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<v Speaker 1>on the phone for a second Day update today met

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<v Speaker 1>the guy that she wants to call because they live

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<v Speaker 1>in the same building. Oh, that's it's always easy when

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<v Speaker 1>you live in the same building to meet somebody. The

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<v Speaker 1>trick is you wait till they're not at home, you

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<v Speaker 1>break in, you steal some of their mail, and then

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<v Speaker 1>you see him in the hallway and you're like, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>I think somebody delivered some mail to me by accident,

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<v Speaker 1>and then you strike up a conversation. It even works

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<v Speaker 1>with TV sometimes, like somehow your TV was sitting out

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<v Speaker 1>in the hallway. It's in my apartment right now if

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<v Speaker 1>you want to come get it. Wow, Is that is

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<v Speaker 1>that how you did it? Rachel? Well, kind of similarly,

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<v Speaker 1>but no, not at all. So you didn't break didn't

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<v Speaker 1>break into the guy's place. I didn't break any laws,

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<v Speaker 1>but I did, you know, I did put myself out

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<v Speaker 1>there boring. I was hoping for an exciting story. How'd

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<v Speaker 1>you meet this dude? Well, he just moved into the

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<v Speaker 1>building pretty recently, and you know, I found like going

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<v Speaker 1>up and down the stairs once. But we hadn't really

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<v Speaker 1>talked more than like a hello or but I definitely

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<v Speaker 1>noticed him. I definitely thought he was really cute. And

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<v Speaker 1>what's his name? His name is Adam. And we actually

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<v Speaker 1>got a chance to talk because we were both We

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<v Speaker 1>have these machines in our basement. We have like laundry

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<v Speaker 1>on site in the building, but they're kind of weird

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<v Speaker 1>that they don't take quarters. You have to like use

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<v Speaker 1>these resyllable cards. Yeah, I know, really yeah, Yeah, it's

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<v Speaker 1>annoying and confusing the first time you view them. And

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<v Speaker 1>so he'd never used them before. And I just happened

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<v Speaker 1>to be doing laundry at the same time. You just

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<v Speaker 1>happened to drop some of your underwear on the floor

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<v Speaker 1>in front of them. Let me help you out with

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<v Speaker 1>your problem. This is not about me and my lingerie. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>And like I accidentally put some of my underwear in

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<v Speaker 1>his loads so that when he got home he'd be like,

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<v Speaker 1>well I was worth these. Yeah, that's why I thought

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<v Speaker 1>maybe maybe it was similar to your male idea. So

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<v Speaker 1>what did you guys end up doing for your date?

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<v Speaker 1>It was actually his idea. It was really cute because

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<v Speaker 1>we lived in the same building. He was like, why

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<v Speaker 1>don't we just order an uber since we live in

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<v Speaker 1>the same place and have it pick us up and

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<v Speaker 1>we'll just get some dinner and some drinks. Wait, so

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<v Speaker 1>he's the one that asked you out after all that? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean I was clearly like flirting with him, and

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<v Speaker 1>he was like, you know, I know we live in

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<v Speaker 1>the same building. I could just knock on your door,

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<v Speaker 1>but I'd love to have your number in case, like

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<v Speaker 1>I have any questions, right, like he but I knew

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<v Speaker 1>he was like yeah, And I was like, okay, it

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<v Speaker 1>was an obvious play to get your phone number. Yeah, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>So he asked you out and then you guys took

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<v Speaker 1>an uber to a bar. Yeah, we number to a

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<v Speaker 1>bar and it started out really great, Like we were

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<v Speaker 1>in the cab and like the banterom was really good,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, like we could just kind of like he's

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<v Speaker 1>really easy to talk to. It's really funny. He seemed

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<v Speaker 1>like very relaxed, and I don't remember like what he

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<v Speaker 1>said but after he said it, I was just cracking

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<v Speaker 1>up and I couldn't stop laughing. And I don't know why,

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<v Speaker 1>but the words just came out, Oh my god, I

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<v Speaker 1>love you more. You're so funny. I love you exactly.

