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Speaker 1: Once upon a time there was a good old traditional housewife.

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Speaker 2: She couldn't.

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Speaker 1: She cleaned and cared for her children and the man

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Speaker 1: of the house, and of course she didn't talk back.

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Speaker 2: She was both obedient and.

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Speaker 3: Soft by nature.

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Speaker 2: She was a good woman who always made good choices.

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Speaker 4: We're good Mom's bad choices.

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Speaker 5: You's single mom who said fuck the patriarchy, shared all

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Speaker 5: their bad choices and.

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Speaker 4: Found out they were so bad after all.

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Speaker 5: We're experts, overshares and your new besties.

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Speaker 4: Sit back and enjoy the ride.

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Speaker 3: I can.

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Speaker 5: Welcome back to good Mom's bad choices. I'm Erica and

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Speaker 5: I'm Nila.

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Speaker 4: Happy hump Day, bitches, Happy.

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Speaker 5: Motherfucking hump Day. It's another wonderful week of good moms,

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Speaker 5: bad motherfucking choices, and happy Valentine's Day. Yes, it's the

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Speaker 5: week of Valentine's Day. And if you are not celebrating love,

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Speaker 5: celebrate love, bitches.

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Speaker 4: All we got even if you're single. Celebrate the love

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Speaker 4: of self.

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Speaker 5: Celebrate the love that's coming. Yeah, celebrate the love of family.

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Speaker 5: Celebrate the love of girlfriends. More love, more love, more love.

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Speaker 6: We're in the student. I called Melave this morning. I

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Speaker 6: was like, bitch, we're pink, and I was.

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Speaker 5: Like, okay, because I already have an outfit right here.

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Speaker 5: I'm looking at it, but okay, I got it. So

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Speaker 5: here are my pink my pink pants, my pink my

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Speaker 5: professional pink pants. I feel like Oprah.

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Speaker 6: You look beautiful, gorgeous, very soft and feminine, lovely.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 6: We have a special guest today, and I'm really excited

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Speaker 6: because we're gonna get straight into it.

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Speaker 4: This is a former guest, but it's been.

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Speaker 6: A few years since this gentleman has joined us on

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Speaker 6: in the Girl Cave, the Woman Cave, the wild woman Cave.

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Speaker 5: This is first time here at this wild woman Cave.

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, because before I was at the other at

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Speaker 4: the other spot.

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Speaker 6: I'm very excited to welcome to the show none other

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Speaker 6: than relationship coach, author, writer, producer mister Marcus Black.

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Speaker 5: Hey, welcome back.

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Speaker 2: So what did you call this the what kind of case?

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Speaker 5: Wild woman case?

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Speaker 2: I'm built for it, though you ready you made it

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Speaker 2: out before.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I got four sisters, two daughter's wife, ex wife.

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Speaker 5: You've been married twice, you've been initiated. I have a

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Speaker 5: question when you because you know when you ask what

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Speaker 5: is that does the word the term wild woman like

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Speaker 5: make you feel a way. I feel like sometimes men

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Speaker 5: get turned off by the term wild woman.

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Speaker 1: I don't it, don't it, don't it, don't budge me. Okay,

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Speaker 1: you know I think wild.

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Speaker 2: As in.

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Speaker 1: Uncontrolled by men, right, so sounds fair.

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Speaker 5: Never put it that way, but I like that control.

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Speaker 6: And you know, I mean there's more legs, so that

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Speaker 6: it's not all about we're not we're not centering men

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Speaker 6: in our wildness, right, Like, there's other aspects to our wildness.

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Speaker 2: What makes you guys wild?

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Speaker 5: I like to think of myself as wild in the

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Speaker 5: sense of like fairal not like incubated. When I think

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Speaker 5: of the opposite of wild, people like why wild, I'm like,

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Speaker 5: why not like free? I think a free primal.

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Speaker 2: So not controlled?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, not in the zoo.

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Speaker 2: What's it? What's your what's your idea.

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Speaker 6: Of I think for me, it's just someone that's like

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Speaker 6: authentically themselves no matter what, no matter where what room

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Speaker 6: you enter, whether you know you're in the presence of

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Speaker 6: uh a politician or you're in a presence in the

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Speaker 6: presence of a child, like you are who you are

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Speaker 6: all the time, through and through. There's nothing that tames

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Speaker 6: the spirit of who you are and.

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Speaker 5: There's no control, like, there's no there's You're not you're

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Speaker 5: not trying to abide by this invisible outline of what

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Speaker 5: a lady is supposed to be or how you're supposed

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Speaker 5: to be. It's rather to your own, your own standard

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Speaker 5: of living.

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Speaker 1: So you like that I said control, You just don't

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Speaker 1: like the by men because you like, like men have

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Speaker 1: nothing to do with this, like they're so far out.

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Speaker 2: Well, I think that.

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Speaker 4: There's probably an element to that, and I think that there's.

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Speaker 6: Like I think that me and Mila have you in

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Speaker 6: our wildness over the years, right, because I think that

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Speaker 6: there's definitely Obviously Mila is a wife, right, so she

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Speaker 6: in in in many spaces and in her life. I've

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Speaker 6: seen her submit to Orlando. So it's not about like

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Speaker 6: not being controlled. I think that word, I mean, it's

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Speaker 6: it's the word is layered, right, So I think that

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Speaker 6: it's not I don't think that as women who are wild,

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Speaker 6: it's there's not a lack of submissiveness that we can

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Speaker 6: possess in partnership with man. It's also like who is

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Speaker 6: the man that's leading us? So I don't mind submitting.

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Speaker 7: To a man.

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Speaker 4: I don't mind I love it please, for the love

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Speaker 4: of God.

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Speaker 2: Submitting I do.

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Speaker 5: I'm very right, man.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, Like I feel like in this season of my life.

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Speaker 6: I've been in my relationship for almost two years now,

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Speaker 6: and like the other day I was like cooking lunch

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Speaker 4: Was like, wow, I've been doing this a lot, and

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Speaker 4: I really enjoy it. I enjoy it.

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Speaker 6: I enjoy like making sure like he's taken care of

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Speaker 6: I enjoy you know, I enjoy taking care of him

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Speaker 6: in all ways. So I think for other for other men,

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Speaker 6: though I would have been a lot more resistant, I've

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Speaker 5: So it's about the men that you choose, I think.

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Speaker 5: And I think that's what pisses me off about like

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Speaker 5: this era of I don't know how you say, like

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Speaker 5: insults or like this love this error of a lot

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Speaker 5: of men, about like when men don't women don't want

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Speaker 5: to submit, and women don't want to be It's like, no, nigga,

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Speaker 5: it's just not to your non man ass, you know,

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Speaker 5: Like no, just not to you who's over there hating

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Speaker 5: hating women out loud on a podcast, you know, Like

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Speaker 5: that irritates me. And for that reason, I was thinking

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Speaker 5: about this recently, like I intentionally use a lot of

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Speaker 5: language that I know is going to irritate or bother

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Speaker 5: a small minded man, you know what I mean. Like sometimes,

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Speaker 5: like I said, wild women, I can tell it like

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Speaker 5: I can start twitching or like ho like I'm a

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Speaker 5: I'm a former hope and like oh, you know, like

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Speaker 5: there's certain words that I know it's going to really

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Speaker 5: they're a basic man, so I use them to see

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and it works.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, but I also want to I also will say

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Speaker 6: as a woman who has had I mean, I guess

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Speaker 6: submission has been a journey for me, and it's I'm

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Speaker 6: still in the journey of it even currently in this relationship.

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Speaker 6: Is like I think a lot of women say, like

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Speaker 6: for the right man, I will submit, but that's not

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Speaker 6: always true because when you find the right man because

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Speaker 6: like there's actually like a training that has to happen.

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Speaker 5: I'm still in it too, yeah, married, but I'm still

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Speaker 5: actively like I twitch every time you.

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Speaker 6: Tell me I get Like Shakam was like, you know,

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Speaker 6: I've been thinking someone the other day. He's like, I'm

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Speaker 6: just contemplating, Like where you submit to me, and like

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Speaker 6: you when we go to the gym, like you submit one,

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Speaker 6: like you're no problem, Like you'll like listen to everything

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Speaker 6: that I say. He's like, with Iri, you've given me

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Speaker 6: experienced with both you and your Daughter's very challenging in

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Speaker 4: And you know, he was like, you know, we're debating

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Speaker 5: Could possibly be. Not at the gym, you do it,

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Speaker 6: Said, sexually, I submit like in places where I have

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Speaker 6: believe or i've seen the proof, I can say no problem,

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Speaker 4: And he was talking about the house and I was

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Speaker 6: I was like, well, well she cam actually like my baby

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Speaker 6: daddy told me I had I wouldn't submit to him

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Speaker 6: talking about. I was like, it's not that. It's that

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Speaker 6: it's that a I've never I've never been in that

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Speaker 6: my mom, my grandmother, they're not. I've never seen them

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Speaker 6: my stepdad's dynamic. She is she runs the ship, she

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Speaker 4: The time, you don't ever let me lead. I was like, well,

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Speaker 4: I don't trust you, and he goes, oh, no, I'm

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Speaker 4: not going to literally lead.

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Speaker 6: But now that I'm with a man that I trust,

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Speaker 6: it still shows up. And I think for me now

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Speaker 6: because I've never seen it. But then there's the added

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Speaker 6: then it's on me. And now having someone come in

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Speaker 6: and like, it's been challenging for me to like, yeah,

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Speaker 6: of learning how to do that. Even though I have

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Speaker 6: can be soft with, I can trust all those things.

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Speaker 4: So for the ladies that think, oh, when I find

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Speaker 4: the right man, then I'll submit. No, bitch, you might not.

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Speaker 6: You're still gonna need to learn how to do that

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Speaker 6: because it actually feels really uncomfortable.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I actually my latest book that I just put out

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Speaker 1: is called Bulletproof Love, right, and I'm teaching people how

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Speaker 1: to bulletproof your relationship. But and I actually created the

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Speaker 1: whole curriculum. I have a community. It's called Bulletproof University,

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Speaker 1: and I created the first curriculm. Because you know, any

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Speaker 1: any license you go get, right, I don't care if

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Speaker 1: it's a beautician like saying the drivers, Like, any license

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Speaker 1: you go get you have to read something, you have

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Speaker 1: to study it, you have to and you have to

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Speaker 1: pass a test that says you know how to do it.

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Speaker 2: But the marriage LI likes is the only license you need.

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Speaker 5: To get Crazy that you say that and.

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Speaker 2: They give you a license that says you know how

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Speaker 2: to do this.

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Speaker 5: You don't know shit.

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Speaker 1: You pay two hundred and fifty dollars and you are

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Speaker 1: not clear to ruin your life.

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Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: And so for me, I'm like, I had never seen

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Speaker 1: it either, you know, I had never seen it up

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Speaker 5: You know and have creed and communication and yeah, and

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Speaker 1: Yeah, And I don't even want to get going down

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I'm curious about the bullet their bulletproof concept of

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Speaker 2: Right. Once I ask for something that isn't inconvenience.

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Speaker 1: Because the relationship is that we're not best friends, we

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Speaker 1: So when I'm talking about bulletproof love, man for me.

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Speaker 1: I can't speak for nobody else in this scenario. I

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Speaker 1: It was It was eye opening because I think most

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Speaker 1: But there's people who see me what I'm doing now

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Speaker 1: and you're in a situation. You haven't been taught how

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00:20:16,320 --> 00:20:19,119
Speaker 1: to handle these situations. You haven't been like I stayed

440
00:20:19,240 --> 00:20:21,199
Speaker 1: ten told down stairs I was I wasn't wrong for

441
00:20:21,280 --> 00:20:24,960
Speaker 1: how I felt. I was wrong for how I handled

442
00:20:25,200 --> 00:20:27,320
Speaker 1: my feelings, you know what I mean, and how I

443
00:20:27,359 --> 00:20:33,040
Speaker 1: went about it and not feeling not knowing how to

444
00:20:33,080 --> 00:20:36,960
Speaker 1: ext you know, like, transparency is so important in a relationship,

445
00:20:37,119 --> 00:20:39,359
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? Not just honesty, but transparency.

446
00:20:39,680 --> 00:20:41,919
Speaker 1: And my relationship with my wife is so amazing because

447
00:20:42,240 --> 00:20:46,639
Speaker 1: there's full transparency. You know what I'm saying, It's real partnership.

448
00:20:46,680 --> 00:20:47,120
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying.

449
00:20:47,119 --> 00:20:48,760
Speaker 1: My wife is my best friend. There's nothing I don't

450
00:20:48,800 --> 00:20:49,440
Speaker 1: talk to her about.

451
00:20:49,520 --> 00:20:49,680
Speaker 2: Right.

452
00:20:50,400 --> 00:20:51,679
Speaker 1: So I was talking about homie the other day and

453
00:20:51,680 --> 00:20:54,919
Speaker 1: I'm like, look, it's easy to come talk to your

454
00:20:54,960 --> 00:20:58,359
Speaker 1: wife or your girl about how you're feeling. It's gonna

455
00:20:58,359 --> 00:21:00,320
Speaker 1: be much more difficult to have a conversation and her

456
00:21:00,359 --> 00:21:02,639
Speaker 1: about well, this is what I did as a result

457
00:21:02,640 --> 00:21:05,800
Speaker 1: of that. Now, now, now you left her in a

458
00:21:05,880 --> 00:21:09,240
Speaker 1: dark about so much. So it's like life still life,

459
00:21:09,280 --> 00:21:11,479
Speaker 1: and you still feel certain things. But as I as

460
00:21:11,920 --> 00:21:13,560
Speaker 1: I feel something now it's like, my wife's not even

461
00:21:13,560 --> 00:21:17,439
Speaker 1: the blind about this, like, oh, what's I was feeling

462
00:21:17,480 --> 00:21:17,679
Speaker 1: like this?

