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Speaker 1: my late wife. And this is to answer the question

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Speaker 1: Dad fifty three eighty three says, for some background info,

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Speaker 1: I forty three male, have two children with my late wife,

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Speaker 1: fake names. Calea passed away when our kids were fifteen

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Speaker 1: and ten. I won't give specifics about how she passed,

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Speaker 1: but she was stuck. Oh, she was struck by a

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Speaker 2: Horrible.

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Speaker 1: She really was the love of my life, and to

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Speaker 1: say that her passing hit our family hard would be

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Speaker 1: an understatement. I promised myself that I got if I

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Speaker 1: for at least a couple of years for the sake

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Speaker 1: of my kids. Three years after my wife's passing, I

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Speaker 1: met my now fiance. Okay, three years I think think

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Speaker 1: is like a normal times. That's fine. Amanda and my

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Speaker 1: kids have always had a good relationship. Neither of my

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Speaker 1: friendly and welcoming to her, and Amanda has never overstepped

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Speaker 1: my boundaries, Oh any boundaries my kids have like trying

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Speaker 3: I'm your new mom now. Yeah, I'm your new dad. Now,

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Speaker 1: Energy is strange. At the beginning of Amanda and ies,

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Speaker 1: she would constantly ask things like, if Kayla had never passed,

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Speaker 1: Why why would he not be with her right now?

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Speaker 1: I always kept my answers brief and told her that

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Speaker 1: I stopped worrying about it. Now to the issue. My

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Speaker 1: me and Amanda. Dinner was going well. We were all

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Speaker 1: About halfway into dinner, my mom made a comment about

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Speaker 1: Why would you say that, Mom? Why would you say that? Also,

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Speaker 1: I don't think we have.

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Speaker 1: Okay, we have not read this one. You've probably heard

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Speaker 2: Oh wait, I missed it.

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Speaker 1: To myself, that's wild as wild. U you're done, You're done,

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Speaker 3: But hear me out, she's telling the truth.

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Speaker 2: This is the truth.

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Speaker 1: I know it's her truth for sure, but it's.

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Speaker 3: Messed up, but it's the truth.

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Speaker 1: I don't know she I would that's wild thing to say.

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Speaker 3: Someone said, we read this before, let me double check

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Speaker 1: We'red a double check. I haven't read this. Maybe Sam

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Speaker 1: why would you ever say that? It's just wild, very wild.

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Speaker 1: I think that sometimes there are they like the op

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Speaker 1: He said something along the lines of, I'm a grown

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Speaker 3: Yeah, have you seen those like means? Where's like? My

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I did. My two month old baby just

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Speaker 3: I thought this guy was like six and he's spitting

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Speaker 1: He's like, I'm a grown man, father, I'm a six

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Speaker 2: Edit.

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Speaker 1: Wow, I didn't expect it to get this much advice

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Speaker 1: I want to okay ooh you already got the pull

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Speaker 1: he should he should let slim jac says, I would

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Speaker 1: If she's comfortable saying stuff like that, the disrespect will continue.

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Speaker 1: And Mad Hattergal, thank you for the ten gifted memberships,

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Speaker 1: and Uncle Daddy Jesse, thank you for the five gifted memberships.

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Speaker 1: And Matt hatter Gil thank you for the ten Gifted

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Speaker 1: memberships again and the ten bucks. Matt Hattergal says, I

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Speaker 3: Naw I'm on the I'm on the not side right now.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you don't think enough.

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Speaker 3: We think it's enough. It's two comments, she's never said them.

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Speaker 3: They are pretty effed up. I think they should just

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Speaker 1: I think I think that they should have a conversation.

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Speaker 1: But I think this is you're you're right on the

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Speaker 3: If if there was, if there's not a conversation made soon,

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Speaker 1: You're done.

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Speaker 3: And oh sleepless nice thanks to have five gifted memberships. Dude,

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Speaker 3: there's a killing all these membership.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I was about to say, really really going at it

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Speaker 1: No, I was adding on to it. You're marrying into

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Speaker 1: Toxic relationships make good stories. Yeah, how else would we

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Speaker 1: In short, Amanda and I are done. I've made it

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Speaker 1: I don't want my daughter here when it all goes down, though,

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Speaker 1: thank you everyone for the advice and the harsh words.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm like kind of curious on how I would

439
00:22:46,359 --> 00:22:51,680
Speaker 3: bring it up because like one time, well not one time,

440
00:22:51,720 --> 00:22:54,280
Speaker 3: I'm not going to talk about that never mind. But

441
00:22:54,400 --> 00:22:59,240
Speaker 3: I was like thinking, oh, Amanda, I just don't think

442
00:22:59,520 --> 00:23:03,520
Speaker 3: I like you anymore. We're done, rather than bringing up

443
00:23:03,520 --> 00:23:04,560
Speaker 3: all this stuff.

444
00:23:05,920 --> 00:23:09,560
Speaker 1: Oh literally just saying eh, sorry it's not working out. Yeah,

445
00:23:09,720 --> 00:23:12,440
Speaker 1: oh I think I would. I think I would let

446
00:23:12,440 --> 00:23:16,200
Speaker 1: her know why it's not working out. I think everyone, I.

447
00:23:16,119 --> 00:23:17,880
Speaker 3: Mean, she seems like a cool person. She just made

448
00:23:17,920 --> 00:23:20,240
Speaker 3: some weird comments and then be like, yeah, like a

449
00:23:20,240 --> 00:23:22,320
Speaker 3: cool person. Well not anymore.

450
00:23:22,680 --> 00:23:24,760
Speaker 1: What did she do that made you think she was

451
00:23:24,760 --> 00:23:25,359
Speaker 1: a cool person?

452
00:23:25,520 --> 00:23:28,040
Speaker 3: Well, they never argued her, she never said anything about

453
00:23:28,040 --> 00:23:29,560
Speaker 3: the dead wife until now.

454
00:23:31,760 --> 00:23:32,720
Speaker 1: She's so cool.

455
00:23:33,359 --> 00:23:34,159
Speaker 3: Okay, maybe not?

456
00:23:37,200 --> 00:23:38,879
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, I think I think I would go to

457
00:23:38,920 --> 00:23:44,240
Speaker 1: her and say, Amanda, I don't like how you're always

458
00:23:44,320 --> 00:23:48,240
Speaker 1: talking about my wife and trying to separate me from

459
00:23:48,240 --> 00:23:51,880
Speaker 1: my kids. And I didn't realize it before, but you're

460
00:23:51,880 --> 00:23:56,879
Speaker 1: not healthy and this isn't working. Whoa so by there's

461
00:23:56,960 --> 00:23:57,600
Speaker 1: the door.

462
00:23:57,920 --> 00:24:01,119
Speaker 3: There's also this guy you can call and he'll and

463
00:24:01,160 --> 00:24:06,880
Speaker 3: he'll do bad news for you. Okay, that is messed up.

464
00:24:07,160 --> 00:24:09,880
Speaker 1: You should not be breaking up with someone over through

465
00:24:10,200 --> 00:24:13,720
Speaker 1: a guy that calls people to deliver bad news. A

466
00:24:13,840 --> 00:24:14,560
Speaker 1: random guy.

467
00:24:15,200 --> 00:24:17,639
Speaker 3: Yeah, he's John for John for bad news.

468
00:24:17,440 --> 00:24:19,439
Speaker 1: John for bad news. That's really funny.

469
00:24:19,480 --> 00:24:22,040
Speaker 3: Would you a actually, would you guys want us to

470
00:24:22,040 --> 00:24:23,000
Speaker 3: call someone and give them back?

471
00:24:23,280 --> 00:24:26,840
Speaker 1: Would you guys want me to call your uh A

472
00:24:26,880 --> 00:24:31,200
Speaker 1: person that you're breaking up with and say, hey, sorry,

473
00:24:31,240 --> 00:24:33,680
Speaker 1: sorry to tell you you're being broken up with, but

474
00:24:33,800 --> 00:24:41,400
Speaker 1: you're on Okay, okay, storytine woo pretty exciting. Uh Matt

475
00:24:41,480 --> 00:24:44,240
Speaker 1: hatter y'a thank you for the ten bucks. Do not

476
00:24:44,680 --> 00:24:49,399
Speaker 1: marry a widower if you are insecure outer for the

477
00:24:49,400 --> 00:24:49,960
Speaker 1: people back.

478
00:24:50,200 --> 00:24:50,520
Speaker 2: Wow.

479
00:24:50,720 --> 00:24:53,760
Speaker 1: Seriously, these partners drive me more mad than I already

480
00:24:53,800 --> 00:24:57,200
Speaker 1: am so good, so good, and Emperor Sleepless Nights, thank

481
00:24:57,240 --> 00:24:59,600
Speaker 1: you for the five gifted memberships again.

482
00:25:00,160 --> 00:25:02,960
Speaker 3: Wow these members you guys.

483
00:25:02,640 --> 00:25:05,000
Speaker 1: Are really really killing, like knocking it out of the

484
00:25:05,080 --> 00:25:09,600
Speaker 1: park with those memberships. Today, Corrensis says, no, rally, she

485
00:25:09,680 --> 00:25:12,639
Speaker 1: needs to be held accountable as something I think I

486
00:25:12,640 --> 00:25:15,760
Speaker 1: think you should unless you are in a dangerous position.

487
00:25:15,920 --> 00:25:18,399
Speaker 1: I think that you should be telling your partners why

488
00:25:18,440 --> 00:25:22,680
Speaker 1: you are breaking up with them personally, because I think

489
00:25:22,680 --> 00:25:26,280
Speaker 1: that that's how I mean, not that you have a

490
00:25:26,400 --> 00:25:30,720
Speaker 1: responsibility necessarily to help them grow, but I think I

491
00:25:30,760 --> 00:25:35,000
Speaker 1: think just having that like certain level of I don't know,

492
00:25:35,160 --> 00:25:37,000
Speaker 1: not respect, I don't know, I don't want to say respect,

493
00:25:37,080 --> 00:25:41,600
Speaker 1: but a certain level of just like, are we had

494
00:25:41,640 --> 00:25:46,480
Speaker 1: a relationship and I'm going to give you at least

495
00:25:46,480 --> 00:25:49,040
Speaker 1: a closing out interview, this is what you did wrong,

496
00:25:50,400 --> 00:25:52,520
Speaker 1: and I think that's helpful for both ends personally.

497
00:25:52,760 --> 00:25:57,480
Speaker 3: We'll have an okay story time then at the end. Now, okay,

498
00:25:57,600 --> 00:25:58,120
Speaker 3: so so.

499
00:25:58,480 --> 00:26:00,280
Speaker 1: Remember the we're about to have up to so you

500
00:26:00,280 --> 00:26:00,800
Speaker 1: can do it now.

501
00:26:00,920 --> 00:26:03,399
Speaker 3: The girl that liked Taylor Swift a lot that I

502
00:26:03,440 --> 00:26:07,639
Speaker 3: was talking to for a little bit, so I like,

503
00:26:08,359 --> 00:26:10,840
Speaker 3: I didn't really she was cool, but I didn't really

504
00:26:10,840 --> 00:26:12,680
Speaker 3: find her attractive, and I was like, I have to

505
00:26:12,680 --> 00:26:16,159
Speaker 3: stop talking to her. And I just made up the

506
00:26:16,240 --> 00:26:21,160
Speaker 3: thing where it was me not her no, but I said, hey,

507
00:26:21,200 --> 00:26:23,800
Speaker 3: I'm super busy. I'm gonna be doing this, this, this,

508
00:26:23,840 --> 00:26:26,320
Speaker 3: and this. Oh my god, I hate and I did

509
00:26:26,359 --> 00:26:29,600
Speaker 3: that and it worked. I don't know how she took it,

510
00:26:29,680 --> 00:26:33,320
Speaker 3: but I mean we stopped talking after that, and then well,

511
00:26:33,480 --> 00:26:35,919
Speaker 3: I think, OK. I started talking to my current girlfriend

512
00:26:36,240 --> 00:26:37,840
Speaker 3: and I was like, hey, I have this, this this

513
00:26:37,880 --> 00:26:40,040
Speaker 3: is going on. Can you hang out at this time

514
00:26:40,080 --> 00:26:43,040
Speaker 3: for like two hours? And she's like, I'm becoming worried,

515
00:26:43,080 --> 00:26:46,000
Speaker 3: like you're working too much. Like no, it's fine.

516
00:26:46,119 --> 00:26:48,400
Speaker 1: She's like no, literally, if you want to hang out

517
00:26:48,440 --> 00:26:51,639
Speaker 1: with someone, you will, even if you're extremely busy, Like

518
00:26:51,680 --> 00:26:53,679
Speaker 1: you'll hang out for like an hour if.

519
00:26:53,520 --> 00:26:55,280
Speaker 3: You But I just didn't have the guts to tell

520
00:26:55,280 --> 00:26:57,520
Speaker 3: he like, hey, I'm like not really attracted to you.

521
00:26:57,760 --> 00:26:59,480
Speaker 1: I think it is a little bit different. I was gonna,

522
00:26:59,520 --> 00:27:01,240
Speaker 1: I was gonna on you, but then I thought about

523
00:27:01,240 --> 00:27:05,680
Speaker 1: it for a second.

524
00:27:06,040 --> 00:27:07,080
Speaker 2: Go ahead, go ahead, go ahead.

525
00:27:07,119 --> 00:27:09,119
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't. I don't even agree with the ragging.

526
00:27:10,880 --> 00:27:15,240
Speaker 1: Both disagree At the same time, I think that because

527
00:27:15,280 --> 00:27:17,879
Speaker 1: you were never in a relationship with this person is different.

528
00:27:18,480 --> 00:27:22,080
Speaker 1: I think that if you decide if you start, if

529
00:27:22,119 --> 00:27:23,439
Speaker 1: you go on a couple of dates, or you know,

530
00:27:23,480 --> 00:27:25,960
Speaker 1: one or two dates with the person, I decide that

531
00:27:25,960 --> 00:27:29,400
Speaker 1: you're not, you know, into them, you should you shouldn't

532
00:27:29,440 --> 00:27:31,800
Speaker 1: just ghost them. You should be like, hey, you know,

533
00:27:33,080 --> 00:27:36,640
Speaker 1: you can. You don't necessarily have to. But I think

534
00:27:36,680 --> 00:27:37,200
Speaker 1: that's okay.

535
00:27:37,400 --> 00:27:39,919
Speaker 3: I told her almost ghost.

536
00:27:40,560 --> 00:27:43,400
Speaker 1: Okay, Well I don't. Yeah, I think I think you

537
00:27:43,480 --> 00:27:45,560
Speaker 1: just have to you. I don't think you have to

538
00:27:45,560 --> 00:27:47,359
Speaker 1: be as direct when it's one or two dates, but

539
00:27:47,400 --> 00:27:49,960
Speaker 1: I do think you owe them a little bit. I

540
00:27:50,000 --> 00:27:54,439
Speaker 1: think saying hey, like, you know, I'm busy is the

541
00:27:54,480 --> 00:27:56,800
Speaker 1: same as saying I'm not interested in this anymore.

542
00:27:58,480 --> 00:27:58,680
Speaker 2: What?

543
00:27:58,840 --> 00:28:01,160
Speaker 3: Oh, true remembered something else?

544
00:28:01,359 --> 00:28:04,280
Speaker 1: Oh, I don't know what else. You remembered.

545
00:28:06,440 --> 00:28:11,080
Speaker 3: Another situation that was very similar to that that didn't

546
00:28:11,160 --> 00:28:11,680
Speaker 3: happen to me.

547
00:28:12,080 --> 00:28:17,080
Speaker 1: Oh that was a different situation though. Anyway. Let's go

548
00:28:17,200 --> 00:28:23,400
Speaker 1: to the update. Update update. So where we last left

549
00:28:23,440 --> 00:28:26,040
Speaker 1: off is my kids and I talked made up, and

550
00:28:26,080 --> 00:28:28,440
Speaker 1: my daughter's staying with her brother so she doesn't get

551
00:28:28,440 --> 00:28:30,240
Speaker 1: caught up and what was about to happen with my

552
00:28:30,320 --> 00:28:33,560
Speaker 1: now ex fiance. Before the hard part of the day

553
00:28:33,720 --> 00:28:36,600
Speaker 1: breaking it off with Amanda, I made a call to

554
00:28:36,640 --> 00:28:40,440
Speaker 1: my mom to let her know of the situation. A

555
00:28:40,480 --> 00:28:42,400
Speaker 1: lot of the comments told me not to bash my

556
00:28:42,480 --> 00:28:44,840
Speaker 1: mom for the comment she made. Now, thinking back on

557
00:28:44,880 --> 00:28:47,720
Speaker 1: the situation with a clear mind, the comment my mother

558
00:28:47,760 --> 00:28:51,200
Speaker 1: made towards Amanda was most definitely a compliment towards her,

559
00:28:51,800 --> 00:28:53,920
Speaker 1: and that was confirmed in the call that I had

560
00:28:53,960 --> 00:28:57,600
Speaker 1: with her. My mother, bless her heart, felt extremely guilty

561
00:28:57,640 --> 00:29:01,960
Speaker 1: for the entire situation. She believe the situation all stemmed

562
00:29:01,960 --> 00:29:04,760
Speaker 1: from her one comment. I assured her that none of

563
00:29:04,760 --> 00:29:07,280
Speaker 1: the situation was her fault and that I never blamed

564
00:29:07,280 --> 00:29:09,720
Speaker 1: her one bit for any of this. We talked a

565
00:29:09,720 --> 00:29:12,000
Speaker 1: bit more before I let her go. The call ended

566
00:29:12,040 --> 00:29:14,920
Speaker 1: about at about nine to fifteen AM, and I was

567
00:29:15,000 --> 00:29:18,400
Speaker 1: left waiting for Amanda to wake up. She woke up

568
00:29:18,440 --> 00:29:21,160
Speaker 1: at around ten thirty AM, and I didn't want to

569
00:29:21,200 --> 00:29:23,560
Speaker 1: ambush her straight away after she woke up, so I

570
00:29:23,600 --> 00:29:26,400
Speaker 1: waited until about eleven ten AM to sit her down

571
00:29:26,400 --> 00:29:28,680
Speaker 1: and talk. You woke up late, and well.

572
00:29:28,560 --> 00:29:32,960
Speaker 3: She works nights, all right? Sorry such a bomb.

573
00:29:34,400 --> 00:29:38,120
Speaker 1: Now I'm just like imagining him waiting around to break

574
00:29:38,200 --> 00:29:40,640
Speaker 1: up with her. She wakes up like super late, and

575
00:29:40,640 --> 00:29:43,440
Speaker 1: he's like, I gotta wait here, wait, you gonna sit

576
00:29:43,480 --> 00:29:47,120
Speaker 1: by her bed? And she wakes up, He's like, hey, hey, babe,

577
00:29:47,720 --> 00:29:55,400
Speaker 1: do you sleep good? We're breaking up. I'd be wildan

578
00:29:55,720 --> 00:29:58,120
Speaker 1: though and done.

579
00:29:58,760 --> 00:29:58,880
Speaker 2: Um.

580
00:30:00,720 --> 00:30:03,080
Speaker 1: A lot of the people in the comments suggested that

581
00:30:03,200 --> 00:30:10,160
Speaker 1: to secretly video record the whole thing. Really why, I

582
00:30:10,200 --> 00:30:16,000
Speaker 1: thought that was extremely smart. Record it, record it, and

583
00:30:16,160 --> 00:30:20,360
Speaker 1: he's like why, and they're like, for us, so we

584
00:30:20,440 --> 00:30:23,120
Speaker 1: can watch check it out. We can check it out.

585
00:30:24,000 --> 00:30:26,440
Speaker 1: A lot of people in the comments suggest to secretly

586
00:30:26,440 --> 00:30:29,080
Speaker 1: record the whole thing. I thought that was extremely smart,

587
00:30:29,120 --> 00:30:31,200
Speaker 1: so I had my phone set to record in my

588
00:30:31,280 --> 00:30:34,360
Speaker 1: back pocket the entire time. I didn't think she tried

589
00:30:34,400 --> 00:30:37,560
Speaker 1: to do anything drastic, but I would rather be safe. Sorry.

590
00:30:38,160 --> 00:30:40,240
Speaker 1: The talk with her went about as well as anyone

591
00:30:40,280 --> 00:30:44,920
Speaker 1: could imagine, so not at all. I told her I

592
00:30:44,960 --> 00:30:47,160
Speaker 1: needed to talk with her, that it was serious, and

593
00:30:47,200 --> 00:30:50,320
Speaker 1: we sat in the living room. When we were seated,

594
00:30:50,400 --> 00:30:52,640
Speaker 1: I began unloading at her about the comments she made

595
00:30:52,640 --> 00:30:55,120
Speaker 1: about Kayla at my parents' house, how it made my

596
00:30:55,240 --> 00:30:58,360
Speaker 1: kids feel, how it made me feel, her lack of

597
00:30:58,400 --> 00:31:00,800
Speaker 1: an apology, of any sort of a acknowledgement to what

598
00:31:00,840 --> 00:31:03,959
Speaker 1: she said, and so on. I told her that I

599
00:31:04,000 --> 00:31:06,880
Speaker 1: expected her to give an apology to my parents, my

600
00:31:07,000 --> 00:31:11,120
Speaker 1: in laws, and most importantly, my kids. During the entire

601
00:31:11,160 --> 00:31:13,720
Speaker 1: time of me and loading on her, she didn't seem

602
00:31:13,760 --> 00:31:16,200
Speaker 1: to show any bit of emotion other than her eyes

603
00:31:16,320 --> 00:31:24,560
Speaker 1: which were slightly wider than normal. She's just sitting there like, hmm. Interesting.

604
00:31:27,280 --> 00:31:30,120
Speaker 1: After I spoke my truth, she straight up passed. So

605
00:31:30,240 --> 00:31:32,480
Speaker 1: if I apologize to everyone and wh I'll go back

606
00:31:32,520 --> 00:31:40,560
Speaker 1: to normal. No, I told her point blank no. I

607
00:31:40,600 --> 00:31:42,440
Speaker 1: told her that the comment she made at dinner was

608
00:31:42,480 --> 00:31:44,840
Speaker 1: not the extent of my problems with her. I then

609
00:31:44,880 --> 00:31:47,360
Speaker 1: told her that I know she heavily pressured Sam to

610
00:31:47,400 --> 00:31:49,880
Speaker 1: move out when he wasn't even sure if he wanted

611
00:31:49,880 --> 00:31:52,320
Speaker 1: to at that point in time, and that I also

612
00:31:52,400 --> 00:31:54,640
Speaker 1: know she's now trying to do the same with Liz.

613
00:31:55,200 --> 00:31:57,560
Speaker 1: I did my absolute best to leave my kids out

614
00:31:57,600 --> 00:32:00,640
Speaker 1: of the situation, but told Amanda that the way my

615
00:32:00,720 --> 00:32:04,840
Speaker 1: kids described her treatment towards them was the main reason

616
00:32:04,920 --> 00:32:08,040
Speaker 1: I don't see a future with her anymore. Amanda was

617
00:32:08,040 --> 00:32:10,520
Speaker 1: stone faced up until I told her we were done.

618
00:32:11,080 --> 00:32:12,840
Speaker 1: I think That's when the panic set in for her.

619
00:32:13,680 --> 00:32:17,719
Speaker 1: She kept saying that she'll apologize and that she'll make

620
00:32:17,760 --> 00:32:20,280
Speaker 1: it right with my kids, et cetera, et cetera. I

621
00:32:20,320 --> 00:32:23,040
Speaker 1: told her that even if she apologizes, which I will,

622
00:32:23,240 --> 00:32:27,320
Speaker 1: I will certainly appreciate it, but we're still done either way.

623
00:32:28,280 --> 00:32:30,520
Speaker 1: She was full on crying at this point and asked

624
00:32:30,520 --> 00:32:33,120
Speaker 1: me why was it I willing to try and fix

625
00:32:33,160 --> 00:32:36,080
Speaker 1: our relationship, and I told her that even though I

626
00:32:36,120 --> 00:32:39,040
Speaker 1: loved her, and I will be honest, I still love

627
00:32:39,080 --> 00:32:41,960
Speaker 1: her very much, I was not willing to take another

628
00:32:42,080 --> 00:32:44,640
Speaker 1: chance of my kids being hurt against the way they were.

629
00:32:46,000 --> 00:32:49,040
Speaker 1: I was frustrated and shot back at her, asking her

630
00:32:49,600 --> 00:32:51,720
Speaker 1: why she was trying to push my kids out of

631
00:32:51,760 --> 00:32:55,400
Speaker 1: their own home, and I got back an answer I

632
00:32:55,480 --> 00:32:58,719
Speaker 1: was not at all expecting. I was completely shocked at

633
00:32:58,720 --> 00:33:00,760
Speaker 1: her response. But a lot of you guys won't be

634
00:33:01,520 --> 00:33:04,480
Speaker 1: a lot of commoners actually hit the nail right on

635
00:33:04,520 --> 00:33:09,960
Speaker 1: the head with what Amanda was truly like. Amanda responded, well,

636
00:33:10,040 --> 00:33:12,640
Speaker 1: I don't know. I didn't know you expected me to

637
00:33:12,720 --> 00:33:21,640
Speaker 1: house someone else's kids for the rest of my life. Girl, girl,

638
00:33:22,600 --> 00:33:29,240
Speaker 1: those are his kids, hikes, Why would you marry into

639
00:33:29,320 --> 00:33:33,240
Speaker 1: a family into Why Why would you marry a man

640
00:33:33,280 --> 00:33:35,680
Speaker 1: with kids if you couldn't handle the kids?

641
00:33:35,960 --> 00:33:36,600
Speaker 2: Is he rich?

642
00:33:37,240 --> 00:33:37,600
Speaker 1: I don't know.

643
00:33:37,680 --> 00:33:38,800
Speaker 3: She's trying to get his money.

644
00:33:39,000 --> 00:33:39,920
Speaker 1: Why are you here?

645
00:33:40,360 --> 00:33:43,840
Speaker 3: I'm just confused at the lack of emotional.

646
00:33:45,160 --> 00:33:47,920
Speaker 1: Intelligence mixed where he says, she seems like she cares

647
00:33:47,960 --> 00:33:53,240
Speaker 1: about the lifestyle more than the family real Oh my lord,

648
00:33:55,920 --> 00:33:58,840
Speaker 1: I immediately saw red and after about a minute I

649
00:33:58,920 --> 00:34:03,040
Speaker 1: told her out. I told her that my kids can

650
00:34:03,080 --> 00:34:06,520
Speaker 1: go wherever they dam please, especially in the house that

651
00:34:06,560 --> 00:34:10,239
Speaker 1: I own and pay for. She tried to retaliate, but

652
00:34:10,320 --> 00:34:13,000
Speaker 1: in the end ended up packing a few bags and

653
00:34:13,040 --> 00:34:16,680
Speaker 1: going to stay with one of her friends. I emailed

654
00:34:16,719 --> 00:34:19,279
Speaker 1: a copy of the phone recording to myself. The talk

655
00:34:19,400 --> 00:34:22,640
Speaker 1: only lasted about twenty five minutes, not nearly as long

656
00:34:22,680 --> 00:34:24,919
Speaker 1: as the talk I had with my kids, So if

657
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Speaker 1: anything ends up coming of the conversation, I have all

658
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Speaker 1: i'd need to keep my name clear. I texted my

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Speaker 1: kids that Amanda is out of the house for good,

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Speaker 1: that they are welcome to come home anytime, and let

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Speaker 1: my note and let my son know that if he

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Speaker 1: wants to, he is more than welcome to move back

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Speaker 1: in completely. My daughter is coming back from her brother's

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Speaker 1: place in the afternoon, and I still have phone calls

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Speaker 1: to make to my parents and in laws to apologize

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00:34:50,960 --> 00:34:54,319
Speaker 1: for this mess of a situation. Amanda is out of

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Speaker 1: my house but keeps blowing up my phone for us

668
00:34:57,080 --> 00:35:00,279
Speaker 1: to try and work things out. A letter come by

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00:35:00,360 --> 00:35:03,160
Speaker 1: in the next few days so she can collect the

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Speaker 1: rest of her stuff out of my house, but she

671
00:35:05,440 --> 00:35:09,280
Speaker 1: is not welcome to live here again. I'll be honest

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Speaker 1: and say that I am a bit devastated despite everything

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00:35:12,280 --> 00:35:15,919
Speaker 1: Amanda did. I still love her and I probably won't

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00:35:15,920 --> 00:35:18,440
Speaker 1: stop loving her for a minute. But it'll be okay.

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00:35:19,000 --> 00:35:20,720
Speaker 1: Right now. I just want to focus on the family

676
00:35:20,760 --> 00:35:23,319
Speaker 1: that needs me, and we'll use the situation as an

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00:35:23,360 --> 00:35:26,640
Speaker 1: excuse to bond more with my kids. Another big thank

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Speaker 1: you to everyone who helped me in the comments. A

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00:35:29,040 --> 00:35:32,000
Speaker 1: lot of the advice you guys gave played a big

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Speaker 1: part in making things right with my family. And there

681
00:35:35,960 --> 00:35:40,400
Speaker 1: is an update what but also we're at another hour?

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00:35:40,760 --> 00:35:44,320
Speaker 1: No ohnut, we're at another thirty minutes.