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<v Speaker 1>But like regardless you guys, I said I love you

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<v Speaker 1>on the way to the date. That's not a good

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<v Speaker 1>time to drop. That wasn't like one of those records

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<v Speaker 1>scratch moments where everything then drops totally. And then I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't. I didn't really understand why because I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh god, I'm sorry. I mean, you know what I meant, right,

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<v Speaker 1>And but it was like I could tell it was

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<v Speaker 1>like really different all of a sudden, like and so

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<v Speaker 1>then I like, because it was so awkward, proceeded to

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<v Speaker 1>like really lean into it. And so, like I've said,

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<v Speaker 1>I love you, did the uber driver when we got

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<v Speaker 1>out of the car, just trying to make it a

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<v Speaker 1>thing that like clearly like it hit a nerve and

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<v Speaker 1>like it wasn't part of like this thing. Were you

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<v Speaker 1>just over compensating? No, Yeah, Like I don't know what

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<v Speaker 1>happened to me, but I like I just really wanted

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<v Speaker 1>him to know that it was a joke and then

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't mean it, but like, looking back on it,

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<v Speaker 1>I do feel like I maybe overdid it, but I did.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, did he get the point that you didn't

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<v Speaker 1>mean it? Yeah, I mean I think he got it.

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<v Speaker 1>But at the same time, like I said it like

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<v Speaker 1>for the third time during the meal, like bringing it

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<v Speaker 1>up jokingly again, and he didn't laugh. And so that's

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<v Speaker 1>when I kind of knew, Like oh, and like for me,

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<v Speaker 1>when that happens, it just makes me like want to

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<v Speaker 1>convince someone even more than I'm sorry or kidding. And

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<v Speaker 1>it might have been okay if you would have dropped

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<v Speaker 1>it after it happened and made your quick joke about

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<v Speaker 1>it and moved on. I know. Do you think that's

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<v Speaker 1>why he's not calling you back? Well, no, actually he

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<v Speaker 1>did call me. The date went fine other than I

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<v Speaker 1>love you gate and then he called me the next morning,

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<v Speaker 1>but I was in the shower until I missed the call. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and he didn't leave a message, so I was like, oh, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll text him. So I texted him. I was like, sorry,

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<v Speaker 1>I missed your call. I was in the shower or

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<v Speaker 1>winky base um had a great time last night. We

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<v Speaker 1>should do that again. What are you up to this

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<v Speaker 1>weekend something like that, right, And that was like four

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<v Speaker 1>or five days ago, and I haven't heard from him.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh really, have you seen him in the building at all? No,

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<v Speaker 1>because that's always a risky thing at some point. No

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<v Speaker 1>matter how this turns out, you're going to have to

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<v Speaker 1>share an elevator or the laundry room again. I just

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<v Speaker 1>think it's really weird that he would call me and

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<v Speaker 1>then not respond to me. Yeah. I mean, you could

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<v Speaker 1>understand it if after a first date somebody said I

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<v Speaker 1>love you and then you just never talked to him again.

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<v Speaker 1>But the fact that he called you in the morning,

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<v Speaker 1>you see, like I love you, I love you. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not like I get it, We're like you know, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>but like it really seemed to like affect him. And

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's why I kept going back to it,

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<v Speaker 1>because even though I'd apologized once, it felt like it

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<v Speaker 1>was like hanging in the airstone. I'm like, why this

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<v Speaker 1>shouldn't be this intense? All right, Well, we'll play a song,

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<v Speaker 1>come back, call him and get your second date update. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>thanks guys, Okay, hold on rooking Jubil in the morning

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<v Speaker 1>right in the middle of a second date update. If

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<v Speaker 1>you're just tuning in, Rachel is on the phone, and

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<v Speaker 1>Rachel is in love for the first time in her life.

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<v Speaker 1>Rachel has found love and it's slipped through her fingers

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<v Speaker 1>and it's not calling her back. And love's name is Adam.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, all right, if you missed, Rachel recap her date.

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<v Speaker 1>She met a guy that lives in her apartment building.

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<v Speaker 1>They agreed to go out for drinks and dinner, and

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<v Speaker 1>while they were riding to the restaurant, he was joking around.