463
00:21:17,720 --> 00:21:19,080
Speaker 2: So I saw this, So I'm dealing with this.

464
00:21:19,119 --> 00:21:21,160
Speaker 1: So this is how I'm feeling the day or and

465
00:21:21,520 --> 00:21:24,200
Speaker 1: there's transparency and she can help me through these feelings

466
00:21:24,200 --> 00:21:28,760
Speaker 1: and vice versa, you know what I'm saying. So that

467
00:21:29,000 --> 00:21:32,880
Speaker 1: situation is the first time, the first thing that put

468
00:21:32,880 --> 00:21:39,440
Speaker 1: a highlight over who I was in that moment where

469
00:21:39,480 --> 00:21:42,000
Speaker 1: I was lost, what the root of it was, like

470
00:21:42,000 --> 00:21:43,640
Speaker 1: what caused me to do this? Like I'm a very

471
00:21:43,680 --> 00:21:46,440
Speaker 1: I've always been a very honest person. I'm a very

472
00:21:47,600 --> 00:21:50,320
Speaker 1: transparent person naturally, Like even what you want to.

473
00:21:50,280 --> 00:21:52,800
Speaker 2: Talk, we can talk about whatever, Like I don't really triplef.

474
00:21:52,800 --> 00:21:53,119
Speaker 2: I'm not that.

475
00:21:53,160 --> 00:21:57,400
Speaker 1: I don't do no hiding right, So, and that moment,

476
00:21:57,440 --> 00:22:01,800
Speaker 1: I'm like, hmm, how did like where did this come from?

477
00:22:02,119 --> 00:22:02,920
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying too.

478
00:22:03,160 --> 00:22:07,520
Speaker 2: I actually always thought that even if I was to.

479
00:22:08,680 --> 00:22:11,400
Speaker 1: Do something wrong like that, I would be very transparent

480
00:22:11,440 --> 00:22:11,960
Speaker 1: that I did it.

481
00:22:12,119 --> 00:22:14,000
Speaker 2: I didn't. I wasn't transparent about anything. I'm like, how

482
00:22:14,040 --> 00:22:16,000
Speaker 2: did I become? Where has come from? Where is this?

483
00:22:16,640 --> 00:22:18,480
Speaker 1: And so it sent me down the road of trying

484
00:22:18,480 --> 00:22:21,320
Speaker 1: to do the work and go to therapy and unpack

485
00:22:21,400 --> 00:22:23,520
Speaker 1: certain things and you know, get in my word and

486
00:22:23,560 --> 00:22:25,480
Speaker 1: see God and just try to try to break down

487
00:22:25,520 --> 00:22:26,600
Speaker 1: like what is the what's the root?

488
00:22:26,640 --> 00:22:28,280
Speaker 2: What's the foundation of these things? You know?

489
00:22:30,520 --> 00:22:34,360
Speaker 6: Was that situation that that moment where your wife could

490
00:22:34,400 --> 00:22:37,879
Speaker 6: have chose otherwise and she chose you? And so just

491
00:22:38,000 --> 00:22:42,560
Speaker 6: curious because I think that as women, when we hear

492
00:22:42,560 --> 00:22:44,840
Speaker 6: stories like this, like Mila said, we hear women that

493
00:22:44,880 --> 00:22:46,760
Speaker 6: are like, have been with men that have been have

494
00:22:46,840 --> 00:22:48,639
Speaker 6: had you say you didn't struggle with in fidelity, but

495
00:22:48,680 --> 00:22:50,280
Speaker 6: maybe they've been in a relationship where like their partner

496
00:22:50,320 --> 00:22:52,600
Speaker 6: has had infidelity and then they keep going back because

497
00:22:52,600 --> 00:22:53,440
Speaker 6: their partner says.

498
00:22:53,240 --> 00:22:55,160
Speaker 4: Oh, I'm gonna be better, I'm gonna do better. I've

499
00:22:55,160 --> 00:22:55,720
Speaker 4: been that woman.

500
00:22:57,040 --> 00:23:00,680
Speaker 6: I'm just curious from a man's perspective, what are signs

501
00:23:00,960 --> 00:23:03,439
Speaker 6: that women who are in those relationships that are in

502
00:23:03,480 --> 00:23:07,359
Speaker 6: the process of giving their man and maybe the first chance, Like,

503
00:23:07,400 --> 00:23:09,600
Speaker 6: how do you know you're like, this is a good investment?

504
00:23:10,040 --> 00:23:12,359
Speaker 6: How do you know, like, what are the signs that

505
00:23:12,440 --> 00:23:15,720
Speaker 6: a woman can look at in her man and say, Okay,

506
00:23:15,960 --> 00:23:19,159
Speaker 6: I'm willing to take this chance because I believe in you, Like,

507
00:23:19,200 --> 00:23:20,840
Speaker 6: what are what are those signs that they can look

508
00:23:20,880 --> 00:23:22,640
Speaker 6: for Because I think a lot of times as women

509
00:23:22,800 --> 00:23:25,960
Speaker 6: like we're just like going off trust and trust trust

510
00:23:26,200 --> 00:23:28,400
Speaker 6: trust has already been broken exactly, you know.

511
00:23:28,520 --> 00:23:31,120
Speaker 1: So it's like, so I think I think you can't

512
00:23:31,240 --> 00:23:34,520
Speaker 1: go off of potentially you have to go off trajectory, right,

513
00:23:34,560 --> 00:23:36,919
Speaker 1: you have to go off of Okay, how is this

514
00:23:36,960 --> 00:23:37,639
Speaker 1: person moving?

515
00:23:37,680 --> 00:23:40,000
Speaker 2: Like how you do one thing is how you do everything? Right?

516
00:23:40,560 --> 00:23:43,880
Speaker 2: So when you're dealing with somebody of.

517
00:23:46,040 --> 00:23:48,520
Speaker 1: Character, if you're dealing with somebody who is honest, if

518
00:23:48,520 --> 00:23:50,600
Speaker 1: you're dealing with somebody who like when I look at

519
00:23:50,760 --> 00:23:53,080
Speaker 1: how you handle things, I can tell whether this was

520
00:23:53,119 --> 00:23:54,639
Speaker 1: a mistake, Like this is a glitch in a make

521
00:23:54,720 --> 00:23:57,000
Speaker 1: This is a glitch right here, right If this is

522
00:23:57,040 --> 00:23:59,040
Speaker 1: who you are, it's just who you are, you know

523
00:23:59,080 --> 00:24:03,440
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. So for a woman that said, I

524
00:24:03,480 --> 00:24:06,600
Speaker 1: would never tell a woman to continue to go back

525
00:24:06,760 --> 00:24:12,240
Speaker 1: or you know, I think emotional manipulation is an emotional

526
00:24:12,280 --> 00:24:16,560
Speaker 1: trauma is just as toxic and dangerous as physical trauma,

527
00:24:16,800 --> 00:24:20,000
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. So, well, yeah, sometimes it

528
00:24:20,040 --> 00:24:23,840
Speaker 1: can be more, you know, So I would I would

529
00:24:23,840 --> 00:24:27,200
Speaker 1: say that it's important to step back and look at

530
00:24:27,240 --> 00:24:29,439
Speaker 1: who this person is, you know what I mean. Again,

531
00:24:29,800 --> 00:24:32,200
Speaker 1: I'm not somebody who ever struggled in this area, you

532
00:24:32,240 --> 00:24:37,560
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. I've never been this undisciplined. Wow,

533
00:24:37,720 --> 00:24:40,200
Speaker 1: dick nigga out here, just that's never been my move,

534
00:24:40,760 --> 00:24:45,760
Speaker 1: never been my move, right, So something happened here, you

535
00:24:45,800 --> 00:24:49,800
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, and I missed it. And also

536
00:24:50,640 --> 00:24:53,359
Speaker 1: anybody who was around me in that season, you know

537
00:24:54,040 --> 00:24:55,680
Speaker 1: it bothered me more than it bothered her.

538
00:24:55,760 --> 00:24:56,440
Speaker 2: It could like it.

539
00:24:59,680 --> 00:25:01,639
Speaker 1: It's one thing when you when you just slip up

540
00:25:01,680 --> 00:25:03,800
Speaker 1: and you make a mistake when you're making offense, right,

541
00:25:03,960 --> 00:25:05,520
Speaker 1: But when you hurt the person you.

542
00:25:05,480 --> 00:25:10,600
Speaker 2: Love, you should be hurt. You shouldn't be okay, right,

543
00:25:10,640 --> 00:25:12,480
Speaker 2: And that's a that's a that's another major sign.

544
00:25:12,680 --> 00:25:17,280
Speaker 1: Right, Like if if you hurt your partner and they're

545
00:25:17,280 --> 00:25:20,080
Speaker 1: not and you're devastating, they're not devastating. Something's wrong here

546
00:25:20,200 --> 00:25:22,440
Speaker 1: and you're hurt and they're not hurt, and they just think, oh, well,

547
00:25:22,480 --> 00:25:25,440
Speaker 1: you know, it's not that big of stuff, Like it's

548
00:25:25,480 --> 00:25:31,480
Speaker 1: not that big of a deal where you know you

549
00:25:31,560 --> 00:25:34,200
Speaker 1: need to like the get over it language where you

550
00:25:34,280 --> 00:25:37,840
Speaker 1: still you still tripping off of that. These are all no, no, no, no, no, no,

551
00:25:38,000 --> 00:25:39,320
Speaker 1: this is this is this is not the one We

552
00:25:39,320 --> 00:25:42,560
Speaker 1: gotta deal with this because I think whenever in any relationship,

553
00:25:42,560 --> 00:25:50,280
Speaker 1: a business relationship or marriage or friendship, you know, we

554
00:25:50,400 --> 00:25:53,520
Speaker 1: come together and we like, okay, we're having a we're

555
00:25:53,560 --> 00:25:56,040
Speaker 1: coming together to do this. You guys have a business relationship, right,

556
00:25:56,720 --> 00:25:58,240
Speaker 1: good mind's bad choices, you know.

557
00:25:58,200 --> 00:25:58,600
Speaker 2: What I'm saying.

558
00:25:58,640 --> 00:26:02,400
Speaker 1: You guys are full out business parts, right, So if

559
00:26:02,400 --> 00:26:06,600
Speaker 1: somebody goes and makes a move outside of what you

560
00:26:06,600 --> 00:26:09,680
Speaker 1: guys agreed on, it doesn't mean you throw it away,

561
00:26:09,720 --> 00:26:11,639
Speaker 1: but we definitely have to sit back and be like, Okay,

562
00:26:12,200 --> 00:26:12,760
Speaker 1: what was that?

563
00:26:13,520 --> 00:26:15,200
Speaker 2: What's going on? You know what I'm saying.

564
00:26:15,720 --> 00:26:18,359
Speaker 1: If this is who the person is and you just

565
00:26:18,440 --> 00:26:20,959
Speaker 1: hadn't called on to it, or maybe you thought they

566
00:26:20,960 --> 00:26:23,120
Speaker 1: weren't gonna do that to you, well maybe it's time

567
00:26:23,200 --> 00:26:25,600
Speaker 1: to like, you might want to step away from that

568
00:26:25,600 --> 00:26:27,440
Speaker 1: situation if it doesn't work for you and that's who

569
00:26:27,440 --> 00:26:27,840
Speaker 1: they are.

570
00:26:28,400 --> 00:26:32,879
Speaker 2: But if it's just a season and they just y'all

571
00:26:32,880 --> 00:26:34,680
Speaker 2: never we've been working together for years, I've never seen

572
00:26:34,720 --> 00:26:36,800
Speaker 2: you do nothing like that. What made you do this? Ah?

573
00:26:36,840 --> 00:26:39,240
Speaker 1: Well, I was dealing with this and then this happened,

574
00:26:39,280 --> 00:26:41,000
Speaker 1: and I was afraid about this, and I just did

575
00:26:41,040 --> 00:26:43,360
Speaker 1: this and I apologize, like I don't plan on ever

576
00:26:43,400 --> 00:26:46,159
Speaker 1: doing that again. This is the language that makes you

577
00:26:46,200 --> 00:26:48,760
Speaker 1: want to be like, okay, so you understand that this

578
00:26:48,840 --> 00:26:51,040
Speaker 1: is not okay, right, Because if you don't understand it's

579
00:26:51,040 --> 00:26:53,879
Speaker 1: not okay, then well we're probably gonna do it.

580
00:26:53,960 --> 00:26:55,200
Speaker 2: We'll probably be here again.

581
00:26:55,160 --> 00:26:59,520
Speaker 1: Six months, a year, six weeks, whatever, six years. So

582
00:27:00,520 --> 00:27:04,600
Speaker 1: I think for me, I was. I couldn't believe. I

583
00:27:04,640 --> 00:27:07,760
Speaker 1: was disgusted with myself, Like, Yo, that's what we're on, nigga,

584
00:27:07,760 --> 00:27:08,119
Speaker 1: that's what we.

585
00:27:08,200 --> 00:27:10,560
Speaker 2: At like because I felt cowardly and.

586
00:27:10,520 --> 00:27:12,400
Speaker 5: It also happened to just be on TV in front

587
00:27:12,400 --> 00:27:12,800
Speaker 5: of everybody.

588
00:27:12,800 --> 00:27:14,000
Speaker 2: It wasn't on TV. That's part.

589
00:27:14,840 --> 00:27:16,680
Speaker 1: That's what the stuff that people seen on TV. It

590
00:27:16,800 --> 00:27:21,400
Speaker 1: wasn't that was TV when I really made it, made

591
00:27:21,440 --> 00:27:22,119
Speaker 1: the bad turn.