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00:35:44,560 --> 00:35:46,719
Speaker 3: Well forget something big is coming here.

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Speaker 1: Will wait another thirty Matt Hattergall, thank you for the

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00:35:50,440 --> 00:35:53,280
Speaker 1: five books. If I was still working at Del Taco

686
00:35:53,840 --> 00:35:56,160
Speaker 1: I would have Sophia call them and tell them I quit.

687
00:35:56,239 --> 00:35:59,879
Speaker 1: I would do it. I would do that and press

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Speaker 1: leapless night. Thank you for the five bucks. Hey, join

689
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Speaker 1: the discord. I've been posting pictures of my Tennessee trip.

690
00:36:06,920 --> 00:36:09,120
Speaker 1: I love everyone in the discord. Please join the discord.

691
00:36:09,200 --> 00:36:12,360
Speaker 1: It's it's a blast in there, and I want to

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Speaker 1: see these Tennessee pictures. That sounds fun. Josephine Medola Bequist,

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Speaker 1: thank you for the two fifty five. She stared at

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Speaker 1: him like Jasper from Twilight. I haven't seen I've only

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00:36:22,400 --> 00:36:25,239
Speaker 1: seen the first Twilight, so I don't have a frame

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Speaker 1: of reference for that.

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Speaker 2: Is he just like this?

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Speaker 3: No?

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Speaker 1: Dominica Stangjerska. Thank you for celebrating two months of membership.

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Speaker 1: I need more of you. Well, I'll give it to you. Really,

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Speaker 1: I'll give you all of me.

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Speaker 3: I mean, honestly, we're about to get a lot more

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Speaker 3: of us.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, there's about to be three times as much of us.

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Speaker 3: WHOA, Oh you're really going to say that? What that's crazy?

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Speaker 1: I just meant, like figuratively, this time, we're just getting

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Speaker 1: God are all out there for you?

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Speaker 3: Oh?

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Speaker 1: Nice?

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Speaker 3: All right?

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Speaker 1: And maybe or thank you for the five bucks tip.

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Speaker 2: Love.

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Speaker 1: Oh so it's just it's just.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's what it is.

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Speaker 1: Okay, maybe thank you for the five buck tip. Love

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Speaker 1: watching you guys. Yesterday was my birthday, but I didn't

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00:37:17,600 --> 00:37:20,719
Speaker 1: get any fireworks because I live in Canada. First the

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00:37:20,840 --> 00:37:26,360
Speaker 1: Canadian but when I was five visiting family in the States,

719
00:37:26,480 --> 00:37:30,120
Speaker 1: I thought the fireworks were just for me. Oh, that's

720
00:37:30,160 --> 00:37:30,640
Speaker 1: so cute.

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Speaker 3: The second, didn't you guys have fireworks? On the second?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know.

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Speaker 2: Did they have?

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Speaker 1: Do they do fireworks for your independent? Wait? I'm going

725
00:37:39,280 --> 00:37:41,239
Speaker 1: to finish the story, but then we'll tell you about

726
00:37:41,280 --> 00:37:43,920
Speaker 1: our because Riley was at our my family's house.

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Speaker 3: First, I was what would July?

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Speaker 1: But let's get into this update. Uh is it update

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Speaker 1: post two?

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Speaker 2: Is that right?

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Speaker 3: The June twenty sixth Oh, I.

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Speaker 1: Kinda okay June twenty six, eight months later, ooh, I

733
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Speaker 1: will give a quick recap. No, we don't need that.

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Speaker 1: Uh oh okay, Actually it's kind of word to my

735
00:38:08,760 --> 00:38:11,080
Speaker 1: last update for almost a year ago. When I had

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Speaker 1: the conversation with Amanda. She had stayed at her friend's

737
00:38:13,960 --> 00:38:15,839
Speaker 1: place for about a week, and I took that time

738
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Speaker 1: to take the advice of many comments and I packed

739
00:38:19,040 --> 00:38:21,640
Speaker 1: up her stuff like clothes and other small items for her.

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00:38:23,080 --> 00:38:25,080
Speaker 1: She had a couple of bigger things like chairs and

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00:38:25,160 --> 00:38:27,560
Speaker 1: other decors, so I made sure those were the only

742
00:38:27,719 --> 00:38:29,440
Speaker 1: things she was allowed to come in the house for.

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Speaker 1: I got the locks changed for advice as well, and

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00:38:33,160 --> 00:38:35,200
Speaker 1: I will say that a lot of you commenters thought

745
00:38:35,239 --> 00:38:37,319
Speaker 1: of things that I didn't even cross, that didn't even

746
00:38:37,360 --> 00:38:40,560
Speaker 1: cross my mind, like the locks, and I'm thankful you

747
00:38:40,680 --> 00:38:42,800
Speaker 1: guys are a bit more cognitive than me.

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Speaker 2: Everything after that, what that doesn't sound good?

749
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Speaker 3: Oh what do you mean he's talking about the locks?

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, that's I hope that she didn't try to

751
00:38:53,520 --> 00:38:57,920
Speaker 1: break in. Uh. Everything after that was pretty smooth and amicable,

752
00:38:58,360 --> 00:39:01,680
Speaker 1: which didn't surprise me. She came back and picked up

753
00:39:01,719 --> 00:39:03,759
Speaker 1: her things and gave me back the ring, which I

754
00:39:03,800 --> 00:39:05,840
Speaker 1: didn't walk back, but she gave it to me anyways,

755
00:39:06,239 --> 00:39:09,320
Speaker 1: and we didn't talk much. It was calm, but that

756
00:39:09,400 --> 00:39:11,880
Speaker 1: didn't last because a few weeks later she was harassing

757
00:39:11,960 --> 00:39:15,239
Speaker 1: my socials for another chance. I was pretty exhausted by

758
00:39:15,280 --> 00:39:17,640
Speaker 1: her at that point, so I just blocked her and

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00:39:17,760 --> 00:39:20,320
Speaker 1: had my kids block her as well. A lot of

760
00:39:20,400 --> 00:39:23,359
Speaker 1: commoners pointed out in my second update that I didn't

761
00:39:23,440 --> 00:39:26,040
Speaker 1: love her, I loved who I thought she was and

762
00:39:26,160 --> 00:39:28,920
Speaker 1: that was spot on and it helped the process of

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00:39:29,000 --> 00:39:32,920
Speaker 1: me moving on go much quicker. It's been radio silence

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00:39:32,960 --> 00:39:35,360
Speaker 1: from her and from her end since me and my

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00:39:35,440 --> 00:39:37,640
Speaker 1: kids blocked her, and since it's been almost a year,

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Speaker 1: I'm pretty confident it will stay that way.

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Speaker 4: And that.

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Speaker 1: Is the end of that story.

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Speaker 2: Wow.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, jac says she'd deaf try to break in. He's like, no,

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00:39:51,120 --> 00:39:55,480
Speaker 1: the locks. I think it's interesting that all of these

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00:39:55,560 --> 00:39:56,560
Speaker 1: commenters were.

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Speaker 3: Wait, wait, wait, there's more. What there's more to this?

774
00:39:59,239 --> 00:40:01,800
Speaker 3: What's put it in the comment of this?

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00:40:02,280 --> 00:40:03,120
Speaker 2: How did you do this?

776
00:40:03,719 --> 00:40:08,560
Speaker 1: Because it wasn't it wasn't needed. Okay, the story was

777
00:40:08,560 --> 00:40:10,800
Speaker 1: too long, so I cut out some of the like

778
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Speaker 1: just the commentary's not.

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Speaker 3: Bad, here's more good?

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Speaker 1: No, no, no, uh what did you dropped a lot

781
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Speaker 1: of water? I need I need some I need some towels.

782
00:40:30,920 --> 00:40:40,840
Speaker 1: I just dropped a lot of water. I just oh, okay,

783
00:40:40,920 --> 00:40:48,719
Speaker 1: I'm I just dropped. I just dropped this much of water.

784
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Speaker 1: And then I tried to move. Did I heard the floor? Sorry,

785
00:41:00,840 --> 00:41:05,120
Speaker 1: the floor is wet, and I accidentally also hit over

786
00:41:05,239 --> 00:41:12,279
Speaker 1: the coffee table. Everything's fine. It's all good. It's all good.

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Speaker 1: We need to hold on, hold on good.

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Speaker 2: Will my studio.

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00:41:32,719 --> 00:41:39,200
Speaker 3: Sorry, guys, she's breaking the studio. Cleaning up the carpet

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00:41:39,280 --> 00:41:43,160
Speaker 3: is good for spills, she says, yeah, next on, Okay,

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Speaker 3: storytime electrical fire. Yeah, honestly, at this rate, I think

792
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Speaker 3: see the water. Oh yeah, no, you can see it

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00:41:51,800 --> 00:41:53,840
Speaker 3: if you go back, you can definitely see the water.

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Speaker 2: The water.

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Speaker 1: I don't know how that happened, but the water like

796
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Speaker 1: like spurred it out, which is intense. Jigsaw Melse says,

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Speaker 1: this is an amazing first live for me. Oh, I'm

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00:42:06,960 --> 00:42:09,560
Speaker 1: so glad. I'm so glad you can be here. Frida,

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Speaker 1: what was I gonna say? Yeah, it's a deep clean.

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00:42:14,080 --> 00:42:18,359
Speaker 1: We did just buy these so they are clean. But yeah,

801
00:42:20,560 --> 00:42:25,479
Speaker 1: I only drop water and also a really heavy coffee table.

802
00:42:25,520 --> 00:42:27,080
Speaker 1: But it's fine. I didn't dent the floor.

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Speaker 3: I knew I shouldn't have put that there. I cleaned

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Speaker 3: up the studio this morning.

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00:42:30,239 --> 00:42:34,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, why did you would you put that there?

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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00:42:35,360 --> 00:42:37,000
Speaker 2: I thought you could be responsible?

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Speaker 4: Can we?

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Speaker 5: Oh my god?

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Speaker 1: After that, I do need a sippy cup. I think

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Speaker 1: that more people should have sippy cups and I don't

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00:42:45,880 --> 00:42:49,279
Speaker 1: think it should it should be relegated to babies. I'm

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00:42:49,320 --> 00:42:59,560
Speaker 1: fro sippy cup personally. Yeah what uh? Tsava, thank you

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Speaker 1: for the two I just got here. This is the best.

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Speaker 1: Glad you like it. And Britney Justice, thank you for

816
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Speaker 1: the ten bucks. Don't have a lot, but I'm gifting

817
00:43:08,080 --> 00:43:10,520
Speaker 1: you my iced coffee money for the week. Well worth it.

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00:43:10,640 --> 00:43:15,600
Speaker 1: Thank you so much. Ice coffees are expensive, man, I

819
00:43:15,840 --> 00:43:18,439
Speaker 1: so thank you. Matt Hattergall, thank you for the ten

820
00:43:18,880 --> 00:43:23,479
Speaker 1: gifted memberships. Wel again, you're killing it. And Kristin foil

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Speaker 1: Hat thank you for the five gifted memberships. No, no,

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Speaker 1: Tina Ashman, I don't want a tumbler. I want a

823
00:43:30,640 --> 00:43:34,280
Speaker 1: sippy cup. I want a sippy cup.

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Speaker 4: We go.

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Speaker 1: Oh, we're watching we're reacting to me spilling the water.

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Speaker 3: Wait, let me get it. Just cry oh boy.

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Speaker 1: Oh And while Riley's setting that up, I'll tell you

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Speaker 1: about our Fourth of July. So yesterday was fourth of

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Speaker 1: July and Riley came over to my house and we

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00:43:58,600 --> 00:44:01,320
Speaker 1: were in the backyard trying to watch the fireworks. But

831
00:44:01,400 --> 00:44:03,520
Speaker 1: you can't see anything from my backyard because there's a

832
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Speaker 1: lot of like rubbery and stuff.

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Speaker 5: Uh.

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Speaker 1: And so we went down the street and we started

835
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Speaker 1: seeing like a bunch of fireworks going off, and so Riley,

836
00:44:13,200 --> 00:44:16,239
Speaker 1: my cousin, and I walked towards it and they were

837
00:44:16,320 --> 00:44:19,000
Speaker 1: there was a bunch of kids just setting up fireworks

838
00:44:19,080 --> 00:44:22,279
Speaker 1: in the middle of this like the suburban street, and

839
00:44:22,400 --> 00:44:25,400
Speaker 1: it was probably very dangerous, but it was cool to

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Speaker 1: see them, like super close up.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, wow, scared dude. It was so funny seeing your

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00:44:34,200 --> 00:44:39,040
Speaker 3: reaction of the first uh firework go off. That was

843
00:44:39,080 --> 00:44:42,120
Speaker 3: just kind of like, oh, I forget that. It's not

844
00:44:42,200 --> 00:44:45,839
Speaker 3: normal for people to like, uh hear gunshots.

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00:44:46,040 --> 00:44:47,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, we don't hear gun five.

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00:44:50,000 --> 00:44:52,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, like at least so it's.

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00:44:52,440 --> 00:44:56,759
Speaker 3: Gonna be quiet. Puts down the water.

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00:45:01,160 --> 00:45:11,520
Speaker 1: I didn't ray so much. How do that I don't understand. Okay, well,

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00:45:12,520 --> 00:45:16,360
Speaker 1: wait we can move on to this next story. Boom

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Speaker 1: woo this transition. Hold on, do do do do do

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00:45:23,520 --> 00:45:29,120
Speaker 1: do do do doo. Okay, let's get into it. Am

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00:45:29,239 --> 00:45:32,840
Speaker 1: I the a hole for calling my grandmother insane for

853
00:45:33,000 --> 00:45:36,200
Speaker 1: having beef with a sixteen year old? And again, this

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00:45:36,360 --> 00:45:38,200
Speaker 1: is to answer the question of how do you call

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00:45:38,239 --> 00:45:43,640
Speaker 1: out those close to you for bad behavior? I think

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00:45:43,680 --> 00:45:45,759
Speaker 1: you should call out your grandma for having beef with

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Speaker 1: a sixteen year old.

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Speaker 3: I'll let her be.

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00:45:47,120 --> 00:45:48,360
Speaker 2: What else is she going to do for the.

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00:45:48,440 --> 00:45:53,360
Speaker 3: Day she's she's so bored beef, let her have entertainment.

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Speaker 1: Come on so one to two throwaway one two two

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00:45:56,320 --> 00:46:00,799
Speaker 1: four says uh. I'm nineteen female now. Have a very

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00:46:00,960 --> 00:46:06,000
Speaker 1: complicated relationship with my paternal grandmother. She's genuinely sweet to everyone,

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Speaker 1: but is very mean to my younger brother sixteen male,

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00:46:09,480 --> 00:46:12,120
Speaker 1: always has been. I have a lot of theories as

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00:46:12,160 --> 00:46:14,560
Speaker 1: to why, but my grandma insists it's because my brother

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00:46:14,760 --> 00:46:19,360
Speaker 1: is immature, braddy, disrespectful. My brother is more of a

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Speaker 1: troublemaker than the rest of us, but he is by

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00:46:21,600 --> 00:46:25,719
Speaker 1: no means a bad kid. Anyways, my parents, older siblings,

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00:46:25,800 --> 00:46:28,680
Speaker 1: and younger brother refuse to speak to her at all,

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Speaker 1: and though I really want to cut contact with the

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Speaker 1: old lady, I felt a little bad for her, considering

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Speaker 1: she's all alone now. My family are fine with me

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00:46:37,600 --> 00:46:41,560
Speaker 1: visiting and talking to her occasionally. Last week, I picked

875
00:46:41,640 --> 00:46:44,200
Speaker 1: up my brother from school. When my grandma called, she

876
00:46:44,280 --> 00:46:46,439
Speaker 1: said it was an emergency, so I asked my brother

877
00:46:46,520 --> 00:46:48,320
Speaker 1: if he minded if I drove over to her place.

878
00:46:48,520 --> 00:46:51,759
Speaker 1: Over to her place real quick. He said it was okay,

879
00:46:51,920 --> 00:46:55,040
Speaker 1: so we set off. My Grandma kept spamming me with

880
00:46:55,280 --> 00:46:58,880
Speaker 1: urgent texts the whole time. We finally get there and

881
00:46:59,000 --> 00:47:02,000
Speaker 1: my brother decides to come in as well because Grandma

882
00:47:02,080 --> 00:47:07,880
Speaker 1: sent very alarming texts. But guess what the emergency was

883
00:47:07,960 --> 00:47:14,319
Speaker 1: That she ran out of effing avocados. Not once did

884
00:47:14,440 --> 00:47:17,200
Speaker 1: she mention avocados in her texts.

885
00:47:19,239 --> 00:47:22,680
Speaker 3: Okay, hear me out. Maybe she's having a big party.

886
00:47:22,960 --> 00:47:28,360
Speaker 1: Is a big party? Gak. She's like, you guys don't understand.

887
00:47:28,920 --> 00:47:33,680
Speaker 1: I've got no avocados. I'm making guac. I've got fifty

888
00:47:33,840 --> 00:47:39,520
Speaker 1: people coming over. No guac. That's a party emergency for sure.

889
00:47:43,880 --> 00:47:44,319
Speaker 1: What's the door?

890
00:47:45,760 --> 00:47:46,399
Speaker 3: He's coming back?

891
00:47:46,480 --> 00:47:50,320
Speaker 1: Okay? Cool? What was I saying about avocados? This is crazy?

892
00:47:50,800 --> 00:47:54,360
Speaker 1: This is crazy. I think if if someone made me

893
00:47:54,480 --> 00:47:57,800
Speaker 1: think that there was like a medical emergency and I

894
00:47:57,960 --> 00:48:00,480
Speaker 1: show up and they just need avocados, I would be

895
00:48:00,600 --> 00:48:04,080
Speaker 1: really pissed, one because why are they making me think

896
00:48:04,120 --> 00:48:07,680
Speaker 1: this is an emergency? And two because if they had

897
00:48:07,719 --> 00:48:10,840
Speaker 1: told me before that they needed avocados, I could have

898
00:48:10,880 --> 00:48:13,800
Speaker 1: picked them up on the way. But now I have

899
00:48:13,880 --> 00:48:15,840
Speaker 1: to go back out and get them avocados.

900
00:48:15,920 --> 00:48:19,920
Speaker 3: I just wanted to, I don't know, spend time with him.

901
00:48:20,600 --> 00:48:22,440
Speaker 1: No, she doesn't even want to spend time with them

902
00:48:22,480 --> 00:48:24,879
Speaker 1: because she needs them to go back out and give avocados.

903
00:48:26,680 --> 00:48:27,240
Speaker 1: I'm heated.

904
00:48:28,400 --> 00:48:31,440
Speaker 3: I didn't know you liked this Californians and their avocados.

905
00:48:32,480 --> 00:48:37,400
Speaker 1: I love an avocado. My brother got pissed off because

906
00:48:37,440 --> 00:48:40,239
Speaker 1: he missed his sports practice and said, this is so

907
00:48:40,440 --> 00:48:44,640
Speaker 1: effing annoying and after avocados. I don't know if I

908
00:48:44,680 --> 00:48:47,040
Speaker 1: wouldn't speak to my grandma that way though, even if

909
00:48:47,120 --> 00:48:49,400
Speaker 1: she made me think that she had a medical emergency

910
00:48:49,440 --> 00:48:50,520
Speaker 1: and she needed avocados.

911
00:48:51,600 --> 00:48:52,560
Speaker 3: I think it's fine.

912
00:48:53,520 --> 00:48:54,000
Speaker 1: You ever.

913
00:48:55,760 --> 00:48:57,800
Speaker 3: Grandmother, well one of them. I think I would.

914
00:48:57,800 --> 00:48:59,960
Speaker 1: I don't think it wouldn't would I mean a person.

915
00:49:00,160 --> 00:49:02,319
Speaker 1: I don't swear that much anyway, but I don't think

916
00:49:02,360 --> 00:49:04,760
Speaker 1: I would ever swear in from my grandma.

917
00:49:05,920 --> 00:49:08,600
Speaker 3: Your stupid grandma. Yeah no, it would break her heart.

918
00:49:09,040 --> 00:49:12,400
Speaker 1: Grandma to Savo says, if it wasn't a medical emergency before,

919
00:49:13,160 --> 00:49:16,920
Speaker 1: it will be soon, Bret, that's a threat.

920
00:49:18,120 --> 00:49:18,319
Speaker 3: Um.

921
00:49:21,040 --> 00:49:26,960
Speaker 1: My grandma was shocked and called my brother a stupid pastor. Okay,

922
00:49:27,760 --> 00:49:30,480
Speaker 1: I think everyone needs to calm down. I think the

923
00:49:30,760 --> 00:49:33,360
Speaker 1: energy going on in the room right now over some

924
00:49:33,480 --> 00:49:35,520
Speaker 1: other gattos is a little bit too intense.

925
00:49:36,080 --> 00:49:36,440
Speaker 2: Crazy.

926
00:49:37,239 --> 00:49:41,719
Speaker 1: Uh, And I think the grandma went too far. Uh,

927
00:49:42,080 --> 00:49:46,200
Speaker 1: that's too much, that's too much. Zola Darling says, that's wild. Lol.

928
00:49:46,360 --> 00:49:48,440
Speaker 1: My grandma would ask me to go back to the

929
00:49:48,480 --> 00:49:50,640
Speaker 1: store for something after I just got there, but she

930
00:49:50,680 --> 00:49:54,319
Speaker 1: wouldn't fake an emergency. No, the faking emergency is all

931
00:49:54,360 --> 00:49:58,680
Speaker 1: of this is wild. How many uh fake emergency emergencies

932
00:49:58,719 --> 00:50:02,360
Speaker 1: will you allow a person before?

933
00:50:02,440 --> 00:50:03,680
Speaker 3: What I know before you?

934
00:50:03,800 --> 00:50:06,439
Speaker 1: Like, I think I would be upset if, like after

935
00:50:06,520 --> 00:50:08,200
Speaker 1: the first fake emergency, Like, how.

936
00:50:08,080 --> 00:50:09,000
Speaker 3: Many would you allow it?

937
00:50:09,600 --> 00:50:09,840
Speaker 4: Like me?

938
00:50:10,040 --> 00:50:12,400
Speaker 3: For example? What if I was like, I need you

939
00:50:12,480 --> 00:50:15,040
Speaker 3: to come help me in the studio real quick, and

940
00:50:15,080 --> 00:50:17,719
Speaker 3: then I'm like and then you drop everything you're at

941
00:50:17,719 --> 00:50:19,719
Speaker 3: your improv class and then you come and you're like

942
00:50:19,920 --> 00:50:21,680
Speaker 3: and I'm like, hey, I just want to like go

943
00:50:21,760 --> 00:50:24,440
Speaker 3: get sushi real quick. Are you cool with that? I

944
00:50:24,520 --> 00:50:25,720
Speaker 3: just want to play Mario tennis.

945
00:50:26,320 --> 00:50:29,040
Speaker 1: Oh that's so sweet. Though, I would be pretty upset.

946
00:50:29,239 --> 00:50:30,000
Speaker 3: You would be upset.

947
00:50:31,239 --> 00:50:33,280
Speaker 2: How many times would you let me before?

948
00:50:33,400 --> 00:50:35,680
Speaker 1: What though? Before I saw him showing before.

949
00:50:35,440 --> 00:50:38,520
Speaker 3: I do another emergency and my legs actually cut off

950
00:50:38,560 --> 00:50:40,759
Speaker 3: in it, and I so boy you cried wolf? Yeah,

951
00:50:41,080 --> 00:50:43,120
Speaker 3: how many boy your cried wolves? Would you allow? Everyone

952
00:50:43,120 --> 00:50:44,759
Speaker 3: put on me would allow three?

953
00:50:45,840 --> 00:50:46,440
Speaker 1: Three chances?

954
00:50:46,520 --> 00:50:49,560
Speaker 3: Everyone says one one chance me.

955
00:50:49,760 --> 00:50:50,920
Speaker 2: You guys would only allow one.

956
00:50:50,960 --> 00:50:52,879
Speaker 3: But it's me in this situation. It's me. How many

957
00:50:52,920 --> 00:50:53,640
Speaker 3: times would you allow me?

958
00:50:53,880 --> 00:50:54,840
Speaker 1: I'll give you three chances?

959
00:50:55,000 --> 00:50:56,359
Speaker 3: Three and for the wind two.

960
00:51:00,080 --> 00:51:05,600
Speaker 1: Grapead says she might be getting old enough to be style. Anyways,

961
00:51:06,640 --> 00:51:09,200
Speaker 1: she brought up his adhd and how he was the

962
00:51:09,239 --> 00:51:14,279
Speaker 1: result of an affair. Oh, my god, one hundred percent

963
00:51:14,400 --> 00:51:17,319
Speaker 1: sure he isn't. By the way, I got pissed off

964
00:51:17,400 --> 00:51:19,560
Speaker 1: too because she was being extra mean for no reason

965
00:51:19,680 --> 00:51:22,600
Speaker 1: and called my grandma insane and told that and told

966
00:51:22,600 --> 00:51:24,919
Speaker 1: her that she was really effing crazy for having beef

967
00:51:25,080 --> 00:51:28,919
Speaker 1: with a kid. Also, it's just avocados. We left after

968
00:51:29,000 --> 00:51:33,239
Speaker 1: a little more arguing. Yeah, Diavian Wilder, thank you for

969
00:51:33,280 --> 00:51:34,040
Speaker 1: the twenty gifted.

970
00:51:33,960 --> 00:51:37,200
Speaker 2: Why for gifted memberships? Twenty we can memberships.

971
00:51:37,280 --> 00:51:39,920
Speaker 3: If you just got gifted membership, give thank you to

972
00:51:40,320 --> 00:51:43,040
Speaker 3: mister missus Wilder, the Wildler.

973
00:51:42,719 --> 00:51:44,640
Speaker 1: The Wilder Wilder.

974
00:51:47,440 --> 00:51:49,640
Speaker 2: This must walker Rocker, this is.

975
00:51:49,719 --> 00:51:53,560
Speaker 1: Wild I'm sorry, this boy is sixteen year old. He's

976
00:51:53,560 --> 00:51:57,080
Speaker 1: sixteen years old. Uh he definitely, you know, shouldn't have

977
00:51:57,120 --> 00:52:00,160
Speaker 1: been swearing at his grandma. But what kind of of

978
00:52:01,120 --> 00:52:08,200
Speaker 1: what kind of adult adult adult starts an argument like

979
00:52:08,320 --> 00:52:12,080
Speaker 1: that claps back that hard with a sixteen year old

980
00:52:16,120 --> 00:52:25,160
Speaker 1: wily really wild wilder? Uh ah, why are you throwing

981
00:52:25,239 --> 00:52:25,800
Speaker 1: stuff at me?

982
00:52:26,640 --> 00:52:26,879
Speaker 3: Thought?

983
00:52:27,880 --> 00:52:30,960
Speaker 1: I just got pelted with I got rained down with

984
00:52:31,160 --> 00:52:36,239
Speaker 1: nerf bullets. All right, let's keep going. My grandma keeps

985
00:52:36,280 --> 00:52:38,920
Speaker 1: messaging me now, saying I broke her heart and the

986
00:52:39,200 --> 00:52:41,880
Speaker 1: heart and that she expected better from me, that I

987
00:52:41,960 --> 00:52:44,520
Speaker 1: was incredibly rude and this isn't good for her health.

988
00:52:45,160 --> 00:52:47,720
Speaker 1: I refuse to respond to her texts and im planning

989
00:52:47,760 --> 00:52:51,120
Speaker 1: on going no contact with her. But my older sisters

990
00:52:51,120 --> 00:52:54,040
Speaker 1: said I was in the wrong yesterday, which is making doubtful.

991
00:52:54,920 --> 00:52:57,840
Speaker 1: My sister says my brother insulted her first, and she

992
00:52:58,200 --> 00:53:02,120
Speaker 1: only retaliated. My sister also thinks my brother needs a

993
00:53:02,200 --> 00:53:06,000
Speaker 1: stern talking to. Anyways, the only reason I'm doubtful is

994
00:53:06,040 --> 00:53:11,720
Speaker 1: because my sister hats our grandma. That must mean something, right. Also,

995
00:53:11,880 --> 00:53:14,919
Speaker 1: my grandma does have health issues which worsen when she's

996
00:53:15,120 --> 00:53:18,120
Speaker 1: in stress, and she's texted me only a couple of

997
00:53:18,200 --> 00:53:21,160
Speaker 1: hours ago, saying she's almost fainted a bunch of times

998
00:53:21,719 --> 00:53:24,200
Speaker 1: because of my brother and me, just like I don't

999
00:53:24,280 --> 00:53:31,680
Speaker 1: have the avocados, I'm gonna pass out, would be true.

1000
00:53:31,719 --> 00:53:36,239
Speaker 1: And now she's having that medical emergency. Now she's having

1001
00:53:36,280 --> 00:53:38,480
Speaker 1: the medical medical emergency, and no one will come.

1002
00:53:39,880 --> 00:53:42,400
Speaker 3: That sex boy who cried that sex.

1003
00:53:44,040 --> 00:53:44,360
Speaker 2: Update.

