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Speaker 1: I wanted to do a tradition for my wedding, but

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Speaker 1: my fiance called it tacky.

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Speaker 3: Well, I think your fiance is tacky.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if I'm going crazy or what, but

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Speaker 1: my fiance and I are having a huge argument. We

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Speaker 1: twenty seven male twenty six female, aren't even married yet,

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Speaker 1: and we've never had an argument like this before in

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Speaker 1: our entire relationship. By the way, this comes from Okay

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Speaker 1: I'm Carly, I'm Sophia, and we're here to give good advice. Goofily.

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Speaker 1: But we don't have all the answers. We only know

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Speaker 1: what we would do. Let us know what you would

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Speaker 1: do in the comments, and OPI says in my home province,

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Speaker 1: engaged couples host a party before their wedding. People call

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Speaker 1: it different things, a social or a jack and jill

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Speaker 1: or a stag and doe. The purpose is for the

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Speaker 1: couple to raise money. The couple rent a hall or

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Speaker 1: some other venue. People pay an entrance fee, and there

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Speaker 1: are raffles and or games and or a silent auction.

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Speaker 1: Family and friends of the couple donate the prizes. They

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Speaker 1: bring food or a pot loock and booze so drinks

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Speaker 1: can be sold at the party. My fiance says this

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Speaker 1: is the tackiest thing she's ever heard of, and doesn't

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Speaker 1: want us to have one. She refuses, She's like.

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Speaker 3: Party, ew hate parties.

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Speaker 1: I don't want to party. I just want to party

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Speaker 1: at a wedding party.

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Speaker 3: No parties for me, thank you, She said.

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Speaker 1: It is the height of rudeness to hold a party

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Speaker 1: where the guests have to pay to attend, donate prizes

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Speaker 1: and money, and bring the food and booze.

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Speaker 3: Oh okay, that's what she's saying. Stacky just just didn't

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Speaker 3: want to have a party. I was like, girl, what.

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Speaker 1: I was also kind of like just because I had

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Speaker 1: never heard of it. Yeah, shocked that the guests bring

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Speaker 1: all of that and still pay.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, No, that's a little bit weird.

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Speaker 1: It's common to invite people to this if you are

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Speaker 1: close to them as friends, but not close enough to

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Speaker 1: invite them to your wedding.

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Speaker 3: Oh, it got worse, It got worse.

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Speaker 1: Oh, it's worse the actual tradition for your province or

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Speaker 1: that's just what like you have turned.

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Speaker 3: Into it like going on going on in Canada.

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Speaker 1: But my fiance almost exploded when she found out. She says,

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Speaker 1: there's no way we're having one, and we'll have the

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Speaker 1: wedding and honeymoon we can afford. Yeah. I don't know

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Speaker 1: what her problem is. I've been to a ton of

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Speaker 1: these in my life. Everyone I know who has gotten

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Speaker 1: married has had one. My fiance said they don't have

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Speaker 1: this in her home province, and she's never heard of

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Speaker 1: it before. I don't know if it's common in the

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Speaker 3: That's a big thing to find out.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, because this could also get tricky because it's like, Okay,

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Speaker 1: your friends and family won't bat not yeah, but hers will.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, they'll be like this is weird.

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Speaker 1: And if your friends are from your current one, they

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Speaker 3: Yeah. I think if I had a tradition that involved

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Speaker 3: like other people spending money, I wouldn't you know, just

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Speaker 3: not everyone does is, I'd be like, Okay, maybe maybe

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Speaker 3: it's not the best thing to.

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Speaker 1: Do, right, or maybe just have it in Opee's home

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Speaker 3: They can spend money on you guys.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and then they all know the tradition.

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Speaker 1: I went back home to my cousin stagin Doau when

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Speaker 1: My fiance doesn't come from a province where this is done.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and there we go, easy solution and if you

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I've never argued with anyone about anything so much in

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Speaker 3: I don't understand why Op is so like digging his

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Speaker 1: Because your fiance is like, I'm wildly uncomfortable with the

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Speaker 1: this badly? I don't understand.

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Speaker 3: I don't understand why.

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Speaker 1: I think she's overreacting, and I'm tired of arguing. We

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Speaker 1: have some top in relevant comments, and we do have

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Speaker 1: one comment from Ope oh boy. I apologize Freddie misunderstanding,

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Speaker 1: but I am confused. My fiance and I are both white.

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Speaker 1: both sets of my grandparents immigrated here from Scotland. Her

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Speaker 1: same race. Again, if I misunderstood your post, I'm sorry,

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Speaker 1: but I really don't understand what our race or culture

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Speaker 3: Well. I think people were asked want to know where

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Speaker 3: you live. Yeah, he's like, I don't know, what do

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Speaker 3: you mean, like race or culture? What is that? Like

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Speaker 3: they're just making sure there's no other reason why you

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Speaker 3: were so very different from your fiance. You have an update,

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Speaker 3: Oh boy, oh boy, if you're trying to argue and

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Speaker 1: I do think it comes down to, like, how much

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Speaker 1: are you gonna value your future wife's discomfort here? Like

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Speaker 1: she's communicating seemingly well in being like this makes me

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Speaker 1: really uncomfortable. I don't feel good about asking people for money,

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Speaker 1: and you're just like, I want to have a party.

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Speaker 1: Let me let me update over six months later. So

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Speaker 1: the update is my twenty eight male fiance twenty seven

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that makes sense. If you can't get over this hurdle,

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Speaker 1: Back then, I had no idea all the arguing and

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Speaker 1: our relationship and things began to fall apart. It sounds

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Speaker 1: like very stubborn person. Okay, you sound very stubborn. Maybe

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I regret the way I acted and the things I said.

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Speaker 1: No matter how much we were fighting, I know at

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Speaker 1: the end of the day, the breakup was ultimately my

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Speaker 3: Makes sense.

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Speaker 1: There was a big divide between us because my ex

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Speaker 1: fiance and her family and friends thought having a social

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Speaker 1: Jack and Jill before the wedding was tacky and the

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Speaker 1: height of rudeness. Me and my family and my friends

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Speaker 1: thought having one was fine. The wedding was supposed to

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Speaker 1: be on Saturday today. We would have been four days

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Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story. We're gonna go

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Speaker 1: to the next one.

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Speaker 3: I got into a drinking contest with my date and

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Speaker 1: That's hilarious.

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Speaker 3: to begin with this, and to be honest, I found

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Speaker 3: this place by just googling relationship advice but here it goes.

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Speaker 3: So over the weekend, I went out on a third

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Speaker 1: Oh no, you work with them too.

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Speaker 3: This is awful. This is the worst case scenario. But

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Speaker 1: You're fineything's fine.

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Speaker 3: We haven't made anything official, but I guess I'll call

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Speaker 3: him my boy friend. He's not your boyfriend yet on

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Speaker 3: a trip to a casino with a friend of his

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Speaker 3: met these people before this. By the way, this comes

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Speaker 3: go to the r slash Okay, storytime suvered it. I'm Sophia,

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Speaker 3: I'm Carly, and we're here to give God de vice. Goofy.

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Speaker 3: But we don't have all the answers. We only know

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Speaker 3: do in the comments, and Opie says, it's also worth

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Speaker 3: mentioning that everything before now has been basically a dream

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Speaker 3: first sight with this guy, instant butterflies, which makes remembering

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Speaker 3: My boyfriend's friend turned out to be a really chill guy. However,

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Speaker 3: Oh. Everything out of her mouth directed towards me was

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Speaker 3: either a put down towards my job, don't you share

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: My education, my car, or backwards compliment about my looks.

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Speaker 3: My boyfriend did his fair share of teasing her back.

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Speaker 3: I'm a sensitive person, so I wasn't handling her behavior

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Speaker 3: with her. I thought it was with your boyfriend.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I thought it was like trying to match yeah

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Speaker 3: Yeah tough. It started when we all took a shot

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Speaker 3: Well, it's just that being like, I'm like anymore.

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Speaker 1: Honestly, no, you kind of just gotta face him. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's gonna be awkward, but you just got to get

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Speaker 3: It is like I love when you peed the bed.

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Speaker 3: That was so fun.

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Speaker 1: No, but like in a weird roundabout way of like

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Speaker 3: I think you have to apologize.

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Speaker 1: Know, and I don't just snapping him. Yes, yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 3: I think those would be the two things, because peeing

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Speaker 3: that is not the most worrying thing. I think it's

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Speaker 3: I don't know figure out why you did that first

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Speaker 3: that never happens again. That would be my advice. We'll

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Speaker 3: see if it works. Roman comments Moonlit Cat says, this

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Speaker 3: Be honest with him. Tell him that you feel incredibly

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Speaker 3: Advocate says, what do I do from here? Send him

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Speaker 3: a message thanking him for taking care of you, an

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Speaker 3: to message him again if he says yes, arrange a

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Speaker 3: Last bit may seem not necessary, but it serves as

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Speaker 3: in the past as you move forward. An update two

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Speaker 3: days later, boy, let's see if OPI took that advice

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Speaker 3: and out went. First of all, and possibly the most interesting,

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Speaker 3: the night of the date. Oh oh, we're about to

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Speaker 3: find out why she hates o Peace so much.

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Speaker 1: Oh No.

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Speaker 3: I mentioned her name to a friend from high school

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Speaker 3: of our rival swim teams from a different school. That's

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Speaker 3: maybe the stupidest reason that this girl could have hated you,

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Speaker 3: And I want to think that someone could seriously be

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Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe it was more so she was like I

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Speaker 3: We were Bibles. Maybe no Bibles forgot me.

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Speaker 1: I thought about you every day for four years.

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Speaker 3: I never forgot you. Every day I dreamed of going

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Speaker 3: toe to toe again. I really wasn't trying to be nasty,

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Speaker 3: and I don't know anyone else who expects someone to

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Speaker 3: remember someone they've met like once and won against. Now

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Speaker 3: on to what I guess probably most people are interested in.

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Speaker 3: A few hours after I put this post up, he

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Speaker 3: worse than just putting up with what he got to say.

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Speaker 3: Of course, he asked if the reason I hadn't texted

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Speaker 3: I admitted that I was still really ashamed and disgusted

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Speaker 3: the entire reason I let her drag me to her

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Speaker 3: I acted like a huge brat to everyone involved, and

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Speaker 3: I definitely shouldn't be drinking that much. So for those

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Speaker 3: of you who said, so, you're.

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Speaker 1: Right, sounds like that went well, it sounds like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: what were their ages again?

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Speaker 1: Okay, okay, you're out of college. We should drop the

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Speaker 3: Definitely crazy that she even remembers you after.

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Speaker 1: Feel like if I saw someone that I like competed

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Speaker 3: I never did high school sports, so you.

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Speaker 1: Like kind of become like friends with the other teams

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Speaker 1: because you see them every time.

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Speaker 3: Clearly not these people.

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Speaker 1: I mean, apparently swim is different.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, they're much more competitive, I guess. But we've got

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Speaker 3: a little bit left. Let's see if Opiece secured the bag,

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Speaker 3: got the boyfriend. After I apologize for the hundredth time

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Speaker 3: of course I had to ask if that meant he

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Speaker 3: big wins. I love it. I'm super grateful to have

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Speaker 3: feel pretty amazing up on those hiosis and forgiving. Maybe

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Speaker 3: I overreacted by crying so much, but I've always been

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Speaker 3: everyone who is concerned in that regard is very kind.

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Speaker 3: Everyone makes mistakes, though maybe not pe the bed level,

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Speaker 3: but the comments are right, and that's the end of

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Speaker 3: that story. My boyfriend has been secretly taking cash on

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Speaker 3: my debit card for years already.

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Speaker 1: He's a thief.

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Speaker 3: Trigger warning for substances. I twenty eight female, don't know

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Speaker 3: where to start. I just found out that my boyfriend,

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Speaker 3: forty one mail has been getting cash back on my

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Speaker 3: debit card without my knowledge. A little background. We live together,

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Speaker 3: he doesn't have an income he gets fired from jobs

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Speaker 3: Money is getting tight. By the way, This comes from

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Speaker 3: Throwaway Nutcracker And if you want to smit your own stories,

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Speaker 3: go to the r sash Okay story. Tim severed it,

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Speaker 3: I'm Sophia, I'm Carly, and we're here to give good

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Speaker 3: advice goofy, but we don't have all the answers. We

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Speaker 3: only know what we do, so let us know what

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Speaker 3: you would do in the comments, and Opie says, I

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00:19:31,400 --> 00:19:34,040
Speaker 3: noticed that the charges from the grocery store were getting higher.