592
00:27:22,720 --> 00:27:24,520
Speaker 2: No one's seen it, you know what I'm saying.

593
00:27:24,880 --> 00:27:30,240
Speaker 1: And I couldn't believe it because I felt I felt cowardly.

594
00:27:30,440 --> 00:27:31,720
Speaker 2: I felt more cowardly that.

595
00:27:33,720 --> 00:27:35,600
Speaker 1: I allowed it to make it back to my wife

596
00:27:35,640 --> 00:27:37,560
Speaker 1: without and it didn't come for me.

597
00:27:37,880 --> 00:27:40,879
Speaker 2: Oh, I felt like a bitch, go ahead.

598
00:27:41,080 --> 00:27:47,280
Speaker 5: That's something I think that people like people, what like

599
00:27:47,320 --> 00:27:49,719
Speaker 5: when in times am I in? Like when in a

600
00:27:49,760 --> 00:27:52,560
Speaker 5: certain maturity where people did stuff to trespass my trust

601
00:27:52,640 --> 00:27:56,240
Speaker 5: or cheated or lied. My biggest thing is because I'm

602
00:27:56,320 --> 00:27:58,600
Speaker 5: very much who I am. Was like, listen, this is

603
00:27:58,600 --> 00:28:01,439
Speaker 5: a youth thing. Because you don't like yourself enough to

604
00:28:01,480 --> 00:28:05,800
Speaker 5: be honest about what you've done. You don't like you

605
00:28:06,040 --> 00:28:07,920
Speaker 5: or else you would have been fine saying hey, I

606
00:28:07,960 --> 00:28:10,320
Speaker 5: don't want to really be in this relationship. So when

607
00:28:10,400 --> 00:28:13,440
Speaker 5: you when you realize it like that, it's like if

608
00:28:13,440 --> 00:28:16,280
Speaker 5: someone's apologetic, it's because they really dislike this thing that

609
00:28:16,320 --> 00:28:19,080
Speaker 5: they did. But if they were so hard to hide it,

610
00:28:19,080 --> 00:28:21,280
Speaker 5: it's like they don't really like who they actually are.

611
00:28:21,520 --> 00:28:23,960
Speaker 5: Who you say you are and who you present as

612
00:28:24,119 --> 00:28:26,720
Speaker 5: is not who you actually are. And that's where it

613
00:28:26,760 --> 00:28:30,399
Speaker 5: gets tricky. It's like, say, be who you are or

614
00:28:30,400 --> 00:28:33,000
Speaker 5: else you are, Like I think if you don't, if

615
00:28:33,000 --> 00:28:35,280
Speaker 5: you don't feel bad about it, it's because you like

616
00:28:35,520 --> 00:28:38,120
Speaker 5: to be. You like to show up as something that

617
00:28:38,160 --> 00:28:40,960
Speaker 5: you actually are not. And that's what I don't fuck with.

618
00:28:41,040 --> 00:28:44,160
Speaker 5: It's not generally about like the cheating or line. It's like, nigga,

619
00:28:44,400 --> 00:28:46,240
Speaker 5: you told me you wanted to be in a committed relationship,

620
00:28:46,240 --> 00:28:47,880
Speaker 5: you told me you wanted to be monogamous. We could

621
00:28:47,920 --> 00:28:49,840
Speaker 5: have did some whole other, total other shit because I

622
00:28:49,840 --> 00:28:52,120
Speaker 5: got some host too. But that's the thing is, niggas

623
00:28:52,120 --> 00:28:53,800
Speaker 5: don't really generally want you to be on your own

624
00:28:53,800 --> 00:28:56,160
Speaker 5: shit too. You would rather you do your own shit

625
00:28:56,240 --> 00:28:58,760
Speaker 5: and me pretend and me not know what the fuck

626
00:28:58,840 --> 00:29:01,520
Speaker 5: is going on so that you don't have to accept

627
00:29:01,520 --> 00:29:03,680
Speaker 5: the same behavior. And I think That's what bothers me

628
00:29:03,720 --> 00:29:06,120
Speaker 5: a lot about men is like the behavior that they

629
00:29:06,240 --> 00:29:09,560
Speaker 5: generally do in secret. It's in secret because they wouldn't

630
00:29:09,600 --> 00:29:11,920
Speaker 5: be able to handle it if their partner did it

631
00:29:11,960 --> 00:29:14,080
Speaker 5: to them. And to me, that's some bitch ass shit.

632
00:29:15,480 --> 00:29:17,440
Speaker 5: If you respect me as a friend, if you respect

633
00:29:17,480 --> 00:29:19,320
Speaker 5: me as an adult and as a human, you're gonna

634
00:29:19,320 --> 00:29:21,360
Speaker 5: be honest about what you're doing so that we can

635
00:29:21,400 --> 00:29:23,760
Speaker 5: be on the same page. And if I so choose to,

636
00:29:23,920 --> 00:29:26,560
Speaker 5: you know, either take it. I might go have a

637
00:29:26,600 --> 00:29:28,600
Speaker 5: side piece too. But if you can't handle it, that

638
00:29:28,680 --> 00:29:31,720
Speaker 5: lets me know that you don't like yourself because you

639
00:29:31,720 --> 00:29:33,600
Speaker 5: don't want to see yourself and me. You don't want

640
00:29:33,600 --> 00:29:36,560
Speaker 5: to see me display the same behaviors. And a lot

641
00:29:36,560 --> 00:29:38,480
Speaker 5: of men are going to argue and say, well, my woman,

642
00:29:38,600 --> 00:29:40,280
Speaker 5: I want to have a couple of women, and you

643
00:29:40,320 --> 00:29:42,240
Speaker 5: will just my woman. You hear all the time, right,

644
00:29:42,240 --> 00:29:45,840
Speaker 5: like men have women and then like but their women Neo,

645
00:29:49,000 --> 00:29:51,200
Speaker 5: that's the only thing I could think of. But to me,

646
00:29:51,400 --> 00:29:55,560
Speaker 5: like that in itself is an example of a man

647
00:29:55,840 --> 00:29:59,160
Speaker 5: who doesn't really like the behavior and what she's displaying.

648
00:30:00,040 --> 00:30:02,240
Speaker 5: Can't handle it in your partner, then you probably don't

649
00:30:02,280 --> 00:30:04,000
Speaker 5: like the behavior in yourself, but you don't have the

650
00:30:04,000 --> 00:30:04,959
Speaker 5: balls enough to say that.

651
00:30:05,040 --> 00:30:07,320
Speaker 2: To me, I think it's I think it's a little

652
00:30:07,320 --> 00:30:08,040
Speaker 2: more layered than that.

653
00:30:08,360 --> 00:30:08,720
Speaker 4: I don't know.

654
00:30:08,760 --> 00:30:10,760
Speaker 6: If Neo doesn't like the behavior in himself, I think

655
00:30:10,760 --> 00:30:11,920
Speaker 6: that he's benefiting from it.

656
00:30:11,960 --> 00:30:14,200
Speaker 5: I mean, well, men benefit from it. But I'm saying

657
00:30:14,360 --> 00:30:16,520
Speaker 5: is like, well, he's getting everything he wants, of course,

658
00:30:16,520 --> 00:30:18,200
Speaker 5: because the women are like, I don't need any of

659
00:30:18,240 --> 00:30:19,840
Speaker 5: the manner. Whatever the fuck they'd be saying. I don't

660
00:30:19,880 --> 00:30:21,560
Speaker 5: get it. Seems delusional to me, and I do think

661
00:30:21,600 --> 00:30:22,040
Speaker 5: it's layered.

662
00:30:22,040 --> 00:30:23,560
Speaker 6: I think that there's like a lot of conditioning. I

663
00:30:23,560 --> 00:30:26,800
Speaker 6: think there's like there is there's religion, there's just all

664
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Speaker 6: the things that how a woman is supposed to show up,

665
00:30:28,600 --> 00:30:30,680
Speaker 6: how wife is suppsed to show up, how valuableom' is

666
00:30:30,680 --> 00:30:32,640
Speaker 6: suposed to show up, how Puss's supposed to show up?

667
00:30:32,640 --> 00:30:33,880
Speaker 5: But what about equal rights?

668
00:30:34,080 --> 00:30:34,640
Speaker 4: Of course?

669
00:30:38,120 --> 00:30:41,720
Speaker 2: Why do you look like that? What?

670
00:30:44,400 --> 00:30:45,240
Speaker 4: Let's ask the man.

671
00:30:46,960 --> 00:30:48,120
Speaker 2: What about equal rights?

672
00:30:48,240 --> 00:30:50,560
Speaker 5: I just feel like equal, I don't.

673
00:30:50,760 --> 00:30:53,320
Speaker 2: I hate the word equal, by the way, don't.

674
00:30:53,400 --> 00:30:54,440
Speaker 4: Why do you hate the word equal?

675
00:30:54,600 --> 00:30:56,240
Speaker 2: Because what's equal? What is that?

676
00:30:57,520 --> 00:30:58,880
Speaker 5: I think about humanity?

677
00:30:58,960 --> 00:30:59,400
Speaker 4: Balance?

678
00:31:00,000 --> 00:31:01,800
Speaker 2: There's nothing, there's there's nothing equal.

679
00:31:01,920 --> 00:31:06,000
Speaker 1: There's nothing like if you I'm gonna pick like if

680
00:31:06,160 --> 00:31:08,720
Speaker 1: if you look at the animal kingdom, right, nothing is

681
00:31:08,760 --> 00:31:10,040
Speaker 1: equal in the animal kingdom.

682
00:31:10,360 --> 00:31:12,479
Speaker 2: Right. If we look at.

683
00:31:12,120 --> 00:31:14,320
Speaker 1: Men and it's like all men are not created equal,

684
00:31:14,920 --> 00:31:16,240
Speaker 1: all women are not created equal.

685
00:31:16,280 --> 00:31:18,200
Speaker 2: What is this equal stuff? Because everyone's not equal? You

686
00:31:19,760 --> 00:31:20,320
Speaker 2: get what you go?

687
00:31:20,360 --> 00:31:20,440
Speaker 3: Ah.

688
00:31:20,760 --> 00:31:23,800
Speaker 5: I think from God's perspective, he creates us equally. Baby

689
00:31:23,880 --> 00:31:25,440
Speaker 5: is a baby, is a baby is a baby?

690
00:31:25,720 --> 00:31:27,200
Speaker 2: This is see this is where.

691
00:31:27,800 --> 00:31:30,520
Speaker 5: Environment then gives us what we believe is what is

692
00:31:30,560 --> 00:31:35,320
Speaker 5: either environment in society then gives us value. So from

693
00:31:35,400 --> 00:31:38,560
Speaker 5: a from a divine perspective, as I create the tree,

694
00:31:38,600 --> 00:31:41,160
Speaker 5: and I create the lion, and I create Marcus Black,

695
00:31:41,520 --> 00:31:45,320
Speaker 5: they are all equally my creations in which I love unconditionally. Correct.

696
00:31:45,920 --> 00:31:47,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, but God has favorites.

697
00:31:49,320 --> 00:31:51,200
Speaker 4: And so like I don't know if God has favorites.

698
00:31:51,240 --> 00:31:53,720
Speaker 5: Is that in the Bible? Absolutely, there's no question, like

699
00:31:54,920 --> 00:31:57,440
Speaker 5: Mark John and well Jacob, well.

700
00:31:57,400 --> 00:32:00,560
Speaker 1: Well we can we can go into somebody like right

701
00:32:00,920 --> 00:32:03,960
Speaker 1: where in scripture God refers to like this is my friend,

702
00:32:04,080 --> 00:32:07,680
Speaker 1: Like I speak to him face to face, mouth to mouth,

703
00:32:07,720 --> 00:32:09,520
Speaker 1: like y'all think y'all can play with somebody who I

704
00:32:09,560 --> 00:32:10,600
Speaker 1: consider a friend of mine.

705
00:32:10,600 --> 00:32:11,240
Speaker 2: He's close to me.

706
00:32:11,680 --> 00:32:14,440
Speaker 1: Like when you talk about King David, who a great

707
00:32:14,480 --> 00:32:17,720
Speaker 1: man of guy, but King David made a mess. King

708
00:32:17,800 --> 00:32:20,800
Speaker 1: David made the biggest mess. God loved David. This is

709
00:32:20,960 --> 00:32:24,080
Speaker 1: he called David a man after his own heart. Even

710
00:32:24,080 --> 00:32:29,200
Speaker 1: when you talk about Jacob and Esau being born, said Jacob,

711
00:32:29,200 --> 00:32:29,880
Speaker 1: I love.

712
00:32:34,480 --> 00:32:35,760
Speaker 2: And and and and and and not.

713
00:32:36,680 --> 00:32:38,480
Speaker 1: It doesn't mean in the sense of like he doesn't

714
00:32:38,520 --> 00:32:40,520
Speaker 1: love Esau, but Jacob I have.

715
00:32:40,640 --> 00:32:44,360
Speaker 5: Favor You know what, Jacob has more faith than Jacob

716
00:32:44,400 --> 00:32:45,440
Speaker 5: talks to me more often.

717
00:32:45,520 --> 00:32:47,440
Speaker 1: It lands how it lands. It's kind of like when

718
00:32:47,440 --> 00:32:49,400
Speaker 1: you talk about the idea of luck.

719
00:32:49,240 --> 00:32:52,080
Speaker 6: Right, but we're also talking about the imperfections of man. Right,

720
00:32:52,120 --> 00:32:55,120
Speaker 6: So of course, like if if Esau has has funck

721
00:32:55,160 --> 00:32:57,840
Speaker 6: sh up or he's terrible birth, Oh.

