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Speaker 1: The Jewels show on demand jubils dirty Little Secret. Hello, Hello, Hello, Hello, Hey,

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Speaker 1: what's up? You have a dirty little secret? I sure do, hey,

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Speaker 1: one that I'm dying to tell people because I can't

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Speaker 1: tell anyone I know. But if you're dying to tell it,

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Speaker 1: guess what I'm living to hear it. So let's do it,

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Speaker 1: all right? So, um my Ganda is adopted and has

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Speaker 1: zero interest in finding out whose original biological parents will work.

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Speaker 1: But um I ended up having some neurological problems that

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Speaker 1: might have been genetically related. So I ended up doing

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Speaker 1: some DNA testing and they said, hey, do you want

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Speaker 1: to you know, throw on you know, find out where

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Speaker 1: you're from at the same time. So this was sure

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Speaker 1: one second, sorry, this was like legit DNA testing. I mean,

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Speaker 1: I'm not saying that ancestry dot com isn't legit, but

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Speaker 1: you didn't just pick your finger in mail it somewhere

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Speaker 1: and then they told you that you have a bunch

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Speaker 1: you're from the Netherlands or something, right, No, this was

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Speaker 1: for medical reasons and so anyway, what happened is it

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Speaker 1: came back and they said, do you want to share

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Speaker 1: the DNA with like ancestry or twenty three and me

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Speaker 1: and all that other stuff, and I'm like, yeah, whatever.

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Speaker 1: So out of the blue, about a week later, I

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Speaker 1: get an email from a lady telling me, you know,

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Speaker 1: who are you? I know all my family blah blah blah,

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Speaker 1: and I'm like, oh, this is crazy. My dad's adopted

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Speaker 1: so it's probably related. And the girl could not believe it.

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Speaker 1: So the only person that could have been related, because

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Speaker 1: it tells you if you're on if it was from

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Speaker 1: the mother's side or the father's side, that the relationship

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Speaker 1: was was her older sister. So she went to her

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Speaker 1: older sister and was like, yo, you gets something to

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Speaker 1: tell me. And because no one knew about my dad,

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Speaker 1: and a long story short, turns out, she got pregnant

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Speaker 1: and back in the late forties, what would happen? They

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Speaker 1: just send the girl away, had the baby come back,

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Speaker 1: Like nothing ever happened. My dad got adopted out, she

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Speaker 1: got sent away, and so no one knew about it.

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Speaker 1: She finally confessed her sister said, yeah, this is what happened,

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Speaker 1: and then must obviously behind DNA matches. But I don't

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Speaker 1: want any contact. Horrible memory, Please don't contact me further

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Speaker 1: about at the Homeline yards, dang, well, you know this.

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Speaker 1: You know who your dad's mom is, but he doesn't.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, but that's not the juicy part. Juicy part

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Speaker 1: is at the same at the same time, the same

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Speaker 1: thing happened on my father's side or his father's side,

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Speaker 1: And so now I was able to find out exactly

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Speaker 1: who my dad's biological father was. And I know and

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Speaker 1: I've spoken to my dad and sister, which he doesn't

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Speaker 1: know about. But yeah, because they didn't have DNA testing

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Speaker 1: back in midday. Yeah, but at this point the guy

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Speaker 1: is like c nile and on the other side, I

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Speaker 1: can't say anything. And then what am I supposed to

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Speaker 1: do with my dad saying, hey, guess what. By the way,

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Speaker 1: you didn't want to find your family, but I ended

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Speaker 1: up finding him. So I'm stuck. Now that is crazy.

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Speaker 1: That's crazy information to have and not really know what

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Speaker 1: to do with it. Yeah. The way it connects it

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Speaker 1: to me is that my dad's adopted I needed medical

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Speaker 1: information related to the DNA. He doesn't know his parents are.

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Speaker 1: I ended up doing DNA testing. Through that process, I

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Speaker 1: ended up finding out who his parents were, and so

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Speaker 1: now I know who both are. The girl doesn't want

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Speaker 1: anything to do with my dad in any way, shape

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Speaker 1: or form. Her husband has no idea she ever had

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Speaker 1: a baby, kids, So he's got brothers and sisters out

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Speaker 1: there that have no idea he exists. And so now

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Speaker 1: I'm stuck with knowing exactly who my dad's family is

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Speaker 1: and can't tell anybody. I think the thing that you

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Speaker 1: could do, maybe for yourself, is accept the fact that

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Speaker 1: you can't do anything with the information. Don't wrestle with it.

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Speaker 1: Just accept it. Hey, um, okay, and then give your

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Speaker 1: dad a hug and let him know that he's loved.

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Speaker 1: If there's any other update, call us back. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: you know how every and now it's definitely I mean, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I can't all your thing. You love your dad? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: well of course I'm okay, try and just making sure

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Speaker 1: because so, yeah, like, dude, just to have a good

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Speaker 1: relationship with your dad, right, and just make peace with

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Speaker 1: the fact that you'll never be able to tell him

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Speaker 1: and just you know, you don't have to shove that

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Speaker 1: stuff way down, but just make peace with it that

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Speaker 1: you'll never will and if every time you think about it,

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Speaker 1: reach out to your dad and say hi and talk

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Speaker 1: to him. Oh yeah, Well, the funny thing is is

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Speaker 1: now that my DNA is in my system. If any

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Speaker 1: of his unknown brothers or sisters ever do a DNA test,

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Speaker 1: it's gonna paint, so it might inevitably happen elsewhere. Well yeah,

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Speaker 1: well good, yeah, well thank you for telling us you

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Speaker 1: a little secret. Man. That's a crazy one. Yeah yeah, definitely,

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Speaker 1: all right, take care of man, all right? Did you?

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Speaker 1: Will show on demand