441
00:19:34,160 --> 00:19:36,280
Speaker 3: I asked him about the charges and for the receipt.

442
00:19:36,520 --> 00:19:39,720
Speaker 3: He would get defensive, call me names, walk away, lock

443
00:19:39,800 --> 00:19:42,240
Speaker 3: himself in his car, and accuse me of being insane.

444
00:19:42,320 --> 00:19:45,399
Speaker 3: Every disagreement ended with him blocking me on social media

445
00:19:45,480 --> 00:19:49,119
Speaker 3: and he would change his relationship status to its complicated

446
00:19:49,400 --> 00:19:52,840
Speaker 3: or single. It makes me feel insecure. I apologize and

447
00:19:52,880 --> 00:19:55,000
Speaker 3: try not to think about it. Last week, he asked

448
00:19:55,040 --> 00:19:57,000
Speaker 3: to use my debit card to get drinks and snacks.

449
00:19:57,040 --> 00:19:59,600
Speaker 3: He came back with two Fountain drinks. My card was

450
00:19:59,680 --> 00:20:02,720
Speaker 3: charged over twenty eight dollars. I asked him about it,

451
00:20:02,800 --> 00:20:05,040
Speaker 3: and he said that he didn't owe me an explanation

452
00:20:05,119 --> 00:20:07,800
Speaker 3: for a stupid question. A few hours later, he had

453
00:20:07,840 --> 00:20:09,480
Speaker 3: a change of heart. He told me that the self

454
00:20:09,560 --> 00:20:12,280
Speaker 3: checkout wasn't working in the cashier did the transaction. I

455
00:20:12,320 --> 00:20:14,800
Speaker 3: emailed the store and asked for a receipt. It showed

456
00:20:14,800 --> 00:20:17,720
Speaker 3: me that there was a twenty dollars cash back withdrawal

457
00:20:17,840 --> 00:20:20,600
Speaker 3: and the transaction was done at the self checkout. I

458
00:20:20,680 --> 00:20:23,760
Speaker 3: reached out to other stores and requested receipts. All of

459
00:20:23,760 --> 00:20:26,760
Speaker 3: them show cash withdrawals. So far, there's a total of

460
00:20:26,800 --> 00:20:30,280
Speaker 3: over two hundred dollars. I haven't confronted him. I don't

461
00:20:30,320 --> 00:20:31,600
Speaker 3: know how to bring it up. At least you're not

462
00:20:31,640 --> 00:20:34,159
Speaker 3: giving him his credit card. He has a really bad temper.

463
00:20:34,440 --> 00:20:36,399
Speaker 3: This is the first time I have evidence of his

464
00:20:36,480 --> 00:20:39,600
Speaker 3: betrayal and relevant comments. Peak Penguin says, Oh my god,

465
00:20:39,640 --> 00:20:41,520
Speaker 3: why are you with him? Prisons gives him, says, and

466
00:20:41,600 --> 00:20:43,720
Speaker 3: if he were to go to Walmart and take something

467
00:20:43,760 --> 00:20:46,080
Speaker 3: and just tell them he was borrowing it and would

468
00:20:46,080 --> 00:20:48,080
Speaker 3: return with the money when he got paid, they would

469
00:20:48,080 --> 00:20:50,439
Speaker 3: still arrest him. Hope, he says, speaking of Walmart, I

470
00:20:50,480 --> 00:20:52,680
Speaker 3: refuse to go to Walmart with him. He'll take something,

471
00:20:52,720 --> 00:20:55,760
Speaker 3: then exploit the return policy. He'll tell customer service that

472
00:20:55,800 --> 00:20:58,000
Speaker 3: he paid cash and ask for a gift card. When

473
00:20:58,000 --> 00:21:00,960
Speaker 3: he uses his three returns, he'll ask he needed he returns.

474
00:21:01,119 --> 00:21:03,720
Speaker 3: I refuse. He calls me a dumb witch for refusing

475
00:21:03,800 --> 00:21:07,520
Speaker 3: free money. He calls himself Robin Hood and prides himself,

476
00:21:07,560 --> 00:21:10,359
Speaker 3: I'm taking from the rich slash a big guy. So

477
00:21:10,440 --> 00:21:11,280
Speaker 3: it guy sucks.

478
00:21:11,720 --> 00:21:15,280
Speaker 1: He's actively stealing from Walmart and you know about it. Yes.

479
00:21:15,560 --> 00:21:18,280
Speaker 3: When I voice my disagreement, he gets angry and locks

480
00:21:18,320 --> 00:21:20,960
Speaker 3: himself in the bathroom. I mean, are you dating a toddler?

481
00:21:21,080 --> 00:21:23,960
Speaker 3: He told me that it's Walmart's fault for allowing returns

482
00:21:23,960 --> 00:21:27,720
Speaker 3: without receipts. Everybody does it and acquit acting like a

483
00:21:27,960 --> 00:21:30,679
Speaker 3: scared idiot. There is an update, and if it's not,

484
00:21:30,720 --> 00:21:33,320
Speaker 3: if it doesn't start with I broke out with him.

485
00:21:34,040 --> 00:21:37,040
Speaker 1: Somewhere in the rest of this story. You don't break

486
00:21:37,119 --> 00:21:37,840
Speaker 1: up with this man.

487
00:21:38,119 --> 00:21:42,200
Speaker 3: I'm leaving. Yeah, I'm gone. I'm leaving because I'm ending

488
00:21:42,200 --> 00:21:43,920
Speaker 3: the episode fully.

489
00:21:43,440 --> 00:21:47,119
Speaker 1: My advice at this point is done, my whole My

490
00:21:47,119 --> 00:21:48,240
Speaker 1: advice is break up with him.

491
00:21:48,280 --> 00:21:50,919
Speaker 3: I've given you all the advice I can have. Yeah,

492
00:21:51,040 --> 00:21:53,359
Speaker 3: no more as possible for me, I must send you

493
00:21:53,400 --> 00:21:57,120
Speaker 3: forth sometimes as I am the parent and you are

494
00:21:57,240 --> 00:21:59,400
Speaker 3: the child that I can no longer help.

495
00:21:59,640 --> 00:22:03,000
Speaker 1: There is there's actually nothing you could say that would

496
00:22:03,040 --> 00:22:04,080
Speaker 1: make me change my mind.

497
00:22:04,200 --> 00:22:09,440
Speaker 3: Nope. Eleven days later, Great, the comments were eye opening.

498
00:22:09,720 --> 00:22:12,960
Speaker 3: I realized that I have been completely brainwashed nice okay,

499
00:22:13,119 --> 00:22:16,760
Speaker 3: stripped of my identity, cool, my sense of self, and

500
00:22:16,880 --> 00:22:19,879
Speaker 3: my common sense all true. In my desperation to keep

501
00:22:19,920 --> 00:22:22,800
Speaker 3: the peace, I ignored every red flag what I discovered

502
00:22:22,800 --> 00:22:25,359
Speaker 3: this week. I waited for him to fall asleep. I

503
00:22:25,359 --> 00:22:28,080
Speaker 3: wanted answers without the gas sliding. What amount of money?

504
00:22:28,119 --> 00:22:29,520
Speaker 3: Do you bet that he's cheating?

505
00:22:29,640 --> 00:22:32,840
Speaker 1: Oh? I can see that too, and that's gonna be.

506
00:22:32,840 --> 00:22:37,479
Speaker 3: The reason any others just cheating. I unlocked and snooped

507
00:22:37,520 --> 00:22:39,840
Speaker 3: through his phone, which was not my proudest moment. I

508
00:22:39,880 --> 00:22:40,760
Speaker 3: don't even care.

509
00:22:40,960 --> 00:22:41,640
Speaker 1: And here it is.

510
00:22:42,080 --> 00:22:45,040
Speaker 3: He is active on multiple dating sites, has a Facebook

511
00:22:45,080 --> 00:22:49,159
Speaker 3: page using an alias, and is talking to multiple women. Shocking.

512
00:22:49,960 --> 00:22:52,120
Speaker 3: He's probably running multiple scam.

513
00:22:52,480 --> 00:22:56,200
Speaker 1: He probably also took two hundred off of their debit cards.

514
00:22:56,440 --> 00:22:57,960
Speaker 3: The messages are crazy.

515
00:22:58,080 --> 00:23:00,880
Speaker 1: Oh, he's probably using the money from her debit card

516
00:23:00,880 --> 00:23:01,880
Speaker 1: to pay for them.

517
00:23:02,560 --> 00:23:07,320
Speaker 3: Stop. Oh he's terrible. I bet that's true. He told

518
00:23:07,359 --> 00:23:10,120
Speaker 3: slightly different stories to different women about his living situation

519
00:23:10,240 --> 00:23:13,080
Speaker 3: and income because he's living with OPI. I found messages

520
00:23:13,119 --> 00:23:18,120
Speaker 3: between him and his exes. He told them that I'm insecure, controlling, insane,

521
00:23:18,400 --> 00:23:22,119
Speaker 3: jealous of every female regardless of age and appearance, a

522
00:23:22,200 --> 00:23:25,040
Speaker 3: gold digger that would honestly grind my gears the most.

523
00:23:25,359 --> 00:23:27,360
Speaker 3: I'd be like, you can call me all the other things,

524
00:23:27,840 --> 00:23:28,840
Speaker 3: but a gold digger.

525
00:23:28,920 --> 00:23:31,000
Speaker 1: A gold digger, who am I digging from?

526
00:23:31,080 --> 00:23:31,720
Speaker 2: Yeah?

527
00:23:31,760 --> 00:23:34,600
Speaker 3: I'm sorry, Am I digging from? Like an empty well?

528
00:23:34,880 --> 00:23:36,920
Speaker 1: Yeah? Your gold's been dug buddy.

529
00:23:36,960 --> 00:23:39,720
Speaker 3: Yeah. And that he wants out of the situation. Well,

530
00:23:40,040 --> 00:23:42,640
Speaker 3: I think we're on the same page. These women sympathized

531
00:23:42,640 --> 00:23:45,679
Speaker 3: with him. One woman is recently divorced and waiting for

532
00:23:45,720 --> 00:23:48,280
Speaker 3: her house to close. She invited him to stay with

533
00:23:48,320 --> 00:23:52,080
Speaker 3: her and get away from the insane illegal. He convinced

534
00:23:52,080 --> 00:23:55,120
Speaker 3: these women that he is unemployed because I'm too secure

535
00:23:55,200 --> 00:23:57,480
Speaker 3: to let him work. It makes sense now, he was

536
00:23:57,520 --> 00:24:00,600
Speaker 3: only nice or affectionate when he wanted something. The messages

537
00:24:00,600 --> 00:24:03,480
Speaker 3: about him withdrawing money from my debit card. I snooped

538
00:24:03,480 --> 00:24:06,439
Speaker 3: in the closet and I found needles. Oh and what

539
00:24:06,520 --> 00:24:09,880
Speaker 3: I can only describe as a horrible discovery. I almost

540
00:24:09,920 --> 00:24:12,960
Speaker 3: passed out. Now I know why he needed cash. I

541
00:24:13,000 --> 00:24:17,199
Speaker 3: feel disgusted and scared. He is using hard substances. I

542
00:24:17,240 --> 00:24:21,000
Speaker 3: made an appointment for HIV and SDI testing. I'm scared.

543
00:24:21,600 --> 00:24:24,439
Speaker 3: I didn't confront him. I secretly got my valuables out

544
00:24:24,480 --> 00:24:27,080
Speaker 3: of the apartment. He didn't care or notice that I

545
00:24:27,119 --> 00:24:29,920
Speaker 3: had been distant. I don't say much. He's happier because

546
00:24:29,920 --> 00:24:32,480
Speaker 3: I haven't been disturbing his peace and alone time.

547
00:24:32,680 --> 00:24:34,320
Speaker 1: Oh, because you're still with him.