722
00:32:57,720 --> 00:33:00,320
Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't understand. I thought that God just loved

723
00:33:00,320 --> 00:33:01,600
Speaker 5: his people that he created.

724
00:33:01,760 --> 00:33:05,880
Speaker 1: God loves everybody, but levels so unjust like I don't

725
00:33:06,120 --> 00:33:07,240
Speaker 1: Jesus had favorites.

726
00:33:07,360 --> 00:33:08,600
Speaker 2: Like there's a reason.

727
00:33:08,480 --> 00:33:10,000
Speaker 5: Jesus was a man. He was a human.

728
00:33:10,400 --> 00:33:11,920
Speaker 2: Jesus was all man and all God.

729
00:33:12,200 --> 00:33:15,160
Speaker 5: Research this morning, I don't know, but stuff with you're

730
00:33:15,160 --> 00:33:17,040
Speaker 5: gonna stud me with the Bible school.

731
00:33:17,240 --> 00:33:23,280
Speaker 4: Second, let me Bible, so so for.

732
00:33:23,920 --> 00:33:31,080
Speaker 1: Me, so much of our how society is ran it

733
00:33:31,160 --> 00:33:35,760
Speaker 1: is pulled from Bible. Right, Like when we talk about yes,

734
00:33:35,920 --> 00:33:38,400
Speaker 1: absolutely manipulad you know what I'm saying. But I'm just

735
00:33:38,440 --> 00:33:42,240
Speaker 1: talking about it's important for us to know what Scripture says, right,

736
00:33:42,720 --> 00:33:45,880
Speaker 1: because the moment we start talking about, well this is

737
00:33:45,960 --> 00:33:48,000
Speaker 1: right and this is wrong, what makes it right and

738
00:33:48,040 --> 00:33:49,520
Speaker 1: what makes it wrong? Where do we get this moral

739
00:33:49,560 --> 00:33:53,200
Speaker 1: compass from right? If we get the moral compass from God,

740
00:33:53,760 --> 00:33:58,440
Speaker 1: then there's a who gave us the moral compass.

741
00:33:59,280 --> 00:33:59,840
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying.

742
00:33:59,840 --> 00:34:04,160
Speaker 1: So much of the world still operates off the teen Commandments, right, and.

743
00:34:04,160 --> 00:34:09,080
Speaker 5: So it does it because did thou not shall kill

744
00:34:09,120 --> 00:34:12,000
Speaker 5: their neighbor? I mean, I think it just gets it gets,

745
00:34:12,040 --> 00:34:15,960
Speaker 5: It gets very muddy, right because I mean, I'm not

746
00:34:16,080 --> 00:34:19,000
Speaker 5: I've read the Bible a long time ago, not anytime recently.

747
00:34:19,040 --> 00:34:21,680
Speaker 5: I'm not gonna front, but did you read it the

748
00:34:21,680 --> 00:34:24,759
Speaker 5: whole thing? We went through every chapter in Catholic school. Yes,

749
00:34:25,560 --> 00:34:27,880
Speaker 5: I wasn't either, but that was.

750
00:34:27,880 --> 00:34:29,560
Speaker 4: A Catholic school too. I'm like, you read that whole point.

751
00:34:29,640 --> 00:34:33,879
Speaker 5: We had religion, But but this is where it gets

752
00:34:33,880 --> 00:34:35,680
Speaker 5: tricky to me, and I know this is probably gonna

753
00:34:35,680 --> 00:34:39,160
Speaker 5: get too deep, But even right now in present time,

754
00:34:39,239 --> 00:34:41,920
Speaker 5: when we talk about God's favorites or God's chosen people,

755
00:34:42,160 --> 00:34:45,200
Speaker 5: you see what that what happens when we put favoritism

756
00:34:45,600 --> 00:34:49,480
Speaker 5: or hierarchy on humans, people then think it's justified to

757
00:34:49,560 --> 00:34:52,920
Speaker 5: murder and kill and genocide and take land and kill babies.

758
00:34:53,160 --> 00:34:56,760
Speaker 5: And then that's not really on a moral compass, is.

759
00:34:59,280 --> 00:35:03,080
Speaker 1: People People don't read the Bible in context, right like,

760
00:35:03,239 --> 00:35:05,280
Speaker 1: even when I won't even go over there to that topic,

761
00:35:05,320 --> 00:35:10,719
Speaker 1: but even when I like, when you talk about the

762
00:35:10,880 --> 00:35:15,120
Speaker 1: chosen people, it's not talking about that land, you know

763
00:35:15,160 --> 00:35:16,839
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, It's not talking about the people who

764
00:35:16,920 --> 00:35:18,480
Speaker 1: have currently occupied that land.

765
00:35:18,960 --> 00:35:20,920
Speaker 2: It was It's a.

766
00:35:20,880 --> 00:35:24,080
Speaker 1: Lineage, and you're either a part of that lineage or not.

767
00:35:24,440 --> 00:35:26,520
Speaker 2: And and and when and when.

768
00:35:26,360 --> 00:35:30,040
Speaker 1: He chose those people. He didn't choose these people because

769
00:35:31,239 --> 00:35:33,640
Speaker 1: they're just these are good or it's just better than everybody.

770
00:35:34,120 --> 00:35:37,480
Speaker 1: He chose to reveal himself through these through this lineage.

771
00:35:37,719 --> 00:35:41,000
Speaker 1: So when you talk about Holy annoyed, it just means

772
00:35:41,000 --> 00:35:42,960
Speaker 1: it just means set apart these people.

773
00:35:43,960 --> 00:35:47,799
Speaker 2: I took this and I'm saying, set apart to the side.

774
00:35:47,880 --> 00:35:50,240
Speaker 2: You know what I mean. It doesn't mean better than everybody.

775
00:35:50,280 --> 00:35:51,960
Speaker 2: It's just chosen, you know what I mean.

776
00:35:52,040 --> 00:35:58,239
Speaker 1: Like when the idea of luck right, luck finds who

777
00:35:58,239 --> 00:36:00,160
Speaker 1: it wants right, Like if you hit a jackpot, did

778
00:36:00,200 --> 00:36:02,200
Speaker 1: you do to deserve the jackpipe? When somebody has a

779
00:36:02,239 --> 00:36:05,040
Speaker 1: lottery for five hundred million dollars? What did you do

780
00:36:05,120 --> 00:36:08,600
Speaker 1: to deserve that? Just it's just landing on you, you

781
00:36:08,600 --> 00:36:11,960
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. And that's how God's favor works.

782
00:36:12,000 --> 00:36:13,840
Speaker 1: God's favor God chooses.

783
00:36:13,880 --> 00:36:16,400
Speaker 2: Who he wants. God picks who he wants.

784
00:36:17,120 --> 00:36:19,800
Speaker 1: He loves everyone, but he has he has favorites, you

785
00:36:19,840 --> 00:36:22,520
Speaker 1: know what I mean. It's just if you if you

786
00:36:22,600 --> 00:36:24,560
Speaker 1: have cousins, then you probably have you might have a

787
00:36:24,600 --> 00:36:28,200
Speaker 1: favorite cousin, you know what I'm saying. You have siblings,

788
00:36:28,239 --> 00:36:30,200
Speaker 1: you might have a favorite sibling. You know what I'm saying,

789
00:36:30,239 --> 00:36:31,840
Speaker 1: a lot of people don't want to have this conversation,

790
00:36:31,920 --> 00:36:33,879
Speaker 1: But if you have multiple children, a lot of time

791
00:36:33,920 --> 00:36:34,680
Speaker 1: you have a favorite child.

792
00:36:34,760 --> 00:36:37,879
Speaker 6: Talking about hum men, we're talking about humans, human to human,

793
00:36:38,000 --> 00:36:38,680
Speaker 6: human to human.

794
00:36:39,600 --> 00:36:41,640
Speaker 5: But I was just saying that all that to say

795
00:36:41,719 --> 00:36:46,439
Speaker 5: back to the equal rights of relationships. It's just that

796
00:36:46,560 --> 00:36:51,200
Speaker 5: I think that men have used the patriarchy and religion

797
00:36:51,360 --> 00:36:56,080
Speaker 5: sometimes to place a burden or a struggle on women

798
00:36:56,160 --> 00:36:59,400
Speaker 5: that they have to endure. They have to endure a

799
00:36:59,480 --> 00:37:03,040
Speaker 5: certain amount of maybe infidelity or dishonesty in the realm

800
00:37:03,080 --> 00:37:06,640
Speaker 5: of sex or sexual relationships, because that is in a

801
00:37:06,640 --> 00:37:09,040
Speaker 5: man's nature. But no, it's not in your nature because

802
00:37:09,080 --> 00:37:10,960
Speaker 5: you have a vagina and you're my wife, and if

803
00:37:11,000 --> 00:37:13,680
Speaker 5: you do that what I did, then it's definitely over

804
00:37:13,719 --> 00:37:16,440
Speaker 5: and I'm definitely gonna My love then is conditional and

805
00:37:16,480 --> 00:37:19,480
Speaker 5: I no longer love you. But for me, this is

806
00:37:19,520 --> 00:37:21,359
Speaker 5: my nature because I have a penis and God gave

807
00:37:21,360 --> 00:37:23,319
Speaker 5: it to me and he said, soil your royal oaths

808
00:37:23,360 --> 00:37:29,480
Speaker 5: or whatever God said. You know, but you know that

809
00:37:29,719 --> 00:37:32,279
Speaker 5: that is where I think I get it.

810
00:37:32,200 --> 00:37:40,280
Speaker 1: Gets Yeah, but it's you have people in power saying

811
00:37:40,360 --> 00:37:42,040
Speaker 1: things that God never said.

812
00:37:42,280 --> 00:37:44,080
Speaker 5: Okay, right, No one's doing the research.

813
00:37:44,239 --> 00:37:44,880
Speaker 2: God never.

814
00:37:45,120 --> 00:37:49,640
Speaker 1: There's nowhere in the Bible what God gives men the

815
00:37:49,760 --> 00:37:53,360
Speaker 1: past to be sexually irresponsible. You know what I'm saying. Actually,

816
00:37:53,400 --> 00:37:55,640
Speaker 1: when you go to scripture and people, a lot of

817
00:37:55,640 --> 00:37:59,000
Speaker 1: people like to point out, well, this man was polygamist

818
00:37:59,000 --> 00:38:01,120
Speaker 1: and this person was Polygamon. It's and it's like, you

819
00:38:01,200 --> 00:38:03,919
Speaker 1: can't show me one time in a Bible where there's

820
00:38:03,920 --> 00:38:05,480
Speaker 1: a partly relationship and it went well.

821
00:38:05,640 --> 00:38:06,560
Speaker 2: It never goes well.

822
00:38:07,239 --> 00:38:09,719
Speaker 1: It went back every single time, whether where the God

823
00:38:09,800 --> 00:38:12,440
Speaker 1: condemned the person in that season or not.

824
00:38:12,719 --> 00:38:13,759
Speaker 2: That's another conversation.

825
00:38:13,840 --> 00:38:16,400
Speaker 1: And also there's certain things that's permissible on one season

826
00:38:16,400 --> 00:38:19,239
Speaker 1: that's not permissible in another season. When God's goal is

827
00:38:19,239 --> 00:38:21,520
Speaker 1: to populate the earth and build certain things.

828
00:38:21,520 --> 00:38:24,560
Speaker 2: Okay, well we're not This is not five thousand years ago.

829
00:38:25,000 --> 00:38:25,440
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying.

830
00:38:25,760 --> 00:38:28,799
Speaker 5: We don't need to populate ship No populated.

831
00:38:30,920 --> 00:38:33,280
Speaker 2: Men don't have the right to just like Lit's cheating

832
00:38:33,320 --> 00:38:35,160
Speaker 2: is wrong. I don't care who you cheating on.

833
00:38:36,000 --> 00:38:36,799
Speaker 5: You should not lie.

834
00:38:37,120 --> 00:38:38,279
Speaker 2: Well, it doesn't say that, it doesn't.

835
00:38:38,280 --> 00:38:40,960
Speaker 5: That's not a commandment really.

836
00:38:45,200 --> 00:38:48,279
Speaker 1: But but but this is a this is a misconception.

837
00:38:48,880 --> 00:38:54,640
Speaker 1: This is why our society is a mess, because we

838
00:38:54,719 --> 00:38:57,319
Speaker 1: run around saying things. You have pastors, you have moms,

839
00:38:57,360 --> 00:39:00,600
Speaker 1: you have people saying what the Bible says that it doesn't.

840
00:39:00,360 --> 00:39:02,680
Speaker 5: Say that, and nowhere went to go check and nother

841
00:39:02,719 --> 00:39:07,640
Speaker 5: one and so it's like it's too big. She's right,

842
00:39:07,320 --> 00:39:08,640
Speaker 5: she said I.

843
00:39:08,640 --> 00:39:10,520
Speaker 1: I was so annoyed when I dove into it and

844
00:39:10,560 --> 00:39:13,520
Speaker 1: I was like, wow, y'all said this and it don't

845
00:39:13,560 --> 00:39:15,799
Speaker 1: say that, and it's so off right.

846
00:39:16,280 --> 00:39:19,600
Speaker 2: And then also like I.

847
00:39:19,600 --> 00:39:21,200
Speaker 1: Was in a conversation, now this is this just to

848
00:39:21,280 --> 00:39:22,480
Speaker 1: just to give you a different perspective. I was in

849
00:39:22,520 --> 00:39:24,560
Speaker 1: a conversation in the barber shopping. The guy was looking

850
00:39:24,560 --> 00:39:26,400
Speaker 1: at me like crazy. It was like some Marcus, So

851
00:39:26,640 --> 00:39:29,000
Speaker 1: if you're if your wife cheating on you, what you doing?

