1 00:00:00,280 --> 00:00:02,960 Speaker 1: I broke up with my partner of nineteen years, but 2 00:00:03,080 --> 00:00:07,360 Speaker 1: now he thinks I owe him seventy three thousand dollars. 3 00:00:07,760 --> 00:00:11,200 Speaker 1: I forty two female broke it off with my partner 4 00:00:11,360 --> 00:00:14,160 Speaker 1: forty two mail after nineteen years of being a couple 5 00:00:14,400 --> 00:00:16,919 Speaker 1: this week. There were a number of problems that we 6 00:00:16,920 --> 00:00:19,800 Speaker 1: couldn't resolved, and a long history of it being partially 7 00:00:19,960 --> 00:00:23,920 Speaker 1: both our faults on most things. We never officially married ever, 8 00:00:24,160 --> 00:00:27,080 Speaker 1: and our state has no common law. We had some 9 00:00:27,120 --> 00:00:30,080 Speaker 1: shared resources and credit cards seventy K in debt total 10 00:00:30,280 --> 00:00:33,280 Speaker 1: twenty two k directly in his name and forty eight 11 00:00:33,360 --> 00:00:36,400 Speaker 1: k directly in mine. We share a car loan together 12 00:00:36,479 --> 00:00:39,760 Speaker 1: with both names on it and registration paid sixteen K 13 00:00:40,000 --> 00:00:43,040 Speaker 1: twenty eight K left. Finally, we share a bank account 14 00:00:43,120 --> 00:00:45,599 Speaker 1: with about six K in it, tied to a three 15 00:00:45,680 --> 00:00:49,159 Speaker 1: hundred and forty K mortgage solely in my name. It 16 00:00:49,200 --> 00:00:53,560 Speaker 1: sounds like their finances are very tied together, which makes 17 00:00:53,600 --> 00:00:56,080 Speaker 1: it hard. I mean, after nine years, even if you 18 00:00:56,120 --> 00:00:59,640 Speaker 1: don't have a common law marriage or you know, legally married, 19 00:01:00,040 --> 00:01:03,680 Speaker 1: you're gonna get a little bit mixed together to twined. 20 00:01:06,920 --> 00:01:10,480 Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from klamydia on the r 21 00:01:10,959 --> 00:01:15,080 Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I was like, yo, what it comes from? 22 00:01:15,160 --> 00:01:19,080 Speaker 1: Chlamydia with a K. The other resources and contention are 23 00:01:19,120 --> 00:01:22,720 Speaker 1: about seven thousand dollars in mechanics tools I bought him 24 00:01:22,920 --> 00:01:26,360 Speaker 1: for college, and about three thousand dollars in personal electronics. 25 00:01:26,360 --> 00:01:29,040 Speaker 1: I also bought for him ten K and value together, 26 00:01:29,280 --> 00:01:32,640 Speaker 1: as well as about seven thousand dollars in tattoos on 27 00:01:32,720 --> 00:01:35,480 Speaker 1: his skin. I've paid for this year. You're paid for 28 00:01:35,560 --> 00:01:39,360 Speaker 1: a lot here. Damn. During this nineteen years together, I 29 00:01:39,440 --> 00:01:43,360 Speaker 1: was the sole financial income the entire time until literally 30 00:01:43,400 --> 00:01:47,200 Speaker 1: one month ago when he finally got employment and started 31 00:01:47,200 --> 00:01:48,480 Speaker 1: to contribute for the first time. 32 00:01:48,880 --> 00:01:49,960 Speaker 2: Do they have kids? 33 00:01:50,360 --> 00:01:53,120 Speaker 1: No, no kids, But they've been together for nineteen years 34 00:01:53,120 --> 00:01:55,360 Speaker 1: and their finances are super intertwined. 