548
00:24:34,680 --> 00:24:37,760
Speaker 3: I guess he hated me for being hispanic. He will

549
00:24:37,800 --> 00:24:41,320
Speaker 3: be getting a thirty day notice today. My property management

550
00:24:41,400 --> 00:24:44,360
Speaker 3: is taking responsibility. Needless to say, staying.

551
00:24:44,119 --> 00:24:44,880
Speaker 2: Is not an option.

552
00:24:45,119 --> 00:24:47,560
Speaker 3: Glad you know that finding those cash back withdrawals and

553
00:24:47,600 --> 00:24:50,080
Speaker 3: posting on Reddit are the best things that have happened

554
00:24:50,119 --> 00:24:52,320
Speaker 3: to me. And we've got a second update. But I'm

555
00:24:52,359 --> 00:24:53,560
Speaker 3: glad that you're getting out of there.

556
00:24:53,720 --> 00:24:55,840
Speaker 1: That got so much worse than I thought it was

557
00:24:55,880 --> 00:24:56,359
Speaker 1: ever going.

558
00:24:56,280 --> 00:24:58,560
Speaker 3: To go to. Yes, And when you see those little

559
00:24:58,560 --> 00:25:01,639
Speaker 3: red flags, they usually mean that we've got a lot

560
00:25:01,680 --> 00:25:05,040
Speaker 3: of rot way deeper than you think. Oh glad, you're apt,

561
00:25:05,119 --> 00:25:07,120
Speaker 3: But we've got a second update. What I found out

562
00:25:07,160 --> 00:25:11,760
Speaker 3: this week. To everyone who mentioned a substance issue and cheating, yea, guys,

563
00:25:11,760 --> 00:25:14,920
Speaker 3: we're right. I snooped and found both. He's active on

564
00:25:15,080 --> 00:25:17,720
Speaker 3: several dating apps. The women are just as bad as him,

565
00:25:18,320 --> 00:25:21,360
Speaker 3: he admitted to purposely mentally tearing me down. He made

566
00:25:21,480 --> 00:25:25,840
Speaker 3: comments about my ethnicity and appearance. He justified stealing from me.

567
00:25:26,000 --> 00:25:28,280
Speaker 3: According to him, I should be grateful that a good

568
00:25:28,320 --> 00:25:31,399
Speaker 3: looking guy like him would touch me. I doubt so

569
00:25:31,640 --> 00:25:35,399
Speaker 3: much that he's attractive in any way. I just can't

570
00:25:35,400 --> 00:25:37,960
Speaker 3: believe that at all. I cannot And the money he

571
00:25:38,080 --> 00:25:41,960
Speaker 3: took from me was below what he deserved for degrading himself.

572
00:25:42,080 --> 00:25:44,960
Speaker 3: Oh my lord. He accuse me of being insecure, insane,

573
00:25:45,040 --> 00:25:49,280
Speaker 3: and jealous, and claimed he remained unemployed because of my insecurities.

574
00:25:49,480 --> 00:25:51,520
Speaker 3: I wish I could go into details, but it gets bad.

575
00:25:51,600 --> 00:25:55,080
Speaker 3: To everyone who mentioned he's been stealing cash, yep, he

576
00:25:55,200 --> 00:25:58,680
Speaker 3: has been requesting cash back since twenty twenty two, when

577
00:25:58,680 --> 00:26:00,919
Speaker 3: I first gave him my debit card. He withdrew up

578
00:26:00,960 --> 00:26:04,679
Speaker 3: to sixty dollars on single large purchases. I work fifty

579
00:26:04,720 --> 00:26:07,159
Speaker 3: plus hours a week. I thought I could trust my

580
00:26:07,240 --> 00:26:10,200
Speaker 3: partner to run errands. I was able to get more receipts.

581
00:26:10,320 --> 00:26:12,879
Speaker 3: He stole three hundred dollars last month, and that's what

582
00:26:12,960 --> 00:26:15,240
Speaker 3: I could prove. He was given a thirty day notice

583
00:26:15,240 --> 00:26:19,280
Speaker 3: by the apartment property management. He changed his relationship status

584
00:26:19,359 --> 00:26:22,720
Speaker 3: to it's complicated. It doesn't matter if I'm being out

585
00:26:22,720 --> 00:26:26,080
Speaker 3: of my house and my partner has realized that I've

586
00:26:26,119 --> 00:26:32,000
Speaker 3: set up this elaborate freaking conspiracy gott up dick the Facebook.

587
00:26:32,320 --> 00:26:35,560
Speaker 1: I mean that is complicated, but I think single would

588
00:26:35,560 --> 00:26:36,040
Speaker 1: work better.

589
00:26:36,160 --> 00:26:38,679
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think it's better to put single, and threatened

590
00:26:38,720 --> 00:26:40,680
Speaker 3: to change it to single if I don't find him

591
00:26:40,680 --> 00:26:43,119
Speaker 3: another place before the thirty days are up. That's the

592
00:26:43,320 --> 00:26:47,480
Speaker 3: craziest leverage to think that you have over someone. I'm

593
00:26:47,480 --> 00:26:49,600
Speaker 3: gonna change it a single. I know you've freaking broke

594
00:26:49,680 --> 00:26:51,520
Speaker 3: up with me and areking me out of the house,

595
00:26:51,560 --> 00:26:53,320
Speaker 3: but like, I'll change it a single if you don't

596
00:26:53,320 --> 00:26:54,480
Speaker 3: find me a place to live.

597
00:26:54,560 --> 00:26:57,240
Speaker 1: I'll break up with you. If you don't stop taking

598
00:26:57,240 --> 00:26:58,280
Speaker 1: me out because you're breaking.

599
00:26:58,080 --> 00:27:00,919
Speaker 3: Up with me, Like, watch out, you're not gonna like it.

600
00:27:01,040 --> 00:27:01,800
Speaker 1: I'll do it.

601
00:27:01,960 --> 00:27:04,639
Speaker 3: He said that he has standards and refuses to be

602
00:27:04,720 --> 00:27:06,119
Speaker 3: with a homeless witch.

603
00:27:06,560 --> 00:27:08,480
Speaker 1: Buddy, you're getting kicked out.

604
00:27:08,760 --> 00:27:13,119
Speaker 3: You are the homeless bitch. She's staying he plans on

605
00:27:13,240 --> 00:27:16,200
Speaker 3: staying with a friend, So I better find a place. Yeah,

606
00:27:16,280 --> 00:27:19,679
Speaker 3: demands for the next place at least three bedrooms, two bathrooms,

607
00:27:19,720 --> 00:27:22,359
Speaker 3: a two car garage, a front yard and a backyard

608
00:27:22,359 --> 00:27:24,840
Speaker 3: in a good area. I smiled and said, okay, I'll try.

609
00:27:24,920 --> 00:27:27,120
Speaker 3: I'm not trying anything. I'm going home to my dad's house.

610
00:27:27,200 --> 00:27:29,280
Speaker 3: Well maybe his female friends can help him out.

611
00:27:29,400 --> 00:27:29,720
Speaker 2: Nice.

612
00:27:30,000 --> 00:27:32,520
Speaker 1: Okay, So I think I understand a little bit more.

613
00:27:32,560 --> 00:27:35,919
Speaker 1: I don't think Ope has fully said we are done.

614
00:27:36,119 --> 00:27:38,159
Speaker 1: I'm out not ride now.

615
00:27:38,160 --> 00:27:41,240
Speaker 3: At the thirty days, I think they've been kicked out.

616
00:27:41,440 --> 00:27:45,440
Speaker 3: I think basically, yeah, her ratting, Yes, I think OPI

617
00:27:45,600 --> 00:27:47,600
Speaker 3: was like, hey, this guy is doing all this stuff,

618
00:27:47,640 --> 00:27:50,440
Speaker 3: and I think they allowed them to break the lease. Yeah.

619
00:27:50,480 --> 00:27:53,320
Speaker 1: I kind of took it as like OP was like, hey,

620
00:27:53,440 --> 00:27:57,000
Speaker 1: here's the situation. Yes, you need to act like you're out.

621
00:27:57,240 --> 00:27:57,480
Speaker 3: Yeah.

622
00:27:57,560 --> 00:27:59,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean and actually just kicks out.

623
00:27:59,760 --> 00:28:01,679
Speaker 3: Yeah, please gus out let us go.

624
00:28:02,080 --> 00:28:04,840
Speaker 1: You can be like OP he did this, yes.

625
00:28:05,720 --> 00:28:08,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, which is good because Ope has a plan. Ope

626
00:28:08,240 --> 00:28:11,040
Speaker 3: he's got a back up. You know, we're all good here.

627
00:28:11,080 --> 00:28:12,760
Speaker 3: I'm glad that you're getting out of the situation.

628
00:28:13,680 --> 00:28:16,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, can we just start moving back to

629
00:28:16,359 --> 00:28:17,000
Speaker 1: Dad's now?

630
00:28:17,359 --> 00:28:17,879
Speaker 2: Yeah?

631
00:28:18,119 --> 00:28:18,600
Speaker 3: Can we go?

632
00:28:18,920 --> 00:28:19,639
Speaker 1: Can we go right now?

633
00:28:19,680 --> 00:28:22,120
Speaker 3: I'm not reaching out to those women to warn them.

634
00:28:22,320 --> 00:28:24,719
Speaker 3: They'll figure it out when six months have passed and

635
00:28:24,760 --> 00:28:26,880
Speaker 3: he hasn't gotten a job and they have to fight

636
00:28:26,920 --> 00:28:30,240
Speaker 3: for the bathroom. Yes, he's still locking himself in the bathroom.

637
00:28:30,280 --> 00:28:33,159
Speaker 3: I'm assuming he's on the dating apps or dehumanizing me

638
00:28:33,280 --> 00:28:35,760
Speaker 3: to his friends. I let him use my debit card

639
00:28:35,800 --> 00:28:37,880
Speaker 3: because I really did believe that we were a team.

640
00:28:37,960 --> 00:28:39,959
Speaker 1: I thought she was still letting him use it, and

641
00:28:40,000 --> 00:28:40,400
Speaker 1: I was like.

642
00:28:40,360 --> 00:28:42,840
Speaker 3: Well, yeah, yeah, like him. No, no, no, I didn't

643
00:28:42,880 --> 00:28:45,120
Speaker 3: think that a partner would steal from me and lie

644
00:28:45,160 --> 00:28:48,280
Speaker 3: to my face. I didn't snoop before because I believe

645
00:28:48,360 --> 00:28:50,800
Speaker 3: that he was right that I shouldn't be violating his privacy.

646
00:28:50,880 --> 00:28:53,440
Speaker 3: He convinced me that his conversations with his friends and

647
00:28:53,520 --> 00:28:55,560
Speaker 3: how and what he spent money on were none of

648
00:28:55,560 --> 00:28:58,640
Speaker 3: my business. He is right, though the relationship is going

649
00:28:58,680 --> 00:29:01,760
Speaker 3: to be very complicated between him and my debit card.

650
00:29:02,120 --> 00:29:04,840
Speaker 3: I didn't confront him about anything. It's better for him

651
00:29:04,840 --> 00:29:07,120
Speaker 3: to believe that he's doing a great job hiding his

652
00:29:07,200 --> 00:29:10,760
Speaker 3: second online bathroom life. And that's the end of that story.

653
00:29:11,480 --> 00:29:13,720
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654
00:29:13,800 --> 00:29:15,480
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655
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656
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Speaker 3: My sister in law threw a fit at my rehearsal

657
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658
00:29:22,360 --> 00:29:23,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm pretty frickin annoyed at you.

659
00:29:23,920 --> 00:29:27,920
Speaker 3: Sis some context about my relationship with my sister in law.