852
00:39:29,880 --> 00:39:32,759
Speaker 2: And I was like, I said, I pray I never

853
00:39:32,840 --> 00:39:34,520
Speaker 2: have to see that day. Right.

854
00:39:34,960 --> 00:39:37,719
Speaker 1: But I was like, going back to what I was saying,

855
00:39:37,960 --> 00:39:40,200
Speaker 1: either we or earlier we go off of off of pattern.

856
00:39:40,640 --> 00:39:46,000
Speaker 2: My wife has never ever been quote unquote promiscuous.

857
00:39:46,000 --> 00:39:49,160
Speaker 1: What society said calls it right, She's never been out there,

858
00:39:49,160 --> 00:39:52,240
Speaker 1: she's n it's never been her. If she becomes something

859
00:39:52,280 --> 00:39:55,760
Speaker 1: today that she wasn't, I was zooming and be like, okay,

860
00:39:55,800 --> 00:39:56,640
Speaker 1: what's that.

861
00:39:56,640 --> 00:40:02,360
Speaker 2: That's one two. This is my wife. This is my wife,

862
00:40:02,800 --> 00:40:04,000
Speaker 2: Like we're together every day.

863
00:40:04,000 --> 00:40:07,640
Speaker 1: If somehow she can meet a man, he can court her,

864
00:40:09,920 --> 00:40:13,040
Speaker 1: woo her, whatever her enough to be able to get

865
00:40:13,040 --> 00:40:13,520
Speaker 1: them draws.

866
00:40:13,520 --> 00:40:14,680
Speaker 2: And I missed the whole thing.

867
00:40:16,840 --> 00:40:19,440
Speaker 1: That that means there's there's been some level of abandonment

868
00:40:19,480 --> 00:40:22,040
Speaker 1: on my end in disconnection. You know what I'm saying,

869
00:40:22,080 --> 00:40:24,600
Speaker 1: There's no way somebody can get that in I'm two

870
00:40:24,600 --> 00:40:26,560
Speaker 1: hands on, I'm too.

871
00:40:28,239 --> 00:40:29,840
Speaker 2: Away, I'm too tapped into.

872
00:40:30,239 --> 00:40:33,080
Speaker 6: Do you think that that same concept can be flipped

873
00:40:33,920 --> 00:40:35,640
Speaker 6: as far as we like for a woman, like if

874
00:40:35,680 --> 00:40:38,800
Speaker 6: her man cheated, is that does she need to analyze

875
00:40:38,840 --> 00:40:39,919
Speaker 6: that concept as well?

876
00:40:40,400 --> 00:40:43,759
Speaker 4: Like if my man had time to go court a woman.

877
00:40:43,800 --> 00:40:45,719
Speaker 6: I mean, obviously it's different, right because I think men

878
00:40:46,000 --> 00:40:50,880
Speaker 6: and they're there, their relation to sex or intimacy is

879
00:40:50,880 --> 00:40:52,719
Speaker 6: different than a woman's relation to sex or intimacy. But

880
00:40:52,719 --> 00:40:54,560
Speaker 6: I'm just curious, does that does that go both ways?

881
00:40:54,920 --> 00:40:57,640
Speaker 6: Because when I asked you originally was like, what what

882
00:40:57,800 --> 00:40:59,600
Speaker 6: are the green flags?

883
00:41:00,040 --> 00:41:00,480
Speaker 4: And cheating?

884
00:41:00,600 --> 00:41:00,759
Speaker 2: Right?

885
00:41:00,840 --> 00:41:02,800
Speaker 4: Like, what are the green flags? That's what green flags?

886
00:41:03,360 --> 00:41:04,920
Speaker 6: But like I mean, like, if you're gonna stay, you're

887
00:41:04,920 --> 00:41:06,480
Speaker 6: gonna work it out, what are the green flags in

888
00:41:06,520 --> 00:41:09,040
Speaker 6: your partner that you're like, Okay, I'm gonna work it

889
00:41:09,120 --> 00:41:11,360
Speaker 6: out because these are the things that I'm willing to

890
00:41:11,880 --> 00:41:14,000
Speaker 6: analyze and view about my partner and say, okay, But

891
00:41:14,400 --> 00:41:16,759
Speaker 6: this is an isolated situation. Historically, you haven't done this.

892
00:41:17,719 --> 00:41:19,839
Speaker 6: Number one is what I think is and number two, now,

893
00:41:19,880 --> 00:41:23,319
Speaker 6: what you're saying on your side is shit. Where am

894
00:41:23,360 --> 00:41:25,080
Speaker 6: I lacking here? Where am I laking?

895
00:41:25,160 --> 00:41:25,200
Speaker 2: So?

896
00:41:25,320 --> 00:41:26,759
Speaker 4: Does does that also go on?

897
00:41:26,880 --> 00:41:28,880
Speaker 2: On the woman side? Is different?

898
00:41:29,080 --> 00:41:29,360
Speaker 4: Okay?

899
00:41:29,520 --> 00:41:30,120
Speaker 2: It's different.

900
00:41:30,360 --> 00:41:32,960
Speaker 1: And going back to this is why I believe that

901
00:41:33,040 --> 00:41:35,400
Speaker 1: double standards are beautiful and I think it's important to

902
00:41:35,520 --> 00:41:41,040
Speaker 1: understand that we're not equal. Right, so, most women, I

903
00:41:41,080 --> 00:41:43,160
Speaker 1: will never make a blank I don't like blanket statements.

904
00:41:43,160 --> 00:41:45,799
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna speak for all women. Most women who

905
00:41:45,880 --> 00:41:49,920
Speaker 1: are loved properly by their man, they typically don't have

906
00:41:50,080 --> 00:41:55,440
Speaker 1: eyes for other men most right now, men, you can

907
00:41:55,520 --> 00:41:59,280
Speaker 1: have the most amazing wife and she do everything perfect

908
00:42:00,280 --> 00:42:04,560
Speaker 1: and the eyes will still move you and you have

909
00:42:04,680 --> 00:42:09,680
Speaker 1: to check it right. So as a as a as

910
00:42:09,760 --> 00:42:11,479
Speaker 1: a as a man, I will look at my wife,

911
00:42:11,560 --> 00:42:13,640
Speaker 1: who I know this is, this is this is not

912
00:42:13,800 --> 00:42:20,120
Speaker 1: her nature to just that's not what she's on. She's wrong, absolutely,

913
00:42:21,280 --> 00:42:24,359
Speaker 1: But it's like, how do we get here? And how

914
00:42:24,400 --> 00:42:27,480
Speaker 1: did I miss it? There's no way I miss it

915
00:42:29,440 --> 00:42:34,040
Speaker 1: if I'm intentional and I'm and I'm hands on and

916
00:42:34,120 --> 00:42:35,320
Speaker 1: I'm and I'm in there and I'm.

917
00:42:35,200 --> 00:42:36,960
Speaker 2: Present in my relationship. There's no way I miss something

918
00:42:37,000 --> 00:42:39,200
Speaker 2: like that. There's no way. She's probably been talking to

919
00:42:39,320 --> 00:42:43,680
Speaker 2: me about things that's bothering her and I brushed it off.

920
00:42:43,719 --> 00:42:46,640
Speaker 1: She felt ignored, she felt unseen, she felt unheard. Maybe

921
00:42:46,719 --> 00:42:48,960
Speaker 1: she didn't feel beautiful. Maybe she didn't. Maybe she's not.

922
00:42:49,200 --> 00:42:51,120
Speaker 2: She's she missed a lot.

923
00:42:51,200 --> 00:42:54,640
Speaker 1: And and even still my wife is very, very bold,

924
00:42:55,120 --> 00:42:59,320
Speaker 1: like she'll just be like, yeah, nah, you know what

925
00:42:59,320 --> 00:43:01,960
Speaker 1: I'm saying before she just goes and go does it

926
00:43:02,080 --> 00:43:02,839
Speaker 1: and does something else.

927
00:43:02,840 --> 00:43:04,640
Speaker 2: That's just who she is. You know what I'm saying.

928
00:43:07,480 --> 00:43:12,080
Speaker 1: As a man, because it is more in our nature

929
00:43:12,120 --> 00:43:13,880
Speaker 1: and all that I can. I can when I tell you,

930
00:43:13,920 --> 00:43:16,239
Speaker 1: I can open up the Bible and walk everything that

931
00:43:16,280 --> 00:43:18,200
Speaker 1: we're talking about. I can pinpoint to you where this

932
00:43:18,320 --> 00:43:20,680
Speaker 1: come from, how this happened, why it happened, and why

933
00:43:20,760 --> 00:43:22,560
Speaker 1: you feel how you feel. I can literally it will

934
00:43:22,600 --> 00:43:26,200
Speaker 1: take another episode, but I can literally walk it down.

935
00:43:26,600 --> 00:43:29,879
Speaker 1: So when you just that, just that just threw me over.

936
00:43:30,440 --> 00:43:34,279
Speaker 2: Look, I got add Well, I just said we were just.

937
00:43:34,320 --> 00:43:35,160
Speaker 5: Talking about.

938
00:43:38,480 --> 00:43:38,520
Speaker 3: You.

939
00:43:38,640 --> 00:43:40,200
Speaker 5: If you would take her back if she cheated up?

940
00:43:40,239 --> 00:43:42,920
Speaker 2: No, So because of the nature, right, men will go

941
00:43:43,000 --> 00:43:43,800
Speaker 2: out of their way.

942
00:43:46,120 --> 00:43:47,839
Speaker 1: To hide it you know what I'm saying, men will

943
00:43:47,960 --> 00:43:50,040
Speaker 1: duck more because it's like you just want to get

944
00:43:50,080 --> 00:43:51,839
Speaker 1: that off, like there was nothing wrong. You just wanted

945
00:43:51,880 --> 00:43:53,920
Speaker 1: to go get that off, like it doesn't have to

946
00:43:54,000 --> 00:43:54,600
Speaker 1: be something wrong.

947
00:43:55,640 --> 00:43:58,160
Speaker 5: I'm not saying that's wrong. I'm not saying you're not wrong. Women,

948
00:43:58,280 --> 00:44:00,279
Speaker 5: it takes a lot more, I think, especially as of

949
00:44:00,280 --> 00:44:03,919
Speaker 5: a certain age, to act on intimacy when you're in love.

950
00:44:04,120 --> 00:44:08,560
Speaker 6: I just had a high thought immediately, the high thought,

951
00:44:10,400 --> 00:44:12,480
Speaker 6: and niggas, I'm not gonna like this, maybe they will.

952
00:44:14,719 --> 00:44:17,200
Speaker 4: I think that from all the data that you've.

953
00:44:17,120 --> 00:44:20,840
Speaker 6: Just shared, data, all the information I've been hearing that

954
00:44:21,000 --> 00:44:23,080
Speaker 6: if a woman cheats, she needs a lot more like

955
00:44:23,280 --> 00:44:26,359
Speaker 6: she deserves a pass. I feel like if a woman cheats,

956
00:44:26,400 --> 00:44:28,279
Speaker 6: she deserves a past number one. All nigga to get

957
00:44:28,320 --> 00:44:31,080
Speaker 6: cheating women a past number one. I just feel like,

958
00:44:33,360 --> 00:44:37,080
Speaker 6: I mean, because generally, if you're cheating, I think it's

959
00:44:37,120 --> 00:44:39,000
Speaker 6: you're right, Because I mean, I can only speak for

960
00:44:39,040 --> 00:44:40,360
Speaker 6: myself and I can speak for like the data that

961
00:44:40,400 --> 00:44:43,520
Speaker 6: I've done amongst my friends that generally, if a woman

962
00:44:43,640 --> 00:44:47,080
Speaker 6: is cheating, it is because there is something lacking in

963
00:44:47,160 --> 00:44:51,279
Speaker 6: her partnership that she has been ignored and has tried

964
00:44:51,320 --> 00:44:53,520
Speaker 6: to express herself and it has gone on deaf fears.

965
00:44:53,960 --> 00:44:56,359
Speaker 6: It's usually not just because they're the fine. Like maybe

966
00:44:56,400 --> 00:44:58,600
Speaker 6: when I was like eighteen, and I would just like

967
00:44:58,800 --> 00:45:01,000
Speaker 6: I just wanted to try things and really in love. Yeah,

968
00:45:01,120 --> 00:45:04,600
Speaker 6: like when you're like when you're when you're older, I

969
00:45:04,640 --> 00:45:06,680
Speaker 6: would say that there's like a little more substance. However,

970
00:45:06,840 --> 00:45:09,040
Speaker 6: trauma still shows up and the need for attention and

971
00:45:09,080 --> 00:45:10,839
Speaker 6: all those things are still present. So let's not ignore

972
00:45:10,880 --> 00:45:13,200
Speaker 6: those things. But I would say generally it is because

973
00:45:13,200 --> 00:45:16,719
Speaker 6: there's something lacking. And so basically my high thought is

974
00:45:16,719 --> 00:45:17,239
Speaker 6: it's your fault.

975
00:45:19,280 --> 00:45:20,240
Speaker 2: Well, no, that's toxic.

976
00:45:20,800 --> 00:45:22,920
Speaker 5: You know what I asked Orlando recently, I was like,

977
00:45:23,000 --> 00:45:25,040
Speaker 5: if I cheated on you, I asked recently, if I

978
00:45:25,120 --> 00:45:27,120
Speaker 5: cheated on you, would you be more mad? I said,

979
00:45:27,120 --> 00:45:28,279
Speaker 5: would you be more mad if it was like a

980
00:45:28,320 --> 00:45:32,320
Speaker 5: one off that lasted like six months, or would you

981
00:45:32,360 --> 00:45:34,200
Speaker 5: be mad if it were you be more mad if

982
00:45:34,239 --> 00:45:37,120
Speaker 5: you found out it was multiple people? And he said,

983
00:45:38,000 --> 00:45:41,000
Speaker 5: he said, if it was multiple people, I knew it

984
00:45:41,160 --> 00:45:43,160
Speaker 5: was a youth thing. And if it was one off,

985
00:45:43,800 --> 00:45:47,279
Speaker 5: I you know, one person for for long like a

986
00:45:47,480 --> 00:45:50,840
Speaker 5: period of time, it's a s problem. I think that's like,

987
00:45:51,280 --> 00:45:52,440
Speaker 5: that's true, that's a good questions.