1004
00:53:45,000 --> 00:53:50,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, there's a little bit more to this. Oh so

1005
00:53:50,880 --> 00:53:53,560
Speaker 1: am I the a hole for defending my brother and

1006
00:53:53,680 --> 00:53:58,920
Speaker 1: calling my grandma insane slash crazy? And there are some

1007
00:53:59,080 --> 00:54:02,319
Speaker 1: relevant comments and an update. So you're saying, oh, we're

1008
00:54:02,320 --> 00:54:04,160
Speaker 1: gonna skip to the update. But the verdict was not

1009
00:54:04,280 --> 00:54:06,560
Speaker 1: the a hole, which makes sense because this grandma is wild.

1010
00:54:06,920 --> 00:54:10,759
Speaker 1: Acts Dutchess Casana says, the brother and the granny are

1011
00:54:10,800 --> 00:54:13,520
Speaker 1: both a bit a hole. Though I completely agree that

1012
00:54:13,640 --> 00:54:16,400
Speaker 1: the son or the brothers should not have been swearing

1013
00:54:16,440 --> 00:54:18,960
Speaker 1: at his grandma, but for her to but for her

1014
00:54:19,000 --> 00:54:24,040
Speaker 1: to respond in that way is doesn't make sense. But

1015
00:54:24,120 --> 00:54:27,719
Speaker 1: let's get into this update, which occurs one week later.

1016
00:54:29,080 --> 00:54:33,399
Speaker 1: Uh oh wait, also we can just go back up. Yeah,

1017
00:54:33,520 --> 00:54:36,080
Speaker 1: Hannah ham And says Sophia at least rally threw them

1018
00:54:36,120 --> 00:54:38,240
Speaker 1: and not shot them at your throat, like you're roaded

1019
00:54:38,280 --> 00:54:38,960
Speaker 1: when Reddy was.

1020
00:54:39,040 --> 00:54:40,080
Speaker 3: Visiting, that's true.

1021
00:54:40,440 --> 00:54:43,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, he literally shot while I was drinking and I choked.

1022
00:54:45,560 --> 00:54:49,439
Speaker 1: Update quick update for people who asked. It hasn't been long,

1023
00:54:49,600 --> 00:54:51,640
Speaker 1: but I doubt much is going to happen after that

1024
00:54:51,760 --> 00:54:55,959
Speaker 1: crap that happened. So I'm updating now. So my little

1025
00:54:56,000 --> 00:54:59,320
Speaker 1: brother decided to take matters into his own hands and

1026
00:54:59,480 --> 00:55:04,600
Speaker 1: almost made everything so much worse. Oh now, stop retaliating,

1027
00:55:05,480 --> 00:55:13,400
Speaker 1: stop retaliating. Oh my god, this is like this is

1028
00:55:13,520 --> 00:55:21,400
Speaker 1: like World War two level retaliations. H stop stop, what

1029
00:55:21,600 --> 00:55:25,640
Speaker 1: is this gonna When is this gonna end? So him

1030
00:55:25,680 --> 00:55:29,040
Speaker 1: and his friends were going to egg, yes, egg my

1031
00:55:29,200 --> 00:55:30,120
Speaker 1: grandma's house.

1032
00:55:30,239 --> 00:55:33,680
Speaker 3: Oh no, you're gonna give this poor woman a heart attack.

1033
00:55:34,640 --> 00:55:37,759
Speaker 1: I don't I don't condone egging the house or when

1034
00:55:37,800 --> 00:55:41,920
Speaker 1: I'm about to suggest, but it would be thematically and

1035
00:55:42,000 --> 00:55:47,120
Speaker 1: a little bit more ironic, thematically funnier and ironic if

1036
00:55:47,160 --> 00:55:52,040
Speaker 1: you threw avocados at her ass, just saying.

1037
00:55:53,760 --> 00:55:54,719
Speaker 3: I was just thinking that.

1038
00:55:58,360 --> 00:55:59,120
Speaker 2: We do do.

1039
00:55:59,520 --> 00:56:01,680
Speaker 1: My older other found out and put a stop to it,

1040
00:56:01,840 --> 00:56:04,080
Speaker 1: thank god. So I went into this family has their

1041
00:56:04,120 --> 00:56:08,040
Speaker 1: head on their shoulders. We other siblings and I were

1042
00:56:08,080 --> 00:56:11,360
Speaker 1: pretty annoyed, but then my brother had a huge breakdown.

1043
00:56:12,400 --> 00:56:15,960
Speaker 1: He said some sad stuff, but basically he's literally been

1044
00:56:16,040 --> 00:56:19,880
Speaker 1: feeling physical pain since the incident. My mom ended up

1045
00:56:19,920 --> 00:56:22,480
Speaker 1: walking in on this, and she was so mad. She

1046
00:56:22,640 --> 00:56:24,600
Speaker 1: was upset with my siblings and I for keeping this

1047
00:56:24,680 --> 00:56:27,920
Speaker 1: whole thing a secret, but was more upset with my grandma.

1048
00:56:28,800 --> 00:56:32,360
Speaker 1: With my grandma, after I finished explaining the whole situation,

1049
00:56:33,040 --> 00:56:36,600
Speaker 1: Mom drove to my grandma's house and blew up. She

1050
00:56:36,800 --> 00:56:42,000
Speaker 1: made me and my brother come along, and holy I'd

1051
00:56:42,120 --> 00:56:46,040
Speaker 1: never seen my mom so angry. She told my grandma

1052
00:56:46,120 --> 00:56:48,480
Speaker 1: that she was tired of her behaving like a child

1053
00:56:49,040 --> 00:56:51,120
Speaker 1: and that she should have been grateful I still talk

1054
00:56:51,200 --> 00:56:54,520
Speaker 1: to her. She called my grandma a jealous witch who

1055
00:56:54,600 --> 00:56:58,320
Speaker 1: needed to get over herself. What, oh my god. No

1056
00:56:58,440 --> 00:57:01,600
Speaker 1: one of this family goes like they only do one

1057
00:57:01,680 --> 00:57:04,800
Speaker 1: hundred percent. Everything is one hundred percent in this family.

1058
00:57:05,760 --> 00:57:07,240
Speaker 3: There's no holding punches.

1059
00:57:07,360 --> 00:57:12,600
Speaker 1: There's no holding punches. Everything is like ko boy, oh boy.

1060
00:57:14,840 --> 00:57:17,480
Speaker 1: She then forced her to apologize to my brother and I.

1061
00:57:18,200 --> 00:57:21,080
Speaker 1: My grandma apologized to me but refused to even look

1062
00:57:21,120 --> 00:57:23,840
Speaker 1: at my brother. This made my mom angrier, and she

1063
00:57:23,960 --> 00:57:28,480
Speaker 1: made some very true observations about my grandma's personality. Then

1064
00:57:28,880 --> 00:57:32,720
Speaker 1: we left. My grandma was shocked the entire time. My

1065
00:57:32,880 --> 00:57:37,800
Speaker 1: mom never shouts she's what some consider a pushover, but OMG,

1066
00:57:38,040 --> 00:57:43,120
Speaker 1: y'all if she's a pushover in this family, like I

1067
00:57:43,200 --> 00:57:45,440
Speaker 1: feel like a pushover in this family is just you know,

1068
00:57:45,520 --> 00:57:46,200
Speaker 1: a person.

1069
00:57:45,960 --> 00:57:47,400
Speaker 3: Who didn't clap back.

1070
00:57:47,600 --> 00:57:50,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's it. She's like she's a pushover. She didn't,

1071
00:57:50,440 --> 00:57:57,480
Speaker 1: she didn't freaking knock someone out either way, Brother to

1072
00:57:57,560 --> 00:58:01,320
Speaker 1: do anyways, My mom apologized to as well for some reason,

1073
00:58:01,520 --> 00:58:06,320
Speaker 1: then got everyone ice cream. What whoa a win? My

1074
00:58:06,480 --> 00:58:09,160
Speaker 1: dad is coming back tonight. Mom told him everything and

1075
00:58:09,640 --> 00:58:12,200
Speaker 1: told him everything, and he apologized for not being here

1076
00:58:12,240 --> 00:58:14,920
Speaker 1: as well. They both feel guilty, but I don't think

1077
00:58:14,960 --> 00:58:17,480
Speaker 1: they understand that we didn't tell them for their own sakes,

1078
00:58:17,640 --> 00:58:21,240
Speaker 1: not because we didn't trust them either way. Brother as

1079
00:58:21,280 --> 00:58:24,120
Speaker 1: a therapy appointment this week to talk about everything, plus

1080
00:58:24,320 --> 00:58:27,560
Speaker 1: work on the whole egginghouses thing. But other than that,

1081
00:58:27,800 --> 00:58:30,840
Speaker 1: that's it. My grandma hasn't texted me since my mom

1082
00:58:31,000 --> 00:58:34,200
Speaker 1: yelled at her, and I touched on this in the comments.

1083
00:58:34,640 --> 00:58:36,920
Speaker 1: But the reason she dislikes my brother so much is

1084
00:58:36,960 --> 00:58:39,600
Speaker 1: because he is quite literally a copy of my mom,

1085
00:58:40,160 --> 00:58:43,120
Speaker 1: and my mom is stunning. My mom was in a

1086
00:58:43,200 --> 00:58:46,080
Speaker 1: beauty competition as a kid, and so was my grandma.

1087
00:58:46,480 --> 00:58:50,040
Speaker 1: My grandma never won a single one, while my mom

1088
00:58:50,160 --> 00:58:53,520
Speaker 1: won a couple. That's what stemmed tor ratred for my mom.

1089
00:58:54,000 --> 00:58:57,080
Speaker 1: It's crazy how this all ties back to something so toxic.

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Speaker 1: That's so funny. What the funny? This is some like

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Speaker 1: Doof and Schmirtz level backstory. She's like, when I was

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Speaker 1: a child, I never won any competitions, but my daughter

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Speaker 1: in law she won them all. And now I'm creating

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Speaker 1: a nata to to I don't know, get rid of

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Speaker 1: all my family. Yeah, I'd never get a nator. Give

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Speaker 1: me your anator ideas for this grandma. But in the comments,

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Speaker 1: what do you think this grandma would make?

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Speaker 3: Ugly? The ugly the ugly person? Three thousand nature?

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Speaker 2: Okay? Like it.

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Speaker 1: Also, my grandma loves being in control, so when my

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Speaker 1: mother refused to allow my brother to participate in these

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Speaker 1: dumb but beauty pageants, my grandma went crazy and accused

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Speaker 1: my mom of cheating on my dad. In conclusion, I'm

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Speaker 1: really effing stupid for wanting to give my grandma chance

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Speaker 1: despite knowing all of this, like, I'm going insane wondering

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Speaker 1: why anyways, thanks for the supportive comments. I do realize

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Speaker 1: now that my grandma is not my responsibility and that,

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Speaker 1: my friends, is the end of this story. Yeah, I'm

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Speaker 1: glad that they're they're cutting off this grandma because she sucks.

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Speaker 1: Whoa Whoa would be a really good album cover. Sam

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Speaker 1: Hyatt says, right, and grandma had to apologize and get

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Speaker 1: assaulted verbally by the mom. I feel actually feel bad

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Speaker 1: for the grandma. Now, wait, Jasmine, what did Jasmine say?

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Speaker 1: Can you go back up asmin dsmin? Okay, I don't

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Speaker 1: have context for that comment. Ah, there it is so okay.

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Speaker 1: Jasmone says, so he disrespected his grandma and tried to

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Speaker 1: egg her house and he was rewarded with scream. That's

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Speaker 1: the thing. I don't think he should have gotten off

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Speaker 1: as light. I think the grandma totally, like, is absolutely

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Speaker 1: in the wrong. But the sun, I don't know. I

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Speaker 1: think that was a little bit.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Uh, someone said the avocado Nader that one's a good one.

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Speaker 1: But let's read these donations. Becky Townley says, thank you

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Speaker 1: for the five buck tip. Second Live. My boyfriend and

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Speaker 1: I have caught as we're in the UK. We thank

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Speaker 1: you for joining us. It was intense. Diavian Wilder, thank

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Speaker 1: you for the twenty gifted memberships. Bam, there you go.

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Speaker 3: That's for you.

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Speaker 1: And Joan Silt thank you for the six point four bucks.

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Speaker 1: Like this awesome stream. Here's five hundred plus viewers. Thank

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Speaker 1: you so much. Uh yeah we have. We have over

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Speaker 1: five hundred viewers and only two hundred and ninety two likes.

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Speaker 1: Come on, guys, I think someone's forgetting to like. Heidi Browning,

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01:02:07,600 --> 01:02:11,360
Speaker 1: thank you for celebrating your three months of membership. Can't donate,

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01:02:11,520 --> 01:02:14,880
Speaker 1: so using this to say thanks for everything y'all and

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01:02:15,080 --> 01:02:19,360
Speaker 1: love this channel and the community. Four K hospitable, hospitable,

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Speaker 1: I can't even speak. Four K hospital bill arrived this week.

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Speaker 1: Why that is horrible. I'm so sorry. Hospital bills suck.

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Speaker 1: I yeah, our healthcare system is the worst. Sam Hyatt

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Speaker 1: says grandma is deaf in the wrong. But the fact

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Speaker 1: that the awful brother was completely let off the hook

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01:02:38,800 --> 01:02:41,360
Speaker 1: while Grandma bore the whole brunt. That's why I feel

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Speaker 1: bad with her, not because I agree with her. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and jon Sieal, I think for the two sixty six

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Speaker 1: today is the day of chaos. Yes, bad hatter Gal,

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01:02:52,240 --> 01:02:54,240
Speaker 1: thank you for the five bucks. Next year, you guys

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Speaker 1: come to my boyfriend's neck of the woods. H you

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01:02:57,560 --> 01:03:00,440
Speaker 1: can watch him light off the fireworks. I'll post videos

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Speaker 1: that'll be fun, really fun. Certifiably. Jen, thank you for

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01:03:04,920 --> 01:03:08,160
Speaker 1: celebrating one month of membership Murphy's Law for the win.

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01:03:09,120 --> 01:03:13,160
Speaker 1: It was in our studio. Is our studios Murphy's Law?

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01:03:13,280 --> 01:03:14,800
Speaker 1: Or is this story Murphy's Law?

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01:03:14,960 --> 01:03:15,880
Speaker 3: No, no, our studio.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Everything that bad that will happen will u. M Ray says,

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Speaker 1: this Grandma is wild, but the title is kind of

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01:03:23,680 --> 01:03:26,360
Speaker 1: funny because I can imagine an old person from TV

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Speaker 1: shows with classic beef with the youths. Yeah, that's what

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Speaker 1: I was thinking of before, Like just a random sixteen

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Speaker 1: year old, like I was imagining she's really into playing

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Speaker 1: video games and she has beef with this sixteen year

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Speaker 1: old gamer.

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Speaker 3: Oh that would be good. Yeah, modern day, modern day.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Riley, we'll be right back, but I will read you. Okay, well,

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Speaker 1: I won't read you the next story because I need Riley,

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01:03:52,800 --> 01:03:56,200
Speaker 1: but I will read your comments. Guild Pill says mood

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01:03:56,680 --> 01:03:59,960
Speaker 1: me too. I'm like, get that kid off my lawn element.

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01:04:00,080 --> 01:04:04,480
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, don't let kids egg your house. And Sam

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01:04:04,560 --> 01:04:08,360
Speaker 1: Hyatt says, like a gangster. Grandma Lool Francis says, it's

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01:04:08,440 --> 01:04:12,800
Speaker 1: so wrong when parents slash grandparents have favorites. Yeah, this

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Speaker 1: all just their parenting. This family seems pretty pretty messy,

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01:04:19,080 --> 01:04:22,720
Speaker 1: pretty messy. That's also a really wild reason for her

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Speaker 1: to be upset with her to not like her daughter

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Speaker 1: in law because her daughter in law won some competitions

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Speaker 1: as a kid and she didn't. That's embarrassing. That's like

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Speaker 1: you're you peaked in high school, but you peaked in

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Speaker 1: your childhood. H beauty pageant. Okay, I'm going on break,

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01:04:42,160 --> 01:04:44,520
Speaker 1: so I won't tell you another story. Also, you have

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Speaker 1: to move that chair because I spilled water and then

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Speaker 1: I dropped the water every one. It was actually kind

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01:04:49,640 --> 01:04:52,760
Speaker 1: of like a domino effect. There was water here down

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Speaker 1: but I missed it and it spilt. It spurted into

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Speaker 1: the camera and then I tried to move this over

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01:04:58,800 --> 01:05:02,080
Speaker 1: to dry it up, and and then the heavy coffee

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01:05:02,160 --> 01:05:09,200
Speaker 1: table fell over. It was crazy. You're welcome, all right,

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01:05:09,480 --> 01:05:09,959
Speaker 1: I'll leave.

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Speaker 2: It with you. Oh Eve, ladies and gentlemen get excited. Okay,

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Speaker 2: I want you to have a rabble rousing applause. You

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Speaker 2: can sit right here for our new guest, Molly freaking Chapman.

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Speaker 1: Let's go.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, let me help you out the mic.

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Speaker 5: There, God, what a beautiful introduction. Can you follow me

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Speaker 5: around and introduce.

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Speaker 2: Me exactly freaking Chapmen.

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Speaker 3: Oh and we're at another thirty minutes. Thank you, Sleepless

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Speaker 3: nights for forty five dollars a twenty four hour stream.

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Speaker 2: I said it, please, no twenty four. Wow, they've changed it,

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Speaker 2: so okay, so introduce you to chat to the community.

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Speaker 2: So they have this thing, right they love of like

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01:06:00,760 --> 01:06:04,360
Speaker 2: torturing us basically, so part of their torture is they're

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Speaker 2: able to unlock more hours of us in the chair

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01:06:07,640 --> 01:06:10,520
Speaker 2: if they if they donate. So they have this like

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01:06:10,720 --> 01:06:13,200
Speaker 2: rallying cry of like ten hours, like, hey, can we

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01:06:13,800 --> 01:06:16,120
Speaker 2: can we keep them up to one am reading stories?

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01:06:16,240 --> 01:06:20,360
Speaker 3: Right? And apparently there's now a new rallying cry of twenty.

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Speaker 2: Four let's go.

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Speaker 5: I love that, guys, because I will not be here

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Speaker 5: that long, but I love.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Molly will be like leaving as we descend into

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Speaker 2: into insanity.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I don't even know, I don't know what

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Speaker 2: to say anymore, hones, we make.

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Speaker 5: It forty eight hours. You know, if you're going to

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Speaker 5: do if you're going.

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Speaker 2: To do it, Molly do don't give them any ideas,

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Speaker 2: Like you really cannot give them anything because they will

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Speaker 2: run with it. And that was Molly everyone, Okay, you go.

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Speaker 2: Riley's like I won't Oh my gosh, oh my gosh.

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01:06:57,640 --> 01:06:59,920
Speaker 2: Riley's like, where's the union rules for podcasts?

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01:07:00,760 --> 01:07:02,640
Speaker 3: I was this close to making a union.

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01:07:03,080 --> 01:07:11,080
Speaker 2: True, yeah, trying oh the union against us? Yeah, and

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01:07:11,120 --> 01:07:14,080
Speaker 2: then you guys bribe me with more money, Like it's

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01:07:14,120 --> 01:07:17,440
Speaker 2: not against you, it's with you. I love it all right,

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01:07:17,520 --> 01:07:19,720
Speaker 2: boys and girls, Well we're gonna give you what you

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Speaker 2: came for, which is some stories. Okay, Riley, where am I?

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Speaker 2: Where am I at?

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Speaker 3: Six?

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Speaker 2: Six? So? Two s one? So I was explaining to

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Speaker 2: to Molly downstairs everyone. But yeah, so these are our stories.

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Speaker 2: So we're gonna have our our insane intro. I have

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Speaker 2: no idea what it's about. By the way, I love that,

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Speaker 2: I'm literally going in completely blind.

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Speaker 5: I might also, yeah, I will say it's wild when

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Speaker 5: I've watched you guys do stories. Like my reactions to

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01:07:50,040 --> 01:07:52,240
Speaker 5: the stories are so much bigger than yours. Like it's

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Speaker 5: like I think you guys are used to the ridiculousness,

1239
01:07:55,440 --> 01:07:58,120
Speaker 5: like this person like cheated and then like murdered this right,

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Speaker 5: And you're like.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, you know we've read, Mollie, We've read

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01:08:03,760 --> 01:08:10,360
Speaker 2: three thousand stories. Wow, we have give it up. Yeah us, Yes,

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01:08:10,960 --> 01:08:15,000
Speaker 2: we've seen three housand stories of absolute horror and insanity.

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01:08:15,720 --> 01:08:19,200
Speaker 2: And uh, we're just we're a little bit numb to

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01:08:19,280 --> 01:08:22,599
Speaker 2: it in a way. Back, in a way, Ollie, tell

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Speaker 2: us a little bit about yourself. Oh who is Molly?

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01:08:27,360 --> 01:08:30,800
Speaker 5: Big question, guys. I'm born and raised in LA. I

1248
01:08:30,880 --> 01:08:32,759
Speaker 5: know it's rare that you find those people. I promise

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01:08:32,840 --> 01:08:36,680
Speaker 5: we don't suck. Okay. I went to college in New

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Speaker 5: York because I wanted to get out of LA.

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Speaker 1: But we came back.

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01:08:40,960 --> 01:08:42,880
Speaker 5: Made music most of my life. Do a little stand

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Speaker 5: up comedy, love to dance, get down on the dance floor.

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01:08:45,760 --> 01:08:50,839
Speaker 2: She's so good at stand up. It's so good. Oh Sophie, Sophia,

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Speaker 2: you break our equipment, you break up producer, You interrupt

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01:08:54,439 --> 01:08:58,200
Speaker 2: Molly's incredible introduction. No, no, I won't hear it anymore.

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Speaker 2: Get you and your union out here.

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01:09:00,760 --> 01:09:04,120
Speaker 5: I like the girl power, though, I will say we

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01:09:04,200 --> 01:09:05,160
Speaker 5: need that female energy.

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Speaker 4: We do.

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01:09:05,920 --> 01:09:07,880
Speaker 2: We desperately need female energy on this show.

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01:09:08,000 --> 01:09:12,400
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, I think just in general, we need just everywhere.

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Speaker 5: I agree, the White House, everywhere we're.

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Speaker 2: At another thirty minutes.

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Speaker 5: Oh my god, oh man, but yeah, but yeah, that's

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01:09:23,640 --> 01:09:26,559
Speaker 5: that's me. Oh sorry, I keep thinking that's a good thing,

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01:09:26,640 --> 01:09:29,880
Speaker 5: but for you guys, not so much. But yeah, that's

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Speaker 5: my like. I love dogs. Oh dogs are desserts.

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Speaker 2: Desert area.

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Speaker 5: Clearly, you gotta stop making the you know, self deprecating jokes.

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Speaker 5: My mom hates when I do that, but I love it. Okay,

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Speaker 5: anything else, I don't know. I'm just happy to be here.

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01:09:48,360 --> 01:09:49,080
Speaker 5: Life is good.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, life is good.

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Speaker 5: Focus on the good, good people, new opportunities, put yourself

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01:09:54,360 --> 01:09:55,840
Speaker 5: out there. You never know what's going to happen.

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Speaker 2: That's right. And are you Are you ready to judge

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01:09:58,160 --> 01:10:00,800
Speaker 2: the absolute living heck out of Rangers on the Inn?

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01:10:01,120 --> 01:10:01,360
Speaker 1: Yeah?

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01:10:01,880 --> 01:10:03,040
Speaker 2: Let's yeah.

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01:10:03,479 --> 01:10:05,000
Speaker 3: Are you ready, Riley, I'm ready.

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01:10:05,120 --> 01:10:08,120
Speaker 2: Let's go. Let's do it. Am I the a hole?

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01:10:08,160 --> 01:10:10,200
Speaker 3: Wait? I'm not ready? No, Now, I'm ready.

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01:10:10,200 --> 01:10:15,479
Speaker 2: Wow, They're fine. Am I the a hole? For questioning

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Speaker 2: my wife's intentions with her new friend? If you have

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01:10:20,680 --> 01:10:25,639
Speaker 2: you know a life partner and there's a new friend

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Speaker 2: in the mix.

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Speaker 5: Are you worried and I'm assuming like that of the opposite?

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Speaker 5: Are there like, say she's just a friend vibes? You know,

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01:10:37,040 --> 01:10:39,240
Speaker 5: I'm a bit of a jealous person. I've found a

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01:10:39,280 --> 01:10:44,760
Speaker 5: little insecure, so I got yeah, shut out insecurity, let's go.

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Speaker 5: So I think that would be really hard, but let's see,

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01:10:47,479 --> 01:10:48,200
Speaker 5: let's see what's up.

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Speaker 2: Let's see. This is all to answer the question should

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01:10:50,320 --> 01:10:52,479
Speaker 2: you tell your partner if you don't like their friends?

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01:10:52,479 --> 01:10:54,559
Speaker 2: And this comes from throw away eighty G one hundred,

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Speaker 2: who says, I thirty male, have been married to my wife,

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Speaker 2: Sam twenty eight female, three years. Sam. If you've got

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Speaker 2: something to tell us, please let us know. About a

1300
01:11:04,160 --> 01:11:05,920
Speaker 2: year ago, we moved to a new city because I

1301
01:11:06,040 --> 01:11:08,519
Speaker 2: was offered a promotion. Sam was hesitant at first, but

1302
01:11:08,680 --> 01:11:11,479
Speaker 2: soon came around to the idea. Since arriving to the city,

1303
01:11:11,600 --> 01:11:13,799
Speaker 2: we have both been busy at work and have struggled

1304
01:11:13,840 --> 01:11:17,080
Speaker 2: to make new friends. Around four months in Sam told

1305
01:11:17,200 --> 01:11:20,840
Speaker 2: me that she had met a new friend, Jane twenty

1306
01:11:20,960 --> 01:11:24,559
Speaker 2: nine female, and they had a lot in common. How

1307
01:11:24,640 --> 01:11:29,040
Speaker 2: much in common? That's the question. Yeah, I was happy

1308
01:11:29,080 --> 01:11:31,080
Speaker 2: for her, and we planned a double date with Jane

1309
01:11:31,120 --> 01:11:33,800
Speaker 2: and her husband a few weeks later. At the first dinner,

1310
01:11:33,920 --> 01:11:36,120
Speaker 2: we started to make the usual small talk, but when

1311
01:11:36,120 --> 01:11:38,840
Speaker 2: I tried to engage with Jane, she seemed cold and

1312
01:11:39,040 --> 01:11:42,559
Speaker 2: dismissive for the rest of the night. For the rest

1313
01:11:42,560 --> 01:11:44,000
Speaker 2: of the night, I was left to speak with the

1314
01:11:44,080 --> 01:11:47,120
Speaker 2: husband while my wife and Jane were deep in conversation.

1315
01:11:47,640 --> 01:11:49,920
Speaker 2: Every time I tried to join their chat, Jane started

1316
01:11:49,960 --> 01:11:53,680
Speaker 2: talking to my wife again. The husband never tried to

1317
01:11:53,720 --> 01:11:57,599
Speaker 2: get involved. Maybe he knew his place. Did we ever

1318
01:11:57,640 --> 01:12:03,400
Speaker 2: think about that? This this riley, this this dirt bag husband.

1319
01:12:04,080 --> 01:12:06,640
Speaker 2: You think you get to talk? Yeah? Shut up?

1320
01:12:06,760 --> 01:12:07,360
Speaker 3: What are you doing?

1321
01:12:07,680 --> 01:12:11,160
Speaker 2: Shut up? Eat that sushi? Eat it?

1322
01:12:11,360 --> 01:12:11,479
Speaker 4: Oh?

1323
01:12:11,600 --> 01:12:16,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, I brushed this off as Jane. I brushed this

1324
01:12:16,120 --> 01:12:18,880
Speaker 2: off as Jane maybe being a bit shy around new people,

1325
01:12:19,000 --> 01:12:21,200
Speaker 2: and I forgot about it. Over the next month, Sam

1326
01:12:21,280 --> 01:12:25,000
Speaker 2: and Jane would text constantly, having long phone calls at night,

1327
01:12:25,280 --> 01:12:27,200
Speaker 2: and met up a couple times a week for coffee

1328
01:12:27,280 --> 01:12:29,639
Speaker 2: and lunch a couple of times a week, a couple

1329
01:12:29,680 --> 01:12:31,880
Speaker 2: of times, just just a few you know, you know,

1330
01:12:32,280 --> 01:12:36,120
Speaker 2: it's a you know, friendship. I guess you know what

1331
01:12:38,720 --> 01:12:41,000
Speaker 2: we'll see we'll see, we'll see. So we have another

1332
01:12:41,080 --> 01:12:44,519
Speaker 2: thing on the show, Amali. That's icee you where people

1333
01:12:44,600 --> 01:12:47,920
Speaker 2: put ice you in the comments with their little worms

1334
01:12:48,080 --> 01:12:51,240
Speaker 2: if they see something coming? Do you are you? I

1335
01:12:51,360 --> 01:12:53,000
Speaker 2: see you in right now? Do you do you see?

1336
01:12:53,840 --> 01:12:55,439
Speaker 2: Do you foresee something about to happen?

1337
01:12:56,560 --> 01:12:56,760
Speaker 4: Yeah?

1338
01:12:57,800 --> 01:13:00,320
Speaker 2: But I don't know what exactly.

1339
01:13:00,320 --> 01:13:02,519
Speaker 5: I hope Jane's like lesbian or something. I don't know.

