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Speaker 1: Call It What It Is with Jessica Capshaw and Camille Luddington,

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Speaker 1: an iHeartRadio podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hello Hello, Hello, Hello Call It Crew.

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Speaker 1: Here is another short and sweet episode brought to you

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Speaker 1: by BMW.

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Speaker 3: I love a BMW. I've had a couple of my days.

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Speaker 2: They're smooth ride. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I used to like that way back in the

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Speaker 1: day too. I would just like stare at those cars.

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Speaker 1: Be like one day and I'd be on the bus.

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Speaker 3: We were just in we were walking down the street

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Speaker 3: and we went to the next game, and Luke saw

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Speaker 3: a really sweet, a sweet ass BMW definitely had some

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Speaker 3: kind of custom caller and he was like, whoa could

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Speaker 3: that BMW? It was like two three four nine seven

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Speaker 3: two one. You know, like the style number? Is that

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Speaker 3: what they even call him? Model number?

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Speaker 2: You think that I would know the mode to just

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Speaker 2: say it out like, oh the two three seven nine one.

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Speaker 2: I love this. I'm so confused. What's going on right now?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: I love that. They're all gorgeous.

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Speaker 1: Okay, let's talk about the picture you sent me from

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Speaker 1: the game.

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Speaker 3: Of Luke and Benny Blanco.

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Speaker 2: Yes, and I text you I said, he needs to

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Speaker 2: come and call it what it is. I love him.

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Speaker 3: How about the fact that Luke managed to you know,

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Speaker 3: he he got the moxie to go up to Benny

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Speaker 3: Blanco and ask for a picture. And I didn't have

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Speaker 3: the moxie to walk up to Benny Blanco and be like, hey,

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Speaker 3: will you come on the podcast.

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Speaker 2: No, that was such a dish opportunity. We're so silly.

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Speaker 2: I messed it up.

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Speaker 1: I saw an interview with him, and he's like, very extrovert.

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Speaker 1: He defines himself as an extrovert, and he's super friendly,

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Speaker 1: and I think.

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Speaker 2: That you should come on, come on, Benny. I love

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Speaker 2: that new song with him too.

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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, it's so good. Well, here was actually

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Speaker 3: the most endearing part of the picture of Luke and Benny.

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Speaker 3: We'll call him Benny. Now he's my friend.

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Speaker 2: Is that?

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Speaker 3: I said, Oh my gosh, that was so cool. You

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Speaker 3: asked to take a picture of him. And he goes, yeah,

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Speaker 3: he was super cool, super chill guy. I was like yeah,

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Speaker 3: and he goes yeah. He just you know, he he said,

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Speaker 3: just yeah, yeah, man, I'll take a picture with you.

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Speaker 3: Just hold on, let me let me move my chicken

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Speaker 3: tenders into my other hand. He didn't want to take

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Speaker 3: a picture with the chicken tenders. He was so polite.

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Speaker 3: You didn't want the chicken tenders in the picture with him.

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Speaker 3: He was like, you don't want to take a picture

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Speaker 3: of me and my chicken tender? Do you want to

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Speaker 3: take a picture of me?

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Speaker 1: I don't know though, Sometimes, like I remember the chicken

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Speaker 1: tender picture with Taylor Swift, everyone was like talking all

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Speaker 1: the chicken tenders. Sometimes you want to know, like what

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Speaker 1: are you eating? What kind of sauces do you get

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Speaker 1: with that? Like I have questions are you're a ranch

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Speaker 1: person or you a honey mustard?

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Speaker 3: Do you know this about me? I get all the sauces.

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Speaker 2: Every single one pretty much.

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Speaker 3: I mean truly, like a little dip in every single one,

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Speaker 3: not like all of them together. So it's some sort

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Speaker 3: of you know, no no, no, noopath sauce, but like you know,

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Speaker 3: like you take it, you dip it, and then you

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Speaker 3: have a little branch BikeE and then you may have

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Speaker 3: a little honey mustard and then a little barbecue.