988
00:45:53,160 --> 00:45:55,239
Speaker 2: I think I think that's strong. You know.

989
00:45:55,440 --> 00:46:00,360
Speaker 1: Also, I actually will be far more bothered about my

990
00:46:00,480 --> 00:46:03,160
Speaker 1: wife Pillow talking with a man about my business and

991
00:46:03,320 --> 00:46:07,920
Speaker 1: mentioning me to another man that actually being intimate, because.

992
00:46:07,719 --> 00:46:09,520
Speaker 5: It's a respect and a privacy thing.

993
00:46:09,640 --> 00:46:11,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, because like that that way is gonna make me

994
00:46:11,520 --> 00:46:12,839
Speaker 2: want to smoke everything.

995
00:46:13,239 --> 00:46:15,840
Speaker 5: Because now you're you're confiding in somebody.

996
00:46:16,040 --> 00:46:17,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, like you know, like me trying to make me

997
00:46:17,800 --> 00:46:19,239
Speaker 1: seem weaker in front of another man.

998
00:46:20,800 --> 00:46:23,239
Speaker 2: That's making man crash. You know what I'm saying.

999
00:46:23,239 --> 00:46:24,440
Speaker 1: If you want to get your little box away, go

1000
00:46:24,520 --> 00:46:26,960
Speaker 1: and get your little box away, and that's your's.

1001
00:46:26,560 --> 00:46:30,399
Speaker 5: Your box, your little box away. I have a question.

1002
00:46:30,840 --> 00:46:32,799
Speaker 4: We have some questions. I know we don't want to ask.

1003
00:46:32,920 --> 00:46:35,160
Speaker 6: We don't have a lot of time, so I would

1004
00:46:35,200 --> 00:46:37,560
Speaker 6: love to get into We asked our Discord shout out

1005
00:46:37,560 --> 00:46:39,920
Speaker 6: to our Discord community. If you haven't joined our Discord community,

1006
00:46:40,160 --> 00:46:42,560
Speaker 6: make sure you come join our private community where we

1007
00:46:42,680 --> 00:46:44,480
Speaker 6: be chatting it up and our girls be chatting it up.

1008
00:46:44,520 --> 00:46:48,239
Speaker 6: It'd be lating there. There's there's different channels. There's a

1009
00:46:48,440 --> 00:46:50,759
Speaker 6: girl guest what channel where you go and you share

1010
00:46:51,360 --> 00:46:54,320
Speaker 6: just exciting news. There's the titty channel.

1011
00:46:54,360 --> 00:46:54,800
Speaker 5: What does it know?

1012
00:46:55,160 --> 00:46:58,520
Speaker 6: The only XX channel where all women and we share

1013
00:46:58,520 --> 00:47:00,799
Speaker 6: our nudes because sometimes we just need to share our

1014
00:47:00,840 --> 00:47:02,520
Speaker 6: nudes and not with men. But was wondering to like, hey,

1015
00:47:02,520 --> 00:47:04,040
Speaker 6: should I send this to this nigga or not? Or

1016
00:47:04,120 --> 00:47:07,120
Speaker 6: I felt sexy today? Like make give me some look,

1017
00:47:07,160 --> 00:47:07,759
Speaker 6: give me some love.

1018
00:47:09,040 --> 00:47:14,600
Speaker 4: You're coughing right in the mic, fucking Lizzie. Jeff shout

1019
00:47:14,640 --> 00:47:18,960
Speaker 4: out to Lizzie, make sure you join our discord. You

1020
00:47:19,040 --> 00:47:20,000
Speaker 4: have to join our patreons.

1021
00:47:20,040 --> 00:47:21,799
Speaker 6: Make sure you go to patreon dot com slash Good

1022
00:47:21,840 --> 00:47:24,240
Speaker 6: Mom's Bad Choices and you get all of our episodes

1023
00:47:24,320 --> 00:47:27,480
Speaker 6: early and you get access to our discord community.

1024
00:47:27,719 --> 00:47:30,200
Speaker 5: But we're doing a lot of talking in there. So

1025
00:47:30,400 --> 00:47:33,520
Speaker 5: these questions. A couple of these questions come from Miss Toya.

1026
00:47:33,560 --> 00:47:35,360
Speaker 5: Shout out to Miss Toya, came on a retreat this

1027
00:47:35,560 --> 00:47:38,000
Speaker 5: last year, who was right here in La Hey, Carol,

1028
00:47:40,360 --> 00:47:42,400
Speaker 5: she said, this is a good one. What what a

1029
00:47:42,560 --> 00:47:45,640
Speaker 5: what lie about masculinity almost costs you love?

1030
00:47:47,920 --> 00:47:48,240
Speaker 2: Mhm.

1031
00:47:49,800 --> 00:47:49,840
Speaker 3: So.

1032
00:47:50,200 --> 00:47:52,440
Speaker 1: So in my in my in my book Bulletproof Love,

1033
00:47:52,719 --> 00:47:55,400
Speaker 1: I talk about an experience I have with I had

1034
00:47:55,440 --> 00:47:59,279
Speaker 1: with my pops. My pops that raised me and based

1035
00:47:59,320 --> 00:48:01,040
Speaker 1: off his trump like he was trying to help me,

1036
00:48:01,120 --> 00:48:03,879
Speaker 1: but his trauma projecting. You know what I'm saying.

1037
00:48:04,560 --> 00:48:07,120
Speaker 2: He was trying to help me, but it didn't work.

1038
00:48:07,160 --> 00:48:10,000
Speaker 1: So basically he told me, if you want to have

1039
00:48:10,080 --> 00:48:12,880
Speaker 1: a successful relationship, not verbating, but this is what he

1040
00:48:13,000 --> 00:48:14,799
Speaker 1: was saying, if you want to have a successful relationship,

1041
00:48:15,760 --> 00:48:19,399
Speaker 1: you keep your woman out your business. And I took

1042
00:48:19,480 --> 00:48:24,000
Speaker 1: that with me and I did that and it almost

1043
00:48:24,040 --> 00:48:26,320
Speaker 1: cost me everything. You know what I'm saying. It actually

1044
00:48:26,520 --> 00:48:29,800
Speaker 1: had me moving in silence like that was the masculine

1045
00:48:29,840 --> 00:48:33,600
Speaker 1: thing to do. And you know, when I dove in,

1046
00:48:33,960 --> 00:48:36,320
Speaker 1: and I really understood when I dove in the scripture.

1047
00:48:36,360 --> 00:48:40,080
Speaker 1: I understood because when you talk about marriage like marriage

1048
00:48:40,160 --> 00:48:43,120
Speaker 1: was created by God. You have the institution of marriage

1049
00:48:43,160 --> 00:48:46,080
Speaker 1: that was created by that turned it into a business.

1050
00:48:45,840 --> 00:48:46,839
Speaker 2: But it was created by God.

1051
00:48:46,880 --> 00:48:48,520
Speaker 1: So when you see how he created it, it's like,

1052
00:48:49,040 --> 00:48:51,480
Speaker 1: if my wife is my helper, if she's my asset,

1053
00:48:51,600 --> 00:48:53,120
Speaker 1: how can she help me if I'm keeping her out

1054
00:48:53,120 --> 00:48:53,560
Speaker 1: of my business?

1055
00:48:53,600 --> 00:48:54,920
Speaker 2: This is like completely illogical.

1056
00:48:55,520 --> 00:48:58,200
Speaker 1: I have a business partner, and if you want to

1057
00:48:58,239 --> 00:49:00,359
Speaker 1: have a successful business, keep your business partner out your Yeah,

1058
00:49:00,480 --> 00:49:04,480
Speaker 1: like how and it cooked me and it's a lot

1059
00:49:04,520 --> 00:49:05,040
Speaker 1: of rewiring.

1060
00:49:05,080 --> 00:49:06,439
Speaker 2: So yeah, that's one of them for sure.

1061
00:49:08,120 --> 00:49:11,040
Speaker 5: What does emotional safety look like from a man's perspective?

1062
00:49:11,560 --> 00:49:13,960
Speaker 5: How can women provide emotional safety for a man?

1063
00:49:16,200 --> 00:49:21,600
Speaker 2: It looks like creating an environment.

1064
00:49:23,120 --> 00:49:26,680
Speaker 1: Where I feel safe enough to communicate my thoughts and

1065
00:49:26,800 --> 00:49:32,320
Speaker 1: my truths to you without me feeling judged, without me

1066
00:49:32,400 --> 00:49:35,279
Speaker 1: feeling ridiculed, without me having to pay for it later,

1067
00:49:35,920 --> 00:49:41,120
Speaker 1: you know, without you bringing it up and to weaponize

1068
00:49:41,160 --> 00:49:44,960
Speaker 1: my truth and using it against me when it's convenient.

1069
00:49:44,640 --> 00:49:46,000
Speaker 2: Or when you're hurt. Right.

1070
00:49:46,719 --> 00:49:49,320
Speaker 1: One of the one of one of my favorite attributes

1071
00:49:49,400 --> 00:49:51,920
Speaker 1: about my wife as a wife is I can have

1072
00:49:52,040 --> 00:49:55,200
Speaker 1: a conversation with her. I can tell her what my

1073
00:49:55,320 --> 00:49:57,040
Speaker 1: thoughts are, what I'm dealing with her when I'm going

1074
00:49:57,080 --> 00:49:59,640
Speaker 1: to She's not gonna make it about her. She's not

1075
00:49:59,719 --> 00:50:01,400
Speaker 1: gonna like, she's not going to use it and be like, oh,

1076
00:50:01,440 --> 00:50:03,640
Speaker 1: I need to put my guard up now because no, no, no.

1077
00:50:03,760 --> 00:50:07,520
Speaker 2: She's gonna Okay, Well, how are you feeling well? What

1078
00:50:07,840 --> 00:50:09,239
Speaker 2: do you want to do about that? You know what

1079
00:50:09,280 --> 00:50:11,560
Speaker 2: I'm saying? Or do you need my help?

1080
00:50:11,840 --> 00:50:15,320
Speaker 1: Or because there's times when I'm just venting to my

1081
00:50:15,400 --> 00:50:16,759
Speaker 1: wife and I don't need help. I'm just kind of

1082
00:50:16,800 --> 00:50:18,880
Speaker 1: need to put this here. And there's other times, like

1083
00:50:19,040 --> 00:50:22,560
Speaker 1: there's certain time when I'll tell my wife I separate,

1084
00:50:22,600 --> 00:50:24,160
Speaker 1: I want to talk right now, I'm talking to my friend.

1085
00:50:24,160 --> 00:50:26,600
Speaker 1: I need my friend right now. My friend is just

1086
00:50:27,080 --> 00:50:29,080
Speaker 1: I just need to listen to here. When I'm talking

1087
00:50:29,120 --> 00:50:31,880
Speaker 1: to my wife, I need solution, I need my helper,

1088
00:50:32,239 --> 00:50:35,640
Speaker 1: right So being able to separate the two, but yeah.

1089
00:50:36,239 --> 00:50:39,440
Speaker 6: I think that's great advice, like the separating because I

1090
00:50:39,480 --> 00:50:42,799
Speaker 6: think as people just in relation with people, not even

1091
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Speaker 6: just in marriage, but in friendship.

1092
00:50:44,600 --> 00:50:46,719
Speaker 4: Like the other day, was having a conversation with my friend.

1093
00:50:47,000 --> 00:50:49,320
Speaker 6: And he was calling a check on me about something

1094
00:50:49,560 --> 00:50:51,879
Speaker 6: and he was immediately giving me advice and I was like, hey,

1095
00:50:52,080 --> 00:50:54,560
Speaker 6: I really I don't need advice, but I want to

1096
00:50:54,600 --> 00:50:56,400
Speaker 6: talk to you, so if you can just listen and

1097
00:50:56,520 --> 00:50:59,560
Speaker 6: we can just talk in that way, and he was like, okay, cool.

1098
00:51:00,000 --> 00:51:02,479
Speaker 6: But I think we often like people know that people

1099
00:51:02,560 --> 00:51:04,960
Speaker 6: at this point in like listening to podcasts, you listen

1100
00:51:05,000 --> 00:51:08,040
Speaker 6: to enough Enough wellness podcast, you listen to enough like

1101
00:51:08,160 --> 00:51:10,000
Speaker 6: you know that you know these things are you can

1102
00:51:10,080 --> 00:51:12,279
Speaker 6: do them. But it's a matter of feeling brave enough

1103
00:51:12,360 --> 00:51:14,040
Speaker 6: to say to they're like, hey, I need you to

1104
00:51:14,120 --> 00:51:15,040
Speaker 6: be my friend right now.

1105
00:51:15,960 --> 00:51:18,200
Speaker 2: It's really important and in practice of it too, so.

1106
00:51:18,200 --> 00:51:20,200
Speaker 6: It doesn't feel like and bringing that into your relationship

1107
00:51:20,400 --> 00:51:23,080
Speaker 6: is transformational, I'm sure because your wife is able to

1108
00:51:23,160 --> 00:51:27,200
Speaker 6: really like know really how to support you, and that's beautiful.