35 00:01:54,920 --> 00:01:57,120 Speaker 3: And so I don't know what happens next. But how 36 00:01:57,120 --> 00:02:00,240 Speaker 3: you going to say you owe me seventy three? Yeah? 37 00:02:00,280 --> 00:02:05,360 Speaker 1: After everything, that's pretty ridiculous. And also I don't think 38 00:02:05,360 --> 00:02:08,800 Speaker 1: you're legally entitled to it if there's no common law. 39 00:02:09,040 --> 00:02:11,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, it no longer is a wei. It's a me. 40 00:02:11,800 --> 00:02:14,360 Speaker 1: It's a me, me against you. He made about a 41 00:02:14,440 --> 00:02:17,040 Speaker 1: fifth of my salary as a minimum wage worker during 42 00:02:17,040 --> 00:02:19,800 Speaker 1: this time. For all of these years, he has functioned 43 00:02:19,840 --> 00:02:23,280 Speaker 1: as a caretaker for me emotionally and physically in terms 44 00:02:23,320 --> 00:02:29,520 Speaker 1: of handling everything I never wanted to do, like errands, chores, yardwork, cooking, shopping, 45 00:02:29,600 --> 00:02:33,760 Speaker 1: et cetera. During these years, I psychologically emotionally mistreated him 46 00:02:33,800 --> 00:02:37,520 Speaker 1: as a butler servant. That's good due to not being 47 00:02:37,520 --> 00:02:38,560 Speaker 1: on proper medication. 48 00:02:38,960 --> 00:02:44,400 Speaker 2: Okay, I would like to reind my previous statement. 49 00:02:44,520 --> 00:02:49,640 Speaker 1: Now might need to be financial conversation. Room cut, wipe 50 00:02:49,680 --> 00:02:53,240 Speaker 1: the floors, get on your hands and knees, scrap it 51 00:02:53,240 --> 00:02:57,519 Speaker 1: with your toothbrushes. I figured if I paid for everything 52 00:02:57,600 --> 00:03:00,359 Speaker 1: and he took care of everything that wasn't that was 53 00:03:00,400 --> 00:03:03,040 Speaker 1: an income, that it was fair enough. It wasn't right 54 00:03:03,080 --> 00:03:05,639 Speaker 1: to mistreat him as a servant that I verbally abused. 55 00:03:05,720 --> 00:03:07,760 Speaker 1: But I also had a medical condition in my head 56 00:03:07,919 --> 00:03:12,040 Speaker 1: preventing me from thinking clearly until about five years ago 57 00:03:12,520 --> 00:03:15,320 Speaker 1: when I got proper medication, at which point I started 58 00:03:15,360 --> 00:03:16,360 Speaker 1: treating him as an equal. 59 00:03:16,440 --> 00:03:22,079 Speaker 3: Okay, so I want to believe people change. I want 60 00:03:22,160 --> 00:03:24,960 Speaker 3: to trust that that's a real thing that this person had. 61 00:03:25,200 --> 00:03:31,680 Speaker 3: What medication, what sort of disorder leads you to Okay, narcissis, 62 00:03:31,760 --> 00:03:33,440 Speaker 3: I don't know. You can get meds for narcissism. 63 00:03:33,680 --> 00:03:34,160 Speaker 1: I don't know. 64 00:03:34,680 --> 00:03:37,560 Speaker 3: It leads you to treat somebody like a butler. It's 65 00:03:37,560 --> 00:03:47,640 Speaker 3: called generally you aren't equal. Sorry, I'm better than you. 66 00:03:48,240 --> 00:03:50,960 Speaker 1: I think. I think probably there's something along the lines 67 00:03:51,000 --> 00:03:54,600 Speaker 1: of like new disorder. 68 00:03:55,000 --> 00:03:55,560 Speaker 3: I don't know. 69 00:03:56,280 --> 00:03:59,080 Speaker 1: Doesn't excuse it, but at least so he got meds. 70 00:03:59,560 --> 00:04:04,160 Speaker 1: I guess my question is does opo their partner financial compensation. 