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Speaker 1: I this is something that Matt and I fight about

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Speaker 1: all the time actually because he I really desperately. His

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Speaker 1: food looks really dry to me all the time, and

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Speaker 1: I'm like, you just need a sauce and he doesn't

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Speaker 1: want a sauce, and it like, actually kind of pisces

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Speaker 3: Another reason why we probably should live together.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, obviously.

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Speaker 3: By the way, speaking of your husband, who did you

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Speaker 3: get a text from this week?

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Speaker 2: Yesterday?

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Speaker 1: Mamma Capshaw she saved in my phone is Mama Capshaw

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Speaker 1: and miss Ky Capshaw the icon that she is graced

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Speaker 1: me with her texting and I really truly mean that

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Speaker 1: and said that she loved the mad I episode. And

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Speaker 1: I instantly got all red faced and hot because I was, like, God,

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Speaker 1: I talk We talked about farts and everything, and she's

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Speaker 1: so chic and I can't even believe she listened to that,

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Speaker 1: But she she sent me a couple real cute texts.

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Speaker 3: She loves you, she thinks your so well, so you

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Speaker 3: are so funny, but oh my gosh, and then and

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Speaker 3: then again, guys, it's not just on the podcast that

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Speaker 3: she musters all this incredible witch. She does it on text.

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Speaker 3: Actually that might be where you shine the brightest.

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Speaker 2: I was on texts. Yeah, not in person. No, not person.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god.

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Speaker 3: One of my favorite things. People say, you're so much taller,

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Speaker 3: I'm prettier in person.

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Speaker 2: Thanks I've gotten that too.

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Speaker 1: I don't know what I look like on the show, like, like,

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Speaker 1: oh my god, there's so much I'm like, what do

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Speaker 1: I look like on TV?

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Speaker 2: Anyway?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, actually talking about being on TV, here's what we're

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Speaker 1: tackling today.

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Speaker 2: If you were the main character of the movie in your.

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Speaker 1: Life, which you should be, yeah, exactly, and you have

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Speaker 1: an audience watching the movie, Hey, what would the audience

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Speaker 1: be screaming at you to do and be? What needs

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Speaker 1: to change? Yeah, okay, let's get inspired by the crew

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Speaker 1: and then we can answer at the end because.

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Speaker 2: They got some good submissions.

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Speaker 3: Well, and by the way, I just want to add

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Speaker 3: to this for anyone who's super visual like myself, I

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Speaker 3: did envision this. Like you're sitting in a movie theater,

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Speaker 3: like a really big one, not a teeny tiny one.

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Speaker 2: Yeah you sold out like the l Capitan or something.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, and you're watching a movie and you

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Speaker 3: got all these audience members and they're just watching, poping

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Speaker 3: some popcorn, drinking some soda, all the stuff, and they're

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Speaker 3: so into the movie and you're doing stuff and they're

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Speaker 3: so inspired or we're not like here or not, they're

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Speaker 3: really not. They need you to do something different by

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Speaker 3: the movie of your life that they have to scream.

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Speaker 1: At you to do something you know what, I already

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Speaker 1: know what on my answer, so I just to say

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Speaker 1: it right now. They would be screaming at me stop

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Speaker 1: worrying about fucking dying. I know, I know, And I

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Speaker 1: say it with a smile because it's like, I know

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Speaker 1: this is my thing, this is my trigger, but like

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Speaker 1: it is my trigger because of my you know, my

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Speaker 1: mommy trauma. But like I think that they would be like,

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Speaker 1: zolof does help me stop wearing a little bit, and

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Speaker 1: soda is therapy.

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Speaker 2: But there's still that underlying thing.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think when you have that, uh, it's yeah,

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Speaker 3: it really does frame your whole life. It does.

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Speaker 2: It's like a real it's a real hard right turn.

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Speaker 3: But you really took me down.