1340
01:13:02,840 --> 01:13:05,120
Speaker 2: That's that's all we can do. It'd be great. Yes,

1341
01:13:05,600 --> 01:13:08,120
Speaker 2: Jane the lesbian, let's go. We're here for it.

1342
01:13:10,000 --> 01:13:10,120
Speaker 1: Now.

1343
01:13:10,360 --> 01:13:12,280
Speaker 2: This didn't bother me, and I just thought that they

1344
01:13:12,280 --> 01:13:15,680
Speaker 2: were forming a close friendship when we went uh. We

1345
01:13:15,840 --> 01:13:18,240
Speaker 2: then went out tonight again for dinner, and the same

1346
01:13:18,360 --> 01:13:20,920
Speaker 2: thing happened, although Jane spoke to the whole group more

1347
01:13:21,000 --> 01:13:23,799
Speaker 2: this time, but she made a number of comments alluding

1348
01:13:23,880 --> 01:13:28,640
Speaker 2: to her being bisexual, let's go, oh, and her and

1349
01:13:28,760 --> 01:13:33,000
Speaker 2: her husband being in some sort of open relationship.

1350
01:13:33,240 --> 01:13:36,479
Speaker 5: Okay, so like swinger, we're getting some swinger vibes.

1351
01:13:36,840 --> 01:13:39,200
Speaker 2: The question is, is Opie and his wife in an

1352
01:13:39,200 --> 01:13:40,040
Speaker 2: open relationship?

1353
01:13:40,400 --> 01:13:40,880
Speaker 1: I doubt it.

1354
01:13:42,800 --> 01:13:45,759
Speaker 2: We when we moved to a bar, Jane sat across

1355
01:13:45,760 --> 01:13:48,320
Speaker 2: from my wife and started openly flirting with her.

1356
01:13:51,120 --> 01:13:57,400
Speaker 5: You're like, this is good now because now like both

1357
01:13:57,439 --> 01:14:02,840
Speaker 5: sides are getting attention, you know, both sides like like,

1358
01:14:03,920 --> 01:14:04,960
Speaker 5: oh my god, what's her name?

1359
01:14:05,360 --> 01:14:09,760
Speaker 2: Not Jane Jane Opie's wife, Opie's wife. Yeah, Opie's wife

1360
01:14:09,840 --> 01:14:14,080
Speaker 2: is getting attention right, Yeah, well yes, she was getting

1361
01:14:14,080 --> 01:14:16,080
Speaker 2: attention it seems before.

1362
01:14:16,760 --> 01:14:17,840
Speaker 5: Oh maybe I've been like.

1363
01:14:18,520 --> 01:14:20,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, so quick, quick deal, d are so please?

1364
01:14:21,920 --> 01:14:27,240
Speaker 2: Basically Opie was the author Opie Uh, Opie's wife. As

1365
01:14:27,280 --> 01:14:30,280
Speaker 2: far as we know, we we never have all the context,

1366
01:14:30,360 --> 01:14:31,640
Speaker 2: but we kind of have to go by what they

1367
01:14:31,680 --> 01:14:33,840
Speaker 2: share with us. As far as we know, there hasn't

1368
01:14:33,880 --> 01:14:36,120
Speaker 2: been any problems in the relationship thus far that have

1369
01:14:36,200 --> 01:14:40,920
Speaker 2: been brought forward, so we're kind of assuming a decent marriage. Yeah,

1370
01:14:41,880 --> 01:14:44,479
Speaker 2: and Opie's wife started hanging out with this with this

1371
01:14:44,680 --> 01:14:47,880
Speaker 2: Jane chick, and then she's like, oh, I'm bisexual, I

1372
01:14:48,160 --> 01:14:50,639
Speaker 2: open relationships. So now yeah, Opie's like that makes sense.

1373
01:14:51,800 --> 01:14:54,800
Speaker 2: Opie's shaking in his boots a little bit. I know

1374
01:14:54,960 --> 01:14:57,000
Speaker 2: there's a stake in my boot and it's not mine.

1375
01:14:57,120 --> 01:14:59,960
Speaker 5: Like, aren't men really into women being again?

1376
01:15:00,439 --> 01:15:04,960
Speaker 2: You know, you think maybe this could be a win

1377
01:15:05,280 --> 01:15:06,519
Speaker 2: for OPI or could.

1378
01:15:06,360 --> 01:15:09,920
Speaker 5: Be lost right to be honest, see what happens talking.

1379
01:15:10,400 --> 01:15:15,240
Speaker 2: No, you've been talking the exact appropriate amount. Okay, so

1380
01:15:15,600 --> 01:15:19,800
Speaker 2: Opie says she would make suggestive comments, compliment her, and

1381
01:15:19,960 --> 01:15:24,240
Speaker 2: use any excuse to make physical contact with her, touching hands, shoulders.

1382
01:15:26,200 --> 01:15:28,280
Speaker 2: I'll let your imagination work on that one. When we

1383
01:15:28,360 --> 01:15:31,040
Speaker 2: got home, I made a joke asking Sam if she

1384
01:15:31,200 --> 01:15:34,120
Speaker 2: enjoyed her date with Jane. You look confused and asked

1385
01:15:34,160 --> 01:15:36,720
Speaker 2: what I meant. I said that Jane had made me

1386
01:15:36,800 --> 01:15:39,559
Speaker 2: a bit uncomfortable with her flirting, and she said, that's

1387
01:15:39,680 --> 01:15:40,560
Speaker 2: just how she is.

1388
01:15:41,479 --> 01:15:43,639
Speaker 5: That's Jane, that's Jane.

1389
01:15:44,439 --> 01:15:46,600
Speaker 2: I told her that I wasn't sure Jane wanted to

1390
01:15:46,880 --> 01:15:50,519
Speaker 2: just be friends and asked her be careful for reference.

1391
01:15:50,680 --> 01:15:53,400
Speaker 2: Sam has never shown any real interest in women. As

1392
01:15:53,439 --> 01:15:56,320
Speaker 2: far as I know, she is straight. She is also

1393
01:15:56,640 --> 01:15:59,639
Speaker 2: endearingly naive and will always see the best in people.

1394
01:16:00,200 --> 01:16:03,120
Speaker 2: The texting and calls continued, and Sam started going over

1395
01:16:03,200 --> 01:16:05,960
Speaker 2: to Jane's apartment at least once a week. It wouldn't

1396
01:16:06,000 --> 01:16:07,960
Speaker 2: come home until quite late.

1397
01:16:11,320 --> 01:16:12,040
Speaker 1: That's tough, you know.

1398
01:16:12,680 --> 01:16:15,479
Speaker 5: I will say yes that at the beginning. I definitely

1399
01:16:15,720 --> 01:16:18,519
Speaker 5: my brain is a little fried, so I obviously thought

1400
01:16:18,560 --> 01:16:20,760
Speaker 5: that roles were reversed. And it's wild how when a

1401
01:16:20,800 --> 01:16:23,960
Speaker 5: man is hanging out with a woman, you're like no,

1402
01:16:24,920 --> 01:16:27,680
Speaker 5: but now that it's two women, you're like, oh yeah,

1403
01:16:27,720 --> 01:16:31,479
Speaker 5: they're just like having a fun little they're girls. Yeah,

1404
01:16:31,720 --> 01:16:34,519
Speaker 5: so I feel like that's maybe not not fair to

1405
01:16:34,600 --> 01:16:36,080
Speaker 5: the men. Not fair to the men.

1406
01:16:36,520 --> 01:16:39,200
Speaker 4: Hey, somebody said, I think Molly has ADHD, and I

1407
01:16:39,400 --> 01:16:45,800
Speaker 4: find you Listen, we all have ADHD reading the hilarious God,

1408
01:16:45,920 --> 01:16:46,680
Speaker 4: that's amazing.

1409
01:16:46,840 --> 01:16:49,240
Speaker 2: The hilariosis of the show is we are a show,

1410
01:16:49,600 --> 01:16:53,120
Speaker 2: a reading show with negative ten percent reading comprehension. Yeah,

1411
01:16:53,600 --> 01:16:55,760
Speaker 2: that is what that is what the people apparently have

1412
01:16:55,840 --> 01:16:56,120
Speaker 2: come for.

1413
01:16:56,320 --> 01:16:58,920
Speaker 5: Wait, that's so funny too. And I'm honestly, guys, I've

1414
01:16:59,000 --> 01:17:02,320
Speaker 5: thought about, like, oh what if I've never taken adderall right,

1415
01:17:02,439 --> 01:17:04,800
Speaker 5: but I've heard amazing things. But I've heard there's a

1416
01:17:05,360 --> 01:17:09,160
Speaker 5: I watch McCall it, there's a like the factory. Is

1417
01:17:09,880 --> 01:17:11,280
Speaker 5: there's a slowdown right now?

1418
01:17:11,520 --> 01:17:14,200
Speaker 2: Oh yes, yeah, they're not pumping it like they used to.

1419
01:17:14,320 --> 01:17:15,920
Speaker 5: I don't want to take from the people who really

1420
01:17:16,040 --> 01:17:19,040
Speaker 5: need it exactly, you know, even though maybe I do. Anyway,

1421
01:17:19,120 --> 01:17:21,400
Speaker 5: back to back to back to back to the bisexual

1422
01:17:21,520 --> 01:17:22,720
Speaker 5: little hangouts.

1423
01:17:23,320 --> 01:17:30,519
Speaker 2: The bisexual hangouts, potentially potentially allegedly. I was weary, I

1424
01:17:30,680 --> 01:17:32,600
Speaker 2: was wary, but she would always tell me what they

1425
01:17:32,640 --> 01:17:35,639
Speaker 2: had done, slash watched, et cetera. After one of these visits,

1426
01:17:35,720 --> 01:17:37,960
Speaker 2: I asked what Jane's husband was up to and was

1427
01:17:38,000 --> 01:17:40,280
Speaker 2: slightly shocked to hear that he was away on a

1428
01:17:40,320 --> 01:17:43,960
Speaker 2: business trip. Apparently he traveled a lot, and Jane didn't

1429
01:17:44,040 --> 01:17:48,599
Speaker 2: like being home alone. You need some company, yeah, late

1430
01:17:48,640 --> 01:17:51,400
Speaker 2: at night. This came to a boiling point a few

1431
01:17:51,439 --> 01:17:54,160
Speaker 2: weeks ago when I took Jane's husband to play golf.

1432
01:17:54,760 --> 01:17:57,080
Speaker 2: We were supposed to go out for drink slash dinner

1433
01:17:57,479 --> 01:18:00,280
Speaker 2: after with the other two guys, but they both had

1434
01:18:00,320 --> 01:18:02,800
Speaker 2: to cancel last minute. On the ten minute drive back

1435
01:18:02,840 --> 01:18:06,320
Speaker 2: to my house, I could see Jane's husband texting Jane,

1436
01:18:06,920 --> 01:18:09,040
Speaker 2: Jane and Sam, we're supposed to be going out for

1437
01:18:09,200 --> 01:18:12,320
Speaker 2: Shophe Jane and Sam. We're supposed to be going out

1438
01:18:12,400 --> 01:18:15,080
Speaker 2: for shopping and lunch. But when we arrived at my place,

1439
01:18:15,200 --> 01:18:21,000
Speaker 2: they both look flustered, sitting on opposite ends of the couch.

1440
01:18:21,640 --> 01:18:24,000
Speaker 2: We made awkward small talk for a while, but when

1441
01:18:24,560 --> 01:18:28,080
Speaker 2: but when I went into the bedroom, I noticed Jane's

1442
01:18:28,160 --> 01:18:33,200
Speaker 2: smartwatch was sitting by the bed and now I'm going

1443
01:18:33,280 --> 01:18:36,639
Speaker 2: to torture everyone really quick and do a little breakdown

1444
01:18:36,640 --> 01:18:38,920
Speaker 2: real quick, because I think we need to stop right here.

1445
01:18:40,200 --> 01:18:45,160
Speaker 2: So Molly, yeah, there. We have this conversation all the

1446
01:18:45,280 --> 01:18:50,080
Speaker 2: time on the show of like when if you are

1447
01:18:50,280 --> 01:18:55,040
Speaker 2: suspicious of a partner cheating, what do you do? When

1448
01:18:55,160 --> 01:18:59,360
Speaker 2: do you kind of go in for evidence? It's very

1449
01:19:00,120 --> 01:19:02,200
Speaker 2: what what we typically say on the show is like,

1450
01:19:03,320 --> 01:19:05,840
Speaker 2: what's that policy of like, oh, if you walk by

1451
01:19:05,920 --> 01:19:08,400
Speaker 2: and happen to see it, probably then you can investigate

1452
01:19:08,600 --> 01:19:11,960
Speaker 2: this second probable cause. Probable cause, Yeah, maybe not for police,

1453
01:19:12,040 --> 01:19:14,439
Speaker 2: but for this because if you have a phone, you

1454
01:19:14,520 --> 01:19:17,519
Speaker 2: see a text come through and you're like, hey, babe,

1455
01:19:17,520 --> 01:19:20,400
Speaker 2: see you tonight. Water emoji, water emoji. It's from Pizza Hut,

1456
01:19:20,800 --> 01:19:24,280
Speaker 2: and it's from Pizza Hut. You can click on that

1457
01:19:24,479 --> 01:19:27,479
Speaker 2: text and see what's going on. What are your thoughts?

1458
01:19:27,560 --> 01:19:33,120
Speaker 5: Oh hmm, I mean hopefully you have a partner that

1459
01:19:33,200 --> 01:19:37,559
Speaker 5: you trust so that this is not a problem, I feel.

1460
01:19:37,880 --> 01:19:39,680
Speaker 2: But if you have a filthy liar.

1461
01:19:40,200 --> 01:19:42,960
Speaker 5: See but the smart watch and them hanging out like see,

1462
01:19:43,040 --> 01:19:44,920
Speaker 5: I say, just go direct to the source and just

1463
01:19:45,000 --> 01:19:47,479
Speaker 5: be like, hey, you guys have been hanging out a lot,

1464
01:19:48,000 --> 01:19:50,080
Speaker 5: and you know, I'm starting to feel a little bit

1465
01:19:50,080 --> 01:19:53,000
Speaker 5: insecure about it, and I just kind of want to

1466
01:19:53,040 --> 01:19:55,639
Speaker 5: know what your relationship is like, are there any romantic feelings?

1467
01:19:55,760 --> 01:19:57,519
Speaker 5: Just take the mature route.

1468
01:19:57,520 --> 01:20:00,000
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying, direct communication?

1469
01:20:00,400 --> 01:20:00,760
Speaker 5: Yeah, I know.

1470
01:20:01,520 --> 01:20:05,920
Speaker 2: Who would have thought expressing clearly and directly how we

1471
01:20:06,040 --> 01:20:08,479
Speaker 2: feel could be the solution to our problems?

1472
01:20:08,560 --> 01:20:08,960
Speaker 5: Exactly?

1473
01:20:09,400 --> 01:20:14,000
Speaker 2: Wow, I know, ladies and gentlemen, Molly Chapman, Okay, here

1474
01:20:14,080 --> 01:20:16,160
Speaker 2: we freaking go. I one hundred percent agree. I think,

1475
01:20:16,280 --> 01:20:21,240
Speaker 2: especially at this point where everything up until the smart

1476
01:20:21,280 --> 01:20:27,040
Speaker 2: watch on the nightstand was like could cause totally cause alarm,

1477
01:20:27,320 --> 01:20:30,000
Speaker 2: but it wasn't like a smoking gun of evidence of

1478
01:20:30,200 --> 01:20:33,400
Speaker 2: like oh there was like a used used protection on

1479
01:20:33,479 --> 01:20:36,040
Speaker 2: the floor, like any sort of super obvious there.

1480
01:20:36,720 --> 01:20:39,519
Speaker 3: And the vibes that are off the smart watch and

1481
01:20:39,600 --> 01:20:41,280
Speaker 3: the vibes were pretty.

1482
01:20:41,040 --> 01:20:43,160
Speaker 2: Smart watch, but yes, the vibes were the vibes were

1483
01:20:43,240 --> 01:20:46,160
Speaker 2: super off. So to Molly's point, if you go while

1484
01:20:46,200 --> 01:20:48,160
Speaker 2: the vibes dropping, you're just like, hey, this is how

1485
01:20:48,200 --> 01:20:52,120
Speaker 2: I'm feeling. I uh, it feels like you guys are

1486
01:20:52,120 --> 01:20:54,120
Speaker 2: getting really close. I don't know if there's anything going on,

1487
01:20:56,439 --> 01:20:57,400
Speaker 2: because I feel like.

1488
01:20:57,400 --> 01:21:00,240
Speaker 5: Being accused of something when you haven't done anything or

1489
01:21:00,560 --> 01:21:03,200
Speaker 5: it's not and maybe they have right, but like if

1490
01:21:03,240 --> 01:21:05,400
Speaker 5: you it just then that builds up animosity.

1491
01:21:05,600 --> 01:21:08,000
Speaker 2: That's a dangerous line you cross. It's like a very

1492
01:21:08,160 --> 01:21:10,320
Speaker 2: delicate balancing act of like you're not one hundred percent sure,

1493
01:21:10,360 --> 01:21:14,240
Speaker 2: especially if you don't have like the most concrete evidence

1494
01:21:14,400 --> 01:21:16,719
Speaker 2: like we did before the smart watch.

1495
01:21:17,200 --> 01:21:19,720
Speaker 5: Why is the smart watch? Can someone explain this to so,

1496
01:21:19,920 --> 01:21:20,840
Speaker 5: like why is that?

1497
01:21:20,960 --> 01:21:23,960
Speaker 2: What? If someone just wanted to it is true, I'm

1498
01:21:23,960 --> 01:21:25,639
Speaker 2: not and I'm not saying it's the most smoking gun,

1499
01:21:25,720 --> 01:21:29,040
Speaker 2: which it isn't. But if you walk into because he

1500
01:21:29,120 --> 01:21:31,560
Speaker 2: walked into I believe their house.

1501
01:21:31,560 --> 01:21:33,920
Speaker 3: Right, they walked into the living room, Yeah, the.

1502
01:21:34,000 --> 01:21:37,200
Speaker 2: Living room of Jane, Jane in her husband's place. Yeah,

1503
01:21:37,280 --> 01:21:39,519
Speaker 2: so it's like he walked into Jane in her husband's place.

1504
01:21:39,960 --> 01:21:41,960
Speaker 2: He sees the smart but he sees the smart watch

1505
01:21:42,200 --> 01:21:44,720
Speaker 2: in the bedroom. I think they had been sitting next

1506
01:21:44,760 --> 01:21:45,400
Speaker 2: to the bed.

1507
01:21:46,120 --> 01:21:47,720
Speaker 5: So they had been in the bedroom and once they

1508
01:21:47,760 --> 01:21:49,519
Speaker 5: knew that the guys were coming home, they rushed to

1509
01:21:49,560 --> 01:21:52,880
Speaker 5: the living room and like typical movie, They're like I'm

1510
01:21:52,880 --> 01:21:54,240
Speaker 5: over here, you know, I'm not I'm.

1511
01:21:54,120 --> 01:21:54,799
Speaker 2: Not doing anything.

1512
01:21:54,960 --> 01:21:57,040
Speaker 5: But the smoking gun was Oh my god, well I

1513
01:21:57,160 --> 01:21:58,680
Speaker 5: need to find out like I need.

1514
01:21:58,880 --> 01:22:03,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, guess what, Molly, we have the info. They

1515
01:22:03,600 --> 01:22:07,519
Speaker 2: quickly left. Whoa. They quickly left, and I decided it

1516
01:22:07,640 --> 01:22:10,320
Speaker 2: was time to talk to Sam communication for the wind.

1517
01:22:10,600 --> 01:22:12,800
Speaker 2: I casually asked her what she bought at the mall

1518
01:22:12,920 --> 01:22:15,679
Speaker 2: and where they went for lunch. She said they decided

1519
01:22:15,680 --> 01:22:18,240
Speaker 2: to stay home instead because Jane had a headache. I

1520
01:22:18,320 --> 01:22:20,439
Speaker 2: asked her to be honest about what they had done,

1521
01:22:20,520 --> 01:22:23,280
Speaker 2: and she swore that they had just chatted all afternoon

1522
01:22:23,560 --> 01:22:25,800
Speaker 2: and they were just friends. I told her I was

1523
01:22:25,880 --> 01:22:28,120
Speaker 2: uncomfortable with a lot of things that have happened, but

1524
01:22:28,200 --> 01:22:30,640
Speaker 2: she tried to reassured me. But she tried to reassure me.

1525
01:22:31,080 --> 01:22:33,280
Speaker 2: I noticed later that the smart watch was gone, but

1526
01:22:33,400 --> 01:22:37,920
Speaker 2: I didn't bring this up to sam Our Our poll

1527
01:22:38,000 --> 01:22:40,120
Speaker 2: is voting right now. But I have to ask you, Molly,

1528
01:22:40,160 --> 01:22:42,519
Speaker 2: really quick, cheating or not? Do you think she is cheating?

1529
01:22:43,240 --> 01:22:43,519
Speaker 1: Gone?

1530
01:22:45,640 --> 01:22:48,720
Speaker 2: Ninety three percent of the people say cheating? What say you? Oh?

1531
01:22:48,800 --> 01:22:49,320
Speaker 3: What say I?

1532
01:22:50,400 --> 01:22:50,920
Speaker 1: What's ami?

1533
01:22:51,760 --> 01:22:52,080
Speaker 4: Dude?

1534
01:22:52,680 --> 01:22:53,720
Speaker 5: I'm an optimist?

1535
01:22:54,439 --> 01:22:58,559
Speaker 2: Yeah, we love so optimism. Hey, seven percent of people

1536
01:22:58,600 --> 01:22:59,600
Speaker 2: are also optimist.

1537
01:22:59,680 --> 01:23:05,200
Speaker 5: So I want to say no, Yeah, yeah, ah, I

1538
01:23:05,360 --> 01:23:06,080
Speaker 5: want to say.

1539
01:23:06,040 --> 01:23:10,720
Speaker 2: NA see my my which is beautiful. My optimism has

1540
01:23:10,880 --> 01:23:13,760
Speaker 2: been destroyed into a trillion tiny little pieces. On the show.

1541
01:23:13,920 --> 01:23:16,120
Speaker 2: Every once in a while, every once in a while

1542
01:23:16,200 --> 01:23:18,880
Speaker 2: we have this beautiful surprise, yes, where it comes out

1543
01:23:18,880 --> 01:23:20,320
Speaker 2: of nowhere and we're like, oh, this is this is

1544
01:23:20,400 --> 01:23:25,240
Speaker 2: so great. However, I don't know if today's today. Okay,

1545
01:23:25,360 --> 01:23:29,599
Speaker 2: I don't know. Yah, we'll see, we'll see, we will see.

1546
01:23:31,040 --> 01:23:35,280
Speaker 2: She said, Okay, So since then, there have been no

1547
01:23:35,560 --> 01:23:38,320
Speaker 2: phone calls or messages while I was around, and Sam

1548
01:23:38,439 --> 01:23:44,479
Speaker 2: seemed extra loving and attentive. Oh no, it would we

1549
01:23:44,640 --> 01:23:48,519
Speaker 2: flipped her guys. She barely brought up Jane last night.

1550
01:23:49,160 --> 01:23:51,640
Speaker 2: She she barely brought up Jane. But last night she

1551
01:23:51,800 --> 01:23:53,559
Speaker 2: mentioned that she was going to a concert with Jane

1552
01:23:53,600 --> 01:23:56,479
Speaker 2: on Saturday and then would crash at her place. I

1553
01:23:56,600 --> 01:23:59,000
Speaker 2: said I wasn't comfortable with this and offered to pick

1554
01:23:59,040 --> 01:24:01,800
Speaker 2: her up instead. She got angry and said that I

1555
01:24:01,880 --> 01:24:04,160
Speaker 2: was acting controlling and crazy, and then went to bed.

1556
01:24:06,520 --> 01:24:08,840
Speaker 2: We haven't spoken since then, But I but am I

1557
01:24:09,000 --> 01:24:12,080
Speaker 2: overreacting here? Should I? Should I try to stop her

1558
01:24:12,160 --> 01:24:15,200
Speaker 2: from staying over on Saturday. I think I trust Sam,

1559
01:24:15,360 --> 01:24:17,760
Speaker 2: but something is telling me that her relationship with Jane

1560
01:24:18,120 --> 01:24:22,080
Speaker 2: is not just as friends should I snoop, we have

1561
01:24:22,800 --> 01:24:25,920
Speaker 2: an update coming up that is how many days later?

1562
01:24:26,080 --> 01:24:31,200
Speaker 2: That is some number of days later. Huh uh, you

1563
01:24:31,280 --> 01:24:35,160
Speaker 2: got it. But before we get into this update, so

1564
01:24:35,360 --> 01:24:37,720
Speaker 2: just to confirm, have you changed your mind in the

1565
01:24:37,800 --> 01:24:39,720
Speaker 2: last few paragraphs.

1566
01:24:40,800 --> 01:24:43,120
Speaker 5: Do you think she's It's tough because I feel like

1567
01:24:43,160 --> 01:24:45,320
Speaker 5: when you're accused of something, like a lot of us,

1568
01:24:45,360 --> 01:24:48,040
Speaker 5: we naturally get defensive, of course, and we get really

1569
01:24:48,120 --> 01:24:50,680
Speaker 5: frustrated that someone would even think that we would do that,

1570
01:24:51,360 --> 01:24:54,360
Speaker 5: and then that builds. Yeah, just a lot of tension.

1571
01:24:54,520 --> 01:24:59,720
Speaker 5: And ah, I don't know, but my next thing was like,

1572
01:25:00,080 --> 01:25:03,519
Speaker 5: need to talk to Jane. Oh, you know, would that

1573
01:25:03,640 --> 01:25:06,679
Speaker 5: would that be wrong? You know, would that be wrong?

1574
01:25:06,800 --> 01:25:09,240
Speaker 2: I think that's a very good question. I think like

1575
01:25:09,400 --> 01:25:11,200
Speaker 2: and I also would say too, it's like I can

1576
01:25:11,360 --> 01:25:14,200
Speaker 2: understand when you bring something up, maybe like the first

1577
01:25:14,800 --> 01:25:17,519
Speaker 2: time it's like kind of drunk because like someone's accusing

1578
01:25:17,520 --> 01:25:20,960
Speaker 2: you of something, but then ultimately, like long term, I'm like, Okay,

1579
01:25:21,000 --> 01:25:23,840
Speaker 2: I would expect my partner to be like, hey, if

1580
01:25:23,840 --> 01:25:26,080
Speaker 2: you're uncomfortable, how can I make you comfortable? You know?

1581
01:25:26,280 --> 01:25:29,400
Speaker 2: Like so absolutely and not like kind of fighting back,

1582
01:25:29,439 --> 01:25:32,160
Speaker 2: because it's like, if you have nothing, why be like

1583
01:25:32,320 --> 01:25:34,599
Speaker 2: I I thought, Uh, let me know what you think.

1584
01:25:34,640 --> 01:25:37,280
Speaker 2: I thought the the move of like, hey, maybe I

1585
01:25:37,320 --> 01:25:40,080
Speaker 2: can pick you up is a very reasonable thing because

1586
01:25:40,080 --> 01:25:42,479
Speaker 2: it's like, okay, then it's like a load off your end.

1587
01:25:42,520 --> 01:25:44,479
Speaker 2: You can come back home, you don't have to worry

1588
01:25:44,520 --> 01:25:47,479
Speaker 2: about it. Also, why wasn't he invited?

1589
01:25:48,840 --> 01:25:52,880
Speaker 5: Yeah, there's okay. It does seem shady, it does it does?

1590
01:25:54,439 --> 01:26:01,160
Speaker 2: I think? I think maybe even talking to Jane or

1591
01:26:01,439 --> 01:26:05,360
Speaker 2: to I guess that the tricky part with talking to

1592
01:26:05,520 --> 01:26:09,280
Speaker 2: Jane is that could be seen as like around going around.

1593
01:26:09,680 --> 01:26:12,640
Speaker 2: Yeah cool, no Stone turn says, check the phone. But

1594
01:26:12,840 --> 01:26:18,000
Speaker 2: like again, like I think generally like as much as possible,

1595
01:26:18,439 --> 01:26:22,240
Speaker 2: just like and I get that Opie is like if

1596
01:26:22,360 --> 01:26:25,240
Speaker 2: if OPI is or sorry, if Opie's wife is cheating,

1597
01:26:25,920 --> 01:26:30,000
Speaker 2: then she is not being truthful here. Yeah, and she's

1598
01:26:30,040 --> 01:26:31,960
Speaker 2: being like defensive, pushing back and like no, just let

1599
01:26:32,000 --> 01:26:33,840
Speaker 2: me stay, let me let me stay at a place

1600
01:26:33,880 --> 01:26:35,760
Speaker 2: if she is indeed planning to like sleep with Jane

1601
01:26:35,800 --> 01:26:36,719
Speaker 2: tonight after the contress.

1602
01:26:37,160 --> 01:26:40,599
Speaker 5: And I also feel like, again, I'm excited for this update,

1603
01:26:40,680 --> 01:26:43,000
Speaker 5: but I feel like if Sam were like, you know,

1604
01:26:43,120 --> 01:26:46,679
Speaker 5: I do want to experiment with women like I am into. Jane,

1605
01:26:47,000 --> 01:26:51,240
Speaker 5: How would that make you feel if we bring for front.