71 00:04:04,560 --> 00:04:06,680 Speaker 2: That's what we will find out now. 72 00:04:06,400 --> 00:04:09,680 Speaker 1: As we face the end of our relationship. Diagnostically, this 73 00:04:09,720 --> 00:04:11,520 Speaker 1: is due to me lying dim a lot, and on 74 00:04:11,560 --> 00:04:14,520 Speaker 1: his end, he is a textbook case of vulnerable narcissism 75 00:04:14,720 --> 00:04:16,960 Speaker 1: these sons. I don't think it's true. 76 00:04:16,839 --> 00:04:17,200 Speaker 3: He does. 77 00:04:17,640 --> 00:04:21,440 Speaker 1: He is vulnerable narcisism, and op is lies a lot. 78 00:04:21,560 --> 00:04:21,880 Speaker 2: Okay. 79 00:04:22,440 --> 00:04:25,080 Speaker 1: He is demanding finances so he can start over in 80 00:04:25,160 --> 00:04:27,719 Speaker 1: his life, given that he doesn't really own anything that 81 00:04:27,839 --> 00:04:31,120 Speaker 1: I didn't buy right now, he's asking for the tools, 82 00:04:31,279 --> 00:04:35,240 Speaker 1: the tattoo, coverage, the electronics seventeen K, asking for me 83 00:04:35,320 --> 00:04:37,599 Speaker 1: to pay off the credit card in his name, twenty 84 00:04:37,640 --> 00:04:41,160 Speaker 1: two k of shared household expenses WHOA. He wants about 85 00:04:41,160 --> 00:04:43,400 Speaker 1: six k in cash, and he wants the twenty eight 86 00:04:43,560 --> 00:04:46,839 Speaker 1: K car as well, of which he promised to pay 87 00:04:46,880 --> 00:04:48,760 Speaker 1: me back for someday, but I have no faith he 88 00:04:48,839 --> 00:04:51,560 Speaker 1: ever would because in his eyes, as I have a 89 00:04:51,560 --> 00:04:54,960 Speaker 1: middle management job that pays six figures, these costs all 90 00:04:55,000 --> 00:04:58,440 Speaker 1: seem perfectly reasonable for me to replace the loss of 91 00:04:58,600 --> 00:05:02,320 Speaker 1: seventy three thousand dollar dollars of assets. I have about 92 00:05:02,360 --> 00:05:05,080 Speaker 1: fifty K in assets in a private account of my 93 00:05:05,120 --> 00:05:07,880 Speaker 1: own for savings, because it's a smaller blow to me 94 00:05:07,960 --> 00:05:10,719 Speaker 1: as a high earner, and he wouldn't have the job history, 95 00:05:10,760 --> 00:05:14,120 Speaker 1: slash finances to deal with a twenty two K credit card, 96 00:05:14,360 --> 00:05:17,000 Speaker 1: let alone buying a car so he can go to work, 97 00:05:17,160 --> 00:05:19,279 Speaker 1: and he will need the tools and equipment as well 98 00:05:19,400 --> 00:05:22,880 Speaker 1: because job stuff. I suppose giving him everything would mean 99 00:05:22,920 --> 00:05:26,560 Speaker 1: I'd wipe out my life savings and have to take 100 00:05:26,600 --> 00:05:29,400 Speaker 1: on twenty two K and new debt to replace the 101 00:05:29,440 --> 00:05:32,080 Speaker 1: car he wants. He believes because I have one hundred 102 00:05:32,120 --> 00:05:34,520 Speaker 1: K of a four h one K retirement account I 103 00:05:34,520 --> 00:05:37,280 Speaker 1: can dip into that this shouldn't be a big deal 104 00:05:37,320 --> 00:05:42,400 Speaker 1: for me. Pause. No, I don't think you should give 105 00:05:42,440 --> 00:05:45,080 Speaker 1: him this money. Doesn't excuse your behavior. 106 00:05:45,680 --> 00:05:49,200 Speaker 2: Such a weird relationship. 