660
00:29:28,160 --> 00:29:30,560
Speaker 3: My sister in law and I's relationship has had its

661
00:29:30,640 --> 00:29:33,400
Speaker 3: ups and downs. We were quite close at first. When

662
00:29:33,400 --> 00:29:35,840
Speaker 3: I met her, I was twenty and in college and

663
00:29:35,880 --> 00:29:39,840
Speaker 3: she was my oldest brother's first major relationship that he

664
00:29:39,960 --> 00:29:42,400
Speaker 3: brought home to our family. By the way, this comes

665
00:29:42,400 --> 00:29:45,520
Speaker 3: from lines lines twenty seven. And if you want to

666
00:29:45,520 --> 00:29:47,920
Speaker 3: smit your own stories, go to the Arslage. Okay, story

667
00:29:48,000 --> 00:29:51,600
Speaker 3: times subbered it. I'm Sophia, I'm Savannah, I'm Keon, and

668
00:29:51,760 --> 00:29:53,200
Speaker 3: we're here to give good of us goofly. But we

669
00:29:53,240 --> 00:29:55,080
Speaker 3: don't all the answers. We only know what we'd do,

670
00:29:55,160 --> 00:29:56,160
Speaker 3: So let us know what you would do in the

671
00:29:56,200 --> 00:29:58,760
Speaker 3: comments and Obi says, we had a lot of fun together.

672
00:29:59,120 --> 00:30:02,040
Speaker 3: As I grew old her, more and more snide comments

673
00:30:02,120 --> 00:30:05,400
Speaker 3: would come from her. My mother says, stemming from jealousy

674
00:30:05,680 --> 00:30:09,280
Speaker 3: in regard to my job, my partner's job, and lots

675
00:30:09,360 --> 00:30:13,360
Speaker 3: of money based comments. She'd say things like how I'm

676
00:30:13,400 --> 00:30:17,280
Speaker 3: the golden child, how I had life so much easier

677
00:30:17,280 --> 00:30:20,240
Speaker 3: than my brother did, etc. I am fully aware that

678
00:30:20,280 --> 00:30:23,280
Speaker 3: my brother and I had different childhoods. We are seven

679
00:30:23,360 --> 00:30:26,760
Speaker 3: years apart, and that's a lot of time. Additionally, it's

680
00:30:26,800 --> 00:30:29,600
Speaker 3: clear my brother and sister in law love being the

681
00:30:29,680 --> 00:30:33,080
Speaker 3: center of attention. For her bridal shower and then baby shower.

682
00:30:33,240 --> 00:30:37,280
Speaker 3: My mom offered to host them, and they requested elaborate parties,

683
00:30:37,600 --> 00:30:42,840
Speaker 3: thousand dollars, balloon arches, custom cookies and pies, and overall,

684
00:30:42,880 --> 00:30:45,800
Speaker 3: I've always wanted these over the top moments for themselves.

685
00:30:46,080 --> 00:30:48,760
Speaker 3: Whenever it's been my or my brother's time to shine,

686
00:30:48,840 --> 00:30:51,000
Speaker 3: they get a bit snarky about it. For example, when

687
00:30:51,040 --> 00:30:54,880
Speaker 3: I graduated with my master's degree, they made many comments saying,

688
00:30:55,040 --> 00:30:56,920
Speaker 3: it's such a privilege you were able to do that.

689
00:30:57,760 --> 00:31:00,400
Speaker 3: I would have if I could know why, rather than

690
00:31:00,440 --> 00:31:01,440
Speaker 3: just congratulating me.

691
00:31:01,760 --> 00:31:02,920
Speaker 1: That's so annoying.

692
00:31:03,040 --> 00:31:06,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, I if I had the chances that you had,

693
00:31:06,080 --> 00:31:06,880
Speaker 3: I would have done that too.

694
00:31:06,960 --> 00:31:07,760
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I know.

695
00:31:08,440 --> 00:31:10,240
Speaker 3: I also ended up not being able to make my

696
00:31:10,320 --> 00:31:13,200
Speaker 3: sister in law's bachelorette party years ago due to getting

697
00:31:13,200 --> 00:31:16,520
Speaker 3: a new job and moving states that same weekend, and

698
00:31:16,560 --> 00:31:18,880
Speaker 3: I still haven't hear the end of it about how

699
00:31:18,920 --> 00:31:23,520
Speaker 3: I a bended her. Anyways, onto the situation. I'm in

700
00:31:23,560 --> 00:31:25,960
Speaker 3: the car with my fiance heading over to the rehearsal

701
00:31:25,960 --> 00:31:28,560
Speaker 3: dinner the evening before our wedding. My sister in law

702
00:31:28,600 --> 00:31:30,880
Speaker 3: texts the group chat saying she forgot the little that

703
00:31:31,040 --> 00:31:33,760
Speaker 3: I got for everyone for our cheesy little get ready photos,

704
00:31:33,920 --> 00:31:35,760
Speaker 3: but that she'll see if her parents can bring them

705
00:31:35,840 --> 00:31:38,320
Speaker 3: up on the day of the wedding, but no promises.

706
00:31:38,640 --> 00:31:40,960
Speaker 3: I invited her parents to oell with my nephew a

707
00:31:40,960 --> 00:31:44,720
Speaker 3: bit they lived two hours away. I respond, oh man, bummer,

708
00:31:44,960 --> 00:31:47,160
Speaker 3: I had some get ready photos planned with those sets

709
00:31:47,440 --> 00:31:49,480
Speaker 3: and left it at that. I was hoping that would

710
00:31:49,520 --> 00:31:51,680
Speaker 3: kind of encourage her to figure it out, or at

711
00:31:51,760 --> 00:31:53,760
Speaker 3: least primer for the fact that I wouldn't really want

712
00:31:53,760 --> 00:31:56,200
Speaker 3: her in the photos if she's not in the matching set.

713
00:31:56,640 --> 00:31:59,640
Speaker 3: Oh oh, I thought she for some reason that she

714
00:31:59,680 --> 00:32:01,440
Speaker 3: had all of the sets, but she just has her

715
00:32:01,480 --> 00:32:02,280
Speaker 3: own and forgot it.

716
00:32:02,680 --> 00:32:03,080
Speaker 2: Hmmm.

717
00:32:04,040 --> 00:32:06,040
Speaker 3: I don't really know what else to say, because I

718
00:32:06,120 --> 00:32:09,200
Speaker 3: planned those photos, bought the sets for everyone, and was

719
00:32:09,240 --> 00:32:12,440
Speaker 3: excited for them. I was bummed, but planning on figuring

720
00:32:12,520 --> 00:32:15,080
Speaker 3: it out later at the dinner or afterward. My head

721
00:32:15,160 --> 00:32:17,520
Speaker 3: was scrambling with everything else at the moment. She then

722
00:32:17,560 --> 00:32:20,880
Speaker 3: said in the group chat, reminder would have been nice. Oh,

723
00:32:21,120 --> 00:32:25,000
Speaker 3: you're an adult, so remind yourself, which you all?

724
00:32:25,080 --> 00:32:26,600
Speaker 1: Honesty pissed me off.

725
00:32:26,800 --> 00:32:29,560
Speaker 3: It felt snarky and uncalled for, and I chose not

726
00:32:29,640 --> 00:32:32,560
Speaker 3: to respond any further in the group chat. However, all

727
00:32:32,600 --> 00:32:35,720
Speaker 3: of my other three bridesmaids then reached out separately with

728
00:32:35,840 --> 00:32:38,480
Speaker 3: similar texts of that was uncalled for.

729
00:32:38,640 --> 00:32:42,360
Speaker 1: That's hilarious that you get three separate texts say yeah,

730
00:32:42,400 --> 00:32:42,840
Speaker 1: what was that?

731
00:32:43,360 --> 00:32:46,240
Speaker 3: What's going on there? An adult can remember to pack

732
00:32:46,280 --> 00:32:49,040
Speaker 3: her own things, et cetera. Fast forward to getting to

733
00:32:49,080 --> 00:32:51,480
Speaker 3: the rehearsal dinner. I decide to put it behind me

734
00:32:51,520 --> 00:32:53,680
Speaker 3: and not worry about it too much. I wanted to

735
00:32:53,800 --> 00:32:56,040
Speaker 3: enjoy the dinner. One of my bridesmaids and I are

736
00:32:56,080 --> 00:32:58,280
Speaker 3: grabbing a drink and she makes a comment about it.

737
00:32:58,720 --> 00:33:01,160
Speaker 3: I say something about how I'm annoyed, right is my

738
00:33:01,200 --> 00:33:03,600
Speaker 3: sister in law walks up. Sister in law says I

739
00:33:03,640 --> 00:33:06,400
Speaker 3: know y'all are talking crap and requests to pull me

740
00:33:06,440 --> 00:33:09,880
Speaker 3: aside to speak. I oblige, and she says just stay

741
00:33:09,880 --> 00:33:12,640
Speaker 3: it to my face. I told her all I'm annoyed

742
00:33:12,640 --> 00:33:15,040
Speaker 3: about is your snarky text. But I don't think we

743
00:33:15,040 --> 00:33:16,880
Speaker 3: should talk about it here. It's not a huge deal.

744
00:33:17,120 --> 00:33:19,640
Speaker 3: She asks why I'm talking about it with my friends then,

745
00:33:19,920 --> 00:33:22,120
Speaker 3: and I say I'm allowed to vent with my friends

746
00:33:22,600 --> 00:33:25,120
Speaker 3: as I need to to what. She then says she's leaving,

747
00:33:25,320 --> 00:33:27,760
Speaker 3: walks over to my brother and the large crowd gathering

748
00:33:27,800 --> 00:33:31,600
Speaker 3: for the dinner, makes a scene announcing she's leaving and

749
00:33:31,840 --> 00:33:35,760
Speaker 3: storms out of the restaurant. Oh no, oh, no way,

750
00:33:35,800 --> 00:33:39,720
Speaker 3: where are you go? She's gone come back. She proceeds

751
00:33:39,760 --> 00:33:42,080
Speaker 3: to go into the parking lot and cry alone on

752
00:33:42,160 --> 00:33:45,800
Speaker 3: a stoop and full view of the party. So embarrassing,

753
00:33:47,120 --> 00:33:52,440
Speaker 3: So embarrassing, yikes. It then turns into this whole fiasco

754
00:33:52,480 --> 00:33:55,440
Speaker 3: where my mother and brother are pulling me aside, asking

755
00:33:55,480 --> 00:33:57,880
Speaker 3: what happened. My brother is trying to tell me that

756
00:33:57,920 --> 00:33:59,760
Speaker 3: it's a lot for them to pack up all the

757
00:33:59,800 --> 00:34:02,800
Speaker 3: way wedding stuff and a kid and everything and drive

758
00:34:02,840 --> 00:34:05,440
Speaker 3: two hours to which I reiterated over and over to

759
00:34:05,480 --> 00:34:05,960
Speaker 3: him that.

760
00:34:06,000 --> 00:34:08,000
Speaker 1: It's really not about the matching set.

761
00:34:08,000 --> 00:34:11,520
Speaker 3: It's about the snarky comment. We'll figure out that dang set.

762
00:34:11,880 --> 00:34:13,879
Speaker 3: Then I have to go find her in the parking lot,

763
00:34:14,080 --> 00:34:17,120
Speaker 3: apologize and convince her to come back in.

764
00:34:17,280 --> 00:34:21,560
Speaker 1: Why are you apologizing? You do that? Annoying? No, annoy yane.

765
00:34:21,800 --> 00:34:25,000
Speaker 3: It all felt so insane. I'm incredibly annoyed that I

766
00:34:25,040 --> 00:34:27,200
Speaker 3: had to be the bigger person and go out to

767
00:34:27,280 --> 00:34:30,239
Speaker 3: her to apologize. I'm irritated she had to make a

768
00:34:30,280 --> 00:34:33,200
Speaker 3: scene at mine and my now husband's rehearsal dinner over

769
00:34:33,280 --> 00:34:38,160
Speaker 3: a situation. She essentially manufactured. This situation, on top of

770
00:34:38,200 --> 00:34:40,520
Speaker 3: the other out of pocket comments she's made over the years,

771
00:34:40,960 --> 00:34:43,120
Speaker 3: makes me never want to speak to her again.

772
00:34:43,840 --> 00:34:44,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, this girl's annoying.

773
00:34:45,800 --> 00:34:48,640
Speaker 5: Shame truly is like pick me, pick me like that

774
00:34:48,800 --> 00:34:50,040
Speaker 5: is I agree with Sofa King.

775
00:34:50,280 --> 00:34:53,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's pretty ridiculous to do that on fold display.