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<v Speaker 1>She laughed and it just kind of slipped out. She

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<v Speaker 1>said I love you. And she thinks that's the reason

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<v Speaker 1>he's not calling her back, because one she said I

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<v Speaker 1>love you, and then she's spent the rest of the

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<v Speaker 1>date trying to pour it on that it was a

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<v Speaker 1>joke and saying I love you to everything and everybody,

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<v Speaker 1>and just any way she could drop the I love

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<v Speaker 1>you line, she would do it. And now he's not

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<v Speaker 1>calling her back, and she's wondering why. I mean, what'd

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<v Speaker 1>you like so much about Adam? He was just really

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<v Speaker 1>easy to talk to you, and he's really funny, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>like a guy being funny is the most important thing

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<v Speaker 1>to me. I love funny guys. Okay, okay, I guess

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<v Speaker 1>playing it real thing, all right, I'm gonna dallas phone

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<v Speaker 1>of her right now and see if we can find

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<v Speaker 1>out why he's not calling you back. Okay, okay, here

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<v Speaker 1>we go. Well, Hi is Adam there? Yeah, this is Sham. Hey,

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<v Speaker 1>what's up, Adam? How are you? This is Jewil from

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<v Speaker 1>brook and Jewil in the morning. Um, hey, hey, what's

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<v Speaker 1>going on today? Not much? Why are you calling me? Oh?

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<v Speaker 1>Just checking in? Man? Just you know, No, I don't. Oh, okay, Well,

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<v Speaker 1>the real reason I'm calling is that somebody emailed us

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<v Speaker 1>about you and asked if I get you on the phone.

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<v Speaker 1>Her name is Rachel. She actually lives in the same

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<v Speaker 1>building as you do. Oh what do you remember Rachel?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you know Rachel? Yeah? But why are you calling

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<v Speaker 1>about her? Well, because we do a second and on

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<v Speaker 1>our show called the Second Date Update. It's where if

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<v Speaker 1>you go out on a date with somebody and then

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<v Speaker 1>end up blowing them off after they email us to

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<v Speaker 1>see if we can get you on the phone and

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<v Speaker 1>ask why. So, Rachel's wondering why you won't call her

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<v Speaker 1>back after your date? I did call her, right, she

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<v Speaker 1>said that after your date she got a missed phone

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<v Speaker 1>call from you, and then she texted you back and

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<v Speaker 1>was like, hey, sorry I missed your call. And then

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<v Speaker 1>she hasn't heard from you since. Wow, she told you

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<v Speaker 1>everything she did. She even told us about the I

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<v Speaker 1>love you comment. Uh. Yeah, that was pretty embarrassing for her.

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<v Speaker 1>Is that the reason that you're not calling her back

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<v Speaker 1>because she dropped I love you on a first date?

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<v Speaker 1>H No, I actually thought that was kind of endearing. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>because she got so worked up about it. She kept

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<v Speaker 1>saying it, and I mean I got that she just

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<v Speaker 1>said it as you know I was saying and I

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<v Speaker 1>wanted her to move on, but she didn't. You didn't

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<v Speaker 1>help her at all. And she said after she said

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<v Speaker 1>I love you that you guys super awkward. I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>get awkward after the first time she said it. I

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<v Speaker 1>got awkward after the fifth or sixth time I said it. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>she told us that she feels like she went a

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<v Speaker 1>little too hard on trying to let you know that

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<v Speaker 1>it was a joke. I wouldn't say it was a

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<v Speaker 1>little too hard. I mean I was trying to get

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<v Speaker 1>to know her and she just kept saying it, and

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<v Speaker 1>it just kept getting in a way trying to get

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<v Speaker 1>to know her. I thought, I thought she was great

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<v Speaker 1>and I wanted her to just stop saying it. Girl,

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<v Speaker 1>she's so awkward about it. Yeah, so is that the

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<v Speaker 1>only issue? Then? Yeah? I love you. No, No, I

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<v Speaker 1>knew it was a joke and I wanted to see

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<v Speaker 1>her again, and that's why I called her. And the

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<v Speaker 1>call went to her voicemail, and on her voicemail is

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<v Speaker 1>this other dude? Yeah? He sounds like a real dude.

