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Speaker 1: on the phone for a second Day update today met

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Speaker 1: the guy that she wants to call because they live

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Speaker 1: trick is you wait till they're not at home, you

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Speaker 1: and then you strike up a conversation. It even works

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Speaker 1: you want to come get it. Wow, Is that is

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Speaker 1: that how you did it? Rachel? Well, kind of similarly,

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Speaker 1: but no, not at all. So you didn't break didn't

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Speaker 1: but I did, you know, I did put myself out

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Speaker 1: there boring. I was hoping for an exciting story. How'd

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Speaker 1: these resyllable cards. Yeah, I know, really yeah, Yeah, it's

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Speaker 1: your problem. This is not about me and my lingerie. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: It was actually his idea. It was really cute because

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Speaker 1: I mean I was clearly like flirting with him, and

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Speaker 1: So he asked you out and then you guys took

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Speaker 1: All right, all right, if you missed, Rachel recap her date.

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Speaker 1: They agreed to go out for drinks and dinner, and

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Speaker 1: Just checking in? Man? Just you know, No, I don't. Oh, okay, Well,

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Speaker 1: she's so awkward about it. Yeah, so is that the

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Speaker 1: She was like, Hey, what's this is Rachel's phone? Leave

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