776
00:34:53,800 --> 00:34:57,280
Speaker 3: I've had things like that where friends will or not friends,

777
00:34:57,280 --> 00:35:02,480
Speaker 3: but people that are difficult will you know, causes scene.

778
00:35:02,520 --> 00:35:05,400
Speaker 5: Well, we'll just yeah, causes scene lately, embarrass themselves and

779
00:35:05,480 --> 00:35:06,120
Speaker 5: whoever's with them.

780
00:35:06,160 --> 00:35:10,080
Speaker 3: And I'm like, why, Like, you're you're displaying these huge

781
00:35:10,080 --> 00:35:12,920
Speaker 3: emotions in front of everyone when you could just go

782
00:35:13,000 --> 00:35:16,279
Speaker 3: outside collect yourself. Just take a breath, Take a breath.

783
00:35:16,280 --> 00:35:18,880
Speaker 5: That's fine, Like, don't there's no need to overreact, no

784
00:35:19,000 --> 00:35:20,640
Speaker 5: need to go crazy, like the.

785
00:35:20,640 --> 00:35:23,160
Speaker 1: World's not ending. Yeah, inconvenience.

786
00:35:23,320 --> 00:35:26,719
Speaker 3: Yeah, and it's not your you know, responsibility to get

787
00:35:26,719 --> 00:35:28,640
Speaker 3: her to be an adult. But we've got a little

788
00:35:28,640 --> 00:35:31,279
Speaker 3: bit left. One time, she texted me claiming I don't

789
00:35:31,320 --> 00:35:33,560
Speaker 3: like enough picks of their son and our family group child.

790
00:35:33,719 --> 00:35:38,640
Speaker 5: Oh my, Okay, that's so annoying. You don't like the message.

791
00:35:38,640 --> 00:35:41,279
Speaker 5: You're not liking our messages of your nephew. You're not

792
00:35:41,320 --> 00:35:45,719
Speaker 5: liking them. Okay, so sorry, sorry, let me go Like, ooh.

793
00:35:46,840 --> 00:35:49,680
Speaker 3: I'm so incredibly over her. However, we have a close

794
00:35:49,719 --> 00:35:51,840
Speaker 3: knit family, and I don't want to cause the divide

795
00:35:51,840 --> 00:35:54,359
Speaker 3: that my parents would have to navigate either. My mom

796
00:35:54,440 --> 00:35:56,920
Speaker 3: is one hundred percent in agreement with my feelings, but

797
00:35:57,080 --> 00:35:59,640
Speaker 3: asks that I don't also punish her in this and

798
00:35:59,719 --> 00:36:02,000
Speaker 3: other news. Though our wedding day was the most magical

799
00:36:02,080 --> 00:36:04,800
Speaker 3: day ever, sitting at dinner and looking at her family

800
00:36:05,160 --> 00:36:07,719
Speaker 3: brought my husband and me to tears, and absolutely nothing

801
00:36:07,760 --> 00:36:10,440
Speaker 3: went wrong day off common One says, I know this

802
00:36:10,640 --> 00:36:13,160
Speaker 3: is the least relevant part, but I'm curious. Did she

803
00:36:13,239 --> 00:36:16,200
Speaker 3: get the set? Opie says yeah, her parents came early

804
00:36:16,280 --> 00:36:18,560
Speaker 3: the next day, brought the set, and attended the wedding.

805
00:36:18,719 --> 00:36:22,040
Speaker 3: Her mom also brought an ice chest, foil and plates

806
00:36:22,080 --> 00:36:24,080
Speaker 3: and packed up a ton of our wedding food to

807
00:36:24,080 --> 00:36:27,240
Speaker 3: bring home, something that was specifically against the venue contract

808
00:36:27,239 --> 00:36:30,360
Speaker 3: we signed. Wow, she's literally just like I take it.

809
00:36:30,680 --> 00:36:34,120
Speaker 3: Some thankcakes reply, I want to hear more about why

810
00:36:34,160 --> 00:36:36,840
Speaker 3: the venue was anti take food home or did it

811
00:36:36,880 --> 00:36:40,000
Speaker 3: need to be packaged? Opie says, uh, I have no

812
00:36:40,080 --> 00:36:42,120
Speaker 3: idea why this wouldn't be allowed, other than it was

813
00:36:42,160 --> 00:36:44,719
Speaker 3: a classy venue and toting in an ice chest isn't

814
00:36:44,719 --> 00:36:47,239
Speaker 3: really The Vibe venue owner did package up all the

815
00:36:47,320 --> 00:36:49,920
Speaker 3: leftover food in the back into trees for my husband

816
00:36:49,960 --> 00:36:52,080
Speaker 3: and I to take home and freeze, but there wasn't

817
00:36:52,120 --> 00:36:55,120
Speaker 3: too much left and that's the end of the Sorry.

818
00:36:55,400 --> 00:36:59,120
Speaker 1: Lovely, And also, I just finished my wedding cake.

819
00:36:59,239 --> 00:37:01,720
Speaker 3: Got it just for you, Opie.

820
00:37:02,400 --> 00:37:09,600
Speaker 1: Hap universary. It's an elephant. It's an elephant on top. Yeah,

821
00:37:09,680 --> 00:37:11,640
Speaker 1: oh I thought it was a mouse playing a drum.

822
00:37:11,920 --> 00:37:12,960
Speaker 3: It does kind of look like that.

823
00:37:13,000 --> 00:37:14,520
Speaker 1: Well that's your opinion.

824
00:37:15,280 --> 00:37:18,400
Speaker 5: Look how pretty blue flowers in it and little like

825
00:37:18,560 --> 00:37:21,920
Speaker 5: swoopy things and some jewels and some vines.

826
00:37:22,480 --> 00:37:23,480
Speaker 3: And that's for you, Opie.

827
00:37:23,800 --> 00:37:26,160
Speaker 1: Enjoy and that's the end of this story. We're gonna

828
00:37:26,200 --> 00:37:27,000
Speaker 1: go to the next one.

829
00:37:28,000 --> 00:37:30,520
Speaker 3: I tricked my friend to protect him, but my mother

830
00:37:30,680 --> 00:37:32,040
Speaker 3: ritted me out to his parents.

831
00:37:32,200 --> 00:37:34,960
Speaker 1: Come mom, come on and.

832
00:37:34,840 --> 00:37:38,839
Speaker 3: Trigger warning for nicotine use. I'm nineteen now, but I've

833
00:37:38,840 --> 00:37:42,400
Speaker 3: been vaping since I was about sixteen. Tough. It started

834
00:37:42,440 --> 00:37:44,480
Speaker 3: as a dumb and everyone else was doing a thing,

835
00:37:44,840 --> 00:37:48,000
Speaker 3: and it kind of stuck. My mom absolutely hated it

836
00:37:48,040 --> 00:37:50,600
Speaker 3: when she found out back then. By the way, this

837
00:37:50,640 --> 00:37:53,400
Speaker 3: comes from Straight Prize sixteen eleven. And if you want

838
00:37:53,440 --> 00:37:55,319
Speaker 3: to smite your own stories, go to the rslash Okay,

839
00:37:55,360 --> 00:37:59,239
Speaker 3: storytime severed it. I'm Sophia and I'm Savannah and we're

840
00:37:59,280 --> 00:38:01,080
Speaker 3: here to give good a goofy. But we don't have

841
00:38:01,120 --> 00:38:02,719
Speaker 3: all the answers. We only know what we do, So

842
00:38:02,800 --> 00:38:04,360
Speaker 3: let us know what you would do in the comments.

843
00:38:04,440 --> 00:38:07,080
Speaker 3: And Opie says, we had a lot of arguments about

844
00:38:07,080 --> 00:38:11,120
Speaker 3: it through sixth form, lots of confiscations and lectures. At

845
00:38:11,160 --> 00:38:13,839
Speaker 3: one point, she even started doing urine tests. Even though

846
00:38:13,880 --> 00:38:15,800
Speaker 3: I was furious with her at the time, I agree

847
00:38:15,840 --> 00:38:18,719
Speaker 3: with her trying to stop me. In hindsight, it was

848
00:38:18,760 --> 00:38:21,200
Speaker 3: a dumb decision to start vaping, and I wish i'd

849
00:38:21,239 --> 00:38:24,080
Speaker 3: never took it up, and I appreciate she was trying

850
00:38:24,080 --> 00:38:26,319
Speaker 3: to look out for me. A couple of weeks ago,

851
00:38:26,440 --> 00:38:30,440
Speaker 3: my friend seventeen said he was curious about vaping and

852
00:38:30,520 --> 00:38:34,120
Speaker 3: wanted to try it. Oh no, he asked me, because

853
00:38:34,160 --> 00:38:37,279
Speaker 3: he obviously can't buy one himself. Yet. I figured that

854
00:38:37,360 --> 00:38:40,319
Speaker 3: if I said no, he'd eventually find someone who would

855
00:38:40,320 --> 00:38:43,000
Speaker 3: give him one, so I agreed. I went out and

856
00:38:43,040 --> 00:38:45,440
Speaker 3: got one, but I filled it with vape juice that

857
00:38:45,520 --> 00:38:49,120
Speaker 3: was zero percent nicotine and then the most awful flavor

858
00:38:49,200 --> 00:38:52,319
Speaker 3: I could find. I figured if he was curious, he

859
00:38:52,320 --> 00:38:55,239
Speaker 3: could technically try vaping, but I didn't want to be

860
00:38:55,280 --> 00:38:58,200
Speaker 3: the reason he started a nicotine abboit. I didn't tell

861
00:38:58,280 --> 00:39:01,279
Speaker 3: him there was no nicotine. A couple days later, I

862
00:39:01,280 --> 00:39:03,279
Speaker 3: asked him what he thought. He said he didn't get

863
00:39:03,280 --> 00:39:05,920
Speaker 3: away anyone vapes. He tried it a few times, just

864
00:39:05,960 --> 00:39:07,600
Speaker 3: to see if it would grow on him. But it didn't,

865
00:39:07,960 --> 00:39:10,320
Speaker 3: and he said he's not interested in trying it again.

866
00:39:10,520 --> 00:39:11,000
Speaker 2: It worked.

867
00:39:11,040 --> 00:39:12,400
Speaker 1: That's honestly so smart.

868
00:39:12,520 --> 00:39:15,160
Speaker 3: I love that, opie, and I am already angry at

869
00:39:15,200 --> 00:39:16,279
Speaker 3: what the mom's about to do.

870
00:39:16,560 --> 00:39:19,640
Speaker 1: Yeah. Fast forward to yesterday and I decided.

871
00:39:19,200 --> 00:39:21,560
Speaker 3: To mention this to my mom while we were chatting.

872
00:39:22,040 --> 00:39:24,280
Speaker 3: I thought she would find it funny how much I'd changed,

873
00:39:24,320 --> 00:39:27,200
Speaker 3: and maybe even a little bit proud of me. Instead,

874
00:39:27,280 --> 00:39:30,279
Speaker 3: she said what I did was wrong. Her reasoning was

875
00:39:30,320 --> 00:39:33,200
Speaker 3: basically that I manipulated him. She said, my friend asked

876
00:39:33,200 --> 00:39:36,520
Speaker 3: me for something honestly, and I deliberately misled him by

877
00:39:36,520 --> 00:39:42,560
Speaker 3: giving him something I knew wouldn't represent the real experience. Why. Oh,

878
00:39:43,600 --> 00:39:48,040
Speaker 3: I'm confused. So she's saying, hey, give the seventeen.

879
00:39:47,719 --> 00:39:49,000
Speaker 1: Year old a vape.

880
00:39:49,800 --> 00:39:52,440
Speaker 3: She's like, I am so disappointed in you. He asked

881
00:39:52,440 --> 00:39:55,080
Speaker 3: for nicotine and you didn't give it to him. How

882
00:39:55,160 --> 00:39:58,319
Speaker 3: dare you? What do you want? Mom? I literally would

883
00:39:58,360 --> 00:40:00,640
Speaker 3: be like, I don't know how please you.

884
00:40:01,280 --> 00:40:04,040
Speaker 1: I'd be like, that's smart, good job.