107 00:05:48,480 --> 00:05:51,360 Speaker 1: Very weird, like they're both at fault in different ways. 108 00:05:51,720 --> 00:05:54,560 Speaker 1: But He's like, I want all of your money now. 109 00:05:54,839 --> 00:05:56,800 Speaker 1: I feel like this is like a drama. 110 00:05:57,360 --> 00:05:59,159 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, like this doesn't seem real. 111 00:05:59,480 --> 00:06:02,560 Speaker 3: I underst stand that he feels like it's going to 112 00:06:02,600 --> 00:06:05,599 Speaker 3: be really hard for him to get out in the 113 00:06:05,640 --> 00:06:08,760 Speaker 3: world and support himself, like right off the bat, and 114 00:06:08,800 --> 00:06:11,600 Speaker 3: that's fair. It's like, yeah, you've had this job for 115 00:06:11,720 --> 00:06:13,960 Speaker 3: the past twenty years. Yeah, and I'm going to have 116 00:06:13,960 --> 00:06:16,680 Speaker 3: not had a job making more money, like I've been 117 00:06:16,680 --> 00:06:20,160 Speaker 3: here supporting you in the house. Like, however, you want 118 00:06:20,200 --> 00:06:22,320 Speaker 3: to call the split blah blah blah blah blah. Yeah, 119 00:06:22,360 --> 00:06:23,760 Speaker 3: it is going to be hard for me to get 120 00:06:23,760 --> 00:06:26,279 Speaker 3: a job just because you have a gap in your start. Yeah, 121 00:06:26,279 --> 00:06:28,160 Speaker 3: like what were you doing for the last twenty years? Oh, 122 00:06:28,200 --> 00:06:32,760 Speaker 3: I was a butler, butler for my partner significant other. 123 00:06:32,920 --> 00:06:37,840 Speaker 3: Yeah you know, you know we weren't married, no, no proof, 124 00:06:38,960 --> 00:06:39,960 Speaker 3: but that's what I was doing. 125 00:06:40,600 --> 00:06:41,600 Speaker 2: I promise. 126 00:06:43,600 --> 00:06:44,640 Speaker 1: Cleaning experience. 127 00:06:44,800 --> 00:06:46,039 Speaker 2: Yes, so I. 128 00:06:46,040 --> 00:06:50,440 Speaker 3: Do understand that, Yes, like in an actual divorce that 129 00:06:50,680 --> 00:06:53,200 Speaker 3: there would be a lot of money. Like imagine flip 130 00:06:53,320 --> 00:06:57,320 Speaker 3: the script. It's a guy, it's a girl. The guy 131 00:06:57,360 --> 00:06:59,599 Speaker 3: made the money for a long time. They get divorced 132 00:06:59,600 --> 00:07:02,279 Speaker 3: after two years, the girl usually gets to be entitled 133 00:07:02,320 --> 00:07:04,360 Speaker 3: to a certain like, entitled to a lot to like 134 00:07:04,440 --> 00:07:05,520 Speaker 3: start her own life. 135 00:07:05,600 --> 00:07:08,279 Speaker 2: Absolutely, so flipping the script it makes sense. 136 00:07:08,880 --> 00:07:13,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, However, legally, legally he's not entitled any title. 137 00:07:13,400 --> 00:07:16,680 Speaker 3: But what I do think should probably happen is some 138 00:07:16,760 --> 00:07:18,400 Speaker 3: sort of time period. 139 00:07:18,520 --> 00:07:20,880 Speaker 1: I was going to agree, Will you can stay here? 140 00:07:21,120 --> 00:07:25,720 Speaker 3: You can stay here while you actively get your life together. Yeah, 141 00:07:25,760 --> 00:07:28,960 Speaker 3: you have a year or ye may like months or 142 00:07:28,960 --> 00:07:31,960 Speaker 3: something like that. A couple of months, yeah, months after 143 00:07:31,960 --> 00:07:35,000 Speaker 3: twenty years and not working and supporting this person. 