things are flying in at the

591
00:28:12,800 --> 00:28:14,600
Speaker 1: top of your computer and you see it and all

592
00:28:14,640 --> 00:28:18,399
Speaker 1: this stuff, but like the conversation actually changes because people

593
00:28:18,480 --> 00:28:22,040
Speaker 1: do feel your energy shift out of the conversation and

594
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Speaker 1: I think all of us really just want to be

595
00:28:24,359 --> 00:28:27,199
Speaker 1: seen and heard a lot, you know, And so they

596
00:28:27,280 --> 00:28:30,919
Speaker 1: say make eye contact, turn your body toward your family member,

597
00:28:31,280 --> 00:28:36,080
Speaker 1: because immediately you're giving this like more open and calm,

598
00:28:36,200 --> 00:28:38,640
Speaker 1: like you're receiving it in a more open and calm way,

599
00:28:38,720 --> 00:28:41,440
Speaker 1: versus like if you're like you know, if your attitude

600
00:28:41,480 --> 00:28:44,040
Speaker 1: and your energy and your body language is all saying

601
00:28:44,080 --> 00:28:48,680
Speaker 1: the like frustration part, it just immediately enters into the conversation.

602
00:28:48,880 --> 00:28:50,840
Speaker 1: So I thought that was a really good one. The

603
00:28:50,880 --> 00:28:55,160
Speaker 1: second one says, use perspective taking to show empathy and

604
00:28:55,200 --> 00:28:58,120
Speaker 1: find common ground you can agree on. So even if

605
00:28:58,160 --> 00:29:00,480
Speaker 1: you don't agree, I will say this. I talked a

606
00:29:00,480 --> 00:29:02,480
Speaker 1: little bit about the job I was on where a

607
00:29:02,520 --> 00:29:04,760
Speaker 1: lot of people had different political views than me, and

608
00:29:05,080 --> 00:29:07,720
Speaker 1: it was just interesting, honestly. Once I just decided to

609
00:29:07,840 --> 00:29:11,760
Speaker 1: like listen to them and not immediately before I even

610
00:29:11,840 --> 00:29:14,840
Speaker 1: met these people have an idea of like what they thought,

611
00:29:15,440 --> 00:29:17,800
Speaker 1: I was really able to find a lot of common ground,

612
00:29:17,920 --> 00:29:20,400
Speaker 1: and it really kind of changed a lot of my

613
00:29:20,480 --> 00:29:22,920
Speaker 1: perspective about all the things that are happening right now

614
00:29:22,960 --> 00:29:25,640
Speaker 1: because most of us are a lot more in the

615
00:29:25,680 --> 00:29:28,000
Speaker 1: middle on most topics and so and.

616
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Speaker 2: We a lot of us live in echo chambers too,

617
00:29:30,400 --> 00:29:35,720
Speaker 2: so I asteners too. It's like it may make you

618
00:29:36,040 --> 00:29:39,880
Speaker 2: think a little differently, you know, or maybe it refines

619
00:29:40,120 --> 00:29:42,600
Speaker 2: you know, maybe it sharpens the way that maybe it's

620
00:29:42,640 --> 00:29:44,880
Speaker 2: it takes you even further away from that person's opinion,

621
00:29:45,520 --> 00:29:48,360
Speaker 2: but at least it's because you've listened, not just.

622
00:29:48,320 --> 00:29:51,640
Speaker 1: Because, right, And most of the time, I mean, there

623
00:29:51,640 --> 00:29:53,920
Speaker 1: are definitely exceptions to what I'm about to say, but

624
00:29:54,000 --> 00:29:56,080
Speaker 1: I do feel like most of the time, if we

625
00:29:56,200 --> 00:29:59,440
Speaker 1: lead with love and empathy, it's usually how the other

626
00:29:59,480 --> 00:30:02,680
Speaker 1: personal responds, even if they're not doing it as much

627
00:30:02,680 --> 00:30:05,480
Speaker 1: as you or in the same way or the way

628
00:30:05,480 --> 00:30:09,200
Speaker 1: you would want. It does seem to be like whatever

629
00:30:09,280 --> 00:30:12,280
Speaker 1: you lead with, people aren't gonna like fully come to

630
00:30:12,360 --> 00:30:16,080
Speaker 1: you completely combative if you're not going to fight them, right,

631
00:30:16,520 --> 00:30:16,720
Speaker 1: you know.