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Speaker 2: I don't know how to come back. De grossing Listen,

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Speaker 2: lets it was really depressing. That's what they would be

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Speaker 2: screaming because that is that's real.

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Speaker 3: For me, and you know what, that is real and

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Speaker 3: that's why. But what's also real and this is I

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Speaker 3: just love you so much. I really do. There's so

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Speaker 3: many times in those podcasts where just I just think again,

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Speaker 3: I think you shine so bright, and I just think

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Speaker 3: you're the most wonderful person in the world. But I

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Speaker 3: flip side of it, which is the laughter.

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Speaker 2: Just just gotta get a laugh for it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you're left not a little drunk.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, So let's remind ourselves that if you were the

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Speaker 5: main character in the movie of your life, and you

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Speaker 5: have an audience watching the movie, what is the audience.

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Speaker 3: Screaming at you to do? And what do you need

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Speaker 3: to change? And we got some crazies admissions? Why don't

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Speaker 3: you kick it off?

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Speaker 1: Okay, Cameron says, to get with the guys. All my

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Speaker 2: Yeah, a little bravery out there, it's ooves.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's fun. She's got fine.

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Speaker 2: I was a real downer. Yeah, I know you're we

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Speaker 2: started off listen. That was real. It was real and

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Speaker 2: also a downer. But it's fine.

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Speaker 3: That was okay, yeah, or it's not fine sometimes and

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Speaker 3: we can sit in that too. We're brave, yeah, Alicia said,

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Speaker 3: ask her out already and stop being so scared. That's

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Speaker 2: Who is the Alicia who is she? Can we help

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Speaker 2: facilitate this? Yeah? Okay, Kens?

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Speaker 1: Why does every thing have to be so negative with you?

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Speaker 1: Can't you just think positive for once?

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Speaker 2: Ken's yes, I listen. The world is.

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Speaker 1: Real tough right now, I understand how easy it is

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Speaker 3: Well, that reminds me of my screensaver is the which

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Speaker 3: which is the antisote to all that mine too, is

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Speaker 3: that if you're worried all the time, and you really

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Speaker 3: It's not an actual thing that's happened, It's just you're

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Speaker 3: not going to work out, right, couldn't equally true that

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Speaker 3: everything could work out? And so if you just flip

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Speaker 3: Then how does how does thing? How do things change

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Speaker 3: for you? And I have to say they've changed a

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Speaker 3: lot for me. Yeah, I agree, as I deal with anxiety,

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Speaker 3: which is you know, definitely.

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Speaker 2: You've only recently started saying that.

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Speaker 1: By the way, I think it's I asked you that

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Speaker 6: To the club.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's pretty cool. Thanks, there's a lot of us.

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Speaker 2: Do I get a card?

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Speaker 6: All right?

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Speaker 2: Bella said.

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Speaker 3: The audience would be screaming at me to stand up

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Speaker 3: for myself. Yes, yes, yes, Sometimes I don't stand up

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Speaker 3: for myself either.

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Speaker 1: Summer to not care about everyone else's opinion. I can't

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Speaker 1: change it, so why worry about it so much?

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Speaker 3: Yes, because let them, let them know, Robin and them,

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Speaker 3: Tolly says, tell me to say no. I've been saying

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Speaker 3: yes to everything. Oh, I say yes.

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Speaker 6: I know.

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Speaker 3: There was definitely a moment in my life where I

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Speaker 3: just used to be able to manage all of it,

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Speaker 3: and so I would say yes to everything anyone asked

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Speaker 3: me to do. And I thought that was fine, and

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Speaker 3: then kids in life and work and everything else, and

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Speaker 3: then all of a sudden I realized I said yes

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Speaker 3: to everything, and there would be very conflicting items on

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Speaker 2: You know that movie like yesterday you need no Day?

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Speaker 3: I need no Day? No, No, I can't can you

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Speaker 3: do that?

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Speaker 1: No?