144 00:07:35,480 --> 00:07:37,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, I think there is a fair amount that he 145 00:07:37,880 --> 00:07:41,680 Speaker 1: could ask for in terms of support. But asking for 146 00:07:41,720 --> 00:07:43,360 Speaker 1: her to pay for a new car for her to 147 00:07:43,400 --> 00:07:46,440 Speaker 1: pay for his future tattoos, it seems like because she's 148 00:07:46,440 --> 00:07:50,560 Speaker 1: already paid for the otherwise, it's pretty pretty ridiculous. I 149 00:07:50,560 --> 00:07:53,640 Speaker 1: would say he wants me to surrender all those assets 150 00:07:53,640 --> 00:07:57,000 Speaker 1: to him before he willingly leaves the house and returns 151 00:07:57,040 --> 00:07:59,600 Speaker 1: home to a family who already offered to take him 152 00:07:59,600 --> 00:08:02,880 Speaker 1: in free. If I do that, he will willingly sign 153 00:08:02,960 --> 00:08:07,000 Speaker 1: any forms to disconnect our assets. We share a name 154 00:08:07,040 --> 00:08:09,480 Speaker 1: on which again is the car he wants in the 155 00:08:09,520 --> 00:08:12,480 Speaker 1: credit card. He doesn't want that strictly benefits him. I 156 00:08:12,560 --> 00:08:15,240 Speaker 1: offered to make to maybe buy him a cheaper car 157 00:08:15,320 --> 00:08:18,040 Speaker 1: that isn't quite so much money, but he wasn't interested. 158 00:08:18,160 --> 00:08:20,480 Speaker 1: And I had planned on selling the tools to recoup 159 00:08:20,600 --> 00:08:24,120 Speaker 1: financial losses, but he wants them since I bought them 160 00:08:24,120 --> 00:08:26,920 Speaker 1: for him when he went to college. After I broke 161 00:08:26,960 --> 00:08:30,000 Speaker 1: it off earlier this week, he got very hurt and 162 00:08:30,160 --> 00:08:32,920 Speaker 1: angry with me for stringing us along for the past 163 00:08:33,040 --> 00:08:36,920 Speaker 1: year by lying vulnerable narcissm flirt up. He also felt 164 00:08:37,000 --> 00:08:39,040 Speaker 1: very insulted that I made an offer to give him 165 00:08:39,080 --> 00:08:42,760 Speaker 1: six thousand dollars. Oh my god. So I feel like 166 00:08:42,800 --> 00:08:45,000 Speaker 1: that's a lot, a lot to give someone you're breaking 167 00:08:45,080 --> 00:08:47,360 Speaker 1: up with. If he would willingly get on the plane 168 00:08:47,360 --> 00:08:50,400 Speaker 1: home by Friday, he now wants to interrogate me for 169 00:08:50,440 --> 00:08:53,840 Speaker 1: the truth in person so he understands what went wrong. 170 00:08:53,960 --> 00:08:55,960 Speaker 1: I don't feel safe around him due to his anger 171 00:08:56,000 --> 00:08:59,959 Speaker 1: issues and temper trantrums where he smashes possessions when upset concerned. 172 00:09:00,559 --> 00:09:03,320 Speaker 1: That's tough, so I am coming home early to dodge 173 00:09:03,360 --> 00:09:05,520 Speaker 1: him from picking me up at the airport for safety 174 00:09:05,559 --> 00:09:09,280 Speaker 1: reasons right now and moving him with friends until he leaves. 175 00:09:09,600 --> 00:09:12,120 Speaker 1: He has control of the house, car and all of 176 00:09:12,160 --> 00:09:15,440 Speaker 1: our possessions inside. There's about seventy k and personal possessions 177 00:09:15,480 --> 00:09:18,199 Speaker 1: of mine in the home that I can't really retrieve 178 00:09:18,320 --> 00:09:21,000 Speaker 1: or move to a safe location where he can't smash them, 179 00:09:21,200 --> 00:09:23,760 Speaker 1: and I don't feel comfortable entering the home while he's there. 