1606
01:26:51,400 --> 01:26:55,240
Speaker 2: Have once again a direct, honest conversation.

1607
01:26:56,360 --> 01:26:59,479
Speaker 5: Amazing, Jane.

1608
01:26:59,680 --> 01:27:03,880
Speaker 2: Well yes, but what about sneaking, lying and cheating? What

1609
01:27:04,200 --> 01:27:05,719
Speaker 2: about that? Isn't that an option?

1610
01:27:07,479 --> 01:27:08,360
Speaker 5: You mean, rather than the.

1611
01:27:10,240 --> 01:27:13,799
Speaker 2: Instead of being honest and openly communicating, What if we lied,

1612
01:27:14,280 --> 01:27:16,719
Speaker 2: snuck around and broke the trust of our partners?

1613
01:27:16,840 --> 01:27:18,599
Speaker 5: Dude, I think a lot of people do that, which

1614
01:27:18,680 --> 01:27:21,360
Speaker 5: blows my mind. Yes, it blows my mind.

1615
01:27:21,560 --> 01:27:22,280
Speaker 2: It is insane.

1616
01:27:22,600 --> 01:27:22,800
Speaker 4: Yeah.

1617
01:27:23,080 --> 01:27:28,360
Speaker 5: Yeah, gosh, I'm really well, I'm really yeah once again, Yeah,

1618
01:27:28,439 --> 01:27:28,880
Speaker 5: please give that.

1619
01:27:29,120 --> 01:27:31,639
Speaker 2: Yeah, this is a true. Last time, I just interrupted

1620
01:27:31,680 --> 01:27:34,640
Speaker 2: in the story. So this is real. So many of

1621
01:27:34,680 --> 01:27:37,920
Speaker 2: you were asking for an update. Here you go. After

1622
01:27:38,040 --> 01:27:40,479
Speaker 2: reading your messages and comments, my head was a mess.

1623
01:27:40,720 --> 01:27:43,560
Speaker 2: I decided I needed some firm proof that Sam was

1624
01:27:43,640 --> 01:27:47,120
Speaker 2: cheating before I confronted her. When I got home from work,

1625
01:27:47,280 --> 01:27:49,640
Speaker 2: Sam made me dinner as normal and sat with me

1626
01:27:49,760 --> 01:27:52,320
Speaker 2: while I ate. I acted normally with her, and she

1627
01:27:52,479 --> 01:27:55,000
Speaker 2: caught me off guard by apologizing for a behavior the

1628
01:27:55,080 --> 01:28:00,680
Speaker 2: night before, which But we need more, we need more,

1629
01:28:00,840 --> 01:28:02,680
Speaker 2: we need more. But I think we're moving in a

1630
01:28:02,720 --> 01:28:05,040
Speaker 2: positive direction, and that is what we were like. Maybe

1631
01:28:05,080 --> 01:28:07,920
Speaker 2: you snap initially, but then maybe you come back later.

1632
01:28:08,080 --> 01:28:08,479
Speaker 2: We'll see.

1633
01:28:10,120 --> 01:28:12,799
Speaker 5: An apology is just an apology. It doesn't mean anything.

1634
01:28:14,439 --> 01:28:17,960
Speaker 2: Molly's talking that talk. She's talking that talk. Ladies and

1635
01:28:18,000 --> 01:28:24,439
Speaker 2: gentlemen back it up. So did do do? I acted?

1636
01:28:24,640 --> 01:28:26,519
Speaker 2: I acted normally with her, and she caught me off

1637
01:28:26,560 --> 01:28:29,200
Speaker 2: guard by apologizing for her behavior the night before. She

1638
01:28:29,439 --> 01:28:31,280
Speaker 2: asked if I was still willing to pick her up,

1639
01:28:31,640 --> 01:28:34,640
Speaker 2: or she would even try to find someone selling a

1640
01:28:34,720 --> 01:28:38,360
Speaker 2: ticket if I wanted to come along. I asked her

1641
01:28:38,439 --> 01:28:40,519
Speaker 2: to try and find a ticket, and she seemed happy.

1642
01:28:40,960 --> 01:28:42,880
Speaker 2: The rest of the night was normal. After we went

1643
01:28:42,920 --> 01:28:46,360
Speaker 2: to bed, I couldn't sleep. Around one am, Sam was

1644
01:28:46,400 --> 01:28:47,280
Speaker 2: sound asleep, so.

1645
01:28:48,800 --> 01:28:48,840
Speaker 5: No.

1646
01:28:49,439 --> 01:28:53,360
Speaker 2: I grabbed her phone and I went to the bathroom.

1647
01:28:54,400 --> 01:28:56,880
Speaker 2: I unlocked it. We know each other's pass codes, and

1648
01:28:57,439 --> 01:28:58,360
Speaker 2: I braced myself.

1649
01:29:00,000 --> 01:29:00,880
Speaker 5: I'm pretty myself.

1650
01:29:01,280 --> 01:29:02,439
Speaker 3: What are you about to find here?

1651
01:29:03,080 --> 01:29:05,600
Speaker 2: I knew they texted each other on WhatsApp, so I

1652
01:29:05,720 --> 01:29:08,960
Speaker 2: started trying to find any other messaging apps. I checked

1653
01:29:09,040 --> 01:29:12,320
Speaker 2: everywhere and used the trick someone recommended of looking at

1654
01:29:12,400 --> 01:29:15,920
Speaker 2: the battery usage to see the most used apps.

1655
01:29:16,479 --> 01:29:18,840
Speaker 5: Oh my, this is this is not good.

1656
01:29:20,000 --> 01:29:26,600
Speaker 2: This is some level. I didn't find anything Sam is.

1657
01:29:27,280 --> 01:29:30,560
Speaker 2: Sam is not into social media and doesn't use Instagram, Snapchat,

1658
01:29:30,600 --> 01:29:34,120
Speaker 2: et cetera, et cetera. I also checked her browser history, emails, photos,

1659
01:29:34,160 --> 01:29:37,800
Speaker 2: call logs, deleted line items, deleted items, et cetera, and

1660
01:29:37,880 --> 01:29:41,479
Speaker 2: I couldn't find anything out of the ordinary snow mail.

1661
01:29:46,880 --> 01:29:48,000
Speaker 2: There is always a way.

1662
01:29:48,439 --> 01:29:49,960
Speaker 5: Yeah, there's like a message in a bottle.

1663
01:29:50,200 --> 01:29:53,920
Speaker 2: Yeah right, there's like a in the pool stork or whatever.

1664
01:29:54,160 --> 01:29:59,160
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, whoa. So I decided to check WhatsApp next,

1665
01:29:59,320 --> 01:30:02,160
Speaker 2: and I opened the chat with Jane. I found hundreds

1666
01:30:02,200 --> 01:30:05,320
Speaker 2: of messages, sometimes fifty messages a day between them.

1667
01:30:05,560 --> 01:30:05,760
Speaker 4: Wow.

1668
01:30:06,560 --> 01:30:09,120
Speaker 2: Around ninety nine percent of them were normal, talking about

1669
01:30:09,200 --> 01:30:12,280
Speaker 2: TV shows, books, music, recipes, family, day to day life,

1670
01:30:12,600 --> 01:30:17,599
Speaker 2: et cetera, et cetera. The other one percent that might

1671
01:30:17,680 --> 01:30:21,120
Speaker 2: be a bit suspect included. Jane would often bring up

1672
01:30:21,439 --> 01:30:24,240
Speaker 2: spicy parts of books and TV shows and want to

1673
01:30:24,280 --> 01:30:27,919
Speaker 2: talk about it. This happened regularly, and Sam would engage,

1674
01:30:28,439 --> 01:30:33,400
Speaker 2: but not in too much detail. One conversation about a

1675
01:30:33,560 --> 01:30:35,160
Speaker 2: spicy sleep that's our word.

1676
01:30:35,080 --> 01:30:37,160
Speaker 5: For Oh yeah, but I canna take it down.

1677
01:30:37,840 --> 01:30:42,080
Speaker 2: One conversation about spicy sleep Jane initiated, which came from

1678
01:30:42,120 --> 01:30:45,559
Speaker 2: a scene in a book. She was complaining that her

1679
01:30:45,640 --> 01:30:50,400
Speaker 2: husband is submissive and got quite explicit. Sam shared a

1680
01:30:50,479 --> 01:30:54,160
Speaker 2: bit too much about our spicy sleep life, but nothing outrageous,

1681
01:30:54,280 --> 01:30:57,640
Speaker 2: and she was very complimentary about me. Jane replied she

1682
01:30:57,800 --> 01:30:59,960
Speaker 2: was jealous in a joking way with some emoment.

1683
01:31:00,120 --> 01:31:02,680
Speaker 5: Jeez, which emojis? That's what I want to know.

1684
01:31:04,400 --> 01:31:05,040
Speaker 1: That part.

1685
01:31:05,240 --> 01:31:05,880
Speaker 2: That's what we need.

1686
01:31:05,960 --> 01:31:08,639
Speaker 5: Which emoji because we have a lot to choose from

1687
01:31:09,320 --> 01:31:16,280
Speaker 5: what or you know, like yeehah, you know yeah, yeah, sunglasses, yeah,

1688
01:31:16,920 --> 01:31:18,120
Speaker 5: just like chill yeah.

1689
01:31:18,240 --> 01:31:20,080
Speaker 2: Or the the mone face?

1690
01:31:21,400 --> 01:31:23,720
Speaker 5: Which one is that I got you?

1691
01:31:23,800 --> 01:31:24,120
Speaker 2: I got you?

1692
01:31:24,400 --> 01:31:24,920
Speaker 3: I don't know what.

1693
01:31:26,560 --> 01:31:26,680
Speaker 4: Is that?

1694
01:31:26,840 --> 01:31:29,000
Speaker 5: More like, I feel like your mone face is a

1695
01:31:29,040 --> 01:31:30,000
Speaker 5: different face for me.

1696
01:31:30,320 --> 01:31:33,920
Speaker 2: It's it's it's the mo face the emo.

1697
01:31:36,640 --> 01:31:41,479
Speaker 5: No, that one, I get it. It's just when I

1698
01:31:41,600 --> 01:31:44,880
Speaker 5: think about that's really hard. Like that emoji for me

1699
01:31:45,240 --> 01:31:48,360
Speaker 5: is when I like, like, oh my god, like that's

1700
01:31:48,880 --> 01:31:51,000
Speaker 5: like cute or like I want that, not like.

1701
01:31:51,200 --> 01:31:56,960
Speaker 2: It has many meetings, it's a quadruple meetings.

1702
01:31:57,000 --> 01:31:57,240
Speaker 4: With that.

1703
01:32:00,040 --> 01:32:02,920
Speaker 2: Other point, Jane casually mentioned that she had a friend

1704
01:32:03,040 --> 01:32:05,360
Speaker 2: over a few times When Sam asked what she was

1705
01:32:05,439 --> 01:32:08,360
Speaker 2: up to, Sam's replies were always along the lines of

1706
01:32:09,320 --> 01:32:13,280
Speaker 2: have fun. Uh. Another one, Jane would complain about her

1707
01:32:13,320 --> 01:32:16,880
Speaker 2: husband a lot and ask about our relationship. Again, Sam

1708
01:32:17,040 --> 01:32:21,280
Speaker 2: was complimentary Opie's wife and didn't say anything particularly negative

1709
01:32:21,280 --> 01:32:26,240
Speaker 2: about me. H. Final point, Jane sent Sam a lix uh.

1710
01:32:27,200 --> 01:32:30,400
Speaker 2: Jane set Sam a link to a spicy sleep toy,

1711
01:32:31,120 --> 01:32:34,760
Speaker 2: asking for her opinion. Sam replied, Oh, yeah, we have

1712
01:32:34,920 --> 01:32:36,120
Speaker 2: one of those. It's great.

1713
01:32:37,400 --> 01:32:37,840
Speaker 1: Let's go.

1714
01:32:39,320 --> 01:32:43,680
Speaker 2: Here we go. Oh man, after hearing all those, do

1715
01:32:43,800 --> 01:32:46,880
Speaker 2: we still feel there is uh? See?

1716
01:32:46,920 --> 01:32:50,519
Speaker 5: I told y'all it's nah, it's that's not cheating, it's

1717
01:32:50,600 --> 01:32:54,920
Speaker 5: not come on, you know what I'm saying? Optimism? Can

1718
01:32:55,000 --> 01:32:56,400
Speaker 5: we please keep the optimism?

1719
01:32:56,600 --> 01:32:58,599
Speaker 1: No, bird.

1720
01:32:59,800 --> 01:33:04,720
Speaker 5: I feel like maybe it's that, you know, Jane is

1721
01:33:05,520 --> 01:33:09,800
Speaker 5: frustrated in that area, trying to you know, explore a

1722
01:33:09,840 --> 01:33:13,800
Speaker 5: little big, a little spicier. Yeah, and you know, Sam

1723
01:33:14,000 --> 01:33:17,080
Speaker 5: is is like the new bestie that she feels comfortable

1724
01:33:17,120 --> 01:33:21,519
Speaker 5: talking to about it. I also feel like it is

1725
01:33:21,720 --> 01:33:25,960
Speaker 5: hard to make friends as you get older, right, especially

1726
01:33:26,000 --> 01:33:29,160
Speaker 5: with women, Like I think it's it's well, maybe not,

1727
01:33:29,240 --> 01:33:30,800
Speaker 5: it depends on who you are, But I think when

1728
01:33:30,840 --> 01:33:33,479
Speaker 5: you find a person as you get older, you're like, oh,

1729
01:33:33,520 --> 01:33:34,840
Speaker 5: I really like you. I want to hang out with

1730
01:33:34,880 --> 01:33:38,280
Speaker 5: you on yea, Now fifty text message is a day

1731
01:33:38,560 --> 01:33:39,040
Speaker 5: too much.

1732
01:33:39,320 --> 01:33:40,800
Speaker 2: That's a lot too much.

1733
01:33:41,400 --> 01:33:44,880
Speaker 5: Lot, But so are we saying no cheating.

1734
01:33:45,680 --> 01:33:48,040
Speaker 2: I'm kind of I don't know at this point, Diana said,

1735
01:33:48,560 --> 01:33:53,400
Speaker 2: Jane is definitely pushing the boundaries which I think are agreed. Yeah,

1736
01:33:54,840 --> 01:34:00,800
Speaker 2: and like Opie did say that Sam is like kind

1737
01:34:00,840 --> 01:34:04,920
Speaker 2: of naive or that's his perspective. But ye, so if

1738
01:34:05,360 --> 01:34:07,000
Speaker 2: if there is some truth to that, then it's like

1739
01:34:07,360 --> 01:34:10,280
Speaker 2: maybe Sam is like what you're saying, Oh, hey, here's

1740
01:34:10,360 --> 01:34:14,240
Speaker 2: my new here's my new bestie. I just want to like,

1741
01:34:14,760 --> 01:34:18,200
Speaker 2: you know, talking like and and and enjoy this friendship

1742
01:34:18,680 --> 01:34:23,680
Speaker 2: and reciprocate the engagement I'm getting and and Jane is like,

1743
01:34:24,280 --> 01:34:25,720
Speaker 2: oh you want to reciprocate.

1744
01:34:26,040 --> 01:34:30,519
Speaker 5: Yeah, Like maybe they've maybe they've made out once or twice.

1745
01:34:30,720 --> 01:34:33,320
Speaker 5: Yeah maybe yeah.

1746
01:34:34,240 --> 01:34:39,200
Speaker 2: Well, now there were no nudes or anything pointing towards

1747
01:34:39,240 --> 01:34:42,559
Speaker 2: them having had any spicy sleep. Nothing had been deleted.

1748
01:34:42,880 --> 01:34:44,880
Speaker 2: I checked some of the chats with their other friends

1749
01:34:44,960 --> 01:34:48,200
Speaker 2: and they were very, very similar. What was most concerning

1750
01:34:48,439 --> 01:34:51,920
Speaker 2: was the way which Jane texted Sam. She would always

1751
01:34:51,960 --> 01:34:55,040
Speaker 2: initiate the conversation and follow up three to four times

1752
01:34:55,200 --> 01:34:57,360
Speaker 2: until Sam responded.

1753
01:34:57,320 --> 01:35:01,400
Speaker 5: Talk about ADHD guys This way was.

1754
01:35:02,400 --> 01:35:06,640
Speaker 2: She would then start calling if she didn't respond. There

1755
01:35:06,680 --> 01:35:09,680
Speaker 2: were also a few messages where Jane's tone changed when

1756
01:35:09,800 --> 01:35:13,080
Speaker 2: Sam wouldn't reply, and she would become less friendly and

1757
01:35:14,000 --> 01:35:16,679
Speaker 2: don't like that, don't like that now. Also, when Jane

1758
01:35:16,760 --> 01:35:19,560
Speaker 2: asked Sam to do something together, there was always a

1759
01:35:19,720 --> 01:35:21,840
Speaker 2: subtle guilt trip added, like she didn't want to go

1760
01:35:21,960 --> 01:35:24,800
Speaker 2: alone because of social anxiety, she was scared about being

1761
01:35:24,840 --> 01:35:28,680
Speaker 2: home by herself, et cetera, et cetera. I am now

1762
01:35:28,840 --> 01:35:32,800
Speaker 2: kind of reading more like, maybe Jane is being like

1763
01:35:33,240 --> 01:35:37,560
Speaker 2: very needy in the friendship and Sam is trying to

1764
01:35:37,640 --> 01:35:41,120
Speaker 2: be a good person friend and acquiescing even if that's

1765
01:35:41,200 --> 01:35:42,920
Speaker 2: not even what she wants.

1766
01:35:43,120 --> 01:35:46,559
Speaker 5: Yeah to do necessarily, And maybe we go step further.

1767
01:35:46,760 --> 01:35:51,160
Speaker 5: Maybe Jane has told Sam some things about her own life,

1768
01:35:51,160 --> 01:35:53,920
Speaker 5: about her marriage that she doesn't feel comfortable sharing with

1769
01:35:54,000 --> 01:35:57,680
Speaker 5: her husband, right Like, maybe Jane is really unhappy and

1770
01:35:57,800 --> 01:36:00,320
Speaker 5: Sam feels this need to like keep well, this is

1771
01:36:00,400 --> 01:36:02,400
Speaker 5: my relationship. I'm you know, and like you said, very

1772
01:36:02,479 --> 01:36:05,240
Speaker 5: naive gives people like the time that maybe they don't

1773
01:36:05,800 --> 01:36:07,320
Speaker 5: not deserve but an optimist.

1774
01:36:10,800 --> 01:36:13,080
Speaker 2: The messages and calls slowed down in the last few

1775
01:36:13,120 --> 01:36:15,800
Speaker 2: weeks because they were both complaining about being busy and

1776
01:36:15,960 --> 01:36:18,280
Speaker 2: Jane had been out of town. Even though I didn't

1777
01:36:18,280 --> 01:36:20,439
Speaker 2: find the smoking gun I was looking for, it's clear

1778
01:36:20,560 --> 01:36:24,080
Speaker 2: that Jane and her weird husband are bad us husband,

1779
01:36:25,960 --> 01:36:28,720
Speaker 2: weird husband, Oh my god. Even though I didn't find

1780
01:36:28,720 --> 01:36:30,680
Speaker 2: the smoking gun I was looking for, it's clear that

1781
01:36:30,840 --> 01:36:33,720
Speaker 2: Jane and her uh we will be having a come

1782
01:36:33,800 --> 01:36:36,800
Speaker 2: to Jesus conversation tonight where I will get the truth

1783
01:36:37,120 --> 01:36:40,920
Speaker 2: because Sam is a terrible liar. If nothing more has happened,

1784
01:36:40,960 --> 01:36:43,560
Speaker 2: I will make it clear that divorce is still on

1785
01:36:43,720 --> 01:36:47,679
Speaker 2: the table if these creeps are not permanently and immediately

1786
01:36:47,840 --> 01:36:53,720
Speaker 2: removed from our lives. Creeps, oh pe laying down the

1787
01:36:53,800 --> 01:36:55,760
Speaker 2: gauntlet there, we have a few.

1788
01:36:56,320 --> 01:36:59,759
Speaker 3: Jane and her husband are in an open relationship, right correct. Okay,

1789
01:36:59,800 --> 01:37:02,439
Speaker 3: so that's probably why he's saying all these things.

1790
01:37:02,680 --> 01:37:04,920
Speaker 5: Because he's probably very like square.

1791
01:37:05,320 --> 01:37:10,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly. It's not going to happen. If the communication

1792
01:37:10,520 --> 01:37:12,280
Speaker 2: that should have happened here is like now, there was

1793
01:37:12,320 --> 01:37:14,800
Speaker 2: some communication, I can't say that that nothing happened. Op

1794
01:37:14,960 --> 01:37:17,080
Speaker 2: did kind of say like, hey, this makes me really uncomfortable,

1795
01:37:17,600 --> 01:37:22,600
Speaker 2: but like really being like, hey, this, uh, this is

1796
01:37:22,760 --> 01:37:27,360
Speaker 2: just how I feel. This is the closeness and all

1797
01:37:27,400 --> 01:37:31,840
Speaker 2: of these other things does really really make me uncomfortable

1798
01:37:31,920 --> 01:37:34,200
Speaker 2: and and honestly something that could be painful for a

1799
01:37:34,280 --> 01:37:37,479
Speaker 2: long term, like that could be painful in the long term.

1800
01:37:38,720 --> 01:37:39,920
Speaker 2: What are your like, what are your.

1801
01:37:40,479 --> 01:37:44,040
Speaker 5: Once again once again just honest and open.

1802
01:37:45,280 --> 01:37:48,120
Speaker 2: Out there and maybe just seeing how she responds to that.

1803
01:37:48,320 --> 01:37:51,439
Speaker 2: And I mean, this.

1804
01:37:51,560 --> 01:37:54,280
Speaker 3: Part's what gets that gets me right here. That's it

1805
01:37:54,400 --> 01:37:57,000
Speaker 3: just slowed down in the last few weeks. So like

1806
01:37:57,560 --> 01:38:01,240
Speaker 3: after that happened where he walked in and saw them

1807
01:38:01,360 --> 01:38:04,400
Speaker 3: like frazzled, right, and now it slowed down.

1808
01:38:06,120 --> 01:38:08,440
Speaker 2: That is suspicious. That is suspicious.

1809
01:38:08,520 --> 01:38:08,720
Speaker 1: Guys.

1810
01:38:08,720 --> 01:38:12,320
Speaker 5: We got to just trust. We got to just trust here.

1811
01:38:13,360 --> 01:38:17,439
Speaker 2: Chad has changed from now it's sixty four percent saying

1812
01:38:17,560 --> 01:38:18,879
Speaker 2: no not cheating, thirty.

1813
01:38:18,760 --> 01:38:20,920
Speaker 5: Six percent saying cheezs Lisen.

1814
01:38:22,120 --> 01:38:24,680
Speaker 2: I knew it and Matt hatter Gall thanks her to

1815
01:38:24,760 --> 01:38:27,360
Speaker 2: twenty bucks. I actually had a friend like Jane. My

1816
01:38:27,520 --> 01:38:30,160
Speaker 2: ex friend would blow up my phone with text messages

1817
01:38:30,240 --> 01:38:32,080
Speaker 2: even late at night and would get mad if I

1818
01:38:32,120 --> 01:38:35,519
Speaker 2: didn't respond quickly found later that she had a crush

1819
01:38:35,600 --> 01:38:38,760
Speaker 2: on me. But I never saw it that way, So

1820
01:38:39,400 --> 01:38:41,280
Speaker 2: you know, and that and that. That's the other thing too,

1821
01:38:41,400 --> 01:38:42,920
Speaker 2: is like it's not even just like, oh, are they

1822
01:38:42,920 --> 01:38:48,519
Speaker 2: actually cheating, but it's like, does Sam needs some like it?

1823
01:38:50,080 --> 01:38:52,439
Speaker 2: I'd be like, hey, like if I don't respond, I

1824
01:38:52,520 --> 01:38:56,360
Speaker 2: might be busy, like, please give me some some breathing room.

1825
01:38:56,680 --> 01:38:58,719
Speaker 5: I've had this issue with friends before. I think people

1826
01:38:58,800 --> 01:39:02,320
Speaker 5: view friendship differently. Yeah, some people have more needs and

1827
01:39:02,439 --> 01:39:07,400
Speaker 5: wants in just a platonic relationship, and you have to

1828
01:39:07,479 --> 01:39:10,160
Speaker 5: be aligned with what you want from a friendship and how.

1829
01:39:10,120 --> 01:39:10,720
Speaker 3: You view it.

1830
01:39:11,040 --> 01:39:13,479
Speaker 2: Yeah, if it keeps going, like if it goes like

1831
01:39:13,600 --> 01:39:18,200
Speaker 2: imagine she calls, I mean, she's already pretty pretty pretty deep,

1832
01:39:18,280 --> 01:39:20,320
Speaker 2: but oh case saying I don't know who said John's

1833
01:39:20,320 --> 01:39:23,200
Speaker 2: mike is echoing, but I can't hear it. Does anyone else?

1834
01:39:23,880 --> 01:39:28,240
Speaker 2: Here's the echoing? Mollie might need to speak up? Can

1835
01:39:28,280 --> 01:39:28,640
Speaker 2: we can?

1836
01:39:29,800 --> 01:39:31,680
Speaker 5: I just wanted a little a little closer to me.

1837
01:39:31,880 --> 01:39:34,240
Speaker 2: There we go? Also, can you yeah, there we go?

1838
01:39:34,360 --> 01:39:37,519
Speaker 2: Big big protein is on the case. But yeah, let

1839
01:39:37,560 --> 01:39:40,479
Speaker 2: me know. Christian foyles hat said it did echo, but

1840
01:39:40,560 --> 01:39:44,280
Speaker 2: it was over super quick. Okay, that's good. Sweet Sweet

1841
01:39:44,320 --> 01:39:49,599
Speaker 2: Sweet knew me cover girl beautiful.

1842
01:39:49,800 --> 01:39:52,720
Speaker 5: Yeah, maybe Jane is going through something or maybe she

1843
01:39:54,680 --> 01:39:56,880
Speaker 5: I don't know, maybe she needs more help than we think.

1844
01:39:57,120 --> 01:39:59,040
Speaker 2: It sounds like Jane's going through something. I would I

1845
01:39:59,080 --> 01:40:02,000
Speaker 2: would definitely agree with that up. But some relevant comments here.

1846
01:40:02,760 --> 01:40:06,120
Speaker 2: Bushy Boy nineteen seventy three says Jane is definitely trying

1847
01:40:06,160 --> 01:40:09,320
Speaker 2: to initiate an affair. It often starts with oversharing details

1848
01:40:09,360 --> 01:40:12,040
Speaker 2: and complaints about the relationship. Kudos to Sam for not

1849
01:40:12,160 --> 01:40:14,840
Speaker 2: partaking in that. Still, the last point raised some serious

1850
01:40:14,880 --> 01:40:17,280
Speaker 2: red flags. I hope you can have those addressed. That

1851
01:40:17,479 --> 01:40:20,600
Speaker 2: is actually something I think is worth acknowledging, is I

1852
01:40:21,720 --> 01:40:23,720
Speaker 2: And after reading that comments really cemented in my mind.

1853
01:40:24,000 --> 01:40:27,120
Speaker 2: I think Jane is pushing really hard to maybe initiate

1854
01:40:27,160 --> 01:40:30,439
Speaker 2: an affair, but Sam is not giving it to her.

1855
01:40:30,840 --> 01:40:33,960
Speaker 2: While also like I think Sam is actually navigating it

1856
01:40:35,439 --> 01:40:37,439
Speaker 2: overall pretty well pretty well.

1857
01:40:37,520 --> 01:40:37,760
Speaker 1: Guys.

1858
01:40:37,960 --> 01:40:40,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, like she snapped back at her husband, but to

1859
01:40:40,280 --> 01:40:43,080
Speaker 2: your point from earlier, yeah, maybe she's like, I'm not cheating,

1860
01:40:43,200 --> 01:40:44,120
Speaker 2: so like back off.

1861
01:40:44,439 --> 01:40:46,680
Speaker 5: I think then that's the thing. That's why I'm saying,

1862
01:40:46,720 --> 01:40:48,920
Speaker 5: don't go straight to the cheating, Like, just have a

1863
01:40:49,000 --> 01:40:51,160
Speaker 5: conversation about how you're feeling, because at the end of

1864
01:40:51,200 --> 01:40:54,120
Speaker 5: the day, it's his own insecurity. I told you, guys,

1865
01:40:54,200 --> 01:40:57,040
Speaker 5: I've been there, and we've all been there, and it's like,

1866
01:40:57,320 --> 01:41:01,640
Speaker 5: just just be real about it, communicate and communicator straight up.