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<v Speaker 1>She was like, Hey, what's this is Rachel's phone? Leave

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<v Speaker 1>a message because she's busy right now. She's laughing in

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<v Speaker 1>the background and he's laughing about it. It's like, what weird? Wa?

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<v Speaker 1>What do you mean? So you're not calling her because

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<v Speaker 1>there is a guy's voice on her voicemail. It wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>just a guy's voice. It's the way he was talking

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<v Speaker 1>and the way she was reacting to it in the background.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't you think it's just like a voicemail joke that

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<v Speaker 1>just isn't very funny to you. It didn't seem like it.

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<v Speaker 1>Who's this dude? And why she laughing like she loved it?

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<v Speaker 1>You don't know who the guy is? Why don't you

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<v Speaker 1>just call her up? And ask her. I mean, I

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<v Speaker 1>might come paranoid if I call her up and I'm like, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>who's a dude on your voicemail? Yeah? I can see that,

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<v Speaker 1>being like I was another dude you seeing somebody else

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<v Speaker 1>been one day already. But you are being that way

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<v Speaker 1>since you're not calling her back and you don't know

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<v Speaker 1>who this guy is. It could be her brother for

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<v Speaker 1>all you know. You're right, it could be, but it

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<v Speaker 1>might not be. And it's only been four days. I

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<v Speaker 1>still haven't decided if I'm going to call her back.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what, why don't we just clear this thing

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<v Speaker 1>up once and for all and ask who the guy is?

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<v Speaker 1>Because she's been on the phone listening this whole time.

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<v Speaker 1>What Yeah, Rachel, Hey Adam, Hey Rachel. So I guess

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<v Speaker 1>I've been explained to do um kind of I guess relief. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>But the person on my voicemail is an ex boyfriend. Okay, why,

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<v Speaker 1>good question. I mean, it's really not that big of

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<v Speaker 1>a deal. I mean, it's just my voicemail. I think

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<v Speaker 1>it's really funny. I like the way he's putting on

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<v Speaker 1>this like douchey, silly voice, and I sound really happy

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<v Speaker 1>in it. It's just now. It's just it doesn't seem

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<v Speaker 1>like a time time. You like the way your ex

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<v Speaker 1>sound and the way you sound happy with him. Look,

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<v Speaker 1>it's really not that being the deal. I mean, things

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<v Speaker 1>didn't end badly between us, and I just thought it

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<v Speaker 1>was funny, you know. But you're but it's over are you?

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<v Speaker 1>Are you not over him? How long ago did you

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<v Speaker 1>break up? We broke up like three months ago. But no,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm I don't have feelings for him at all. It's

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<v Speaker 1>just okay, So, yeah, you are clearly not over him

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<v Speaker 1>if you're going on any date other than me Thnion

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<v Speaker 1>broke up. Yeah, I went on one, but I wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>super into him. But Rachel, nobody listening believes that you're

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<v Speaker 1>over your ex one person. Oh my god, you guys,

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<v Speaker 1>Just because I have a voicemail with someone on it

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't mean that I'm emotionally attached to them over I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like Facebook friends with their exes, people get coffee

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<v Speaker 1>with them. It's not I'm not in love with him

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<v Speaker 1>at all. I don't know, but it just seems like

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<v Speaker 1>you wouldn't even want to have like hear their voice

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<v Speaker 1>that often, let alone have that be on your voicemail

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<v Speaker 1>all the time. Well when I when I listen to

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<v Speaker 1>my voicemails, I don't. It's not like an answering machine.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't listen to it. I don't even think about it.

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<v Speaker 1>The only people that hear it people call me it sounds.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you call your voicemail and schossen to it? You know,

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<v Speaker 1>that is the one thing that I do. And honestly, Adam,

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<v Speaker 1>I really like you. But we've only been on one date,

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<v Speaker 1>and like, as we get to know each other, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>happy to change my voicemail if the fathers it's not

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<v Speaker 1>that's see what I mean. It's it's not it's not

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<v Speaker 1>a big deal for me. It's just like she will

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<v Speaker 1>just get a little on the spot in awkward right now.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I just feel like I don't need to

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<v Speaker 1>be bringing in my path, but you know it's it's