632
00:30:17,040 --> 00:30:17,160
Speaker 2: Right.

633
00:30:18,280 --> 00:30:21,080
Speaker 1: The third one I said is remember the universal needs

634
00:30:21,080 --> 00:30:23,760
Speaker 1: of being well liked and being able to make your

635
00:30:23,760 --> 00:30:28,840
Speaker 1: own choices, which is like huge, huge on human nature

636
00:30:28,880 --> 00:30:31,440
Speaker 1: in general, because no matter who you are, I do

637
00:30:31,560 --> 00:30:33,520
Speaker 1: think you give a shit about if people like you

638
00:30:33,640 --> 00:30:36,840
Speaker 1: or not. Some people obviously care way more, but there's

639
00:30:36,840 --> 00:30:39,800
Speaker 1: something deep inside of all of us that's like looking

640
00:30:39,840 --> 00:30:43,200
Speaker 1: for at least someone to connect to. So you can

641
00:30:43,280 --> 00:30:46,239
Speaker 1: like keep that in mind, you're not probably gonna like

642
00:30:46,320 --> 00:30:49,000
Speaker 1: shoot people down as fast, right, right, yeah, you know.

643
00:30:49,800 --> 00:30:51,240
Speaker 1: And then the thing about being able to make your

644
00:30:51,280 --> 00:30:53,360
Speaker 1: own choice. Is like we do live in America. That's

645
00:30:53,400 --> 00:30:56,680
Speaker 1: why we all live here, and so it's just like you,

646
00:30:57,040 --> 00:30:59,960
Speaker 1: not everyone has to agree. We have like completely low

647
00:31:00,200 --> 00:31:03,880
Speaker 1: the ability to just have tolerance about differing opinions. And

648
00:31:03,920 --> 00:31:06,000
Speaker 1: it's just interesting if you can take a step back

649
00:31:06,000 --> 00:31:09,040
Speaker 1: for a second and listen and kind of go, huh,

650
00:31:09,080 --> 00:31:11,320
Speaker 1: that's not what I think or I don't agree, but

651
00:31:12,200 --> 00:31:14,959
Speaker 1: you're entitled to your own opinion. Like it sounds so simple,

652
00:31:15,000 --> 00:31:16,720
Speaker 1: but in the moment, it's so hard.

653
00:31:17,360 --> 00:31:21,760
Speaker 2: I mean it's it is a very difficult thing to navigate.

654
00:31:22,240 --> 00:31:31,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, good one those is of water. Have you ever

655
00:31:31,120 --> 00:31:32,600
Speaker 1: gotten a Christmas gift you didn't like?

656
00:31:32,920 --> 00:31:33,120
Speaker 2: Oh?

657
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Speaker 3: My god, all the time. And it's usually my fault

658
00:31:36,480 --> 00:31:40,040
Speaker 3: because I'm really bad about asking for things. Okay, so

659
00:31:40,120 --> 00:31:40,880
Speaker 3: I get things.

660
00:31:40,640 --> 00:31:43,080
Speaker 2: That I don't need or like sure that I would

661
00:31:43,120 --> 00:31:47,600
Speaker 2: never wear. I also love about it. I mean I

662
00:31:47,680 --> 00:31:49,520
Speaker 2: try to act like I love it, and then I

663
00:31:49,520 --> 00:31:50,959
Speaker 2: write a very sweet thinking note.

664
00:31:52,040 --> 00:31:54,520
Speaker 1: You know, like that you just perpetuate the issue.