1867
01:41:02,200 --> 01:41:05,439
Speaker 2: Interchef eighteen sixty five says, in what way does any

1868
01:41:05,439 --> 01:41:07,960
Speaker 2: of the things he discovered in their update differ from

1869
01:41:08,040 --> 01:41:11,759
Speaker 2: normal girls talk? I suspect something also, but this update

1870
01:41:11,840 --> 01:41:14,280
Speaker 2: shows nothing out of the ordinary. Opie response to that,

1871
01:41:14,960 --> 01:41:16,960
Speaker 2: they don't, and that's what left me a bit confused,

1872
01:41:17,040 --> 01:41:20,160
Speaker 2: and frankly, wasn't what I was expecting. I'm glad that

1873
01:41:20,200 --> 01:41:22,679
Speaker 2: I didn't find anything too out of pocket. As I said,

1874
01:41:22,760 --> 01:41:26,439
Speaker 2: I'm more concerned about the way in which Jane seems

1875
01:41:26,439 --> 01:41:28,000
Speaker 2: to be pursuing Sam.

1876
01:41:28,560 --> 01:41:32,479
Speaker 5: And this is why I'm like, what if Sam's husband

1877
01:41:32,520 --> 01:41:35,200
Speaker 5: and Jane could just get a little coffee, Yeah, just

1878
01:41:35,320 --> 01:41:37,920
Speaker 5: chat it out. I think we'd have to go to

1879
01:41:38,000 --> 01:41:40,000
Speaker 5: Sam and say, can I get coffee with Jane.

1880
01:41:40,520 --> 01:41:42,880
Speaker 2: My only counter to that is I feel like at

1881
01:41:42,960 --> 01:41:46,439
Speaker 2: this point, OPI went from like very suspicious, like kind

1882
01:41:46,479 --> 01:41:50,880
Speaker 2: of almost putting it all on his wife Sam to

1883
01:41:51,040 --> 01:41:54,640
Speaker 2: now being like, Oh, it's Jane who's pursuing it, and

1884
01:41:54,720 --> 01:41:56,799
Speaker 2: I think sitting down with wife for having another conversation

1885
01:41:56,920 --> 01:41:59,600
Speaker 2: which is very far from more accusatory tone of like

1886
01:42:00,160 --> 01:42:02,400
Speaker 2: I think you've been handling it so well, but I

1887
01:42:02,560 --> 01:42:05,760
Speaker 2: do think Jane is, if not trying to get a

1888
01:42:05,840 --> 01:42:09,000
Speaker 2: relationship or affair with you, at a minimum, being like

1889
01:42:09,439 --> 01:42:13,040
Speaker 2: crossing the boundary, crossing some boundaries and being very needy.

1890
01:42:13,400 --> 01:42:15,360
Speaker 2: Jac says, Okay, so Jane and her husband are an

1891
01:42:15,360 --> 01:42:19,080
Speaker 2: open relationship. How do we know that Jane really agreed

1892
01:42:19,080 --> 01:42:22,080
Speaker 2: to this. Maybe she just feels lonely knowing what's going

1893
01:42:22,120 --> 01:42:26,280
Speaker 2: on and is trying to compensate with their friendship. How

1894
01:42:26,320 --> 01:42:28,920
Speaker 2: do we know they're an open ship. I think Opie

1895
01:42:29,000 --> 01:42:31,400
Speaker 2: mentioned earlier that they were in an open, open.

1896
01:42:31,280 --> 01:42:35,439
Speaker 5: Relationship, but I think it's like, are you saying like

1897
01:42:35,840 --> 01:42:38,680
Speaker 5: in some open relationships, one person instigates and the other

1898
01:42:38,760 --> 01:42:40,040
Speaker 5: person just kind of goes along.

1899
01:42:40,160 --> 01:42:41,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that's what you're saying, Like maybe the

1900
01:42:42,040 --> 01:42:45,000
Speaker 2: husband is out going half of the time of his life. Yeah,

1901
01:42:45,080 --> 01:42:47,240
Speaker 2: and Jane is sitting here like this wasn't my idea.

1902
01:42:47,360 --> 01:42:49,200
Speaker 2: He wanted to do it, and that's why she needs

1903
01:42:49,280 --> 01:42:53,920
Speaker 2: the toy, and that's why she needs a Guys, I

1904
01:42:53,960 --> 01:42:56,960
Speaker 2: think we're cracking the cause. Guys, I think we're cracking

1905
01:42:57,080 --> 01:43:02,000
Speaker 2: the case. So the husband initiates, Jane begrudgingly went along.

1906
01:43:02,160 --> 01:43:06,679
Speaker 2: Now he's off running around. She's super lonely. She's like, honestly,

1907
01:43:06,760 --> 01:43:09,679
Speaker 2: I could kind of see Jane being like, I'm trying

1908
01:43:09,760 --> 01:43:13,880
Speaker 2: and she's by I'm trying to, like, I just want

1909
01:43:13,920 --> 01:43:17,760
Speaker 2: a friendship. I would love a more, but like, let

1910
01:43:17,840 --> 01:43:20,840
Speaker 2: me just kind of like squeeze as much out of

1911
01:43:20,920 --> 01:43:23,840
Speaker 2: this whatever. This relationship is platonic or romantic as I

1912
01:43:23,920 --> 01:43:26,160
Speaker 2: possibly can, because I feel lonely and I need some

1913
01:43:26,320 --> 01:43:29,800
Speaker 2: sort of validation and something to fill my lonelinessness.

1914
01:43:29,840 --> 01:43:32,720
Speaker 5: I think that sounds great. I like that.

1915
01:43:34,800 --> 01:43:35,599
Speaker 3: Fill that hole.

1916
01:43:35,800 --> 01:43:40,799
Speaker 2: Oh fill no dinny. Anyways, let's get into this final updates.

1917
01:43:41,240 --> 01:43:46,760
Speaker 2: So first of all, uh, my original post was not

1918
01:43:46,880 --> 01:43:48,680
Speaker 2: intended to cover all the things that led to me

1919
01:43:48,760 --> 01:43:51,200
Speaker 2: being suspicious of Sam's relationship with Jane. There were a

1920
01:43:51,320 --> 01:43:55,439
Speaker 2: number of other factors. For example, Sam prioritizing communication and

1921
01:43:55,600 --> 01:43:58,920
Speaker 2: spending time with Jane over me, Sam not talking about

1922
01:43:59,000 --> 01:44:02,599
Speaker 2: Jane she did with her other friends, et cetera, et cetera.

1923
01:44:03,840 --> 01:44:06,200
Speaker 2: We did talk about most of this at the time, because,

1924
01:44:06,240 --> 01:44:10,200
Speaker 2: believe it or not, we do have good and regular communication.

1925
01:44:11,000 --> 01:44:14,639
Speaker 2: WHOA Now onto the update. Sam came home on Friday

1926
01:44:14,640 --> 01:44:17,240
Speaker 2: and we sat down to talk after dinner. This was

1927
01:44:17,320 --> 01:44:20,040
Speaker 2: not a big showdown, but a normal conversation that lasted

1928
01:44:20,120 --> 01:44:21,960
Speaker 2: many hours. Here is a summary.

1929
01:44:22,880 --> 01:44:23,080
Speaker 4: One.

1930
01:44:23,360 --> 01:44:26,479
Speaker 2: Sam originally loved spending time with Jane, but it became

1931
01:44:26,680 --> 01:44:29,960
Speaker 2: too intense and weird for her a few months ago.

1932
01:44:30,600 --> 01:44:34,040
Speaker 2: To what we suspected, Jane was the one yeah trying

1933
01:44:34,080 --> 01:44:37,000
Speaker 2: and Sam was just acquiescing. She feels Jane is too

1934
01:44:37,080 --> 01:44:39,439
Speaker 2: needy and controlling and didn't want to lose her only

1935
01:44:39,560 --> 01:44:42,960
Speaker 2: close friend in the city. They just predicted everything. Number

1936
01:44:43,000 --> 01:44:46,920
Speaker 2: two Sam Sam knows that Jane has a crush on her,

1937
01:44:47,000 --> 01:44:49,400
Speaker 2: but made it clear that she was happily married and straight.

1938
01:44:50,360 --> 01:44:52,880
Speaker 2: She should have told me about this, but knew that

1939
01:44:53,040 --> 01:44:57,240
Speaker 2: I wouldn't be okay with it. Oh wow. Number three

1940
01:44:57,560 --> 01:45:00,479
Speaker 2: nothing physical happened between them. Jane tried to initially physical

1941
01:45:00,560 --> 01:45:03,240
Speaker 2: contact in a playful way and made suggestive comments about

1942
01:45:03,280 --> 01:45:06,600
Speaker 2: Sam her body, et cetera. Sam shut this down and

1943
01:45:06,720 --> 01:45:09,800
Speaker 2: number four final, Sam told me that she wanted to

1944
01:45:09,880 --> 01:45:12,840
Speaker 2: cut contact with Jane and focus more on our relationship

1945
01:45:13,120 --> 01:45:15,880
Speaker 2: and spending time with a new friend that she has

1946
01:45:16,000 --> 01:45:20,559
Speaker 2: made a new friend, let's get let's get someone else

1947
01:45:20,640 --> 01:45:23,519
Speaker 2: in the mix here a new friend. But honestly, like,

1948
01:45:24,560 --> 01:45:27,160
Speaker 2: I get it, she was super neaty. She's like, I,

1949
01:45:27,439 --> 01:45:29,439
Speaker 2: this is way too much for me. She was trying

1950
01:45:29,439 --> 01:45:31,360
Speaker 2: to shut it down. Yeah. To me, I'm like, oh,

1951
01:45:31,520 --> 01:45:32,360
Speaker 2: why did.

1952
01:45:34,439 --> 01:45:34,559
Speaker 5: Uh?

1953
01:45:35,280 --> 01:45:37,080
Speaker 2: Why did she not just tell him that before that

1954
01:45:37,160 --> 01:45:38,639
Speaker 2: she made advances? But shut it down?

1955
01:45:38,880 --> 01:45:39,120
Speaker 3: I know.

1956
01:45:39,640 --> 01:45:41,720
Speaker 5: Like that brings up a question. Would you want to

1957
01:45:41,840 --> 01:45:45,600
Speaker 5: know that people around your partner have a crush on

1958
01:45:45,720 --> 01:45:47,120
Speaker 5: your partner? Would you want to know that?

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01:45:47,640 --> 01:45:52,240
Speaker 2: Yeah? I think so because like it, oh, it changes

1960
01:45:52,320 --> 01:45:56,160
Speaker 2: the way you move around them. And also probably like hey,

1961
01:45:56,240 --> 01:45:58,559
Speaker 2: do we cut this person off or go like low

1962
01:45:58,680 --> 01:46:02,519
Speaker 2: no contact? Yeah with this person, because like vice versa,

1963
01:46:03,080 --> 01:46:05,880
Speaker 2: Like I would want to tell my partner to be like, hey,

1964
01:46:05,960 --> 01:46:07,920
Speaker 2: do you do you want to go lower no contact

1965
01:46:07,920 --> 01:46:10,560
Speaker 2: with this person? Because if they make you uncomfortable, I

1966
01:46:10,680 --> 01:46:13,519
Speaker 2: don't want that for you, and I want to protect

1967
01:46:13,600 --> 01:46:16,320
Speaker 2: your feelings and secure like.

1968
01:46:17,000 --> 01:46:19,439
Speaker 5: You, it would make me uncomfortable. You know if I

1969
01:46:19,520 --> 01:46:21,840
Speaker 5: knew that, like exactly.

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01:46:21,479 --> 01:46:25,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'd be like I honestly, if I knew that

1971
01:46:25,240 --> 01:46:29,439
Speaker 2: I'd probably be like, okay, like I'm sunsetting that as

1972
01:46:29,640 --> 01:46:34,920
Speaker 2: as gracefully as yeah one possibly can. But we have more.

1973
01:46:35,880 --> 01:46:39,519
Speaker 2: Jane's attitude towards me. Apparently she doesn't like most men

1974
01:46:39,640 --> 01:46:43,839
Speaker 2: and treats her husband terribly. The fluster slash awkward situation

1975
01:46:44,200 --> 01:46:47,320
Speaker 2: when I came home from golf, Jane was shown Sam.

1976
01:46:47,960 --> 01:46:50,800
Speaker 2: Jane was showing Sam some spicy scenes from a new

1977
01:46:50,880 --> 01:46:55,360
Speaker 2: TV show. They didn't realize we were coming back early

1978
01:46:55,520 --> 01:46:57,960
Speaker 2: and switch the TV off as we came through the door.

1979
01:46:59,320 --> 01:47:03,280
Speaker 2: The watch. Uh, Jane, this is what we want.

1980
01:47:03,560 --> 01:47:03,600
Speaker 5: No.

1981
01:47:04,360 --> 01:47:06,719
Speaker 2: Jane was going to borrow a dress for a wedding

1982
01:47:06,840 --> 01:47:10,559
Speaker 2: and went into our bedroom to try some on. Sam

1983
01:47:10,760 --> 01:47:13,360
Speaker 2: assumes she took it off when she saw Ah, so

1984
01:47:13,479 --> 01:47:16,760
Speaker 2: I was, I had it flipped. It was Jane had

1985
01:47:16,800 --> 01:47:19,880
Speaker 2: taken off her smart watch in their bedroom. Yes, it

1986
01:47:20,000 --> 01:47:21,320
Speaker 2: wasn't the other where I thought they were there.

1987
01:47:21,600 --> 01:47:21,800
Speaker 4: Yeah.

1988
01:47:22,680 --> 01:47:25,160
Speaker 2: Sam assumed she took it off and when she saw it,

1989
01:47:25,320 --> 01:47:27,679
Speaker 2: she put it in her bag to give it to her. Later.

1990
01:47:28,439 --> 01:47:31,320
Speaker 2: Sam's reaction when I asked her not to crash at

1991
01:47:31,439 --> 01:47:35,120
Speaker 2: Jane's apartment. Apparently Jane had planned a girl's night after

1992
01:47:35,560 --> 01:47:38,479
Speaker 2: and Sam thought she would get angry if she canceled. Ooh,

1993
01:47:39,600 --> 01:47:40,519
Speaker 2: that's also it.

1994
01:47:40,600 --> 01:47:42,840
Speaker 5: Sounds this sounds like a friendship you do not need,

1995
01:47:43,040 --> 01:47:45,040
Speaker 5: and if it's messing with your marriage, you do not

1996
01:47:45,240 --> 01:47:45,479
Speaker 5: need it.

1997
01:47:47,280 --> 01:47:49,880
Speaker 2: I also told Sam that I snooped on her phone.

1998
01:47:50,360 --> 01:47:53,160
Speaker 2: She was initially angry, but understood why I did it

1999
01:47:53,520 --> 01:47:57,200
Speaker 2: and forgave me okay. We both apologized to each other

2000
01:47:57,320 --> 01:47:59,240
Speaker 2: and we went to bed. I managed to get a

2001
01:47:59,280 --> 01:48:01,840
Speaker 2: ticket for the corn and went with Sam and Jane

2002
01:48:02,080 --> 01:48:06,120
Speaker 2: last night. Jane made some thinly veiled comment slash jokes

2003
01:48:06,160 --> 01:48:09,280
Speaker 2: about me being their chaperone, et cetera, but I just

2004
01:48:09,400 --> 01:48:12,320
Speaker 2: laughed it off. We met another couple there and I

2005
01:48:12,479 --> 01:48:14,439
Speaker 2: ended up hanging out with the other husband while the

2006
01:48:14,520 --> 01:48:17,840
Speaker 2: ladies danced, et cetera. Long story short, we are good.

2007
01:48:18,200 --> 01:48:20,400
Speaker 2: I trust my wife and we had a long conversation

2008
01:48:20,560 --> 01:48:23,880
Speaker 2: about boundaries. Thanks to all of you who provided constructive,

2009
01:48:24,000 --> 01:48:27,760
Speaker 2: slash helpful comments, But given the number of insults and

2010
01:48:27,840 --> 01:48:31,200
Speaker 2: offensive messages I have received, I will not be returning

2011
01:48:31,240 --> 01:48:36,280
Speaker 2: to Reddit for advice again anytime soon. And that tracks.

2012
01:48:36,280 --> 01:48:37,840
Speaker 2: We have a few relevant comments to close out of

2013
01:48:37,840 --> 01:48:41,640
Speaker 2: the story. J Movac says they didn't realize we were

2014
01:48:41,680 --> 01:48:43,519
Speaker 2: coming back early and switched off a TV as soon

2015
01:48:43,560 --> 01:48:45,360
Speaker 2: as we came to the door. Quote from the story,

2016
01:48:45,920 --> 01:48:48,880
Speaker 2: I thought you said. Jane's husband was texting her as

2017
01:48:48,960 --> 01:48:51,720
Speaker 2: you guys were going home from golfing. He didn't tell

2018
01:48:51,800 --> 01:48:55,120
Speaker 2: her you guys were on the way. Anyways, if you

2019
01:48:55,200 --> 01:48:57,760
Speaker 2: choose to trust her and move past it, then good luck.

2020
01:48:58,120 --> 01:49:02,360
Speaker 2: I just hope some truths don't get exposed. Future Opie responds.

2021
01:49:02,920 --> 01:49:05,040
Speaker 2: Sam said that Jane never mentioned that they were on

2022
01:49:05,120 --> 01:49:07,320
Speaker 2: their way back. She got settled when she heard the

2023
01:49:07,400 --> 01:49:11,000
Speaker 2: door opening with some with some dirty scene playing loudly

2024
01:49:11,080 --> 01:49:13,639
Speaker 2: on the TV and quickly switched it off. We spoke

2025
01:49:13,640 --> 01:49:15,479
Speaker 2: about it for about fifteen minutes, and she told me

2026
01:49:15,520 --> 01:49:17,920
Speaker 2: about the show, what scene it was, what she was thinking,

2027
01:49:18,200 --> 01:49:21,120
Speaker 2: et cetera, et cetera. She was mostly embarrassed because she

2028
01:49:21,200 --> 01:49:23,559
Speaker 2: didn't want to watch it in the first place.

2029
01:49:24,800 --> 01:49:27,439
Speaker 5: We should have gotten these details earlier. Do you know

2030
01:49:27,479 --> 01:49:29,599
Speaker 5: what I'm saying? No, because then all of you would

2031
01:49:29,640 --> 01:49:30,519
Speaker 5: have been voting now.

2032
01:49:31,439 --> 01:49:33,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, this is the case of the missing details.

2033
01:49:33,439 --> 01:49:34,840
Speaker 5: This is the case of missing I love it men

2034
01:49:35,160 --> 01:49:35,400
Speaker 5: do that?

2035
01:49:35,479 --> 01:49:39,000
Speaker 2: Well, Yes, we miss all the details. Huzza.

2036
01:49:39,640 --> 01:49:42,320
Speaker 5: Sorry, Sorry, I'm not a man. Hater, I promise I am.

2037
01:49:43,960 --> 01:49:46,599
Speaker 2: And then final comment to close us out, Jank seventy

2038
01:49:46,640 --> 01:49:49,439
Speaker 2: eight says, you do realize that putting this scene on

2039
01:49:49,720 --> 01:49:51,640
Speaker 2: was probably a way to turn on your wife so

2040
01:49:51,760 --> 01:49:54,400
Speaker 2: she can get her in bed. Wouldn't surprise me if

2041
01:49:54,439 --> 01:49:59,000
Speaker 2: she was actually coming onto her as you came home.

2042
01:49:59,360 --> 01:50:00,360
Speaker 3: That's what I was thinking.

2043
01:50:00,840 --> 01:50:03,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a good point, and that's the end of

2044
01:50:03,080 --> 01:50:07,519
Speaker 2: the story. But bringing it all back to the question

2045
01:50:08,360 --> 01:50:12,360
Speaker 2: for this episode, which is should you tell your partner

2046
01:50:12,840 --> 01:50:14,719
Speaker 2: if you don't like their friends?

2047
01:50:19,840 --> 01:50:21,920
Speaker 5: Yes, I agree, Yes.

2048
01:50:21,920 --> 01:50:24,280
Speaker 2: I think because in my opinion, and we had an

2049
01:50:24,360 --> 01:50:27,320
Speaker 2: episode earlier where we are an episode a few days

2050
01:50:27,320 --> 01:50:30,320
Speaker 2: ago we were like, if you are you're best friends

2051
01:50:30,360 --> 01:50:32,960
Speaker 2: with your partner, of course, if you're friends with someone else,

2052
01:50:33,680 --> 01:50:36,960
Speaker 2: those people should gel and get along.

2053
01:50:37,800 --> 01:50:40,320
Speaker 5: And you are who you surround yourself with. Yes, and

2054
01:50:41,200 --> 01:50:43,479
Speaker 5: whatever that's bringing into their life, it's going to bring

2055
01:50:43,520 --> 01:50:46,080
Speaker 5: into yours indirectly directly.

2056
01:50:47,240 --> 01:50:50,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like, I don't think me and my girlfriend have

2057
01:50:50,439 --> 01:50:55,640
Speaker 2: ever had uh, Like, we always like each other's like

2058
01:50:55,800 --> 01:50:59,040
Speaker 2: friends that we yea that we meet and if they're

2059
01:50:59,320 --> 01:51:02,320
Speaker 2: Riley's like you, yes, and then if there is someone

2060
01:51:02,439 --> 01:51:07,560
Speaker 2: who like isn't doing good. Then we we sunset it,

2061
01:51:07,640 --> 01:51:10,000
Speaker 2: and that's like that's super super rare.

2062
01:51:10,640 --> 01:51:12,120
Speaker 5: But that's great that you guys are on the same

2063
01:51:12,160 --> 01:51:14,080
Speaker 5: page because I really do feel like if you're in

2064
01:51:14,120 --> 01:51:17,720
Speaker 5: a relationship, and not everybody views relationships the same way,

2065
01:51:17,800 --> 01:51:21,439
Speaker 5: but like romantically, if you're with someone, yeah you are

2066
01:51:21,479 --> 01:51:24,360
Speaker 5: a team. Yeah you're individuals, right, but you're a team.

2067
01:51:24,479 --> 01:51:26,519
Speaker 5: And so like if your person is saying this person

2068
01:51:26,560 --> 01:51:29,120
Speaker 5: who's making feel like outside is making me feel some

2069
01:51:29,160 --> 01:51:31,479
Speaker 5: type of way, that's a serious thing to take it.

2070
01:51:31,600 --> 01:51:35,000
Speaker 2: So that's cool that you guys, Yeah that I think

2071
01:51:35,040 --> 01:51:39,160
Speaker 2: it's just more productive to like there could be like, uh,

2072
01:51:39,680 --> 01:51:41,640
Speaker 2: someone might be afraid to say that because they're like, oh,

2073
01:51:41,640 --> 01:51:43,439
Speaker 2: I don't want to offend them or whatever. And my

2074
01:51:43,600 --> 01:51:45,880
Speaker 2: personal opinion is like if I just try to like

2075
01:51:46,479 --> 01:51:49,000
Speaker 2: come into a conversation with an open mind and just

2076
01:51:49,120 --> 01:51:52,240
Speaker 2: try as hard as I can not to like nap back, Yeah,

2077
01:51:52,640 --> 01:51:54,120
Speaker 2: I really want to hear out what they have to

2078
01:51:54,160 --> 01:51:59,479
Speaker 2: say because there's almost certainly something true that they're probably

2079
01:51:59,560 --> 01:52:00,599
Speaker 2: feeling some pain or something.

2080
01:52:02,120 --> 01:52:09,719
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, communication, communication, and look out for people named Jane.

2081
01:52:09,920 --> 01:52:14,120
Speaker 2: That's oh Jane's Jane's watch Out, watch Out sound Off

2082
01:52:14,479 --> 01:52:18,680
Speaker 2: by getting out. Yeah, yeah, Riley doesn't like sound off.

2083
01:52:18,760 --> 01:52:20,479
Speaker 5: Now I feel bad. Now, I feel bad for all

2084
01:52:20,520 --> 01:52:23,120
Speaker 5: the people that didn't have a choice in getting named Jane.

2085
01:52:23,360 --> 01:52:26,439
Speaker 2: You know what, I don't Jane's. I'm sorry, but uh

2086
01:52:26,720 --> 01:52:30,240
Speaker 2: you're you're on the watch list. Now you've just below Karen. Okay,

2087
01:52:30,800 --> 01:52:32,559
Speaker 2: Karen's and Jane's are now there together.

2088
01:52:32,840 --> 01:52:36,120
Speaker 5: My mom's name is Karen. Oh, she's a cool Karen.

2089
01:52:36,200 --> 01:52:36,920
Speaker 2: She's a cool Karen.

2090
01:52:37,160 --> 01:52:37,639
Speaker 5: Cool Karen.

2091
01:52:37,680 --> 01:52:40,080
Speaker 2: Shout out to the cool Karen. Cool Karen, shout out

2092
01:52:40,080 --> 01:52:40,679
Speaker 2: the cool can.

2093
01:52:42,160 --> 01:52:44,559
Speaker 3: I can't even say the name. Actually, our landlord's Karen.

2094
01:52:45,040 --> 01:52:49,960
Speaker 2: Shout out to our landlord. We love dogs. Anyways, ladies

2095
01:52:49,960 --> 01:52:53,000
Speaker 2: and gentlemen, we're not We're not done yet. You thought

2096
01:52:53,000 --> 01:52:56,760
Speaker 2: we were done communicating stories to you. You were incorrect,

2097
01:52:57,320 --> 01:52:58,960
Speaker 2: because we have another story.

2098
01:52:59,600 --> 01:53:00,840
Speaker 3: Let's go. Let's go.

2099
01:53:00,880 --> 01:53:02,400
Speaker 2: Do you want to stick around for one more story? Yeah,

2100
01:53:02,400 --> 01:53:03,120
Speaker 2: you got time. Let's do.

2101
01:53:03,200 --> 01:53:04,880
Speaker 5: I'm having the time of my life. Thank you for

2102
01:53:05,040 --> 01:53:07,680
Speaker 5: having me. Thank you guys for having me. This has

2103
01:53:07,720 --> 01:53:09,320
Speaker 5: been really this is a blast.

2104
01:53:09,479 --> 01:53:13,760
Speaker 2: Guys. Put clap emojis in the chat to applaud our

2105
01:53:13,840 --> 01:53:15,960
Speaker 2: incredible guests. She's she's not done yet. We're gonna read

2106
01:53:15,960 --> 01:53:22,360
Speaker 2: one more story with her, but me thirty minutes. This

2107
01:53:22,439 --> 01:53:30,120
Speaker 2: one we can do in thirty right, forty five? Up

2108
01:53:30,200 --> 01:53:31,760
Speaker 2: to you, up to you, up to you.

2109
01:53:32,160 --> 01:53:35,120
Speaker 5: Oh, I got time, guys, I got time.

2110
01:53:36,200 --> 01:53:38,719
Speaker 2: Thanks. Thanks Riley for sounding off like that. I appreciate.

2111
01:53:38,800 --> 01:53:39,840
Speaker 3: So welcome John.

2112
01:53:40,240 --> 01:53:43,880
Speaker 2: Also, do you want to hit hit the hit the air? Yes,

2113
01:53:44,000 --> 01:53:48,519
Speaker 2: we can get Sophia to hit it. Yep, up, I'll

2114
01:53:48,600 --> 01:53:50,840
Speaker 2: text her. Can I have some air?

2115
01:53:51,840 --> 01:53:54,800
Speaker 5: Okay? Someone said that I'm cool and I love that.

2116
01:53:55,000 --> 01:53:55,760
Speaker 1: Thank you, whoever you.

2117
01:53:55,800 --> 01:53:58,720
Speaker 2: Are, please come back impre Sleepless Nights, which, by the way,

2118
01:53:59,160 --> 01:54:02,160
Speaker 2: Sleepless Nights is like a og like if you have

2119
01:54:02,280 --> 01:54:05,320
Speaker 2: a Sleepless Night's stamp of approval, that is crazy.

2120
01:54:05,520 --> 01:54:06,519
Speaker 1: Thank you so much.

2121
01:54:06,880 --> 01:54:10,639
Speaker 5: You don't know how much that just yeah, that made

2122
01:54:10,680 --> 01:54:11,439
Speaker 5: my week. Thank you.

2123
01:54:11,640 --> 01:54:15,240
Speaker 2: There we go, all the claps, let's go, we got

2124
01:54:15,280 --> 01:54:19,880
Speaker 2: all Oh, let's read some dons, y says yessavo. Thanks

2125
01:54:20,000 --> 01:54:22,760
Speaker 2: for the one month of membership. Been watching since September

2126
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Speaker 2: twenty twenty two. Stay hydrated. Let's freaking go og fan

2127
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Speaker 2: Christian fail. Did I miss that rightly?

2128
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Speaker 3: No, that it happened. Whenever Molly was introducing herself.

2129
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Speaker 2: Okay, Christin foil Hat. Guys, let's take a moment to

2130
01:54:38,280 --> 01:54:42,600
Speaker 2: commemorate how incredible of a human being Christian foil Hat is.

2131
01:54:43,160 --> 01:54:45,480
Speaker 2: Christian foyle Hat comes into these lives, comes to the

2132
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Speaker 2: community and says, I want everyone in this community to

2133
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Speaker 2: have a membership to enjoy as much okay storytime as

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Speaker 2: humanly possible, to the tune of fifty freaking memberships. Let's go,

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Speaker 2: Savo back again with the five bucks. Time to clock out.

2137
01:55:05,480 --> 01:55:07,680
Speaker 2: Thank you for the entertainment. Why work, stay safe? Love

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Speaker 2: your third favorite medical coder. You're our first favorite medical

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Speaker 2: coder because I don't know any but Matt Hattergal. Thanks

2140
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Speaker 2: any time. Bucks again. Yah, another born and raised LA person.