180 00:09:24,080 --> 00:09:25,960 Speaker 1: I don't want to remain friends with him after this. 181 00:09:26,280 --> 00:09:29,000 Speaker 1: Why would you doesn't make sense. I want him to 182 00:09:29,040 --> 00:09:31,199 Speaker 1: get on the plane back to his family and get 183 00:09:31,360 --> 00:09:34,840 Speaker 1: out of my life. I'm considering filing for protective order, 184 00:09:34,880 --> 00:09:36,760 Speaker 1: even though it's kind of over the top in terms 185 00:09:36,800 --> 00:09:39,160 Speaker 1: of how stable he's been acting to try it to 186 00:09:39,320 --> 00:09:43,000 Speaker 1: isolate me for his interrogation in the interest of making 187 00:09:43,040 --> 00:09:46,199 Speaker 1: it seem reasonable, he wants his friend present to oversee 188 00:09:46,280 --> 00:09:49,840 Speaker 1: the discussion between us, someone I am not mutual friends 189 00:09:49,840 --> 00:09:52,240 Speaker 1: with and don't know. He said I should bring someone 190 00:09:52,280 --> 00:09:54,719 Speaker 1: as well, though the only person I'd have available to 191 00:09:54,760 --> 00:09:57,080 Speaker 1: attend at that time is someone he and his friend 192 00:09:57,400 --> 00:10:01,000 Speaker 1: both deeply hate. The two of them are physically much 193 00:10:01,120 --> 00:10:03,200 Speaker 1: larger than us, and while he's never laid a hand 194 00:10:03,240 --> 00:10:06,680 Speaker 1: on me physically, he frequently smashes objects when he's angry enough. 195 00:10:06,960 --> 00:10:08,440 Speaker 1: So by the way, you can join us live on 196 00:10:08,559 --> 00:10:12,760 Speaker 1: YouTube every weekd A three PMPSD STAP for profile. I 197 00:10:12,840 --> 00:10:15,520 Speaker 1: know this is getting long, so I might realize I 198 00:10:15,559 --> 00:10:17,520 Speaker 1: need to add more context later, but I wanted to 199 00:10:17,520 --> 00:10:19,640 Speaker 1: give a sense of things. Do I just give him 200 00:10:19,640 --> 00:10:21,920 Speaker 1: everything to make him go away? Do I hire a 201 00:10:21,960 --> 00:10:24,520 Speaker 1: lawyer to get involved to keep my assets? Do I 202 00:10:24,559 --> 00:10:27,160 Speaker 1: need to involve the police to force him out? Do 203 00:10:27,240 --> 00:10:29,960 Speaker 1: I subject myself to a phone interrogation in the interest 204 00:10:30,000 --> 00:10:32,000 Speaker 1: of trying to meet him halfway? And those are the 205 00:10:32,080 --> 00:10:34,000 Speaker 1: questions that op he's asking, But that is the end 206 00:10:34,040 --> 00:10:36,680 Speaker 1: of the story. What do you say? What's your answer? 207 00:10:36,840 --> 00:10:37,440 Speaker 2: Phone idea? 208 00:10:37,920 --> 00:10:39,320 Speaker 1: The phone idea to. 209 00:10:39,400 --> 00:10:42,600 Speaker 2: Start the interrogation, whatever this interrogation. 210 00:10:42,200 --> 00:10:44,280 Speaker 1: Is, Oh calling him over and talking over. 211 00:10:44,559 --> 00:10:45,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, he's trying me. 212 00:10:45,720 --> 00:10:49,000 Speaker 1: If you're worried about safety, then I think that's the because. 