1109
00:51:27,280 --> 00:51:30,440
Speaker 1: So yeah, in all relationships, right, I have two beautiful

1110
00:51:30,440 --> 00:51:33,000
Speaker 1: little girls. My oldest I'll be fifteen in two months,

1111
00:51:33,040 --> 00:51:37,000
Speaker 1: and my baby girl is six. And you know, as

1112
00:51:37,040 --> 00:51:39,320
Speaker 1: a man, you have to be very intentional will creating

1113
00:51:39,600 --> 00:51:43,040
Speaker 1: safety for your little girls, because there's a fine balance

1114
00:51:43,080 --> 00:51:45,960
Speaker 1: between being the friend and being the father, you know

1115
00:51:46,000 --> 00:51:49,040
Speaker 1: what I mean. But if I want, like my oldest,

1116
00:51:49,120 --> 00:51:51,480
Speaker 1: like she's in high school now right, if I want

1117
00:51:51,520 --> 00:51:53,920
Speaker 1: to be on the end, I have to I have

1118
00:51:54,040 --> 00:51:56,200
Speaker 1: to create a pattern, you know what I mean of

1119
00:51:56,360 --> 00:51:58,440
Speaker 1: her knowing she can come tell me something without being done.

1120
00:51:58,480 --> 00:52:01,200
Speaker 2: I don't care what she tell me. Okay, there might

1121
00:52:01,400 --> 00:52:02,440
Speaker 2: now now I'll let her know.

1122
00:52:02,440 --> 00:52:04,120
Speaker 1: There's gonna be certain times why I might let you know,

1123
00:52:04,480 --> 00:52:06,600
Speaker 1: Okay that's a little disappointing. Why because I know you

1124
00:52:06,680 --> 00:52:08,839
Speaker 1: can do better, you know what I'm saying. But you're

1125
00:52:08,880 --> 00:52:10,200
Speaker 1: not going to be judged. I'm not going to use

1126
00:52:10,239 --> 00:52:12,360
Speaker 1: it against you. I'm not going to vilify you and

1127
00:52:12,360 --> 00:52:13,719
Speaker 1: act like you're the worst person in the world. You

1128
00:52:13,719 --> 00:52:16,239
Speaker 1: didn't do something today that I've never done or your

1129
00:52:16,280 --> 00:52:18,280
Speaker 1: mama never done, and no one has ever done before.

1130
00:52:19,760 --> 00:52:23,880
Speaker 1: So I think creating safety is in any relationship. Who

1131
00:52:23,960 --> 00:52:29,200
Speaker 1: wants to share with somebody who's going to judge them, Well.

1132
00:52:29,080 --> 00:52:31,120
Speaker 4: People don't even realize they're doing it, you know.

1133
00:52:31,280 --> 00:52:33,239
Speaker 6: Like I've had to really work on how I ask

1134
00:52:33,400 --> 00:52:36,239
Speaker 6: questions and like leading with a lot more hows and

1135
00:52:36,360 --> 00:52:39,520
Speaker 6: what than I think or what do you like? Maybe

1136
00:52:39,600 --> 00:52:42,200
Speaker 6: you should or you know, because we think that we're

1137
00:52:42,320 --> 00:52:45,200
Speaker 6: we I think some people genuinely that's how they feel

1138
00:52:45,239 --> 00:52:47,320
Speaker 6: like they're presenting themselves. And then that's kind of the

1139
00:52:47,360 --> 00:52:49,959
Speaker 6: disruption in the relationship and it's actually like two people

1140
00:52:49,960 --> 00:52:52,000
Speaker 6: that really actually want to show up for one another,

1141
00:52:52,080 --> 00:52:55,240
Speaker 6: but they don't they don't know how to ask questions.

1142
00:52:55,280 --> 00:52:57,560
Speaker 6: I feel like that's a lot of I feel like

1143
00:52:57,600 --> 00:52:59,520
Speaker 6: when I what I hear from men a lot is

1144
00:52:59,560 --> 00:53:02,160
Speaker 6: like the emotional safety that they want from women is

1145
00:53:02,280 --> 00:53:04,840
Speaker 6: exactly what you just said, is the just like the

1146
00:53:04,960 --> 00:53:07,239
Speaker 6: listening ear because as women, we want to nurture, we

1147
00:53:07,280 --> 00:53:10,880
Speaker 6: want to fix, we want to improve, and sometimes I

1148
00:53:10,920 --> 00:53:14,080
Speaker 6: feel like that is often like the communication break between

1149
00:53:14,120 --> 00:53:16,719
Speaker 6: men and women is that it's that simple thing because

1150
00:53:16,719 --> 00:53:19,239
Speaker 6: we actually want the same things. Like when we think

1151
00:53:19,239 --> 00:53:21,080
Speaker 6: about it, right, we just we want to communicate, we

1152
00:53:21,160 --> 00:53:23,640
Speaker 6: want to we want to build, we want to we

1153
00:53:23,719 --> 00:53:26,800
Speaker 6: want to play our roles. So it's like about knowing

1154
00:53:26,880 --> 00:53:29,200
Speaker 6: when to play that role and which role we're playing,

1155
00:53:29,280 --> 00:53:30,960
Speaker 6: and being able to ask for that role to show

1156
00:53:31,040 --> 00:53:31,319
Speaker 6: up and.

1157
00:53:31,480 --> 00:53:32,399
Speaker 2: Go what I'm saying.

1158
00:53:32,480 --> 00:53:34,560
Speaker 1: You have to know I have to be intentional about

1159
00:53:34,600 --> 00:53:35,960
Speaker 1: being like, oh no, I actually don't need my wife

1160
00:53:36,040 --> 00:53:37,359
Speaker 1: right now. I just need my friend and tell her

1161
00:53:37,360 --> 00:53:39,879
Speaker 1: how I need her to show up. That comes with awareness, though,

1162
00:53:39,960 --> 00:53:41,600
Speaker 1: you have to be able to know what you need

1163
00:53:41,680 --> 00:53:43,200
Speaker 1: and don't. I don't need I don't need my fire,

1164
00:53:43,200 --> 00:53:45,120
Speaker 1: I don't need big dog right now. I don't need

1165
00:53:45,200 --> 00:53:46,919
Speaker 1: my dog to come. Listen to what I'm what I'm saying.

1166
00:53:47,080 --> 00:53:47,640
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying.

1167
00:53:47,680 --> 00:53:50,520
Speaker 2: She and she's really good about that, you know, super

1168
00:53:50,560 --> 00:53:51,040
Speaker 2: good about that.

1169
00:53:51,600 --> 00:53:53,640
Speaker 5: And it's important to be like, like you said, self

1170
00:53:53,680 --> 00:53:55,880
Speaker 5: aware because a lot of times we're just saying things

1171
00:53:55,960 --> 00:53:58,759
Speaker 5: we're making it someone else's issue instead of being this

1172
00:53:58,920 --> 00:54:01,600
Speaker 5: is what I need, and like asking for what you need,

1173
00:54:01,719 --> 00:54:05,000
Speaker 5: like identifying the feeling, asking yourself first what do I need,

1174
00:54:05,120 --> 00:54:07,080
Speaker 5: and then asking the person like handy your show up

1175
00:54:07,120 --> 00:54:09,360
Speaker 5: in this way because a lot of times we're expecting

1176
00:54:09,400 --> 00:54:11,200
Speaker 5: things from people. Hey, we don't even know what the

1177
00:54:11,200 --> 00:54:13,320
Speaker 5: fuck we actually need because we haven't checked in with ourselves.

1178
00:54:13,360 --> 00:54:15,319
Speaker 5: And then we're expecting things from people and they don't

1179
00:54:15,360 --> 00:54:17,160
Speaker 5: know what you need and they don't read minds, and

1180
00:54:17,239 --> 00:54:20,920
Speaker 5: then it creates this cycle of resentment that you know

1181
00:54:21,200 --> 00:54:24,160
Speaker 5: that you can't come back from, and it can all

1182
00:54:24,239 --> 00:54:27,080
Speaker 5: be cured by just simply knowing what you need and

1183
00:54:27,239 --> 00:54:27,880
Speaker 5: asking for it.

1184
00:54:28,360 --> 00:54:30,080
Speaker 1: That's why I always say I would if I could

1185
00:54:30,080 --> 00:54:32,200
Speaker 1: start over from scratch, I wouldn't even I would never

1186
00:54:32,239 --> 00:54:32,959
Speaker 1: even date before.

1187
00:54:32,960 --> 00:54:35,239
Speaker 2: I wouldn't even date before thirty years old.

1188
00:54:35,960 --> 00:54:38,200
Speaker 5: Literally, I mean I'm talking about don't go out.

1189
00:54:38,280 --> 00:54:41,880
Speaker 1: Maybe I might hang out with friends, that's about dating.

1190
00:54:42,040 --> 00:54:44,320
Speaker 1: I would never date anyone before we go to practice.

1191
00:54:44,840 --> 00:54:47,760
Speaker 5: Well no, no, no no no, like long term waste

1192
00:54:47,760 --> 00:54:48,080
Speaker 5: of time.

1193
00:54:48,160 --> 00:54:50,120
Speaker 1: But also when you even when you're talking about sports,

1194
00:54:50,239 --> 00:54:52,880
Speaker 1: like like I love who right? I agree with this no,

1195
00:54:53,040 --> 00:54:55,680
Speaker 1: because because there's a certain thing that's practicing the marriage.

1196
00:54:56,160 --> 00:54:58,080
Speaker 4: I think marriage is a different thing. I think dating

1197
00:54:58,160 --> 00:54:58,719
Speaker 4: has to happen.

1198
00:54:58,800 --> 00:55:00,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, but there's a certain thing as seeing the wrong

1199
00:55:00,719 --> 00:55:01,799
Speaker 2: way like.

1200
00:55:02,600 --> 00:55:07,759
Speaker 6: Practically just it just wasting school for dating. You need

1201
00:55:07,920 --> 00:55:12,439
Speaker 6: school for dating resolved. If the school for dating existing.

1202
00:55:12,239 --> 00:55:14,480
Speaker 5: You know what that like, because then we wouldn't have

1203
00:55:14,480 --> 00:55:17,480
Speaker 5: all these dumb ass gender wars, especially Black people. We

1204
00:55:17,480 --> 00:55:20,399
Speaker 5: don't want to have these gender wars. When you work

1205
00:55:20,480 --> 00:55:23,799
Speaker 5: on the table, it would be clear we could communicate,

1206
00:55:24,200 --> 00:55:27,120
Speaker 5: if we could probably like heal love, we could heal

1207
00:55:27,160 --> 00:55:30,759
Speaker 5: the world, if we could heal inner personal inner relationships

1208
00:55:30,840 --> 00:55:34,880
Speaker 5: between men and women. Genuinely, it would it would. I

1209
00:55:34,960 --> 00:55:37,560
Speaker 5: mean honestly, that's even in the black community. That's why

1210
00:55:37,600 --> 00:55:40,640
Speaker 5: they've actually planted seeds of toxicity so that we wouldn't

1211
00:55:40,640 --> 00:55:42,839
Speaker 5: figure it out. But this is people don't realize when

1212
00:55:42,960 --> 00:55:44,360
Speaker 5: when I got the internet and we're on the internet

1213
00:55:44,400 --> 00:55:47,480
Speaker 5: talking about dumb ass ship like who you gonna feed first,

1214
00:55:47,560 --> 00:55:50,560
Speaker 5: the baby or the husband, and like like the stupid

1215
00:55:50,600 --> 00:55:53,480
Speaker 5: ship that doesn't need to be discussed, Like are you

1216
00:55:53,719 --> 00:55:56,879
Speaker 5: like we just removed the love and the basics out

1217
00:55:56,920 --> 00:55:59,399
Speaker 5: of it. We do need to learn and there's so much,

1218
00:55:59,640 --> 00:56:02,560
Speaker 5: there's so much trauma. Like slavery did a hell of

1219
00:56:02,640 --> 00:56:07,560
Speaker 5: a job on trust, on love, on ownership, like it

1220
00:56:07,840 --> 00:56:08,879
Speaker 5: really did a lot.

1221
00:56:09,040 --> 00:56:11,160
Speaker 1: And so now you know what the biggest thing that

1222
00:56:11,200 --> 00:56:15,600
Speaker 1: slavery did to us though, it made us anti Bible,

1223
00:56:16,920 --> 00:56:20,319
Speaker 1: because the Bible was used to destroy us. That's why

1224
00:56:20,320 --> 00:56:22,880
Speaker 1: they have they had a negro Bible where they they

1225
00:56:22,960 --> 00:56:24,759
Speaker 1: took out the stuff that was good for us and

1226
00:56:24,800 --> 00:56:26,120
Speaker 1: they left in stuff that was terrible.

1227
00:56:26,360 --> 00:56:27,280
Speaker 2: It was nonsense.

1228
00:56:27,600 --> 00:56:31,279
Speaker 1: I would love to come back sometime soon and have

1229
00:56:31,400 --> 00:56:32,720
Speaker 1: a conversation and show.

1230
00:56:32,560 --> 00:56:35,160
Speaker 6: You guys, you break down the scripture for us, I

1231
00:56:35,200 --> 00:56:37,520
Speaker 6: will break down the second Are your pastor?

1232
00:56:37,719 --> 00:56:38,919
Speaker 4: Are you pastor? Marcus Black?

1233
00:56:40,480 --> 00:56:45,000
Speaker 5: They need religious not religious, not religious, like because I

1234
00:56:45,120 --> 00:56:48,439
Speaker 5: have there's a lot of religious trauma people which which

1235
00:56:49,200 --> 00:56:50,439
Speaker 5: religious trauma is deep.

1236
00:56:51,920 --> 00:56:52,800
Speaker 2: They all experienced it.

1237
00:56:53,160 --> 00:56:56,480
Speaker 1: But like when you talk about relationships, when I tell

1238
00:56:56,520 --> 00:56:58,840
Speaker 1: you God gave us the perfect blueprint for it.