2141
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Speaker 2: Welcome to the chaos. I hope you enjoy and stay here.

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Speaker 2: We do have tea and cookies. A Matt hattergaal stamp

2143
01:55:26,120 --> 01:55:32,720
Speaker 2: of approval also worth itsweet and gold unka stranger, Scott,

2144
01:55:33,240 --> 01:55:39,440
Speaker 2: I definitely mispronounced that. Please correct me. Like the stream, guys,

2145
01:55:39,640 --> 01:55:43,640
Speaker 2: We're so close. Four nineteen out of five hundred. Riley

2146
01:55:43,720 --> 01:55:46,920
Speaker 2: wants to spin the wheel. Riley is a serial will spinner.

2147
01:55:47,000 --> 01:55:49,520
Speaker 2: It's his favorite thing to do, so spin it. No

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01:55:49,720 --> 01:55:52,520
Speaker 2: stone unturned celebrating four months of membership. I think the

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Speaker 2: wife enjoys the attention. Probably will cheat or is cheating

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Speaker 2: with Jane. No stone inturned, Her hands were clean.

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01:55:58,600 --> 01:56:00,640
Speaker 5: I thought they were talking about themselves.

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01:56:02,120 --> 01:56:05,120
Speaker 2: I think my wife's about to cheat. Honestly, it wouldn't

2153
01:56:05,120 --> 01:56:08,040
Speaker 2: be the first time said the community would come through

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01:56:08,040 --> 01:56:09,680
Speaker 2: on the show. We have their stories as well, which

2155
01:56:09,720 --> 01:56:13,400
Speaker 2: is which is good fun and gets insane when it's

2156
01:56:14,240 --> 01:56:18,560
Speaker 2: very messy. Yeah, Sarah b celebrating two months of membership.

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01:56:18,640 --> 01:56:22,920
Speaker 2: Let's go uh Alisi celebrating two months. I feel Op

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01:56:24,040 --> 01:56:27,120
Speaker 2: is trying too much to find something. Jane is sus

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01:56:27,240 --> 01:56:30,760
Speaker 2: but I think Sam is oblivious.

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Speaker 5: And not interesting again like all men. Yes, sure, no,

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01:56:34,600 --> 01:56:38,440
Speaker 5: that's Sam though. Never mind, Oops, Sam, you've joined the

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01:56:38,520 --> 01:56:42,560
Speaker 5: men with our other go hot Sam, Mad Hatter Gal.

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01:56:44,000 --> 01:56:47,280
Speaker 2: Once again, Matt Hatter Gall and Christian and Foaha and

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01:56:47,360 --> 01:56:51,520
Speaker 2: Frederic LOCKMANK will not rest until every single person watching

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01:56:51,640 --> 01:56:54,800
Speaker 2: right now is a member of the family. A member

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01:56:54,840 --> 01:56:58,520
Speaker 2: of the family, Riley a member, a member, a sibling,

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01:56:58,680 --> 01:57:04,400
Speaker 2: a brother, A little bit a little protein an all right,

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01:57:05,240 --> 01:57:08,640
Speaker 2: thank you, Matt Hadergau and then BB Meme memes memes

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Speaker 2: celebrating four months. Molly, you are very cool. How can

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01:57:12,320 --> 01:57:13,200
Speaker 2: I find your stand up?

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01:57:13,800 --> 01:57:14,520
Speaker 1: Oh my god?

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01:57:14,760 --> 01:57:17,520
Speaker 5: You can follow me on the gram is probably the

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01:57:17,600 --> 01:57:21,560
Speaker 5: best you know at Molly Chapman. If you're in La

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Speaker 5: I have I'm gonna be at the comedy store July

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01:57:24,360 --> 01:57:28,080
Speaker 5: Nineteenth's super cool. Yeah, it's only six minutes, guys, so like,

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01:57:28,120 --> 01:57:31,240
Speaker 5: if you don't like it, it's not that long. But

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Speaker 5: uh but yeah, thank you for that. These compliments are really.

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Speaker 2: Ooh, this this is what this community does. We are

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01:57:39,720 --> 01:57:45,320
Speaker 2: we read pessimistic stories with a optimistic community, very positive community.

2180
01:57:46,000 --> 01:57:49,080
Speaker 2: And then Joseph Abadala Beurquist, thanks for the two fifty

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Speaker 2: five agreed love Mollie, thank you a lot of love.

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01:57:53,560 --> 01:57:54,800
Speaker 2: Molly love on the stream today.

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Speaker 1: Love you guys.

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01:57:56,040 --> 01:57:59,760
Speaker 2: Yes, but ladies and gentlemen, you thought Molly was leaving

2185
01:57:59,840 --> 01:58:02,160
Speaker 2: you sat she was gonna give up. Also, Curvy Girlalla

2186
01:58:02,200 --> 01:58:03,800
Speaker 2: Flame thanks out of five bucks. I posted on a

2187
01:58:03,840 --> 01:58:06,440
Speaker 2: suburn at three days ago, when will you read stories

2188
01:58:06,440 --> 01:58:08,520
Speaker 2: from there? We are going to start pulling. We're going

2189
01:58:08,600 --> 01:58:12,720
Speaker 2: to start pulling some shorter stories, but we are currently

2190
01:58:12,800 --> 01:58:16,040
Speaker 2: looking for stories around the nine hundred to twelve hundred

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01:58:16,120 --> 01:58:20,000
Speaker 2: word mark. If you have longer stories of that nature,

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01:58:20,160 --> 01:58:22,160
Speaker 2: please submit it. We are going to be looking. Sophia

2193
01:58:22,280 --> 01:58:26,360
Speaker 2: is on the case. But speaking of stories, we have

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01:58:26,400 --> 01:58:29,480
Speaker 2: another one. Are we ready, Riley, I'm so ready. Let's

2195
01:58:29,480 --> 01:58:32,920
Speaker 2: freaking do It's good? Am I the a hole for

2196
01:58:33,000 --> 01:58:35,680
Speaker 2: refusing to help my wife with her friend anymore? Over

2197
01:58:35,840 --> 01:58:40,040
Speaker 2: a miscommunication? Well this comes from grand Cape ninety two

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Speaker 2: fifty three, who says fake names here. My wife, Emily

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Speaker 2: has a longtime friend, Leslie, who has recently become a

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Speaker 2: single mother. Leslie does not have a working vehicle at

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Speaker 2: the moment and is working two jobs. So Emily took

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Speaker 2: it upon herself to help Leslie out as much as

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01:58:54,000 --> 01:58:57,280
Speaker 2: you can. Very sweet, Emily had started asking me to

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01:58:57,440 --> 01:59:01,040
Speaker 2: help her in driving Leslie as well and her kids around,

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01:59:01,200 --> 01:59:04,840
Speaker 2: taking them to school appointments, talking to Leslie or sorry,

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01:59:04,920 --> 01:59:07,960
Speaker 2: taking Leslie to the grocery store, et cetera. Whenever Emily

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01:59:08,080 --> 01:59:10,520
Speaker 2: or someone else couldn't. I agreed since it made my

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01:59:10,600 --> 01:59:12,800
Speaker 2: wife happy, and I understand the kind of situation that

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Speaker 2: Leslie is in. Helping has turned Emily helping has turned

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Speaker 2: into Emily inviting Leslie and her kids over more often,

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01:59:19,640 --> 01:59:22,280
Speaker 2: or organizing trips that they would like that just camping

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01:59:22,400 --> 01:59:26,160
Speaker 2: or fishing. Yo, Emily is Emily's doing the most insane.

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01:59:29,320 --> 01:59:32,080
Speaker 2: A few times my wife was unable to attend these

2214
01:59:32,120 --> 01:59:34,880
Speaker 2: get together she organized you to work and insisted that

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01:59:34,920 --> 01:59:38,760
Speaker 2: they still take and insisted they still take place, leaving

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01:59:38,840 --> 01:59:40,960
Speaker 2: me to entertain Leslie and her kids on my own.

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01:59:41,600 --> 01:59:44,240
Speaker 2: Since I've known Leslie my entire relationship with my wife,

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01:59:44,280 --> 01:59:46,720
Speaker 2: I didn't I didn't think too much about this. The

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01:59:46,880 --> 01:59:49,400
Speaker 2: times that it has been me left with her or

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01:59:49,520 --> 01:59:52,520
Speaker 2: sent in Emily's steed to shuttle Leslie around. I've made

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01:59:52,600 --> 01:59:57,200
Speaker 2: normal small talk with her, her kids put a nice

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01:59:57,280 --> 01:59:58,720
Speaker 2: you in the comments. I don't I don't know if

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01:59:58,720 --> 02:00:02,640
Speaker 2: I see the the U yet, But how did I

2224
02:00:02,760 --> 02:00:06,920
Speaker 2: see you? What did I see you? Recently, Leslie's kids

2225
02:00:06,960 --> 02:00:08,840
Speaker 2: were going to be away for a weekend, so Emily

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02:00:08,960 --> 02:00:11,120
Speaker 2: wanted to have Leslie over for dinner and some movies.

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Speaker 2: She asked me to text Leslie to ask her over,

2228
02:00:14,280 --> 02:00:17,560
Speaker 2: and when I did, Leslie replied, just as friends, right,

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Speaker 2: I'm not interested in being anyone's girlfriends. That came out

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Speaker 2: of nowhere. Yeah, I thought that her response was out

2231
02:00:26,400 --> 02:00:28,640
Speaker 2: a left field. So I asked her why she'd even

2232
02:00:28,680 --> 02:00:31,280
Speaker 2: say that, and her response was pretty much, no guy

2233
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Speaker 2: would be asking me and my kids how we're doing

2234
02:00:33,760 --> 02:00:37,520
Speaker 2: or helping me out unless he wanted something in return.

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Speaker 5: Oh, like, I get that, but so sad, I know

2236
02:00:41,480 --> 02:00:42,040
Speaker 5: it is sad.

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Speaker 2: I told Leslie wasn't anything like that, and then showed

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Speaker 2: my wife the conversation and informed her I would be

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02:00:47,040 --> 02:00:50,080
Speaker 2: stepping back from helping her with anything involving Leslie and

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Speaker 2: to leave me out of any future plans. I also

2241
02:00:54,160 --> 02:00:56,600
Speaker 2: offered to show the rest of my phone and anything else.

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02:00:56,920 --> 02:00:59,400
Speaker 2: Emily believed me, but she still talked to Leslie about

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02:00:59,440 --> 02:01:01,839
Speaker 2: it to see had given her the impression and according

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02:01:02,000 --> 02:01:05,920
Speaker 2: and accordingly, she gave Emily the same answer. A few

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02:01:06,000 --> 02:01:08,600
Speaker 2: days later, Leslie apologized to Emily and told her that

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Speaker 2: her emotions and mind were just all all over the

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Speaker 2: place because of a down day. That's which hey, understandable.

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Speaker 5: I'll have them.

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Speaker 2: I don't. I don't think this is anything too out

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Speaker 2: of the ordinary. That's that couldn't be chalked up to

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Speaker 2: It was, you know, not my.

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02:01:24,320 --> 02:01:25,880
Speaker 5: Leslie's given some Jane vibes.

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02:01:25,920 --> 02:01:32,200
Speaker 2: Oh, Leslie, that's fine, but I'm still not willing to

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02:01:32,280 --> 02:01:34,520
Speaker 2: help her or my wife out anymore as I had been,

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Speaker 2: because I don't want any repeats or accusations hurled at

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Speaker 2: me when I was helping as my wife asked, what happened?

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Speaker 2: Ladies and gentlemen, Diana day, Princess Diana, Oh my god,

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02:01:51,680 --> 02:01:53,080
Speaker 2: Princess Diana said something.

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Speaker 1: Let's go.

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Speaker 2: Diana said, I want another thirty minutes. But ladies and gentlemen,

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02:01:58,680 --> 02:02:02,160
Speaker 2: did Diana just say that? No, no, she said it,

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02:02:02,440 --> 02:02:05,000
Speaker 2: and she meant it because she donated one hundred and

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Speaker 2: forty four dollars at ninety four cents to the donation

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Speaker 2: link to unlock another thirty minutes. So, ladies and gentlemen,

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Speaker 2: that is where we're at.

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Speaker 5: Sorry, guys, no apologies necessary. No, it's amazing. I just

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02:02:19,320 --> 02:02:22,080
Speaker 5: think I was so like, let's go, let's add the

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Speaker 5: time at the beginning, and oh yeah, yeah.

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02:02:24,440 --> 02:02:27,840
Speaker 2: You definitely rolled the arm. They Riley might be in

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Speaker 2: that chair for two days, unshowered, just eating sushi out

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Speaker 2: of boxes.

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Speaker 5: He probably deserves it.

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02:02:35,800 --> 02:02:36,920
Speaker 2: He deserves it.

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Speaker 3: He des come over here, yes, set you, Michael, and

2275
02:02:40,640 --> 02:02:41,880
Speaker 3: you're like, you deserve.

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Speaker 2: To be there for forty eight hours?

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Speaker 5: Oh, Riley sweet Riley's come to one of my stand

2278
02:02:45,880 --> 02:02:48,440
Speaker 5: up shows and support it, and I appreciate it.

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Speaker 3: Honestly, has encouraged me to pursue let's stand up myself

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Speaker 3: one days.

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Speaker 2: Let's go, Hey, guys, could you sound off in the

2282
02:02:58,360 --> 02:03:01,520
Speaker 2: chat if you want to see O'Riley stand ups clips?

2283
02:03:02,200 --> 02:03:04,560
Speaker 2: Sound off here, I'll show you my voice memos.

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02:03:04,880 --> 02:03:05,640
Speaker 5: I want to see it.

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02:03:07,760 --> 02:03:10,600
Speaker 3: We're there. Oh man, now I'm on the spot. Wait,

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02:03:11,000 --> 02:03:16,080
Speaker 3: how about did it? Yeah? Yeah, yeah, I've been. I've

2287
02:03:16,120 --> 02:03:18,040
Speaker 3: been like doing like stand up, so I got stand

2288
02:03:18,080 --> 02:03:22,760
Speaker 3: up five three two, I'm like doing little things.

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Speaker 2: We'll see what happens one day. One day, there we go,

2290
02:03:25,960 --> 02:03:26,160
Speaker 2: just like.

2291
02:03:30,120 --> 02:03:30,920
Speaker 1: I've been doing it.

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02:03:33,120 --> 02:03:37,400
Speaker 2: It's he's he's a teaser, you know. Yeah, but back

2293
02:03:37,440 --> 02:03:40,040
Speaker 2: to the story. Shout at that and again that's fine.

2294
02:03:40,160 --> 02:03:41,960
Speaker 2: But I'm still not willing to help earn my wife

2295
02:03:42,000 --> 02:03:44,120
Speaker 2: out anymore as I had been, because I don't want

2296
02:03:44,120 --> 02:03:47,000
Speaker 2: any repeats or accusations hurled at me when I was helping.

2297
02:03:47,040 --> 02:03:50,120
Speaker 2: As my wife asked Emily things, I am overreacting and

2298
02:03:50,160 --> 02:03:52,680
Speaker 2: should just brush it off because it's a silly miscommunication

2299
02:03:52,840 --> 02:03:56,120
Speaker 2: she had on a bad day. Am I the ahole

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Speaker 2: producer Riley if we could get a pull up and uh, Allie,

2301
02:04:00,480 --> 02:04:03,360
Speaker 2: we are going to ask you the polarizing question and

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Speaker 2: you have to pick. Uh. There is no there is

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02:04:06,080 --> 02:04:10,040
Speaker 2: no in between. Is Ope being the a hole in

2304
02:04:10,080 --> 02:04:13,520
Speaker 2: the scenario by deciding to totally cut off and stop

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02:04:13,600 --> 02:04:21,040
Speaker 2: helping Leslie after this uh little text mishap ee? It

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02:04:21,120 --> 02:04:23,280
Speaker 2: could be just over the line, just under the line,

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02:04:23,320 --> 02:04:25,240
Speaker 2: can be on the fence, but it can't be on

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02:04:25,280 --> 02:04:25,640
Speaker 2: the fence.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I think so too.

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02:04:30,760 --> 02:04:35,440
Speaker 2: I think so too. I think uh Op is just

2311
02:04:35,600 --> 02:04:40,320
Speaker 2: having a overreaction to what's going on now, and like

2312
02:04:41,240 --> 02:04:43,960
Speaker 2: I I kind of understand both of them. I understand

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02:04:44,040 --> 02:04:47,280
Speaker 2: Leslie like, hey, you know, I'm just it sounds like

2314
02:04:47,400 --> 02:04:51,320
Speaker 2: she's probably not had great experiences with men in recent history,

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02:04:51,800 --> 02:04:54,240
Speaker 2: so it's coming from that place. She's like, I had

2316
02:04:54,280 --> 02:04:58,600
Speaker 2: a bad day. My apologies. And I think also Op,

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02:04:58,840 --> 02:05:02,080
Speaker 2: like I could also get I could get Op maybe

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02:05:02,720 --> 02:05:05,360
Speaker 2: being a little bit more like maybe it's small talk,

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02:05:05,480 --> 02:05:07,280
Speaker 2: like being like okay, let me make sure nothing is

2320
02:05:07,360 --> 02:05:09,840
Speaker 2: coming off as like flirty or anything like that. Yeah,

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02:05:09,880 --> 02:05:11,760
Speaker 2: but like totally withdrawing.

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02:05:12,840 --> 02:05:15,400
Speaker 5: That's not what you do in a relationship. Again, you're

2323
02:05:15,440 --> 02:05:18,800
Speaker 5: a team, so like just go go to Emily and

2324
02:05:18,920 --> 02:05:22,720
Speaker 5: be like, hey, I think it's lovely that you're helping Leslie,

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02:05:22,960 --> 02:05:24,360
Speaker 5: but I think it might be a little too much

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02:05:24,440 --> 02:05:27,440
Speaker 5: for me, like how much time it's taking, how much energy,

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02:05:27,560 --> 02:05:29,680
Speaker 5: And the fact that she said this made me uncomfortable.

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02:05:29,880 --> 02:05:32,760
Speaker 2: That's another great point, like maybe this is a similar

2329
02:05:32,800 --> 02:05:36,920
Speaker 2: situation as before, where the maybe they're not even asking.

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02:05:36,960 --> 02:05:38,720
Speaker 2: Maybe the wife is kind of giving and she's like

2331
02:05:39,240 --> 02:05:41,520
Speaker 2: kind of dug her own grave in a sense of

2332
02:05:41,600 --> 02:05:43,960
Speaker 2: like I started helping and then now I have snowballed,

2333
02:05:44,080 --> 02:05:46,040
Speaker 2: and yeah, now if I don't keep it up, then

2334
02:05:46,120 --> 02:05:48,560
Speaker 2: I look like the a hole not doing what I

2335
02:05:48,640 --> 02:05:49,160
Speaker 2: did before.

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02:05:49,600 --> 02:05:51,800
Speaker 5: Ooh, basically don't help people.

2337
02:05:52,280 --> 02:05:57,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, be a selfish ahole. Ladies and gentlemen, all right,

2338
02:05:58,360 --> 02:06:01,200
Speaker 2: but we have some additional inf I.

2339
02:06:01,200 --> 02:06:03,480
Speaker 5: Think some people are lost and confused on the story.

2340
02:06:03,560 --> 02:06:06,240
Speaker 2: Oh so quick, tald are good, cutcha good catch there.

2341
02:06:06,520 --> 02:06:12,680
Speaker 2: So Opie is the husband and then Opie's wife, Leslie

2342
02:06:13,120 --> 02:06:14,200
Speaker 2: was in a tough spot.

2343
02:06:14,320 --> 02:06:16,360
Speaker 5: She lost her job's wife Emily.

2344
02:06:16,320 --> 02:06:19,560
Speaker 2: Opie's wife, Emily, thank you. So Emily has been helping

2345
02:06:19,600 --> 02:06:23,320
Speaker 2: Leslie out, driving her to appointments, organizing like little little trips,

2346
02:06:23,360 --> 02:06:25,760
Speaker 2: having over from a movie night, all of this great stuff,

2347
02:06:26,640 --> 02:06:28,280
Speaker 2: and OPI has been in the mix as well. He

2348
02:06:28,400 --> 02:06:30,760
Speaker 2: knows Leslie. He knows Leslie as long as he's known

2349
02:06:30,800 --> 02:06:35,000
Speaker 2: his wife and the husband asked Leslie like, hey, do

2350
02:06:35,080 --> 02:06:36,640
Speaker 2: you do you and the kids want to come over

2351
02:06:36,720 --> 02:06:39,800
Speaker 2: to watch a movie at our place, like a group movie,

2352
02:06:40,080 --> 02:06:43,800
Speaker 2: you know, hangout sash and she was like, are you asking?

2353
02:06:43,880 --> 02:06:47,200
Speaker 2: Because I'm not trying to be anyone's girlfriend. That rubbed

2354
02:06:47,240 --> 02:06:49,480
Speaker 2: op the wrong way. He doesn't want to help anymore.

2355
02:06:49,600 --> 02:06:51,760
Speaker 2: Leslie has apologized. So now we're at this kind of

2356
02:06:51,800 --> 02:06:55,360
Speaker 2: place where you know, OPI is like, I want nothing

2357
02:06:55,400 --> 02:06:56,840
Speaker 2: to do. I don't want to help anymore. I don't

2358
02:06:56,840 --> 02:06:58,120
Speaker 2: want to talk to her. I want nothing to do

2359
02:06:58,240 --> 02:07:01,320
Speaker 2: with her. And you know, Leslie said this thing. She

2360
02:07:01,440 --> 02:07:05,760
Speaker 2: has apologized. That's where we're at. We're trying to see

2361
02:07:06,120 --> 02:07:09,080
Speaker 2: where it all shakes out. Yeah, So some additional info.

2362
02:07:09,160 --> 02:07:13,080
Speaker 2: The text I sent Leslie about the night was exactly

2363
02:07:13,160 --> 02:07:15,240
Speaker 2: as follows. Emily wants to know if you like to

2364
02:07:15,320 --> 02:07:21,480
Speaker 2: come over for dinner and some movies on Saturday? Which safe?

2365
02:07:22,160 --> 02:07:25,400
Speaker 2: I think that's safe? Yeah, Emily said, yeah, we're all

2366
02:07:25,480 --> 02:07:28,160
Speaker 2: doing this together. Yeah, that's why her response was so

2367
02:07:28,240 --> 02:07:30,280
Speaker 2: out of left That's why her response was so out

2368
02:07:30,280 --> 02:07:32,600
Speaker 2: of left field. I sent the text because Emily was

2369
02:07:32,640 --> 02:07:35,200
Speaker 2: busy on her phone and wanted to know asap so

2370
02:07:35,360 --> 02:07:38,640
Speaker 2: we could make our plans this weekend and edit. Thank

2371
02:07:38,680 --> 02:07:40,760
Speaker 2: you for all the comments and different perspectives. I'll talk

2372
02:07:40,800 --> 02:07:43,320
Speaker 2: to Emily tonight when we get home about the over

2373
02:07:43,440 --> 02:07:46,720
Speaker 2: helping and what to do going forward. To Molly's point,

2374
02:07:46,920 --> 02:07:50,240
Speaker 2: we are not swingers. Leslie knows my wife is completely monogamous,

2375
02:07:50,280 --> 02:07:52,680
Speaker 2: and while I will be bringing up concerns she's helping

2376
02:07:52,720 --> 02:07:55,000
Speaker 2: too much, this level of help between the two of

2377
02:07:55,080 --> 02:07:57,400
Speaker 2: them has been present for as long as I have

2378
02:07:57,600 --> 02:08:00,680
Speaker 2: known my wife. Okay, so it's seems that there is

2379
02:08:00,760 --> 02:08:05,800
Speaker 2: a history of a very reciprocated helping friendship.

2380
02:08:06,080 --> 02:08:08,560
Speaker 5: Yeah, they're nice people and they care for each other.

2381
02:08:08,760 --> 02:08:09,640
Speaker 5: So that's beautiful.

2382
02:08:09,840 --> 02:08:12,320
Speaker 2: That is that is great. So it sounds like, hey,

2383
02:08:12,400 --> 02:08:14,040
Speaker 2: it is normal for there to beat a lot to help,

2384
02:08:14,120 --> 02:08:17,280
Speaker 2: but also maybe there is a little bit of overhelping

2385
02:08:17,360 --> 02:08:19,920
Speaker 2: and yeah you could use some space. Yeah, but there's

2386
02:08:19,920 --> 02:08:23,000
Speaker 2: some relevant comments. Hopefully we get some clarity not the ahole,

2387
02:08:23,120 --> 02:08:25,840
Speaker 2: but why is your wife suddenly so attached to this woman?

2388
02:08:25,960 --> 02:08:28,640
Speaker 2: If I were Leslie, I'd be wondering more if your

2389
02:08:28,760 --> 02:08:32,880
Speaker 2: wife wants a girlfriend than you, why do.

2390
02:08:32,960 --> 02:08:33,760
Speaker 1: We always go there?

2391
02:08:33,880 --> 02:08:37,880
Speaker 2: Guys runnick, They've always been attached at the hip. When

2392
02:08:37,920 --> 02:08:40,280
Speaker 2: my wife had surgery for ooh, when my wife had

2393
02:08:40,320 --> 02:08:45,720
Speaker 2: surgery for carportonal, I lose my place. When my wife

2394
02:08:45,760 --> 02:08:49,080
Speaker 2: had surgery for carpaltonal Leslie kept showing up even when

2395
02:08:49,160 --> 02:08:51,280
Speaker 2: I was home taking care of Emily and the house.

2396
02:08:52,160 --> 02:08:54,680
Speaker 2: And in that my own sister is similar with some

2397
02:08:54,800 --> 02:08:57,879
Speaker 2: of her close friends. I never found their friendship strange.

2398
02:08:58,480 --> 02:09:01,400
Speaker 5: That's a good thing, that is ad, but I'm also

2399
02:09:01,560 --> 02:09:04,600
Speaker 5: like it's giving some Jaine vibes, like it's giving, it's giving,

2400
02:09:04,720 --> 02:09:07,480
Speaker 5: like overstepping because yeah, yeah, if I were at home

2401
02:09:07,560 --> 02:09:10,600
Speaker 5: recovering and my husband were taking care of me, I

2402
02:09:10,680 --> 02:09:12,480
Speaker 5: don't know if i'd need a friend to come over

2403
02:09:12,680 --> 02:09:13,560
Speaker 5: like a lot.

2404
02:09:13,840 --> 02:09:16,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm kind of like like maybe the check in

2405
02:09:16,200 --> 02:09:18,360
Speaker 2: or whatever, if you're feeling up to it, right, Like

2406
02:09:18,440 --> 02:09:20,120
Speaker 2: a lot of times if you're recovering, I'm like, you know,

2407
02:09:20,160 --> 02:09:22,040
Speaker 2: I just kind of want to want to kill I

2408
02:09:22,160 --> 02:09:23,880
Speaker 2: just want to like it, because when someone comes over,

2409
02:09:23,920 --> 02:09:27,000
Speaker 2: it's like there's the expectation of yeah, all.

2410
02:09:27,200 --> 02:09:32,720
Speaker 5: That, and also, wouldn't you feel like, I don't know,

2411
02:09:32,800 --> 02:09:34,400
Speaker 5: like I can take care of my partner, Like I

2412
02:09:34,480 --> 02:09:36,880
Speaker 5: appreciate you coming over, but I'm not this, you know,

2413
02:09:37,520 --> 02:09:40,240
Speaker 5: maybe that's maybe that's not the happiest way.

2414
02:09:40,160 --> 02:09:42,560
Speaker 2: To look I think. I think, I think they are

2415
02:09:42,680 --> 02:09:47,120
Speaker 2: well intentioned and are it is ultimately positive, but maybe

2416
02:09:47,160 --> 02:09:50,040
Speaker 2: there are instances of over overhelping.

2417
02:09:50,240 --> 02:09:51,760
Speaker 5: Yeah, overhelp overhelping.

2418
02:09:52,080 --> 02:09:55,959
Speaker 2: Yeah. Sorry, Jane digital that I didn't read carpal tonal

2419
02:09:56,560 --> 02:10:01,360
Speaker 2: toew the way you liked it. But responding to that info,

2420
02:10:02,000 --> 02:10:04,680
Speaker 2: how long have you and your wife been acting as

2421
02:10:04,760 --> 02:10:07,600
Speaker 2: leslie chauffeurs and doing everything for her? What is Leslie

2422
02:10:07,640 --> 02:10:09,480
Speaker 2: planning to do to get her own life back together?

2423
02:10:10,000 --> 02:10:12,680
Speaker 2: Opie responds, it's been about four months. Leslie is trying

2424
02:10:12,720 --> 02:10:14,160
Speaker 2: to save up to get a new car and her

2425
02:10:14,200 --> 02:10:17,240
Speaker 2: current one is fixed as or her current one fixed,

2426
02:10:17,440 --> 02:10:19,920
Speaker 2: as well as looking for a cheaper place to live.

2427
02:10:20,200 --> 02:10:23,040
Speaker 2: I was kind of wondering that too, because timeline there

2428
02:10:23,200 --> 02:10:26,200
Speaker 2: does reach a point where it's like we all.