213 00:10:49,000 --> 00:10:53,720 Speaker 3: There is a lot of gray area with this disorder, 214 00:10:54,200 --> 00:10:57,199 Speaker 3: and like, clearly he's got his issues. Yeah, he smashes 215 00:10:57,280 --> 00:11:00,200 Speaker 3: things when he gets mad. But apparently she also had 216 00:11:00,200 --> 00:11:04,199 Speaker 3: issues for like fifteen years. She said fourteen years. 217 00:11:04,360 --> 00:11:08,360 Speaker 1: Yes, how far. They were both kind of a fault 218 00:11:08,360 --> 00:11:09,079 Speaker 1: in certain ways. 219 00:11:09,360 --> 00:11:13,120 Speaker 3: Yeah, I think they're both kind of weird people, but 220 00:11:13,520 --> 00:11:16,040 Speaker 3: I don't know. I think start with the phone call. 221 00:11:16,320 --> 00:11:18,280 Speaker 3: I don't know what he's trying to get out of it, 222 00:11:18,320 --> 00:11:18,680 Speaker 3: just like. 223 00:11:18,960 --> 00:11:22,880 Speaker 1: I definitely don't think give him the money not yet. Yeah. 224 00:11:23,120 --> 00:11:27,240 Speaker 1: I think maybe someone said lawyer and police, Yeah, don't 225 00:11:27,240 --> 00:11:29,360 Speaker 1: give him the satisfaction just yet. 226 00:11:29,679 --> 00:11:30,160 Speaker 2: I don't know. 227 00:11:30,400 --> 00:11:32,839 Speaker 1: I just think it's I think he's going to keep 228 00:11:32,840 --> 00:11:35,160 Speaker 1: demanding stuff from you if you give in to this, 229 00:11:35,640 --> 00:11:37,600 Speaker 1: I don't think you owe him that amount of money. 230 00:11:37,760 --> 00:11:40,040 Speaker 1: I think the six thousand dollars is more than fair. 231 00:11:40,320 --> 00:11:41,880 Speaker 2: I think there's got to be a timeline. 232 00:11:42,080 --> 00:11:42,440 Speaker 1: I agree. 233 00:11:42,440 --> 00:11:44,160 Speaker 2: In addition, I can't I don't think it's just. 234 00:11:44,120 --> 00:11:47,480 Speaker 3: A piece, but will not only have the new data 235 00:11:47,520 --> 00:11:48,840 Speaker 3: of the free housing. 236 00:11:49,000 --> 00:11:51,199 Speaker 1: The free housing like he's going home, Oh yeah, he's 237 00:11:51,200 --> 00:11:53,040 Speaker 1: going to his family. So it's not like he's going 238 00:11:53,080 --> 00:11:54,959 Speaker 1: to be on you know, on the streets or anything. 239 00:11:55,080 --> 00:11:56,320 Speaker 2: But he doesn't need like a car. 240 00:11:56,720 --> 00:11:59,600 Speaker 3: Yes, So I think it is annoying that he said 241 00:11:59,720 --> 00:12:02,320 Speaker 3: no to the cheaper car. That means he's just not 242 00:12:02,360 --> 00:12:03,800 Speaker 3: willing to like, he's. 243 00:12:03,600 --> 00:12:05,959 Speaker 1: Not willing to make any exactly he wants. He wants 244 00:12:06,120 --> 00:12:07,880 Speaker 1: as much money as he can get out of Opie, 245 00:12:08,160 --> 00:12:10,440 Speaker 1: which I think there are certain scenarios where you know 246 00:12:10,480 --> 00:12:12,720 Speaker 1: a person has a bunch of money, and a person's 247 00:12:12,720 --> 00:12:14,839 Speaker 1: like trying to like, oh, this wouldn't actually, you know, 248 00:12:14,920 --> 00:12:19,400 Speaker 1: hurt you financially, but this would, yeah, like savings completely 249 00:12:19,400 --> 00:12:23,280 Speaker 1: wipe out all of OPC savings, which would hurt opie financially. 250 00:12:24,240 --> 00:12:27,480 Speaker 1: So yeah, I don't think you should give those that money.