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<v Speaker 1>my path. It's like it's just a voicemail. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm your path in Adam. I mean, she said that

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<v Speaker 1>she'll take the voicemail down. That's the first step. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>sure she'll get rid of her photo collages that are

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<v Speaker 1>in her apartment as well. She said she'd do it

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<v Speaker 1>after we get to know each other. That's not it's

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<v Speaker 1>got to be like, it's got to be done. Hey, Adam,

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<v Speaker 1>would you like to go out on a second date

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<v Speaker 1>with Rachel? We will pay for it. No, that was Adam.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't even give her a shot, man, I mean

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<v Speaker 1>you've gotten out of relationships. We all have, and after

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<v Speaker 1>three months it's sometimes hard to let go a little bit.

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<v Speaker 1>She's ready, man, Yeah, she's clearly not. You say so,

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<v Speaker 1>it's a no. You're not going to give her another shot. Listen, Rachel.

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<v Speaker 1>I like you. Um, I like you too. I think

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<v Speaker 1>we got along really well. Um, but I think there's

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<v Speaker 1>some things that you need to examine and once you've

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<v Speaker 1>done that, hit me up. Okay, So you mean like

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<v Speaker 1>three months, Adam, six months down the line, Adam, after

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<v Speaker 1>she's had time to heal. Yeah, you're making a huge

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<v Speaker 1>mistake right now. I just want to eat food and

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<v Speaker 1>make out with you and I'll delete my voicemail. It's

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<v Speaker 1>not a big deal. Like, I don't know what happened

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<v Speaker 1>to you, but like, if you have bad experiences with

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<v Speaker 1>people messing around with their exes or something like, there

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<v Speaker 1>is no unfinished business and if you feel this strongly

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<v Speaker 1>about it, there's nothing I can say, come on, Adam, Adam,

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<v Speaker 1>eat some food and make out. Yeah, that that proposal

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't fall into your lap every day? Awesome. If I

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<v Speaker 1>weren't over him, would I be on the radio trying

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<v Speaker 1>to get a second date with you? Come on? Would

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<v Speaker 1>you still have his voice on your voice fail? You

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<v Speaker 1>could be my new voice now if it makes you

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<v Speaker 1>feel better. Wow, I'm I'm I'm honored, but I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>have to pass honest the whole time. Come on, Sorry, Rachel,

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<v Speaker 1>no second date, man. I really thought it was because

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<v Speaker 1>of the I love you thaying, and now I'm learning

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<v Speaker 1>it's because of something bigger. It's because of the I

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<v Speaker 1>love you thing with your ex broken Jewel in the

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<v Speaker 1>Morning text in at seven eight, five nine two that says,

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<v Speaker 1>what's wrong with that guy who doesn't want to eat

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<v Speaker 1>food and make out? What an idiot? Where can Jewel

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<v Speaker 1>in the morning talking about the second date update, Rachel

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to call this dude named Adam. They live in

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<v Speaker 1>the same building. They went out, had a good time.

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<v Speaker 1>She thought he wasn't calling back because she accidentally was

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<v Speaker 1>laughing at something you said and it slipped down. She

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<v Speaker 1>said I love you, and then the whole evening. She

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<v Speaker 1>kept making excuses and trying to point out that it

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<v Speaker 1>was a joke. When she said I love you, she

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<v Speaker 1>didn't actually mean I love you. But the problem was

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<v Speaker 1>he called her for a second date and she still

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<v Speaker 1>has her ex boyfriend on her voicemail and he didn't

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<v Speaker 1>want to go out with her again because of that.

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<v Speaker 1>He can't blame him too much, but she did sound

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<v Speaker 1>pretty cool about it, like, I'll change it. It's not

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<v Speaker 1>a big deal. Yeah, one of those situations. It's a deal,

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<v Speaker 1>but you don't know why it doesn't feel right. She

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<v Speaker 1>didn't sound like she was still into her ex at all,

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<v Speaker 1>but he was convinced that she was not over her

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<v Speaker 1>ex because she left him on the voicemail. Yeah. Remember,

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<v Speaker 1>if you want to do a second date update, all

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<v Speaker 1>you have to do is email the show and we

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<v Speaker 1>will call the person who didn't call you back.