885
00:40:04,440 --> 00:40:07,720
Speaker 3: Yeah. What really threw me was when I pushed back

886
00:40:07,880 --> 00:40:09,600
Speaker 3: and asked if she'd feel the same way if the

887
00:40:09,600 --> 00:40:13,320
Speaker 3: situation involved Devil's lettuce or even something like spicy flour.

888
00:40:14,120 --> 00:40:17,960
Speaker 3: I assume she say that's different, but she didn't. I

889
00:40:18,080 --> 00:40:20,160
Speaker 3: told her, if that she were my friend's mom, then

890
00:40:20,160 --> 00:40:23,680
Speaker 3: she'd probably be pretty happy with the outcome. He tried it,

891
00:40:23,840 --> 00:40:26,359
Speaker 3: hated it, and now isn't interested in babing at all.

892
00:40:26,960 --> 00:40:30,480
Speaker 3: From her perspective, that should be a win. But she responded.

893
00:40:30,520 --> 00:40:32,520
Speaker 3: Her point was that I'm not his parent, and even

894
00:40:32,560 --> 00:40:35,080
Speaker 3: parents shouldn't trick kids about what they're putting in their bodies.

895
00:40:36,600 --> 00:40:39,920
Speaker 3: What who are you, lady girl?

896
00:40:40,120 --> 00:40:41,360
Speaker 1: What is the reasoning?

897
00:40:41,680 --> 00:40:45,600
Speaker 3: Like it's you're mad that he lied and like not.

898
00:40:45,640 --> 00:40:48,719
Speaker 1: Got him hooked on nicotine. I don't understand.

899
00:40:49,320 --> 00:40:51,040
Speaker 3: I even asked if it would have been less bad

900
00:40:51,080 --> 00:40:54,279
Speaker 3: if I gave him what he was expecting, and she said, yes,

901
00:40:55,440 --> 00:40:58,440
Speaker 3: it would be less bad if if he gave this

902
00:40:58,520 --> 00:41:00,360
Speaker 3: kid nicotine.

903
00:41:00,480 --> 00:41:01,640
Speaker 1: This girl's out of her mind.

904
00:41:02,080 --> 00:41:04,799
Speaker 3: This reaction surprised me a lot coming from her, because

905
00:41:04,840 --> 00:41:07,319
Speaker 3: she spent years trying to stop me vaping and was

906
00:41:07,520 --> 00:41:10,480
Speaker 3: very intense about it. So hearing her suddenly take this

907
00:41:10,600 --> 00:41:13,840
Speaker 3: people should make their own choice and stance caught me

908
00:41:13,920 --> 00:41:16,719
Speaker 3: off guard, especially when what I did was less harsh

909
00:41:16,800 --> 00:41:20,200
Speaker 3: than anything she did. I can see where she's coming from.

910
00:41:20,280 --> 00:41:22,759
Speaker 3: I don't, but I still think it's a valid way

911
00:41:22,800 --> 00:41:26,440
Speaker 3: to stop someone from taking up vaping? Am I the ahole?

912
00:41:26,920 --> 00:41:31,640
Speaker 3: And there is an update? Well what do you think, Savannah? No, no,

913
00:41:32,360 --> 00:41:33,440
Speaker 3: but her mom is weird.

914
00:41:33,600 --> 00:41:40,000
Speaker 6: No, yeah, freak so weird that she's literally like, oh, ah, well,

915
00:41:40,040 --> 00:41:42,879
Speaker 6: you should have given him nicotine so that he could

916
00:41:42,880 --> 00:41:43,600
Speaker 6: be addicted.

917
00:41:44,360 --> 00:41:47,319
Speaker 5: Well, how dare you give him something fake and disgusting

918
00:41:47,360 --> 00:41:48,720
Speaker 5: and make him not like vaping.

919
00:41:48,880 --> 00:41:51,479
Speaker 3: Yeah, you shouldn't have lied him. You should have got

920
00:41:51,560 --> 00:41:55,399
Speaker 3: him addicted to nicotine. It's a crazy take.

921
00:41:55,880 --> 00:41:59,279
Speaker 1: Literally, I don't understand. And he's like, oh, I can

922
00:41:59,360 --> 00:42:01,920
Speaker 1: kind of understand. No, no, no, you can't.

923
00:42:02,000 --> 00:42:04,240
Speaker 3: No, I can't. No, I don't understand it at all.

924
00:42:04,400 --> 00:42:08,320
Speaker 3: Mom is wrong. But there's an update. So, literally, the

925
00:42:08,400 --> 00:42:10,319
Speaker 3: day after I told my mom about what I did,

926
00:42:10,800 --> 00:42:13,520
Speaker 3: she went and messaged my friend's parents. I didn't know

927
00:42:13,560 --> 00:42:15,080
Speaker 3: she was going to do that, since the way I

928
00:42:15,120 --> 00:42:18,040
Speaker 3: saw it, the situation was over. She also left out

929
00:42:18,080 --> 00:42:20,640
Speaker 3: the fact that the veate was nicotine free and really

930
00:42:20,680 --> 00:42:22,160
Speaker 3: the whole point of what I was trying to do.

931
00:42:22,600 --> 00:42:23,560
Speaker 2: Shut up, Mom.

932
00:42:24,000 --> 00:42:25,799
Speaker 3: From what I've been told. She said she thought they

933
00:42:25,840 --> 00:42:27,719
Speaker 3: should know their son has been vaping and that he

934
00:42:27,760 --> 00:42:30,160
Speaker 3: got the vap from me, that I had come clean,

935
00:42:30,360 --> 00:42:33,799
Speaker 3: apologized for my child's behavior, and even suggested it might

936
00:42:33,840 --> 00:42:35,920
Speaker 3: be a good idea for them to keep him away

937
00:42:36,000 --> 00:42:39,320
Speaker 3: from me. Wow. His parents didn't push him or anything,

938
00:42:39,400 --> 00:42:41,880
Speaker 3: since he messaged me on my phone right after, but

939
00:42:41,960 --> 00:42:45,520
Speaker 3: they still confronted him and expressed their disappointment. When my

940
00:42:45,600 --> 00:42:48,600
Speaker 3: friend told me, I felt horrible because this whole situation

941
00:42:48,800 --> 00:42:51,520
Speaker 3: only existed because of me, and now he was in

942
00:42:51,560 --> 00:42:54,840
Speaker 3: trouble based on an incomplete version of the story, I

943
00:42:54,840 --> 00:42:57,759
Speaker 3: couldn't help thinking maybe this whole lying to try and

944
00:42:57,800 --> 00:43:00,960
Speaker 3: control the outcome thing runs of the family. If so,

945
00:43:01,120 --> 00:43:03,520
Speaker 3: that would explain a lot. At that point, I knew

946
00:43:03,560 --> 00:43:05,480
Speaker 3: I had to tell them the full story to clear

947
00:43:05,560 --> 00:43:08,520
Speaker 3: both my name and his. I told him that it

948
00:43:08,560 --> 00:43:11,520
Speaker 3: was zero percent nicotine, that I picked a disgusting flavor

949
00:43:11,560 --> 00:43:13,879
Speaker 3: on purpose, and that I should have just told him

950
00:43:13,880 --> 00:43:16,239
Speaker 3: now instead of trying to be clever about it. I

951
00:43:16,280 --> 00:43:19,680
Speaker 3: apologized and said I understood if he was annoyed. Your

952
00:43:19,680 --> 00:43:21,200
Speaker 3: mom is weird and I hate her.

953
00:43:21,480 --> 00:43:23,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, why did she like make this a bigger issue?

954
00:43:24,000 --> 00:43:24,799
Speaker 1: She tattled on you.

955
00:43:25,440 --> 00:43:29,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, like you tell them? She tattled and lied, Yeah, yeah,

956
00:43:30,600 --> 00:43:31,319
Speaker 3: like I don't.

957
00:43:31,400 --> 00:43:33,759
Speaker 1: I don't understand what her like. Does she not like

958
00:43:33,840 --> 00:43:35,680
Speaker 1: this kid? Does she don't like the parents?

959
00:43:35,719 --> 00:43:35,880
Speaker 5: You know?

960
00:43:35,960 --> 00:43:38,759
Speaker 1: Like, what is the what's the thing here? What's her goal?

961
00:43:39,200 --> 00:43:42,160
Speaker 1: Because it seems like she's just causing trouble for what

962
00:43:42,400 --> 00:43:43,640
Speaker 1: to get her son?

963
00:43:43,960 --> 00:43:44,400
Speaker 3: Probable?

964
00:43:44,880 --> 00:43:46,360
Speaker 1: I don't know as you.

965
00:43:46,560 --> 00:43:48,440
Speaker 3: I mean, you're nineteen, so you're still pretty young. But

966
00:43:48,480 --> 00:43:52,440
Speaker 3: I would be limiting going forward. I mean, she's definitely

967
00:43:52,520 --> 00:43:55,280
Speaker 3: on an information die now, and I would be limiting

968
00:43:55,320 --> 00:43:56,160
Speaker 3: how much contact.

969
00:43:56,280 --> 00:43:59,440
Speaker 5: But yeah, I would just be like, maybe there's things

970
00:43:59,440 --> 00:44:00,520
Speaker 5: that I shouldn't share with you.

971
00:44:00,760 --> 00:44:01,160
Speaker 2: Yeah.

972
00:44:01,280 --> 00:44:03,200
Speaker 3: I was bracing for him to be annoyed, but he

973
00:44:03,239 --> 00:44:05,520
Speaker 3: took it really well. He said that both the bad

974
00:44:05,560 --> 00:44:08,400
Speaker 3: first impression and the punt off it's now caused at home.

975
00:44:08,880 --> 00:44:11,399
Speaker 3: He was just put off the whole thing entirely. When

976
00:44:11,440 --> 00:44:13,040
Speaker 3: I saw him in person, I gave him the right

977
00:44:13,080 --> 00:44:15,480
Speaker 3: juice bottle. I used that clearly says it has no

978
00:44:15,600 --> 00:44:19,920
Speaker 3: nicotine and told them to explain what really happened today? Asked,

979
00:44:19,960 --> 00:44:22,600
Speaker 3: and what happened? He said? They apologized and said they

980
00:44:22,600 --> 00:44:25,319
Speaker 3: felt there was something off about the situation from the

981
00:44:25,360 --> 00:44:27,919
Speaker 3: way my mom spoke about it. Apparently they were also

982
00:44:27,960 --> 00:44:30,760
Speaker 3: pretty weirded out by my mom suggesting they should consider

983
00:44:30,880 --> 00:44:33,879
Speaker 3: substance testing him. That did not land well with them

984
00:44:33,880 --> 00:44:36,279
Speaker 3: at all. My friend said they even joked she'd been

985
00:44:36,280 --> 00:44:39,080
Speaker 3: spending too much time on mom's net. My mom is

986
00:44:39,120 --> 00:44:42,040
Speaker 3: in a bit of a sour mood today. Our plan

987
00:44:42,239 --> 00:44:45,799
Speaker 3: was foiled. She's so upset. She's like, ah, my plan

988
00:44:45,880 --> 00:44:48,680
Speaker 3: to ruin my child life failed again?

989
00:44:50,280 --> 00:44:51,480
Speaker 1: Why does this always happen?

990
00:44:52,120 --> 00:44:55,080
Speaker 3: Not sure exactly why, but I can guess I was

991
00:44:55,120 --> 00:44:58,400
Speaker 3: an idiot for telling my mom anything. I totally understand

992
00:44:58,400 --> 00:45:00,520
Speaker 3: why you did that. And also I don't I understand

993
00:45:00,560 --> 00:45:01,880
Speaker 3: any of your mom's motives.

994
00:45:02,280 --> 00:45:05,040
Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm trying to like go through my I'm like

995
00:45:05,280 --> 00:45:08,200
Speaker 5: rewrecking my brain trying to figure out what she could

996
00:45:08,200 --> 00:45:12,279
Speaker 5: have possibly meant by all of this, And I just

997
00:45:12,320 --> 00:45:14,680
Speaker 5: really don't know. It seems like a psychotic break honestly,

998
00:45:15,320 --> 00:45:16,960
Speaker 5: I yeah, I would agree.