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Speaker 2: Mm hmm. Yeah. I feel like you do that for

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Speaker 1: Megan said, have another baby and leave my teaching job

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Jessica, let go of the narcissistic, toxic family members

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Speaker 3: Oh that's all. Let them, Yeah that is, let them

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Speaker 1: Absolutely, Selena, You've got to eventually stop choosing the job

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Speaker 2: Let too many good ones slip away. That's hard, you know,

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Speaker 2: So many great guys let it?

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Speaker 1: But she's choosing work life. She's making that the priority

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's true. You're never sorry that you went. No, No,

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Speaker 3: No, You're never sorry. So I think this is one

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Speaker 1: But tomorrow morning when you you're gonna get up, you're

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Speaker 2: You're gonna go outside. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I like that, Chloe, stress less about work, go for

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Speaker 3: So yeah, take it daily, people, Ken said, the audience

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Speaker 4: You know, Oh god, get rid of the BEV. You

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Speaker 3: Maybe that's the T shirt.

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Speaker 2: Get rid of the BEV.

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Speaker 3: No biffs allowed, or just biff with a big.

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Speaker 6: Oh god.

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Speaker 1: I'd stop getting drunk every weekend and kissing boys you

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Speaker 2: That doesn't feel good. I'm not, It's not good for you.

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Speaker 2: I would even call them frogs. I would call them

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Speaker 3: What I mean?

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Speaker 2: Like whatever step below?

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Speaker 6: I've done.

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Speaker 2: Rats, Yeah, I've had. I've had a night or two. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: listen saddle Ranch on Sunset.

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Speaker 2: Riding the bowl. You guys doesn't want to like the

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Speaker 3: Back in the day. I mean, just to explain it.

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Speaker 3: A mechanical bowl in the center of it.

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Speaker 1: I was really good at having a little smooch and

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Speaker 3: You and I would have been in so much trouble

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Speaker 2: Yeah, because you're a kissing bandit.

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Speaker 1: I was a little that saddle ranch. I was a

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Speaker 2: I was like pull them in, push them out, yeah,

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Speaker 2: Yes, can I tell you? Yes? Yes? And you would

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Speaker 1: And you'd have to maybe go have another mimosa because

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Speaker 2: It's like they looked, they didn't quite look, you know.

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Speaker 2: There were several notches.

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Speaker 3: Down the pms, but not the prime ministers.

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Speaker 4: They were not, Yeah they were, they were not the

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Speaker 2: They were dupes. They were the dupes. Yeah, then they

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Speaker 1: Stop pleasing everyone, be a little more selfish and love

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Speaker 3: Yes to that. Yeah, Julie said, the audience would be like, girl,

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Speaker 2: I want to go on the road, jess.

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Speaker 3: Let's do it. Let's take this show on the road.

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Speaker 2: I would would you guys join us if you one

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Speaker 2: Which city? Where are you guys?

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Speaker 3: Tell us where you want us. We're gonna take this

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Speaker 2: Listen. That inspired me. By the way, speaking of we were.

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Speaker 3: And she's on the road. She's taken her show on

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Speaker 2: She say hi, yeah, oh hello. I ran into her in.

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Speaker 3: The bathroom and then we squealed and we hugged, and

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Her her tiktoks right now are cracking me up. She

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Speaker 2: I really like, I don't know. I kind of wish

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I agree.

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Speaker 2: Okay, you have to answer the question before what would

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Speaker 3: Gosh, I do feel very inspired by many of the

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Speaker 3: planning in case you haven't noticed control it's a yeah,

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Speaker 2: Super relatable. I mean, what else can you say, I'm

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Speaker 2: worrying all the time. Yeah, I'm trying to. I'm getting

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Speaker 1: But yes, I think that's probably a a lot of

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Speaker 2: Their audience is also yelling at them today. Yeah, all right,

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Speaker 1: We gotta chet it up and I love you and

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Speaker 1: I love you, and let's call it the end of

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Speaker 1: the episode.