665
00:31:54,760 --> 00:31:56,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean it's I don't know how to tell

666
00:31:56,920 --> 00:32:00,640
Speaker 2: somebody I don't like something, and it goes back like

667
00:32:00,680 --> 00:32:05,720
Speaker 2: as a kid, I I used to beg my mom

668
00:32:05,840 --> 00:32:08,160
Speaker 2: to like not make me open my birthday presents at

669
00:32:08,160 --> 00:32:10,600
Speaker 2: my party because I was always terrified I was gonna

670
00:32:10,600 --> 00:32:14,240
Speaker 2: get something I didn't like you people, you know, yeah,

671
00:32:14,440 --> 00:32:15,720
Speaker 2: because I had no poker face.

672
00:32:15,760 --> 00:32:17,840
Speaker 3: I still don't like you know what I'm.

673
00:32:17,720 --> 00:32:24,960
Speaker 1: Lying You're like, oh this thing, I know that means

674
00:32:25,000 --> 00:32:26,880
Speaker 1: you really liked your birthday gift from me that I

675
00:32:27,120 --> 00:32:29,960
Speaker 1: loved you. I gave him a sweatshirt that says sports

676
00:32:29,960 --> 00:32:32,320
Speaker 1: ball and he like squealed.

677
00:32:33,040 --> 00:32:34,800
Speaker 3: I put it on immediately, immediately.

678
00:32:36,920 --> 00:32:37,200
Speaker 1: Yeah.

679
00:32:37,280 --> 00:32:37,479
Speaker 2: I mean.

680
00:32:37,520 --> 00:32:40,440
Speaker 1: The other thing is it's like I just sort of

681
00:32:40,480 --> 00:32:41,920
Speaker 1: think of gifts at this point in my life. I'm

682
00:32:41,920 --> 00:32:44,280
Speaker 1: just so grateful that people even like offer a gift.

683
00:32:44,360 --> 00:32:47,480
Speaker 1: It's so sweet and kind, like, yeah, it's just nice

684
00:32:47,520 --> 00:32:49,400
Speaker 1: that people would think about that. But my mom started

685
00:32:49,400 --> 00:32:51,480
Speaker 1: giving us money a long time ago in stead because

686
00:32:51,480 --> 00:32:53,160
Speaker 1: she was just like, I just I don't even want

687
00:32:53,200 --> 00:32:55,160
Speaker 1: to deal with it, like I know, you guys would

688
00:32:55,200 --> 00:32:56,720
Speaker 1: rather just go buy what you want to buy. So

689
00:32:56,840 --> 00:32:58,920
Speaker 1: here I was. And when she switched that that was

690
00:32:58,960 --> 00:33:01,160
Speaker 1: when I was like in college. I just thought, well,

691
00:33:01,160 --> 00:33:02,240
Speaker 1: this is the best thing ever.

692
00:33:02,680 --> 00:33:04,760
Speaker 2: It's the best thing ever. I It's funny because I

693
00:33:04,800 --> 00:33:07,200
Speaker 2: do I keep a note like I'll think like, oh,

694
00:33:07,400 --> 00:33:08,959
Speaker 2: this is something that I need and I don't need

695
00:33:09,000 --> 00:33:11,600
Speaker 2: it urgently. I'll write this down and I'll be able

696
00:33:11,600 --> 00:33:14,719
Speaker 2: to give it to my mom, right And I was

697
00:33:14,760 --> 00:33:17,480
Speaker 2: looking at my note from last year in my phone

698
00:33:17,560 --> 00:33:19,520
Speaker 2: so I could tell her some things for this year.

699
00:33:19,840 --> 00:33:21,280
Speaker 2: And there's one of the things that I asked her

700
00:33:21,280 --> 00:33:23,800
Speaker 2: to get me last year that she didn't and or

701
00:33:23,840 --> 00:33:25,040
Speaker 2: she like got me the wrong.

702
00:33:24,880 --> 00:33:25,400
Speaker 3: Version of it.