2429
02:10:26,080 --> 02:10:30,160
Speaker 5: Want to help, but we gotta yeah space, you gotta

2430
02:10:30,440 --> 02:10:31,160
Speaker 5: yeah space.

2431
02:10:32,400 --> 02:10:35,200
Speaker 2: And then info, does she have trauma in her background?

2432
02:10:35,280 --> 02:10:37,520
Speaker 2: This sounds more like someone who has learned people give

2433
02:10:37,600 --> 02:10:39,720
Speaker 2: nothing for free and has been portrayed and hurt in

2434
02:10:39,800 --> 02:10:45,480
Speaker 2: the past. Opie responds, no idea, no idea. Ouch. Another

2435
02:10:45,560 --> 02:10:49,440
Speaker 2: commentarre not the ahole, but only because Leslie didn't apologize.

2436
02:10:49,840 --> 02:10:51,680
Speaker 2: I don't think that you're in the wrong for not

2437
02:10:51,800 --> 02:10:54,800
Speaker 2: helping her anymore. But she did eventually apologize. Maybe that

2438
02:10:54,880 --> 02:10:57,640
Speaker 2: was before the update. This is kind of a weird situation.

2439
02:10:57,840 --> 02:10:59,600
Speaker 2: Like if my friend asked me to go fishing with

2440
02:10:59,680 --> 02:11:02,800
Speaker 2: me and my kids then sends her boyfriend slash fiance's

2441
02:11:02,800 --> 02:11:07,680
Speaker 2: clas husband in her place, that's pretty weird. It's I could, yeah,

2442
02:11:08,360 --> 02:11:10,520
Speaker 2: let's let them cook. Uh if it was more than

2443
02:11:10,600 --> 02:11:12,560
Speaker 2: just an errand, that's one. If it was just an errand,

2444
02:11:12,600 --> 02:11:14,880
Speaker 2: that's one thing, but a whole ass fun trip is

2445
02:11:14,920 --> 02:11:18,200
Speaker 2: super weird. I would just cancel the plans at that point. Also,

2446
02:11:18,520 --> 02:11:20,800
Speaker 2: was this fishing and camping trip just you, Leslie and

2447
02:11:20,880 --> 02:11:24,120
Speaker 2: her kids or were there others involved? So I'm so

2448
02:11:24,320 --> 02:11:26,640
Speaker 2: I was actually kind of on Leslie's side because this

2449
02:11:26,800 --> 02:11:30,000
Speaker 2: time you you were directly texting her from your phone.

2450
02:11:30,120 --> 02:11:32,839
Speaker 2: Right when your wife sets up these errand slash playdates,

2451
02:11:33,040 --> 02:11:36,480
Speaker 2: I'm guessing she initially says it'll be her then stuff

2452
02:11:36,560 --> 02:11:39,160
Speaker 2: might come up, and so maybe half the time she

2453
02:11:39,280 --> 02:11:42,400
Speaker 2: then tells Leslie that you're coming. So a direct text

2454
02:11:42,720 --> 02:11:45,600
Speaker 2: to uh so, a direct text to Lexli to Leslie

2455
02:11:45,640 --> 02:11:48,480
Speaker 2: from you asking to come over for movies kind of

2456
02:11:48,560 --> 02:11:52,720
Speaker 2: does feel pretty off. Also, you say paraphrase here, no

2457
02:11:53,040 --> 02:11:55,480
Speaker 2: you guy know you guys would be asking me and

2458
02:11:55,600 --> 02:11:58,560
Speaker 2: my kids how we're doing or helping me out unless

2459
02:11:58,760 --> 02:12:02,160
Speaker 2: he wanted something in return. But I'm curious what exactly

2460
02:12:02,320 --> 02:12:04,000
Speaker 2: that text message does.

2461
02:12:05,280 --> 02:12:07,760
Speaker 5: Back to the trauma question. You know what, I think

2462
02:12:07,800 --> 02:12:09,800
Speaker 5: she does have some trauma because if you have this

2463
02:12:10,000 --> 02:12:12,920
Speaker 5: married couple that is helping you when you're down and out,

2464
02:12:12,960 --> 02:12:14,600
Speaker 5: and I get it, like being a single mother that

2465
02:12:14,800 --> 02:12:17,560
Speaker 5: is hard, not having a means of transportation, Like she's

2466
02:12:17,600 --> 02:12:19,080
Speaker 5: got a lot of stuff, Leslie has a lot of

2467
02:12:19,120 --> 02:12:23,240
Speaker 5: stuff going against her, but like they are helping her out,

2468
02:12:23,280 --> 02:12:29,920
Speaker 5: bringing her over a lot lot most And I feel, yeah,

2469
02:12:30,520 --> 02:12:34,680
Speaker 5: like let the man text, yeah, let the man text yeah.

2470
02:12:34,920 --> 02:12:37,440
Speaker 2: I think so. And it's like and again it's like

2471
02:12:37,520 --> 02:12:40,680
Speaker 2: it could totally be a response from past trauma that

2472
02:12:40,760 --> 02:12:43,200
Speaker 2: she's gone through, and it kind of sounds like, yeah,

2473
02:12:43,280 --> 02:12:45,160
Speaker 2: we don't know if that it was trauma, but she

2474
02:12:45,280 --> 02:12:49,360
Speaker 2: did apologize and acknowledge that She's like, I didn't mean

2475
02:12:49,480 --> 02:12:51,520
Speaker 2: to go off that hard.

2476
02:12:51,800 --> 02:12:53,720
Speaker 5: That's weird though, because when I have a bad day,

2477
02:12:53,760 --> 02:12:56,120
Speaker 5: I'm not like, why you want to be my boyfriend?

2478
02:13:01,800 --> 02:13:06,080
Speaker 2: My wife, Opie responds, my wife made the camping trip. Also.

2479
02:13:06,320 --> 02:13:09,560
Speaker 2: It is kind of crazy that, like she is sending

2480
02:13:09,640 --> 02:13:12,920
Speaker 2: the husband in place of all of these trips like

2481
02:13:13,040 --> 02:13:13,680
Speaker 2: all the time.

2482
02:13:14,000 --> 02:13:18,120
Speaker 5: Well then maybe that is like Emily is feeling overwhelmed

2483
02:13:19,200 --> 02:13:22,200
Speaker 5: but also guilty, like I set this up. I don't

2484
02:13:22,240 --> 02:13:24,960
Speaker 5: want to go anymore. I'm just gonna make.

2485
02:13:24,880 --> 02:13:28,800
Speaker 2: Him people please doing whatever she can trauma too.

2486
02:13:29,640 --> 02:13:30,800
Speaker 5: We all got it, guys.

2487
02:13:30,920 --> 02:13:34,080
Speaker 2: There it is, yeah, But Opi responds, my wife made

2488
02:13:34,240 --> 02:13:36,840
Speaker 2: made up. My wife made the camping trip. One of

2489
02:13:36,880 --> 02:13:38,720
Speaker 2: the fishing trips. When my wife couldn't make it and

2490
02:13:38,800 --> 02:13:42,040
Speaker 2: we knew ahead of time, we discussed canceling. She discussed

2491
02:13:42,040 --> 02:13:44,400
Speaker 2: it with Leslie and they both decided to go ahead

2492
02:13:44,400 --> 02:13:47,000
Speaker 2: with it. The other time, my wife organized us all

2493
02:13:47,080 --> 02:13:49,720
Speaker 2: going and doing something together. She was with us for

2494
02:13:49,760 --> 02:13:52,240
Speaker 2: about an hour before she had to leave. I did

2495
02:13:52,320 --> 02:13:54,880
Speaker 2: directly text her from my phone, which I have done before.

2496
02:13:55,040 --> 02:13:57,200
Speaker 2: My text read, Emily wants to know if you like

2497
02:13:57,280 --> 02:13:59,680
Speaker 2: to come over for dinner and watch the movies on Saturday.

2498
02:14:00,200 --> 02:14:02,360
Speaker 2: I don't know about one hundred percent of the time,

2499
02:14:02,600 --> 02:14:06,160
Speaker 2: but I have heard my wife tell tell Leslie she'd

2500
02:14:06,200 --> 02:14:08,840
Speaker 2: be sending me in her Steed on a number of occasions,

2501
02:14:08,920 --> 02:14:11,320
Speaker 2: so it's not as if Leslie didn't have the heads up.

2502
02:14:13,360 --> 02:14:15,400
Speaker 2: So there you go. Oh my lord.

2503
02:14:17,680 --> 02:14:20,960
Speaker 5: I feel like these things should not like Sometimes these

2504
02:14:20,960 --> 02:14:22,640
Speaker 5: stories make me feel better about.

2505
02:14:22,400 --> 02:14:23,240
Speaker 1: My own life.

2506
02:14:23,480 --> 02:14:26,360
Speaker 2: That is, I think what most people feel. I love it.

2507
02:14:26,440 --> 02:14:27,160
Speaker 5: That's why we're here.

2508
02:14:27,400 --> 02:14:30,680
Speaker 2: Let's go. Let's go watching other people's drive me lives wrong.

2509
02:14:32,080 --> 02:14:38,800
Speaker 2: Op oh man, ooh, good point. Let's do that. Let's

2510
02:14:38,840 --> 02:14:42,920
Speaker 2: do that. Guys. We have an update from pretty recent

2511
02:14:42,960 --> 02:14:43,760
Speaker 2: as of last week.

2512
02:14:45,720 --> 02:14:45,840
Speaker 1: Uh.

2513
02:14:46,160 --> 02:14:48,600
Speaker 2: Thank you for all your input. There's been some good

2514
02:14:48,800 --> 02:14:51,960
Speaker 2: and some not so good outcomes to this issue. Uh oh.

2515
02:14:52,280 --> 02:14:54,280
Speaker 2: My wife and I had a long conversation after I

2516
02:14:54,360 --> 02:14:57,040
Speaker 2: made my original post. I brought up points from both

2517
02:14:57,120 --> 02:15:00,640
Speaker 2: my perspective and possible points from Leslie's perspective that commenters

2518
02:15:00,800 --> 02:15:03,400
Speaker 2: made to explain the situation and why it had me

2519
02:15:03,560 --> 02:15:06,440
Speaker 2: uneasy enough to step back. I showed her the post

2520
02:15:06,520 --> 02:15:09,760
Speaker 2: and she eventually relented. Emily decided she would speak with

2521
02:15:09,880 --> 02:15:12,560
Speaker 2: Leslie again to see if her having to leave during

2522
02:15:12,600 --> 02:15:16,160
Speaker 2: a couple of outings or missing one had made Leslie uncomfortable,

2523
02:15:16,480 --> 02:15:19,160
Speaker 2: despite Leslie agreeing ahead of time that she was a fine,

2524
02:15:19,240 --> 02:15:21,680
Speaker 2: that she was fine with Emily leaving slash not showing up,

2525
02:15:22,160 --> 02:15:24,960
Speaker 2: which I could totally see of, like, hey, we made

2526
02:15:25,000 --> 02:15:27,480
Speaker 2: this plan. Then Emily's like, oh, I'm not going, and

2527
02:15:27,600 --> 02:15:30,400
Speaker 2: Leslie's like, she made this whole plan for me. I

2528
02:15:30,480 --> 02:15:33,320
Speaker 2: don't want to look like an a hole. Yeah, I'm

2529
02:15:33,360 --> 02:15:35,880
Speaker 2: just gonna roll with it, even if I would rather

2530
02:15:36,080 --> 02:15:40,200
Speaker 2: just not, you know, I could see that. We also

2531
02:15:40,240 --> 02:15:43,480
Speaker 2: discussed the matter of overhelping in that regard. Emily wanted

2532
02:15:43,480 --> 02:15:46,120
Speaker 2: to keep helping her as she had been because that

2533
02:15:46,280 --> 02:15:48,880
Speaker 2: level of help is normal for them, but she would

2534
02:15:49,080 --> 02:15:53,800
Speaker 2: stop asking me to help when she couldn't instead, Yeah,

2535
02:15:54,520 --> 02:15:58,080
Speaker 2: fair enough. Instead, she said she would talk to Leslie

2536
02:15:58,160 --> 02:16:00,800
Speaker 2: about getting the kid's father to help out more now

2537
02:16:01,200 --> 02:16:03,120
Speaker 2: that her ex fiance was gone.

2538
02:16:04,120 --> 02:16:08,240
Speaker 5: Wait back that up. Oh's father?

2539
02:16:08,480 --> 02:16:16,960
Speaker 2: What it's uh Leslie's baby daddy? Yeah? Where has he been?

2540
02:16:17,160 --> 02:16:18,200
Speaker 2: He should be involved?

2541
02:16:18,680 --> 02:16:20,280
Speaker 1: Is a baby daddy? Just get to go? When?

2542
02:16:20,440 --> 02:16:21,760
Speaker 4: Like, what go on? Go on?

2543
02:16:22,320 --> 02:16:29,320
Speaker 2: Got fish with your kids? Set a fishing for something else. Mars,

2544
02:16:30,440 --> 02:16:33,560
Speaker 2: fish with your current kids instead of fishing for new kids.

2545
02:16:34,200 --> 02:16:39,959
Speaker 2: Come on now. She wound up agreeing, Uh, I should

2546
02:16:40,000 --> 02:16:43,320
Speaker 2: have received the apology, but since I'm hands off now,

2547
02:16:46,400 --> 02:16:48,280
Speaker 2: I didn't see the point in pursuing it. I thought

2548
02:16:48,360 --> 02:16:49,519
Speaker 2: that Leslie did apologize.

2549
02:16:50,600 --> 02:16:53,960
Speaker 5: No, I think she did. Wait, no, Leslie did, Emily did.

2550
02:16:54,360 --> 02:16:57,760
Speaker 2: Let oh, I thought Leslie apologized, but maybe she Maybe

2551
02:16:57,840 --> 02:17:01,080
Speaker 2: Leslie didn't. She wound up agreeing that I should have

2552
02:17:01,160 --> 02:17:05,360
Speaker 2: received the apology. H Emily said this his wife, but

2553
02:17:05,520 --> 02:17:07,560
Speaker 2: since I'm hands off now, I didn't see the point

2554
02:17:07,600 --> 02:17:09,680
Speaker 2: in pursuing it. So maybe he didn't get a true

2555
02:17:09,680 --> 02:17:12,920
Speaker 2: apology from Leslie. I'm happy to I'm happy to say

2556
02:17:13,080 --> 02:17:15,440
Speaker 2: I have not been volunteered to help or drive since

2557
02:17:15,440 --> 02:17:16,760
Speaker 2: our talk. There we go.

2558
02:17:17,360 --> 02:17:19,840
Speaker 1: She continued to help Leslie as she was able for

2559
02:17:19,920 --> 02:17:21,199
Speaker 1: a couple of weeks until.

2560
02:17:21,160 --> 02:17:26,120
Speaker 2: Things took a negative turn. Put in ice you in

2561
02:17:26,160 --> 02:17:29,400
Speaker 2: the comments if you see what it is. There were

2562
02:17:29,440 --> 02:17:31,880
Speaker 2: a couple of times neither my wife or Leslie's other

2563
02:17:31,959 --> 02:17:33,959
Speaker 2: friends were able to give her a ride or help her,

2564
02:17:34,200 --> 02:17:38,200
Speaker 2: and she asked Emily where I was, where I was

2565
02:17:38,320 --> 02:17:44,000
Speaker 2: that I couldn't do it boundaries. We're going from respectfully

2566
02:17:44,040 --> 02:17:46,560
Speaker 2: taking help to possible entitlements.

2567
02:17:46,680 --> 02:17:49,879
Speaker 5: Yes, we're breaching entitlements.

2568
02:17:50,520 --> 02:17:52,960
Speaker 2: Emily said that she told her it was best that

2569
02:17:53,080 --> 02:17:56,960
Speaker 2: I didn't to avoid any future misunderstandings. Around the fourth time,

2570
02:17:57,200 --> 02:17:59,920
Speaker 2: Leslie asked my wife to have me drive her slash

2571
02:18:00,080 --> 02:18:02,680
Speaker 2: pick her pick stuff up for her when no one

2572
02:18:02,720 --> 02:18:06,720
Speaker 2: else could. Emily tells me that Leslie started in about

2573
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Speaker 2: how if about how if what she said wasn't true,

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Speaker 2: then I wouldn't be avoiding her. But I'm acting as

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Speaker 2: if I got rejected.

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Speaker 5: Wait what that was a run off?

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Speaker 2: So basically Leslie is like, oh, he doesn't want to

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02:18:23,920 --> 02:18:26,840
Speaker 2: pick me up because I rejected him. He was coming

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Speaker 2: on to me and I turned him down and now

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Speaker 2: he's feeling salty.

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Speaker 5: And that is trauma. And that was the trauma.

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Speaker 2: Trauma, yes, but ultimately a unfair thing to put it

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02:18:39,080 --> 02:18:42,560
Speaker 2: on Op and Emily have done nothing but help her.

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Speaker 2: I know, it's like, hey, no, don't come for us

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Speaker 2: when we're out here helping you. My goodness. And and

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Speaker 2: that's not to say that if they did do something

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Speaker 2: wrong that Leslie doesn't have the uh, she should totally

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Speaker 2: be able to speak back there but they haven't really

2589
02:19:00,959 --> 02:19:03,520
Speaker 2: haven't really done anything. No, oh, here, what's going on?

2590
02:19:04,000 --> 02:19:07,920
Speaker 2: Don Mayflower says entitled and de Lulu the Lulu for sure.

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02:19:08,360 --> 02:19:10,920
Speaker 2: Matt Hattergell says, thanks for to five bucks. Why do

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02:19:11,000 --> 02:19:13,480
Speaker 2: people do this? You help them out and they think

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02:19:13,520 --> 02:19:15,279
Speaker 2: you should help twenty four to seven.

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Speaker 5: I guess it's the expectation. They just get used to it.

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Speaker 2: I always think of that SpongeBob episode with SpongeBob in

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02:19:21,440 --> 02:19:24,080
Speaker 2: the made outfit when I think about helping people too much?

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Speaker 5: Can I just say something that I watch SpongeBob as

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Speaker 5: a kid, But the amount of people that can recall

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Speaker 5: specific episodes and like, you just have this like encyclopedia

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Speaker 5: of SpongeBob in here, I don't. I can't relate I

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Speaker 5: have that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I bet if you started playing some SpongeBob episodes,

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Speaker 2: I could start word for word for citing it impressive.

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02:19:44,920 --> 02:19:46,440
Speaker 2: It's a core part of my identity.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I see that for you.

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Speaker 6: I don't know if this I don't know if I

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02:19:54,280 --> 02:19:57,880
Speaker 6: should be taking this positively or negatively, but you know what,

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Speaker 6: I'm gonna be an optimist. I'm gonna be a freaking

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Speaker 6: optimist to take it as a positive ladies and gentlemen.

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Speaker 2: So but according to Emily, Leslie started to draw parallels

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Speaker 2: about how I went, how I went out of my

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02:20:12,640 --> 02:20:15,200
Speaker 2: way to do things for Emily right before we got

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Speaker 2: together and started helping Leslie. So that was all the

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Speaker 2: proof Emily should need about me having ulterior motives. And

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Speaker 2: after that, she says, Leslie's devolved into telling Emily she'd

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Speaker 2: wind up being left too. So basically, Leslie is like

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02:20:34,080 --> 02:20:37,880
Speaker 2: stirring up drama. Your man is not here for you,

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Speaker 2: and if you don't, if you don't check him, he's

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02:20:40,240 --> 02:20:41,240
Speaker 2: gonna he's just gonna leave you.

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02:20:41,720 --> 02:20:45,160
Speaker 5: Okay, we need to ditch Leslie.

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02:20:45,720 --> 02:20:46,880
Speaker 2: Leslie's doing too much right now.

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Speaker 5: I'm sorry. I feel for her, but at some point

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02:20:49,520 --> 02:20:52,119
Speaker 5: you don't feel for those people anymore because they take

2624
02:20:52,160 --> 02:20:53,320
Speaker 5: and take and take and take.

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Speaker 2: Yes, like I help you, and then you go and

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02:20:58,320 --> 02:20:59,560
Speaker 2: say your husband's gonna leave you.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, not the best. Doesn't feel good, doesn't feel good.

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Speaker 2: Doesn't feel good inside. We have minimized contact with Leslie

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Speaker 2: and Emily and told her that she needs to do

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Speaker 2: and told her that she needs to do so until

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Speaker 2: Slash unless Leslie SE's counseling for her breakup and stops

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02:21:16,200 --> 02:21:19,320
Speaker 2: having a negative outlook on the relationships around her and

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Speaker 2: then they can rebuild their friendship.

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Speaker 5: Mature.

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02:21:23,000 --> 02:21:26,680
Speaker 2: Mature. That has been hard on Emily. So whenever I'm

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Speaker 2: not working, I'm doing what I can to help her

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Speaker 2: get through this. Thank you again, reddet for the fresh

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Speaker 2: stats of eyes. So pretty mature way of handling it. Yeah,

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02:21:40,520 --> 02:21:42,560
Speaker 2: not the easiest thing to say to someone, but I

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Speaker 2: think the what they shared was good advice of like, hey,

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02:21:48,120 --> 02:21:52,760
Speaker 2: and until you can like not project all of the

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02:21:52,840 --> 02:21:56,840
Speaker 2: stuff into our relationship and bring this negativity into our lives,

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02:21:56,920 --> 02:21:59,720
Speaker 2: like yeah, we don't really want to have much contact

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02:21:59,760 --> 02:22:02,280
Speaker 2: in like I think you should get the therapy.

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02:22:02,959 --> 02:22:05,400
Speaker 5: Great, don't you wish like we could talk to all

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02:22:05,440 --> 02:22:06,520
Speaker 5: the people in our lives like that?

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02:22:06,920 --> 02:22:10,560
Speaker 2: It would do Although like someone telling you you need therapy,

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02:22:11,920 --> 02:22:12,440
Speaker 2: I've done it.

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Speaker 5: You.

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Speaker 2: It's it's a it's a uh necessary but but is

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02:22:19,560 --> 02:22:21,480
Speaker 2: a challenge. I just want to put respect on them.

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02:22:21,840 --> 02:22:24,959
Speaker 5: The challenge it is to say that and to take

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02:22:25,040 --> 02:22:26,960
Speaker 5: that yeah, to hear it, to take that step to

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02:22:27,360 --> 02:22:28,720
Speaker 5: come to terms with where you're at.

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Speaker 2: It is all of it.

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Speaker 5: It's painful, it's hard to say it. I think it

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02:22:33,080 --> 02:22:37,080
Speaker 5: just like, if it's a relationship you really care about, right,

2658
02:22:37,120 --> 02:22:40,359
Speaker 5: and you want something long term with this person, platonic, romantic,

2659
02:22:40,480 --> 02:22:43,280
Speaker 5: whatever it is, then you'd care enough to keep it

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02:22:43,360 --> 02:22:44,720
Speaker 5: real with them because you care.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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02:22:46,000 --> 02:22:49,680
Speaker 2: So on that thread, going back to the question of

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Speaker 2: the episode, should you tell your partner if you don't

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02:22:52,560 --> 02:22:56,119
Speaker 2: like your friends? Do we have a a after hearing

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02:22:56,160 --> 02:22:58,680
Speaker 2: this story? Have we changed our mind? What does our

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02:22:58,760 --> 02:23:03,240
Speaker 2: final say the partner or not if you don't like

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02:23:03,280 --> 02:23:07,240
Speaker 2: the friends? Gosh, it's so hard this this answer will

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Speaker 2: be engraved for eternity on the internet. No pressure.

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Speaker 5: Can I say like yes and yes and like.

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Speaker 2: Breaking down, breaking down?

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Speaker 1: Okay? If if you what what.

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Speaker 5: What happened?

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Speaker 2: Empress Sleepless Knights. Empress Sleepless Knights has donated fifty gifted memberships.

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Speaker 2: Fifty let's go, the okay family has grown by fifty

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Speaker 2: again the Okay army, I should say at this point

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Speaker 2: this is truly a militia. We should be arrested for

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Speaker 2: for the level of loyalty and uh, just organization that

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Speaker 2: this community has. Empress Sleepless Nights, thank you sound off

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Speaker 2: in the comments if you just got donated a gifted membership?

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02:24:03,320 --> 02:24:06,800
Speaker 2: Uh welcome to the family. Let's freaking go and uh,

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02:24:07,320 --> 02:24:10,600
Speaker 2: thirty more minutes, right, thirty more minutes. Thirty more minutes,

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Speaker 2: lady and gentlemen. But yes, bactually have the answer.

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Speaker 5: Okay, yes, tell your partner if you don't like their friends.

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02:24:20,040 --> 02:24:23,080
Speaker 5: My one kind of like caveat to that is it

2685
02:24:23,320 --> 02:24:26,440
Speaker 5: has to be something that that friend is doing that

2686
02:24:26,560 --> 02:24:30,960
Speaker 5: is affecting your relationship, right, not just like oh, like

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02:24:31,480 --> 02:24:33,360
Speaker 5: they always like to go out and take you out

2688
02:24:33,400 --> 02:24:35,360
Speaker 5: with them, or they.

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Speaker 2: I hate the way they chew food.

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02:24:36,720 --> 02:24:38,360
Speaker 5: Yeah, I hate the way they chew food, Like they

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02:24:38,400 --> 02:24:41,120
Speaker 5: don't have any style, like they love you know, the

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02:24:41,240 --> 02:24:44,080
Speaker 5: shoes are beat like you know. No, But yeah, I

2693
02:24:44,200 --> 02:24:47,400
Speaker 5: think if it's something that is directly affecting how your

2694
02:24:47,440 --> 02:24:51,480
Speaker 5: partner's behaving towards you, or just the relationship, like the

2695
02:24:51,560 --> 02:24:54,160
Speaker 5: dynamic is changing because of their relationship with that person,

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02:24:54,280 --> 02:24:55,080
Speaker 5: then yes, I.

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Speaker 2: Think that's a really good qualifier and like adds a

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02:24:58,480 --> 02:25:00,880
Speaker 2: lot of clarity to like, Okay, when do I tell

2699
02:25:01,160 --> 02:25:04,280
Speaker 2: the partner if it's affecting your relationship? Yeah, that's that

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02:25:04,480 --> 02:25:06,360
Speaker 2: I think is an automatic. Yeah, I think I agree.

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02:25:06,400 --> 02:25:09,520
Speaker 2: I think in most generally speaking, and with these you know,

2702
02:25:10,160 --> 02:25:13,480
Speaker 2: we kind of have to make sweeping generalizations. But generally speaking,

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02:25:13,959 --> 02:25:17,959
Speaker 2: I think it is a good idea to tell your

2704
02:25:18,040 --> 02:25:23,280
Speaker 2: partner that you don't like their friends and in just

2705
02:25:23,400 --> 02:25:26,200
Speaker 2: that like And it could be as simple as something like,

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02:25:27,840 --> 02:25:30,000
Speaker 2: oh they said this thing in it and it made

2707
02:25:30,040 --> 02:25:32,000
Speaker 2: me feel this way, you know, in her how I

2708
02:25:32,040 --> 02:25:34,119
Speaker 2: feel could just be like, hey, here's how I feel

2709
02:25:34,160 --> 02:25:38,800
Speaker 2: in this specific interaction and letting them know that way. Again, Generally,

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02:25:38,879 --> 02:25:43,400
Speaker 2: I feel like if your your spouse and a friend

2711
02:25:43,840 --> 02:25:49,280
Speaker 2: don't get along, it's probable that some red flags should

2712
02:25:49,360 --> 02:25:54,160
Speaker 2: go up because they in theory, in theory, they should

2713
02:25:54,200 --> 02:25:54,640
Speaker 2: get along.

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02:25:55,320 --> 02:25:57,360
Speaker 5: So are we saying though, can I say this because

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02:25:57,360 --> 02:25:59,880
Speaker 5: I feel like I experienced this? Do you think that

2716
02:26:00,120 --> 02:26:02,720
Speaker 5: if you're with someone and you don't like their friends

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02:26:03,080 --> 02:26:05,760
Speaker 5: that that person is probably you're probably not compatible with them.

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02:26:06,240 --> 02:26:10,480
Speaker 2: I think that is a pretty good indicator that it

2719
02:26:10,720 --> 02:26:13,400
Speaker 2: might not be the best smash.

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02:26:13,640 --> 02:26:13,840
Speaker 3: Yeah.

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02:26:13,920 --> 02:26:17,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think I think generally like, you should like

2722
02:26:17,800 --> 02:26:20,560
Speaker 2: all of the not you should you have to like,

2723
02:26:20,800 --> 02:26:23,240
Speaker 2: but like the people when you when you meet the

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02:26:23,360 --> 02:26:26,560
Speaker 2: other friends, it should be a green light. It feel

2725
02:26:26,720 --> 02:26:30,560
Speaker 2: fun good, like, oh, these are new friends for me. Yeah,

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02:26:30,879 --> 02:26:34,640
Speaker 2: that is that I believe is an indicator of a

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02:26:35,080 --> 02:26:37,880
Speaker 2: healthy relationship. And look, it happens, you know. But I

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02:26:37,959 --> 02:26:42,760
Speaker 2: think like generally speaking, that you know, you meet, you

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02:26:42,840 --> 02:26:45,760
Speaker 2: meet a partner's friends, you feel good. Yeah, and that's it.

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Speaker 5: Okay, love that