999
00:45:17,600 --> 00:45:19,360
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Speaker 4: My neighbor's son is peeping on me, and I don't

1004
00:45:33,200 --> 00:45:34,480
Speaker 4: know how to tell anyone.

1005
00:45:34,920 --> 00:45:37,560
Speaker 1: Hey, keep those eyes your soap.

1006
00:45:37,840 --> 00:45:40,640
Speaker 2: Okay, So this is a weird one.

1007
00:45:41,280 --> 00:45:45,200
Speaker 4: I'm feeling awkward and conflicted, not necessarily scared, and I

1008
00:45:45,239 --> 00:45:47,400
Speaker 4: need advice on how to navigate this without destroying a

1009
00:45:47,520 --> 00:45:50,960
Speaker 4: great relationship. This is something I had never imagined I

1010
00:45:51,000 --> 00:45:53,160
Speaker 4: would be posting about, but the situation is getting a

1011
00:45:53,160 --> 00:45:57,120
Speaker 4: little too weird to ignore and I need some outside perspective.

1012
00:45:57,360 --> 00:46:00,440
Speaker 4: My husband forty four mail and I thirty six female,

1013
00:46:00,520 --> 00:46:03,600
Speaker 4: have a really great relationship with our neighbors, a single

1014
00:46:03,640 --> 00:46:07,400
Speaker 4: mom Debbie and her son Tommy, not the real names.

1015
00:46:07,440 --> 00:46:09,680
Speaker 4: We moved in next door when Tommy was eleven, and

1016
00:46:09,760 --> 00:46:11,920
Speaker 4: since we do not have kids of our own, we

1017
00:46:12,000 --> 00:46:12,759
Speaker 4: kind of took him.

1018
00:46:12,680 --> 00:46:13,239
Speaker 3: Under our wing.

1019
00:46:13,360 --> 00:46:16,160
Speaker 4: He started doing chores for us for extra cash, which

1020
00:46:16,200 --> 00:46:20,120
Speaker 4: eventually included learning how to maintain our pool in exchange

1021
00:46:20,160 --> 00:46:22,080
Speaker 4: for being able to use it whenever he wants.

1022
00:46:22,360 --> 00:46:25,000
Speaker 2: And by the way, this story comes from Dirty Nerdy

1023
00:46:25,080 --> 00:46:26,000
Speaker 2: Chick forty seven.

1024
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Speaker 4: If you want to submit your own stories, go to

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Speaker 4: the Arsaw Showcase story I'm Subreda.

1026
00:46:29,960 --> 00:46:30,520
Speaker 2: I'm Dakota.

1027
00:46:30,680 --> 00:46:31,400
Speaker 1: I'm Savannah.

1028
00:46:31,480 --> 00:46:33,640
Speaker 2: We're gonna read this here story. We're gonna have our thoughts,

1029
00:46:33,719 --> 00:46:34,680
Speaker 2: you're gonna have yours.

1030
00:46:34,719 --> 00:46:37,399
Speaker 4: We're gonna speak ours to you, and you're gonna top

1031
00:46:37,440 --> 00:46:39,920
Speaker 4: yours in the comments, and we're gonna read it.

1032
00:46:40,000 --> 00:46:40,800
Speaker 3: Ohp says.

1033
00:46:41,120 --> 00:46:43,760
Speaker 4: My husband also built a home gym, and when Tommy

1034
00:46:43,920 --> 00:46:47,160
Speaker 4: started high school and joined the wrestling team, my husband

1035
00:46:47,239 --> 00:46:49,240
Speaker 4: became his coach and personal trainer.

1036
00:46:49,360 --> 00:46:50,720
Speaker 2: They are basically family.

1037
00:46:50,840 --> 00:46:53,680
Speaker 4: Tommy genuinely looks up to my husband as a father figure,

1038
00:46:53,760 --> 00:46:55,680
Speaker 4: and he spends a ton of time in our house,

1039
00:46:55,920 --> 00:46:58,239
Speaker 4: has his own code to the door and side gate,

1040
00:46:58,360 --> 00:47:00,880
Speaker 4: and jes lets himself in an out to do chores

1041
00:47:01,000 --> 00:47:02,120
Speaker 4: or use the gym and pool.

1042
00:47:02,239 --> 00:47:04,160
Speaker 3: We love having him around.

1043
00:47:03,920 --> 00:47:08,400
Speaker 2: Here is the awkward part. I love to sunbathe in

1044
00:47:08,480 --> 00:47:09,439
Speaker 2: our backyard.

1045
00:47:09,640 --> 00:47:13,240
Speaker 4: Tommy's bedroom window has a direct view of our yard

1046
00:47:13,320 --> 00:47:16,520
Speaker 4: and pool deck. To be honest, I never, ever, never,

1047
00:47:16,680 --> 00:47:19,959
Speaker 4: ever thought anything of it. He is the sweet kid

1048
00:47:20,000 --> 00:47:22,759
Speaker 4: from next door. But about two months ago I was

1049
00:47:22,840 --> 00:47:26,279
Speaker 4: laying out and thought I saw movement in his curtains.

1050
00:47:26,640 --> 00:47:30,240
Speaker 4: I brushed it off, thinking it was his fan rustling

1051
00:47:30,320 --> 00:47:32,399
Speaker 4: the curtains or something. The next time I was out.

1052
00:47:32,440 --> 00:47:34,800
Speaker 4: I saw it again, but still could not be sure.

1053
00:47:34,960 --> 00:47:36,960
Speaker 4: This kind of went on all summer. I would catch

1054
00:47:37,000 --> 00:47:40,040
Speaker 4: glimpses of movement, but nothing I could definitively say was

1055
00:47:40,120 --> 00:47:42,640
Speaker 4: him watching me. The weather was gloomy for the last

1056
00:47:42,719 --> 00:47:46,280
Speaker 4: few days, so I was not out much. Then last Saturday,

1057
00:47:46,320 --> 00:47:49,320
Speaker 4: my husband was out and I was home alone napping

1058
00:47:49,440 --> 00:47:50,440
Speaker 4: in my bedroom.

1059
00:47:50,560 --> 00:47:52,319
Speaker 2: I heard the side gate open and figured it was

1060
00:47:52,360 --> 00:47:53,880
Speaker 2: Tommy coming to do his chort.

1061
00:47:53,920 --> 00:47:56,760
Speaker 4: When I woke up from my nap, my bedroom door,

1062
00:47:56,800 --> 00:48:00,560
Speaker 4: which I always keep closed, was cracked open.

1063
00:48:01,120 --> 00:48:01,440
Speaker 2: I don't know.

1064
00:48:01,440 --> 00:48:03,920
Speaker 1: I wouldn't jump to conclusions. Does he have chores in

1065
00:48:03,960 --> 00:48:04,319
Speaker 1: that room?

1066
00:48:04,320 --> 00:48:06,600
Speaker 4: And he went in and was like, Oh, I doubt

1067
00:48:06,640 --> 00:48:08,920
Speaker 4: he has any chores in the bedroom.

1068
00:48:09,320 --> 00:48:11,239
Speaker 1: I guess, So I don't know. I'm giving on the

1069
00:48:11,280 --> 00:48:12,080
Speaker 1: benefit of the door.

1070
00:48:12,239 --> 00:48:16,200
Speaker 4: My husband was not home, so it was not him.

1071
00:48:16,640 --> 00:48:19,399
Speaker 4: It was unsettling, but I tried to tell myself there

1072
00:48:19,440 --> 00:48:21,640
Speaker 4: could be a reason, could have been a draft. Maybe

1073
00:48:21,640 --> 00:48:23,279
Speaker 4: it didn't close the door as hard as you thought

1074
00:48:23,280 --> 00:48:25,840
Speaker 4: you did. Maybe that boy opened up your door and

1075
00:48:26,000 --> 00:48:26,600
Speaker 4: peeped at you.

1076
00:48:26,960 --> 00:48:29,120
Speaker 1: He truly is a peeping tom.

1077
00:48:30,160 --> 00:48:33,840
Speaker 4: This past weekend was the confirmation I was gardening in

1078
00:48:33,840 --> 00:48:37,400
Speaker 4: the backyard and noticed the movement from his window again.

1079
00:48:37,520 --> 00:48:39,400
Speaker 4: This time I pretended not to see it and just

1080
00:48:39,520 --> 00:48:42,200
Speaker 4: watched under the corner of my eye. I could clearly

1081
00:48:42,239 --> 00:48:44,800
Speaker 4: see his shadow in the window, and I could see.

1082
00:48:44,680 --> 00:48:46,960
Speaker 3: Him moving in a rhythmic way.

1083
00:48:47,360 --> 00:48:55,160
Speaker 2: He's just dancing, no Ah like this he could be.

1084
00:48:56,120 --> 00:48:57,160
Speaker 2: He could be dancing.

1085
00:48:57,400 --> 00:49:00,920
Speaker 1: What teenage boy looks out the window and dance me?

1086
00:49:01,320 --> 00:49:02,480
Speaker 3: This is not footloose.

1087
00:49:02,800 --> 00:49:05,560
Speaker 4: He stayed there the entire time I was outside, and

1088
00:49:05,600 --> 00:49:08,960
Speaker 4: only moved away after I went back in the house. Look,

1089
00:49:09,080 --> 00:49:12,880
Speaker 4: I get it, he's sixteen, hormones a raging I'm a

1090
00:49:12,880 --> 00:49:15,200
Speaker 4: thirty six year old woman in a bikini in his

1091
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Speaker 4: direct line of sight.

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Speaker 2: I have a large chist and I am not ugly.

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00:49:20,280 --> 00:49:24,840
Speaker 4: I'm pretty sure he's not just peeping, but probably also jorpin'. Honestly,

1094
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Speaker 4: I'm not scared or even that mad. It's just incredibly awkward.

1095
00:49:29,440 --> 00:49:32,040
Speaker 4: This kid is like a son to us. The cracked

1096
00:49:32,040 --> 00:49:34,680
Speaker 4: bedroom doors the part that really crosses.

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Speaker 2: The line for me.

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Speaker 4: But I have no proof he did anything more than peeking.

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00:49:37,719 --> 00:49:39,879
Speaker 4: I have not said anything to my husband or his mom.

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00:49:39,960 --> 00:49:42,359
Speaker 4: I've thought about it, but I don't want to blow

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00:49:42,440 --> 00:49:44,840
Speaker 4: up this kid's life or our relationship with our neighbors

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00:49:44,840 --> 00:49:47,360
Speaker 4: over what might just be dumb teenager stuff.

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Speaker 2: But I also feel like I cannot just ignore it.

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00:49:49,800 --> 00:49:51,160
Speaker 2: What do I even do here?

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00:49:51,320 --> 00:49:53,799
Speaker 5: You need to have a conversation with him one on

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00:49:53,800 --> 00:49:57,760
Speaker 5: one and be like, hey, so I've noticed a couple things.

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00:49:58,000 --> 00:50:01,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, I really don't want this to be an issue.

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Speaker 5: I'm not gonna tell anyone, but just so you know,

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00:50:04,800 --> 00:50:06,000
Speaker 5: I know what you're doing.

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00:50:06,760 --> 00:50:09,799
Speaker 2: Yeah, I hear that you're droping to my knockers bee

1111
00:50:10,160 --> 00:50:13,320
Speaker 2: little words dropped at my window.

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Speaker 4: And he told him you don't wear You need to

1113
00:50:16,800 --> 00:50:19,160
Speaker 4: be like, hey, man, I get it, but he can't

1114
00:50:19,160 --> 00:50:20,160
Speaker 4: be drop in it to me.

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00:50:20,400 --> 00:50:23,439
Speaker 2: He can't drop your peep it to me, okay.

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00:50:23,520 --> 00:50:25,360
Speaker 1: Keep your pan or in your panters.

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00:50:25,520 --> 00:50:27,760
Speaker 2: He can't be droping your peep it's to me. Okay,

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00:50:28,000 --> 00:50:28,479
Speaker 2: all right?

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00:50:29,280 --> 00:50:32,399
Speaker 4: Do we have an understanding and lock your bedroom when

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Speaker 4: you take a nap?

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00:50:33,640 --> 00:50:35,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, I guess we're gonna have to do now.