703
00:33:25,480 --> 00:33:28,040
Speaker 2: And I was like, fucking I just ordered it myself

704
00:33:28,160 --> 00:33:33,280
Speaker 2: on Amazon and it literally came right before we were Yeah,

705
00:33:33,360 --> 00:33:35,360
Speaker 2: I ordered it for myself. It's here, like I'm not

706
00:33:35,360 --> 00:33:36,880
Speaker 2: going to ask her for it, like she sucked it

707
00:33:36,920 --> 00:33:38,280
Speaker 2: up last year, so.

708
00:33:41,520 --> 00:33:42,000
Speaker 3: I uh.

709
00:33:42,040 --> 00:33:44,720
Speaker 2: And it's so funny, like I may have told this

710
00:33:44,800 --> 00:33:48,480
Speaker 2: one here, but like one one Christmas, you know, when

711
00:33:48,600 --> 00:33:51,160
Speaker 2: like instapot was like all the chance everyone was getting

712
00:33:51,200 --> 00:33:53,400
Speaker 2: insta pot. I was like, because I'm not a good cook,

713
00:33:53,440 --> 00:33:55,720
Speaker 2: but instapot seems like an easy way to cook things.

714
00:33:55,800 --> 00:33:56,240
Speaker 1: Yeah it does.

715
00:33:56,320 --> 00:33:57,640
Speaker 2: I was like, I want to insta pot, and my

716
00:33:57,720 --> 00:33:59,719
Speaker 2: sister got me like the JC Penny version of an

717
00:33:59,720 --> 00:34:01,000
Speaker 2: instat It was called like the.

718
00:34:00,920 --> 00:34:02,960
Speaker 1: One divo over here.

719
00:34:03,120 --> 00:34:05,640
Speaker 2: Well, but here's the thing and I appreciate it. It

720
00:34:05,680 --> 00:34:08,479
Speaker 2: was like a nice gift. It was thoughtful. But there's

721
00:34:08,520 --> 00:34:11,880
Speaker 2: no fucking recipes online for the jac cook and the

722
00:34:11,920 --> 00:34:14,560
Speaker 2: buttons don't like none of it lines up with all

723
00:34:14,560 --> 00:34:17,400
Speaker 2: the instapot recipes. So it's like, I.

724
00:34:18,600 --> 00:34:20,959
Speaker 3: Shit, you had like burn shit or like it didn't

725
00:34:21,000 --> 00:34:22,719
Speaker 3: have the right button. I was like, god, damn it.

726
00:34:23,120 --> 00:34:26,800
Speaker 2: So I've never used I've used it like four times,

727
00:34:27,160 --> 00:34:31,399
Speaker 2: you know, so like saving ten dollars is sometimes, you.

728
00:34:31,320 --> 00:34:33,319
Speaker 1: Know, I just made it something you don't use.

729
00:34:33,560 --> 00:34:35,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like it became a complete waste of money.

730
00:34:36,360 --> 00:34:38,160
Speaker 1: What are your plans this year for Christmas? Are you

731
00:34:38,160 --> 00:34:38,680
Speaker 1: going home?

732
00:34:39,400 --> 00:34:43,320
Speaker 2: Yes, I'm going to go home for like seven days,

733
00:34:43,360 --> 00:34:44,360
Speaker 2: eight days something like that.

734
00:34:44,400 --> 00:34:46,880
Speaker 3: I'm going to take the dog and drive to Virginia.

735
00:34:47,000 --> 00:34:48,440
Speaker 2: Do the thing, do the thing.

736
00:34:48,440 --> 00:34:48,919
Speaker 3: What are you doing?

737
00:34:49,000 --> 00:34:52,120
Speaker 1: Damn, I'm going home for like three days. I adopted

738
00:34:52,160 --> 00:34:54,319
Speaker 1: my parents' seventy two hour rule.

739
00:34:54,800 --> 00:34:55,440
Speaker 3: Oh there you go.