1239
00:56:59,120 --> 00:57:00,560
Speaker 2: And we were all of it.

1240
00:57:00,840 --> 00:57:04,320
Speaker 4: If you know we took religion out of it.

1241
00:57:04,440 --> 00:57:07,319
Speaker 1: If we just take the institution, you know what I'm saying.

1242
00:57:07,600 --> 00:57:11,719
Speaker 1: Like Jesus wasn't a Christian. Jesus was not into the

1243
00:57:11,880 --> 00:57:15,759
Speaker 1: he was not under this institution of the No, when

1244
00:57:15,840 --> 00:57:18,160
Speaker 1: we get into it and we know what it actually says,

1245
00:57:18,600 --> 00:57:21,280
Speaker 1: it can help us when you see the double standards

1246
00:57:21,280 --> 00:57:23,080
Speaker 1: that are in there, and you see why when you

1247
00:57:23,120 --> 00:57:24,440
Speaker 1: see all the things that they told you're going to

1248
00:57:24,480 --> 00:57:27,120
Speaker 1: go to Hell over God, and scripture never says it.

1249
00:57:28,160 --> 00:57:29,040
Speaker 2: We will have I think.

1250
00:57:29,160 --> 00:57:34,240
Speaker 1: I think I think we will have a breakthroughster Black.

1251
00:57:37,120 --> 00:57:40,320
Speaker 1: I think I think if we if we take it's

1252
00:57:40,360 --> 00:57:43,000
Speaker 1: gonna be a little longer. I think if we take

1253
00:57:43,040 --> 00:57:44,120
Speaker 1: it like an hour and a half and.

1254
00:57:44,160 --> 00:57:47,040
Speaker 4: We just walked, I would enjoy it.

1255
00:57:47,200 --> 00:57:47,440
Speaker 5: I was.

1256
00:57:47,640 --> 00:57:50,960
Speaker 6: I started reading the Bible this year, and when I

1257
00:57:51,320 --> 00:57:53,320
Speaker 6: was told you, I don't know who I was telling

1258
00:57:53,360 --> 00:57:55,200
Speaker 6: because I didn't tell anybody that I had been like

1259
00:57:55,640 --> 00:58:00,400
Speaker 6: going to church and like just exploring what that means

1260
00:58:00,440 --> 00:58:03,120
Speaker 6: to me and my discomfort with it and then all

1261
00:58:03,240 --> 00:58:06,160
Speaker 6: but the thing that really revealed itself to me was

1262
00:58:06,240 --> 00:58:08,040
Speaker 6: really reading the scripture and being like, damn, some of

1263
00:58:08,080 --> 00:58:09,880
Speaker 6: these stories are lit. And then I was like, damn,

1264
00:58:10,000 --> 00:58:13,160
Speaker 6: this actually makes a lot of sense. And then I'm like, yeah,

1265
00:58:13,200 --> 00:58:15,800
Speaker 6: that doesn't mean what you're saying. It means why are

1266
00:58:15,840 --> 00:58:16,840
Speaker 6: you what are you trying to do?

1267
00:58:17,160 --> 00:58:19,600
Speaker 4: Stop that? You know so it's been like.

1268
00:58:20,160 --> 00:58:24,560
Speaker 6: It's been affirming to my intuition around religion, which is like,

1269
00:58:24,640 --> 00:58:27,280
Speaker 6: I don't fuck with it. But then it's also been

1270
00:58:27,400 --> 00:58:30,480
Speaker 6: enlightening because I in a lot of ways because I

1271
00:58:30,520 --> 00:58:32,880
Speaker 6: went to Catholic school, I was in religion class.

1272
00:58:32,960 --> 00:58:35,360
Speaker 4: Bitch, I was high, which I was high as hell

1273
00:58:36,480 --> 00:58:36,640
Speaker 4: I was.

1274
00:58:38,040 --> 00:58:40,760
Speaker 6: I was trying to get through religious class, religion class, like,

1275
00:58:40,800 --> 00:58:41,960
Speaker 6: that's what I was trying to do. I was trying

1276
00:58:42,000 --> 00:58:43,800
Speaker 6: to get the A shut the fuck up because you're

1277
00:58:43,800 --> 00:58:47,200
Speaker 6: talking some bullshit over there, talking about whatever and missing

1278
00:58:47,320 --> 00:58:49,600
Speaker 6: the message, and so like as an adult being able

1279
00:58:49,680 --> 00:58:52,440
Speaker 6: to read it, it's been it's been enlightening in ways,

1280
00:58:53,000 --> 00:58:55,520
Speaker 6: and it's very how much highlighted, Like yeah, the religious

1281
00:58:55,560 --> 00:58:57,960
Speaker 6: aspect if you pull it out of it and.

1282
00:58:58,000 --> 00:59:01,080
Speaker 4: You look at it from like that's more a more

1283
00:59:01,120 --> 00:59:02,360
Speaker 4: spiritual way research.

1284
00:59:02,800 --> 00:59:03,320
Speaker 2: I'm telling you.

1285
00:59:03,440 --> 00:59:04,200
Speaker 7: Let me tell you something.

1286
00:59:06,160 --> 00:59:11,160
Speaker 1: The greatest asset to God would be women like you

1287
00:59:11,920 --> 00:59:15,080
Speaker 1: knowing the truth about scripture because you guys are honest.

1288
00:59:15,320 --> 00:59:17,040
Speaker 2: You guys are truth truth tellers.

1289
00:59:17,240 --> 00:59:19,400
Speaker 1: You guys are blunt, you guys are gonna, you have

1290
00:59:19,520 --> 00:59:22,000
Speaker 1: no problem calling cap you know what I'm saying, Like,

1291
00:59:22,760 --> 00:59:25,200
Speaker 1: the world would be changed with women like you guys

1292
00:59:25,440 --> 00:59:26,080
Speaker 1: knowing the truth.

1293
00:59:26,160 --> 00:59:28,960
Speaker 4: Could you imagine do you imagine us going around with

1294
00:59:28,960 --> 00:59:30,520
Speaker 4: our bibles the city?

1295
00:59:30,600 --> 00:59:30,959
Speaker 2: The city?

1296
00:59:31,640 --> 00:59:34,640
Speaker 5: I can see it right now, And just.

1297
00:59:35,040 --> 00:59:37,840
Speaker 2: From just calling cap like, hey, y'all said that this

1298
00:59:37,960 --> 00:59:39,560
Speaker 2: is nonsense. God never said that.

1299
00:59:39,720 --> 00:59:42,040
Speaker 4: Excuse me, I don't think you're right.

1300
00:59:43,960 --> 00:59:44,840
Speaker 5: We're not here to turn you.

1301
00:59:44,960 --> 00:59:47,160
Speaker 4: We're just going on tour, but not the same, not

1302
00:59:47,280 --> 00:59:48,040
Speaker 4: that kind of tour.

1303
00:59:50,200 --> 00:59:50,480
Speaker 6: Gone.

1304
00:59:50,960 --> 00:59:54,520
Speaker 4: No, actually no, no I'm not. I'm being silly. But

1305
00:59:54,560 --> 00:59:57,280
Speaker 4: I also I understand what you're saying. I understand.

1306
00:59:57,720 --> 01:00:00,600
Speaker 5: No, I mean I'd rather know the information for myself.

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Speaker 5: I visited, I went, I studied the Bible, but not

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Speaker 5: in years because I do it puts a religion, put

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Speaker 5: a bad taste in my mouth for a lot of reasons.

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Speaker 4: I mean, I'm trying.

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Speaker 5: I would rather know the information than that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, studying the Bible is a lot, you know what

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Speaker 1: I'm saying. So you have certain people who read the Bible,

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Speaker 1: but then studying is a whole other world. Yeah, you

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Speaker 1: gotta know that the Bible was written in Hebrew, Ara, Maic,

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Speaker 1: in Greek. Right, So if you're not sitting up cross

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Speaker 1: referencing the languages you're already, You're already on the outs.

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Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, because trying to make it

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Speaker 1: make sense. This is why people think that, oh well,

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Speaker 1: the Bible contradicts itself. The Bible has no contradictions. If

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Speaker 1: you see a contradiction, you probably doesn't know. You probably

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Speaker 1: don't know what what this actually means.

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Speaker 2: You just got to study.

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Speaker 6: I think it's important to read as many ancient texts

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Speaker 6: as you can. Why would I want to live in

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Speaker 6: this life without any information about the best way people

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Speaker 6: before me?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: And yeah, and so it's just I think.

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Speaker 1: That, and then people people go grab other books and

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Speaker 1: that people stay away from the Bible. They be like, well,

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Speaker 1: it's man made. Every book you read is man made.

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Speaker 1: Everything that you know is information passed down from another man.

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Speaker 1: But you want to ex out this book, which is

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Speaker 1: not logical. But this was a good time, ladies, I know,

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Speaker 1: thank you for coming.

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Speaker 5: I know it's one of eight right now when need

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Speaker 5: your affirmation. Share a lot of jams, but look, aff affirmation.

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Speaker 2: Hold on because I wrote it down.

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Speaker 1: No, because last time y'all just sprung it on me

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Speaker 1: and I wasn't ready and I was like, what's that

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Speaker 1: not today, he does have smart.

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Speaker 4: Ship to say off the top of your.

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Speaker 2: Head, I'm very calculated.

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Speaker 7: No, you know what.

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Speaker 4: I love to feel prepared for things.

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Speaker 1: So marks black affirmations. Okay, I take ownership of my life,

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Speaker 1: my choices, and my healing. I don't blame my past.

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Speaker 1: I learned from it. I lead with integrity, I love

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Speaker 1: with intention, and I moved with wisdom. I'm disciplined, emotionally mature,

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Speaker 1: built for longevity.

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Speaker 2: Did like that? That beautiful damn?

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Speaker 5: I say, I, Shay, I have to write that one

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Speaker 5: down for the post it I send it to y'all.

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Speaker 5: Thank you for for dropping in with us today and

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Speaker 5: sharing your wisdom. I appreciate that.

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Speaker 2: So we are we going to do the part? The

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Speaker 2: part to come on?

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Speaker 4: Let's do it?

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Speaker 6: How do we You're gonna sit here in the middle.

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Speaker 6: We're gonna sit there because how we we all have

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Speaker 6: our Bibles.

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Speaker 4: You tell us what page to open?

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Speaker 2: Mm hmm.

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Speaker 5: I'm gonna have to order one.

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Speaker 2: We'll figure it out.

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Speaker 4: Well, you know I have one. My mom has a.

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Speaker 5: Couple of them over there.

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Speaker 4: I almost took the Christian left the Bible on my doorstep.

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Speaker 4: My phone said, I need Jesus.

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 4: I just had a pink.

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Speaker 5: I remember I have this.

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Speaker 2: Section on my phone.

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Speaker 1: You see, I got I got the Holy Bible right there,

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Speaker 1: I got the toy right here, and I even got

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Speaker 1: the corona here.

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Speaker 5: I mean you should all the Holy Text.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'll go into it later. I'll make a loven.

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Speaker 1: Just start going down the street too.

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Speaker 2: Well.

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Speaker 6: I'm I'm grateful that you've done your you're doing your

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01:03:13,400 --> 01:03:16,080
Speaker 6: due diligence, and you're educating yourself and for the work

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Speaker 6: you've done, just as someone who speaks very candidly and

1385
01:03:20,320 --> 01:03:23,840
Speaker 6: empowers people to understand love so that we can all

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Speaker 6: be in togetherness together and that we can save our families,

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Speaker 6: and that we can grow and evolve and be good humans.

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Speaker 5: So thank you teaching our kids how to love and

1389
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Speaker 5: learning how to love is literally.

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Speaker 4: Thank you being good to your wife. Thank you for

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Speaker 4: being a good man to your wife.

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Speaker 1: I appreciate it. Yeah, I'm actually going to one of

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Speaker 1: these times. I'm gonna bring her up here. I would

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Speaker 1: love we would love to have tick tack. The other

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Speaker 1: day and this lady was like, I want to hear

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Speaker 1: from Brook because how we know you actually living like that?

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Speaker 4: Imagine Brook is in the corner like a battered.

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Speaker 2: Not because we've seen it, because we've seen this before.

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Speaker 1: No, it's funny, but we've seen this before. We've seen

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Speaker 1: we have you know, we've seen the gurus.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, just like yeah, so no, I'll bring it through.

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Speaker 7: But listen the Bible study of you fire.

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Speaker 2: Let's do it. Let's do it.

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Speaker 6: I hope that you love yourself today. Do something kind

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Speaker 6: for yourself, do something kind for your partner, or just

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Speaker 6: shake the mass in your house, do something.

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Speaker 5: Just yeah, go to the jacuzzi.

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Speaker 3: Bye bye please?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm living this so good? Can't you tell? I

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Speaker 2: went through a drought?

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Speaker 3: That's until I find a well may might have been

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Speaker 3: known Earth that used to be broken? Tell now got

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Speaker 3: in this cow wearing our voices patriarch and catch it

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Speaker 3: in the box to what'spoil this? Women put the pia powers,

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Speaker 3: So what's pointless? They want me to be good, so

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Speaker 3: I make that choices. Bad mom, not a bad mom,

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Speaker 3: but a bad mom. It he's in on the cannabus

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Speaker 3: cat boss hot dog.

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Speaker 4: Now I'm immune to.

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Speaker 3: The cat called Herbie in the waisted straight to it

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Speaker 3: like a dollar sign. Mother, rent the lover when two

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Speaker 3: with it like a watersooning where you're rent the winter

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Speaker 3: essential will when the summertime.

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Speaker 2: I do what doll ain't know one that needs to

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Speaker 2: run it by