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Speaker 4: So we got some comments from Ope. I'm planning to

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00:50:38,239 --> 00:50:40,719
Speaker 4: talk to my husband about it tonight. I'll fill him

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Speaker 4: in on everything, then have him talk to the boy.

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Speaker 4: I don't want him to feel persecuted or embarrassed. I

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00:50:47,120 --> 00:50:49,680
Speaker 4: really believe he doesn't mean any harm the bedroom thing.

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00:50:49,719 --> 00:50:51,680
Speaker 4: You're right, he may have come up looking for me.

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Speaker 4: He is comfortable enough in our home that he would

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Speaker 4: do something like that. My biggest fear is pushing him away.

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Speaker 4: Like I said, he's like family to us. I don't

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00:50:59,800 --> 00:51:03,000
Speaker 4: want them to think I'm mad or that he's in trouble. Well,

1132
00:51:03,000 --> 00:51:06,279
Speaker 4: he's family to you, Okay. Is Tommy's dad still in

1133
00:51:06,320 --> 00:51:08,960
Speaker 4: his life? Opie says. Tommy's dad passed away in a

1134
00:51:08,960 --> 00:51:11,520
Speaker 4: car accident when he was two. Yeah, he really hasn't

1135
00:51:11,560 --> 00:51:13,200
Speaker 4: had a man in his life until my husband and

1136
00:51:13,239 --> 00:51:14,240
Speaker 4: I moved in next door.

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00:51:14,320 --> 00:51:16,120
Speaker 2: I'm glad they're as close as they are.

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00:51:16,280 --> 00:51:18,720
Speaker 4: Change the code and don't give him free access anymore,

1139
00:51:18,760 --> 00:51:19,440
Speaker 4: says a commenter.

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00:51:19,560 --> 00:51:21,919
Speaker 2: Op He says, I'm definitely deleting his codes and there's

1141
00:51:21,960 --> 00:51:22,440
Speaker 2: an update.

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00:51:22,680 --> 00:51:25,680
Speaker 1: Oh, I feel bad. He's just letting the hormones take over.

1143
00:51:25,840 --> 00:51:28,120
Speaker 2: It's just a mighty jorpin power ranger.

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00:51:28,200 --> 00:51:29,520
Speaker 3: What's a guy supposed to do?

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00:51:31,719 --> 00:51:35,239
Speaker 5: I mean, see, I would find it very flattery, and

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00:51:35,280 --> 00:51:38,680
Speaker 5: then I would tell my husband and be like, I

1147
00:51:38,680 --> 00:51:39,200
Speaker 5: hope he.

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00:51:39,160 --> 00:51:42,279
Speaker 2: Kind of did say that. I'm not even mad. I

1149
00:51:42,320 --> 00:51:44,520
Speaker 2: know right, look at.

1150
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Speaker 1: Me out it the right way.

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Speaker 5: I think talking to your husband about it, that maybe

1152
00:51:48,640 --> 00:51:50,919
Speaker 5: your husband having him say something to him.

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00:51:51,080 --> 00:51:52,839
Speaker 1: I also think that you could also have.

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00:51:52,800 --> 00:51:55,920
Speaker 5: That conversation with him, you know, one on one, if

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Speaker 5: you feel more comfortable doing that.

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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00:51:58,360 --> 00:52:01,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think be man to man's best.

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00:52:01,800 --> 00:52:03,440
Speaker 1: I don't think there's any harm done.

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00:52:03,760 --> 00:52:05,960
Speaker 2: You would become the subject of his shame.

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Speaker 1: She knows I've been touching my peepets. She knows I've morp.

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Speaker 2: She knows I've been meeping my morp.

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00:52:12,680 --> 00:52:18,239
Speaker 1: Oh she's no been pepping my ronie. Oh no, he

1163
00:52:18,360 --> 00:52:20,200
Speaker 1: knows I've been jostling mon Jolane's.

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Speaker 2: I've been oogling my Schmalugu. Thank you for all the advice,

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00:52:24,040 --> 00:52:25,200
Speaker 2: both good and bad.

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Speaker 4: I talked to my husband about it last night when

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00:52:27,080 --> 00:52:29,520
Speaker 4: he got home from work. He had a good giggle

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00:52:29,560 --> 00:52:32,680
Speaker 4: over it, but was very empathetic. He told me he

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00:52:32,760 --> 00:52:35,120
Speaker 4: knew Tommy had a crush on me, and he's seen

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Speaker 4: the way he looks at me when he thinks no

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Speaker 4: one's watching. He agrees that he does not mean any

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Speaker 4: harm and it's just uh, you know, teen pumped full

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00:52:43,960 --> 00:52:48,200
Speaker 4: of hormones, making dumb teen choices. He is planning on

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Speaker 4: talking to him today about it after their training session.

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00:52:51,560 --> 00:52:54,200
Speaker 4: We both agree we do not want him to think

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00:52:54,239 --> 00:52:56,640
Speaker 4: we are mad about it or that he is in trouble.

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00:52:57,080 --> 00:53:00,440
Speaker 4: He just needs to understand that peeping is not okay,

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00:53:01,040 --> 00:53:03,840
Speaker 4: and if he did sneak up to our bedroom, that

1179
00:53:04,080 --> 00:53:07,400
Speaker 4: is definitely not okay. We trust him, and we display

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00:53:07,440 --> 00:53:09,719
Speaker 4: that trust by giving him access to our home.

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00:53:09,560 --> 00:53:11,640
Speaker 2: But if he's going to betray that trust, we will

1182
00:53:11,680 --> 00:53:14,240
Speaker 2: take away his codes. And there's the second one.

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Speaker 1: Oh, I'm glad there's enup to I thought that was

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Speaker 1: gonna be it. I'd be like, no, I want to

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Speaker 1: know what happened.

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00:53:18,960 --> 00:53:23,240
Speaker 4: I would be a little more afraid, like teenagers are scary.

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00:53:23,360 --> 00:53:26,400
Speaker 4: Maybe I've just read enough Reddit stories to where I'm like,

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00:53:26,480 --> 00:53:26,960
Speaker 4: oh yeah.

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Speaker 2: And then that's how you end up on the first forty.

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Speaker 1: Eighth calling him out. And then he does something.

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00:53:32,080 --> 00:53:34,600
Speaker 2: No, just like letting it faster. He already up in

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00:53:34,680 --> 00:53:37,760
Speaker 2: the noord of your bedroom. Let's see what he says though,

1193
00:53:37,840 --> 00:53:39,399
Speaker 2: you know. Update number two.

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Speaker 4: I took the advice of many of you and spoke

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00:53:43,000 --> 00:53:46,200
Speaker 4: to my husband about everything that night. He was incredibly understanding,

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00:53:46,200 --> 00:53:47,920
Speaker 4: and he actually laughed at first and told me he

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00:53:47,920 --> 00:53:50,080
Speaker 4: already knew Tommy had a massive crush on me. He

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00:53:50,200 --> 00:53:53,319
Speaker 4: joked that Tommy has good test and that he has

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Speaker 4: seen the way Tommy looks at me, and he thinks

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00:53:54,880 --> 00:53:57,279
Speaker 4: no one can see him watching. We were both on

1201
00:53:57,320 --> 00:53:59,080
Speaker 4: the same page when it came to the peep and

1202
00:53:59,239 --> 00:54:03,280
Speaker 4: he was not just a teenager making dumb choices. However,

1203
00:54:03,800 --> 00:54:06,239
Speaker 4: he agreed that a line had definitely been crossed, especially

1204
00:54:06,640 --> 00:54:09,640
Speaker 4: with him potentially coming up to our bedroom. We decided

1205
00:54:09,680 --> 00:54:12,280
Speaker 4: that he would talk to Tommy the next day after

1206
00:54:12,320 --> 00:54:15,080
Speaker 4: their training session. Our goal was not to punish him

1207
00:54:15,160 --> 00:54:17,080
Speaker 4: or make him feel ashamed, but to make it clear

1208
00:54:17,080 --> 00:54:20,080
Speaker 4: that peepin is not okay and that entering our private

1209
00:54:20,160 --> 00:54:22,719
Speaker 4: space like that is a serious breach of the trust we.

1210
00:54:22,680 --> 00:54:25,280
Speaker 2: Have in him. So my husband had to talk with Tommy.

1211
00:54:25,440 --> 00:54:29,759
Speaker 4: Tommy was immediately honest and admitted everything and confessed to

1212
00:54:29,880 --> 00:54:33,600
Speaker 4: watching me through the window and said he just likes

1213
00:54:33,680 --> 00:54:34,319
Speaker 4: looking at me.

1214
00:54:36,120 --> 00:54:38,200
Speaker 3: This teenager just likes looking at me.

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00:54:38,600 --> 00:54:42,920
Speaker 4: Nice cover Tommy, nice cover tom tom just like looking

1216
00:54:42,960 --> 00:54:45,799
Speaker 4: at her. My husband did not press him on the

1217
00:54:45,840 --> 00:54:50,520
Speaker 4: more rhythmic details, as we both agreed that part does

1218
00:54:50,560 --> 00:54:51,239
Speaker 4: not really matter.

1219
00:54:51,680 --> 00:54:53,400
Speaker 2: I think you've talked to your droper.

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00:54:53,680 --> 00:54:56,880
Speaker 1: He's not drop around anymore. Let's not drop around the subject.

1221
00:54:57,040 --> 00:54:58,920
Speaker 2: You talked to your jorper.

1222
00:54:58,960 --> 00:55:00,880
Speaker 4: You did not press him on I'm the djorping, but

1223
00:55:00,960 --> 00:55:02,520
Speaker 4: you did say, hey, the peeping.

1224
00:55:02,760 --> 00:55:05,400
Speaker 2: You can't be a peeper. You can't be peeping for

1225
00:55:05,440 --> 00:55:06,480
Speaker 2: the sake of your peepits.

1226
00:55:06,600 --> 00:55:07,320
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying.

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00:55:07,560 --> 00:55:10,800
Speaker 4: Regarding the bedroom door, Tommy admitted he did come upstairs

1228
00:55:10,840 --> 00:55:12,759
Speaker 4: that day and saw me sleeping, but he said he

1229
00:55:12,760 --> 00:55:15,480
Speaker 4: felt weird and messed up about it and went right

1230
00:55:15,520 --> 00:55:18,239
Speaker 4: back downstairs. He seemed genuinely remorseful and understood he had

1231
00:55:18,239 --> 00:55:21,520
Speaker 4: crossed a major boundary and violated my privacy. He apologized

1232
00:55:21,520 --> 00:55:25,239
Speaker 4: sincerely to my husband, and then came and apologized to

1233
00:55:25,280 --> 00:55:27,279
Speaker 4: me as well. My husband did a good job of

1234
00:55:27,320 --> 00:55:29,839
Speaker 4: reinforcing that we care about him a lot and that

1235
00:55:29,880 --> 00:55:32,359
Speaker 4: the trust we show by giving him access to.

1236
00:55:32,320 --> 00:55:34,439
Speaker 2: Our home is a huge deal.

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00:55:34,560 --> 00:55:37,200
Speaker 4: He explained that breaking that trust would be devastating for

1238
00:55:37,320 --> 00:55:39,080
Speaker 4: all of us. Things are a little awkward now.

1239
00:55:39,080 --> 00:55:39,480
Speaker 2: Of course.

1240
00:55:39,600 --> 00:55:41,759
Speaker 4: Tommy's been pretty sheepish and quiet around me for the

1241
00:55:41,840 --> 00:55:42,640
Speaker 4: last couple of days.

1242
00:55:42,680 --> 00:55:44,560
Speaker 2: I'm just trying to act normal and I'm.

1243
00:55:44,400 --> 00:55:47,560
Speaker 4: Hopeful that with a little time, things will go back

1244
00:55:47,920 --> 00:55:50,160
Speaker 4: to the way they were. We trust the conversation was

1245
00:55:50,280 --> 00:55:52,840
Speaker 4: enough to get the message across. Thanks again everyone for

1246
00:55:53,000 --> 00:55:54,000
Speaker 4: helping me handle this.

1247
00:55:54,719 --> 00:55:55,000
Speaker 3: And that

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00:55:57,000 --> 00:55:58,040
Speaker 2: Is the end of that story.