740
00:34:55,560 --> 00:34:58,240
Speaker 1: But really it's just because my parents live in Texas,

741
00:34:58,280 --> 00:35:00,360
Speaker 1: which is I never grew up there. I don't have

742
00:35:00,400 --> 00:35:03,920
Speaker 1: any friends there, Like, it's just where they are right now.

743
00:35:03,920 --> 00:35:07,759
Speaker 1: They're actually probably about to move up here, but and

744
00:35:08,000 --> 00:35:11,040
Speaker 1: they were here for Thanksgiving. My Mom's coming this week. Like,

745
00:35:11,160 --> 00:35:13,080
Speaker 1: I've had a lot of time with them, and so

746
00:35:13,160 --> 00:35:15,520
Speaker 1: I don't feel like I need to sit in Houston

747
00:35:16,120 --> 00:35:18,879
Speaker 1: for a long time, you know, just a little visit.

748
00:35:19,600 --> 00:35:21,879
Speaker 3: I love a three day trip there.

749
00:35:21,920 --> 00:35:24,399
Speaker 2: But when I if I'm taking my dog, like it's

750
00:35:24,400 --> 00:35:25,280
Speaker 2: a long drive.

751
00:35:25,480 --> 00:35:27,600
Speaker 3: So yeah, it takes about a day each way.

752
00:35:28,080 --> 00:35:28,600
Speaker 1: It's a lot.

753
00:35:28,840 --> 00:35:31,040
Speaker 3: So yeah, it's a lot to just do for a weekend.

754
00:35:31,239 --> 00:35:34,840
Speaker 1: So well, I really do wish you guys the merriest

755
00:35:34,880 --> 00:35:37,000
Speaker 1: of Christmases. We'll be back next week. We do have

756
00:35:37,040 --> 00:35:40,719
Speaker 1: one more episode for you guys this year, but if

757
00:35:40,800 --> 00:35:42,640
Speaker 1: you have any.

758
00:35:42,360 --> 00:35:44,440
Speaker 2: Would you say I'm squealing about that? Oh?

759
00:35:44,600 --> 00:35:47,120
Speaker 1: Literally, Chip has not shut up about this interview. I've

760
00:35:47,320 --> 00:35:51,840
Speaker 1: never seen him fangirl more. Ever, Like literally ever.

761
00:35:53,480 --> 00:36:00,120
Speaker 2: They'll recognize it too, They'll know I'm just I'm not

762
00:36:00,160 --> 00:36:01,040
Speaker 2: even gonna talk about it.

763
00:36:01,160 --> 00:36:04,600
Speaker 1: You better be here next week, thank you, guys. But

764
00:36:04,640 --> 00:36:07,080
Speaker 1: if you do go into the holidays and funny story

765
00:36:07,080 --> 00:36:09,120
Speaker 1: comes up, you know you can always email us and

766
00:36:09,200 --> 00:36:11,560
Speaker 1: tell us because we'll really be in that with you

767
00:36:11,960 --> 00:36:14,719
Speaker 1: at the edge at Velvet Sedge dot com. You guys

768
00:36:14,719 --> 00:36:17,520
Speaker 1: can also hit me up on Instagram. I'm at Velvet's Edge.

769
00:36:17,600 --> 00:36:20,800
Speaker 2: Chip I'm at chip Doors. It's h I P D

770
00:36:20,920 --> 00:36:22,440
Speaker 2: O R S C H.

771
00:36:22,680 --> 00:36:25,400
Speaker 1: As you guys go into the weekend and the holidays,

772
00:36:25,640 --> 00:36:27,440
Speaker 1: I hope that you're living on the edge, and I

773
00:36:27,440 --> 00:36:30,920
Speaker 1: hope that you always remember to act merrily.

774
00:36:32,200 --> 00:36:32,600
Speaker 3: Casual.

775
00:36:32,960 --> 00:36:33,320
Speaker 2: Casual.

776
00:36:34,040 --> 00:36:37,800
Speaker 1: Casual seems very pertinent here. Yeah, yeah, be very casual,

777
00:36:38,320 --> 00:36:42,000
Speaker 1: be real casual cash all right, Bye bye